Hi! For me, every single video about dealing with toxic parents is extremely helpful. I've been struggling for a long time to manage my own anxiety towards them and the way they interract with me, I've started therapy as well and honestly it's the hardest thing I've been through, learning how to accept the fact that they won't accept me the way I am. As a kid I always tried to please them, but since they want to control everything I do with my life, our relationship deteriorated when I started to stand up for myself. They don't like things like the city I chose to live in, the career I chose, they don't like my boyfriend, it goes to even books I read or where I want to go on holidays. Then they complain that I don't talk to them as much, but their supreme argument is that I'm the kid and they are the parents, and that I don't have the right to be upset with them or tell them anything. However in our arguments I've always been respectful, while they've been throwing all kinds of words in my face, calling me names. And the latest thing, they complain that I'm acting all adulty now, it's like they want me to depend on them or something? And this really messed with my self confidence, it's like I developed some kind of impostor syndrome on being an adult, cause they are acting like I shouldn't be independent. Like a feeling that I won't be able to be fine on my own. Or is this the result of gaslighting? I was wondering what are your thoughts on this. I tried to summarize as best as I could. Thanks again for everything you're doing and I'm so grateful to see you back here ❤
Andreea, I seriously appreciate you sharing your experience with such detail. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I can only imagine what your inner critic must be like. I'm going to respond to this with a video and share all I can to help give some guidance and perspective on the situation. I'll comment on here once it's uploaded so you'll get notified! Hugs.
Thank you, Asha. I came across your videos recently and found your videos to be so helpful. I would love it if you made a video on parental anxiety and how it affects their children. I have a bunch of issues and on reflecting, I realized where they came from. My parents are very anxious and overreactive. They would scream at me for accidentally spilling a glass of water, I have never got a weird haircut in my life because my parents keep reacting terribly to anything even slightly out of the ordinary. Me bunking a day of school to go and chill with friends would earn them some disapproval, but my parents would react as though my life was ruined. A bad grade wasn't just a bad grade to them, it is the end of the world. A mild embarrassment to me is a complete loss of reputation as far as they are concerned. Every one of their reactions throughout my life has been so extreme and exaggerated. They seem to live in a world where everything is super dangerous all the time. They were overprotective of me and only fighting them made them loosen their grip somewhat. When I tell them to please stop panicking over insignificant things, they insult me by calling me a naive idiot, which only further damages my self confidence. Moving out is the only way, but how do I deal with this when I am stuck with them? Now I live in constant anxiety too. Always feeling threatened by everything, half expecting the people around me to go nuts like my parents did.
Oh gosh, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Realizing you need to create mental protection against your own parents is such a painful experience that really does rob you of being able to just be a kid. I've made a video on this exact topic in "How overbearing parents affect your mental health". But that was a while ago, and I'd love to make another video on anxious parenting. Hugs.
Hi! For me, every single video about dealing with toxic parents is extremely helpful. I've been struggling for a long time to manage my own anxiety towards them and the way they interract with me, I've started therapy as well and honestly it's the hardest thing I've been through, learning how to accept the fact that they won't accept me the way I am. As a kid I always tried to please them, but since they want to control everything I do with my life, our relationship deteriorated when I started to stand up for myself. They don't like things like the city I chose to live in, the career I chose, they don't like my boyfriend, it goes to even books I read or where I want to go on holidays. Then they complain that I don't talk to them as much, but their supreme argument is that I'm the kid and they are the parents, and that I don't have the right to be upset with them or tell them anything. However in our arguments I've always been respectful, while they've been throwing all kinds of words in my face, calling me names. And the latest thing, they complain that I'm acting all adulty now, it's like they want me to depend on them or something? And this really messed with my self confidence, it's like I developed some kind of impostor syndrome on being an adult, cause they are acting like I shouldn't be independent. Like a feeling that I won't be able to be fine on my own. Or is this the result of gaslighting? I was wondering what are your thoughts on this. I tried to summarize as best as I could. Thanks again for everything you're doing and I'm so grateful to see you back here ❤
Andreea, I seriously appreciate you sharing your experience with such detail. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I can only imagine what your inner critic must be like.
I'm going to respond to this with a video and share all I can to help give some guidance and perspective on the situation. I'll comment on here once it's uploaded so you'll get notified!
Hugs.
Thank you so much! I really appreciate it a lot. And I've hit the 'bell button' long ago :)
You're fire !
Keep it up !
Aw thank you!
Thank you, Asha. I came across your videos recently and found your videos to be so helpful. I would love it if you made a video on parental anxiety and how it affects their children. I have a bunch of issues and on reflecting, I realized where they came from. My parents are very anxious and overreactive. They would scream at me for accidentally spilling a glass of water, I have never got a weird haircut in my life because my parents keep reacting terribly to anything even slightly out of the ordinary. Me bunking a day of school to go and chill with friends would earn them some disapproval, but my parents would react as though my life was ruined. A bad grade wasn't just a bad grade to them, it is the end of the world. A mild embarrassment to me is a complete loss of reputation as far as they are concerned. Every one of their reactions throughout my life has been so extreme and exaggerated. They seem to live in a world where everything is super dangerous all the time. They were overprotective of me and only fighting them made them loosen their grip somewhat. When I tell them to please stop panicking over insignificant things, they insult me by calling me a naive idiot, which only further damages my self confidence. Moving out is the only way, but how do I deal with this when I am stuck with them? Now I live in constant anxiety too. Always feeling threatened by everything, half expecting the people around me to go nuts like my parents did.
Oh gosh, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Realizing you need to create mental protection against your own parents is such a painful experience that really does rob you of being able to just be a kid.
I've made a video on this exact topic in "How overbearing parents affect your mental health". But that was a while ago, and I'd love to make another video on anxious parenting. Hugs.
@@AshaJacob Thank you! I'll certainly watch it. Hugs to you too.