Allison! I sent the marital problems video to my mom because she's a huge Inspector Gamache fan and she sent the video to Louise Penny through her monthly newsletter and got this response from Louise's assistant: "Dear Joanne Linda from Scotland here, replying on Louise Penny's behalf. Louise wanted to say thank you for passing this video along to her. The interview was so funny. Love that for the sake of their marriage they limit her reading Louise to the month's of Dec and Jan ha! This made us laugh, thank you! Best wishes Linda" And Louise decided to add the video to her February monthly newsletter! Love the videos! Hope this brings you a bit of joy :)
When Allison talked about only have 1 friend where the reaching out is even hit wayyyy too close to home but it's also nice to know I'm not the only one
I had a system with a friend for a while were we would find a date for the next hangout at the end of each time seeing each other. If something else comes up that is perfectly fine and you can canel but then you find a new date. It relieved the pressure of having to reach out each time because there was already something established. (like dentist appointment but in a good way:))
I also am the initiator the vast majority of the time and don’t do well in large groups, and I don’t like this dynamic at all, so I was definitely relating to Allison! And yeah it can make you a little insecure about whether they actually like you, but sometimes it’s clear they really DO like you, and I find it frustrating when they like me but put little to no effort into reaching out.
I get insecure about this all the time. I'm all "if I stopped texting people and trying to hang out with people, I just wouldn't see people ever" Which isn't a great feeling, but c'est la vie I guess.
I haven’t got kids and don’t plan on having them (I’m 33) and my husband works in hospitality but I work from home. It’s hard to see friends often enough to fill my social needs as many of them have young children and a busy work life too. so I have joined a book club and found that’s a good way to meet like minded people and have a bit more of a community without having to do something super active or that requires a lot of me - as I’m already a big book worm anyways! Maybe there’s a local book club to be a bit more social for Alison. Also - you should tell your friends that this is something that affects how you feel in your friendships. Maybe they’ve never considered it before and would adapt if they knew it was upsetting you ❤
Allison I am RIGHT there with you!!! What helps me is the approach that if u really want something done, then don’t be afraid to do it-and then since ur the one reaching out, *you* get to decide who you’re hanging out with!!
I love that y'all are talking about this! I've chronically been the friend who's reached out to and only see folks once a month. But since the pandemic, I've tried to make more of an effort to be the one to reach out and do more mundane things (the errands friend is a great name for it!) While it puts me out of my comfort zone and doesn't feel natural, it makes me feel 100x happier and more fulfilled in terms of community. Also, since it's not natural for me either, I have a lot of empathy for both friends who ARE this way, and friends who are more like how I innately am. The weird niche I'm in right now makes me feel secure in the friendships I have in general, which is nice. I think I'm more inclined to think a friend is an introvert and needs alone time before I assume they're ignoring me.
If you didn't reach out to your friends as much, you probably would see them less (not never). It's likely they have a different threshold/longer wait time for reaching out, and so they never 'get the chance' to do it, as you always beat them to it. It's not fun, but it's a very common dynamic, I think. There's lots of reasons why people don't reach out much - usually not much to do with you, but more with their life: busy schedule, don't enjoy planning things (in advance), say yes to too many things and overcrowd their calendar w/o actually priorising, needing lots of alone time, etc.
Allison I relate!! I also backslid on these feelings this year. I don’t think this is a solution forever or that works for everyone but with the friend who i have the most with sadness about- I started only inviting them as a group- even though it’s not a friend group. (So no matter if only one person can make it we have fun) And I only text them to invite them to things twice a month. (So I’m not constantly putting myself in a situation where I feel the anxiety and rejection of wishing they were texting me) And if they can’t go to a thing I try to force myself to go anyway!! (There were some things that I missed out on doing because I was nervous about doing it alone and I have been forcing myself to do them anyway and I like it!! ) Those non- planners they need us planners. People just want to get together and be with friends- they fall in to roles and then repeat them over and over. The thing that helped me once- I asked my friend about this in her life with her friends and she had her own issue with someone else! Ha
I always found Gabe's take on friendships unrelatable. Like many, I have really zero friends, and the idea of someone texting me during the day as an adult doesn’t even seem real. I relate more to Allison's focus on one-on-one relationships. It’s so hard to know who’s a true friend especially if they’re not initiating contact. I do think so the people that attend your wedding is a good litmus test of if they’re a true friend. It's fascinating how our worlds can differ.
Most adults are not texting their friends throughout the day. Gabe is in entertainment, so that lifestyle makes sense. Most normal adults only text family, partners, or very close friends, and even then, it's infrequent. A lot of people have text fatigue.
I relate to Allison a lot. I don’t see people if I don’t initiate, and I don’t like the lack of reciprocity, so I’ve stopped initiating. A friendship is a two-way street, and to me, there’s no point if the other person isn’t putting in effort to sustain the relationship. It doesn’t make me feel welcome to reach out. I only have one friend who I see regularly. She is my neighbor, and we watch Survivor together. That show airs, like, eight months out of the year, so it’s a solid commitment. Otherwise I just show up to events I’m interested in and see who’s there, which can be really fun. Intentional friend hang outs are not part of my life these days.
Someone said recently ‘don’t manage my time. It’s my time to manage.’ Ask for the time and be open to a yes and no. Easier said than done but trying to implement this mindset. ❤ good luck
As dumb as it sounds, I only made local friends as an adult after going to bingo.. At the brewery I work at. Before that, I just had. A big group chat of gamers and we only really hung out when we went "Oh hey, I'm playing this game today, join if you want" because we're all horrible at asking people to hang out.
Sad to say but I relate to Allison so much. I think I do ok in groups but I'm definitely the quieter one so it doesn't go anywhere. It's hard to find friends
as a chronic non-reacher-outer... I don't know if I would ever see my friends if they weren't reaching out first. 😅😭and am so thankful for them for that!! I also prefer more one-on-one hangouts. I really think so much of it is an attachment style thing-- I'm avoidant and love time alone, and am happy to fill my time with my hobbies much of the time. but I love my friends so so much!! if my friends reached out to plan things less often I would definitely take more initiative myself, but honestly I'm a very low-maintenance friend in that way 🤷 really great point about couples too, Gabe.. as someone who's solo poly/pretty single, AND autistic & super specific about who I want to spend my time with, the whole if-I'm-invited-my-partner-is-invited mentality just kills me. I think we definitely need to prioritize platonic relationships more, I've found it's quite normal for coupled people to stop putting as much effort into their friendships unfortunately
I have a friend that was similar to Alison with wanting to go out and do things, so I always asked, knowing they would decline to go out, and they did. Except one time they came out, which was cool! But I still asked, you never know if your the only one inviting them to go out
This is super relatable! I really struggle with talking in groups, I’d much rather talk one on one. It can be harder to keep friendships that way, it’s so much more work and energy! I wish it was more normalized to only have a couple friends because I think I’d be happy with that amount if it wasn’t seen as like a flaw. Wishing Allison the best with all of that
I’m curious if Allison felt the dynamics with her friends were uneven prior to pandemic years/going back to school. I feel like those two things completely altered my social life in ways that I struggle to course correct. I don’t have coworkers I see regularly anymore. I have way less free time. which means I have less space for common activities. And the friends I seek these days tend to be busy with work and families instead of being super social. We used to go out and meet up multiple times a week. But now we’re all tired homebodies. And on top of all of that, I feel less inclined to spend time with people who don’t share the same moral values as me. So I’m more picky about who I’ll share my free time with. I swear friendships used to be significantly easier than they are today.
i wonder if there's any use in having a conversation about it with the friend(s)? like, "hey, i know I'm usually the one that initiates our hangouts and that's true in almost all of my relationships, so it clearly comes natural to me, but I've been realizing recently that this dynamic isn't the very best thing for my mental health, so just letting you know, i would feel really loved and appreciated if you initiated more, or even just sent me funny memes every now and again" i know it can sometimes feel awkward or stilted, especially when you have such long-established dynamics, but sometimes it leads to really good changes, especially if the person had no idea you felt this way and really does love you and appreciate you
Has that worked for you? I’ve done that once or twice with people and it’s never change the dynamic. Maybe for one time after they’ll initiate but it always reverts back.
@@TradeWise1000 in that case, it provides valuable information to the person doing the asking, that the other one is not willing or able to put in the work to improve the relationship and/or make them more comfortable. only each individual person can decide how important this is to them, but we all deserve to be loved and appreciated (especially if we're ready and willing to love and appreciate others), and it could be a sign that it's worth making other, new relationships, in which this particular need *will* be met. (not to say we need to discard every friendship where we do most of the initiating, more that sometimes it's helpful to demote it a rung or two in our private estimation of best friends - good friends - casual friends - friendly acquaintances - distant acquaintances etc.. (or whatever other hierarchy of closeness one may have.) that frees up space for you to develop other friendships that are close, and really, not having that conversation because you don't want to know the answer is probably a maladaptive coping mechanism (i.e. "if i don't open myself up to rejection then i never have to feel rejected"), when in reality, there's no reason to not have it (i say, fully acknowledging how hard those conversations can be, like i was shaking for hours the last time i had one, admittedly over text). you either find out that the person is totally willing to adjust their behavior (maybe with a few slip-ups here and there as you both adjust) or you find out that they're not willing to do it but you decide it actually doesn't matter, you like the relationship as it is, or you find out that the two of you have different ideas about the closeness of the relationship (which, unless done maliciously, isn't really anyone's fault), and sure, that may hurt, but ultimately so does doubt and uncertainty, and at least this way you have all the information at your disposal and can decide what to do with it from there (like focusing your efforts into developing other relationships). honestly always sets you free in the long run (now, a different thing is when a person says they'll change but don't, but that's a different story and, again, an opportunity to work on our boundaries, like how long are you willing to tolerate being treated that way? we all deserve people whose actions match up with their promises) (again, as long as we make the same kind of effort in return) sorry for the long rant btw, i just find these topics really fascinating and am, as always, astounded by how much harder it is to live up to these theories when it's your actual life and actual relationships on the line rather than hypothetical scenarios where you can wax poetic about what the theoretical right answers might be
@@TradeWise1000 Yeah that also never worked out for me. I come the terms with either accepting the dynamic as it is or stop reaching and letting it go.
This 8 1/2 minutes has been more healing for me than the past year of therapy Emailing myself this video to save and then starring it. Boomer Style Thank you for your service 🫡
At 6:15 when Gabe starts talking about couples - me and my partner have started getting lumped together by some friends and don’t see them anymore solo. This happens with me too though where if a friend invites me out, I’m like “is my partner invited?” bc I never know what they expect. But it’s kinda frustrating bc partner and I have been codependent with exes and we’re doing everything we can not to fall into old patterns, but then people either aren’t reciprocal like with Allison’s friends (partner and I are extroverts and always initiate) or friends want to hang as a group/couple. Thanks for letting me vent oops lol
I feel like there's an elephant in the room, straight co-living monogamous relationships/marriages can be very isolating especially for women, moving away from city center, not seeing single friends or partying, gabe has a more flexible lifestyle that prioritises multiple friendships and relationships no?
I think they really glossed over that the suburbs are really isolating, unless you make friends with your neighbours I guess. Even just being 20 or 30 minutes away from your friends makes hanging out a planned event rather than something that just happens.
You ever have a friend that you feel like you always reach out and then you decide to let them reach out first for a change then you never see them again ? 🙃
"i don't do well in community" killed me
Yes!
Yes!🤣 but I can also relate😆
My biggest takeaway: ALLISON DOESNT WATCH THE BACHELOR ANYMORE?!
Same, ever since love is blind and the ultimatum came out
I mean, I think it REALLY went downhill after Peter's season
Allison! I sent the marital problems video to my mom because she's a huge Inspector Gamache fan and she sent the video to Louise Penny through her monthly newsletter and got this response from Louise's assistant:
"Dear Joanne
Linda from Scotland here, replying on Louise Penny's behalf.
Louise wanted to say thank you for passing this video along to her. The interview was so funny. Love that for the sake of their marriage they limit her reading Louise to the month's of Dec and Jan ha!
This made us laugh, thank you!
Best wishes
Linda"
And Louise decided to add the video to her February monthly newsletter!
Love the videos! Hope this brings you a bit of joy :)
THIS IS AMAZING!!!
Omg I love this, I bet Allison is so happy about it!
When Allison talked about only have 1 friend where the reaching out is even hit wayyyy too close to home but it's also nice to know I'm not the only one
Me, a 26 year old, watching JBU from the beginning: So, I guess this is a never-ending question, cool cool cool.
“I don’t do well in community”. Thank you for putting to words my feelings
I had a system with a friend for a while were we would find a date for the next hangout at the end of each time seeing each other. If something else comes up that is perfectly fine and you can canel but then you find a new date. It relieved the pressure of having to reach out each time because there was already something established. (like dentist appointment but in a good way:))
This is all painfully relatable (Allison's part)
I also am the initiator the vast majority of the time and don’t do well in large groups, and I don’t like this dynamic at all, so I was definitely relating to Allison! And yeah it can make you a little insecure about whether they actually like you, but sometimes it’s clear they really DO like you, and I find it frustrating when they like me but put little to no effort into reaching out.
I haven't watched the video yet but I'm gonna say Yes. Your friends do like you - both of you
I get insecure about this all the time. I'm all "if I stopped texting people and trying to hang out with people, I just wouldn't see people ever"
Which isn't a great feeling, but c'est la vie I guess.
Omg, I’ve never related to Allison more! Especially with the turning point and then falling back into insecurity.
Also love the matching green shirts!
Wow are you reading my mind with this title? I've been wondering if my friends really like me 😭
I haven’t got kids and don’t plan on having them (I’m 33) and my husband works in hospitality but I work from home. It’s hard to see friends often enough to fill my social needs as many of them have young children and a busy work life too. so I have joined a book club and found that’s a good way to meet like minded people and have a bit more of a community without having to do something super active or that requires a lot of me - as I’m already a big book worm anyways! Maybe there’s a local book club to be a bit more social for Alison. Also - you should tell your friends that this is something that affects how you feel in your friendships. Maybe they’ve never considered it before and would adapt if they knew it was upsetting you ❤
Never related more to Allison than in this video ❤
The only reason I have friends or ever see my friends is one simple thing: dungeons and dragons 😂
Allison I am RIGHT there with you!!! What helps me is the approach that if u really want something done, then don’t be afraid to do it-and then since ur the one reaching out, *you* get to decide who you’re hanging out with!!
this is my comfort show i love how you discuss such personal topics with so much humor and realness
Right????? I am here every time my period comes and I binge watch the new videos for a time of comfort ❤️🩹
I love that y'all are talking about this! I've chronically been the friend who's reached out to and only see folks once a month. But since the pandemic, I've tried to make more of an effort to be the one to reach out and do more mundane things (the errands friend is a great name for it!)
While it puts me out of my comfort zone and doesn't feel natural, it makes me feel 100x happier and more fulfilled in terms of community. Also, since it's not natural for me either, I have a lot of empathy for both friends who ARE this way, and friends who are more like how I innately am. The weird niche I'm in right now makes me feel secure in the friendships I have in general, which is nice. I think I'm more inclined to think a friend is an introvert and needs alone time before I assume they're ignoring me.
If you didn't reach out to your friends as much, you probably would see them less (not never).
It's likely they have a different threshold/longer wait time for reaching out, and so they never 'get the chance' to do it, as you always beat them to it.
It's not fun, but it's a very common dynamic, I think.
There's lots of reasons why people don't reach out much - usually not much to do with you, but more with their life: busy schedule, don't enjoy planning things (in advance), say yes to too many things and overcrowd their calendar w/o actually priorising, needing lots of alone time, etc.
Allison I relate!! I also backslid on these feelings this year. I don’t think this is a solution forever or that works for everyone but with the friend who i have the most with sadness about- I started only inviting them as a group- even though it’s not a friend group. (So no matter if only one person can make it we have fun) And I only text them to invite them to things twice a month. (So I’m not constantly putting myself in a situation where I feel the anxiety and rejection of wishing they were texting me) And if they can’t go to a thing I try to force myself to go anyway!! (There were some things that I missed out on doing because I was nervous about doing it alone and I have been forcing myself to do them anyway and I like it!! )
Those non- planners they need us planners. People just want to get together and be with friends- they fall in to roles and then repeat them over and over. The thing that helped me once- I asked my friend about this in her life with her friends and she had her own issue with someone else! Ha
I always found Gabe's take on friendships unrelatable. Like many, I have really zero friends, and the idea of someone texting me during the day as an adult doesn’t even seem real. I relate more to Allison's focus on one-on-one relationships. It’s so hard to know who’s a true friend especially if they’re not initiating contact. I do think so the people that attend your wedding is a good litmus test of if they’re a true friend. It's fascinating how our worlds can differ.
Most adults are not texting their friends throughout the day. Gabe is in entertainment, so that lifestyle makes sense. Most normal adults only text family, partners, or very close friends, and even then, it's infrequent. A lot of people have text fatigue.
I relate to Allison a lot. I don’t see people if I don’t initiate, and I don’t like the lack of reciprocity, so I’ve stopped initiating. A friendship is a two-way street, and to me, there’s no point if the other person isn’t putting in effort to sustain the relationship. It doesn’t make me feel welcome to reach out.
I only have one friend who I see regularly. She is my neighbor, and we watch Survivor together. That show airs, like, eight months out of the year, so it’s a solid commitment. Otherwise I just show up to events I’m interested in and see who’s there, which can be really fun. Intentional friend hang outs are not part of my life these days.
Someone said recently ‘don’t manage my time. It’s my time to manage.’ Ask for the time and be open to a yes and no. Easier said than done but trying to implement this mindset. ❤ good luck
I can't get over the kickball team!! That's so random!!!!!
As dumb as it sounds, I only made local friends as an adult after going to bingo.. At the brewery I work at. Before that, I just had. A big group chat of gamers and we only really hung out when we went "Oh hey, I'm playing this game today, join if you want" because we're all horrible at asking people to hang out.
Sad to say but I relate to Allison so much. I think I do ok in groups but I'm definitely the quieter one so it doesn't go anywhere. It's hard to find friends
i love this because i feel this so much with my friends
im back after a while and so happy I did. It is so beautiful to see y'all change and grow and still be so genuine. Thanks for the amazing videos
I hope Allison's friends watch this and start reaching out more.
as a chronic non-reacher-outer... I don't know if I would ever see my friends if they weren't reaching out first. 😅😭and am so thankful for them for that!! I also prefer more one-on-one hangouts. I really think so much of it is an attachment style thing-- I'm avoidant and love time alone, and am happy to fill my time with my hobbies much of the time. but I love my friends so so much!! if my friends reached out to plan things less often I would definitely take more initiative myself, but honestly I'm a very low-maintenance friend in that way 🤷
really great point about couples too, Gabe.. as someone who's solo poly/pretty single, AND autistic & super specific about who I want to spend my time with, the whole if-I'm-invited-my-partner-is-invited mentality just kills me. I think we definitely need to prioritize platonic relationships more, I've found it's quite normal for coupled people to stop putting as much effort into their friendships unfortunately
I have a friend that was similar to Alison with wanting to go out and do things, so I always asked, knowing they would decline to go out, and they did. Except one time they came out, which was cool! But I still asked, you never know if your the only one inviting them to go out
I love topics about friendship!
Thank you, its really helpful to hear you normalize the feeling of friend insecurity!
gotta love the casual eco-anarchist turn
This is super relatable! I really struggle with talking in groups, I’d much rather talk one on one. It can be harder to keep friendships that way, it’s so much more work and energy! I wish it was more normalized to only have a couple friends because I think I’d be happy with that amount if it wasn’t seen as like a flaw. Wishing Allison the best with all of that
Funnily I feel the opposite to Gabe, I really like my friend's spouses/partners and want to hang out with them more 😆
The real shit right here
omg new mics!! God bless
I’m curious if Allison felt the dynamics with her friends were uneven prior to pandemic years/going back to school. I feel like those two things completely altered my social life in ways that I struggle to course correct. I don’t have coworkers I see regularly anymore. I have way less free time. which means I have less space for common activities. And the friends I seek these days tend to be busy with work and families instead of being super social. We used to go out and meet up multiple times a week. But now we’re all tired homebodies. And on top of all of that, I feel less inclined to spend time with people who don’t share the same moral values as me. So I’m more picky about who I’ll share my free time with. I swear friendships used to be significantly easier than they are today.
This is such a heartwarming episode! Have fun on your movie night together! ;)
“The Unabomber was right.” - Gabe Dunn (2024)
i wonder if there's any use in having a conversation about it with the friend(s)? like, "hey, i know I'm usually the one that initiates our hangouts and that's true in almost all of my relationships, so it clearly comes natural to me, but I've been realizing recently that this dynamic isn't the very best thing for my mental health, so just letting you know, i would feel really loved and appreciated if you initiated more, or even just sent me funny memes every now and again"
i know it can sometimes feel awkward or stilted, especially when you have such long-established dynamics, but sometimes it leads to really good changes, especially if the person had no idea you felt this way and really does love you and appreciate you
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Has that worked for you? I’ve done that once or twice with people and it’s never change the dynamic. Maybe for one time after they’ll initiate but it always reverts back.
@@TradeWise1000 in that case, it provides valuable information to the person doing the asking, that the other one is not willing or able to put in the work to improve the relationship and/or make them more comfortable. only each individual person can decide how important this is to them, but we all deserve to be loved and appreciated (especially if we're ready and willing to love and appreciate others), and it could be a sign that it's worth making other, new relationships, in which this particular need *will* be met.
(not to say we need to discard every friendship where we do most of the initiating, more that sometimes it's helpful to demote it a rung or two in our private estimation of best friends - good friends - casual friends - friendly acquaintances - distant acquaintances etc.. (or whatever other hierarchy of closeness one may have.) that frees up space for you to develop other friendships that are close, and really, not having that conversation because you don't want to know the answer is probably a maladaptive coping mechanism (i.e. "if i don't open myself up to rejection then i never have to feel rejected"), when in reality, there's no reason to not have it (i say, fully acknowledging how hard those conversations can be, like i was shaking for hours the last time i had one, admittedly over text). you either find out that the person is totally willing to adjust their behavior (maybe with a few slip-ups here and there as you both adjust) or you find out that they're not willing to do it but you decide it actually doesn't matter, you like the relationship as it is, or you find out that the two of you have different ideas about the closeness of the relationship (which, unless done maliciously, isn't really anyone's fault), and sure, that may hurt, but ultimately so does doubt and uncertainty, and at least this way you have all the information at your disposal and can decide what to do with it from there (like focusing your efforts into developing other relationships). honestly always sets you free in the long run
(now, a different thing is when a person says they'll change but don't, but that's a different story and, again, an opportunity to work on our boundaries, like how long are you willing to tolerate being treated that way? we all deserve people whose actions match up with their promises) (again, as long as we make the same kind of effort in return)
sorry for the long rant btw, i just find these topics really fascinating and am, as always, astounded by how much harder it is to live up to these theories when it's your actual life and actual relationships on the line rather than hypothetical scenarios where you can wax poetic about what the theoretical right answers might be
@@TradeWise1000 Yeah that also never worked out for me. I come the terms with either accepting the dynamic as it is or stop reaching and letting it go.
But it still might be a good idea to talk and give it a chance to change idk
I'm not a reacher outer and it's just because my reach out cycle is like 6-24 months... Sorry to my friends
This 8 1/2 minutes has been more healing for me than the past year of therapy
Emailing myself this video to save and then starring it. Boomer Style
Thank you for your service 🫡
At 6:15 when Gabe starts talking about couples - me and my partner have started getting lumped together by some friends and don’t see them anymore solo. This happens with me too though where if a friend invites me out, I’m like “is my partner invited?” bc I never know what they expect. But it’s kinda frustrating bc partner and I have been codependent with exes and we’re doing everything we can not to fall into old patterns, but then people either aren’t reciprocal like with Allison’s friends (partner and I are extroverts and always initiate) or friends want to hang as a group/couple. Thanks for letting me vent oops lol
100% in Allison's corner
this was a solid episode, 10/10. lol keep it up😘
We will remember this as the day Gabe got pushed over the edge and became an anarchist because of the whole foods palm reader
Please see people in relationships as individuals! It’s so important ❤
I don’t do well in the community, either ✌️
I donated to the movie!!!
Allison, please at least consider watching The Golden Bachelor and Joey’s current season! It’s been so good so far. ❤
I hope Alison's friends watch this.
I feel like there's an elephant in the room, straight co-living monogamous relationships/marriages can be very isolating especially for women, moving away from city center, not seeing single friends or partying, gabe has a more flexible lifestyle that prioritises multiple friendships and relationships no?
I think they really glossed over that the suburbs are really isolating, unless you make friends with your neighbours I guess. Even just being 20 or 30 minutes away from your friends makes hanging out a planned event rather than something that just happens.
More on this topic!
Sorry to break it to you, Allison, but having kids is usually how you lose friends 😂
GABE YOUR HANDS ...
Sadly, you will likely lose friends if you change the dynamic of who reaches out to who (whom?).
You ever have a friend that you feel like you always reach out and then you decide to let them reach out first for a change then you never see them again ? 🙃
All of them.
Weirdly I'm now also on the Unabomber's side.
I am Allison.
What if this was the episode that Gabe hard launched that he hates John
Do you guys still take international questions? I want to send my silly little problems but I don’t know your email
justbetweenuspod@gmail.com !
@@JustBetweenUs thank you!
Gabe looks super hot
Allison does too omg
Allison, I’m 34 and have a 2 year old. I’ve made more friends since having this kid than I have in the last 10 years! Just sayin :)
I'm sorry for whatever you two are going through and I hope you find peace in your life.
#unabomberwasright
💝💝💝💝💝💝