McDojo Breakdown: A Tale of 2 Frauds - Stolen Valor and the Brown Belt

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  • @McDojoLife
    @McDojoLife  10 месяцев назад +14

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    • @c7po457
      @c7po457 10 месяцев назад

      In his defense, haven't you ever lied on a resume? Lol

    • @jobymanuel1353
      @jobymanuel1353 10 месяцев назад

      the only people worth forgiving are those who know they made a mistake and admits to those mistakes.

    • @michaelm9710
      @michaelm9710 2 месяца назад

      I think that you can be forgiven. Especially if you have BPD. My mom had BPD. She’s passed. But I forgave her. BPD is not easily treated and usually comes from childhood abuse.
      Now, does that mean you can be the guy’s best friend? Maybe. But be prepared for more lies and potentially difficult situations in the future.

  • @marcz2903
    @marcz2903 10 месяцев назад +48

    What I appreciate about this man's apology is that he uses his mental illness to explain his behavior without using it to excuse his behavior. He owns up to his mistakes, accepts the consequences, and asks what he can do to make it right. I think it's right to forgive him and give him a chance to redeem himself.

  • @kramepilef
    @kramepilef 10 месяцев назад +123

    Respect for the man who owned up to his mistake. He should be forgiven. Just my opinion, but knowing that he’s bi-polar also makes me willing to give him a pass.

    • @maxpudlowski8820
      @maxpudlowski8820 10 месяцев назад +13

      Bipolar or not is not an excuse.. But to me also, the way he handled it, the way he openly spoke/wrote about his f-up is completly enough to say he is a good guy, and wish him the best in getting his mental issues fixed..

    • @leonIdas002
      @leonIdas002 10 месяцев назад +3

      WHICH IS WHY HE WILL CONTINUE TO DO IT... EVIL WILL USE YOUR HUMANITY AGAINST YOU BECAUSE THEY HAVE NONE...

    • @leonIdas002
      @leonIdas002 10 месяцев назад +2

      WHEN I WAS A KID "BIPOLAR" WAS CALLED "THYROID PROBLEMS"....

    • @leonIdas002
      @leonIdas002 10 месяцев назад

      @@maxpudlowski8820 HAHAHAHAH....YOU MIGHT WANNA LOOK A BIT DEEPER THAN THAT...YEAH WE ALL FUCK UP BUT NOT ALL OF US WILL TRY AND BLAME SOMEONE ELSE OR EVEN TRY TO EXPLAIN THE CONSEQUENCES AWAY WITH AN APOLOGY...IF THEY APOLOGIZE AND KEEP DOING IT THEN THEY ARE TRULY SORRY...

    • @ARMY-ep6fz
      @ARMY-ep6fz 10 месяцев назад +7

      It matters to me. I am glad he admitted it. But as someone that earned a bronze star and purple heart in combat it really pisses me off for the men who died that served with me and the ones that committed suicide after. The sacrifice of combat isn't a game to me.

  • @morazdaful
    @morazdaful 8 месяцев назад +3

    Yes. I teach this to my students all the time. Owning your lies or failures or attitudes gets you clean slate, and respect. I teach college, not martial arts, but it’s amazing how many times students lie, cheats steal, and can be disrespectful. The lessons of honor transcend all disciplines.

  • @edgardomartinez3283
    @edgardomartinez3283 10 месяцев назад +47

    Having McDojoLife slide into your DMs has to feel like the cops are knocking at the door lmao
    Party's over, big guy, you're about to get got

    • @andrewmckay3240
      @andrewmckay3240 10 месяцев назад +3

      This comment deserves more 👍🏻

  • @KingDeadpool3883
    @KingDeadpool3883 10 месяцев назад +28

    Man… I suffer from BPD and am a recovering addict. I can only hope there is forgiveness in my future because sometimes it’s like realizing you were literally someone else making completely different decisions sometimes. It’s rough. Ugh. Ya I feel for that guy and that for sure took balls.

    • @LuchadorMasque
      @LuchadorMasque 10 месяцев назад +2

      youre not alone man--def a hard watch

    • @dbadgones
      @dbadgones 10 месяцев назад +1

      stay strong, yo can do it.

    • @pbg9208
      @pbg9208 10 месяцев назад +1

      All my love and respect to you 👊🏼

    • @datjr
      @datjr 10 месяцев назад +1

      Been on the other side of it with people I love. The people who love you will still love you and care about you, and will understand that you're not 'you' during an episode. Bpd is one of the hardest medical issues I've ever seen, especially for the person going through it. Hang in there, friend.

    • @EddiediEagle
      @EddiediEagle 10 месяцев назад +3

      Thank you for your kind words. I’m the guy in the video. I’m trying to recover and learn from my past.

  • @matthewkelley5405
    @matthewkelley5405 10 месяцев назад +11

    I’m in HTX & teach at the gym. Seeing the effects on those around us when this happened makes forgiveness difficult, however allowing the negative energy to eat at us keeps us from moving forward. I’m happy to report the gym is thriving and has never been better. Forgive, never forget. Forgiveness doesn’t mean a relationship has to be renewed. We go our way, he goes his.

  • @Chadghostal
    @Chadghostal 10 месяцев назад +34

    Having spent a lot of time talking to people with BPD, i feel for that first guy.(assuming that isn't a lie also) When left untreated and unacknowledged, it can really cause an entirely new personality to flourish, completely reinforced by the subject's own belief in everything they say. I've seen it devastate families. I hope he gets help and is sincere in his apology. Poor chap

    • @johnnyallen6526
      @johnnyallen6526 10 месяцев назад +2

      I also wonder if doing MMA is a wise choice. Just curious how BPD and getting the brain rattled regularly may cause more issues in the future.

    • @NOCDIB
      @NOCDIB 10 месяцев назад +1

      Bipolar or Borderline?

    • @leonIdas002
      @leonIdas002 10 месяцев назад

      MY AUNT WAS TOLD SHE WAS BIPOLAR, BUT THAT WAS AFTER SHE FLOODED HER HOUSE WITH THE WATER HOSE. THEY SAID IT HAD BEEN MISDIAGNOSED AS A THYROID PROBLEM WHICH IS WHY SHE WAS FAT...I DONT BELIEVE ANY DISEASE EXISTS AS LONG AS IT IS PROFITABLE...BUT THEN AGAIN I DESPISE THE MONEY SCAM AND ALL WHO WORSHIP IT BECAUSE THEY ENSALVED YOU ALL WITH BULLSHIT LIKE THAT IN A PLOY TO CONTROL THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS IN AN EFFORT TO AVOID THEIR OWN, ONLY TO CAUSE THIER OWN...

    • @datjr
      @datjr 10 месяцев назад

      ​@wissawissa83 I do not have bpd, but I have loved ones who have been diagnosed and who have had episodes, both manic and depressive. I don't want to diminish your experiences bc I'm sure how it manifests is different between individuals. However, I can tell you with absolute certainty that a good person CAN become an entirely different (and, frankly, bad) person while suffering through a manic episode. I've watched one of the most beautiful (inside and out) humans I've ever known turn into a destructive shadow of themself during an episode and, yes, episodes can last 6 months or longer if not properly treated. Ironically, in my experience people who are going through a manic episode are unlikely to recognize or accept it and are extremely resistant to getting the healthcare they need.
      I don't know the man in this story, but everything he said is consistent with what I've experienced and I have a lot of empathy for him.

    • @leonIdas002
      @leonIdas002 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@datjr IF YOU THINK YOU CAN ACTUALLY KNOW PEOPLE THEN YOU ARE A FOOL...

  • @trentrodgers5585
    @trentrodgers5585 10 месяцев назад +4

    Owning your mistakes is the first step of change and becoming a better person. I applaud this man for publicly speaking.

  • @Toddry
    @Toddry 8 месяцев назад +2

    Ol’ boy who came clean did the proper thing. I hope his journey is going well! And no, I don’t believe there should be forgiveness always. Some situations are just too serious. But he hurt no one, so he is good.

  • @denisev5250
    @denisev5250 10 месяцев назад +43

    As an actual Marine (happy to provide evidence privately) i applaud any effort to try to get help, but he has to take accountability for his actions…

    • @kramepilef
      @kramepilef 10 месяцев назад

      Thank you for your services!

    • @haveaday1812
      @haveaday1812 10 месяцев назад

      Spank you for your cervix.

    • @Dempdawg11
      @Dempdawg11 10 месяцев назад +1

      As a U.S Army Cav Scout and your better, I applaud this comment. Hope you're sticking to the non toxic crayons.

    • @thelogicalcaveman9139
      @thelogicalcaveman9139 10 месяцев назад

      It’s super easy with some basic questions and how people talk.

    • @TacticalLeopard
      @TacticalLeopard 10 месяцев назад +1

      ​@Dempdawg11 the toxic ones hit way better tho. 🥴

  • @zachary9706
    @zachary9706 10 месяцев назад +23

    Wise men say, forgiveness is divine...but never pay full price for late pizza.

    • @davedixon2167
      @davedixon2167 7 месяцев назад +3

      Cowabunga, brother.

    • @Ottom82
      @Ottom82 6 месяцев назад

      oh come on, i couldnt find the place!

  • @drdeviant8365
    @drdeviant8365 10 месяцев назад +10

    There's always a path to redemption. But it can only begin with 100% honesty and accountability. Good job

  • @ARMY-ep6fz
    @ARMY-ep6fz 10 месяцев назад +4

    As someone that earned a purple heart and bronze star in combat it really matters to me after losing many friends to combat and suicide. Thanks for calling him out. Go Army 💪

  • @jimmelay71
    @jimmelay71 4 месяца назад +1

    Admission of wrongdoing is one of the first steps of forgiveness.

  • @growthisfreedomunitedearth7584
    @growthisfreedomunitedearth7584 10 месяцев назад +14

    "The mats don't lie."
    I like that one.

  • @Raceswap
    @Raceswap 10 месяцев назад +5

    Yea, mental illness is awful, and in his apology, you could hear it for real. I also have had extremely manic episodes, and it's the worst feeling when you come back to reality and realize how you acted / what you did. In the moment, it seems fun, but also irresistible to behave that way. I thought he was ill when I saw the first video. Keep us updated on him if updates happen.

    • @knockoff2
      @knockoff2 10 месяцев назад +2

      I joke with my friends “Manic Dave showed up today.” lol

  • @na15464
    @na15464 10 месяцев назад +7

    Danny has personally told me on several occasions that he served in the USMC. In person, face to face. He said i was a united States marine.

    • @haveaday1812
      @haveaday1812 10 месяцев назад +1

      Awesome. Find some real marine vets to confront him. Black belt or not, you ain’t gonna do shit against 3 marine corps vets who are pissed off and have training themselves.

    • @asaenz33
      @asaenz33 10 месяцев назад +1

      Where’s this guy teach at?

  • @jonathanbartlett1098
    @jonathanbartlett1098 10 месяцев назад +6

    I don't believe in forgiveness merely for the sake of forgiveness. It seems to me that this has lead to many repeat offenses by those who were so easily forgiven, and the idea that you can do almost anything you want to someone and they are required to forgive you if you apologize seems to permeate modern society.
    That being said, I believe that someone should be forgiven if they are truly remorseful and work hard to make amends for what they did. Obviously there are some infractions that conceivably cannot be amended, but most are not that heinous. In the case of the first guy, he has demonstrated a sincere apology to those he has wronged. He admitted fault and asks for forgiveness. This is a good first step, and I think he deserves a chance to be forgiven. I hope that a path to redemption can be made available to him by his community.
    The second guy can kick rocks

  • @MrSDegnan
    @MrSDegnan 9 месяцев назад +1

    There's definitely room for forgiveness once someone comes clean after getting caught in a series of lies. Making amends helps, but until it's proven one is going to remain clean, there's a short leash of trust

  • @johnperrine4991
    @johnperrine4991 10 месяцев назад +4

    I think you can move forward but you do have to rebuild the trust. That takes time. But it all comes from you coming completely clean and acknowledging what you have done and asking forgiveness knowing some people wont. Then just keep you head up and keep doing the best you can.

  • @midstoveilan
    @midstoveilan 10 месяцев назад +3

    Forgiveness, yes. Forgetfulness, no.
    Accountability is required. Props to the dude for owning it. It sounds like he is paying the piper for his actions, as he should

    • @LuchadorMasque
      @LuchadorMasque 10 месяцев назад

      its not even the same guy. it is dr jekyl and mr hyde. i am a COMPLETLY different person depreesed than manic. you wouldnt even think you were talking to the same person. it's hard to be accountable for things beyond your control

  • @benjaminpujols1914
    @benjaminpujols1914 10 месяцев назад +1

    I totally agree just before you said it I was thinking it that him writing that apology must have been one of the hardest things for him to do because of our pride our machismo and whatever else you want to add apologizing publicly is extremely difficult apologizing to just one person is extremely difficult so I hope that everything goes better for him and that he will be accepted again and be able to train and just you know live his life

  • @tonyu671
    @tonyu671 10 месяцев назад

    Great job, bro! It was also great meeting you at Shot Show!

  • @MrBud667
    @MrBud667 10 месяцев назад +1

    I do believe in forgiveness after ownership. Personally I have made a lot of mistakes in my life . I am a recovering addict and I have learned the only way to move forward is ownership of our wrongs and misdeeds. I have also learned that I can't demand forgiveness and have to give space for others to forgive when they are ready and I have to be willing to accept that some people may never forgive me. I still have to own my actions, make amends when possible and then keep doing the next right thing. As a person who has made mistakes and has changed my life around I think it's important to have space to allow others to regain their authenticity and integrity and move on to a better life when they admit their wrongs, make amends, seek forgiveness and make changes for the better.

  • @conradsutton1456
    @conradsutton1456 10 месяцев назад

    Taking owners is a major step. I heard someone once said when you wrong someone, you have to through actions and words say you're sorry everyday until they tell you to stop. Then you have to apologize everyday for saying you're sorry for everyday. If you can understand that and take those steps you can be forgiven.

  • @JiuJitsuGuy24
    @JiuJitsuGuy24 10 месяцев назад +21

    Absolutely forgive. Manic episodes can be so life changing and can happen to highly intelligent people.

    • @LuchadorMasque
      @LuchadorMasque 10 месяцев назад

      mostly just bipolar people--has nothing to do with how smart you are. it's how your brain is built. you cant learn yourself out of it

  • @BatBreakr
    @BatBreakr 10 месяцев назад +5

    McDojo is become death. The final evolution man.

  • @jeremiahtremble6495
    @jeremiahtremble6495 10 месяцев назад +6

    Awesome videos brother.

  • @jeremiahtremble6495
    @jeremiahtremble6495 10 месяцев назад +2

    By the way, do you take recommendations on people to look into? We have one in the Houston area who is pretty questionable.

    • @McDojoLife
      @McDojoLife  10 месяцев назад +1

      For sure. Would depend on what it is

    • @jeremiahtremble6495
      @jeremiahtremble6495 10 месяцев назад

      I tried posting a link to his website, I'm not sure if it's going through.@@McDojoLife

  • @curuadh6056
    @curuadh6056 10 месяцев назад +7

    Any apology that's coupled with self-victimization and demands for forgiveness is a manipulation tactic, not an apology. You can issue a mea culpa and ask how to resolve harm done without crying about people hating you or persecuting you. You can do better in the future. That's more important than forgiveness anyway.

  • @jova2004
    @jova2004 10 месяцев назад

    Best video ever lol. You gave light to someone who knew they effed up and showed his apology. You also exposed a stolen valor recipient. The first dude clearly wasn’t stable mentally. The second dude just doesn’t believe in himself, to where he led himself into a life full of lies. You’d be surprised how many people would vibe with you if you just keep it real. No man is better than the next.

  • @berserkr81
    @berserkr81 10 месяцев назад +1

    Great video! Can't wait to see part 2

  • @fjcc4018
    @fjcc4018 10 месяцев назад +1

    While it is possible to forgive someone for their actions, it is not necessarily a requirement to maintain a relationship or association with them. It is important to prioritize one's own emotional well-being and make choices accordingly.

  • @rhinooningo2865
    @rhinooningo2865 10 месяцев назад

    Q: Do you think that once someone admits fault they can be forgiven.
    That's a question that doesn't have a simple yes/no answer. It depends on:
    * The severity and type of transgression
    * Who was affected and how and to what degree
    * Whether then contrition is genuine, or the offender is admitting fault only because they were caught and held responsible for their action or inaction
    * The nature of the pre-existing relationship
    * Whether it's a one-time event, or a pattern exists
    * Whether genuine follow-through on the "penance"
    * Time

  • @The_Immortal_Alcortrez
    @The_Immortal_Alcortrez 10 месяцев назад

    Absolutely tho don't expect people to look at you differently until your actions prove your words , forgiveness is one thing but to rebuild the trust that was lost will take time and sincere intentional action consistently

  • @chrisjonesdma
    @chrisjonesdma 10 месяцев назад

    We had a guy in Colorado do this years ago. No mental illness, not bipolar, just ego. Lots of people forgave him, but when people show you who they really are believe them.

  • @BenTheBuilder
    @BenTheBuilder 10 месяцев назад

    As a recovering alcoholic, I know personally from experience that, yes, a person can move forward after fucking up bad and admitting fault. The first part of that is actually taking responsibility and admitting it. It's not an easy thing to do, man, trust me. But it will only ever truly be over when the person has lost just enough for them to stop and say "enough is enough; I can't do this anymore." Once they get there, life gets so much fucking easier, because they're not having to carry around all that baggage anymore. Hearing that first guy's confession reminded me of being in a meeting, like I was sitting across from him hearing him share his experience, strength, and hope. Yeah, man. We can move forward.

  • @teaandtransformation
    @teaandtransformation 10 месяцев назад +2

    Eduardo is one of the kindest people I know. He has/was a huge support when my son was dying from cancer. He hung in there with us. I know he has had a tough time but you can see his integrity that once he had a diagnosis of BPD he owned what he had done in the manic phase of his illness.

    • @haveaday1812
      @haveaday1812 10 месяцев назад

      That’s called concretization in psychology. It’s Defense mechanism, particularly used by pathological liars to avoid reality and the truth. Often characteristic of narcissists.

  • @trains4nothng
    @trains4nothng 10 месяцев назад

    yeah i believe forgiveness can be given at an individual level. forgiveness is not something i think helps to expect though. across the board when there is something i regret, first i accept i am wrong then change it. not only is forgiveness out of my hands but it shouldn't be the reason i change. a living amends is a powerful tool for a better path.

  • @shawnsalvetti1793
    @shawnsalvetti1793 10 месяцев назад

    The apologies are a start, their has to be action behind those apologies, it's not a let's wipe the slate clean and start over thing. It's an ' ok, I did wrong, I'll show you how I can be better. '

  • @JesusPerez-dx6dt
    @JesusPerez-dx6dt 10 месяцев назад

    If your honest you will overcome any obstacles.
    Yes honesty will set you free good video...

  • @luismaisonet2954
    @luismaisonet2954 10 месяцев назад

    I will yes. We all make mistakes. Just work hard to keep it clean and honest. Integrity is the word.

  • @zenseiplays
    @zenseiplays 10 месяцев назад +1

    There should absolutely be forgiveness after ownership, especially if the incident was isolated and there is an honest attempt to avoid such behaviour in the future.
    That said, if the person repeats the actions again and again, one must question the sincerity of the apology.

  • @JamesKarren
    @JamesKarren 10 месяцев назад

    Frick, I been stuck at Brown Belt longer than any belt.
    I also received Brown in 2019 right before Covid, so that out a damper on things, then last year the fires hit Lahaina which put a damper on things.
    My goal is to reach that elusive Black by the end of this year

  • @jasonmurray8777
    @jasonmurray8777 10 месяцев назад

    I know a purple belt locally who clearly did actually serve in the Military but continues to make a false claim that he was an Army Ranger Officer and had been an Army Ranger NCO before that serving in the very prestigious 75th Ranger Regiment. He even went as far as trying to show me a fake DD 214 in an FB message. Unfortunately, he deleted before I screen shot it when I let him know I was a former Army Officer and Enlisted Solider who could tell he was showing me a clear fake (I have 2 real one's myself - one for my period of Enlisted service and one for my period of Officer service). To follow up I contacted a retired Ranger Sergeant Major I know whom I served with in the Airborne Infantry during the surge in Iraq, and he checked with the Ranger Regiment folks directly. Yep, no record of any such guy. When I confronted him he made up a story about how he had become a conscientious objector and gotten discharged for it and was now ashamed. I made some calls and that never happened either. All that said, I would not care one way or the other except that the guy is known to tell folks his crazy claims to bolster his business dealings. Making false claims of serving in a prestigious unit to curry favor is not OK. (He might be a brown belt now - I don't know as I don't talk to him and he obviously blocked me on every platform). Anyhow, to get to your question ... if he would come clean I think he deserves forgiveness, especially if there is any history of mental illness as was claimed by the one gentleman you were talking about in this video.

  • @mjb7015
    @mjb7015 10 месяцев назад

    I think admitting fault and owning it is only the first stage toward redemption. The next steps should be restoration and then prevention. We can't just identify that a problem exists, we also have to fix the problem and then take steps to prevent it reoccurring. And even that assumes that the first stage of admitting fault also comes with an apology to those wronged or harmed by it, but they aren't necessarily the same thing. So for me, the steps toward deserving forgiveness include Admitting fault, Apologising to the people harmed or wronged, Restoring or fixing the problem, Changing the attitude, habits, or behaviours that caused or allowed the problem, and take steps to Prevent re-occurrence of it. After all of that has happened, then the victims might start thinking about forgiveness.

  • @bensigl3766
    @bensigl3766 7 месяцев назад

    Now i cant get your theme song outta my head. Thanks a lot!

  • @tannerslomko
    @tannerslomko 10 месяцев назад

    People who lie about martial arts or military service are awful, awful people and I always thought there was no redemption for them. But Eduardo really set himself on the right road. He did what he was supposed to do like a real man and the dude deserves a redemption arc. If we don't offer someone the possibility of change, then they never will bc there is no reason to. Good job, Ed. Takes a strong dude to do that.

  • @XKenny77
    @XKenny77 10 месяцев назад

    Forgiveness is a choice you make. It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with whether the other person apologises or not. It's about letting go of blame and resentment, and trying to understand the other person instead. What you're talking about is whether people deserve a second chance, which is a different question. I would say that if someone is honest about their mistake and you believe they're making a real effort to be better, then most people in most situations do deserve a second chance. We've all made mistakes ourselves and wanted another chance, so we owe it to other people to give them the same opportunity.

  • @dogtiredguitars
    @dogtiredguitars 10 месяцев назад

    Forgiveness is absolutely an option. If someone is truly remorseful, forgiveness and reconciliation are incredibly powerful. I had my own nightmare experience with my sifu when studying martial arts for 10 years. He and I were friends, and I was his senior student. The dude was a legit sociopath, though, (oh the stories I've got). However, when confronting him on the day I left the school, I told him that if he ever wanted to seek forgiveness and reconciliation and come clean to the the rest of his students, I'd be right there next to him, supporting him.

  • @petereriksson6760
    @petereriksson6760 10 месяцев назад

    The first guy, tragic story. I hope he is better and continues to get help. Do not know much about it but as far as I know, medication is important for people that suffer from BPD.
    Provided he apologize also in person, I hope a BJJ gym somewhere is able to forgive and accept him. I think the community and growth there could help him.

  • @joet7760
    @joet7760 10 месяцев назад

    I’m a 4 stripe blue belt (as of 2 months ago) and received my blue belt about 3 1/2 years ago. I’m not even a great blue belt but in my experience, it’s usually 3-5 years of blue belt and about 3-4 at purple before getting your brown belt. To go for a no stipe blue to brown in 2 months seems like a load of crap. Even to go to purple in 2 months is virtually impossible. Did he know who you were Rob or did he just think you were someone asking in general?

  • @59CadillacRoller
    @59CadillacRoller 10 месяцев назад

    It's one thing to own up to a mistake, the question is will the individual actually make a meaningful change. Actions speak louder than words

  • @aldowilliams4765
    @aldowilliams4765 9 месяцев назад

    I hope the best for the guy that came clean. It takes courage to do that.

  • @leodouskyron5671
    @leodouskyron5671 10 месяцев назад

    That is two different questions you asked at the end.
    While I can forgive a person after they own it and apologize then as long as I know they are serous then (assuming they don’t reoffend).
    But when it comes to the public - The net does not forgive.

    • @paddyr1568
      @paddyr1568 10 месяцев назад

      If the guys bipolar, he will reoffend, but it’s not his fault. BPD is a heavy burden

  • @ShadeNinja2990
    @ShadeNinja2990 10 месяцев назад

    Props to the guy who apologized. Respect.

  • @mdavissq3d
    @mdavissq3d 10 месяцев назад

    Admitting to ones fault deserves a some amount of forgiveness. Not full forgiveness but kept at a distance. The one at fault now has to work back up to be trusted, and admitting one's wrongs is the first step. The blue belt/brown belt guy just needs to put his blue belt on, be honest to the BJJ community from here on, and get back to training to be the best he can. I'm sure one day when he actually earns his brown, it will be a huge emotional drop for him. That would be a pretty cool moment.

  • @sacklifedaily1963
    @sacklifedaily1963 10 месяцев назад

    I definitely believe that people can be forgiven when they owned up to their mistakes and admit their faults, however if they return to the same behavior that forgiveness can be taken away.

  • @jw-nz2vx
    @jw-nz2vx 10 месяцев назад

    The extent that forgiveness is possible depends on the nature and severity of the offense. Lying, hurting someone's feelings, property crimes, time wasting? These are all things that can and should be forgiven if someone shows genuine remorse and makes a genuine attempt at contrition. Physical violence causing serious injury, any sort of sexual violence, any sort of abuse of the vulnerable (children, elders, students, employees, the disabled, etc), murder? There's nothing you can do to redeem yourself in my eyes.

  • @pierrenilsson4179
    @pierrenilsson4179 2 месяца назад

    Yes, I believe forgiveness for mistakes is possible if:
    (a) You sincerely ask for forgiveness and...
    (b) You endevor to not make the same mistake again

  • @badbabybear1
    @badbabybear1 9 месяцев назад

    Putting your BJJ experience on a resume is wild.

  • @polarbear9999
    @polarbear9999 10 месяцев назад

    guilt is the biggest punishment of them all and forgiving yourself is the hardest thing to do. that being said it dont matter weather the comunity forgives him. by coming clean you have the opportunity to forgive yourself and start fresh................bien trabajo Eduardo

  • @davidmeyer5316
    @davidmeyer5316 10 месяцев назад

    Yes, I believe so. However, forgiveness depends on the person who was wronged. If they choose not to forgive the offender, that's their right.

  • @mcarey58
    @mcarey58 10 месяцев назад

    Admitting fault isn't enough. Change needs to be demonstrated with actions, so that trust can be rebuilt.

  • @thomasdavis8600
    @thomasdavis8600 10 месяцев назад +3

    Not a mistake. A bad choice. A mistake is not carrying the 2.

    • @LuchadorMasque
      @LuchadorMasque 10 месяцев назад +1

      its not something he can control--nobody wants to be bipolar.

  • @33thr33
    @33thr33 10 месяцев назад

    If the fault isn’t recurring then yes, absolutely. However, if the issues are repetitive then most likely not. I left my gym for that reason. Gave too many chances and had enough

  • @sithlordkaeyl21
    @sithlordkaeyl21 7 месяцев назад

    I had a close friend ask me if their fairly new marriage could survive one of them being unfaithful, and without asking any questions about who, why, when, or anything, I told them that I feel like if it wasn’t something that happened a lot for a long time and they were actually, really apologetic for what they did and really wanted to make amends, then yes, I think if someone made a mistake, which we all do to varying degrees, and want to improve their relationship(s), behavior, mental health, whatever, they can do better. And, I think in these instances, if the BJJ practitioner really meant what he said about being better, then I think that he would deserve another chance, but it doesn’t seem like the second guy is there yet. He definitely doesn’t seem like he has any kind of remorse for his actions, so I wouldn’t trust him any further than my teenage son could throw him, but maybe he’ll eventually come around.

  • @Luckadoo
    @Luckadoo 10 месяцев назад

    I went to lurk on the Eduardo fellas IG and didn't see that post about him coming clean. Did he remove it or maybe it was for followers only? Hopefully dude is well and he can move forward.

  • @WolfDB
    @WolfDB 10 месяцев назад

    I think it depends on who it is and how genuine they are. Some people will just say things to try and get others off their back, like Danny. If they show genuine remorse for their faults and show that they're trying to improve, then I think forgiveness has been earned

  • @AndyBtattoos
    @AndyBtattoos 9 месяцев назад

    Love the channel! And that outro song is a banger! 🕺🔥🙌🏽✊🏽

    • @McDojoLife
      @McDojoLife  9 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you for the support

  • @moe3235
    @moe3235 10 месяцев назад

    To answer your question; yes/no, IF they actually have accountability and change for the better, until they can show that--only then will most people accept their apology and forgive them completely

  • @laz5028
    @laz5028 10 месяцев назад

    I just love & appreciate what u do.... Sincerely! And thank u for putting some attention on the real troops! Thank You!!

  • @dexterslaboratory2404
    @dexterslaboratory2404 9 месяцев назад

    Fun thing is people don’t usually wear tags unless they want to look cool

  • @PaTrick-cf6ev
    @PaTrick-cf6ev 10 месяцев назад

    Wow, it must have been really hard to own up to that, I hope he will manage his mental health with success from now on.

  • @danielcharlesfilms2897
    @danielcharlesfilms2897 10 месяцев назад

    Bipolar type 01 is a very serious illness and this is pretty typical of someone going through a manic episode. A friend of mine called me after years of not hearing from hi. He was going through an episode. He thought he was in business with Bill Gate and Apple. He later killed himself in a secure unit. If the guy is Bipolar please leave him alone guys.

  • @JayX762
    @JayX762 10 месяцев назад

    Story 1: I don't know enough about BPD. But if he does have BPD and now has help and sincerely wants to make amends, then this public apology is a start in the right direction.
    Story 2: I question his entire resume if he lied about previous jobs and being in the military. Are those other jobs and education listed real?

  • @HazardousClim
    @HazardousClim 10 месяцев назад

    AOTD: To me it depends on the situation. Acknowledging and apologizing are important steps to gaining back lost trust, whether with an individual or a community. But apologies always mean more when you act in repentance. It’s not “I’m sorry because I feel bad”. It’s, “I’m sorry because I made you feel bad. Here’s how I’d like to fix it.” Acknowledge, apologize, act

  • @stuhuggens9297
    @stuhuggens9297 10 месяцев назад

    I’m a Marine combat veteran with three uncles an older brother and my son who all served as Marines and this stolen valor stuff really pisses me off.

  • @codexena1
    @codexena1 8 месяцев назад

    I believe if a person that does come clean should be forgiven. However, what he did should be remembered and monitored not for this behavior occurs again or is caught early and help is provided. We all have made mistakes and we should forgive just not forget.

  • @NoahDorfman
    @NoahDorfman 9 месяцев назад

    Admitting is definitely a huge part, it creates the pathway for forgiveness. However I don't think forgive ess is automatic after admission. There has to be a proven track record of the honest behavior before true forgiveness. Being sorry isn't just say I'm sorry

  • @skybluemarshall
    @skybluemarshall 10 месяцев назад

    Lessons: Unless there's a severe penalty for friends, loved ones and associates who screw you, then there's no reason for them to change.
    If they always get away with things or when they get caught, they only suffer very few consequences, then what is their incentive to change?
    They've already knowingly decided to break people's trust and to hurt those who trust and admire them. Therefore, doing the right thing alone was not enough incentive for these people. They're only inspired to change and become better when outside entities force them to change.
    Whenever I encounter people in my life who are like this, I tell them: "Good for you. I'm glad that you've finally seen the light, but I can't be part of your self improvement journey. Hopefully, one day, you'll learn to do the right thing, because that's just who you are as a person now and not because you figured out that other people wouldn't tolerate how you were. I wish you the best of luck."

  • @samanderson855
    @samanderson855 10 месяцев назад

    I feel like going to a brown belt from where I am now would only end up in my embarrassment as I eat the mat in 0.5s vs my "peers".

  • @ThatFunkyMonky
    @ThatFunkyMonky 10 месяцев назад

    I caught a video kinda early!
    I think forgiveness is a very complicated thing and depends entirely on the person/people that were wronged. I could forgive someone, and another person could not forgive them for the same wrongdoing. Conversely, i could do something wrong and never be forgiven by one person but forgiven by another.

  • @collewis6681
    @collewis6681 10 месяцев назад

    Respect can only be got by their actions. If they show that they are sorry and keep trying to fix it. Then yes, but it still takes time.

  • @matty741
    @matty741 10 месяцев назад +1

    If the first guy was in a manic state, he should be forgiven and looked after by his old gym. It will take a lot of time to trust him though.
    Second guy can do one, as a 13 year British army veteran I hate this shit with a passion.

  • @yaganman
    @yaganman 10 месяцев назад

    I think when someone admits his fault and change his way of acting, then forgiveness is obligatory.
    But just admitting fault and staying the same just mean the apology wasn't sincere and we still need to be careful about the person.

  • @Gundalf_the_Gray
    @Gundalf_the_Gray 8 месяцев назад

    Absolutely forgiveness can come after one admits one’s false. For those of us who are Christians, we can’t expect the father to forgive us if we do not forgive others. So again, yes, with repentance comes forgiveness.

  • @mrdjamrdja8160
    @mrdjamrdja8160 10 месяцев назад

    I never made the resume, I had someone write it for me as I dictated. Some things were lost in the translation.

  • @senseiSinclair
    @senseiSinclair 10 месяцев назад +1

    Its easier to forgive and move on with someone who apologises earnestly. Hopefully to guy gets some help and can get back to training at some point.

  • @mdug7224
    @mdug7224 10 месяцев назад

    If a person can accept, admit and apologise for mistakes, they should be allowed to move forward. There are a thousand reasons for mental instability, and recovery is hard enough as it is for some, let alone moving on with life.

  • @josephlane1614
    @josephlane1614 10 месяцев назад

    I think that admitting fault is the first step for earning forgiveness, but not even close to the last. I also think that your reason for admitting fault should be a factor whrn considering forgiveness. If you admit fault with the expectation that you have something to gain from it thats like taking a plea deal to reduce your sentence. Plea deals are frustrating to me, because people like cosby shouldn't be allowed back on the street just cause they said sorry.

  • @edmeds1336
    @edmeds1336 10 месяцев назад

    We all fuck up. I respect the apology and taking responsibility. He will be a better man for it. Good on you

  • @iammandalore
    @iammandalore 10 месяцев назад

    Forgiveness after owning something wrong? Absolutely. Depending on the wrong done and the context, forgiveness does not always mean forgetfulness. For making false claims online and then owning up to it? Yeah. Forgive, move on, and let's make things better.

  • @ArkhBaegor
    @ArkhBaegor 10 месяцев назад

    I'm guessing the reason the second guy doesn't want to come clean publicly is because what he did is an actual crime

  • @glassslack
    @glassslack 10 месяцев назад

    Never skipping, only belt you can skip is white, IBJJF requires
    8months at whitebelt
    2 years at blue
    1.5 Purple
    1 brown
    i was a blue belt for 5.5 years

  • @leonIdas002
    @leonIdas002 10 месяцев назад

    THERE IS NO REMORSE FOR THE ACTION, ONLY THE CONSEQUENCES...

  • @carlmanvers5009
    @carlmanvers5009 4 месяца назад

    There has to be forgiveness in this world. There has to be a way back. I really believe this.
    Simply because I won't sit in judgement on someone else, condemn them to a life outcast, and refuse them a way back. Because one day maybe _I_ will fail. One day I might be outcast myself. And I would like a way back if that happens.

  • @dragonballjiujitsu
    @dragonballjiujitsu 9 месяцев назад

    There are actually a couple of high profile youtubers who claim rank and it looks a little weird. One claims a black belt yet doesn't seem to know much about BJJ and the other seemed to go from blue to brown just like our guy in the vid within a few months. I called one out on instagram and he got real defensive and could't say who promoted him.

  • @DarthRane113
    @DarthRane113 10 месяцев назад

    I think forgiving people is an important part of allowing for growth now obviously its corcumstantial some things we cant forgive becauae of the gravity of ehat people have done. But for something like this. I dont aee why not
    Been training for 7 years now and honestly my attachment to the velts was gone like 3 years in. Just enjoy the adventure. And i say adventure becaaue all rides end but an adventure can go on forever if you want it to. One of my favorite quotes is that a black belt is just a white belt who mever quit and its true. Like most all slills if you keep doing it for a long enough you WILL eventually get to a level of experience thats professional (i dont wana say mastery becauae mastery implies theres nothing left to learn)
    So to everyone training just keep training CONSISTENTLY that the important part and yes you will eventually get a black belt