50yr old only child. I felt ignored all my life. I love my mom, but I felt crazy when I had to become her caregiver. I still feel anger towards her even though she passed away last year. Working on my healing now. My relationship with my daughter is completely different. Thank you ladies for this conversation.
@@munix9351 it was a lot going on at the time. My daughter was transitioning from HS to college, I had to move her 4 hrs away, I had to break my lease to move back home, clean my mom's house before the move, and all of this while taking care of her. My mom need extra care as well. It was so hard doing everything with little to no help.
@@munix9351 she was not that bad off to be in a nursing home, plus they treat your loved ones like crap. As a family we decided the best option was for me to move back home for financial reasons and to take care of my mom and the family home.
My brother was definitely raised by a different version of my mother. Later realizing a lot of it was from a place of guilt, shame, and fear but he definitely got a different mother than I did.
omg, I can't describe how this video affected my feelings. I'm 24, from Egypt. My mother was always tough and violent with me since I was young, even though I'm the only girl. I don't have sisters. I only have 3 brothers. And I suffered a lot from mother wound in my childhood and adolescence, and I always wondered why she didn't love me. I am still with her in the same house.. Here in Egypt and in Arab countries, it is difficult for a girl to move away from her family before she gets married.. But I am on the way to recovering from the mother wound, and I am happy with that. I accept all that I went through I learned to love myself and to choose myself and I'm still learning to be free of fear and shame and to forgive..Thank you so much.
This is a much needed conversation for black women and girls! The mother wound shows up everywhere it’s crazy. I realized that I’ve been seeing older black women and other black adjacent women as mothers and get so disappointed and vengeful when they don’t see me as their daughter. Deal with your mother wound or it’ll ruin relationships and make life miserable.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us! That is such a vulnerable and beautiful sentiment. The mother wound DEFINITELY shows up EVERY WHERE. In places you'd least expect. I'm so happy that I was able to have and share this fruitful conversation with you all. Seeing other women resonate with this is encouraging and confirming I'm not the only one. It's also showing me the impact that following my heart makes. Much love and joy to you! ☺️💛🌺
I am one month and a few days shy of 70 and this conversation is so, so relevant. I am the mother of a 47 year old daughter who has birthed 9 girls...I will be sharing this.
Thank you for this video. I am 31 years old and my mother and I have had the same dance all of my life. Emotional and physical abuse. And I look at my mother and my grandmother relationship and my grandmother and great grandmothers (still a live and oblivious)relationship and say that IT STOPS HERE!!!! I have a 6 yo daughter and I WILL NOT carry this on with her! I am healing and putting in the work so that I can be a better mother for my daughter! I love my daughter and she’s seen me and my mothers toxic relationship and it is effecting her!!!!! Again thank you guys! I needed this!!!!
I left my Mom early : graduated HS 15- gone by 17- because I just could not conform to her idea of me. But she was always always there for me. She allowed me to be me. I wasn’t allowing me to be me! My worst fear was bringing a failure to my Mom. Years and years we became really good friends. Worst day of my life was losing her to breast cancer. She gave so much and continued to give her all. I understand the trauma bonds we’ve formed as a result of our survivalist histories but without worshipping the Mother I think we need to honor the ones who have honored themselves, their daughters and other women. Good work here. Glad to see young women creating space for themselves.
I wonder where this comes from. The mentality that we are here to appease our parents. We don’t want to disappoint them but they seem to easily disappoint us. My mother and father didn’t even ensure they could provide my basic needs before having kids and more kids. That’s a huge disappointment to me. So why arnt my parents ashamed and sad about disappointing me?
@@NattyByNature-that part right there!!! In this society, kids aren’t seen as full humans and it’s very detrimental in terms of your mental and emotional development.
I just want to thank y’all for this conversation. There is so much in this that is validating. Working on my mother wound has been challenging but it’s so affirming to know I wasn’t loosing it. Ms Jennifer Arnise you are doing a great work and it’s needed for so many of us. When you said I had been groomed to think I was alone and nobody would be there for me I came to that realization as well
Thank you so much for sharing this with us! ☺️💛 And you are definitely not loosing it, nor are you alone at all. Jennifer was such a GEM sharing her experiences and wisdom with healing Black women. I'm sending you SO much love and joy to you. I see you and believe in you! 💛💛💛
wheewwwww chile...you hit my soul at 11:25 and 22:28...independence is the enemy of a mother that is strict or posses a limited world view. I had to build my confidence up from nothing, once I started blossoming, I was made to feel 'bad' about my body and appearance, not in an overtly obvious way but it was a running theme. She used my three older brothers to reinforce what was really a patriarchal view of women (ex: dating too much makes you a whore etc.). My pushing back and clinging to myself is what led me to freedom - in the process I also had to 'grey rock' many members of my family as I had my own life to live and if I kept listening to the nonsense I would be an old woman who had done nothing. Black women go through a lot and this particular area is incredibly difficult and needs to be discussed more. Thank you for this video. I wanted to add -- the behaviour that is accepted by the boys directly speaks to the state of the black community and the role the 'men' play in it. Michelle Obama has also spoke on this and it should be spoken about more. More needs to expected and reinforced for the boys because they are not doing well.
Wow. This sounds exactly like my life. I also have 3 brothers and they def have shamed me for my life choices and being myself. Wow. Thank you for sharing this! I’m currently breaking free from the codependency.
Jennifer describes the same relationship structure that I have with my mother. Our mothers are born in the same year. My mother hides behind religion, and always being in the church. Everything is done for optics;yet, if I and my sister don't agree with her abd are adamant (but respectful), she goes into her arsenal to degrade our confidence to "put us in our place". My sister and I are highly educated and accomplished, while also being free-spirited. It scares our mother. We're not following her plan for our lives, but wants to talk about God's plan for our lives. A great contradiction. She's emotionally stuck. She's widowed for almost 30 years, and it's been difficult since our father passed. Her toxicity worsebs with age, as if she is constantly fighting with herself emotionally. It's exhausting.
Wow!!! I needed this today. Especially when she said at 40, "giving birth to myself" and "you will kill a mf'er for your child"..lol.. I get this. My daughter is 18 and off to the college and I'm knocking on 40. I haven't dealt with my own issues and hid them. And I did everything for my child so she wouldn't have to deal with the same thing. I was wrong. So we're dealing with life from afar and she's now understanding. Anyway, this was a conversation I needed to hear this week. Thank you for sharing this and finding Jennifer Arnise to share her story. 💙
I needed this so much! I truly appreciate you guys for this video and emphasizing the importance of telling your story. I’m currently healing from being sexually assaulted recently and the loss of my mother who is still alive at the same time. 😫😭 Being extremely gentle and patient with myself as I heal through this
Tierra, I am SO sorry this happened to you. I know how violating and heartbreaking sexual assault can be and it breaks my heart that so many of us know that personally. *BIG HUGS* yes. Please be gentle and soft with yourself. You deserve all of the love and care you can reeand more. I see you. I'm cheering for you. Healing is a journey. Be gracious with yourself in every moment. You are precious. 🌺💛
Wow! this was deep.. I cant tell you how much this conversation has resonated with me. I am currently going through something in my life, I am 44, wife and mother of a 18 and9 year old and struggling to find (re-find) myself? my mother and father died when I was 8 and 9 years old so my grandmother raised me (and my siblings) and though I have accomplish some things in life (including raising my children), I feel like there something I haven't accomplished inside of myself that I find myself hunting for. The "sacrifice" version of love hit me right away because I feel like sacrificing myself for my kids is the ultimate love, and to be honest its not returning a positive feedback, its stressing me and the household. I am starting my journey of working on correcting this mindset. Thank You for sharing and creating a space for these types of conversations. I dont think black people truly understand just how traumatized we really are, even when we think we are doing the right thing, its all just been a form of conditioning that we need to break away from and start something healthy and liberating.
Cantreace, first of all thank you so much for sharing this. You're so right. I definitely believe that we're more traumatized than we truly understand and it shows it's head in so many ways. We've come to think it's normal when really it's a survival tactic... You know? The beauty is that we have the opportunity to sit with our things and work them out with love and patience with ourselves. I'm so sorry to hear about your parents,too. I'm sending you so much love, peace and joy today. I am so glad you are on your journey to refind yourself and to be kind to yourself. While sacrificing for others, don't sacrifice your sanity, joy and peace. 💛💛💛 I am forever grateful for Jennifer for sharing her story and work with us!
This was a great interview and very insightful. So glad you're creating the space to have this conversation with black women. I understand that this is support important! Great job!
I believe that we can be all that we are created to be as we begin to heal ourselves and reclaim ourselves. Thank you, Jennifer, for speaking about what is at the helm of Black women's dis-ease and fury.
I completely agree with this statement for sure! And yes! I am so grateful for Jennifer, as she's given me so many gems to take with me in my own healing process around shame. I just want to be everything God made me to be. Much love to you!!! 💛😊🌞
Omgg, I feel so validated in watching this!! To find others who can relate to me is so freeing and gratifying. We always hear about "daddy issues" but very rarely do we acknowledge the damage done by mothers...Thank you both!! 🙏🏽💜
New Sub. Jennifer Arrnise is a Truth Teller!!! Truth to Power- personal power!! 💜💜💜 You told my story. And my Mom's story. My cousin's story...I not crazy!!! We are not crazy!!! "You are your own best thing..." Toni Morrison - Beloved
This is very good. Very balanced. Both of my parents were bullies. My mother and I never had a relationship. I just remember her constantly criticizing my appearance. I have accepted that she doesn’t like me. She’s human. We are extremely different
@ 53:02 my goodness... this is my reality. I've made a vow with myself to always be there to support, encourage, and love my children where they are individually 🙏🏽TFS and helping me find another beautiful creator.
I'm so grateful to have stumbled across this platform. As a mother who has, is still making alot of my own mistakes in parenting...I'm definitely glad to find content that helps me heal my own wounds so I can become a better mother.
Could be a 100 years later they won’t be ready for the conversation that forces them to be accountable. But this is not about them and cuddling their feelings. It’s about honoring the truth. It takes a lot of emotional maturity to be able to be accountable. And obviously some mothers don’t have it, as to why we are even in this mess to begin with.
Thank you so much for this REAL conversation! I felt so many parts! I'm in the healing process and recently realized I can't live up to my full potential because I have to do the work and fully heal 1st! Great interview! ❤️
The conversation is a must. However if her mom doesn’t talk to any of her kids. Is troubling. However we have all done things we’re not please with or ashamed. Nothing was said about forgiveness.
Thank you Thank you Thank you for this conversation!!! This resonated with me deeply. I found someone on IG who is a mother wound coach, now I have another one to follow and she’s a black woman 👏🏽👏🏽 I’ve had a challenging relationship with my mother since I was a teenager (at least that’s when I recall me realizing it). I’ve been distant and low contact with my mother for 3 years now and I’m 51. She’s manipulative and I finally woke up to it when I decided to move over 1000 miles away with my new husband. It’s been such a roller coaster journey emotionally & mentally. This conversation really hit deep and I found so many similarities with both of you. Thank you both for this conversation. 🧡
I'm sending you ALL the love. 🤗💛🌺 I can definitely resonate with what you share. I'm so glad you chose yourself and your love. I'm praying you find peace. So much peace.
Ohhhh my God! Finally, someone has said what I’ve been feeling! I never knew that becoming a parent would be so extremely triggering for me!! It’s absolutely been an aggrevator, bringing everything up for me! It’s so crazy!! But also literally, right after I gave birth, I’ve become so irritable. But yea, I’m definitely much more angry with my mother now lol
I am going to explore a thought here. My mother said she believes she made me gay. Sometimes I wonder if there’s truth to that. That apart of me being a lesbian and a stud I am masculine presenting because of all the trauma I went through and how I may not identify with my womanhood because of my negative experiences tied to that from how restricted and unloved I felt as a girl among my male brother and uncle (same age as us)
Can we please discuss ourselves as Black women without feeling the need to bring up Black men and their complaints. The paradox of it all is, we can never just own our issues. Full stop. We have to immediately switch into contextualizing ourselves to keep us from the uncomfortable truths of our contributions to our own suffering as Black women. This denial that Black women hurt Black children, Black women hurt Black women is a truth we must accept radically for us to heal. Come on ya’ll.
I understand this video was some time ago but I really wish videos are done on why daughters hate their mothers when mom has given them everything and been there for them for everything and then they meet a guy and the hate for mom begins.
You kind of sound like one of “those” mothers. It’s not always about what you have “done” for her. Although your intentions may be pure, ask her what it is that she needs. You’re the mother, you set the tone for the relationship from the beginning. You two may have different experiences of what happened and both of them can be true… I’d say, just learn to have understanding.
@@IamTaraMonee please mind your business and keep your dumb comments and uninformed projections to yourself. I am talking about psychologically a thing called parental alienation. There are many cases where the perception of the daughter is the problem and not the mother, but I’m sure that’s very far-fetched for you to understand.
50yr old only child. I felt ignored all my life. I love my mom, but I felt crazy when I had to become her caregiver. I still feel anger towards her even though she passed away last year. Working on my healing now. My relationship with my daughter is completely different. Thank you ladies for this conversation.
can I ask why you "felt crazy" when you had to be her care giver?
@@munix9351 it was a lot going on at the time. My daughter was transitioning from HS to college, I had to move her 4 hrs away, I had to break my lease to move back home, clean my mom's house before the move, and all of this while taking care of her. My mom need extra care as well. It was so hard doing everything with little to no help.
@@danadane827 hmm can i ask why you didn't put her in care? Or pay for someone to care for her? Did she not have insurance ??
@@munix9351 she was not that bad off to be in a nursing home, plus they treat your loved ones like crap. As a family we decided the best option was for me to move back home for financial reasons and to take care of my mom and the family home.
@@munix9351 she had insurance.
Being parentified as a child and wondering why we're "masculine" as adults. Im ready to heal this wound and be the beat version of myself for me!
God bless you and keep you .
My brother was definitely raised by a different version of my mother. Later realizing a lot of it was from a place of guilt, shame, and fear but he definitely got a different mother than I did.
Wow! I just said this to myself today. I have all brothers but we were all born in different eras of her life. It’s frustrating! 😢
omg, I can't describe how this video affected my feelings. I'm 24, from Egypt. My mother was always tough and violent with me since I was young, even though I'm the only girl. I don't have sisters. I only have 3 brothers. And I suffered a lot from mother wound in my childhood and adolescence, and I always wondered why she didn't love me. I am still with her in the same house.. Here in Egypt and in Arab countries, it is difficult for a girl to move away from her family before she gets married.. But I am on the way to recovering from the mother wound, and I am happy with that. I accept all that I went through I learned to love myself and to choose myself and I'm still learning to be free of fear and shame and to forgive..Thank you so much.
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This is a much needed conversation for black women and girls! The mother wound shows up everywhere it’s crazy.
I realized that I’ve been seeing older black women and other black adjacent women as mothers and get so disappointed and vengeful when they don’t see me as their daughter.
Deal with your mother wound or it’ll ruin relationships and make life miserable.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us! That is such a vulnerable and beautiful sentiment. The mother wound DEFINITELY shows up EVERY WHERE. In places you'd least expect. I'm so happy that I was able to have and share this fruitful conversation with you all. Seeing other women resonate with this is encouraging and confirming I'm not the only one. It's also showing me the impact that following my heart makes. Much love and joy to you! ☺️💛🌺
I am one month and a few days shy of 70 and this conversation is so, so relevant. I am the mother of a 47 year old daughter who has birthed 9 girls...I will be sharing this.
Thank you for this video. I am 31 years old and my mother and I have had the same dance all of my life. Emotional and physical abuse. And I look at my mother and my grandmother relationship and my grandmother and great grandmothers (still a live and oblivious)relationship and say that IT STOPS HERE!!!! I have a 6 yo daughter and I WILL NOT carry this on with her! I am healing and putting in the work so that I can be a better mother for my daughter! I love my daughter and she’s seen me and my mothers toxic relationship and it is effecting her!!!!! Again thank you guys! I needed this!!!!
I left my Mom early : graduated HS 15- gone by 17- because I just could not conform to her idea of me. But she was always always there for me. She allowed me to be me. I wasn’t allowing me to be me! My worst fear was bringing a failure to my Mom. Years and years we became really good friends. Worst day of my life was losing her to breast cancer. She gave so much and continued to give her all. I understand the trauma bonds we’ve formed as a result of our survivalist histories but without worshipping the Mother I think we need to honor the ones who have honored themselves, their daughters and other women. Good work here. Glad to see young women creating space for themselves.
I wonder where this comes from. The mentality that we are here to appease our parents. We don’t want to disappoint them but they seem to easily disappoint us. My mother and father didn’t even ensure they could provide my basic needs before having kids and more kids. That’s a huge disappointment to me. So why arnt my parents ashamed and sad about disappointing me?
@@NattyByNature-that part right there!!! In this society, kids aren’t seen as full humans and it’s very detrimental in terms of your mental and emotional development.
I just want to thank y’all for this conversation. There is so much in this that is validating. Working on my mother wound has been challenging but it’s so affirming to know I wasn’t loosing it. Ms Jennifer Arnise you are doing a great work and it’s needed for so many of us. When you said I had been groomed to think I was alone and nobody would be there for me I came to that realization as well
Thank you so much for sharing this with us! ☺️💛 And you are definitely not loosing it, nor are you alone at all. Jennifer was such a GEM sharing her experiences and wisdom with healing Black women. I'm sending you SO much love and joy to you. I see you and believe in you! 💛💛💛
wheewwwww chile...you hit my soul at 11:25 and 22:28...independence is the enemy of a mother that is strict or posses a limited world view. I had to build my confidence up from nothing, once I started blossoming, I was made to feel 'bad' about my body and appearance, not in an overtly obvious way but it was a running theme. She used my three older brothers to reinforce what was really a patriarchal view of women (ex: dating too much makes you a whore etc.). My pushing back and clinging to myself is what led me to freedom - in the process I also had to 'grey rock' many members of my family as I had my own life to live and if I kept listening to the nonsense I would be an old woman who had done nothing. Black women go through a lot and this particular area is incredibly difficult and needs to be discussed more. Thank you for this video. I wanted to add -- the behaviour that is accepted by the boys directly speaks to the state of the black community and the role the 'men' play in it. Michelle Obama has also spoke on this and it should be spoken about more. More needs to expected and reinforced for the boys because they are not doing well.
Wow. This sounds exactly like my life. I also have 3 brothers and they def have shamed me for my life choices and being myself. Wow. Thank you for sharing this! I’m currently breaking free from the codependency.
Jennifer describes the same relationship structure that I have with my mother. Our mothers are born in the same year. My mother hides behind religion, and always being in the church. Everything is done for optics;yet, if I and my sister don't agree with her abd are adamant (but respectful), she goes into her arsenal to degrade our confidence to "put us in our place". My sister and I are highly educated and accomplished, while also being free-spirited. It scares our mother. We're not following her plan for our lives, but wants to talk about God's plan for our lives. A great contradiction. She's emotionally stuck. She's widowed for almost 30 years, and it's been difficult since our father passed. Her toxicity worsebs with age, as if she is constantly fighting with herself emotionally. It's exhausting.
Wow!!! I needed this today. Especially when she said at 40, "giving birth to myself" and "you will kill a mf'er for your child"..lol.. I get this. My daughter is 18 and off to the college and I'm knocking on 40. I haven't dealt with my own issues and hid them. And I did everything for my child so she wouldn't have to deal with the same thing. I was wrong. So we're dealing with life from afar and she's now understanding. Anyway, this was a conversation I needed to hear this week. Thank you for sharing this and finding Jennifer Arnise to share her story. 💙
I'm sending you so much love!!! And I see you. I'm so glad you resonated with this conversation. It was healing for me as well. 💛💛💛
I needed this so much! I truly appreciate you guys for this video and emphasizing the importance of telling your story. I’m currently healing from being sexually assaulted recently and the loss of my mother who is still alive at the same time. 😫😭 Being extremely gentle and patient with myself as I heal through this
Tierra, I am SO sorry this happened to you. I know how violating and heartbreaking sexual assault can be and it breaks my heart that so many of us know that personally. *BIG HUGS* yes. Please be gentle and soft with yourself. You deserve all of the love and care you can reeand more. I see you. I'm cheering for you. Healing is a journey. Be gracious with yourself in every moment. You are precious. 🌺💛
Wow! this was deep.. I cant tell you how much this conversation has resonated with me. I am currently going through something in my life, I am 44, wife and mother of a 18 and9 year old and struggling to find (re-find) myself? my mother and father died when I was 8 and 9 years old so my grandmother raised me (and my siblings) and though I have accomplish some things in life (including raising my children), I feel like there something I haven't accomplished inside of myself that I find myself hunting for. The "sacrifice" version of love hit me right away because I feel like sacrificing myself for my kids is the ultimate love, and to be honest its not returning a positive feedback, its stressing me and the household. I am starting my journey of working on correcting this mindset. Thank You for sharing and creating a space for these types of conversations. I dont think black people truly understand just how traumatized we really are, even when we think we are doing the right thing, its all just been a form of conditioning that we need to break away from and start something healthy and liberating.
Cantreace, first of all thank you so much for sharing this. You're so right. I definitely believe that we're more traumatized than we truly understand and it shows it's head in so many ways. We've come to think it's normal when really it's a survival tactic... You know? The beauty is that we have the opportunity to sit with our things and work them out with love and patience with ourselves. I'm so sorry to hear about your parents,too. I'm sending you so much love, peace and joy today. I am so glad you are on your journey to refind yourself and to be kind to yourself. While sacrificing for others, don't sacrifice your sanity, joy and peace. 💛💛💛 I am forever grateful for Jennifer for sharing her story and work with us!
This was a great interview and very insightful. So glad you're creating the space to have this conversation with black women. I understand that this is support important! Great job!
Thank you so much for watching and listening. It really means a lot to me. Creating safe places for Black women is my JOY!!! 😊💛🌺
I believe that we can be all that we are created to be as we begin to heal ourselves and reclaim ourselves. Thank you, Jennifer, for speaking about what is at the helm of Black women's dis-ease and fury.
I completely agree with this statement for sure! And yes! I am so grateful for Jennifer, as she's given me so many gems to take with me in my own healing process around shame. I just want to be everything God made me to be. Much love to you!!! 💛😊🌞
Omgg, I feel so validated in watching this!! To find others who can relate to me is so freeing and gratifying. We always hear about "daddy issues" but very rarely do we acknowledge the damage done by mothers...Thank you both!! 🙏🏽💜
GOD bless you girl ♥️ generational curse breakers UNITE
There are not enough words to describe how this discussion blessed my entire soul ❣️❣️ Thank you kindly ladies!
New Sub.
Jennifer Arrnise is a Truth Teller!!! Truth to Power- personal power!! 💜💜💜
You told my story. And my Mom's story. My cousin's story...I not crazy!!! We are not crazy!!!
"You are your own best thing..."
Toni Morrison - Beloved
This is very good. Very balanced. Both of my parents were bullies. My mother and I never had a relationship. I just remember her constantly criticizing my appearance. I have accepted that she doesn’t like me. She’s human. We are extremely different
@ 53:02 my goodness... this is my reality. I've made a vow with myself to always be there to support, encourage, and love my children where they are individually 🙏🏽TFS and helping me find another beautiful creator.
Uncaged bird is what it is😮😮😮😮😮yup ...felt this
I'm so grateful to have stumbled across this platform. As a mother who has, is still making alot of my own mistakes in parenting...I'm definitely glad to find content that helps me heal my own wounds so I can become a better mother.
Could be a 100 years later they won’t be ready for the conversation that forces them to be accountable. But this is not about them and cuddling their feelings. It’s about honoring the truth. It takes a lot of emotional maturity to be able to be accountable. And obviously some mothers don’t have it, as to why we are even in this mess to begin with.
This conversation was so needed!! Just to know you’re not alone going through this gives me so much hope and comfort!! Thank you ladies🙏🏾
Thank you so much for this REAL conversation! I felt so many parts! I'm in the healing process and recently realized I can't live up to my full potential because I have to do the work and fully heal 1st! Great interview! ❤️
I see you and celebrate you! I believe in you! Sending you love, joy and support! 🤗☺️🌻
@@AleciaRenece Thank you! ❤️
The blessing in watching this is meaningful. Thank you so much.
I’ve been making episodes on my podcast about healing on my Podcast & hearing this makes me know I’m on the right path!!
Appreciation🦋
The conversation is a must. However if her mom doesn’t talk to any of her kids. Is troubling. However we have all done things we’re not please with or ashamed. Nothing was said about forgiveness.
Thank you so much for this conversation and for sharing your stories. Such a. Blessing ❤ beautiful storytellers
👏🏽👏🏽 This entire conversation 🙌🏽
Thank you Thank you Thank you for this conversation!!! This resonated with me deeply. I found someone on IG who is a mother wound coach, now I have another one to follow and she’s a black woman 👏🏽👏🏽
I’ve had a challenging relationship with my mother since I was a teenager (at least that’s when I recall me realizing it). I’ve been distant and low contact with my mother for 3 years now and I’m 51. She’s manipulative and I finally woke up to it when I decided to move over 1000 miles away with my new husband. It’s been such a roller coaster journey emotionally & mentally. This conversation really hit deep and I found so many similarities with both of you. Thank you both for this conversation. 🧡
I'm sending you ALL the love. 🤗💛🌺 I can definitely resonate with what you share. I'm so glad you chose yourself and your love. I'm praying you find peace. So much peace.
@@AleciaRenece Thanks, Alecia. I appreciate you and I send you ALL the love back to you 🥰💫🤗🌻
45:32 That is a word!
Thank you so much for this space👏🏾impactful and empowering❤❤❤
Ohhhh my God! Finally, someone has said what I’ve been feeling!
I never knew that becoming a parent would be so extremely triggering for me!! It’s absolutely been an aggrevator, bringing everything up for me! It’s so crazy!! But also literally, right after I gave birth, I’ve become so irritable. But yea, I’m definitely much more angry with my mother now lol
This is such a powerful conversation 👍🏾❤️
I am so glad this resonated with you! It was a pleasure sitting and talking with Jennifer! She's so insightful! Much love and joy to you! ☺️💛
I am going to explore a thought here. My mother said she believes she made me gay. Sometimes I wonder if there’s truth to that. That apart of me being a lesbian and a stud I am masculine presenting because of all the trauma I went through and how I may not identify with my womanhood because of my negative experiences tied to that from how restricted and unloved I felt as a girl among my male brother and uncle (same age as us)
Can we please discuss ourselves as Black women without feeling the need to bring up Black men and their complaints. The paradox of it all is, we can never just own our issues. Full stop. We have to immediately switch into contextualizing ourselves to keep us from the uncomfortable truths of our contributions to our own suffering as Black women. This denial that Black women hurt Black children, Black women hurt Black women is a truth we must accept radically for us to heal. Come on ya’ll.
I love this, it is so true
i lost 2 you never get ova it
I understand this video was some time ago but I really wish videos are done on why daughters hate their mothers when mom has given them everything and been there for them for everything and then they meet a guy and the hate for mom begins.
You kind of sound like one of “those” mothers. It’s not always about what you have “done” for her. Although your intentions may be pure, ask her what it is that she needs. You’re the mother, you set the tone for the relationship from the beginning. You two may have different experiences of what happened and both of them can be true… I’d say, just learn to have understanding.
@@IamTaraMonee please mind your business and keep your dumb comments and uninformed projections to yourself. I am talking about psychologically a thing called parental alienation. There are many cases where the perception of the daughter is the problem and not the mother, but I’m sure that’s very far-fetched for you to understand.