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Thanks for this Asha. I’m going through the new definition of “family” now… it’s so hard… taking me almost a decade to process my neglected childhood and also process how now that I am an adult my parents aren’t trying to teach me anything about life or anything at all….

My moyher is like this

This broads point of view is what's wrong with this weak generation

I’ve been struggling with how to balance technology and faith in our home, and ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ provided some amazing insights that we’ve already started using

Your skin is so beautiful.

Just hate how my father is controlling.He always does what he wants ,doesnt even ask my opinion once or my interests, all he cares is about himself and his perspective. Always makes me do things forcefully even when i strongly disagreed to it..

I made the mistake of spoiling my children and giving them whatever they want. Whenever I ask them for help they are always too busy. Whenever they need help I drop whatever I am doing to assist them. I do not ask them for much. I just ask them to do well in school and clean up after themselves. They have no responsibility and never help. How can I keep asking them to just pick up after themselves? I have tried everything. They only clean after I get mad. This is not how I want them to clean. Why does it always take yelling to get them to clean up their mess?

You owe your parents respect. Obedience. Once you are old enough to support and care for yourself, move out and move on if you want.

Wow, this is sickening listening to the disrespect to parents... You kids will learn when its your turn...

I have PTSD from rape. My mother guilt trips me to attend holidays with people who upset me. Im shocked at how selfish my mother is. I usually go to all holidays. I miss a few.

Dear asha jacob my mum keeps over taking my tea section i v told my mum numeres of times not do do that i try not to get upset about it but i do 😢😪😡🫢😒😏🙂 what should i do so what s going on on one side one side _____________ mother and one side ______ daughter from Ashley happy christmas asha

I liked when she told "If your parents try to guilt - Trip you , Just remember It was not because you were not good enough child, You were not Grateful etc Its Because your parents just didnt know how to be the parents that you needed them to be" soo good statement miss .Tbh who ever reading this comment i wanna tell you that YOU DOING YOUR BEST it didnt matter if your parents dosent appreciate your work its because they are not raised in the environment where their parents doesnt encouraged them. NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU MY DEAR TAKE THIS COMMENT AS SIGN .FINISH WHAT YOU STARTED . im here being soo PROUD OF YOU and ill pray god for YOU!!!

Dear asha jacob i was at my sister in laws house for dinner but i lost interest because my dad is sick but improving but i cried over it i managed to talk it out with my mum and to be honest i needed to hear that voice or that opinion on what i should do and my mum said to me asha its okay 😢❤❤❤❤😃😃😃😃😀🫠 as i work on different emotional patterns on one side ___________ sad and the other side _______ happy so on one side ___________ daughter and on the other side _____________ mother so whats going on from ashley but i m okay now

Dear asha i had dinner in my sister in laws house i lost interest in dinner because my dad is sick but improving as well i felt bad i cried but i m okay now see yea asha jacob from Ashley

Dear asha i watched jingle all the way on and sat up in bed and it was a great experience just to get that hotel experience it did me good just to be away from the parents or no parents i dont blame you for wanting to try and get in touch with your mum you did the best that you could for her and not have a life of your own put on a good dvd asha try not to think about it and you u just keep going and try and keep happy and asha merry Christmas ❤❤❤ enjoy the season good luck from ashley

Hi, I am 15, and from the young age of 8, I have always been getting guilt-tripped, beat up for small things like school work and or "disrespecting people" and sometimes even at home they act really weird to say I am not respectful though I am I can't even talk to them informally like normal families do that's just how bad it is am always keeping my thoughts to my self and when I get the bad grade they bring up things saying they'd take me back to a certain country they think am not good enough . 2017

Thank you for being here for me, Asha. ❤️❤️❤️

Dear asha I had constipation and I googled and I researched but I m not the only one who had experienced it my uncle had the same knowing that I m not alone now Ashley mcgarry

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I am 35 year old single woman... Earning nd living on my own... I have been struggling in my career... My father has never been proud of me... He never said a single word of appreciation.. nd he never will...😢 He's just ashamed of having a daughter like me because I'm unmarried... He even compared me with rotten fish... To support his advise of why I should get married before it's too late. He gave example of how some people sell the fish at low price because if it gets rotten it is not going to be worth anything... It was very hurtful,till date haven't forgiven him...😢

Ma'am you're so full of it and you're lying. The Lord says to honour your father and mother. He didn't say only if they were good toSo you're speaking lies about not owing your parents anything, that's the most disrespectful thing to say. you,

I have social anxiety of white Americans people so annoying

It can suck lol but can also be a gift

All the people in the comments telling on themselves. We see all the people who force themselves on kids manhandled, manipulated, abuse, and dehumanizing their kids or defending their actions done to children are pure evidence of just how rare good parenting is

I wish this was more objective. There are parents who were loving but who have kids that aren't, rather that's due to mental illness or outside influences. Just like some parents harm their kids, some kids harm their parents but parents are treated as scapegoats, rather it's the single mom or the coparenting father. I won't add the absent fathers or the drug addict parents. But some kids will even honor drug addict parents over parents that gave you everything they didn't have growing up and say it still wasnt enough and because it wasn't everything they absolutely needed, you're a bad parent or not good enough to be in their lives. Why aren't those viewe added? Are adult children never responsible for how they treat or treated their parents growing up? If so, which videos about that have you done to balance this out?

What an entitled self-absorbed narcissist you are. I am so grateful for my wonderful adult children.

I disappointed my parents they spent so much on my studies but i tried and kept faliling... Every since i was a kid my parents did every thing for me but i am just worthless.... I am constantly in the spiral of breakdown i mean i dont blame them they arw just doing things for me. I really need help

I'm a depressed teen so I'm very isolated. To make it short, i'm repressing a lot of things, but I love to express my creativity and I also bake quite often. It's just a matter of time before my mom comes right after me, literally in my face, to prove that she's doing something as good or even better. Claiming "that we should do it together!" I agree. Then I realize a while later, she was just bullying me into being less than. (By saying I'm not as good, trying to be grown, my sister can do it better, he's handicaped-therefore invalid, ecah time I speak, in a few seconds, mom would invalidate me.) I can't even trust her anymore, and I feel bad for little me. I just feel so desperate to be left alone yet accepted.

I know that its not our obligation to pay back to our parents but I want to help them someday not because I feel obliged but because of LOVE...

i father wont allow me to get a job and trying to force me to get in an marriage arrangement and i always refuse it, my stepmom is the worse person on planet earth

I’m watching this at 46.. I wish I got away when I was younger, but my mother became disabled and I help care for her.

YOU ARE WRONG. VERY WRONG AND INCONSIDERATE. SHAME ON YOU

Im 21 and trying to move out since i was 16. There's no light. Been living alone with my abusive tooooxic mother. I have no job, no degree, no schooling and sit at home with stress and a burnout. Im also trans and cant transition untill i move out (i dont want her to know..). Also I smoke nearly a pack a day of cigarettes and i push away friends and sit and game all day. Is this life? WHEN will i move out and be free. I'm almost 22 now and im still depressed and living like a 14 year old. I wish i was free and independent and happy. Thank you

And do you think the US is bad. In Thailand, the legal framework around children and adult children in relation to their parents is quite specific: Children and Parents: Thai law generally provides that children (under the age of 18) cannot press charges or sue their parents for actions that fall under normal parental authority, such as discipline or care decisions, unless there is clear abuse, neglect, or illegal behavior. In cases of abuse or serious harm, children may seek legal intervention through child protection laws. Adult Children and Parents: Once children reach adulthood (18 years and older), they are legally independent from their parents. However, Thai law typically does not allow adult children to sue or press charges against their parents for general grievances, even in cases of financial disputes or personal conflicts. The relationship is considered to be one of respect and familial duty, and legal recourse is non-existence Legal Contracts: While legal theory allows for contract enforcement, in practice, adult children in Thailand would face significant obstacles in suing or enforcing a contract with their parents, particularly in family disputes. Courts may be reluctant to get involved, and the legal framework does not provide straightforward or easy recourse in these situations. Be a responsible traveller. Avoid Thailand at all cost. They are renting out their vaginas to you out of the obligation to their parents.

😢Currently Im going through mental issue becoz of this..big love to you.. ❤

I am a mother of a teenage girl. We are a middle class family. She want to go to a private high school which costs $30,000 a year but it is too expensive for us. She take many extracurricular activities. I am proud of myself that I can afford the classes that she wants to try. I provide transportation to the classes. I manage the schedule. But I sometimes feel frustrated because she doesn't appreciate. So I told her I want her to appriciate more. She act like I do not enough. I explain to her that she is surrounded by friends who have richer families. But she disagree. She said we can provide her better. She studies hard and she is all As student. She is a good girl and she deserves better. Actually we agreed to her and she apply for the private school. I worry because we cannot save for her college. I don't want her to struggle from studrnt loan. I don't want that I have no retirement. Yes I choose to have a child. But I never imagine I feel this way. I hope my daughter feel the way you explain. I try very hard to take care of her.

Thank you :)

My dad was always doing it to his kids. I don't owe you. You owe me. Biggest bunch of 🐂 💩 ever said. You can set in now & start paying me back for all I did & never get me paid back. My mom even acts like that. Trying to make you feel guilty. They think this will earn them respect. This is no way to earn your child's respect or appreciation. You didn't ask to be born. Apparently he was a selfish SOB who put himself first & foremost & above everybody else. He was toxic about it. You owed him for "F" you into existence. He didn't treat us like children of his but indentured servants. Your basic needs to sustain life should be earned & not given. That was so devastating.

Today, I had my parents try to financially guilt trip over severe contact with them. They say that "it's because of their financial assistance that I got ahead in life and that without them I'd be working at some low wage job". As if their financial help absolves the abuses they've inflicted on me.

I am middle aged and i cane to visit my 75 year old mother and she berated me today for making a small mistake in the kitchen. I turned on a cooker thinking that it has rice in it. She started in her own way and my BP went up. I told her to keep quiet and i said i didn't come to visit so she could berate me. I live by myself and cook for friends when i invite them and they like it. At home, whenever i cook, she never likes it. My older sister is extremely sharp and a great cook. I was never interested in cooking before but living by myself i enjoy cooking for friends. I am sorry i overreacted with her today but i realize that i like living alone making my own choices and relying on my self without fear of criticism from anyone.

Parents with mental health issues will often over-control their children to help diminish their own anxiety or stress or aggravation. In the case of anxiety or neuroticism, the parent will deny the child autonomy and the ultimately the ability to develop resilience and very important life skills. By damaging the child in this way, they keep the child close and dependent which helps the parent meet THEIR own (unhealthy) emotional needs. When the child finally grows up and has to face the world, they have extreme difficulty navigating adult responsibilities and relationships. Anxiety, dependence, avoidance, depression, substance abuse... All kinds of problems show up.

If children and parents understand what appreciation and self worth is there wouldn't be any thing like guilt tripping.

I am really happy that someone people have the similar situation to me and I feel very understood

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You are speaking garbage and not biblical you should be respectful to your parents this is what's wrong with the world people like you telling them they don't have to owe you anything you're a troublemaker an ungodly

I believe its my responsibility as their child especially their eldest child to take care of them in their old age. Sure there might've been difference in opinions and views sometimes you might argue with them leading to harsh words being said but that's life even in relationship it happens every now and then. Doesn't mean I'll start avoiding my parents. Reconciliate with them apologise if necessary even if it isn't your fault. Cherish your moments life is too short to hate someone permanently.

My Mum blamed me for choosing her as my mother, yes, you heard that right; she blamed me for giving birth to me. You can't make this up. This woman is never ever wrong in anything she does in her mind. She gave birth to me out of wedlock, and then got with a beta so that me and her could be taken care of. I ended up being physically and emotionally abused by this beta, who took every opportunity to let me know how unwelcome my entire existence is while I was growing up. This woman then lies throughout my life, telling me that this abusive beta was my real father, until I confronted her at the age of 26, when she confessed that she had given birth to me out of wedlock with another man, a man I will never know who it was, thanks to her. Throughout my unfortunate life with this woman, she has shamed me, guilt-tripped me, judged me, and loved me while making me feel like a disappointment whenever I fail to meet her expectations which is 24/7. 11 Nov 2024.

I need to listen to this again, thank you. 11 Nov 2024.

I literally got a call from my dad and stepmother yelling at me as if I owe them something in the middle of me watching this 😢

honestly, just live life for yourself, dont care about others, if someone looks awful, tell them it. If you need to get agressive do it. We have one life, live it for yourself and dont waste your energy on pleasing others.