Living with anxiety in France
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- Опубликовано: 4 сен 2024
- Having anxiety is normal. Its part of our threat system that keeps us safe.....if it's functional anxiety. In this video I explain what anxiety is to me and how I can control it.......some of the time
Respect for you how you open yourself to the viewers.
Thanks Joep. That means a lot 👍🇫🇷
I’ve caught up with this week’s vlogs. There are no words to express how well you explained the anxiety you cope with. And it will reach out to many others; so a great job!! Looking forward to more of the renovations and Lisa’s gardening
Thank you again Marilyn. From the comments, I think it’s helped a lot of people. I’m really pleased about that 🇫🇷👍
I watched your vlog on moving to France from your house in England it was good. Thank You for explaining the type of anxiety you have I honestly didn't know there was different types. I agree with medication as the side effects can be really worrying and give you more illness to deal with. You must have clicked on sound at garden beds as it went off only silent video.
Thanks Florence for your comment. Yeah, medication often swaps one issue for another.
We watched the video last night and the sound was fine on our tv. 🇫🇷👍
Great show.
The mourning scenes on the 78 degree day were awesome!
The sky was sooo Blue and the lightning on your subjects was perfect....just like being there!
Thanks for Fahrenheit temperature.😮
LATER !
Thanks Patrick. It’s been an amazing couple of days here. Fingers crossed we have settled into Spring 🇫🇷👍
Hypervigilant catastrophiser - you just summed me up right there.
How bizarre, I just assumed it was me and that I was different. I have never in my life heard of either term but OMG yes. Thank you.
Oh ... and mangetout peas = mange “eat” + tout “all”, since even the pod is edible.
You are not alone my friend, most certainly not. Sounds like my video helped you. I’m pleased about that.
And thanks for the clarification on the pease 🇫🇷👍
Thank you kindly, because yes your video has helped explain a lot in my life.
I am not reistered with any Doctor ( by choice ) and take no medication, I live an ideal life here on the farm with my husband in beautiful countryside with my animals in splendid isolation.
Listening to you last night and hearing the words Hypervigilant and Over Catastrophisation for the first time was a total Wow moment. I played you back over to my husband who just looked at me and nodded.
I feel really really calm this morning.Thank you
@Anyone4music wow. What an amazing comment. Thank you so much, it’s really made my day. Lifted my spirits no end.
Google ‘masking behaviour’ that might resonate with you too. It’s something I do. 🇫🇷👍
Thank you for being so open and honest about your anxiety. Good job with the grass txt 👍
No worries at all and thank you for your comment. It took 17 minutes to write Laterz in the grass lol 🇫🇷🇫🇷
It was 45 degrees in my greenhouse today! I had to put a cover over it and water the floor to bring the temperature down. Excellent "grass art" in your field! Every summer we leave half of our bottom field as a flower meadow. 😊
Wow that’s hot Cathy. That’s a good idea about the field. I don’t mind doing the top one but the bottom takes aaaaages 🇫🇷👍
@Escapetofrance-Charente cut a meadow on a dry autumn day every year, otherwise it'll go to scrubland. It'll probably just be long grass the first year. Maintain a path through it too. You'll see lots more wildlife. X
@user-uu8pr9si9z thanks Cathy x
Hi Robbie,
Thank you for sharing so honestly about your anxiety. I suffer with dysfunctional anxiety myself as I’ve said before. Trying to find something that helps is definitely the hard part.
But hearing your story helps by knowing I’m not the only one. It can be very isolating.
But as always loved the video, proper lol with the wet chicken, I knew straight away Jean-luc was to blame 😂
Lisa’s veg patch is looking amazing!just keep doing what you’re doing, don’t worry about views and subscribers, if you enjoy doing the videos and posting that’s all that matters. They’re always entertaining, Anyone can see you’re a funny top bloke 😊
Thanks Mark. We are most certainly not alone mate. Lisa veggie patch is doing great. Fingers crossed we don’t get a frost as sometimes we can get one in Spring.
Thanks for watching and commenting as always 🇫🇷👍
Interesting I’ve got heaps of functional anxiety then lol! 😁 My happy place is pottering around in the garden , going for an ocean swim, long walks, watching a movie, a glass of Prosecco, dining out, road trips, sewing, cooking, baking and spoiling my 3 grandchildren. I think my good life overrides the anxiety. I Think?
Sounds like it does Charmees. Gotta take the good with the bad 👍🇫🇷
Thank you for talking more about anxiety and PTSD.
In my case anxiety switched in full blast nine years ago. Doctor said it could have been caused by a medication. I agree with you about most anyi-anxiety medication. They don't agree with me.
Keep doing what you're doing to get better!
Thanks Willy for your comment and honesty. Really appreciate it. We are not alone mate, plenty of us in the world 👍🇫🇷
Hi Rob. Another great one. you’re a good strong man Rob and people appreciate how you are a straight talker which helps people who may have a hard time explaining how they feel. Thank you for that. I love seeing the kids run in the field. What a great life for them. I doubt the farmer gets this but the garden store sells a product that keeps flies off the horses face. I think it’s called Flies Off and it’s like a roll on deodorant you just roll on his face a little. Not expensive. ❤❤❤
Thanks again Kathy. I’m like marmite to a lot of people, and I’m sure k with that lol.
Yeah, we have an amazing life out here. The kids love it 😀
Didn’t know about the roll on for eyes. Great idea 👍🇫🇷
@@Escapetofrance-Charente Rob, the roll on for flies is to put on his Face. Maybe if the flies get unbearable for him when summer comes then the farmer could get some😎
Hi Kathy, it’s our next door neighbours horse, not the farmers. Not sure what they do at this time year for the horse, but I’ll keep an eye out 👍🇫🇷
A good explanation of anxiety Robbie . Glad you have ways to deal with yours ,must help. Busy bee mowing the grass.The bedroom nearly done yay. Yep french paint is crap not all full on the tin and bloody expensive 😁. Loved watching. Laterzz
Thanks Annette. I reckon Robbie will be in his room in a few weeks. Laterzzz 🇫🇷👍
So much progress all over the place. Odd that France has really thinned down paint. I wonder why they do that. The obvious answer is they make more money if you have to buy more paint to get the job done, but there has to me some other reason as well. It is great to see the floor is finally level and has the flooring down in Robbie's room. Seems like a busy job keeping up with the grass. It is a good think you have the time. A bit of music, a beer or two and mowing doesn't seem too bad. I think you'll get used to releasing every other day, it is just a new pattern. Great video as always, Laterz
Thanks Gary as always mate. Can always rely on you. Yeah the grass takes ages but looks good once finished. Grows so quickly though which is annoying.
Not looking forward to buying lots of paint at all lol
Laterzzz 🇫🇷👍
Another great episode mate, well done. Very well done on the openness of your anxiety and sharing it. I had really bad health anxiety for years until i spoke about it. So i know how hard it can be. Great work again. Keep it up. Im in confolens in June so the beers on me 😂😂.
Thanks Darren. We are not alone mate, plenty of us live and suffer with anxiety. I’m looking forward to that beer mate 🇫🇷👍
Hi, your fear is so recognizable, thanks for sharing. I really like your videos of you and your family.🙂
Thank you so much for your comment Francesca. It really means a lot 🇫🇷👍
There is no point trying to explain anxiety to people without anxiety. I was diagnosed with OCD which people think is about neatness but it isnt, its always imagining the worst case scenario which for me then leads to a panic attack, so for example for me, if I think I have left my straightening irons plugged in I start to imagine the electric will blow, my house will set on fire, my dog will die. This leads to rituals I have to perform to make sure I have done stuff. I have learned to manage and use meditation to help. One thing I would say is dont seek mental health treatment in France, they still do electric shock treatment for depression (I had a client, I used to dog sit while she was having her electric shock treatment). I went to see a specialist and got locked in the drs office and they wanted to section me for my anxiety, I had to convince them I was going back to the UK to see a dr.
On the paint point, if lidl ever have theirs for sale its excellent and so much cheaper and Action paint is also excellent and much cheaper, its all I use now, they do a white and an off white, about €13 for 10 litres, cos ye, french paint is just terrible 😢
Hey Victoria, thanks for your openness and explanation on your OCD. That’s taught me something today, so thank you. Action is great isn’t it. Didn’t know about Lidl for pain thought. Will give that a go 🇫🇷👍
Nice update. How are the incubating eggs? So funny Jean Luc loves those chickens. Cool lawn writing.
Hey. Thank you. The eggs are still in the incubator and get turned three times a day. Tomorrow we have to ‘candle’ them to see whether they are growing properly 🇫🇷👍
Thankyou lovely video must of taken ages to mow 'later' in the grass. Imagine if you made mistake with one of the letters😮 ..but you didnt!
Laters...
ps.This modern world makes us all anxious thanks for the tips.Have a lovely Easter all.God bless
Thanks Isabel. It took 17 minutes to write it. And yes, I got anxious about getting the words right lol 🇫🇷👍
Hola from Spain. Admire you opening up about Anxiety.... For anyone struggling read the book Dare by Barry McDonagh.... A very simple read, but similar in many ways to how you explained things. Hopefully you'll find your Anxiety lessen living in such a beautiful place with your lovely family. Take care ❤
Thanks Patricia for your comment. Really appreciate it. Never heard of the book but I’ll see if it’s on audible. Thank you again 🇫🇷👍
Hi again. Hard to explain what I thought of the book when I started it, but it does say to persevere to the end which I did. Like you said, what works for one !!!!! Keep up with keeping us entertained. ❤️
@patriciapadgett4696 thanks Patricia 👍🇫🇷
Liked the anxiety explanation, as per others did in the comments below, what I was/am interested in is, what triggers the anxiety over your youtube work specifically, and do you apply the same methods as you have described to manage the levels? For example, if you are worried about number of subscribers, do you apply the 'what is the worst that can happen if I start losing subs' and almost minimise the outcome, or is it more personal because you want to keep creating more content for more people to enjoy and find useful? I think regardless of the levels of anxiety that all people have, I think we can all learn a lot from what you have explained here bruv. Ha ha ha loved the Laterz being carved out into the lawn lol
Cheers son. It seems to have helped loads of people hasn’t it? I’ll talk off line about the other stuff 👍🇫🇷
The weather always helps to make things better! ... CPTSD sucks ... At the minute i have an obsession with my chimney being clean! .... the sweep has done it once before we moved in and ive just had it done again .. irrational fear of a house fire! ... 😂
Wow Michele. Your threat system is well and truly focussed on the chimney. It ‘may’ help if you bought a camera on a telescopic lens so you can check it yourself? 🇫🇷👍
MIssed the "queue slomo". You had glasses on and no slomo 😞
Oops. Next time I’ll do it lol
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Thanks Diane 🇫🇷👍
as someone who's had ptsd it's not easy having i think ptsd and anxiety always stems from a starting point once you look into that and try and conquer control that it helps .Having all the new laws in france won't help with your anxiety once you get that sorted you will hopefully have less .On a lighter note where do chickens get therapy life sucks as a chicken 😂
Life certainly does suck as a chicken lol. They all go to therapy once a week ha ha. And thanks for your openness Kath. Really appreciate it. 👍🇫🇷
I got sound back on possibly it was my own fault.
lol, no worries at all 🇫🇷👍
Laters❤️❤️❤️
This is also what happens when you keep watching your belly button. It's a vicious circle
lol
I chew the inside of my cheek when I get anxious, been doing it all week
I clack my teeth together. Didn’t know I did it until Lisa pointed it out when we first got together 👍🇫🇷
Now you are a youtube chatter box lo;l
Yes I am lol
My (rescue) dog has serious stress issues, it's not just humans, he spends a lot of time sucking his comfort blanket, does your dog have issues? Lol.
Diane and Eliott le Chien
Poor Eliott Le chien. Jean Luc has lots of issues lol. Lots of them are hen related ha ha 🇫🇷👍
@@geraldineriverRiverever I’m very calm thank you. Hopefully Diane et Eliott le chien will find comfort and splice in your well articulated and though out words 🇫🇷👍
I could be really rude and say where can I get those tablets lol but I won’t by the way do you use the vets in Champaign ta for now doug
Ha ha. Nobody needs urgent assistance in this house hold lol. That’s the vets we use for JL 👍🇫🇷
Hi. I think you have commented on the wrong video. Our dog is not a rescue and is rarely left along for longer than 30 minutes. Sorry
Sucking his comfort blanket could be related to the fact that is has been separated from his mother too young, and then lived in places that were not providing proper emotional care at the very least since he's a rescued dog (which is not rare is this brainy-intellectual culture, I am french from birth & education but lived in England among for years before coming back : emotional blockage-repression to the point of emptiness-void is the leading cause of constant negativity-pessimism, if not well-known short-tempered agressivity, in this low-vibration culture, so Vital advice : never forget to focus on what's positive for our well-being without denying the downs in life but anyway...self-honesty is the key....bear in mind that France is the n° 1 champion of "pets abandonment-neglect" in Europe among other glorious things, yes yes, 200 000 per year in shelters increasing each year, above other European countries, compared to only 16 000 in England per year, English being by far more caring & responsible). Your dog has an understandable emotional trauma that can be healed with patience, with love & care (plenty, which is sooo positive for everyone including you as well !) and also some natural remedies like : "Rescue Remedy for PETS" from Fleur de Bach, www.rescueremedy.com/en-ca/range/all-products/rescue-pet/ . You buy it in Pharmacie (any chemist in France sell it, even in the smallest in a village) or on internet as you want. Cheap yet efficient. It helps against stress-anxiety in putting just few drops in food on a daily basis but absolutely don't make the mistake to buy it for humans but for PETS as it is Alcohol-Free. It helps calming and reassuring beside loving him. I've been using it for years for rescued animals when needed like past traumas or any stressful situation (travel, removal, painful experience in the household that animals will feel to the fullest as well etc), as a passionate phytotherapist for both humans and animals myself (mainly animals, let's be honest, but humans are animals, isn't it ? Joke aside). I take plants myself to help me these days because of egomaniac if not paranoiac lack of self-control of french people : a hunter is killing through the whole year wild animals, deers mainly with horrific traps that are illegal in france for years, near where I live in the countryside....my dogs went in a wooden land at the edge of a walking path while walking and rolled there bodies onto something that smelled Hell then....I went to check and corpses of babies, small sized deers where starting to decompose....it was along a path that everyone take to walk, run, drive. I knew this guy that seemed "nice" but very fake, and asked him about it very calmly one day, he reacted in an explosive vulgarity and violence in screaming "dirty bitch" while I calmly said that it wasn't safe at least. If you keep your calm, they explode even more... no issue. Since that moment, in a very sneaky way, he cut all the trees on the wooden land that belongs to him in front on my garden knowing that we talked once about how Vital Nature is for our species to survive, thinking that he was a responsible hunter fully aware of climate change himself and above all, keeps killing my cats one after another which he's denying of course. Justice won't give a damn sh*t about it except for him to know, and get worse. French culture, sorry but Plain French : schizophrenic. Avoid them, to the utmost : just basic and necessary communication with almost all of them as it is not specific to "inbred retarded" in the countryside at all. French people are more than out-of-control negative beings to the rotten roots (emotionless narcissists filled with biases, resentment, jealousy, hate, frustration, conflict, rigidity, denied fears, etc) if you dare slightly questioning their illusory perfection : I know them too well from birth, and it's getting worse with each other because nobody wants to face their responsability, others' faults, always (Far-right is on its presidential way in this country...). Anyway, animals go in a magnificent place then that coward monsters will never experience for eternity. I'm not used to talk about myself but I needed to, now : it's a relief to get better whatever, knowing that most English are more emotionally evolved. So to come back to your dog : "Rescue Remedy for Pets" (Bach Flower), with the link above. Also, If he's alone during the day, another animal like another dog or a cat could be more than recommended. Like for us....there's always solutions if we search and want. Love & Care for you and your precious animals ! Ground, Relieve and Focus. Nature is just Everything, from survival to peace. I'll cuddle one of my cat who was dying on the road when found, happy cheeky she is now !
Is your horse all right? It looks a little sad. You know of course that horses shouldn't be alone all the time.
Hey. It’s not my horse. It’s the next door neighbours. I agree, he does look sad but I speak to him everyday because he is lonely 🇫🇷👍
@@Escapetofrance-Charente I see. I'm so sorry!
@@chboth don’t be sorry. Many others have made the same mistake 🇫🇷😄