I’ve had two attacks in front of my boyfriend the second one was on vacation with his family but he stayed with me and told me to breathe and just sat with me till I got better ❤️
Let me tell you, loving someone with serious anxiety is so hard. They're very honest most of the time with what they need, but it feels like I can never be enough for them and I always fuck up even when I feel like I'm trying. I just don't know what to do
@@uchiha_sasuke5337 this shit is massively true lmfao, we’re just trying to help and be kind as dudes and we end up making it like 1000 times worse because she grabs a single thing we said and thinks it means some other shit
Let me just say something here. To the people who have anxiety that stumbled across this video, and have seen some of these damaging comments, you are so worthy of being loved by someone. If you can't get help or are struggling to, you are NOT alone. I promise there is hope out there for you. And to the people who are saying not to date someone with anxiety purely for the fact that you'll get hurt, let me tell you something you might not know. It doesn't matter if someone has anxiety or not, when you're in a committed relationship you're gonna push each other's buttons and hurt each other's feelings. It happens. And yes, if you genuinely can't be emotionally mature enough to try and empathize with someone's anxiety, do them a favor and don't date them so they can find someone who will love them, flaws and all. And if you are someone with anxiety using it as an excuse to hurt or get away with things, get help. Because that's not okay either. People, please please PLEASE do your research before you jump to conclusions and judge people.
damn straight, currently started very early, dating someone with social anxiety and it is rough, but right now im just trying to wrap my head around the whole social anxiety part trying to understand it.
exactly, the point of relationships isnt what you get out, you probably will get hurt no matter what your partner struggles with. Love selflessly and try to help your best
my girl also have anxiety but when i ask her what are the reasons then the reasons are like ants but feels very depressed and yeah dating with someone with anxiety is veri challenging but yeah ILOVEHER❤
Being married to someone with anxiety goes like this: you can take all preventive measures plausibly possible, and you still never know what's going to make this person freak out. They turn everyday normal circumstances into a crisis. Taking time to rationalize the situation does absolutely no good. After 13 years I'm at the end of my rope. I walk on eggshells, I can't deal with it anymore you just never know what kind of mood this person's going to be in. You never know what's going to happen that's going to have them freaking out in crisis mode. It could be that somebody just parked a little too close in the parking lot and they can't get their door open all the way, That's how little it really takes. It's totally irrational behavior for rational people to be around. And I'm sorry to say but I think people with extreme anxiety are doomed to spend life alone. Another good example is this: the high school in my neighborhood was going to have a parade in the middle of the week and they closed down the roads between 5:30 p.m. and 6:30 pm. When my wife saw this information first thing in the morning she sent several text messages complaining about the times that they chose to close down the roads complained about all the mess that it would cause and how we would all be stuck in traffic. Had a total freak out about the whole situation, and then at the end of the day it didn't affect her or anybody. I received several text messages about how stupid poor planning was involved, all to end up having Zero Effect on her. But to see her reaction you would know, total crisis mode over nothing. And that is an example of extreme anxiety. Most rational people will have a hard time dealing with someone like this long-term. I can't believe I've made it 13 years. Children involved makes it hard to leave.
I'm on 22 years and this year feels like it could be the end. None of the preventative measures I take are ever enough. I'm definitely walking on eggshells everyday, but when I make a mistake like the traffic light turning yellow right before I'm going through it and I don't have enough time to stop because there's a couch in the back of my truck sends my wife spiraling talking about divorce. What am I supposed to do? I know driving gives her anxiety, but things like this just happen sometimes. I can't go back in time it fix it but to her this is a personal attack, that I don't value her because I wasn't anticipating every possible thing that could upset her. How am I supposed to continue like this? I love her with all my heart, I've known her longer than most people in my life, I would die for her but I feel like I'm never enough.
I feel you man, I feel you. They pick the most masculine men to be with and for them to deal with them it seems like SMH. It's either a nightmare or stupid as hell to deal with. I came to this comment section for more info because more than a couple women with anxiety like dating qualities that I have tall athletic etc etc. Hearing your input puts things into perspective more than this video itself in my personal opinion. They probably will be alone, I tell you what though They better be fine as hell if they don't plan on being I know that for damn sure!!!💯 If you need an ear I got you if you have any other social media.
It's hard to deal with someone like that, I personally haven't but I'm trying to, there's this girl I really like but she has anxiety, she tells me we can do something together then disappears. It's definitely up to the person if they want to deal with someone like that.
@silverblue9286 my respects for trying to hold it together. I believe all mental issues can be fixed only if the person who suffers from it wants to get better. I had a friend with depression, and it looked like he was always looking for random reasons to sabotage himself, even when things were going exactly as he wanted, he would make up things ti be depressed about. Eventually, he stopped being my friend because he didn't want me to help him anymore. He just wanted to go to a corner and drink and feel bad about nothing.
Having anxiety is a normal occurence and not necessarily a "mental illness". It is okay to feel anxious! Just taking steps forward is progress. Maybe trying to overcome the social situational anxiety could show someone you care about how you are trying so that you can spend more time together.
😂 For "normal" people IT IS a mental illness and not very normal to act like this. Sorry, but many people don't like to live abnormal when they have no anxiety about what so ever. It's making people feel trapped and missing out a lot.
I did this for 2 years. I can say with all honesty: Don't do it, don't do it, don't do it, don't do it, don't do it, don't do it and finally....don't do it. At the best of times in the relationship, things were good. At the worst of times, they were epically bad. I loved this this other person very much and understand that they still suffer greatly with anxiety. However, this person never wanted to address this problem on a professional level and as such the relationship deteriorated and so eventually it felt like I was being beaten over the head by this person's anxiety.
@@twiceyazz3661I used to avoid my friends and would self SABOTAGE due to fear now i've become anxious about dating... In friendship my fear of getting hurt would trigger avoidance behaviours in me and in dating my fear of losing them would trigger anxiety in me
What is a good resource for trying to deal with someone with ocd?one minute friendly flirting later cold. Due to the ocd I don’t know if this is an ocd thing and try and be patient. Or just a guy who isn’t interested.
I’m starting to date someone with anxiety but I’m not afraid of it because I used to have it really bad but I’ve pretty much gotten over it. Recovery International (basically AA for anxiety) definitely helped me.
Can you please help, she loves me I love her but even after many years she is still anxious to go out with, how can I give her the easiest possible way to feel comfortable around me in person? How can you actually get someone with extreme anxiety to go on a date, It was so hard for her to go out together when she brought someone's along with her, how can I make it 10x easier and just be us two any ideas?
I’m struggling with this topic because I don’t have the luxury of being able to make anything in my life happen by saying I have anxiety. It’s always been used against me and I’m made to feel terrible because, often, I have to go and do the things that help the people relying on me to, you know, eat…. Or have shelter.
I have anxiety and it's rather severe because of having minimal cerable palsy.. It's not that physical but a lot more mental.. I've never had any luck with woman I've liked over the years because of my insecurities and anxiety.. I'm turning 50 in October and I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 30.and that was a long distance one that ended after 3 months. But I met a woman in November and the connection was instant.. I enjoyed her personality but it took awhile to get her on a date.. I told her first up I wasn't interested in being friends as I was looking for love.. We kissed on the first two dates between Christmas and new years.. It was very exciting for me as it was sensual and actually coming from her.. But the new year started and she figured out my anxiety and lack of confidence. She tested me a lot handing out business cards in my presence.. She also has a few issues has ocd.. But her confidence seams better then mine.. She also friend zoned me after date 3 and I went with it till end March when she told me one night she still needs time. I told her I can't wait as it's been about 4 months.. I am still hurting it felt so great together but she had red flags.. I finally cu ties on 14th April when we both basically said our goodbyes.. Should I reach out again? Or should I wait on her? She's a similar age to me 46 I believe divorced woman who didn't want anything to serious I guess I came across a little needy although I didn't get upset when she didn't reply or replied very late.. I need advice please?
You'll get the right one don't worry a girl that just left you like that is not a real girlfriend. A true girlfriend would still be there for you even though you suffer anxiety.
dating someone with anxiety is being a punching back.. someone to lash out on …being a therapist and counselor.. while they sit back and don’t do anything about it
So in other words, as a guy who grew up with selective mutism, social anxiety, and possibly body dysmorphic disorder, and never developed any social skills as a result, I should just give up on dating. According to people in the comments. Well that just made my day. I already gave up years ago though so I guess it was a good decision. I lied. I did just start back trying but i guess it was for nothing.
As someone within a relationship with a partner who has anxiety, I can tell you this advice sucks. Don't get me wrong, learning about Anxiety is nice, but it doesn't do anything to actually help you with their anxiety. As a partner, you'd have to constantly walk around eggshells, because anything you do might trigger their anxiety, and the guilt trip blame their anxiety causes is now on you. You can NEVER get mad at anything they do, because your anger could spark THEIR anxiety., and make them think they are the issue. You can NEVER vent about your own issues, because your venting might spark THEIR anxiety, and make them think they aren't good enough. You MUST keep their anxiety in mind with every action you perform, you have to be fast, you have to always be there, and you can never have any real time for yourself. Because the moment you react even slightly too late, their anxiety will be triggered, and makes them think you no longer love them. THEIR anxiety can, and will induce anxiety within you because of the mental stress and strain their anxiety forces upon you. THEIR anxiety can, and will hurt YOU because they continuesly tell you that they love you, but their anxiety keeps pushing you away. Take this as the kindest advice I can give. DO NOT DATE SOMEONE WITH ANXIETY, because once you're in too deep, and once you love them so so much, your life can, and will become a whole lot harder, and a whole lot more stressfull. Both mentally, and physically. It might be unfair as can be to people with anxiety, but THEIR ANXIETY IS NOT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH TAX. I'm in too deep. I love them so, so, so, so, so much. And I couldn't imagine the world without them in it. But my mental health heavily taxed.
I 100% agree I’m deeply in love with someone that has depression & anxiety. It always feels like I’m being pushed away or she doesn’t truly care about me but I’ll never turn my back on her cause she’s like my other half
but i love them so much. they are the reason im holding on but sometimes they hurt me so bad. we cant do the things i would want to, cant even TRY. they cant EVEN TRY to. they have gotten better and im so proud of them for that, i am, it makes me so happy that they are improving but it really hurts me that they wont go out there comfort zone sometimes. they wont try sometimes. they have their bubble and whatever i say or do its almost like they dont care. but i know they do. i probably have depression and i still try everyday so hard to stretch myself to make them happy. i leave my bed even though its a prison cell. i joke even when i cant stand being alive yet they wont even dance with me, alone in their bedroom. it hurts. and i feel so selfish for being so hurt, because they cant i help it and i feel like a horrible person. but I love them so much.
I dated someone last week who admitted she had anxiety. She's an awesome person but she rejected me. Not sure if I dodged a bullet or should I feel dejected.
Yes.. You are correct. My ex had autism, adhd, ocd, anxiety and depression with mommy, daddy issues, abandonment issues from father, and raped As a kid(she claims) and two men tried to rob her. Once I started spending the nights, is when all these issues came out.. Its really rough!!!
The important question is are they willing to improve. Idk about yours experience, but I am seeing a girl with social anxiety on her meds, I could have never guessed that she has the anxiety. She tries to go out and do social stuff, that's exactly how we met lol, I was a little bit too dense to ask her out after having a good conversation, but at the end of an event we were on she said something like "when you are gonna get out on the next event text me", so in a way I was asked out xd. I kinda understand her struggles and the use of meds, cuz I suspect my mother and I have adhd, so maybe we could help eachother out!
I gave all and she accepted. Then she said love was overwhelming. What the hell. Never again going down that rabbit hole because if I do, my life will be consumed with this maelstrom. That's my piece of info. ladies, please challenge my statement. debate welcomed.
I'm not a lady, but you should of said knowing you love me will keep me going but il back off a bit to give you space. As much as I don't want to it's what you feel you need, then easied back in to it. Back off move slowly in back of move slowly in ect, till she was ready to be loved all the time
Anxiety is basically just self-absorption. Too much focus on self. Overcoming anxiety requires getting your head out of your own butt. Me, me, me, all the therapy and advice just reinforces the idea that it's all about me.
Therapy works. That’s a fact. And as far as the me me me, it’s a disorder. They can’t help those feelings and thoughts. Anxiety isn’t cured by saying “it isn’t about me. I’ll try to focus on other people.” Your bf/gf with anxiety needs you. If you leave them, you’re the one who’s all about me me me.
@@broderickfallThe last part only happens once. One time me! If you stay the other persons me will be the biggest one for the rest of your life. (It's not solved like an easy thing) If you like it, no problem. But otherwise, yes, sometimes you HAVE TO BE selfish ❤
anxiety is not self absorption! most people anxiety get stressed and overwhelmed. they are not just thinking about themselves. and everyone’s different so maybe some people anxiety could be self absorbed.
we arent thinking ANY of that stuff, thats ridiculous. whats going on is a FEELING that we struggle to control or cannot control... we arent suffering from anxiety because we are worried about what we are wearing.... this was obviously written by someone who has NO idea.
Learn... No way! Run... as fast as you can... and don't look back!!! Like a psycho chasing you with a knife ... don't stop? don't look back? don't ask for directions?!?! Run Mo'fo Run!!!
@@TheBanjoShowOfficial😂 Not as big like this. Don't make this as if it is no biggie. It turnes normal people lifes upside down. From outgoing to on a rope. That's not a nice way to life a live, when you are not the one with the anxiety 😂😂😂
What if someone says i cant date you cause you have hbp or you have diabetes i cant date u we all got something wrong with us so stop with this foolishness No body is perfect smh at some humans
I know this sounds kinda silly but , I’m helping a close friend_ Celeste _ dubios and she even been true inspiration to me while she was a model I know she a strong person and follows my advice, she based in Columbia, she suffers anxiety at times, knowing that she txt me on the odd occasions, I know she currently much better, it felt like we where dating, but I know we know each other 4 months, but help to get occasional with money when I can or gift.. but give her space now and again.. I do still have feelings for her .. but must be strong and know she can cope to the best of her abilities and she knows that I care and love her, but I’m finding it easier to focus more on myself
I’ve had two attacks in front of my boyfriend the second one was on vacation with his family but he stayed with me and told me to breathe and just sat with me till I got better ❤️
Was marijuana involved?
@@furlonggg1 the video and the comment are both about anxiety, where did you get marijuana from?
@@YinC4 marijuana caused it for me, just asking
Let me tell you, loving someone with serious anxiety is so hard. They're very honest most of the time with what they need, but it feels like I can never be enough for them and I always fuck up even when I feel like I'm trying. I just don't know what to do
@mundane5456 Yep this is me rn, she said we should have a break. She had a massive anxiety attack and I made it worse when I was just trying to help.
I as an anxious person the best thing you can do is listen to her needs.
@@uchiha_sasuke5337 this shit is massively true lmfao, we’re just trying to help and be kind as dudes and we end up making it like 1000 times worse because she grabs a single thing we said and thinks it means some other shit
Brother. So true.
I'm having the same struggle. I've decided I'm leaving the relationship. I love her so much but I can't live like this anymore.
Let me just say something here. To the people who have anxiety that stumbled across this video, and have seen some of these damaging comments, you are so worthy of being loved by someone. If you can't get help or are struggling to, you are NOT alone. I promise there is hope out there for you. And to the people who are saying not to date someone with anxiety purely for the fact that you'll get hurt, let me tell you something you might not know. It doesn't matter if someone has anxiety or not, when you're in a committed relationship you're gonna push each other's buttons and hurt each other's feelings. It happens. And yes, if you genuinely can't be emotionally mature enough to try and empathize with someone's anxiety, do them a favor and don't date them so they can find someone who will love them, flaws and all. And if you are someone with anxiety using it as an excuse to hurt or get away with things, get help. Because that's not okay either. People, please please PLEASE do your research before you jump to conclusions and judge people.
damn straight, currently started very early, dating someone with social anxiety and it is rough, but right now im just trying to wrap my head around the whole social anxiety part trying to understand it.
Facts
exactly, the point of relationships isnt what you get out, you probably will get hurt no matter what your partner struggles with. Love selflessly and try to help your best
worddddd. people just dont understand how hard it can get but also how fruitful it can be
That’s so true thank you! :)
I’m getting anxiety, just hearing anxiety. Very awesome video though lol!
my girl also have anxiety but when i ask her what are the reasons then the reasons are like ants but feels very depressed and yeah dating with someone with anxiety is veri challenging but yeah ILOVEHER❤
Take care of her....... Support her emotionally mentally and make her happy talk to her openly ask her what she feels
And what things makes you happy
Being married to someone with anxiety goes like this: you can take all preventive measures plausibly possible, and you still never know what's going to make this person freak out. They turn everyday normal circumstances into a crisis. Taking time to rationalize the situation does absolutely no good. After 13 years I'm at the end of my rope. I walk on eggshells, I can't deal with it anymore you just never know what kind of mood this person's going to be in. You never know what's going to happen that's going to have them freaking out in crisis mode. It could be that somebody just parked a little too close in the parking lot and they can't get their door open all the way, That's how little it really takes. It's totally irrational behavior for rational people to be around. And I'm sorry to say but I think people with extreme anxiety are doomed to spend life alone.
Another good example is this: the high school in my neighborhood was going to have a parade in the middle of the week and they closed down the roads between 5:30 p.m. and 6:30 pm. When my wife saw this information first thing in the morning she sent several text messages complaining about the times that they chose to close down the roads complained about all the mess that it would cause and how we would all be stuck in traffic. Had a total freak out about the whole situation, and then at the end of the day it didn't affect her or anybody. I received several text messages about how stupid poor planning was involved, all to end up having Zero Effect on her. But to see her reaction you would know, total crisis mode over nothing. And that is an example of extreme anxiety. Most rational people will have a hard time dealing with someone like this long-term. I can't believe I've made it 13 years. Children involved makes it hard to leave.
I'm on 22 years and this year feels like it could be the end. None of the preventative measures I take are ever enough. I'm definitely walking on eggshells everyday, but when I make a mistake like the traffic light turning yellow right before I'm going through it and I don't have enough time to stop because there's a couch in the back of my truck sends my wife spiraling talking about divorce. What am I supposed to do? I know driving gives her anxiety, but things like this just happen sometimes. I can't go back in time it fix it but to her this is a personal attack, that I don't value her because I wasn't anticipating every possible thing that could upset her. How am I supposed to continue like this? I love her with all my heart, I've known her longer than most people in my life, I would die for her but I feel like I'm never enough.
I feel you man, I feel you. They pick the most masculine men to be with and for them to deal with them it seems like SMH. It's either a nightmare or stupid as hell to deal with. I came to this comment section for more info because more than a couple women with anxiety like dating qualities that I have tall athletic etc etc. Hearing your input puts things into perspective more than this video itself in my personal opinion. They probably will be alone, I tell you what though They better be fine as hell if they don't plan on being I know that for damn sure!!!💯 If you need an ear I got you if you have any other social media.
@@GotTh3Fragleave man it ain't worth it. They would never deal with that on us. That's literally the only excuse I need to not be bothered with it.
I know all situations are different. But mine seems really out there.
I'm ending my relationship with a high anxiety girlfriend. I'm so tired of the deflection her anxiety causes. Never again.
It's hard to deal with someone like that, I personally haven't but I'm trying to, there's this girl I really like but she has anxiety, she tells me we can do something together then disappears. It's definitely up to the person if they want to deal with someone like that.
@@YinC4 best of luck. My girlfriend was beautiful but high anxiety, depression, and newly self diagnosed adhd has caused our relationship to falter.
@silverblue9286 my respects for trying to hold it together. I believe all mental issues can be fixed only if the person who suffers from it wants to get better. I had a friend with depression, and it looked like he was always looking for random reasons to sabotage himself, even when things were going exactly as he wanted, he would make up things ti be depressed about. Eventually, he stopped being my friend because he didn't want me to help him anymore. He just wanted to go to a corner and drink and feel bad about nothing.
best thing to do is leave if their not doing anything about it
They wind up the crazy older ladies all the time every time SMH.
Having anxiety is a normal occurence and not necessarily a "mental illness". It is okay to feel anxious! Just taking steps forward is progress. Maybe trying to overcome the social situational anxiety could show someone you care about how you are trying so that you can spend more time together.
It seems like it can transform into something else if not checked
😂 For "normal" people IT IS a mental illness and not very normal to act like this. Sorry, but many people don't like to live abnormal when they have no anxiety about what so ever. It's making people feel trapped and missing out a lot.
@@darrendyson8347It does. It's not normal.
I did this for 2 years. I can say with all honesty: Don't do it, don't do it, don't do it, don't do it, don't do it, don't do it and finally....don't do it.
At the best of times in the relationship, things were good. At the worst of times, they were epically bad.
I loved this this other person very much and understand that they still suffer greatly with anxiety. However, this person never wanted to address this problem on a professional level and as such the relationship deteriorated and so eventually it felt like I was being beaten over the head by this person's anxiety.
If you’re in a relationship with someone who has anxiety, they’ll end up giving you anxiety
😂😂😂😂😂
Why this is so accurate? 😂
Really?? 😢
@@Akshara631 sometimes yes !
@@twiceyazz3661I used to avoid my friends and would self SABOTAGE due to fear now i've become anxious about dating... In friendship my fear of getting hurt would trigger avoidance behaviours in me and in dating my fear of losing them would trigger anxiety in me
What is a good resource for trying to deal with someone with ocd?one minute friendly flirting later cold. Due to the ocd I don’t know if this is an ocd thing and try and be patient. Or just a guy who isn’t interested.
The best part is when their anxiety becomes your anxiety. Anxiety spreads like a cancer. You have to be a fucking pillar, you have to be rigid.
I’m starting to date someone with anxiety but I’m not afraid of it because I used to have it really bad but I’ve pretty much gotten over it. Recovery International (basically AA for anxiety) definitely helped me.
Can you please help, she loves me I love her but even after many years she is still anxious to go out with, how can I give her the easiest possible way to feel comfortable around me in person? How can you actually get someone with extreme anxiety to go on a date, It was so hard for her to go out together when she brought someone's along with her, how can I make it 10x easier and just be us two any ideas?
If it's been many years, move on my friend
Your so right about everything you say here
I’m struggling with this topic because I don’t have the luxury of being able to make anything in my life happen by saying I have anxiety. It’s always been used against me and I’m made to feel terrible because, often, I have to go and do the things that help the people relying on me to, you know, eat…. Or have shelter.
I have anxiety and it's rather severe because of having minimal cerable palsy.. It's not that physical but a lot more mental.. I've never had any luck with woman I've liked over the years because of my insecurities and anxiety.. I'm turning 50 in October and I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 30.and that was a long distance one that ended after 3 months. But I met a woman in November and the connection was instant.. I enjoyed her personality but it took awhile to get her on a date.. I told her first up I wasn't interested in being friends as I was looking for love.. We kissed on the first two dates between Christmas and new years.. It was very exciting for me as it was sensual and actually coming from her.. But the new year started and she figured out my anxiety and lack of confidence. She tested me a lot handing out business cards in my presence.. She also has a few issues has ocd.. But her confidence seams better then mine.. She also friend zoned me after date 3 and I went with it till end March when she told me one night she still needs time. I told her I can't wait as it's been about 4 months.. I am still hurting it felt so great together but she had red flags.. I finally cu ties on 14th April when we both basically said our goodbyes.. Should I reach out again? Or should I wait on her? She's a similar age to me 46 I believe divorced woman who didn't want anything to serious I guess I came across a little needy although I didn't get upset when she didn't reply or replied very late.. I need advice please?
No let it go. It's over
Nope. Some people like their freedom and don't want to be put on a rope because of the anxiety she does not have
This is very accurate for me.
I was dating a girl and had 4 amazing dates and eventually she left me. I thoughts its my anxiety..
Keep trying!
You'll get the right one don't worry a girl that just left you like that is not a real girlfriend. A true girlfriend would still be there for you even though you suffer anxiety.
It's just 4 dates you cannot expect anything from anyone
Its in the past
dating someone with anxiety is being a punching back.. someone to lash out on …being a therapist and counselor.. while they sit back and don’t do anything about it
I dated a girl who just accepted her anxiety as a part of life and as someone who was on the front lines of dealing with that crap I said hell no.
You are a legend 🙌
It is hard and difficult whether you learn about it or not
That is all. Everyone is beating around the bush and having to deal with it is a whole other story.
right! they have to want to get help or do something about it
Kinda needed this ….
So in other words, as a guy who grew up with selective mutism, social anxiety, and possibly body dysmorphic disorder, and never developed any social skills as a result, I should just give up on dating. According to people in the comments. Well that just made my day. I already gave up years ago though so I guess it was a good decision.
I lied. I did just start back trying but i guess it was for nothing.
As someone within a relationship with a partner who has anxiety, I can tell you this advice sucks.
Don't get me wrong, learning about Anxiety is nice, but it doesn't do anything to actually help you with their anxiety.
As a partner, you'd have to constantly walk around eggshells, because anything you do might trigger their anxiety, and the guilt trip blame their anxiety causes is now on you.
You can NEVER get mad at anything they do, because your anger could spark THEIR anxiety., and make them think they are the issue.
You can NEVER vent about your own issues, because your venting might spark THEIR anxiety, and make them think they aren't good enough.
You MUST keep their anxiety in mind with every action you perform, you have to be fast, you have to always be there, and you can never have any real time for yourself. Because the moment you react even slightly too late, their anxiety will be triggered, and makes them think you no longer love them.
THEIR anxiety can, and will induce anxiety within you because of the mental stress and strain their anxiety forces upon you.
THEIR anxiety can, and will hurt YOU because they continuesly tell you that they love you, but their anxiety keeps pushing you away.
Take this as the kindest advice I can give. DO NOT DATE SOMEONE WITH ANXIETY, because once you're in too deep, and once you love them so so much, your life can, and will become a whole lot harder, and a whole lot more stressfull. Both mentally, and physically.
It might be unfair as can be to people with anxiety, but THEIR ANXIETY IS NOT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH TAX.
I'm in too deep. I love them so, so, so, so, so much. And I couldn't imagine the world without them in it. But my mental health heavily taxed.
I 100% agree I’m deeply in love with someone that has depression & anxiety. It always feels like I’m being pushed away or she doesn’t truly care about me but I’ll never turn my back on her cause she’s like my other half
but i love them so much. they are the reason im holding on but sometimes they hurt me so bad. we cant do the things i would want to, cant even TRY. they cant EVEN TRY to.
they have gotten better and im so proud of them for that, i am, it makes me so happy that they are improving but it really hurts me that they wont go out there comfort zone sometimes. they wont try sometimes. they have their bubble and whatever i say or do its almost like they dont care. but i know they do.
i probably have depression and i still try everyday so hard to stretch myself to make them happy. i leave my bed even though its a prison cell. i joke even when i cant stand being alive yet they wont even dance with me, alone in their bedroom. it hurts. and i feel so selfish for being so hurt, because they cant i help it and i feel like a horrible person. but I love them so much.
I dated someone last week who admitted she had anxiety. She's an awesome person but she rejected me. Not sure if I dodged a bullet or should I feel dejected.
Yes.. You are correct. My ex had autism, adhd, ocd, anxiety and depression with mommy, daddy issues, abandonment issues from father, and raped As a kid(she claims) and two men tried to rob her. Once I started spending the nights, is when all these issues came out.. Its really rough!!!
The important question is are they willing to improve. Idk about yours experience, but I am seeing a girl with social anxiety on her meds, I could have never guessed that she has the anxiety. She tries to go out and do social stuff, that's exactly how we met lol, I was a little bit too dense to ask her out after having a good conversation, but at the end of an event we were on she said something like "when you are gonna get out on the next event text me", so in a way I was asked out xd. I kinda understand her struggles and the use of meds, cuz I suspect my mother and I have adhd, so maybe we could help eachother out!
Just don't and keep your life fun 😂 ❤
I dated a girl with anxiety... Never again.
try dating someone with DSM 4-5
Good topic
Being with someone with anxiety is like being a baby sitter and someone's own personal punching bag
i'm really sorry to hear that
@M Lor
U should just go date someone who doesn't have anxiety
that pretty accurate, my wife has chronic anxiety and as much as I love her some days are challenging.
@@tanyav3756 have you dated anyone with anxiety?
@@tanyav3756im in your walls
I gave all and she accepted. Then she said love was overwhelming. What the hell. Never again going down that rabbit hole because if I do, my life will be consumed with this maelstrom. That's my piece of info. ladies, please challenge my statement. debate welcomed.
I'm not a lady, but you should of said knowing you love me will keep me going but il back off a bit to give you space. As much as I don't want to it's what you feel you need, then easied back in to it. Back off move slowly in back of move slowly in ect, till she was ready to be loved all the time
Are you talking about your Gf Who has anxiety?
Nowadays this word is being used to loosely - *canceled date*, "I have anxiety" fucc that.
Anxiety is basically just self-absorption. Too much focus on self. Overcoming anxiety requires getting your head out of your own butt. Me, me, me, all the therapy and advice just reinforces the idea that it's all about me.
Therapy works. That’s a fact. And as far as the me me me, it’s a disorder. They can’t help those feelings and thoughts. Anxiety isn’t cured by saying “it isn’t about me. I’ll try to focus on other people.” Your bf/gf with anxiety needs you. If you leave them, you’re the one who’s all about me me me.
This is an interesting take. Definitely food for thought.. especially the last part
@@broderickfallThe last part only happens once. One time me! If you stay the other persons me will be the biggest one for the rest of your life. (It's not solved like an easy thing) If you like it, no problem. But otherwise, yes, sometimes you HAVE TO BE selfish ❤
anxiety is not self absorption! most people anxiety get stressed and overwhelmed. they are not just thinking about themselves.
and everyone’s different so maybe some people anxiety could be self absorbed.
we arent thinking ANY of that stuff, thats ridiculous. whats going on is a FEELING that we struggle to control or cannot control... we arent suffering from anxiety because we are worried about what we are wearing.... this was obviously written by someone who has NO idea.
Learn... No way! Run... as fast as you can... and don't look back!!! Like a psycho chasing you with a knife ... don't stop? don't look back? don't ask for directions?!?! Run Mo'fo Run!!!
I have emailed them they haven't emailed me back so they can if they can it might be easier for them to this call
And I do want to be on special Bridge and I think you'll be great to be on special Bridge and this is Shay
But it is hard
Seriously considering leaving my gf because of this… this video doesn’t help at all btw
Lol
And? Did you? It will not end well for the one without anxiety. The world will be sliced in little peaces if you stay. Not a happy place to be in.
dont get involved with people with mental problems
Your fucked up.
Your basically saying that guys or girls with that have a lover
@@CrazyManhog a relationship won't work between a sane person and a sick one. Don't forget your pills 🙂
Doesn’t literally everyone have mental problems
@@TheBanjoShowOfficial😂 Not as big like this. Don't make this as if it is no biggie. It turnes normal people lifes upside down. From outgoing to on a rope. That's not a nice way to life a live, when you are not the one with the anxiety 😂😂😂
What if someone says i cant date you cause you have hbp or you have diabetes i cant date u we all got something wrong with us so stop with this foolishness
No body is perfect smh at some humans
I know this sounds kinda silly but , I’m helping a close friend_ Celeste _ dubios and she even been true inspiration to me while she was a model
I know she a strong person and follows my advice, she based in Columbia, she suffers anxiety at times, knowing that she txt me on the odd occasions, I know she currently much better, it felt like we where dating, but I know we know each other 4 months, but help to get occasional with money when I can or gift.. but give her space now and again.. I do still have feelings for her .. but must be strong and know she can cope to the best of her abilities and she knows that I care and love her, but I’m finding it easier to focus more on myself
Kinda needed this ….