Cardel Turner I agree. The 'bad boys' also have an idgaf attitude, come across as indifferent, like they don't need a woman which is a challenge to a lot of women. They aren't boring or predictable and keep you wondering about them.
Anisha Jones what if this girl at my school is always passing by me, it's like she want's my attention. should i talk to her. P.S i know her already she used to be in one of my classes.
Great video content! Sorry for chiming in, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you heard about - Lammywalness His Happiness Guide (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is a great one off product for understanding what men really want minus the normal expense. Ive heard some super things about it and my m8 at very last got great success with it.
After two years of watching your videos and cherry picking, I've finally bought the book and I've come across so many stupid mistakes that I used to make. To everyone reading this and saying you don't need the book, trust me it's a worthy investment!!
"Cherry Pickin' Johnson" is what I'll call you. Glad you woke up and smelled the coffee. I hope you're smashing more than just the snooze button these days boss.
A very important video. So many guys miss the boat on this one. At least the female writer was finally honest about this one. I also think being a so called "asshole" is actually just a guy who has a life outside of hers and respects himself. Sadly, we live in a world were men are becoming less and less masculine and more pleasing.
I believe the problem lies in the fact that there's a tendency to call those men who have a backbone and can set boundaries, assholes. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being nice. Niceness with an agenda is the problem. Men who give gifts, shower women with compliments and expect that if they are "nice" that a woman will just bow down to them, get friend zoned and left for a man who can set a woman in her place.
I had gotten rejected by a Cute girl recently in asking her to prom. There was a bit of shakiness that I didn't listen to. Afterwards I told myself I'd find another pretty and fun girl to go with. I hadn't met up with her in a while so I simply messaged her on Snapchat. She was hesitant at first but I told her , "no sweat , if you change your mind let me know :) " a day or two later she messaged me , completely open to going to have fun with me at prom !
I had a huge problem over pursuing, after reading the book I re-trained myself by turning it into a simple game. I would set a small prize each week (candy bar, ice cream... ect). If she contacted me first I would win the prize... if I contacted her first I would loose the prize. Guys are all about achieving goals, but this goal you can only get though inaction... removing the "illusion of action". So far it's worked great for me... it's all about tuning out that little devil on our shoulder... he gets so damn loud after 3 or 4 days of no contact.
Spot on. The one alpha I am dating is exactly that way because of her business, modeling ect. When we are busy we don't realize how time flies... happens to me too. Running a company myself I perfer it that way :-).
Matt Flavell As a woman, I don't think that's healthy for either gender. Just get productive hobbies. Find a drive to live life in an honest and fulfilling way. Join groups, be social. If you don't like your job, take classes and find a new one. This way, youll meet new friends. And maybe one of those friends will grow to be your significant other
The Dave I wish everyone would read EVERYTHING YOU EVER WANTED TO KNOW ABOUT SEX.. (dr. david rubin.) Women are saturated in sex from puberty. Are not desperate for same. We want intelligent convo, good relationships.
The Dave Isaac Bashevis Singer's short story trilogy. The man understood life, and womankind. Anita Brookner's LOOK AT ME, UNDUE INFLUENCE brilliant on bright single women who can't find anybody.
The Dave ps, it's not great for us when men bring up sexual topics before you even know one another. I was saying how that famous book explains how women are inundated by 'offers,' but want compatibility, relationships instead.
The real secret is that most women don't know what they want. They all say they want a funny, nice, and attentive guy but the majority of women are with "bad boys" who are selfish, rude, and aloof. I am one of thousands of men who was attractive and in great shape but tried to be the "nice guy" that women kept saying they wanted. After giving up and simply not caring about what women want, I began doing and saying what I wanted around hot women without giving two Fks if I offended them (I was also not trying to offend) Guess what, all of a sudden I was getting hit on left and right. This is even MORE important once in a relationship. A woman will not respect you if you are a pushover. Women want a man who will take charge and not allow her to walk all over him. Every woman I have ever met has tried to test me to see how I would react when they treat me like shit. After we have an argument because I wasn't going to take her shit, every time I would get a call back with more and more attention from them after I put them in their place. It is really annoying actually because I (like most men) just want peace at home but women can't be happy without a little drama so they test their man to piss him off and either walk all over him until she gets bored with him or he puts her in check so she gets the drama she wants. This cycle happens over and over again. I am convinced that most women are simply incapable of rationality.
That is correct. This is why a lot of older men wind up divorcing after 30 plus years, because once the need for sex is out of the equation many men would rather just be left alone. They put up with women because of the biological need for sex but are liberated with a lowered labedo when they get older.
p.s. Please tell me that you didn't announce that you were a 'nice guy.' Or say things you didn't mean because you thought it was what they wanted to hear....
I did Not like this video. Well... I Liked it, but I didn't like it. Because "the Truth hurts". Hearing: Girls prefer the "Bad Boys"... and they rather fuck the Bad Boys over Nice guys... is pretty fucking disturbing. Because I was a Nice guy for years... I was Not super Nice. I don't think I was THAT Nice... but if there was only 2 categories: Bad Boys or Nice Guys... and girls had to put me in one or the other... I would probably be put in the "Nice Guy" category... and hearing "oh... we rather fuck the Bad Boys"... that sh--- pisses me off inside... but I have to hear the Truth... The truth hurts, but the Truth will set you free.
Amazing video Coach and it really is pretty simple and it's the best way because space is needed. So when you do come together, there is more to talk about and you just appreciate each other more as well when you're not trying to force things. This lets the man be who he is, and also gives the woman, well both the man and woman the freedom they both need. It really is just as you say. I'm dating a woman right now and genuinely I am fascinated by her. In the background, I had buddies say oh bring flowers on 1st date and 2nd, do this and that, all these bribes/gifts..but I don't(even though she has told me she wants a guy who pursues her and buys flowers, but i do none of those things and she's all over me) because it's too early still. Like you said, the women are the ones who do the choosing at the end of the day. If guys just learn to have the emotional strength to resist doing too much too soon and wait for the woman to let you know shes ready for more. It really is effortless and beautiful.
Hi Corey. I've been watching your videos for about a week now and can't believe the affect you've had on my psyche. You are simply crushing it. I'm actually from Orlando and couldn't believe that's your town. My situation benefits from your lessons and I have to say, your teachings work in Chicago and Toronto. So, borders don't make a difference people. This stuff works! Keep Crushing it out there!
The simple problem is: you can do all those "nice guy" things but ONLY if the woman has made up her mind that she wants to be with you. This little bit is what most guys don't understand. It's no different than if someone you don't like does "nice" things for you. It's a turn off. This is also why asking women for advice in most cases doesn't work, she's giving you advice on what she wishes the GUY SHE'S INTO would do for her. Not what women respond to initially to start creating that interest
Bingo!! Too many zit-faced losers who think that they could do the same actions as a hunk and then women will fall for them. They need to understand that a Brad Pitt type can literally fart on a girls lap and she will laugh it off and still be interested in sex with him if he asked for it. If you are rich, famous, or off the charts good looking, you really have to fuck it up with a woman before she loses interest. But if you are a loser, there is almost nothing you can do to convince a woman to get with you. You have to convince her that you are not a loser, and the best way to do that is to eventually do something with your life that gets you out of the loser category.
Any relationship that requires you to give up what makes you happy (aside from destructively obsessive habits) is a relationship where your counterpart has overplayed her hand. No partner who genuinely cares about you will try to take something away from you, especially something that is a part of you at your core.
Quick accidental success story for anyone who cares to read: Asked a girl on a date who I met briefly because I thought she was pretty. During the date my attraction level dropped because of some of the things she said and did, and I didn't try very hard. This caused her to pursue me and ask me on another date, after which she asked me back to her house and we hooked up, she was fantastic in bed btw. Anyways, long story short, I got lucky because I wasn't too attracted at first causing her to rise to probably a level 9 for me. She is now my gf, we are very in love and very happy, and I am learning and applying Corey's work to maintain the relationship by continuously courting and surprising her and generally making life fun and exiting. You rock coach! And to the guys struggling out there, don't give up, just be patient, read the book, and apply the techniques using your judgement of the situation.
Honestly, if you can get a girl to somehow know you like her and you send her signals that makes her attention go towards you, you can actually get her emotionally attached if you don't ask her out. She'll keep wondering whether you'll ever ask her out but you can't let the flame go out. Keep subtly complimenting her without being too specific and slowly/ progressively tell her how you feel about her. Women don't forget when they get angry lol the 2 steps forward 1 step back applies to every aspect of the relationship
I agree. I can’t invest my feelings into a guy who doesn’t pursue me. Not sure how this works on other women but it never works on me. From my experience, I only fell in love with guys who were kind and pursued me. And when they stopped pursuing me and got complacent, I fell out of love.
thankyou so much for this video. i really needed to understand why being nice was always seen in such a creepy way and you definetely helped me see that.
Hey coach!! I just bought your book last weekend and should be getting here this Thursday! I'm so excited to read your book! Your videos have taught me so much about relationships/women!
Corey, I'm on the 7th read of your book. My incredibly beautiful Ugandan girlfriend has declared to me and everyone else that I'm her boyfriend..and much more! She has claimed me as her man. Just like you said! Thanks.
Great video. Very factual. Us women like to watch lifetime movies we don't want to be in one lol. I have a neighbor that creeps me out and scares me by constantly trying. My next step is to report him.
Maxime Laflamme lol I didn't eat them. I brought them to work and left them on the lunch table for my coworkers to enjoy. Hopefully now you can understand why he is about to catch a case. I am afraid and creeped out at this point.
Anisha Jones the best thing you can do for you AND him is to cut to the chase and say, "listen man, I'm not interested in you and don't want any more "gestures"" and when he tries to save face and say he thought he was just being a good neighbor or friend just stand your ground and say, "just stick to waving hi as we drive past each other because you are giving unwanted signals" This will hopefully get him off your back and he can focus his beta male energy on some other woman too passive to tell him she is not interested.
Bill BurrFan Thank you. I try to let men down easy because I've been verbally attacked in the past for declining an offer. In this case I have told him I have a bf, I have rudely turned away from him while he's talking hoping he'd get my body language as a sign of no interest and I've tried waving with no expression and moving right along. What I haven't done is just flat out said F off I'm not interested! which may be what it takes so I'll try it next time
Anisha Jones Ahh the old "I have a boyfriend" technique. Brings back memories.. Anyway I would just be honest and clear telling him I'm not interested and I'm sorry.
Coach, this is actually working too well, I got rid of my beta male self , but now I have woman actually fighting over me...I don't know if I really wanted this; but it does work...maybe toooooo damn good.
"If you life is complete, all will come in place" Yeah, so basically we need to start working on OUR life 1st, then the girl will see how nice and how much joy we get from pursuing our ideals and all will fall in place, this makes sense.
Ever since I learned to read women's actions not words I'm able to control the interaction and seduction process, feels so good knowing you got the power to see what most can't, thanks corey for the work, you rock sir!
Corey wayne. You have charged my perspective of women right around now. I was chasing but now I am studying and not even bothered now. I will do something when I'm in the mood now. I can't even be bothered to let women rule me anymore. I will boss this game of cat vs dog soon. I will win soon. I believe I've got some good understanding of it all now. Obviously much more work to be done but no more Mr nice guy here!
These things make me cringe: a man telling me he's a 'nice guy.' (Is too whiny.) Telling me he likes older gals, fat women (subtext: 'You're desperate.') And especially the man in my age group (61) who finds it necessary to point out that he is still potent, can satisfy...'That's what you think I'm wondering about!?'
Being a jerk communicates something counterintuitive - I am so socially desirable that how I behave does not matter. This literally makes you be perceived as socially desirable.
Seduction is a game of attention, but there is place and time for inattention and distance when the need arises. The problem is that we live in an anti-seductive world where no one has time for anything truly enchanting or romantic, except for some holiday abroad for a couple of weeks. All that has true meaning is packaged and sold as a commodity, thus losing any real value beyond the mundane world we live in. Most of the information in this video is based on being anti-seductive as an act of defence against getting hurt emotionally. People are too afraid to open up their hearts and show attention to the ones they want, for fear of getting rejected and feeling like a fool in the process. I know, I've been there many times. But you cannot seduce another without showing the value of your attention first (sometimes you receive that attention), then taking it away at the right moments. Estate agents and salesmen use this same tactic. It increases the sense of urgency and it is a universal psychological principle that applies across all genders. To say that "women" are looking for a "man's man" is society's way of looking at it. Society's perfectly packaged seduction. Instead, why don't you treat her as an individual and not as a generic gender? Because you don't have the time to get to know her and figure out what she might want from you instead of what you want from her. Constantly, I see guy's comments about what she is failing to do for him. You need to think first what you have to offer her, before you receive back. If she fails to see the value of what you're providing for her, then take it away. We take for granted what we have, until we're about to lose it.
picked up your book about a month ago and so far it has been great and i found the one girl for me and i love your videos they are awesome . thank you so much Corey Wayne..
i like what Corey was saying about the cake in the oven. It just reminded me back to my school days and this lad actually baked a cake (yes im ralking about actual cake baking here) and he kept opening the door to check on it and then i said in front of him to not open the door so much or his cake wouldn't rise.) The teacher heard this and was most impressed 😆
coach , could you do a video by using parts from popular movies , that show scenes of what us men must and what we must NOT follow?ts would be very practical , to do this once in a while
I'm 19 my ex is 18 now we have been dating for 5 years off and on. Recently we broke up after being with each other for 2 years everyday. Over time I didn't treat her the same as I did when she came back to me so about 3 weeks ago she told me she needed space and she wanted to feel free. She started contacting me about a week or so ago and I reached out to make a date she said it was too soon. She contacted me about a week later wanting to hangout, we didn't end up meeting up and hanging out so the next day she goes to my friends house with some of her friends... which I thought was really weird. She was drunk at my friends house and when I got there it seemed like she was trying to be close or talk close to one of my friends. After watching this I got really anxious and I asked in front of everyone if they were hooking up she got angry and said no.. the guy said it wasn't like that. She left and texted me as soon as she left that I was a piece of shit and I was stupid for thinking that. I never replied.. a few days later she sends me a picture of this girl she is friends with and in the picture she is licking her face.. she sent me this picture at 1 am.. since then we havnt talked and that was about 3 days ago. I don't know what to do or what to say, she is the girl I want to be with I don't have any desire for anyone else. I want to apologize for how I acted during the relationship but i feel like it would make me look like a bitch I love her and have been in love with this girl for 5 years now.. sorry this comment has been so long I am just in a shitty position and I really need some help right now. Thank you
Oh man, you finally answered all my questions. I've always been the total provider. Never understood why I was always left feeling like a punk. I'm 43. Watched my parents in a constant loving relationship and always in a stupid argument. I hate arguing so I decided to do the ass kissing thing (most of the time) to try and make them happy. Now I get it. However, I'm also super analitical and 1+1 always = 2. With women 1+1= 11. I think I'm done with women. I'm actually cool with being single. Raising my daughter by myself and working my ass off. I've got tons of hobbies (which always bores your average ice princes). I'm done using my paycheck to pay for some dummies existence. I actually feel happy now. If I feel the urge to hook up then condoms have always worked despite the fact they suck. I got my shit fixed years ago and basically wanted a girl friend to spoil and not have to use condoms. I've been fucking up and now (thanks to you) am done doing so. Thank god I watched this video. I almost did not. You should do a video (maybe you have you are smart) about the guy that doesn't benefit from a girl friend and doesn't need one. Again thanks
even us girls should have standards ... i'm not going to keep texting the guy; instead i expect him to chase me... with this advice that coach is giving, neither man nor woman will chase... there isn't going to be any relationship!!!!
Any guy who had acted uninterested in me has truly been uninterested in me. So if someone acts like they don’t care I will also lose interest. Not sure I agree with this
11.35 That's WHY your stuff is so powerful! Most women become FASCINATED by a man that has his shit together and doesn't fall all over them. It actually cause them to chase you because your not a Beta Male Simp!
Just want to share my story and how Coach Corey Wayne helped me to understand women and the effects of his teaching. Went on a night out, before I get to the club a random woman start chatting with me, I was centered,charming and gentleman. I asked many quality questions and she opened up so much. I went in the club later and just had fun without looking for her or getting my attention to her. Week later she bumped into me and she jumped out of excitement that she saw me... I saw that attraction in her eyes... Another case not long after, there was very attractive woman in the club and guys was chasing and pursuing her, I just had fun,dancing and having great time. She came closer to get my attention but I just gave her a smile and stayed in my centre.... She went around and came back after 20 min..." leave her alone " and try get my attention again, I just enjoyed my time... She couldn't resist anymore and start dancing and wiping her ass on my lap... I thought, I'll test her and just stay centered and be in my masculine... she couldn't resist, she dance on my lap and start scratching my leg with her nails... I bet she was horny as fuck at that point... It just wasn't my type to ask for number or to do anything with the her.... All that is from Corey teaching... Thank you, I learned so much from those 2 situations My confidence as well is booming!!! Keep doing the great work Coach !!!
Yes makes a lot of sense. However people get over the bad boy obsession because they still lack some of the qualities Coach Corey talks about in his book.
Glad you drew a line between initial dating, attraction phase vs being in a sustained relationship. The majority of your videos are too focused on how to get laid. Hey deal with it, but it;'s the truth. For some of us guys, we really seek a compatible lifetime partner.
A survey is not science. Science is when there is a theory and an experiment to prove or disprove the theory. But okay, I see your point, and it is true. Intrigue and mystery creates interest in a woman. But it does also in men, too.
Really interesting stuff. I’m reading the book. But… what I’m really wondering: where is the vulnerable side of it. I thought it is really important to show your vulnerability, to be real. It’s simple impossible to be centered and strong over een period of years. I think it’s not good either. You are a human! What do you think??!
Can you please do this video but for a marriage with children? I'm in the very beginning of a separation of a 20 year relationship and 11 almost 12 years of marriage. Thanks in advance.
Having listens to his book 3.5/10-15 times, I'm going to guess before watching this vid. A leader, provider, protector. I.e. A man who can make decisions and take the incentive, a man who has his shit together and can contribute in a positive manner to her life. Someone who makes her feel safe. women open up when they feel safe with a man. And knowing her man will protect her is a huge turn on. Looks do help. But so does an education, a mortgage and. 401k.
My dad was a Colonel, so I'm kind of a leader. I like equals. I am extremely good at some things, not so good at others. I don't yield leadership ability. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Everyone has different gifts. It is not wise to over-simplify, is it? To say men have to be the leader, the leader of what? If you have to be the leader of everything, then you're insecure and trying to use domination to compensate for your own bad feelings about yourself.
It's more having the presence and character of leadership that he's referring to, not that the guy makes every decision about everything. It ties in with women being attracted to a man's strength.
Ok look, I get what you're saying, but how come there is countless "nice guys" in relationships. I love your information & it's definitely improved my dating life, but still, maybe women truly aren't as analytical of every little thing we do as we men think. Hence why I said what I said above. Anybody have a good answer for this? I'd love to hear!
Kobe #24 THE GOAT Oh, may I? Looking @ the housewives in my neighborhood, I sense that they married for SECURITY. That the guy they really loved was someone else. But he didn't want marriage, no way. They then latched onto some dull, unstylish drone (the 'nice guy') so that they'd have the picket fence, the kids, and escape the ghastly dating scene.
Never explain yourself, never be too available, never try to prove yourself or win her over and NEVER say anything negative about yourself.
Anisha Jones amen 🙏🏽
Timothy Gibney If you don't care it likely comes across that way so I doubt you're doing any of those things.
Jew Tube Yes for the love of God don't double text lol
Cardel Turner I agree. The 'bad boys' also have an idgaf attitude, come across as indifferent, like they don't need a woman which is a challenge to a lot of women. They aren't boring or predictable and keep you wondering about them.
Anisha Jones what if this girl at my school is always passing by me, it's like she want's my attention. should i talk to her. P.S i know her already she used to be in one of my classes.
Being a guy with no father, I can't thank you enough for your teachings Corey. Thanks mate 👏🏾
same to me bro. i thank JEHOVAH for this guy and his teachings
Same
Same! I’m on my 10th read in 10 weeks. He’s the father I never had.
If someone doesn't appreciate your presence, give them a chance to appreciate your absense.
How about move on
Great video content! Sorry for chiming in, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you heard about - Lammywalness His Happiness Guide (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is a great one off product for understanding what men really want minus the normal expense. Ive heard some super things about it and my m8 at very last got great success with it.
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After two years of watching your videos and cherry picking, I've finally bought the book and I've come across so many stupid mistakes that I used to make. To everyone reading this and saying you don't need the book, trust me it's a worthy investment!!
Indeed, however I was naive. I will try to get the audio book and listen while I am driving or at work etc.
Jerome Johnson I totally agree. that book is gold!
Jerome Johnson
"Cherry Pickin' Johnson" is what I'll call you. Glad you woke up and smelled the coffee. I hope you're smashing more than just the snooze button these days boss.
I second this. Read the coaching Manuel or suffer the results of not being prepared
A very important video. So many guys miss the boat on this one. At least the female writer was finally honest about this one. I also think being a so called "asshole" is actually just a guy who has a life outside of hers and respects himself. Sadly, we live in a world were men are becoming less and less masculine and more pleasing.
I believe the problem lies in the fact that there's a tendency to call those men who have a backbone and can set boundaries, assholes. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being nice. Niceness with an agenda is the problem. Men who give gifts, shower women with compliments and expect that if they are "nice" that a woman will just bow down to them, get friend zoned and left for a man who can set a woman in her place.
Anytime I watch these videos, I always have a "face-palm" moment. Good thing I know better now!
me too brother, really do haha
Lol I had 3 of those
Hey I’m a woman and I make mistakes to.
I had gotten rejected by a Cute girl recently in asking her to prom. There was a bit of shakiness that I didn't listen to. Afterwards I told myself I'd find another pretty and fun girl to go with. I hadn't met up with her in a while so I simply messaged her on Snapchat. She was hesitant at first but I told her , "no sweat , if you change your mind let me know :) " a day or two later she messaged me , completely open to going to have fun with me at prom !
Her other option probably didn't work out - but you still get credit for keeping yourself a viable backup.
This is gold. I haven't been the first to initiate contact in 2 weeks now. After 10 days, she's messaging me how are things with me.
She became your girlfriend??
I had a huge problem over pursuing, after reading the book I re-trained myself by turning it into a simple game.
I would set a small prize each week (candy bar, ice cream... ect). If she contacted me first I would win the prize... if I contacted her first I would loose the prize. Guys are all about achieving goals, but this goal you can only get though inaction... removing the "illusion of action".
So far it's worked great for me... it's all about tuning out that little devil on our shoulder... he gets so damn loud after 3 or 4 days of no contact.
Nice!. Iv'e found the average call-back to be 4 to 10 days. The more successful she is the longer she'll make you wait.
Spot on. The one alpha I am dating is exactly that way because of her business, modeling ect. When we are busy we don't realize how time flies... happens to me too. Running a company myself I perfer it that way :-).
Matt Flavell As a woman, I don't think that's healthy for either gender. Just get productive hobbies. Find a drive to live life in an honest and fulfilling way. Join groups, be social. If you don't like your job, take classes and find a new one. This way, youll meet new friends. And maybe one of those friends will grow to be your significant other
@@JonKonik11 neither. Both are irrelevant and have no impact on me and my journey through life. I'm gonna be happy and successful either way.
Your last sentence is spot on. This devil screams after a week of NC. After 8 days, she contacted...
Nothing better than getting to understand the opposite sex's perspective
Cardel Turner Make history and prove the nay sayers wrong
The Dave I wish everyone would read EVERYTHING YOU EVER WANTED TO KNOW ABOUT SEX.. (dr. david rubin.) Women are saturated in sex from puberty. Are not desperate for same. We want intelligent convo, good relationships.
+Ruby Parchment Okay?
It's all great in that department
What's another book we all should read?
The Dave Isaac Bashevis Singer's short story trilogy. The man understood life, and womankind. Anita Brookner's LOOK AT ME, UNDUE INFLUENCE brilliant on bright single women who can't find anybody.
The Dave ps, it's not great for us when men bring up sexual topics before you even know one another. I was saying how that famous book explains how women are inundated by 'offers,' but want compatibility, relationships instead.
The real secret is that most women don't know what they want. They all say they want a funny, nice, and attentive guy but the majority of women are with "bad boys" who are selfish, rude, and aloof. I am one of thousands of men who was attractive and in great shape but tried to be the "nice guy" that women kept saying they wanted. After giving up and simply not caring about what women want, I began doing and saying what I wanted around hot women without giving two Fks if I offended them (I was also not trying to offend) Guess what, all of a sudden I was getting hit on left and right.
This is even MORE important once in a relationship. A woman will not respect you if you are a pushover. Women want a man who will take charge and not allow her to walk all over him. Every woman I have ever met has tried to test me to see how I would react when they treat me like shit. After we have an argument because I wasn't going to take her shit, every time I would get a call back with more and more attention from them after I put them in their place. It is really annoying actually because I (like most men) just want peace at home but women can't be happy without a little drama so they test their man to piss him off and either walk all over him until she gets bored with him or he puts her in check so she gets the drama she wants. This cycle happens over and over again. I am convinced that most women are simply incapable of rationality.
That is correct. This is why a lot of older men wind up divorcing after 30 plus years, because once the need for sex is out of the equation many men would rather just be left alone. They put up with women because of the biological need for sex but are liberated with a lowered labedo when they get older.
The women who are truly 'hot' are fat, with hairy legs and a messy house. Bet you didn't know that.
p.s. Please tell me that you didn't announce that you were a 'nice guy.' Or say things you didn't mean because you thought it was what they wanted to hear....
Ruby, so you think a good woman eats like crap, doesn't shave her legs and is too lazy to clean once a week?
Bill BurrFan I didn't say a 'good' one. Read it again.
What do women want? *"EVERYTHING"*-Chris Rock
I did Not like this video. Well... I Liked it, but I didn't like it. Because "the Truth hurts". Hearing: Girls prefer the "Bad Boys"... and they rather fuck the Bad Boys over Nice guys... is pretty fucking disturbing. Because I was a Nice guy for years... I was Not super Nice. I don't think I was THAT Nice... but if there was only 2 categories: Bad Boys or Nice Guys... and girls had to put me in one or the other... I would probably be put in the "Nice Guy" category... and hearing "oh... we rather fuck the Bad Boys"... that sh--- pisses me off inside... but I have to hear the Truth... The truth hurts, but the Truth will set you free.
Angel Mata now you can go in the bad boy category...
Roger Sterling : "WHO CARES"
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Amazing video Coach and it really is pretty simple and it's the best way because space is needed. So when you do come together, there is more to talk about and you just appreciate each other more as well when you're not trying to force things. This lets the man be who he is, and also gives the woman, well both the man and woman the freedom they both need. It really is just as you say. I'm dating a woman right now and genuinely I am fascinated by her. In the background, I had buddies say oh bring flowers on 1st date and 2nd, do this and that, all these bribes/gifts..but I don't(even though she has told me she wants a guy who pursues her and buys flowers, but i do none of those things and she's all over me) because it's too early still. Like you said, the women are the ones who do the choosing at the end of the day. If guys just learn to have the emotional strength to resist doing too much too soon and wait for the woman to let you know shes ready for more. It really is effortless and beautiful.
Hi Corey. I've been watching your videos for about a week now and can't believe the affect you've had on my psyche. You are simply crushing it. I'm actually from Orlando and couldn't believe that's your town. My situation benefits from your lessons and I have to say, your teachings work in Chicago and Toronto. So, borders don't make a difference people. This stuff works!
Keep Crushing it out there!
Anytime i feel like I'm getting lost in my relationship or forget what I'm doing, pull up a Corey Wayne video and it centers me.
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The simple problem is: you can do all those "nice guy" things but ONLY if the woman has made up her mind that she wants to be with you.
This little bit is what most guys don't understand. It's no different than if someone you don't like does "nice" things for you. It's a turn off.
This is also why asking women for advice in most cases doesn't work, she's giving you advice on what she wishes the GUY SHE'S INTO would do for her. Not what women respond to initially to start creating that interest
Bingo!! Too many zit-faced losers who think that they could do the same actions as a hunk and then women will fall for them. They need to understand that a Brad Pitt type can literally fart on a girls lap and she will laugh it off and still be interested in sex with him if he asked for it. If you are rich, famous, or off the charts good looking, you really have to fuck it up with a woman before she loses interest. But if you are a loser, there is almost nothing you can do to convince a woman to get with you. You have to convince her that you are not a loser, and the best way to do that is to eventually do something with your life that gets you out of the loser category.
You can be nice just not too nice don't be a pleaser
@@VoiceOfThe Similar thing happened to me. Any update??
I love it when a coach Corey video pops up exactly when and exactly on what I needed :) Thanks, coach!
Any relationship that requires you to give up what makes you happy (aside from destructively obsessive habits) is a relationship where your counterpart has overplayed her hand. No partner who genuinely cares about you will try to take something away from you, especially something that is a part of you at your core.
Best video yet, man. I will watch this once a week.
Will wearing a Riddler shirt help me attract women?
As a woman, I can vouch for this. Very true, guys just seem too desperate. Love your vids Corey!
Quick accidental success story for anyone who cares to read: Asked a girl on a date who I met briefly because I thought she was pretty. During the date my attraction level dropped because of some of the things she said and did, and I didn't try very hard. This caused her to pursue me and ask me on another date, after which she asked me back to her house and we hooked up, she was fantastic in bed btw. Anyways, long story short, I got lucky because I wasn't too attracted at first causing her to rise to probably a level 9 for me. She is now my gf, we are very in love and very happy, and I am learning and applying Corey's work to maintain the relationship by continuously courting and surprising her and generally making life fun and exiting. You rock coach! And to the guys struggling out there, don't give up, just be patient, read the book, and apply the techniques using your judgement of the situation.
My Non Pursuing Game Is Too Strong lol. So Strong that they end up forgetting about me LOL
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Honestly, if you can get a girl to somehow know you like her and you send her signals that makes her attention go towards you, you can actually get her emotionally attached if you don't ask her out. She'll keep wondering whether you'll ever ask her out but you can't let the flame go out. Keep subtly complimenting her without being too specific and slowly/ progressively tell her how you feel about her. Women don't forget when they get angry lol the 2 steps forward 1 step back applies to every aspect of the relationship
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I agree. I can’t invest my feelings into a guy who doesn’t pursue me. Not sure how this works on other women but it never works on me. From my experience, I only fell in love with guys who were kind and pursued me. And when they stopped pursuing me and got complacent, I fell out of love.
Brilliant hahaha
thankyou so much for this video. i really needed to understand why being nice was always seen in such a creepy way and you definetely helped me see that.
Hey coach!! I just bought your book last weekend and should be getting here this Thursday! I'm so excited to read your book! Your videos have taught me so much about relationships/women!
Corey, I'm on the 7th read of your book. My incredibly beautiful Ugandan girlfriend has declared to me and everyone else that I'm her boyfriend..and much more! She has claimed me as her man. Just like you said! Thanks.
Great video. Very factual. Us women like to watch lifetime movies we don't want to be in one lol. I have a neighbor that creeps me out and scares me by constantly trying. My next step is to report him.
Maxime Laflamme lol I didn't eat them. I brought them to work and left them on the lunch table for my coworkers to enjoy. Hopefully now you can understand why he is about to catch a case. I am afraid and creeped out at this point.
Anisha Jones the best thing you can do for you AND him is to cut to the chase and say, "listen man, I'm not interested in you and don't want any more "gestures"" and when he tries to save face and say he thought he was just being a good neighbor or friend just stand your ground and say, "just stick to waving hi as we drive past each other because you are giving unwanted signals"
This will hopefully get him off your back and he can focus his beta male energy on some other woman too passive to tell him she is not interested.
Timothy Gibney Deep down I don't feel he's dangerous. At least I hope so but he has scared me and creeped me out.
Bill BurrFan Thank you. I try to let men down easy because I've been verbally attacked in the past for declining an offer. In this case I have told him I have a bf, I have rudely turned away from him while he's talking hoping he'd get my body language as a sign of no interest and I've tried waving with no expression and moving right along. What I haven't done is just flat out said F off I'm not interested! which may be what it takes so I'll try it next time
Anisha Jones Ahh the old "I have a boyfriend" technique. Brings back memories.. Anyway I would just be honest and clear telling him I'm not interested and I'm sorry.
Coach, this is actually working too well, I got rid of my beta male self , but now I have woman actually fighting over me...I don't know if I really wanted this; but it does work...maybe toooooo damn good.
Detail the changes made
"If you life is complete, all will come in place" Yeah, so basically we need to start working on OUR life 1st, then the girl will see how nice and how much joy we get from pursuing our ideals and all will fall in place, this makes sense.
Have read your book about 7 times now and it works wonders been sharing this information to my great friends. Keep it up your a life saver!
Ever since I learned to read women's actions not words I'm able to control the interaction and seduction process, feels so good knowing you got the power to see what most can't, thanks corey for the work, you rock sir!
A lot of gems here. Thank you Sir
Corey wayne. You have charged my perspective of women right around now. I was chasing but now I am studying and not even bothered now. I will do something when I'm in the mood now. I can't even be bothered to let women rule me anymore. I will boss this game of cat vs dog soon. I will win soon. I believe I've got some good understanding of it all now. Obviously much more work to be done but no more Mr nice guy here!
I just want to say thank you Coach! I've been applying your method and its been working. Cant thank you enough.
Videos like this is when Corey's at his best!
These things make me cringe: a man telling me he's a 'nice guy.' (Is too whiny.) Telling me he likes older gals, fat women (subtext: 'You're desperate.') And especially the man in my age group (61) who finds it necessary to point out that he is still potent, can satisfy...'That's what you think I'm wondering about!?'
Being a jerk communicates something counterintuitive - I am so socially desirable that how I behave does not matter. This literally makes you be perceived as socially desirable.
I had to share this on my FB page and tag a few of my buddies.
Who is down-voting this free, amazing advice?
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Seduction is a game of attention, but there is place and time for inattention and distance when the need arises.
The problem is that we live in an anti-seductive world where no one has time for anything truly enchanting or romantic, except for some holiday abroad for a couple of weeks. All that has true meaning is packaged and sold as a commodity, thus losing any real value beyond the mundane world we live in.
Most of the information in this video is based on being anti-seductive as an act of defence against getting hurt emotionally. People are too afraid to open up their hearts and show attention to the ones they want, for fear of getting rejected and feeling like a fool in the process. I know, I've been there many times. But you cannot seduce another without showing the value of your attention first (sometimes you receive that attention), then taking it away at the right moments. Estate agents and salesmen use this same tactic. It increases the sense of urgency and it is a universal psychological principle that applies across all genders.
To say that "women" are looking for a "man's man" is society's way of looking at it. Society's perfectly packaged seduction. Instead, why don't you treat her as an individual and not as a generic gender? Because you don't have the time to get to know her and figure out what she might want from you instead of what you want from her. Constantly, I see guy's comments about what she is failing to do for him. You need to think first what you have to offer her, before you receive back. If she fails to see the value of what you're providing for her, then take it away. We take for granted what we have, until we're about to lose it.
I think this video should be part of the Essential Fundamentals Playlist, maybe even the first video.
One of my uncles remarried and his new wife demanded that he get rid of his Alaskan Malamute.
He dumped her instead.
i love you Corey. You changed my life.
...a million thanks...for the...excellent video coach...!!
I can't SUPER LOVE ❤️ this enough! And it is Purr-fect!!!!!! Thank you! You Rawk!!!! 🎉💃🏻😊
Mr Corey I'm in Namibia and your right man. Women and men both respond emotionally to what they respond to!!
Bro your videos/Work are amazing
picked up your book about a month ago and so far it has been great and i found the one girl for me and i love your videos they are awesome . thank you so much Corey Wayne..
Watching this video really opened my eye! Thanks Corey Wayne for putting this video up. Will definitely look into buying your book soon.
i like what Corey was saying about the cake in the oven. It just reminded me back to my school days and this lad actually baked a cake (yes im ralking about actual cake baking here) and he kept opening the door to check on it and then i said in front of him to not open the door so much or his cake wouldn't rise.) The teacher heard this and was most impressed 😆
So accurate of course until marriage then it changes a bit. tfs great knowledge and wisdom
Laughter when I saw the topic headline and saw it was only about 24 mins long. I would have expected the clip to last into infinity....
coach , could you do a video by using parts from popular movies , that show scenes of what us men must and what we must NOT follow?ts would be very practical , to do this once in a while
Really cool video!! I will check out those links!
Great content coach Love It!!!
Tennis metaphor was good, well done Coach Corey you are doing some great work with a professional presentation.
I'm 19 my ex is 18 now we have been dating for 5 years off and on. Recently we broke up after being with each other for 2 years everyday. Over time I didn't treat her the same as I did when she came back to me so about 3 weeks ago she told me she needed space and she wanted to feel free. She started contacting me about a week or so ago and I reached out to make a date she said it was too soon. She contacted me about a week later wanting to hangout, we didn't end up meeting up and hanging out so the next day she goes to my friends house with some of her friends... which I thought was really weird. She was drunk at my friends house and when I got there it seemed like she was trying to be close or talk close to one of my friends. After watching this I got really anxious and I asked in front of everyone if they were hooking up she got angry and said no.. the guy said it wasn't like that. She left and texted me as soon as she left that I was a piece of shit and I was stupid for thinking that. I never replied.. a few days later she sends me a picture of this girl she is friends with and in the picture she is licking her face.. she sent me this picture at 1 am.. since then we havnt talked and that was about 3 days ago. I don't know what to do or what to say, she is the girl I want to be with I don't have any desire for anyone else. I want to apologize for how I acted during the relationship but i feel like it would make me look like a bitch I love her and have been in love with this girl for 5 years now.. sorry this comment has been so long I am just in a shitty position and I really need some help right now. Thank you
Ok. Dont contact her, ignore her, call her 1 time for every 3 times she calls you or texts, date other women. Create attraction.
Can't say how much I love this content and the 3% man book.
A great vedio. Need to be watch over and over.
Coach Corey you the man! Keep up the good work.
dude you really helped me seriously you made me feel better thank you
Do you think he's ever baked a cake? Great analogy regardless!
so in a nutshell,a man cannot make a woman interested in them?but a man can only throw a bait and see which women are interested?
DreamBeatsBakery so it's like numbers game?
Pretty much. Like coach Corey says, if she's interested, she'll make it easy for you.
Saves time and money in the long run
Correct. You can't make a girl interested. She either is or isn't.
I am a strait woman and Corey is so right about how we feel .
Oh man, you finally answered all my questions. I've always been the total provider. Never understood why I was always left feeling like a punk. I'm 43. Watched my parents in a constant loving relationship and always in a stupid argument. I hate arguing so I decided to do the ass kissing thing (most of the time) to try and make them happy. Now I get it. However, I'm also super analitical and 1+1 always = 2. With women 1+1= 11. I think I'm done with women. I'm actually cool with being single. Raising my daughter by myself and working my ass off. I've got tons of hobbies (which always bores your average ice princes). I'm done using my paycheck to pay for some dummies existence. I actually feel happy now. If I feel the urge to hook up then condoms have always worked despite the fact they suck. I got my shit fixed years ago and basically wanted a girl friend to spoil and not have to use condoms. I've been fucking up and now (thanks to you) am done doing so. Thank god I watched this video. I almost did not. You should do a video (maybe you have you are smart) about the guy that doesn't benefit from a girl friend and doesn't need one. Again thanks
Great video Bro!
Can you do the same for woman? Love your videos and personality.
GS S Well I'm here, and I ain't leavin.' What ru gonna do about it?
even us girls should have standards ... i'm not going to keep texting the guy; instead i expect him to chase me... with this advice that coach is giving, neither man nor woman will chase... there isn't going to be any relationship!!!!
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listen to Matthew Hussey... he is an excellent (did i say HOT) coach for women
@@nishisaxena4831 exactly, as I soon as I see a guy is trying to get me to chase to him, I next his ass. I don't have time power play games.
The worm that turned lol!! two Ronnies predicted the future years ago!!
Two words Corey: Thank you.
why is this not common knowledge, how am i just hearing this in my early 40s
At least you made it to 40 lots don’t.
I got the book, brother. It was totally worth it.
Any guy who had acted uninterested in me has truly been uninterested in me. So if someone acts like they don’t care I will also lose interest. Not sure I agree with this
Love this one back to the book again for the fifth time
In others Words.... be a fucking Man and stand out for yourself !!!
Hi Coach, I'm a big fan from Australia, I've got a date later this week & will definitely read up!
11.35 That's WHY your stuff is so powerful! Most women become FASCINATED by a man that has his shit together and doesn't fall all over them. It actually cause them to chase you because your not a Beta Male Simp!
Amazing! Thanks for sharing!
I soo agree Corey, a man I can respect is the sexiest man ever :)
Just want to share my story and how Coach Corey Wayne helped me to understand women and the effects of his teaching.
Went on a night out, before I get to the club a random woman start chatting with me, I was centered,charming and gentleman. I asked many quality questions and she opened up so much. I went in the club later and just had fun without looking for her or getting my attention to her. Week later she bumped into me and she jumped out of excitement that she saw me... I saw that attraction in her eyes...
Another case not long after, there was very attractive woman in the club and guys was chasing and pursuing her, I just had fun,dancing and having great time.
She came closer to get my attention but I just gave her a smile and stayed in my centre....
She went around and came back after 20 min..." leave her alone " and try get my attention again, I just enjoyed my time...
She couldn't resist anymore and start dancing and wiping her ass on my lap...
I thought, I'll test her and just stay centered and be in my masculine... she couldn't resist, she dance on my lap and start scratching my leg with her nails...
I bet she was horny as fuck at that point...
It just wasn't my type to ask for number or to do anything with the her....
All that is from Corey teaching...
Thank you, I learned so much from those 2 situations
My confidence as well is booming!!! Keep doing the great work Coach !!!
Yes makes a lot of sense. However people get over the bad boy obsession because they still lack some of the qualities Coach Corey talks about in his book.
2023 and this video is still entertaining and valuable
Thanks for the new video coach, love your work man. ~Peace.
"nice guys finish last, now im winning every race that i enter"
I needed to see this
Glad you drew a line between initial dating, attraction phase vs being in a sustained relationship. The majority of your videos are too focused on how to get laid. Hey deal with it, but it;'s the truth. For some of us guys, we really seek a compatible lifetime partner.
Pure gem!!
A survey is not science. Science is when there is a theory and an experiment to prove or disprove the theory. But okay, I see your point, and it is true. Intrigue and mystery creates interest in a woman. But it does also in men, too.
Really interesting stuff. I’m reading the book. But… what I’m really wondering: where is the vulnerable side of it. I thought it is really important to show your vulnerability, to be real. It’s simple impossible to be centered and strong over een period of years. I think it’s not good either. You are a human! What do you think??!
what women want?
Roger Sterling: "who cares"
Corey your one of an kind hahaha Amazing
Can you please do this video but for a marriage with children? I'm in the very beginning of a separation of a 20 year relationship and 11 almost 12 years of marriage. Thanks in advance.
Awesome analogies
Great video!
Having listens to his book 3.5/10-15 times, I'm going to guess before watching this vid.
A leader, provider, protector. I.e. A man who can make decisions and take the incentive, a man who has his shit together and can contribute in a positive manner to her life. Someone who makes her feel safe. women open up when they feel safe with a man. And knowing her man will protect her is a huge turn on.
Looks do help. But so does an education, a mortgage and. 401k.
Seasonings2taste and then they take your house and 401k. Who cares what they want. Once sje gets it, she's gone.
My dad was a Colonel, so I'm kind of a leader. I like equals. I am extremely good at some things, not so good at others. I don't yield leadership ability. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Everyone has different gifts. It is not wise to over-simplify, is it? To say men have to be the leader, the leader of what? If you have to be the leader of everything, then you're insecure and trying to use domination to compensate for your own bad feelings about yourself.
It's more having the presence and character of leadership that he's referring to, not that the guy makes every decision about everything. It ties in with women being attracted to a man's strength.
Coach love your work keep it up.
Ok look, I get what you're saying, but how come there is countless "nice guys" in relationships. I love your information & it's definitely improved my dating life, but still, maybe women truly aren't as analytical of every little thing we do as we men think. Hence why I said what I said above. Anybody have a good answer for this? I'd love to hear!
the point is to not act like a supplicating pussy.
Kobe #24 THE GOAT Oh, may I? Looking @ the housewives in my neighborhood, I sense that they married for SECURITY. That the guy they really loved was someone else. But he didn't want marriage, no way. They then latched onto some dull, unstylish drone (the 'nice guy') so that they'd have the picket fence, the kids, and escape the ghastly dating scene.
this is great!!!
Brilliant 👍
Thank you