Don’t die before your actual death, just because you lost your loved one. Don’t build an altar for your pain, heal because you deserve a healed version of yourself
I lost my mom while still at varsity. She died in my hands. Life happened, God prospered me. As I type this, I’m holding an Honors degree in Early childhood development, busy with my Masters in Educational leadership. On top of that I work in China. I’ve also worked in the Netherlands. In 2022, I obtained an award for excellence in primary school teaching from the Gauteng Department of Education. I chose not to build an altar for my pain! I got busy with bettering myself to make my late mom proud and today when I look back, I’m still amazed by the grace that kept me. Praying for those reading this. May you tap in the same grace that I experienced ❤
I lost my mom two weeks ago, she died in my hands tooo. I’m going crazy it’s so tough for me. My mom suffered in life she should have stayed a little longer. I don't know how I'm going to overcome it. I'm insane😢😢😢
@@sirinaAtakora I’m sorry for your loss. I know the emptiness that comes with the loss not to mention the trauma that also affects your behavior towards others on daily basis. No words will make sense at this moment. I don’t know you or your whereabouts, but I believe that prayer knows no barriers. I will mention your name in my prayers so that God grants you the strength. 💕💕💕
❤😢 "Do Not Build An Alter For Your Pain, Your Healing May Cost You, There Are People Who Are Benefiting From Your Pain, Heal Either Way"🫂😭❤️📍 This Hit Home!!
I saw this part of the interview on tik tok a few days before my mom’s passing, and it stuck with me then. Little did I know it was setting me up for what was to come. Gods timing!♥️
The interviewers are such good listeners,they gave Mme Lilokwe an ample time to narrate her pain and grief so beautifully 👏👏 She's well spoken i must say
God is faithful even in situations that don't make sense to us. All things work together for the goodness of the Lord. I lost my mother at the age of 7 and my father at the age of 9. Got adopted by my aunt an uncle, my Aunty passed when I was 12 and uncle at 21. I lived in grief for years and years and God healed me in totality. I can testify of God walking with me in patience.
As much as this is about grief, but this episode has renewed my faith. There's a song by Donnie McClurkin, STAND. She stood in her faith and never wavered. Thank you❤
OH man, you're taking me down a painful memory lane of 20 years ago with a 6 month and a 9 years old. God will see you through, and those little people will grow like a small mustard seed where birds of the earth will take rest. Through God, I am now a queen, careerwise all-round mercy. Those little people are now graduates making waves in their own careers, too. I chose not to marry again and focused more on this God. All is well. Our God is the God of widows he has a soft spot for us. I am a living testimony.
I watched it right from the beginning until the end in one go. I cried so much because I was reminded of my own journey with grief. Loosing my Mom is still one of the most traumatic things I have ever gone through. I really didn't know how to deal with the pain and I overshared so much with people that later used my pain against me. Thank you for bringing Aus Kgopedi....she is an amazing woman,May God continue to be with her and her babies and give her incredible strength❤❤#GriefIsnotLinear
I lost my Mom last year September. It isn’t easy I must say. Some days are better than others but God holds me together. 🥺 May God strengthen you too sis. 🙏🏻
Ohhhh my, this is exactly what happened to my wife in 2021 December... covid really tested our faith, till this I'm yet to be back at church because Sabbaths are no longer the same😢
This reminds me of my daughter's situation. She lost her husband in 2021. Their son was only 3years old. My son in law was a pastor My daughter never lost her faith till this day.
Lost my mom during Covid. November 2021. Four years later I am still struggling. I have listened to ted talks, sermons and read so many books on grief. none come close to how much I related to this episode. Listening to Ms Kgopedi has been so cathartic. Thank you. When she said "dont build an altar for your pain" I teared up, Ebe thetha nam. Thank you so much for this episode. It is exactly what I needed.
It’s been 13 years since I lost the love of my life, my grandma. She never got to experience me as an adult and all the things I have achieved. All other loss just awakes that sadness. 😢
I needed to watch this. Not sure how is popped up on my feed. My 23yr old baby sister Rabbecca passed away in a horrible car accident in 2020. A part of me died that day and I feel like what’s left of me is also dying. I wouldn’t wish this type of pain on ANYONE. I now have an amazing therapist that’s slowly helping me navigate through this new life without my sister. I know my sister wouldn’t want me to die before my time. Will honor her life by getting the help I need and LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST for the both of us 🙏🏿
I lost my dad 2 weeks ago 17 March 2024💔. All this suffocating love is stuck inside, making my chest tight. I started seeing a psychologist and she said "Grief is just love... with no place to go." The sadness feels like a big wave, crashing over me again and again. It feels like I'm drowning in a sea of sorrow, with no end in sight. I can't even imagine the pain stopping. The hollowness is like a giant weight holding me down. A constant reminder... My heart is empty. Yet full of love. This deep love for my dad. That has no nowhere go💔. I can't wait for the day I'm okay like you🙏🏽🙏🏽
My chest is so tight I thought I' need a physio but it's not helping ,it's only that I'm grieving my son loss in 2018 and my mum passing in February 2024,so all these are packed in one heavy load I'm praying for healing
I lost 3 babies through miscarriage, In 2022 I buried my anchor, my number one supporter, my Dad. In 2023 I lost my pillar of strength as a wife, my best friend, my mother in law. All these happened in the span of the last 10 years. I am riddled by grief and pain, BUT I choose to live and celebrate all the blessings that the Lord has given me. God is GREAT even in grief and pain, and the pain does not go away, you just learn how to manage it when it flares up, and for me God is my healer when the flares up happens. Iyoooo Kgopeli God bless you ausi ❤!
"...when your partner has promised forever..." I felt that because when your partner dies, your hopes, plans, dreams, promises, your whole future dies. 😶
I love her. What a woman! I feel like I know her even though it's the first time I see or hear about her. She has a beautiful love story that many people don't have. I wish to that people can learn to be kind to those who are grieving. It was an emotional episode. Ursula and Bonga were supportive, that's a better word that I can use. Please bring her again. She is articulate and knowledgeable. Her presence can be felt
A friend recommended this,I have lost a friend and we were nolonger in contact like before and I kept on blaming myself for not checking up on him more often.I am grateful God brought me this side❤️❤️❤️❤️
I haven’t experienced grief of a close loved one, but I’m one of those that have ‘died before my own death’, and definitely ‘built an altar for my pain’. Sheeeebaa…this episode makes me want to LIVE! Mme Lilokoe is wisdom personified ❤
I lost my mom April last year, the past year has been the hardest for me. I couldn't even pray. April this year, same weki lost my mom I broke up with the father of my child whomst I held on dearly because thought he's the only person I have left. Surprisingly during that pain God stretched his hand I found myself drawn back to God praying more, praising the Lord and I've since accepted that my mom's gone. Life goes on. Sometimes God uses pain to reveal himself to us
Watch your tongue while you're at it. When you're in pain you don't know the line.. if you're not feeling your steps, you'll tend to overshare... it's ok yo shut up..💖
Yhoo guys, ho bohloko maan... But we grow through pain.. Love & light to Ausi Kgopedi and everyone who lost their loved ones through any form of pain, be it death or breakup, pain is pain and its also mercy. ❤❤
Thank you for this interview. Kgopedi is on another level, the authenticity, love and empathy that we easily give to others can do amazing things if we give to ourselves as well. I'm one of the relatives who didn't know what to say to her when the news broke. I remember sending flowers to her house a week later and forgetting to add my name on the card....I guess I was also devastated that I couldn't think straight. Lots of love to all who needed to hear the story of loss and know that we most times don't have it figured out.
I needed to see this. I am going through my own journey, buried my husband 8 months agao and its just been a rollercoaster.. today is a good day. Glad I found this. Kgopedis is healing me, her voice her as a person listening to this, a little part of me healed today.💓
One thing i learnt is Grief is also informed by the relationship one had with the departed , I believe her amazing story of love with her husband must be crucial in this healing journey. She was loved correctly and that gives her the strength to be . She dropped nuggets of wisdom , spoke so poetically and ever so real about her experience. She is amazing , love from Botswana. ❤❤❤🇧🇼
I love she narrated her story so calmly, her story is more like my story, I lost my partner also in 2021. I envy her strengths. She is so strong. All the way from Namibia🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦
A powerhouse she is .I have really learnt a lot .Again it really shows that when u are loved dearly ,you never end to love back .I love how she is so consistent with how she calls her husband ."love" ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Powerful and healing message🙏🏽, even for those who haven't yet experienced grief in the form of death but have been living in grief (depression) most of their lives. May it be well, with our souls💛🙏🏽
I am watching this while in a salon and really cannot hold my tears of sadness and joy, watching this really breaks my heart to think Mama went through the same thing when she lost Papa, at some stage I really thought Hai this mama is trying too much to be strong but it's how she would always refer back to Bible scriptures about love and death. She would say, ne o re go tlhokofale wa GA mang monna or papa? 😢😢😢 Today, this day, I am proud of mama so much. She has really kept it going well. Someone asked me last week if I've ever healed Papa's passing and instead of answering I went speechless with what felt like a ball on my throat. I never got time to heal as I had to be strong for the kids, sibling and Mama but Papa really would hate to see me lose myself because of his passing. He has lived and ran his race and i have learnt that one doesnt realy heal but gets to live withthe pain. Thank you I feel like one of my questions is really answere here. God bless you and sending healing your way.
😢😢 8 years since my baby daddy died still feels like yesterday....sudden death of a 33year old guy full of life leaving his family & for me to raise our daughter alone thank God his family is still very much involved from all aspects of her life we still visit them etc...gs it makes it makes it easier but haaa it's journey & half to heal
Partner died at 36 leaving me and our daughter behind.. it’s been 3 months and I just can’t see a way forward and the his family have been terrible. On my healing journey
This is so powerful , just recently lost my mom and I experienced the stealing one from my close family members as much as I’m grieving , I’m also trying to navigate who’s who like she said “ be careful who you surround yourself with “ so having someone who’s supposed to hold me tight “ steals “ just 12 hours after burial ? Yoh there’s a lot to unfold on grieving topic .
Talking about the guilt, I can relate. I blamed myself for the cancer that took my husband. How I have no answer. But I held on the hem of His garment. Here I am, enjoying the honey of my new marriage. God is good all the time. Jeremiah 11:29 kept me going.
I love this woman with all my heart...I need a Kgopedi kind of a friend,woman in my life. She's so authentic,so grounded. Love the way she loves,both in friendships and her love for God and the people of God❤❤
WOW!!! Thank you for this ''Healing from Grief.'' My siblings and I lost our Matriarch, Queen, and Anchor - our Mom who was 91 years of age. I appreciate you sharing your grief. This has helped me so much, and I thank you. Mom had Dementia and was diagnosed in 2010, 2 years after we lost my baby brother Chris in 2008 who was 38 years old. Mom passed September 21, 2023, and I thank God for our memories with her. I realized that grief has nowhere to go. However, talking to mom and reading God's words has helped me through this difficult time. I still have moments where I want to cry, but I hold onto Mom's words of wisdom which give me comfort. We had a private celebration for Mom and it was wonderful. I couldn't agree with you more that it was a very vulnerable time and not all church members where there for us or for Mom. Thank you once again. Lorraine, Brighton, England
I lost my aunt in 2019. I was with her when she departed. I have been in pain ever since and although I have found a way to live without her, I think of that day every day. Watching this before work had me in tears because I'm realizing everyday that grief is a shapeshifter and it's okay to feel how we feel about losing our loved ones. I needed this. Thank you🥺🥺 ❤
Love Kgopedi. Such a beautiful interview. May she be covered in strength and God protect her little ones. First time watching this channel and I'm subscribing after this interview....
I lost my mom in 2018 and lost my husband in 2022, my love bow down in September 17th and buried on the 24th September. God carries His own. Am I healed, I'm not sure all I know is God carried me through it all. It's a day by day thing. This world 🌍 is not our home, we are passing through it. Little did I know. My love will leave me behind with my kidz 😢. All is well
Thanks this conversation is strengthening me indeed after 23years I am trying to heal from that guilt thanks for encouraging me to free myself from this guilt.Thank you thank you. God bless you all
I lost both my parents last year 2023 🥹I buried my mom while my dad was in ICU,3 days after my mom’s funeral ,my dad passed away. I’m still struggling with grief🥹.Go botlhoko,I cry myself to sleep every day 🥹 Thank you for this interview ❤
This triggered wounds i avoided since 30 June 2020 when my mom passed away in my arms and She said "Ke tlo tsoga" and i think i held on to those words until today. Ausi Kgopedi just woke me....Love her wisdom ❤
I am more of a radio person than TV,, I have always loved this listening to her,, yohhh honestly it is my very first time seeing her Face and I heard this message, God bless you mommy
I can’t really say I’m religious much, but am so glad I stumbled upon this video. I’ve been dealing with my own grief of a loved one these past couple years, and really found some great insight with this. I know I didn’t catch all of it with the different languages at times, but can tell how meaningful those words were said.
So glad to bump into this channel and specifically this video today. My baby would have turned 5 years old yesterday. I miscarried when I was 2 days away from reaching 27 weeks being pregnant in 2019. I thought I was good and healed but this milestone birthday broke me in ways I didn’t think were possible again. Grief is so strange. It never goes away, I guess we learn to move forward with it. The pain is different everyday. I remember in 2019 when I was getting back into my “normal” life and I was laughing at something and I quickly gathered myself on some “you can’t be happy, you are grieving”. I know it sounds crazy but going through grief has made me empathetic to people who lose their lives to depression and sometimes lose their minds because nothing makes sense.
I'm sending you so much love during this time of your baby's 5th birthday! I see you and your pain, I lost my baby boys at 26 weeks. They would be 4 years old on 6 April ❤
Tumelo I lost my son in 2003 when he was 8 months and I know what you are talking about. Time does not heal we learn to live with the pain unfortunately. On the 26th July he will be turning 22 years on the other side
Wow! Mrs Lilokoe, you are so deep. I'd love to meet you! We are also in ministry and I'd love for you to come and teach us (the women) on how to deal with loss. I love the way you love the Lord. The way you vocally appreciate and acknowledge the support system around you. Profound. Well done guys.
I remember when my father passed on,at the mortuary viewing his body singing Tumisang joale hosana,Modimo o re etetse,bophelo re mo humane,Jesu o bo tlisitse,Sefapanong topollo e hlabele. My mom was soo annoyed with me,and a year later my mother accepted Jesus Christ as her Lord & saviour.She was born again. Hold to God's unchanging hand.❤
Yhoo this episode felt like a hug. Nothing happens without a reason. Im not much affected by grief,but I've learned the importance of community and how its ok it is to just keep quite when you have nothing to say. UmamKgopedi i wish her many more shinny days and all those affected by grief❤
A conversation i didn't know I need to hear. I felt her story and had so many chills. She is such a strong woman and i love her honesty and vulnerability. And when she continously calls him LOVE. You can tell, she will carry him with her forever. Thats the once in the lifetime love. In the future, can we unpack grieving people you lose because of circumstances but still have to live with knowing you can never experience them (or experience them the same way as in the past) because there is no room for them in your life, or they have no room for you in their life. I find it hard to grieve a person who is still alive, but things can no longer be patched up, in varios spheres of life, from friendship, romantic r/ship, colleagues, family/relatives, even your children moving on with life because they are adults. The worst part about grief is its lack of timing. You could be trying to sleep, in a bathroom, in a boardroom in a middle of an important meeting, you can even be triggered in a resturant trying to finish your meal. I dont think we as the society have the skills of how to give or hold space for a person grieving. People are always to quick to tell you it will be okay or give you solutions, when all you need is to let the pain go through you. So sorry for the lengthy comment. Love always❤
Grieving people, you were once close to. It hits hard, one minute I am certain that I don't want anything to do with them, then I miss the times we were close. Sadly, if it's family, it somehow makes everyone uneasy,including the children.
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Don’t die before your actual death, just because you lost your loved one. Don’t build an altar for your pain, heal because you deserve a healed version of yourself
I love this!
Easily said than done. Time, time, time heals!
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Don't Build altar for your pain. 😢
That’s very profound ❤❤
I lost my mom while still at varsity. She died in my hands. Life happened, God prospered me. As I type this, I’m holding an Honors degree in Early childhood development, busy with my Masters in Educational leadership. On top of that I work in China. I’ve also worked in the Netherlands. In 2022, I obtained an award for excellence in primary school teaching from the Gauteng Department of Education.
I chose not to build an altar for my pain! I got busy with bettering myself to make my late mom proud and today when I look back, I’m still amazed by the grace that kept me.
Praying for those reading this. May you tap in the same grace that I experienced ❤
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"I chose not to build an altar for my pain" - A WHOLE SERMON!!!
I lost my mom two weeks ago, she died in my hands tooo. I’m going crazy it’s so tough for me. My mom suffered in life she should have stayed a little longer. I don't know how I'm going to overcome it. I'm insane😢😢😢
@@sirinaAtakora I’m sorry for your loss. I know the emptiness that comes with the loss not to mention the trauma that also affects your behavior towards others on daily basis. No words will make sense at this moment. I don’t know you or your whereabouts, but I believe that prayer knows no barriers. I will mention your name in my prayers so that God grants you the strength. 💕💕💕
@@sirinaAtakorastrength to you. Grieving is a process, so be kind to yourself on both good and bad days. It takes time. The pain heals with time.
She oozes dignity, elegance… I don’t have the words ✨🫶🏽 I love her
I love how she recognises God’s hands in everything, even in grief
“Pelo e bohloko eka u tlailisa.” 🙌🏾. Aus Kgopedi embodies WISDOM. I walk away A DIFFERENT PERSON after watching this interview.
She does hey. Hyo😢😢
This is exactly how I feel
Found myself weeping 20min into this.😢
TikTok brought me here I have been sobbing the WHOLE time 😢😢😢
❤😢 "Do Not Build An Alter For Your Pain, Your Healing May Cost You, There Are People Who Are Benefiting From Your Pain, Heal Either Way"🫂😭❤️📍 This Hit Home!!
I remember when Kgopedi changed her greeting from "I'm Kgopedi wa Namane" to "I'm Kgopedi Lilokoe". My heart for her😍
Agh I used to love that greeting. I am Kgopedi wa ga Namane, & this is..."
Right??? Was legit thinking the same thing 😊
I remember that too. Her and Mapaseka Makoti, b4 she was Mokwele
I remember this very well ❤
Me too hey,fell in love with her ever since❤
I could watch her the whole day. Authenticity, and the command of her voice.
The Authority in her voice 📍
Not only does she narrate a story on grief and healing but also gives us a glimpse on the power of love
“Pain can be addictive…. Don’t be committed to pain so much that your own healing doesn’t stand a chance…” felt!
This is actually profound,
I saw this part of the interview on tik tok a few days before my mom’s passing, and it stuck with me then. Little did I know it was setting me up for what was to come. Gods timing!♥️
The interviewers are such good listeners,they gave Mme Lilokwe an ample time to narrate her pain and grief so beautifully 👏👏 She's well spoken i must say
God is faithful even in situations that don't make sense to us. All things work together for the goodness of the Lord. I lost my mother at the age of 7 and my father at the age of 9. Got adopted by my aunt an uncle, my Aunty passed when I was 12 and uncle at 21. I lived in grief for years and years and God healed me in totality. I can testify of God walking with me in patience.
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Guys I like how she still calls him love. They must have had a beautiful love story..
Mamfundisi is so well spoken. ❤ Nkare nka mo reetsa the whole day. Being loved like that is something else. 🥹🥹🥹
I must say : her husband built her strongly. What a man!
No ma'am. God built her strongly. She was whole and formed long ago. /sounds like she equally built him (if there is such).
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From tick tock,I needed to watch this full episode
I don't know how much I've been watching this..grief is messy indeed😭😭
As much as this is about grief, but this episode has renewed my faith. There's a song by Donnie McClurkin, STAND. She stood in her faith and never wavered. Thank you❤
OH man, you're taking me down a painful memory lane of 20 years ago with a 6 month and a 9 years old. God will see you through, and those little people will grow like a small mustard seed where birds of the earth will take rest. Through God, I am now a queen, careerwise all-round mercy. Those little people are now graduates making waves in their own careers, too. I chose not to marry again and focused more on this God. All is well. Our God is the God of widows he has a soft spot for us. I am a living testimony.
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Amen 🙏🏽
My husband passed on 15 September 2024 he loves this song Omohau
I came running from Tik tok, first time here and moving in.Greetings everyone🙌
Me too. Hello neighbour
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Me too, came from tiktok
I came straight from TikTok too. Her voice is so calm and soothing. I have learnt a lot from her story.
Welcome Home Chomi's ❤
The deep breaths she kept on taking in between at the beginning. She is strong but it's still painful.
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Reliving the experience is raw
I watched it right from the beginning until the end in one go. I cried so much because I was reminded of my own journey with grief. Loosing my Mom is still one of the most traumatic things I have ever gone through. I really didn't know how to deal with the pain and I overshared so much with people that later used my pain against me. Thank you for bringing Aus Kgopedi....she is an amazing woman,May God continue to be with her and her babies and give her incredible strength❤❤#GriefIsnotLinear
When you say traumatic. I know exactly how you feel.
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The over sharing part... Soooooo true. Snap I thought I'm just seeing my own things
I lost my Mom last year September. It isn’t easy I must say. Some days are better than others but God holds me together. 🥺 May God strengthen you too sis. 🙏🏻
May God strengthen you.❤
Ohhhh my, this is exactly what happened to my wife in 2021 December... covid really tested our faith, till this I'm yet to be back at church because Sabbaths are no longer the same😢
God's Arm will continue to hold you.
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So sorry my brother. May God give you strength...o sa le teng le lehono❤
" Don't build an Altar for your pain" 😢
May the lord touch and heal you 🙏🏻
Women here's a role model for us
She really is. I have watched so many things on grief but this one landed. I really felt it.
I am getting goosebumps listening to the story of how they met.
"I had no plan, love forever was our plan"😭❤
This reminds me of my daughter's situation. She lost her husband in 2021. Their son was only 3years old. My son in law was a pastor My daughter never lost her faith till this day.
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Lost my mom during Covid. November 2021. Four years later I am still struggling. I have listened to ted talks, sermons and read so many books on grief. none come close to how much I related to this episode. Listening to Ms Kgopedi has been so cathartic. Thank you. When she said "dont build an altar for your pain" I teared up, Ebe thetha nam. Thank you so much for this episode. It is exactly what I needed.
It’s been 13 years since I lost the love of my life, my grandma. She never got to experience me as an adult and all the things I have achieved. All other loss just awakes that sadness. 😢
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Mine was 16 years ago. I still ask "Do you see me grandma?" everytime I have a win in life! I would've loved for her to see who I became.🥹
@@afrobonvivant Same here 🥹 Sending you healing ❤️
Dont build an alter for your pain...Yohhhhhh😭😭😭😭
As someone that is struggling with grief, this episode is my go-to when I start losing my marbles
“I never knew that a heart continues to break after it’s broken”😫😭yhoooo
That...😢
that got me thinking
I needed to watch this. Not sure how is popped up on my feed. My 23yr old baby sister Rabbecca passed away in a horrible car accident in 2020. A part of me died that day and I feel like what’s left of me is also dying. I wouldn’t wish this type of pain on ANYONE.
I now have an amazing therapist that’s slowly helping me navigate through this new life without my sister. I know my sister wouldn’t want me to die before my time. Will honor her life by getting the help I need and LIVING LIFE TO THE FULLEST for the both of us 🙏🏿
What a PHENOMENAL WOMAN❤❤❤she articulates herself very well 🥺🥺
I lost my dad 2 weeks ago 17 March 2024💔. All this suffocating love is stuck inside, making my chest tight. I started seeing a psychologist and she said "Grief is just love... with no place to go."
The sadness feels like a big wave, crashing over me again and again.
It feels like I'm drowning in a sea of sorrow, with no end in sight.
I can't even imagine the pain stopping. The hollowness is like a giant weight holding me down. A constant reminder...
My heart is empty. Yet full of love. This deep love for my dad. That has no nowhere go💔. I can't wait for the day I'm okay like you🙏🏽🙏🏽
"Grief is the price we pay for love and attachment " Lost my dad in January it still hurts but we will pull through dear
God gat you 🥰
My chest is so tight I thought I' need a physio but it's not helping ,it's only that I'm grieving my son loss in 2018 and my mum passing in February 2024,so all these are packed in one heavy load
I'm praying for healing
God will get you through, I lost my Dad in 2020, it still hurts but now the grief has become bearable.
So sorry sis❤
I lost 3 babies through miscarriage, In 2022 I buried my anchor, my number one supporter, my Dad. In 2023 I lost my pillar of strength as a wife, my best friend, my mother in law. All these happened in the span of the last 10 years. I am riddled by grief and pain, BUT I choose to live and celebrate all the blessings that the Lord has given me. God is GREAT even in grief and pain, and the pain does not go away, you just learn how to manage it when it flares up, and for me God is my healer when the flares up happens. Iyoooo Kgopeli God bless you ausi ❤!
"...when your partner has promised forever..." I felt that because when your partner dies, your hopes, plans, dreams, promises, your whole future dies. 😶
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Can someone please tell me why am I crying 😢...thank you so much for the interview ❤
Tell me about it my love.
I love her. What a woman! I feel like I know her even though it's the first time I see or hear about her. She has a beautiful love story that many people don't have. I wish to that people can learn to be kind to those who are grieving. It was an emotional episode. Ursula and Bonga were supportive, that's a better word that I can use. Please bring her again. She is articulate and knowledgeable. Her presence can be felt
she’s so well spoken, i wish her so much healing🥹❤️
Came running from tik tok to listen to this gem and I'm so glad. No words to describe her really❤
I did not know I needed to hear this. Grief is earth shattering.
What a beautiful soul. A fountain of wisdom and strength. "Don't build an alter for your pain...Heal"
The wisdom Mme Lilokoe carries is a blessing to us
Pain does something to a persons body. I felt that…
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It does…
I was struggling yo heal my son was murdered 2017 on Christmas day but after listening to this show I got hope I'm working on myself
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I love how she calls him LOVE, OMG tumelo e boima she's got such character she is elegant she is a super strong woman. I LOVE HER
A friend recommended this,I have lost a friend and we were nolonger in contact like before and I kept on blaming myself for not checking up on him more often.I am grateful God brought me this side❤️❤️❤️❤️
I haven’t experienced grief of a close loved one, but I’m one of those that have ‘died before my own death’, and definitely ‘built an altar for my pain’. Sheeeebaa…this episode makes me want to LIVE! Mme Lilokoe is wisdom personified ❤
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I lost my mom April last year, the past year has been the hardest for me. I couldn't even pray. April this year, same weki lost my mom I broke up with the father of my child whomst I held on dearly because thought he's the only person I have left. Surprisingly during that pain God stretched his hand I found myself drawn back to God praying more, praising the Lord and I've since accepted that my mom's gone. Life goes on. Sometimes God uses pain to reveal himself to us
Watch your tongue while you're at it. When you're in pain you don't know the line.. if you're not feeling your steps, you'll tend to overshare... it's ok yo shut up..💖
Yho! I will LIVE! 🙌. I'm encouraged. I lost my husband in October 2020, and I'm learning how to live. 💙
Thanks Mamoruti
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Yhoo guys, ho bohloko maan... But we grow through pain.. Love & light to Ausi Kgopedi and everyone who lost their loved ones through any form of pain, be it death or breakup, pain is pain and its also mercy. ❤❤
“We gave ourselves the clean slate we deserved!” Eyi ngoba nobody is going to give it to you.
I can't stop crying 😭😭 am really struggling with my mother passing 💔
She passed away in 2008 and to this day it feels as though it happened yesterday..pain so fresh..God help us😢
You and I both😢
You and I, and it’s been close to a year💔😭
Me too, it been a year 😢
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Thank you for this interview. Kgopedi is on another level, the authenticity, love and empathy that we easily give to others can do amazing things if we give to ourselves as well. I'm one of the relatives who didn't know what to say to her when the news broke. I remember sending flowers to her house a week later and forgetting to add my name on the card....I guess I was also devastated that I couldn't think straight. Lots of love to all who needed to hear the story of loss and know that we most times don't have it figured out.
Sending love and light to everyone who lost loved ones to Covid-19 🙏❤️
Im back to watch again, I need to hear this again🥺
Same!!!
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Im here for the third time 😢😢 I needed a reminder
I needed to see this. I am going through my own journey, buried my husband 8 months agao and its just been a rollercoaster.. today is a good day. Glad I found this. Kgopedis is healing me, her voice her as a person listening to this, a little part of me healed today.💓
A woman point 5
She is ball of fire
I love her
She is too powerful
Thank you guys the interview was really good ❤❤❤
What does point 5 refers to
One thing i learnt is Grief is also informed by the relationship one had with the departed , I believe her amazing story of love with her husband must be crucial in this healing journey. She was loved correctly and that gives her the strength to be . She dropped nuggets of wisdom , spoke so poetically and ever so real about her experience. She is amazing , love from Botswana. ❤❤❤🇧🇼
I love she narrated her story so calmly, her story is more like my story, I lost my partner also in 2021. I envy her strengths. She is so strong. All the way from Namibia🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦
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A powerhouse she is .I have really learnt a lot .Again it really shows that when u are loved dearly ,you never end to love back .I love how she is so consistent with how she calls her husband ."love" ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'm struggling with grief still. Today was worse. Missed my late dad.
12 years later.
I am sending my hugs to you.
I woke up missing the love of my life( Grandpa). I miss him everyday, esp on days where I have no 1 to turn too.
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Love her so much best news reader very much well spoken woman of God❤
Kgopedi story is painful but please invite her again
I need her back.
Yes. But next time not about her pain but life in general. She is very smart and well articulating
Powerful and healing message🙏🏽, even for those who haven't yet experienced grief in the form of death but have been living in grief (depression) most of their lives. May it be well, with our souls💛🙏🏽
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I am watching this while in a salon and really cannot hold my tears of sadness and joy, watching this really breaks my heart to think Mama went through the same thing when she lost Papa, at some stage I really thought Hai this mama is trying too much to be strong but it's how she would always refer back to Bible scriptures about love and death. She would say, ne o re go tlhokofale wa GA mang monna or papa? 😢😢😢 Today, this day, I am proud of mama so much. She has really kept it going well.
Someone asked me last week if I've ever healed Papa's passing and instead of answering I went speechless with what felt like a ball on my throat. I never got time to heal as I had to be strong for the kids, sibling and Mama but Papa really would hate to see me lose myself because of his passing. He has lived and ran his race and i have learnt that one doesnt realy heal but gets to live withthe pain. Thank you I feel like one of my questions is really answere here. God bless you and sending healing your way.
😢😢 8 years since my baby daddy died still feels like yesterday....sudden death of a 33year old guy full of life leaving his family & for me to raise our daughter alone thank God his family is still very much involved from all aspects of her life we still visit them etc...gs it makes it makes it easier but haaa it's journey & half to heal
Sending you comfort sisi,i can't imagen your pain.
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Partner died at 36 leaving me and our daughter behind.. it’s been 3 months and I just can’t see a way forward and the his family have been terrible. On my healing journey
This is so powerful , just recently lost my mom and I experienced the stealing one from my close family members as much as I’m grieving , I’m also trying to navigate who’s who like she said “ be careful who you surround yourself with “ so having someone who’s supposed to hold me tight “ steals “ just 12 hours after burial ? Yoh there’s a lot to unfold on grieving topic .
A lesson I am taking from here is to be intentional ❤
Talking about the guilt, I can relate. I blamed myself for the cancer that took my husband. How I have no answer. But I held on the hem of His garment. Here I am, enjoying the honey of my new marriage. God is good all the time. Jeremiah 11:29 kept me going.
I love this woman with all my heart...I need a Kgopedi kind of a friend,woman in my life. She's so authentic,so grounded. Love the way she loves,both in friendships and her love for God and the people of God❤❤
Me too😢
Same here... 😢
WOW!!! Thank you for this ''Healing from Grief.'' My siblings and I lost our Matriarch, Queen, and Anchor - our Mom who was 91 years of age. I appreciate you sharing your grief. This has helped me so much, and I thank you. Mom had Dementia and was diagnosed in 2010, 2 years after we lost my baby brother Chris in 2008 who was 38 years old. Mom passed September 21, 2023, and I thank God for our memories with her. I realized that grief has nowhere to go. However, talking to mom and reading God's words has helped me through this difficult time. I still have moments where I want to cry, but I hold onto Mom's words of wisdom which give me comfort. We had a private celebration for Mom and it was wonderful. I couldn't agree with you more that it was a very vulnerable time and not all church members where there for us or for Mom. Thank you once again. Lorraine, Brighton, England
I lost my aunt in 2019. I was with her when she departed. I have been in pain ever since and although I have found a way to live without her, I think of that day every day. Watching this before work had me in tears because I'm realizing everyday that grief is a shapeshifter and it's okay to feel how we feel about losing our loved ones. I needed this. Thank you🥺🥺 ❤
Love Kgopedi. Such a beautiful interview. May she be covered in strength and God protect her little ones.
First time watching this channel and I'm subscribing after this interview....
I needed to find this today. Navigating grief after losing my Father ,my best friend, my hero, my pillar two months ago. A man times 2.0
I lost my mom in 2018 and lost my husband in 2022, my love bow down in September 17th and buried on the 24th September. God carries His own. Am I healed, I'm not sure all I know is God carried me through it all. It's a day by day thing. This world 🌍 is not our home, we are passing through it. Little did I know. My love will leave me behind with my kidz 😢. All is well
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Thanks this conversation is strengthening me indeed after 23years I am trying to heal from that guilt thanks for encouraging me to free myself from this guilt.Thank you thank you. God bless you all
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I’ve watched this episode twice, what a powerhouse. She kind of reminds me of my late friend and I don’t know why
I lost both my parents last year 2023 🥹I buried my mom while my dad was in ICU,3 days after my mom’s funeral ,my dad passed away. I’m still struggling with grief🥹.Go botlhoko,I cry myself to sleep every day 🥹
Thank you for this interview ❤
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Askies my friend went through exactly same thing but with her we burried them day during Covid
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Hugs and strength my dear sister 😘
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This triggered wounds i avoided since 30 June 2020 when my mom passed away in my arms and She said "Ke tlo tsoga" and i think i held on to those words until today. Ausi Kgopedi just woke me....Love her wisdom ❤
I am more of a radio person than TV,, I have always loved this listening to her,, yohhh honestly it is my very first time seeing her Face and I heard this message, God bless you mommy
Oooooh My word Ursula and Bonga this painful and healing 😢😢
I lost my father 2016but it's still hurts but to hear this is healing
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I can’t really say I’m religious much, but am so glad I stumbled upon this video. I’ve been dealing with my own grief of a loved one these past couple years, and really found some great insight with this.
I know I didn’t catch all of it with the different languages at times, but can tell how meaningful those words were said.
What an amazing woman, so solid and genuine. I lost my mother in 2003 and life has never been the same. Thank you for sharing your story Sisi. ❤
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Shout out to the main interviewer, your expert ear and gentle probing, brought out this authentic conversation 🙌🏾
So glad to bump into this channel and specifically this video today. My baby would have turned 5 years old yesterday. I miscarried when I was 2 days away from reaching 27 weeks being pregnant in 2019.
I thought I was good and healed but this milestone birthday broke me in ways I didn’t think were possible again. Grief is so strange. It never goes away, I guess we learn to move forward with it. The pain is different everyday. I remember in 2019 when I was getting back into my “normal” life and I was laughing at something and I quickly gathered myself on some “you can’t be happy, you are grieving”. I know it sounds crazy but going through grief has made me empathetic to people who lose their lives to depression and sometimes lose their minds because nothing makes sense.
I'm sending you so much love during this time of your baby's 5th birthday! I see you and your pain, I lost my baby boys at 26 weeks. They would be 4 years old on 6 April ❤
@@vanessa_bukasa Thank you so much Sis. I’m also sending you lots of love 🌸 and Happy Heavenly Birthday to your babies 🥳🥳
Tumelo I lost my son in 2003 when he was 8 months and I know what you are talking about. Time does not heal we learn to live with the pain unfortunately. On the 26th July he will be turning 22 years on the other side
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@@sekgabimasobe9690 I'm so sorry love. May God heal our hearts hle. This journey has been the toughest i've ever walked. I don't wish it on anyone.
Wow! Mrs Lilokoe, you are so deep. I'd love to meet you! We are also in ministry and I'd love for you to come and teach us (the women) on how to deal with loss. I love the way you love the Lord. The way you vocally appreciate and acknowledge the support system around you. Profound. Well done guys.
I remember when my father passed on,at the mortuary viewing his body singing Tumisang joale hosana,Modimo o re etetse,bophelo re mo humane,Jesu o bo tlisitse,Sefapanong topollo e hlabele. My mom was soo annoyed with me,and a year later my mother accepted Jesus Christ as her Lord & saviour.She was born again. Hold to God's unchanging hand.❤
Such an eloquent woman. So sorry for your loss Sus❤🙏🏾
I'm so happy with Bonga's questions Bathong
Yhoo this episode felt like a hug. Nothing happens without a reason. Im not much affected by grief,but I've learned the importance of community and how its ok it is to just keep quite when you have nothing to say.
UmamKgopedi i wish her many more shinny days and all those affected by grief❤
The power of God is so visible in her journey🥺 her testimony has brought such comfort to my heart❤️
Wow, very humble, Now I understand why she is saying she is surrounded by love, such a humble soul.
Cried from beginning to end. The way she narrates her story 🥺
Unabantu Bakho Thixo
Ngamaxesha onke
Ubagcina
Ubanceda
Ngamaxesha onke!
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A conversation i didn't know I need to hear. I felt her story and had so many chills. She is such a strong woman and i love her honesty and vulnerability.
And when she continously calls him LOVE. You can tell, she will carry him with her forever. Thats the once in the lifetime love.
In the future, can we unpack grieving people you lose because of circumstances but still have to live with knowing you can never experience them (or experience them the same way as in the past) because there is no room for them in your life, or they have no room for you in their life.
I find it hard to grieve a person who is still alive, but things can no longer be patched up, in varios spheres of life, from friendship, romantic r/ship, colleagues, family/relatives, even your children moving on with life because they are adults.
The worst part about grief is its lack of timing. You could be trying to sleep, in a bathroom, in a boardroom in a middle of an important meeting, you can even be triggered in a resturant trying to finish your meal. I dont think we as the society have the skills of how to give or hold space for a person grieving. People are always to quick to tell you it will be okay or give you solutions, when all you need is to let the pain go through you.
So sorry for the lengthy comment.
Love always❤
In this house! We welcome lengthy comments
"The worst thing about grief is lack of timing." I fet that deeply.
Grieving people, you were once close to. It hits hard, one minute I am certain that I don't want anything to do with them, then I miss the times we were close. Sadly, if it's family, it somehow makes everyone uneasy,including the children.
I love her too much it's a problem😭🙌!!
I got goosebumps listening to her speak!what a woman❤.