secret relationships, toxic friends & the anxieties of growing up... (soju advice column #1)

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  • Опубликовано: 25 дек 2024

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  • @sojuwithsarah
    @sojuwithsarah  5 месяцев назад +17

    hello to all the new friends in the soju community! 🫶 our first episode is taking a lil journey across the youtube algorithm so we’re excited to see all the new (and old!) faces in today’s episode 🥰 if you want to submit any advice requests or spectacular life advice for future episodes, drop it in the form here! tally.so/r/mV85KM

  • @mariaalbanesi4676
    @mariaalbanesi4676 5 месяцев назад +19

    I never comment... But it really hit me that "friends come in cycles". Right now I am 25, but when I was 22 I lost the majority of my friends at that time. The crazy thing is that I had the opportunity to be friends again almost with everyone, and as an adult, I made my choice and decided to try again with the people I really wanted to and not because "they are my childhood friends". I am realizing now how amazing this has been, and that having my own time without them has made me a better person too.
    This is an amazing podcast! I love it!

  • @notestolexie
    @notestolexie 5 месяцев назад +30

    this has truly been my favorite corner of the interwebs, i look forward to *literally* every episode. the segment on outgrowing friendships that hold you back really hits, i can psychoanalyze my friends all day and why they may react negatively to my growth/interests but it doesn't really change much. as i've grown to prioritize myself, i just don't have time for friends who are not understanding nor supportive of me evolving. it's a harsh truth but once i realized this (and cut ppl out), i've never felt more free.
    also! i'll be moving to nyc later this month!! your videos make me excited about this new chapter. maybe in a future episode, would love to hear your perspective and experience living in the city

  • @Jesseli1
    @Jesseli1 5 месяцев назад +44

    I'm honored to be the first to say: I love James

  • @Barnaby00
    @Barnaby00 5 месяцев назад +18

    I love James

  • @hchung155
    @hchung155 5 месяцев назад +7

    Loving how consistent you're posting! You and James are great, logical advice givers. AND you guys are such eloquent speakers, perfect for a podcast 🙂And don't worry about burdening the community with 'marketing too much', we want you to succeed!

  • @awkwardmochi16
    @awkwardmochi16 5 месяцев назад +11

    Fridays have become even better now that I discovered this podcast

  • @chloeshih
    @chloeshih 5 месяцев назад +4

    YES NEXT EPISODE DROPPED 🔥🔥🔥

  • @azurel9134
    @azurel9134 5 месяцев назад +3

    3rd vid I listened to of yours today at work, definitely a comfortable vibe you've established here

  • @cia1145
    @cia1145 5 месяцев назад +3

    My new fave podcast

  • @Writteninthesoul
    @Writteninthesoul 5 месяцев назад +5

    Another great podcast! This shows a deeper side of you two and James is low-key hilarious. You two have made me laugh out loud.

  • @christineee444
    @christineee444 5 месяцев назад +3

    I’m living for this podcast!!

  • @sunny_ec2
    @sunny_ec2 5 месяцев назад +4

    I love James! 😂

  • @beabanaga
    @beabanaga 5 месяцев назад +3

    I appreciate you so much Sarah, i just found your channel and i'm obsessed. It feels like you're my big sister (I'm the eldest daughter so I badly need one) plus I appreciate James' insights a lot. God bless you both. 🤍

  • @disischristy
    @disischristy 5 месяцев назад +4

    this podcast helps me get through the day and i'm so serious lol

  • @Gabby_Gaby
    @Gabby_Gaby 5 месяцев назад +4

    Early!!! Love listening and watching your channels while at work!

  • @shaquilleoatmealz
    @shaquilleoatmealz 5 месяцев назад +5

    i love james so much 🙈🙈🙈

  • @SophieParo
    @SophieParo 3 дня назад

    ahhh i love the vibes of this podcast and binging these episodes..... and james

  • @prettyinpink1222
    @prettyinpink1222 Месяц назад

    James has such great friendship advice omg!

  • @realthao
    @realthao 5 месяцев назад +4

    Been waiting for a new episode ty

  • @sunny_ec2
    @sunny_ec2 5 месяцев назад +4

    omg thank you so much for reading my question!! Both your and James's insight was SO helpful, encouraging, and comforting to hear. I really appreciate you taking the time to respond. Also, i personally think melted butter is a more anxious state lol because when the "heat is on" (like things are intense) its melted and when its chill the butter is chilled (aka solid) lol.

    • @sojuwithsarah
      @sojuwithsarah  4 месяца назад +1

      ofc!! thank you for sharing your question! we hope our little bits of advice were helpful 🫶 also i agree, anxious butter is definitely melted 😌 -sarah

  • @boxxy1fanxo893
    @boxxy1fanxo893 4 месяца назад

    that conversation about treating those you are close to, most especially family, soo unfiltered (and with the thought procsss of unconditional love) rings most true with mothers. the way they make comment to their kids that you see all the time now about how the parents have hurt the child and to the parnets its natural to treat them as if their relationship is unconditional but they need to realize to start treating children more on an equal level. idk felt right to say here, we see constant videos about offspring tryin to talk to their parents and the parents deflect with "oH SORRY ive been such a bad mom" etc etc.

  • @d0lpine802
    @d0lpine802 5 месяцев назад +4

    Stumbled across this channel. Super cool and underrated.

  • @lanedavis5917
    @lanedavis5917 4 месяца назад +1

    Something that I try to carry with me in my life is the Five Remembrances
    1. I am of the nature to grow old, I cannot escape old age.
    2. I am of the nature to get sick, I cannot escape sickness.
    3. I am of the nature to die, I cannot escape death.
    4. All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the nature to change. There is no way to escape being separated from them.
    5. I inherit the results of my actions of body, speech, and mind. My actions are my continuation.

  • @RicardoAdams95
    @RicardoAdams95 2 месяца назад

    I stumbled across this channel while in a current dark period in my life, thanks for the videos.

  • @shouqblue
    @shouqblue 3 месяца назад

    James is the best guest, we want him regularly🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏼 love you guys!

  • @arthma
    @arthma 5 месяцев назад +3

    We love James, the homie 🔥

  • @sunshinemindset8497
    @sunshinemindset8497 5 месяцев назад +3

    I love James 😁

  • @WhaChuUpTo
    @WhaChuUpTo 5 месяцев назад +5

    It's crazy how excited I get when a new episode pops out. I'm still unpacking into my new place and I need your episodes to be 8 hours long to keep me company through the full day. Plz and thank you. 😂

  • @MJ-MJ444
    @MJ-MJ444 4 месяца назад

    You guys make me laugh and that’s my favorite things to do please keep going

  • @spacedog6229
    @spacedog6229 5 месяцев назад +4

    I love listening to these while I’m working :) what kind of mic do you use?

  • @laurenjingles99
    @laurenjingles99 5 месяцев назад

    Just wanted to say that I love your branding at the start, so cute

  • @N3lly214
    @N3lly214 5 месяцев назад +1

    I love the way you both perceive things! I’m so curious as to what your zodiac signs are😂

  • @chloeshih
    @chloeshih 5 месяцев назад +2

    I listened to a lot of 94.7 the wave ~~

  • @ac6852
    @ac6852 5 месяцев назад +4

    Love you brother James ❤❤❤ you guys are as lovely as always! Enjoyed another weekly episode 😁 Aliases were on point. Also, the first question was gnarly right off that bat. Asian parents are so scary 😭😭😭😭😭 I think for a lot of different Asian cultures, parents are not really affectionate (at least that’s how I grew up) and so to even think about introducing a partner to them makes me cringe and feel anxious lololol. I understand why they kept it a secret for 6 years but also that’s hella wild lmfao.

  • @aznhammer624
    @aznhammer624 3 месяца назад

    I love James !

  • @JenniferNguyen-xr6io
    @JenniferNguyen-xr6io 5 месяцев назад +9

    PERSONALLY i think melted butter is a less anxious state of butter 🤷‍♀

    • @torithibs
      @torithibs 5 месяцев назад

      When solid butter falls, it gets dented. Can’t f with melted butter!! Flow forever

  • @itssharonma
    @itssharonma 5 месяцев назад

    Love the Odyssey Plan advice for navigating career!

  • @mlzd283
    @mlzd283 5 месяцев назад +5

    you posted 9 mins ago im already listening

  • @natalieest
    @natalieest 5 месяцев назад

    Friends are here for a season, reason, or forever ❤

  • @MJ-MJ444
    @MJ-MJ444 4 месяца назад

    I love you guys so much

  • @Murkeri
    @Murkeri 4 месяца назад

    i love listening to you two talk while im playing minecraft!

  • @y2k88_gen
    @y2k88_gen 5 месяцев назад

    I like the lighting ❤🎉

  • @jaaelynnnnn
    @jaaelynnnnn 5 месяцев назад +4

    im an anxious butter slab asf

  • @itssharonma
    @itssharonma 5 месяцев назад

    Lol anxious slab of butter 😂🧈

  • @mathilderey7365
    @mathilderey7365 3 месяца назад

    I love James

  • @redfusion10
    @redfusion10 2 месяца назад

    I also love James.

  • @nakamiyonemura2001
    @nakamiyonemura2001 5 месяцев назад +4

    I love my big sister Sarah and my big brother James

  • @slothbug4338
    @slothbug4338 5 месяцев назад

    I feel like chilled butter would be the least anxious butter

  • @aquamarinerhino3291
    @aquamarinerhino3291 5 месяцев назад +1

    Question around 31 mins. Her friend puts rules/expectations on her. The reason why there is resentment is because of the people pleasing tendencies. She should be able to speak her mind without worrying about her friend’s reaction- you shouldn’t try to control her reaction at ur expense. U say ur piece in a healthy way. Definitely her advocating for herself with “I feel statements” to come from an angle of this is how I feel so friend doesn’t feel attacked. She needs to put up some boundaries. I will withdraw if u continue to treat me this way. I feel this way when u do this. Since she’s know her friend for so long perhaps her friend will be offended/ have a reaction to keep the status quo of what was comfortable for her. But her placing her boundaries and her side of things is a way to see if the relationship can be retained and if she’s not willing to accommodate definitely what these guys advice is saying.

    • @aquamarinerhino3291
      @aquamarinerhino3291 5 месяцев назад

      I feel xyz when you abc. If you continue to abc I plan to …

  • @catherineluo4603
    @catherineluo4603 5 месяцев назад +4

    💗💗💗

  • @michaelchavez5593
    @michaelchavez5593 5 месяцев назад

    Hehehe just made the likes to 200 and so worth it . Cheerssssssssss

  • @paulyang582
    @paulyang582 5 месяцев назад

    what mic is she using? does anyone know? day 4

  • @kimchinguyen8269
    @kimchinguyen8269 5 месяцев назад +1

    Can you add the subtitle in english every video ?
    I love your podcast but it's better if i understand all you said

  • @MiizKiiMMii
    @MiizKiiMMii 5 месяцев назад +3

    🧈

  • @kyrattx
    @kyrattx 5 месяцев назад

    🧈 ✨

  • @jung.garments
    @jung.garments 5 месяцев назад +3

    🧈

  • @JenniferNguyen-xr6io
    @JenniferNguyen-xr6io 5 месяцев назад +5

    🧈🧈🧈

  • @chloeshih
    @chloeshih 5 месяцев назад

    🧈🧈🧈