I was molested as a child at church and that ignited a fire that it's taken decades to extinguish. As a female, my drive was off the charts! I could never be satisfied. It almost destroyed me. I wish this never happened to me. But I have no excuse now that I know Christ. Sexual sin is the worst. It can lead to a long road of depression and self-loathing. Run as fast as you can from sexual sin.
I even heard there are women who become promiscuous ( sp ? ) after having been raped. But it makes sense. Even though you feel disgusted mentally and emotionally, but you learned how it feels physically, and if a person feels physical pleasure when molested or raped, it is not, and I repeat, not their fault, they cannot comtrol what it feels like downstairs, but what you feel nentally and emotionally is what matters, and if it is against your will, yes, you will feel worse than filthy abd you will feel unexplainable trauma. I mean, people can consent one minute, and feel dirty and ashamed later as a sign of conviction, but when you never gave permission from get go, the difference is, it is not your fault. So, it makes sense it ignites as fire, a major wild fire for some, after molestation and rape. But unless someone is in Christ and has enough knowledge, some survivors feel like too damaged of goods so what is the point in not having sex. It really needs to be on the forefront for those who sleep around due to trauma how to regain purity that is stolen from them that they not give away.
Same, except at home for majority of childhood. Really terrible violence against our hearts, mind, and soul. Esp since it was a loveless home. It's like when you're trying to get rid of a staticy piece of trash and it keeps coming back. Such victory when it finally gets in the trash!!!👏👏👏
Before I went homeless a girl wanted me to move in with her . I chose homelessness above the appearance . I lived in my car for a year in Indiana that had a horrible winter. Saw days below 0. I do not regret my decision
Sexual immorality is probably the most difficult sin for teenagers and young adults to deal with. It is arguably one of my devastating tools the Devil has against us.
@@gfrmthe8 I think it’s moreso pornography. Simple masturbation without stimulus isn’t bad, but pornography is absolutely terrible for ur brain, self worth, and views on women
@@lucasphillips2177 Masturbation itself without any simulation is still a sin. Masturbation is a perversion. It’s not a sin in the letter of the Word, but it is in the spirit of the Word.
Both pornography and masterbation are sinful such the word of God says we should flee from them..Don't battle not reason with but flee.Joseph is a good example when he fleed when Potiphar's wanted to seduce him
Our society is bathed in sexual temptation from every side and angle. It's pretty hard to keep your eyes, mind, and body on the straight path unfortunately.
I got born again, got baptized and through the power of the Holy spirit, i have been avoiding sexual encounters. For now am keeping myself pure and trusting God for a mate
@@celinamilian i begged Jesus with all my heart and soul to take that away from me and the mindless urge to do so just went away. Truthfully its not like i never feel turned on but i can just control it because of him. Not only that but i no longer curse, impulsively lie or have big bouts of anger. And my anxiety is mostly gone as well but sometimes i do randomly get it but i just meditate on Good verses
Thank God that I been celibate over 4 years and taking God relationship seriously. Allen is right about Sexual Sin, it interferes with having a relationship with God. We are blessed to have a God that forgives us for our sins no matter what we done. This video really hit home for me. 🙏🏾
Solid video, brother! Thanks for edifying the Body. Don’t buy into the lie that you can’t be free from sexual sin. It took 22 years but Jesus fully delivered me from pornography addiction. He is faithful and all credit and glory belong to Him! God bless, brothers and sisters!
@@chriskhall It definitely happened. I knew I believed the Gospel and that Jesus was the only One who I could go to for eternal life, but I questioned how could I be saved and continue in this sin, especially when I was consistently trying to decipher fruit in my life. It wasn’t until I fully kept my eyes on the fact that Jesus’ sacrifice and shed blood is where I needed to keep my gaze and held onto the promises God makes in His word and wrestled with them that I started to experience true freedom and lasting freedom from that sin. I’ve done so many programs and they did contain helpful principles, but truly, I can only credit the supernatural grace of Jesus and believing in His promises and, like the persistent widow, holding on to those promises. All glory belongs to Him. My testimony goes more into specifics. God bless!
@@chriskhall hey, man! I can tell you that I've never doubted God's Grace to save me, but I definitely questioned if I loved God many times. I was confronted by John 14:23 all the time, because I knew what I was doing couldn't be justified by scriptures and I was too addicted to quit. I've battled many times with pornography, but every time, I've left a door open just in case I wanted to come back to it. The last time I decided to quit for good when I was reading the Bible, 2 Co 6:13 to be exact. Those words spoke differently to me, and I took the USB where I stored all the pornography and wiped it clean. I've deleted all searches and apps that would make me fall into pornography again and I threw away all the vaseline that I used to masturbate. I've also told my family that I had decided to quit it for good and told them all the traps that made me want to watch pornography and masturbate. One of them was when I was alone at home. So I made a commitment with them to exercise, study or clean the place to avoid being tempted. In this battle, you'll want someone to help watch your back. Yesterday, it was a tough day. I had urges throughout the day, but God gave me grace and I was able to avoid it. I started watching pornography and masturbating in a period where I wasn't praying and reading the Bible. I'd only do it when I ate or went to church. Now, I understand that if I want to be excellent I must walk in the spirit (Galatians 5:16). If you're struggling with it, don't think twice. Throw away anything that will take your mind to these practices, talk to someone from the body of Christ (James 5:16), and start praying and studying the Bible more. For 6 years, I couldn't see a way out, but God is patient. I don't even know if you're struggling with it. I hope not, because I know how terrible this is. But if you are, God loves you, brother. He wouldn't have sent His Son if He didn't.
Good for you, but there is nothing wrong with OCCASIONALLY watching porn. Don't let a manipulative church convince you you're going to Hell over it. 🙄🙄
Sexual sin seems to be Satans number one tool. It is so damaging and I have witnessed so many folks lose so much due to it. Even to this day I struggle with it. It is not an easy battle for sure.
If a man is alive no matter his age, this will be a constant thing we have to be on guard against. Its even harder when you have given yourself to sexual sin in the past. Being honest it is not just a physical act. As men, many of us use sex to get that super dopamine hit/high and as a now healed sex addict i/we have to learn to live life, face disappointment, face loneliness without pursuing that high that gives us a respite from the negative emotions, self loathing or whatever it is we are trying to escape. BUT, GOD is greater than any addiction or struggle! If we want to be free, He will strengthen us and enable us to overcome these thoughts, desires and urges. Sex is not a physical need like eating or drinking and we can live in abstinence but our flesh wants what it wants even if it leads to our
Thank you for this message pastor Parr. I'm 72 years old my boyfriend and I are getting married and we have decided to stay celibate until we get married. I know you're thinking because of our age this shouldn't be an issue but believe me it is. Your message has given me the courage to keep our relationship pure until we are married. It has been a temptation. Thank you for this word from God!
Amen and amen.... Congratulations on the new journey of marriage... Thank you for this encouragement as I realize that Christ doesn't look at age but rather looks at our hearts 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
My friend, homosexual relationships are sin. Read Romans chapter one. Same-sex marriage is sin also. Only sex between one man and one woman married to each other pleases God. Come into the light.
I had feelings of falling this morning after going a week without, and a week in repentance over sexual sin. Most of my urges seem to hit me in the middle of the night, I get woken up out of my sleep with strong urges, I literally have to flip over and begin praying for sustainment that I don't fall. When I have fallen, and sexual sin sometimes becomes habitual, my confidence in Jesus goes down, I don't feel unashamed, I more ashamed, not because of Him but because I feel like I don't deserve to represent Him, so I go into solitude. The desire to fall into drinking habits picks up again, every sin it seems just seems that more enticing because my power feels drained after a sexual fall. I needed this video so bad, thank you brother Allen.
That’s satan working on you feeling your unworthy of Gods love. Pick yourself up over and over again. Never feel guilty or unworthy. Christ paid the ultimate sacrifice for all of us to not feel that way
Amen Brother. Wish I could've heard this teaching 50 years ago as an 18 year old virgin. My friends shared things like "if you don't have sex by the time you're 18 you will go crazy", etc. Many years later I read someone say to young females "if you let a boy have his way with you, he will never respect you." I know this to be true. Praise God for the Lamb who takes away the sin of the world!
It's sad. Billy Graham grandson...didnt follow his grandfather.about not being in the same room with a woman who is not your wife, without another person with you
@@kathleenking47 When Billy Graham was on the road he would have another man go into his hotel room and check under the bed and check the closet just in case a person had planted a woman there ruin his reputation.
One of the ways that I was able to "overcome" (still struggle with sexual sin), was when I started to confess my sin. That's one of the areas that we, as Christian Men, struggle with... confessing our sins one to another. We fall into the pride of not wanting to show our weaknesses one to another. I work with guys who are drug addicts and alcoholics... I needed to confess my struggles with them and when I did so, I started to overcome, by the grace of God and the strength of the Holy Spirit and certainly NOT by my own strength. I lost that battle for years.
Revelation 12:11 - And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death. The more we confess our sins out loud with one another, we not only get heal - we heal others. The devil hate when we confess our sins out loud. He want us to feel ashamed in keep it too ourselves, (to make us feel we are all along). The key to freedom from his deception is to speak it out loud to whomever need to hear it. You are not alone. We are free in Jesus name.
I was a victim of rape, molestation, abuse at 12 and was also introduced to Pornography, Romance (Erotic Novels), and so much more at that age and it has wreaked havoc on my life although I'm now 29. I wish more people, especially women, talked about this. Men are not the only ones that struggle with lust. I still struggle now but praying that one day I'll be completely rid of this. It's not a game, it deteriorates you from the inside out. Run!!
God is able to heal you of ALL brokenness. Pray for a solid experience Christian woman to partner with and together work with Jesus . He’s able ! It is not your Savior’s Will or desire for you to stay enslaved to any sin. Also recommend you find a good trauma therapist to walk with you in processing your sexual assault and abuse experiences in order to be done with them. They need not rule over you and destroy your life or walk with the Lord. Jesus is stronger that any stronghold the evil one has forced onto you. Love and many prayers go up for you, Sister.
Props to your new video editor(s). Great editing! Let’s not limit sexual sin to just singles; all these points you made apply to the married as well. Sin starts in the mind and then becomes physical; so flee sin before it forms into action.
Exactly, "But each one is tempted when by his own evil desires he is lured away and enticed." (James 1:14, BSB). But you don't correct the bad desires by only running away. That's only half of it. True freedom comes when you eliminate the wayward desire, that's what we ought to strive for and it is seldom, if ever, taught by Christian preachers.
@@wendyw3230 This is my opinion, but I hope it is a good one: 1) Pray and pray honestly 2) Believe God's promises. For me this also includes being on guard against feeling resentful towards God that I haven't got what I want yet. 3) Recognize the good desires behind the evil desires. Satan doesn't have his own clay to work with, he has to twist something good that God made. Sinful desire is something that causes us to sin and robs us of the good thing we're taking the sin as a substitute for. 4) Read the Bible - especially for me Gal. 5 and the psalms and proverbs have been helpful. 5) Love your neighbor- this means seeing the whole person when you see an attractive figure- not just the external but the spirit as well. Treat them as you would if you were there in person and you knew their name and their story and could look them in the eye. This will make you uncomfortable when you're tempted to treat them as a sex-object, and you either have to supress their personhood and continue or stop. 6) Meditate on the spousal language of the New Testament. "Bride of Christ" and the like. This one is a bit more difficult because it's all very mysterious and clearly it isn't exactly the same thing. But the desire we have for a human wife/husband is a mere shadow of the desire we have for the divine reality. Almost all of this is observations I got from Christopher West, who has a youtube channel called Theology of the Body Institute. It's great stuff. It's a Catholic channel, so if you're not Catholic (I'm not) you may have to filter out some of the weird Mary stuff. Best of luck to you.
Wow, just wow. So clearly explained and on point. I already shared this video with some of my Christian friends who are struggling with this. 13 years ago, I received my deliverance from sexual sin and I've been happily married for 11 years now. I wish that for every one. To be free and be truly happy. Only Jesus can do that for us.
The same week that God has change my life and led me To the path of righteousness , I broke off a relationship I had I no longer wanted to have sex and not being married. It’s been 5 years now I’ve never been tempted to go back to that life not once. When God cleanse me He truly did. I was married before got divorced, I will honor God before my flesh. As we call ourselves children of the living God or Christians as many people say they are , we’re on a Spiritual journey this flesh is only temporary . People can’t constantly make excuses of keep going back to the things that’s not pleasing to the Almighty Father. My prayer when I realize I can’t be doing these sexual things is for God to take those feelings away and sure enough he did and I only pray that one time and it was answered. If we truly wants to change from our entire Being God will give it to us. I am no different from anyone who seeks Him.
I got two children out of wedlock from somebody I was never in love with because of sexual lust. Man this one hit hard but it's true. I'm rounding that tree again of loneliness.. I'm trying to make an effort at getting more involved in a life group at church so that I don't make the same mistake!! Pray for me plz 🙏🏼
I hope you treat your children ok, the Bible would have you treat them badly. Follow whatever beleifs you want, but if you hurt your kids there is no forgiveness. And your god loves hurting kids read 1 Samuel 15:3, also the execution of all the first born Egyptian boys. Abrahamic religions started from a guy who heard voices telling him to sacrifice his own son. Please don't be like that, I grew up in a very religious family and have suffered this abuse first hand. Sexual sin doesn't exist, but real word abuse does. Please Please! Don't take it out on them because of your own superstition Dustin!
@@LisaAnn777 Name one verse where it tells you to treat your child horribly. It means nothing coming from you, who supports a culture who murders millions of children in the womb every year.
I've been going to a specific church for 2 years never spoke on fornication. Once i turned 22 i was convinced he was scared to lose church members by telling the truth in God's word. I left that church
I always try and remind myself of Galatians 5: 19-21... it keeps me in check. Go through the checklist! 19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality,(A) impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.(B) I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.(C)
Well done, Allen. The biggest lie of the enemy today is "that's not an issue for me". Oh, yes, it is. Don't be alone with the opposite sex that is not your spouse. I had a very pretty younger woman ask me to come by her house. The younger being most women I am around now. 😀She was flattering me about being handy and such. The Holy Spirit said, "NO BE THERE". I kindly said no. That's how it is done. Avoid the very appearance of evil. I avoid this lady now. I assume her intentions were innocent, but we ain't hangin' out.
Keep it up. It needs to be taught over and over. Teach it to teens. Teach it to all children after the age of 12 years. It cannot wait to be discussed at such a critical or problematic time of ministry. Even in Sunday school there needs to be a level of telling little ones to honor their own bodies as well as honor others.
I really needed this Ive been playing around with sexual sin and I never really understood what was wrong with it and everytime I ask for help they just say it’s a sin but then don’t really go into depth of how it is and what are the repercussions
@@viviennejordan215 Why? Nobody NEEDs you to tell them WHAT to do! Your ministry is WORTHLESS! people NEED to know WHY and HOW! This is what makes this video infinitely better than what you are doing! If you will not explain why, and how to avoid it please dont minister! You are hurting more than you help! Far too often i am left cleaning up messes that you well-meaning people create! And i am OVERWORKED! LOL Stop doing a half-hearted job! PLEASE!
I always remind myself of Galatians 5:19-22 to always keep myself in check! It literally lists sexual immorality as the first item on the list! New International Version 19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality,(A) impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.(B) I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
Great lesson brother! I haven’t even so much as kissed a man in 5yrs and I’m now 30yo, yet this convicted me. I used to be in sexual sin in college and realized the reason I’ve never gotten over one ex in particular might be because of the continual sexual sin we had a decade ago. And it’s always a wonderful reminder that our bodies are not our own but bought at a price. I’m so glad the Lord has freed me from my sexual sin but these videos have been great because I can’t think I’m so far removed that it can’t still happen to me, especially as I consider the idea of dating again. I pray to God that these videos will be greatly used to convict the brethren and unsaved alike, that it would edify the body and win souls to Christ. May many blessings be over your ministry and your team. God bless you, you are a precious brother in Christ!
Why think of dating if it's temptation? Pray God will work it out for you into marriage. Live for Him, and He will show you what you need to know. Have faith in God.
I have heard alot of teachings against sexual sin but this is by far the most descriptive Thank you for taking time to make this! I can tell you this will stick in my heart alot longer
Extremely helpful and informative as a Christian woman in the online dating scene. It's tough connecting with someone but them not respecting my celibacy until marriage, but I know deep down God did not choose that man to be my husband. I never knew the history of the Greeks and Paul and I'll be saving this video as a reminder of waiting.
Sexual sin destroys in general. But still ppl don't realise how serious the subject of sex is. I had a friend who on his own words had sex "tooooonns of times" before he got saved. He said that it tore his life appart to a point where his only choices were to bend the knees and repent or kill himself. He chose the former, Praise God. Ppl underestimate the seriousness of sex
@@12Messenger Yeah, is another reason not to do it outside of a committed relationship for life (marriage). It makes the pain once the bond is broken even greater than it should have been. Not only because it creates these bigger attachments but also it can happen with bad relationships with sex making a bad relationship for a good one. So a bad relationship that would have been easy to break up cuz is clearly bad, becomes har cuz it feels good cuz of sex. I know a personal example of a friend whom the girlfriend got so emotionally attached to him (not to say dependant) that she barely was letting him have his own life. Everytime i met him at some point he was texting her to tell her "he was ok" and what he was doing. I got to meet her and i saw that the concern for his well being is genuine but pathologially high. He grew tired of it and broke up with her. She cried a lot called him back crying promising to change and he gave her a 2nd chance. I know they were dating for a year before if happened, and having sex. There's no way if he wasn't feeling closer to her as he would have been if not having sex, he would have taken this long to break up an unhealthy relationship for both. Honestly, as his friend i'm now rooting against this relationship cuz i know how when one of them has this dependence, is never good for any of'em
That would make the two of us. I looked up to him so much. Listening to his sermons had become a habit. I hope that he confessed to God and repented before he died.
Thank you so much. I am a mother of four children. I am no longer with the father due to DV and a lack of commitment to our family. I have asked The Lord for forgiveness for this and other times I fell short.
I’m a believer and knew that sex outside marriage is a sin. But I sinned. Now looking back I clearly see you can’t just sin suddenly, it does starts with a though like “it’s not that bad”, “I’m a just a human”, “it feels like love”, “will repent after” etc. God was warning me to stop, my gut feeling was intense! But i kept, couldn’t stop. And in 2 months I got consequences- almost died of STD. As i can see there’s ALWAYS consequences after this sin. Its a miracle I survived, def God saved💛 This sin doesn’t worth that price you have to pay after it.
Many years ago I was told by Holy Spirit that sex outside of marriage was wrong. This really need to be taught in our churches,because we always think of the big sins,ex: abortion, homosexuality not that they are wrong, but God is looking at other sins we commit and don’t really talk about. The small foxes can ruin the vine also. 🤔Thanks for teaching on this.
Pray God lifts the scales from the lukewarm and lost eyes, opens their ears and soften their hearts. Pray God brings revival to the earth. Pray the Lord of Harvest send forth laborers into the harvest. Pray God strengthens His children, gives them more discernment, unites them and wakes them up 🏔
Brother Parr, I really appreciate your boldness to tackle real topics that plague the church. These are topics that are often shy away from, or if it's dealt with, it is either too loose or very rigid. Thank you for this. This is something that must be taught early on to our tween and teenagers, so that they will understand the high value God has placed on their sexuality. Please continue to tackle these sensitive topics as the Holy Spirit leads you to.
Pleas pray for me when i first got saved back in 2020 i was freed from pornography and sexual sin for a whole year then i started to struggle and then went back into it in 2021 then still to this day 2022 and i just pray that yall pleas pray for me to be free from this i really want to and its soo addictive.
The timing on this is incredible. Here's something I shared with brothers yesterday from my own battles with sexual immorality: "1 Corinthians 6:18 says that sexual immorality is sinning against our own bodies. And given that sin is deadly, here are 5 things sexual immorality kills: 1. Time: Each moment destroyed by sexual immorality can never be recovered, and I will have to give an account to God for each one. 2. Availability: Each moment stolen by sexual immorality is a moment that I am unable to pray, prepare, provide, and protect the ones I love, putting them immediately at risk. 3. Clear Conscience/Thoughts: Each moment surrendered to sexual immorality is embedded in the memory and develops beliefs and instincts that serve to perpetuate it. 4. Faithful Body: Each time my mind is consumed or body is touched by a hand that doesn't belong to my (future) spouse, they are being habituated to defraud God and my spouse their rights to my body. 5. Life in/by the Spirit: Each moment I commit sexual immorality is a moment where I deaden my soul to sanctification, sensitivity and satisfaction in/by the Holy Spirit."
Your videos are so helpful to me as a Christian. You teach the Word of God with clarity and simplicity. Most importantly, you are transparent. Thank you for sharing your gift with the body of Christ. May God continue to bless, strengthen and encourage you 🙏🏽
“1 Cor 6 is filled with so many gems! Whenever I have an urge to do something that’s not edifying I go back to these scriptures. Brother Parr you broke this down!! 👐🏾
Well done due to sexual sins being a real touchy subject right? I used to belong to a church where the pastor would be called away to preach elsewhere. Every single time he returned, he put the church on a fast. Didn't take me long to figure that one out! We're sinners saved by grace and even though we should know better, we voluntarily ignore the Word of God. Thank you for reminding us through this venue the God we serve is able to keep us from falling...but if we fall, we do have an advocate!!! You're a strong Word scholar young man.
@@holyexperience1976 It's real....5 to 15 days...guessing it depended exactly what or who he did! Honestly sad but true....not to speak ill of the now passed away...but church folk better serve God for themselves...
What a truly fantastic video brother Allen, this series is amazing! God bless you! We must flee from sin! For the adversary is like a roaring lion looking for whom to destroy!
It’s lonely at the top. And position feeds ego which blinds your judgement as much as alcohol. They become intoxicated with position and power, the one-two punch of satan.
Great video. We need more people like you who are willing to speak truth and not sugar coat consequences of sexual sin or any sin for that matter. Thank you brother Parr for being a faithful servant to our Lord.
My dad too (pastor who cheat) they have a celebrity complex and held up to a high esteem and are not required be held accountable until it's too late. The church should be humble. It is no longer that.
Thanks Al. I specifically kept intently going through the pros and cons and the second half of this vid hit home. I've been married for 15 years so far to my lovely wife. I struggled with online stuff as a younger guy. I have to my shame had a few one off moments since with other ladies, something I never thought I'd ever do. As a believer, we are all far from perfect and all need to know as Al said that we can't change our past but can resolve to confess, repent and turn to the right track today.
Good Morning Allen ! ❤️ My answer was they're all preachers/pastors of some sort BUT had no idea they had that happening! Oh wow. Yess sexual immorality has become soooo normal its unreal. I dont know anyone literally anyone in my personal life who has waited until marriage. Insane right. This video was spot on ! Amazing job Brother Parr ! God Bless ❤️
True but anyone in your personal life is just some people because all of us are struggling of sin itself and have battle against it, and also those preachers and pastors are also imperfect and flawed people like us, no one said perfect and innocent, remember Paul himself said he is also a sinner and flawed person because there is no such thing is good people.
What an outstanding message....! Thank you my brother for having the courage to speak out the truth and explain it it understandable terms....! I can't wait to send it to my grandchildren who need to hear this message ASAP....... They cannot "hear" when it's me telling them..... I pray they will "hear" your clear explanation...! God bless you as you continue in your ministry. Blessings from South Africa...!
Love it! Thank you for breaking down the effects and consequences of sexual sin in a clear and. concise way that you did. Also thank you for the way that you did not condemn or shame Christians who have committed this sin but providing hope and a path forward. This series has truly been deep and impactful
Wow! First, I want to express how I just love the brevity of your messages. You were able to capture my attention completely. I learned something more about the "body as a temple of God" that I didn't completely understand before and I got a take-away that will help me grow in my faith. Awesome!
AMEN! Well said and much needed to say. Thoroughly emphasized. All should understand. Run for your life in the direction of Jesus to be saved from this temptation. Thank you Pastor. God Bless you and yours.
So true, this is the worst sin to get away from and get free from. It does not help that we are literally bombarded daily everywhere we look by things that are meant to invoke thoughts we shouldn't be having from magazine covers in the grocery store to billboards to television, etc. This is one reason why after I got saved I felt convicted to stop watching television and movies totally - especially the things out there now. It absolutely helps getting all that influence on your mind out of the picture.
Hi can you do a video on thinking about engaging in sexual acts with someone you're not with but are interested in. Wasn't sure where to send my request so I'm just commenting it here. I honestly think this is an attack now because it's gotten so bad (the desire to have sex or be intimate with someone) and it's like the thoughts are so hard to shake. Would really appreciate any tips or advice to keep my mind off of that and focus on God. I havent physically acted on anything but ik sin starts in the mind so I just wanted to know how to stop the desire or thoughts.
Brother once again your message from God has touched my soul. It's crazy how your mind can get lost in the moment when that little bit of pleasure can have a lifetime of repercussions. Sharing that example of a business deal was spot on. People don't like losing money. God bless and continue to share God's word through your ministry.
Brother Allen thank you so much!! I slipped up with my now wife she's the only one I have ever been with. I do regret not waiting I hate that I did that and the last part of your video gave me the kick in the pants I needed I felt that old guilt coming back but your right I am married to the woman I love and I can't dwell in the past and in condemnation because we arnt ment for condemnation when we are in Christ and your so right-wing forward in righteousness is what matters! You are a blessing Allen God is doing great things through you!
Allen, God Bless You for putting out this video. Sex outside of marriage is, in no uncertain terms, a SIN!!! I say this first and foremost to remind myself before trying to tell anyone else. I can't be thankful enough that there is a loving God who forgives but you must confess your sin to him. I pray that he shows me the right way which I know he will. We all must do our part and follow that way.
Thank you Allen for this word you are a blessing to the body of Christ and to me you help me understand the Word of GOD many blessings to you and your family and ministry
This is real talk coming directly from scripture! Keep preaching and telling a dying world that The Savior lives, and our bodies belong to Him. Commendable!
Thanks for this message . I’m a single Christian man working on this issue for years . I’ve been to several 12 step groups , celebrate recovery and other Christian ministries addressing it and lots of time I. Therapy trying to work through this issue . I praise God for your openness and acknowledgment that Christian men struggle with this . I’m so grateful to God for any freedom I have in this area today . God is so good and I’m reminded to use His strength to fight this and not my own . He is bigger than my struggles and greater than my problems . I’m so blessed that He is in control of my life and that I can look to Him in all things and keep Him on the throne . God bless all you men who have the courage to reach out for help on this issue and admit your weaknesses . I praise God for all the help I have received from Christian men I. This area . Thank you Jesus !
I watch your videos regularly, and look at them for guidance on a lot of subjects, but I literally just got into an argument with girlfriend over my issues pornography yesterday, and this video has been on my feed all day. After doubting it's relevance, I finally watched it, and it hit home. Thank you for your messages Pastor Allen!
Yes this is a great teaching to encourage you to get into the word of God. The word will set you free! Reading, repeating and repentance will keep you free. Meditate upon on the word daily, or as much as you can. God bless you!
Thank you Brother Allen for speaking truth. It’s the truth that sets a man free. When I became a Christian I stayed celebrate for 14 years until I married a godly man. God bless you my brother 🙌🏽🙏🏾
Flee all lust, it is not worth the temporary pleasures. Jesus is coming!! Amen. God is merciful. He always forgives. Never be ashamed to take your failures to him. He is for you, not against you! God is with you in the storm. He knows your troubles, he hears you! He is for you, on your side, always! It may feel silent at times, but he’s holding you close! May the Lord return soon! We are drawing closer. He is coming! Believe and trust in the Lord, you will be saved. Period. May the Lord bless you all! Hang in there family. Stay strong. It is not easy following the Lord. We are scoffed at. We give up our earthly dreams, our fleshly desires. What the enemy offers is short lived, but heaven is forever! Life may seem or be unfair, but God is with you! Always remember that. Things may get better or worse for you, but a kingdom awaits you! Finish the race! Repent daily and carry your cross. This world is fading fast. Your troubles are temporary! I made this channel because I felt guilty for not witnessing enough, I’d appreciate any kind of support. Don’t give up! God loves you so much! So do I. The Lord bless you!!
wow great video this is a great lesson . I like the profit in loss chart. looking forward to the next video about marriage hopefully that will be next for me.
Thanks, Brother Allen. I have been fighting this battle and have been doing well but recently slipped. Your content always ignites a fire in me to fight these urges. Thank you for your constant encouragement.
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I was molested as a child at church and that ignited a fire that it's taken decades to extinguish. As a female, my drive was off the charts! I could never be satisfied. It almost destroyed me. I wish this never happened to me. But I have no excuse now that I know Christ. Sexual sin is the worst. It can lead to a long road of depression and self-loathing. Run as fast as you can from sexual sin.
I even heard there are women who become promiscuous ( sp ? ) after having been raped.
But it makes sense. Even though you feel disgusted mentally and emotionally, but you learned how it feels physically, and if a person feels physical pleasure when molested or raped, it is not, and I repeat, not their fault, they cannot comtrol what it feels like downstairs, but what you feel nentally and emotionally is what matters, and if it is against your will, yes, you will feel worse than filthy abd you will feel unexplainable trauma.
I mean, people can consent one minute, and feel dirty and ashamed later as a sign of conviction, but when you never gave permission from get go, the difference is, it is not your fault.
So, it makes sense it ignites as fire, a major wild fire for some, after molestation and rape. But unless someone is in Christ and has enough knowledge, some survivors feel like too damaged of goods so what is the point in not having sex.
It really needs to be on the forefront for those who sleep around due to trauma how to regain purity that is stolen from them that they not give away.
Catholic priest have the highest rape cases. Let go of it and embrace and forgive yourself to God
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. May God continue to heal you from such a devastating experience.
Same, except at home for majority of childhood. Really terrible violence against our hearts, mind, and soul. Esp since it was a loveless home. It's like when you're trying to get rid of a staticy piece of trash and it keeps coming back. Such victory when it finally gets in the trash!!!👏👏👏
Better for a person to have a millstone tied around their neck and thrown into the sea to drown instead of leading a child into sin.
Before I went homeless a girl wanted me to move in with her . I chose homelessness above the appearance . I lived in my car for a year in Indiana that had a horrible winter. Saw days below 0. I do not regret my decision
Lol ok cool story bro
Keep My commands said Jesus. That shows your love for Him. Thanks for your testimony.
Thank you for this.
Honored you are my brother!🤺❤🙏🛐✝️!
Could you have moved in with her and refrain from sex?
Sexual immorality is probably the most difficult sin for teenagers and young adults to deal with. It is arguably one of my devastating tools the Devil has against us.
You’re right. Mastering your sex drive and learning to not be a slave to your lust/fleshly desires is the most hardest thing to do
@@gfrmthe8 I think it’s moreso pornography. Simple masturbation without stimulus isn’t bad, but pornography is absolutely terrible for ur brain, self worth, and views on women
@@lucasphillips2177 Masturbation itself without any simulation is still a sin. Masturbation is a perversion. It’s not a sin in the letter of the Word, but it is in the spirit of the Word.
Both pornography and masterbation are sinful such the word of God says we should flee from them..Don't battle not reason with but flee.Joseph is a good example when he fleed when Potiphar's wanted to seduce him
@@lucasphillips2177yes it is cause you’re thinking about sexual thoughts while you’re masterbating
That “run away from sin” quote is so deep. Sexual sin is so strong that we have to just get totally away from it
Our society is bathed in sexual temptation from every side and angle. It's pretty hard to keep your eyes, mind, and body on the straight path unfortunately.
Omission and Commission of Sin....is immorality...spouses withholding sex for manipulation is immoral sexual sin too. Due benevolence
I got born again, got baptized and through the power of the Holy spirit, i have been avoiding sexual encounters. For now am keeping myself pure and trusting God for a mate
wow lucky you, so no porn?
Good job im proud of you im doing the same thing
Same here im 2 months porn and masturbation free and going strong 💪🏽 Jesus does wonders!!
@@GodisGood941 Bro what did you do, so we may also learn?
@@celinamilian i begged Jesus with all my heart and soul to take that away from me and the mindless urge to do so just went away. Truthfully its not like i never feel turned on but i can just control it because of him. Not only that but i no longer curse, impulsively lie or have big bouts of anger. And my anxiety is mostly gone as well but sometimes i do randomly get it but i just meditate on Good verses
Man, Bro. Allen. It takes a ton of courage to share the Word of God the way you do. Be encouraged, stay the course, we need this!
Awesome B Godwin! Thanks for watching my video!
Amen man. Dude has no fear in this regard
Yes was thinking the same. But some folks need to hear those words. Glad Mr. Parr isn’t afraid to say them. Awesome video
@@thebeatagp yoh brother Allen par please react to videos on the internet about the false Messiah who has been chosen by Israel
amen amen amen 🙏🙏🙏
Praise the Lord I no longer struggle with Pornography & alcohol addiction! Thank You Jesus. 🙏🏽
Thank God that I been celibate over 4 years and taking God relationship seriously. Allen is right about Sexual Sin, it interferes with having a relationship with God. We are blessed to have a God that forgives us for our sins no matter what we done. This video really hit home for me. 🙏🏾
I feel for you man. Hope things turn around for you. 4 years is a long time.
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Yesss lord
Praise God!
God bless you!
@@davidrosenthal5795she is a woman
Solid video, brother! Thanks for edifying the Body.
Don’t buy into the lie that you can’t be free from sexual sin. It took 22 years but Jesus fully delivered me from pornography addiction. He is faithful and all credit and glory belong to Him! God bless, brothers and sisters!
Amen indeed
How many times did you feel like you weren't saved when you were struggling?
@@chriskhall It definitely happened. I knew I believed the Gospel and that Jesus was the only One who I could go to for eternal life, but I questioned how could I be saved and continue in this sin, especially when I was consistently trying to decipher fruit in my life. It wasn’t until I fully kept my eyes on the fact that Jesus’ sacrifice and shed blood is where I needed to keep my gaze and held onto the promises God makes in His word and wrestled with them that I started to experience true freedom and lasting freedom from that sin.
I’ve done so many programs and they did contain helpful principles, but truly, I can only credit the supernatural grace of Jesus and believing in His promises and, like the persistent widow, holding on to those promises. All glory belongs to Him. My testimony goes more into specifics. God bless!
@@chriskhall hey, man! I can tell you that I've never doubted God's Grace to save me, but I definitely questioned if I loved God many times. I was confronted by John 14:23 all the time, because I knew what I was doing couldn't be justified by scriptures and I was too addicted to quit. I've battled many times with pornography, but every time, I've left a door open just in case I wanted to come back to it. The last time I decided to quit for good when I was reading the Bible, 2 Co 6:13 to be exact. Those words spoke differently to me, and I took the USB where I stored all the pornography and wiped it clean. I've deleted all searches and apps that would make me fall into pornography again and I threw away all the vaseline that I used to masturbate. I've also told my family that I had decided to quit it for good and told them all the traps that made me want to watch pornography and masturbate. One of them was when I was alone at home. So I made a commitment with them to exercise, study or clean the place to avoid being tempted. In this battle, you'll want someone to help watch your back.
Yesterday, it was a tough day. I had urges throughout the day, but God gave me grace and I was able to avoid it.
I started watching pornography and masturbating in a period where I wasn't praying and reading the Bible. I'd only do it when I ate or went to church.
Now, I understand that if I want to be excellent I must walk in the spirit (Galatians 5:16).
If you're struggling with it, don't think twice. Throw away anything that will take your mind to these practices, talk to someone from the body of Christ (James 5:16), and start praying and studying the Bible more. For 6 years, I couldn't see a way out, but God is patient. I don't even know if you're struggling with it. I hope not, because I know how terrible this is. But if you are, God loves you, brother. He wouldn't have sent His Son if He didn't.
Good for you, but there is nothing wrong with OCCASIONALLY watching porn. Don't let a manipulative church convince you you're going to Hell over it. 🙄🙄
Sexual sin seems to be Satans number one tool. It is so damaging and I have witnessed so many folks lose so much due to it. Even to this day I struggle with it. It is not an easy battle for sure.
I disagree. Satan was the one who encourage me to report Christian’s abusing my daughter. You know who forgives pedophilles? God.
If a man is alive no matter his age, this will be a constant thing we have to be on guard against. Its even harder when you have given yourself to sexual sin in the past. Being honest it is not just a physical act. As men, many of us use sex to get that super dopamine hit/high and as a now healed sex addict i/we have to learn to live life, face disappointment, face loneliness without pursuing that high that gives us a respite from the negative emotions, self loathing or whatever it is we are trying to escape. BUT, GOD is greater than any addiction or struggle! If we want to be free, He will strengthen us and enable us to overcome these thoughts, desires and urges. Sex is not a physical need like eating or drinking and we can live in abstinence but our flesh wants what it wants even if it leads to our
Thank you for this message pastor Parr. I'm 72 years old my boyfriend and I are getting married and we have decided to stay celibate until we get married. I know you're thinking because of our age this shouldn't be an issue but believe me it is. Your message has given me the courage to keep our relationship pure until we are married. It has been a temptation. Thank you for this word from God!
Amen and amen.... Congratulations on the new journey of marriage... Thank you for this encouragement as I realize that Christ doesn't look at age but rather looks at our hearts 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
My friend, homosexual relationships are sin. Read Romans chapter one. Same-sex marriage is sin also. Only sex between one man and one woman married to each other pleases God. Come into the light.
@@timhoganson247her name is Katie, so I'm pretty sure she's a woman...?
Wow may God bless your union.
I had feelings of falling this morning after going a week without, and a week in repentance over sexual sin. Most of my urges seem to hit me in the middle of the night, I get woken up out of my sleep with strong urges, I literally have to flip over and begin praying for sustainment that I don't fall. When I have fallen, and sexual sin sometimes becomes habitual, my confidence in Jesus goes down, I don't feel unashamed, I more ashamed, not because of Him but because I feel like I don't deserve to represent Him, so I go into solitude. The desire to fall into drinking habits picks up again, every sin it seems just seems that more enticing because my power feels drained after a sexual fall. I needed this video so bad, thank you brother Allen.
U got that Sword of the Spirit with us the word of God
That’s satan working on you feeling your unworthy of Gods love. Pick yourself up over and over again. Never feel guilty or unworthy. Christ paid the ultimate sacrifice for all of us to not feel that way
Amen Brother. Wish I could've heard this teaching 50 years ago as an 18 year old virgin. My friends shared things like "if you don't have sex by the time you're 18 you will go crazy", etc. Many years later I read someone say to young females "if you let a boy have his way with you, he will never respect you." I know this to be true. Praise God for the Lamb who takes away the sin of the world!
GLORY BE TO GOD ALMIGHTY AND TO HIS SON JESUS CHRIST 🙏🏾💪🏾
Thanks so much Nancye Tabor, I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thanks again for taking the time to watch. God bless Nancye Tabor,
It's sad. Billy Graham grandson...didnt follow his grandfather.about not being in the same room with a woman who is not your wife, without another person with you
@@kathleenking47 When Billy Graham was on the road he would have another man go into his hotel room and check under the bed and check the closet just in case a person had planted a woman there ruin his reputation.
Amen 🙏 All Praises To The Most High
One of the ways that I was able to "overcome" (still struggle with sexual sin), was when I started to confess my sin. That's one of the areas that we, as Christian Men, struggle with... confessing our sins one to another. We fall into the pride of not wanting to show our weaknesses one to another. I work with guys who are drug addicts and alcoholics... I needed to confess my struggles with them and when I did so, I started to overcome, by the grace of God and the strength of the Holy Spirit and certainly NOT by my own strength. I lost that battle for years.
Keep praying to Jesus christ
Revelation 12:11 - And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death.
The more we confess our sins out loud with one another, we not only get heal - we heal others. The devil hate when we confess our sins out loud. He want us to feel ashamed in keep it too ourselves, (to make us feel we are all along). The key to freedom from his deception is to speak it out loud to whomever need to hear it. You are not alone. We are free in Jesus name.
@@zf8385 This is true
Right. I told all my sins to a pastoral care worker. They (the temptation and sin) lost a lot of power since then.
I was a victim of rape, molestation, abuse at 12 and was also introduced to Pornography, Romance (Erotic Novels), and so much more at that age and it has wreaked havoc on my life although I'm now 29. I wish more people, especially women, talked about this. Men are not the only ones that struggle with lust. I still struggle now but praying that one day I'll be completely rid of this. It's not a game, it deteriorates you from the inside out. Run!!
God is able to heal you of ALL brokenness. Pray for a solid experience Christian woman to partner with and together work with Jesus . He’s able ! It is not your Savior’s Will or desire for you to stay enslaved to any sin. Also recommend you find a good trauma therapist to walk with you in processing your sexual assault and abuse experiences in order to be done with them. They need not rule over you and destroy your life or walk with the Lord. Jesus is stronger that any stronghold the evil one has forced onto you. Love and many prayers go up for you, Sister.
Memories rush through the mind.... defocusing the mind, triggers of the memories are everywhere..... another big challenge
Props to your new video editor(s). Great editing!
Let’s not limit sexual sin to just singles; all these points you made apply to the married as well. Sin starts in the mind and then becomes physical; so flee sin before it forms into action.
Exactly, "But each one is tempted when by his own evil desires he is lured away and enticed." (James 1:14, BSB). But you don't correct the bad desires by only running away. That's only half of it. True freedom comes when you eliminate the wayward desire, that's what we ought to strive for and it is seldom, if ever, taught by Christian preachers.
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To you both!
Thank you so much for watching, and for sharing your comment!
@@josephbrandenburg4373 How does a person eliminate the desire?
@@wendyw3230 This is my opinion, but I hope it is a good one:
1) Pray and pray honestly
2) Believe God's promises. For me this also includes being on guard against feeling resentful towards God that I haven't got what I want yet.
3) Recognize the good desires behind the evil desires. Satan doesn't have his own clay to work with, he has to twist something good that God made. Sinful desire is something that causes us to sin and robs us of the good thing we're taking the sin as a substitute for.
4) Read the Bible - especially for me Gal. 5 and the psalms and proverbs have been helpful.
5) Love your neighbor- this means seeing the whole person when you see an attractive figure- not just the external but the spirit as well. Treat them as you would if you were there in person and you knew their name and their story and could look them in the eye. This will make you uncomfortable when you're tempted to treat them as a sex-object, and you either have to supress their personhood and continue or stop.
6) Meditate on the spousal language of the New Testament. "Bride of Christ" and the like. This one is a bit more difficult because it's all very mysterious and clearly it isn't exactly the same thing. But the desire we have for a human wife/husband is a mere shadow of the desire we have for the divine reality.
Almost all of this is observations I got from Christopher West, who has a youtube channel called Theology of the Body Institute. It's great stuff. It's a Catholic channel, so if you're not Catholic (I'm not) you may have to filter out some of the weird Mary stuff. Best of luck to you.
Wow, just wow. So clearly explained and on point. I already shared this video with some of my Christian friends who are struggling with this. 13 years ago, I received my deliverance from sexual sin and I've been happily married for 11 years now. I wish that for every one. To be free and be truly happy. Only Jesus can do that for us.
The same week that God has change my life and led me
To the path of righteousness , I broke off a relationship I had I no longer wanted to have sex and not being married. It’s been 5 years now I’ve never been tempted to go back to that life not once. When God cleanse me He truly did. I was married before got divorced, I will honor God before my flesh.
As we call ourselves children of the living God or Christians as many people say they are , we’re on a Spiritual journey this flesh is only temporary .
People can’t constantly make excuses of keep going back to the things that’s not pleasing to the Almighty Father.
My prayer when I realize I can’t be doing these sexual things is for God to take those feelings away and sure enough he did and I only pray that one time and it was answered. If we truly wants to change from our entire Being God will give it to us. I am no different from anyone who seeks Him.
I got two children out of wedlock from somebody I was never in love with because of sexual lust. Man this one hit hard but it's true.
I'm rounding that tree again of loneliness.. I'm trying to make an effort at getting more involved in a life group at church so that I don't make the same mistake!! Pray for me plz 🙏🏼
I am praying for you brother.
I did!
I hope you treat your children ok, the Bible would have you treat them badly.
Follow whatever beleifs you want, but if you hurt your kids there is no forgiveness.
And your god loves hurting kids read 1 Samuel 15:3, also the execution of all the first born Egyptian boys.
Abrahamic religions started from a guy who heard voices telling him to sacrifice his own son.
Please don't be like that, I grew up in a very religious family and have suffered this abuse first hand.
Sexual sin doesn't exist, but real word abuse does.
Please Please! Don't take it out on them because of your own superstition Dustin!
@@LisaAnn777 Name one verse where it tells you to treat your child horribly. It means nothing coming from you, who supports a culture who murders millions of children in the womb every year.
@@LisaAnn777what are you talking about
The thing with sexual sin is that one moment you can renounce it and the next moment you’re engaging in it. We can’t beat this in our own strength.
Thank you for taking the time to speak about this issue. I am enjoying this series.
Thanks so much Bible Talk 2, I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thanks again for taking the time to watch. God bless Bible Talk 2,
I've been going to a specific church for 2 years never spoke on fornication. Once i turned 22 i was convinced he was scared to lose church members by telling the truth in God's word. I left that church
I've been struggling again after I got saved with sexual sin but I'm really trying! This video came at the perfect time! 🙏
I am glad to hear you found this video helpful! Thanks so much for watching and for your comment, just a girl from phoenix .
@@thebeatagp thank you so much! Keep the videos coming
just continue ask God by His Spirit to help you trust what Christ has done for you.Victory is yours!!!?
I always try and remind myself of Galatians 5: 19-21... it keeps me in check. Go through the checklist!
19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality,(A) impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.(B) I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.(C)
always hate premarital sex am never fornicating even still single and 43. untill I marry
Well done, Allen. The biggest lie of the enemy today is "that's not an issue for me". Oh, yes, it is. Don't be alone with the opposite sex that is not your spouse. I had a very pretty younger woman ask me to come by her house. The younger being most women I am around now. 😀She was flattering me about being handy and such. The Holy Spirit said, "NO BE THERE". I kindly said no. That's how it is done. Avoid the very appearance of evil. I avoid this lady now. I assume her intentions were innocent, but we ain't hangin' out.
Love this man. Knows the word so well. Speaks it with no fear.
He is a graduate from Dallas Theological Seminary,i just found that out
Keep it up. It needs to be taught over and over. Teach it to teens. Teach it to all children after the age of 12 years. It cannot wait to be discussed at such a critical or problematic time of ministry.
Even in Sunday school there needs to be a level of telling little ones to honor their own bodies as well as honor others.
I really needed this Ive been playing around with sexual sin and I never really understood what was wrong with it and everytime I ask for help they just say it’s a sin but then don’t really go into depth of how it is and what are the repercussions
Turn From the flesh, Be Of The Spirit. Pray to Have Strength Against Your weaknesses. Confess, Repent, and Pray.
@@viviennejordan215 Why? Nobody NEEDs you to tell them WHAT to do! Your ministry is WORTHLESS! people NEED to know WHY and HOW! This is what makes this video infinitely better than what you are doing! If you will not explain why, and how to avoid it please dont minister! You are hurting more than you help! Far too often i am left cleaning up messes that you well-meaning people create! And i am OVERWORKED! LOL Stop doing a half-hearted job! PLEASE!
Praise God he sent Jesus to die for our sins!
Same here, still struggling tho I still wanna have sex outside of marriage because I really don’t see a problem with it but I’m starting to see.
I always remind myself of Galatians 5:19-22 to always keep myself in check! It literally lists sexual immorality as the first item on the list!
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19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality,(A) impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.(B) I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
Beautifully done. 100% biblical truth. Thank you, Brother.
Great lesson brother! I haven’t even so much as kissed a man in 5yrs and I’m now 30yo, yet this convicted me. I used to be in sexual sin in college and realized the reason I’ve never gotten over one ex in particular might be because of the continual sexual sin we had a decade ago. And it’s always a wonderful reminder that our bodies are not our own but bought at a price. I’m so glad the Lord has freed me from my sexual sin but these videos have been great because I can’t think I’m so far removed that it can’t still happen to me, especially as I consider the idea of dating again. I pray to God that these videos will be greatly used to convict the brethren and unsaved alike, that it would edify the body and win souls to Christ. May many blessings be over your ministry and your team. God bless you, you are a precious brother in Christ!
Keep going stronger ma'am
Why think of dating if it's temptation? Pray God will work it out for you into marriage. Live for Him, and He will show you what you need to know. Have faith in God.
Move forward. Don't fall into condemnation. The past is gone. Acknowledge yr sin, repent, turn from it, and move forward. Best advice! This was good!
I have heard alot of teachings against sexual sin but this is by far the most descriptive
Thank you for taking time to make this!
I can tell you this will stick in my heart alot longer
The Sexual immoral will not inherit the kingdom. Thanks again brother Allen. 🙏🏿
So as other sins too actually not just sexual sins but also others too, remember the rich man and Lazarus story.
I think this is holding up us from being called home even. It is rampant today.
But thank God we were washed and sanctified and justified by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ
@@potapotapotapotapotapota amen
@@justagirlfromphoenix1023 How old are you?🥺
Run!!! Run!!!!!
Extremely helpful and informative as a Christian woman in the online dating scene. It's tough connecting with someone but them not respecting my celibacy until marriage, but I know deep down God did not choose that man to be my husband. I never knew the history of the Greeks and Paul and I'll be saving this video as a reminder of waiting.
Sexual sin destroys in general. But still ppl don't realise how serious the subject of sex is. I had a friend who on his own words had sex "tooooonns of times" before he got saved. He said that it tore his life appart to a point where his only choices were to bend the knees and repent or kill himself. He chose the former, Praise God. Ppl underestimate the seriousness of sex
You get attached too
@@12Messenger Yeah, is another reason not to do it outside of a committed relationship for life (marriage). It makes the pain once the bond is broken even greater than it should have been. Not only because it creates these bigger attachments but also it can happen with bad relationships with sex making a bad relationship for a good one. So a bad relationship that would have been easy to break up cuz is clearly bad, becomes har cuz it feels good cuz of sex.
I know a personal example of a friend whom the girlfriend got so emotionally attached to him (not to say dependant) that she barely was letting him have his own life. Everytime i met him at some point he was texting her to tell her "he was ok" and what he was doing. I got to meet her and i saw that the concern for his well being is genuine but pathologially high. He grew tired of it and broke up with her. She cried a lot called him back crying promising to change and he gave her a 2nd chance. I know they were dating for a year before if happened, and having sex. There's no way if he wasn't feeling closer to her as he would have been if not having sex, he would have taken this long to break up an unhealthy relationship for both. Honestly, as his friend i'm now rooting against this relationship cuz i know how when one of them has this dependence, is never good for any of'em
Yes it brings shame guilt no joy no peace it's damaged
It still breaks my heart to see Ravi Zachariah as part of this list 😢
That would make the two of us. I looked up to him so much. Listening to his sermons had become a habit. I hope that he confessed to God and repented before he died.
I certainly agree with this being a gateway, having experienced this in my own life. I love your Biblical teaching! Biblically taught, unbiased.
Thank you so much. I am a mother of four children. I am no longer with the father due to DV and a lack of commitment to our family. I have asked The Lord for forgiveness for this and other times I fell short.
I’m a believer and knew that sex outside marriage is a sin. But I sinned. Now looking back I clearly see you can’t just sin suddenly, it does starts with a though like “it’s not that bad”, “I’m a just a human”, “it feels like love”, “will repent after” etc. God was warning me to stop, my gut feeling was intense! But i kept, couldn’t stop. And in 2 months I got consequences- almost died of STD. As i can see there’s ALWAYS consequences after this sin.
Its a miracle I survived, def God saved💛 This sin doesn’t worth that price you have to pay after it.
Many years ago I was told by Holy Spirit that sex outside of marriage was wrong. This really need to be taught in our churches,because we always think of the big sins,ex: abortion, homosexuality not that they are wrong, but God is looking at other sins we commit and don’t really talk about. The small foxes can ruin the vine also. 🤔Thanks for teaching on this.
Pray God lifts the scales from the lukewarm and lost eyes, opens their ears and soften their hearts. Pray God brings revival to the earth. Pray the Lord of Harvest send forth laborers into the harvest. Pray God strengthens His children, gives them more discernment, unites them and wakes them up 🏔
Amen
Brother Parr, I really appreciate your boldness to tackle real topics that plague the church. These are topics that are often shy away from, or if it's dealt with, it is either too loose or very rigid. Thank you for this. This is something that must be taught early on to our tween and teenagers, so that they will understand the high value God has placed on their sexuality. Please continue to tackle these sensitive topics as the Holy Spirit leads you to.
Pleas pray for me when i first got saved back in 2020 i was freed from pornography and sexual sin for a whole year then i started to struggle and then went back into it in 2021 then still to this day 2022 and i just pray that yall pleas pray for me to be free from this i really want to and its soo addictive.
The timing on this is incredible. Here's something I shared with brothers yesterday from my own battles with sexual immorality:
"1 Corinthians 6:18 says that sexual immorality is sinning against our own bodies. And given that sin is deadly, here are 5 things sexual immorality kills:
1. Time: Each moment destroyed by sexual immorality can never be recovered, and I will have to give an account to God for each one.
2. Availability: Each moment stolen by sexual immorality is a moment that I am unable to pray, prepare, provide, and protect the ones I love, putting them immediately at risk.
3. Clear Conscience/Thoughts: Each moment surrendered to sexual immorality is embedded in the memory and develops beliefs and instincts that serve to perpetuate it.
4. Faithful Body: Each time my mind is consumed or body is touched by a hand that doesn't belong to my (future) spouse, they are being habituated to defraud God and my spouse their rights to my body.
5. Life in/by the Spirit: Each moment I commit sexual immorality is a moment where I deaden my soul to sanctification, sensitivity and satisfaction in/by the Holy Spirit."
That is awesome! Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and for sharing your perspective Rajhan Smith!
Point five is fantastic
@@rachelcondren4059 Personally, #5 is the most important one and most affects the first four.
Thanks for sharing this
This is really good, brother. Thank you.
Your videos are so helpful to me as a Christian. You teach the Word of God with clarity and simplicity. Most importantly, you are transparent. Thank you for sharing your gift with the body of Christ. May God continue to bless, strengthen and encourage you 🙏🏽
Brother Allen, the fact that you are boldly preaching this! I appreciate how you present truth with love and gentleness!
“1 Cor 6 is filled with so many gems! Whenever I have an urge to do something that’s not edifying I go back to these scriptures.
Brother Parr you broke this down!! 👐🏾
Well done due to sexual sins being a real touchy subject right? I used to belong to a church where the pastor would be called away to preach elsewhere. Every single time he returned, he put the church on a fast. Didn't take me long to figure that one out! We're sinners saved by grace and even though we should know better, we voluntarily ignore the Word of God. Thank you for reminding us through this venue the God we serve is able to keep us from falling...but if we fall, we do have an advocate!!! You're a strong Word scholar young man.
Absolute bummer!
How frequent was the fast called,, and for how many days?
@@holyexperience1976 It's real....5 to 15 days...guessing it depended exactly what or who he did! Honestly sad but true....not to speak ill of the now passed away...but church folk better serve God for themselves...
What a truly fantastic video brother Allen, this series is amazing! God bless you! We must flee from sin! For the adversary is like a roaring lion looking for whom to destroy!
Great message. Flee from youthful lusts!
Man oh man this was good! That “ Premarital Sex Profit- Loss Sheet” was genius! Thanks brother Allen🙏🏾
It IS genius! This is the way it should be done!
@@inconnu4961 amen
It’s lonely at the top. And position feeds ego which blinds your judgement as much as alcohol. They become intoxicated with position and power, the one-two punch of satan.
Great video. We need more people like you who are willing to speak truth and not sugar coat consequences of sexual sin or any sin for that matter. Thank you brother Parr for being a faithful servant to our Lord.
God’s really speaking to me with these RUclips recommendations today! May His will be done
You're doing a fantastic job with this series, brother! Great video!👏
Thanks so much for watching and for your comment The Christian Mentor with Joey Cavaretta! God bless!
My dad too (pastor who cheat) they have a celebrity complex and held up to a high esteem and are not required be held accountable until it's too late. The church should be humble. It is no longer that.
Thanks Al. I specifically kept intently going through the pros and cons and the second half of this vid hit home. I've been married for 15 years so far to my lovely wife. I struggled with online stuff as a younger guy. I have to my shame had a few one off moments since with other ladies, something I never thought I'd ever do. As a believer, we are all far from perfect and all need to know as Al said that we can't change our past but can resolve to confess, repent and turn to the right track today.
Tracey Burroughs from South Africa 🇿🇦 watching your episode. Thank you for another good episode.
Good Morning Allen ! ❤️ My answer was they're all preachers/pastors of some sort BUT had no idea they had that happening! Oh wow. Yess sexual immorality has become soooo normal its unreal. I dont know anyone literally anyone in my personal life who has waited until marriage. Insane right. This video was spot on ! Amazing job Brother Parr ! God Bless ❤️
True but anyone in your personal life is just some people because all of us are struggling of sin itself and have battle against it, and also those preachers and pastors are also imperfect and flawed people like us, no one said perfect and innocent, remember Paul himself said he is also a sinner and flawed person because there is no such thing is good people.
Me either. I also don’t know any who haven’t cheated in their marriage either.
What an outstanding message....! Thank you my brother for having the courage to speak out the truth and explain it it understandable terms....!
I can't wait to send it to my grandchildren who need to hear this message ASAP....... They cannot "hear" when it's me telling them..... I pray they will "hear" your clear explanation...! God bless you as you continue in your ministry. Blessings from South Africa...!
I really enjoy the videos of Church Gone Wild! Truth be told!
Allen , always on point 👍🏻
Love it! Thank you for breaking down the effects and consequences of sexual sin in a clear and. concise way that you did. Also thank you for the way that you did not condemn or shame Christians who have committed this sin but providing hope and a path forward.
This series has truly been deep and impactful
Amen!!! Wonderful teaching!
Hello bro ALLEN, these are messages we need to hear more often
perfect delivery of that topic. Thanks!
Wow! First, I want to express how I just love the brevity of your messages. You were able to capture my attention completely. I learned something more about the "body as a temple of God" that I didn't completely understand before and I got a take-away that will help me grow in my faith. Awesome!
AMEN! Well said and much needed to say. Thoroughly emphasized. All should understand. Run for your life in the direction of Jesus to be saved from this temptation. Thank you Pastor. God Bless you and yours.
This was very clear and helpful. A lot if churches Still skirt around the topic of sex or do not talk about it at all. Thank you.
very good explained and very good points and video
Amen! This was a needed teaching Brother Parr, thank you. Peace and blessings to you and everyone in the chat. 💞🙏🏾
Thank you so much for watching! Your comment means a lot, Eleanor Collins.
So true, this is the worst sin to get away from and get free from. It does not help that we are literally bombarded daily everywhere we look by things that are meant to invoke thoughts we shouldn't be having from magazine covers in the grocery store to billboards to television, etc. This is one reason why after I got saved I felt convicted to stop watching television and movies totally - especially the things out there now. It absolutely helps getting all that influence on your mind out of the picture.
Thank God so much I found your channel. YOU ARE SUCH A BIG HELP. Keep up the good work brother Allen. Thank you!
Hi can you do a video on thinking about engaging in sexual acts with someone you're not with but are interested in. Wasn't sure where to send my request so I'm just commenting it here. I honestly think this is an attack now because it's gotten so bad (the desire to have sex or be intimate with someone) and it's like the thoughts are so hard to shake.
Would really appreciate any tips or advice to keep my mind off of that and focus on God.
I havent physically acted on anything but ik sin starts in the mind so I just wanted to know how to stop the desire or thoughts.
Thank You Allen, So Many Need this! A thought, then another thought, Rebuke them, as they come to mind, don't let them develop.
Great video. Keep spreading God’s word! You are helping a lot of people! I remember you at Boyd High School. Keep up the great work!
Wow, you are speaking truth brother. Glory be to God.
Brother once again your message from God has touched my soul. It's crazy how your mind can get lost in the moment when that little bit of pleasure can have a lifetime of repercussions. Sharing that example of a business deal was spot on. People don't like losing money. God bless and continue to share God's word through your ministry.
Eccl 1:9-10🏳️🌈😫
Brother Allen thank you so much!! I slipped up with my now wife she's the only one I have ever been with. I do regret not waiting I hate that I did that and the last part of your video gave me the kick in the pants I needed I felt that old guilt coming back but your right I am married to the woman I love and I can't dwell in the past and in condemnation because we arnt ment for condemnation when we are in Christ and your so right-wing forward in righteousness is what matters! You are a blessing Allen God is doing great things through you!
Absolutely loved this! Thank you for being so candid!
Allen, God Bless You for putting out this video. Sex outside of marriage is, in no uncertain terms, a SIN!!! I say this first and foremost to remind myself before trying to tell anyone else. I can't be thankful enough that there is a loving God who forgives but you must confess your sin to him. I pray that he shows me the right way which I know he will. We all must do our part and follow that way.
Thank you Allen for this word you are a blessing to the body of Christ and to me you help me understand the Word of GOD many blessings to you and your family and ministry
This is real talk coming directly from scripture! Keep preaching and telling a dying world that The Savior lives, and our bodies belong to Him. Commendable!
Very insightful. Thank you Allen!
Brother Parr this video is such a Blessing.
In some cases, the issue goes beyond "mere" immorality and becomes a a legal (even criminal) matter.
Thanks for this message . I’m a single Christian man working on this issue for years . I’ve been to several 12 step groups , celebrate recovery and other Christian ministries addressing it and lots of time I. Therapy trying to work through this issue . I praise God for your openness and acknowledgment that Christian men struggle with this . I’m so grateful to God for any freedom I have in this area today . God is so good and I’m reminded to use His strength to fight this and not my own . He is bigger than my struggles and greater than my problems . I’m so blessed that He is in control of my life and that I can look to Him in all things and keep Him on the throne . God bless all you men who have the courage to reach out for help on this issue and admit your weaknesses . I praise God for all the help I have received from
Christian men I. This area . Thank you Jesus !
I watch your videos regularly, and look at them for guidance on a lot of subjects, but I literally just got into an argument with girlfriend over my issues pornography yesterday, and this video has been on my feed all day. After doubting it's relevance, I finally watched it, and it hit home. Thank you for your messages Pastor Allen!
Yes this is a great teaching to encourage you to get into the word of God. The word will set you free! Reading, repeating and repentance will keep you free. Meditate upon on the word daily, or as much as you can.
God bless you!
Why would you look at porn if you have a girlfriend?
Thanks my brother in Christ. May God keep us all.
Sexual immorality DESTROYED MY LIFE. What SEEMED HARMLESS, was NOT, in the long run.
Amen , Pastor Allen .
I am enjoying this series! This one was a punch in the gut ! Very well explained! Thank you.
Thank you Brother Allen for speaking truth. It’s the truth that sets a man free. When I became a Christian I stayed celebrate for 14 years until I married a godly man.
God bless you my brother 🙌🏽🙏🏾
Flee all lust, it is not worth the temporary pleasures.
Jesus is coming!! Amen. God is merciful. He always forgives. Never be ashamed to take your failures to him. He is for you, not against you! God is with you in the storm. He knows your troubles, he hears you! He is for you, on your side, always! It may feel silent at times, but he’s holding you close! May the Lord return soon! We are drawing closer. He is coming! Believe and trust in the Lord, you will be saved. Period. May the Lord bless you all! Hang in there family. Stay strong. It is not easy following the Lord. We are scoffed at. We give up our earthly dreams, our fleshly desires. What the enemy offers is short lived, but heaven is forever! Life may seem or be unfair, but God is with you! Always remember that. Things may get better or worse for you, but a kingdom awaits you! Finish the race! Repent daily and carry your cross. This world is fading fast. Your troubles are temporary! I made this channel because I felt guilty for not witnessing enough, I’d appreciate any kind of support. Don’t give up! God loves you so much! So do I. The Lord bless you!!
wow great video this is a great lesson . I like the profit in loss chart. looking forward to the next video about marriage hopefully that will be next for me.
I'm definitely saving myself for marriage! Never again will I ever touch another woman outside of marriage!
AMEN
Top-notch teaching.
I could use some prayers of help and support on this very thing. Thank you.
Will do, brother! I would also appreciate the same in return, if you would?
This was everything!
Thanks, Brother Allen. I have been fighting this battle and have been doing well but recently slipped. Your content always ignites a fire in me to fight these urges. Thank you for your constant encouragement.
Man this is one of the best teachings on anything I have ever heard! Let alone one of the worst things for anyone to do. Thank you so much!
I am blessed Allen, may God continue strengthening you!
Thank you, brother Allen.
The holy spirit is truly working through you!