The Impostor Syndrome
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- Опубликовано: 18 июн 2024
- What holds us back from being more confident at work is often a sense that we are fundamentally different from those who succeed. We suffer - needlessly - from The Impostor Syndrome.
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As some smart person said, we see our blooper reel and othets' highlights reel.
Nicely Put 👌
indeed!
nice.
good one!!
Blooper reel. I like that.
When I was 15 years old, I always imagined adults at 20s would be doing big things and getting their lives in order. Now that I am in my mid-20s, I feel so stupid for having thought about it that way. I talked to my friends who are in their 30s, being moms and dads, they still sometimes are little insecure children inside not knowing what to do. I then realized that age has nothing to do with our living and archieving, there is no right or wrong way to live a life, and life will all be filled with both happiness, sadness, humiliation, appreciation, etc.
Then I started to feel less scared.
I love this comment. I needed to read this. As a woman just turnt 30 and feel I have done nothing accomplishable in life, always makes me feel so low and like I want to hide. But your right, doesn't matter the age, if I sit and think about it, I know people older then me that still dont have the shit together. We are all just walking along hoping and doing our best :)
It is good that younger people can tap into this wealth of knowledge now, because it could lead to a much brighter and more fulfilled life. I only came across an explanation for what imposter syndrome was, at about 55. It took me several more years of psychological gymnastics to eventually unshakle myself from it. I have not looked back since then, thankfully, because my life was so myserable. I feel that this syndrome is a key characteristic of left leaning types which l was much of my life. I think l must have held a grudge against those who were can-do types, because l was a no l can't do it, it is useless trying, type of person, and that was dangerous, because l thought the can-do's were not taking all the bad stuff going on in the world serously, but ii is just that they were calm about.
Self therapy at its peak. Everybody has different mindsets which have been shaped differently or else I'd wish everybody could realize this on their own.
Thanks for sharing I'm 15 and I also think people in their 20s are mature and stuff. 😂
i was wondering if that had something to do with our generation...
now i guess the only relation it has with our generation is that we have a thing for trying to communicate how we feel, rather than suck it up and pretend we dont have traumas.
maybe newer generations are fast to get all the technology things, but we are the ones still exploring the internal side of us.
i see it in arbitrary things as people my age not wanting to have kids because they are insecure about parenting...
It’s weird isn’t it, I worked so hard to get straight A’s on my exams, yet I still don’t feel like I deserve it.
This is exactly what I feel everyday of my life. Thank you for saying that
I get good grades and i always think that im not smart,its just that others are dumb.
Yup! Felt this
I make good music but I feel like im not that good
I don't know about other people, but I feel like an imposter because I feel like I'm not living a life true to my authentic self. I pretend to be someone other people will accept rather than who I want to be.
kylerm18 who would you like to be? I can definitely relate to that, and it's one of the toughest feelings ever
I worked hard to be a unique kind of person so that i can be ok with myself, now i feel like im so different from other people i cant make friends i cant find a job
Same here
@@preciousvicious9025 cant a job? But if you are skilled in a field amd keep searching you gonna find it sooner or later
If you feel this way and know you do this, the question you need to ask yourself is why. Why do you feel like an imposter? Why are you not living as your authentic self? Why do you pretend to be someone others will accept rather than being yourself? Why? It is up to you and within you to change this. As simple as that sounds, it is the hardest thing for many to do. Most people do not want to go deep enough within themselves to answer that question of why, however, that is exactly how they will begin to feel better and gradually become who they wish to be. Just something to think about.
I am a life coach in Rochester, NY. Helping others to find their authenticity and build a life from there, is exactly what I coach people on. I also published a workbook that helps individuals grow their authenticity. If you are interested, you can check it all out at my website at www.selfempowermentcoaching.com
Anyone else feel like this video came in a perfect point in their life?
yeah, kind weird.
yes
Yes
yep.
Im always comparing myself to others and this video is perfect for my life at the moment
Bravo ! I love my time with my internet therapist .
same here and the sessions are free
You don't pay for internet?
lol, that's the best way to describe this channel, and I love this channel.
Luís Bernardo lol knew someone would pick that up...purposely left that out to see who would bring it up
Alley Cat Got me! :D
Everyone is broken. My life changed when I accepted that.
Expectations are the problem.
Accept thing how they are, nothing is like you think they are.
Life is running by obsession and instincts.
Be good and do good.
This is true. Everyone’s got their own shit. But let me tell ya something that exacerbates it all: effin goddam social media. It serves to embolden social comparison and perpetuate peoples anxieties and insecurities. I deleted fbook in 2012. I haven’t looked back since and I will never re-register. Never
Esmour Mayne it’s why social media inherently exists. Which is why I don’t have it nor advocate for it.
Bullshit. Even people, who had horrible experiences, aren't usually "broken". Furthermore you are an organism, not a bike, so you can normally recover.
@Isidro MacKazmeyer amwhy do i find that funny😂
this is why you stay away from social media
Exactly!
Spot on!
A matter of moderation
Preah - cisely!
Hmm?
This video summed up in 6 minutes and 47 seconds what has been going through my mind for the last few years...
Same it's scary
Same..
Same...
Same...
dear god, same
I always walk away from conversations feeling like an idiot and thinking about all the stupid things I said, etc., when it suddenly hit me! What if the person I was talking to is walking away thinking the same things about themselves? Even though they didn't say anything silly! What if they have regret for things they didn't say or poorly worded sentences? It was a crazy a-ha moment, let me tell you.
i don't know what is more attractive...ur social awkwardness or your cute face
Depends.
Yeah I feel that. I’ve gotten better over the years. But if I smoke weed and try and socialize almost no matter what I’ll end feeling that way, dumb af 🤣
Out of all the different possibilities which exist, there is a correct path to follow. Yet we live our lives as if it's a rough draft; never seeing the correct path until it's too late, knowing that if we could just do it again we'd follow the correct path
To me, no one can ever be capable of doing wrong except me.
"We know ourselves from the inside but we know others only from the outside"
Myself it's a little sussy
DON'T SORT THE COMMENTS BY NEW
WORST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE
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Lmao
@@ukiyozuki5721 cry about it dumbass
@@blagoevski336 ok 😶
@@ukiyozuki5721 sus
I get a thrill out of being an imposter. It's funny to me that anybody trusts me to do anything.
I really hope you're not a pilot or surgeon.
What a good idea.
+Massimo O'Kissed lol
What a feeling, eh?
Fake it till you make it baby.
man some of these videos are really hitting home
Indeed
absolutely.
go back to tf2 ;)
Look at your avatar man… there's your fail… this video is simply telling you to join the Socialist collective, you folks who no longer have the ability to be different. So what the hell is this guy saying? That we are the same? That's all you people already do, with your mobile devices in hand, emulating your generalized tropes and memes… so move in the opposite direction! Be different than the other jerks around you!
what
I feel like an impostor daily and I always seem to sabotage myself by focusing on these negative thoughts. I wish I could vent to someone about my feelings.
I dont recommend venting, you might get eject
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*Here, we have someone who has caught the impostor syndrome.
This is caused by overexposure to Among Us memes. Causing anything said or or similar looking to the game, to be (quoted by people with the syndrome) “sus.”
If you’re trying to comfort a friend or loved one with impostor syndrome, try not to do ANYTHING wrong.
“Heck, people could kill my entire family and I’m forced to maniacally laugh against my will and all I can do is say ‘red sus’!” One stated.
Now this may seem like harmless joke, but according to Jerma, “It all started as so innocent, I used to see something and be like, ‘Oh, that’s looks like something from Among Us! That’s a cool reference.’ But now it’s an uncontrollable insane laugh, when I look at ANYTHING- I see it.”
In order to prevent Impostor Syndrome, follow these steps:
DON’T look at your fingernails or toenails.
DON’T look up the scientific name for pig.
Try not to smile, because most people who smile have the syndrome, so this could make you look like you have it. The reason for this is because you could accidentally make the “sus” face. (Please note: This could also cause you or anyone around you to contract the virus.)
Try not to look at anything red, this may activate a pattern.
Discourage yourself from saying the following words, ESPECIALLY around loved ones with Impostor Syndrome. This could make recovery more difficult, and could cause you to contract the virus also.
“Sus”
“Meeting”
“Vent”
“Red”
“Impostor”
“Emergency”
“Cams”
And DO NOT say “Among Us” as this is the ultimate trigger. You may be using this in a casual conversation, so use “between us” as an alternative.*
@@subwaytails8732 the effort in this essay-like comment is scary as hell
@@Exc4Iibur 😆😆
Its easy to understand this, but so much more harder to accept and practice it in everyday life!
Krithika Lakshmanan everything that’s worth something is
Perfectly said
This is fifth time I'm coming back to this video.
It's not easy at all!
You're speaking my heart out 🤦♂️
The root of returning back to yourself lies in the present moment, stay Mindful and your true identity will shine
I felt this way with every job I've had. An imposter for that role.
Me too. Now I just say it's the blind leading the blind.
You should consider turning to communism.
Indeed, basically all of humanities endeavors are at least somewhat the blind leading the blind i would suppose. But perhaps that's not a bad thing. I would think it means humanity has an adventurous collective mind.
you work so you dont have to kill a gazelle every week to feet your forest family of twelve. Work is a means to stay alive, dont think too intensely about it. Everyone is faking it, and everyone is ok with that and expects it. say, if I was a dentist. But deep in my heart I was a hippy. Would you like it if I walked in with a beard and tie die shirt to work on your mouth? Absolutely not. Same goes for Lawyers or anything. But does this stop you from being you? No! You just need to conquer the thought you have to be anything but yourself. We can all be hippies ln the inside, nothing can stop that.
Thing is, people who know little and are somewhat ignorant, think they know it all. It's because they don't realize how much more there is.
People who know a lot, well educated (formally or informally), think they know very little. It's because they realize how much is out there.
I guess I'm responding to the 'expert' portion of your comment.
My Dad always seemed so together. He told me one day “Do you think I’ve always been this way” I loved my Dad! The best man I’ve ever known
Moral of the story, everybody poops.
the number of times this narator has mentioned 'sexual fantasizes about relatives' on this channel is making me suspicious
bcuz it might perhaps be more common than we think, though even the people having the fantasies may reject their thoughts afterwards. but because of our mind relating certain things to sexual behaviour or feeling, our mind makes that connection without considering who it is.
People tend to take Frued either far too seriously, or give him minor credit. Kinda like "he was on the right track."
He wasn't.
I guess we'll never know what goes on inside each other's heads. But if scientists ever invent a device that enables us to all listen to each other's thoughts, it'll be a very, very different world indeed.
Everyone used to react exactly the same way about homosexuality. Deny deny deny. And they'd believe it with just as much conviction. We have to. We're spineless herd animals at the end of the day.
Only when the stigma vanishes surrounding any topic can we begin to gauge it's prevalence!
@@Ironmaniacs7 yeah, you arent credible.
At what time did he talk about that? I must have missed it 🤔
4:22 ....seriously, who grabs just one piece? I don't like getting shit on my hands, personally.
I feel you, brother, this is just unacceptable...
You know there are countries in the world that sell 4-ply toilet paper right? And if your problem is with the size of the single piece of paper, then you must have a fat ass, 'cause I've never had a problem with it.
bruh. like, T H I C C.
+Renee Rehe i use 3 sheets of 3-ply toilet paper for each wipe.
3 pieces. Brah, I use an entire toilet role XD
Yeah I have the same problem! The story goes as this:
STOP POSTING ABOUT AMONG US! I'M TIRED OF SEEING IT! MY FRIENDS ON TIKTOK SEND ME MEMES, ON DISCORD IT'S SUSSY MEMES! I was in a server, right? and ALL OF THE CHANNELS were just among us stuff. I-I showed my champion underwear to my girlfriend and t-the logo I flipped it and I said "hey babe, when the underwear is sus HAHA DING DING DING DING DING DING DING DI DI DING" I looked at a trashcan and said "THAT'S A BIT SUSSY". I looked at my pc screen I think of an astronauts helmet and I go "PC? MORE LIKE PCSUS" AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHGESFG
pretty susi ngl
For someone who grew up with a lot of social anxiety, this realisation was the most beautiful and calming thing
Good to hear mate 💪💪
what miserable creature can dislike such a masterpiece?!
Creature who dont accept his imposter syndrome.
Creatures who are experiencing the Dunning and Kruger effect
...and you are wathching a video with Freudian psicoanalisis because...?
+Дамјан Гњидић lol
Maybe they believe they aren't good enough to like it
the school of life: please consider a podcast would love it:)
Yes! great idea.
I wanna recommend The School of Greatness and Invisibilia :)
+Sammy King Hey
Yesyesyes!
I'll get a Kickstar going for this if I have to #bestideayet
I have Among Us Syndrome
One of my greatest foes. This stuck with me throughout my academic career right up to handing in my final paper for my master's degree. I honestly still held the belief that, although I was an 'A' student, my final paper would be the one in which I was finally found out.
AMONG US
Sussy baka
holy shit,looks like my future self has written this comment.
interesting. although I have heard of the imposter syndrome in another context, namely trying to downplay your own success, saying that that what you have achieved is obviously achievable for everyone, but the things others have achieved are by far more challenging.
I actually tell myself the opposite when faced with adversity. I arrogantly state to myself that "if someone else were capable of it, then so am I, for I am no more or no less competent than any of my colleagues". Although it isn't always true, it helps boost my confidence and ambition and overall makes me try new things :)
I certainly feel what your definition of the imposter syndrome describes. I think it comes from having a childhood where I was always compared to others that were "greater" or accomplished "more" than I did.
God! That's what I always think. Wish I could read more about the phenomena
i think this was where i read about it! www.nature.com/naturejobs/science/articles/10.1038/nj7587-555a
I read in a previous comment about the same and one of the people who replied said that both are part of it just two different sides. I am not sure if this is true but I think it is a logical explanation.
this world would be a very different place if the majority of people were so driven to this kind of introspection.
Many are, they are just embarrassed to admit it.
+I'll Tell Ya What well then let's start speaking up
THIS. Try and speak your mind with your family, friends, people in the street, everybody. Just try. I don't have to prove and state anything here. Just be curious and try.
Imposter syndrome then: serious
Imposter syndrome now: SUS SUS SUS
I feel like an imposter whenever I hear the word sus
Amogus
sussy baka
Big chungus
This is by far the best channel on youtube, trying to be as non judgemental as possible, informative and inspiring. There is a lot of hateful, racist, anger and trolling on the internet, people seem to waste their energy and time doing this (I do get angry sometimes when I think that some comments are without foundation; of course I do, but I don't vent or react on it to total strangers on the internet. That's a recipe for disaster and end up in a verbal pile of twaddle). I for one would recommend to explore the "school of life" to redirect some of that wasted energy on thinking about the topics discussed. It is such a breeze to discover that humanity is not only about hate, anger. I don't often comment on-line but I have to on this occasion because it makes me smile and happy. It makes me realise that there are still a lot of wise, compassionate down to earth people around who appreciate the beauty, intelligence and power of the human being.I try to understand why this channel has dislikes, however, this is what "the school of life" is also about; to try to understand why we are all different. This channel shows the great benefits of the internet. Many thanks and keep me thinking and above all; smiling. I am in love with the guy's voice and accent as well ;)
We're delighted to hear your kind words. Thank you.
My sincere pleasure, I am looking at your website to buy some nice and unusual items as a Christmas present for my best friends. They will appreciate the "different" yet the "to expected" philosophical gifts in life as I see it. Some of my friends call me crazy (or weird, they probably mean different. Just a guess) well someone has to be. Otherwise there would be no place for the word "crazy/weird" if everyone would act "normal". ;)
Why don't you converse with them and find out why someone believes something other than what you do? Dismissing someone just because they fit in with a "popular term" is degenerate, and only further degrades the priority issues of our society. If we actually took the time and communicated with one another, then maybe they or we will find themselves/ourselves with a bit more of an understanding of our problems, or their own, etc. If it were "wheelist" to say that it would be better to put circular wheels on a wagon rather than square wheels - and everyone refused to talk about it, then how would we ever find out that a circular shape works best for a wagon moving on a flat surface?
Just because something is uncomfortable to talk about, or society has trained you to think a topic is "wrong" does not necessarily mean something *is* wrong. Think for yourself for a change
Madam/Sir I don't think that I dismissed or mentioned right or wrong in my comment. Neither did I say that I agree or disagree with popular terms. of course some things upset me or make me angry as stated in my previous comment. However, it's not right or wrong because I say or feel so. Some views make people uncomfortable or angry that's just the way it is, whatever the reason.Terms will be used popular or not and I think; it is to indicate rather than to degenerate; in the case of The school of life.I have no problem with people who have different ideas, lifestyles etc. as long as they convey them in a reasonable and non offensive way because that only instigates aggression and can lead to physical violence or worse still. I also think a lot for myself and try to understand the world around me; my dad used to say to me; son, if you want to make the world a better place start with yourself. I am working on it.If I may give a piece of advise; use "I" or "I feel" and "we" or "society" etc. when reacting on a comment. Using "you" might come across as pointing a "judgemental finger" or might feel as a "personal attack" and/or feel "unpleasant" which it does to me. I think that this is exactly what we want to avoid in our exchange of thoughts here.I always try to remember this important detail when I react on a comment on the internet that the other person is a total stranger and doesn't know me. It is not like having a discussion with a friend or family member who knows, tolerates and understand me most of the time. They might even tolerate my shouting or grumpy attitude. A total stranger will not I am afraid. I try to be as careful as I can when I comment; to do it in a reasonable, non aggressive way. I hope I succeeded this time around.
Pietro Bembo throughly agree
This is BRILLIANT. Is there any problem in copying this and using it in an educational environment?
government doesn't care about poor children you have to teach kids yourself
+The School of Life are you a therapist or have a degree in psychology?
Just use an apa citation for the video.
I work in a secure environment with no internet access - the only way I can show this to my learners is to copy it onto a memory stick and upload it onto our on-site education intranet. This is what I mean by copying - not to distribute it further.
In fact, there are several of your videos I would consider using, so it would be nice to know if you approve or otherwise of this use of your work in the general sense. Of course, the video would not be altered, The School of Life would be credited etc..
Hello there Zentacus! His name is Alain de Botton. One of the greatest thinkers of our time. Besides he is the best " teacher of life" I know. His entire work has a life changing quality. You can read his books, listen to his TED talks ( and many other talks) and watch his documentaries too. He has another youtube channel where you can find those documentaries. Just search for " Status Anxiety", you'll find the channel. If you want to start with one book, I would highly recommend " The Consolations of Philosophy". Have a nice evening. Best wishes:-)
Thank you, School of Life (sincerely) , for never failing to make me feel slightly less abnormal.
Please don't put the comments on "newest first" 💀
2 late bro
Too late
Sus
Amogus
Sus
Loved this video! As a child I always dreamt how I had to drive a car and had no idea how, that was basically my biggest fear.
I think we should all be more open about our failures, anxieties, insecurities, imperfections. Everything would be so much easier then. Instead, most people try so hard to constantly sell others a perfect picture of themself. Why so much pressure? Why so much perfection?
That's why I absolutely love people who can laugh about themself, who tell awkward stories about them openly, without any regret and with a smile instead. It's about time to embrace your imperfections with pride!
Please do a video about comparing yourself to other people. PLEASE
Hello there Sammy! They have one called: " The uses of Envy". You could also be interested in these videos they have:
1. Self Esteem
2. Self Compassion
3. Losers and Tragic Heroes
Have a nice evening!
You deleted my comment when no one insulted you. All I stated was that this entire video was about comparing yourself to other people.
v
I recommend Markiplier's video "Believe in Yourself" for the topic :) It made me feel happy
Yesss please. I always do it, and it makes me feel horrible tbh.
Comments then: I / a person I know has this, I / they sometimes find it hard to deal with but with help I am / they are aware that their achievements do matter and that I am / they are not a fraud.
Comments now: sus
true
What does sus mean
@@katherinekier sus means sus
when the self esteem is sus
Why.
THIS IS WHY FANS ARE TERRIBLE TOWARDS CREATORS.
Pikapetey shits too?
It's a possibility. Glad to see you here too!
no
"fans"
"creators"
Another extremely educational and therapeutic video
And I have in love with the narrator's voice
*have been
FYI. 'I am in love' means now and forever in love. 'have been in love' means in the past, I was in love with the narrator's voice but I am not in love with it now. ;-)
Same.
Everyone is an imposter therefore no one is an imposter.
That's not how it works....
Could be true!
this!
Not really
thank god
Nigga please.
Amongus imposter! 😂😂😂😂😂
I just want to say I love these videos
They got me out of severe depression into a place where Im studying full time, working full time and Im actively participating in sport again. Thank you so much
Please keep the videos coming
Everyone who works on this challenge should be immensely proud of themselves for making such an important and positive impact on the lives of others
channel*
So that's how the imposters feels in the game.
XD
. 。 • ﾟ 。 .
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ﾟ Red was not An Impostor. 。 .
' 1 Impostor remains 。
ﾟ . . , . .
WHEN THE IMPOSTER IS SUS 😳
@palm tree hmmm.. That's a bit sus.
sus!
I've been strugling with this thoughts lately, and feel overwhelmed sometimes, I didn't know it has a name but what I know is the fact that there is no Difference between a CEO and me in terms of our human condition with fears, problems, etc. I'm learning everyday, one step at a time, to overcome this feelings that drags me backward and make no good to me at all.
The toxicity of our lives is really mediated by thought
-Sam Harris
Do you agree with that?
Well by the contrary I also believe the happiness of our lives are mediated by thought.
That's because everything that you think, feel, and experience is mediated by thought, that's the point, that's why you have a brain.
Alexander Edward indeed. Experience, in its essence is just pure consciousness.
And that ability to experience is what I believe to be the only thing that makes us unique individuals. There's nothing that can really distinguish your _soul_, for a lack of a better word, from another, apart from the fact that no other _soul_ is right were you are, seeing exactly what you're seeing exactly how you are seeing it, and processing it exactly as you are. Your uniqueness comes from your continued existence. Everything else is just a parameter.
This video right here just made me so much more happier and confident in myself. That childhood experience was identical to mine and made me grow up thinking I was different from everyone. Thank you
It’s the loneliness. It makes us weak
You took the words out of my mouth Alex. I feel lonely too. Take care. M
Me too. It really is horrible
Do something about it
I think loneliness strength you
If you feel adequate with your self during the lonely period, not a lot of things can get to you afterwards. It really does strengthen you. Because you are your own worst enemy, and dealing with one's self it's way harder than with others.
I just found out Imposter Syndrome today. And weirdly enough, I laugh maniacally when I've read it and realize how it accurately describes me! It's like a feeling of exhilaration. I don't know, maybe I just feel more secure knowing that I'm not alone.
The School of Life is my therapist
Oh, he also forgot to mention that no one has any idea what the fuck they are talking about ever!
i'd beg otherwise... not sure if you're using your personal experiences and putting everyone into that box, but I at least know what I mean when I state opinions. It's not possible to conclude that all the writers and poets didn't know what they meant after all...
+Wild4lon Im mostly kidding.
*SUS SYNDROME* I CANT FUCKING TAKE IT ANYMORE IM GOING INSANE
This vid relieves the self-loath I've been feeling for years, thanks for making it!
This video is so so important to me, I need to watch it several times a week to keep reminding myself
This is what is holding me back from success in virtually every aspect of my life. Feeling this way has shaped who I am today. I turn 30 this year and I don't feel any more adult-like than I did when I turned 18. I consider my 20's a "second adolescence". I've been doing my damndest to avoid "being an adult" because I just don't consider myself one.
4:25... who uses one sheet of toilet paper?
I do if I only peed. just fold it & tap, that's usually enough. most people use way too much toilet paper
チョコ人形 I guess you get quality toilet paper. My dad buys 2 ply, so if I was to use a single sheet, my fingers would get soaked with pee. I'm glad you don't have to use too much
Who hasn’t tried (and failed) using only on sheet of toilet paper?
I use half a roll cuz i don't wanna touch shit
Is this all you got from this?
It's also very sus
Rich people bring their kids up to make this phenomenon work in their favour.
Privilege breeds confidence and apparent competence, even when it's not actually there.
Literarely one of my friend
Yeah, but the sheltered upper middle class is the worst, at least someone in a rich family probably remembers what hardship and sacrifice is
Rich kids may not have to sacrifice or work hard to succeed, but I think they are often very unhappy regardless. I'm not sure the confidence they often show is deep, healthy, or true confidence. It's more likely a facade.
I ain't no damn Imposter! Do you know anyone who loves propane and mowing lawns nearly as much as me? I'm a special little snowflake, I'll yell ya what.
Xenotra Make that 36 bitch, here comes the Hank Flake.
+Hank Hill underrated comment
*hwat
bwaaahh
I can't imagine Hank calling himself a 'little snowflake,' but you made me laugh. I think he's oblivious to the fact that he's one of God's special people too.
It's kind of crazy how accurate this was for me
I think I have the impostor syndrome, I always vent and fail to do tasks
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This is a really great explanation of how it feels. Imposter Syndrome can be so difficult to overcome.
Any creative regardless of job will understand this intimately!
The best self-help video I have ever seen. We have been told that we lack self-esteem, or that we need role models. It was all wrong! We need to realise the imperfection of others and ourselves alike.
After I suffered a mental breakdown in college and then diagnosed with a neurological condition, for many years I suffered what I suppose you could call imposter syndrome. I felt all my academic achievements leading up to getting into and finishing college were just massive flukes, and that my undiagnosed hidden disability and learning difficulties should have stopped me from getting that far. I even left my college years off my resume when applying for minimum wage jobs because I felt nobody would believe I was college material. I gave myself no credit whatsoever. It wasn’t until about 12 years later I was finally able to look back on this early period of my life and appreciate all that I had done and the stories I could be telling people instead of short changing myself.
I don't wanna look at the comments
Dont sort by newest
thats sussy
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WHEN THE IMPOSTOR IS A MANTAL DISEASE😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳😳
Sus!
@@headphonelinetheearthcolor890 from among us!
@@yumilee7347 wholsome 100 bigchungus keanu reeves moment
@@belovedinsomniac AMUNG susM from among us sus!
Among 😱 us 😼 in 😍 real 😏 life 😛 sus 🥶 sus🥵
I am in love with these videos. Thank you so much for these.
Also, I am genuinely surprised at how polite and nice people are to each other in the comments, honestly a lovely change.
incredible video, can't speak to just how much it's changed my mind in the shortterm, but this could genuinely change the way i see the people around me with time, the "everybody poops" thing is so weirdly perfect for this sort of thing, its seems stupid but unironically has meaning to it, everyone has moments that are really kinda ugly, be it emotional, mental, or social, and that's weirdly beautiful in a way, everyone has regrets, everyone has some sort of relationship to sexuality, everyone has self-doubt, even as tough as it is to imagine its just true.
Assuming other people think the same that you do is just as insane as assuming that everyone is better than you.
"The leap of faith that says others minds work much the same ways our do", not exactly the same, but you aren't that special probably
You speak the truth
The journey of life teaches just that! Most people do think alike!
It's not about assuming that everyone thinks the same as you, but about assuming that they also have fears, weaknesses, an inner darkness etc.
Rannos22 fluffy cat
STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT
Here, we have someone who has caught the impostor syndrome.
This is caused by overexposure to Among Us memes. Causing anything said or or similar looking to the game, to be (quoted by people with the syndrome) “sus.”
If you’re trying to comfort a friend or loved one with impostor syndrome, try not to do ANYTHING wrong.
"Heck, people could kill my entire family and I’m forced to maniacally laugh against my will and all I can do is say ‘red sus’!” One stated.
Now this may seem like harmless joke, but according to Jerma, “It all started as so innocent, I used to see something and be like, ‘Oh, that’s looks like something from Among Us! That’s a cool reference.’ But now it’s an uncontrollable insane laugh, when I look at ANYTHING- I see it.”
In order to prevent Impostor Syndrome, follow these steps:
DON’T look at your fingernails or toenails.
DON’T look up the scientific name for pig.
Try not to smile, because most people who smile have the syndrome, so this could make you look like you have it. The reason for this is because you could accidentally make the “sus” face. (Please note: This could also cause you or anyone around you to contract the virus.)
Try not to look at anything red, this may activate a pattern.
Discourage yourself from saying the following words, ESPECIALLY around loved ones with Impostor Syndrome. This could make recovery more difficult, and could cause you to contract the virus also.
"Sus”
“Meeting”
“Vent”
“Red”
“Impostor”
“Emergency”
“Cams”
And DO NOT say “Among Us” as this is the ultimate trigger. You may be using this in a casual conversation, so use “between us” as an alternative.
@@Exc4Iibur thanks a bunch for the advice doc, I'll try my best to follow these steps.
@@bear5062 no problem, please try to avoid all of these. Keep this among us, okay? :)
I love this channel, it makes me feel that there are a bunch of others with doubts, errors and it's ok to be you.
Thanks so much for the videos of this channels. They are like therapy to me.
No, I'm pretty sure I'm still a loser
hey me too
That's makes three of us.
Are you sure you are not also an imposter loser? Trying or lack thereof to success making your self feel inadequate?
Marauder Shields no....i'm a loser
***** I'm fat enough, no thanks
I feel very isolated. I can't find a job. I don't know what to do next in my life. Therefore, everybody looks down on me. I've lost all my creative abilities and I can't even pass a test.
You're smart enough to be looking for solutions. I'd recommend not worrying so much and spend more time doing things. The more I ruminate about the past and future the worse off I am personally. When I do things that occupy my mind things are just way better.
Been there as well. Best to just let it slide. I'd recommend travelling (if you can afford to), and "forcing" yourself to work on your creative abilities every day.
I had a period like that, where I just gave up on everything I liked. It was garbage. But I forced myself to get back into what I liked, started playing and learning music again, etc...
Today I finished my exams, I've passed the entry test for a sound-engineering school that I'm going to, and in a month or so I'm moving out of my hometown to go live (and work) away from my roots. Fresh new start :)
Hope you'll grow out of it and that things will get better soon. Good luck out there ;)
How old are you, friend?
Thank you so much. I really needed that. I appreciate it so much.
thank you, I guess I really needed that :)
You have no idea how much I need to hear this.
When the imposter is sus! 😳
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OMG this was one of the most incredible film that I've ever seen about human behaviour. Thank you!
I feel this so much.. I didn't know this has a name. I'm scared to tell anyone about my Imposter Syndrome coz I feel nobody's gonna believe me.
I've been told before by my family that I'm making things up or over exaggerating. It's difficult to explain this to people.
I have always been a top achiever right from school to University. I feel like I'm going to be exposed some day. By my teachers, and friends. This fear literally eats into me.
I feel like I'm not doing enough too. I don't have a life tbh.
I love reading the thoughtful comments in SOL videos. It's really encouraging to see people thinking about this subject matter earnestly
thanks so much for this video. i definitely have some kind of imposter syndrome, and as a way to justify it or lessen it i would comfort myself by thinking about my grades (was such a terrible idea) and by thinking i was better than others. i can not emphasise enough how toxic this is! please no one do this to yourselves. love yourself for who you are, with all your brokenness without comparison to others!
@Jοe Biden thanks uncle Joe
WHEN THE CREWMATE HAS SYNDROME😳😳😳😳
amongus
I knew I gonna see a comment like this
@@dragon237 sussy
This video is literally perfect. I've needed to hear this for years now and only just realised it. Thank you for this. :)
I think part of this attitude has to do with being pushed into a specific group/ethnical identity. It's a sort of victim mindset that can only be relinquished by accepting ones failures, anxieties etc. and start setting goals to improve for the future! Great video!
Having said that, I can't help but link you guys to a video essay we made about this subject (God absolve me from the sin of this shameless plug).
u have 666 subscribers
Ah, I see you've discovered the truth then... Come to me and let go of your false God
(Actually 673 now, but youtube all about that satanism)
Are you Jewish?
I realized we're all similar after reading "everybody poops" at the age of 3.
Me too
Me:
"Ask google tricks about finding the imposter in Among Us"
RUclips 5 min later:
"This video was provided to you by RUclips targetting"
RUclips was the impostor
0 Impostors remain
@@jesselukas55idontuploadasm21 your phone is an imposter
-1 imposters remain
@@mohammadazad8350 Google was the sus
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but our culture rewards impostors. in fact a good deal of successful people really are, to some extent, impostors, and that feeling would be entirely adequate.
society as a whole buys into the delusions we have about paragons and professionals, and that creates very, very damaging expectations.
All thanks to antiMarxist capitalism.
sthoverthere
preach on brother
dont know how its good,if you could explain a little bit more
It about gaining wealth of peace of mind, whichnt be provided by rewards of society
sthoverthere Absolutely
I'm so pleased I discovered this channel.
SUS
This is truly a piece of art. Superbly explained and described. I sincerely appreciate and admire how the words are put together in such a clever way. I also love the way you use middle age philosophers', paintors' and authors' quotes and masterpieces for examples. It must have taken years of learning. And the artist's work is no less admirable. Your team is great and I wish that you go through any hard time with understanding and ease.
...and yes, this video and kind explanation of why i feel how i feel was EXACTLY what i needed now. Thank you for making this happen! So glad i found this channel!
Thank you, I needed to hear that just now.
This video scarily tells me a lot about my own life. Great video
I adore this man's voice and how calm and articulate the voice overs are. thank you. well written and well animated too
Kinda sus though
*WTF*. These thoughts have been filling my head these last few days o_O Perfect timing
same!!
same, been really struggling at work!
yeaaa