This video is exactly what my 13 year old daughter needs. She is SO ANGRY. But I can also tell she is sad, resentful, anxious… Do you do online therapy! I’d pay anything for you to help her! We love her so much but she won’t let us…
I don’t know what this means to you but I’ll pray for her. Maybe connecting her with other teens that struggle with anger around her. I’m saying this as a teen who was stuck in sadness and anger and resentment, and who got past it with the help of Jesus🩵hope this helped
I have always struggled with anger , resentments, and unforgiveness. I have been working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor, and it is getting better. I was told that resentments only hurt you, not the wrongdoers. I had to write down my resentments and how they affected me to see the damage to motivate me to let go. I also had to write down my part in the resentments so I could see where i was in the wrong, make amends, change behaviors, build my character and reconcile relationships if appropriate. Obviously there are some situations you don't play a part like if you were abused. I really get into psychology and human behavior so I like to understand why people act how they do for example mental illness. It helps to have compassion on them and to wish them well. This is NOT justifying or condoning it just helps to understand, have compassion, and wish them well. Its also not good to get revenge, not only because of consequence but they will get their karma and there will be justice. If it motivates them to change and make anends be happy for them.
This video was very helpful. This helps me understand what my 11 year old is dealing with. She’s a freak kid who is very loving but when she gets angry she does not know how to manage it. She has very negative feelings when she gets angry. She reached out to her sister which is 16 and asked for help. I’m very glad my daughter trusted me and will need to step in to help her. But before I step I want to educate myself so I’t doesn’t seem like I’m Just lecturing. I truly want to understand so I can help her. She’s my sweet baby girl whom I love very much and won’t let her deal with it alone. Thanks for sharing this great video.
I have a special populations to work with which are foster youth. I would like to support them with anxiety, social anxiety, anger, low self-esteem etc.
😭I am teenager too much anger issue when someone said any bad thing to me I get mad if someone argue with me😭 my mom never understand these things she always mad on me she never treat me with love 😭
I feel the same way too 😢 it happens to me too. They just don't get what we're going through. Like comparing us with others teens or kids. I feel so sorry for you 😢. I hope we can get it through.❤❤❤❤
Can I ask a question? I am a mother that has a 15 yo daughter who feels the same way. What advice would you give me on how to communicate with her successfully? She is mad all the time at me and I am working on not reacting.
As an angry teenager myself who doesn't wanna be that way this is what I would like for my parents to do. Know what her triggers are and try to work them out with her cause what parents don't realise is that they can also be wrong and their way of thinking can be fucking frustrating. They are like a broken record trying to impose their own ideologies. We have our own thoughts and opinions and just because they might contradict yours doesn't make them unnecessary or wrong or us rebellious. Take a step back and reflect on yourself too. I am not trying to put all the blame on the parents but still you have to meet us in the middle. Ofc that's the case if your child is willing to converse cause of not then idk.
Some tips for your video if you are open to it: The intro is a bit long and then the titles the typing is still making typing noise even the text is all typed out. It doesn't align.
I have a question. How do you help a teen who does excuse themselves for a time out when angered and are being made fun of or mocked while being accused of running away from problems by family?
In this case it seems like the teen is the mature one with that family. How about talking to the family to see why they are behaving that way or just ignore it and do what's needed to calm down. We can't control their behavior but it's not helping the situation at all.
My experience in my practice is when teen is dysregulated they can’t access their prefrontal cortex and so I first work on regulating their emotions with movement or other regulating activity before I ask them why etc.
What happens when they have the tools but choose to be defiant because it’s a power struggle? They see that it feels better to be out of control then to choose to have self control. Continuing to seek control over other people and their environment instead of themself? Single mom with a teen boy and I’m struggling. (I have a therapy consult this week for him)
Ok, so I’m not a therapist, but I struggle with anger issues myself. As a teen it was really bad; I was constantly arguing, getting into fights, being rebellious and defiant, etc. I have NO idea what your sons going through, but I know that my anger issues were rooted in trauma and depression. I had an abusive father and I blamed myself. I was also very depressed and suicidal, and anger is easier to feel than pain and depression. One of the reasons your son doesn’t want to manage his anger might be there’s some other feeling that the anger is covering up. Once again, I’m not a therapist or anything like that, I’m just a woman speaking from experience.
I am 12 and my trigger is math for real like i was reading my lessons and then i started to practice maths and started getting angry at the qurstions the teacher woh teaches math but the strange thing is that there are two kind of math in my school one is c and other is omath i am talking about omath so in omath i was anger but in cmath i was completely fine idk is there something wrong with me😢😢😢😢😢
Be careful how you approach therapy with your kids. My parents got it so wrong when I was a teenager resulting in me leaving home at 18 and never talking to them again...that was over 40 years ago. You've been warned.
Ive been greatly influenced by reading Carl Rogers recently. I managed to set a good climate in some relationships and help people that way. But i found in very futile indeed to repress being disinterested or iritated when dealing with some people, but still talked with them because I wanted to help, which just lead to burnout or compassion fatique. How can one be authentic and transparent in the relationship without simply hurting the other, when negative feelings occur? ( just for context, by relationships i dont mean friends, but helping random people on discord servers, because i would like to be a therapist in the future :) )
Im wondering if you had a bad experience. Therapy should be so much more than what you're describing. It's not just about how you're thinking. A therapist should be looking at physical sensations, behaviours, emotions, as well as thoughts. The reason why therapists will ask about this is to give the client insight into their own workings which they may not have considered. After that it's about exploring and teaching coping skills or just giving the client space to process.
This video is exactly what my 13 year old daughter needs. She is SO ANGRY. But I can also tell she is sad, resentful, anxious…
Do you do online therapy! I’d pay anything for you to help her! We love her so much but she won’t let us…
I don’t know what this means to you but I’ll pray for her. Maybe connecting her with other teens that struggle with anger around her. I’m saying this as a teen who was stuck in sadness and anger and resentment, and who got past it with the help of Jesus🩵hope this helped
I have always struggled with anger , resentments, and unforgiveness. I have been working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor, and it is getting better. I was told that resentments only hurt you, not the wrongdoers. I had to write down my resentments and how they affected me to see the damage to motivate me to let go. I also had to write down my part in the resentments so I could see where i was in the wrong, make amends, change behaviors, build my character and reconcile relationships if appropriate. Obviously there are some situations you don't play a part like if you were abused. I really get into psychology and human behavior so I like to understand why people act how they do for example mental illness. It helps to have compassion on them and to wish them well. This is NOT justifying or condoning it just helps to understand, have compassion, and wish them well. Its also not good to get revenge, not only because of consequence but they will get their karma and there will be justice. If it motivates them to change and make anends be happy for them.
This video was very helpful. This helps me understand what my 11 year old is dealing with. She’s a freak kid who is very loving but when she gets angry she does not know how to manage it. She has very negative feelings when she gets angry. She reached out to her sister which is 16 and asked for help. I’m very glad my daughter trusted me and will need to step in to help her. But before I step I want to educate myself so I’t doesn’t seem like I’m
Just lecturing. I truly want to understand so I can help her. She’s my sweet baby girl whom I love very much and won’t let her deal with it alone. Thanks for sharing this great video.
I am a HS Social Emotional Counselor and these are Wonderful tips. Thanks so much!
You're one of my favorite therapist 🎉
Thank you, I appreciate that. Quenby Gallahan LMFT
You're helping me so much with my internship as an MFT trainee!! Thank you
Thank you for the wonderful insights ❤️
Some things you mentioned are exactly how I feel!
This came at the best time!
Oh Yay! Thanks Angela, Quenby Gallahan, LMFY
I have a special populations to work with which are foster youth. I would like to support them with anxiety, social anxiety, anger, low self-esteem etc.
Great work i have applied for youth justice worker role and these are really helpful tips.
Great video!
Very good. Thanks for the tips.
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks for this. Really struggling in this are with mine. Got some insightful tips🎉
Love the tools. I have tried a lot of them and they work.
Love this breakdown!! I work at a middle school so you’re very helpful ❤
😭I am teenager too much anger issue when someone said any bad thing to me I get mad if someone argue with me😭 my mom never understand these things she always mad on me she never treat me with love 😭
I feel the same way too 😢 it happens to me too. They just don't get what we're going through. Like comparing us with others teens or kids. I feel so sorry for you 😢. I hope we can get it through.❤❤❤❤
Can I ask a question? I am a mother that has a 15 yo daughter who feels the same way. What advice would you give me on how to communicate with her successfully? She is mad all the time at me and I am working on not reacting.
My daughter is so negative towards almost everyone to the point it's it's making everyone miserable. I just don't know how to help her.
I have the same problem My parents don't even try to solve my problem 😞 n always treat me badly
Hiii I just wanted to say you are such a good mom and your daughter is so lucky to have you
Same problem😭
As an angry teenager myself who doesn't wanna be that way this is what I would like for my parents to do. Know what her triggers are and try to work them out with her cause what parents don't realise is that they can also be wrong and their way of thinking can be fucking frustrating. They are like a broken record trying to impose their own ideologies. We have our own thoughts and opinions and just because they might contradict yours doesn't make them unnecessary or wrong or us rebellious. Take a step back and reflect on yourself too. I am not trying to put all the blame on the parents but still you have to meet us in the middle. Ofc that's the case if your child is willing to converse cause of not then idk.
Some tips for your video if you are open to it: The intro is a bit long and then the titles the typing is still making typing noise even the text is all typed out. It doesn't align.
great resource, thank you
What about with sadness and not wanting to live? Not suicidal but life is just boring.
My daughter is struggling with this feeling and anger. We are starting therapy
Do you do online counseling? I have a teen that can benefit from your help. This info is amazing
This is awesome! Thanks so much!
I watched this video and it made me think about my future self if stay angry 😅😅😅
I have a question. How do you help a teen who does excuse themselves for a time out when angered and are being made fun of or mocked while being accused of running away from problems by family?
In this case it seems like the teen is the mature one with that family. How about talking to the family to see why they are behaving that way or just ignore it and do what's needed to calm down. We can't control their behavior but it's not helping the situation at all.
Hello, i would like to ask which literature helped you the most in becoming a therapist.
My experience in my practice is when teen is dysregulated they can’t access their prefrontal cortex and so I first work on regulating their emotions with movement or other regulating activity before I ask them why etc.
Please can you say what movement and what regulating tips exactly?
Be blessed
Hi. That's a great session. Could you kindly let me know how can I get those work sheets please.
What happens when they have the tools but choose to be defiant because it’s a power struggle? They see that it feels better to be out of control then to choose to have self control. Continuing to seek control over other people and their environment instead of themself?
Single mom with a teen boy and I’m struggling. (I have a therapy consult this week for him)
Ok, so I’m not a therapist, but I struggle with anger issues myself. As a teen it was really bad; I was constantly arguing, getting into fights, being rebellious and defiant, etc. I have NO idea what your sons going through, but I know that my anger issues were rooted in trauma and depression. I had an abusive father and I blamed myself. I was also very depressed and suicidal, and anger is easier to feel than pain and depression. One of the reasons your son doesn’t want to manage his anger might be there’s some other feeling that the anger is covering up. Once again, I’m not a therapist or anything like that, I’m just a woman speaking from experience.
Also, another thing is that it gave me power and control when I felt powerless. I hope that helped!
@@hboudreaux66Anger is the umbrella over other emotions!
I am 12 and my trigger is math for real like i was reading my lessons and then i started to practice maths and started getting angry at the qurstions the teacher woh teaches math but the strange thing is that there are two kind of math in my school one is c and other is omath i am talking about omath so in omath i was anger but in cmath i was completely fine idk is there something wrong with me😢😢😢😢😢
Thank you.
Be careful how you approach therapy with your kids. My parents got it so wrong when I was a teenager resulting in me leaving home at 18 and never talking to them again...that was over 40 years ago. You've been warned.
I taught myself to slow down myself which kind of made it worse.😅
Where can I get the work sheets
this helped
Ive been greatly influenced by reading Carl Rogers recently. I managed to set a good climate in some relationships and help people that way. But i found in very futile indeed to repress being disinterested or iritated when dealing with some people, but still talked with them because I wanted to help, which just lead to burnout or compassion fatique. How can one be authentic and transparent in the relationship without simply hurting the other, when negative feelings occur? ( just for context, by relationships i dont mean friends, but helping random people on discord servers, because i would like to be a therapist in the future :) )
Don’t get attached personally, don’t judge or expect but do ur work sincerely
Thank you so much for your effort, this is really helpful 😊🙏🌷
I never got the body stuff.
Do you do online therapy? Please my teen needs you 😢😢😢
I do, but I am only an LMFT in California, not other states.
can u help PPL in the hangman noose video newest comments...they're actually suicidal
Why feeling angry all weeks love Sarah
1st off she doesn't live with them. She doesn't know how any of us feel.
I don't like therapaists very much. I don't like how they just think about how we're thinking and its for some reason infuriating.
Im wondering if you had a bad experience. Therapy should be so much more than what you're describing.
It's not just about how you're thinking. A therapist should be looking at physical sensations, behaviours, emotions, as well as thoughts. The reason why therapists will ask about this is to give the client insight into their own workings which they may not have considered. After that it's about exploring and teaching coping skills or just giving the client space to process.
Just before watching this like a second I got mad at my mothet😢
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my trigger is losing
This is so great! Thank you!!