As always, thank you. Your advice is valuable. These topics are something that Western women (I am one) need to think very seriously about. It's not about you trying to change the man to accept your ways now or later. It's totally about whether you want to go into this relationship with complete acceptance of these topics as they are. If you are not willing to do this, then this type of relationship may not be something you should enter. Thank you, again.
Salams Fuad - I really appreciate your channel as a Canadian woman getting to know an Arab man. He has asked if I am prepared to submit to him when/if he forbids me from doing something. I've asked him for examples of areas where he anticipates this happening between us or based on what he's observed growing up and he's not been able to come up with any. From your end, can you think of times when a husband might forbid his wife from doing something she really wants to do? He and I have already discussed clothing/ modesty but aside from that, what other specific situations could arise in theory? I'm a Muslim revert so am western but also doing my best to learn about and practice Islam properly. Maybe I'm naive but I feel like if he and I both follow Islam, there shouldn't be many, if any situations where he as husband would forbid me to do things, since we would be aligned from the get go, inshaAllah.
Some people dont always want to be intimate s*xually because of s*xual tra*ma. It could bring flashbacks. I think the woman and men should respect when the other partner says no.
Wow the first video that is not negative in regard to a woman respecting a man. Very balanced and really opened another perspective. InshaAllah I will keep my husband happy forever
👏👏 Best advices I swear, all women should hear this video. I really appreciate that you talk about the psychological aspect but with a muslim perspective ( I feel it even if you dont speak about religion directly) 👌👌. You are right in every point , thank you for those good advices 😊
As a Christian woman I agree.all these points should apply in every religion general respect between man and woman.im having long distance relationship with Arab man and paying close attention how to deal differently than dating christian man. Thank you for providing all those videos which I great and very helpful
Hello, i like your talks. With all due respect, many women won't have their pre pregnancy body back after bearing children. One example is the stomach stretches, and especially after weight loss, elasticity in this area is very much gone. Some women opt for surgery to tighten this area. Beauty is also defined by the heart.
Omg this is so true. Women do get jealous of other women especially in relationships. Its extremely toxic. If you want to be a good friend do not do this to your friend. Be happy for your friend and encourage them in happiness. That is a true friend.
Perfect. Respect to you . I listen and learned albeit Im the empath who hates confrontation. Im the polite one my problem is attracting men that are not nice. Exactly. You need to write a book even ebook I would buy . All my friends are Arabic ladies and I learn from them you know Fuad one lady just show me her husbands photo and son's graduation. I says omg did you marry a white guy and shes like laughing. She says he will be happy to hear this, I says omg are you kidding me Arabs are way more beautiful Im all pasty ghost and we laugh. Its good to laugh at cultural junk we are not purple we are all humans.
Absolutely, Diane! We are all human beings at the end and laughter truly is a fantastic tool for bringing people together and breaking down cultural barriers. Your suggestion of writing a book or ebook humbles me, and I am grateful for your support. Thank you so much for your ongoing encouragement! :)
Agree 1000% but respect should be mutual and I don't see why a woman has to look up to a man. They are a couple and they should do things together eye to eye. As for submission ooch that's a huge problem. Regarding gossip I totally agree with you, but it seems to me that Arabs gossip alot and a man would tell everything to his family especially his mother. Please advise, is it just my imagination?
For sure, the respect is mutual. A woman obeying her husband and looking up to him isn't in any way, shape, or form disrespecting herself. In a nutshell, for a woman to be compatible with a 'traditional Arab man,' she shouldn't aggressively believe in the modern gender egalitarian ideologies and points. Many women in many parts of the world still live happily by the standards discussed in the video. Regarding your question about the privacy of the household, it's possible that you've encountered someone who doesn't value privacy. But, in general, a mature man wouldn't be happy to discuss private matters with others. But if this is an issue, you need to communicate with him and express your concerns. Open and honest communication. Hope that answers your question. Thank you for your comment!
Please can you use diverse cultures in your video s this presents an angry black woman at every point. Some single women are happy that way. Looking after oneself is respect to self also.
In general, very good pieces of advice. In Christianity though wives are not called to blindly obey their husbands, like in Islam, but rather to obey with discernment and when their husbands make an unwise decision or do not follow Christ to make them aware. So, blind submission has no room in a Christian marriage. Moreover, being available to the man is a cross the woman has to bear, but the man has to learn to control his sexual desire during the fast or when the wife is not available. What if the wife gave birth through cesarian and she is not allowed to have sex for 6 weeks? What if there is fasting, which requires abstaining from sex as well? Now, if one cannot abstain from sex, one should not be refused sex, but if one partner sacrificed himself and gave sex during fasting, the next time the other one has to learn to abstain. It shows work on both sides. I'm sorry many mothers don't teach their sons to learn to abstain sometimes. If the wife's had a terrible day at work or hasn't slept the previous night due to the baby crying, the man should delay his sexual wish to the next day, if possible, because she is not in the best mood. If he were in her shoes and didn't sleep all night because of the baby, would he be willing to have sex, while being so tired? And lastly, as Orthodox Christians, we don't consider using perfume. It adds more to attraction. Being clean is enough. One should instead cultivate patience, prayer and these personal traits will give a better "fragrance" to the woman than a simple perfume. Whoever uses perfume wastes time she/he could give to prayer, cultivating patience etc. It depends what you want in life: look attractive and smell good or look decent and have an awesome personality, with patience, love, wisdom, which comes through prayer. This life is too short to have them both. Few people can invest their time to pray, to practice love and patience and also have time left to look really good and smell good. Oh, and let me not forget: women's body changes after giving birth, so most women will gain a little weight. It must be understood. However, not caring for their bodies that they become obese after giving birth should be discouraged. Just wanted to provide a different perspective here.
Hey, I think what you said is pretty decent. However, in Islam, women don't have to blindly obey, and as I discussed in the video, you can disagree, and you can advise, but do it with respect, privately. We don't expect our women to be robots. An intellectual woman will know how to respectfully disagree with her man. And a decent man also will know how to tell her wife that she is wrong. It goes both ways. In regards to intimacy, in Islam we have 30 days where we fast called 'Ramadan' and we abstain from that also during the day, and I would say Muslims are pretty used to being disciplined and abstaining from things, just praying 5 times a day tells a lot about how a person is disciplined, not drinking alcohol, and abstaining from other sins also tells a lot about how a Muslim is disciplined and the amount of self-control he possesses. You see Muslims living in Western countries where everything is easy and allowed, but they will still abstain from many things. I think this is a sign that us Muslims have strong self-control, and we are pretty good at controlling our urges. So, feeling tired for a few nights or needing time to recover after childbirth are entirely reasonable and understandable reasons for abstaining from intimacy. What I aimed to discuss is the potential misuse of intimacy as a bargaining tool or its abandonment in relationships. It's crucial to maintain a healthy balance. Thanks again for sharing your perspective and thoughts.
@@Fuadtalks I see your point, but from Muslim women I understand they have to obey blindly. That's what I've heard and I think that's what you said in the video, 'cause the husband knows best. Also, from my experience and from what I've heard, Muslim men don't abstain from intimacy. They are the easiest lovers. They will offer you sex if no one else will. I talk from experience, although I haven't done it. I was offered sex by them. Your Ramadan is easy as regards to sex. During the day, most people work, so you can't have sex. Our Christian fasting, which is almost half a year, means total abstaining. No sex, not even after the sunset. Now that is fasting, because it pushes you to focus on prayer, on discipline, it avoids having so many babies, that many families don't have money to raise. I don't know where you have money to raise so many children and educate them in the Arab world. In the West, people don't have so much money. And if one partner cannot abstain, the next fasting period, that partner should sacrifice himself/herself and fast.
Still haven't come across a Christian who fasts half a year. In terms of birthrates, many countries are facing a population decline, an issue our society doesn't experience. In some countries, more people are dying than being born. God tells us in the Qur'an that sustenance comes from Him. We don't have to worry about how we will feed our children; this is taken care of. In Islam, every person is required to give a portion of their wealth to those in need. This is also how we function as a society. Poverty still exists, but refraining from having children isn't the solution. :)
@@FuadtalksI believe that there are poorly fed children everywhere. We, as small children, were not fed properly, and you can see that in the development of our teeth, because the parents did not have money. I also agree that not having children is not an option, but fasting and abstaining from sex in the fasting period is an option. I know in Islam you are not informed about other religions (I was shocked, that a Muslim man did not know what nuns and monks are, so knowledge about other religions is almost 0), but now you find out: Orthodox Christians fast about half a year in total and that includes almost vegan fast with fish allowed on some feast days and no sex. This is Orthodox Christianity. If you didn't meet any Christian, that means they were not practising Christians. Just like in Islam they say they are Muslim, but they sleep around as much as they can with as many women as they can, so they are not practising. And there are some who say they are not Muslim, but then they come from Arab countries and the religion is ingrained in them, so they live Muslim. Thanks for your comment.
When it comes down to respect for your husband in the sexual sense. It is a continuous process of open communication on wants, needs, likes, dislikes and expectations. The willingness from both parties to work at it and make it exciting. Then it definitely won’t feel like a chore🌼
I like what you say a lot except with pregnancy. When pregnant the body changes in many ways- one of them being hormonal. The body is designed to put on a lot of weight because of breastfeeding. It can also be dangerous for woman to exercise in certain ways and could have long lasting damage- for around 2 years they need to work out carefully and in a way that supports their pelvic health. Lastly caring for an infant is a difficult job. The father will have to help out to give his wife time to shower, eat, relax, etc if he wants her to take care of her appearance. Birth is a major trauma on the body and if there were complications then even moreso the mother may have difficulty. I've heard of women begging their husbands to hold the baby for fifteen minutes because they haven't been able to shower for days. Also fathers will find they have increased oestrogen levels after their baby is born as a way to store fat- this is because with evolution parents that put on more weight after birth would be less likely to starve to death. So whilst looking after yourself is important, its equally important to have realistic expectations I think.
Thanks for your thoughtful comment! Absolutely agree with your points, what I meant was addressing situations where some women may neglect their health, diet, and appearance entirely after having kids. Appreciate your input!
I’m a Christian woman but I believe all your videos apply to all men and women, regardless of their religion or race. You give invaluable advice 👏👏
As always, thank you. Your advice is valuable. These topics are something that Western women (I am one) need to think very seriously about. It's not about you trying to change the man to accept your ways now or later. It's totally about whether you want to go into this relationship with complete acceptance of these topics as they are. If you are not willing to do this, then this type of relationship may not be something you should enter.
Thank you, again.
Love the point give advice in private, in general for any type of relationship as well marriage this is the best practice
Perfect Fuad. You should be a book writer. I hope you are happy in these things too. Your a good guy. 🎉
Thank you very much, Diane! I appreciate that!
I think this not apply only in Arab men but also to all THE MEN IN THE WORLD....
Salams Fuad - I really appreciate your channel as a Canadian woman getting to know an Arab man. He has asked if I am prepared to submit to him when/if he forbids me from doing something. I've asked him for examples of areas where he anticipates this happening between us or based on what he's observed growing up and he's not been able to come up with any. From your end, can you think of times when a husband might forbid his wife from doing something she really wants to do?
He and I have already discussed clothing/ modesty but aside from that, what other specific situations could arise in theory? I'm a Muslim revert so am western but also doing my best to learn about and practice Islam properly. Maybe I'm naive but I feel like if he and I both follow Islam, there shouldn't be many, if any situations where he as husband would forbid me to do things, since we would be aligned from the get go, inshaAllah.
Hmmmmm, I am starting to fall in love with someone, that person is unknown to me, but I love everything you shared here!
Very Benificial and it make me feel hopeful and happy please keep making these videos Brother barakAllah feek
Thank you! Glad to hear that!
Some people dont always want to be intimate s*xually because of s*xual tra*ma. It could bring flashbacks. I think the woman and men should respect when the other partner says no.
Wow the first video that is not negative in regard to a woman respecting a man. Very balanced and really opened another perspective. InshaAllah I will keep my husband happy forever
Wish you all the best!
Good informative about arab man is interesting tnx.
Real Talk ❤❤❤❤😊
👏👏 Best advices I swear, all women should hear this video. I really appreciate that you talk about the psychological aspect but with a muslim perspective ( I feel it even if you dont speak about religion directly) 👌👌. You are right in every point , thank you for those good advices 😊
Thank you very much, Sabrina!
thankyou and I agree!
As a Christian woman I agree.all these points should apply in every religion general respect between man and woman.im having long distance relationship with Arab man and paying close attention how to deal differently than dating christian man.
Thank you for providing all those videos which I great and very helpful
Thanks for passing by.
I love you Sheikh Fuad 💟💟
From a Pakistani Canadian
Loving your videos
You're very kind! Thank you very much! Very glad you're finding value in the videos! I appreciate you ❤️
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Hello, i like your talks. With all due respect, many women won't have their pre pregnancy body back after bearing children. One example is the stomach stretches, and especially after weight loss, elasticity in this area is very much gone. Some women opt for surgery to tighten this area. Beauty is also defined by the heart.
Omg this is so true. Women do get jealous of other women especially in relationships. Its extremely toxic. If you want to be a good friend do not do this to your friend. Be happy for your friend and encourage them in happiness. That is a true friend.
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Perfect. Respect to you . I listen and learned albeit Im the empath who hates confrontation. Im the polite one my problem is attracting men that are not nice. Exactly. You need to write a book even ebook I would buy . All my friends are Arabic ladies and I learn from them you know Fuad one lady just show me her husbands photo and son's graduation. I says omg did you marry a white guy and shes like laughing. She says he will be happy to hear this, I says omg are you kidding me Arabs are way more beautiful Im all pasty ghost and we laugh. Its good to laugh at cultural junk we are not purple we are all humans.
Absolutely, Diane! We are all human beings at the end and laughter truly is a fantastic tool for bringing people together and breaking down cultural barriers. Your suggestion of writing a book or ebook humbles me, and I am grateful for your support. Thank you so much for your ongoing encouragement! :)
Agree 1000% but respect should be mutual and I don't see why a woman has to look up to a man. They are a couple and they should do things together eye to eye. As for submission ooch that's a huge problem. Regarding gossip I totally agree with you, but it seems to me that Arabs gossip alot and a man would tell everything to his family especially his mother. Please advise, is it just my imagination?
For sure, the respect is mutual. A woman obeying her husband and looking up to him isn't in any way, shape, or form disrespecting herself. In a nutshell, for a woman to be compatible with a 'traditional Arab man,' she shouldn't aggressively believe in the modern gender egalitarian ideologies and points. Many women in many parts of the world still live happily by the standards discussed in the video.
Regarding your question about the privacy of the household, it's possible that you've encountered someone who doesn't value privacy. But, in general, a mature man wouldn't be happy to discuss private matters with others. But if this is an issue, you need to communicate with him and express your concerns. Open and honest communication.
Hope that answers your question. Thank you for your comment!
@@Fuadtalks ty
I don't really agree that women should be submissive.Respect one with each otber is basic
Please can you use diverse cultures in your video s this presents an angry black woman at every point. Some single women are happy that way. Looking after oneself is respect to self also.
In general, very good pieces of advice. In Christianity though wives are not called to blindly obey their husbands, like in Islam, but rather to obey with discernment and when their husbands make an unwise decision or do not follow Christ to make them aware. So, blind submission has no room in a Christian marriage. Moreover, being available to the man is a cross the woman has to bear, but the man has to learn to control his sexual desire during the fast or when the wife is not available. What if the wife gave birth through cesarian and she is not allowed to have sex for 6 weeks? What if there is fasting, which requires abstaining from sex as well? Now, if one cannot abstain from sex, one should not be refused sex, but if one partner sacrificed himself and gave sex during fasting, the next time the other one has to learn to abstain. It shows work on both sides. I'm sorry many mothers don't teach their sons to learn to abstain sometimes. If the wife's had a terrible day at work or hasn't slept the previous night due to the baby crying, the man should delay his sexual wish to the next day, if possible, because she is not in the best mood. If he were in her shoes and didn't sleep all night because of the baby, would he be willing to have sex, while being so tired? And lastly, as Orthodox Christians, we don't consider using perfume. It adds more to attraction. Being clean is enough. One should instead cultivate patience, prayer and these personal traits will give a better "fragrance" to the woman than a simple perfume. Whoever uses perfume wastes time she/he could give to prayer, cultivating patience etc. It depends what you want in life: look attractive and smell good or look decent and have an awesome personality, with patience, love, wisdom, which comes through prayer. This life is too short to have them both. Few people can invest their time to pray, to practice love and patience and also have time left to look really good and smell good. Oh, and let me not forget: women's body changes after giving birth, so most women will gain a little weight. It must be understood. However, not caring for their bodies that they become obese after giving birth should be discouraged. Just wanted to provide a different perspective here.
Hey, I think what you said is pretty decent. However, in Islam, women don't have to blindly obey, and as I discussed in the video, you can disagree, and you can advise, but do it with respect, privately. We don't expect our women to be robots. An intellectual woman will know how to respectfully disagree with her man. And a decent man also will know how to tell her wife that she is wrong. It goes both ways.
In regards to intimacy, in Islam we have 30 days where we fast called 'Ramadan' and we abstain from that also during the day, and I would say Muslims are pretty used to being disciplined and abstaining from things, just praying 5 times a day tells a lot about how a person is disciplined, not drinking alcohol, and abstaining from other sins also tells a lot about how a Muslim is disciplined and the amount of self-control he possesses. You see Muslims living in Western countries where everything is easy and allowed, but they will still abstain from many things. I think this is a sign that us Muslims have strong self-control, and we are pretty good at controlling our urges.
So, feeling tired for a few nights or needing time to recover after childbirth are entirely reasonable and understandable reasons for abstaining from intimacy. What I aimed to discuss is the potential misuse of intimacy as a bargaining tool or its abandonment in relationships. It's crucial to maintain a healthy balance. Thanks again for sharing your perspective and thoughts.
@@Fuadtalks I see your point, but from Muslim women I understand they have to obey blindly. That's what I've heard and I think that's what you said in the video, 'cause the husband knows best. Also, from my experience and from what I've heard, Muslim men don't abstain from intimacy. They are the easiest lovers. They will offer you sex if no one else will. I talk from experience, although I haven't done it. I was offered sex by them. Your Ramadan is easy as regards to sex. During the day, most people work, so you can't have sex. Our Christian fasting, which is almost half a year, means total abstaining. No sex, not even after the sunset. Now that is fasting, because it pushes you to focus on prayer, on discipline, it avoids having so many babies, that many families don't have money to raise. I don't know where you have money to raise so many children and educate them in the Arab world. In the West, people don't have so much money. And if one partner cannot abstain, the next fasting period, that partner should sacrifice himself/herself and fast.
Still haven't come across a Christian who fasts half a year. In terms of birthrates, many countries are facing a population decline, an issue our society doesn't experience. In some countries, more people are dying than being born. God tells us in the Qur'an that sustenance comes from Him. We don't have to worry about how we will feed our children; this is taken care of. In Islam, every person is required to give a portion of their wealth to those in need. This is also how we function as a society. Poverty still exists, but refraining from having children isn't the solution. :)
@@FuadtalksI believe that there are poorly fed children everywhere. We, as small children, were not fed properly, and you can see that in the development of our teeth, because the parents did not have money. I also agree that not having children is not an option, but fasting and abstaining from sex in the fasting period is an option. I know in Islam you are not informed about other religions (I was shocked, that a Muslim man did not know what nuns and monks are, so knowledge about other religions is almost 0), but now you find out: Orthodox Christians fast about half a year in total and that includes almost vegan fast with fish allowed on some feast days and no sex. This is Orthodox Christianity. If you didn't meet any Christian, that means they were not practising Christians. Just like in Islam they say they are Muslim, but they sleep around as much as they can with as many women as they can, so they are not practising. And there are some who say they are not Muslim, but then they come from Arab countries and the religion is ingrained in them, so they live Muslim. Thanks for your comment.
When it comes down to respect for your husband in the sexual sense. It is a continuous process of open communication on wants, needs, likes, dislikes and expectations. The willingness from both parties to work at it and make it exciting. Then it definitely won’t feel like a chore🌼
When women get pregnant their body changes and may look as pretty
I like what you say a lot except with pregnancy. When pregnant the body changes in many ways- one of them being hormonal. The body is designed to put on a lot of weight because of breastfeeding. It can also be dangerous for woman to exercise in certain ways and could have long lasting damage- for around 2 years they need to work out carefully and in a way that supports their pelvic health. Lastly caring for an infant is a difficult job. The father will have to help out to give his wife time to shower, eat, relax, etc if he wants her to take care of her appearance. Birth is a major trauma on the body and if there were complications then even moreso the mother may have difficulty. I've heard of women begging their husbands to hold the baby for fifteen minutes because they haven't been able to shower for days. Also fathers will find they have increased oestrogen levels after their baby is born as a way to store fat- this is because with evolution parents that put on more weight after birth would be less likely to starve to death. So whilst looking after yourself is important, its equally important to have realistic expectations I think.
Thanks for your thoughtful comment! Absolutely agree with your points, what I meant was addressing situations where some women may neglect their health, diet, and appearance entirely after having kids. Appreciate your input!
@@Fuadtalks Thank you for the reply!