We had a heated argument with a special Arab friend two days ago. I was thinking of sending him a message but opted for a silent treatment. Two days after he was freaking out why I was no longer communicating. I actually had to put boundaries and limit my interaction with him even if we knew each other for 10 years. It gave us more space to think and recollect ourselves. What I like about this video was the part to "self distract" oneself. I started doing productive things for myself, and gotten busy with them. So, I was totally fine not able to communicate with him. But yeah...reconnecting takes time, and even disconnecting permanently takes a lot of thinking especially if the person is important to you.
Just some little advice from someone who’s been divorced and did the meeting of new people thing for several years after . Always be upfront with intentions you have at that moment , and upfront and honest if you just were not feeling it after spending time with them. Or even if you’re unsure. It’s very important. Women tend to have a tad more insecurities that come natural , are from past experiences, and even traumatic childhoods. The best advice I have is always just be brutally honest upfront , as it’s better than allowing things to be unsaid . Kind of like it’s better to rip the bandaid off rather slowly take it off. Edited to add: because I dealt with several situations in a row of ghosting and what not after my divorce , and because I am a single mother and didn’t want my children (they are teenagers) being introduced to anyone I wasn’t wanting to marry , I just decided to not try to meet anyone new for myself until my 14 year old graduates high school. Don’t have the mental energy for the games lol
Yep. I give the benefit of the doubt because I understand life happens. I don't know if they are dead or not. Lol. Once I discover that ignoring or ghosting me is or was intentional, I delete their number and say bye. I don't condone the cowardly act.
Wow! This words are so wise. This applies not only to women but men as well, to situations beyond romantic relationships but also friendship in general. One of the best videos made on the topic.
Thank you Fuad! Me and boyfriend haven't been talking for months and the worst part is that we are in a long-distance relationship. It was boyfriend being the one to not talk to me which was really sad. I had to give a lot of space although it's not my fault. After not talking for 4 months, he told me that I did nothing wrong. He blamed himself saying that he f*cked up and a sucker. Then he said he will contact me soon after work. But there was nothing happening. I don't get it! My biggest prayer is that I hope we can reconcile despite the silent treatment I was given in a long-distance relationship 😢🙏
If he didn't reach out, he doesn't care about you. Actions speak louder than words. You are not a prioriy. Take the advise of distract yourself by using your time to heal, improve yourself, explore new hobbies, make good friends, spend time with family and overall, nurture relationship with God and people who truly care about you.
Why didn’t I get this video 4 weeks ago?😭 I sent a text saying it was nice getting to know them and I apologize if I offended them. I wish I said nothing.
It's okay. The idea isn't to avoid reaching out entirely; it's about having more things on your mind than them. You were authentic, you showed you cared, and reached out. Now, you're focusing on other aspects of your life.
Now Allhamdellulah, I helped them so much with money's. Different country. He asked me want to marry. After more time I asked them about my money's back. He stop to communication. I asked them I need my money's for umra me and my children. He give not answer. Jordanien men in Tuerkey. He disappointed to me. I h to going my way to Allah forward. I think he was a liar and fake. We are was much time be together often in tuerky. In this Dunya is also much bad negativ persons in this time.
That's not what I said. First give him some time, then wait and see. If after a month or two he doesn't reach out, you can reach out first (if you still want to have something with him). When you reach out after giving it sometime, he'll more likely be positive. And overal it depends on why you stopped talking in the first place, the person who caused the drama is usually the one who needs to reach out. However, you can always be the wise one. And a break before reaching out is important, it gives both parties time to reflect.
We had a heated argument with a special Arab friend two days ago. I was thinking of sending him a message but opted for a silent treatment. Two days after he was freaking out why I was no longer communicating. I actually had to put boundaries and limit my interaction with him even if we knew each other for 10 years. It gave us more space to think and recollect ourselves.
What I like about this video was the part to "self distract" oneself. I started doing productive things for myself, and gotten busy with them. So, I was totally fine not able to communicate with him.
But yeah...reconnecting takes time, and even disconnecting permanently takes a lot of thinking especially if the person is important to you.
I often resist reaching out first. That’s something I need to work on. I judge situation and think negative
So true, it is important to protect yourself from toxic relationships, and be careful to narcisisst people. In love and in friendship.
Just some little advice from someone who’s been divorced and did the meeting of new people thing for several years after .
Always be upfront with intentions you have at that moment , and upfront and honest if you just were not feeling it after spending time with them. Or even if you’re unsure. It’s very important. Women tend to have a tad more insecurities that come natural , are from past experiences, and even traumatic childhoods. The best advice I have is always just be brutally honest upfront , as it’s better than allowing things to be unsaid . Kind of like it’s better to rip the bandaid off rather slowly take it off.
Edited to add: because I dealt with several situations in a row of ghosting and what not after my divorce , and because I am a single mother and didn’t want my children (they are teenagers) being introduced to anyone I wasn’t wanting to marry , I just decided to not try to meet anyone new for myself until my 14 year old graduates high school. Don’t have the mental energy for the games lol
You are right. I was not ignored, it seemed to me like that 😅
Yep. I give the benefit of the doubt because I understand life happens. I don't know if they are dead or not. Lol. Once I discover that ignoring or ghosting me is or was intentional, I delete their number and say bye. I don't condone the cowardly act.
Wow your videos are like therapy and mentoring at the same time❤❤
I think I found my spirit guide😂💐
Thats using diplomacy
Thank you this helped me so much. I really appreciate your advice 😊.
You are welcome!
I really appreciate this, video so nice more lessons
A great video Fuad. Really needed this! You have beautifully explained the things that are actually very calming and convincing.
Glad it was helpful!
Wow I really hope i see your videos before having a boyfriend.
How you speak and explain makes an eye opening and knowledgeable ❤️
Very well explained..may be we need healing thts why they repel
Wow! This words are so wise.
This applies not only to women but men as well, to situations beyond romantic relationships but also friendship in general.
One of the best videos made on the topic.
Glad you found it this way. I appreciate the feedback! )
Thank you Fuad!
Me and boyfriend haven't been talking for months and the worst part is that we are in a long-distance relationship. It was boyfriend being the one to not talk to me which was really sad. I had to give a lot of space although it's not my fault.
After not talking for 4 months, he told me that I did nothing wrong. He blamed himself saying that he f*cked up and a sucker. Then he said he will contact me soon after work. But there was nothing happening. I don't get it!
My biggest prayer is that I hope we can reconcile despite the silent treatment I was given in a long-distance relationship 😢🙏
If he didn't reach out, he doesn't care about you. Actions speak louder than words. You are not a prioriy.
Take the advise of distract yourself by using your time to heal, improve yourself, explore new hobbies, make good friends, spend time with family and overall, nurture relationship with God and people who truly care about you.
🙏
Now i realize because this video he ignoring me because of jealousy and he ignoring me 2week
Why didn’t I get this video 4 weeks ago?😭 I sent a text saying it was nice getting to know them and I apologize if I offended them. I wish I said nothing.
It's okay. The idea isn't to avoid reaching out entirely; it's about having more things on your mind than them.
You were authentic, you showed you cared, and reached out. Now, you're focusing on other aspects of your life.
Now Allhamdellulah, I helped them so much with money's. Different country. He asked me want to marry. After more time I asked them about my money's back. He stop to communication.
I asked them I need my money's for umra me and my children. He give not answer. Jordanien men in Tuerkey. He disappointed to me. I h to going my way to Allah forward.
I think he was a liar and fake.
We are was much time be together often in tuerky.
In this Dunya is also much bad negativ persons in this time.
Why should a woman reach out first?
That's not what I said.
First give him some time, then wait and see.
If after a month or two he doesn't reach out, you can reach out first (if you still want to have something with him).
When you reach out after giving it sometime, he'll more likely be positive.
And overal it depends on why you stopped talking in the first place, the person who caused the drama is usually the one who needs to reach out.
However, you can always be the wise one.
And a break before reaching out is important, it gives both parties time to reflect.
😭 are you a doctor?