THIS is how you COPE with emotions following a narcissistic breakup

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  • Опубликовано: 29 ноя 2024

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  • @NarcSurvivor
    @NarcSurvivor 4 дня назад +66

    Come back to yourself. Process the emotions. Recharge your emotional energy. Because narcissists are emotional vampires. They will drain you emotionally and energetically. You will feel irritable, anxious, frustrated and even depressed. That’s how they feel everyday. And it’s why they depend on you to supply them with your energy and emotions.

    • @iamwhoiam7887
      @iamwhoiam7887 4 дня назад +4

      Can you do more videos on GANGSTALKING?

    • @TanyaDavis954
      @TanyaDavis954 4 дня назад

      I'm convinced there DEMONIC 😈 there ALL the same act the same move the same. Attack there so called ❤ the same.

    • @TanyaDavis954
      @TanyaDavis954 4 дня назад

      💯 thanks for this clarity or the way you summed it up

    • @tinalouisedeane3683
      @tinalouisedeane3683 4 дня назад +1

      @@NarcSurvivor but you will find yourself in the process & never let anyone ever again come before you ❤️

    • @StariYTube1
      @StariYTube1 3 дня назад

      Set standards and wash and pray best advice

  • @Punicia
    @Punicia 4 дня назад +21

    Narcissists are not always broken people. It’s genetic devilry. Dark triad traits in general are heritable. But afflicted narcissists (compared to a neurotypical) have had their personal, physical, sexual, emotional, and even spiritual boundaries completely dismissed. Imagine how painful that experience was as a child. And yes, that trauma stays with them their whole life. They can get therapy and build better boundaries between them and others, but the neurological wiring of a narcissist stays the same all throughout their life.

  • @LivenLearned-nx4om
    @LivenLearned-nx4om 3 дня назад +17

    Lost 10 years to a narcissist, Wish I could’ve found this type of content during my discard I lost so much time in limbo . got into alcohol & drugs and just couldn’t make no progress . I couldn’t understand the betrayal from everyone around me .
    I recommend stay sober Stay busy learn new skills get fit learn how to cook elevate yourself for the real thing for when it does come .

  • @joe102769
    @joe102769 4 дня назад +38

    They steal your light,and fill you with their emptiness.And then you're zomified AF Trying to find yourself.Worst nightmare of my life.I wouldn't wish one of those things on my worst enemy!

  • @LeeEverett1
    @LeeEverett1 4 дня назад +33

    My discard was BRUTAL. Things were going great, we even had a trip planned and paid for (I paid of course). Woke up one day and was blocked everywhere. No argument, never told me we were breaking up, I got straight ghosted after 7 months together. Found out that same week she got on dating apps.
    That one stung like hell. That was 8 months ago and I'm still not 100% as I have trust issues now, but I'm doing a hell of alot better compared to then. I'm in much better shape, crushing it in the gym, joined martial arts classes, and generally finding peace with myself.
    If I can get through that experience, you guys can too. Put the work in on yourself and focus on the future.

    • @Hilfiger187
      @Hilfiger187 4 дня назад

      Yea that’s brutal sheesh keep going man 💪

    • @TanyaDavis954
      @TanyaDavis954 4 дня назад +2

      Brutal, but try this but having kids with. Then they come after you for the kids. NON STOP while VERBALLY ABUSING YOU NONE STOP.

    • @jakedettman1869
      @jakedettman1869 4 дня назад +1

      Keep it up bro 💪🏽

    • @Konrad-cj8fr
      @Konrad-cj8fr 4 дня назад +1

      We are all going through this brother, but there is no future, women are all like this.

    • @Steve-q3b1s
      @Steve-q3b1s 3 дня назад

      I’m sorry to hear that Lee!! I been so hurt I’m afraid to let people in.. I stick to myself anymore.. You think you finally found the one or vise versa like a friendship you get close then boom they disappear.. It happened to me.. I been wanting to find a boxing gym or something I work at crappy shift hopefully I can find something to get into.. I’m depressed!!

  • @angeladallimore8079
    @angeladallimore8079 3 дня назад +7

    Know your WORTH and NEVER forget it

  • @CondoPhone
    @CondoPhone 4 дня назад +17

    I lost my house, my job, my car and my pup in one fell swoop overnight to a narcissistic demon. I couldn't function for months. Its been 3 years since he left me and im closing on a new house next week.
    Im still no right in the head, im a 60 year old woman who works out, takes supplements and i look around 40's. But inside i feel broken because its hard to be this age and not only find a good man, but trust another man is very difficult.
    Its funny because i remember when i met him he kept telling me what a good woman i was. I didn't realize at that time that it was code for what a good woman i was to use, discard and abuse. Surreal. 😮

  • @KAY-PartiesMadeFun
    @KAY-PartiesMadeFun День назад +1

    God gives the hardest battles to his toughest warriors tough💪 narcissistic abuse is not a regular break up it’s like sleeping with the devil himself in a smile mask.
    It made me question me as a person, it changed me now I’ve quit drink, smoking, socialising with the old and I’m now at church 3-4 times a week plus the gym ❤ it awakens you to being your best self 🎉 I give thanks for the test it challenged me to be better not bitter 🎉 it can drain you but that’s when you go hard for life and live each day to the max 😊

  • @tinalouisedeane3683
    @tinalouisedeane3683 4 дня назад +10

    Narcissists don’t love anyone..!!
    That’s one thing I learnt ☝🏼

  • @RoosterRaw
    @RoosterRaw 3 дня назад +9

    Be careful folks of the evil narcs and the devil on this earth, he ain’t happy as his day is coming and if he and his demons in human form (narcs toxic people) see you and you have light and god is with you then they gonna come for you to take and extinguish that light. Know the signs and actions and behaviour of these creatures first and protect yourself. Gods day is coming soon. Good video TJ.

  • @davidrothchilds2066
    @davidrothchilds2066 3 дня назад +7

    The empath is like the eagle not the narc 👉 phenomenom occurs when the crow(narc) lands on the eagles back and harrasses and rides on the eagle, the eagle cannont get the crow off of it easily. The way it gets it off is flying higher and higher into the sky to a height where there is less oxygen and the crow falls off👈👌 continue to elevate to a level where oxygen is cut off to the narc

  • @elizabethmartens9022
    @elizabethmartens9022 4 дня назад +6

    I say this with tears....he was in my church, close with my parents,father of kids, h3 changed overnight. GOD give us mercy😢

  • @Pedritox0953
    @Pedritox0953 3 дня назад +1

    "It's up for you to cope with what has gone on, to recover from that and, to make sure that 'you are you' again. You are exactly what God has made you to be once again " Great video!

  • @Ascerian
    @Ascerian 21 час назад +1

    Hey, to the creator of the video, you're really on point with this I've been through the hell and the dark night of the soul and all of it. You're really on top of this situation and know what to do and understand it. This is one of the best videos on the topic. Really good job bro

  • @grahamabarnes
    @grahamabarnes 3 дня назад +5

    The discard from these people is brutal, the love bombing (idealisation) followed by the devaluation and then discard is horrendous, I felt mine put me back on the shelf when they found a new supply like I was some child’s toy for her to later to try and hoover me (where they come back), they can even reverse hoover or reverse discard you where you go back to them or let them go because they have a new form of supply that they have got bored with.

    • @essbea8727
      @essbea8727 3 дня назад

      Mine hid her real self for so long. Then we had a kid together, and I went into dad mode and started to draw harder boundaries with the stakes now increased. That's when the gremlin came out and she changed nearly overnight. This is what men have to deal with and it doesn't shock me that they are walking away from relationahips en masse.

  • @Ted-NJ
    @Ted-NJ 3 дня назад +3

    I deserve better than this. I handled the covert narcissist way differently, re: a woman a dated last year. I am in court dealing with the matter. I have called her our publicly regarding who and what she really is. I refuse to back down from her. I recently told her in court on the record to her face that she is a social predator and a sociopath.

  • @lorraine4755
    @lorraine4755 4 дня назад +8

    One day at a time is all we can do.

  • @Cosmicsurfpro
    @Cosmicsurfpro 4 дня назад +7

    LOVE yourself unconditionally 💙

  • @CheesusSVT
    @CheesusSVT 4 дня назад +9

    Thank you, Had one about 10 years ago... Gave her my all... Everything... Just to become one of them. 😂I'm awake now though. Never again. Never again. Mental health is no joke. Love to you all. ❤Be true, be good, be genuine. Know you deserve reciprocated Love to the Love you give. ❤

  • @unvaccinatedmensclub
    @unvaccinatedmensclub 4 дня назад +13

    Great video bro. I’m literally going through this right now. A little over three months of no contact now and slowly but surely finding myself again.

    • @StariYTube1
      @StariYTube1 3 дня назад +2

      Set standards and wash and pray best advice

  • @MarilynChen-j1k
    @MarilynChen-j1k 3 дня назад +1

    Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.

    • @vivianMarvin-z6k
      @vivianMarvin-z6k 3 дня назад

      It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

    • @MarilynChen-j1k
      @MarilynChen-j1k 3 дня назад

      Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

    • @vivianMarvin-z6k
      @vivianMarvin-z6k 3 дня назад

      His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @vivianMarvin-z6k
      @vivianMarvin-z6k 3 дня назад

      he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

    • @MarilynChen-j1k
      @MarilynChen-j1k 3 дня назад

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
      Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

  • @JRed-ey5kc
    @JRed-ey5kc 4 дня назад +9

    This video spoke to me. Came just at the right time. Thank you.

  • @David-nu6kw
    @David-nu6kw 3 дня назад +1

    THIS! Is all absolutely true and accurate, unfortunately I experienced it myself. Anyone who experiences anything like this - the experiences are different from relationship to relationship but also exactly the same if you follow me. I was discarded 3 weeks after our 9 year anniversary and she even hid the cats when I had to get my stuff in the coming weeks. God bless everyone.

  • @amirafshar2580
    @amirafshar2580 3 дня назад +4

    16:25 I dont drink period while having a storage of wine behind him 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @fightingwarrior5893
    @fightingwarrior5893 3 дня назад +1

    Let them learn the hard way that they’ll never find you in another person. Or anyone that’s helped them as much as you did.

  • @TanyaDavis954
    @TanyaDavis954 4 дня назад +9

    Try this but having kids with. Then they come after you for the kids. NON STOP while VERBALLY ABUSING YOU NONE STOP.

    • @Naked_AlienDanceParty
      @Naked_AlienDanceParty 4 дня назад

      Already there left 2 months ago and i have a baby hes trying to currently steal

    • @godlike3368
      @godlike3368 4 дня назад +1

      They will continuously create Drama when kids are involved

    • @jayhadcock8767
      @jayhadcock8767 3 дня назад +1

      I have one 20 knows what's what now add handicapped child 27 years now nonverbal has to be carved for life !!! Help God 😮

    • @TanyaDavis954
      @TanyaDavis954 2 дня назад

      @@jayhadcock8767 we learn to create BOUNDARIES

  • @Ironman4u
    @Ironman4u 3 дня назад

    " GOD BLESS YOU BROTHER!!!".... YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT!!!.... AMEN 🙏

  • @Annajsee
    @Annajsee 4 дня назад +3

    3:41 It's perplexing to me, as someone who feels deeply, to comprehend how others can be completely without emotions.

    • @melaniejean85
      @melaniejean85 3 дня назад

      soulless, dead eyes perplex and concern me.

  • @mattsmith1137
    @mattsmith1137 4 дня назад +4

    I’m 18 months post break up with a covert narc and I’m still feeling the effects occasionally. That was no normal breakup.

    • @JohnSzwed327
      @JohnSzwed327 3 дня назад

      Truth and others don’t understand so it’s lonely healing

  • @johnmoran7996
    @johnmoran7996 3 дня назад +2

    I just simply decided to move on with my life.they didn't.i cope with things quite well.

  • @YouTubeOverrated
    @YouTubeOverrated 4 дня назад +25

    You stay no contact until you start to hate them and then that hate slowly turns into indifference over a long period of time
    You don’t have to do anything extraordinary to get over them, it’s literally just time and no contact :)

    • @TanyaDavis954
      @TanyaDavis954 4 дня назад +3

      But when kids are involved you can't but low contact and then the same formula happens 😊

  • @dorarebelo673
    @dorarebelo673 3 дня назад

    Hi Joel. Thanks for expressing your feelings and thoughts. I appreciate you. It does not take too long to know if there is potential for a good relationship. Those 'early' red flags say a lot about the other person, but we still try because that is not all there is about that person ...and there is always a possibility, even if remote. The relationship does not depend only on us or them. We can't totally predict how it will turn out. So, the upset about the breakup is more about the loss of 'something that could have been.' It is a momentary nostalgia for some of the goodness that did not last. However, when people say that we should act as if we don't care even if we do, it's the opposite - we don't care and act as if we did. Why? Because we attempt to cultivate something we know has little chance of working out long-term. Still, we do the best we can by doing our part.

  • @whatchamacallit4711
    @whatchamacallit4711 3 дня назад +2

    good work. my conbtribution is that it helped me very much to research the science about this pathological disorder. at some point i realized all the toxic and inexplicable behaviour didn´t have anything to do with me (despite my own mistakes). whilst in it the my selfworth was consequently damaged and ended in cognitive dissonance. today i feel that i´ve got a certain power now because i could reveal what really is behind that mask. and the mask is what they do EVERYTHING for. imho. regards from germany.

  • @JamesOlmos-z5m
    @JamesOlmos-z5m 4 дня назад +3

    Thanks for sharing, really needs this , you are a blessing so much info and encouragement

  • @TheStoicPath_
    @TheStoicPath_ 4 дня назад +4

    Hebrews 11:27 Faith led Moses to leave Egypt without being afraid of the king’s anger. Moses didn’t give up but continued as if he could actually see the invisible God...
    29 Faith caused the people to go through the Red Sea as if it were dry land. The Egyptians also tried this, but they drowned.
    30 Faith caused the walls of Jericho to fall after the Israelites marched around them for seven days.

  • @colincrawford1111
    @colincrawford1111 4 дня назад +3

    Thank you! This is valuable for many including me!

  • @JamesOlmos-z5m
    @JamesOlmos-z5m 3 дня назад +2

    This video helps, got to say best video

  • @IsaiahGraham2007
    @IsaiahGraham2007 4 дня назад +2

    That's what I'm talking about Terry💪🏾😎🔥

  • @willba3516
    @willba3516 4 дня назад +3

    Going through this after a two year relationship.

  • @deplorable113
    @deplorable113 4 дня назад

    This message really hit today!!!! It’s time to start anew!!!! Thank You!

  • @bvhia
    @bvhia 4 дня назад +1

    Wine bottles in the back for aesthetics
    Keep grinding boys

  • @gansgevtekked1917
    @gansgevtekked1917 4 дня назад

    It's not easy. But everything you heard here is gold❤

  • @Konrad-cj8fr
    @Konrad-cj8fr 4 дня назад +5

    She used me as her doormat, i thought were develloping a solid connection, even moved to her town, then saw her jumping from d to d, following week saw her in church but at this point i didnt even looked at her, i was disgusted, 2 weeks later she hopped on another d again.

    • @Steve-q3b1s
      @Steve-q3b1s 2 дня назад +1

      I’m lost for words when it comes to women

    • @Konrad-cj8fr
      @Konrad-cj8fr 2 дня назад +1

      @ same, bro

  • @dougr6269
    @dougr6269 4 дня назад +3

    Bless you. Thank-you.

  • @mode7perspective27
    @mode7perspective27 3 дня назад

    God Bless u Bro !!

  • @r.h.5420
    @r.h.5420 4 дня назад +1

    You are Absolutely right 😩😭💔

  • @ragoldman3025
    @ragoldman3025 3 дня назад +1

    Nah, in fairness until i paved my way out of where i was and i only talked about the methods of the narc and descriptions of patterns of behaviour.
    The truth about what youre saying on the post narc consumption the post zombification is cptsd and/or depression. Which i wasnt gonna cough up especially where i lived at the time and under these specific circumstances.
    After they have destroyed all of your internal landmarks, gaslit you into a corner, conned your family and friends, threatened you to the cops/had you falsly arrested, turned up at your work drunk and slandered, gangstalked you etc. etc etc. the level of psychological warfare and emotional destabalisation they leave you with leaves you with cptsd and unless youve walked yourself out of it before you should 100% see a professional for advice, because itll deatroy your life permanently, youll be susseptable to so many dangers of society and whatever their predominant sstrategy was is what youll ve susseptable tp the most (probably gaslighting because youve already been so dramatically corenerd and drained of all resources emotional, psycholgical, physical, and financial) which means unless you are an absolute psychological wizard youre very vulnerable. Get professional help, for real.

  • @volubileys3075
    @volubileys3075 3 дня назад +1

    Your Words are so right
    Your images are so relevant
    I loved an image an illusion
    It is a cross of hell
    I loved him so much
    I feel m’y body is sexually dépendent again
    I Want to feel definitively free of this dépendance

  • @staynsaddle
    @staynsaddle 4 дня назад +2

    Thanks bud

  • @BirdNerdxox
    @BirdNerdxox 4 дня назад +1

    Thank you ❤

  • @RozayMalikOG
    @RozayMalikOG 4 дня назад +7

    Terry👍🏾📈❤

  • @godsnobody2915
    @godsnobody2915 3 дня назад

    Had a Silver Altima pull up next to anyone’s building lately, Joel? Tell your American friends I said, “Happy Thanksgiving.”

  • @EddieRobinson-sh1sp
    @EddieRobinson-sh1sp 4 дня назад +1

    Yes 👍..i can relate

  • @jayjo77144
    @jayjo77144 3 дня назад

    Viper is correct

  • @joannturi3968
    @joannturi3968 3 дня назад

    Two words; Who cares. Two more words; So what.

  • @dustinpowell24
    @dustinpowell24 3 дня назад

    You definitely have a lot of knowledge though

  • @dustinpowell24
    @dustinpowell24 3 дня назад

    You're all up in Iowa

  • @scottsrcshop
    @scottsrcshop 18 часов назад

    Why does god let these things happen to us? I just wanted a special connection and to feel loved

  • @vC-wx9np
    @vC-wx9np 3 дня назад

    I dont care for him hes a looser and so fake he will only continue to loose

  • @ClownShot-kz5ru
    @ClownShot-kz5ru 4 дня назад +1

    Pop pop pop.

  • @Nightskystar32
    @Nightskystar32 4 дня назад +2

  • @dustinpowell24
    @dustinpowell24 3 дня назад

    Bro where did you get your psychology degree you should run anger management classes

  • @WomanUnhindered-t2w
    @WomanUnhindered-t2w 3 дня назад +1

    Maybe if men weren't so selfish, and brought more to the table, women would feel less stressed. We need safety given to us by real men who were allowed to hold down a real job without some type of blackmail situation. We don't need your bosses or workmates trying to seduce us or give us more money, to leave you or inform on you. We need real men.

  • @Grego-xz9pt
    @Grego-xz9pt 4 дня назад +2

    This is like a muscle power type of person oersoective. What about the skiny more delicate person type 🤔.

    • @ryank6322
      @ryank6322 4 дня назад +1

      You still need to take good care of your body and eat right, light exercise, sunlight, do things you enjoy, etc.

    • @Grego-xz9pt
      @Grego-xz9pt 4 дня назад

      @ryank6322 true but it gives your more flexibility it'd believe. Like more freedom. Its easier being submissive than dominant in thsi world tbh unless your on the top top

  • @ShinobiShaw
    @ShinobiShaw 4 дня назад +2

    Terry was it with your voice? A little groggy now dearie 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣, please try the avocado scrub cream, it works WONDERS for your skin, it’s very UN-PLE-SANT to see in its current condition 😁😁

  • @DustinD-h3i
    @DustinD-h3i 4 дня назад +3

    You always associate narcissists with relationship partners, but you should speak on them in general. As “partners” you get the picture, it’s all just shit. As people ie; colleagues friends enemies teachers etc, similar story, but more to go over.

  • @anthonymichaels257
    @anthonymichaels257 4 дня назад +1

    You crazy for posting that thumbnail. The internet is dangerous dude.