@@LiveOnPurposeTV when mainstream media and grown adults are fighting over chicken sandwiches, masks, call people nazi racist, promoting pedophilia as a sexual orientation, mob rule, thought police, fbi in school boards ,safe spaces,, white hate.. Christian genocide. Two class systems..corruption.. looting for equality and tearing down history. Zero respect for human life in general. Allowing illegal activities on one side but the other side gets punishment. What do people think will manifest from it all. Its from toxic people via demonic politics. Spiritual war. Read book of Enoch. We all were warned.
I have a 16 year old son hanging out with the wrong kids. One friend I have been told is known as a druggie. When we take things away from our son, he punches holes in the wall. We have him fix the holes every time. These teenage years are a nightmare. He went from a responsible and loving kid to a monster.
I feel you, going through the same now. So much rage and anger, can't get through to him. Seeking therapist and being treated now but I feel I'm getting no where yet. I miss my sweet boy. 😢
My daughter works around what I'm in control. If I take her phone she will get one from a friend. If I say I won't take her somewhere she gets a ride. Parents of her friends also won't ask my Permission a lot of the time. She hasn't gone to school in over a year. Enjoying your videos. Always get something out of them. Thank you
I'm struggling with how to just be there for my teens. I've always been a fixer, people would always come to me for advice. Now I'm the one needing advice and dont feel very supported. I've gone through a lot if what my teens are, things especially hard with quarantine. How can I just be there and support then when they are feeling depressed and anxious? My go to is, hey let's do this to distract you or try that and see if it helps. It was so much easier when they were little, they fall & scrape a knee and I would clean it, put a band aid on, give it a kiss and they were good to go! That doesn't cut it anymore and I feel helpless as a parent.
Earth Mama, I am honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV. The needs of teenagers are definitely different than the needs of children, right? We are here for you. Based on your comment, I recommend the following: The Positive Parenting playlist covers many topics, like patience, consequences, and how to get kids to listen: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU "How To Help My Daughter With Depression" - ruclips.net/video/Ss6BYl2ngg8/видео.html "How To Help A Depressed Teenage Son" - ruclips.net/video/sxp-2WIDjFI/видео.html "Helping Kids With Anxiety" - ruclips.net/video/Bm9m2zGs1I8/видео.html You can even have your kids check out this playlist for them: "Just for kids and teens" - ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPCicx6xcJ5ZJzVe9UBlRTQV We are offering a free 25 minute parenting breakthrough call with a Live On Purpose coach. If you would like to take advantage of this, go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall I hope whatever you choose, you are able to get some support.
Thank you for replying and the attached links, I will definitely check them out. Teenaged years are hard as is but with this stupid quarantine, going from being homeschooled to public school and then being public schooled at home (my youngest), to not being able to have senior prom, graduation (my oldest), etc...its even harder! I'm learning I have to cheer myself on first before I can cheer everyone else on and that it isnt always up to me to fix everything, they need to learn to be part of the solution as well. A very important growing and learning time for both the parents and kids. Thanks again!
@@earthmama9597 You've got this, and I'm honored to be on the journey with you! If you haven't already, please check out Live On Purpose Central as well, as we have more resources there for you: liveonpurposecentral.com/order-form1590696228507
Pray for your kids' salvation and spiritual maturity every day. God can change anyone. Let me tell you that one day I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in the name of Jesus." And he has been changed by God's grace ever since. He is so much more positive now. So much less angry. I know people who've been changed through water baptism in Jesus' name. I heard it's the ight way to baptize not in the name of the father , son and holy spirit. I know someone he was changed in the midst of his despair and anger filled life because he uttered a prayer , "God save me." God changed him that very moment. He's a new person to this day, full of peace and joy of the Lord, not too angry and bound in addiction anymore.
I feel you. It's rough. Hang in there. I have 4 kids. 22, 17,16,11. I am terrified of what their futures will be if things keep going in this direction.
What do you do when your child has broken your nose, chipped your tooth and knows you can’t fight back? She is an absolute terror, despite anything I have done to try to help her and blames me for everything. I can’t have her arrested, as I live in a city that is extremely dangerous and the juvenile system is just as dangerous, if not more. She has been afforded more than most in life and just wants to harm me, whether verbally or physically.
It is never o.k. for someone to abuse someone else. She needs to learn that lesson and it might as well be now than later when the consequences will be even higher.
This young man is so wise for sharing. Live on purpose, you always have some wonderful encouragement. Our society needs to listen more of your wonderful, encouraging advice. Thank you for sharing and bringing trying to bring out the best of people.
My daughter is dealing with her 13 yr old teenage daughter who is totally out of control. She hits her mother, steals cars, tries to go have sex with boys, steals things. We are at a loss for words, this behavior came from out of no where. She behaved good then all of the sudden started acting crazy. Her mom had no idea how to stop this. 😭
Same problem what if you've continued to provide them the therapy and no positive results. What would be the next best step for the young teen well being especially for someone with low income?
How do you know she is trying to have sex? Also that sounds like you are one of those purposefully privacy invading parents who say teens have no privacy.
Great Video ❤️ I love it 😍 I don't understand why youths and adults are still poor when they have a smart phone and great opportunities on how to make money💰
I don’t understand my child and teenage life was stolen. My life didn’t start until I-got her in my belly. But I know she is still a kid. And much bigger then me and stronger and smarter.
My partner and I have been together for 3 years. He has a daughter who’s living with us for almost 2 years now. She was ok and tolerable during the first months but recently she is really out of control, she talks back a lot and lies most of the time. She likes to point fingers just to excuse herself from trouble. She asks for favors and when we are not able to provide what she expects us to provide for her, she becomes grumpy and hates every person in the house including his dad my mom and my nephew. She is mostly ungrateful when we think we do every thing for her. She does nothing in the house but to study. She reflects herself a nice daughter and student at school, follows teachers’ orders religiously, and she acts nicely when people are around. But she is totally different around us family members. Btw, his dad and I are not yet married, and i feel like this situation with her is kind of destroying the family that her dad and I are trying to build. I dont know what to do with her. Her dad gets upset as well as to why she behaves this way. She isnt honest and points people around her as the bad one even when she is confronted nicely.😢
My 16 year old daughter is disrespectful and you can’t tell her nothing, she is aggressive ready to fight and don’t listen to anyone. I tried to discipline her after breaking rules, but that don’t do nothing, she thinks she is grown. She ran away for 2 days and I don’t even care
My grandson was recently targeted in a plan between two other middle schoolers. They were planning to shoot up the school and specifically my 13 year old grandson. Investigation is ongoing. Now my grandson sits at home hoping he will be safe when his parents decide it’s safe again to go back to his school. The way my grandson views school, friends, and his safety will never be the same. The perpetrators state they wouldn’t have done anything; just having a bad day. Just having a bad day. Let that sink in.
In our case: 15 year old is totally uncontrollable. We are desperate for help. It's come to the point where we think he in fact has some kind of mental illness...
Lol I am used to putting her first in my life. This is outrageous the way my daughter talk’s to me and the beef she wants to say to me. I have photos to show I have been the best parent I could be.
Thank you for watching Live On Purpose TV, Crystal Jung. I have some videos that help with this, but please realize it will take some time - there is no quick fix. "How To Get Kids To Listen And Respect" - ruclips.net/video/_aPDJTFXADI/видео.html "How To Get Kids To Listen And Respect" - ruclips.net/video/vuH9GhtOo_s/видео.html "Teaching Children Respect In 10 Minutes Or Less" - ruclips.net/video/d8c4I7_vlqw/видео.html "How To Deal With Teenagers Swearing" - ruclips.net/video/bnOGdLihLJ8/видео.html "Positive Parenting Strategies For The Teenage Years" - ruclips.net/video/nNC7RpaPt3o/видео.html "How To Deal With A Difficult Teenager" - ruclips.net/video/Bf_aZdGoISo/видео.html "Consequences For Misbehavior | 6 Specific Examples" - ruclips.net/video/Fbcwp9na04Y/видео.html "How To Use Natural And Logical Consequences" - ruclips.net/video/ZFZIIuqEVdY/видео.html I sincerely hope one or more of these can help you with your situation. Please consider taking advantage of our free 25 minute call with a Live On Purpose coach. If that sounds interesting, please go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
Yes my son yells at me to be quiet,stop talking When I ask him to do simple things like pick up food from the floor. He curses. He slams and hits things. I’m a single mom with an ex who won’t sit and talk to me about how we can get on the same page at both houses. I’m so sad and exhausted being called every name in the book. Nothing seems to work except leaving him alone on his electronics
@@Alwayslearnimg I feel ya. I'm a full believer that the adults in a child's life should at least be on the same page. It is really hard when there are issues and you don't feel supported. I hope that thru these videos you can get to a place of balance and contentment. Keep fighting the good fight mama! 🙏💜
This is the problem with today’s society. Talk to any other generation… our parents would have got their tails whooped and never pulled this stuff on their parents. I wish taking a door was the least of my worries
What do you do when one parent has given up and lets the child walk on them? I can't be there all the time to handle the situation. Someone has to work a lot to pay the bills.
James Simmons, thank you for watching. Please remember: we need to get clear on what we control and what we don't. You may want to try writing down what you control and what you'll find is that you don't control the actions of the other parent. We can invite and persuade, but we can't force. Always focus on your actions and your child's best interest. Also, see if you can hold a family meeting to discuss and make clear everyone's responsibilities - keep it positive! Maybe you can suggest to your child that they watch my video "How To Convince Your Parents To Get A Dog" (ruclips.net/video/v-o7L_Mwbgw/видео.html) to help them learn about responsibility. You and your spouse may want to watch together some videos from my "Positive Parenting" playlist - ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU. You can also take advantage of our free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If that sounds interesting, you can schedule the call here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for your response. We did just that, with a trained person as a middle man. Already called somebody over before your response, but you where on the same page. It was an eye opener for child and parent/s. Seem for the moment to produce a harmonious forward movement for the child's best intrest. Thank you for posting your videos.
What about an almost 18 yr old, you get him his licence for independence he loses it. You buy him a safe car, he punches the roof, he's in a toxic relationship that affects the whole household to the point we are up at 1.30am trying to stop them yelling through the house as younger siblings have school, mum and dad start work at 5am, punching holes everywhere having a fight with girlfriend even though they know we are shifting out of the rental in 4 weeks. We live in a foreign country where he is not able to access any govt assistance, we live rural with no public transport. I have him in phycology but in the meantime what do we do 😭
Sarah mead, get clear on what you control and what you don't. Then you know what you can use to try to get his behavior in line. He can do some walking if he doesn't take care of the car. He is not allowed to have people over after 10pm or whatever you decide. He is 18 and if he doesn't want to abide by the rules he can find another place to live. This is just an option and you can decide what works for your family.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Wonderful Just did this with my friends daughter whom I agreed to assist to take her to her (13 yr old) to her chosen sport of soccer game Texted her to set up and agreed upon time ( she takes no responsibility for her actions ) Now her idea is when she gets up. 11.00 A.M is the schedules time to be present. So when she FEELS LIKE getting UP or rolls out of bed . Probably half asleep at 10 of 11 She did this 1 other time and I was tooting my horn ( I omitted bringing mh cell phone) No answer..calling her ..finally she strolls to the window and said she was 😴 sleeping !! So this time I told her I am here to give her a ride.. I will be there at 10:00 A.M. so then the dallying starts . Games Soccer starts at 11 A.M I said I know but good habits Starr now I said, I will be at your house at 10:15 A.M Please be on your front porch waiting . Do we agree .. She said " If I can" I said, no ..that simply means you are not serious If I can is not acceptable Do we agree ____? she said, Yes I go to pick her up, she is not outside on the porch.. I will not chase after thus child To be fair I waited 10 minutes Honked my Horn .. Then I left.. Now she has had working parents..Father does not respect Mother's discipline..he has given her everything she wants and over rules Mother's ..Mom lacks good communication skills. and poor limit setting on others as well.. So she wakes up..I went to do my food shopping.. I knew what belonged to me..I will not chase after her..I am holding her accountable to the agreement .. I left..she had trouble with it.. She called to say " she was so sorry " Would I come back.. I said, I live you and forgive you.. for not keeping the agreement However, I will not be coming back this is her 1st lesson that she cannot manipulate me with her sorry .. This she does.. She has a distorted view of love ❤️ and accountability is nilly I made certain she knows I love her still But without words her behavior is not acceptable .. I made certain she knows it is her choices ..we do not arise at last minute to a Freely Chosen activity.. I know I shocked her into a new place Her soccer ends this Saturday She has a Tuesday Practice I am hopeful ☺️ she has learned if she is not on the porch I will not wait It is not too late but Mom and Dad need counseling for their marriage issue and child issues I hope I can be a positive influence I give her big hugs and she soaks them up .. God Bless All
So how do you apply this with teens and preteens that have adhd and bipolar? Teens with bipolar have massive rages and get ticked off at the drop of a hat.
Jenny Little, are they under the care of a doctor and being treated for the bipolar? Consequences for the rage and rewards for the good behavior. Set up systems for the adhd child to be able to follow and find success.
Robert cantu, same principle for single or married parents. They will eventually care about something, let them experience consequences, natural ones are best.
Yes, but how to be in control of a person who is screaming, yelling at you all the time? We give her a lot of freedom and still she is not happy. She uses a very vulgar language It's impossible to seat and talk with her. Lately she told me " honestly l don't give a f...anymore". She used to be a helpful person around the house now seems like she forgot how to even put her own dishes in to the dishwasher. And if anybody mentions that she becomes angry and verbally abuses them. And then she shuts herself down and won't talk to any of us for weeks. She is not a teen anymore just turn 20 few days ago. She was a relatively good teen until she turned 18. And now there is a boyfriend and I've noticed that they talk to each other in a very rude and disrespectful way. She is a full time student and works few hours a week so is still very dependent on us but both my husband and I are thinking about cutting our help. We figured if she feels like she is a grownup it's time for her to act like one. Get a real job, pay her own tuition, phone and maybe even an apartment. OMG it's so hard. I don't know what to do anymore. Good thing that I still give a f.... Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
If this behavior is a drastic change from her previous personality, she may need some help, there is something going on. In the meantime, if she wants to live under your roof, the rules are respect people and the house. There won't be any abusive or vulgar language. If she wants to talk like that, get her own place, Viki N.
Viki N hi I noticed you mentioned her boyfriend and her talk very disrespectful to each other... maybe just ask her.. if she is truly happy with him and is there relationship ok.. 🌺
I am divorced to my children’s other parent. When i took his phone away his dad bought him a new one. When I set boundaries like not driving him or set other appropriate boundaries that are r3commended in this video, his other parent makes allegations of abuse in court and convinces the child that I’m abusive and that they should leave me and never see me. Everything is worse now.
My ex husband has been doing the exact same thing- parenting against me. Buying her affection, even just recently buying her a sports bike(she's 17 and doesn't even have her licence!!?)after misbehaving with me and him then telling me i an abusing her for sending her to her room. So I have just recently made the decision for my daughter to live with her dad. Hopefully she will see he can't keep up those standards? 🙏🤦♀️
Jennifer Flores, he is definitely on stage 1 so consequences are what is needed. Let him know that there will be consequences and more if he continues.
Help, my 13 yro grandson gets violent, when confronted about his bad behavior and lying. His mom, tries to give him a time out, he will choke her from behind, with a police style sleeper hold. I've had to rescue my daughter from his choke hold, when she was unconscious. He also chokes his older sister and younger brother, as he sees fit. He also likes to punch and kick in the back. I am not in favor of violence, but, I believe he needs a trip to the proverbial wood shed.
Stop waiting around for someone to do something-- u r someone. Imagine how devalued his siblings must feel knowing that nothing happens when they're abused. Call the police next time. This kid needs serious help. Court will most likely require a psychological exam at the least.
My teen, is 19 hmm he's a teen, right? How can you control an adult? Breaking the rules is hard because they are in control in a certain respect Changing a kid this age is impossible.
When she got her first summer job pay she was at rage about the money. I have never seen her this way. I want my daughter to have a respectable flying straight life.
They are less likely to when we remain calm, smile and let them know we love them and are happy to talk to them about what they need to do to get more privileges.
I am trying to do this with my teenage daughter. She installed Snapchat against my rules, we've had the chats, I took the device and I get thing thrown at my head and my property damaged. I asked her to clean the room and if she didn't I would take everythi g that's on the floor. She didn't mean so when she went to school I took her things. She came home and demanded it back, when she didn't get it back she punched me in the head twice. Really don't know what to do, this stuff isn't working for me.
Sorry, SO many questions. What if it's not an bad choices issue, but just a bad attitude, need to speak out and opposite of everything I say problem? Thanks again! I think I'm gonna go visit your Parenting Power Up. TIA
Lauri Lock, I hope you do visit parenting power up because this is about stage, not age. It is about cooperation. Stage 1 behavior gets consequences not privileges.
I have watch several of your videos. My 14 year old son going through tough time. My wife and I made the decision to send him to private school (daughter too). We didn’t like what’s going on in public HS and decided that it would be best for them to go private. It’s a Christian school with the values that we share….not secular school. I knew that changing schools in tough and my son hated the decision because his friends are in public HS. He feels embarrassed about going private and finds school boring, kids are not funny, kids sucks, teachers sucks, every thing about private Christian school sucks. Public HS is better, more things going on and more weird people and more GIRLS. This is causing rebellious kid at home and school. Already presented my case PHS vs private. Did not work, he is missing out the bus ride and the lunch with friends and GIRLS. Don’t want to make friends at new school because they suck and any girl that like him get shot down. Not respecting our the decision which was carefully made. Told him that we understand he doesn’t like it, but we as parents have the last word. Funny thing is, he seems his friends after school and weekend, on the phone and video chat. They hang out at the gym and weekends. It’s coming down to loosing phone and video games if disrespectful attitude at home and school continue. Any advise?
He is showing he doesn't like or agree with your decision, but it sounds like he is going to school so he is on stage three. I don't know how long the change occurred so it may take some time, a year or more. He is trying to wait you out and so you need to be patient and have rules, follow through and let him know that you will love him no matter what and even if...
Man….I am telling you. I LOVE my son. I have cry after he told me to go F myself or a M F after I took his phone because inappropriate pictures he sent. I asked myself..where is my sweet boy…it has crossed my mind to give in and send him Public HS just to stop the arguments and see him smile again. He said I ruined his life and how unhappy he is thanks to me. But, I know he is 14 and we made the decision because we love him. Sometimes I just want to say…like is rough and sometimes you don’t get what you want or you are not happy because you are the one that can make yourself happy, so change your attitude or be unhappy….but I don’t think I should say that even though I know is true. He has everything, but he is not getting one thing and all the sudden his life is miserable….that is how I know he is an immature 14 brat. He said he is out by 18…made me smile…just wait until you are in the real world. If he only knew that my job is to prepare him for that day and going to a good school is priority.
Please be patient. You made the right decision. Sooner or later, I think he will realize and thank you for that. I keep my fingers crossed. Maybe he will be meet a nice and good looking lady there ?? :) I wish you best of luck and salute your courage and determination
Do you have a video on passive aggressive anger from teenagers? This is what I am dealing with on a grand-scale. Very passive. There is ZERO yelling or back talk directly. A lot of lying, sarcasm, passive aggressive and deceitful behavior to the pointit hurts other people's lives; lack of integrity I guess would be a good way to describe it. Im lost 😢 they are amazing people.
I don't know how to help my son. He made friends with kids in our neighborhood who got him involved in alcohol and drugs when he was about 13. We sold our house and moved to get him out of that environment as well as her other kids. He just made more friends like that in the new place. And things got worse. We would try to take away his phone but he would just get another one from his friends. We would try to ground him and he would disobey and leave the house anyway. He was constantly skipping school and eventually got suspended for the remainder of the school year because he was high at school. He failed to meet the requirements. The principal gave him in order to return to in person school and didn't care. Things got so bad that we were having to kick him out of the house because we couldn't do anything else to wake him up. He eventually started seeing that his friends would enable him and support his not going home. Thanks. Got worse. We had to move again and he didn't think that he needed to come with us. So we left him behind. He contacted us and wanted to join us and I had to pay for a plane ticket for him to do so and yet his attitude has still not changed. We are lost and he is influencing his siblings to be like him.
I don't know how old he is or what you are legally obligated for. Usually when kids don't want to go along with family rules it is time for them to make their way on their own. Figure out the legal issues first.
It’s snowing out and cold my daughter didn’t want to wear her coat because I am Luxury. Names and clothes keep bad peoples back. I am single and on welfare and trying to keep us safe.
Any ideas for if you ask your teenager what they feel the consequences should be for something but they either refused to answer or give you a sarcastic remarks about not having Consequences. Or claiming that the things they have are there’s
My teenager started swearing at her younger sister and being rude and having very little patience with her and when ask her to be more understanding and patient I get told I'm taking sides and I get called names and acused and I end up not being able to sleep properly I thought maybe I need to go do a parenting course for teens I'm not sure what to do
What do i do when my teen son doesn't seem to care about school or anything else? His response to any discipline is running away from home to his grandmas house because he thinks it's mean of us that we expect him to go to school. He did great up until this year. Now he has almost all F's, I get calls from the school all the time about him skipping class and am just frustrated and overwhelmed that i cant get him to try anymore. It seems like he has just given up on doing anything except XBox. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated
Grandma's seems to be an escape for him. She needs to get onboard and not let him escape there. Get some family counseling and tie the XBox to going to school.
I need to borrow this young man to have a talk with my 16 years old son. I can't get through to him. He's been seeing therapist and I was feeling so hopeful but he recently admitted that he's telling them what they want to hear kust to get them off his back.
I can totally understand about not getting the other parent on board about disciplining kid. I tried to get my ex involved when I see a red flag with my son's behavior but he refused and denied of any issue that I claimed. I can't help but think that he's holding a grudge because I get custody after divorce. But now that things blew up in his face with his own eyes he has nothing to say and been in no contact. Now it's just me trying and running around getting my son the helps that he needs but I'm not seeing hope yet.
im a teen and my mom gives upp on me she says that im horrible person and i make her sad and she says do as you want i don´t know what to do, and i start crying every day because i don´t know what to do whit my life and i tried saying to her that she needs too get advice from a proffesionall person but she keeps saying i don´t need advice im your mothyer not somone else and then she gives upp again. i dont know what to do please help im in serious moment right now im crying right now whriting this please help. i don´t know what to do. i can´t even sleep its 2am and school tomorrow and im so scared i can´t help my self to not cry or maybe take my life please i need advice..
You poor baby 😢. Please don't be afraid to talk with your school counselor or psychologist, they're there to help and will able to provide more resources. I applause you for reaching out for help don't give up on your self. ❤🙏
Please tell me what to do my 12 year old is so sassy the attitude is disgraceful and I can say something is black and she will say it's white. Please advice dear god give me strength to deal with thus child.
Tanya D, we have three rules in our home about respect. Respecting people, things, and authority. When she is disrespectful in our home, she would have a consequence. Also, make sure she knows the difference between disrespect and respect. Don't assume what she knows and always model the respectful tone and way of speaking.
Talk to your dad about this. Sounds like additional help may be needed for your brother. It would be best to get the help when everyone is calm, not in a life-threatening time.
How do you handle bedtimes as they get older? I’m pretty lenient in my house. My teen is always like if he doesn’t have something going on the next day- he doesn’t seems to think he needs sleep. Summer is coming up. Ugh help
Linds Reese, educate yourself on how much sleep your teen needs and the reasons why. Share the information and let them know that sleep is vital to their health and growth.
So love and appreciate this platform to help guide me through the teen years. Wish I would have found it sooner. Question - when you want and need to have a conversation with your teen and ask them if they are open to having a conversation and their answer is no, then what? TIA
I have recently found this channel, and love your videos. I have a question regarding my 13 year old daughter. She is more often than not disrespectful, rude, bossy, and demanding. When I ask her what’s going on she says she’s angry at me for not spending enough time with her. Meanwhile I would be totally happy to spend more time with her, but who wants to hang out with someone who is throwing anger at them? She says she wouldn’t be so mean if I would spend time with her, and I say I would spend more time with her if she wasn’t so mean to me. So how to resolve this? Trying to talk it through in the moment when she’s upset doesn’t work. I told her we would schedule a weekly mother/daughter time for just the 2 of us to do something fun. But she wants me to be her playmate, and I’m not - I am her mom. I can’t relate to her the same way her girlfriends relate to her. And I have boring mom things to do like grocery shopping etc. She isn’t very understanding about what I need to do - she wants what she wants and if I can’t do it in the moment she’s mad. Any advice?
Erica Mary Johnson, it really sounds as though she is testing the boundaries you have and seeing how much control she can exert over you by playing up your emotions, guilt, etc. Instead of planning something big, try to take smaller chunks of time and share a laugh, show her a funny meme you just found or find an interest of hers that you can get involved in. It might be cooking, gardening, sewing, crafting, beading, listening to music. Ignore as much as you can and it is o.k. to walk away if she is belligerent and let her know you will return when she is kind.
Live On Purpose TV your answer is spot on - you nailed it! I am a single mom and have always overextended myself with her, and eventually it affected my health. Now I am in the process of shifting this habit, and she doesn’t like it. Your advice is perfect - thank you so much!
I can relate to a angry disrespectful teen. I am hoping to find answers through videos like this. Because what I am getting ready to do is grab her and shake her up. To let her know you will not talk to me like that. Praying for a good solution.
Okay I heard that I will let her close her door starting today I just need to let go a bit. Shire’s are up now. We got utube and adults on utube manipulating kids I am really scared for that door to close.
My son is very angry he grabbed me by the throat and put me up against a wall he is much bigger than I am when I asked him to go to his room I'm not trying to control him I'm actually terrified of him fear of eventually he may kill me for asking for respect in him not to cuss at me.
How to deal with a child that has been through alot before I came into there life going on 3yrs. She lost her mother at 4yrs old and dosen't remember anything about her mother and she is at this stage of her life were she has questions about her birth mother and never met her mother. I married her father going on 3yrs and he really doesn't talk about her mother with her. She doesn't know how to ask him because he doesn't talk about his feelings that is a problem in my marriage but I really want to help her. She feels lost. If u have video that she could watch with me that would be great.
Christian Smart, there is a lot going on for this teen. Consider getting some counseling so she can talk about her feelings with someone, if not her dad. I am glad you are there for her.
Hello, I've found this channel a couple of weeks ago, but now I have a question. How to motivate a grown up to appreciate themselves and manifest their greatness if they grew up in a household, where they weren't appreciated and always questioned even if they were completely innocent. I see so many people around me, that I love and would like to help them break the pattern of self-doubt and self-destruction. Thank You in advance
Nessa Tesartir, you sound like you might be a candidate to become a Life Coach. Your willingness to help others is sincere. Check out the Life Coaching playlist on the channel. It is hard to motivate someone who doesn't want to be motivated. You can tell them what you see and ask what their perception is.
I've tried all communications, theraphy and all with my teenager instead of seeing change, the behavior has escalated. what's next ?, I feel like I've failed as a parent, my son is headed for self-destruction,
Instead of taking off the door I would just take off the door knob on the door that's what I would do instead but if the teenager has good behavior like cleaning up after themselves make up their bed then he or she gets their door knob back on the door when everyone else is sleeping.
When I ask her not to talk to her sister I get I don't care and it's all my fault because I take sides though I don't feel I do because I do talk to my younger daughter if she is being naughty and annoying her on purpose to get a reaction but the oldest one doesn't always hear me talk to her sister because I take her aside and talk to her but when I do tell my oldest one I've talked to her younger sister she calls me a liar I think because she's still upset but it's hard because my teenagers tantrums sometimes last a very long time parenting a teenager is hard
Please give me suggesstion or something! Im so done with my little sister, idk where to begin it, i am 18 (still trying to go to college and try to study my ass off) and my little sister is 15. Im kinda type which is when i say it, i will do that. So, we only live together because my parents just go for works. I do the cook and meal, and for cleaning we do that partly. So she hates vegetables, and im a vegan. Its a little difficult to cook for her because she always love fast food, i try to hold her but she never hear me. I try to cook chicken which is i never touch about it before, (i just studying before and almost never go to kitchen) i try to cook some meals etc which is i never did before, but she always complains, and there s 1000 reasons why she wont eat that not because its awful, just because to booing me in front of my dad or etc because i cant give her what she want. I gave her money i mean if she doesnt want what i cook so she can buy outside, but she doesnt want to buy it and i had to be always the one who buy it, though the seller just out of our window. Its okay i still can manage it. i wish she can take care about herself or something but she cant, she just not taking bath regularly, she just dont want to eat if its not served in front of her, she dont want to getup from bed at morning and keep with phone all day long. And about the cleaning, we agree that she will clean up everymess that she did and her room( never clean since last year i think, and will never let anyone enter her room,but i can smell bad from outside, and i ever know theres even dead bat inside it because the bat stuck there. Oh my god!!! Im so done. She keep promising and never do it. She throw her dirty clothes in bathroom floor and dont want to wash it. Her bedroom is so messy and she dont want to sleep there so she sleep in my room and in my father room and it keep mess again. Idk pls people give me advice or something. I try to tell her in kind way with small voice like some internet suggest to me. I honestly rarely angry, usually if im just so angry to people, im crying i try to be hard to her today, and i cant help my anger again. Please dont be rude to me if i did wrong things, because im trying and i never had children before. Im sorry Im so done she is so disrespectful when everyone tell her something. Even theres a day when i go out with her to buy some ice cream in small store. And in front of the seller, she said 'omg, i want to vomit'. Im so angry!!!!!!!! Nobody deserves what she said to that seller
You are being put in a situation where you have no control or respect, that isn't fair to you. There should be another solution to this problem where you are not the one acting like the parent. You aren't the parent, you are the sister.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV @Live On Purpose TV @Live On Purpose TV hello, thank you. You really got what im trying to say. Yes thats it! She had no respect for me cause im not the parent so she doesnt listen to me. I had some advices from people, one of them saying "you should help her as sister, help her as how much she wants to change, nothing more and no less". It makes me super tired mentally, so im gonna do that:'(
I liked the example with the door.How can we use that when the behaviour is to talk in a non respectful way to us the parents ?Should we give them the control to decide?also is it my idea or they become teenagers much sooner nowdays??
We have three rules for the house and one of them is to respect people. That means in how we talk and behave. If a child is out of control, I tell them that I will talk to them when they can talk to me like I am talking to them (calmly). I don't engage when they are yelling or being abusive.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV i tell them all about those rules (respect of the authority,respect ourselves and the others and respect the house etc) but just not talking to my eldest won't make a difference ,she has done it multiple times and it's so hurtful 😥
my 12 year old daughter is becoming more and more rebellious and stubborn. she is so self righteous, always says 'but' to justify the unjustifiable even small things like rudeness. l personally have been accused of these things when l was young, likely true! she loves playing computer games with her phone, hates exercising with me, even going out cycling :( , how can l get her to learn to love reading, writing and being physically active? we do do 'word of the day' where i try to build her vocab, and at end of week ,ask her to write a short story with those words, better the story, more points she earns, and points equal money, which she loves! also get her to write her diary everyday, and we check her diary at end of week, for spelling and grammar mistakes, and she does have many :( any tips?
Doest matter how I lay down the expectations he refuses to talk he told me go had trow me out I can sleep in the park so if he says that just trow him out? My teenage child will never do what I ask regardless the consequences. I tried every method
What do you do when your a legal guardian of your niece. But grandma has custody. Your trying to take that full role of authority bc grandma's health is not in the best place. Your think your geting somewhere but your not. You feel that they both working against you. I've spent thousands on them.giving up alot too move in. Take over care of grandma & my 12 yr old niece. Which I've always been there since birth. & have had a substantial hand in raising her .. We all moved states away closer to family bc that's what we felt be best. The agreement was i have legal guardianship of my niece & my mother would be able to focus on herself. @ 68 & on set dementia. But it's been a struggle the teen knows how to work grandma & take advantage to get what she wants. They team against me. Why i say that is bc others have actually brought it to my attention. How do you discipline a child. If other always doing the opposite. How do you teach them respect? The situation take forever to explain. But it's too the point where is effecting my health. I'm still not wanting to give up. I love my niece as my own. So I'm looking four answers.
CrazyFrogz, I can think of a few things and the first starts with self-care for you. You need to keep your bucket filled so you have the resources to help them. It is not easy and you will have to be methodical about this. I hope your niece is in counseling and you may consider doing the same. It will help you to make sense of what is happening. If family is available, bring them in to the equation.
hahahahaha , so in short front of my teenager apart from minding my attitude I am just a audience who is a good listener ? who will give them good advice in life then ?
Radhika Gupte, they need to develop trust in us first and this happens when we listen to them. Until they are sure they are heard, they won't listen, no matter what we say and how many times we say it.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Until friends and boyfriends become the chief advisors in their life.🙄 We do use your approach with our adopted kids but it is a complete fail with our teen girl. Add in her back dooring bio family into our lives and of course technology. It’s a sensible plan if you start early but not so much once they become teens.
Why cant babies come with instructions? This stuff al sounds good but u gotta see my teenager. Positive parent? Im a piece of shit to hear my teenager tell it. However it sounds like u know we do everything we can and u dont give us that doubtful side eye. I wish more ppl in society were more like u
The Art Side, that is reasonable. Find a way that he can start earning money. I don't know where you live or what is available but sometimes it could be a lawn mowing job, taking out and bringing in garbage cans, dog walking, etc. Do some research of what is available in your area and go from there.
Thank you so much for your video's!!!! I am learning alot from this channel. Do you have any tips on disciplining a defiant pre teen/ adolescence that has special needs particularly autism & Global Developmental Delay?
@@LiveOnPurposeTV My Son has this same issue with His 12 yr old son..my grandson..puberty is beginning... having a lot of anger and melt downs.. Seeing a counselor but she is very young But He likes her and my son said he does not like everyone He will be seeing a neurologist and other specialist. Do not want medications Nit goid...I know he us deficiency in Importsnt Vitamin and minerals as being aspergers syndrome They have food issues and texture issues ..will not touch or eat certain foods When he has melt downs or says bad things to people..after he has calmed he is very sorry Please bring some solid help to parents and family..ww love ❤️ Him so much Thank you and thsnk God for your video channel. Extremely helpful I think it could be hormones..puberty attributing to His behavior more now 🤔
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I am fed up. This society has a big hand in the way kids are behaving
Stephanie SO Scandalous, there are many factors, glad you are here.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV when mainstream media and grown adults are fighting over chicken sandwiches, masks, call people nazi racist, promoting pedophilia as a sexual orientation, mob rule, thought police, fbi in school boards ,safe spaces,, white hate.. Christian genocide. Two class systems..corruption.. looting for equality and tearing down history. Zero respect for human life in general. Allowing illegal activities on one side but the other side gets punishment. What do people think will manifest from it all. Its from toxic people via demonic politics. Spiritual war. Read book of Enoch. We all were warned.
Totally agree with you. Then when they are grown and display same attitude, they put them in jail. Is like this society is setting up kids for jail.
Try being a parent in this super liberal State of California. Lol totally agree with your statement.
Mine was a model kid until he went to the local high school. Within 6 months he was a complete stranger to everyone in the house.
I have a 16 year old son hanging out with the wrong kids. One friend I have been told is known as a druggie. When we take things away from our son, he punches holes in the wall. We have him fix the holes every time. These teenage years are a nightmare. He went from a responsible and loving kid to a monster.
I feel you, going through the same now. So much rage and anger, can't get through to him. Seeking therapist and being treated now but I feel I'm getting no where yet. I miss my sweet boy. 😢
C V, there must be something going on. Get some counseling, if he refuses to go, I hope you will still go.
@@chanthana7694 I feel your pain. So sad.
You make it sound so easy but not all teens are directed this way and not all teens will respond to this!
Keep looking until you find what your teen responds to.
BINGO! Some have behavior issues and are bipolar so that makes things a lot difficult
I'm a teen myself who's trying to be really self-conscious, thank you a lot, sir.
Beimbet Shertaev, thank you.
Your a teen and watching stuff like this already, whoever you are, you are going to do great things in your life.
Being aware n waiting to change for the better is amazing
I lost all self control and respect for anyone so I tried to use this
same :)
My daughter works around what I'm in control. If I take her phone she will get one from a friend. If I say I won't take her somewhere she gets a ride. Parents of her friends also won't ask my Permission a lot of the time. She hasn't gone to school in over a year. Enjoying your videos. Always get something out of them. Thank you
Thank you, Marilyn.
Have a calm sit-down and ask for her Input.
Having the exact same problem with my son, Marilyn
Mine just hits and punches me and scratches me and then tears the house apart until she finds her phone.
@Mom Of1 If u pay for the phone, disconnect it. If she starts to tare the house apart call the police.
I'm struggling with how to just be there for my teens. I've always been a fixer, people would always come to me for advice. Now I'm the one needing advice and dont feel very supported. I've gone through a lot if what my teens are, things especially hard with quarantine. How can I just be there and support then when they are feeling depressed and anxious? My go to is, hey let's do this to distract you or try that and see if it helps. It was so much easier when they were little, they fall & scrape a knee and I would clean it, put a band aid on, give it a kiss and they were good to go! That doesn't cut it anymore and I feel helpless as a parent.
Earth Mama, I am honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV. The needs of teenagers are definitely different than the needs of children, right? We are here for you. Based on your comment, I recommend the following:
The Positive Parenting playlist covers many topics, like patience, consequences, and how to get kids to listen: ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU
"How To Help My Daughter With Depression" - ruclips.net/video/Ss6BYl2ngg8/видео.html
"How To Help A Depressed Teenage Son" - ruclips.net/video/sxp-2WIDjFI/видео.html
"Helping Kids With Anxiety" - ruclips.net/video/Bm9m2zGs1I8/видео.html
You can even have your kids check out this playlist for them: "Just for kids and teens" - ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPCicx6xcJ5ZJzVe9UBlRTQV
We are offering a free 25 minute parenting breakthrough call with a Live On Purpose coach. If you would like to take advantage of this, go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
I hope whatever you choose, you are able to get some support.
Thank you for replying and the attached links, I will definitely check them out. Teenaged years are hard as is but with this stupid quarantine, going from being homeschooled to public school and then being public schooled at home (my youngest), to not being able to have senior prom, graduation (my oldest), etc...its even harder! I'm learning I have to cheer myself on first before I can cheer everyone else on and that it isnt always up to me to fix everything, they need to learn to be part of the solution as well. A very important growing and learning time for both the parents and kids. Thanks again!
@@earthmama9597 You've got this, and I'm honored to be on the journey with you! If you haven't already, please check out Live On Purpose Central as well, as we have more resources there for you: liveonpurposecentral.com/order-form1590696228507
Pray for your kids' salvation and spiritual maturity every day. God can change anyone. Let me tell you that one day I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in the name of Jesus." And he has been changed by God's grace ever since. He is so much more positive now. So much less angry.
I know people who've been changed through water baptism in Jesus' name. I heard it's the ight way to baptize not in the name of the father , son and holy spirit.
I know someone he was changed in the midst of his despair and anger filled life because he uttered a prayer , "God save me." God changed him that very moment. He's a new person to this day, full of peace and joy of the Lord, not too angry and bound in addiction anymore.
I feel you. It's rough. Hang in there. I have 4 kids. 22, 17,16,11. I am terrified of what their futures will be if things keep going in this direction.
What do you do when your child has broken your nose, chipped your tooth and knows you can’t fight back? She is an absolute terror, despite anything I have done to try to help her and blames me for everything. I can’t have her arrested, as I live in a city that is extremely dangerous and the juvenile system is just as dangerous, if not more. She has been afforded more than most in life and just wants to harm me, whether verbally or physically.
It is never o.k. for someone to abuse someone else. She needs to learn that lesson and it might as well be now than later when the consequences will be even higher.
Prayer,learn about spiritual warfare,Sorry you’re
going through this
I wish slamming doors was the worst of my problems
Ugh, I don't like to hear that. I wish you well.
This young man is so wise for sharing. Live on purpose, you always have some wonderful encouragement. Our society needs to listen more of your wonderful, encouraging advice. Thank you for sharing and bringing trying to bring out the best of people.
I appreciate that
My daughter is dealing with her 13 yr old teenage daughter who is totally out of control. She hits her mother, steals cars, tries to go have sex with boys, steals things. We are at a loss for words, this behavior came from out of no where. She behaved good then all of the sudden started acting crazy. Her mom had no idea how to stop this. 😭
R Lin, she needs therapy, something is driving the behavior.
Same problem what if you've continued to provide them the therapy and no positive results. What would be the next best step for the young teen well being especially for someone with low income?
Sounds exactly like what I’ve been dealing with with my daughter.
How do you know she is trying to have sex? Also that sounds like you are one of those purposefully privacy invading parents who say teens have no privacy.
There are services available for troubled teens. Please search them in your area.
Great Video ❤️ I love it 😍
I don't understand why youths and adults are still poor when they have a smart phone and great opportunities on how to make money💰
Well, you would have to have that as a goal and have a plan. I wish you well.
I don’t understand my child and teenage life was stolen. My life didn’t start until I-got her in my belly. But I know she is still a kid. And much bigger then me and stronger and smarter.
Love her no matter what.
My partner and I have been together for 3 years. He has a daughter who’s living with us for almost 2 years now. She was ok and tolerable during the first months but recently she is really out of control, she talks back a lot and lies most of the time. She likes to point fingers just to excuse herself from trouble. She asks for favors and when we are not able to provide what she expects us to provide for her, she becomes grumpy and hates every person in the house including his dad my mom and my nephew. She is mostly ungrateful when we think we do every thing for her. She does nothing in the house but to study. She reflects herself a nice daughter and student at school, follows teachers’ orders religiously, and she acts nicely when people are around. But she is totally different around us family members. Btw, his dad and I are not yet married, and i feel like this situation with her is kind of destroying the family that her dad and I are trying to build. I dont know what to do with her. Her dad gets upset as well as to why she behaves this way. She isnt honest and points people around her as the bad one even when she is confronted nicely.😢
There seems to be a lot going on in this girl's life. She might benefit from talking to a counselor.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you. Will do. Thanks so much
My 16 year old daughter is disrespectful and you can’t tell her nothing, she is aggressive ready to fight and don’t listen to anyone. I tried to discipline her after breaking rules, but that don’t do nothing, she thinks she is grown. She ran away for 2 days and I don’t even care
I wish you both well.
You don’t care she ran away?
I would be worried and praying!
My grandson was recently targeted in a plan between two other middle schoolers. They were planning to shoot up the school and specifically my 13 year old grandson. Investigation is ongoing. Now my grandson sits at home hoping he will be safe when his parents decide it’s safe again to go back to his school.
The way my grandson views school, friends, and his safety will never be the same.
The perpetrators state they wouldn’t have done anything; just having a bad day. Just having a bad day. Let that sink in.
How scary. I hope your grandson remains safe and the kids are dealt with so they can't hurt others.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you
In our case: 15 year old is totally uncontrollable. We are desperate for help. It's come to the point where we think he in fact has some kind of mental illness...
It might be time to seek professional help. A psychiatrist will be able to diagnose what is going on if there is anything.
Needs Jesus ..God is Able..devil prowls around ..Jesus saves and defeated Satan on the Cross ..call on Jesus Amen !!!
So nice to hear this young man share his experiences this really helps ..
Loveheals, thank you for letting me know.
Lol I am used to putting her first in my life. This is outrageous the way my daughter talk’s to me and the beef she wants to say to me. I have photos to show I have been the best parent I could be.
I wish you well.
How do I deal with a child that curses you out for no reason or calls you by your first name and has not regard for you privacy or respect.
Thank you for watching Live On Purpose TV, Crystal Jung. I have some videos that help with this, but please realize it will take some time - there is no quick fix.
"How To Get Kids To Listen And Respect" - ruclips.net/video/_aPDJTFXADI/видео.html
"How To Get Kids To Listen And Respect" - ruclips.net/video/vuH9GhtOo_s/видео.html
"Teaching Children Respect In 10 Minutes Or Less" - ruclips.net/video/d8c4I7_vlqw/видео.html
"How To Deal With Teenagers Swearing" - ruclips.net/video/bnOGdLihLJ8/видео.html
"Positive Parenting Strategies For The Teenage Years" - ruclips.net/video/nNC7RpaPt3o/видео.html
"How To Deal With A Difficult Teenager" - ruclips.net/video/Bf_aZdGoISo/видео.html
"Consequences For Misbehavior | 6 Specific Examples" - ruclips.net/video/Fbcwp9na04Y/видео.html
"How To Use Natural And Logical Consequences" - ruclips.net/video/ZFZIIuqEVdY/видео.html
I sincerely hope one or more of these can help you with your situation. Please consider taking advantage of our free 25 minute call with a Live On Purpose coach. If that sounds interesting, please go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
Yes my son yells at me to be quiet,stop talking When I ask him to do simple things like pick up food from the floor. He curses. He slams and hits things. I’m a single mom with an ex who won’t sit and talk to me about how we can get on the same page at both houses. I’m so sad and exhausted being called every name in the book. Nothing seems to work except leaving him alone on his electronics
And I try so hard to communicate with him. He generally won’t talk about anything. And I want so badly to be a good mom. I don’t know what to do.
@@Alwayslearnimg I feel ya. I'm a full believer that the adults in a child's life should at least be on the same page. It is really hard when there are issues and you don't feel supported. I hope that thru these videos you can get to a place of balance and contentment. Keep fighting the good fight mama! 🙏💜
These guys have no idea what “out of control” looks like and it shows.
My teen is absolutely out of control, it's horrible, he's heading to disaster
I am sorry to hear that. Hopefully the video is helpful for you.
This is the problem with today’s society. Talk to any other generation… our parents would have got their tails whooped and never pulled this stuff on their parents. I wish taking a door was the least of my worries
I wish you well, Jennifer. There are lots of worries in the teenage years, more with some teens than others.
What do you do when one parent has given up and lets the child walk on them? I can't be there all the time to handle the situation. Someone has to work a lot to pay the bills.
James Simmons, thank you for watching. Please remember: we need to get clear on what we control and what we don't. You may want to try writing down what you control and what you'll find is that you don't control the actions of the other parent. We can invite and persuade, but we can't force. Always focus on your actions and your child's best interest. Also, see if you can hold a family meeting to discuss and make clear everyone's responsibilities - keep it positive! Maybe you can suggest to your child that they watch my video "How To Convince Your Parents To Get A Dog" (ruclips.net/video/v-o7L_Mwbgw/видео.html) to help them learn about responsibility. You and your spouse may want to watch together some videos from my "Positive Parenting" playlist - ruclips.net/p/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU. You can also take advantage of our free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If that sounds interesting, you can schedule the call here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for your response. We did just that, with a trained person as a middle man. Already called somebody over before your response, but you where on the same page.
It was an eye opener for child and parent/s. Seem for the moment to produce a harmonious forward movement for the child's best intrest. Thank you for posting your videos.
What about an almost 18 yr old, you get him his licence for independence he loses it. You buy him a safe car, he punches the roof, he's in a toxic relationship that affects the whole household to the point we are up at 1.30am trying to stop them yelling through the house as younger siblings have school, mum and dad start work at 5am, punching holes everywhere having a fight with girlfriend even though they know we are shifting out of the rental in 4 weeks. We live in a foreign country where he is not able to access any govt assistance, we live rural with no public transport. I have him in phycology but in the meantime what do we do 😭
Sarah mead, get clear on what you control and what you don't. Then you know what you can use to try to get his behavior in line. He can do some walking if he doesn't take care of the car. He is not allowed to have people over after 10pm or whatever you decide. He is 18 and if he doesn't want to abide by the rules he can find another place to live. This is just an option and you can decide what works for your family.
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Wonderful
Just did this with my friends daughter whom I agreed to assist to take her to her (13 yr old) to her chosen sport of soccer game
Texted her to set up and agreed upon time ( she takes no responsibility for her actions )
Now her idea is when she gets up.
11.00 A.M is the schedules time to be present. So when she FEELS LIKE getting UP or rolls out of bed . Probably half asleep at 10 of 11
She did this 1 other time and I was tooting my horn ( I omitted bringing mh cell phone)
No answer..calling her ..finally she strolls to the window and said she was 😴 sleeping !!
So this time I told her I am here to give her a ride..
I will be there at 10:00 A.M.
so then the dallying starts . Games
Soccer starts at 11 A.M
I said I know but good habits Starr now
I said, I will be at your house at 10:15 A.M
Please be on your front porch waiting .
Do we agree ..
She said " If I can"
I said, no ..that simply means you are not serious
If I can is not acceptable
Do we agree ____?
she said, Yes
I go to pick her up, she is not outside on the porch..
I will not chase after thus child
To be fair I waited 10 minutes
Honked my Horn ..
Then I left..
Now she has had working parents..Father does not respect Mother's discipline..he has given her everything she wants and over rules Mother's ..Mom lacks good communication skills. and poor limit setting on others as well..
So she wakes up..I went to do my food shopping..
I knew what belonged to me..I will not chase after her..I am holding her
accountable to the agreement ..
I left..she had trouble with it..
She called to say " she was so sorry "
Would I come back..
I said, I live you and forgive you.. for not keeping the agreement
However, I will not be coming back
this is her 1st lesson that she cannot manipulate me with her sorry ..
This she does..
She has a distorted view of love ❤️ and accountability is nilly
I made certain she knows I love her still
But without words her behavior is not acceptable ..
I made certain she knows it is her choices ..we do not arise at last minute to a Freely Chosen activity..
I know I shocked her into a new place
Her soccer ends this Saturday
She has a Tuesday Practice
I am hopeful ☺️ she has learned if she is not on the porch I will not wait
It is not too late but Mom and Dad need counseling for their marriage issue and child issues
I hope I can be a positive influence
I give her big hugs and she soaks them up ..
God Bless All
What happens when they sneak out the house when you're sleeping and cutting school??
Harley Page, get clear on what you control and use that. Maybe they don't have access to wifi or a cell phone.
So how do you apply this with teens and preteens that have adhd and bipolar? Teens with bipolar have massive rages and get ticked off at the drop of a hat.
Jenny Little, are they under the care of a doctor and being treated for the bipolar? Consequences for the rage and rewards for the good behavior. Set up systems for the adhd child to be able to follow and find success.
What about a single mom ??
You said parents , but these kids care about nothing !! So what do you do ?
Robert cantu, same principle for single or married parents. They will eventually care about something, let them experience consequences, natural ones are best.
Yes, but how to be in control of a person who is screaming, yelling at you all the time? We give her a lot of freedom and still she is not happy. She uses a very vulgar language It's impossible to seat and talk with her. Lately she told me " honestly l don't give a f...anymore".
She used to be a helpful person around the house now seems like she forgot how to even put her own dishes in to the dishwasher. And if anybody mentions that she becomes angry and verbally abuses them. And then she shuts herself down and won't talk to any of us for weeks. She is not a teen anymore just turn 20 few days ago. She was a relatively good teen until she turned 18. And now there is a boyfriend and I've noticed that they talk to each other in a very rude and disrespectful way. She is a full time student and works few hours a week so is still very dependent on us but both my husband and I are thinking about cutting our help. We figured if she feels like she is a grownup it's time for her to act like one. Get a real job, pay her own tuition, phone and maybe even an apartment. OMG it's so hard. I don't know what to do anymore. Good thing that I still give a f.... Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
If this behavior is a drastic change from her previous personality, she may need some help, there is something going on. In the meantime, if she wants to live under your roof, the rules are respect people and the house. There won't be any abusive or vulgar language. If she wants to talk like that, get her own place, Viki N.
Live On Purpose TV thank you.
Viki N hi I noticed you mentioned her boyfriend and her talk very disrespectful to each other... maybe just ask her.. if she is truly happy with him and is there relationship ok.. 🌺
I am divorced to my children’s other parent. When i took his phone away his dad bought him a new one. When I set boundaries like not driving him or set other appropriate boundaries that are r3commended in this video, his other parent makes allegations of abuse in court and convinces the child that I’m abusive and that they should leave me and never see me. Everything is worse now.
My ex husband has been doing the exact same thing- parenting against me. Buying her affection, even just recently buying her a sports bike(she's 17 and doesn't even have her licence!!?)after misbehaving with me and him then telling me i an abusing her for sending her to her room. So I have just recently made the decision for my daughter to live with her dad. Hopefully she will see he can't keep up those standards? 🙏🤦♀️
I am so sorry. It is difficult when the parents are at odds.
Yeah see if I try to take things away from my son he gets verbally violent and he'll start breaking stuff just to get his point across what do I do
Jennifer Flores, he is definitely on stage 1 so consequences are what is needed. Let him know that there will be consequences and more if he continues.
Help, my 13 yro grandson gets violent, when confronted about his bad behavior and lying. His mom, tries to give him a time out, he will choke her from behind, with a police style sleeper hold. I've had to rescue my daughter from his choke hold, when she was unconscious. He also chokes his older sister and younger brother, as he sees fit. He also likes to punch and kick in the back. I am not in favor of violence, but, I believe he needs a trip to the proverbial wood shed.
Gary Hahn, he definitely has some anger issues, I hope he is getting help (and the rest of the family).
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I wish they would. I suggest it often. I fear that, if things don't change. He will be spending a lot of time in jail.
Stop waiting around for someone to do something-- u r someone. Imagine how devalued his siblings must feel knowing that nothing happens when they're abused. Call the police next time. This kid needs serious help. Court will most likely require a psychological exam at the least.
My teen, is 19 hmm he's a teen, right? How can you control an adult? Breaking the rules is hard because they are in control in a certain respect Changing a kid this age is impossible.
Karol Moscufo, give him a time frame to move out and you will suddenly become much more smarter in his eyes.
When she got her first summer job pay she was at rage about the money. I have never seen her this way. I want my daughter to have a respectable flying straight life.
You are the mom your daughter needs.
Watching this video cause I need help with disciplining my 15 year old son.
We have a whole section of the playlist devoted to teens. See what is all there.
Teens see taking away as punishment. Period.
They are less likely to when we remain calm, smile and let them know we love them and are happy to talk to them about what they need to do to get more privileges.
I am trying to do this with my teenage daughter. She installed Snapchat against my rules, we've had the chats, I took the device and I get thing thrown at my head and my property damaged. I asked her to clean the room and if she didn't I would take everythi g that's on the floor. She didn't mean so when she went to school I took her things. She came home and demanded it back, when she didn't get it back she punched me in the head twice. Really don't know what to do, this stuff isn't working for me.
Josie Higgins, she can't be allowed to punch you. You can call the authorities when that happens so she can be taught there will be consequences.
Amen !!!
Sorry, SO many questions. What if it's not an bad choices issue, but just a bad attitude, need to speak out and opposite of everything I say problem? Thanks again! I think I'm gonna go visit your Parenting Power Up. TIA
Lauri Lock, I hope you do visit parenting power up because this is about stage, not age. It is about cooperation. Stage 1 behavior gets consequences not privileges.
What do I do when she tells her 7 year old sister to shut up go away then attacks me for standing up for her sister
Consequences, that violates the family rule of respect.
I have watch several of your videos. My 14 year old son going through tough time. My wife and I made the decision to send him to private school (daughter too). We didn’t like what’s going on in public HS and decided that it would be best for them to go private. It’s a Christian school with the values that we share….not secular school. I knew that changing schools in tough and my son hated the decision because his friends are in public HS. He feels embarrassed about going private and finds school boring, kids are not funny, kids sucks, teachers sucks, every thing about private Christian school sucks. Public HS is better, more things going on and more weird people and more GIRLS. This is causing rebellious kid at home and school. Already presented my case PHS vs private. Did not work, he is missing out the bus ride and the lunch with friends and GIRLS. Don’t want to make friends at new school because they suck and any girl that like him get shot down.
Not respecting our the decision which was carefully made. Told him that we understand he doesn’t like it, but we as parents have the last word. Funny thing is, he seems his friends after school and weekend, on the phone and video chat. They hang out at the gym and weekends. It’s coming down to loosing phone and video games if disrespectful attitude at home and school continue. Any advise?
He is showing he doesn't like or agree with your decision, but it sounds like he is going to school so he is on stage three. I don't know how long the change occurred so it may take some time, a year or more. He is trying to wait you out and so you need to be patient and have rules, follow through and let him know that you will love him no matter what and even if...
Man….I am telling you. I LOVE my son. I have cry after he told me to go F myself or a M F after I took his phone because inappropriate pictures he sent. I asked myself..where is my sweet boy…it has crossed my mind to give in and send him Public HS just to stop the arguments and see him smile again. He said I ruined his life and how unhappy he is thanks to me. But, I know he is 14 and we made the decision because we love him.
Sometimes I just want to say…like is rough and sometimes you don’t get what you want or you are not happy because you are the one that can make yourself happy, so change your attitude or be unhappy….but I don’t think I should say that even though I know is true.
He has everything, but he is not getting one thing and all the sudden his life is miserable….that is how I know he is an immature 14 brat. He said he is out by 18…made me smile…just wait until you are in the real world.
If he only knew that my job is to prepare him for that day and going to a good school is priority.
Please be patient. You made the right decision. Sooner or later, I think he will realize and thank you for that. I keep my fingers crossed. Maybe he will be meet a nice and good looking lady there ?? :) I wish you best of luck and salute your courage and determination
Do you have a video on passive aggressive anger from teenagers? This is what I am dealing with on a grand-scale. Very passive. There is ZERO yelling or back talk directly. A lot of lying, sarcasm, passive aggressive and deceitful behavior to the pointit hurts other people's lives; lack of integrity I guess would be a good way to describe it. Im lost 😢 they are amazing people.
Have you tried counseling? They might need to talk to someone who is not their parent and figure out how they want the rest of their life to go.
I don't know how to help my son. He made friends with kids in our neighborhood who got him involved in alcohol and drugs when he was about 13. We sold our house and moved to get him out of that environment as well as her other kids. He just made more friends like that in the new place. And things got worse. We would try to take away his phone but he would just get another one from his friends. We would try to ground him and he would disobey and leave the house anyway. He was constantly skipping school and eventually got suspended for the remainder of the school year because he was high at school. He failed to meet the requirements. The principal gave him in order to return to in person school and didn't care. Things got so bad that we were having to kick him out of the house because we couldn't do anything else to wake him up. He eventually started seeing that his friends would enable him and support his not going home. Thanks. Got worse. We had to move again and he didn't think that he needed to come with us. So we left him behind. He contacted us and wanted to join us and I had to pay for a plane ticket for him to do so and yet his attitude has still not changed. We are lost and he is influencing his siblings to be like him.
I don't know how old he is or what you are legally obligated for. Usually when kids don't want to go along with family rules it is time for them to make their way on their own. Figure out the legal issues first.
It’s snowing out and cold my daughter didn’t want to wear her coat because I am Luxury. Names and clothes keep bad peoples back. I am single and on welfare and trying to keep us safe.
You are doing what you need to be doing to shelter her.
I took away the phone, house keys and laptop. Apparently, I am sabotaging her life now. What to do now.
kadra H, smile, be kind, talk nice, do something nice for her and show her that you love her. Maybe make her favorite dinner.
Any ideas for if you ask your teenager what they feel the consequences should be for something but they either refused to answer or give you a sarcastic remarks about not having Consequences. Or claiming that the things they have are there’s
Krista Plucinski, get clear on what you control and then you can use that.
My teenager started swearing at her younger sister and being rude and having very little patience with her and when ask her to be more understanding and patient I get told I'm taking sides and I get called names and acused and I end up not being able to sleep properly I thought maybe I need to go do a parenting course for teens I'm not sure what to do
Rozsa, we have resources to help at go.liveonpurposecentral.com.
What do i do when my teen son doesn't seem to care about school or anything else? His response to any discipline is running away from home to his grandmas house because he thinks it's mean of us that we expect him to go to school. He did great up until this year. Now he has almost all F's, I get calls from the school all the time about him skipping class and am just frustrated and overwhelmed that i cant get him to try anymore. It seems like he has just given up on doing anything except XBox. Any help or advice is greatly appreciated
Grandma's seems to be an escape for him. She needs to get onboard and not let him escape there. Get some family counseling and tie the XBox to going to school.
I need help with my son as well.
@@tonifowler6287 hang in there. I hope things get better. God bless u and ur family
I need to borrow this young man to have a talk with my 16 years old son. I can't get through to him. He's been seeing therapist and I was feeling so hopeful but he recently admitted that he's telling them what they want to hear kust to get them off his back.
Chanthana, let him know that actions speak louder than words and that is what you need to focus on.
Where this gets murky is when your spouse won’t agree to any of the disciplinary actions
Ahhh, yes, it does make it more difficult when the parents are not working together. Much easier for the teen to act out and not be held accountable.
I can totally understand about not getting the other parent on board about disciplining kid. I tried to get my ex involved when I see a red flag with my son's behavior but he refused and denied of any issue that I claimed. I can't help but think that he's holding a grudge because I get custody after divorce. But now that things blew up in his face with his own eyes he has nothing to say and been in no contact. Now it's just me trying and running around getting my son the helps that he needs but I'm not seeing hope yet.
im a teen and my mom gives upp on me she says that im horrible person and i make her sad and she says do as you want i don´t know what to do, and i start crying every day because i don´t know what to do whit my life and i tried saying to her that she needs too get advice from a proffesionall person but she keeps saying i don´t need advice im your mothyer not somone else and then she gives upp again. i dont know what to do please help im in serious moment right now im crying right now whriting this please help. i don´t know what to do. i can´t even sleep its 2am and school tomorrow and im so scared i can´t help my self to not cry or maybe take my life please i need advice..
I am not sure what all is going on. Talk to a counselor at school and see if they can help sort out the situation.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV okay thank you
You poor baby 😢. Please don't be afraid to talk with your school counselor or psychologist, they're there to help and will able to provide more resources. I applause you for reaching out for help don't give up on your self. ❤🙏
Please tell me what to do my 12 year old is so sassy the attitude is disgraceful and I can say something is black and she will say it's white. Please advice dear god give me strength to deal with thus child.
Tanya D, we have three rules in our home about respect. Respecting people, things, and authority. When she is disrespectful in our home, she would have a consequence. Also, make sure she knows the difference between disrespect and respect. Don't assume what she knows and always model the respectful tone and way of speaking.
you bring a guest on and dont let him talk. maybe stop interrupting and let him talk
Thanks for the feedback.
Thanks so much for your advice. I needed it !
Riadh_B, wonderful!
My brother threatens my dad a lot with knives a lot and he did it again and almost stabbed my dad should I call the cops?
Talk to your dad about this. Sounds like additional help may be needed for your brother. It would be best to get the help when everyone is calm, not in a life-threatening time.
How do you handle bedtimes as they get older? I’m pretty lenient in my house. My teen is always like if he doesn’t have something going on the next day- he doesn’t seems to think he needs sleep. Summer is coming up. Ugh help
Linds Reese, educate yourself on how much sleep your teen needs and the reasons why. Share the information and let them know that sleep is vital to their health and growth.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you!
Let the young guy talk he had a great speech going and got interrupted 🤦🏻♀️
Maritza Morfin, ok, got it.
So love and appreciate this platform to help guide me through the teen years. Wish I would have found it sooner. Question - when you want and need to have a conversation with your teen and ask them if they are open to having a conversation and their answer is no, then what? TIA
Lauri Lock, revisit it later. If it is information, share and walk away.
Isn't using what we control a form of manipulation and insincerity
Nope.
I have recently found this channel, and love your videos.
I have a question regarding my 13 year old daughter. She is more often than not disrespectful, rude, bossy, and demanding. When I ask her what’s going on she says she’s angry at me for not spending enough time with her. Meanwhile I would be totally happy to spend more time with her, but who wants to hang out with someone who is throwing anger at them? She says she wouldn’t be so mean if I would spend time with her, and I say I would spend more time with her if she wasn’t so mean to me. So how to resolve this? Trying to talk it through in the moment when she’s upset doesn’t work. I told her we would schedule a weekly mother/daughter time for just the 2 of us to do something fun. But she wants me to be her playmate, and I’m not - I am her mom. I can’t relate to her the same way her girlfriends relate to her. And I have boring mom things to do like grocery shopping etc. She isn’t very understanding about what I need to do - she wants what she wants and if I can’t do it in the moment she’s mad. Any advice?
Erica Mary Johnson, it really sounds as though she is testing the boundaries you have and seeing how much control she can exert over you by playing up your emotions, guilt, etc. Instead of planning something big, try to take smaller chunks of time and share a laugh, show her a funny meme you just found or find an interest of hers that you can get involved in. It might be cooking, gardening, sewing, crafting, beading, listening to music. Ignore as much as you can and it is o.k. to walk away if she is belligerent and let her know you will return when she is kind.
Live On Purpose TV your answer is spot on - you nailed it! I am a single mom and have always overextended myself with her, and eventually it affected my health. Now I am in the process of shifting this habit, and she doesn’t like it. Your advice is perfect - thank you so much!
I can relate to a angry disrespectful teen. I am hoping to find answers through videos like this. Because what I am getting ready to do is grab her and shake her up. To let her know you will not talk to me like that. Praying for a good solution.
Sounds better than what I feel like doing. Shaking sense into my teenager
Im a teenager im 19 years old im out of control because i have a soda problem mom won't let me have soda
thanks for commenting.
Okay I heard that I will let her close her door starting today I just need to let go a bit. Shire’s are up now. We got utube and adults on utube manipulating kids I am really scared for that door to close.
Stay safe.
My son is very angry he grabbed me by the throat and put me up against a wall he is much bigger than I am when I asked him to go to his room I'm not trying to control him I'm actually terrified of him fear of eventually he may kill me for asking for respect in him not to cuss at me.
Victoria S, call the police if you are fearful of him. We need you to be safe and unharmed.
what do you do when they won't do anything? Not help not care and not do one thing to help
Karol Moscufo, that is why you are o.k. with If they are uncooperative, they are on Stage 1 and consequences are the only thing that works.
How to deal with a child that has been through alot before I came into there life going on 3yrs. She lost her mother at 4yrs old and dosen't remember anything about her mother and she is at this stage of her life were she has questions about her birth mother and never met her mother. I married her father going on 3yrs and he really doesn't talk about her mother with her. She doesn't know how to ask him because he doesn't talk about his feelings that is a problem in my marriage but I really want to help her. She feels lost. If u have video that she could watch with me that would be great.
Christian Smart, there is a lot going on for this teen. Consider getting some counseling so she can talk about her feelings with someone, if not her dad. I am glad you are there for her.
I am definitely fed up and I'm so tired.
So sorry.
Very smart- bright guests.
Nader Safipour, thank you.
Hello, I've found this channel a couple of weeks ago, but now I have a question. How to motivate a grown up to appreciate themselves and manifest their greatness if they grew up in a household, where they weren't appreciated and always questioned even if they were completely innocent. I see so many people around me, that I love and would like to help them break the pattern of self-doubt and self-destruction.
Thank You in advance
Nessa Tesartir, you sound like you might be a candidate to become a Life Coach. Your willingness to help others is sincere. Check out the Life Coaching playlist on the channel. It is hard to motivate someone who doesn't want to be motivated. You can tell them what you see and ask what their perception is.
I've tried all communications, theraphy and all with my teenager instead of seeing change, the behavior has escalated. what's next ?, I feel like I've failed as a parent, my son is headed for self-destruction,
Phumzile Longwe, don't give up, seek a different therapist. He may need a different type of therapy.
My parents just seem to be concerned about making it easier on them bunch of control freaks.
Seek to understand.
Instead of taking off the door I would just take off the door knob on the door that's what I would do instead but if the teenager has good behavior like cleaning up after themselves make up their bed then he or she gets their door knob back on the door when everyone else is sleeping.
Julene Stephanie Good, that would be easier.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Yeah your right.
When I ask her not to talk to her sister I get I don't care and it's all my fault because I take sides though I don't feel I do because I do talk to my younger daughter if she is being naughty and annoying her on purpose to get a reaction but the oldest one doesn't always hear me talk to her sister because I take her aside and talk to her but when I do tell my oldest one I've talked to her younger sister she calls me a liar I think because she's still upset but it's hard because my teenagers tantrums sometimes last a very long time parenting a teenager is hard
Parenting is not for wimps for sure.
Please give me suggesstion or something!
Im so done with my little sister, idk where to begin it, i am 18 (still trying to go to college and try to study my ass off) and my little sister is 15. Im kinda type which is when i say it, i will do that. So, we only live together because my parents just go for works. I do the cook and meal, and for cleaning we do that partly. So she hates vegetables, and im a vegan. Its a little difficult to cook for her because she always love fast food, i try to hold her but she never hear me. I try to cook chicken which is i never touch about it before, (i just studying before and almost never go to kitchen) i try to cook some meals etc which is i never did before, but she always complains, and there s 1000 reasons why she wont eat that not because its awful, just because to booing me in front of my dad or etc because i cant give her what she want. I gave her money i mean if she doesnt want what i cook so she can buy outside, but she doesnt want to buy it and i had to be always the one who buy it, though the seller just out of our window. Its okay i still can manage it. i wish she can take care about herself or something but she cant, she just not taking bath regularly, she just dont want to eat if its not served in front of her, she dont want to getup from bed at morning and keep with phone all day long. And about the cleaning, we agree that she will clean up everymess that she did and her room( never clean since last year i think, and will never let anyone enter her room,but i can smell bad from outside, and i ever know theres even dead bat inside it because the bat stuck there. Oh my god!!! Im so done. She keep promising and never do it. She throw her dirty clothes in bathroom floor and dont want to wash it. Her bedroom is so messy and she dont want to sleep there so she sleep in my room and in my father room and it keep mess again. Idk pls people give me advice or something. I try to tell her in kind way with small voice like some internet suggest to me. I honestly rarely angry, usually if im just so angry to people, im crying i try to be hard to her today, and i cant help my anger again. Please dont be rude to me if i did wrong things, because im trying and i never had children before. Im sorry
Im so done she is so disrespectful when everyone tell her something. Even theres a day when i go out with her to buy some ice cream in small store. And in front of the seller, she said 'omg, i want to vomit'. Im so angry!!!!!!!! Nobody deserves what she said to that seller
You are being put in a situation where you have no control or respect, that isn't fair to you. There should be another solution to this problem where you are not the one acting like the parent. You aren't the parent, you are the sister.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV @Live On Purpose TV @Live On Purpose TV hello, thank you. You really got what im trying to say. Yes thats it! She had no respect for me cause im not the parent so she doesnt listen to me. I had some advices from people, one of them saying "you should help her as sister, help her as how much she wants to change, nothing more and no less". It makes me super tired mentally, so im gonna do that:'(
i wish my parents had see this 2-3 years ago 😀 really good advices, sir!!
Thanks for watching! I hope things are better for you now.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV yes it is, sir. peak of adolescence is over😂
I liked the example with the door.How can we use that when the behaviour is to talk in a non respectful way to us the parents ?Should we give them the control to decide?also is it my idea or they become teenagers much sooner nowdays??
We have three rules for the house and one of them is to respect people. That means in how we talk and behave. If a child is out of control, I tell them that I will talk to them when they can talk to me like I am talking to them (calmly). I don't engage when they are yelling or being abusive.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV i tell them
all about those rules (respect of the authority,respect ourselves and the others and respect the house etc) but just not talking to my eldest won't make a difference ,she has done it multiple times and it's so hurtful 😥
my 12 year old daughter is becoming more and more rebellious and stubborn. she is so self righteous, always says 'but' to justify the unjustifiable even small things like rudeness. l personally have been accused of these things when l was young, likely true! she loves playing computer games with her phone, hates exercising with me, even going out cycling :( , how can l get her to learn to love reading, writing and being physically active? we do do 'word of the day' where i try to build her vocab, and at end of week ,ask her to write a short story with those words, better the story, more points she earns, and points equal money, which she loves! also get her to write her diary everyday, and we check her diary at end of week, for spelling and grammar mistakes, and she does have many :( any tips?
Nixon Chan, it will be an uphill battle if these things are not what she desires.
Right , so what do you think should be done encourage reading
Doest matter how I lay down the expectations he refuses to talk he told me go had trow me out I can sleep in the park so if he says that just trow him out? My teenage child will never do what I ask regardless the consequences. I tried every method
J F, seek professional help in your area. I don't have enough information to give you advice in a comment section, this will take more help.
What do you do when your a legal guardian of your niece. But grandma has custody. Your trying to take that full role of authority bc grandma's health is not in the best place. Your think your geting somewhere but your not. You feel that they both working against you. I've spent thousands on them.giving up alot too move in. Take over care of grandma & my 12 yr old niece. Which I've always been there since birth. & have had a substantial hand in raising her .. We all moved states away closer to family bc that's what we felt be best. The agreement was i have legal guardianship of my niece & my mother would be able to focus on herself. @ 68 & on set dementia. But it's been a struggle the teen knows how to work grandma & take advantage to get what she wants. They team against me. Why i say that is bc others have actually brought it to my attention. How do you discipline a child. If other always doing the opposite. How do you teach them respect? The situation take forever to explain. But it's too the point where is effecting my health. I'm still not wanting to give up. I love my niece as my own. So I'm looking four answers.
CrazyFrogz, I can think of a few things and the first starts with self-care for you. You need to keep your bucket filled so you have the resources to help them. It is not easy and you will have to be methodical about this. I hope your niece is in counseling and you may consider doing the same. It will help you to make sense of what is happening. If family is available, bring them in to the equation.
... I don't want to have a slave. I want him to become somebody, find his out path and be OUT OF MY HOUSE
Give him a deadline.
hahahahaha , so in short front of my teenager apart from minding my attitude I am just a audience who is a good listener ? who will give them good advice in life then ?
Radhika Gupte, they need to develop trust in us first and this happens when we listen to them. Until they are sure they are heard, they won't listen, no matter what we say and how many times we say it.
Thank you .
Can't control my kid desperate
www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Tried this, not as easy as this was presented in all cases. Certainly not in ours.
It isn't easy, but it is something that becomes more natural the more you do it. Good luck.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Until friends and boyfriends become the chief advisors in their life.🙄 We do use your approach with our adopted kids but it is a complete fail with our teen girl. Add in her back dooring bio family into our lives and of course technology. It’s a sensible plan if you start early but not so much once they become teens.
We integrated this plan of what we control and what they control from one of your videos a couple of years ago. Even let them see the video.
I’m open to ideas but I think our son is a a very rare case.
Thomas Stone, he could be.
My teenager 13 yr old, just punched me for not allowing him to use the xbox.
DJ Ish, that sounds out of control.
Where did he learned that
This is awesome. Thank you!
You are welcome, Camille Naar, glad to have you at Live On Purpose.
At what age do I stop trying to make her goals. Because she is sixteen and still a kid.
You can tell her you have some ideas and if she wants to hear them, to let you know. She may not be ready to listen.
I'm ready to give up
SANTANA Page, consider a no-cost call to one of our coaches to see what we offer at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
I am already having these problems with an 11 year old, is that normal?!?!🤣
Melanie D, depends on the degree. I hope there are plenty of fun times still.
Phones are the biggest issue
They are a huge issue with teens.
Why cant babies come with instructions? This stuff al sounds good but u gotta see my teenager. Positive parent? Im a piece of shit to hear my teenager tell it. However it sounds like u know we do everything we can and u dont give us that doubtful side eye. I wish more ppl in society were more like u
It would be great if we got individualized instructions. Thanks for being here.
Yep I’m educated in the hormones . In the female it’s alot going on in there
Thank you for watching.
Great stuff.
Thank you, Chad Aaron. Glad to have you at the channel.
This is an after school special. Brock doesn’t sound like he was out of control. Title is click bait.
Thank you for watching.
Mate you need to stop interrupting the young guy and trying to take over the video so we can hear what he’s trying to say.
Thanks for the feedback.
This was good!
Samuel, thank you!
Very useful video.👍
I am glad the video helps, Me You. Love this RUclips Community.
We tried these things with our child it did not work.
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I think I need help to better understand how to parent a teenager well can you give me any advice
You can get one on one help at www.achievetodaycoaching.com/paul
What if I can't afford the truck??
The Art Side, that is reasonable. Find a way that he can start earning money. I don't know where you live or what is available but sometimes it could be a lawn mowing job, taking out and bringing in garbage cans, dog walking, etc. Do some research of what is available in your area and go from there.
I don't know what to do
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This generation is lost they don't care about anything and they are so arrogant
There might be a few like that, but I still believe there is good. It isn't a whole generation.
Thank you so much for your video's!!!! I am learning alot from this channel. Do you have any tips on disciplining a defiant pre teen/ adolescence that has special needs particularly autism & Global Developmental Delay?
shante johnson, I can add the topic to the development list.
Great question. I am in the same predicament.
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My Son has this same issue with His 12 yr old son..my grandson..puberty is beginning... having a lot of anger and melt downs..
Seeing a counselor but she is very young
But He likes her and my son said he does not like everyone
He will be seeing a neurologist and other specialist. Do not want medications
Nit goid...I know he us deficiency in Importsnt Vitamin and minerals
as being aspergers syndrome
They have food issues and texture issues ..will not touch or eat certain foods
When he has melt downs or says bad things to people..after he has calmed he is very sorry
Please bring some solid help to parents and family..ww love ❤️ Him so much
Thank you and thsnk God for your video channel. Extremely helpful
I think it could be hormones..puberty attributing to His behavior more now 🤔
Don’t believe me come visit my son for a month!
I wish we could make that happen.