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@@mindy1230 lol. I’m not deleting comments on my end 🤷🏻‍♀️ and I see your comments.

@@PamelaOkpala her name is Kjersti Flaa. She has done other interviews. She has a RUclips channel that is linked in the description box above.

@@ivamilojkovic4267 thanks for watching the video. You should re-watch the video. There’s nuance here that may have been missed a little bit. I live in the US so this is focused on Americans specifically. I mention the working class being divided amongst ourselves BY the elite to keep us fighting amongst each other. Rhetorically arguing, not actual fighting. As for Russia and China, which I think what you’re mentioning, I am not vilifying them, but explaining the differences between their cultures that inherently creates different people from us here in the US. It’s not a negative or positive, just a factual statement. It’s all connected and this video explains it well. Give it an another watch and hopefully it will come together.

This word gets thrown around so much it's starting to lose it's meaning anymore. Emotional immaturity does not always = narcissist. Are narcissists emotionally immature? Yes! Are all people that are emotionally immature narcissists? No! And it's also a possibility that this is the case with Blake. Unless we know her personally or are her doctor of any kind, it's thoughtless to just go around casually calling people we barely know anything about narcissists

@victoriah.20 I know all this and still call her out as a Narcissist with a lot of red flags. I don't call everyone I don't like a Narcissist lol. I know what that word means.

@@mindy1230 Yes because you're a psychologist, are with her day in and day out to say this with 100% certainty and you aren't projecting anything onto her because of your own biases, feelings and personal issues.

@victoriah.20 1 in 6 people are Narcissistic according to Dr Rhamni the expert in Narcissism. I recognize it easier because my Mom is a Narcissist. After viewing Many Many interviews of Blake Lively, I noticed her using "word salad" techniques to dominate the interview, even as her co stars sat uncomfortably. The media keeps calling it tone deaf and "out of touch" when it's actually Narcissistic. And this is just my opinion but it's a weighty one. I rarely call people Narcissistic. Her lack of empathy. She enjoyed turning the tables back onto the interviewer and is passive aggressive very rapidly. Blake seems to have an entirely set of rules just for her (she is easily annoyed) as she can behave like an ox in a China hut. That's a Narcissist thing.

@victoriah.20 1 in 6 people are Narcissistic according to the leading expert Dr Rhamni. My Mother is a narcissist, so I am familiar with the themes. This is my opinion but it has weight. No, not all actors are Narcissistic even if they are self promoting. I saw the signs in the infamous interview where Blake got extremely defensive with the interviewer for nothing. She then enjoyed thoroughly treating her poorly. I went to watch other vids to see if there were more signs and there is. "Word Salad" is where a Narcissist takes control and dominates the room, in spite of her costars visably uncomfortable next to her. Whenever you see someone who has a lot of rules for how they want to be treated, yet they can act like a bull in a China hut with yours, it's a sign your dealing with a Narcissist. Examples "baby bump" omg noooo but this person habitually does things that are super questionable. There are more signs. I may post my own video on this. IAnd no I don't call everyone I don't like a Narcissist lol. You are trying to get people to defend their opinions when I don't have to. I have also viewed videos made by Psychologicists who confirm what I have seen. So the ones with the degrees are right on board with it.

If she can talk about CP, she can talk about DV, she chose not to, and in turn, she didn't acknowledge very real victims of DV, until she was called out for it publically for it.

@@TharinduSamaranayake not saying you have to be an expert to give sympathy to DV survivors. Anyone that knows Blake and her approach to her work, knows she not serious like this. I don’t know why she was chosen for the project in the first place. Many other actresses could have done a much better job AND been able to understand and sympathise with the audience. It’s the surprise from people that she’s not understanding the depth of this, that surprises me because she’s proven herself to not be a very serious actress, let alone person. The story deserved better and the women watching did too. I just knew it wasn’t be great because Blake was not it. They could have done a better job and had a better reception from the audience. And then, we wouldn’t be here.

​@@empathictimes Blake is an adult who needs to be responsible and accountable for her own actions. Just because she's not a 'serious' person doesn't give her a pass to behave the way she does. A professional comedian might have a better understanding of how to handle situations than Blake does. Also no one forced her to take the role. It's her decision to take it. If she didn't want to be in such a situation, she shouldn't have accepted it. Making excuses for her behavior and blaming others for choosing her for the role is yet another attempt to defend her at all costs.

​@@empathictimes even if she isnt the right person to be cast for such a role, the issue isn't her acting at all, its her lack of sympathy. Personality does not excuse her lack of sympathy. You do not have to be a SERIOUS PERSON to understand issues are serious. it's just common sense! Hiring blake isn't the issue, it's blake's lack of sympathy that is, serious or not she is a grown woman, with kids, with a family, she isn't a dense person who cannot pick up on serious things, her role as serena on gossip girl also had serious moments. It doesn't matter who you are outside of your role, when you're part of something that represents so many woman, that represents such a big issue, your personality isn't in the question, you can be someone who doesn't look into things deeply but sympathise, it doesn't take a genius to know that DV is wrong. No ones asking her to do an in-depth analysis, just for sympathy, it isn't hard for even a light hearted person to say something along the lines of "this is such a real story for so many women and I hope they can feel heard or seen by it" or something like that. Personality is not an excuse. period. Casting may have been an issue, but in the end blakes own choices and actions were the issue, not the casting.

@@empathictimes Also if she can speak out against serious issues like CP, a VERY SERIOUS THING, which I very much respect her for doing. It is clearly not a personality issue of her not being able to be serious. clearly she can, and she isn't some ditzy dumb person, she is still smart enough to know the sensitivity of DV, just like she addressed CP with civility and seriousness, she could've done the same here. It was a matter of what she found important in the moment, and she didn't find it as important to comment on the DV of the situation, profits were more on her mind, which is fine I guess, but even so, some respect is called for.

Sex* Es inglés para ser comprendida. Respeto a todas esas mujeres que por siglos han enfrentado violencia doméstica, esto no es una venta de perfume floral o una Carrie “wanna be” del sitcom como a representado durante la promoción con su proyección egocentrica y sarcástica. Adicional no fue una buena película ni actuación de su parte. She’s out of place.

@@gaiacommunications I agree that the subject matter is serious. I don’t understand why Blake was cast in the first place because her whole persona in everything I have ever seen is so similar. She’s not a bad actress, but I don’t disagree with people that are upset about the direction of the film from the book. I think an actress like Amy Adams would have been a much better pick and the direction of the film in its entirety would have been a lot different and more serious. I’m not defending the film and how it was done. This video was focusing on the hubbub of the interview primarily, and responding to some of things that people were mentioning here and there about not liking how she was responding to the questions. DV is serious, affects many many women all over the world and deserves a serious take. They didn’t do a good job with the film, IMO because it was made too flashy. I just think that’s going to happen with anything Blake is involved in because she will not be part of any projects she doesn’t have some control over. Hence her being an Executive producer. The film and its reception would likely be better had a more serious actress been chosen. And btw, no one pays me lol. This is completely free channel lol. Thanks for your comment.

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@@animalkin7127 I have been around a lot of pregnant women at her stage and they were so done with the world and everyone that having to be “nice” and understanding to someone saying something like that was not even a possibility. lol. It wasn’t a good look for sure, I just know how a lot of women feel at that point. The reporter may have not meant any disrespect, and I don’t think she did at that time. But Blake seems to have taken it that way in the moment. It’s different for everyone. And all opinions are welcomed here. 🙏🏼

exactly. The interviewer wasn't being malicious, but Blake acted as if she had just been attacked. Regardless of whether women are sensitive about their pregnancies being acknowledged, it doesn't excuse such foul behavior. The interviewer had good intentions. If someone feels offended, a mature woman shouldn't react in such a way.

The side chat she had, excluding the interview was rude. She is a working actress. Be professional on an interview when promoting a movie you are a part of. One day you will wish to have a journalist interview you.

Yeah it was mean, but I have three children. One time when I was pregnant I went to the doctor with my eldest because we both had food poisoning and I wanted to make sure we were okay, and the doctor made a joke about me gaining a few pounds after weighing me, and I literally burst into tears and told him, “Yeah I know I’m fat.” Which doesn’t sound terribly mean, but he was mentoring some young doctor at the time so I imagine my little outburst was kind of embarrassing to everyone involved. (I always gained a lot when pregnant because the morning sickness lasted well into my third trimester and eating helped the nausea. And I was always very aware of my weight.) He called me at home later to apologize but I was so mortified I didn’t answer the phone. So yeah, pregnant women be crazy and I’m glad none of my mean was caught on camera for the whole world to see. 😂

I don't think it's rocket science to deduce that Lively is the spoil brat, control freak in the matter. All anyone has to do is listen to her speak. When she says things like, I'm not suppose to be talking about this, then, proceeds to spill the beans on the disagreement on set. Or no one knows this but now you do and then proceeds to tell the reporter her husband wrote the rooftop scene. Things like that are very revelatory of one's character. And that older interview where she was rude af, is also very telling. She wasn't having a bad day. It was so obvious she was being intentionally rude and dismissive to the reporter. It was awful to watch someone being treating like that.

@@user-bh7uc7iy5u 👏👏👏 Thanks for watching and commenting. People just want to be outraged about things that in the end, don’t matter much. There’s much bigger things going on right now.

@@empathictimes I am Hungarian and have no dog in this fight, found it hard even to figure out who Blake Lively was. But IMO that interview was outright bullying towards the journalist. Not just a bad moment, not just a small mistake, it was going on for over 5 minutes straight, trying to humiliate another woman whom those two Hollywood actresses seemed to consider as beneath them. As a human being, watching it gave me creeps. Absolutely unacceptable behaviour, and I don't care how famous that Blake woman is (I personally never seen her in anything).

@@Riya-sc9bd That’s a great point about the cultural differences. It might be more commonly used where she’s from. I have talked to a lot women over the years that have been pregnant and many of them, especially as they get near the end hate being looked at like that, talked to like that, etc. It’s touchy and different for everyone. I get that. And I agree that this is a serious topic that affects countless women. Unfortunately. I mentioned in another comment that I don’t know why Blake was chosen for this film at all, as she is not a serious actress and her involvement in changing things from their original form is being done from her own perspective, which as I mentioned in the video, I don’t think she has anything remotely close in her life experience to this. I think a different actress would have done the book and film much more justice and been more comforting women that sadly relate to those situations. Big Little Lies for example went heavy on DV and the way those dynamics work in relationships. And that was a serious show with very good serious actors. I also agree with you that Justin has done a much better job at understanding this all much better than Blake. It doesn’t require an expert to talk on DV. What I was hopefully conveying in this video is that people being upset at Blake over her inability to discuss this, seems like a such a stretch for her as an actress and person because she’s never been a seemingly serious person. Hence my surprise with people and their reaction to her. If that makes sense. And I agree, this wasn’t the time for self promotion. I’m just not surprised. It’s her whole personality. Hopefully this whole thing will give her a new perspective and outlook on not just her but the people around her. Thanks for your comment.

​@@empathictimes that's very reasonable assumption, and I agree with the casting decision with blake not necessarily being great. But regardless of personality type, some things are just meant to be taken seriously, even if it is something out of their comfort zone personality wise. There are countless actors and actresses that may have no experience with hard issues but still are able to express its importance. Blake is a mother, an adult, most importantly, a public figure, thus, her personality doesn't necessarily excuse her actions or lack of general awareness or sympathy regarding the situation. A lighthearted, goofy person can still acknowledge real truths of the world and still sympathise with people that are suffering in the world. Justin baldoni's actions are a representation of that, he doesn't have experience on the issue and outside of this movie and its promotion, he has also been quite fun loving, family oriented, and more of a relaxed guy, it doesn't take a genius to know when to be serious about something serious. Blake's whole personality doesn't excuse her lack of sympathy or awareness regarding the situation of domestic violence. In terms of the interview though, I get things can be touchy, but if you choose to put yourself in a position where you are a public figure, you have to be more cautious of your behaviour. It sucks but that is quite literally the reality of it, because millions of people will have their eyes on you. Blake is human, off days happen, she may have been mad or upset, or things may have occurred behind the scenes, but once she was on camera, its something she has a duty to take control of. I've also been around countless pregnant women, and yes comments can be upset, their emotions are also very fragile, but even so in contexts where they aren't close with people or where they are in public I've seen them maintain composure. I'm not saying that blakes perfect and has to be 24/7, definitely not she's human she'll have her slip ups, if it was just the whole comment issue, that's one situation, but regardless of feelings ignoring the interviewer isn't appropriate behaviour either, her behaviour just seems incredibly petty teen behaviour rather than adult behaviour. But there's just a time and a place, she could've addressed issues off camera, still communicated and talked to the interviewer, there were other ways to deal with any rising frustration or anger than to act that way especially on camera. Similar to now how she's promoting hair care, and giggling about clothes in the movie rather than discussing the importance of it, there's a time and a place, and blake is adult enough to realize that. She is not by any means the most intelligent individual of all time, but she is someone who is socially aware, and once again an adult. Her personality and moments of anger or frustration, doesn't excuse her reactions, actions, or behaviour. It may be an explanation but not an excuse.

@@Riya-sc9bd I don’t disagree with anything you’ve said. You’re right that she’s an adult and needs to rein it in. And also, that being public figure puts you in that role of having to “rise above it” even when you’re not wanting to. And as for the promotion of products and things, I do think it’s in bad taste. I’m just not surprised. So many people are doing self promotions and using whatever moments they can to do so, even when it looks incredibly disrespectful to the moment, the work you’re doing etc. My main thing always comes back to these being celebrities. Self aggrandizing celebrities that seize any opportunity they can. I’m no simp or Stan for Blake and do think much of what she has done has been in poor taste. In relation to the interview specifically, which this video focused on, I still hold to my opinion that the interviewer is not being forthcoming and using it as a moment for herself. And I don’t like that she is making it seem like Blake knew she was infertile, when I highly doubt that and no info says she did. That’s my big issue with the interview and reporter. How she’s using this moment, just like Blake, to make a name for herself and putting herself as some victim. Thanks for sharing your opinion and thoughts. It’s given me more to think about. ♥️

@@empathictimes I do agree with the interviewer's timing of displaying what occurred it definitely adds fuel to the fire, I do agree with that, I doubt blake knew either about the reporters infertility that is usually a thing people keep private. So I agree in that context for sure! However I do think similar to how she's acting now her behaviour was in poor taste, it wasn't that she got so upset she left the room or cried or anything, she chose to be disrespectful in the interview. Ofc, again ik we don't know what happened behind the scenes and I do agree the reporter is using this situation to her advantage we'd be fools not to recognise the timing of the post itself. However, it still doesn't necessarily justify how she acted in the video itself, its one thing using height of drama to add more fuel to the fire, I don't think it's great ofc, but it is another thing to ignore the person who's interviewing you based on any 'heat of the moment' emotions. I don't necessarily agree with the reporters actions of posting now I believe that's in poor taste too, but still doesn't excuse blake or her coworker's rudeness during the interview itself.

@@empathictimes And also, i think most of us learn in like primary school level or (ages 5 - 12, don't know what it is referred to in America) that we should be mindful of our words? Process them, think before we speak, blake was speaking before thinking, her reactions were too fast during the interview and incredibly 'dramatic' to say the least. No matter what occurs off screen, she is still held to a higher standard, she doesn't have to be perfect, it was the one response to the bump comment, it may be overlooked, but the rest of her behaviour was also unacceptable. And you don't have to know about someones infertility issues to just not say something about their body? Because the way the interviewer came off, it wasn't a malicious in intent, it was a congratulations, more of an appreciation of the life she was creating, but blake was being malicious in her intention with her response because she did know that the interviewer wasn't pregnant.

@@tyegress1708 Awh. Well I see you. Thanks for watching.

Yes. Population decline. Government power centralization. WWIII, nuclear war saber rattling, economic collapse, AI taking over jobs in the millions, homelessness, skyrocketing cost of living, no healthcare, bad health overall and on top of all of that, the solar cycle. 🥵 too many things happening at once so people don’t see it. 😔

Thank you for sharing. This is insightful and giving me more to think about. I especially appreciate and I am thinking more into what you said about the power dynamic and the one that is administering the shame. There is a power there that like so many other things, can be taken overboard and like you said the “retributive acts” based on what it is that is being “shamed” could be taken to an extreme. I often forget how engrained religious practices can be for some as I did not personally grow up in a highly strict religious house or institution. But I did grow up with very strict old world values and expectations. I can see some overlap, but it is blind spot for myself that I appreciate you discussing. It’s given me much to think about. Thanks again for sharing your views and being part of this discourse. ✌🏼

@@empathictimes thanks for your kind words, and thanks for posting the video. I was hesitant to watch it because of the very shame that I feel still, and to thus affirm shame again is a bit scary. But I definitely get the point you’re making with this, but I wanted to offer my perspective as something to consider what else comes connected with shame for a lot of people that is often not thought of.

I’m very concerned with the “body positivity” movements swing towards “fat is healthy.” It’s dangerous. It’s stupid and I can’t help but feel like it’s an entire op. Like so many things, it started from a good place (body diversity, disabled representation etc.) all of which I do agree with. But acting like obesity isn’t a thing, going to “obesity” doctors that don’t give you the slap in the face you need when you need it 🤦🏻‍♀️. It’s sad. And I’m seeing it everywhere.

Oh I love this!!

I’m not familiar with master chef but I am with Gordon Ramsey. And I completely agree. It’s about making us better. Sometimes the approach might be harsh, but when we are in a world of people that seem to have never received that harshness, it’s necessary. It’s part of life. ✌🏼

This!

I hear y’a. It’s not easy. But I have done this my whole life and even when I know it’s futile, I still continue. Trying to have hope in people and the collective but as I have mentioned in other videos, a lot, and I mean A LOT of people will never wake up and will be part of the statistic of those that don’t make it when real SHTF. 😕

I see what you’re saying and I know what I am proposing is not fool proof. You bring up a good point. “Who is the arbiter of what is shameful?” I feel like the basics that are laid out in almost every religion and spiritual practice of not hurting one another, not committing heinous acts of depravity (r*pe, incest, adultery etc.), protecting the young, old and disabled etc., is a decent start. But I hear what you mean about the collective and who ultimately decides. In a perfect world, we would all have our basic needs met, be critical thinkers and a well educated populace. Maybe that’s where more of the focus should be and everything else would naturally fall into place?

I didn’t say we shouldn’t have laws. I believe we should, which is something I addressed in a previous video that I linked here. But we also can’t just create laws. That comes from elected officials and we see how well they do with things now. Lol. This is about when WE see something, instead of looking away and telling ourselves “someone else will take care of that or report that” we do it. I think this involves all aspects of society. Not just laws but the people that believe in the enforcement of those laws and the necessity of having them. A lot of people don’t see how bad this content is getting.

Wouldn't need laws if people acted right or in a decent manner. You shame the parents, don't watch their videos and they can't expose their children for clicks because then no one is clicking on them. People steal, murder, etc. which are all illegal by law but either people don't get caught, skate around with a good lawyer or just don't care. We can't always rely on the law/other people to do the job.