Ep 36 | Phindile speaks out on divorce, narcissists,coparenting | life after divorce

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  • @phindileyendeauthor
    @phindileyendeauthor Месяц назад +18

    Thank you so much for hosting me Queen ❤️

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much for honoring the invite ❤️🫂

    • @andiswamjadu1106
      @andiswamjadu1106 Месяц назад

      @@TheTeaWorld Phindile wow! I never listen to these but wow. You're wise and so well spoken.

    • @senyatsisolomonkgolane467
      @senyatsisolomonkgolane467 23 дня назад

      You're amazing 👏🏽 @phindileyende

    • @roslynmohlago6055
      @roslynmohlago6055 5 дней назад

      How can I get the book please??

    • @roslynmohlago6055
      @roslynmohlago6055 5 дней назад

      Ooh I got it on Take a lot. I was impatient to wait for end of interview to get details 😅

  • @moroesinkone4294
    @moroesinkone4294 Месяц назад +18

    I can listen to Phindile speaks the whole day. I Love her ❤

  • @Blessed_for_life_2023
    @Blessed_for_life_2023 Месяц назад +12

    Absolutely, i never went to maintenance court for my two boys , because I felt I'm not going to remind a person to take care of their child. They're 24 and 13 now, and I've been doing it alone, and now karma is dealing with them.
    But for those who have the energy to go to court, big ups to you.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      Big ups to you my Queen, May God enlarge your territory

    • @Leboko80
      @Leboko80 Месяц назад +1

      I feel you my Sister.i did the same.

    • @cosmic_sunflower3864
      @cosmic_sunflower3864 Месяц назад

      I totally understand you.

  • @xolilemazibuko4390
    @xolilemazibuko4390 Месяц назад +22

    "God was not in the foundation " heei we mess up and want God to interven when we didn’t consult him at first

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      Very true my lovely Queen 👸

    • @pheladinare2876
      @pheladinare2876 Месяц назад +1

      So true we put ourselves in situations and then later when we are in trouble we turn and ask God why? Especially when the red flag where always there.

    • @mrsG488
      @mrsG488 20 дней назад

      And there is nothing wrong about that...actually we all stumble and sometimes fall but its good to always run back to Him.❤

  • @MissCombs1511
    @MissCombs1511 Месяц назад +7

    I looooooove women who write books! It's like bringing us into her mind, more importantly for us to give to our kids one day. It helps so much to equip them.
    The khula uzobona era is over, thank the Lord!

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      Indeed I'm loving the authors we are hosting at the Teaworld Podcast

  • @lindiwemhlanga
    @lindiwemhlanga Месяц назад +5

    He suffered from "breadwinner syndrome" The family will never see anything wrong with his actions as long as he provides for them!

    • @khethiwemethula4977
      @khethiwemethula4977 Месяц назад

      It's the case with my older brother. He can never do wrong in the eyes of my parents.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      I agree

  • @zanelexaba4561
    @zanelexaba4561 Месяц назад +2

    Yho Phindi feeling healed already as m gng through divorce thanks for sharing your story God bless you it's true God is not far from the broken heart looking beautiful healed and happy ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      Sending you love and light ❤️❤️

  • @langabi408
    @langabi408 Месяц назад +2

    Oh I love Phindi, I bought and read her book in 1day😀🤭. It was captivating.
    Will definitely buy the second book.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      She is an amazing Author 👏 🤩

  • @neegee3755
    @neegee3755 Месяц назад +2

    Love Phindi and I am so excited to see her on this podcast . Last week I was just recommending her to this other podcast host because I feel like her story is worth sharing. I am still hoping to see her there too ❤

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much, you will be happy to know she even has her own Podcast ❤️🫂

  • @matomesetati5661
    @matomesetati5661 Месяц назад +1

    Phindile is such a powerhouse. Enjoyed this conversation so much. Really learned a lot from her journey 🌸

  • @spm9130
    @spm9130 Месяц назад +4

    My ex narc hubby was a pastor, he defied God and consulted witchdoctors in pursuit for power until my life was in danger! You can never work on a marriage alone, that is for sure!👍

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад +2

      What a profound point, you can never work on a marriage alone 😔

    • @phindileyendeauthor
      @phindileyendeauthor Месяц назад +1

      Some of these things sound far fetched but they happen! I’m so sorry 🥺

    • @user-bk1zs2uf3t
      @user-bk1zs2uf3t Месяц назад

      Hi Queen Rummy, may you please invite her, we would love to hear her story of restoration

  • @harryshokane5668
    @harryshokane5668 19 дней назад

    Wow when she said Phindile your a healer I felt it,love her so much indeed she's a healer.... I'm healed and would listen to her the whole day.

  • @dot510
    @dot510 Месяц назад +6

    Look young for 42 years. Beautiful chocolate babe

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад +1

      She really looks amazing and so young 😍 ❤️

  • @user-yf6yb7un3y
    @user-yf6yb7un3y 13 дней назад

    So true "we know" but choose to turn a blind eye hoping things will be okay. Phindi yhoo u can talk my sister 💐👏❤️. First time i come across this channel and i love it already,we learn a lot as women surely i will also teach my friends(daughters)

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  13 дней назад

      Thank you so much 🫂🫂❤️❤️

  • @spm9130
    @spm9130 Месяц назад +5

    Yooo my girl, looks like there are many of us with your experience! While you try to make him look good to your family, he’s painting you black to his own family! When you eventually leave, you are the bad person 😢😢

  • @nenesibanda4171
    @nenesibanda4171 Месяц назад +3

    I love Ndivhu T's voice in the intro❤ you look beautiful queen Ramy❤

  • @debramontymmatau5136
    @debramontymmatau5136 Месяц назад +2

    Bona ..,ke letsa molodi😢😢😢yhooo ausi Phindile. You hit all the spots 😞. Tjo. This conversation was packed. Tjoo shout out to my homie. I love you ❤️ mam.

  • @LesOhNyC
    @LesOhNyC Месяц назад +1

    Aus Phindi you have such a grat aura.. I'm yet to watch the entire interview but let me tell you when I say, I sure will enjoy this because wow, the little clip I got to hear.. bliss

  • @tshenogotswai7283
    @tshenogotswai7283 12 дней назад

    I love how she speaks shes well articulated...mara banna shem!!!!!

  • @godsbeloved6436
    @godsbeloved6436 13 дней назад

    Sisters...I can relate. Nearly married 1. It rings a tone of memories n what I endured in a short space of time. Though we did not get married but he left a mark. Red flags were there but I chose 2 ignore cause I wanted to play savior....but I thañk God I overcame. The healing process took time though n taught me 2 lv myself....but it taught me that in the Christian world we've got a lot of concealed wolves in sheep skin who know exactly what 2 say...!!!

  • @Sebi_P
    @Sebi_P Месяц назад +2

    26:18 so true sis Phindi narcissist never apologize they exactly said you made me do that

  • @pokonoza
    @pokonoza Месяц назад +1

    Yoh yoh yoh!!! Phindile is telling my story as it is @15:30

  • @Nanatsofe
    @Nanatsofe 12 дней назад

    Foundation of marriage 😢😢 ohhh this is hitting me. ...that is so true ..

  • @patriciamtsi1335
    @patriciamtsi1335 Месяц назад +1

    Nxa!!!! I am so angry with narcissist type of men, always apportioning blame to the innocent people!!! Yhooooo!!!!🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️

  • @LethoHali
    @LethoHali Месяц назад +2

    Yoooo! Sounds like a book I should have written 😂.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      Get on it 😂😂😂

    • @pfulu
      @pfulu Месяц назад

      @@TheTeaWorldwhat is she manufacturing.

  • @patriciamtsi1335
    @patriciamtsi1335 Месяц назад

    Urhhhh!!!! Phindile you provoked me, we need to write a book about ones self but we are scared, culturally afraid, and not used to openly allowed to talk about your marriages issues.
    Yhooooo!!!!! Sis Phindile 😭😭😭😭 how do we meet its for the 1st time watching this video.

  • @tumelohellen5132
    @tumelohellen5132 Месяц назад +2

    Powerful

  • @khethiwemethula4977
    @khethiwemethula4977 Месяц назад +2

    Uma kusaqala ngathi umlethelwe uNkulunkulu i.e. love bombing stage, but as time goes (manipulation and emotional abuse) you realise that no man uGod akazi lutho ngalomuntu.
    📌 Listen actively when having conversations about ones upbringing and background, don't turn a blind eye to the red flags just because of the carrot being dangled before you.

  • @faithmaqungo308
    @faithmaqungo308 Месяц назад +2

    Tjooo I'm currently in a yr marriage with a Narcissist 😢😢😢
    Im going through hell😢😢😢😢😢😢

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      🫂🫂🫂🫂May it be well with you

    • @sheronsnethembancube2693
      @sheronsnethembancube2693 Месяц назад +1

      Girl, I am 1 month 17 days out of it. I didn't leave because I didn't have the guts but he chased me away. Days aren't the same, others are an emotional wreck others I feel fine but I trust God will carry me through

    • @martinamakgeta9467
      @martinamakgeta9467 Месяц назад

      You and me both. with me I saw and felt that the marriage will not work 4months into it. I'm going through the most right now and have been planning on leaving for quite some time now. I'm emotionally & mentally out of the marriage. having the worst 9month s of marriage

    • @phindileyendeauthor
      @phindileyendeauthor Месяц назад

      @@sheronsnethembancube2693God will indeed carry you through.

    • @servantofgod4311
      @servantofgod4311 Месяц назад

      ​@@martinamakgeta9467imagine, 9mnths in 😮Askisi chomi may God give you wisdom and strength

  • @Mbali_Nkabinde
    @Mbali_Nkabinde 2 дня назад

    Omg are we talking about my ex husband 😂I’m glad I left early.. one year within marriage with no kids focusing on my career 🙏🏽❤️

  • @masandefuzile2261
    @masandefuzile2261 Месяц назад +1

    I am a Narcissist and I don't like when ppl talk bad about us.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      Okay 👍

    • @masandefuzile2261
      @masandefuzile2261 Месяц назад

      You didn't read.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад +2

      Okay 😂 what do you want us to do with your statement?

    • @judyatoro9387
      @judyatoro9387 Месяц назад +1

      They say if devil cannot deal with you physically he sends a narcissist person 😮

    • @khethiwemethula4977
      @khethiwemethula4977 Месяц назад +2

      I don't think people talk bad about narcissistic people but people do talk about their experiences with a narc and often times it is bad. For an example, I am co-parenting with a narc and it's a nightmare, do I talk bad about narcissistic people/him, no, but I am definitely talking about my experience of having stayed in such a relationship & having a child with such a person.

  • @proxlee
    @proxlee Месяц назад +1

    Even if the man disappears all year and want kids for that December. As a mother you have no right saying no. You are denying your kids moments with their father. Let the kids ask their father that question and let him answer. That is not your place.... my opinion

  • @annerosealimo5682
    @annerosealimo5682 24 дня назад +1

    Nice pink shoes....still sorry about ur experience

  • @florahgaboipofemokgaotsi4543
    @florahgaboipofemokgaotsi4543 25 дней назад

    Phindi o tshwana le Imani wa ko Muvhango🥰

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  25 дней назад

      Yes and too much ka this hairstyle

  • @DMopai
    @DMopai Месяц назад +1

    Tjoo sis vele dats how narcissist behave

  • @thabilemkhize2585
    @thabilemkhize2585 Месяц назад

    Qeen Rammy please how can i Phundiles books? I need them urgently

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад +1

      She will definitely respond @Phindile_yende

  • @patriciamtsi1335
    @patriciamtsi1335 Месяц назад

    My parents even said to me, when He hit me and I went home, driving our car, because we were far from home.
    Mama said: *Dont come to us come report SB driving his car* *Lihlazo eli* go home quickly dont ever come here to do this embarrassment again.
    And it was killing me this thing.

  • @lisemelomafaesa2100
    @lisemelomafaesa2100 Месяц назад

    I like vibe ladies 👌👌

  • @ofentselefore6646
    @ofentselefore6646 Месяц назад

    15:02 that bathong 😅😅😅

  • @patriciamtsi1335
    @patriciamtsi1335 Месяц назад

    What about the marriage that was officiated by an *Umfundisi* signed together, but left somebody crying behind the scene, about him not marrying her??? *Its all lies*

  • @nobumasiziba1680
    @nobumasiziba1680 Месяц назад +3

    Podcast turning into a therapy session

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @martinamakgeta9467
      @martinamakgeta9467 Месяц назад

      RIGHT

    • @khethiwemethula4977
      @khethiwemethula4977 Месяц назад +1

      Neh....bringing one to self, there's so much comfort in realising that one is not alone. There's hope that we will win

  • @DDDS595
    @DDDS595 29 дней назад

    She has a beautiful voice

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  28 дней назад

      She does, check out her own RUclips Channel ❤👌

    • @DDDS595
      @DDDS595 28 дней назад

      @TheTeaWorld what is the name of her utube channel?

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  28 дней назад

      Phindile yende

    • @DDDS595
      @DDDS595 28 дней назад

      @@TheTeaWorld Thank you.

    • @phindileyendeauthor
      @phindileyendeauthor 18 дней назад

      Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @mamagaseangelique1282
    @mamagaseangelique1282 Месяц назад +1

    Queen onyaka onkge moroto😂😂😂

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      Like I was shocked 😲 😂😂😂

  • @nonkosinkalashe8431
    @nonkosinkalashe8431 Месяц назад

    How do I get the book

  • @lindatafeni9402
    @lindatafeni9402 Месяц назад +1

  • @lufunochristopherrathogwa1886
    @lufunochristopherrathogwa1886 12 дней назад +1

    To be honest marriages of our generation are failing because we are starting a marriage on a wrong foot. We get married without pre-marital counselling, all we want is a married tittle. If the couple involve their pastors such mess would hardly be there

  • @DerickFisher-ex3xd
    @DerickFisher-ex3xd Месяц назад

    👌👌👌❤❤

  • @AkhonaNozibele
    @AkhonaNozibele Месяц назад

    Same same

  • @masandefuzile2261
    @masandefuzile2261 Месяц назад +3

    Ngame ke ng?

  • @LethoHali
    @LethoHali Месяц назад

    😂😂😂😂😂🙈🙊🙉 not o nkga sesepa 😅.

    • @TheTeaWorld
      @TheTeaWorld  Месяц назад

      😂😂😂😂 He really wasn't nice to her💔

  • @AkhonaNozibele
    @AkhonaNozibele Месяц назад

    Triggered

  • @ncedisakhewu
    @ncedisakhewu Месяц назад

    😂😂😂😂

  • @NkamohelengLebakeng
    @NkamohelengLebakeng Месяц назад

    Ngame is a stingy person

  • @lindanyatela2501
    @lindanyatela2501 Месяц назад +1