When a Friend Ghosted, but Wants you Back (codependency/fawning)
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- Here are two Ask an Advanced Bitch questions, one about a ghost returning and the other about realizing a relationship has red flags.
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I had a long term friend ghost last year and come back with a lame apology. It has never felt the same and you are amazing at explaining it. I will continue to honor my truth and keep focused on the dependable friends in my world. I deserve respect too. ♥️
Wow I can relate. I have a friend who I’ve known for 30 years who moved to a different state. For a long time we were on the same rung of the ladder. But she ghosts me all the time. Until she needs someone to commiserate with, then she will reach out to me. I’ve always been there for her but now I’m realizing that she’s never there for me when I need her. I don’t want to ghost her like she does to me. So I’ve decided it’s time to communicate a boundary. Thank you for this. I feel like it’s given me the motivation to finally realize that I deserve better than this type of toxic friendship.♥️
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Thank you for sharing the ladder of trust! I am already utilizing this in my friendships.
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This has happened to me recently and I was told this is how she behaves by other friends and it’s normal and I felt gaslit and then she gaslit me and said no we just couldn’t get hold of each other from that moment I said leave me alone but she seems to like to be chased when I didn’t do that she wants to be back
Great questions! Insightful as always! 👏🏻👏🏻
Same here had a coworker saod was a friend who ghosted me last year, and I had to apologize for me not reaching out , so I did say sorry for something havent even done, I reached out twice, so far 1 month pass no reach out from that person so where am I on this ... hmmm dont really know, blaming thet the person is busy though talking to others when they reach out for help from them, so if I don ask for help I am ghosted huh. Ok. Hmmm.
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Thank you for this
Excellent!
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Friends need to separate from time to time. Holding a grudge for ghosting is ridiculous. Some friendships are too intense for some people. Some people need to disconnect to reclaim themselves. It all is what it is. There is virtue in forgiveness and there is virtue in acceptance of that which may be a genuine necessity. To all the friends I’ve had and separated from - it is what it is. Perhaps we all need to look closer into our mirrors before we judge others.
i agree. i have been extremely patient with a woman i have strong feelings for. i changed my communication style to acknowledge that she needs lots of space. she keeps coming around in small doses, and we ran into each other at a bar and she called it serendipity. its hard because i want more communication with her, but i recognize that i would prefer to be patient and wait to see if she comes around. its very painful though becauase my feelings of inadequcy get triggered
Well ok, but if you dont reach out they never will sp where are you at that page with people like that? If you the one constantly rwaching out to them and they jist dont bother do so.
I find it extremely difficult to believe that I wrote this comment. Ha ! Ha ! Ha!
@@joanb8489lol, why? Do you feel different about the comment now? Would love to know why
@@FS-nq2yc I do not feel differently at all. I feel that the comment has a great deal of insight. But I am a very easy going person . I think a lot , but I don’t usually express myself this well. It would be great if we could keep our forever friends forever. BUT it’s not an easy task. It takes two to have a friendship. It takes loyalty and patience. I’m loyal but my patience has limits. In my heart, my friends will always be my friends. But I can no longer subject myself to their self-centeredness.