This is Why You're Attracted to Psychopaths
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- Опубликовано: 22 май 2024
- A video commentary/deep dive into the attraction/fascination into male "psychopathic" characters in various cinematic universes, what makes them appealing to us, and the introspective mind to use this attraction to explore shadow parts buried within the unconscious.
I realise now that I may have used the incorrect term to describe the majority of these characters. Nevertheless, they have "psychopathic" characteristics, are anti-heroes, or those that would be toxic in real life.
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TIMESTAMPS -
0:00 - INTRO & DISCLAIMER
01:01 - THE 3 Cs
01:38 - THE THRILL OF DANGER
03:41 - THE CHALLENGE TO CONVENTION
04:59 - THE ALLURE OF THE FORBIDDEN
06:23 - DELIGHT IN DUALITY
08:29 - THE HOPE AND FANTASY OF TRANSFORMATION
10:45 - CONCLUSION & END THOUGHTS
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Its also as simple as those leading bad guy roles are played by most attractive men ever. Not over complicated.
I think it’s more nuanced than that. Ever heard of attachment theory?
i made that joke at the end!
As somebody who doesn't really care about sex, that's not all that there is to it. The attractive normal guy is way less interesting to me
@@Jaguarkralle1 I wasnt saying the attraction to psychopathy and shadow is not a thing on its own, i was just saying those leading movie roles are also played by attractive men which adds a big part to the argument, thats all
@@Bastet32 Yeah that's definitely true
I loved this video! I've noticed I'm more suspectable to "falling in love" to this trope in anime characters, likely due to a greater suspension of disbelief compared to seeing a real actor, who reflects my humanity and makes me realize what I'm feeling.
ahhh interesting, maybe you are more attracted to the fantasy elements, i have the opposite of that as i relate less to their characters. although i used to love ash from pokemon when i was little LOL
I feel that with fictional characters in general. I could never understand how some women actually fall for real life serial killers like Ted Bundy etc cause that's just atrocious. But when it comes to fictional degenerates... count me in 😏😂
It reflects your humanity and you are scared to look into it. With fantasy, no matter how much immersed, you know that it's not real.
While with realism, it makes you wanna question everything and people want to avoid that.
Really curious video, went so much deeper than I expected
Very good analysis! I respect this a lot. The 'need to understand' and 'morbid curiosity' as well as being challenged to confront our perspectives on the world is very relatable. I also tend to like some of the most unhinged characters.
Hey, thank you so much! I appreciate the positive feedback. Haha me too, they're always so captivating and relatable for sure.
I am sociopathic in real life, diagnosed one with ASPD, schizoid by age 26 by 2 licensed psychologist and a lot people calling me ‘’deranged’’ when my mask slips. In my opinion girls should be little bit crazy too not like me though but little bit crazy, it’s more fun. But don’t be shocked when I expose my sadistic nature…Thanks for the video.
This video was really interesting, worth noting and remembering! Loved to see more :)
Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for your support :)
There is a saying that women date Batman but marry Superman: Damaged people are more interesting, but boring people are more stable.
I see what you're saying. At the same time, I believe we each have a desire for chaos and disorder when things become too harmonious. It's not necessarily "boring" people which are stable, but I think we must re-learn and re-programme our core beliefs to desire the ideal people for us and create a healthy chaos within that relationship.
I'm sorry for not being eloquent but all I have to say is that I enjoyed this video greatly as I find the subject matter interesting and your way of exploring it and explaining it engaging and entertaining. Thanks!
thank you so much for your support! I am glad you found it helpful :) what other topics would you be interested in learning about?
@@beth003 Frankly idk, but this video is by far my favorite one of yours so maybe something similar?? anyway i am happy with whatever u talk about so do what u like :)
Very well made psychoanalysis!
thank you sis, big love hearts
This video got recommended to me and now I see why. Your analysis is well-written with deeper intention behind it. I don't see many people your age who are more thoughtful and perceptive, it's nice to see it. Your difference stands out.
You connected well all segments with the main topic and possible reasons behind it.
I just have to correct you on one thing. There is no such thing as someone being a diagnosed psychopath/sociopath. It's officially called ASPD for antisocial personality disorder.
Despite the nature of the human brain to put labels on things and organize them, it's interesting how when someone is behaving out of norm, higher then usual and up, they are labeled as "crazy" or "psychopathic". Such people are not crazy at all, they know very well what they're doing.
Another paradox where human beings tend to enjoy such characters in media for any of the already mentioned reasons, but in real life they can't or don't want to grasp that such people exist. Not really as media portrays them, but they still do. With or without a disorder to call for. In fiction, there is a safe wall that separates "normal" people from "them". They can watch and observe from a safe space in full curiosity. In real life, they are dehumanized and hunted down, even when they don't do anything but just exist. Just a mere existence is enough to set normal people off in any way.
I'm also wondering about what you mentioned at the end, how people might be supressing their nature. Do you mean all of them or some? What were you alluding to?
If you take out fiction, what do you think of such people in real life?
Sorry for the long comment. It's an interesting topic and your video was worth a comment and discussion.
hey! thank you so much for your detailed comment/feedback. I will be working towards another video going into these psychoanalytical concepts/niche explorations further. you have given me some great ideas for analysis! :)
i’ve always likes guys that are just a little bit deranged, not complete psychopaths but definitely not sane, best case scenario i like guys like eddie from stranger things, weird and maybe crazy but not in a dangerous way
Nice!
Maca bree? Is macabre pronounced differently in the UK?
(Only guessing, as you sound British.)
*Didn't want to leave just that...i found the entire essay insightful and well-written. You have some good thoughts and know how to put them together. I have an English degree but only write for myself now, mini essays. I was listening while, ironically, coloring in a coloring book (with my 300 sharpies) as i do when i flip around youtube looking for something engaging. I subbed, and I'll be back to check out the rest of your content.
(One more thing: i used to have a little dog named Honey Bee, and i have "Bee" tattooed on my back, on my shoulder blade. Its the only tattoo i got in jail, years ago.)
thank you so much, this was a fun and unique comment! i'm glad you enjoyed and your dog sounded real sweet :) also yes i have no idea how you say macabre, i am British indeed.
this doesn't explain why the hero's journey is only applied to men, and thus the hope for salvation only arriving through the anima (the woman). but the whole jungian concept of anima/animus in relation to sex and gender is obviously schewed by patriarchal and femmephobic ideals, anyway.
if it's about the allure of the unknown, surely this curiousity should also be applied to men. and yet most men seem to be outwardly hateful of femininity (even if they seek it out and are seemingly attracted to it). it doesn't translate into the same humanising admiration (the search for what's inside).
i just think there has to be a deeper analysis of not only the philosphical/biological imperatives at play, but also the obvious fact that women have been socialised for generations to fawn before dangerous men, in order to survive.
hey Michelle, thank you so much your interesting insight. I will definitely look into this more. I am relatively new to these concepts so I would love to dig deeper and maybe do a part 2 or a different video on similar themes! :)
Sam Vaknin only covered this same topic a while ago. You like to lift information.
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I suggest you read ASOIAF cause it's sad when you talk about the show characters like they're real. Jaime was never evil; only reviled for his finest, most noble act. As much as I hate to admit it, his attack on Bran was justified, given the time period, the feudal system they live in, general child mortality and protecting his own (one grandfather. one grandmother) kids.
i really want to read it! i've heard it's very different to the show. i love hearing your opinion, i agree however i think we only see the actual value that came seasons later. my point was that in the moment he was depicted as a dishonourable man and no not "evil", but as we see his journey and his reasons to do what he does "for love", we are able to empathise more with him. except i really did not like his arc in the final season lol
@@beth003 DavidReadsAsoiaf has a decent reading. I listen to it a lot. I do like Jaime charging Drogon and Danny in the caravan schene in season 7, i believe, with only one hand. Too bad that he lives. Season 8 was a blank check for D&D, they had no incentive to do anything of worth. I personally only made it about five minutes into the first episode of season 8 and i lost all interest. I'm largely not a fan of the show. and dont get me started on the new star wars movies. it's ridiculous.
Maybe not evil, but definitely very, very morally corrupt. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy Jamie as a character, but I wouldn’t say he’s “noble” or his actions are necessarily “justified”. I don’t think it matters how he killed Aerys Bc he was a cruel tyrant, but I also don’t think his intentions were 100% noble, I think 90% of his motivation for killing him was self-interest and maybe the other 10% to save everyone else a horrible fate. Acting in your own self-interest is not why I think he’s morally corrupt, especially given the setting/environment. So things like attempting to kill Bran (and effectively crippling him), killing Olenna Tyrell, killing Ned’s men in the street, the slaughter at Highgarden, everything with the wildfire, carrying out the wills of Cersei/Tywin/Jeoffrey you could argue are understandable (not justified, but understandable) in regards to self-preservation and protecting his family, things he maybe didn’t want to do but felt he had to do. This would be enough imo to prove at the very least that he is not a good person.
Here’s why I think he’s a little worse than just not a good person:
- He kills his cousin for little reason or care.
- He didn’t try to to be a role model/mentor for his children, even as an uncle and not the father he was, never tried to correct Jeoffrey’s behavior or Cersei’s enabling
- He sticks with Cersei after everything she does including trying to kill their brother
- He acts flippant and reckless when it comes to being caught w Cersei, saying he’ll kill Robert or Ned if they are caught and leading to him “having to” try to kill Bran
- He is happy for his brother for having a literal child-bride
- He says he not only wants to marry Cersei, but secure a pure bloodline like the Targaryens by marrying his niece/daughter to his cruel and psychopathic nephew/son
- He consistently puts himself and Cersei in compromising positions against her discretion and at times against her will.
- ^^ He raped Cersei at least once, arguable more than once if you count her telling him “no” and him ignoring her even if she “gives in”.
- ^^ He raped Cersei at their son’s wake, next to his corpse......
These are all things he’s said or done that weren’t “necessary evils”, just Jamie being Jamie - a morally corrupt person. But I mean, most of the characters in the series are and their flaws make them feel more real.