Hey friends, thanks for watching! :) May I ask a favor? I'd love to hear what other videos/topics you'd like to see from me! I want to make videos about things that resonate with you and are not just hype, so hearing from you would be incredibly helpful. You can DM me on IG @theKevinShen if that's easier. Thank you so much 😊
great video i tried to do a video on this topic back im 2018 when i first started my channel and i was such an epic fail but im learning and you made great points thanks for the inspiration
@@supervincent_ i thought no one else would understand lol. i was taking a walk with my boyfriend the other day and he was wondering why i was so quiet and distant.
@@spencercatoe8779 Spencer, im on my brothers account rn im your age, dude its incredebly dificult but we are going to make it, he said something in the video about seeing your anxiety as your battle buddy, i think that really helps
I have struggled with social anxiety disorder for almost 10 years and counting. It started when I was 17; and teenage to young adults days were supposed to be filled with lots of fun, parties, amazing adventures and knowing tons of new people without feeling like you're gonna die every single time. I love all these things but my body just doesn't allow me to. It just won't calm down. Imagine all the fun I could have if anxiety wasn't present :')
Haha the struggle is so real 😅 Stay strong, friend!! 🙏❤️ The rest of us awkward folks can just hang out here in the corner while everyone else goes to party 😂
I needed this! Social anxiety sometimes feels so irrational and it makes me hate myself even more, especially when I compare myself to others who make meeting new people seem just so effortless.
I just embarrassed my entire family by having a major panic attack at a birthday party *I'm happy that I came upon your video or else I would've ended my day by crying myself to sleep* *Keep it up* ❤️❤️
Kevin, you are giving a very positive perspective about us with social anxiety. it's very heartwarming to get the reassurance that we ought to be kind to ourselves and see that hyperactive amygdala more as our own protective mechanism than we should think of it as a weakness. thank you so much for such insight.
I hella relate. I seem like a normal guy but it's always on my mind and it can be exhausting for me to hang out with other people when my brain is on overdrive. Another aspect of social anxiety is it isn't always in public, I get really anxious when I'm recording my music and voice and have a more difficult time than when I'm not recording. I can get really invested in movies as well to the point where I'm panicking if I don't know what's about to happen. Can't smoke weed even though I've tried dozens of times, pretty sensitive to alcohol as well but not as bad. I've spent so much time trying to figure it out on my own and something I learned is that it's okay to ask for help. I'm starting to get therapy and take medication (hopefully I'll eventually be able to switch off) and I'm for once feeling pretty optimistic.
This makes me feel better about my own social anxiety… I have the same thing when I cross people on the sidewalk and I’ve always felt so stupid about it. It makes me feel much better that I’m not the only person feeling that way about such a tiny random situation
it’s super annoying having social anxiety but also being extroverted,, i wanna meet and talk to everyone but i’m super paranoid of everyone and everything
This is one of the reasons I love yoga. I feel so connected to a community and yet welcome to just be me and not have to perform as this outgoing person or anything other than what I am.
After three years without a panic attack I experienced one again yesterday. I was with a group of people I didn’t know with an already empty social battery. My social anxiety hasn’t been this bad for a long time, and yesterday I felt weak and stupid for loosing all control again. I got home and felt so alone and misunderstood. Then I found your video and just cried. I was so relieved knowing I am not alone with this and there are people out there experiencing similar struggles. We are so strong and we are doing our best! Thank you so much Kevin for saving me last night🤍
You got me tearing up😭. It's so true that it's hard to be able to go somewhere or do something because of anxiety and with these days lately having to make bigger sacrifices to accomplish my goals and dreams it's gotten more intense because of what's ahead of me. I've been working as hard as I can to make it through college to become a person who can help others, and at first I wasn't sure exactly what I should become, but with some help and some changes I've realized I truly to want to become a clinical psychologist. So to do this ofc I need a doctorates. It's a long road ahead of me and even though I'm almost done with my bachelor's there's so much more I have to do to be able to make my dreams come true so it's pretty overwhelming when it comes to looking for an apartment, living away from family, learning how to deal with finances, building money for retirement, finding true love and someone who will truly care for me. All these things are hard to think about all at the same time, and I think "When will it all be over? All the stress and all the worries. All the restlessness and hurt that I go through just to survive." I also have ADHD combined type and it makes it extremely difficult just to function throughout the day. I've been going to therapy for about 5 months now and seeing a psychiatrist but it's only now that I'll be taking a new medication that I hope will help. It's Strattera 25 mg. If this one doesn't work then I'll just have to move onto the next one and the next.
No wonder why I don’t go to party’s, don’t have friends, no wonder why I always have Sonic Plush Party’s, and think that my Sonic Plushies are my only Friends 💀
Last part of the video connected with me so much, what you said of believing that your anxiety is your body trying to take care of you in the best way it cans just gave me a huge peaceful feeling
I’ve never related so much and this video made me feel a lot better so thank you. I’m good at denying my social anxiety but in reality it’s stopping me from being happy and doing everything I want to do all I have to do is get past that mental barrier and get out of my comfort zone but it is really draining
I have social anxiety too, I've been struggling for all my life. That's why I make videos and record my self to see my self on other perspectives. So I can improve and Learn to speak and practice my English too 😄. I'm glad I'm not alone. Start recording your self guys 😄 Understand learn your self. YOU CAN DO IT!! You are not that bad!
I actually survived 3 years of my pre school without speaking to anyone. Not even the teachers. I would just stay silent whenever they asked me questions
Thanks for a great video, Kevin! The video brings fresh perspective on looking at our social anxiety as our body's protective mechanism and to not forget to be kind to ourselves.
I think a lot of people have some level of social anxiety. People need to know it's ok. We can't all be up and ready to meet strangers. As an introvert, I find it exhausting to meet new people and do small talks all the time even thought I work at a job that requires me to see and talk to people all day long. In fact, I can't imagine myself making youtube videos and posting it online....that actually makes me anxious haha.
I too have a social anxiety n I don't know how to came out of it , it's just a miserable experience , I started practicing yoga that helps me a lot , those who have social anxiety please let yourself frequent exposure to people the more u interect with people the more u can rid of this pathetic situation , n don't think negative thats the key of social anxiety
I have social anxiety and I didn’t really admit I had it until a little while ago. luckily for me it s in the middle and I am still able to talk when I need to but when I go to school in my head I’m thinking “what if these people think I’m weird” “why did I say that stupid stupid” so it’s not really fun and I hate taking to strangers unless they seem approachable
To be honest I am actually curious about you Kevin haha :D. You didn't look like having social anxiety. I mean yeah, people probably can hide it with their ways. But, you even seem very energetic for me
Me: Goes outside my backyard to play with my Sonic Plushies or Roleplay something by myself. My Social Anxiety: Everyone is looking through their windows looking at you through your backyard and judging you, and thinking your weird. Also me: alright! Time to go back inside and play inside!
Video ideas: (topics I’m curious about, that you might also want to explore) - Romanticism. The value and importance we put on romantic relationships, and not all other relationships. Maybe explore the idea that instead of finding the best partner and put effort into that one relationship, people should strive towards creating a strong inner circle of different relationships that support and meets our needs, rather than just one person. (Alain de Botton and School of Life has interesting videos about this) - How western cultures tend to value individualism and independence way more than family values and loyalty. How it affects us to have these values way out of balance, and maybe look at the pros and cons of being on either side of this spectrum. - What connecting with others really mean. That it’s not necessarily conversations, amount of time spent together, common interests etc. That it might be “the energy between people when they feel seen, heard and valued, when they can give and receive without judgement”, empathy, supporting others out of unconditional goodwill, sincere gratitude and empathy, being authentically yourself and honest. And my belief is that being vulnerable and willing to reveal our flaws and shortcomings, is the best way to create intimacy and connection with others.
Wow thank you for taking the time to write all this out! I love this and have been thinking about some similar things as well! I’m definitely going to keep chewing on this. Thanks friend 😊
@@TheKevinShen yes it is very real and I struggle with it everyday. People expect me to be the life of the party, and Im always debbie downer and they dont understand that its not me its this condition im suffering through!
I know the intro was meant to be funny (and it was) but if I have the choice, I only leave my apartment at night because I'm afraid someone will see me or say "hello" and then I have to say "hi" as to not be an asshole but I'm always terrified my voice will break or I'll be weird in some way that they will remember me by.
I feel sad reading this... I hope you can get support examining this self-imposed limitation... while I definitely feel like that sometimes, I hope you can find some positives in interacting with other humans and not have to always hide. Wishing you the best
stumbled across your channel today cause I've been wondering if I have social anxiety and came across this video ahah. so glad I found it though, great content!
The one about coffee shops. I could literally stay there the whole day worrying about what someone is saying about me or what I'm wearing and parties seem like a death sentence
Yeah it’s a mental health disorder it never goes away. I have had it for 40 years so far! People have told me to snap out of it but unfortunately it’s not that simple. Symptoms can ease, but then they can come back again even stronger and cause other health issues.
I do appreciate my body for protecting me and fighting a battle with me. But I don't want to fight a battle every single day. It's frustrating. I'm tired of it. When will it end
I wish more people understood this. I am not sure they ever will. There are 1000s of people suffering but there are also 1000s who claim to have these kind of issues and really don't. It makes it impossible to paint a accurate picture for doctors. If they get ten explanations they get ten different pictures. And some are simply people who rather be alone or even some who have no issue at all but it gets attention. Your description was the most accurate I have seen from anyone. Of course different people do have slightly different experiences, but overall that was perfect. I have avoidant personality disorder and panic disorder. I live in my room and very rarely leave. Even going out of my room to get to the bathroom is hard at times. But on the occasion that I do go to the store or even my yard I feel exactly what you just described, usually followed by a panic attack. I have no idea why, I have not always been this way. Honestly it is so bad at times I hear people talk about the world ending or Russia and nukes and I wish for it. I got all the equipment to make videos and software. And a whole studio to do music or voice overs, and I can't even do that because somthing just keeps telling me no somthing will go wrong. Sorry that was a bit winded.
Sending you the biggest hugs possible, my friend. Everyone’s fighting a hard battle and I’m rooting for you, mate. The struggle is real. Be proud of how far you’ve come. It’s not easy :)
Still knockin' it outta the park, Kev. Mind if I share this on my Facebook page? Also, I'd recommend reading the intro to Ty Tashiro's book "Awkward". Summed everything up perfectly for me.
SAD/SP can seriously interfere with your life if it's severe enough. It can stop you from ever achieving many of your personal & professional goals. I appreciate your effort & thank you for talking about it, but this video shows a mild manageable view of what is SAD/SP or perhaps shyness. ...and if SAD/SP is compounded with other disorders & phobias, it can be monster my friend. Stay well!
" Ok, what's the worst thing that could happen in the next ten minutes in this restaurant" " The waiter could try to talk to me" "..." " And we Might got hit by a meteor"
I havent gone outside in months because they're a bunch of bratty little kids my age always blocking the outside sk I can never go walk or have fun in general
I feel ya. The world could definitely use more love :) Also just checked out your channel and holy cow you are an incredible musician! Just subscribed for if you ever decide to start posting again 😄
I am socially anxious as well. Of course I go out, have fun with friends and I have attempted to go to clubs also. My friends got my back and were always around me so I felt safe. I can get accustomed to a situation quickly so I don't "seem" like somebody with social anxiety. But there's also that fear and even right now I'm dreading going to grab food because of it.
Yo Kevin :) I recently started my channel about social interactions. Among others, I make many hidden cameras video where I go have a genuine interaction with all sorts of people in all types of settings. I would love to make a video with you where we both go around and talk to random people. It would be a cool moment for you and we would make a great video :)
It should be possible to give MORE than just one thumb up to your videos! Not only for this channel, but for yourself, and other people: - Subscribe, press the bell, so you dont miss the next episode, and SHARE with someone who might need just this message from Kevin Shen!
i have just turned down two invitations to go out with friends and colleagues. and i got that weird look from them after their unsuccessful attempt to make me join them..
Hey friends, thanks for watching! :) May I ask a favor? I'd love to hear what other videos/topics you'd like to see from me! I want to make videos about things that resonate with you and are not just hype, so hearing from you would be incredibly helpful. You can DM me on IG @theKevinShen if that's easier. Thank you so much 😊
You should pin this so it appears as the top comment :))
Ah yes!! Thank you! I missed that by mistake :)
great video i tried to do a video on this topic back im 2018 when i first started my channel and i was such an epic fail but im learning and you made great points thanks for the inspiration
I feel fit unfit mostly.
You could make a video with the tools you use to live and do the things you want to do with social anxiety! Cheers :)
i wish i could take walks peacefully. i can't even step onto my front porch without my heart pounding and obsessively overthinking
same bruh. i feel like people are gonna judge me as if im doing something bad
@@supervincent_ i thought no one else would understand lol. i was taking a walk with my boyfriend the other day and he was wondering why i was so quiet and distant.
Same....
Me going outside and there's no people around: Omg the sky is judging me.
It's like I found people who understand other than my brother I just don't know I am 20 and wish I could just end it
@@spencercatoe8779 Spencer, im on my brothers account rn im your age, dude its incredebly dificult but we are going to make it, he said something in the video about seeing your anxiety as your battle buddy, i think that really helps
"I AM GONNA MEET STRANGERS. i AM GONNA DIE"
Remember Karla Every Good friend was once a Stranger :-)
YES!!! I love this 👆😊
Yes going to parties would head for the food table and stand there all night.
Yup. 😅 The struggle is real my friend lol
Ive done just that all of middle school😭😂
I have struggled with social anxiety disorder for almost 10 years and counting. It started when I was 17; and teenage to young adults days were supposed to be filled with lots of fun, parties, amazing adventures and knowing tons of new people without feeling like you're gonna die every single time. I love all these things but my body just doesn't allow me to. It just won't calm down. Imagine all the fun I could have if anxiety wasn't present :')
The struggle is real :) Big hugs my friend!
😭😭😭😭😭😭
The intro was funny !;)
Hahahaha thank you!! 😄🙃😂
I never liked going into parties and being around unfamiliar people, and this video showed me why. Damn my amígdala 😵
Haha the struggle is so real 😅 Stay strong, friend!! 🙏❤️ The rest of us awkward folks can just hang out here in the corner while everyone else goes to party 😂
@@TheKevinShen ya and when i find my corner of refuge, people call me anti-social...
I needed this! Social anxiety sometimes feels so irrational and it makes me hate myself even more, especially when I compare myself to others who make meeting new people seem just so effortless.
Yeah... we shouldn't compare ourselves with others tho, everyone is different
I just embarrassed my entire family by having a major panic attack at a birthday party
*I'm happy that I came upon your video or else I would've ended my day by crying myself to sleep*
*Keep it up* ❤️❤️
aw! sending big hugs my friend ❤️😊 hang in there :)
what happened? spill the beans
Kevin, you are giving a very positive perspective about us with social anxiety. it's very heartwarming to get the reassurance that we ought to be kind to ourselves and see that hyperactive amygdala more as our own protective mechanism than we should think of it as a weakness. thank you so much for such insight.
Yes! Sending big hugs my friend :)
I hella relate. I seem like a normal guy but it's always on my mind and it can be exhausting for me to hang out with other people when my brain is on overdrive. Another aspect of social anxiety is it isn't always in public, I get really anxious when I'm recording my music and voice and have a more difficult time than when I'm not recording. I can get really invested in movies as well to the point where I'm panicking if I don't know what's about to happen. Can't smoke weed even though I've tried dozens of times, pretty sensitive to alcohol as well but not as bad. I've spent so much time trying to figure it out on my own and something I learned is that it's okay to ask for help. I'm starting to get therapy and take medication (hopefully I'll eventually be able to switch off) and I'm for once feeling pretty optimistic.
Honestly speaking, this was a very refreshing video . .
Thank you, Kev! 🙏😊 Kevin squad represent! 👊🏼😎
This makes me feel better about my own social anxiety… I have the same thing when I cross people on the sidewalk and I’ve always felt so stupid about it. It makes me feel much better that I’m not the only person feeling that way about such a tiny random situation
You deserve more of a million views
Haha thank you for the support and encouragement, my friend. You taking the time to watch and comment already means a lot 🙏 :)
It's not just anxiety.. I stumble thru my words .. literally
it’s super annoying having social anxiety but also being extroverted,, i wanna meet and talk to everyone but i’m super paranoid of everyone and everything
Omg I love that idea of how protective our body is! I now can feel the love for myself 💕 :) Thank you
Isn’t it awesome?! 😊 Sending love, my friend!
This is one of the reasons I love yoga. I feel so connected to a community and yet welcome to just be me and not have to perform as this outgoing person or anything other than what I am.
After three years without a panic attack I experienced one again yesterday. I was with a group of people I didn’t know with an already empty social battery. My social anxiety hasn’t been this bad for a long time, and yesterday I felt weak and stupid for loosing all control again. I got home and felt so alone and misunderstood. Then I found your video and just cried. I was so relieved knowing I am not alone with this and there are people out there experiencing similar struggles.
We are so strong and we are doing our best! Thank you so much Kevin for saving me last night🤍
Wow thank you for sharing. It's tough for real. I'm proud of you. Sending you much love and the biggest of big hugs my friend 😊
Dude you litterly made me cry when you said social anxiety is always protecting you, I never thought of it that way before.
Thank you so much for making this video. I feel at peace watching this.
So good!! “I’m going to die” 😂 I completely relate!
You got me tearing up😭. It's so true that it's hard to be able to go somewhere or do something because of anxiety and with these days lately having to make bigger sacrifices to accomplish my goals and dreams it's gotten more intense because of what's ahead of me. I've been working as hard as I can to make it through college to become a person who can help others, and at first I wasn't sure exactly what I should become, but with some help and some changes I've realized I truly to want to become a clinical psychologist. So to do this ofc I need a doctorates. It's a long road ahead of me and even though I'm almost done with my bachelor's there's so much more I have to do to be able to make my dreams come true so it's pretty overwhelming when it comes to looking for an apartment, living away from family, learning how to deal with finances, building money for retirement, finding true love and someone who will truly care for me. All these things are hard to think about all at the same time, and I think "When will it all be over? All the stress and all the worries. All the restlessness and hurt that I go through just to survive." I also have ADHD combined type and it makes it extremely difficult just to function throughout the day. I've been going to therapy for about 5 months now and seeing a psychiatrist but it's only now that I'll be taking a new medication that I hope will help. It's Strattera 25 mg. If this one doesn't work then I'll just have to move onto the next one and the next.
Omg. You're awesome! Keep doing you. I'm totally rooting for you.💙
Woah man, I live at Woodlake, suffer from social anxiety and have a similar name too!
awesome video
Hey thanks! :)
Thnx for the video, i dont feel alone anymore, i come to the realisation where i finally know there are people like me outside, and we're not weird :)
Haha yesss! Everyone's a little bit weird... so no one's weird :))
I love you Kevin ❤
So nice to have someone to relate to and understands you
Hate people who assume things
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I have social anxiety and I can relate to pretty much everything you talked about in the video, thank you for this really good content ^^
The struggle is real :P Haha keep on, my friend :)
I ❤️ Kevin. I think the world is better because he’s here
Hahahaha love you bro. 😂
Videoing my self is so hard maybe you overcome the hardest part of Having social anxiety
I'm so lucky I find your video on RUclips I have been suffering from social anxiety for a long time. I will be kind to myself from now on 🙏
No wonder why I don’t go to party’s, don’t have friends, no wonder why I always have Sonic Plush Party’s, and think that my Sonic Plushies are my only Friends 💀
That was a great first impression, just subbed. :)
HAHA best comment ever 😄 I lol’ed. Thank you friend!! :)
All of this has literally happened to me and I feel like I am not alone anymore😊👍
Last part of the video connected with me so much, what you said of believing that your anxiety is your body trying to take care of you in the best way it cans just gave me a huge peaceful feeling
I’ve never related so much and this video made me feel a lot better so thank you. I’m good at denying my social anxiety but in reality it’s stopping me from being happy and doing everything I want to do all I have to do is get past that mental barrier and get out of my comfort zone but it is really draining
Sending big hugs friend :)
this hug was bigger than usual one:) You are brilliant and then some,
Much love,
G
I have social anxiety too, I've been struggling for all my life.
That's why I make videos and record my self to see my self on other perspectives.
So I can improve and Learn to speak and practice my English too 😄.
I'm glad I'm not alone.
Start recording your self guys 😄
Understand learn your self.
YOU CAN DO IT!! You are not that bad!
ugh i cried. thank you for this
sending hugs friend
Thank you!
I actually survived 3 years of my pre school without speaking to anyone. Not even the teachers. I would just stay silent whenever they asked me questions
Good video, to the point
Thanks for a great video, Kevin! The video brings fresh perspective on looking at our social anxiety as our body's protective mechanism and to not forget to be kind to ourselves.
This channel is crimially underrated! keep going!
I have a box too. Headphones, a mask and a full length winter coat with the hood up. Complete with a scowl. Works perfectly
You’re such a great human, Kevin. Sending a big hug right back to you, my friend!
Right back atcha brother. Thank you so much for being here, and for making this RUclips journey what it is. 🙏
I've been feeling very low and lonely because of my social anxiety lately. Thank you for this video.
I think a lot of people have some level of social anxiety. People need to know it's ok. We can't all be up and ready to meet strangers. As an introvert, I find it exhausting to meet new people and do small talks all the time even thought I work at a job that requires me to see and talk to people all day long. In fact, I can't imagine myself making youtube videos and posting it online....that actually makes me anxious haha.
I too have a social anxiety n I don't know how to came out of it , it's just a miserable experience , I started practicing yoga that helps me a lot , those who have social anxiety please let yourself frequent exposure to people the more u interect with people the more u can rid of this pathetic situation , n don't think negative thats the key of social anxiety
I hate going out and tslking to ppl... its like everything is going bad
I have social anxiety and I didn’t really admit I had it until a little while ago. luckily for me it s in the middle and I am still able to talk when I need to but when I go to school in my head I’m thinking “what if these people think I’m weird” “why did I say that stupid stupid” so it’s not really fun and I hate taking to strangers unless they seem approachable
Incredible! Thanks for sharing with humor and honesty
I really appreciate this video as it reminds me that I'm not alone in this so thank you :)
Bcz of my social anxiety i can't read text in school or write in the board ,i'm shaking
Also i can't look.someone in their eyes
Great storytelling in this. Not something that I would normally watch but was very captivating for me. 🙏
Man this is such a huge compliment You giving your time to watch means a whole lot. Thank you brother! 👊🏼😊
Can relate. Thanks for sharing.
Thank *you* for watching 🙃 lol
To be honest I am actually curious about you Kevin haha :D. You didn't look like having social anxiety. I mean yeah, people probably can hide it with their ways. But, you even seem very energetic for me
Fantastic video .....keep up the good work
Thank you my friend!! Appreciate you :)
Que manera tan cómica de empezar el video, muy bueno me encantó
The fact that I'm 90% sure that i have it but my parents won't take it seriously.
Thank you
Me: Goes outside my backyard to play with my Sonic Plushies or Roleplay something by myself.
My Social Anxiety: Everyone is looking through their windows looking at you through your backyard and judging you, and thinking your weird.
Also me: alright! Time to go back inside and play inside!
Why do I panic when I speak with people not just strangers everyone except family? I'm sweating, blushing and barely even saying the words
Video ideas:
(topics I’m curious about, that you might also want to explore)
- Romanticism. The value and importance we put on romantic relationships, and not all other relationships. Maybe explore the idea that instead of finding the best partner and put effort into that one relationship, people should strive towards creating a strong inner circle of different relationships that support and meets our needs, rather than just one person.
(Alain de Botton and School of Life has interesting videos about this)
- How western cultures tend to value individualism and independence way more than family values and loyalty. How it affects us to have these values way out of balance, and maybe look at the pros and cons of being on either side of this spectrum.
- What connecting with others really mean. That it’s not necessarily conversations, amount of time spent together, common interests etc.
That it might be “the energy between people when they feel seen, heard and valued, when they can give and receive without judgement”, empathy, supporting others out of unconditional goodwill, sincere gratitude and empathy, being authentically yourself and honest.
And my belief is that being vulnerable and willing to reveal our flaws and shortcomings, is the best way to create intimacy and connection with others.
Wow thank you for taking the time to write all this out! I love this and have been thinking about some similar things as well! I’m definitely going to keep chewing on this. Thanks friend 😊
This video was by far one of the best assessments of social anxiety good job
Thank you! Haha the struggle is real
@@TheKevinShen yes it is very real and I struggle with it everyday. People expect me to be the life of the party, and Im always debbie downer and they dont understand that its not me its this condition im suffering through!
Well said brother. Sending you all the best dude
@@TheKevinShen thanks man keep up the good work were watching.
Yep, this video is refreshing indeed, thanks.
Also, your smile is so cute😅👌💞
Aw thank you! :)🙏🏼
I know the intro was meant to be funny (and it was) but if I have the choice, I only leave my apartment at night because I'm afraid someone will see me or say "hello" and then I have to say "hi" as to not be an asshole but I'm always terrified my voice will break or I'll be weird in some way that they will remember me by.
I feel sad reading this... I hope you can get support examining this self-imposed limitation... while I definitely feel like that sometimes, I hope you can find some positives in interacting with other humans and not have to always hide. Wishing you the best
stumbled across your channel today cause I've been wondering if I have social anxiety and came across this video ahah. so glad I found it though, great content!
lol! thank you 😄
The one about coffee shops. I could literally stay there the whole day worrying about what someone is saying about me or what I'm wearing and parties seem like a death sentence
Amazing reminder of gratitude💯 omg the box 🤣 I want a box
am introvert with social anxiety, I can't explain how terrible it is to be one ,its ruining my life , fuked up 🤯🥵🥶🤢🤮
SAMEE
@@Qryjjlkysej God bless
In the past they told me social anxiety goes away as you get older, now I'm 39 and still messed up
Yeah it’s a mental health disorder it never goes away. I have had it for 40 years so far! People have told me to snap out of it but unfortunately it’s not that simple. Symptoms can ease, but then they can come back again even stronger and cause other health issues.
Kevin Shen is my hero
Josh Little is my role model 👊☺️
Awesome! Thanks for sharing Kevin! I post treatment videos on my channel to help with social anxiety and OCD. 😃
Yesss! I love it. Thanks man! Just subbed! :D
@@TheKevinShen Thanks brother! I'm loving your stuff.
I do appreciate my body for protecting me and fighting a battle with me. But I don't want to fight a battle every single day. It's frustrating. I'm tired of it. When will it end
awh representation ☀️
I wish more people understood this. I am not sure they ever will. There are 1000s of people suffering but there are also 1000s who claim to have these kind of issues and really don't. It makes it impossible to paint a accurate picture for doctors. If they get ten explanations they get ten different pictures. And some are simply people who rather be alone or even some who have no issue at all but it gets attention. Your description was the most accurate I have seen from anyone. Of course different people do have slightly different experiences, but overall that was perfect. I have avoidant personality disorder and panic disorder. I live in my room and very rarely leave. Even going out of my room to get to the bathroom is hard at times. But on the occasion that I do go to the store or even my yard I feel exactly what you just described, usually followed by a panic attack. I have no idea why, I have not always been this way. Honestly it is so bad at times I hear people talk about the world ending or Russia and nukes and I wish for it. I got all the equipment to make videos and software. And a whole studio to do music or voice overs, and I can't even do that because somthing just keeps telling me no somthing will go wrong. Sorry that was a bit winded.
Sending you the biggest hugs possible, my friend. Everyone’s fighting a hard battle and I’m rooting for you, mate. The struggle is real. Be proud of how far you’ve come. It’s not easy :)
love the intro :D
I had a talented camera man ;) thanks for the shots bro!
it’s so overwhelming 😭
Still knockin' it outta the park, Kev. Mind if I share this on my Facebook page?
Also, I'd recommend reading the intro to Ty Tashiro's book "Awkward". Summed everything up perfectly for me.
Absolutely please do! Thanks Laura :)) I’ll have to check it out!
Scheduled for Saturday. =)
I loved the intro😂
New subscriber.Luv the video and the Jarvis analogy 💙💙
Haha I know right!? Thanks Marcus! 🙌🏼
I don’t have it now I’ll be a careless person that once cared lol
awesome vid so relatable this deserves a sub and a like.
Thanks! :)
I’m trying to figure out what’s going on with me. I can’t go anywhere without thinking everyone’s watching me. Like what the fuck
SAD/SP can seriously interfere with your life if it's severe enough. It can stop you from ever achieving many of your personal & professional goals. I appreciate your effort & thank you for talking about it, but this video shows a mild manageable view of what is SAD/SP or perhaps shyness. ...and if SAD/SP is compounded with other disorders & phobias, it can be monster my friend. Stay well!
That video is absolutely amazing 🙏
Hey thanks brother! :)
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" Ok, what's the worst thing that could happen in the next ten minutes in this restaurant"
" The waiter could try to talk to me"
"..."
" And we Might got hit by a meteor"
same thing happens to me bro :) but still fighting to overcome this and insha Allah one day will overcome
👊🏼 we got this bro :)
Thank you!!!
I feel you Kevin. Plus you're handsome.
Lov u
I havent gone outside in months because they're a bunch of bratty little kids my age always blocking the outside sk I can never go walk or have fun in general
Let's share the hardships and the love, maybe a little bit every day, or every other day. Sometimes it's more intense, somedays it's...
I feel ya. The world could definitely use more love :) Also just checked out your channel and holy cow you are an incredible musician! Just subscribed for if you ever decide to start posting again 😄
I am socially anxious as well. Of course I go out, have fun with friends and I have attempted to go to clubs also. My friends got my back and were always around me so I felt safe. I can get accustomed to a situation quickly so I don't "seem" like somebody with social anxiety. But there's also that fear and even right now I'm dreading going to grab food because of it.
Well said! Sending hugs my friend :)
Yo Kevin :) I recently started my channel about social interactions. Among others, I make many hidden cameras video where I go have a genuine interaction with all sorts of people in all types of settings. I would love to make a video with you where we both go around and talk to random people. It would be a cool moment for you and we would make a great video :)
It should be possible to give MORE than just one thumb up to your videos!
Not only for this channel, but for yourself, and other people:
- Subscribe, press the bell, so you dont miss the next episode, and SHARE with someone who might need just this message from Kevin Shen!
Bjørnar! Thank you so much for all your support! 🙏😊
Im is an social anxienty to😢
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i have just turned down two invitations to go out with friends and colleagues. and i got that weird look from them after their unsuccessful attempt to make me join them..