I dont want a guy that I habe to tell him to communicate with me more often. If he doesn't want to text ot call me I certainly don't want to push him to. He should WANT to contact me frequently and if he is coming and going then obviously there are other women he is pursuing or he is just not that into me. Which is likely the case. I've experienced this for 2-3 years. Theres the guy who messages me daily and theres the guy who messages every 1-4 weeks, especially when he is in my area or just too busy or chasing countless women. A man who wants us won't do any of this BS in the first place.
Cozette M what if his excuse is he works a lot and has a 2 year old? But only saw him when he had his son and once every couple weeks (only when he has his son cause if not he is working? 🤔
Exactly, we should not even deal with that. I've experienced it as well, (like most women these days). When the guy courted me daily, each time after a little time he turned out to withdraw or cut if off suddenly. Guys who have emotional unresolved issues, who were never available for something real but just wanted a taste of it.
I'm sorry I don't give a shit who you are if you want to be with someone then you want to see them and talk to them. Especially if they go from doing it all the time to not at all. That's BS and will never be okay with me!!
I agree if he’s not texting me fuck him saving my energy .. I really like a guy we dated for a month then bam ... he’s too busy.. went from dating to phone calls to texting every day to texting once a day to none ... ok dude I got the signal .. just fucking tell me with words that your mom interested, no biggie but the no communication is childish
The only men that ever played games with me were ones that were beneath me. If you lower your standards, get ready to be played. Making them work for it weeds out the duds that keep up or stay consistent. It's win-win to hold out and play cool.
Funny you mentioned giving 2 chances. I gave him 2 chances one year apart. He blew it. I dumped him 2 weeks ago. I love him, but i dont want a relationship like this.
Ive cut him off since 1/31. I don't put any efforts anymore. No calls, no messages, nothing. I had 2 pull away to save my own heart. Last time he messaged me was 2/15, that was the last time I responded. Now, im full blown ignoring him. Im in completely NC from now on. Still no apology for how he treated me. Im so tired of these games with men. Grow up....shit
You might as well forget about them if they are not doing what you want them to do. Just wait for the right guy to come along and give you what you without having to say anything. If two people are on two different stages into the communication then it won't work anyway.
If you always see him online and he's not calling you (no relationship could be built through the text) delete his number, he's talking to someone more important.
I just went out on a date with a guy, we both had a great time, but now he barely texts me. I have only initiated twice, but when he does reach out its like a summary of his day no questions about mine. I respond kindly, but cooly. Now I haven't heard from him in 5 days... I guess, it's time to ignore he's not for me.
Omg girl! Same crap happened to me 7 years ago with a guy I use to really like. Led me on, hung out a few times, always texted me first to just BAM he stopped messaging me, he ignored me for days before giving me an answer as to why he was ignoring me. He finally answered almost a week later confessing *I can see us together for a while but not forever and from what I know about you YOU need someone better than me* But he would still randomly reach out to me talking about his day, leading me on again. Nice long paragraph like he still cared but once I responded he'd just leave it at *read* and I wouldn't hear from him again for months. He even stood me up 3 times. 5 months of it and I finally said to myself *FUCK IT.. he doesn't want me? Well somebody else will* I never bothered with him again and moved on and fell in love with another guy 2 months later and been together 6 years now. He tried coming back 4 different times but I told him everytime calmly that I wasn't into him anymore. Narcissist assholes never want the girl until she becomes a chase again. You're not alone. And please forgive me for the long summary. Your story just hit close to home with me. Dont make the mistake I did by letting that continue bc it will as long as you allow it. I made the mistake by letting it go on for 5 months. You can do better. You didn't lose him. He lost you. Don't forget that.
There's always someone better. Yeah, you kinda liked a guy.. So what. Imagine being treated like a princess by someone who cares. That's my new mentality with dating
Being MYSTERIOUSLY unavailable is quite ATTRACTIVE! Don't be thirsty... don't text them first...EVER...you don't want to be like the other women who lower their standards and bug people on social media... don't let them come over to date you after 9:00 pm...don't be a "booty call". Guy's love women who are busy but very "nice and hot!"
When a man and a woman genuinely share love none of this necessarily applies. This applies to people playing the field. True lovers make up the rules between them as they go along
If a guy ignored me in the past for a week I figured he didn't care enough. If he really liked me, he'd be thinking about me and if he's thinking about me he'd take even a few minutes to call. It's as simple as that in my opinion. Hey it worked. I waited for that guy who was truly interested and I'm engaged now after being divorced for 10 years.
I’ve recently spilt from someone myself and on an app. Damn these online dudes are a pain in the ass and makes me miss my ex. He was never flaky like this shit. Sigh!!!
@@jeanzyc.5103 Yeah, looking into local clubs to meet better quality people. Even if it’s friendship. But, I understand if someone doesn’t have interest to want to meet..but sometimes the ones who don’t want to meet, I wonder what they’re hiding. God knows who you’re really talking to.
I told guy after I took him out for dinner for his birthday and he was constantly on his phone. I told him to to lose my number. It’s been a month. That was disrespectful no matter who it is. So I will not reach back out. I’m okay not having someone like that in my life.
@@welshlady212000 Yes, I agree. For his birthday "from a girl", I guess a card would be nice and then "he would" take "both of you" for dinner. Sorry girl :-)
I agree with the other comments. Sorry hun but never give a guy who isnt your man a silver platter when you first meet him. I did that for a guy once. Me and him went on a blind double date with a friend and her boyfriend at Dave & Busters. First time I met him. I payed for his food. I spoiled him. I know I was good to him. And when it finally came down to him actually buying me something, like a cute stuffed animal from the arcade he instead used his winning tickets to buy himself something instead. Such a douche bag. My friend and her man pointed that out to me. I was so embarrassed since it was my first time meeting him too. Guys just for some reason dont respect women that they dont have to work for. I learned that the hard way at one time too. Next time make the man pay for you. It will rise your respect status love. Good luck!
These "relationship advice" videos are about BOYS. A real MAN doesn't need to act like a stupid teenager or play games to have a relationship with a high value good woman. Period.
IT WORKS! Like Elliot said, BUILD THE ATTRACTION. MAKE HIM INVEST/PUT IN THE WORK. The RIGHT GUY will evolve and adapt. TRUST ME! 1) Play one or a few of Elliot’s videos a day until these concepts sink in enough until they become second nature. 👌 2) Put these concepts into ACTION when you feel ready. I suggest practicing on guys you don’t really care for because if it doesn’t work out then hey, you didn’t like him that much any way, nothing lost. ✌️ 3) PRACTICE makes DAMN NEAR PERFECT! 👊 SIDE NOTE: NO ONE, is a mind reader. COMMUNICATION and CONSISTENCY is KEY! If the guy messes up, bring it to his attention/communicate. If he messes up AGAIN, either cut him loose OR make him earn his way back to you (NEVER be the 1st one to reach out or do ANYTHING, he lost that privilege).
Don’t encourage people to ‘practice’ on men they don’t have feelings for. That’s cruel and unnecessary to do that to someone and it ruins it for that man when a woman who genuinely loves him comes along. Don’t take this advice at all, karma will get you if you do.
Yes! People do not respond to talk, they respond to consequences! I will say though that I’m not answering if it’s obvious what he did wrong. Those are my standards. I don’t want an idiot. Most men know after a certain age.
It's never going to work no matter what you do if he's just not in love with you. Even if he does at one point, eventually love fades anyway.. you're never going to win if you're expecting love from someone else other than yourself
“Even if he does at one point love fades away” your basically saying don’t give love a try or dating a try because you’ll have that fear of them fading out of love with you. Lmao??????? You have to try and if they fall out of love there’s always reasons. Figure it out.
Yes one thing to remember is like he said... sometimes its not that anyone is wrong or trying to be offensive - as in the texting vs calling example. Sometimes its just incompatibility.
I pulled away for seven months. We are meeting next week. It's been rough. He says I'm his queen and he's my king. He chased for seven months. Listen to this it works!
7 months? No fucking way! BY THEN I AM DONE! BYE BYE! SEE YOU!! That is a ---- NO for me!! What happens after? Another 7 months space? That ain't a relationship!!
nofy bn facts I was done after a month with a dude that used me then he tried to come back a month later I said fuck no even at the age of 19 I knew not to let him back
@@shutit4024 right? A guy that I use to talk to 7 years ago led me on and then rejected me but still kept me around as his ego booster bc he sure as shit didnt want me but loved me wanting him while he was out banging other girls he's keeping me in the dark convincing me he'd one day be with me he had no problem hanging out with anyone else but made every excuse as to why he couldnt see me yet he swore he had such *strong feelings for me* but was going through shit wow was I an idiot then. Once I was over it and got into a new relationship and still with my man today the asshole tried coming back 4 different times over the last 5 years saying that *I'm the one who got away* and wants to give us another chance bc he messed up bla bla bla. I was flattered and kind but still done.
I really like how you address some potential men thinking this is stupid. It means a lot to have another man stand up and be like “no, it’s a standard she has just as you have”. I can’t STAND when some dudes have all these qualifications on your breast and ass size but literally nothing *actually* important like communication skills, common interests, common desires. This is such a great video!
you'll die alone anything lol. People in relationships will die alone. Noone coming with you on the journey of death. We were botn alone and we'll die alone. I think once people really reflect on the meaning of this they wouldnt stress out so much about relationships
Elliot is the only one who truly said that you have to ignore 100%,as if you'll never hear from him again and that's absolutely true. I actually figured that out by myself when I finally decided to move amd not care whether he comes back and I just happened to come across his videos amd I'm so glad he says the same thing, I just wish I'd found his channel before so I wouldn't have made the same DAMN mistakes for years! I'm happy to have reached a place where I value myself and have better self esteem though. Work on yourself ladies the glow up is WORTH it irrespective of whether you get te guy (p. S. He did initiate contact with me but I left him on seen. Give him a taste of his own medicine lol)
I'm binge-watching your videos and man, I'm enthusiast about your insights. Finally no sugarcoating, no mansplaining. I might post a question on a specific point.
This is funny because a lot of men feel the same about women, they want you to go after them. Screw that!! I think it's why I've given up on finding someone. I'm not desperate and I know what I want, but chasing to me is playing games. I just won't invest in anyone now until they invest first. To many people play games these days and I don't care who you are. Every person has made mistakes in some way shape or form but you learn. I know I have!
I have a ton of options, and I don’t have time for predatory creeps! Also, they say at least five guys at a time, not for sex, just as a one date term. They don’t get a second date unless they are very romantic by taking me out where I want!🤓🐶
I like the way this video is set up! I am not an audio learner, and I take in so much more information when I can visually see it like you did here. Thanks Elliot!
Definitely gonna be a good 3-6 mos before I possibly hear from him. But...... since I moved, there are endless opportunities. No loss!!! Amazing how when there are plenty of options, much easier to ignore 🙏🏼
The universe has brought me here after being in a 13 year long relationship... only to find out he was on dating apps the last 4 years during Quarantine 😩😩😩😷 letting go and moving on.. hopefully 👀 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
should you let a guy know you are dating multiple people in the talking stage? ive heard several men get so mad when girls do that, they say they are old fashion and want women to date just him and vice versa. what do you think of this concept?
I wouldn’t share that. It’s actually none of their business. Once you are exclusive then you can pull back from the other men without him having to know. It’s just hurtful and makes people insecure. Not worth it
I love the formatting and all the work you put in. The topic is really good as it's a very common problem for women. I've followed your advice and gotten rid of lots of men from these reasons. But I just love watching you and it helps to keep hearing it. Each video has a bit of information added which I didn't hear previously. Thanks and keep up the good work.
The sad part about this is why do I have to ignore him for him to act right! Grow up! If a man wants to call or text me he should want to do it just because he wants to. This ignoring shit really blows my mind. After a while I’ll become uninterested. 🤷🏾♀️
I know. It sucks and its stupid but Elliot isnt the only man explaining this my step uncle told me the same things about making a man work for you bc thats how they developed respect for you. That's just how it is unfortunately. I started taking my step uncle's advice and Elliot and my dating life became much easier. Guys actually started wanting me then they did before when I was too available. Guys like the chase and to feel like they earned you. They dont want a girl that they think any guy could easily have. They like to believe its their idea.
BritBrat-Sweetheart 923 I get it but it just stupid. Women always have to change themselves for a man to act right! This double standard of a society. I can ignore I don’t like while I’m dating others sure because I don’t like them. Yet they think that gives them the green light to chase me when it really means leave me alone. Men like to think everything is their idea. But ok..... 🙄
@@joyajackson5982 I agree. Men can sure suck. Been in a relationship for 6 years now. I have no desire to go back to the single world and put my heart out there to get broken again. I found love. Don't need to look anywhere else. Good luck
It’s funny..it hit me...you’re kind of the father so many woman (I) didn’t have...what you’re teaching us (me) is telling me how guys are and telling with love, care and tender protection ....how to be a strong, communicating woman standing in our (my )own feminine power. Thanx (daddy cool) ❤️ The handicapped learning to undo
Elliot! I've been watching your videos and I applied scarcity at the right times. It totally works like a charm. Among other tips, Ive gained control enough to feel like I know what I'm doing! Thanks for the knowledge!
I didn t make my standards clear but he has fallen more than twice about calling me in the evening and he even didn t answer my calls moreover he initiated to help me to fix something at my house on the following day ( Sunday) and he didn't nor he apologized
There are too many rules 🙄 Ughhh. When do I need to be forgiving? How do I forgive? Tbh, you know when someone is being kind and considerate. So if you instigate all the rules early on, you know you're off on the wrong foot. Not fun. What is the point to go out with someone, especially at the beginning, if it's not fun?
Elliott... I didn't give him any warning but I told him to lose my number because twice he just stopped communicating... I wanted him to see I have standards... Not sure if I handled this right? Im sorry... This is why... This is what I want ... 💯 Percent awesome advice 😂☺️😂 Let go of the outcome... Be clear about what you want when he comes back...
This is brilliant. Thank you so much. I love these formats and I love how you share home truths about men with us women. I love your no bs manner and that you don't mince words and you don't soften the blow - you tell it like it really is. You have helped so much already in a short period of time and I thank you!
This guy just text me Good Morning and Good Night every day. He use to text more, call me, video chat etc but then he just only text me Good Morning and Good Night very rarely anything else. It's very boring , I can't understand his game and Idk if I should just ignore him or not. Sidenote: We are long distance and can't explore us being more right now due to the pandemic.
I was going on my first date from being single. The stud me Up I waited 1 hour for him. He Call me are text. So next day. Still no answer from here. So Said some not good words to Him and delete all info about Him.
So I did ignore him, block him on social media and my cell because he said he doesn't want a relationship and I do. I'm fine with parting ways even though I love him, but he contacted me through my work phone not understanding why I cut him off. I told him again and he said I'm so amazing and he wants me in his life forever I'm one of his best friends. I told him I'm not interested in anything physical unless we are dating. He asked if we could still stay in touch. So far he's being cordial but not out of line. Should I still talk to him? I'm absolutely holding my ground this time.
Either accept he doesnt want a relationship and continue to stay only friends or let him go if it's too much for you to handle without temptation of letting him use you. Either way he made up his mind he doesn't want anything more. Believe him. A guy did the same thing to me and I convinced myself I could change his mind and it never happened all he wanted out of me was FWB but I wanted more and he knew that. But once he understood how much I really liked him he told me we had to stop, and told me he didnt want more than friends. I was hurt and told him I was done with him completely bc he did lead me on alot. We never spoken to each other since and that was nearly a decade ago. He was honest I just wasn't listening. It backfired for trying to force something that wasn't there.
@@Bella-Mae0422 I blocked him because we want different things. I was totally fine with never hearing from him again. He was the one who contacted me through my work number which I have no control over. I'm not doing FWB and he doesn't want a relationship, so I walked away. I'm not sure why he can't accept it because I already did. We don't see each other in person at all. He has texted me a couple times and I'm just trying to decide if I should completely block him or stay friends. I'm not tempted to fall for the bullshit anymore. I figure he will drift away once he realizes I'm not changing my mind. I want to find my person and he's not it and that's ok.
I'm into day 2 ...the guy already said he is not interested in a. relationship and I keep being accesible to him..so about 1 year..I think its time to just stop
I always tell guys that my celebrity crush is Leonardo Di Caprio, which is true! Then I go to other average Joe’s and find the one who gives me the most resources, respect and time!
Yeah, he said he didnt feel a spark, said he wanted to be friends, I didnt want that, left for a month and a half, no contact at all, he came back and now he wants to meet again(LDR). We'll see how it goes.
@sarokitas89 met up late march , had an amazing time together. Asked him what we were bevause at that point it'd been about a year and we were acting like a couple. He said he wanted to see where it goes and that was it for me, it was becoming a mind fuck. He promised we'd talk about it the following day , instead he ghosted me for almost 48 hours. I messaged him about ghosting me, he wrote me a message saying pretty much now the reason was that we move at different paces and that he wasn't the guy for me. Tearful phone call, I removed and blocked him on everything. Haven't spoken since but I think he's seeing someone new, possibly was talking to her when we were talking but I dint know
it absolutely works, he reached out once every two month, then I ignored him, then he reached out in two month, then I ignored him, then he‧‧‧‧‧best method ever
This is great but does this apply to younger men too? I'm 23 and stupidly dealing with boys of 20-21 years old I know that's not much younger than me haha but it's still a difference!
e v RUN guys that age are the worst! Trust me they don’t know shit and the sex is bad too. Don’t sleep with them until they’ve committed to you and be super careful.
For the god sake Eliot show up in full video!!!! You are great anyway and your messages are really worth listening! Why do you hide behind photo of messages or now this style! I feel disconnected! I cant see your eyes and your genuine body language! Please!!!;))
Regardless, this is for future use of not being so nice. Derrr I’m the same way. Don’t like to be chased too hard. Even when he did show so much in beginning or here and there, too much supply.
I have my ldr 1yr and 6 month's.... He's always ignoring me .and I pull him away twice he came back and say sorry and promise to communicate with me often.he said he don't want to lose me.but he still not doing he's promise .should to move on
Nah. He left me on read and gave me dry texts back a day later or didn't even answer. I'm a female btw. He got deleted. I've talked to him about more than a few times. Gtfo 🔚
What if he says "it takes time to change and i should be patient" as an excuse to not change (in my opinion) but its also reasonable so how do i resoond?
Elliot that don’t make the dog innocent for tearing the persons hand up, that don’t make him a good dog, and just cuz a person is soo nice and weak doesn’t mean they deserve to be treated like shit and that makes him even more evil in my eyes to hurt a nice person who’s not able to stand up for themselves
I also think we as women HYPERFOCUS into a male instead of living our own life. Also a man has to overemphasize onto building rapport and sustainability for us. They are also trying to have many options to get the best option and we need to do the same. Consider life is all I am saying. Calm down, and don't think something is a red flag when it is not. See if that helps, and that if we've readjusted focus if that helps. Personally I'm out of the game because I realize I'm still emotionally unavailable. The only thing I can expect having borderline personality disorder is a man with BPD and the man I like also has it 🙄😆😝
So then if you got ghosted and you have no choice, even though you do want the outcome, it's not gonna work? If you've been seeing each other for months?
Fuck yes it works.
Nofyah Shem Tov lmaooo
Really 😳😳😳
I dont want a guy that I habe to tell him to communicate with me more often. If he doesn't want to text ot call me I certainly don't want to push him to. He should WANT to contact me frequently and if he is coming and going then obviously there are other women he is pursuing or he is just not that into me. Which is likely the case. I've experienced this for 2-3 years. Theres the guy who messages me daily and theres the guy who messages every 1-4 weeks, especially when he is in my area or just too busy or chasing countless women. A man who wants us won't do any of this BS in the first place.
Cozette M what if his excuse is he works a lot and has a 2 year old? But only saw him when he had his son and once every couple weeks (only when he has his son cause if not he is working? 🤔
Exactly, we should not even deal with that. I've experienced it as well, (like most women these days). When the guy courted me daily, each time after a little time he turned out to withdraw or cut if off suddenly. Guys who have emotional unresolved issues, who were never available for something real but just wanted a taste of it.
I'm sorry I don't give a shit who you are if you want to be with someone then you want to see them and talk to them. Especially if they go from doing it all the time to not at all. That's BS and will never be okay with me!!
I agree if he’s not texting me fuck him saving my energy .. I really like a guy we dated for a month then bam ... he’s too busy.. went from dating to phone calls to texting every day to texting once a day to none ... ok dude I got the signal .. just fucking tell me with words that your mom interested, no biggie but the no communication is childish
Amennn! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
The only men that ever played games with me were ones that were beneath me. If you lower your standards, get ready to be played. Making them work for it weeds out the duds that keep up or stay consistent. It's win-win to hold out and play cool.
Making them work for it is a game?
Funny you mentioned giving 2 chances. I gave him 2 chances one year apart. He blew it. I dumped him 2 weeks ago. I love him, but i dont want a relationship like this.
Ive cut him off since 1/31. I don't put any efforts anymore. No calls, no messages, nothing. I had 2 pull away to save my own heart. Last time he messaged me was 2/15, that was the last time I responded. Now, im full blown ignoring him. Im in completely NC from now on. Still no apology for how he treated me. Im so tired of these games with men. Grow up....shit
blackwidow 81 I hear you. Keep it up girl.. he will reach out again however just work on u
@@taniawilliams14 o i plan on it.
I overstand you!
blackwidow 81 Would you ever take him back
Your young. And there is so much fish in the sea. Keep dating and enjoy yourself. 🌺🌸🌹💕🌸💕💐🙏
You might as well forget about them if they are not doing what you want them to do. Just wait for the right guy to come along and give you what you without having to say anything. If two people are on two different stages into the communication then it won't work anyway.
thats why there are so many 40-60 year old single women
If you always see him online and he's not calling you (no relationship could be built through the text) delete his number, he's talking to someone more important.
Yes true ...!!
Some men are more introverted though. That's not entirely accurate. But even then... Yes for the most part.
Even if it's not another woman he's choosing something else as a higher priority than you.
So what who cares
I just went out on a date with a guy, we both had a great time, but now he barely texts me. I have only initiated twice, but when he does reach out its like a summary of his day no questions about mine. I respond kindly, but cooly. Now I haven't heard from him in 5 days... I guess, it's time to ignore he's not for me.
You deserve so much more than this behaviour. Hope you find someone wonderful.
Omg girl! Same crap happened to me 7 years ago with a guy I use to really like. Led me on, hung out a few times, always texted me first to just BAM he stopped messaging me, he ignored me for days before giving me an answer as to why he was ignoring me. He finally answered almost a week later confessing *I can see us together for a while but not forever and from what I know about you YOU need someone better than me* But he would still randomly reach out to me talking about his day, leading me on again. Nice long paragraph like he still cared but once I responded he'd just leave it at *read* and I wouldn't hear from him again for months. He even stood me up 3 times. 5 months of it and I finally said to myself *FUCK IT.. he doesn't want me? Well somebody else will* I never bothered with him again and moved on and fell in love with another guy 2 months later and been together 6 years now. He tried coming back 4 different times but I told him everytime calmly that I wasn't into him anymore. Narcissist assholes never want the girl until she becomes a chase again. You're not alone. And please forgive me for the long summary. Your story just hit close to home with me. Dont make the mistake I did by letting that continue bc it will as long as you allow it. I made the mistake by letting it go on for 5 months. You can do better. You didn't lose him. He lost you. Don't forget that.
Sentence two should flip to top. Girl on top always 😍
BritBrat-Sweetheart 923 been a year of breadcrumbing for me
There's always someone better. Yeah, you kinda liked a guy.. So what. Imagine being treated like a princess by someone who cares. That's my new mentality with dating
Being MYSTERIOUSLY unavailable is quite ATTRACTIVE! Don't be thirsty... don't text them first...EVER...you don't want to be like the other women who lower their standards and bug people on social media... don't let them come over to date you after 9:00 pm...don't be a "booty call". Guy's love women who are busy but very "nice and hot!"
Why the hell women should not text guys if they want? It's stupid. Stupid game
If he respected and valued you he wouldn't risk loosing you if you have to tell a man how to treat you he doesn't deserve you
Think of it like this...you might like him, but you aren’t waiting around. You don’t need the games, find someone easy to interact with.
I can recommend you to someone that helped me get my ex back
Text him on what sap
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When a man and a woman genuinely share love none of this necessarily applies. This applies to people playing the field. True lovers make up the rules between them as they go along
Rebecca Churchman so true
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That’s fact !
I concur 💙
Absolutely Right.
If a guy ignored me in the past for a week I figured he didn't care enough. If he really liked me, he'd be thinking about me and if he's thinking about me he'd take even a few minutes to call. It's as simple as that in my opinion. Hey it worked. I waited for that guy who was truly interested and I'm engaged now after being divorced for 10 years.
I’ve recently spilt from someone myself and on an app. Damn these online dudes are a pain in the ass and makes me miss my ex. He was never flaky like this shit. Sigh!!!
@@skyfall1481 😃 yeah that's probably not the best way to meet someone. What about church? People lie like crazy on dating sites.
@@jeanzyc.5103 Yeah, looking into local clubs to meet better quality people. Even if it’s friendship. But, I understand if someone doesn’t have interest to want to meet..but sometimes the ones who don’t want to meet, I wonder what they’re hiding. God knows who you’re really talking to.
People lie everywhere. The church isn't any different.
I told guy after I took him out for dinner for his birthday and he was constantly on his phone. I told him to to lose my number. It’s been a month. That was disrespectful no matter who it is. So I will not reach back out. I’m okay not having someone like that in my life.
amy 92 your first mistake was taking him to dinner, if he was really into you, he would have took you to dinner. Lean back, relax, be the prize.
amy 92 but it was his birthday? So it’s normal to answer the phone
@@welshlady212000 Yes, I agree. For his birthday "from a girl", I guess a card would be nice and then "he would" take "both of you" for dinner. Sorry girl :-)
I agree with the other comments. Sorry hun but never give a guy who isnt your man a silver platter when you first meet him. I did that for a guy once. Me and him went on a blind double date with a friend and her boyfriend at Dave & Busters. First time I met him. I payed for his food. I spoiled him. I know I was good to him. And when it finally came down to him actually buying me something, like a cute stuffed animal from the arcade he instead used his winning tickets to buy himself something instead. Such a douche bag. My friend and her man pointed that out to me. I was so embarrassed since it was my first time meeting him too. Guys just for some reason dont respect women that they dont have to work for. I learned that the hard way at one time too. Next time make the man pay for you. It will rise your respect status love. Good luck!
@@steffis699 Wow,that's is good point too. I did not even think about that.......
These "relationship advice" videos are about BOYS. A real MAN doesn't need to act like a stupid teenager or play games to have a relationship with a high value good woman. Period.
Yasss
Sandy- I agree totally.
Ya, and 99.9% are still boys.
Yup!!! D-U-M-B
Isn't a real man with value going to walk away if he is ignored?
IT WORKS! Like Elliot said, BUILD THE ATTRACTION. MAKE HIM INVEST/PUT IN THE WORK. The RIGHT GUY will evolve and adapt. TRUST ME!
1) Play one or a few of Elliot’s videos a day until these concepts sink in enough until they become second nature. 👌
2) Put these concepts into ACTION when you feel ready. I suggest practicing on guys you don’t really care for because if it doesn’t work out then hey, you didn’t like him that much any way, nothing lost. ✌️
3) PRACTICE makes DAMN NEAR PERFECT! 👊
SIDE NOTE: NO ONE, is a mind reader. COMMUNICATION and CONSISTENCY is KEY! If the guy messes up, bring it to his attention/communicate. If he messes up AGAIN, either cut him loose OR make him earn his way back to you (NEVER be the 1st one to reach out or do ANYTHING, he lost that privilege).
Don’t encourage people to ‘practice’ on men they don’t have feelings for. That’s cruel and unnecessary to do that to someone and it ruins it for that man when a woman who genuinely loves him comes along. Don’t take this advice at all, karma will get you if you do.
The fact that we are watching this is an indication of something..... time to break up sis
Yes! People do not respond to talk, they respond to consequences! I will say though that I’m not answering if it’s obvious what he did wrong. Those are my standards. I don’t want an idiot. Most men know after a certain age.
It's never going to work no matter what you do if he's just not in love with you. Even if he does at one point, eventually love fades anyway.. you're never going to win if you're expecting love from someone else other than yourself
So can you win if you don’t expect love ?
“Even if he does at one point love fades away” your basically saying don’t give love a try or dating a try because you’ll have that fear of them fading out of love with you. Lmao??????? You have to try and if they fall out of love there’s always reasons. Figure it out.
Yes one thing to remember is like he said... sometimes its not that anyone is wrong or trying to be offensive - as in the texting vs calling example. Sometimes its just incompatibility.
The nice thing is when you heal you heart and focus on improving yourself your more able to accept the hard truths.
thank you for your videos!
I get tired of saying something and calling him out, so I let my actions do the talking, dont care if he stays or go... am done.
I pulled away for seven months. We are meeting next week. It's been rough. He says I'm his queen and he's my king. He chased for seven months. Listen to this it works!
7 months? No fucking way! BY THEN I AM DONE! BYE BYE! SEE YOU!! That is a ---- NO for me!! What happens after? Another 7 months space? That ain't a relationship!!
nofy bn facts I was done after a month with a dude that used me then he tried to come back a month later I said fuck no even at the age of 19 I knew not to let him back
@@shutit4024 right? A guy that I use to talk to 7 years ago led me on and then rejected me but still kept me around as his ego booster bc he sure as shit didnt want me but loved me wanting him while he was out banging other girls he's keeping me in the dark convincing me he'd one day be with me he had no problem hanging out with anyone else but made every excuse as to why he couldnt see me yet he swore he had such *strong feelings for me* but was going through shit wow was I an idiot then. Once I was over it and got into a new relationship and still with my man today the asshole tried coming back 4 different times over the last 5 years saying that *I'm the one who got away* and wants to give us another chance bc he messed up bla bla bla. I was flattered and kind but still done.
If a guy doesn't reach out to me in a month he's OUT for good.
It probably didn’t workout with the other chick.
I really like how you address some potential men thinking this is stupid. It means a lot to have another man stand up and be like “no, it’s a standard she has just as you have”. I can’t STAND when some dudes have all these qualifications on your breast and ass size but literally nothing *actually* important like communication skills, common interests, common desires. This is such a great video!
Ladies.... Don't date a skater. They'll just waste your time
That is tru
Roller skates or skate board
Can't believe that love has to be this complicated.. I think I rather die alone than play this stupid games with men smh
Me too
you'll die alone anything lol. People in relationships will die alone. Noone coming with you on the journey of death. We were botn alone and we'll die alone. I think once people really reflect on the meaning of this they wouldnt stress out so much about relationships
@@bullgirlmamamuse7452so wise…
Actually incorrect. It can take years for people to die. And your at the mercy of strangers or completely isolated at your most vulnerable.
Elliot is the only one who truly said that you have to ignore 100%,as if you'll never hear from him again and that's absolutely true. I actually figured that out by myself when I finally decided to move amd not care whether he comes back and I just happened to come across his videos amd I'm so glad he says the same thing, I just wish I'd found his channel before so I wouldn't have made the same DAMN mistakes for years! I'm happy to have reached a place where I value myself and have better self esteem though. Work on yourself ladies the glow up is WORTH it irrespective of whether you get te guy (p. S. He did initiate contact with me but I left him on seen. Give him a taste of his own medicine lol)
Taking more notes than in all of my college classes combined.
I'm binge-watching your videos and man, I'm enthusiast about your insights. Finally no sugarcoating, no mansplaining. I might post a question on a specific point.
This is funny because a lot of men feel the same about women, they want you to go after them. Screw that!! I think it's why I've given up on finding someone. I'm not desperate and I know what I want, but chasing to me is playing games. I just won't invest in anyone now until they invest first. To many people play games these days and I don't care who you are. Every person has made mistakes in some way shape or form but you learn. I know I have!
I have a ton of options, and I don’t have time for predatory creeps! Also, they say at least five guys at a time, not for sex, just as a one date term. They don’t get a second date unless they are very romantic by taking me out where I want!🤓🐶
thanks for the reminder about standards! That’s right it’s a numbers game
Trust this crazy cat man, it works, I'm a crazy gemini and this shit works.
YogaChocolateLove I’m a Gemini
So basically ignoring 100% is moving on and not looking back.
Why am i liking this video before even watching it? I guess because i saw that it was more than 10 minutes long with a pretty cool title.
I like the way this video is set up! I am not an audio learner, and I take in so much more information when I can visually see it like you did here. Thanks Elliot!
Definitely gonna be a good 3-6 mos before I possibly hear from him. But...... since I moved, there are endless opportunities. No loss!!! Amazing how when there are plenty of options, much easier to ignore 🙏🏼
The universe has brought me here after being in a 13 year long relationship... only to find out he was on dating apps the last 4 years during Quarantine 😩😩😩😷 letting go and moving on.. hopefully 👀 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
should you let a guy know you are dating multiple people in the talking stage? ive heard several men get so mad when girls do that, they say they are old fashion and want women to date just him and vice versa. what do you think of this concept?
I wouldn’t share that. It’s actually none of their business. Once you are exclusive then you can pull back from the other men without him having to know. It’s just hurtful and makes people insecure. Not worth it
I love the formatting and all the work you put in. The topic is really good as it's a very common problem for women. I've followed your advice and gotten rid of lots of men from these reasons. But I just love watching you and it helps to keep hearing it. Each video has a bit of information added which I didn't hear previously. Thanks and keep up the good work.
The sad part about this is why do I have to ignore him for him to act right! Grow up! If a man wants to call or text me he should want to do it just because he wants to. This ignoring shit really blows my mind. After a while I’ll become uninterested. 🤷🏾♀️
I know. It sucks and its stupid but Elliot isnt the only man explaining this my step uncle told me the same things about making a man work for you bc thats how they developed respect for you. That's just how it is unfortunately. I started taking my step uncle's advice and Elliot and my dating life became much easier. Guys actually started wanting me then they did before when I was too available. Guys like the chase and to feel like they earned you. They dont want a girl that they think any guy could easily have. They like to believe its their idea.
BritBrat-Sweetheart 923 I get it but it just stupid. Women always have to change themselves for a man to act right! This double standard of a society. I can ignore I don’t like while I’m dating others sure because I don’t like them. Yet they think that gives them the green light to chase me when it really means leave me alone. Men like to think everything is their idea. But ok..... 🙄
@@joyajackson5982 I agree. Men can sure suck. Been in a relationship for 6 years now. I have no desire to go back to the single world and put my heart out there to get broken again. I found love. Don't need to look anywhere else. Good luck
It’s funny..it hit me...you’re kind of the father so many woman (I) didn’t have...what you’re teaching us (me) is telling me how guys are and telling with love, care and tender protection ....how to be a strong, communicating woman standing in our (my )own feminine power. Thanx (daddy cool)
❤️
The handicapped learning to undo
Elliot! I've been watching your videos and I applied scarcity at the right times. It totally works like a charm. Among other tips, Ive gained control enough to feel like I know what I'm doing! Thanks for the knowledge!
I like this format and you had me cracking up as usual. Love your work.
I didn t make my standards clear but he has fallen more than twice about calling me in the evening and he even didn t answer my calls moreover he initiated to help me to fix something at my house on the following day ( Sunday) and he didn't nor he apologized
I saw the sign, and it opened up my eyes, I saw the sign...Thanks, Elliot, for sticking Ace Of Base in my head, lol
This feels like maths , I am not good at maths!
There are too many rules 🙄 Ughhh. When do I need to be forgiving? How do I forgive?
Tbh, you know when someone is being kind and considerate. So if you instigate all the rules early on, you know you're off on the wrong foot. Not fun.
What is the point to go out with someone, especially at the beginning, if it's not fun?
Hm ........ :-)
You make YOUR rules, what does not feel right to YOU will be your rule, your standard.
Yes I know that but good to say it out loud 👍✨
Only if the rule is broken to bring it up. Not necessarily as a “rule” but just as what you are needing. Like Elliot said, two chances then you’re out
Elliott... I didn't give him any warning but I told him to lose my number because twice he just stopped communicating... I wanted him to see I have standards... Not sure if I handled this right?
Im sorry...
This is why...
This is what I want ...
💯 Percent awesome advice 😂☺️😂
Let go of the outcome...
Be clear about what you want when he comes back...
This is brilliant. Thank you so much. I love these formats and I love how you share home truths about men with us women. I love your no bs manner and that you don't mince words and you don't soften the blow - you tell it like it really is. You have helped so much already in a short period of time and I thank you!
This guy just text me Good Morning and Good Night every day. He use to text more, call me, video chat etc but then he just only text me Good Morning and Good Night very rarely anything else. It's very boring , I can't understand his game and Idk if I should just ignore him or not.
Sidenote: We are long distance and can't explore us being more right now due to the pandemic.
Very clear and no questions left🎉
I was going on my first date from being single. The stud me
Up I waited 1 hour for him. He
Call me are text. So next day.
Still no answer from here. So
Said some not good words to
Him and delete all info about
Him.
You need merch that says "For the love of God don't do it" 🤣
8:00 Let's say even though of we won't understand what you're trying to say, these metaphors are very helpful.
After this video, in my heart you are oficially my brother I always wanted!
With lots of gratefulnes, I love you! Thank you!
Lol! The beware of dog sign!!!! Hahaha great analogy
So I did ignore him, block him on social media and my cell because he said he doesn't want a relationship and I do. I'm fine with parting ways even though I love him, but he contacted me through my work phone not understanding why I cut him off. I told him again and he said I'm so amazing and he wants me in his life forever I'm one of his best friends. I told him I'm not interested in anything physical unless we are dating. He asked if we could still stay in touch. So far he's being cordial but not out of line. Should I still talk to him? I'm absolutely holding my ground this time.
C H no
C H no let him go.. unless you want him to continue to be disrespectful to u
Either accept he doesnt want a relationship and continue to stay only friends or let him go if it's too much for you to handle without temptation of letting him use you.
Either way he made up his mind he doesn't want anything more. Believe him. A guy did the same thing to me and I convinced myself I could change his mind and it never happened all he wanted out of me was FWB but I wanted more and he knew that. But once he understood how much I really liked him he told me we had to stop, and told me he didnt want more than friends. I was hurt and told him I was done with him completely bc he did lead me on alot. We never spoken to each other since and that was nearly a decade ago. He was honest I just wasn't listening. It backfired for trying to force something that wasn't there.
@@Bella-Mae0422 I blocked him because we want different things. I was totally fine with never hearing from him again. He was the one who contacted me through my work number which I have no control over. I'm not doing FWB and he doesn't want a relationship, so I walked away. I'm not sure why he can't accept it because I already did. We don't see each other in person at all. He has texted me a couple times and I'm just trying to decide if I should completely block him or stay friends. I'm not tempted to fall for the bullshit anymore. I figure he will drift away once he realizes I'm not changing my mind. I want to find my person and he's not it and that's ok.
C H he sounds like a Narcissist and only wants you to remain in his life to try and keep you around to toy with you. Stay no contact.
I know some guys who ignore women doe the reasons thay we shouldn't ignore them for. Ego, pride and to punish. It's so childish.
I'm into day 2 ...the guy already said he is not interested in a. relationship and I keep being accesible to him..so about 1 year..I think its time to just stop
I always tell guys that my celebrity crush is Leonardo Di Caprio, which is true! Then I go to other average Joe’s and find the one who gives me the most resources, respect and time!
I love this guys channel! So real no BS method 💥
Yeah, he said he didnt feel a spark, said he wanted to be friends, I didnt want that, left for a month and a half, no contact at all, he came back and now he wants to meet again(LDR). We'll see how it goes.
How did it go??
@sarokitas89 met up late march , had an amazing time together. Asked him what we were bevause at that point it'd been about a year and we were acting like a couple. He said he wanted to see where it goes and that was it for me, it was becoming a mind fuck. He promised we'd talk about it the following day , instead he ghosted me for almost 48 hours. I messaged him about ghosting me, he wrote me a message saying pretty much now the reason was that we move at different paces and that he wasn't the guy for me. Tearful phone call, I removed and blocked him on everything. Haven't spoken since but I think he's seeing someone new, possibly was talking to her when we were talking but I dint know
Thank you. Your videos are valuable. Appreciating you here from South Africa.
Soooooo glad I found you my goodness. This structure will be very helpful in the future. Over here treating 6's like 10's.. no mo!!
I met a guy who never bother to say "I am sorry". Everything cannot be his faults... Duh...Horrible if fall in love with this type of personality.
I love this video!! This is the best and straight forward answer no BS talk, I like this approach, Elliot!
Hi, Elliot. Does ignoring include the viewing of IG stories? We don’t talk but we still views stories of one another.
it absolutely works, he reached out once every two month, then I ignored him, then he reached out in two month, then I ignored him, then he‧‧‧‧‧best method ever
You are so funny and at the same time so intelligent in this field
I like the format. It helps me understand your points better
This is awesome Elliot! I like this format as well! ❤
Yay, thank you!
Can I know how should we react when we are working in one place? Which need us to communicate and see each other.🤔
Yes why yes I LOVE your videos Elliot! You da best !! ♥️
This is great but does this apply to younger men too? I'm 23 and stupidly dealing with boys of 20-21 years old I know that's not much younger than me haha but it's still a difference!
e v RUN guys that age are the worst! Trust me they don’t know shit and the sex is bad too. Don’t sleep with them until they’ve committed to you and be super careful.
For the god sake Eliot show up in full video!!!! You are great anyway and your messages are really worth listening! Why do you hide behind photo of messages or now this style! I feel disconnected! I cant see your eyes and your genuine body language! Please!!!;))
That's funny. I though the same thing ...... "he's too small" :-)
One of your best videos... Keep doing them. Yes, much better. Thank you! 💚
Regardless, this is for future use of not being so nice. Derrr I’m the same way. Don’t like to be chased too hard. Even when he did show so much in beginning or here and there, too much supply.
Another great video Elliot, thank you!! 😁
I have my ldr 1yr and 6 month's....
He's always ignoring me .and I pull him away twice he came back and say sorry and promise to communicate with me often.he said he don't want to lose me.but he still not doing he's promise .should to move on
Nah. He left me on read and gave me dry texts back a day later or didn't even answer. I'm a female btw. He got deleted. I've talked to him about more than a few times. Gtfo 🔚
Thank you! Happy Easter!
Great information!🙂
What if he says "it takes time to change and i should be patient" as an excuse to not change (in my opinion) but its also reasonable so how do i resoond?
What if he’s testing you
You ignore him, standards first
If he's testing you, that's a jerk move! People need to learn to be honest.......PERIOD! I'd walk away!
Love this format! Thanks!
I love that you took time to acknowledge my comment! Super cool! Happy Easter!!
Great video Elliot one of my favourites ❤️ stay safe 🙏🏻
This is your best video yet. Thank you
Elliot that don’t make the dog innocent for tearing the persons hand up, that don’t make him a good dog, and just cuz a person is soo nice and weak doesn’t mean they deserve to be treated like shit and that makes him even more evil in my eyes to hurt a nice person who’s not able to stand up for themselves
Great video Elliot ❤️ stay home and stay safe.
This seems like good advice for high schoolers, not for grown adults tough.
I understand all your concepts. You explain with many examples and make it so much fun and you're funny
Hey Elliott good topic to talk about
Thanks! Great video
Glad you liked it!
Great video. Very helpful!
Happy Easter elliot
THIS TITLE ELLIOT!!!!! 😂😂🤣🤣😭⚰️💀 Hilarious 👏👏👏
Love this. It makes alot of sense.
love this format
I also think we as women HYPERFOCUS into a male instead of living our own life. Also a man has to overemphasize onto building rapport and sustainability for us. They are also trying to have many options to get the best option and we need to do the same. Consider life is all I am saying. Calm down, and don't think something is a red flag when it is not. See if that helps, and that if we've readjusted focus if that helps.
Personally I'm out of the game because I realize I'm still emotionally unavailable. The only thing I can expect having borderline personality disorder is a man with BPD and the man I like also has it 🙄😆😝
"I also think we as women HYPERFOCUS into a male instead of living our own life." Anxious attachment, due to CPTSD?
So then if you got ghosted and you have no choice, even though you do want the outcome, it's not gonna work? If you've been seeing each other for months?