A guy texting me everyday. Mind you we dont live in the same country. He booked a flight. Only to cancel it. So a guy consistently texting you doesn't mean a thing.
I thought about being a coach, but it would eventually drive me crazy when the person doesn’t listen, doesn’t take action, doesn’t want to do something ‘hard’, uses Yeah but over and over. I had to learn all this stuff the hard way, it’s not like today where this information is readily available (although some if the coaching advice out there doesn’t serve women)
After so many years of this I stopped caring once I reached 40. 47 now still don’t care. I don’t need to date marry or have sex it’s great. That’s the secret ladies once you realize these guys aren’t important at all and how screwed up they are you lose attraction for the whole thing. I make good money, got a nice house and car, my daughter lives with me we have fun we’re best friends, we got 3 fur babies at home and we’re just doing us and it’s a very happy content peaceful life, I don’t have anyone causing me stress. That’s what you need to do
Nice one Elliot - was stuck in a situationship for 6 months and came out devastated and half-dead. Literally got played by an EUM. Can you make more of these videos just so we ladies can avoid going into these situations? It freaking sucks!
Invest in yourself, your life, happiness, your peace.. do inner work and healing. Find God ❤ you will level up so much that you will never attract a man like that ever again! Write down your standards, boundaries. Have a list for ‘husband material’ prepare to be a wife, not a casual date or long term girlfriend ❤ you got this!! Know your worth. God made you whole and complete on your own. Once you realise this your confidence will skyrocket. A man needs to ADD value to your life x
Do not constantly text a man. Don't have him on your socials either. In actuality don't even do WhatsApp or any other "free app" unless necessary. Stick to phone calls and SMS texts. This does help..... Limit his access to you.
That's just throwing away the baby with the bath water. 😂 Or destroying the internet because 0.002% people sell drugs online. So no more youtube, no more Uber eats, no more articles, more stock market, the global economy crashes. I think most women don't understand that if you have defective strategies for picking men, you are just shooting yourself in the foot.
What about when he goes from A toward B consistently, for months, without sex (his choice)? Then just before we reach B, he slams on the brakes and won't talk about what the problem is.
We were inseparable for 18 months… I had my own dresser drawers, closet, code to the front door, sooo many gifts from him, lots of family activities with the kids, i watched the kids and dog while he was gone for work, he was willing to tend to me when sick… but he kept saying we weren’t dating or bf/gf. So a lot of bf/gf energy and we were best friends I thought. I was very much in & devoted. Guess he used me to fill a void. But why spend all your time and so much money that you don’t have??! I had to walk away because he went back to a married woman & is waiting to see if she gets divorced. I’ve talked to her & she doesn’t want him but likes the attention. I’m out… but it hurt like a mf. We were best friends imo. She been stringing him along for 6 years! I can never go back as I lost all respect for him. Doing me and focusing on me & I look sooo good!
I don’t know if you reply to comments or can make a video about this but I have a question. I’m in a long distance relationship, and when I’m with him we have the best time and we are really connected. The thing is that every time we say goodbye he is very quiet the first couple of days, I barely hear from him. I know he gets sad when one of us has to leave, and he expresses sadness and how much he is going to miss me. I completely trust him so I’m not thinking that he’s cheating or anything, I’m just wondering if it’s normal that he is taking space after being together, maybe it’s a good thing.
@@Sunlightsam24 I’m not very worried, because this happens everytime, but after a couple of days everything goes back to normal. It’s like he is getting used to being apart again
I waited 3 months and now he’s playing games 🙃 I’m going to tell him that if he needs to pull back that’s his choice but I need to stay fairly detached and I can’t do that while still having sex. It feels like dying.
@@KaylaNoelle1 Immediately stop being intimate. You need to make it official and even after becoming official you need to control the sex . Only when you feel secure he can have it.
@@KaylaNoelle1 Obviously I don’t know details of why he appears to be pulling away, I would lean back, move your attention away from him to your own life/interests/activities and let him contact you first. He will feel a shift in energy. When he contacts you, be light and breezy, no confrontation, mentioning of where he’s been, etc. See what he says and the next steps he takes. If he asks for Netflix and chill, or some version of a get together where it’s easy to have sex, either you already have plans or let him know you’d prefer to go out, and make a suggestion of what to do in public. Some men do pull back after sex, like a rubber band. My two cents! (If you guys aren’t exclusive, where it’s NOT assumed, make sure you’re keeping yourself open to other suitors. Win/win)
I cut him off following your coaching, and 2 weeks later, he texted me.. that's today.. I still have feeling for him.. should I reply or still ignoring him?
A guy texting me everyday. Mind you we dont live in the same country. He booked a flight. Only to cancel it. So a guy consistently texting you doesn't mean a thing.
Wow that’s so interesting… did he say why he cancelled it?
100% he never booked the flight in the first place
I hear that! Was talking to a guy from another country also, he gave dates to come and then ghosted. Smfh
@@podcasts2321
Wow
Means nothing. Texting is low effort, lazy, addictive. Getting that dopamine hit and attention. Cancelling on you is absolute DISRESPECT! Block..
lol i like how he shouts at us ladies, almost like a big brother
I like this about Elliot, he is almost an older brother to us. And again, we need a wake up call😅
hahah love him
@blossomm29 Natalie Clarice also yells at us, it’s hilarious and effective lol😅
I thought about being a coach, but it would eventually drive me crazy when the person doesn’t listen, doesn’t take action, doesn’t want to do something ‘hard’, uses Yeah but over and over. I had to learn all this stuff the hard way, it’s not like today where this information is readily available (although some if the coaching advice out there doesn’t serve women)
After so many years of this I stopped caring once I reached 40. 47 now still don’t care. I don’t need to date marry or have sex it’s great. That’s the secret ladies once you realize these guys aren’t important at all and how screwed up they are you lose attraction for the whole thing. I make good money, got a nice house and car, my daughter lives with me we have fun we’re best friends, we got 3 fur babies at home and we’re just doing us and it’s a very happy content peaceful life, I don’t have anyone causing me stress. That’s what you need to do
I think you've won at life 😊
I LOVE THIS PERSPECTIVE and APPROACH... Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for the clarification. I'm 70 years young and your advice helps me to know the truth about a man.
I pray there is a gentleman out there for you that will treat you right ❤
"I beat the shit outta that horse there" 😂 that just made my day lol 😅
Nice one Elliot - was stuck in a situationship for 6 months and came out devastated and half-dead. Literally got played by an EUM. Can you make more of these videos just so we ladies can avoid going into these situations? It freaking sucks!
You going to call him out on social media?
@@BrooklynBaby100 nah ofcourse not i’m over it and moving on
Invest in yourself, your life, happiness, your peace.. do inner work and healing. Find God ❤ you will level up so much that you will never attract a man like that ever again! Write down your standards, boundaries. Have a list for ‘husband material’ prepare to be a wife, not a casual date or long term girlfriend ❤ you got this!! Know your worth. God made you whole and complete on your own. Once you realise this your confidence will skyrocket. A man needs to ADD value to your life x
@@Braveh3artGirl thank you that’s sweet of you
@@Sparksflymich This scum needs to be called out imo
Do not constantly text a man. Don't have him on your socials either. In actuality don't even do WhatsApp or any other "free app" unless necessary. Stick to phone calls and SMS texts. This does help..... Limit his access to you.
That's just throwing away the baby with the bath water. 😂 Or destroying the internet because 0.002% people sell drugs online.
So no more youtube, no more Uber eats, no more articles, more stock market, the global economy crashes.
I think most women don't understand that if you have defective strategies for picking men, you are just shooting yourself in the foot.
You are by far one of the best coaches out. I hope young women see your videos, so they don’t have to end up with a broken heart! ❤
Yep…Elliot you are a cool dude. Thanks again for changing my life.🍀
I go buy some snacks to drink and eat like some juice and chips or crackers and then me and my friends watch a couple of these videos.
your videos are my pre workout lol
What about when he goes from A toward B consistently, for months, without sex (his choice)? Then just before we reach B, he slams on the brakes and won't talk about what the problem is.
Might be liking dudes...look into.
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💯Thanks...needed to hear this to remind myself today ! 👏
I'm definitely sharing this . Thank You ...
We were inseparable for 18 months… I had my own dresser drawers, closet, code to the front door, sooo many gifts from him, lots of family activities with the kids, i watched the kids and dog while he was gone for work, he was willing to tend to me when sick… but he kept saying we weren’t dating or bf/gf. So a lot of bf/gf energy and we were best friends I thought. I was very much in & devoted. Guess he used me to fill a void. But why spend all your time and so much money that you don’t have??! I had to walk away because he went back to a married woman & is waiting to see if she gets divorced. I’ve talked to her & she doesn’t want him but likes the attention. I’m out… but it hurt like a mf. We were best friends imo. She been stringing him along for 6 years! I can never go back as I lost all respect for him. Doing me and focusing on me & I look sooo good!
Great content Elliot 😊
I just LOVE U hahaha u make so much sense!
You’re looking really cute this day Elliot… 🥰😍
Ugh! He does ALL of them but 8+ months wants nothing.
I don’t know if you reply to comments or can make a video about this but I have a question. I’m in a long distance relationship, and when I’m with him we have the best time and we are really connected. The thing is that every time we say goodbye he is very quiet the first couple of days, I barely hear from him. I know he gets sad when one of us has to leave, and he expresses sadness and how much he is going to miss me. I completely trust him so I’m not thinking that he’s cheating or anything, I’m just wondering if it’s normal that he is taking space after being together, maybe it’s a good thing.
Sounds like his pattern, good noticing. Hopefully he’s coming to you
@@Sunlightsam24 I’m not very worried, because this happens everytime, but after a couple of days everything goes back to normal. It’s like he is getting used to being apart again
@@mehwkd2332 Yep that makes sense…still, he should be coming to you most of the time. I’m not a big LD fan, but I do wish you luck!
What about guys with personality disorders- I dated a bipolar guy who would go through periods of being manic depressive and pull away
He is a liability not an asset.
They all have personality disorders, some just take longer for their true colors to show
This is so sad. It's all true. 😂
Not he doesn't want to see you 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 THANK YOU
Wait for sex at least 7-8dates and see his reaction... that's the first test he needs to take.
If you're dating for marriage, sx is for husbands only. Marriage is real commitment.
I waited 3 months and now he’s playing games 🙃 I’m going to tell him that if he needs to pull back that’s his choice but I need to stay fairly detached and I can’t do that while still having sex. It feels like dying.
@@KaylaNoelle1 Immediately stop being intimate. You need to make it official and even after becoming official you need to control the sex . Only when you feel secure he can have it.
@@KaylaNoelle1 stop giving wife benefits at girlfriend price. Date to marry.
@@KaylaNoelle1 Obviously I don’t know details of why he appears to be pulling away, I would lean back, move your attention away from him to your own life/interests/activities and let him contact you first. He will feel a shift in energy. When he contacts you, be light and breezy, no confrontation, mentioning of where he’s been, etc. See what he says and the next steps he takes. If he asks for Netflix and chill, or some version of a get together where it’s easy to have sex, either you already have plans or let him know you’d prefer to go out, and make a suggestion of what to do in public. Some men do pull back after sex, like a rubber band. My two cents! (If you guys aren’t exclusive, where it’s NOT assumed, make sure you’re keeping yourself open to other suitors. Win/win)
I cut him off following your coaching, and 2 weeks later, he texted me.. that's today.. I still have feeling for him.. should I reply or still ignoring him?
@christinaahn1287 what did he say?! 😮
Don't get emotional. Talk without attachments. Because he has another backup who isn't sure about. That's why he is back.
@@BrooklynBaby100 He asked how I'm doing and hope things going well. sounds like he texted me to get his metal relief by hearing from me...
Ignore that man.
❤❤😂
First
Lmao okay thank you 🥲 but he said he sees me as a gf. Idek what to think anymore
He’s not interested.