Kelly Rowland And Her Dad Open Up About Reconnecting After 30 Years
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- Опубликовано: 21 сен 2024
- Originally aired 3/15/2022. After having no contact with her father for more than 30 years, Kelly Rowland opens up about her journey to connect with him later in life. Her father, Christopher Lovett, joins TODAY as the pair reflect on building a bond now. Lovett shares “I wanted to tell Kelly that I love her and that I never gave her up.”
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I like what Kelly said about giving grace to our parents and that once we become parents, it is possible that we do things unintentionally that our kids would disagree with. No one is perfect. It is important to be gracious and forgive.
It’s true. I see my mother in a totally different light now that I’m a mother
@sav sav Well, for those who want to become parents, we hope and pray God that they become parents! 💛
I so agree...many of us forget this or do not consider that our parents are people too. That they need understanding and we all are going to make errors from time to time.
IN OTHER WORDS, HE WAS A COWARD!
@sav sav u may gain perspective from just aging ; but I can say becoming a parent completely shifted my view on parents
My mom was killed on my 5th or 6th b day over 47 years ago and I could never find forgiveness for her because of the lifestyle that I thought she lived, but after watching this video it feels like a lightbulb just switched on reiterating to me that she was only 27 and she was being taken advantage of by men. Thank you for helping me to release her from this blame and for helping me to free my mind of this burden.
Best wishes to Kelly and her father.
I am so sorry for your loss
Please forgive your mom,baby we as parents don’t know everything and we just go off of what we were taught not knowing our parents parents didn’t have all the answers and they did the best they could with what they had
Thank you
Praying for you 🙏🏿 ❤
So emotional, I was in tears. So glad that Kelly decided to reconnect with her father and hear his side. It's so important! I truly wish them both the best.
Kelly is such a beautiful soul. I could watch her interviews over and over.
Yes she is.. ❤️😓
she is; beautiful inside & out!
I met my dad in 2019 for the first time at age 40. I totally connect with her story…
As Kelly said, your father is your foundation and identity… Mothers are hurt when their relationship does not work out with the baby daddy, some are hurt to the point where they poison their children heart about their father which is so wrong… My mom was always speaking negatively about my father. I was in my 30s married with 3 children when I finally got the opportunity to have a sit down with my father.. I basically just listened to his story… As Kelly said, her dad had a story and a history and he always loved us kids, we were denied that connection, but Grace won! My mon is now gone, my dad still here, just celebrated his 106 bday in September! Very witty and happy, plays chess and dominoes everyday, living a good life surrounded by his family… 🤷🏽♀️💕🙏🏽
Wow
Kelly was so justified in her emotions. She is a beautiful spirit.
Based on what she was told she was justified in her feelings. But it seems like her mother might’ve tried to alienate her from her father.
MY EYES ARE FILLED WITH TEARS .......i dont even know any of them personally ....I LOVE YOU KELLY❤❤❤❤❤
This was very inspirational, breaking these cycles that our parents may have never knew and there parents 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I see that Kelly was always the prettiest and had the strongest, beautiful voice in the “Destiny’s Child” group. I’m so happy that she made it through her hard times and has made it on her own. ❤️🙏
So happy for her peace with her father 😊
Yessss! ❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
you can praise somebody without comparing to others. example "i see that kelly is a beautiful woman who always had a strong, beautiful voice." period. the end.
@@adk7439 no need for comparison at all just say she's beautiful after all beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
She's was my favorite..
Why you comparing? Weird af
What a great interview. I’m bawling… Kelly is beautiful inside and out and I am so happy for her. While listening to this interview, I was thinking about her song “Dirty Laundry” in which she sang about being abused by her boyfriend… So, while watching this, when she talked about her tumultuous relationships it made me tear up because I know how much this healing with her father had to truly mean for her. Happy for both of them, actually…
I had my dad in my life for the most part, but I was horrible to him. We got closer as we got wiser. Him understanding I am who I am and vice versa. Yesterday was the 9th anniversary of his death. I still want to pick up the phone and talk with him. It’s never too late to love or even just like the living. 💕
This man reminds me of Sherman Hemsley, aka, George Jefferson. I’m happy for them and hope they have many years to love and care for each other.
“It was necessary 😮” That’s deep. Forgiveness is tough at the beginning and easy at the end of it all. 🙏🏾
Oh my goodness. This is so amazing and beautiful!!! She gets to start a whole new life with her father after she got a chance to heal. 💛🙌
What a blessing. All I could do is cry. I searched for my Dad when my Mom died when I was 20 years old. I forgave him for never being there as well. We formed a great relationship and were there for each other as needed over the years. He has since remarried, so the liberty to see him is not as it was. However, I am thankful for the time we had and that I forgave him. So, proud of Kelly and her Dad. They were an added bonus to each other's life now. I pray God bless them with many more years together.
Kelly is a beautiful human being, inside and out. 🙏❤
She is so pretty she was my favourite one
@@Hannah-sg4sr Beyonce overshadowed her!
I'm 46 and my biological father was never there even though I gave him an opportunity to rekindle with me he let me down so sometimes it's better for a person to not be in your life. I have abandonment issues from my mother and father.
You are loved regardless...I am a Father to the fatherless Psalm 68:5-6 get close to Jesus you will know the greatest love of all.
@@lovekingdom5581 💯💯💯
it's sad how a lot of children are the ones reaching out to estranged parents and not the other way around. As children we only have 1 set of parents but parents can have as many children as they want... Too bad for them, maybe one day they will realize what they have done, but it will be too late and they will die alone
I’m happy for Kelly and her father. May God bless your union until the end.
I’m happy for Kelly and her peace. And I’m also always suspicious of parents that abandon their children then comeback once they’re successful. It makes me angry that parents can abandon their children like that. I haven’t reached that point yet of forgiveness. My father wasn’t present in my life either and he’s now deceased. I’m working through that pain in therapy but it angers me that people create children and aren’t around to raise them. No one could keep me from my kids. Not the father, mother whomever. People fight for what they want. I am happy they got through this but good for Kelly for making him wait outside the gate. He made her wait her whole life. Serves him right. But now that’s in the past and they can move on ❤
I agree with many of the things you said in your comment.
My father was a womanizer who sponged off my mom before they got married and after. He left the family without telling her.
He was physically abusive to all his children to the point where he caused injury.
When I became an adult, he called me wanting to see me; he was quite emotional. I booked a flight and went to visit him.
He was now old and not in good health. During the visit, he never once apologized for deserting us. Instead, he blamed her parents, who, when he walked out on my mom, helped her raised us.
I knew then that he had not changed, but was just too old to continue in that lifestyle. In a short time after I stopped communicating with him.
I'm also suspicious when they want to reconcile once their child becomes successful and/or are now old and need someone to take care of them.
I agree. Not at that point with my father either but I'm happy for her. I just can't tho. I feel like yes we're not perfect, but I feel like people take not bein a parent too lightly at times. But kudos to her tho.
I agree. It sounds like the reconciliation was on her terms which is important. I can’t stand when absent parents try to guilt children into letting them back into their lives.
💯
I love her so much that's my girl, I'm
I just learned something from Kelly today. A lot of things happened that weren’t quite right with both of my parents. I’ve given grace to my mother (RIP)….But my father (RIP), I’m still working on that. But thank you Kelly for the new journey that you’ve inspired for me. It’s a long road 🤷🏾♂️. BTW off topic, Kelly is beautiful.
Sending you hugs 🇧🇼.I hope that you find the same for him too one day too
I got chills watching this. Shockingly relatable.
“Grace” was the best word spoken.
It’s never too late to reconnect with your child. Blessings to both❤
This is one of the many profound reasons, I Love Me Some Kelly Rowland,❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I can listen to Kelly talk all day long. She's so mesmerising.
She has a therapist voice, very soothing and understanding.....if she ever wanted a second career.....and to go back to school to get her degree? A therapist or psychologist is definitely a good choice.
I tried this with who I think is my biological father and he did not embrace me at all, it's sad but you can't make someone be ready to love you. But the little girl in me wishes he was ready just to know me and build a relationship with me. 💔
Kelly is Beautiful ♥️
She sure is!
How beautiful. My dad made so many mistakes, because no one taught him how to be a husband or a good father, but through God my love for him is so powerful that even he’s passed away I still love him greatly.
There is a reason i found this now, am 50 and just learning about my real dad
Hats off to people that can forgive but I do not understand how a parent can leave their children.. . and also children to be so understanding to accept their parents that were absent during the most critical times of their lives...
Thank you Kelly & Papa. I have a similar situation and hearing how you navigate through yours is so great. Your Dad sounds lovely, making up for lost time, so heartwarming. ❤
My aunt said not matter how bad a man is always let the door open for your child to meet the man and judge for themselves. Never say no to them if that question comes up. Just tell them it’s their right and you will always be there to catch them.
No matter what I do
All I think about is you
Even though you wasn’t in my life
Man you know am crazy over you
Kelly to Paps
I'm not sure who need to hear this. But if your parents abandoned you, just know that God says he will never abandoned, he will never leave you or forsaken you.
Kelly said " just know that you are loved ", and yes she's right you are loved , matter fact that person is Jesus himself. He loved you unconditionally, so much that he gave his life for you on that cross, so you can have relationship with him and recieved him as your person Lord and savior and also be with him for eternity one day.
God love you , John 3:16 " For God love the world so much that whoever believe in him will not perish but have everlasting life".
just remember you do have a spiritual father that you can always count on. He is there for you and he have his arm open waiting for you to talk to him or to lean on him.
I still wouldn't want to know him. I had an absent father and have no reason to want or ever know him, there is no desire to know, that gives me peace.
This was beautiful! I lived this and allowing my dad back into my life was one of the best decisions I ever made! He brought so much completion and understanding. Like Kelly, I got only my mom’s side… as he shared his side a much fuller and accurate narrative emerged. The moms mean no harm but they often speak through the lens of their own pain from the failed relationship. And because they give you a steady diet of their own bitterness and discontentment..One feels like you are betraying the one who was always there, if/when dad shows up. It’s so damaging to the child.
Such a good show!!!!
I’m 57year old now , however I met my father & talked at 53. I know the feeling ❤
If you decide to become a parent please just be responsible to be there for the child
I'm not sobbing or anything....why is she so full of grace.
Wow she looks so pretty.
Thank you for this segment...its beautiful to see...I have to give my late mom Grace because our relationship was not easy and with her raising me I felt abandoned...but since she never expressed herself or showed her emotions I felt this way...I want to say to both my late parents THANK YOU for everything you did for me. Forgive me for the errors I have made and I Hope I have made you Proud because of YOU I am the woman I am today! 🙏🙏🙏
All I am doing is crying 😢 this interview makes me shed tears.
Abandoning your child because she was born female to me is unforgivable. All that I can do is wait to see if my daughter decides to forgive him or not one day.
I mean I wanted a boy but I had a daughter. Yeah I was sad about it but now it's nothing I wouldn't do for that little girl. She my heart and I would die over her. Lol whenever she call me sometimes I even joke with her & say heyy my favorite girl in the world when she calls but actually that's true her & my mom
They use any dern excuse the real reason is he just didn't want to be responsible. It's sad because now he gets the best version of Kelly and she got his worse.
I don't hear Amy proof he did that.
Did you just make that up?
@@alphabogeyman7462the commenter was speaking about her daughter not Kelly.
Super heartwarming interview and Christopher is so adorable
Yeah, her dad has some pretty eyes!
What a beautifull loving honest human being Kelly is and I'm glad that her dad and Kelly are building bridges not just for Kelly but for her son to get to know his papa and Kelly well done for reaching out to your dad xx
I feel like kellys exterior is a reflection of her interior. I cant explain how beautiful she is but wow
This is so true with lil girls knowing their Fathers love them. I didn't get that affirmation from my Dad until I was 50.
I have an abandonnement issue for not having my father in my life. I had a good mother who did her best but she never told me about her relationship with him. I just assumed he didnt want me. My mother told me he broke his promise to pick me up so she cut ties with him. She didnt want him in her life but actually cut him from mine. I forgave her for that. I feel like she didnt know how to share me. He called a couple of times when I was studying. He was angry. We argued. And we stayed in no contact for years until I heard he was dead. I eventually was abandonned by my husband and my lover because I felt abandonned by my father. I have forgave him as I now know he didnt know how to affirm himself as a father. He had children with many different women : he probably tried each time to build a relationship but had other women in his ear. I forgave him. I learned I was lovable and I am loved. He didnt abandonned me persay: je just had so much to deal with he could balance his life to fit me in it and he probable thought he would do it later. He tried but I was hurt. I am still hurt but I am healing. I am growing and releasing the feeling of abandonment to realise he did the best that he could. My mother was very strong. They couldnot learn balance and love for each other but they chose to separate when I was a baby. They were "friends". I was happy that my mother had a boyfriend before she died. I hope my father was not alone either. He lived fully, he loved women and I forgive him for letting me go so he could try focusing on other things. I had to let my daughter go for a while to focused on my mental health and healing from my mother's sudden death. So I went through karma and learn the lesson. I'm thankful for understanding.
This is so beautiful. Forgiveness is healing. God bless them.🙏🏾💝
Kelly is an Angel!
Well done Kelly and her dad, so happy for you guys manshallah 👑👑
The part about realizing YOU as a parent are you may disappoint your children (unintentionally) but you’re just doing the best you can at the time is so true, I can do relate to that. We definitely should give our parents Grace. I’m so happy for her and her father working things out and allowing their relationship to take root and grow, what a blessing for her children.
I’m so glad the way Kelly’s story worked out. I on the other hand had both father and mother. My mother did everything for us, whereas my father was absent in the lives of my brothers and I even though we lived in the same house hold. He was never involved in my life as a child or teen, nor was he involved in my life all through my 20’s, 30’s & 40’s. Now I am in my 50’s & he is battling dementia, & he expects me to move back home & take care of him & my mother. For my mother, I would move heaven & earth if I could, but if I do this for my father, it will take the grace of God. So for those of you who complain & are upset & gutted that you didn’t have a father growing up…neither did I. My mother was a registered nurse with a degree in nursing. We could have survived without him.🇨🇦
Are you an only child?
I literally could relate . This made me cry 😢
SORRY BROKEN AMERICA
Hey_Noonie, May Jesus comfort and strengthen you on your journey. The Lord is the only One who can set us free. May God bless you always in Jesus name❤️
I am so happy for you Please continue building your relationship. Cherish your moments with him. I am glad you have forgiven him and have received closure.Bless you.
I think what is most important here is not the forgiveness per se but the ability to summon courage to listen to both sides of the stories and establish the truth, because it is wrong to reach a conclusion based solely on one person's account. Very many times, people do not really see what is wrong about themselves and whomever dare attempt to point it to them is a potential enemy.
Followed when famous but stayed silent when invisible to the public eye and in need of love. Its sad indeed. Grace is important. However, a bad parent will always have another version especially when her mother isn't around to dispute his version. Sad sad sad indeed.
She is so beautiful 😍 in pink Kelly is a light.
O, my childhood was a rough go-round so I get it. I, too, had an absentee father, but decades later when he was at a more mellow, evolved and grounded stage of his life, we reconnected. We sat down at a kitchen table and both wept. He said he was sorry. What else could I say after that? It was good enough for me. It wasn't a perfect road going forward but we tried. Years later, his mind slipped away and he ultimately succumbed to Alzheimer's. We laid him to rest with heavy hearts and so many unanswered questions. Yet these days, when my thoughts turn to him, I remember him saying, through uncontrollable tears, "I'm sorry." At least we had that.
Kelly is my crush well spoken definition of beauty great performance. I wish she is more real with her dad no more distance.
Whoa !!!!!!! This gave me chillls down my spine. Thank you Kelly. Wow. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable with a deep topic millions of us have been or are still avoiding/running from.
Kelly is such a sweetheart. Im glad the rekindled
My father was absent like this for most of my life. I reached out to him as an adult with lukewarm responses. I let it go when I saw his other daughter put on Facebook she was glad he chose her I was done….
Beautiful story Hoda! Kelly thank you for putting yourself out there.
I appreciate her lovely advice. My father turned out to be a nightmare. After knowing him I learned that he was as evil as they get. In fact, I met him for the first time when I was 18 and he made himself known then because he knew that at 18 he had no responsibilities to me. I then disappeared from him the same year and 30 years later I got in contact with him again and the more he spoke, the more I saw what a liar and evil man he was. Then the penny dropped, and I realized that Yah was protecting me from him. It was good in some ways that I never knew him.
Literally in tears
Thank you for letting us, in this priceless moment 💎, this is so BEAUTIFULL ✊🏿♥️
Beautiful! You only live once as a human being! the universe is made up of all sorts of healing power as long as you look for and allow yourself to see as a being. Bravo Queen!
I’m happy for you Kelly. I found a plaque that read “Daughter’s first love is her father” and I believe it! As Kelly said that’s the foundation for healthy romantic relationsh. In my case, my father was a loving father and his life was cut short when I was just 13 years of age. The pain of losing him and the trauma of his untimely death left me unhealthy emotionally. Kelly, congratulations for taking the steps to reconcile with your father. It would have been nice if your mother was alive to witness it. She probably would have forgiven him if there’re resentments. People who are no longer with us cannot speak for themselves if they’re no longer here with us. Again, congratulations!
Our First Love should be our Heavenly Father through Jesus Christ, followed by our earthly father❤
@@ShiningBright777 Amen 🙏🏾 I agree.
@@mimit-h2418 Amen in Jesus name!
I loved this segment. Thank you Kelly Rowland for sharing.❤
As much as I would want to give grace to someone, I think 30 years is a long time....he should have reached out, he was the adult, the father...he made a choice not to reach out
I feel the same. If she hadnt reached out to him, best believe he wouldn’t have smh
He tried to see her but she had told security never to let him in🤔
Its mother who brainwash kids against their dad
He did reach out she had guards up and she told security that she didn’t want to deal with him, that kept him away from her which is understandable
He said in the video that he tried to see her at tour stops but security wouldn't let her
GREAT INTERVIEW HODA! All the right questions that tugged each emotion!
Her dad is lovely 😍
Thank you, Kelly. You putting it in the right words and perspective.
So many of us are going through it, not all of us still have the chance to meet their dad, but if you do, I am sure it can be very healing. If their ready, as she said.
That's nice kelly... Father is father whether good or bad happens between you and your father... Thumbs up... Now i know you have a nice feeling your soul and your heart now in peaceful... Forgiveness you give to your dearly father....
Lady Kelly💐you are call grace and Dad thank you🙏the truths and forgiveness is a beautiful path 💝🦋💕💛
It's very important to listen to the other side of the story before one makes a decision. In most cases, some people suffer from 'beef' that was not theirs and end up making wrong decisions or having hate that was uncalled for.
This was absolutely necessary to see. Thank you for sharing💕 Kelly is so gorgeous and graceful ❤️
I so lover this!
That's so amazing what a blessing 🥰
Am crying too. I like the way she holds his wrist. Daddy.
very inspirational… salute to both of them🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Men go through it too let consider them they dont show their pain but they suffer too 😥👏🙏❤❤
Kelly is so gracious!
I love her
Me too.
This is what I needed this morning and I say this holding back tears as there is a very important relationship in my life that I haven't been able to heal because I haven't been able to get the forgiveness that I need to do and I don't think I need to look for an apology any longer because I've come to realize that certain people who hurt you even if you tell them they hurt you they won't acknowledge that and that right there was hurting me enough so I think that I might need to either see someone or step away from this very important relationship in my life
The difference is she had a dad who was ready and willing to do the work. Some of us don’t have that. 🤷🏿♂️
This was beautiful
The Power of Forgiveness is never for the other person. Its always for you ! "What a sense of freedom that flows from the mind, body and soul when we forgive" ( Rachelle Farrell) Life is so fragile and short. God is truly a healer and restorer. So happy for you Kelly and Mr. Lovett
Amazing story but also wow Kelly is gorgeous !
This is sooooo beautiful ! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
God bless your soul Kelly
This made my day! It shows that you are more than a superstar Kelly, you are a super human being! Love on your dad hun, time is short!❤️🙏
Wow this is beautiful ❤ Kelly looks like him
Kelly keep your head up high continue to live your best
Beautiful. Any adult should be able to place things in perspective to understand our parents better even if you don’t know the details of their story.
Touching. He looks like Sherman Hemsley from the Jefferson.
Yes your are 100% correct on that!!
shes so beautiful
She is so beautiful!