The lady who gave birth to me treated me like trash and was very colorist. Always made fun of my dark brown complexion, called me vulgar names, made up lies n rumors about me and every chance she got used opportunities to embarrass me to other ppl. I will never treat my kids like that. I will never speak to her again. I went to therapy for what she has done to me but the damage is done and I want nothing to do with her.
@@arianajaden Agreed. The path to avoid poverty is to pass algebra 2, and refrain from popping out kids. Do those 2 things, and 'you' won't live poor. Then, if you really want kids, then make a real plan with a financially stable partner. It's the only path that works.
After what I went through January 20th,2023…I won’t ever forget the words she said to me “I tried to give you away as a baby. I never wanted you. You were a mistake & you were the reason your daddy left not me.” & how I was treated. How she called the police on me as I was just standing there letting her vent. I packed up & left. It’s been this way my whole life but now I’m going no contact again & this time, I won’t be coming back to make anything work. I’m forgiving, healing & moving forward with my life…in peace, hand in hand with my own baby girl 🤞🏾💕
Well, my black mother just didn't like me. How do I know? She used to lock me in my room for hours, when I asked her why, one day, she said because I want to pretend like you don't exist. Men, clothes, money and one-night stands came before me every time.
I'm really sorry that this happened to you. My mother ignored me when I cried out to her. She didn't communicate with me. She made clothes for me with thread that would purposely irritate my skin, and my skin would come up in a rash from scratching and always spoke negatively to me. My mum purposely put the hot iron facing upwards amongst the laundry clothes basket, and when I played, I fell onto the iron and the iron burnt off my skin when I was around 8 or 9 years old. I had absolutely no relationship with my mother. My father saw this treatment from my mother and did nothing to help me. My mother manipulated my father to be against me. I don't know why I was treated like this. I was her only daughter amongst six brothers. I was always criticised and compared to other female children, and my mum and my dad never encouraged me in any interests that I had. I have to say I was defiant when I became a teenager at times as I couldn't understand why I was being treated this why. I became depressed, cried, I was lonely and self-harmed. I wish you the very best.
After years of trauma, mental and emotional abuse I am currently NC with my mom. I wanted so much for this relationship to work because I love my mom. But I have to protect my peace🙏🏾
I'm a white dude from Eastern Poland but as a big fan and supporter of black American art and culture, I'm loving this show - great way to learn more about the community. My biggest critique of the show is that it is sadly way way too short - especially when discussing such deep topics like in this episode. 20-30 minutes would be much better. Anyways, thank you for the cool content! Stay well and healthy :)
Try more RUclipsrs ❤. Or there’s a lot of Twitter threads you can read with real black props giving you insight into it. Just search up the key words and click on any thread
I definitely agree with that tone my mother always talk so hard and aggressive and often said things that made me feel stupid even my sisters talk to their kids any kind of way i refuse to make my kid feel stupid or not good enough
I just wanted to say I don’t know what you might be going through Or what situation you’re in right now but I no god is there for you and he loves you God bless everyone who came across this.🇧🇸❤️
It's backwards for me. I WAS close with my Mom. What I later found out was that she is a narcissist and I'm the golden child iykyk. But now that I'm older and how a person treats others is just as if not more important than how they treat me, I see the toxicity and it saddens me. I've talked to her about it and suggested therapy. But as many may know, narcissists generally won't go to therapy. So I'll just continue to pray for her/us and stand firm in my boundaries. 🥲
I don't like my mom..I am 43 and resent her. She despises me and low key sabotages me until this day. She has never supported me doing better for myself and will flat out not show up for me or her grandkids. On the outside and for the public she pretends to be the perfect mom because she wants to be praised, but between me and her she constantly shows no interest in things mother's and daughter's do (been this way), hardly wants to spend time with me or my kid's, is detached from her role as a mother and grandmother, never made me feel worthy or valuable of anything and is a big gaslighter, never admit when she is wrong, and will go against me for other ppl etc I honestly hate her attitude, her entitlement. Just recently she backed out of a trip she agreed to and then tried to blame me. My daughter is disabled and it has been my dream to bring her to Disney World. My mom is very passive aggressive and stopped talking about the trip so instead of her saying she didn't want to go at the last minute wait until all the stuff is paid for and until I ask her. I knew based on her behavior she wasn't going to go..like I said she has no interest in anything that's going to make me or my kid's happy. She does the bare minimum but expects 200%. Because of this I have struggled with my value and worth because of how she treats me. I used to try and force a relationship force her to do mom things then I just stopped. She has even tried to sabotage me and my kid's relationship. I am honestly over her and can wrote a book about the *hit she has done to me. Just thinking about permanent removing her from my life
I relate to this. I wish you healing and to stay far away if you can. We have to neglect these type of mothers and leave them stankin’ because they are superficial. Yep. I don’t like my mother. I play fake with her but I don’t love her or like her at all. If she passed I would gladly move on. She is very fake with me and jealous of me but will play in my face like she’s not. It’s all bullshit. I had to come back to stay temporarily but I know I will be gone from here real soon, so I have a plan. Mines is really jealous and it shows in her face and body language. She sat for 22 years in a horrible disgusting marriage to a dusty toxic Caribbean man who she had a black son from. She got dogged tf out but never took control of her life as a woman to boss up like real women do.
*I am 1 of 4 and my mom was young when she had me. I had a lot of responsibilities growing up. My perspective changed once I became an adult and we talked.*
My mother raised me hard, I was the oldest and her main thing was to keep up appearances. She embarrassed and humiliated as a child and was very critical. I was beaten, called b*tches, and felt as if i had no right to express myself. Now, we are separated. She still calls me names like psychopath and narcissist, and tells me that I dont love my children, to try and trigger me. Theyre talking about generational mistreatment like its cool. I could never treat my children the way I was treated.
Then she said this goes beyond race in a clearly Black space when it’s known that Black peoples experiences on this Earth are so different from others🙄 When will we learn? It’s OK for people to have their own spaces, they don’t need to be in ours.
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 a lot of black ppl really their blackness so they wanna add these water down mixies to the community to make them feel good about their blackness ! I gatekeepppp over here
Sorry to point out the elephant in the room. We are talking about black mother relationships but there is one person there with a white mother. If they wanted to add a biracial person, they should have added a biracial person with a black mom. And then she gets up there and steers the conversation away from black mothers and says "no its all mothers" . We understand that you have your own non black mother experience but this conversation is about black mothers. Exit stage left please.
My family is mostly made up of women. The mothers all had daughters, from my grandmother on down. The mother daughter relationships are so toxic. I am very close with my mom. She was a single mom and for the most part did a damn good job raising my brother and I. She’s very insecure about how she raised us and needs constant reassurance and praise about how good of a job she did, when we know she did but she doesn’t feel like she did. So it becomes a full-time job when giving her “credit” for everything. In addition, she communicates horribly. She yells to get her point across, and you can’t speak because in her own words “I don’t have to listen to what you have to say” and then she’ll hang up on you. So the relationship has been changing, but due to me changing. God has really been working on me and I had to unpack a lot of trauma, pain, acknowledge my own flaws and insecurities, and attempt to correct them, and I am now at pure internal peace. But she won’t change even though I encourage her to. I don’t want her to miss out on my children’s life but if she refuses to work with my on our relationship, she will unfortunately be missing out. I want a different relationship with my kids. So now I’m to the point where the best that I can do is pray for her and to not hold anything in my heart against her. I used to talk to her everyday all day, but it’s slowly starting to fade because I refuse to put up with the emotional and mental abuse. I hate we won’t be talking, but God knows, and that’s who I lean on for understanding.
My mother is gone she treated me like a friend instead of a mother fore I confronted her she said to me she never knew how to be a mother however my grandmother raised me
My mom is 75 and she does me the same way I feel like she’s in competition with me always asking me how do I have my hair? What kinda car do I drive and etc etc I’m the black sheep and my brother is the golden child it’s all good because if they keep it up I’m changing my number and going no contact I don’t have to deal with her. It’s terrible as you get older you can really see what you was going through.
It would be great to have an episode w/ your mothers highlighting their POV. It may put things in a different perspective. ( On another note, I love the way you’re all dressed. Keep up the good work!)
It seems like y’all are dealing with the effects of an absent Father. Women are chaotic by nature, so when the man is not around, it’s hell on the children.
My father was present, but thanks for assuming. She treated me like I was his mistress instead of his little girl. It was creepy. She gets jealous and mean any time he spends money or time or affection towards me.
I use to witness my dad beat my mom severely up until he went to prison when I was 7 up until I was 21 and moved out I’ve experienced the most hurtful abuse and neglect .he controlled her so much to point she felt like he took some of her youth so she wasn’t “living “ she started partying and drinking heavily to cope so I never really got time like that.she was trying to relive the years she felt like he took from her… I guess I was catching his flack and paying for what he did to her .. idk I just remember her being so mean and never knew why.. she literally thinks I’m him… anyway t really cut the cake for me when she put me out the house at 21 and I mean she throw my things off the balcony, a lot of gaslighting behavior I’ve always had to deal with. I’ve always moved right, was never fast or anything (because she kept me sheltered) never been lazy, hell I’ve been working since i 17 so she didn’t have to beg me to get a job.. I got up and got one on my own accord. so now I’ve resented her every since it’s hard for me to vibe with her cuz she done so much damage during my adolescence… it’s like natural resentment now idk… now she plays dumb like she doesn’t know why I don’t align with her… then when I would try to address my feelings and how things made me feel she would say things like “it’s in the past” as if my feelings aren’t valid… when I left after she put me out and got established, (which she probably wasn’t expecting )she did a whole 360! Started being nice and everything like I’ve never seen that side of her. NEVER! Complete narcissist! So it’s kind of like the shoe is on the other foot now… I’m the “mean” one … and she’s the one trying to figure out why… I know I should let it go but its hard
Black moms I feel like are overprotective over daughters because mom has her own traumas and shit she seen and don't want you to have to go thru that and some are tuff or distant or don't teach certain things or even say I love you because 1 they could've been raised that way 2 they don't know how to... It still comes back to their own experiences at the end of the day. Women should be glad that they get that extra coddling. They don't be as tuff on boys because we're boys! I know females get mad that men and women are just simply different we couldn't do the same things growing up and that's a reason I don't get why women grow up and try to still be like men when from the beginning your mom showed you and told you men and women are different .
Both men and women deal with not as much support for their personal goals in the black community though. They all want you to go to school and work a 9-5.. If you wanna do anything else it'll feel like they don't support you
Although I get where your coming from-showing affection shouldn’t be difficult if you can show it to your sons. The reason some girls tend to act like men is exactly what you said-moms are tough on their black daughters. (Or some women are just masculine and we should just accept that) They show them that they need to be aware of anything and everything but in a very very “weightlifting way”. The problem is they coddle their sons because yeah their sons are boys. But pretty much raise their daughters to be tough in the first place. Mostly to stay away from the type of boys that same mom is also raising. Women definitely grow conscience and more mature faster but it’s something no one else in the black community understands but the black daughter. Basically the point of the young ladies question in the tiktok video is yes you can raise your sons all lovey dovey. But most of the time when their mother gets older and realizes she’s alone now, she cries for her daughter. She showed no love to her daughter but expects her to do the most because she’s her mother. And the reason is mostly because the daughter has her priorities straight and life together. It’s also guilt-the daughter feels her mom is finally ready to love her but that is actually using her. And that’s not the daughters job, they need to bother the sons who they loved so much. It’s truly something I think a lot of black women relate to and understand this topic-it’s not up to anyone else in the black community to tell that daughter how to feel. Some black daughters just want their moms to.
This video is about black daughters and their trauma with their black mothers. They don’t have support at all with anything when it comes to their black mothers or even society. Black women literally started making at home businesses because it is more likely black women don’t get a job just because their women anyways. Also single moms run rampant in the black community. So please spare me. Black moms can be tough on their daughters all day but the sons that they coddle clearly need the same guidance-if not harder. It’s not hard to say I love you to your daughter unless you can wholeheartedly admit you are her number 1 bully. It’s literally a saying in the black community that a black mother is her daughters first bully and competition and it shouldn’t be that way. I’m so glad these new black mothers-even if their single are teaching their daughters differently and making them their number one priority. I love seeing them break cycles because I promise you if some of those same women heard a “I’m proud of you” a cycle wouldn’t have to be broken.
Blk moms have a lot to navigate as single mothers. We must realize that blk parents often have mother father wounds that bonds into generational trauma.
How can I not get notifications from certain things on this subscription I'm keeping the subscription because I listen to Big facts and young Miami whenever she do another episode but all this other stuff I'm not interested in do anybody know how I can block this stuff
Black moms are strong first and they can be tough due to their experiences but I believe that Your mom is your mom God placed her here as that now once your at an adult age then yes a friendship can be formed but she is a Mom first not your friend.
Since less than half of the panel is actually black, this tells you lots about how black women are seen in the eyes of black men and women. They wish you akatas were white. Secondly, is it fair to suggest that the world treats your daughters the same or less than h how they were raised in their homes? It's not fair to pet a dog who has been trained to be feral, right?
First of all it is hard for me to concentrate here. It's a me thing I know but can you ladies be more conservative please. This sounds like a good topic. I'm not mansplaining but if you want men to also understand and follow. We are visual creatures and you guys are giving us plenty of visuals here.🤩😘 Sorry but not sorry I'm straight.
They mistreat their kids because they hate themselves and the kids dad. Hate breeds hate. Forgiveness is power. It’s difficult but that’s the only way to break free. Ask God to help you; forgiveness is a journey.
The lady who gave birth to me treated me like trash and was very colorist. Always made fun of my dark brown complexion, called me vulgar names, made up lies n rumors about me and every chance she got used opportunities to embarrass me to other ppl. I will never treat my kids like that. I will never speak to her again. I went to therapy for what she has done to me but the damage is done and I want nothing to do with her.
Sorry you went through that. That is not tough love, that is abuse!
I'm so sorry you endured this mess. You are beautiful no matter your skin color.stay strong 😢❤
"Having kids without healing"...deep
"Having kids with deadbeats"....not that deep
@@seventhcompactor1505 😅😅😅 . 29 and no kids and the last thing I want to be is a single momma. Too many of us black women end up like that
@@arianajaden Agreed.
The path to avoid poverty is to pass algebra 2, and refrain from popping out kids. Do those 2 things, and 'you' won't live poor.
Then, if you really want kids, then make a real plan with a financially stable partner. It's the only path that works.
Black mothers are oftentimes conditioned to “love” their sons and “raise” their daughters to the chagrin of our people as a whole.
Straight like they they cripple the boys and mistreat the girls .. why is this ? It’s sad af
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Why do you think that is?
@@wm2922 This is the deep-rooted psycho-emotional reaction to the comprehensive societal obliteration of the black father.
@@jonathanberkley6626100000%
When my mom gets old, she can go to a home, but not mine. All those of abuse to pretend nothing happened. Counting the days till I can move away
After what I went through January 20th,2023…I won’t ever forget the words she said to me “I tried to give you away as a baby. I never wanted you. You were a mistake & you were the reason your daddy left not me.” & how I was treated. How she called the police on me as I was just standing there letting her vent. I packed up & left. It’s been this way my whole life but now I’m going no contact again & this time, I won’t be coming back to make anything work. I’m forgiving, healing & moving forward with my life…in peace, hand in hand with my own baby girl 🤞🏾💕
Blame black culture.
Baby mamas and deadbeat fathers have ruined black Americans.
Do some meditation, and focus on your spiritual mother....
Praying you find healing, blessings, and, ultimately, PEACE🧘🏽♀️
Prayers and positivity towards you. I’ve felt this before and spiraled. Please take care of YOU.
I’m praying for you sis you got this ❤
Well, my black mother just didn't like me. How do I know? She used to lock me in my room for hours, when I asked her why, one day, she said because I want to pretend like you don't exist. Men, clothes, money and one-night stands came before me every time.
It broke my heart reading this
I wish you the upmost best as you did not deserve that no one does
In her defense, weed and thug-dique may have been her thing
I'm really sorry that this happened to you.
My mother ignored me when I cried out to her. She didn't communicate with me. She made clothes for me with thread that would purposely irritate my skin, and my skin would come up in a rash from scratching and always spoke negatively to me. My mum purposely put the hot iron facing upwards amongst the laundry clothes basket, and when I played, I fell onto the iron and the iron burnt off my skin when I was around 8 or 9 years old.
I had absolutely no relationship with my mother. My father saw this treatment from my mother and did nothing to help me. My mother manipulated my father to be against me. I don't know why I was treated like this. I was her only daughter amongst six brothers. I was always criticised and compared to other female children, and my mum and my dad never encouraged me in any interests that I had. I have to say I was defiant when I became a teenager at times as I couldn't understand why I was being treated this why. I became depressed, cried, I was lonely and self-harmed.
I wish you the very best.
😂I laughed because same 🤣🤣🤣🤣 my mom hates that I exist. I have the darkest sense of humor as a result.
Same, I Adopted another ideal mom, that love me
After years of trauma, mental and emotional abuse I am currently NC with my mom. I wanted so much for this relationship to work because I love my mom. But I have to protect my peace🙏🏾
Aye aye sis, same boat
3 decades of living and I’m finally deciding to stop disappointing myself. Now I’m ready to do NC.
@@SD-ci6kz never too late ! Hugs
Breaking generational curses 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm a white dude from Eastern Poland but as a big fan and supporter of black American art and culture, I'm loving this show - great way to learn more about the community. My biggest critique of the show is that it is sadly way way too short - especially when discussing such deep topics like in this episode. 20-30 minutes would be much better. Anyways, thank you for the cool content! Stay well and healthy :)
Try more RUclipsrs ❤. Or there’s a lot of Twitter threads you can read with real black props giving you insight into it. Just search up the key words and click on any thread
This is the worse culture
@@AnAdorableWombat1this is a culture deeply feeling the effects of generational trauma from all angles. Listen and learn w/o judgment.
This is such a needed conversation
My mom was a crack addict. I don't care for any relationship with her. I love her but love her from a distance
I definitely agree with that tone my mother always talk so hard and aggressive and often said things that made me feel stupid even my sisters talk to their kids any kind of way i refuse to make my kid feel stupid or not good enough
Dont feel that way about ypurself!, u not stupid, whatever they say is not true dont listen to them ❤
I just wanted to say I don’t know what you might be going through Or what situation you’re in right now but I no god is there for you and he loves you God bless everyone who came across this.🇧🇸❤️
It's backwards for me. I WAS close with my Mom. What I later found out was that she is a narcissist and I'm the golden child iykyk. But now that I'm older and how a person treats others is just as if not more important than how they treat me, I see the toxicity and it saddens me. I've talked to her about it and suggested therapy. But as many may know, narcissists generally won't go to therapy. So I'll just continue to pray for her/us and stand firm in my boundaries. 🥲
Those first two sentences girl, whew! From one “golden child” to another - I feel you. years of healing and counting
I don't like my mom..I am 43 and resent her. She despises me and low key sabotages me until this day. She has never supported me doing better for myself and will flat out not show up for me or her grandkids. On the outside and for the public she pretends to be the perfect mom because she wants to be praised, but between me and her she constantly shows no interest in things mother's and daughter's do (been this way), hardly wants to spend time with me or my kid's, is detached from her role as a mother and grandmother, never made me feel worthy or valuable of anything and is a big gaslighter, never admit when she is wrong, and will go against me for other ppl etc I honestly hate her attitude, her entitlement. Just recently she backed out of a trip she agreed to and then tried to blame me. My daughter is disabled and it has been my dream to bring her to Disney World. My mom is very passive aggressive and stopped talking about the trip so instead of her saying she didn't want to go at the last minute wait until all the stuff is paid for and until I ask her. I knew based on her behavior she wasn't going to go..like I said she has no interest in anything that's going to make me or my kid's happy. She does the bare minimum but expects 200%. Because of this I have struggled with my value and worth because of how she treats me. I used to try and force a relationship force her to do mom things then I just stopped. She has even tried to sabotage me and my kid's relationship. I am honestly over her and can wrote a book about the *hit she has done to me. Just thinking about permanent removing her from my life
I relate to this. I wish you healing and to stay far away if you can. We have to neglect these type of mothers and leave them stankin’ because they are superficial.
Yep. I don’t like my mother. I play fake with her but I don’t love her or like her at all. If she passed I would gladly move on. She is very fake with me and jealous of me but will play in my face like she’s not. It’s all bullshit. I had to come back to stay temporarily but I know I will be gone from here real soon, so I have a plan. Mines is really jealous and it shows in her face and body language. She sat for 22 years in a horrible disgusting marriage to a dusty toxic Caribbean man who she had a black son from. She got dogged tf out but never took control of her life as a woman to boss up like real women do.
*I am 1 of 4 and my mom was young when she had me. I had a lot of responsibilities growing up. My perspective changed once I became an adult and we talked.*
I think this is where i land
I was in the same situation.
My mother raised me hard, I was the oldest and her main thing was to keep up appearances. She embarrassed and humiliated as a child and was very critical. I was beaten, called b*tches, and felt as if i had no right to express myself. Now, we are separated. She still calls me names like psychopath and narcissist, and tells me that I dont love my children, to try and trigger me. Theyre talking about generational mistreatment like its cool. I could never treat my children the way I was treated.
girl your mixed your not black idk why they got these biracial women In our spaces ???
Omg shut up
Then she said this goes beyond race in a clearly Black space when it’s known that Black peoples experiences on this Earth are so different from
others🙄 When will we learn? It’s OK for people to have their own spaces, they don’t need to be in ours.
@@OpinionatedBlues period !
Right? And doesn't even have a black mom on a black mom panel! Like, why is she even here??? The one drop rule has a stronghold on black people!
@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 a lot of black ppl really their blackness so they wanna add these water down mixies to the community to make them feel good about their blackness ! I gatekeepppp over here
Some want to be friends with her child but still be tuff and stern and loving 🤗 and sometimes critical ♥️.
This was good. loved the conversation. I can identify with almost everyone's story.
Sorry to point out the elephant in the room. We are talking about black mother relationships but there is one person there with a white mother. If they wanted to add a biracial person, they should have added a biracial person with a black mom. And then she gets up there and steers the conversation away from black mothers and says "no its all mothers" . We understand that you have your own non black mother experience but this conversation is about black mothers. Exit stage left please.
A very relevant comment!
My family is mostly made up of women. The mothers all had daughters, from my grandmother on down. The mother daughter relationships are so toxic. I am very close with my mom. She was a single mom and for the most part did a damn good job raising my brother and I. She’s very insecure about how she raised us and needs constant reassurance and praise about how good of a job she did, when we know she did but she doesn’t feel like she did. So it becomes a full-time job when giving her “credit” for everything. In addition, she communicates horribly. She yells to get her point across, and you can’t speak because in her own words “I don’t have to listen to what you have to say” and then she’ll hang up on you. So the relationship has been changing, but due to me changing. God has really been working on me and I had to unpack a lot of trauma, pain, acknowledge my own flaws and insecurities, and attempt to correct them, and I am now at pure internal peace. But she won’t change even though I encourage her to. I don’t want her to miss out on my children’s life but if she refuses to work with my on our relationship, she will unfortunately be missing out. I want a different relationship with my kids. So now I’m to the point where the best that I can do is pray for her and to not hold anything in my heart against her. I used to talk to her everyday all day, but it’s slowly starting to fade because I refuse to put up with the emotional and mental abuse. I hate we won’t be talking, but God knows, and that’s who I lean on for understanding.
My mother is gone she treated me like a friend instead of a mother fore I confronted her she said to me she never knew how to be a mother however my grandmother raised me
My mom is 75 and she does me the same way I feel like she’s in competition with me always asking me how do I have my hair? What kinda car do I drive and etc etc I’m the black sheep and my brother is the golden child it’s all good because if they keep it up I’m changing my number and going no contact I don’t have to deal with her. It’s terrible as you get older you can really see what you was going through.
Love the relationship I had and have with my mom and I cannot add to the "difficult" or "rift" conversion.
Absolutely, the lady with the blonde natural hair is spot on.
Generations of women bearing children young has resulted in those women competing for the same men in the dating pool.
Right, mothers and daughters of all races have some friction in their relationship.
It would be great to have an episode w/ your mothers highlighting their POV. It may put things in a different perspective. ( On another note, I love the way you’re all dressed. Keep up the good work!)
It seems like y’all are dealing with the effects of an absent Father. Women are chaotic by nature, so when the man is not around, it’s hell on the children.
My father was present, but thanks for assuming. She treated me like I was his mistress instead of his little girl. It was creepy. She gets jealous and mean any time he spends money or time or affection towards me.
Bullshit. People make a choice to be a horrible parent or abusive parent. Both the men and women should’ve never had children to begin with.
I use to witness my dad beat my mom severely up until he went to prison when I was 7 up until I was 21 and moved out I’ve experienced the most hurtful abuse and neglect .he controlled her so much to point she felt like he took some of her youth so she wasn’t “living “ she started partying and drinking heavily to cope so I never really got time like that.she was trying to relive the years she felt like he took from her… I guess I was catching his flack and paying for what he did to her .. idk I just remember her being so mean and never knew why.. she literally thinks I’m him… anyway t really cut the cake for me when she put me out the house at 21 and I mean she throw my things off the balcony, a lot of gaslighting behavior I’ve always had to deal with. I’ve always moved right, was never fast or anything (because she kept me sheltered) never been lazy, hell I’ve been working since i 17 so she didn’t have to beg me to get a job.. I got up and got one on my own accord. so now I’ve resented her every since it’s hard for me to vibe with her cuz she done so much damage during my adolescence… it’s like natural resentment now idk… now she plays dumb like she doesn’t know why I don’t align with her… then when I would try to address my feelings and how things made me feel she would say things like “it’s in the past” as if my feelings aren’t valid… when I left after she put me out and got established, (which she probably wasn’t expecting )she did a whole 360! Started being nice and everything like I’ve never seen that side of her. NEVER! Complete narcissist! So it’s kind of like the shoe is on the other foot now… I’m the “mean” one … and she’s the one trying to figure out why… I know I should let it go but its hard
WOW..... it's all about them.
My mom loved me and raised me. My dad didn't do sh**! He was a drug addict.
We all knew that just by your pic
Complete opposite with my Mom, she’s always been my confidant.
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when did you give birth
Good conversation
Black moms I feel like are overprotective over daughters because mom has her own traumas and shit she seen and don't want you to have to go thru that and some are tuff or distant or don't teach certain things or even say I love you because 1 they could've been raised that way 2 they don't know how to... It still comes back to their own experiences at the end of the day. Women should be glad that they get that extra coddling. They don't be as tuff on boys because we're boys! I know females get mad that men and women are just simply different we couldn't do the same things growing up and that's a reason I don't get why women grow up and try to still be like men when from the beginning your mom showed you and told you men and women are different .
Both men and women deal with not as much support for their personal goals in the black community though. They all want you to go to school and work a 9-5.. If you wanna do anything else it'll feel like they don't support you
Although I get where your coming from-showing affection shouldn’t be difficult if you can show it to your sons.
The reason some girls tend to act like men is exactly what you said-moms are tough on their black daughters.
(Or some women are just masculine and we should just accept that)
They show them that they need to be aware of anything and everything but in a very very “weightlifting way”.
The problem is they coddle their sons because yeah their sons are boys.
But pretty much raise their daughters to be tough in the first place.
Mostly to stay away from the type of boys that same mom is also raising.
Women definitely grow conscience and more mature faster but it’s something no one else in the black community understands but the black daughter.
Basically the point of the young ladies question in the tiktok video is yes you can raise your sons all lovey dovey.
But most of the time when their mother gets older and realizes she’s alone now, she cries for her daughter.
She showed no love to her daughter but expects her to do the most because she’s her mother.
And the reason is mostly because the daughter has her priorities straight and life together.
It’s also guilt-the daughter feels her mom is finally ready to love her but that is actually using her.
And that’s not the daughters job, they need to bother the sons who they loved so much.
It’s truly something I think a lot of black women relate to and understand this topic-it’s not up to anyone else in the black community to tell that daughter how to feel.
Some black daughters just want their moms to.
This video is about black daughters and their trauma with their black mothers.
They don’t have support at all with anything when it comes to their black mothers or even society.
Black women literally started making at home businesses because
it is more likely black women don’t get a job just because their women anyways.
Also single moms run rampant in the black community.
So please spare me.
Black moms can be tough on their daughters all day but the sons that they coddle clearly need the same guidance-if not harder.
It’s not hard to say I love you to your daughter unless you can wholeheartedly admit you are her number 1 bully.
It’s literally a saying in the black community that a black mother is her daughters first bully and competition and it shouldn’t be that way.
I’m so glad these new black mothers-even if their single are teaching their daughters differently and making them their number one priority.
I love seeing them break cycles because I promise you if some of those same women heard a “I’m proud of you” a cycle wouldn’t have to be broken.
No some of us have malignant narcs as mothers who sincerely don’t give af and tells us to kill ourselves sonetimes
They are overprotective yet do not invest in their childrens education?
Blk moms have a lot to navigate as single mothers. We must realize that blk parents often have mother father wounds that bonds into generational trauma.
This has nothing to do with relentless bs or racism baldy! This had to do with mothers being jealous of their daughters.
Why is the mix girl with a white mom involved in the conversation?
Non FBA women ☹️
Oh that's old girl from the weather channel right?
Now this the one 👀
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Ya mom I swear all the teachers are just racist GTFO with that cry baby cop out answer.
She’s really ashamed to be white 😂
@@philipt8942 I'm ashamed that nobody calls her out on it and they all just sits there and lets her blab that BS.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 she had an attitude problem..you can tell
She really shoulda sat this one out.
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Black moms are strong first and they can be tough due to their experiences but I believe that Your mom is your mom God placed her here as that now once your at an adult age then yes a friendship can be formed but she is a Mom first not your friend.
Some of us have narcissistic or emotionally neglectful mothers.
Strong ?
Black moms are raising the most useless kids in the country
Good show
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The black mother-daughter bond : The both got tag teamed by Pookie and Ray Ray....
I got tough love but it was not done like that. It was to cultivate me ill leave it at that.
Tethers are here? SMH.
Since less than half of the panel is actually black, this tells you lots about how black women are seen in the eyes of black men and women. They wish you akatas were white. Secondly, is it fair to suggest that the world treats your daughters the same or less than h how they were raised in their homes? It's not fair to pet a dog who has been trained to be feral, right?
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Everyone and I mean everyone on the panel looks black
First of all it is hard for me to concentrate here. It's a me thing I know but can you ladies be more conservative please. This sounds like a good topic. I'm not mansplaining but if you want men to also understand and follow. We are visual creatures and you guys are giving us plenty of visuals here.🤩😘 Sorry but not sorry I'm straight.
Exactly they need to dress more modest and professional.
They mistreat their kids because they hate themselves and the kids dad.
Hate breeds hate.
Forgiveness is power.
It’s difficult but that’s the only way to break free. Ask God to help you; forgiveness is a journey.
Your WRONG!🙄🤣
Signes don't mean shi
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sounds like a lot of gay praising on this panel. barf
And you wonder why y’all so masculine. Smh
Exactly. Strong this, Strong that, Strong Strong Strong