When i saw Kevin i felt he was the type of guy who'll shame anyone who says anything he doesn't believe in . And i was right,you should see how he shames women who won't think he's attractive.
He looks creepy, how the fuck he has actual human woman defending him ????? Oh boy and a few second later his old tik toks came re asuring he look like a creep hahahah punching a baby belly ????
He's literally balding no offense to my bald brothers but I still don't get it either the people who like him just love the serial killer look or the bar is so low for some people
I'm just gonna say it... Kevin scares me and instantly I got a bad feeling about him. It could also be that he was so seemingly sure and confident that he had the female gaze that it came across as arrogant and I didn't like it. I figured maybe there was just something wrong with me though after I heard that everyone was losing their minds over it... So... 🤷♀. The internet is a really crazy place lol
It’s cos he is doing it in front of the camera for a TikTok like he is aware of what he is doing, that he is trying to be hot. If the gaze came naturally to him then it would’ve been much more attractive, ya know like how Koop idols do on their stages and they make good facial expressions that make fans go crazy, they do it naturally while his looks forced and like you should be finding it hot
I got so pissed when he went viral for "mastering the female gaze" which is the worst thing you can give guys like him because it goes straight to the ego, but also for minimizing the female gaze to this.
@@shmeepness1700 okay but the whole point has been lost which is the female gaze isn't literal and that's what has been lost in translation for most of y'all, why he hasn't mastered crap and never will. It's not about the actual look, it's what you can't see that matters with the female gaze.
@@SteviiLove I thought the female gaze was what women found attractive? I saw some girl make a video about it including jimin and Timothee chalamet and why they’re attractive and the female gaze being in the title. How is it lots in translation when everyone is using it wrong according to you
Oh he's actually a misogynist. I think he did a stream and he kept making fun of women and being blatantly disrespectful if anyone remotely questioned him on Tik Tok. His weird little cult of women feeds into making fun of other women on stream.
I don't know how shyness/introversion became attractive on the internet, but as soon those people interact with a very weird and shy person in real life, they will be the first ones to point fingers. As someone who dealt with social anxiety for most of my life, i can assure y'all people don't find it cute as they do on tiktok.
Right. I've had people calling me strange and look at me like I have some sort of disability or as if I'm a child and it feels dehumanizing. It's got to the point where people find my shyness offensive for some reason "because why am I not comfortable around them when they're so nice" but how am I supposed to do that when those same people keep on judging me for being shy later? It's hard enough to struggle with social anxiety and have to deal with social situations constantly but some people make it extra challenging.
This is my worst fear, I grew up pretty sheltered so my people skills are less than great... But I want to be independent so I'll have to get a job soon, I'm scared of how my co-workers will perceive me, hopefully they'll leave me be as I like to keep my head down and not bother anyone. We shall see! 😭
@oh hi how are you I did the same thing & there'll be someone that always tries to break down your shy barrier lol just be kind bc that's what saved me everyone thought I was a raging b- & I hated everyone at my last job bc I have a resting b- face & I'm quiet but as long as you're kind in the little interactions you have you should be good there'll be someone to see through your shyness & try to get to know you as they did to me don't build it up too high in your mind it's not as scary as I first thought
I have small, almond shaped eyes. They are not monolid but have the "asian eye" vibe to them. I sometimes got in trouble in gradeschool because teachers thought I looked tired, or bored, or wasn't paying attention. Once got told I rolled my eyes at them when I didn't, or giving a glare. My resting face does look tired. I taught myself at one point in time to force my eyes open more to avoid the stigma.
Bruuuuhh whaaat I literally experienced the exact same thing. I grew up unintentionally conditioned, especially for pictures, that opening my eyes wider would make me look more likeable…
As a certified shy person, I can confirm that yes I indeed get anxious *around crowds* or *people I don’t know.* And my soul leaves my body whenever *attention is on me.* I fidget, my face turns as red as a tomato, and I feel like I’m having an out of body experience *lmao* …it is not cute…
A year ago, I am very shy person. I got anxious pretty easily that even posting a comment on internet is exhausting. Fortunately, after exerting mysld for a year to kick out my excessive anxiety, (At least on internet lol) I dived into a pithole of commenting on the most controversial videos out there💀. Fortunately, my anxiety in social life lessened a little...✨
i go deaf to the world and stare at my shoes like they're the most interesting things ever to exist. if I'm walking then I look like I'm going to destroy the city.
Once we had to talk about ourselves in Spanish class for a minute and I ran out of things to say. The out of body experience is real and it felt horrible, like I was watching my self fail from above
It’s like my ex. A fake feminist who make a whole fake persona (his whole online personality was acting like a feminist and hating a certain old American president). I knew him for years before we dated and who he was after we dated (after the love bombing phase ended) was extremely misogynistic and abusive. Everything he posted about as a fake feminist was the opposite of what he said when he dated me, but only to me. Online he continued to pretend to be a feminist. Like the Try Guys drama with the “wife guy” there are “feminist guys” who also pretend to respect women to appear to be good people and to manipulate women into liking them. I saw a post from Hypebae that was titled “New year new me(n)” where guys claim they will be better in 2023. The author of the post was skeptical, as they should be. Guys have been manipulating women for decades. Like unpopular guys pretending to want a relationship to trick women into having sex. It’s just more and more manipulation. Dating for straight women is difficult.
As someone who would like to know what love is seeing stuff on the internet makes me feel like it's some empty promise and all those love songs are all lies. It's praised from the day we are born only for us to realize it's so much worse
@@thelying2594 love is real and possible but a lot of it involves choosing to /try/ to make it work & that’s the hard part to find in our society imo. you can be emotionally, physically and intellectual compatible but things will come up that require you to put effort in or give up and be alone. I think a lot of us are just less likely to make those sacrifices (which are things like going to therapy, being vulnerable even tho it hurts you, putting aside your momentary wants for your overall needs. a sacrifice isn’t changing who you are, that’s never love) ❤
I remember in highschool I was friends with a guy who no one was really friends with because he was a bit different. We became "friends" and he asked me out and I was confused and he ended up flipping out on me saying why did he waste being nice on me if I wasn't even going to go out with him and harassed me for a long time afterwards. Sucked to know he wasn't even a friend just to be a friend he was just wanting in my pants essentially.
I have heavy set eyes like this, and I remember complaining to my Nana about it once. She said “honey, they’re called bedroom eyes and they’re sultry!” 😆 thanks Nana!
If you think the female gaze is some rando lip syncing songs and looking at you a certain way, then you don't know what the female gaze is in the first place.
exactly, what tf does this man looking at the camera have to do with the female gaze??? i've been so confused by all this lol, seems like people saw the term "female gaze" and just ran with it without even trying to find out what it means
It’s not the female gaze. It’s what makes women feel attractive, from a socialized, feminine perspective. People are confusing it, because the male gaze is all about what men are attracted to. the female gaze isn’t supposed to objectify people.
That last part isn't quite true. In a management course I took, we looked at how the female gaze is responsible for things like beauty standards, body image shame, the pressure on women to shave and wear makeup, and things like that. All those pressures that I've felt in my life all came from women who were using them to feel more powerful and attractive, while I found them restrictive and unreasonable. I've also heard of the female gaze being used to objectify men as just being there for physical support, but that isn't as common. It's like we all make each other a commodity, and try to bargain with the system by fitting into ideals that a lot of people just don't care about, or at least not as much as what media would suggest.
@@joylox You got it wrong. Women shaming or competing with other women comes from internalised misogyny, aka an internalisation of the male gaze. These women literally just perpetuate patriarchal stereotypes, which initially did not come from women, but from men.
I hope you feel better soon! You've been sick for a long time. Also, I don't get Kevin's appeal and I never will. I found the challenge to be equally as cringey and terrifying no matter who it came from. Also his personality seems really really awful.
Yup! From what he shows, he’s kinda like a high school boy who never grew up, just kept going downhill. The attraction people had made it all the more puzzling, the internet is strange
i dont understand the appeal too, he literally looks like what people would call a pedo (just add thin wire glasses ig) a few years ago, not that i condone it but i wonder what happened this past few months and a guy that looks like THIS could get famous for his looks.
What I hate the most about this is tiktok missusing another term!! Like female gaze has NOTHING to do with what people are claiming it is in those tiktoks.
Why use it? Delete it!! For me, I deleted it years ago after installing it for a day. It give me headache Everytime I watch it with my friends or my family. It's like 99 percent of them is pure nonsense. Well, I admit it was good at first for 5 minutes but after that, the contents is 😐.
@@Animeal_Tv ikr, that's why i never had TikTok cause is so toxic, I know is not everyone there thats like that but the majority of the shorts or whatever they call it there is very stupid and mentally draining
I have the sanpaku eyes and it usually got me in trouble during my highschool years. People always ask if I'm sad or tired because of the way my eyes naturally look. Teachers always think I'm not interested in lectures and people usually think I'm not paying attention to them during conversations. But due to the rising popularity of animes my eyes are getting more and more accepted. I remember hearing people say I look cool and confident with my eyes even though I'm just an overly quiet and autistic introvert
I love it when people judge your character on your biological characteristics, a thing you have no control over. Especially as a student (a child) by teachers (adults in authority).
I love this line- "It's like that saying, inside every person there are two wolves, the potential to become a social media celebrity and anxiety." Hahaha,. I really appreciate the humor in your videos!
I could predict that he was gonna get exposed and “cancelled”. Us lesbians know that what he was doing is just a act hence him saying he knows that this is what (str8) women want. The ones that are genuinely “female gaze” material don’t even know what it is and don’t need to put on an act and claim to be anything. They’re just natural decent and liked by women.
I'm straight and he creeps me the heck out. Anyone trying that hard, especially to be alluring just do. I think most people see that try-hard stare and immediately figure out his "type"... aka "avoid."
Im on this stage of being an adult. Im very shy and introverted. I have no confidence because i have low self esteem. Yesterday,i observed a lot of ppl just being with their friends,doing what their thing,the employees etc. There are people who arent attractive or with obvious insecurities but they are doing so great. Confidence really is the key. The problem is just me
idk what female gaze means, but I def know they're using the term male gaze wrong. "male gaze" isn't "ego and bravado". it's used in cinema (and other visual media and can expand to even non-visual media if you want) to describe how women are literally viewed as in the camera focusing or lingering on their boobs, butts, hips, etc.
I've seen Kevin Tik Tok but not the problematic ones, thanks for sharing that content. Your content is always interesting and sourced correctly it's so enjoyable!
I swear I thought people were memeing when the whole “female gaze” was going around about this guy- because to me he literally looks a normal person with eyes that are not commonly focused on in media. It felt trying to hard to be relatable or quirky, and people were crapping on people mimicking him that didn’t feel that different other than eye shape.
I always thought of "female gaze" as a technique for filming or writing where it's obvious in some intrinsic way that a woman is holding the camera and not a man trying to imagine what women like. Like, in "male gaze" women are the sex objects, the desired trophies, the mysterious beauties waiting for a partner. In female gaze, men are the sex objects, the desired trophies, the mysterious beauties waiting for a partner. In male gaze, men are strong and capable and active within the story while the women react; they save the damsel, if the damsel saves them they have to save them in return. In female gaze, women are strong and capable and active within the story while the men react; they save the male damsel, and if they are saved then will save the male lead in return.
Well I'm actually not sure that in the female gaze, the roles are so directly switched. I don't think that a main component is the woman saving the male damsel in distress, but more that women are seen as actual human beings with complex thoughts and feelings, and things that are usually experienced by women, like girlhood in Coppola or being sexualised in general, are accurately and emotionally portrayed. Also that men are maybe more emotionally in touch and not overly masculine, because women tend to like that more (overgeneralisation, I know), and the man that's supposed to be attractive in more male gaze-y movies is usually overly masculine, bulky, unemotional, as men stereotypically want to be. But I'm not sure either, just wanted to drop that here haha
this is absolutely not what the female gaze is. the female gaze doesn't objectify. (what makes perfectly sense because it's a feminist film theory) what @dean1111 wrote is more accurate
@@dean1111 It looks switched because I'm simplifying. Take Outlander for example, the female lead goes back in time with medical knowledge that allows her to be very capable and useful to warrior men in pre-industrial Scotland, and she's emotionally and mentally strong from having been a ww2 field medic, but she's not brawling with the guys. The male lead had his own damsel moments where he had to be rescued or saved, and he in turn saves her. In shows from a male gaze (in my understanding of the term), the man saves the woman and that's it; if he is saved, then he must save back. Here the big "saving" moments are from her to him. Female gaze can characterise both male and female characters, I don't like limiting it to just how men vs women describe women because how men vs women describe men is a huge part of the puzzle and makes the discussion more balanced. Female gaze is not inherently better or worse than male gaze, it's just flipped in some key ways for the different audience. And yep I agree that being more sensitive and pretty vs masculine and stoic is part of what makes male characters in female gazey stories so compelling to me.
You know how a lot of people find fictional (and unfortunately sometimes non-fictional) serial killers/stalkers attractive? That's the vibe I got from him. The "I know he's gonna kill me but maybe I'd be the exception" type...
People don't research terms like female gaze and the male gaze. The male Gaze refers to stuff that directors do that doesn't add anything to the plot and it's inhegerenly sexual just because they see the character like that, for example, look at the differences between Harley Quinn from Birds of prey vs. Suicide squad. While one has sexy shots of Harley dressing implying that she did it in front of a bunch of men, and the camera zooms from her feet all the way to her boobs, while the other doesn't have a sexy shoot just because. In the end, the sexy part, it's not bad, what the term "male gaze" refers to is the frame, camera angle, etc. Pandering to certain demographics.
well today i learned that my natural eye shape is "siren eyes" I was always asked "are you okay?" and "why are your eyelids half closed?" no, I just have ptosis
Yeah I don't know where the obsession with that guy, not to be mean but whatever this female gaze is definitely isn't universal cause imma female and I ain't gazin.
Bruh when did female gaze stop meaning things like a focus on like hands with like Mr Darcys hand clench as an example or just stuff that from a media perspective appeals more to women not weird guy staring at you like maybe I don't get it because I'm autistic and eye contact is no but like why is this now being called female gaze
the internet does this to so many important phrases and words gaslighting, trauma bonding, lovebombing, male gaze, female gaze, Karen etc. overuses it and wrongly to the point it almost loses meaning :(
That's because this is NOT it. Like most buzz words and phrases that have found themselves in the cultural mainstream, the meaning has been misconstrued and misused 🤷🏾♀️ this is just.....uncomfortably odd.
welcome to the internet, where people find phrases and terms and start using it without knowing what it means at all until the term loses its entire meaning
The face he makes reminds me of the face a drunk person would make when they are trying to hold a conversation and pretend they aren't drunk. IDK. wild.
I was wondering who this “Kevin” was with the female gaze. Lol I got major creepy vibes watching (I definitely don’t want whatever he’s serving) and didn’t get it. Thanks for explaining!!
He has Sanpaku eyes, for sure. I've seen so many videos ab him, and his ugly comments he does ab black women. I just don't like him as a person, and for me is not a example of female gaze.
Once again I was reminded that I'm just constantly confused by internet trends- "shy to confident" was just weird and we don't even need to talk about the rest of the mess. A very interesting video as always (also hope you'll feel better soon. Whatever respiratory illnesses are currently making the rounds are just awful. Took me out for 2 weeks)
I have sanpaku eyes but I've always referred to them as 'basset hound eyes'...that was a lot more wholesome than the ominous "the world is out to get you" angle...so thanks for that, LOLLLL
I feel like the internet misuses the term of Male and Female Gazes quite a lot now. The Female Gaze was a film theory that in layman's terms just wants films that don't sexualize or rely on sex appeal a lot, which is usually tasked on to women in film. The Female Gaze doesn't deny nor is saying we ought to erase sex appeal, but simply advocates for visuals that sees beauty and people in a more holistic way. There's more to it than that and many social and art theories that add on and even criticize the shortcomings of when it came out in the 20th century. These types of tiktok internet users are not qualified to give these "examples" of what even Female Gaze is.
I don't usually leave comments because I have severe anxiety & I know it's irrational but doing so can often cause a panic attack. Anyway this is for the algorithm. You're awesome, I love your content. You're definitely one of my favorite RUclipsrs. Much love 😍🌟💞
To me the female gaze is the humanization of women. A lot of media focuses on the sexual and act of seducing a woman. A good example of the female gaze is the carriage scene in pride and prejudice, where Darcy helps Lizzie into the carriage and then flexes his hand from delight afterwards. It’s caring and loving, helping and treating a woman with respect makes women swoon. The hint of or suggestion of a man being more so “a sweet one” is what I think keeps having girls fan girl over any nerdy/shy guy. When in reality they can be nerdy and shy but absolute assholes in private 😂
The biggest example of a good female gaze on tiktok is the guy who sits down with a cup of tea pretending to genuinely listen to you talk about your day.
the shy to confident trend is just making eye contact with the camera. the real shy to confident challenge should be spending 5-10 mins thinking about your order vs walking up the counter right away at a starbucks.
Because of my eye shape sometimes people say that I look like I'm judging them or think I'm above them. When I smile this look disappears but my resting face gives them these vibes I guess. Some of my grade school teachers had bad impressions about me because of this but as I got older it doesn't bother me as much. I try to prove I'm kind by acting friendly.
I swear to any and everyone that just being creative, respectful, charitable, and sincere has done me so well in life. Women seriously love me because I love them for the right reasons!
Honestly as a pan-rom demisexual, I honestly didn’t get his hype at all and I felt insane. It deadass make me question if I was truly attracted to men/masc people because I could not see what “gaze” made him attractive. Most of all, the misuse of female gaze made me even more confused . I was like, is this a straight person thing??? Was asking my partner what they thought and they were just as confused.
Ikr!! Like it happens to me that i analyze and overthink the things i see on social media " well I used to overthink and overanalyze things bc of curiosity or smth..." and i got really confused and felt insane from doing it "especially when I stared focusing on the Korean industry and kpop community cause i loved their songs and wanted to have more knowledge of their culture in their industry" that to the extended i started having headeaches aches... that's why I got out of the community since the mayority was toxic asf than any other one i saw in my whole life 😭. Since then i stopped putting all my energy on anything i see or hear cause is not useful and is mentally draining you know the overthinking and overanalyzing thing idk why i was doing that for many years but now i finally figured out that it wasn't good and that it was toxic for my mental health to do and i stopped for the better. And sorry for the long text maybe this didn't have anything to do with the comment you two made idk 😅, thanks for reading till here❤️
It's not a straight person thing. This guy would be considered (conventionally) ugly or at least creepy pretty much everywhere outside of tiktok. It's not that surprising he has an incel past, because he actually DOES look kinda threatening. The "female gaze" here is more like the hybristophile gaze lmao
i love your channel, you keep me up to date on what's going on in the young peoples world in a mature and understandable and interesting way :) I just learned about what Para Social is today from your other video, :)
He gave me the creeps! I've never heard of him before RUclipsrs started doing videos about the female gaze. I watched the original viral clip and it was horrible, why would anyone think that was sexy and confident? I saw other people making similar tictoks, it's all cringe AF
I just subscribed, and I really enjoy your style and commentary. This story freaked me out, but it’s also interesting that I can’t see what so many others can. I do adore the sleepy eyed look of Billie. She can pull nearly anything off.
One of my favourite things about the internet is that literally everyone will read one paragraph of some article about something and suddenly be an expert on the subject qualified enough to teach everyone else about it. It is just amazing seeing ppl actually filming themselves, like showing their real life face, while doing this…
I don't understand why every race wants physical traits that aren't from their race. Isn't the desirable characteristics inside of their own race? Like white ppl are said to want Asian almond shaped eyes and African American darker skin, lips, hips and butt...I also love these things too. I have always thought real Asian facial features and hair are beautiful and have been told by ppl I looked mixed with African American (I'm not but I have a wider nose, high cheekbones and full lips and a big butt ☺️ African Americans have wanted thinner noses and lighter skin in the past even though their skin color is beautiful. Asians prefer lighter skin, wider eyes, more angular face and nose shape....I wish we could all be happy with what we look like knowing that each of our races/looks are uniquely beautiful and what makes the world a colorful and wonderful place. If we all looked the same, it would be really boring!
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When i saw Kevin i felt he was the type of guy who'll shame anyone who says anything he doesn't believe in . And i was right,you should see how he shames women who won't think he's attractive.
he seems like the type of dude who would throw a violent tantrum when a woman doesn’t want to go out with him
He looks creepy, how the fuck he has actual human woman defending him ?????
Oh boy and a few second later his old tik toks came re asuring he look like a creep hahahah punching a baby belly ????
He does it on his streams too 💀
Yeah typical male behavior.
He's literally balding no offense to my bald brothers but I still don't get it either the people who like him just love the serial killer look or the bar is so low for some people
I'm just gonna say it... Kevin scares me and instantly I got a bad feeling about him. It could also be that he was so seemingly sure and confident that he had the female gaze that it came across as arrogant and I didn't like it. I figured maybe there was just something wrong with me though after I heard that everyone was losing their minds over it...
So... 🤷♀. The internet is a really crazy place lol
It’s cos he is doing it in front of the camera for a TikTok like he is aware of what he is doing, that he is trying to be hot. If the gaze came naturally to him then it would’ve been much more attractive, ya know like how Koop idols do on their stages and they make good facial expressions that make fans go crazy, they do it naturally while his looks forced and like you should be finding it hot
I got so pissed when he went viral for "mastering the female gaze" which is the worst thing you can give guys like him because it goes straight to the ego, but also for minimizing the female gaze to this.
@@shmeepness1700 okay but the whole point has been lost which is the female gaze isn't literal and that's what has been lost in translation for most of y'all, why he hasn't mastered crap and never will.
It's not about the actual look, it's what you can't see that matters with the female gaze.
@@SteviiLove I thought the female gaze was what women found attractive? I saw some girl make a video about it including jimin and Timothee chalamet and why they’re attractive and the female gaze being in the title. How is it lots in translation when everyone is using it wrong according to you
Oh he's actually a misogynist. I think he did a stream and he kept making fun of women and being blatantly disrespectful if anyone remotely questioned him on Tik Tok. His weird little cult of women feeds into making fun of other women on stream.
I don't know how shyness/introversion became attractive on the internet, but as soon those people interact with a very weird and shy person in real life, they will be the first ones to point fingers. As someone who dealt with social anxiety for most of my life, i can assure y'all people don't find it cute as they do on tiktok.
Right. I've had people calling me strange and look at me like I have some sort of disability or as if I'm a child and it feels dehumanizing. It's got to the point where people find my shyness offensive for some reason "because why am I not comfortable around them when they're so nice" but how am I supposed to do that when those same people keep on judging me for being shy later? It's hard enough to struggle with social anxiety and have to deal with social situations constantly but some people make it extra challenging.
This is my worst fear, I grew up pretty sheltered so my people skills are less than great... But I want to be independent so I'll have to get a job soon, I'm scared of how my co-workers will perceive me, hopefully they'll leave me be as I like to keep my head down and not bother anyone. We shall see! 😭
@oh hi how are you I did the same thing & there'll be someone that always tries to break down your shy barrier lol just be kind bc that's what saved me everyone thought I was a raging b- & I hated everyone at my last job bc I have a resting b- face & I'm quiet but as long as you're kind in the little interactions you have you should be good there'll be someone to see through your shyness & try to get to know you as they did to me don't build it up too high in your mind it's not as scary as I first thought
It’s attractive on attractive people
It's actually cringe. People cringe when I get too shy. And it's embarassing ngl
I have small, almond shaped eyes. They are not monolid but have the "asian eye" vibe to them. I sometimes got in trouble in gradeschool because teachers thought I looked tired, or bored, or wasn't paying attention. Once got told I rolled my eyes at them when I didn't, or giving a glare. My resting face does look tired. I taught myself at one point in time to force my eyes open more to avoid the stigma.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with such ignorance smh
Bruuuuhh whaaat I literally experienced the exact same thing. I grew up unintentionally conditioned, especially for pictures, that opening my eyes wider would make me look more likeable…
Stop forcing them open you're going to give yourself premature wrinkles
Literally same and it's so hard to look approachable people tell me that I look scary/intimidating or uninterested 🙁
Tf is an asian "eye"
As a certified shy person, I can confirm that yes I indeed get anxious *around crowds* or *people I don’t know.* And my soul leaves my body whenever *attention is on me.* I fidget, my face turns as red as a tomato, and I feel like I’m having an out of body experience *lmao*
…it is not cute…
A year ago, I am very shy person. I got anxious pretty easily that even posting a comment on internet is exhausting.
Fortunately, after exerting mysld for a year to kick out my excessive anxiety, (At least on internet lol) I dived into a pithole of commenting on the most controversial videos out there💀. Fortunately, my anxiety in social life lessened a little...✨
Yes the look like very low self esteem lack confidence people and there nothing attractive about that
i go deaf to the world and stare at my shoes like they're the most interesting things ever to exist. if I'm walking then I look like I'm going to destroy the city.
im a pretty confident person but my face turns into a tomato and i cry or tear up rlly easily and its sOOoo annoying
Once we had to talk about ourselves in Spanish class for a minute and I ran out of things to say. The out of body experience is real and it felt horrible, like I was watching my self fail from above
My immediate first impression of Kevin was, “He looks like an incel!”
his front hair looks transparent
Omg yes
honestly mood everything about the dud makes me uncomfortable he looks like he'd traumatize be 5 times over with a single blink
Wow… judge a person on looks first… so wise
I wonder why, probably because he's ugly? You just proved why incels are incels.
at this point i am convinced that the internet is the best and the worst thing to ever exist.
Yess!! you spoke wise words there
Kevin looks like an actor in a 70s adult film
Weary eyes get people down bad? And people say MY tastes in 2D men were weird 😤
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Facts 😂😂😂😂
Nothing says "I'm gonna binge all your tiktoks" like a pair of insomniac peepers.
He always weirded me out 😭
I feel like all dudes that do that POV thing are sus and so far a ton of them have been proven creeps so I think the genre is just tainted.
same
Lol
I feel like if he does that look at me I would scream r@pist
real he looks like a cartoon villain
It’s like my ex. A fake feminist who make a whole fake persona (his whole online personality was acting like a feminist and hating a certain old American president). I knew him for years before we dated and who he was after we dated (after the love bombing phase ended) was extremely misogynistic and abusive. Everything he posted about as a fake feminist was the opposite of what he said when he dated me, but only to me. Online he continued to pretend to be a feminist.
Like the Try Guys drama with the “wife guy” there are “feminist guys” who also pretend to respect women to appear to be good people and to manipulate women into liking them.
I saw a post from Hypebae that was titled “New year new me(n)” where guys claim they will be better in 2023. The author of the post was skeptical, as they should be.
Guys have been manipulating women for decades. Like unpopular guys pretending to want a relationship to trick women into having sex. It’s just more and more manipulation.
Dating for straight women is difficult.
As someone who would like to know what love is seeing stuff on the internet makes me feel like it's some empty promise and all those love songs are all lies. It's praised from the day we are born only for us to realize it's so much worse
@@thelying2594 love is real and possible but a lot of it involves choosing to /try/ to make it work & that’s the hard part to find in our society imo. you can be emotionally, physically and intellectual compatible but things will come up that require you to put effort in or give up and be alone. I think a lot of us are just less likely to make those sacrifices (which are things like going to therapy, being vulnerable even tho it hurts you, putting aside your momentary wants for your overall needs. a sacrifice isn’t changing who you are, that’s never love) ❤
I remember in highschool I was friends with a guy who no one was really friends with because he was a bit different. We became "friends" and he asked me out and I was confused and he ended up flipping out on me saying why did he waste being nice on me if I wasn't even going to go out with him and harassed me for a long time afterwards. Sucked to know he wasn't even a friend just to be a friend he was just wanting in my pants essentially.
@@abbyz13 I also feel like growing up women are inconsciously thougt to be attracted too the wrong kind of men.
@@kjurpjdpihe9096 its seems like all men around is "wrong kind of men"...
I have heavy set eyes like this, and I remember complaining to my Nana about it once. She said “honey, they’re called bedroom eyes and they’re sultry!” 😆 thanks Nana!
theyre like prey eyes. im not really sure about the name prey eyes because they can be very intimidating x
That's creepy
@@gato4756 Depends on the relationship with their grandma and/or the culture. Some people are just closer than others.
I get told I look sleepy, bored or about to kill someone
Nana you can’t say that to your grandchild lol
Kevin’s face instinctively has me fishing around my pockets for my taser…💀
If you think the female gaze is some rando lip syncing songs and looking at you a certain way, then you don't know what the female gaze is in the first place.
Yes
This!! It made me so confused
exactly, what tf does this man looking at the camera have to do with the female gaze??? i've been so confused by all this lol, seems like people saw the term "female gaze" and just ran with it without even trying to find out what it means
Exactly
The "female gaze" isn't even a thing to begin with.
It’s not the female gaze. It’s what makes women feel attractive, from a socialized, feminine perspective. People are confusing it, because the male gaze is all about what men are attracted to. the female gaze isn’t supposed to objectify people.
This!
All I get from this male and female gaze crap is that men are attracted to men and women are attracted to women...
Finally someone said it
That last part isn't quite true. In a management course I took, we looked at how the female gaze is responsible for things like beauty standards, body image shame, the pressure on women to shave and wear makeup, and things like that. All those pressures that I've felt in my life all came from women who were using them to feel more powerful and attractive, while I found them restrictive and unreasonable. I've also heard of the female gaze being used to objectify men as just being there for physical support, but that isn't as common. It's like we all make each other a commodity, and try to bargain with the system by fitting into ideals that a lot of people just don't care about, or at least not as much as what media would suggest.
@@joylox You got it wrong. Women shaming or competing with other women comes from internalised misogyny, aka an internalisation of the male gaze. These women literally just perpetuate patriarchal stereotypes, which initially did not come from women, but from men.
I hope you feel better soon! You've been sick for a long time.
Also, I don't get Kevin's appeal and I never will. I found the challenge to be equally as cringey and terrifying no matter who it came from. Also his personality seems really really awful.
Yup! From what he shows, he’s kinda like a high school boy who never grew up, just kept going downhill. The attraction people had made it all the more puzzling, the internet is strange
i dont understand the appeal too, he literally looks like what people would call a pedo (just add thin wire glasses ig) a few years ago, not that i condone it but i wonder what happened this past few months and a guy that looks like THIS could get famous for his looks.
What I hate the most about this is tiktok missusing another term!! Like female gaze has NOTHING to do with what people are claiming it is in those tiktoks.
Female gaze??? I've only seen him once and I scrolled right past because it looked like another cringe tiktok challenge and didn't look back
Why use it? Delete it!! For me, I deleted it years ago after installing it for a day. It give me headache Everytime I watch it with my friends or my family. It's like 99 percent of them is pure nonsense. Well, I admit it was good at first for 5 minutes but after that, the contents is 😐.
@@Animeal_Tv ikr, that's why i never had TikTok cause is so toxic, I know is not everyone there thats like that but the majority of the shorts or whatever they call it there is very stupid and mentally draining
@@Animeal_Tv I only use it for memes I only go on there like once a week maybe even as long as 3 weeks because I wanna avoid crap like this 💀
@@Animeal_Tv maybe because it only gives you the most popular vids, once it sees what you like and search it'll show you more vids like that 💀
@@Animeal_Tv I had it for like two years, I will admit, but deleted it like a year ago, one of the best decisions ever
Me, a female with eyes that can gaze at strangekevin: So I don't see the difference? 🤔
right he was just as cringey as the rest, ppl be goofing around on the internet
He was very creepy. I'd cross the road if he was walking near me
Kevin looks like he works as a night shift janitor that isn’t allowed within 30 ft of a school
I have the sanpaku eyes and it usually got me in trouble during my highschool years. People always ask if I'm sad or tired because of the way my eyes naturally look. Teachers always think I'm not interested in lectures and people usually think I'm not paying attention to them during conversations. But due to the rising popularity of animes my eyes are getting more and more accepted. I remember hearing people say I look cool and confident with my eyes even though I'm just an overly quiet and autistic introvert
Literally me :')
I feel less alone now
I love it when people judge your character on your biological characteristics, a thing you have no control over. Especially as a student (a child) by teachers (adults in authority).
THANK YOU FOR POINTING OUT THE FACT THAT NO ONE USES POV CORRECTLY!!! I thought I was going crazy
as a woman, i had to scroll down to the comments every time these guys show up on screen i can NOT handle the cringeeeee ajfkdlsjfkl
Man, I thought I was missing something when everyone was gushing about Kevin. I was like damn, do I not see through the female gaze? 😅
I love this line- "It's like that saying, inside every person there are two wolves, the potential to become a social media celebrity and anxiety." Hahaha,. I really appreciate the humor in your videos!
I could predict that he was gonna get exposed and “cancelled”. Us lesbians know that what he was doing is just a act hence him saying he knows that this is what (str8) women want. The ones that are genuinely “female gaze” material don’t even know what it is and don’t need to put on an act and claim to be anything. They’re just natural decent and liked by women.
Many str8 women will never get it, be safe out here sisters
I'm straight and he creeps me the heck out. Anyone trying that hard, especially to be alluring just do. I think most people see that try-hard stare and immediately figure out his "type"... aka "avoid."
I found it weirdly attractive, and I’ve only ever been attracted to (clinical) sociopaths, so I knew something was wrong 😂😅
@@thethe4665 oh-
@@thethe4665 Love the self awareness but Jesus fucking Christ-
Im on this stage of being an adult. Im very shy and introverted. I have no confidence because i have low self esteem. Yesterday,i observed a lot of ppl just being with their friends,doing what their thing,the employees etc. There are people who arent attractive or with obvious insecurities but they are doing so great. Confidence really is the key. The problem is just me
"Acting like they clogged the public toilet and can't tell anyone about it." 😂
Dude. I knew those "shy" guys were gonna b SUUUPER cringey. So I covered the dudes faces on my phone and just watched Ed's reaction 🤣😆
I just looked down in the comments. It was too embarrassing.
I wish I had thought to do that.
We appreciate your analysis on the female gaze. We hope to see you succeed further along the way.
idk what female gaze means, but I def know they're using the term male gaze wrong. "male gaze" isn't "ego and bravado". it's used in cinema (and other visual media and can expand to even non-visual media if you want) to describe how women are literally viewed as in the camera focusing or lingering on their boobs, butts, hips, etc.
I've seen Kevin Tik Tok but not the problematic ones, thanks for sharing that content. Your content is always interesting and sourced correctly it's so enjoyable!
I swear I thought people were memeing when the whole “female gaze” was going around about this guy- because to me he literally looks a normal person with eyes that are not commonly focused on in media. It felt trying to hard to be relatable or quirky, and people were crapping on people mimicking him that didn’t feel that different other than eye shape.
I always thought of "female gaze" as a technique for filming or writing where it's obvious in some intrinsic way that a woman is holding the camera and not a man trying to imagine what women like.
Like, in "male gaze" women are the sex objects, the desired trophies, the mysterious beauties waiting for a partner. In female gaze, men are the sex objects, the desired trophies, the mysterious beauties waiting for a partner. In male gaze, men are strong and capable and active within the story while the women react; they save the damsel, if the damsel saves them they have to save them in return. In female gaze, women are strong and capable and active within the story while the men react; they save the male damsel, and if they are saved then will save the male lead in return.
True Blood and Outlander are usually cited as shows with a strong female gaze
Well I'm actually not sure that in the female gaze, the roles are so directly switched. I don't think that a main component is the woman saving the male damsel in distress, but more that women are seen as actual human beings with complex thoughts and feelings, and things that are usually experienced by women, like girlhood in Coppola or being sexualised in general, are accurately and emotionally portrayed. Also that men are maybe more emotionally in touch and not overly masculine, because women tend to like that more (overgeneralisation, I know), and the man that's supposed to be attractive in more male gaze-y movies is usually overly masculine, bulky, unemotional, as men stereotypically want to be. But I'm not sure either, just wanted to drop that here haha
this is absolutely not what the female gaze is. the female gaze doesn't objectify. (what makes perfectly sense because it's a feminist film theory) what @dean1111 wrote is more accurate
@@dean1111 It looks switched because I'm simplifying. Take Outlander for example, the female lead goes back in time with medical knowledge that allows her to be very capable and useful to warrior men in pre-industrial Scotland, and she's emotionally and mentally strong from having been a ww2 field medic, but she's not brawling with the guys. The male lead had his own damsel moments where he had to be rescued or saved, and he in turn saves her.
In shows from a male gaze (in my understanding of the term), the man saves the woman and that's it; if he is saved, then he must save back. Here the big "saving" moments are from her to him.
Female gaze can characterise both male and female characters, I don't like limiting it to just how men vs women describe women because how men vs women describe men is a huge part of the puzzle and makes the discussion more balanced. Female gaze is not inherently better or worse than male gaze, it's just flipped in some key ways for the different audience.
And yep I agree that being more sensitive and pretty vs masculine and stoic is part of what makes male characters in female gazey stories so compelling to me.
Yes! People are saying the female gaze like it’s an actual look and not a concept
The fake shy lol
You know how a lot of people find fictional (and unfortunately sometimes non-fictional) serial killers/stalkers attractive? That's the vibe I got from him. The "I know he's gonna kill me but maybe I'd be the exception" type...
These people are just thirsty for Psychopath lookalike . I feel weird and uncomfortable looking at him . Cringe TikTok
I live in Japanese and I have sanpaku eyes. Often I get complimented for my eyes but I never knew they are dangerous or sum-
means you die earlier accordinf to old face reading. think its chinese
Tfw you live in a language
People don't research terms like female gaze and the male gaze. The male Gaze refers to stuff that directors do that doesn't add anything to the plot and it's inhegerenly sexual just because they see the character like that, for example, look at the differences between Harley Quinn from Birds of prey vs. Suicide squad. While one has sexy shots of Harley dressing implying that she did it in front of a bunch of men, and the camera zooms from her feet all the way to her boobs, while the other doesn't have a sexy shoot just because. In the end, the sexy part, it's not bad, what the term "male gaze" refers to is the frame, camera angle, etc. Pandering to certain demographics.
It's times like this I am glad I uninstalled tiktok 😌
Or banned :)
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well today i learned that my natural eye shape is "siren eyes"
I was always asked "are you okay?" and "why are your eyelids half closed?"
no, I just have ptosis
Ptosis gang!
Thank you for keeping me updated about trends, Fondly, one of your old lady followers with sanpaku eyes.
Yeah I don't know where the obsession with that guy, not to be mean but whatever this female gaze is definitely isn't universal cause imma female and I ain't gazin.
Bruh when did female gaze stop meaning things like a focus on like hands with like Mr Darcys hand clench as an example or just stuff that from a media perspective appeals more to women not weird guy staring at you like maybe I don't get it because I'm autistic and eye contact is no but like why is this now being called female gaze
the internet does this to so many important phrases and words
gaslighting, trauma bonding, lovebombing, male gaze, female gaze, Karen etc. overuses it and wrongly to the point it almost loses meaning :(
@kerri true unfortunately
That's because this is NOT it. Like most buzz words and phrases that have found themselves in the cultural mainstream, the meaning has been misconstrued and misused 🤷🏾♀️ this is just.....uncomfortably odd.
@@kerri6011 omg I hate how gaslighting is used EVERYWHERE these days.
welcome to the internet, where people find phrases and terms and start using it without knowing what it means at all until the term loses its entire meaning
The face he makes reminds me of the face a drunk person would make when they are trying to hold a conversation and pretend they aren't drunk. IDK. wild.
I was wondering who this “Kevin” was with the female gaze. Lol I got major creepy vibes watching (I definitely don’t want whatever he’s serving) and didn’t get it. Thanks for explaining!!
He has Sanpaku eyes, for sure. I've seen so many videos ab him, and his ugly comments he does ab black women. I just don't like him as a person, and for me is not a example of female gaze.
Before this trend I was bisexual. After this trend i became a lesbian
Lool I think we just cant relate to what straight women like
Kevin looks like the stranger in the stranger danger psa's you'd watch in early elementary/primary school.
12:15 jumpscare warning btw
Once again I was reminded that I'm just constantly confused by internet trends- "shy to confident" was just weird and we don't even need to talk about the rest of the mess. A very interesting video as always (also hope you'll feel better soon. Whatever respiratory illnesses are currently making the rounds are just awful. Took me out for 2 weeks)
Kevin triggers my fight or flight
he literally looks like Sam Smith but like he is balding
Oh! He does!
Till this day I'm hoping this is just some big inside joke that idk
... right?.. RIGHT?! bffr" 💀
That man looks like he drives a white van and should not be allowed near playgrounds. And it's not just his looks, its the vibe he gives.
I have sanpaku eyes but I've always referred to them as 'basset hound eyes'...that was a lot more wholesome than the ominous "the world is out to get you" angle...so thanks for that, LOLLLL
I feel like the internet misuses the term of Male and Female Gazes quite a lot now.
The Female Gaze was a film theory that in layman's terms just wants films that don't sexualize or rely on sex appeal a lot, which is usually tasked on to women in film. The Female Gaze doesn't deny nor is saying we ought to erase sex appeal, but simply advocates for visuals that sees beauty and people in a more holistic way. There's more to it than that and many social and art theories that add on and even criticize the shortcomings of when it came out in the 20th century.
These types of tiktok internet users are not qualified to give these "examples" of what even Female Gaze is.
Im glad your back and feeling better I don't have TikTok so you're the one who keeps me informed on what's going on in the cosmetic world xD
"Better to suffer together than alone" ♡
12:31 "She's not looking at the jawline. not invited to the harem either" GIRL WHAT HAREM LMAOOO
I know those Kevin enthusiasts are really wishing they had kept quiet rn
This. I was telling my friends it was just the eyes but they never listened to me 😵💫
Kevin somehow made my attraction to men go down by a whole 10%
I don't usually leave comments because I have severe anxiety & I know it's irrational but doing so can often cause a panic attack.
Anyway this is for the algorithm. You're awesome, I love your content. You're definitely one of my favorite RUclipsrs. Much love 😍🌟💞
Sorry your cough has lasted this long and hope you feel better! Thanks for still making us videos!
I like your dry witty comedy.. keep the interesting perspectives comin
I cannot stop laughing at Ed's cringe facial expressions for the Shy Confident Tick Toc challenges. XD
To me the female gaze is the humanization of women. A lot of media focuses on the sexual and act of seducing a woman. A good example of the female gaze is the carriage scene in pride and prejudice, where Darcy helps Lizzie into the carriage and then flexes his hand from delight afterwards. It’s caring and loving, helping and treating a woman with respect makes women swoon. The hint of or suggestion of a man being more so “a sweet one” is what I think keeps having girls fan girl over any nerdy/shy guy. When in reality they can be nerdy and shy but absolute assholes in private 😂
I loved that scene!
You mean that handsome guy....... Yea am very sure its just because of is gesture that makes you find him attractive.
I think its the bulge
As one of the female gays, I was really thrown off by whatever was going on with this one. I do not understand the hype.
3:45 stop this has no business being this funny 😭😭
The biggest example of a good female gaze on tiktok is the guy who sits down with a cup of tea pretending to genuinely listen to you talk about your day.
7:01 I replayed this clip of you shrugging so many times, I don't know why I found it so funny but it was incredibly relatable
When u see so many ppl you kno getting tiktok famous, but they got really bad personalities offline :/
the shy to confident trend is just making eye contact with the camera.
the real shy to confident challenge should be spending 5-10 mins thinking about your order vs walking up the counter right away at a starbucks.
It’s so hard to believe it’s not just him disguised as different girls saying how attractive he is because I just don’t understand this lmao
Edvasian is the funniest! 🤣 Your videos never fail to make me laugh.
12:13 is a LITERAL jump scare😭
As always you are very entertaining. Thanks for the video. Hope you feel better .
Convinced it’s all an elaborate joke because he’s really giving Dream Face Reveal fr fr
Because of my eye shape sometimes people say that I look like I'm judging them or think I'm above them. When I smile this look disappears but my resting face gives them these vibes I guess. Some of my grade school teachers had bad impressions about me because of this but as I got older it doesn't bother me as much. I try to prove I'm kind by acting friendly.
I swear to any and everyone that just being creative, respectful, charitable, and sincere has done me so well in life.
Women seriously love me because I love them for the right reasons!
Honestly as a pan-rom demisexual, I honestly didn’t get his hype at all and I felt insane. It deadass make me question if I was truly attracted to men/masc people because I could not see what “gaze” made him attractive. Most of all, the misuse of female gaze made me even more confused . I was like, is this a straight person thing??? Was asking my partner what they thought and they were just as confused.
I wouldn’t focus as much energy on what everybody else is feeling and learn to tap in to your own personal preferences, and let that guide you.
Ikr!! Like it happens to me that i analyze and overthink the things i see on social media " well I used to overthink and overanalyze things bc of curiosity or smth..." and i got really confused and felt insane from doing it "especially when I stared focusing on the Korean industry and kpop community cause i loved their songs and wanted to have more knowledge of their culture in their industry" that to the extended i started having headeaches aches... that's why I got out of the community since the mayority was toxic asf than any other one i saw in my whole life 😭. Since then i stopped putting all my energy on anything i see or hear cause is not useful and is mentally draining you know the overthinking and overanalyzing thing idk why i was doing that for many years but now i finally figured out that it wasn't good and that it was toxic for my mental health to do and i stopped for the better.
And sorry for the long text maybe this didn't have anything to do with the comment you two made idk 😅, thanks for reading till here❤️
honestly, as a pansexual person i thought the straights were trolling 😭
It's not a straight person thing. This guy would be considered (conventionally) ugly or at least creepy pretty much everywhere outside of tiktok. It's not that surprising he has an incel past, because he actually DOES look kinda threatening. The "female gaze" here is more like the hybristophile gaze lmao
"2020 was almost 3 years ago." It feels like it was literally yesterday. 💀
Tell me how
9:40 this part is so funny LMAO 😭😭
i love your channel, you keep me up to date on what's going on in the young peoples world in a mature and understandable and interesting way :) I just learned about what Para Social is today from your other video, :)
He has the eyes of a Cluster B Personality
He gave me the creeps! I've never heard of him before RUclipsrs started doing videos about the female gaze.
I watched the original viral clip and it was horrible, why would anyone think that was sexy and confident?
I saw other people making similar tictoks, it's all cringe AF
My favourite part about you is when you make jokes, it sounds so calm and casual which makes it funnier 😭
Well, people always wanna put people in boxes because when it comes down to it
Everybody has their own “gaze.”
I just subscribed, and I really enjoy your style and commentary. This story freaked me out, but it’s also interesting that I can’t see what so many others can. I do adore the sleepy eyed look of Billie. She can pull nearly anything off.
Kevin legit scares me, y'all can have him😂😂😂 Jimin's gaze will always be the most attractive anyway😌
This
Jimin is my bias💜
4:46 "Wait, where is the confidence?" HHAHAHAHAHA always a good time watching your videos🤣
One of my favourite things about the internet is that literally everyone will read one paragraph of some article about something and suddenly be an expert on the subject qualified enough to teach everyone else about it.
It is just amazing seeing ppl actually filming themselves, like showing their real life face, while doing this…
I have been looking for the term “Sanpaku” ever since I noticed Billie’s “sleepy” eyes 😱
‘Bedroom eyes’ i don’t know why but im so discusted by that just like ‘open your legs’
3:47 literally, like that is so off in accuracy 😂
I'm a female and in my gaze he is not at all attractive 😐
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA i was about to write excat the same thing, word by word Hahahahaha
You just made me realise that i have " sanpaku eyes " too and now everything makes sense 💀
I don't understand why every race wants physical traits that aren't from their race. Isn't the desirable characteristics inside of their own race? Like white ppl are said to want Asian almond shaped eyes and African American darker skin, lips, hips and butt...I also love these things too. I have always thought real Asian facial features and hair are beautiful and have been told by ppl I looked mixed with African American (I'm not but I have a wider nose, high cheekbones and full lips and a big butt ☺️ African Americans have wanted thinner noses and lighter skin in the past even though their skin color is beautiful. Asians prefer lighter skin, wider eyes, more angular face and nose shape....I wish we could all be happy with what we look like knowing that each of our races/looks are uniquely beautiful and what makes the world a colorful and wonderful place. If we all looked the same, it would be really boring!
As much as I try not to make fun of looks...... Kevin looks like that one teacher students would be terrified being in a room alone with.