hi sarah and james! it’s sandy from nova :’) i really appreciated you guys giving me advice and it made me feel less alone in many ways, such as the “living for your parents” area and how people balance the amount of money being sent to your parents and how everyone supports their families differently. i never really thought about that! i also like to mention that you guys helped me realized how much i take time for granted with my parents so i’ll remember to keep a healthy balance with work and life :) i’m truly so grateful i came across your podcast and the amount of comfort you both have brought me on my day to day routine
yayy hi sandy!! i’m so glad this episode found you and thank you for commenting! 🫶 keeping balance with taking care of parents & maintaining happiness in life is definitely so so important but a hard middle ground to find so we wish you the best in your journey & hope everything goes well for you now & in the future!! sending love 🥹❤️
i’ve had a really hard time transitioning to my freshman year of college and i’ve found this podcast such a good outlet to give me some focused things to think about!! thinking a lot about the future and love listening to these when i want something grounding and fun
Re: advice 2: what a coincidence b/c I actually recently spoke w/ a coworker to gauge how other children of immigrants handle the "giving back to parents" thing! I ended up doing it the way Sarah does it (helping out w/ big purchases). e.g. My mom never took a single vacation growing up (the only time she took away from work was to attend my college graduation 🥺), so i would love to pay for consistent vacations for her from now on ♥
there’s definitely different ways of doing it for sure! (and no wrong way at all) thank you for sharing your perspective! one of my goals is also to take my parents on more trips too 🥹
On question no. 4. It really resonates with me. I think the internal struggle as an eldest asian kid may also come from the expectation of other towards u like from your parents. So there is some sort of friction with who u are and how others perceive u. Liberating yourself from the expectation or other’s perception about u may be hard, but i think it’s a first step to reclaim your personhood. Get to know yourself without the voices of other people in your head 🩷
Also, guilt is not always a sign that u did something wrong. Sometimes our sense of guilt is embedded with us through other’s perception of how we should live our lives. Maybe start wondering or challenging where the guilt comes from? Did u really do something wrong? It’s not selfish for securing your own welfare too.
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happy friday soju shotties! hope everyone’s having a great start to their weekend ❤️
p.s. our tv was on so the lighting keeps switching up 😭
hi sarah and james!
it’s sandy from nova :’) i really appreciated you guys giving me advice and it made me feel less alone in many ways, such as the “living for your parents” area and how people balance the amount of money being sent to your parents and how everyone supports their families differently. i never really thought about that! i also like to mention that you guys helped me realized how much i take time for granted with my parents so i’ll remember to keep a healthy balance with work and life :) i’m truly so grateful i came across your podcast and the amount of comfort you both have brought me on my day to day routine
yayy hi sandy!! i’m so glad this episode found you and thank you for commenting! 🫶 keeping balance with taking care of parents & maintaining happiness in life is definitely so so important but a hard middle ground to find so we wish you the best in your journey & hope everything goes well for you now & in the future!! sending love 🥹❤️
i’ve had a really hard time transitioning to my freshman year of college and i’ve found this podcast such a good outlet to give me some focused things to think about!! thinking a lot about the future and love listening to these when i want something grounding and fun
Re: advice 2: what a coincidence b/c I actually recently spoke w/ a coworker to gauge how other children of immigrants handle the "giving back to parents" thing! I ended up doing it the way Sarah does it (helping out w/ big purchases). e.g. My mom never took a single vacation growing up (the only time she took away from work was to attend my college graduation 🥺), so i would love to pay for consistent vacations for her from now on ♥
there’s definitely different ways of doing it for sure! (and no wrong way at all) thank you for sharing your perspective! one of my goals is also to take my parents on more trips too 🥹
That title definitely made me click fast LMAOO 😭
hahah had to use our spiciest question 🌶️
Enjoyed my morning with this podcast!!
thank you for listening! 🥰
love the couple podcast!
LMAO hopefully when I write in I won't be gaslit 38:00
can there be chapters please 😢
whoops i added it this morning but it just didn’t show up! :)
not first but still second yayy!!
yayy 🥰
and im third! :33333
😎😎
make a patreon and take my fucking money! i need more content.
hahaha working on it! 🫡
On question no. 4. It really resonates with me. I think the internal struggle as an eldest asian kid may also come from the expectation of other towards u like from your parents. So there is some sort of friction with who u are and how others perceive u. Liberating yourself from the expectation or other’s perception about u may be hard, but i think it’s a first step to reclaim your personhood. Get to know yourself without the voices of other people in your head 🩷
Also, guilt is not always a sign that u did something wrong. Sometimes our sense of guilt is embedded with us through other’s perception of how we should live our lives. Maybe start wondering or challenging where the guilt comes from? Did u really do something wrong? It’s not selfish for securing your own welfare too.
oh my god im first
woo! 🙌