Nikki I really appreciate topics like this. I so feel Laura's comment! I just want everyone to get along and hate conflict. I despise complainers and it's a real friendship turn off. These days as I'm over 40, I find myself praying for good/better friendships to come along. I feel I am a loyal and considerate friend, but the reciprocation seems to be lacking, and I get hurt. I wonder why the friends I have aren't maybe what I want anymore, or I have changed or the like. I really am looking for caring friends and aim to be the same. I definitely try to give grace and speak my mind when I can, but it's a balance 🧡
I have some family members I will never have a close relationship with because of their toxic behaviors. Sometimes it can be more than one person because the whole dynamic is unhealthy. The best you can do is keep things polite, professional and God honoring, not letting it bring you down. If you don't set and keep healthy boundaries for yourself it will take a toll on your mental and physical health. Also, not everyone wants to invest in the relationship like you do. How you respond or interact really depends on if someone is just having a misunderstanding or if it's more problematic.
Matthew 11:29 KJV Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. Thank you, Lord, for encouraging us through Nikki today.
Your low chignon looks beautiful and I would love to see this tool you have mentioned, please. My husband surprised me with a dainty 3 diamond necklace for our 10th anniversary and I wear it almost daily; he didn’t grow up in a home where jewelry was a treasured gift so his thoughtful in picking this out himself (no hints!) still astounds me years later. Gently sharing a thoughtful scripture with family can help diffuse a situation if shared humbly and gently. Julie 🌷
Those difficult relatives are so hard but I believe "kill them with kindness" and don't let them control who you are and the way you respond by the mean or negative things they do. Take the high road. You don't always know what the other person is dealing with, they could be insecure, fearful, lonely, anxious or any number of other things and it causes them to act in an unpleasant manner. Easier said than done. I'm speaking to myself as well. I always look forward to your uploads one of the highlights of my day. My little thing today is something I'm so thankful for. My little girl is on medicine for her bones and one of the side effects of the medication is calcium build up on her kidneys. She has yearly ultrasounds to make sure they are ok. She had an u/s in August and they thought they saw something minor so she had a follow up one today to have another look. I've been praying and today her u/s was normal. Praise God!! She is my miracle baby so I expect nothing less but I'm so thankful for answered prayers!!
I have alot of experience dealing with very toxic, negative family who, unfortunately, always overstay their welcome. Most people just know that 2-5 days is a good, long visit over Christmas (especially, if you have a large family). My relatives stay 2 weeks, want to do EVERYTHING together, & are quite controlling! I've had Christmas's with 20 people in the house when my own kids were under age 5! I'm an introvert so this is quite exhausting. I wish I had known how to handle all this in the past without resenting family. I've found it helpful to just accept that, first of all, Christmas is not all about me. There are my kids & 7 nieces to consider. How blessed are they to have all these childhood memories of Christmas's together? I've learned to carve out private time during those two weeks to protect my sanity. I excuse myself early & go to bed before everyone else. Just having that last hour to myself to read in bed or bath (or sleep), helps. I use the dog as an excuse sometimes & go for a walk for an hour by myself to clear my head. I've learned I don't need to apologize for these times alone. Part of sharing Christmas & your home with others is everyone has to be kind & patient & respect each other's space & differences & not take everything personally. It always ends & January can be quite blah. Just remember that.
What a great way you found to give yourself a break. I always thought I had to be involved with everyone too. Later on I realized it is okay to dismiss myself and I didn't need a reason to do so.
I think you have the gift of hospitality- you invite all of us into your lovely home- you are a blessing to us- thank you for that - maybe give us a few hints on hospitality
This conversation came just in time, Nikki. I was just in the shower pondering on whether we'll make a trip up to visit a relative (in-law), around Christmas, I frankly would rather not spend much time around. Hearing what you had to say and reading through many of the comments has brought me the peace I was needing. Thank you so much for having these conversations. Please keep them coming!
I think you nailed it. A lot of negative mean people are looking for a reaction. A reaction perpetuate this type of behavior, be patient and try your best not to react. Also keep in mind that this is temporary and the negative person is only with you for a limited amount of time. This too shall pass
Nikki, I think it was great that you discussed this. I think it's important to remember that negative and critical people are just that way and deep down inside are probably hurting. They probably need to be listened to and feel heard. I think it's important to always move on and be positive and you WILL feel better! It's great that you are mentioning little things that make you happy.
A timely message, indeed. Abrasive family members can definitely be a challenge, and I try to listen behind their words. Usually it's just a cry for attention. So I do my best to remember, like you said, that it won't last forever. I tried to not take it personally, although sometimes that's hard as we all know. It really isn't about me; it's about them. Thank you for another blessing of a message. My eyes kept studying the beautiful robes off to the side 😊
Nikki, I've really been enjoying this type of video you have been doing more recently. For the viewer, it's like visiting with a friend every day. I think you have found your niche!
I think your hairstyle is a chignon? Love the imperfect romantic styles. I can only wear dainty jewelry because I don't care for how the weight of the other stuff feels on my skin. A little really does go a long way. Cute robes back there. 🙂
Beautifully said, Our Lord endured so much worse and He was silent and He mentions that what is the merit if we just love the ones that love us, so we gain merits by trying to get along with those who don't like us that much! Have a great weekend x
Try audiobooks for your grandmother. When my mother was very old and had lost most of her hearing I got her a personal CD player - like we used in the 1990's - you can still order them on amazon. The player can be tucked in an apron pocket for portability. Local libraries are full of books on CD - free - and with the personal CD player my mom could turn up the volume as much as she liked. Being able to listen to books is a wonderful entertainment for everyone but especially, those who can't see well enough to read the usual way! And the icing on the cake is all the free books on CD just waiting in the library.
Thank you again for another beautiful video. I know it takes such work to put these together and I was thinking how your like a breath of fresh air in a world that is abit unsettled. I loved about relationships. Yes agree on keeping it positive and letting most things roll off and on to enjoying the gathering your in. Love your hair. So sweet about The irises and your Grammy. The day ended up abit warmer here in the Midwest today so fresh air through my windows was wonderful! One other was while I stepped outside to wash my window the beautiful geese came out of the pond overhead with their songs.💕
Beautifully and delicately handled Nikki. We honour your mention of Jesus to align ourselves with, in day to day struggles and major subjects like this painful one. xxx
Hello Nikki, just wanted to jump in on this loaded conversation , I to have family members that are on the other side of the fence so to speak , politically ,religiously , and every other way , which makes any topic of conversation a powder keg. We just kind of agree to disagree and we don’t go anywhere near those topics. It’s very difficult especially when you have long friendships , but the conversation somehow gets turned around to be all about them , and their problems, and their ailments ,and their misfortunes. They just seem to focus on the glass always half empty. It’s sad because sometimes you really want to be with them and you have a lot of things in common, but the relationship is such a drain you feel completely bankrupt after you’ve been with them. That “ woe is me “ gets old very fast . I’ve learned over the years that sometimes I have to steer the conversation in the direction that I need to go , and when I see it going down a road that I don’t want to discuss , I just change the subject. We won’t have to deal with a lot of that this year like you said , I don’t really know anybody that’s getting together with anybody, whether you believe in the virus or not it’s not worth taking the chance. I read a long time ago that the definition of true healthy friendships are the ones that when you leave them you feel so good about yourself and blessed to just have been in their presence. I’m a lot older than you but as you age you will see your circle of true friendships becoming smaller and smaller, because the ones that drop off we’re really just acquaintances they weren’t true friends . True friends become like family and are the ones that you could call in the middle of the night and ask for anything and they would be right there no questions asked. Maybe this year will be a good thing that people aren’t getting together because we’ve hit the pause button on being with them and maybe people will realize that not being together is a very lonely thing, especially if your family isn’t that big and maybe next year they’ll appreciate the relationship a little more , sort of a absence makes the heart grow fonder. I love that you were able to make grandma happy today with the irises that was my theme for last year‘s Thanksgiving to “cherish the little things because one day the little things are going to be the big things “. and that’s exactly what happened today with grandma. She is probably looking at them all day and feeling Blessed. Have a great evening . Thank you again Big loves. Connie ❤️🙏✝️
I'm really grateful for this video because it has highlighter the fact that I can be really negative when I see my mum ,I really don't have anyone else to talk too and to be fair I am going through alot at the moment ,but I can see myself going on and on and on as you spoke about certain people dragging you down and I don't want to be that way .I thankyou for bringing this to my attention ,I will try so much harder to not be this way in the future ,my poor mum has just listened and tried to give advice when she can get a word in edgeways ,bless her heart .I'm not part of the rest of my family my dad has excluded me for his own reasons and my children all go there for Christmas .It makes Christmas very difficult .Thankyou Nikki you have helped me so very much in all manner of ways.You are my role model for the women I would love to be xxx
Love the hair style today and yes I do small studs and I love delicate jewelry also. Love your Roses and the story about your Grammy and how much she enjoyed the flowers. Im Looking forward to the next video.
We are so blessed to be able to have access to your channel! You realistic and GOD loving ways are so refreshing. Thank you for sharing your time and wisdom with us!
I know this response is late, and I hope you still get it. It put a smile on my face when you spoke of the iris. I love irises! When I was a little girl, these beautiful flowers would come up every year, and to me it was magic{ I didn't know about bulbs, lol}. I think that is why I love them so- just a little bit of magic in a world gone off the path. Two years ago a friend gave me about a dozen iris bulbs for my own garden. I was so disappointed when they did not bloom last spring. As I was walking the yard just the other day, I see my irises are about to bloom! I can't wait to see wht color they will be.
Hello Shirley! Irises are so beautiful and I feel it's so magical when something springs to life, especially when it's unexpected. I find things blooming in my planter I had forgotten about and it puts the biggest smile on my face. I'm so happy your irises are about to bloom, be sure to tell me what color they are!
Your chignon looks lovely! I am practicing that hairstyle often. Usually I’m happy with it but sometimes I just cannot get the pins in the right place and it flops out! So frustrating. One good thing for me today was seeing a friend... she brought her children for a play date with my children but really it was a date for the mommies! 😉
Great video! Yes it’s so true..: the best response is no response. Actions speak louder than words! Please do a makeup tutorial, your makeup looks great! Do you wear mascara or lashes? Love this look. Thanks Niki!
Hi Nikki we are commanded to love one other to bear each other's burdens. I feel that this is not just for one day in November and December. I try hard to be thankful everyday for God's blessing in my life. We have to constantly make adjustments and sometimes as Jesus did we just need to be quite. Be safe everyone Blessing.
I love having the privilege to know this side of you more and more! We are kindred spirits. In the matters of difficult people or relationships, I try to remind myself that Jesus loves this person and that I am also very far from perfect! ♥️ Kelly from Nebraska!
Hi Nikki, I used to try and be nice and dedicate being even more so nice to that not so nice family member. And even though I continue to be nice, I just let it go and try not to let that person bring the negative in me. Especially during family gatherings, I just not that I ignore them, but I just don't give the extra attention to that person, I tend to hang closer to the ones that make me feel happy and have more fun with.
I love your hairstyle! It looks so old fashioned. Please do show us how to do that. I always have loved dainty jewelry, but the problem is...I am in my 40s now and have gotten rather fat. I'm a bit worried that while dainty jewelry might make my thin hair look bigger in comparison, it might make ME look bigger too! lol. :)
Thank you for every video you make... You make my day bright and inspired... I have some questions: first, do you struggle with depilation and hairs on your body and face... So many ladies have that problem with hair and hormones. Next, you are so clean and organized and you are all in the house in shoes. I am from Europe and we are all sleepers in the home.
My family member where I usually spend the holidays has asked me the last 3 years not to park in their driveway or in front of their house (my car is 16 years old, in great condition). Very snooty!!! So now I just park around the corner so they cannot see my car. I have a good time but they are embarassed by my car, oh well.
I think it’s very wise to not go into debt for a silly car payment, something that depreciates so quickly. We proudly drive around our older car, with no car payment to worry about or trying to impress anyone! To me, it’s a sign of maturity and knowing what’s important
You’re so thoughtful, Nikki (just listened to the part about the irises). 🤗 I’ve been contemplating what to say if I myself encounter a situation my friend recently experienced, and keeping silent as per Jesus’ example seems like it might be the wisest option. I’m thankful you shared that exhortation. 😘
My scenario: I love my family, but some always make comments about my body (losing or gaining weight) I cant help it really because I have a thyroid issue but they don't understand or care to understand. I'm active and eat a balanced diet so it's really out of my control, but I'm made to feel guilty when I'd rather be celebrating with family. How do you suggest I deal with comments about my body from family?
"My body is not up for discussion." Full stop, no apologies. Boundaries that preserve your mental health and wellbeing are essential and you owe no one an explanation about your weight, ever.
I love Marie Dubuque's advice on social dilemmas. She has a really great channel here with very short videos advising on a number of different scenarios. One of the great responses she suggests after being insulted is to smile at them like something is wrong with them and say "what's your point?" look right at them for a moment long enough for them to know their behavior is completely unacceptable, and then just change the subject. And it is none of their concern about what you eat or how active you are, they do not need an explanation after they have insulted you.
Your hairstyle is lovely Nikki and I agree with you about dainty jewelry. Your flower segments are what makes my day and I know I can look forward to that part . I spend at least 20 hours in my garden weekly. For my thanksgiving table I will be cutting Maroon Chrysanthemums from my garden; all summer the plant kept growing heavy with buds and just last week it bloomed profusely and looks like a lovely tapestry. They bloomed late this year but just in time for the holidays. I recommend this flower and Zinnias for the garden as they make ideal cut flowers. I have them in yellow and purple and will plant a white one next year. As for family & friends it is always best to guard our tongue and keep the peace. In the bible Daniel is called blameless. In the lions' den miracle, Daniel's trial resembles that of Jesus before Pontius Pilate, and Daniel's escape from certain death is like Jesus' resurrection. The lions' den also symbolized Daniel's captivity in Babylon, where God protected and sustained him because of his great faith.
Hey there! The part about dainty jewelry complementing fine hair made me realize why I like to wear large or chunky jewelry pieces. I had always thought to myself, "I don't want to wear a little tiny chain with little tiny charms because it won't be noticeable". It didn't occur to me until now that the large and chunky jewelry pieces that I perferred and enjoyed wearing probably looked good on me because it balanced well with the overall size of my head. Haha. I don't say that deprecatingly. I have a small, heart shaped face framed by very thick hair; and when I left it, loose it was voluminous. 😊
Hi Nikki. I enjoy your channel. Its developing really nice. I enjoy hearing the questions and your "two cents". Lol. It's as if we're friends just catching up and sharing. Do you use concealer? I look tired due to my early rising hours and I guess hormones and age. What is something you recommend?
Thank you as always for your thoughtful advice, Nikki! I’d love to know how you handle friends who reveal themselves to be less than true. I have one friend in particular who makes backhanded “compliments” that leave me feeling judged and less than. Do you recommend speaking vulnerably with such a friend? Or gracefully parting ways? Thank you in advance for your perspective! 💕
I used to do my daughter's hair with that tool and the chignon came out so feminine. May I ask why you call your grandfather grumpier? Hugs for a lovely chat.
Amen, I love Jesus. I'm the bubbly one in my family and I have never had a problem with them. I love your bathroom ! This year has been very challenging with my mom, dementia has progressed and I have her here and am nursing her 24/7
Inspired by Nikki thank you Nikki, I'm loving her up and doing all I can. I will always love and cherish my mother and everything she taught me. She always wore dresses and aprons. Channel # 5 her signature scent. She was soooo beautiful. My heart is shattered at the changes. I will never leave her, she will never go into memory care. Love her so much
Thank you so much for this video! This is my inlaws to the T, they even started to project the hate onto our kids, that is when we drew the line. There are boundaries. Minimal contact with only a few & the one sister no contact, unless she can apologize & change. Fortunately I am blessed that my husband does see through all they do, he doesn't like it & agree's that we need to keep distance. I will stay prayerful in all of this & remain positive with the focus on our family & keeping boundaries with inlaws or no contact. On another note, I want to ask what eyeliner do you use? Could you make a video of what line & show how to apply it? I am totally lost about it, but love the look! So pretty! You are an amazing inspiration to me! You lift my spirits & my homemaking has improved. As a christian I absolutely love the Bible verses & mention of the Lord in your videos. God bless 💗🙏💐
Being 58, I’ve learned you can’t do good for anyone. Not every lid fits on every jar. When i was younger, i always wanted to please everyone. Now, i’ve decided to invest the last decades of my life into people that really care and are worth it. The others: i just leave them there without making a fuzz about it.
Your hair looks so pretty in that style! You are right. Jesus is the best model for handling difficult people. Or as my MIL calls them: “irregular people”. Makes me smile. 😆
You answering my question made my day it putt a smile when you talked about Jesus it true about are tounge I should be more clear I am talking about my In-laws they have been rude disrespectful and my sister Inlaw told she was happy I could not have kids after founding out me and my husband could not have kids no one said anything except my husband how became upset to say the least at the time so it’s hard luckily I don’t have to see them all the time so with Jesus i can handle anything amen 🙏 thank for everything love you guy’s
Hi Laura....I too had a similar experience with my sister-in-law. My 3rd child was not expected to live but we weren't giving up on her and we prayed and prayed and God did a miracle and she is perfect. But through all that my sister-in-law told my husband that the baby was not going to make it and the sooner you accept it the easier it will be for you. I was heartbroken and angry. But with time Jesus had healed my wound and helped me to forgive her. She is empty, she doesn't serve God and she was wrong. I don't know your situation with not being able to have babies but I know we serve a miracle working God and my baby girl is proof of that everyday. God sees your desires and He can make a way. Have Faith!!! And rise above those who would like to tare you down.
@@ahnacalvillo2723 thank you for your support god is a miracle working god the dr told me and my husband that we couldn’t have kids they said I went through early menopause god is good I have forgive through time but sometimes the enemy come in and reminds me of the hurtful words but praise Jesus that we cast every thought captive god has given me three beautiful godchildren from my sister and they are a light in my life just like you beautiful baby is a miracle in your life praise god thank you for your sharing your story and your kind words god bless
@Laura Vieira You're welcome I'm glad I can be an encouragement to you. You sound like a wonderful lady!! God is amazing he gives back to us in different areas. So glad you have a close relationship with your godchildren, I bet they look up to you. I completely understand about those past hurts I struggle too at times. I pray you have a joyful and blessed Thanksgiving!! 😊
Romans 12:18 is actually in my email signature. Its something I try so desperately hard to achieve. My family, both sides are so toxic, for my sanity I stay far away. They are a version of Hatfield and McCoy but amped up. There is no getting together. They fight amongst themselves then with other side of the family. I'll send a card, occasionally a phone call but not in person. I'm pretty sure your hairstyle is a chignon pronounce Shen yong...I think🤭 it's very pretty and elegant. I've rediscovered my love of daint jewelry as well. Do you have any favorite pieces or jewelry lines you tend to purchase from?
You're in for a treat, Lissy. Nikki is the real deal: classy, kind, and a phenomenally inspiring homemaker. She's very good at explaining things in a very clear, friendly and relatable way. You'll find lots of her great videos to catch up on!💛
Thank you for honoring Jesus in your conversation today it was a blessing to hear that.
Amen!
Nikki I really appreciate topics like this. I so feel Laura's comment! I just want everyone to get along and hate conflict. I despise complainers and it's a real friendship turn off. These days as I'm over 40, I find myself praying for good/better friendships to come along. I feel I am a loyal and considerate friend, but the reciprocation seems to be lacking, and I get hurt. I wonder why the friends I have aren't maybe what I want anymore, or I have changed or the like. I really am looking for caring friends and aim to be the same. I definitely try to give grace and speak my mind when I can, but it's a balance 🧡
I have some family members I will never have a close relationship with because of their toxic behaviors. Sometimes it can be more than one person because the whole dynamic is unhealthy. The best you can do is keep things polite, professional and God honoring, not letting it bring you down. If you don't set and keep healthy boundaries for yourself it will take a toll on your mental and physical health. Also, not everyone wants to invest in the relationship like you do. How you respond or interact really depends on if someone is just having a misunderstanding or if it's more problematic.
I agree, sometimes relatives are able to bring you completely down and take control of your life especially when you have some inner wounds
💯 but you don't have to stay in that place. You can heal. 🙏🏻
Matthew 11:29 KJV
Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
Thank you, Lord, for encouraging us through Nikki today.
Your low chignon looks beautiful and I would love to see this tool you have mentioned, please. My husband surprised me with a dainty 3 diamond necklace for our 10th anniversary and I wear it almost daily; he didn’t grow up in a home where jewelry was a treasured gift so his thoughtful in picking this out himself (no hints!) still astounds me years later. Gently sharing a thoughtful scripture with family can help diffuse a situation if shared humbly and gently. Julie 🌷
Those difficult relatives are so hard but I believe "kill them with kindness" and don't let them control who you are and the way you respond by the mean or negative things they do. Take the high road. You don't always know what the other person is dealing with, they could be insecure, fearful, lonely, anxious or any number of other things and it causes them to act in an unpleasant manner. Easier said than done. I'm speaking to myself as well. I always look forward to your uploads one of the highlights of my day. My little thing today is something I'm so thankful for. My little girl is on medicine for her bones and one of the side effects of the medication is calcium build up on her kidneys. She has yearly ultrasounds to make sure they are ok. She had an u/s in August and they thought they saw something minor so she had a follow up one today to have another look. I've been praying and today her u/s was normal. Praise God!! She is my miracle baby so I expect nothing less but I'm so thankful for answered prayers!!
I have alot of experience dealing with very toxic, negative family who, unfortunately, always overstay their welcome. Most people just know that 2-5 days is a good, long visit over Christmas (especially, if you have a large family). My relatives stay 2 weeks, want to do EVERYTHING together, & are quite controlling! I've had Christmas's with 20 people in the house when my own kids were under age 5! I'm an introvert so this is quite exhausting. I wish I had known how to handle all this in the past without resenting family. I've found it helpful to just accept that, first of all, Christmas is not all about me. There are my kids & 7 nieces to consider. How blessed are they to have all these childhood memories of Christmas's together? I've learned to carve out private time during those two weeks to protect my sanity. I excuse myself early & go to bed before everyone else. Just having that last hour to myself to read in bed or bath (or sleep), helps. I use the dog as an excuse sometimes & go for a walk for an hour by myself to clear my head. I've learned I don't need to apologize for these times alone. Part of sharing Christmas & your home with others is everyone has to be kind & patient & respect each other's space & differences & not take everything personally. It always ends & January can be quite blah. Just remember that.
2-5 days, LOL . . .2-5 hours is enough!
Great advice. Thanks for sharing!
What a great way you found to give yourself a break. I always thought I had to be involved with everyone too. Later on I realized it is okay to dismiss myself and I didn't need a reason to do so.
I think praying for the person helps also.
I think you have the gift of hospitality- you invite all of us into your lovely home- you are a blessing to us- thank you for that - maybe give us a few hints on hospitality
the washing machine, dog baking and kids talking in the backgroud...aaahhh real life. i just LOVE how u left the REAL in your vlog 😊🤗😊🤗🥰🦋💕
I'm so glad you liked that!
loved it. it helped me relate to you 🥰
This conversation came just in time, Nikki. I was just in the shower pondering on whether we'll make a trip up to visit a relative (in-law), around Christmas, I frankly would rather not spend much time around. Hearing what you had to say and reading through many of the comments has brought me the peace I was needing. Thank you so much for having these conversations. Please keep them coming!
Nikki you are a wise women. I enjoy this so much. Your hair looks so nice, i love when you wear it up. Your are a beautiful person.
I think you nailed it. A lot of negative mean people are looking for a reaction. A reaction perpetuate this type of behavior, be patient and try your best not to react. Also keep in mind that this is temporary and the negative person is only with you for a limited amount of time. This too shall pass
Nikki, I think it was great that you discussed this. I think it's important to remember that negative and critical people are just that way and deep down inside are probably hurting. They probably need to be listened to and feel heard. I think it's important to always move on and be positive and you WILL feel better! It's great that you are mentioning little things that make you happy.
I get so excited when I see that u have posted a new video! 🤪😌
A timely message, indeed. Abrasive family members can definitely be a challenge, and I try to listen behind their words. Usually it's just a cry for attention. So I do my best to remember, like you said, that it won't last forever. I tried to not take it personally, although sometimes that's hard as we all know. It really isn't about me; it's about them.
Thank you for another blessing of a message. My eyes kept studying the beautiful robes off to the side 😊
Nikki, I've really been enjoying this type of video you have been doing more recently. For the viewer, it's like visiting with a friend every day. I think you have found your niche!
I think your hairstyle is a chignon? Love the imperfect romantic styles. I can only wear dainty jewelry because I don't care for how the weight of the other stuff feels on my skin. A little really does go a long way. Cute robes back there. 🙂
Beautifully said, Our Lord endured so much worse and He was silent and He mentions that what is the merit if we just love the ones that love us, so we gain merits by trying to get along with those who don't like us that much! Have a great weekend x
Try audiobooks for your grandmother. When my mother was very old and had lost most of her hearing I got her a personal CD player - like we used in the 1990's - you can still order them on amazon. The player can be tucked in an apron pocket for portability. Local libraries are full of books on CD - free - and with the personal CD player my mom could turn up the volume as much as she liked. Being able to listen to books is a wonderful entertainment for everyone but especially, those who can't see well enough to read the usual way! And the icing on the cake is all the free books on CD just waiting in the library.
Thank you again for another beautiful video. I know it takes such work to put these together and I was thinking how your like a breath of fresh air in a world that is abit unsettled.
I loved about relationships. Yes agree on keeping it positive and letting most things roll off and on to enjoying the gathering your in.
Love your hair. So sweet about The irises and your Grammy.
The day ended up abit warmer here in the Midwest today so fresh air through my windows was wonderful!
One other was while I stepped outside to wash my window the beautiful geese came out of the pond overhead with their songs.💕
Thank you Nikki, your videos made my day ! You bring us beautiful content, sweetness and wisdom ... Love from France
That's so nice of you to say Vanessa, Thank you!
Beautifully and delicately handled Nikki. We honour your mention of Jesus to align ourselves with, in day to day struggles and major subjects like this painful one. xxx
Hello Nikki, just wanted to jump in on this loaded conversation , I to have family members that are on the other side of the fence so to speak , politically ,religiously , and every other way , which makes any topic of conversation a powder keg.
We just kind of agree to disagree and we don’t go anywhere near those topics.
It’s very difficult especially when you have long friendships , but the conversation somehow gets turned around to be all about them , and their problems, and their ailments ,and their misfortunes. They just seem to focus on the glass always half empty.
It’s sad because sometimes you really want to be with them and you have a lot of things in common, but the relationship is such a drain you feel completely bankrupt after you’ve been with them. That “ woe is me “ gets old very fast .
I’ve learned over the years that sometimes I have to steer the conversation in the direction that I need to go , and when I see it going down a road that I don’t want to discuss , I just change the subject. We won’t have to deal with a lot of that this year like you said , I don’t really know anybody that’s getting together with anybody, whether you believe in the virus or not it’s not worth taking the chance.
I read a long time ago that the definition of true healthy friendships are the ones that when you leave them you feel so good about yourself and blessed to just have been in their presence.
I’m a lot older than you but as you age you will see your circle of true friendships becoming smaller and smaller, because the ones that drop off we’re really just acquaintances they weren’t true friends . True friends become like family and are the ones that you could call in the middle of the night and ask for anything and they would be right there no questions asked. Maybe this year will be a good thing that people aren’t getting together because we’ve hit the pause button on being with them and maybe people will realize that not being together is a very lonely thing, especially if your family isn’t that big and maybe next year they’ll appreciate the relationship a little more , sort of a absence makes the heart grow fonder.
I love that you were able to make grandma happy today with the irises that was my theme for last year‘s Thanksgiving to “cherish the little things because one day the little things are going to be the big things “. and that’s exactly what happened today with grandma. She is probably looking at them all day and feeling Blessed. Have a great evening . Thank you again
Big loves. Connie ❤️🙏✝️
I'm really grateful for this video because it has highlighter the fact that I can be really negative when I see my mum ,I really don't have anyone else to talk too and to be fair I am going through alot at the moment ,but I can see myself going on and on and on as you spoke about certain people dragging you down and I don't want to be that way .I thankyou for bringing this to my attention ,I will try so much harder to not be this way in the future ,my poor mum has just listened and tried to give advice when she can get a word in edgeways ,bless her heart .I'm not part of the rest of my family my dad has excluded me for his own reasons and my children all go there for Christmas .It makes Christmas very difficult .Thankyou Nikki you have helped me so very much in all manner of ways.You are my role model for the women I would love to be xxx
Love the hair style today and yes I do small studs and I love delicate jewelry also. Love your Roses and the story about your Grammy and how much she enjoyed the flowers. Im Looking forward to the next video.
this background is AmAzInG!!! wow wow wow. what a GIFT you have of decorating!
Thank you!
We are so blessed to be able to have access to your channel! You realistic and GOD loving ways are so refreshing. Thank you for sharing your time and wisdom with us!
I enjoy all of your videos. Please continue to make them.
Thank you Beth, I will!
Oh, I needed this video so much today! Thank you for the wisdom and just plain good advice. Such an encouragement. Praise Jesus.
I know this response is late, and I hope you still get it. It put a smile on my face when you spoke of the iris. I love irises! When I was a little girl, these beautiful flowers would come up every year, and to me it was magic{ I didn't know about bulbs, lol}. I think that is why I love them so- just a little bit of magic in a world gone off the path. Two years ago a friend gave me about a dozen iris bulbs for my own garden. I was so disappointed when they did not bloom last spring. As I was walking the yard just the other day, I see my irises are about to bloom! I can't wait to see wht color they will be.
Hello Shirley! Irises are so beautiful and I feel it's so magical when something springs to life, especially when it's unexpected. I find things blooming in my planter I had forgotten about and it puts the biggest smile on my face. I'm so happy your irises are about to bloom, be sure to tell me what color they are!
Going to try this hairstyle tomorrow. I have thinner hair, too and this looks really poised.
I was definitely energized today, thank you. 💗That notebook idea was brilliant.
Your chignon looks lovely! I am practicing that hairstyle often. Usually I’m happy with it but sometimes I just cannot get the pins in the right place and it flops out! So frustrating.
One good thing for me today was seeing a friend... she brought her children for a play date with my children but really it was a date for the mommies! 😉
I adore roses too and keep them in my home! Praying for your Grand!
Yes, but one half one didn't so I'm keeping that one for me.
I love your channel so much!!! I don't miss any of your videos Nikki.
A lot of prayer and grace💕
Great video! Yes it’s so true..: the best response is no response. Actions speak louder than words! Please do a makeup tutorial, your makeup looks great! Do you wear mascara or lashes? Love this look. Thanks Niki!
Hi Nikki we are commanded to love one other to bear each other's burdens. I feel that this is not just for one day in November and December. I try hard to be thankful everyday for God's blessing in my life. We have to constantly make adjustments and sometimes as Jesus did we just need to be quite. Be safe everyone Blessing.
Those Rose's are so beautiful ❤ & I'm so glad your Grammie loved her Irises x
Right on time with this one Nikki 👍🏿🌸
I love having the privilege to know this side of you more and more! We are kindred spirits. In the matters of difficult people or relationships, I try to remind myself that Jesus loves this person and that I am also very far from perfect! ♥️ Kelly from Nebraska!
Hi Nikki, I used to try and be nice and dedicate being even more so nice to that not so nice family member. And even though I continue to be nice, I just let it go and try not to let that person bring the negative in me. Especially during family gatherings, I just not that I ignore them, but I just don't give the extra attention to that person, I tend to hang closer to the ones that make me feel happy and have more fun with.
I love your hairstyle! It looks so old fashioned. Please do show us how to do that.
I always have loved dainty jewelry, but the problem is...I am in my 40s now and have gotten rather fat. I'm a bit worried that while dainty jewelry might make my thin hair look bigger in comparison, it might make ME look bigger too! lol. :)
Laura...wear your dainty jewellery. You are a lovely feminine daughter of the King!!!!
Thank you for every video you make... You make my day bright and inspired... I have some questions: first, do you struggle with depilation and hairs on your body and face... So many ladies have that problem with hair and hormones. Next, you are so clean and organized and you are all in the house in shoes. I am from Europe and we are all sleepers in the home.
Beautiful hair style ❤️
My family member where I usually spend the holidays has asked me the last 3 years not to park in their driveway or in front of their house (my car is 16 years old, in great condition). Very snooty!!! So now I just park around the corner so they cannot see my car. I have a good time but they are embarassed by my car, oh well.
I think it’s very wise to not go into debt for a silly car payment, something that depreciates so quickly. We proudly drive around our older car, with no car payment to worry about or trying to impress anyone! To me, it’s a sign of maturity and knowing what’s important
Your hair looks very nice!
Great 😊 video as usual you make my day 😍🇩🇿
You’re so thoughtful, Nikki (just listened to the part about the irises). 🤗 I’ve been contemplating what to say if I myself encounter a situation my friend recently experienced, and keeping silent as per Jesus’ example seems like it might be the wisest option. I’m thankful you shared that exhortation. 😘
Loving these videos,thanks Nikki for all your efforts. Xx
You are so welcome!
How sweet for your Grammy, I can't wait for tomorrows video ❤
My scenario: I love my family, but some always make comments about my body (losing or gaining weight)
I cant help it really because I have a thyroid issue but they don't understand or care to understand. I'm active and eat a balanced diet so it's really out of my control, but I'm made to feel guilty when I'd rather be celebrating with family.
How do you suggest I deal with comments about my body from family?
"My body is not up for discussion." Full stop, no apologies. Boundaries that preserve your mental health and wellbeing are essential and you owe no one an explanation about your weight, ever.
I love Marie Dubuque's advice on social dilemmas. She has a really great channel here with very short videos advising on a number of different scenarios. One of the great responses she suggests after being insulted is to smile at them like something is wrong with them and say "what's your point?" look right at them for a moment long enough for them to know their behavior is completely unacceptable, and then just change the subject. And it is none of their concern about what you eat or how active you are, they do not need an explanation after they have insulted you.
Your hairstyle is lovely Nikki and I agree with you about dainty jewelry. Your flower segments are what makes my day and I know I can look forward to that part . I spend at least 20 hours in my garden weekly. For my thanksgiving table I will be cutting Maroon Chrysanthemums from my garden; all summer the plant kept growing heavy with buds and just last week it bloomed profusely and looks like a lovely tapestry. They bloomed late this year but just in time for the holidays. I recommend this flower and Zinnias for the garden as they make ideal cut flowers. I have them in yellow and purple and will plant a white one next year.
As for family & friends it is always best to guard our tongue and keep the peace. In the bible Daniel is called blameless. In the lions' den miracle, Daniel's trial resembles that of Jesus before Pontius Pilate, and Daniel's escape from certain death is like Jesus' resurrection. The lions' den also symbolized Daniel's captivity in Babylon, where God protected and sustained him because of his great faith.
Hey there! The part about dainty jewelry complementing fine hair made me realize why I like to wear large or chunky jewelry pieces. I had always thought to myself, "I don't want to wear a little tiny chain with little tiny charms because it won't be noticeable". It didn't occur to me until now that the large and chunky jewelry pieces that I perferred and enjoyed wearing probably looked good on me because it balanced well with the overall size of my head. Haha. I don't say that deprecatingly. I have a small, heart shaped face framed by very thick hair; and when I left it, loose it was voluminous. 😊
Absolutely, this makes so much sense!
@@TheLadyoftheHouse 😊
Hi Nikki. I enjoy your channel. Its developing really nice. I enjoy hearing the questions and your "two cents". Lol. It's as if we're friends just catching up and sharing. Do you use concealer? I look tired due to my early rising hours and I guess hormones and age. What is something you recommend?
Do you have any videos on children's clothing? Or how to encourage daughters to dress feminine? Thank you!
Thank you as always for your thoughtful advice, Nikki! I’d love to know how you handle friends who reveal themselves to be less than true. I have one friend in particular who makes backhanded “compliments” that leave me feeling judged and less than. Do you recommend speaking vulnerably with such a friend? Or gracefully parting ways? Thank you in advance for your perspective! 💕
I used to do my daughter's hair with that tool and the chignon came out so feminine. May I ask why you call your grandfather grumpier? Hugs for a lovely chat.
Spell check...grumpy
Amen, I love Jesus. I'm the bubbly one in my family and I have never had a problem with them. I love your bathroom ! This year has been very challenging with my mom, dementia has progressed and I have her here and am nursing her 24/7
Thank you Susan! I'm sorry for your challenges this year. You're a great daughter to take care of her.
Inspired by Nikki thank you Nikki, I'm loving her up and doing all I can. I will always love and cherish my mother and everything she taught me. She always wore dresses and aprons. Channel # 5 her signature scent. She was soooo beautiful. My heart is shattered at the changes. I will never leave her, she will never go into memory care. Love her so much
Is it me or is that candle especially firey?
lol yes it is! I think it might be a 3 wick candle.
Love the French chignon.
we love you, Nikki!
Thank you so much for this video! This is my inlaws to the T, they even started to project the hate onto our kids, that is when we drew the line. There are boundaries. Minimal contact with only a few & the one sister no contact, unless she can apologize & change. Fortunately I am blessed that my husband does see through all they do, he doesn't like it & agree's that we need to keep distance. I will stay prayerful in all of this & remain positive with the focus on our family & keeping boundaries with inlaws or no contact. On another note, I want to ask what eyeliner do you use? Could you make a video of what line & show how to apply it? I am totally lost about it, but love the look! So pretty! You are an amazing inspiration to me! You lift my spirits & my homemaking has improved. As a christian I absolutely love the Bible verses & mention of the Lord in your videos. God bless 💗🙏💐
Being 58, I’ve learned you can’t do good for anyone. Not every lid fits on every jar. When i was younger, i always wanted to please everyone. Now, i’ve decided to invest the last decades of my life into people that really care and are worth it. The others: i just leave them there without making a fuzz about it.
Hairstyle is chignon. Pronounced SHēnˈyän. Lovely on you.
Your hair looks so pretty in that style!
You are right. Jesus is the best model for handling difficult people. Or as my MIL calls them: “irregular people”. Makes me smile. 😆
Thank you Rachel! That's a kind term for them, too funny!
Thank you so enjoyable.
You answering my question made my day it putt a smile when you talked about Jesus it true about are tounge I should be more clear I am talking about my In-laws they have been rude disrespectful and my sister Inlaw told she was happy I could not have kids after founding out me and my husband could not have kids no one said anything except my husband how became upset to say the least at the time so it’s hard luckily I don’t have to see them all the time so with Jesus i can handle anything amen 🙏 thank for everything love you guy’s
Hi Laura....I too had a similar experience with my sister-in-law. My 3rd child was not expected to live but we weren't giving up on her and we prayed and prayed and God did a miracle and she is perfect. But through all that my sister-in-law told my husband that the baby was not going to make it and the sooner you accept it the easier it will be for you. I was heartbroken and angry. But with time Jesus had healed my wound and helped me to forgive her. She is empty, she doesn't serve God and she was wrong. I don't know your situation with not being able to have babies but I know we serve a miracle working God and my baby girl is proof of that everyday. God sees your desires and He can make a way. Have Faith!!! And rise above those who would like to tare you down.
@@ahnacalvillo2723 thank you for your support god is a miracle working god the dr told me and my husband that we couldn’t have kids they said I went through early menopause god is good I have forgive through time but sometimes the enemy come in and reminds me of the hurtful words but praise Jesus that we cast every thought captive god has given me three beautiful godchildren from my sister and they are a light in my life just like you beautiful baby is a miracle in your life praise god thank you for your sharing your story and your kind words god bless
@Laura Vieira You're welcome I'm glad I can be an encouragement to you. You sound like a wonderful lady!! God is amazing he gives back to us in different areas. So glad you have a close relationship with your godchildren, I bet they look up to you. I completely understand about those past hurts I struggle too at times. I pray you have a joyful and blessed Thanksgiving!! 😊
@@ahnacalvillo2723 thank you god bless have a wonderful thanksgiving too you sound like a beautiful person too
Romans 12:18 is actually in my email signature. Its something I try so desperately hard to achieve. My family, both sides are so toxic, for my sanity I stay far away. They are a version of Hatfield and McCoy but amped up. There is no getting together. They fight amongst themselves then with other side of the family. I'll send a card, occasionally a phone call but not in person. I'm pretty sure your hairstyle is a chignon pronounce Shen yong...I think🤭 it's very pretty and elegant. I've rediscovered my love of daint jewelry as well. Do you have any favorite pieces or jewelry lines you tend to purchase from?
Pls speak about the clothes you have hanging in the background.
Thanks!
Hi Nikki, I would love to know what your experience is in helping your kids learn and accept Jesus, especially during their younger years.
Thamks
Yourhair lookslovely. Its called perhaps a chignon.
Sometimes I pray that God would help me see people the way that He sees them. To see their needs instead of their actions...
Hello new lady here
You're in for a treat, Lissy. Nikki is the real deal: classy, kind, and a phenomenally inspiring homemaker. She's very good at explaining things in a very clear, friendly and relatable way. You'll find lots of her great videos to catch up on!💛
Yes, welcome! There is much to encourage you in your daily life, no matter your age or stage.
I usually pray and ask Jesus to teach me how to love that person the way He does.
Pronounced shin-yawn.