That's the difference between men and women in relationships, the woman *has* to respect the man. The woman could be a ditz or an immature idiot putting on airs of being a stable adult, the man could still love her without respecting her like she respects him. Love or attraction has to be there from man to woman for the relationship to work. In fact, you can respect a woman all year, if you aren't attracted to her or love her, there isn't a relationship. Respect is not needed from men to women in that same way. Respect their requests, up until they interfere with your privacy or safety, then you kick her out.
@@Resanctify Correction, both partners have to both respect, love and be attracted to one another for it to work. A woman can respect her partner all she wants, if she doesn't love them or isn't attracted, then they're just a friend. If a man doesn't respect his partner, even while still loving them, the relationship will never be healthy. Everybody deserves respect, until they prove otherwise. But then, I can only ask why someone would have such low standard that they would stay with someone they think little of. You can't cherish someone you don't have respect for, only grow resentment over the years, so you'd be better off alone.
@@uMaud Let me repeat myself you ad-hom aH, the woman in the relationship can be an immature brat(not uncommon) and the man could *know* this, not respect her like *she respects him,* not in the same way, and the relationship could work. You know how I know this? Most people are stupid, both men and women; women like capable, competent, intelligent men. Therefore, there are millions of dimwitted, incompetent women, married to respectable men. You *yourself* are dimwitted from your lack of comprehension of my post, why should someone respect you?
Why do you think it was unironic if he said he is nornal sized? It was exactly that, ironic. And everyone knows that this is the cheapest type of offence that women use, even to strangers online so it doesnt work on anyone.
"You'll die alone" OP : Veterinarian, early 30s, no kids, owns a house, 2 dogs, sense of humor, not mean enough to call the cops on your a** for vandalism, self-questioning when obviously a victim.
Typically people like that will sooner blame the wind than themselves, which is why they lose their minds (or whatever semblance of a mind they already had) and become destructive when things don’t go their way. They are very much aware that they are the problem, they’re just angry that they failed to convince anyone else that they aren’t.
Its the extreme selfishness of a narcissist, she doesnt care at all about being wrong, only about being in a situation she doesnt like, and when confronted her true colors finally showed up.
At least she closed the pets in his bedroom. Still, it shows that a man can be absolutely expendable. No matter what you, even if you pay all bills, give key to the car, the house, redecorate on her request with your money, and he was a veterinarian, one of the best paying jobs out there in society. All of that gone down the drain, just because she didn't like his panty carrot. Truly first world problems.
If he's dun any proof or camera.. he can still file a police report and ask the IO (investigation officer) to help him .. the IO will ask neighbor about the noise in the house..
That's what's called a Nicegirl™, the female counterpart of Niceguy™ Both of those types act all nice and sweet at first and lure people in with their false charm, but as soon as they don't get their way they go full psycho mode. The differences are that the Nicegirls are usually better at hiding their true nature and better at playing the long game, and the Niceguys usually start the creep sh* t not even 5 minutes after being ignored or rejected. Another difference is that when rejected for any reason, usually the worst thing the Niceguys do is guilt-tripping and crying and throwing bad words and racial slurs all over the place. But the Nicegirls? Oh boy, better get a restraining order, and sometimes that's not even enough. Op's gf is one such example. At least no one got physically hurt this time.
@@ThePopo543 Women don't get rejected so often and right off the bat, so they might not appear creepy 5 min in at first glance, but they can absolutely be psychotic or crazy if something bothers them.
@@blightedgrounds And that's great, guys should up their value system and focus on bettering themselves and helping one another and holding women to higher standards.
Marriage just isn't worth it now, sadly. The law & courts are against men. 80% chance of divorce, & then you fund their life after they've wrecked yours.
Why is she not going to jail after causing damage to this man's property? Dude, what she did is literally a crime. Letting her get away with it will not help her or you, she needs to learn that actions have consequences.
@@GongasTopG??? Probably fingerprints all over the place , motive , she had a spare key to one of the cars , probably camera footage of her going to the house at some point , could be witnesses , and etc.
@@rogewar2621since she lived there, finger prints and DNA would be there regardless. No witness, and the guy is mega busy and probably doesn't seem worth it to him. I would just want to ignore this woman and move on, not be attached through courts
Yep 100% he was the provider good job and she didn’t have to work. This would be bad enough if the conversation was with female friends, male no way. She like sharks because she is a predator
@@georgegorvaniagerge7077if he has pictures of all damage when he got home, and proof of where he was at the time, such as his punch times and employees also sharing if he was in the building for his lunch then he could prove easily he wasn't the one who trashed his home, and if she's lived there long enough neighbors could also share seeing her there and also having seen her come in and out of the home during the time period she lived there. It's really not that hard, especially for most people since nowadays almost everyone has security cameras, nonetheless again it's really not that damn hard.
Plus it's sadly very common for people, especially women (this is coming from a woman, and yes I am afab I'm not trans), to have serious mental breakdowns and go fucking crazy like a goddam psychopath and break shit and destroy things. I really don't understand why people continue to date those kinds of psychopaths even after their true colors are shown, they are fucking pathetic excuses of people who usually leach off of others like the worthless pieces of shit they are.
Nobody, man or women, deserves to have a partner who speaks like that about them to a friend. Especially a friend that you don't like them being friends with.
The betreyal is just through the window. There are so many things wrong with what she did and she didn't have the human decency to even apologise for one of them.
Average Narcissist reaction to being confronted with thier own Actions, very lucky to OP to have found out her true Character before he put a Ring on her vile Fingers...
she was playing him the entire time, it was all a game for her, she was a psycho and just hiding her power level. he's lucky as hell he found out before he married her and took him for everything, he should have pressed charges.
Damn, she turned out to be a full on sociopath that somehow turned it into her being the victim. No remorse, lying through her teeth, backstabbing. Lucky he went home early that day so he didn't find out after 10 years of marriage.
Moral of the story: Don't fool yourself in being "secure" about things that you shouldn't. You're not secure about driving 100mph through a city with the seatbelt off and no airbag. Don't be about your girl's red flags either. And definitely don't let yourself be shamed into it.
your analogy is idiotically stupid. one is something you have no control over and actually is a negative if you're being constantly insecure about, the other is a CHOICE to endanger the lives of yourself and others. Absolsutely 2 things worlds apart in relevance.
This whole "security" is nothing but a woman's shaming strategy to control men. Losers fall for it and pride themselves on being secure about accepting things they shouldn't accept
Good on this dude. Though I still gotta give him some dumbass points allowing a crazy ex around his house while HES NOT THERE. Anyone could’ve guessed that would happen.
@einmarko2778 So he expected her to damage stuff before. Which is WHY he had his friends come over when she packed... you tell me he didnt expect more shit to happen?
Hell, adding onto this? The birth canal is typically only about 5 to 6 inches deep when the woman's aroused. He can still fit entirely to root, and still potentially do quite a bit to stimulate. That's, honestly, a perfect size. Much larger than average (like 7 to 9) isn't going to all fit. Porn films that say the actor has like... 11 or 12 inches? Nah, that's made up and uses a lot of camera angles to make it appear larger than it is. If anyone was that size, they would not be able to fit comfortably inside all the way.
The 5.5 stat is actually skewed because of volunteers bias, the actual average is smaller than that, it's just that only men with big 'carrots' wanted to volunteer to show it because they were more likely to be proud of their size.
But then again the global average is lowered by the 2,5 billion Indians and Chinese (who on average have smaller dicks than whites and blacks). If you wanna know how you measure up against your peers better check the national average, not global
Losing 2 years to someone you genuinely loved hurts, it hurts like hell, but at least he had the ability to cut the pain off at its source and move on with his life.
I lost the entirety of my teenage years to a girl with what I know now to be covert narcissism. We were each others everything (or so I thought) but after years of her making me feel like if I just went to therapy our relationship would be fixed, I couldn’t do it anymore. I am not highly unstable, I am not depressed, barely anxious, but I do have one thing, a very, and I mean very, slight touch of the tism. She always seemed to think I had some kind of major issue. I made the decision to break up a week before Thanksgiving, 2023. It didn’t really ‘end’ until the first week of 2024 when I blocked her. I couldn’t take the constant text messages and phone calls anymore, I asked her countless times to give me space and respect my boundaries, but that was like speaking a foreign language to her. I could go on and on, but I shouldn’t for my own sake. 3 weeks no contact. I’m very slowly healing, but man I still wonder…
Im really glad you found the strength to dump her and make your own needs a priority! The pain takes a while to fade, but while it does you'll be living your life and realizing what a weight off your shoulders it is! Proud of you@@videos-for-friends
@@gotenks5633 Thank you, kind stranger. It was a bit of a vent there. I’m doing my best to stay healthy and productive everyday. This weekend was dedicated to deep cleaning my living space :)
@@videos-for-friends love a good deep clean! This weekend i played some elden ring and finally started painting again! Havent painted any of my warhammer models in...a couple months :X been busy, but making myself get back into the groove and im so happy! Glad you're getting lots done too :)
Because they literally cannot imagine what it would be like to be on the receiving end of those insults. I don’t mean that in a derogatory way, but they genuinely aren’t physically capable of it, because their whole life they got away with this behavior towards others without facing any consequences or even being encouraged. They believe those insults they throw are truly justified, meaning that if you vaguely did anything similar back at them, it must be gravely unfair
Close male friends like that are instant "no thanks, bro" from me. He was weird though, talking and comparing carrot sizes of her bfs. Closet gay, or super super deep friendzone?
Bro got introduced to the narcissist with a side of BPD and saw what was going to be in store once the love bombing ended-----he just sped it up by accidentally unmasking her before she had her hooks fully into him (and his money). He shouldn't be asking what he could have done to make her say and do those things. It was 100% guaranteed at some point anyway. Someone with brains, a sense of humor, confidence and self-respect will always be a winner. He'll be fine.
@@Avenus112 Really depends on where you live. In my state, Colorado, common law marriages aren't a thing unless you have been presenting yourself as a married couple despite not being actually married.
The fact that all of the women in these stories without fail resort to baseless insults, shaming, guilt tripping, belittling and the need to be right when the guy calls them out for their inexcusable behaviour just absolutely destroys my faith in women.
She most definitely sounds like the type of woman they bring in to the fresh n fit, whatever etc podcasts. But do not let that redpill stuff mindbreak you, it is designed to be divisive just as the equivalents targeted at women. They are not all like that, good people do exist, don't let them demoralise you young brother.
Let it destroy your faith in untreated narcissists. This is the distaff counterpart of the guy who viciously mocks the lovely homemade lunches packed for him by the devoted wife who's helping pay his way through law school.
@@janerecluse4344 Yeah. Also another point is probably that women resort more to verbal abuse more often than physical abuse because they can't do it as much compared to men
She sounds like a woman who has a lot of experience getting men to be smitten with her. Many attractive women are highly practiced and know how to pull a man's heart levers.
Full credit to this guy, he handled everything to perfection even under a barrage of psycho shit from 'Jenna'. She really is for the streets. Man was even able to joke about the "baby carrot" line when he could've easily slunk off in humiliated defeat. I'm sure he'll laugh about all this one day with his future wife.
She is the kind of woman that deserves to have her dating grounds "salted" beyond repair.... His SIL can be witness to the fact that he let her get her things.... Hey Jenna.... civility is the mark of a quality person.. Hopefully your cats won't suffer too horrible a life with you and your boxed wine
Well for a start any woman over 25 with a "male best friend" while in a relationship is already a huge red flag. Her 'male best friend' should be her partner. The rest of the disrespect is the sign it's time to move on.
Considering she's obviously abusive and an extreme narcissist, I don't think "Dylan" was a threat sexually. He's 100% her long term Simp-in-chief that she'd absolutely NEVER fuck under any circumstance, but keeps him around like a pet.
one thing I'm learning from stories like these, is if you breaking up with someone even slightly crazy, then lock up important stuff somewhere they can't get too
Homie, that ain't your girl, it's just your turn. Kick her to the curb and find someone without a "best friend" of the opposite sex who actually respects you.
yeah her and her male best bf def got something going on there. i’m gonna be honest tho, my closest friend is female and i have had no issues with my relationships. completely platonic and always got along with my exes and current gf. just gotta be clear with the communication and set boundaries
Soyboy deserves what he got for taking a garden tool seriously. Have your fun and dump her when you get bored. Maybe he takes a lesson and becomes more of a man but it's unlikely.
Work on yourself, other people's opinions (even those close to you) shouldn't affect you too much and you can let go of toxic people since you're able to see a situation for what it is. You'll realize it's a "them"-issue and not a "you"-issue, and you can let them go along with what was said. It sucks when it happens, sure, but it is what it is and you'll be okay with that. Being vulnerable and taking risks is what love is all about, the best in life doesn't come without potential hurt. When the right person comes along they won't treat you like this, and if you've experienced hurt in the past you'll appreciate them more for it. If their true colors come to light and you're secure in yourself it'll hurt but you'll get past it quickly enough due to what I said in the start of my comment.
Be hyper selective and if they have a male best friend they talk with regularly NEVER date that person. At least 50% of women are undatable and of those left your own preferences will limit that number even more. Don't focus as much on beauty and go for those who have a good personality and doesn't have super unhealthy habits like being very overweight, drinks heavily or does recreational drugs. If you focus on yourself and put yourself in situations where you can chat with women in a casual setting without expecting anything more than a chat you will find someone worth your time and energy
You can prevent this if you screen her early. Just from the first 2 minutes she has lots of friends and her best friend is a guy who didn’t like him even though the Op tried his best to be friendly with him. Additionally most men are too scared to just walk away
@@T3n50r Life is all about taking risks for potential benefits. Sometimes you'll take risks that most people would not. Sometimes you won't take risks that a lot of people would because you don't view the benefits as worth it. I personally would not see the point of a relationship for myself. It's gives the same social benefits as really close friendships or relationship with family members, but with the risk of far more hurtful emotional damage. Some people never fully recover from especially damaging relationships.
The thing I've learned about relationships is that you can't build castles on foundations of sand. If she's that snipe-happy when times are good, just imagine what she'd be like when times got bad.
If I learned my girlfriend were fabricating crappy and disrespectful jokes about me while she thought I wasn't around, I honestly would've been the "silent breakup type" and just changed all the locks, blocked her number, placed all her stuff on a mat outside with a note spelling "Find someone else to demean". And if I could, I'd move somewhere else, so she'd never be able to find me again. But that's just me. I think it's better than giving her a chance to "explain herself" or her inferior reasoning.
This is an impulsive behavior. Don't you even consider the possibility that things could be different than you believe? If someone fabricates lies about her? Would you just trust what you "learned"? You could lose a good person and be cruel to an innocent. Imagine if accused people don't had the right to defend themselves? If you're not even with disposition to hear the other side, maybe deep down you're not so certain and have to act extreme to avoid confrontation, or maybe the outcome is somewhat that you actually wanted and is just being convenient with an excuse to go away denying the other person the opportunity to defend or (proper) apologize.
Thinking with your dick without realizing is what’s impulsive. Coldly dumping her is the opposite of impulsive behavior. Impulsive is when you feel the urge to go into denial and think there’s a good explanation for her BS, then continue to be foolish enough to trust her again because you can’t break away from some basic long-term exposure to pleasure chemicals from being in a relationship.@@fredcavalcante1887
@@fredcavalcante1887 I feel the same. He also only got 100% certain she was talking about him when she admitted to it. And also wont have to doubt if he made the right choice because it got really obvious he did. Though.. the downside is if the partner's crazy enough, lives can be at risk.
Honestly her pettiness in doing all that vandalism justified the decision to break up with her. Also how someone talks about you when she thinks you aren't there is an indicator of how much she respects you. Imagine how much different things would have turned out if she didn't say anything negative. Also that male friend is definitely waiting his turn.
I've known people like her before. She's deeply insecure about herself. That is the cause of all her behavior. 1) She has to tear down her partner to be on the same level as her. She doesn't admit to thinking that poorly of herself, and likely comes across as confident to most, but at her core, she feels she doesn't measure up and convincing herself her partner is just as bad as she perceives herself to be actually assuages some of that anxiety. She has to believe OP could never do better than her, or she'd be worrying about it constantly. 2) She's trashing OP to her male friend who she keeps on the back burner. Insecure women (and sometimes men) usually have a platonic friend waiting in the wings incase something goes wrong. They have a fall-back plan. The only way they can keep their second choice interested is by spewing bile about their current partner to assure them that it's just a matter of time. Guess that was true in this case. 3) When OP confronted her about a deep personality flaw, that struck a nerve. It affirmed all her insecurities in a way that she couldn't deny, but was also loathed to admit. When people like her feel cornered, rather than taking accountability, they lash out. They try to inflict as much pain as they can, and place all the blame on the accusing party because they can't handle admitting the truth about their own faults. I don't think she's an inherently "Bad" person. If she was, I'm sure OP would have picked up on that. But she has some issues. No sense of rationality, no self awareness, she's emotionally immature (this is behavior you don't usually see with anyone over the age of 8 or 9 years old) and she is disgusted by herself in ways she can't even admit to herself. She was a powder keg, and rejection is the mother of all lit fuses for people like her. OP was right to leave, he can't fix what's wrong with her, and she can't even see the problem, so she won't fix it. If it wasn't this issue, it would have been another, and potentially much worse if he had proposed, if they had gotten married, combined finances, or worse, had kids. He dodged a bullet, he knows that, but it still sucks. I'm sure she had her good qualities too, which he will miss. This girl is the gas station burrito of women, tasty and convenient but will leave you doubled over on the bathroom floor praying for death in the end. OP can do better, and I'm confident he will when he's ready. Until then, change the locks (including on the car), install some cameras, and file a police report... it won't go anywhere without proof, but get it documented all the same in case she comes back. Block her on everything, expect her to bad-mouth you on social media, but don't respond. If she makes claims that demand a response, have a lawyer do it for you. Otherwise, don't permit any contact. If she returns to his place of business, staff should be instructed to call police immediately and the business will press charges for trespassing. Tell her clearly she needs to leave but say nothing else.
Don't usually see over the age of 9? Bruh this is like the average woman's behavior. No accountability, shaming language, etc. are absolutely standard fair. You can find a hundred of them in the YT's comment section every day.
that's not a hot take, just a sane take even if it isn't a best friend, if she has any guys that she's close with while in a relationship is a big red flag
male friends who are straight are always red flags, she is stringing them along in her friend zone, they are "backup" or rebound sex, post break up sex, FWB
I’d have made a post on social media not name dropping her, but it would be fairly obvious given the context. Share the pictures of the house and car you took for insurance and the police, then just caption it as “a lesson learned, never just get the keys back because you never know if she made copies behind your back, some people are good at hiding how unhinged and dangerous they truly are. She had the kindness to lock my dogs up before causing havoc, and they are safe, so at least I can say that as a positive”. He probably would think this is just being petty, that it’s drama. Let’s see if he still feels that way when a bunch of people start treating him a certain way because she spun a story about him SAing her or something, as a way of making herself the victim. When you stay quiet and let the abuser shape the narrative first, you are helping them out you in whatever position you end up finding yourself in.
@@steverukia6247 well , here i can only talk from my own experience , but real "friendship" between men and women is usually impossible. One side ends up having an interest for the other person , so that's no longer a platonic friendship. Plus men and women have different interests and mentalities so at most you will be "friendly" and that's it. If a girl has a "guy best friend" late in life , the guy has an interest for her 100% of the time (and the girl also likes the attention that he's giving to her), and HE hopes that at one point he'll get with her. Imagine now ,like in this case ,she gets a boyfriend , the "guy best friend" will not like that, and will try and instigate arguments and discrepancies in your relationship. Sometimes even worse.... "The count of monte Cristo" is a book which tells a story revolving around this theme , which I wholeheartedly recommend
@@steverukia6247 Because even if the girl is trustworthy, most men do not stay "best friends" with a woman they have no interest in fucking. Sure, it can be that way. It can be totally platonic. But the odds aren't in your favor. Here's a tip, most women won't accept their man having a female best friend outside of their romantic relationship, either.
@@steverukia6247 because the guy best friend is always down to fuck, and it just takes one vulnerable moment and a few tears for him to make an entry. Unless he's gay, then it's fine.
this dude sounds self-assured and like a great guy, he did the right thing and she's a lying narcissist. she should have faced consequences for the vandalism.
It’s amazing how some people can hide who there are until they get angry. Also a word of advice…don’t date women with male best friends. Never seen it turn out well for the bf.
I've known people like that chick. They love talking s**t behind people's backs to cover for their own insecurities. Think about it, you've got a guy whose been paying for her for months and he's pretty attractive. She probably feels like the lesser in the relationship so she latches onto the one thing he's not excelling in, his dong. Then she confides in her comfort zone friend to create a shared narrative where she's basically doing her boyfriend a favour by being with him because his member is sooo short.
i think he should try and get her to face the consequences of her actions by pressing charges and trying to gather evidence (fingerprints etc) for true justice
One thing I can't understand about women is how they can live in lies. Living with someone they don't love, or like, or even respect, pretending to love, having sex... Living that kind of miserable life for what? Just to be provided for?
The answer is shockingly simple. Yes. Your last sentence is exactly it. It is the ultimate form of female degeneracy. In general you call it psychopathy. But predatory parasite is more accurate.
The answer always is.. leave them. I left my girl because she had an affair on vacation. Everyone i talked to about it seemed to assume that i would take her back. But no it is nonesense.. if they disrespect you just ones it must be over. It feel like that whole gender gets off on how much you let them get away with. Educate them by showing them the answer is nothing.
What's crazy is that, if she had admitted to it and apologized unequivocally right away at that wine bar, OP would probably have forgiven her. But she would need to be emotionally mature to manage that lol. Best of luck to OP, much better man than I
You can clearly see the strategy of that disgusting mind: first deny it in hopes that he’s just heard rumors, then as soon as it becomes obvious that the lie is uncovered the insults finally come out, because she could never admit to have done something wrong. Truly the worst personality
since she didn't live near Dylan, I don't think she was cheating with him. I think she basically wanted to keep him in the friendzone by telling him she was on the verge off breaking up with her current SO.
Close male friends like that are instant "no thanks, bro" from me. He was weird though, talking and comparing carrot sizes of her bfs. Closet gay, or super super deep friendzone?
Just a super down bad boyfromasoyfarm, willing to engage in any topic that the pretty female dictates, in hopes of having a chance at her, by gaining her approval. Any normal person, especially a friend would question her on her disgusting behaviour, at the very least, out of concern for the wellbeing of her relationship. The male "friend", he's like an orbiter that she keeps around, for when things dont work out the way she wanted to. Probably more involved though, as according to OP she got very hostile and defensive, when OP made a jab at the male "friend".@@masterexploder9668
Having a "guy best friend" is fine, but the intuition about jealousy not protectiveness is the overlooked flag. Who Jenna's friends are would reflect who she is. If dylan didnt like OP, that's a concern. If her other friends acted weird, that's a concern. Other missed flags, she lied at first. Then at breakup, got verbally aggressive and abusive. Then spamming him with more abuse. He really shouldve seen the vandalism coming.
He was also very blue pilled. It's clear that he ignored her past disrespect, you don't just suddenly get there. And overly feminine too, abundantly obvious from the insane amounts of worthless unrelated details in his post.
@@gatoloco3949exactly. Nothing about insecurity bish, it’s simple respect. If I had a female best friend, I doubt there would be the same consideration.
She honestly sounds like she might have BPD or a personality disorder similar to it. I've dated and been extremely close to 6 people with BPD (and other disorders too), and the manipulation, the sudden uncalled-for splitting on you (going from "you're the love of my life, I would die without you" to "you are nothing, you're abusive and an asshole, and I hope you die in a ditch" with very little pushing). Get away from her. Cut contact. If she has such a disorder, she WILL tell people you were the bad guy. They are unable to take accountability for their own actions and shittiness, because they have such an unstable identity.
It's not a disorder. It's just people who act nice and once given a reason to act nasty let out all those inner thoughts. Its not a condition. It's lack of self control. People aren't honest. They lie to you and themselves. They want to be better but the inner them is sometimes a demon. Being nice is also a self defense mechanism because it protects them from harm. It's a lack of confidence. This is what society is slowly turning into especially in America. This isn't something you fix with a doctor and some pills. It's fixed with a punch in the face and being humbled then some compassion. Have to turn down the anxiety which will turn down the narcissism.
@@zacara8469 Nah it's pretty accurate. Throw some more useless buzz words at me, I'm sure it'll override my decades of experience conversing with two-three generations of horrible irrational women.
I don't give a fuck what anyone says, working too much is not a valid reason for feeling alone or cheating or being horrible to ones partner. Some jobs just require that kind of commitment and if you can't handle that then boohoo go your separate way and move on. Someone else who can support the fact that the partner is working hard to take care of everything will come along.
It's just an excuse for manipulative and narcissistic people to take control. How does missing someone want to make you spend less time with them? The logic by which some people operate is beyond kindergarden level. If anything, not seeing my S/O for an unknown period of time, makes me the happier to see them again and reminds me that not everything is permanent, which in turn, helps me appreciate our time together the more and makes it so much more meaningful.
Even if they're feeling neglected you can, you know, mention it your partner? Communication goes a long way. You can't let those thoughts fester. In this case it worked out, though. This dude just saved himself so much time and money. Imagine this happening 5 years into their marriage after they've had kids...
@@impishrebel5969 Yeh and all over the broken things, perhaps even a cut happened and some blood is on it. Probable cause from a break up I'm sure it would convince the police to atleast open an investigation on it.
He probably did tell them, and they might question her but if she says she doesn’t know anything about it and there’s no other evidence it won’t go anywhere.
It's more likely that's what the police requested/needed from him. They would've said something like 'do you have physical proof she was responsible for...." Etc. Angry texts don't prove she destroyed his car, even if it 99.99% apparent to him that she did. It's pretty frustrating to deal with, but it works both ways and has certainly saved people from false accusations as well.
She locked the two dogs in the bedroom in the hopes they'd poop on the bed or floor. Guess at least that backfired. But holy crap, dodged a bullet. Being married to that girl would have been hell.
Goddamnit. I can't keep listening to this. This man here is a saint, house? Trashed. Cars? Keyed. Yet he still reflects and picks out a flaw that I couldn't and rightfully could not find amidst his pretty much perfect character. Which I might add is my dream; stretching it a bit to myself but a job involved in medicine and health, financial stability comparable to a noble gas, a comedic and just wonderful vibe, and a body I assume is to go crazy for with an "average" elephant to boot. Absolutely inspiring fellow right there.
It's just mind blowing to me, hearing how absolutely cruel and vengeful some people can be. She just couldn't take personal responsibility for herself ruining the good thing she had with her careless words. If you're saying something about someone and you wouldn't say it right in front of them, you shouldn't be saying it at all.
Thankfully he addressed the destruction part of it, but man how evil can somone be. We gotta know if theres anything else to the story about the whole police report
This folks is why you don't let your girl have a male "best friend" it's always just a guy waiting for an opportunity to lure her into his bed and whisper into her ear about how you're not good enough for her. Never believe otherwise, if she won't cut him off find another woman. Over 3 billion of them in this world, it's inevitable you'll find one who respects you if you try hard enough.
It's quite rare to find a youtube comments section with these many accurate comments. Kinda restores my faith in humanity a little, even after listening to such a tragic story.
I agree with all the comments saying she is a walking red flag, but F*** that male best friend of hers too. A real man does not just "go with the flow" when a girl in a committed relationship is talking trash about her partner. Dude clearly was trying to get with her. I'd be willing to bet after all this went down, she went to him for comfort and he gave her "comfort". That "friendship" or whatever the hell you call it is done. Trash dude got what he wanted out of her, probably.
This dude treats a horrible person with mature respect and then does some honest introspective self-analysis to grow from the experience as a person. Must be one of those mythological well-adjusted people I heard about.
Seriously, he let all that vandalism on her part slide? That is honestly big fat L for him, now that monster of a woman will only become bolder and crazier, thinking she is above the law.
What part of 'no evidence' do you children not understand? >witnesses or camera footage None. >DNA and fingerprints No shit. She LIVES there. >spare keys and a motive Circumstantial evidence isn't always enough to guarantee a conviction. Bear in mind that courts usually favor women and legal costs would probably exceed any payout. It's just not worth it.
Every males member is what he has. I could never dream of trashing someone I supposedly loved. This is also why i feel if you've found a healthy partnership, youll never spill any details of your love life, even to your best friends, and good best friends would never pry.
The moment i saw she has a guy best friend i was alrdy yup she aint it. It's ur turn. She has a backup or plans to cheat. She thinks ur easy and dont respect her.
If it had been the other way around, the dude would have been sent to jail, women are not held accountable for their actions except in very serious situations. And it's crazy that her being in the wrong, he has to be careful "defusing" the situation because a woman out of spite can easily fabric false accusations and the whole world sides with her, ruining the man's life, absolutely disgusting.
She has some split personality disorder or what? How can you be in a relationship for 2 years and talk shit behind yours lover back and destroy stuff when it doesn't go your way???
1st Please stop saying "Baby Carrot", it's weird as Hell. 2nd What he said about "Dying married with someone who doesn't respect you is worse" is definitely true. You know she was a bully as a kid and never outgrew that mentality.
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I don't know if she was cheating on him but I do know that no matter how much ''love'' is poured in a relationship it can't work without respect.
Especially if you make fun of someone's manhood, that really is hard to forgive and move on from. It's our everything
even if she was not at some point she would because she seems like that tipe of person. bro doged a full on nuke
That's the difference between men and women in relationships, the woman *has* to respect the man. The woman could be a ditz or an immature idiot putting on airs of being a stable adult, the man could still love her without respecting her like she respects him. Love or attraction has to be there from man to woman for the relationship to work. In fact, you can respect a woman all year, if you aren't attracted to her or love her, there isn't a relationship. Respect is not needed from men to women in that same way. Respect their requests, up until they interfere with your privacy or safety, then you kick her out.
@@Resanctify
Correction, both partners have to both respect, love and be attracted to one another for it to work. A woman can respect her partner all she wants, if she doesn't love them or isn't attracted, then they're just a friend. If a man doesn't respect his partner, even while still loving them, the relationship will never be healthy. Everybody deserves respect, until they prove otherwise. But then, I can only ask why someone would have such low standard that they would stay with someone they think little of. You can't cherish someone you don't have respect for, only grow resentment over the years, so you'd be better off alone.
@@uMaud Let me repeat myself you ad-hom aH, the woman in the relationship can be an immature brat(not uncommon) and the man could *know* this, not respect her like *she respects him,* not in the same way, and the relationship could work.
You know how I know this?
Most people are stupid, both men and women; women like capable, competent, intelligent men. Therefore, there are millions of dimwitted, incompetent women, married to respectable men.
You *yourself* are dimwitted from your lack of comprehension of my post, why should someone respect you?
The dude is so confident in his manhood, he can unironically call his thing a baby carrot, and he's not down about it, what a gigachad.
ok
You must be extremely insecure to think that it's difficult to do that
@@blahbleh5671Its completely normal to have insecurities especially when a "loved one" rubbed it in your face.
@@blahbleh5671even if how's that bad to be insecure
Why do you think it was unironic if he said he is nornal sized? It was exactly that, ironic. And everyone knows that this is the cheapest type of offence that women use, even to strangers online so it doesnt work on anyone.
"You'll die alone"
OP : Veterinarian, early 30s, no kids, owns a house, 2 dogs, sense of humor, not mean enough to call the cops on your a** for vandalism, self-questioning when obviously a victim.
Mm, sounds dreamy.
apparently hot too
also apparently "gorgeous"
Don’t forget that he’s hot and smart, women would be lucky to have him
@@andrew4446nah i would be gay just to have him
It's crazy that she trashed the house and car, he literally didn't do anything bad to her, she is the one that flushed the relationship down the drain
Typically people like that will sooner blame the wind than themselves, which is why they lose their minds (or whatever semblance of a mind they already had) and become destructive when things don’t go their way. They are very much aware that they are the problem, they’re just angry that they failed to convince anyone else that they aren’t.
Its the extreme selfishness of a narcissist, she doesnt care at all about being wrong, only about being in a situation she doesnt like, and when confronted her true colors finally showed up.
It's time you learnt about narcissm, you sweet innocent soul.
Accountability is modern women's kryptonite
At least she closed the pets in his bedroom. Still, it shows that a man can be absolutely expendable. No matter what you, even if you pay all bills, give key to the car, the house, redecorate on her request with your money, and he was a veterinarian, one of the best paying jobs out there in society. All of that gone down the drain, just because she didn't like his panty carrot. Truly first world problems.
Should file a police report for vandalization and breaking in
to the most i know it wont work at all without prove
Cameras would make all the difference.
@@cavey001 if there are cameras
its a woman and by the sound of it their in england. guy is completely fucked legally. theres nothing he can do.
If he's dun any proof or camera.. he can still file a police report and ask the IO (investigation officer) to help him .. the IO will ask neighbor about the noise in the house..
the fact she turned from a sweet woman to this hurtful maniac after they broke up shows that she really wouldn't have worked out.
That's what's called a Nicegirl™, the female counterpart of Niceguy™
Both of those types act all nice and sweet at first and lure people in with their false charm, but as soon as they don't get their way they go full psycho mode.
The differences are that the Nicegirls are usually better at hiding their true nature and better at playing the long game, and the Niceguys usually start the creep sh* t not even 5 minutes after being ignored or rejected. Another difference is that when rejected for any reason, usually the worst thing the Niceguys do is guilt-tripping and crying and throwing bad words and racial slurs all over the place. But the Nicegirls? Oh boy, better get a restraining order, and sometimes that's not even enough. Op's gf is one such example. At least no one got physically hurt this time.
@@ThePopo543 Women don't get rejected so often and right off the bat, so they might not appear creepy 5 min in at first glance, but they can absolutely be psychotic or crazy if something bothers them.
He was her mealticket to her, no more, no less. Many relationships work like that, sadly.
@@CheeseOfMastersone reason why so many men are walking away from dating and focusing on their hobbies instead.
@@blightedgrounds And that's great, guys should up their value system and focus on bettering themselves and helping one another and holding women to higher standards.
She showed her true colors when she said what she said to Dylan but really showed her true form when he broke up with her
this isn't even her final form
it isn’t even her final form
Once the money and resources dry up, they go berserk because that means they have to go get a job and buy their own house.
And people wonder why men have trust issues, especially when you're a little older and more experienced.
Marriage just isn't worth it now, sadly. The law & courts are against men. 80% chance of divorce, & then you fund their life after they've wrecked yours.
Why is she not going to jail after causing damage to this man's property? Dude, what she did is literally a crime. Letting her get away with it will not help her or you, she needs to learn that actions have consequences.
No evidence was her
@@GongasTopG??? Probably fingerprints all over the place , motive , she had a spare key to one of the cars , probably camera footage of her going to the house at some point , could be witnesses , and etc.
@@rogewar2621 fingerprints bruv 😅
@@rogewar2621since she lived there, finger prints and DNA would be there regardless. No witness, and the guy is mega busy and probably doesn't seem worth it to him.
I would just want to ignore this woman and move on, not be attached through courts
She's a woman. Evidence or no evidence, nothing would happen to her, especially considering she's unemployed and broke.
I'm 99% sure, her strategy was to marry him and have him raise Dylan's children.
allow me to lend you the remaining 1%
Here's an extra 10% because that's a 110% fact.
She was already sleeping with Dylan.
Yep 100% he was the provider good job and she didn’t have to work.
This would be bad enough if the conversation was with female friends, male no way.
She like sharks because she is a predator
I doubt it, I think Dylan is just a cuck, that gave that chick free attention, but definitely she would have had kids with some other man
The fact that these girls can break into your home and destroy it with ZERO punishment is insane.
It's female privilege
and some how they're still "oppressed" smh
@@TopFlightSecurity415 Feminist society in action.
@@TopFlightSecurity415 And yet - you wouldn't trade places in a million years.
@@RemiStardust maybe because we enjoy not being fucking insane
I mean property damage is a serious thing...house and cars wow, easy lawsuit...Jenna first 100% in the crazy/sociopath category.
not easy he needs prove
@@georgegorvaniagerge7077if he has pictures of all damage when he got home, and proof of where he was at the time, such as his punch times and employees also sharing if he was in the building for his lunch then he could prove easily he wasn't the one who trashed his home, and if she's lived there long enough neighbors could also share seeing her there and also having seen her come in and out of the home during the time period she lived there. It's really not that hard, especially for most people since nowadays almost everyone has security cameras, nonetheless again it's really not that damn hard.
Plus it's sadly very common for people, especially women (this is coming from a woman, and yes I am afab I'm not trans), to have serious mental breakdowns and go fucking crazy like a goddam psychopath and break shit and destroy things. I really don't understand why people continue to date those kinds of psychopaths even after their true colors are shown, they are fucking pathetic excuses of people who usually leach off of others like the worthless pieces of shit they are.
@@heycanitellyousomething That's the cops' job. I don't expect a vet to turn into Columbo.
He said in the post he doesn’t have proof
Never block anyone that sends you abusive texts. It's evidence.
those text don't get deleted, you can't deleted them permanently
@@rationxlity What do you mean? Because of screenshots or something?
@@sugoi9680 The data never gets deleted. You can recover all of those conversations. The blocking just prevents new messages from coming through.
@@sugoi9680Archives I assume
@@sugoi9680 The service provider will still have them archived.
Me waiting to have my cat checked by the vet, listening to the doctor flirt with a lady in the other room for over an hour.
Nobody, man or women, deserves to have a partner who speaks like that about them to a friend. Especially a friend that you don't like them being friends with.
The betreyal is just through the window. There are so many things wrong with what she did and she didn't have the human decency to even apologise for one of them.
@@gravity00x Facts.
The audacity of believing you can pick your partner's friends
@@gravity00xbro, she doesn’t even think she did anything wrong.
That type of woman is like Homelander.
@@Qrtuop I did not say you can pick your partners friends.
Average Narcissist reaction to being confronted with thier own Actions, very lucky to OP to have found out her true Character before he put a Ring on her vile Fingers...
Or a children on her belly
@@canelaspufthat's a game over, at that point only way out is to restart
@@jm_sc ahahhah
Average Woman*
Or just a fake story
She is mad she lost her meal ticket 🎟️
Now have fun working the rest of your life Jenna!
she got a job, didn't you listen ?
@@cheesecake4648 yup, one that she'll be working until the wall is met and passed.
it's sooo over
@@cheesecake4648 Yeah, because she HAD to lmao
Stop acting like she did it purely because she had integrity
she was playing him the entire time, it was all a game for her, she was a psycho and just hiding her power level. he's lucky as hell he found out before he married her and took him for everything, he should have pressed charges.
Gotta appreciate how he makes callbacks to his "baby carrot" throughout the ordeal. Maintaining a sense of humor goes a long, long way in hard times
Damn, she turned out to be a full on sociopath that somehow turned it into her being the victim. No remorse, lying through her teeth, backstabbing. Lucky he went home early that day so he didn't find out after 10 years of marriage.
Moral of the story: Don't fool yourself in being "secure" about things that you shouldn't. You're not secure about driving 100mph through a city with the seatbelt off and no airbag. Don't be about your girl's red flags either. And definitely don't let yourself be shamed into it.
your analogy is idiotically stupid. one is something you have no control over and actually is a negative if you're being constantly insecure about, the other is a CHOICE to endanger the lives of yourself and others. Absolsutely 2 things worlds apart in relevance.
Based
Preach 🙌
This whole "security" is nothing but a woman's shaming strategy to control men. Losers fall for it and pride themselves on being secure about accepting things they shouldn't accept
Good on this dude. Though I still gotta give him some dumbass points allowing a crazy ex around his house while HES NOT THERE. Anyone could’ve guessed that would happen.
He didn't allow her, he took the key off her. She broke in
@@justroonhere buddy, he said he told her to get the stuff off the porch. That is the example of "allow" around his house...
@@fluffyomega6809 A porch is not inside the house tho? How could he expect that?
@einmarko2778 So he expected her to damage stuff before. Which is WHY he had his friends come over when she packed... you tell me he didnt expect more shit to happen?
@einmarko2778 if you have to have people over to guard and watch, then you already know what could happen.
She says 6 inches is a "baby carrot"? That's above average... Average is 5.5"
Hell, adding onto this? The birth canal is typically only about 5 to 6 inches deep when the woman's aroused. He can still fit entirely to root, and still potentially do quite a bit to stimulate. That's, honestly, a perfect size. Much larger than average (like 7 to 9) isn't going to all fit. Porn films that say the actor has like... 11 or 12 inches? Nah, that's made up and uses a lot of camera angles to make it appear larger than it is. If anyone was that size, they would not be able to fit comfortably inside all the way.
The 5.5 stat is actually skewed because of volunteers bias, the actual average is smaller than that, it's just that only men with big 'carrots' wanted to volunteer to show it because they were more likely to be proud of their size.
wow the more you know@@Ruew
But then again the global average is lowered by the 2,5 billion Indians and Chinese (who on average have smaller dicks than whites and blacks). If you wanna know how you measure up against your peers better check the national average, not global
the story is probably fake, but if not, op is most likely not 6 inches
“Maybe he was a horse” 💀
He doesn’t mean a literal horse, that’s bestiality 🗿
@@darcash1738 no shit 💀
@@shittycatto if he did mean a literal horse it would be funny. Otherwise it’s just a reasonable guess
You never know.
@@azmolhossain9244That's right, in this rotten day and era, you never truly know.
that's not a bullet dude dodged a fking nuke
You know they all behave like that, right?
@@SuperSaverPlaysSPG No they dont, just the ones you chase
what do you mean dodge, it was a direct hit
@@eskaban_edits_beats_and_more He was wiling to marry her.
@@beatrizmedeirosnoleto9391 so he survived the hit. Still a hit though
Losing 2 years to someone you genuinely loved hurts, it hurts like hell, but at least he had the ability to cut the pain off at its source and move on with his life.
I lost the entirety of my teenage years to a girl with what I know now to be covert narcissism.
We were each others everything (or so I thought) but after years of her making me feel like if I just went to therapy our relationship would be fixed, I couldn’t do it anymore. I am not highly unstable, I am not depressed, barely anxious, but I do have one thing, a very, and I mean very, slight touch of the tism. She always seemed to think I had some kind of major issue. I made the decision to break up a week before Thanksgiving, 2023. It didn’t really ‘end’ until the first week of 2024 when I blocked her. I couldn’t take the constant text messages and phone calls anymore, I asked her countless times to give me space and respect my boundaries, but that was like speaking a foreign language to her. I could go on and on, but I shouldn’t for my own sake. 3 weeks no contact. I’m very slowly healing, but man I still wonder…
Im really glad you found the strength to dump her and make your own needs a priority! The pain takes a while to fade, but while it does you'll be living your life and realizing what a weight off your shoulders it is! Proud of you@@videos-for-friends
@@gotenks5633 Thank you, kind stranger. It was a bit of a vent there.
I’m doing my best to stay healthy and productive everyday. This weekend was dedicated to deep cleaning my living space :)
@@videos-for-friends love a good deep clean! This weekend i played some elden ring and finally started painting again! Havent painted any of my warhammer models in...a couple months :X been busy, but making myself get back into the groove and im so happy! Glad you're getting lots done too :)
I never understand how woman think it’s okay to shame men but get butthurt if a man shames them and turn around and act petty
Because women have been treated like princess their whole lives. Actually being held accountable is kryptonite to them
They aren't used to it.
Because they literally cannot imagine what it would be like to be on the receiving end of those insults. I don’t mean that in a derogatory way, but they genuinely aren’t physically capable of it, because their whole life they got away with this behavior towards others without facing any consequences or even being encouraged.
They believe those insults they throw are truly justified, meaning that if you vaguely did anything similar back at them, it must be gravely unfair
its because theyre adult children with too much power and inability to take accountability
@@Soccercrazyigbomangreenskin spotted😂
unemployed in her late 20s and a guy as her "best friend", those are two big red flags for a serious relationship to begin with
THIS
What's wrong with having a best friend with the opposite sex?
@@xandroy1273 What's right about it?
@@AluminiumT6 Having a best friend, regardless of gender, is pretty right in my book.
@@xandroy1273 Ok good luck lol
Kudos to op for having a spine and not dragging the relationship. Malus points for not changing the locks
You don’t really expect someone to do that.
Maybe I’ve just been lucky.
Her constantly texting her male "friend" is already a huge red flag
Close male friends like that are instant "no thanks, bro" from me. He was weird though, talking and comparing carrot sizes of her bfs. Closet gay, or super super deep friendzone?
@@masterexploder9668 honestly with these types of women, the "friend zone" is the safest place to be. You have no sexual jealousy coming your way.
Bro got introduced to the narcissist with a side of BPD and saw what was going to be in store once the love bombing ended-----he just sped it up by accidentally unmasking her before she had her hooks fully into him (and his money).
He shouldn't be asking what he could have done to make her say and do those things. It was 100% guaranteed at some point anyway.
Someone with brains, a sense of humor, confidence and self-respect will always be a winner. He'll be fine.
100% narc. Narcs become borderlines when abandoned.
My ex had BPD. She destroyed me terribly. Always watch out for a red flag and do not... DO NOT DATE someone with such borderline traits
Still common law relationship, she might still be entitled to a lot on the breakup depwnding on where they live.
@@Avenus112gotta love good old Johnny law
@@Avenus112 Really depends on where you live. In my state, Colorado, common law marriages aren't a thing unless you have been presenting yourself as a married couple despite not being actually married.
The fact that all of the women in these stories without fail resort to baseless insults, shaming, guilt tripping, belittling and the need to be right when the guy calls them out for their inexcusable behaviour just absolutely destroys my faith in women.
She most definitely sounds like the type of woman they bring in to the fresh n fit, whatever etc podcasts. But do not let that redpill stuff mindbreak you, it is designed to be divisive just as the equivalents targeted at women.
They are not all like that, good people do exist, don't let them demoralise you young brother.
Let it destroy your faith in untreated narcissists. This is the distaff counterpart of the guy who viciously mocks the lovely homemade lunches packed for him by the devoted wife who's helping pay his way through law school.
@@janerecluse4344 tf?
@@janerecluse4344 Yeah. Also another point is probably that women resort more to verbal abuse more often than physical abuse because they can't do it as much compared to men
They all do these things. It's always shaming, insult, and guilt with them, always
She sounds like a woman who has a lot of experience getting men to be smitten with her. Many attractive women are highly practiced and know how to pull a man's heart levers.
Full credit to this guy, he handled everything to perfection even under a barrage of psycho shit from 'Jenna'. She really is for the streets. Man was even able to joke about the "baby carrot" line when he could've easily slunk off in humiliated defeat. I'm sure he'll laugh about all this one day with his future wife.
She is the kind of woman that deserves to have her dating grounds "salted" beyond repair.... His SIL can be witness to the fact that he let her get her things.... Hey Jenna.... civility is the mark of a quality person.. Hopefully your cats won't suffer too horrible a life with you and your boxed wine
Well for a start any woman over 25 with a "male best friend" while in a relationship is already a huge red flag. Her 'male best friend' should be her partner.
The rest of the disrespect is the sign it's time to move on.
Considering she's obviously abusive and an extreme narcissist, I don't think "Dylan" was a threat sexually. He's 100% her long term Simp-in-chief that she'd absolutely NEVER fuck under any circumstance, but keeps him around like a pet.
Her male best friend isn't a good meal ticket. This guy would be with his job.
@@agentsnorlson7913make best friend is either the side piece or a beta orbiting simp that gives her validation when other people aren’t available.
one thing I'm learning from stories like these, is if you breaking up with someone even slightly crazy, then lock up important stuff somewhere they can't get too
Homie, that ain't your girl, it's just your turn.
Kick her to the curb and find someone without a "best friend" of the opposite sex who actually respects you.
The fact no one else is talking about this is nuts. Damn facts bro.
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Truth!!!! The best friend of the opposite sex is totally unacceptable. What a bitch.
yeah her and her male best bf def got something going on there. i’m gonna be honest tho, my closest friend is female and i have had no issues with my relationships. completely platonic and always got along with my exes and current gf. just gotta be clear with the communication and set boundaries
Soyboy deserves what he got for taking a garden tool seriously. Have your fun and dump her when you get bored. Maybe he takes a lesson and becomes more of a man but it's unlikely.
The fucking baby carrot delivery im done 😂
lmao Yes! I was looking for this! That fucking killed me 😂😂
This is the type of story that makes me not want to get into a relationship. If someone did this to me. I wouldnt be able to just let it go.
Work on yourself, other people's opinions (even those close to you) shouldn't affect you too much and you can let go of toxic people since you're able to see a situation for what it is. You'll realize it's a "them"-issue and not a "you"-issue, and you can let them go along with what was said. It sucks when it happens, sure, but it is what it is and you'll be okay with that.
Being vulnerable and taking risks is what love is all about, the best in life doesn't come without potential hurt. When the right person comes along they won't treat you like this, and if you've experienced hurt in the past you'll appreciate them more for it. If their true colors come to light and you're secure in yourself it'll hurt but you'll get past it quickly enough due to what I said in the start of my comment.
Yea same here. It's better to stay single imo ain't gonna take that risk
Be hyper selective and if they have a male best friend they talk with regularly NEVER date that person. At least 50% of women are undatable and of those left your own preferences will limit that number even more. Don't focus as much on beauty and go for those who have a good personality and doesn't have super unhealthy habits like being very overweight, drinks heavily or does recreational drugs.
If you focus on yourself and put yourself in situations where you can chat with women in a casual setting without expecting anything more than a chat you will find someone worth your time and energy
You can prevent this if you screen her early. Just from the first 2 minutes she has lots of friends and her best friend is a guy who didn’t like him even though the Op tried his best to be friendly with him. Additionally most men are too scared to just walk away
@@T3n50r
Life is all about taking risks for potential benefits. Sometimes you'll take risks that most people would not. Sometimes you won't take risks that a lot of people would because you don't view the benefits as worth it. I personally would not see the point of a relationship for myself. It's gives the same social benefits as really close friendships or relationship with family members, but with the risk of far more hurtful emotional damage. Some people never fully recover from especially damaging relationships.
Wow that's unlucky. Poor dude's first long term relationship in a while and it's some crazy loser.
Must you really make it sound so sad? 😭😭😂😂😂😆😆
Psychopath, you got extremely lucky to overhear that conversation
*narcissist*
@@zacara8469narcissism is just breath away from sociopathy
The thing I've learned about relationships is that you can't build castles on foundations of sand. If she's that snipe-happy when times are good, just imagine what she'd be like when times got bad.
*Sandcastles* entered the chat.
@@kevinmcnab5670Haha Gottem!!
Male best friend. Red flag instantly.
If I learned my girlfriend were fabricating crappy and disrespectful jokes about me while she thought I wasn't around, I honestly would've been the "silent breakup type" and just changed all the locks, blocked her number, placed all her stuff on a mat outside with a note spelling "Find someone else to demean". And if I could, I'd move somewhere else, so she'd never be able to find me again. But that's just me. I think it's better than giving her a chance to "explain herself" or her inferior reasoning.
This is an impulsive behavior. Don't you even consider the possibility that things could be different than you believe? If someone fabricates lies about her? Would you just trust what you "learned"? You could lose a good person and be cruel to an innocent. Imagine if accused people don't had the right to defend themselves? If you're not even with disposition to hear the other side, maybe deep down you're not so certain and have to act extreme to avoid confrontation, or maybe the outcome is somewhat that you actually wanted and is just being convenient with an excuse to go away denying the other person the opportunity to defend or (proper) apologize.
Thinking with your dick without realizing is what’s impulsive. Coldly dumping her is the opposite of impulsive behavior. Impulsive is when you feel the urge to go into denial and think there’s a good explanation for her BS, then continue to be foolish enough to trust her again because you can’t break away from some basic long-term exposure to pleasure chemicals from being in a relationship.@@fredcavalcante1887
@@fredcavalcante1887 I feel the same. He also only got 100% certain she was talking about him when she admitted to it. And also wont have to doubt if he made the right choice because it got really obvious he did. Though.. the downside is if the partner's crazy enough, lives can be at risk.
Op seems like a nice guy I’m happy he has a supportive friends and family. He really dodged a bullet with this psycho.
Honestly her pettiness in doing all that vandalism justified the decision to break up with her. Also how someone talks about you when she thinks you aren't there is an indicator of how much she respects you. Imagine how much different things would have turned out if she didn't say anything negative. Also that male friend is definitely waiting his turn.
He isn't waiting for ish, he's been there and done that.
@@wham7125 He's probably her backup plan.
@@jhhwild He's the FWB who doesn't pay.
@@wham7125 He could be in the friendzone.
@@jhhwild Could be but it's unlikely. Women don't discuss **xual details with FZ dudes, they only skim the surface.
Insane how fast people can change and show their true colors.
I've known people like her before. She's deeply insecure about herself. That is the cause of all her behavior.
1) She has to tear down her partner to be on the same level as her. She doesn't admit to thinking that poorly of herself, and likely comes across as confident to most, but at her core, she feels she doesn't measure up and convincing herself her partner is just as bad as she perceives herself to be actually assuages some of that anxiety. She has to believe OP could never do better than her, or she'd be worrying about it constantly.
2) She's trashing OP to her male friend who she keeps on the back burner. Insecure women (and sometimes men) usually have a platonic friend waiting in the wings incase something goes wrong. They have a fall-back plan. The only way they can keep their second choice interested is by spewing bile about their current partner to assure them that it's just a matter of time. Guess that was true in this case.
3) When OP confronted her about a deep personality flaw, that struck a nerve. It affirmed all her insecurities in a way that she couldn't deny, but was also loathed to admit. When people like her feel cornered, rather than taking accountability, they lash out. They try to inflict as much pain as they can, and place all the blame on the accusing party because they can't handle admitting the truth about their own faults.
I don't think she's an inherently "Bad" person. If she was, I'm sure OP would have picked up on that. But she has some issues. No sense of rationality, no self awareness, she's emotionally immature (this is behavior you don't usually see with anyone over the age of 8 or 9 years old) and she is disgusted by herself in ways she can't even admit to herself. She was a powder keg, and rejection is the mother of all lit fuses for people like her.
OP was right to leave, he can't fix what's wrong with her, and she can't even see the problem, so she won't fix it. If it wasn't this issue, it would have been another, and potentially much worse if he had proposed, if they had gotten married, combined finances, or worse, had kids. He dodged a bullet, he knows that, but it still sucks. I'm sure she had her good qualities too, which he will miss.
This girl is the gas station burrito of women, tasty and convenient but will leave you doubled over on the bathroom floor praying for death in the end. OP can do better, and I'm confident he will when he's ready.
Until then, change the locks (including on the car), install some cameras, and file a police report... it won't go anywhere without proof, but get it documented all the same in case she comes back. Block her on everything, expect her to bad-mouth you on social media, but don't respond. If she makes claims that demand a response, have a lawyer do it for you. Otherwise, don't permit any contact. If she returns to his place of business, staff should be instructed to call police immediately and the business will press charges for trespassing. Tell her clearly she needs to leave but say nothing else.
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Gas station burrito 😂
woah, you delivered all the points so well and fluent! the gas station burrito comment tho lol
@@abbyswartz1527I fell out 😂.
Don't usually see over the age of 9? Bruh this is like the average woman's behavior. No accountability, shaming language, etc. are absolutely standard fair. You can find a hundred of them in the YT's comment section every day.
"I shipped 100 lbs of baby carrots to her house"
Starving children in yemen: 💀
Violence is never the awnser..... it's the question and the answer is yes
You have no enemies
@@axon589 you are absolutely right
@@aRedBeam I hope I become like you in the future, I’m taking lots of dumb decisions as for now
@@veteranpg3d156 it's better to live without hate in your heart
Hot take: having a "guy" best friend is a red flag the more I think about it
Yes.
that's not a hot take, just a sane take
even if it isn't a best friend, if she has any guys that she's close with while in a relationship is a big red flag
Unless he's super gay - in which case it's actually a benefit lol
@@thehumblepotatoreborn9313I know right, either way it's free sex💀
male friends who are straight are always red flags, she is stringing them along in her friend zone, they are "backup" or rebound sex, post break up sex, FWB
Could’ve sued the shit out of her for destruction of property. Hope this guy is doing better now
I’d have made a post on social media not name dropping her, but it would be fairly obvious given the context. Share the pictures of the house and car you took for insurance and the police, then just caption it as “a lesson learned, never just get the keys back because you never know if she made copies behind your back, some people are good at hiding how unhinged and dangerous they truly are. She had the kindness to lock my dogs up before causing havoc, and they are safe, so at least I can say that as a positive”.
He probably would think this is just being petty, that it’s drama. Let’s see if he still feels that way when a bunch of people start treating him a certain way because she spun a story about him SAing her or something, as a way of making herself the victim. When you stay quiet and let the abuser shape the narrative first, you are helping them out you in whatever position you end up finding yourself in.
OP is too kind/soft, telling that she felt she could get away with that
NEVER get involved with a girl who has a guy "best friend".
Why tho?
@@steverukia6247 well , here i can only talk from my own experience , but real "friendship" between men and women is usually impossible. One side ends up having an interest for the other person , so that's no longer a platonic friendship. Plus men and women have different interests and mentalities so at most you will be "friendly" and that's it.
If a girl has a "guy best friend" late in life , the guy has an interest for her 100% of the time (and the girl also likes the attention that he's giving to her), and HE hopes that at one point he'll get with her. Imagine now ,like in this case ,she gets a boyfriend , the "guy best friend" will not like that, and will try and instigate arguments and discrepancies in your relationship. Sometimes even worse....
"The count of monte Cristo" is a book which tells a story revolving around this theme , which I wholeheartedly recommend
@@steverukia6247 because the chances of her cheating is higher
@@steverukia6247 Because even if the girl is trustworthy, most men do not stay "best friends" with a woman they have no interest in fucking. Sure, it can be that way. It can be totally platonic. But the odds aren't in your favor. Here's a tip, most women won't accept their man having a female best friend outside of their romantic relationship, either.
@@steverukia6247 because the guy best friend is always down to fuck, and it just takes one vulnerable moment and a few tears for him to make an entry. Unless he's gay, then it's fine.
this dude sounds self-assured and like a great guy, he did the right thing and she's a lying narcissist. she should have faced consequences for the vandalism.
It’s amazing how some people can hide who there are until they get angry. Also a word of advice…don’t date women with male best friends. Never seen it turn out well for the bf.
Bro dodged a bullet...the big man is looking out for you.
I've known people like that chick. They love talking s**t behind people's backs to cover for their own insecurities.
Think about it, you've got a guy whose been paying for her for months and he's pretty attractive. She probably feels like the lesser in the relationship so she latches onto the one thing he's not excelling in, his dong. Then she confides in her comfort zone friend to create a shared narrative where she's basically doing her boyfriend a favour by being with him because his member is sooo short.
“I’m going to break up with her.”
Me: sees the video is only a quarter through
“Oh no.”
i think he should try and get her to face the consequences of her actions by pressing charges and trying to gather evidence (fingerprints etc) for true justice
Fingerprints from a house she's lived in for a long while and a car she was previously given permission to use?
Nothing worse that a girl belittling her man.
This dude is too nice... I'd have ALREADY hired a defense lawyer for the redrum trial. Srs😒
One thing I can't understand about women is how they can live in lies. Living with someone they don't love, or like, or even respect, pretending to love, having sex... Living that kind of miserable life for what? Just to be provided for?
The answer is shockingly simple.
Yes.
Your last sentence is exactly it. It is the ultimate form of female degeneracy. In general you call it psychopathy. But predatory parasite is more accurate.
Well without condoning her actions, it's sadly better than being homeless or starve to death and is better than a lot of wage slaving jobs out there
Men do that too. Some live with unloved and unwanted wives just for the pure comfort of it.
@monasabbat9733 maybe, I wouldn't.
@@zhengistasbolatov8480 and I wouldn't generalize a whole sex.
The answer always is.. leave them. I left my girl because she had an affair on vacation. Everyone i talked to about it seemed to assume that i would take her back. But no it is nonesense.. if they disrespect you just ones it must be over. It feel like that whole gender gets off on how much you let them get away with. Educate them by showing them the answer is nothing.
What's crazy is that, if she had admitted to it and apologized unequivocally right away at that wine bar, OP would probably have forgiven her. But she would need to be emotionally mature to manage that lol. Best of luck to OP, much better man than I
You can clearly see the strategy of that disgusting mind:
first deny it in hopes that he’s just heard rumors, then as soon as it becomes obvious that the lie is uncovered the insults finally come out, because she could never admit to have done something wrong. Truly the worst personality
If she were the type to sincerely apologize for it, she wouldn't have done it in the first place
I been there before and I can without a shadow of a doubt tell she was 100% lying to you. Way to be a chad. Much love brother.
since she didn't live near Dylan, I don't think she was cheating with him. I think she basically wanted to keep him in the friendzone by telling him she was on the verge off breaking up with her current SO.
Close male friends like that are instant "no thanks, bro" from me. He was weird though, talking and comparing carrot sizes of her bfs. Closet gay, or super super deep friendzone?
Just a super down bad boyfromasoyfarm, willing to engage in any topic that the pretty female dictates, in hopes of having a chance at her, by gaining her approval. Any normal person, especially a friend would question her on her disgusting behaviour, at the very least, out of concern for the wellbeing of her relationship. The male "friend", he's like an orbiter that she keeps around, for when things dont work out the way she wanted to. Probably more involved though, as according to OP she got very hostile and defensive, when OP made a jab at the male "friend".@@masterexploder9668
making fun of her bf's dong to him means he was definitely not in the friendzone
@@isodoubIet so glad we have the dong expert here to tell us all about dongs
@@sanddagger36 You're welcome. Next free tip: if she's touching someone else's dong and she's not a urologist, it means she's cheating on you.
What a lovely woman.
What red flags do you guys think he missed?
Guy "best friend".
@@ronwatford7331 big one. Do you think they were sexual?
Guy best friend
Having a "guy best friend" is fine, but the intuition about jealousy not protectiveness is the overlooked flag. Who Jenna's friends are would reflect who she is. If dylan didnt like OP, that's a concern. If her other friends acted weird, that's a concern.
Other missed flags, she lied at first. Then at breakup, got verbally aggressive and abusive. Then spamming him with more abuse.
He really shouldve seen the vandalism coming.
She wasn't a virgin when they met.
My guy you are so intelligent intellectually and emotionally. It takes a big man to be so self aware and stick to their principles, seek advice, etc.
He was also very blue pilled. It's clear that he ignored her past disrespect, you don't just suddenly get there. And overly feminine too, abundantly obvious from the insane amounts of worthless unrelated details in his post.
@@Leonhart_93plus he doesnt hunt her down and punish her accordingly
First red flag is a bestfriend male friend. A guy and a woman can never be friends, I used to think it’s possible in my 20s.
It starts off as "you're just insecure" to "I can explain" when you caught them red handed. Jfl 😂
@@gatoloco3949exactly. Nothing about insecurity bish, it’s simple respect. If I had a female best friend, I doubt there would be the same consideration.
She honestly sounds like she might have BPD or a personality disorder similar to it. I've dated and been extremely close to 6 people with BPD (and other disorders too), and the manipulation, the sudden uncalled-for splitting on you (going from "you're the love of my life, I would die without you" to "you are nothing, you're abusive and an asshole, and I hope you die in a ditch" with very little pushing). Get away from her. Cut contact. If she has such a disorder, she WILL tell people you were the bad guy. They are unable to take accountability for their own actions and shittiness, because they have such an unstable identity.
It's not a disorder. It's just people who act nice and once given a reason to act nasty let out all those inner thoughts. Its not a condition. It's lack of self control. People aren't honest. They lie to you and themselves. They want to be better but the inner them is sometimes a demon. Being nice is also a self defense mechanism because it protects them from harm. It's a lack of confidence. This is what society is slowly turning into especially in America. This isn't something you fix with a doctor and some pills. It's fixed with a punch in the face and being humbled then some compassion. Have to turn down the anxiety which will turn down the narcissism.
That's just women in general these days.
@@larion2336 That's an ignorant, sexist, and fallacious statement.
@@zacara8469 Nah it's pretty accurate. Throw some more useless buzz words at me, I'm sure it'll override my decades of experience conversing with two-three generations of horrible irrational women.
Good luck finding a woman in this generation who doesn't have a personality disorder lmao
"that woman is obsessed with anything to do with sharks"...red flag
I don't give a fuck what anyone says, working too much is not a valid reason for feeling alone or cheating or being horrible to ones partner. Some jobs just require that kind of commitment and if you can't handle that then boohoo go your separate way and move on. Someone else who can support the fact that the partner is working hard to take care of everything will come along.
It's just an excuse for manipulative and narcissistic people to take control.
How does missing someone want to make you spend less time with them? The logic by which some people operate is beyond kindergarden level.
If anything, not seeing my S/O for an unknown period of time, makes me the happier to see them again and reminds me that not everything is permanent, which in turn, helps me appreciate our time together the more and makes it so much more meaningful.
Even if they're feeling neglected you can, you know, mention it your partner? Communication goes a long way. You can't let those thoughts fester. In this case it worked out, though. This dude just saved himself so much time and money. Imagine this happening 5 years into their marriage after they've had kids...
My dude is kinda pathetic for not telling the police that she did it "Can't prove it was her" *Finger prints allow us to introduce ourselves*
Except... she lived there, with him, of course her fingerprints are going to be all over.
@@impishrebel5969 Yeh and all over the broken things, perhaps even a cut happened and some blood is on it.
Probable cause from a break up I'm sure it would convince the police to atleast open an investigation on it.
He probably did tell them, and they might question her but if she says she doesn’t know anything about it and there’s no other evidence it won’t go anywhere.
Always sanitize your home when you break up with someone. Full cleaning crew. Don't do it yourself.
It's more likely that's what the police requested/needed from him. They would've said something like 'do you have physical proof she was responsible for...." Etc. Angry texts don't prove she destroyed his car, even if it 99.99% apparent to him that she did. It's pretty frustrating to deal with, but it works both ways and has certainly saved people from false accusations as well.
She locked the two dogs in the bedroom in the hopes they'd poop on the bed or floor. Guess at least that backfired. But holy crap, dodged a bullet. Being married to that girl would have been hell.
Goddamnit. I can't keep listening to this. This man here is a saint, house? Trashed. Cars? Keyed. Yet he still reflects and picks out a flaw that I couldn't and rightfully could not find amidst his pretty much perfect character. Which I might add is my dream; stretching it a bit to myself but a job involved in medicine and health, financial stability comparable to a noble gas, a comedic and just wonderful vibe, and a body I assume is to go crazy for with an "average" elephant to boot. Absolutely inspiring fellow right there.
It's just mind blowing to me, hearing how absolutely cruel and vengeful some people can be.
She just couldn't take personal responsibility for herself ruining the good thing she had with her careless words. If you're saying something about someone and you wouldn't say it right in front of them, you shouldn't be saying it at all.
Thankfully he addressed the destruction part of it, but man how evil can somone be.
We gotta know if theres anything else to the story about the whole police report
"Her best friend is a guy"
I mean this is a standard red flag to immediately cease all contact before you even start dating.
dodged a damn big bullet
Not really. He got hit several times. At least he didn't go down.
@@thisisntsergio1352 Nah, getting hit would be getting married before SHTF or getting iced by the psycho
@@gismosfinalform2031 his house and car were destroyed and he cried in the shower. Those are hits
The way she's acting like a victim 😂😂😂
Like how is that even a thing anymore. It’s Soo overused.
@@burningdust it's cause it works
This folks is why you don't let your girl have a male "best friend" it's always just a guy waiting for an opportunity to lure her into his bed and whisper into her ear about how you're not good enough for her. Never believe otherwise, if she won't cut him off find another woman. Over 3 billion of them in this world, it's inevitable you'll find one who respects you if you try hard enough.
It's quite rare to find a youtube comments section with these many accurate comments. Kinda restores my faith in humanity a little, even after listening to such a tragic story.
If you are not her male best friend then you shouldn't be her spouse. Let her marry her male best friend rather than her male second best friend.
Obviously she needs to go to jail for that, and a civil judgement for the damages
I agree with all the comments saying she is a walking red flag, but F*** that male best friend of hers too. A real man does not just "go with the flow" when a girl in a committed relationship is talking trash about her partner. Dude clearly was trying to get with her. I'd be willing to bet after all this went down, she went to him for comfort and he gave her "comfort". That "friendship" or whatever the hell you call it is done. Trash dude got what he wanted out of her, probably.
Yeah I bet that’s exactly what happened. No honest man would talk like that behind another’s back
This dude treats a horrible person with mature respect and then does some honest introspective self-analysis to grow from the experience as a person. Must be one of those mythological well-adjusted people I heard about.
Your ex is a cruel woman. She needs to feel the pain that comes when everyone points at her and smirks
Seriously, he let all that vandalism on her part slide? That is honestly big fat L for him, now that monster of a woman will only become bolder and crazier, thinking she is above the law.
What part of 'no evidence' do you children not understand?
>witnesses or camera footage
None.
>DNA and fingerprints
No shit. She LIVES there.
>spare keys and a motive
Circumstantial evidence isn't always enough to guarantee a conviction.
Bear in mind that courts usually favor women and legal costs would probably exceed any payout. It's just not worth it.
🤦🏾♀️ wow. He dodged a bullet! She would have cheated for sure!
Crazy how he almost proposed to this demon named Jenna
The fact that he didn't seek legal action against her is why women keep getting away with this type of behavior. Smh.
Every males member is what he has. I could never dream of trashing someone I supposedly loved. This is also why i feel if you've found a healthy partnership, youll never spill any details of your love life, even to your best friends, and good best friends would never pry.
She's the queen of the borderlines.
The moment i saw she has a guy best friend i was alrdy yup she aint it. It's ur turn. She has a backup or plans to cheat. She thinks ur easy and dont respect her.
If it had been the other way around, the dude would have been sent to jail, women are not held accountable for their actions except in very serious situations. And it's crazy that her being in the wrong, he has to be careful "defusing" the situation because a woman out of spite can easily fabric false accusations and the whole world sides with her, ruining the man's life, absolutely disgusting.
She has some split personality disorder or what? How can you be in a relationship for 2 years and talk shit behind yours lover back and destroy stuff when it doesn't go your way???
Cos he was a placeholder
She got in using the emergency key under the plant pot!!! Should have changed the locks!!!
1st Please stop saying "Baby Carrot", it's weird as Hell.
2nd What he said about "Dying married with someone who doesn't respect you is worse" is definitely true. You know she was a bully as a kid and never outgrew that mentality.
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@@gravity00x Omg 😂
Sucks that he went through that, but he dodged a major bullet on that one. Marrying a woman that doesn't respect you is a recipe for disaster.
If she has a "Best male friend" = Instant red flag
I find it amazing the capacity of some people to implode their lives over absolutely nothing.
He should have changed the locks the second she left so that she could not trash the place.