TIMESTAMPS Constant rush 0:40 Force-feeding 1:50 Not setting boundaries 2:45 Inducing panic and fear 3:53 Self-criticism 4:57 Comparing your kids to others 6:00 Fear of disapproval 6:55 Neglecting family 7:43
Number three was the main source of my depression as a kid. I hated it when I was told ‘why can’t you be like your brother?’ or ‘Your cousin doesn’t have any problems doing this’. It’s like a knife to the heart ever time a kid hears someone,especially parents, tell them that.
Legends di Angelo don’t read unless you are actually interested in my experiences. my mother would always. (still kinda does) tell me that her friends kids are so smart and that when she was little, she had pure A’ and B’s. Thing is, has she ever known was An HONORS CLASS IS LIKE? It’s frustrating for me. When watching that part I legitimately cried because I remembered the judgement and comparing. To this day I feel a little bad.
Yes its true!:(...because my mother compaire me to other kids and my step sister....when we gather my mother is always besides my step sister and my step cousin...and their always special than me but im always getting jelous and lonely because of her:(
Hey, 8/8 applies to my mom. I totally lost respect for her because of that. She started belittling me in front of others after she lost her grip on me and realized I didn't need her approval and didn't have any issues with my self-worth. It took years of therapy to get of this mess. Thanks mom for showing me what I didn't want to be.
raph009 same now im insecure and hate being around other people and family she always compares me to others and i started realizing thus affects my mental health and relationships with others
PARENTS. NEED TO REMEMBER. KIDS ARE LITTLE PEOPLE WHO WILL. ONE DAY GROW UP AND REMEMBER EVERYTHING. AND DO THE SAME THING TO THIER. KIDS THAT WAS DONE TO THEM.
I think parents do the comparison thing on the false assumption its motivating when actually its harmful and counter productive, It demoralises, demotivates, hurts self esteem, undermines the personal achievements/efforts of the individual being compared, and is a slippery slope towards causing resentment and jealousy.
8- Constant rush 7 - force feeding 6- not settin boundaries 5- inducing panic and fear 4- self criticism 3-comparing kids too others 2-fear of disapproval 1-neglecting family You're welcome 😊
I agree. I grew up as very smart and only ever getting A’s and my parents thought I’d go to a nice college on a scholarship and be a doctor or lawyer. I started struggling in school a bit once I got to 8th grade and I got my first D. I was devastated and knew I needed help but my parents flipped! They grounded me, took my electronics, insulted me and asked why I couldn’t be more like my brother. My brother was 1 year younger than me and still getting A’s in the same classes I got A’s in. From that point on it was always “why can’t you be more like _____?” And I never got help. Today as a 20 year old, I can’t handle failure or comparison as well as others. I choke up when I get praised and feel awkward and when I’m criticized or scolded I don’t even do anything. It’s almost “normal” for me. I don’t cry or get upset unless it’s someone I really care about. I’m still compared a lot to others and this has really affected my relationship with my parents. It feels strained almost like we’re strangers but I still call them mom and dad. It honestly was the worst for me. I can recall the exact day and everything in my mind.
Spyro Mello I was kinda in the same situation as you as I was a student that mostly always got A but my work was never appreciated and they hated how I liked to play video games and start to compare me with cousins and there friend's children when they're were mostly idiots alcoholics or just plain lazy people that get low grades. That's why I don't like to talk with my parents as they clearly don't like what I like despite how good of a person I am.
My parents said i can play however i want, but i have to finish what i have to do first, then i can play. After a few days, i did the what they said but when they came back home and saw me playing games, they were like WHY CANT YOU STUDY, WHY ARE YOU PLAYING GAMES, and i was like i finished my work tho, they said that does that mean you have no more work to do? GO READ AND STUDY, YOU DONT HAVE TIME TO PLAY. And at the end they did not allow me to go out and play at the park, they dont trust me at all, compares me to my siblings, saying how they are better than me. LIke IM SICK AND TIRED OF MY PARENTS, I CANT ARGUE WITH THEM AT ALL. I can handle them, now i almost do not talk to them at all, they always yell at me.
Both of my parents have done all of these...and I agree that my mental health is completly ruined. Bonus is making you feel guilty about petty things which makes me say sorry even if it's not my fault
Pandora I feel like I am worthless to my parents too but I try to focus on my own life. I may be a part of the family but I am person of my own don't need to feel obligated to stay dependant on my parents. "Family is important" when it actually feels secure with them and not a punishment for being born there. You have your own worth and if they don't see it, it's their fault.
I just now noticed how much I've been neglected. My parents like to get pist at me for something they don't ask. I'm one of the people who need to know to do something to do it.
When we forgot things and ask our parents they just said 'how can you be so careless, how can you forgot where did you place your things?' A few moments later they'll ask you 'did you see my phone?' 😒
My dad does all of the bad things plus he insults me to my face. He doesn't care about me. He doesn't even know when my birthday is or how old i am. Yes, i still live with him and yes, he has been cruel to me my whole life. He yells at me if I don't make my bed 10 minutes after i get up. I have no escape. 5 minutes ago the was saying how good my friend is and how i should be like her. I always feel like i have no escape from his abuse. Edit: thank you everyone for your kind words! It's getting a little better. I try and keep my distance. You have all been so kind to a stranger, i am very grateful for all the love i have revived over the past month. To all those suffering abuse, it really does get better. Just try and get away to the best of your ability. Ps; I'm a girl all of the people thar called me a dude. Pps; why would my dad let me out of the house or have a phone? Im typing this on a computer.
Just know your not alone I haven’t seen or heard from my dad in 12 years and my mother is very abusive like your father actually worse just stay strong I guess
Stay strong and also you shouldn’t fall victim to his abuse no more if he yells at you yell back if he hits you hit him back if he compares you compare him back if that can’t help run to a nearby police station and tell them about the suffering you get ( if he ever hit you or not )
All of these habits are extremely bad and need to be stopped! I remember being told by our Mom about finding out that her Aunt', my Great Aunt, was comparing me to her grandchildren by saying I should be more like them in terms of having a boyfriend, etc. A year later, that Great Aunt stopped saying that after being accused of stealing stuff when it turned out that it was her grandchildren and some of their boyfriends who were the culprits. When I heard that, I was tempted to ask her if I should be more like her grandchildren in being thieves, but I did not as I felt she had already learned a powerful lesson.
TheSilentAngel you can't say he missed the opportunity, it was his choice and I think it's better this than let rage and revenge desires take control over you
So basically, don't do to your kids what the cruel, hard world is already going to do enough of to them anyway. Instead, help them understand that there is a such thing as hardship, horrors and pain in this world, and the best thing to do is to recognize that these things can and will happen, and to be prepared when it does. And the best way to prepare is to teach them how to make decisions for themselves as early as possible. Teach them of the ways of the world, as opposed to inflicting the harshness of the world upon them and hoping they learn the right lessons from it. Because more than likely, they won't. I am a personal testament to the dangers of 'misery builds character'.
Bob Western Your dad did that? Yeah, some parents think they know better. Neglecting that their sons and daughters are individuals with special skills and unique. You can do fulfill your own dreams Bob.
my mother comperes me with other childern if i lose something or get bad marks she shouts at me and it makes me cry in my heart.she say every bad things to me and herself.but even after all that i love her and i know that somewhere she loves me too this is for mothers who are reading this plz lets your child be a little happydon,t make them suffer like other childern including me
And me I still am going through therapy hand u was gonna be 7 feet, but my final night predictions fell to 6 feet 2 inches from stress and severe depression
My grandma and mom think its ok to rush me everywhere, make me eat, do, say, and wear what they want me to, and compare me to others. And yet they wonder why I'm depressed!! My mom wont even accept that I'm not straight, shes always on her new phone!!! Why are my parents so awful? Why did my dad always hurt me physically and physiologically? This is what life is full of, problems that I cant solve. If anyone has similar problems as me and or has suicidal thoughts or tendencies like I do. You can talk to me on discord. My user and tag are; Firewolfcaves#0727 .I hope you can have a better life than ive got.
Trust me, everyone has their own personal life problems and it hurts them very much till this day. Plus, kids didn't come with a parenting book, every parent try's to make their kids the best they can.
Even know my life is far from perfect, I'm still alive. I may want to die, but I continue to live. As I will continue to do until it is the right time. I just hate to see others with similar problems, it hurts. I dont ask for pity, I ask if anyone needs help, I will do my best to make anyone suffering, happy. My goal In life is to help everyone but myself, I dont matter to myself, others do.
Is it bad that my mom does *ALL* of those except the phone call and self criticism one? (The part where my mom compares me to my best friend is the worst and it makes me just wanna say "ThEn wHy DoNt YOU gO aND aDoPt HeR??!" but I wouldnt cuz I already have negative thoughts since I was 8 wearing a "mask" to hide my feelings... And since that day I always smile for no absolute reason cuz my face is stuck in the position😟) P.S When I discovered MLP I called dibs on fluttershy now I just wanna change to the evil luna..
#3 Parents: You are at home all the time, why can't you be like your friends and socialize? Me: ... Later~ Me: My friends are more social than me. Parents: Worry about yourself.
The comparing thing, is really accurate. Mom: *compares me to other teens* Me: My friends mom is- Mom: I am telling you not to compare me with them, because I am not them and I will never be! Me: *Mom?*
The last point is sad but true.. and not only to children, but also to family and friends. Everyone be like getting busy with their phones, which is why my group does not allow gadget usage when we are hanging out together
Lord Cinnabon same!! I hate to socialize! And when someone wants to come in I Just scream: GET OUT!!!! It is quite sad cuz the only TRUE friends i ever had was in kindergarten and now all my friends I have now is toxic, rude and narcassistic! And my bigbig brothers compares me with everione else! Hope this comment actually meant something and my friends at kindergarten i dont know where they live what their up to or anything! I wish I just had contact with them :|
To those seeing this comment.. Hi, I just wanted to wish you an AMAZING day 💕 and don’t forget someone loves you no matter what and please DO NOT even think of someone letting you down 😃 please NEVER stop 🛑 smiling 😀 From a girl that has a dream on becoming a successful youtuber one day 💝
Unique Art thank you!! My day was better than normal. My dad only beat me 2 times! Better than 5!! No ne loves me! What r u talking about?? How are you? I hope you are better than me.
I love to be a mom, although I have a lot of job to do...i enjoy it...cause I Do everything with love..take care kiddos and husband... Feel Tired of course ...but when you see they are health,Smart ,have good behavior... that is your achievements and you will proud of your self...
Yes. My parents told me what a burden and a bother I was. I did not ask to be born. They "forgot" me (and my brother) sometimes when we were out, and the police brought us home when we asked for help. They beat us, and abused us in other ways, and gave us adult responsibilities we were often unable to fulfill as children. If they wanted someone to take care of some of those responsibilities, hire someone.
+You gotta…: What I'm talking about happened in the 1960s. My alleged parents cannot be arrested because they are deceased. The older I get, the more it appears that what I experienced happens more often than not, people are arrested and convicted when too much comes out, and that loving families exist in story books. At the least, people should be evaluated for why they want to have children, and taught how to rear children before they are allowed to parent any. The problem with that is who decides what is or is not okay, permissible, or expected.
3:53 is literally what I'm going through now, some kid at my school stole my 60$ worth of markers that I needed to use for a art project,and i can't tell my dad because I know he's gonna yell at me because there expensive markers
I've been through a couple of these but I'm still cool with my parents. I'd say a weak family will fall quick but when you go through a lot of things with your family most of these will do nothing. A mentally strong family could overcome many things meanwhile a weak one would fall apart from one argument.
I remember one time I was in a bad mood and being kind of mean, and my dad said “no wonder you don’t have any friends.” And I knew he instantly regretted it but I still can’t forget that.
This is so true for me. Not all of them, but most of them. I didn't actually find the title or anything interesting, but the thumbnail caught my attention, because it was something my parents did to me. It also reminded me how upset I felt that I would rarely be up at the person my parents compared to's level. They always constantly rushed me, forced me to eat, induced panic and fear, compared me to others, and made me have a fear of disapproval. I'm not exactly a people-pleaser; I choose not to be, although in a way, I am. I am not a little bit of a people-pleaser because of my parents, though. I try to be nice to everyone, not fit in or let other people judge me and change into what they please. I just try to avoid saying things that I feel would upset them. They always constantly rushed me, and I always complained about that, but they never stopped. I started trying to be more calm and not rush when it was unnecessary to. Although, sometimes, I couldn't take all the time in the world to do things. It was surprising, though that I did something good out of that; be more cool, calm, and collective (only in certain situations). Although, that made me lay everything off and procrastinate, and do things last minute. Sometimes, though, it was useful because I didn't worry so much. But yet, they caused me anxiety when it was to get in time for something or getting ready for an upcoming test. I looked so much more calm and tried to be, on the outside, but yet inside my heart was racing with nervousness more often than I used to and more than other people probably would've been. Forcing me to eat bothered me so much. I didn't understand why they always made me eat even after I refused so many times. Finally, I would include inducing panic and fear and fear of disapproval together. They would always yell at me every time I lost or broke something. I got so scared. I didn't know what to do. I just let them yell at me, because I had no other choice. This might have caused me to have minor depression, as well as the anxiety, low self-esteem, and not much self confidence. They also didn't let me have much of my own freedom for safety reasons, and didn't take me around many places because of busy times, and financial issues, and I don't really blame them for that, but they don't understand that's why my self-esteem and confidence is low. I'm also really shy. They keep on telling me to come out of my shell. They got so tired of me being like that, they end up giving me lectures on it. It makes me feel like being shy is wrong. I would like to be less shy, but I wish they could give me some time.
It’s funny because now that I look back my parents often did all of these things to me. I now loathe the company of my mother and struggle with some major mental issues. Of course I’m not saying that they could be the only cause but this could have been a big one.
Ikr. Every time my brother does something bad, I'M always the one that ends up getting in trouble for it. Even if I had absolutely NOTHING to do with whatever he did.
Puppypach291 Da_fox I'm not even numb. I just don't have feelings :) everything is indifferent and it's amazing, but i am hit with constant boredom because of it.
When I need my mum's attention, well she shushes me but I write a question on a paper and then she answers me "I'll answer you after the call, okay? " and I nod in agreement.
I can say that this is completely true for children who have parents that do this, as one of those children myself.I cried watching this, because I've been suffering from low self esteem and anxiety for years, and this just helped me really understand why. Thank you for making this video
Wow, I am truly glad for my parents now, even more than I was before! Especially my mom! In all of these points I remember situations where my mom acted the complete opposite (or the "good example") of these points 😊
This is actually really true now I can't go back to my start I have depression now and.......I do self harm because Im afraid of what others think of me.....
The inducing panic and fear got me... i cried so much bc i relate T~T...sometimes i just think its good for me cause ur parents know best...and i dont want to dissapoint them so im trying my best to not mess up..especially in class
Sometimes when I want to ask my mom something this is how it goes, Me: Can I... Mom interrupts: NO!!! Go back to your room!!! And she continues to look at her phone
I have really bad anxiety and I get called hopeless and names. I get yelled at for small things. I get so anxious I get scared of my parents and get depressed sometimes.
Number 4 hit close to home. My mom has always been very critical of herself, and very vocal about it. From a young age I heard constant negative self talk. And now I do the same thing. I'm always critical of myself and have no self-esteem. She's still like that and it still has a negative effect on me.
I would just like to mention that many of the symptoms that the children are feeling in these examples are not exclusively caused by the parenting mistake linked to them in this video. I could not have asked for better parents, and am grateful there unwavering support and understanding. However, I suffer from the feeling of feeling responsible for every thing, guilty about things I had no control over, and needing to please everyone. Great video though! I've seen all these scenarios in person, and they need to be brought to the eye of the public.
My dad yelled at me once and i was very angry and i just cursed him and sweared to him and went to a police station, told them every thing: that he beats me, and yells at me, they punished him, thats what any man or woman who does that deserves
As someone who was constantly afraid of disappointing people as a kid, not just my parents but anyone in general, I can tell you how destructive that is. Honestly, I was always one of the smart kids and was almost always a year or two above my grade level. But this led me to constantly be afraid of low grades. Even getting a simple question wrong made me embarrassed, like everyone was judging me. I started to get over it more as I got older but still... Please parents, never let your kids get the way I did. The constant stress, and even mental breakdowns, were not healthy for an 8-year-old.
6:00 im 11 years one day i told my mom how much it hurt me when she compared me with my classmates and say i put no effort to anything and how i was better younger but she said im not grateful or i am spoilt NOW THIS CONTINUES TO HAPPEN EVERYDAY AND I HAVE TO BARE ALL OF IT
My parents always compared me to other kids pushed me for things that i didnt like or was interested in never wanted me to question anything and just live out my life trying to earn more money. Now they dont really have an authority over me but i lack in everything socially i dont have a sense of emphaty, i cant express my opinions because i dont think anyone will even care which is a effect of my low self esteem i seem to be unable to normally express any emotions other than anger and i started a boxing career because i dont care about school and the sole way of me feeling alive is hurting myself to the point of smiling while being punched and spitting blood
FYI for parents, teens are a little different, and don't always want your help. They want to try to find or fix something themselves. Also, they sometimes want to grow and make progress themselves too, and don't always need help when it looks like they do.
Some of these happened in my family! I have very high anxiety, stress easily and fear of failing, hard for me to say no!!!!! I do think negatively about myself a lot!!!!! While I was writing this I felt like crying for some strange reason! I AM SO EMOTIONAL
I'm happy (and lucky) that my parents didn't do any thing like this... They were always patient, made sure I ate healthy but didn't force me to eat something if I truly didn't wanna eat it. I ways liked fruits and vegetables so that was no problem. If they did start rushing or something, they would take a second and ask if I was alright because I always had really bad anxiety and they knew that. They would make sure they weren't making me too anxious or anything. I'm glad I have my parents... They always understood what I was going through and they were always there for me. I feel that they raised me right.
It truly, truly is. I've experienced all of these things and let me tell you, being a people pleaser is horrible!!! I now keep my thoughts, feelings, ideas, loves, passions, etc. inside bc I've been growing up being told that "You're grandma gave you that shirt! You will wear it!" "How could you get an F? I knew we shouldn't have let you join dance!" "He's offering it to you! Take it!" "She's telling you something important! (it was how her sister was sad her dog died and I couldn't tell my mom I was getting bullied by my own sister for three years') You won't talk about yourself at all, right now!" "You're such a failure! Do you know how embarrassing it is to have my friends know that my eldest daughter is failing math??" I need to hear praise ATLEAST two to three times a day in order to not feel horribly depressed. It sucks because when I don't hear praise, I feel like I've let everybody down and I'm always doing things just to hear the bare minimum of "thank you" each and every day.
Constant rush 0:40 Force-feeding 1:50 Not setting boundaries 2:45 Inducing panic and fear 3:53 Self-criticism 4:57 Comparing your kids to others 6:00 Fear of disapproval 6:55 Neglecting family 7:43
Since I paid more attention to psychology,I can see the mistakes and the good things too that my parents made with me...some people get mad at me for telling them not to scream at little kids and babies,but they just tell me to shut up because I'm still a teenager and don't have my own kids yet,I've promised to myself that I will never do this mistakes... another mistake I can see is how they always tell me that my goals are too big and that I aim too high, that killed my confidence when I was little,but It can't stop me now, my parents alweys supported me with money,and no we're not rich, I just wanna say that I could use more some advice on how to become better and some positive support then money
I have been compared like FOR 11 YEARS AND NOW I AM FREAKIN 11 AND STILL BEING COMPARED! like my ma said "look at her! Shes smart and rich.., why dont u just..be like her?" Or or "She was so clean and organized!" This that...f🌼ck!!!!! Im also had a fear of disapproval... Its...complicated... I was wondering... "if u try to compare me and doubting....then why u made me? Why am I exist...?" I wish i could say that... But im scared
Something I notice all the time, is that the parents of lots of kids I know still get their kids ready for school even today, and these people are all in high middle school. In my own experience, my parents taught me to be independent when I was around 6. It really helps me, and blows me away when some people still rely heavily on their parents for things they can do themselves. This is just my own opinion.
2:33 - B.S! I, my siblings, my nieces, and my nephews *all* threw fits at tables where everyone ate normal meals together. It’s just something kids do until their parents correct them. 😂
"Constant rush and aiming to please" Yeah, that did cause me some minor to moderate depression, but they loosened up and I got out of it. Thank god, too.
Number three made me almost cry, since my Mom kept comparing me with other kids which hurt my feelings. She continued until my self-esteem lowered and started getting a bit depressed. I wish Mom would understand.
TIMESTAMPS
Constant rush 0:40
Force-feeding 1:50
Not setting boundaries 2:45
Inducing panic and fear 3:53
Self-criticism 4:57
Comparing your kids to others 6:00
Fear of disapproval 6:55
Neglecting family 7:43
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YSH ITS NOT HELPING ME I STILL HAVE DEPRESSEN
Number three was the main source of my depression as a kid. I hated it when I was told ‘why can’t you be like your brother?’ or ‘Your cousin doesn’t have any problems doing this’. It’s like a knife to the heart ever time a kid hears someone,especially parents, tell them that.
Legends di Angelo my mother always compares me to other kids
I lived the same life as you.
My mom compared me to my friends and sister 🙃 probably this is the reason why my sister is over-confident and is always looking down on me
It was the same in my childhood ... My mother always compared me to kids my age. This video makes me realise how bad my childhood really was...
Legends di Angelo
don’t read unless you are actually interested in my experiences.
my mother would always. (still kinda does) tell me that her friends kids are so smart and that when she was little, she had pure A’ and B’s. Thing is, has she ever known was An HONORS CLASS IS LIKE? It’s frustrating for me. When watching that part I legitimately cried because I remembered the judgement and comparing. To this day I feel a little bad.
Number 3 is very true. Being compared with other kids hurts more than a gun.
Sarah Chaudhry you don't know anything
Sarah Chaudhry I'm not going to lie but that metaphor doesn't work.
try "bee sting"
Getting shot and killed by a gun isn’t even painful.
Yes its true!:(...because my mother compaire me to other kids and my step sister....when we gather my mother is always besides my step sister and my step cousin...and their always special than me but im always getting jelous and lonely because of her:(
Hey, 8/8 applies to my mom. I totally lost respect for her because of that. She started belittling me in front of others after she lost her grip on me and realized I didn't need her approval and didn't have any issues with my self-worth. It took years of therapy to get of this mess. Thanks mom for showing me what I didn't want to be.
raph009 omg same but my mom also hits me
raph009 same now im insecure and hate being around other people and family she always compares me to others and i started realizing thus affects my mental health and relationships with others
Same.
Omg same i feel u guys
You poor thing
PARENTS. NEED TO REMEMBER. KIDS ARE LITTLE PEOPLE WHO WILL. ONE DAY GROW UP AND REMEMBER EVERYTHING. AND DO THE SAME THING TO THIER. KIDS THAT WAS DONE TO THEM.
That's right
I won't have kids and am not like my mom at all I don't want to be like her at all I think she's toxic I just want to be myself:( like if you agree
True
Curtistine Miller You are one brilliant person
PLEASEGIVEMEHVIP Msp Toxic indeed
I think parents do the comparison thing on the false assumption its motivating when actually its harmful and counter productive, It demoralises, demotivates, hurts self esteem, undermines the personal achievements/efforts of the individual being compared, and is a slippery slope towards causing resentment and jealousy.
Yup that's what it does to me.
Parents think what they're doing is right but it's totally wrong
8- Constant rush
7 - force feeding
6- not settin boundaries
5- inducing panic and fear
4- self criticism
3-comparing kids too others
2-fear of disapproval
1-neglecting family
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Why arent all videos like this such as is it true the video can be 2 seconds
I think comparing kids to others is more destructive
I meant I that I don't care if I'm compared to others
I agree. I grew up as very smart and only ever getting A’s and my parents thought I’d go to a nice college on a scholarship and be a doctor or lawyer. I started struggling in school a bit once I got to 8th grade and I got my first D. I was devastated and knew I needed help but my parents flipped! They grounded me, took my electronics, insulted me and asked why I couldn’t be more like my brother. My brother was 1 year younger than me and still getting A’s in the same classes I got A’s in. From that point on it was always “why can’t you be more like _____?” And I never got help. Today as a 20 year old, I can’t handle failure or comparison as well as others. I choke up when I get praised and feel awkward and when I’m criticized or scolded I don’t even do anything. It’s almost “normal” for me. I don’t cry or get upset unless it’s someone I really care about. I’m still compared a lot to others and this has really affected my relationship with my parents. It feels strained almost like we’re strangers but I still call them mom and dad. It honestly was the worst for me. I can recall the exact day and everything in my mind.
Is there any way I could help you?
Spyro Mello
I was kinda in the same situation as you as I was a student that mostly always got A but my work was never appreciated and they hated how I liked to play video games and start to compare me with cousins and there friend's children when they're were mostly idiots alcoholics or just plain lazy people that get low grades.
That's why I don't like to talk with my parents as they clearly don't like what I like despite how good of a person I am.
My parents said i can play however i want, but i have to finish what i have to do first, then i can play. After a few days, i did the what they said but when they came back home and saw me playing games, they were like WHY CANT YOU STUDY, WHY ARE YOU PLAYING GAMES, and i was like i finished my work tho, they said that does that mean you have no more work to do? GO READ AND STUDY, YOU DONT HAVE TIME TO PLAY. And at the end they did not allow me to go out and play at the park, they dont trust me at all, compares me to my siblings, saying how they are better than me. LIke IM SICK AND TIRED OF MY PARENTS, I CANT ARGUE WITH THEM AT ALL. I can handle them, now i almost do not talk to them at all, they always yell at me.
Both of my parents have done all of these...and I agree that my mental health is completly ruined. Bonus is making you feel guilty about petty things which makes me say sorry even if it's not my fault
My name is chair These things make me depressed, now i think i'm a worthless son.
Pandora I feel like I am worthless to my parents too but I try to focus on my own life. I may be a part of the family but I am person of my own don't need to feel obligated to stay dependant on my parents. "Family is important" when it actually feels secure with them and not a punishment for being born there. You have your own worth and if they don't see it, it's their fault.
I just now noticed how much I've been neglected. My parents like to get pist at me for something they don't ask. I'm one of the people who need to know to do something to do it.
Same
Mom: could you help me find my phone?
Me:ok.
5 minutes later
Me:can you help me find my tablet.
Mom:No do it yourself.
some adults are confusing...
You could've said no if you don't want to help her, jeez..
You typo fault
When we forgot things and ask our parents they just said 'how can you be so careless, how can you forgot where did you place your things?'
A few moments later they'll ask you 'did you see my phone?' 😒
Yea some parents are selfish
My dad does all of the bad things plus he insults me to my face. He doesn't care about me. He doesn't even know when my birthday is or how old i am. Yes, i still live with him and yes, he has been cruel to me my whole life. He yells at me if I don't make my bed 10 minutes after i get up. I have no escape. 5 minutes ago the was saying how good my friend is and how i should be like her. I always feel like i have no escape from his abuse.
Edit: thank you everyone for your kind words! It's getting a little better. I try and keep my distance. You have all been so kind to a stranger, i am very grateful for all the love i have revived over the past month.
To all those suffering abuse, it really does get better. Just try and get away to the best of your ability.
Ps; I'm a girl all of the people thar called me a dude.
Pps; why would my dad let me out of the house or have a phone? Im typing this on a computer.
Elle Car thats sad but believe in yourself and to god.He will help you face this and also get help from other friends or to your families.
Just know your not alone I haven’t seen or heard from my dad in 12 years and my mother is very abusive like your father actually worse just stay strong I guess
Yes stay strong and also watch some funny video
Stay strong and also you shouldn’t fall victim to his abuse no more if he yells at you yell back if he hits you hit him back if he compares you compare him back if that can’t help run to a nearby police station and tell them about the suffering you get ( if he ever hit you or not )
Elle Car You know that that is child abuse and that you can report him to police?
All of these habits are extremely bad and need to be stopped! I remember being told by our Mom about finding out that her Aunt', my Great Aunt, was comparing me to her grandchildren by saying I should be more like them in terms of having a boyfriend, etc. A year later, that Great Aunt stopped saying that after being accused of stealing stuff when it turned out that it was her grandchildren and some of their boyfriends who were the culprits. When I heard that, I was tempted to ask her if I should be more like her grandchildren in being thieves, but I did not as I felt she had already learned a powerful lesson.
cybercat29 if i were you i would say "do you want me to become a thief ma'am if you dont want to THEN STOPPED COMPARING ME" to my aunt
Thank you. I will add more information.
You missed the opportunity. You should have went for it.
TheSilentAngel you can't say he missed the opportunity, it was his choice and I think it's better this than let rage and revenge desires take control over you
Karma hit that aunt like the meteor that killed the unicorns....
“How could you lose the ball” it’s right there
Duh..
Bruh
Ya
Mom: how culd you get an f, and your friend steve has got an A.
Me:well 16 other kids have Fs too,
Mom: i dont care abut othe kids
Mom logic
IKR
Bloxcraft 15
culd does not autocorrect
othe does not autocorrect
Steve autocorrects.
He could be lazy
Or she
very accurate
No Asian Mum logic
You also don't care a bout spelling.
So basically, don't do to your kids what the cruel, hard world is already going to do enough of to them anyway. Instead, help them understand that there is a such thing as hardship, horrors and pain in this world, and the best thing to do is to recognize that these things can and will happen, and to be prepared when it does.
And the best way to prepare is to teach them how to make decisions for themselves as early as possible. Teach them of the ways of the world, as opposed to inflicting the harshness of the world upon them and hoping they learn the right lessons from it. Because more than likely, they won't. I am a personal testament to the dangers of 'misery builds character'.
Niles Valentine very well said.
The worst thing my mother did was not listening to what I really want in life on chasing my own dreams.
Riana Krista Mandia same goes to me...but in my case its my dad
Bob Western Your dad did that? Yeah, some parents think they know better. Neglecting that their sons and daughters are individuals with special skills and unique. You can do fulfill your own dreams Bob.
Riana Krista Mandia yes daddy
Kyrlics why did yoy have to ruin that nice moment
I'm good they just get stress anggry and bullying me every day hhaah 😊
Any teens watching this?
Or is it only me?
Abby Ghost me too
No , you are not alone
What's up. You are not alone.
I’m a pre-teen... does that count?
I’m a pre-teen
My parents should totally watch this.😡😠🤬😡😠🤬😡😠🤬😡😠🤬🤬🤬😡😠😠😡😠🤬🤬🤬😡😠🤬🤬😡😠😡🤬😠😠😡🤬😠😡🤬🤬🤬😡😠😡🤬😡😠😡😠🤬😡😠🤬😡😠😡🤬😠😡😠😠🤬😡😠🤬🤬😠😡🤬😠😡🤬😠😡🤬😠😡🤬😠😡🤬🤬🤬🤬
DramaQueen 047 ikr
TOTALLY!!!!!
Lol
The only thing is that when I grow up I dont wanna be like my parents
Little says Jesus chwist
...thx mum and dad ._. Now I have Panic Disorder Anxiety Disorder Social Anxiety and Deppression...
Rettirw same
I have that since I was 7
I actually had it since I was a little kid (about 5 years old)
Sugar Cookie same
Same
my mother comperes me with other childern if i lose something or get bad marks she shouts at me and it makes me cry in my heart.she say every bad things to me and herself.but even after all that i love her and i know that somewhere she loves me too this is for mothers who are reading this plz lets your child be a little happydon,t make them suffer like other childern including me
Same
And me I still am going through therapy hand u was gonna be 7 feet, but my final night predictions fell to 6 feet 2 inches from stress and severe depression
Same
I should watch this near my mom.
Loki Bear yep👍
Haha..i wish i could do this with mine.. but unfortunately indian parents beat the heck out of u.. if they feel... u offended them.
Samridhi Choudhary lol same. But my dad never does that.
I watched this with my mom
😂😂😂
My grandma and mom think its ok to rush me everywhere, make me eat, do, say, and wear what they want me to, and compare me to others. And yet they wonder why I'm depressed!! My mom wont even accept that I'm not straight, shes always on her new phone!!! Why are my parents so awful? Why did my dad always hurt me physically and physiologically? This is what life is full of, problems that I cant solve. If anyone has similar problems as me and or has suicidal thoughts or tendencies like I do. You can talk to me on discord. My user and tag are; Firewolfcaves#0727 .I hope you can have a better life than ive got.
Trust me, everyone has their own personal life problems and it hurts them very much till this day. Plus, kids didn't come with a parenting book, every parent try's to make their kids the best they can.
Firewolfcaves 1012 Remove the furry profile pic that should help
I fell bad for you
Firewolfcaves 1012 This made me cry
Even know my life is far from perfect, I'm still alive. I may want to die, but I continue to live. As I will continue to do until it is the right time. I just hate to see others with similar problems, it hurts. I dont ask for pity, I ask if anyone needs help, I will do my best to make anyone suffering, happy. My goal In life is to help everyone but myself, I dont matter to myself, others do.
Is it bad that my mom does *ALL* of those except the phone call and self criticism one?
(The part where my mom compares me to my best friend is the worst and it makes me just wanna say "ThEn wHy DoNt YOU gO aND aDoPt HeR??!" but I wouldnt cuz I already have negative thoughts since I was 8 wearing a "mask" to hide my feelings... And since that day I always smile for no absolute reason cuz my face is stuck in the position😟)
P.S When I discovered MLP I called dibs on fluttershy now I just wanna change to the evil luna..
Just look at it this way. When you get older you dont have to deal with that bs.
#3
Parents: You are at home all the time, why can't you be like your friends and socialize?
Me: ...
Later~
Me: My friends are more social than me.
Parents: Worry about yourself.
Any other tweens/teens here to learn parents thought process??
Im here... though im 11
xVoltaik Eradicator 29x mes
xVoltaik Eradicator 29x 11 year old turning 12, doses that count(sorry if I spelled something wrong)
Ye it counts
xVoltaik Eradicator 29x yes
The comparing thing, is really accurate.
Mom: *compares me to other teens*
Me: My friends mom is-
Mom: I am telling you not to compare me with them, because I am not them and I will never be!
Me: *Mom?*
I agree. The rush in the mornings and making sure everyone is ready to go and in good spirits for the day.
I can relate to the point about comparing kids to others. 😭
Same
I stare at screens most of my day because I don’t like social interactions much.. And that’s just MY problem. I’m just antisocial!
Kpop stole my soul and freedom
Hello ARMY!! Same here.. even though there is nothing u can do outside parents yell at us saying go play outside
gremlin I try but negativity punch me in the throat, I stutter and I talk low, I used to have mutism Google it :)
True that dude🙌🏻🙌🏻
You mean Asocial? There's actually a big difference
These are my parents and I, but we still have happiness.
The last point is sad but true.. and not only to children, but also to family and friends. Everyone be like getting busy with their phones, which is why my group does not allow gadget usage when we are hanging out together
Beatrix SaveTheQueen you mean happy that phone and computer take away family time cuz I hate family
I spent most of my childhood alone in my room on my kindle.
I don't like socializing.
Lord Cinnabon same!! I hate to socialize! And when someone wants to come in I Just scream: GET OUT!!!! It is quite sad cuz the only TRUE friends i ever had was in kindergarten and now all my friends I have now is toxic, rude and narcassistic! And my bigbig brothers compares me with everione else! Hope this comment actually meant something and my friends at kindergarten i dont know where they live what their up to or anything! I wish I just had contact with them :|
To those seeing this comment..
Hi, I just wanted to wish you an AMAZING day 💕 and don’t forget someone loves you no matter what and please DO NOT even think of someone letting you down 😃 please NEVER stop 🛑 smiling 😀
From a girl that has a dream on becoming a successful youtuber one day 💝
Unique Art thank you for making my day 1000x times better!!!!
Cartoon Art contest yay!!!! I love comments like this they make me very happy 😊
Unique Art thank you!! My day was better than normal. My dad only beat me 2 times! Better than 5!! No ne loves me! What r u talking about?? How are you? I hope you are better than me.
Elle Car I’m really sure someone loves you, but you don’t know it and I hope your dad stops beating you 💕
Thanks for the comment!
I watched this with my mom and she said “Stop listening to the internet, you and the video are all wrong.”
Ron you can't talk to strict parents, they think aggression and ruining your life is the way
This list might be half of the reasons why child abuse happens every 10 seconds in America
I think the worst one is comparing kids to others cause i experience that alot and it make me depress
My parents are like that to me 24-7 for no reason. Thanks for letting me know and Awesome vid👍🤗
I love to be a mom, although I have a lot of job to do...i enjoy it...cause I Do everything with love..take care kiddos and husband... Feel Tired of course ...but when you see they are health,Smart ,have good behavior... that is your achievements and you will proud of your self...
and then they take drugs
Easy Solution to All of Them: DON’T HAVE CHILDREN
😂
Yes. My parents told me what a burden and a bother I was. I did not ask to be born. They "forgot" me (and my brother) sometimes when we were out, and the police brought us home when we asked for help. They beat us, and abused us in other ways, and gave us adult responsibilities we were often unable to fulfill as children.
If they wanted someone to take care of some of those responsibilities, hire someone.
+You gotta…: What I'm talking about happened in the 1960s. My alleged parents cannot be arrested because they are deceased. The older I get, the more it appears that what I experienced happens more often than not, people are arrested and convicted when too much comes out, and that loving families exist in story books.
At the least, people should be evaluated for why they want to have children, and taught how to rear children before they are allowed to parent any. The problem with that is who decides what is or is not okay, permissible, or expected.
This has turned dark jeSUS CHRIST?!
@@rudra62 They never asked to be born either. Ever thought of that?
3:53 is literally what I'm going through now, some kid at my school stole my 60$ worth of markers that I needed to use for a art project,and i can't tell my dad because I know he's gonna yell at me because there expensive markers
So this is the bright side of life
Haider Khan Baba lol 😂
Haider Khan Baba yup welcome to the bright side ( > u °)
It certainly is, isn't it?
Haider Khan Baba They need to call themselves the Dark Side, seriously
Yeppity yep
This is really true.
Trying To Make 2:40 isnt gor my family we sit together and eat and my causin hates to eat anything but his skinny af to so?
Trying To Make TOTALLY!!!!!
I've been through a couple of these but I'm still cool with my parents. I'd say a weak family will fall quick but when you go through a lot of things with your family most of these will do nothing. A mentally strong family could overcome many things meanwhile a weak one would fall apart from one argument.
Trying To Make ikr
No it isn’t
8:35- Starting at a screen? Look at the words compared to what she is saying...
What?
lol yeah
Stormy Wolf The captions say ‘starting at a screen’ instead of ‘staring’.
Juramel Milan they were supposed to write staring, not starting. They just got the word wrong.
Juramel Milan it gets a little annoying, right? You just want to fix it...
I remember one time I was in a bad mood and being kind of mean, and my dad said “no wonder you don’t have any friends.” And I knew he instantly regretted it but I still can’t forget that.
This is so true for me. Not all of them, but most of them. I didn't actually find the title or anything interesting, but the thumbnail caught my attention, because it was something my parents did to me. It also reminded me how upset I felt that I would rarely be up at the person my parents compared to's level. They always constantly rushed me, forced me to eat, induced panic and fear, compared me to others, and made me have a fear of disapproval. I'm not exactly a people-pleaser; I choose not to be, although in a way, I am. I am not a little bit of a people-pleaser because of my parents, though. I try to be nice to everyone, not fit in or let other people judge me and change into what they please. I just try to avoid saying things that I feel would upset them. They always constantly rushed me, and I always complained about that, but they never stopped. I started trying to be more calm and not rush when it was unnecessary to. Although, sometimes, I couldn't take all the time in the world to do things. It was surprising, though that I did something good out of that; be more cool, calm, and collective (only in certain situations). Although, that made me lay everything off and procrastinate, and do things last minute. Sometimes, though, it was useful because I didn't worry so much. But yet, they caused me anxiety when it was to get in time for something or getting ready for an upcoming test. I looked so much more calm and tried to be, on the outside, but yet inside my heart was racing with nervousness more often than I used to and more than other people probably would've been. Forcing me to eat bothered me so much. I didn't understand why they always made me eat even after I refused so many times. Finally, I would include inducing panic and fear and fear of disapproval together. They would always yell at me every time I lost or broke something. I got so scared. I didn't know what to do. I just let them yell at me, because I had no other choice. This might have caused me to have minor depression, as well as the anxiety, low self-esteem, and not much self confidence. They also didn't let me have much of my own freedom for safety reasons, and didn't take me around many places because of busy times, and financial issues, and I don't really blame them for that, but they don't understand that's why my self-esteem and confidence is low. I'm also really shy. They keep on telling me to come out of my shell. They got so tired of me being like that, they end up giving me lectures on it. It makes me feel like being shy is wrong. I would like to be less shy, but I wish they could give me some time.
who else is watching this to be a great parent in the future?
Gotato Paming lets be honest, nobody.
@@isxjal3966 i do. I don't want my future generation to continue like poison.
Me.. although I still doubt if I want children when I'm older
For the future generations, if I ever get kids I will make sure I raise them properly
Me
It’s funny because now that I look back my parents often did all of these things to me. I now loathe the company of my mother and struggle with some major mental issues. Of course I’m not saying that they could be the only cause but this could have been a big one.
Amity Veil I feel yoi
Well, same here when I was a regular 10 year old human child.
Some people realize . But alot ...like ALOOOOOT don't and ended up act the same .
I loathe company of everyone but my girlfriend anyway sooo
Self criticism?
My parents don't even do that but I do!
Everyone has flaws, just try and remember that.
My guardians/relatives is always scolding me even though I'm not the one who did the wrong being
Ikr. Every time my brother does something bad, I'M always the one that ends up getting in trouble for it. Even if I had absolutely NOTHING to do with whatever he did.
@@joshua-danalvarez3155 Yeah lil brothers really do be spoiled
At home,once i grab my phone,my mom suddenly just shout at me and told me to stop playing with my phone
@januda games that's called sad life, but everybody has limits
If she didn't allow you then ask her why SHE always play with her phone. It will be unfair.....
Rebellious dude always wins victory not a nice guy !, Stop bieng Parents dog
-Then throw her phone to her head-
I feel weird without my phone, but phones cause depression...well that's nothing new :/
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Beast Prod. Surprise 😶🎉
Katie Maystry *LOL*
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That's Loss
Nope
um found it
I guess i am the only one who cried over this video
Shima the wolf I did too
I’ve become numb to most things, but I understand you
Shima the wolf you are
I thought I was the only one who did
Puppypach291 Da_fox I'm not even numb. I just don't have feelings :) everything is indifferent and it's amazing, but i am hit with constant boredom because of it.
When I need my mum's attention, well she shushes me but I write a question on a paper and then she answers me "I'll answer you after the call, okay? " and I nod in agreement.
THE THUMBNAIL IS SO ME AND MY MOTHER
same
I can say that this is completely true for children who have parents that do this, as one of those children myself.I cried watching this, because I've been suffering from low self esteem and anxiety for years, and this just helped me really understand why. Thank you for making this video
"Spend more time starting at a screen"
-im done, im done....
Wow, I am truly glad for my parents now, even more than I was before! Especially my mom!
In all of these points I remember situations where my mom acted the complete opposite (or the "good example") of these points 😊
This is actually really true now I can't go back to my start I have depression now and.......I do self harm because Im afraid of what others think of me.....
The inducing panic and fear got me... i cried so much bc i relate T~T...sometimes i just think its good for me cause ur parents know best...and i dont want to dissapoint them so im trying my best to not mess up..especially in class
My mom: Hurry up! You’ll be late move move!
Me: You know I’m just going to go slower right?
Levi K That’s me
Number 1 reason when ur kid has cancer and u throw them away... happened to me
.....
Paul The psn gamer I think that you need Attention
Paul The psn gamer realy.....im.so.sorry
Jesus Christ o_o
Paul The psn gamer dude that sucks man
katherine vids it no joke or lie
Sometimes when I want to ask my mom something this is how it goes,
Me: Can I...
Mom interrupts: NO!!! Go back to your room!!!
And she continues to look at her phone
I have really bad anxiety and I get called hopeless and names. I get yelled at for small things. I get so anxious I get scared of my parents and get depressed sometimes.
mightybaseplate me too
I hope you make it through this 💜💜
Number 4 hit close to home. My mom has always been very critical of herself, and very vocal about it. From a young age I heard constant negative self talk. And now I do the same thing. I'm always critical of myself and have no self-esteem. She's still like that and it still has a negative effect on me.
I would just like to mention that many of the symptoms that the children are feeling in these examples are not exclusively caused by the parenting mistake linked to them in this video. I could not have asked for better parents, and am grateful there unwavering support and understanding. However, I suffer from the feeling of feeling responsible for every thing, guilty about things I had no control over, and needing to please everyone. Great video though! I've seen all these scenarios in person, and they need to be brought to the eye of the public.
Parents are parents and they will never change
My parents mad at me almost like half an hour and they will stop after that
When i live on my own, I’m not gonna miss my family. They basically control me and I’m 18 so technically i don’t have to listen to them anymore.
The thumbnail is 101% my dad ;-;
I’m sending this to my mom.I don’t care weather I will get beaten up or not but I’m still doing it.
This is what happens everyday in my life😔
Sad but true
Jacob George same🔪
Jacob George same😔
I understand that
I'm a people pleaser and I can agree with the video
Me too
My dad yelled at me once and i was very angry and i just cursed him and sweared to him and went to a police station, told them every thing: that he beats me, and yells at me, they punished him, thats what any man or woman who does that deserves
KhaledTheDev #payback
LagiNaLangAko23 haha, after it i'll go there again and tell them, then you get x2 punishment
LagiNaLangAko23 Lol then if i'm dead dad will go to prison
LagiNaLangAko23 They will discover it eventually
As someone who was constantly afraid of disappointing people as a kid, not just my parents but anyone in general, I can tell you how destructive that is. Honestly, I was always one of the smart kids and was almost always a year or two above my grade level. But this led me to constantly be afraid of low grades. Even getting a simple question wrong made me embarrassed, like everyone was judging me. I started to get over it more as I got older but still... Please parents, never let your kids get the way I did. The constant stress, and even mental breakdowns, were not healthy for an 8-year-old.
6:00 im 11 years one day i told my mom how much it hurt me when she compared me with my classmates
and say i put no effort to anything and how i was better younger but she said im not grateful or i am spoilt
NOW THIS CONTINUES TO HAPPEN EVERYDAY AND I HAVE TO BARE ALL OF IT
💜 you, bright side!!! Thank you for your facts!!
The thumbnail is sadly true, I've been compared lots of times with my older relatives...
Who all are watching this on Saturday and Sunday?
Master Solanki me
Me
Meh
My parents always compared me to other kids pushed me for things that i didnt like or was interested in never wanted me to question anything and just live out my life trying to earn more money. Now they dont really have an authority over me but i lack in everything socially i dont have a sense of emphaty, i cant express my opinions because i dont think anyone will even care which is a effect of my low self esteem i seem to be unable to normally express any emotions other than anger and i started a boxing career because i dont care about school and the sole way of me feeling alive is hurting myself to the point of smiling while being punched and spitting blood
FYI for parents, teens are a little different, and don't always want your help. They want to try to find or fix something themselves. Also, they sometimes want to grow and make progress themselves too, and don't always need help when it looks like they do.
Its true..i totally agree!
I got into a fight this morning with my mom, and I'm now watching this stuff because I probably am missing a few screws. Lol
All of them...they all name my parents
Some of these happened in my family! I have very high anxiety, stress easily and fear of failing, hard for me to say no!!!!! I do think negatively about myself a lot!!!!! While I was writing this I felt like crying for some strange reason! I AM SO EMOTIONAL
I'm happy (and lucky) that my parents didn't do any thing like this... They were always patient, made sure I ate healthy but didn't force me to eat something if I truly didn't wanna eat it. I ways liked fruits and vegetables so that was no problem. If they did start rushing or something, they would take a second and ask if I was alright because I always had really bad anxiety and they knew that. They would make sure they weren't making me too anxious or anything. I'm glad I have my parents... They always understood what I was going through and they were always there for me. I feel that they raised me right.
PhyscoAnime Fan my mom is the opposite
Aaaand this is why i have anxiety. Meh. Thanks mum?
Kitty K. YEEEEah shut the fk up i was beat as child and i dont moan about it do I
[::] you should. It'll make you feel better and get you off your high horse
Why are you being so rude? Chill. :/ I was being sarcastic.
I have depression AND anxiety.
Why mom? 😢
[::] it’s not an angst competition buddy
Well, I’m never going to be a parent sooo,
Thank god
BirdBread Egg
Even me too..
I think fear of disiproval is the worst in my opinion
Lucinda Vlogs same
It truly, truly is. I've experienced all of these things and let me tell you, being a people pleaser is horrible!!! I now keep my thoughts, feelings, ideas, loves, passions, etc. inside bc I've been growing up being told that "You're grandma gave you that shirt! You will wear it!"
"How could you get an F? I knew we shouldn't have let you join dance!"
"He's offering it to you! Take it!"
"She's telling you something important! (it was how her sister was sad her dog died and I couldn't tell my mom I was getting bullied by my own sister for three years') You won't talk about yourself at all, right now!"
"You're such a failure! Do you know how embarrassing it is to have my friends know that my eldest daughter is failing math??"
I need to hear praise ATLEAST two to three times a day in order to not feel horribly depressed. It sucks because when I don't hear praise, I feel like I've let everybody down and I'm always doing things just to hear the bare minimum of "thank you" each and every day.
Constant rush 0:40
Force-feeding 1:50
Not setting boundaries 2:45
Inducing panic and fear 3:53
Self-criticism 4:57
Comparing your kids to others 6:00
Fear of disapproval 6:55
Neglecting family 7:43
Since I paid more attention to psychology,I can see the mistakes and the good things too that my parents made with me...some people get mad at me for telling them not to scream at little kids and babies,but they just tell me to shut up because I'm still a teenager and don't have my own kids yet,I've promised to myself that I will never do this mistakes... another mistake I can see is how they always tell me that my goals are too big and that I aim too high, that killed my confidence when I was little,but It can't stop me now, my parents alweys supported me with money,and no we're not rich, I just wanna say that I could use more some advice on how to become better and some positive support then money
Someone will find my comment one day.
Andrija Stankovic i found it
Yo
Yup..
suprise
Elle Car Tuh Duh!!
this is the dark side of life.
Its bright side u idiot.😐
I have been compared like FOR 11 YEARS AND NOW I AM FREAKIN 11 AND STILL BEING COMPARED!
like my ma said "look at her! Shes smart and rich.., why dont u just..be like her?"
Or or
"She was so clean and organized!"
This that...f🌼ck!!!!!
Im also had a fear of disapproval...
Its...complicated...
I was wondering...
"if u try to compare me and doubting....then why u made me? Why am I exist...?"
I wish i could say that...
But im scared
Yeah sure, your mother is smart enough to compare you to a rich kid
@@smileyfaceman3570 yep she sure does....
Something I notice all the time, is that the parents of lots of kids I know still get their kids ready for school even today, and these people are all in high middle school. In my own experience, my parents taught me to be independent when I was around 6. It really helps me, and blows me away when some people still rely heavily on their parents for things they can do themselves.
This is just my own opinion.
2:33 - B.S! I, my siblings, my nieces, and my nephews *all* threw fits at tables where everyone ate normal meals together. It’s just something kids do until their parents correct them. 😂
I was sharing this with my mom and she said to stop because she watching a Facebook post
Uhm...I'm a kid watching this XD
same
Same
me too
Same also nice profile pic ,u used pastel girl ,right?
My parents don't let me do anything I choose to do, I watched love and basketball she wondering why I'm not watching Tom and jerry
nice vid
"Constant rush and aiming to please" Yeah, that did cause me some minor to moderate depression, but they loosened up and I got out of it. Thank god, too.
Number three made me almost cry, since my Mom kept comparing me with other kids which hurt my feelings. She continued until my self-esteem lowered and started getting a bit depressed. I wish Mom would understand.