It's the autism at play haha. It's a two-sided coin. You don't necessarily pick up on social cues but that also means that sometimes you're completely unaware of the nasty too haha
Yeah, I’m gonna say this is somebody with autism it’s not a good thing please don’t strive for this energy…. It’s not that she was unbothered or blissfully unaware….. It’s that she’s autistic…. Which means she literally doesn’t comprehend; that her cousin was doing these things to spite her…. The idea of spite does not exist in her brain unless it is something overtly awful which is exactly what she was trying to say in the story that not ONCE did anything her cousin do seem to be anything but GOOD in her brain
@@Kait2478 yeah I hate when people without autism stuff like OP…. In my mind, it’s the same as wishing that you had cancer so you could get a Make-A-Wish
@@Myrathosghost What? OP is autistic? Also, wishing to be unbothered by/unaware of drama isn't a bad thing. I think comparing it to wishing for cancer is really harsh and unfair.
Get a grip on this thread! They said they “strive for this energy”. This is a perfectly reasonable comment and saying it’s akin to wishing you had cancer is fooking insane! As an autistic person I can’t stand this martyrdom energy. I repeat…..get a grip!
The amount of times my autism has pissed people off who were trying to be petty is magical. The silent treatment is the funniest, don't threaten me with a good time 😂
2 of my 3 kids have autism. My daughter frequently defends people from one of the "mean girls" in her 8th grade class and when the girl asks "why are you defending her? She's not even your friend. And you defending her is not going to make her your friend. " My daughter just responds "They don't need to be my friend for me to be a decent person. Your problem is that your friendship is transactional." Then just walks away. 😂
When I was a kid a girl tried to control me by saying “if you don’t do what I say I won’t be your FRIEND ANYMORE.” And I said “ok, we’re not friends then” and just walked away😂
My sister is an addict who’s nomadic and she lost her kids to CPS over 20 years ago. She tells EVERYONE who will listen that I’m the addict, lost all my kids to CPS, my husband left me, and I’m selling myself for drugs lol. I’m a grandma, former nurse, wildlife and landscape photography enthusiast who’s been married for 27 years. We have 3 sons who are all higher educated, married, and they’re all financially successful and are upper middle class people. They’re all smart, kind, funny, normal, nature loving hikers, kayakers and they all fish. One plays golf and one plays disk golf. We are always together on holidays and we’re the most boringly normal people ever but we’re close and we love each other. But apparently I sneak off to be a drug addicted hooker sometimes 😂
OP being blissfully oblivious in the first story is the cherry on top of the cake. Imagine being as pathetic as the cousin while the person you're envious of is just happily living their life lmao
@@boogermaiden waaay too true 😆😆 when looking back on my time at school, I just see a giant questionmark when it came to the behaviour of the other students.
Yeah when she read that I had a huge smile on my face. As someone with adhd I really can’t control it, trust me I’d rather no forget important shit😂 people like Andrew and Rebecca act like they are the most perfect people and look down on other who make literal tiny mistakes. Really made me happy she forgot her wallet. I hope she felt like an a hole too😂
That first dress looks nothing like a wedding dress and definitely would never be mistaken for a wedding gown. I have a feeling the bride is projecting.
She was just mad that her new hubby got wood looking at a pregnant woman, which she was not. Even if that dress had been white with black pattern (reversed values) it would not have been considered wearing white. It was a dress, not a gown. Bride was/is delulu.
It was never the dress. The cousin went to extreme lengths of have a theme of "Cousin's upcoming wedding is just a cheap knock off of mine". The flaw in her plan was that A) OP canceled that event, so nobody knew the OP was doing what cousin thought was the poor man's version, and B) The OP wasn't picking up on the theme herself.
I used to weigh 369lbs, and only parent. I had weight loss surgery when my son turned 18, I started dating, my son was really happy for me. He and my husband hit it off. I lost over 250lbs, got engaged, and had a job promotion. The amount of negativity, from people who I never had issues with left me flabber was gasted. 13 yrs later, I'm happy married, my son works for government, and I'm semi retired. I did make myself smaller with weight loss but my personality got bigger ❤
I bet OP's cousin was FUMING when she announced her engagement at OP's engagement party and OP was actually happy for her instead of hurt. She's absolutely been in a one-sided competition her whole life. 💀
And I love how blissfully unaware autism makes it. Like, if it weren’t for autism, the mean girls in middle school probably would’ve won a looooong time ago. But the best revenge is a life well lived. ETA: and a happiness that projects itself outward.
@@erikarussell1142 lol I feel this so hard. I'm AuDHD and I definitely sometimes wonder how many times I've been completely oblivious that someone couldn't stand me. Meanwhile I'm just tootling along through life, minding my own business, happy as a clam. 💀
It's like yeah I'm over here trying to be horrible to you and you are sitting over there not noticing nor caring. Nothing makes horrible people like this more angry then when all of their antics to piss you off have no effect whatsoever.
"I'm gonna put her far away from the ceremony and closer to the stinky bathroom 😈😈😈" "Aww, thanks so much for thinking of my pregnancy bladder. You're so thoughtful 👼🙏" Love this energy.
As someone who also has autism and ADHD, I feel so much for Holly. I’m chronically late and forgetful, and the people around me who are understanding enough to be patient with me make all the difference in the world. There aren’t many, but they’re all treasures.
Hey listen! I’m not neurodivergent but this happens to me. I may not be chronically late ALL the time but my bad habit is being a bit flaky/late bc I overestimate how much time I have 😂 don’t be hard on yourself. Or let anyone make you feel like crap for a faux pa because it happens to all of us. And I know people who have way worse habits than being late so keep being you!
Oh man that entire thing with Holly was resonating so painfully with me and then when it got to “she struggles with autism and ADHD” it was like a punch to the gut. The bullying, the isolation, the ostracizing, the struggle to get into the crowd when you can’t even tell if you’re being too “annoying” or not. Poor girl. Op is the person everyone needs and I wish I had when I was younger.
When they told her she was uninvited to the wedding, I'm sure she was just so disappointed - like you would be disappointed in a huge cold sore appearing on your wedding day!! Gee, I'm hurt, upset, and deeply disappointed - honest I am! (Fingers crossed behind your back disappointed!!😂)
I’m lucky to have that kind of friendships now, but it took decades of girls like Rebecca to get through first. I watch my daughter struggle with it now and hope she sees my friends as a model of how to be treated as a friend and vice versa.
Yeah as an AuDHD fem that story hits HARD. And yeah just cause people don't know doesn't make it okay for them to shun us for being different. I try to be understanding that I'm awkward but it never stops hurting when people never bother to get to know you because of it So nice to see them sticking up for her warms the heart
I don't understand how they didn't realize she was different in that way. I can usually tell if someone is very shy or has qualities that are awkward. Heck, I'm awkward! So I talk to them. 🤷
@DawnKellyMedia really appreciate people like you! I find a lot of people feel that initial awkwardness and don't investigate further. Then if they do, they start to find the less endearing quirks annoying and make us out to be disrespectful and childish. Everyone loves the quirky autistic info dumping their special interest, but the moment they have a Nonverbal meltdown because they've had a long day of socializing and the bar is too loud, they're a buzzkill and dramatic. People just sometimes can't fathom that these things impact my body as much as they do, so they assume I'm doing it because I'm immature or selfish or dramatic. Especially if you have both ADHD and ASD, because very frequently I have conflicting needs that can be particular to navigate.
The ptsd flashbacks as an autistic chick who doesn't realize everyone has their own game of thrones level hatred in their heads while im literally just trying to walk straight and not talk about a weird hobby. The games people play with SO LITTLE INFORMATION are astounding, and its like they dont have the ability to ask questions. They just assume!!
As someone with ADD and being on the spectrum myself, both of these really hit home for me. The second one, in particular, takes me back to being in middle school and my interactions with my classmates. The one who made an effort to reach out to me is my best friend to this very day. We need more people like Charlotte in this world. ❤
It wasn't the black dress (with white flowers) the bride was pissed about. She was pissed because OP was pregnant and was getting some of the attention, albeit not on purpose. The cousin having OP sit in the back reminded me of something that happened to me. Just a little back story. My husband's younger brother married a real piece of work. She was furious with me and my husband for getting married before them even though they had been dating longer...by two weeks. My husband was his brother's best man but I was not allowed any role in the wedding. I was not allowed in any of the photos because I was fat. I was six months pregnant. For the ceremony, I was seated in the very back row of the church even though there were several completely empty rows of pews between me and the rest of the guests. As she and her new hubby walked back down the aisle to exit the sanctuary, she stopped right in front of me. With a shit eating grin, she said "Sorry but you know you deserved it for being so selfish and getting married before me and having the first grandchild". I just smiled and said "Jeannie (yes, that's her real name) you are so right. It was so selfish of me. Tell ya what. I'll let you get the first divorce". She stomped off with a face like thunder. The icing on the cake...they divorced sixteen months later because he caught her cheating. She married five more times. I guess the last one took because they have been married for several years.
Karma aligned the universe so that you could plant a thought in her head that ate away at her until it came true LMFAO that's kind of fucking hilarious
@@got_some_screws_looseOMG- I absolutely LOVE the comeback!! "I'll let you get the first divorce!!" And SHE DID!! KARMA IS A BITCH - ABD SHE REMEMBERS EVERYTHING!! ❤😂😂😂❤
“I feel so upstaged by this baby… She’s really tryna steal my spotlight with her lil baby toessss..” HAHAH CHARLOTTE!!! That was hilarious 😂 I am still audibly laughing out loud rn 😂😂❤
I hate it when I'm jealous of a baby and they're busy wanting to be fed and changed, like they have needs unrelated to me. Rude baby! Learn the day you're born that your life is about me, not you. You finished high school and met your lifelong love at 14? Rude baby! You became an NP to help others and helped me graduate? Rude baby! We need to normalize shaming these rude babies who be out here living life like it was born to them. Can you imagine if cousin has a child and is jealous of her own baby for being born the same year she has a birthday? That's how calendars work.
I definitely had that reaction to a baby. My baby sibling. When I was _three_ You know, an age where you're just a selfish little butt. Now we get on alright, and there are definitely things I'm jealous about, that they do better than me, but that very much cuts both ways. They're the sporty, athletic one, and I've always had a quicker mind. They play a load of instruments, and I have a stronger singing voice (by which I generally mean louder, perk of being shaped like a barrel, I have a great lung capacity), they're much better at drawing, whereas I have the patience for embroidery
Ya i think that's what the bride is actually mad about. How dare you be pregnant at MY wedding!!! Dear lord these bridezillas got me eating a costco size box of popcorn lol😊
These are always the most fascinating stories for me haha wearing a white wedding dress is rare in my culture and chances of upstaging the bride are next to none. I'd be more impressed if someone actually managed to. 😂😂😂
@@diamcole in my culture, all the young girls coordinate so that we all are wearing the same traditional dress or clothes. We have a ton of those from different regions so if we are close to the bride and like her enough we coordinate 😂. Except for the white wedding dress (little girls do thou, it's very cute), we ARE aloud to wear white. No one ever even claimed we were trying to "upstage" the bride. I don't like white so I never really wear it but at least a couple of people are wearing white to the wedding. However, if I was living in a culture where people have agreed, it is weird to do that, then i too would probably not like it, since i would see bad intent in the action rather than just a dress.
@ as a believer it’s not sin. Certainly not in the Bible. Americans chose white to represent “ purity “ as in the a virgin. It’s not sin to where white not even close. It’s tradition based on what I mentioned. No one can out shine a bride regardless. Is it in poor taste yes. Do people know this yes. But it’s not sin
Regarding the last story, I am ALWAYS that person at a party. Off in a corner, looking uncomfortable. Usually I just end up playing on my phone to at least make it look like I’m doing something. I remember so many parties I’ve gone to where I’m isolated, not knowing anyone, or know anyone well enough to join in the conversation. In fact, several times I’ve ran a test. You have a circle of friend, talking, myself included. Eventually, as the conversation goes forward, the circle gets smaller and smaller until you, and you alone, are now outside the circle of conversation. And no one seems to have noticed. At that point, I usually walk away to go sit on a sofa or stand in the corner until I’ve stayed the obligatory period of time and can leave. That, and you get interrupted regularly while you are talking. To the point that you just stop participating in the conversation. 😕. I feel for Holly.
I'm sorry that happens. That's rude. If I see someone in a corner looking shy or awkward, what can I do to help? I talk to everyone! I love meeting new people.
She also probably hated the wedding because she didn't pick her dream wedding, she picked OP's dream wedding just to spite OP. And it really set her off that OP didn't mind and her plan was ruined by OP cancelling her wedding.
I never understood people who make hate their life's central point. Isn't it better to focus on what YOU like instead of doing what you think will upset that one specific person, just because they're... what? Smarter? Prettier? Luckier? Just damn HAPPY?!
@@00r0ry You’re absolutely correct! However, this was how my narcissist MIL was. She listened to everyone to hear what someone didn’t like and then did that! After I figured her out, it was funny to see her go to lengths to do something irritating to someone! They wouldn’t even notice ! Very entertaining. Choose Love & Happiness ! Life is Great!
So "Tina" tried to rub it in OP's face by stealing HER dream wedding, wedding date, venue and dress, after OP was being kind and compassionate to her. AND her ex-hubby was being creepy to OP by saying that her "being pregnant in a dress made her look NICE" with his "Pregnancy kink" (or whatever)AND had a picture of OP in his office were HUGE red flags! Glad to know they got a divorce, but I think Tina and her creepy ex got what they deserved by the Gods of Karmic Justice, especially to Tina the Traitor.
@@CooperGal24 it’s almost like when the OP was engaged for 4 yrs the cousin just grabbed who ever to marry to “win” against her cousin, in a game only she was playing !!
It is maniacal to rush to get married, to a creep, 1-week before a relative, overspending, just to pretend that your relative copied your wedding because you're jealous of him/her. Wow! Talk about living rent-free in someone's head.
I'm also one of those who miss social ques and I've probably "missed out" on people not liking me. But, it's been more of a blessing than a curse. I am not one for schadenfreude, but sometimes... just sometimes.
Etymology of Flabbergast: The origin of the verb is uncertain but is possibly Suffolk dialectal from ‘flabby’ or ‘flap’ (to strike) + aghast. So, Charlotte, you were RIGHT!
24:09 as late diagnosed female asd this had me teary. So many experiences like this but there was no op to see what was happening and actually give a frack. The idea you need to get ppl on side when ppl give you zero chance in the first place. It is so isolating to be constantly noped on when you haven't done anything horrible or objectively wrong just ppl automatically icing you.
This!! It is so damn hard and there’s just no compassion for the situation. Some people will say “well why didn’t you just say you’re autistic” like why do I have to? So you can pity me and treat me like a child instead of being genuinely kind and treating me like an equal? Screw that!
I absolutely love how OP in the first story had all of those petty stuff being done to her and it went over her head😂. She didn't even realize someone was hating😅
And even then she only had what she thought was OPs dream wedding but it was actually a wedding that OP realized later that she would have hated. So sad.
Awe these stories make me so sad! My daughter has autism and ADHD (4th grade) and is constantly being told she's weird. She's just socially awkward and she says she's aware of it but doesn't know how to fix it. She tries so hard to be accepted by running for student council or volunteering to sing for her youth group on Sundays. I can see issues like this coming up for her. Hopefully people are more aware of the difficulties others have with social situations in the future and don't set them aside like they currently do.
No. White accents are not a white dress. A white dress with giant floral pattern isn’t white. Any dress that is not similar to a PURE (white cream champagne etc) GOWN is not considered white. STAHPIT!! 😂😂
Extra emphasis on gown too. A simple tea dress shouldn't be considered anywhere close to bride-level. (Unless you're doing, say, a beach wedding, and can't have a floor-length dress because... sand. In this instance, color AND cut are two things to watch out for.)
Here is the new rule: If the dress is 50% white or more, we check with the couple getting married just to be on the safe side If the dress is 50% white or more and gownlike, we don't wear it If the dress is 75% white or more, we don't wear it If the dress is gownlike, regardless of color, we don't wear it (unless the dress code says otherwise)
I am currently a villain in someone elses story.😅 My ex-boss's wife HATED that I worked with him because I was a WOMAN. I was the only girl at the job and had had several interactions with her that apparently she did not like. How I answered the phone, saying i was too nice. How I called my boss for an emergency at the store. It was little things like this. I told our DM about her behavior and how it affected our boss/employee relationship. I left a week later and we WORK IN THE SAME BOOKSTORE. She had a melt down when I got the job and now no one likes her at work becuse of the crazyness and this is BEFORE she ever talked to me IN PERSON! When I walked in for orientation, she had NO IDEA it was even me. Ive decided to pity her because she gets in her own way but apprently, I am just that constant rock in her shoe. Insecurity is an ugly monster.😂
I also wonder if your ex-boss has also done something to cause that insecurity. It's not always the case but I've seen crazy and insecure partners because they caught their partner doing something they shouldn't. So then they get paranoid even if their partner isn't doing anything at the moment. Or they are projecting. Or suffered it through somebody else before. Who knows lol
@@TheOMGRamen even so. If your partner is acting sneaky, you leave him. Not get angry at any woman that exist in shared space. You don't get a free pass to bully random person just because your partner treats you wrong.
1:08 Is that even a dress? Looks more like a skirt + shirt combo. Also no, you must be fishing REALLY hard to see this as anything but black with a pattern, but I guess some people just love to stir drama for no reason.
As someone that has dealt with similar situations being neurodivergent and people being mean just because they can and they notice you are different even though you are simply existing, and mean no malice and tend to miss these things, this is such a nice resolution and it’s nice to know people stick up for others like that.
I love the fact that you called the under arm giggly stuff a flabber 😂 My mom calls it her bingo wing & it has always made me laugh hahaha love you so much Charlotte!!! 🤗🩵
Mom of an autistic 5 yo here... At the tender age of 4 I witnessed my son being excluded at a party of 'friends' for his disability. It was heart breaking and I cried when I got home but not in front of my son. I so admire the people that stood with Holly in that situation and sincerely hope my son finds people like that in his life, too. Looking back at that party I should have just taken my son and left, I fantasize about doing just that and the looks on the parents faces but, alas, I can't change the past. My son was purposefully excluded and told by the birthday boy "My mom said you're not allowed to play in my room cause you might chew on my toys". Yes, my son has sensory issues and chews a lot but I know DAMN WELL that mom didn't say that. The grandmother overheard the kid say that I didn't really do much to stop the behavior.
So sorry this happened! When grandma heard this being said and didn’t correct t it…she’s in agreement with what he and obliviously the mom said!! How rude, grandma could have just gone in the room with 4 yr olds and just made sure everyone was playing well !! Sad that some adults are so uninformed about things. Just jump to conclusions about what they don’t know. I was the grandmother who just kept an eye, from a distance, to make sure kids playing was fair and fun. Easy job to love your grands and their friends!
I’m so sorry for you and your son. Silver lining, in the future if a situation occurs ( I hope it doesn’t) you will be prepared. It’s easy to be shocked by something you haven’t had to deal with before so don’t be too hard on yourself.
As a mom in a similar situation I can say that it might get better when he is in an age to choose his friends himself. A mother did send us a message to tell us how much her son liked our son and that he is glad to have him as his best friend. That he is so normal and does not try to be cool like the other kids. His friend is also neurodivergend and there are two other kids ( ADHD and Autist) and also some without any neurodivergence in their friendgroup. He has not to stay alone just have to choose his friends better (or have help doing that). Good luck and a hug. Ps.: Sometimes my son does not realise if someone is mean until someone tells him or calls it out. He is like the first OP. So maybe try not to concentrate on his "shortcomings" but give him positive reflections of things which went well and handle things like that birthday without him.
@Stigne yes, we focus on the positive with him for sure. A few weeks after this incident he was invited to another classmates party. I hesitated to take him but I'm so glad I did. He ended up being the only classmate to show up. Plus I learned this classmate is deaf and her brother is also autistic. It was a much better experience. He enjoyed the day running in the yard and jumping on the trampoline while I had a lovely visit with the birthday girls grandmother.
Honestly, with that last part, where you said that you tend to approach people that are kind of excluded on the events just to keep them some company, that's so nice. I'm usually the type of person that would rather just sit in the corner somewhere, observe the situation and maybe have a chat 1 on 1, but I'm an introvert and I'm also socially awkward and I always manage to embarrass myself when I'm with other people, so I also have a bit of anxiety when it comes to socialising. I don't really mind being on an event as much if a friend wants me to be there for them, but I'd just stay to keep them company, but I won't go out of my way to initiate anything, unless someone else approaches me first, so, likely, without someone like you, I'm probably the type of person you wouldn't want at any type of event, just having this weird stranger at the back in shadow just staring you down XD. That's fine, I don't like to go out of my house anyway. With this though, I used to be like that when I was a lot younger, maybe until I was like 12, I was also the person who'd come over to people that were excluded from the group, just all alone by themselves. One time I was on a summer camp with my best friend at the time and the two of us were the only people we knew, because everyone else was from different cities and schools. In our group of 20 girls, about 7 or 8 of them were all girls from the same school and orphanage so they knew each other very well and were pretty close - or at least in comparison. There was this one girl, that was also from that orphanage and the same class as some of them, but she seemed to always be excluded from everything and I felt a bit bad for her, because that always used to be me (and it would be me if it weren't for my only friend being there too), so I wanted to chat up with her a bit. I tend to like to be by myself to be fair, so I wanted to kind of test the water and see if she's just the type to keep for herself or is too shy to talk with anyone. When we had this evening walk to the beach (it was like an hour+ walk) it was really apparent that no one seemed to notice her being at the very back without anyone to talk to, so that's when I first spoke with her. She seemed quite surprised I spoke with her, but also appeared to like it, so we would talk quite a lot.. But I quickly realised why no one really wanted to talk to her that much, she was a bit.. Much. She'd only talk about herself, not let you finish a sentence, kept coming up to you every few minutes, overtaking all conversations you'd have with others and make these people leave, she got my number and facebook profile through other girls and kept texting me all the time, threatening she'd harm herself if I won't talk to her. She borrowed a few of my belongings without me knowing and would return them in a pretty rough state later. After two weeks of the camp, we all went back to where we came from, but even well after that, for about half a year, she kept making new accounts on facebook to keep texting me after I'd block the previous one. She was a bit crazy, not gonna lie, she'd give me some really weird vibes whenever we'd talk alone, kind of like stalker-ish, obsessive behaviours. Not gonna lie, I felt a little bit unsafe when we were face to face, although other than that pestering behaviour, there was nothing else that could've triggered this feeling. Something just told me to better avoid her. I understood well why none of her peers would want to hang out with her, she was just a little nuts. I don't go up to people like that anymore, too bad they're excluded, but you never know if they're a murderer potential X"D. I will still be nice to them and talk with them if they approach me, but I won't be making the first move, hell no.
Orphan sounds like a huge trauma and she had issues with things no one helped her. On top of that it has twisted her view on socializing and close relationships to a dark obsession and that's where hyperfocus with people is dangerous. If the baby is cast on a sidewalk, it will definitely die if no one helps. She has experienced the most traumatic thing in her life and thinks she will literally die if people abandon her. She had no tools to tune her own behavior and teens experience a lot of raw emotions like anger on top of that because they feel powerless. And what an orphan is? So yes she was in a lot of turmoil and you could have not helped her with tools that common people have.
@eh1319 Yes, I definitely could have stayed there and try to help her, but being 12, I didn't really understood what was going on. I was honestly afraid of her and I just didn't want to have to interact with her. I didn't get what was going on, but I've had other peers at my school that used to be a bit strange when it came to relationships (and they came from normal families as far as I know) so that was all I could really compare it to. I just kind of thought she was that, but more. It wasn't until much later that it kind of got to me how messed up her situation must've been.
Hello Charlotte, this is the first of your videos I've watched yet in about a week. My Nanny who always watched these with me every single time just passed away on the 18th. It doesn't feel the same watching without her, but I thank you for giving me some sense of normalcy in a time that makes me wish I could join her. ♥️ She loved you very much, and I do too, thank you for being you Char.
@@izzythequeen3148 so sorry for your loss 💔❤️ I’m so glad that the petty potato Queen could bring you some smiles and hopefully some peace in this hard time for you ❤️ much love 💕
23:00 the people that excluded holly were totally the type of people to pick up on autism/adhd when they were kids and instantly bully/isolate those other kids, and now they are repeating the same behaviours without even realising WHY. They dislike any type of behaviour that differs from a neurotypical and exclude neurodivergents because they behave “differently”. I bet they totally don’t even know she has adhd or autism and just didn’t like how different she behaved when socialising didn’t they. I can see it now, they were bullies as kids
Our son is experiencing this currently and it's one of the most difficult lessons I've ever had to teach. The boys that bully you at school, do not get the same love you do, it hurts them inside, and people that hurt inside, hurt others on the outside. Their words don't define you or change your intelligence. We work through deep breathing and understanding the world we are in together as a family ❤ How I wish I could share our Holland to help those stranded like we were at the start! Come see our Holland by clicking my windmill 🎉
I’m so glad that OP stuck by Holly in the second story. It’s easy to ignore someone who isn’t fitting in right off the bat. But if you make the effort, I find that those people end up the best friends in the long run. My Mom always said that if you want to make a new friend, talk to the person sitting alone. And she was absolutely right!
Story one shows how miserable you can get by comparing yourself to others and how trying to "outshine" someone will just show everyone how you really look. But I love OP for being genuinely happy for her - nothing stings those people more than their "victims" not realizing, lol
24:09 Gotta love when people think bullying is fine as long as the victim’s not disabled. They don’t care that they hurt people. They just don’t want to look bad
Yep crap behaviour to do to anyone. To often exclusion isn't seen as the bullying it is because "we don't all have to be friends" and ppl take that so far.
I highly hate people who say "I didn't know!" as an excuse for their behavior, truth of the matter is, you don't need to know in order to treat people with kindness. People shouldn't have to disclose personal information to you, to prevent you from being shitty for no reason. I know the guy didn't say he didn't know, but him asking if she has autism falls into the same category for me of the "I didn't know!" excuse. Everyone is so quick to jump down someone's throat for very normal, very human things that happen to all of us. We give each other no room to be human anymore.
You can tell a lot about a person based on how they treat someone they don't realize has a disability. That's why I hear a lot of late-diagnosed autistics say that it doesn't really make a difference if they disclose their diagnosis to people who are nasty; they don't care. They'll still treat you like crap.
Yeah, knowingbabout autism helps putting sone things into perspective, but if you lack the willingness to accept them as they are before and mistreat them for who they are, then anything you would have done differently otherwise wpuld have juat been preformative. A good person treats us with kindness whatever they know or we know or not!
@@GothicMaximalist All people should be treated with kindness and basic manners that you learned in First Grade!!! No matter what I hear about someone, I make my own assessment and always use kindness. Most people respond in kind. Give everyone a chance with respect and kindness. Their personalities will show themselves, treat others well until they don’t want you to, then smile and fade back. lol. Always be nice as long as you can.
@@GothicMaximalist We All have quirks !! Why point out and treat anyone badly because they’re different? We’re all different in someway! Give everyone a chance and be respectful and nice! Hopefully, America will be seeing a change in attitudes in the coming few years!!
Tbh i love Oliver's reaction on that last story.. a good man recognizes a good woman and protects her and stands by her at all costs, no matter the people/relationships he has to say goodbye to.. 💯 so happy for them..
To the first story: I have a feeling that if OP wore a full black dress and didn't have the white she would have been reprimand for wearing it. She would have be accused for something like dressing for a funeral.
Flabbers are lips (as is shut your flabbering lips) and Ghasted is shocked as in seen a ghost (a Ghast). It means left speechless with surprise or open-mouthed with astonishment. My Flabbers were Ghasted - I'm Flabberghasted.
Sometimes I ask “WHO RAISED YOU” but then I see who did and realize the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree 🤣 and if that is a white dress than I guess today I also realized I am blind 😭💀
as somebody with audhd - it’s such a blessing when people take the time to get to know you beyond your quirks and make you feel welcome in a space. too many people default to judgement or scorn, and that just makes us feel even more awkward!!
Context: we historically have worn white at our weddings to signify that the bride is "intact". Now a days its more of a tradition to show off the bride in a more wholesome way. You are not supposed to look like the bride unless the bride wants you to look a certain way. That is why no white dresses to weddings, so you dont get confused w the bride. A little bit of white on a NON WHITE dress doesnt count. 1:38
The whole white dress for the bride is a fairly new concept. In England up until the late part of the 1800's brides wore just a brand new and specially made gown to signify starting a new part of life. They were usually made of highly valuable cloth to show wealth and prosperity.
Yep the conservative have co-opted it to mean pure, but Queen Elizabeth started the white dress and the tiered white cake trend. Just like there was no such thing as an engagement ring until De Beers did their campaigns.
Same in France. I also read somewhere that in the (very Catholic) middle ages wedding dresses were often blue whenever brides (or rather their father, lets be real) wanted to signify purity, as a reference to the virgin Mary. Don't quote me on that though, my memory about where I got that from is rather fuzzy 😅
@MissPolymela they also used gold thread and beads made from precious gems to show wealth and what the bride brought to the marriage. The dowery was very important in those times.
As someone who recently met one of my boyfriend's friend groups and hearing the second story, I got extremely lucky. There were a few other couples there and a few singles, but each of them took me aside individually (or sometimes with their significant other), introduced themsleves, and we talked a bit to get to know one another. EVERYONE deserves this experience! I was profusely sweating due to the cramped bodies and the overwhelming level of anxiety I felt meeting around 10 new people all at once, but they truly made me feel welcome and loved.
Why does the first story remind me of the story you read forever ago about a couple who had someone at their wedding go into labor and give birth that night and a year later, the bride is still jealous of a baby “upstaging their wedding” and no one talking about their 1 year anniversary?? It’s a baby. If you’re jealous of a baby, you’ve got some deep issues you need to take care of
@@_danfiz right? I thought it was weird my sibling was hurt that no one got them anything for their first anniversary. I’m like, your spouse you married, they are the one who is celebrating you. Lol 😂
We seriously need to get over the idea that the bride is the only one who can look good on the wedding day. If everyone doesn't show up and show out for your wedding, then you can be sad, but ultimately, your only focus should be on having the most fantastic day ever🥰
Her vids have kept me sane while planning my wedding and I’m so happy for her and her soon to be hubby! I hope she keeps many memories private and close to their hearts, however I’m excited for whatever she chooses to share with us, her audience. I know she will be a truly stunning bride.
As someone with AuDHD like Holly, thank you for standing up and supporting her even when her disorder makes her forgetful sometimes. It means the world to those of us that never get that treatment, that theres still hope the world is changing.
Lmfao yeah I have ADHD too and if people were cutting ties with me because I am sometimes late, disorganised, and forgetful, I'd have no friends. Not that I don't try really hard to overcome all these struggles, but sometimes you can try and try and still mess up, and some patience and understanding goes a long way. That group was really channeling their inner high school bullies
Ugh no doubt!! I am cursed with chronic lateness. I’m fully aware, & i’ve tried like hell to “fix” it. But the fact is, i’m terribly shy & awkward to the point of agoraphobic. I HATE leaving the house! I will torture myself over every pimple or stray hair, will change my outfit 12 times.. I am convinced all eyes are on me in the worst, most judgmental way (tho i KNOW they aren’t!). & then, inevitably, i feel terrible for being late. I’m a mess.. but i’m still a wonderful person, damnit! 😂
I dealt with an issue like this recently, and the situation escalated, resulting in my ending a 30-year friendship. I was diagnosed with ASD last year at age 39; the testing for ADHD came back inconclusive (I was late to the test, so we weren’t able to complete all of it… 🤦🏾). Given the symptoms, I strongly think I have ADHD and/or my chronic illnesses, PTSD, and grief have changed my brain. Either way, some folks seem to attribute our lateness, disorganization, and forgetfulness to personal failings-even with knowledge of all we live with. I’ve recently decided to stop trying to seek understanding from certain people. It’s exhausting.
@@andalistark5416 ❤❤❤ You're doing your best! Don't let yourself get agoraphobic. Even if you just go outside to walk around the block by yourself. Your friends and family love you, so what if you're late? You're a valuable person. Don't be so hard on yourself.
@@adradupuis6770 I have realised over time that mine do too XD either diagnosed, being assessed currently, suspected, or at the very least some traits. There are a lot of chronic health and mental health needs there too and I think the shared understanding and experience creates a lot more compassion..
Poor cousin Tina. It’s SO FRUSTRATING when the person you’re trying to best doesn’t know it’s a competition and then you end up with a creep trying to get ahead. /sarcasm 🤣🤣🤣
When I had my son I got a thank you note from my brother for taking the spotlight off of him. He was so glad to have the pressure to produce grandchildren taken off of him! This cousin is a sick puppy.
I’m 34 years old and it took me forever to have a mind set of “they’re going to like me or hate me. Not everyone is going to love me and that’s okay.” I’m very stubborn and opinionated. I came to realize that’s not everyone’s cup of tea. But I will say, if I achieved something and I’m proud of it, EVERYONE and their mom is going to know because I’m damn proud of myself. I don’t care if people are angry at my achievements.
I agree that the arm flabs are the flabbers that get gasted. Because "flabbergasted " means shocking. When you're shocked, you usually use your hand to cover your mouth/face/eyes.... That's when those arm flabbers get gasted. It's the flapping of the arm flabbers!
The etymology of her definition (and yours) are actually correct. Edited for spelling as my phone corrected to entomology instead. Which would’ve been super confusing. Lol
Charlotte said a very important message in the first story. She really is an amazing person. I'm very proud and happy for her, she deserves all the success and happiness.❤
as someone who also has adhd and autism this stuff DOES kind of sail over your head 💀 like i totally get the "she tried so hard to make me miserable but i didnt even notice" ive done that before myself sometimes i just cant tell when someones being malicious like i dont even see it
What if the creepy husband wasn’t actually creepy and kept complimenting her to piss his fiancé off because she used their wedding to spite the cousin she hates.
I feel like the psycho in the first story was so obsessed with “beating” the poor, younger autistic cousin who was just living her life that she completely lost sight of what she wanted and ended up with a total loser for a husband. What an absolute narcissist.
My husband’s college roommate started dating a girl we really like and he’s been in my husband’s life since the beginning of our relationship. When we got engaged we made it a point to travel 6 hours to see him (he was the best man at our wedding) and meet his girlfriend. She was so sweet but definitely shy. We went out of our way to make her comfortable. They in turn ended up traveling 6 hours for our wedding for us. Now, they’re coming to see our house that we just bought (1st time homeowners) and we’ve got an exciting time planned for everyone. It’s not hard to include anyone. You just have to put in some effort. We really like this girl and we’re hoping they get married!
A friend of mine wore a black skirt and a white top to my wedding…she matched half the men there wearing black bottoms and white tops lol. I was not fussed whatsoever.
When I tell you I cackled.. 🤣 I have ADHD and am autistic, and really felt for Holly, especially with all the sh*t-talking about her being forgetful etc, and then sweet vindication upon hearing Rebecca forgetting her wallet.. oh how I cackled 🤣
As a neurodivergent person, I really, really related to Holly. What upsets me is the fact that people really were talking about her behind her back. This is a situation I constantly stress about.
That last story broke my heart for Holly as someone with ADHD and is suspected Autism… even without those conditions it’s hard to break into an established friend group as a total newbie… add in the fact you can’t read certain social queues without some sort of gentle assistance… it’s almost impossible. I’m so thankful for the friends I’ve made in my mid 20s for being so supportive and understanding of how my wee brain works
Hi Charlotte, love this last story. As an ADHDer in a group of ADHD and autism who are all shy and bombastic all at once, we appreciate people who actually try to get to know us and don’t judge us straight away. Although most of us are chronically late (sorry) we will try and hold space for each other. One of my old friends has a new partner recently and it has been an absolute joy to get to know her. ❤❤❤
My sister wore a black skirt and white jacket for my wedding. My sister in law wore a cream suit. Perhaps they were trying to upstage me in my white satin gown with a train and veil 😂
I am very quiet around people I don't know and if I don't feel comfortable in an environment and my husband's sister-in-law says she doesn't like me because I am rude and also she thought that my husband would end up with one of her friends. So fun times
First story: My first thought was that the cousin was jealous of her pregnancy, but nothing could have prepared me for that 😅Thanks Charlotte for your fun videosss
I really like this 'format' of video, Charlotte, where you're reading and commenting. I often have a hard time with some of the 'live' presentations of the issue... the TikTok people talk too fast, have accents I'm not used to hearing,, there's crosstalk, etc., and I get confused (the auto-captions are pretty useless), To be fair, I'm old, but having it read, and I can read along if needed, is excellent. My two cents.
OP being completely unbothered and blissfully unaware of drama throughout this story delights me. I strive for this energy
It's the autism at play haha. It's a two-sided coin. You don't necessarily pick up on social cues but that also means that sometimes you're completely unaware of the nasty too haha
Yeah, I’m gonna say this is somebody with autism it’s not a good thing please don’t strive for this energy…. It’s not that she was unbothered or blissfully unaware….. It’s that she’s autistic…. Which means she literally doesn’t comprehend; that her cousin was doing these things to spite her…. The idea of spite does not exist in her brain unless it is something overtly awful which is exactly what she was trying to say in the story that not ONCE did anything her cousin do seem to be anything but GOOD in her brain
@@Kait2478 yeah I hate when people without autism stuff like OP…. In my mind, it’s the same as wishing that you had cancer so you could get a Make-A-Wish
@@Myrathosghost What? OP is autistic? Also, wishing to be unbothered by/unaware of drama isn't a bad thing. I think comparing it to wishing for cancer is really harsh and unfair.
Get a grip on this thread!
They said they “strive for this energy”.
This is a perfectly reasonable comment and saying it’s akin to wishing you had cancer is fooking insane!
As an autistic person I can’t stand this martyrdom energy.
I repeat…..get a grip!
The amount of times my autism has pissed people off who were trying to be petty is magical. The silent treatment is the funniest, don't threaten me with a good time 😂
2 of my 3 kids have autism. My daughter frequently defends people from one of the "mean girls" in her 8th grade class and when the girl asks "why are you defending her? She's not even your friend. And you defending her is not going to make her your friend. " My daughter just responds "They don't need to be my friend for me to be a decent person. Your problem is that your friendship is transactional." Then just walks away. 😂
😂😂😂😂😂 I adore you.
Yep, we simply don't notice 😂 spectrum is awesome 💙
When I was a kid a girl tried to control me by saying “if you don’t do what I say I won’t be your FRIEND ANYMORE.” And I said “ok, we’re not friends then” and just walked away😂
Mine ruined shitty jokes
Why? What does that mean? I don't get it.... etc
..
Tina: **simmering in her jealously and thinking she is in a competition**
Her cousin (OP): *blissfully unaware of the madness inside Tina’s mind*
Sadly, I lived this nightmare 😔
The joys of being autistic lmao
@@fionacalou11303honestly yeah. If the drama can’t touch you, does it even exist? Lol
I have had this happen to me as well.
Same! People are literally in one-sided fueds with themselves 😆
My sister is an addict who’s nomadic and she lost her kids to CPS over 20 years ago. She tells EVERYONE who will listen that I’m the addict, lost all my kids to CPS, my husband left me, and I’m selling myself for drugs lol.
I’m a grandma, former nurse, wildlife and landscape photography enthusiast who’s been married for 27 years. We have 3 sons who are all higher educated, married, and they’re all financially successful and are upper middle class people. They’re all smart, kind, funny, normal, nature loving hikers, kayakers and they all fish. One plays golf and one plays disk golf. We are always together on holidays and we’re the most boringly normal people ever but we’re close and we love each other.
But apparently I sneak off to be a drug addicted hooker sometimes 😂
Congratulations on your double life that you didn't even know about 😂
Sounds like someone’s projecting~!
(for shame) hahaha
Can you give me some pointers on the double life thing?
Ooohhh you wild woman you!!! Take me along next time 🤣🤣
OP being blissfully oblivious in the first story is the cherry on top of the cake. Imagine being as pathetic as the cousin while the person you're envious of is just happily living their life lmao
The joys of being neurodivergent! We just vibe most of the time! 😂
The cousin was all-in on the 'bitch eating crackers' syndrome. I can't imagine hating someone like that.
@@boogermaiden waaay too true 😆😆 when looking back on my time at school, I just see a giant questionmark when it came to the behaviour of the other students.
@@boogermaidenso true 😂
She's just happy to be there while the cousin is clenching their teeth seeing her. So funny
The forgetting of the wallet is the biggest, cherry-on-top piece of karma I have ever seen. Hilarious.
Yeah when she read that I had a huge smile on my face. As someone with adhd I really can’t control it, trust me I’d rather no forget important shit😂 people like Andrew and Rebecca act like they are the most perfect people and look down on other who make literal tiny mistakes. Really made me happy she forgot her wallet. I hope she felt like an a hole too😂
@@adradupuis6770It was a bit tasty.
It was SOOOO delicious 😂🎉
That first dress looks nothing like a wedding dress and definitely would never be mistaken for a wedding gown. I have a feeling the bride is projecting.
She was just mad that her new hubby got wood looking at a pregnant woman, which she was not. Even if that dress had been white with black pattern (reversed values) it would not have been considered wearing white. It was a dress, not a gown. Bride was/is delulu.
Right? Is the Bride implying that her guest are too stupid to not know who the Bride is?
Yeppers. Never mind the logjam dress, the whole post!
It was never the dress.
The cousin went to extreme lengths of have a theme of "Cousin's upcoming wedding is just a cheap knock off of mine". The flaw in her plan was that A) OP canceled that event, so nobody knew the OP was doing what cousin thought was the poor man's version, and B) The OP wasn't picking up on the theme herself.
Or just reaching.
I used to weigh 369lbs, and only parent. I had weight loss surgery when my son turned 18, I started dating, my son was really happy for me. He and my husband hit it off. I lost over 250lbs, got engaged, and had a job promotion. The amount of negativity, from people who I never had issues with left me flabber was gasted. 13 yrs later, I'm happy married, my son works for government, and I'm semi retired. I did make myself smaller with weight loss but my personality got bigger ❤
You are AWESOME! Great to hear your success story.
@@Solènelamigonnelicorne Je ne parle pas Francais, settlement, quelques un
Omg the jealous people showing their true colors 🙄 Good for you!
Schön gesagt!
YES QUEEN! Live your best life!! 👏👏👏
I bet OP's cousin was FUMING when she announced her engagement at OP's engagement party and OP was actually happy for her instead of hurt. She's absolutely been in a one-sided competition her whole life. 💀
And I love how blissfully unaware autism makes it. Like, if it weren’t for autism, the mean girls in middle school probably would’ve won a looooong time ago. But the best revenge is a life well lived.
ETA: and a happiness that projects itself outward.
@@erikarussell1142 lol I feel this so hard. I'm AuDHD and I definitely sometimes wonder how many times I've been completely oblivious that someone couldn't stand me. Meanwhile I'm just tootling along through life, minding my own business, happy as a clam. 💀
It's like yeah I'm over here trying to be horrible to you and you are sitting over there not noticing nor caring. Nothing makes horrible people like this more angry then when all of their antics to piss you off have no effect whatsoever.
@@triciad4100 I’m the opposite. I’m AuDHD, and I am certain that most people hate me.
@ Samesies. It’s beautiful to be so unbothered honestly. Lmao
"I'm gonna put her far away from the ceremony and closer to the stinky bathroom 😈😈😈"
"Aww, thanks so much for thinking of my pregnancy bladder. You're so thoughtful 👼🙏"
Love this energy.
To quote Charlotte in a previous video: “Don’t dull your shine when someone says it hurts their eyes.”
Offer them sunglasses instead 😎😋
Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
As someone who also has autism and ADHD, I feel so much for Holly. I’m chronically late and forgetful, and the people around me who are understanding enough to be patient with me make all the difference in the world. There aren’t many, but they’re all treasures.
Hey listen! I’m not neurodivergent but this happens to me. I may not be chronically late ALL the time but my bad habit is being a bit flaky/late bc I overestimate how much time I have 😂 don’t be hard on yourself. Or let anyone make you feel like crap for a faux pa because it happens to all of us. And I know people who have way worse habits than being late so keep being you!
Hear hear!!!!! (From a Holly with ADHD who thankfully has wonderful family and friends)
Oh man that entire thing with Holly was resonating so painfully with me and then when it got to “she struggles with autism and ADHD” it was like a punch to the gut. The bullying, the isolation, the ostracizing, the struggle to get into the crowd when you can’t even tell if you’re being too “annoying” or not. Poor girl. Op is the person everyone needs and I wish I had when I was younger.
Same! Sometimes I need that now in my 30s
When they told her she was uninvited to the wedding, I'm sure she was just so disappointed - like you would be disappointed in a huge cold sore appearing on your wedding day!! Gee, I'm hurt, upset, and deeply disappointed - honest I am! (Fingers crossed behind your back disappointed!!😂)
Yes 🙌 I just made this same comment! Except I was 55 when diagnosed.
I’m lucky to have that kind of friendships now, but it took decades of girls like Rebecca to get through first. I watch my daughter struggle with it now and hope she sees my friends as a model of how to be treated as a friend and vice versa.
@@KatieB33so much makes sense now, doesn’t it? Same kind of experience. Nobody tested girls when we were young.
Yeah as an AuDHD fem that story hits HARD. And yeah just cause people don't know doesn't make it okay for them to shun us for being different. I try to be understanding that I'm awkward but it never stops hurting when people never bother to get to know you because of it
So nice to see them sticking up for her warms the heart
You can tell a lot about someone based on how they treat someone they don't realize has a disability.
I don't understand how they didn't realize she was different in that way. I can usually tell if someone is very shy or has qualities that are awkward. Heck, I'm awkward! So I talk to them. 🤷
@@Kait2478 sooooooo true!
@DawnKellyMedia really appreciate people like you! I find a lot of people feel that initial awkwardness and don't investigate further. Then if they do, they start to find the less endearing quirks annoying and make us out to be disrespectful and childish. Everyone loves the quirky autistic info dumping their special interest, but the moment they have a Nonverbal meltdown because they've had a long day of socializing and the bar is too loud, they're a buzzkill and dramatic. People just sometimes can't fathom that these things impact my body as much as they do, so they assume I'm doing it because I'm immature or selfish or dramatic. Especially if you have both ADHD and ASD, because very frequently I have conflicting needs that can be particular to navigate.
The ptsd flashbacks as an autistic chick who doesn't realize everyone has their own game of thrones level hatred in their heads while im literally just trying to walk straight and not talk about a weird hobby. The games people play with SO LITTLE INFORMATION are astounding, and its like they dont have the ability to ask questions. They just assume!!
Same.
preach sister preach
Feel you 😅
💯
Felt that
As someone with ADD and being on the spectrum myself, both of these really hit home for me. The second one, in particular, takes me back to being in middle school and my interactions with my classmates. The one who made an effort to reach out to me is my best friend to this very day.
We need more people like Charlotte in this world. ❤
It wasn't the black dress (with white flowers) the bride was pissed about. She was pissed because OP was pregnant and was getting some of the attention, albeit not on purpose.
The cousin having OP sit in the back reminded me of something that happened to me. Just a little back story. My husband's younger brother married a real piece of work. She was furious with me and my husband for getting married before them even though they had been dating longer...by two weeks. My husband was his brother's best man but I was not allowed any role in the wedding. I was not allowed in any of the photos because I was fat. I was six months pregnant. For the ceremony, I was seated in the very back row of the church even though there were several completely empty rows of pews between me and the rest of the guests. As she and her new hubby walked back down the aisle to exit the sanctuary, she stopped right in front of me. With a shit eating grin, she said "Sorry but you know you deserved it for being so selfish and getting married before me and having the first grandchild". I just smiled and said "Jeannie (yes, that's her real name) you are so right. It was so selfish of me. Tell ya what. I'll let you get the first divorce". She stomped off with a face like thunder. The icing on the cake...they divorced sixteen months later because he caught her cheating. She married five more times. I guess the last one took because they have been married for several years.
SAVAGE! I live for your comeback and sass girly😂😎
Dang! Someone get some ice, Jeannie got BURNED!😂❤
Karma aligned the universe so that you could plant a thought in her head that ate away at her until it came true LMFAO that's kind of fucking hilarious
@@got_some_screws_looseOMG- I absolutely LOVE the comeback!! "I'll let you get the first divorce!!" And SHE DID!! KARMA IS A BITCH - ABD SHE REMEMBERS EVERYTHING!! ❤😂😂😂❤
What a great story, and that comeback was so savaged !
“I feel so upstaged by this baby… She’s really tryna steal my spotlight with her lil baby toessss..” HAHAH CHARLOTTE!!! That was hilarious 😂 I am still audibly laughing out loud rn 😂😂❤
I hate it when I'm jealous of a baby and they're busy wanting to be fed and changed, like they have needs unrelated to me. Rude baby! Learn the day you're born that your life is about me, not you. You finished high school and met your lifelong love at 14? Rude baby! You became an NP to help others and helped me graduate? Rude baby! We need to normalize shaming these rude babies who be out here living life like it was born to them. Can you imagine if cousin has a child and is jealous of her own baby for being born the same year she has a birthday? That's how calendars work.
I love the little toes part. So funny!
@ the dedication to write this whole comment is everything 😂👌🏻👍🏻 thanks for the second LOL of the day 🫶🏻
I definitely had that reaction to a baby. My baby sibling. When I was _three_
You know, an age where you're just a selfish little butt. Now we get on alright, and there are definitely things I'm jealous about, that they do better than me, but that very much cuts both ways. They're the sporty, athletic one, and I've always had a quicker mind. They play a load of instruments, and I have a stronger singing voice (by which I generally mean louder, perk of being shaped like a barrel, I have a great lung capacity), they're much better at drawing, whereas I have the patience for embroidery
Ya i think that's what the bride is actually mad about. How dare you be pregnant at MY wedding!!! Dear lord these bridezillas got me eating a costco size box of popcorn lol😊
Irony: in the first story, a better complaint from the bride would be the OP was wearing black, like a funeral.
Wearing white is a sin when not being the bride but her claiming the black maternity dress as white is just MADNESS 🤣🤣🤣🤣
These are always the most fascinating stories for me haha wearing a white wedding dress is rare in my culture and chances of upstaging the bride are next to none. I'd be more impressed if someone actually managed to. 😂😂😂
It’s not a sin, it’s a break from tradition or unwritten protocols
@@lechatbotte.Some people see it as a sin if they’re Christian or Catholic, it’s not just a tradition. It’s a religious one too.
@@diamcole in my culture, all the young girls coordinate so that we all are wearing the same traditional dress or clothes. We have a ton of those from different regions so if we are close to the bride and like her enough we coordinate 😂. Except for the white wedding dress (little girls do thou, it's very cute), we ARE aloud to wear white. No one ever even claimed we were trying to "upstage" the bride. I don't like white so I never really wear it but at least a couple of people are wearing white to the wedding. However, if I was living in a culture where people have agreed, it is weird to do that, then i too would probably not like it, since i would see bad intent in the action rather than just a dress.
@ as a believer it’s not sin. Certainly not in the Bible. Americans chose white to represent “ purity “ as in the a virgin. It’s not sin to where white not even close. It’s tradition based on what I mentioned. No one can out shine a bride regardless. Is it in poor taste yes. Do people know this yes. But it’s not sin
Regarding the last story, I am ALWAYS that person at a party. Off in a corner, looking uncomfortable. Usually I just end up playing on my phone to at least make it look like I’m doing something. I remember so many parties I’ve gone to where I’m isolated, not knowing anyone, or know anyone well enough to join in the conversation.
In fact, several times I’ve ran a test. You have a circle of friend, talking, myself included. Eventually, as the conversation goes forward, the circle gets smaller and smaller until you, and you alone, are now outside the circle of conversation. And no one seems to have noticed. At that point, I usually walk away to go sit on a sofa or stand in the corner until I’ve stayed the obligatory period of time and can leave.
That, and you get interrupted regularly while you are talking. To the point that you just stop participating in the conversation. 😕.
I feel for Holly.
And i feel for YOU!
.. Meanwhile, i’m the chick on the other end of the couch asking if you know what time it is 💁🏻♀️
I'm sorry that happens. That's rude.
If I see someone in a corner looking shy or awkward, what can I do to help? I talk to everyone! I love meeting new people.
I'm the same way. I just feel unwanted and awkward. I have no idea how other people are able to socialise so easily
She also probably hated the wedding because she didn't pick her dream wedding, she picked OP's dream wedding just to spite OP. And it really set her off that OP didn't mind and her plan was ruined by OP cancelling her wedding.
I never understood people who make hate their life's central point. Isn't it better to focus on what YOU like instead of doing what you think will upset that one specific person, just because they're... what? Smarter? Prettier? Luckier? Just damn HAPPY?!
@@00r0ry You’re absolutely correct! However, this was how my narcissist MIL was. She listened to everyone to hear what someone didn’t like and then did that! After I figured her out, it was funny to see her go to lengths to do something irritating to someone! They wouldn’t even notice ! Very entertaining. Choose Love & Happiness ! Life is Great!
So "Tina" tried to rub it in OP's face by stealing HER dream wedding, wedding date, venue and dress, after OP was being kind and compassionate to her. AND her ex-hubby was being creepy to OP by saying that her "being pregnant in a dress made her look NICE" with his "Pregnancy kink" (or whatever)AND had a picture of OP in his office were HUGE red flags!
Glad to know they got a divorce, but I think Tina and her creepy ex got what they deserved by the Gods of Karmic Justice, especially to Tina the Traitor.
@@CooperGal24 it’s almost like when the OP was engaged for 4 yrs the cousin just grabbed who ever to marry to “win” against her cousin, in a game only she was playing !!
@ Yeah. I’d say it was jealousy, but Tina sounded like she loved being the attention wh*re!
It is maniacal to rush to get married, to a creep, 1-week before a relative, overspending, just to pretend that your relative copied your wedding because you're jealous of him/her. Wow! Talk about living rent-free in someone's head.
I'm also one of those who miss social ques and I've probably "missed out" on people not liking me. But, it's been more of a blessing than a curse. I am not one for schadenfreude, but sometimes... just sometimes.
That's their loss!
@@DawnKellyMedia ❤🧡💛🧡❤
Etymology of Flabbergast: The origin of the verb is uncertain but is possibly Suffolk dialectal from ‘flabby’ or ‘flap’ (to strike) + aghast. So, Charlotte, you were RIGHT!
It’s giving froggyness with the gast
We appreciate you sharing your homework on this matter 😅
I AM ALWAYS RIGHT HAHAHAHA
😅💯fact you'realwaysright@@CharlotteDobre
@@CharlotteDobreI tell my boyfriend all the time I'm always right. "I'm always right! .... Until I'm wrong" 😅😂
24:09 as late diagnosed female asd this had me teary. So many experiences like this but there was no op to see what was happening and actually give a frack. The idea you need to get ppl on side when ppl give you zero chance in the first place. It is so isolating to be constantly noped on when you haven't done anything horrible or objectively wrong just ppl automatically icing you.
This!! It is so damn hard and there’s just no compassion for the situation. Some people will say “well why didn’t you just say you’re autistic” like why do I have to? So you can pity me and treat me like a child instead of being genuinely kind and treating me like an equal? Screw that!
I absolutely love how OP in the first story had all of those petty stuff being done to her and it went over her head😂. She didn't even realize someone was hating😅
Well, she was born before her ... Lol!
@DawnKellyMedia 😂
12:15 she wanted to be her and when her attempts failed she resorts to being mad at her. Smh so sad
10:02 idk I don’t think the mean bride lived HER dream, she only lived her cousins “dream” which is sad
What's really sad is the anger she obviously has towards herself.
And even then she only had what she thought was OPs dream wedding but it was actually a wedding that OP realized later that she would have hated. So sad.
Awe these stories make me so sad! My daughter has autism and ADHD (4th grade) and is constantly being told she's weird. She's just socially awkward and she says she's aware of it but doesn't know how to fix it. She tries so hard to be accepted by running for student council or volunteering to sing for her youth group on Sundays. I can see issues like this coming up for her. Hopefully people are more aware of the difficulties others have with social situations in the future and don't set them aside like they currently do.
No. White accents are not a white dress. A white dress with giant floral pattern isn’t white. Any dress that is not similar to a PURE (white cream champagne etc) GOWN is not considered white.
STAHPIT!! 😂😂
Extra emphasis on gown too. A simple tea dress shouldn't be considered anywhere close to bride-level. (Unless you're doing, say, a beach wedding, and can't have a floor-length dress because... sand. In this instance, color AND cut are two things to watch out for.)
@ this. Absolutely!!!!
nonnonono, you don't understand, she was *pregnant.* When you are *preganante,* it pops out the white flowers and makes it a white dress!!! honest!!
@@Solènelamigonnelicorne Tu dois payer plus d'attention en classe!
Here is the new rule:
If the dress is 50% white or more, we check with the couple getting married just to be on the safe side
If the dress is 50% white or more and gownlike, we don't wear it
If the dress is 75% white or more, we don't wear it
If the dress is gownlike, regardless of color, we don't wear it (unless the dress code says otherwise)
7:23 please make merch that says “level up, or shut the f*ck up” 😂
I am currently a villain in someone elses story.😅
My ex-boss's wife HATED that I worked with him because I was a WOMAN. I was the only girl at the job and had had several interactions with her that apparently she did not like. How I answered the phone, saying i was too nice. How I called my boss for an emergency at the store. It was little things like this. I told our DM about her behavior and how it affected our boss/employee relationship. I left a week later and we WORK IN THE SAME BOOKSTORE. She had a melt down when I got the job and now no one likes her at work becuse of the crazyness and this is BEFORE she ever talked to me IN PERSON! When I walked in for orientation, she had NO IDEA it was even me.
Ive decided to pity her because she gets in her own way but apprently, I am just that constant rock in her shoe.
Insecurity is an ugly monster.😂
I also wonder if your ex-boss has also done something to cause that insecurity. It's not always the case but I've seen crazy and insecure partners because they caught their partner doing something they shouldn't. So then they get paranoid even if their partner isn't doing anything at the moment.
Or they are projecting. Or suffered it through somebody else before. Who knows lol
@@TheOMGRamen even so. If your partner is acting sneaky, you leave him. Not get angry at any woman that exist in shared space. You don't get a free pass to bully random person just because your partner treats you wrong.
1:08 Is that even a dress? Looks more like a skirt + shirt combo. Also no, you must be fishing REALLY hard to see this as anything but black with a pattern, but I guess some people just love to stir drama for no reason.
As someone that has dealt with similar situations being neurodivergent and people being mean just because they can and they notice you are different even though you are simply existing, and mean no malice and tend to miss these things, this is such a nice resolution and it’s nice to know people stick up for others like that.
I love the fact that you called the under arm giggly stuff a flabber 😂
My mom calls it her bingo wing & it has always made me laugh hahaha love you so much Charlotte!!! 🤗🩵
Mom of an autistic 5 yo here... At the tender age of 4 I witnessed my son being excluded at a party of 'friends' for his disability. It was heart breaking and I cried when I got home but not in front of my son. I so admire the people that stood with Holly in that situation and sincerely hope my son finds people like that in his life, too. Looking back at that party I should have just taken my son and left, I fantasize about doing just that and the looks on the parents faces but, alas, I can't change the past. My son was purposefully excluded and told by the birthday boy "My mom said you're not allowed to play in my room cause you might chew on my toys". Yes, my son has sensory issues and chews a lot but I know DAMN WELL that mom didn't say that. The grandmother overheard the kid say that I didn't really do much to stop the behavior.
So sorry this happened! When grandma heard this being said and didn’t correct t it…she’s in agreement with what he and obliviously the mom said!! How rude, grandma could have just gone in the room with 4 yr olds and just made sure everyone was playing well !! Sad that some adults are so uninformed about things. Just jump to conclusions about what they don’t know. I was the grandmother who just kept an eye, from a distance, to make sure kids playing was fair and fun. Easy job to love your grands and their friends!
I’m so sorry for you and your son.
Silver lining, in the future if a situation occurs ( I hope it doesn’t) you will be prepared. It’s easy to be shocked by something you haven’t had to deal with before so don’t be too hard on yourself.
As a mom in a similar situation I can say that it might get better when he is in an age to choose his friends himself. A mother did send us a message to tell us how much her son liked our son and that he is glad to have him as his best friend. That he is so normal and does not try to be cool like the other kids. His friend is also neurodivergend and there are two other kids ( ADHD and Autist) and also some without any neurodivergence in their friendgroup. He has not to stay alone just have to choose his friends better (or have help doing that). Good luck and a hug.
Ps.: Sometimes my son does not realise if someone is mean until someone tells him or calls it out. He is like the first OP. So maybe try not to concentrate on his "shortcomings" but give him positive reflections of things which went well and handle things like that birthday without him.
@Stigne yes, we focus on the positive with him for sure. A few weeks after this incident he was invited to another classmates party. I hesitated to take him but I'm so glad I did. He ended up being the only classmate to show up. Plus I learned this classmate is deaf and her brother is also autistic. It was a much better experience. He enjoyed the day running in the yard and jumping on the trampoline while I had a lovely visit with the birthday girls grandmother.
@@hootie413982 I am so happy for you two. What a good experience. I wish you many more.
Honestly, with that last part, where you said that you tend to approach people that are kind of excluded on the events just to keep them some company, that's so nice. I'm usually the type of person that would rather just sit in the corner somewhere, observe the situation and maybe have a chat 1 on 1, but I'm an introvert and I'm also socially awkward and I always manage to embarrass myself when I'm with other people, so I also have a bit of anxiety when it comes to socialising. I don't really mind being on an event as much if a friend wants me to be there for them, but I'd just stay to keep them company, but I won't go out of my way to initiate anything, unless someone else approaches me first, so, likely, without someone like you, I'm probably the type of person you wouldn't want at any type of event, just having this weird stranger at the back in shadow just staring you down XD. That's fine, I don't like to go out of my house anyway.
With this though, I used to be like that when I was a lot younger, maybe until I was like 12, I was also the person who'd come over to people that were excluded from the group, just all alone by themselves. One time I was on a summer camp with my best friend at the time and the two of us were the only people we knew, because everyone else was from different cities and schools. In our group of 20 girls, about 7 or 8 of them were all girls from the same school and orphanage so they knew each other very well and were pretty close - or at least in comparison. There was this one girl, that was also from that orphanage and the same class as some of them, but she seemed to always be excluded from everything and I felt a bit bad for her, because that always used to be me (and it would be me if it weren't for my only friend being there too), so I wanted to chat up with her a bit. I tend to like to be by myself to be fair, so I wanted to kind of test the water and see if she's just the type to keep for herself or is too shy to talk with anyone. When we had this evening walk to the beach (it was like an hour+ walk) it was really apparent that no one seemed to notice her being at the very back without anyone to talk to, so that's when I first spoke with her. She seemed quite surprised I spoke with her, but also appeared to like it, so we would talk quite a lot.. But I quickly realised why no one really wanted to talk to her that much, she was a bit.. Much. She'd only talk about herself, not let you finish a sentence, kept coming up to you every few minutes, overtaking all conversations you'd have with others and make these people leave, she got my number and facebook profile through other girls and kept texting me all the time, threatening she'd harm herself if I won't talk to her. She borrowed a few of my belongings without me knowing and would return them in a pretty rough state later. After two weeks of the camp, we all went back to where we came from, but even well after that, for about half a year, she kept making new accounts on facebook to keep texting me after I'd block the previous one. She was a bit crazy, not gonna lie, she'd give me some really weird vibes whenever we'd talk alone, kind of like stalker-ish, obsessive behaviours. Not gonna lie, I felt a little bit unsafe when we were face to face, although other than that pestering behaviour, there was nothing else that could've triggered this feeling. Something just told me to better avoid her. I understood well why none of her peers would want to hang out with her, she was just a little nuts. I don't go up to people like that anymore, too bad they're excluded, but you never know if they're a murderer potential X"D. I will still be nice to them and talk with them if they approach me, but I won't be making the first move, hell no.
Orphan sounds like a huge trauma and she had issues with things no one helped her. On top of that it has twisted her view on socializing and close relationships to a dark obsession and that's where hyperfocus with people is dangerous.
If the baby is cast on a sidewalk, it will definitely die if no one helps. She has experienced the most traumatic thing in her life and thinks she will literally die if people abandon her. She had no tools to tune her own behavior and teens experience a lot of raw emotions like anger on top of that because they feel powerless. And what an orphan is? So yes she was in a lot of turmoil and you could have not helped her with tools that common people have.
I think I described the character of the popular Netflix series Baby Reindeer.
@eh1319 Yes, I definitely could have stayed there and try to help her, but being 12, I didn't really understood what was going on. I was honestly afraid of her and I just didn't want to have to interact with her. I didn't get what was going on, but I've had other peers at my school that used to be a bit strange when it came to relationships (and they came from normal families as far as I know) so that was all I could really compare it to. I just kind of thought she was that, but more. It wasn't until much later that it kind of got to me how messed up her situation must've been.
Hello Charlotte, this is the first of your videos I've watched yet in about a week.
My Nanny who always watched these with me every single time just passed away on the 18th.
It doesn't feel the same watching without her, but I thank you for giving me some sense of normalcy in a time that makes me wish I could join her. ♥️
She loved you very much, and I do too, thank you for being you Char.
How sweet!!!!❤❤❤❤❤ sorry for your lost😢
Sorry for your loss💔
you Nanny must have been a hoot! So sorry for your loss 😢
@@izzythequeen3148 so sorry for your loss 💔❤️ I’m so glad that the petty potato Queen could bring you some smiles and hopefully some peace in this hard time for you ❤️ much love 💕
My condolences. My uncle died on the 18th too.
23:00 the people that excluded holly were totally the type of people to pick up on autism/adhd when they were kids and instantly bully/isolate those other kids, and now they are repeating the same behaviours without even realising WHY. They dislike any type of behaviour that differs from a neurotypical and exclude neurodivergents because they behave “differently”. I bet they totally don’t even know she has adhd or autism and just didn’t like how different she behaved when socialising didn’t they. I can see it now, they were bullies as kids
For real. I had the same experience growing up. All kids could tell I was different. I wish I could tell Holly I can completely relate.
Our son is experiencing this currently and it's one of the most difficult lessons I've ever had to teach. The boys that bully you at school, do not get the same love you do, it hurts them inside, and people that hurt inside, hurt others on the outside. Their words don't define you or change your intelligence.
We work through deep breathing and understanding the world we are in together as a family ❤
How I wish I could share our Holland to help those stranded like we were at the start!
Come see our Holland by clicking my windmill 🎉
6:59 this whole speech, Is standing ovation worthy.
And that’s on truth. Level up or stfu. ❤❤❤
I’m so glad that OP stuck by Holly in the second story. It’s easy to ignore someone who isn’t fitting in right off the bat. But if you make the effort, I find that those people end up the best friends in the long run. My Mom always said that if you want to make a new friend, talk to the person sitting alone. And she was absolutely right!
Story one shows how miserable you can get by comparing yourself to others and how trying to "outshine" someone will just show everyone how you really look.
But I love OP for being genuinely happy for her - nothing stings those people more than their "victims" not realizing, lol
24:09 Gotta love when people think bullying is fine as long as the victim’s not disabled. They don’t care that they hurt people. They just don’t want to look bad
Yep crap behaviour to do to anyone. To often exclusion isn't seen as the bullying it is because "we don't all have to be friends" and ppl take that so far.
I highly hate people who say "I didn't know!" as an excuse for their behavior, truth of the matter is, you don't need to know in order to treat people with kindness. People shouldn't have to disclose personal information to you, to prevent you from being shitty for no reason. I know the guy didn't say he didn't know, but him asking if she has autism falls into the same category for me of the "I didn't know!" excuse. Everyone is so quick to jump down someone's throat for very normal, very human things that happen to all of us. We give each other no room to be human anymore.
You can tell a lot about a person based on how they treat someone they don't realize has a disability. That's why I hear a lot of late-diagnosed autistics say that it doesn't really make a difference if they disclose their diagnosis to people who are nasty; they don't care. They'll still treat you like crap.
I agree. I had a late diagnosis of autism and adhd. I was still targeted socially when they knew.
Yeah, knowingbabout autism helps putting sone things into perspective, but if you lack the willingness to accept them as they are before and mistreat them for who they are, then anything you would have done differently otherwise wpuld have juat been preformative.
A good person treats us with kindness whatever they know or we know or not!
@@GothicMaximalist All people should be treated with kindness and basic manners that you learned in First Grade!!!
No matter what I hear about someone, I make my own assessment and always use kindness. Most people respond in kind. Give everyone a chance with respect and kindness. Their personalities will show themselves, treat others well until they don’t want you to, then smile and fade back. lol. Always be nice as long as you can.
@@GothicMaximalist We All have quirks !! Why point out and treat anyone badly because they’re different? We’re all different in someway! Give everyone a chance and be respectful and nice! Hopefully, America will be seeing a change in attitudes in the coming few years!!
Tbh i love Oliver's reaction on that last story.. a good man recognizes a good woman and protects her and stands by her at all costs, no matter the people/relationships he has to say goodbye to.. 💯 so happy for them..
To the first story: I have a feeling that if OP wore a full black dress and didn't have the white she would have been reprimand for wearing it. She would have be accused for something like dressing for a funeral.
And if it wasn't the dress, it would have been having her hair too shiny or something equally stupid.
Flabbers are lips (as is shut your flabbering lips) and Ghasted is shocked as in seen a ghost (a Ghast). It means left speechless with surprise or open-mouthed with astonishment. My Flabbers were Ghasted - I'm Flabberghasted.
About the pregnant women dress, that dress is so so unpretentious that I'm surprised the cousin was offended. It wasn't the dress, they have beef.
Cousin has beef. OP was unaware
1:47 Whoever included a clip of Lois & Clark is my new favorite person EVER.
Sometimes I ask “WHO RAISED YOU” but then I see who did and realize the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree 🤣 and if that is a white dress than I guess today I also realized I am blind 😭💀
😂
as somebody with audhd - it’s such a blessing when people take the time to get to know you beyond your quirks and make you feel welcome in a space. too many people default to judgement or scorn, and that just makes us feel even more awkward!!
Context: we historically have worn white at our weddings to signify that the bride is "intact". Now a days its more of a tradition to show off the bride in a more wholesome way. You are not supposed to look like the bride unless the bride wants you to look a certain way. That is why no white dresses to weddings, so you dont get confused w the bride. A little bit of white on a NON WHITE dress doesnt count. 1:38
I thought Queen Elizabeth wore white and it became a trend from then on? Then Christians rode that trend! 😂
The whole white dress for the bride is a fairly new concept. In England up until the late part of the 1800's brides wore just a brand new and specially made gown to signify starting a new part of life. They were usually made of highly valuable cloth to show wealth and prosperity.
Yep the conservative have co-opted it to mean pure, but Queen Elizabeth started the white dress and the tiered white cake trend. Just like there was no such thing as an engagement ring until De Beers did their campaigns.
Same in France. I also read somewhere that in the (very Catholic) middle ages wedding dresses were often blue whenever brides (or rather their father, lets be real) wanted to signify purity, as a reference to the virgin Mary. Don't quote me on that though, my memory about where I got that from is rather fuzzy 😅
@MissPolymela they also used gold thread and beads made from precious gems to show wealth and what the bride brought to the marriage. The dowery was very important in those times.
As someone who recently met one of my boyfriend's friend groups and hearing the second story, I got extremely lucky. There were a few other couples there and a few singles, but each of them took me aside individually (or sometimes with their significant other), introduced themsleves, and we talked a bit to get to know one another. EVERYONE deserves this experience! I was profusely sweating due to the cramped bodies and the overwhelming level of anxiety I felt meeting around 10 new people all at once, but they truly made me feel welcome and loved.
Why does the first story remind me of the story you read forever ago about a couple who had someone at their wedding go into labor and give birth that night and a year later, the bride is still jealous of a baby “upstaging their wedding” and no one talking about their 1 year anniversary?? It’s a baby. If you’re jealous of a baby, you’ve got some deep issues you need to take care of
Yeah, I remember that. And I always does anyone EVER cared about someone else's first wedding anniversary?? Lol it is only special for the couple.
@@_danfiz right? I thought it was weird my sibling was hurt that no one got them anything for their first anniversary. I’m like, your spouse you married, they are the one who is celebrating you. Lol 😂
We seriously need to get over the idea that the bride is the only one who can look good on the wedding day. If everyone doesn't show up and show out for your wedding, then you can be sad, but ultimately, your only focus should be on having the most fantastic day ever🥰
I watch your videos so much in front of my fiancé that now he automatically says “hey everybody, welcome back” as soon as he sees your face lol
Please let us know when Char-Lot's face makes him spontaneously burst out with *_SUBSCRIBE!_* 😅
@ lmao he does that randomly already 😂
LOL She was stylistically stating she was flabberghasted I'm going to use that now. " My flabbers were ghasted!!!!" LOL
Omg I literally can’t wait until charlotte gets married!!!! I really really hope she does something special before & after her wedding!!! ❤❤❤👑👑👑🫶🏻🫶🏻🥰🥰
Her vids have kept me sane while planning my wedding and I’m so happy for her and her soon to be hubby! I hope she keeps many memories private and close to their hearts, however I’m excited for whatever she chooses to share with us, her audience. I know she will be a truly stunning bride.
As someone with AuDHD like Holly, thank you for standing up and supporting her even when her disorder makes her forgetful sometimes. It means the world to those of us that never get that treatment, that theres still hope the world is changing.
Lmfao yeah I have ADHD too and if people were cutting ties with me because I am sometimes late, disorganised, and forgetful, I'd have no friends. Not that I don't try really hard to overcome all these struggles, but sometimes you can try and try and still mess up, and some patience and understanding goes a long way. That group was really channeling their inner high school bullies
And that’s why all my friends just so happen to have adhd, autism or both😂 problem solved!! We all understand each other.
Ugh no doubt!! I am cursed with chronic lateness. I’m fully aware, & i’ve tried like hell to “fix” it. But the fact is, i’m terribly shy & awkward to the point of agoraphobic. I HATE leaving the house!
I will torture myself over every pimple or stray hair, will change my outfit 12 times.. I am convinced all eyes are on me in the worst, most judgmental way (tho i KNOW they aren’t!).
& then, inevitably, i feel terrible for being late.
I’m a mess.. but i’m still a wonderful person, damnit! 😂
I dealt with an issue like this recently, and the situation escalated, resulting in my ending a 30-year friendship. I was diagnosed with ASD last year at age 39; the testing for ADHD came back inconclusive (I was late to the test, so we weren’t able to complete all of it… 🤦🏾). Given the symptoms, I strongly think I have ADHD and/or my chronic illnesses, PTSD, and grief have changed my brain. Either way, some folks seem to attribute our lateness, disorganization, and forgetfulness to personal failings-even with knowledge of all we live with. I’ve recently decided to stop trying to seek understanding from certain people. It’s exhausting.
@@andalistark5416 ❤❤❤ You're doing your best! Don't let yourself get agoraphobic. Even if you just go outside to walk around the block by yourself. Your friends and family love you, so what if you're late? You're a valuable person. Don't be so hard on yourself.
@@adradupuis6770 I have realised over time that mine do too XD either diagnosed, being assessed currently, suspected, or at the very least some traits. There are a lot of chronic health and mental health needs there too and I think the shared understanding and experience creates a lot more compassion..
Poor cousin Tina. It’s SO FRUSTRATING when the person you’re trying to best doesn’t know it’s a competition and then you end up with a creep trying to get ahead. /sarcasm 🤣🤣🤣
Some brides seriously be examining every guest's outfit with a microscope looking for any speck of white!?! What on earth?? 😂😂😂
When I had my son I got a thank you note from my brother for taking the spotlight off of him. He was so glad to have the pressure to produce grandchildren taken off of him! This cousin is a sick puppy.
"Level up or shut the fuck up!" I am DEFINITELY using this! Thanks Mrs. Potato Queen!
I’m 34 years old and it took me forever to have a mind set of “they’re going to like me or hate me. Not everyone is going to love me and that’s okay.” I’m very stubborn and opinionated. I came to realize that’s not everyone’s cup of tea. But I will say, if I achieved something and I’m proud of it, EVERYONE and their mom is going to know because I’m damn proud of myself. I don’t care if people are angry at my achievements.
I agree that the arm flabs are the flabbers that get gasted.
Because "flabbergasted " means shocking.
When you're shocked, you usually use your hand to cover your mouth/face/eyes....
That's when those arm flabbers get gasted.
It's the flapping of the arm flabbers!
that's what i was thinking too!
The etymology of her definition (and yours) are actually correct.
Edited for spelling as my phone corrected to entomology instead. Which would’ve been super confusing. Lol
@@erikarussell1142 Do bugs have arm flab?
@ they should. As resentful of mine as I am… lmao
OP living her best life and happy for her cousin while the cousin competing with OP being oblivious to all 😂
First being used in 1700s, Flabbergasted is defined as being left aghast. Which possibly means that your flabbers would be your lips?
Visually, this would make sense. I agree with you!
I also thought about my like vocal cords or something
There's a saying, "It's okay if I'm the villain in your story because you are a clown in mine. A whole a** clown!"
Charlotte said a very important message in the first story. She really is an amazing person. I'm very proud and happy for her, she deserves all the success and happiness.❤
@@Solènelamigonnelicornesalut Solene😊
@@dinasilva9263 tatie dina j'ai besoin de toi 😭
@@dinasilva9263 tatie dina j'ai besoin de toi je suis vraiment triste 😭
@@dinasilva9263 tatie dina SOS 😭💔
as someone who also has adhd and autism this stuff DOES kind of sail over your head 💀 like i totally get the "she tried so hard to make me miserable but i didnt even notice" ive done that before myself sometimes i just cant tell when someones being malicious like i dont even see it
What if the creepy husband wasn’t actually creepy and kept complimenting her to piss his fiancé off because she used their wedding to spite the cousin she hates.
What a plot twist😂
Still a bit creepy though..👀
I feel like the psycho in the first story was so obsessed with “beating” the poor, younger autistic cousin who was just living her life that she completely lost sight of what she wanted and ended up with a total loser for a husband. What an absolute narcissist.
I look forward to watching you every single day and congratulations on the wedding I’m so happy for you
My husband’s college roommate started dating a girl we really like and he’s been in my husband’s life since the beginning of our relationship. When we got engaged we made it a point to travel 6 hours to see him (he was the best man at our wedding) and meet his girlfriend. She was so sweet but definitely shy. We went out of our way to make her comfortable. They in turn ended up traveling 6 hours for our wedding for us. Now, they’re coming to see our house that we just bought (1st time homeowners) and we’ve got an exciting time planned for everyone. It’s not hard to include anyone. You just have to put in some effort. We really like this girl and we’re hoping they get married!
Flabbers in regards to flabbergasted is the mouth/ cheeks area. Like when you sputter and gasp is to be flabbergasted.
Charlotte's editors over here depicting Mike and her Sh*ting together, may be the funniest thing on this platform 🤣
Good Morning Petty Potatoes! ❤
I am so glad Charlotte is finally reading the first story. 😂
Whoever edited today's video, 🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔/5 😂👏👏👏👏👏
We say "Hello Petty Potatoes". Repeat after me; Hello Petty Potatoes. You never learn
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Fellow Petty Potato from South Africa..❤ it's night time over here😂
4:20 am 🥔 The sun never sets on potatoes and pettyness🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔🥔
A friend of mine wore a black skirt and a white top to my wedding…she matched half the men there wearing black bottoms and white tops lol. I was not fussed whatsoever.
Did anyone else snort-laugh at REBECCA forgetting her wallet, or just me?
When I tell you I cackled.. 🤣 I have ADHD and am autistic, and really felt for Holly, especially with all the sh*t-talking about her being forgetful etc, and then sweet vindication upon hearing Rebecca forgetting her wallet.. oh how I cackled 🤣
As a neurodivergent person, I really, really related to Holly. What upsets me is the fact that people really were talking about her behind her back. This is a situation I constantly stress about.
Last story had way too many names and quotes I just could not keep up 😭😭 love you Charlotte still tuning in Friday morning ❤️❤️
Felt! I could’ve used some little cartoon people/avatars on the screen to help keep them straight 🤣
That last story broke my heart for Holly as someone with ADHD and is suspected Autism… even without those conditions it’s hard to break into an established friend group as a total newbie… add in the fact you can’t read certain social queues without some sort of gentle assistance… it’s almost impossible. I’m so thankful for the friends I’ve made in my mid 20s for being so supportive and understanding of how my wee brain works
25:49 yep, for me it was my mom that sent me into a panic attack when i was going to meet my at the time bf's parents.
I'm 50, if I ever do get married, its gonna be no holds barred. You can wear a crop top and panties or your own wedding dress. Let's just have fun.
Flab = being hit by something, Gasted = astonished or shocked by something
6:21 I’m SO happy that you’re happy and so proud of you and how far you’ve come, and that’s certainly your business
"Never Apologize"- your friends don't need it and your enemies don't care. "Haters gonna hate"
But then there would be no one left in Canada at all! 😮
Hi Charlotte, love this last story. As an ADHDer in a group of ADHD and autism who are all shy and bombastic all at once, we appreciate people who actually try to get to know us and don’t judge us straight away. Although most of us are chronically late (sorry) we will try and hold space for each other. One of my old friends has a new partner recently and it has been an absolute joy to get to know her. ❤❤❤
Annie/Starlight from The Boys popping up at 2:38 made me so excited 😂😂
My sister wore a black skirt and white jacket for my wedding. My sister in law wore a cream suit. Perhaps they were trying to upstage me in my white satin gown with a train and veil 😂
I am very quiet around people I don't know and if I don't feel comfortable in an environment and my husband's sister-in-law says she doesn't like me because I am rude and also she thought that my husband would end up with one of her friends. So fun times
First story: My first thought was that the cousin was jealous of her pregnancy, but nothing could have prepared me for that 😅Thanks Charlotte for your fun videosss
What a lovely way to end the day, 7pm in South Africa...love you Charlotte ❤
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If you choose to lie to someone about your reasoning for anything, you know you're wrong. Period
I really like this 'format' of video, Charlotte, where you're reading and commenting. I often have a hard time with some of the 'live' presentations of the issue... the TikTok people talk too fast, have accents I'm not used to hearing,, there's crosstalk, etc., and I get confused (the auto-captions are pretty useless), To be fair, I'm old, but having it read, and I can read along if needed, is excellent. My two cents.
"She forgot her wallet once so that made him forget his"
Yes because forgetfulness is contagious
"so level up, or STFU" ❤
- Charlotte Dobre