Your content is clear, calming and very eye opening in an incredibly simple way. I've learned more from your videos in minutes than I have in months about my own depression and anxiety. Please keep the content coming, incredible stuff.
Thank you for your feedback, it’s good to know that my work is making a difference! Video 7 has just been uploaded on my Patreon website and it discusses depression in great depth. It is my intention to make many many more videos :-). John
WOW. Thank you x 100! RUclips didn't exist when I first started to suffer at 18, I had no idea what was going on and was unable to tell anyone for fear or judgement due to the nature of my intrusive thoughts. This would have saved me years of rumination and mental torment. This should be taught in schools. Thank you for sharing your knowledge it is truly eye opening and I can't wait to watch the whole series!
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife Ah thank you so much! I've heard of the different personality types but I didn't know which one I was, I will have a look into it, thank you!
Being an observer of your thoughts takes life to a different level. Its amazing how powerful the mind is. Thank you so much john You have changed my life
Glad you like my work - my existing 6 videos and the many more I am making will all be here if you are interested? www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
You've done more in this video then what Nhs has ever done for me and am 28 years old and being going doctors for at least 8 years that should put you a smile on your face cause it has mine well done 💪💪
I say it again I love your videos it explains so much and each time you talk about criteria to who gets depression, OCD and anxiety I am almost in every single criteria.
Thank you, I have been working with OCD for many years and I used to have it myself. Video 4 explains how exhaustion and fatigue play a role in OCD. John
These videos are very very helpful I often watch your videos when no one is around and all I can hear is your videos. It really helps calm me down and I definitely use your advise and continue to watch these videos.
Thank you kind sir, I found your videos last night and an thoroughly enjoying them as they are so very well explained and easy to understand, I had to stop and write this comment, now I'll be on my way to video 4, can't wait 🙏🌹
That is kind of you to say - I believe we should all have a kind voice we use to talk to ourselves with (in our heads) - John ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
Finding this channel was the best thing that ever happen to me. Ive been having ocd for the past 13 years and your videos make me believe that there is a way of tackling it. Please dont stop making these videos as they are exceptional and also you are very articulate.
Thankyou from the bottom of my heart.. really appreciate you making the videos It's really effective,simple and clear I will share this with my friends and family, and also Hope it reach out to the people who need this the most
I'm sad that your videos aren't as viral as they deserve to be. The concepts you've shared have made more sense than anything else I've heard - as attested by other subscribers. I have so many questions though I'm telling myself not to worry about them till I finish all your videos on Patreon (just signed up). I really do hope I find the answer to how I can make myself just DO the things I'm avoiding, despite my overwhelming emotions and anxiety over them..anyway, truly grateful for your work
I like the format you’ve chosen, a mix of explanation, examples, summary and homework. I also like being given direct practices to do. So many YT videos take a long time to get to the point
Thank you for your kind feedback - I am working on videos 5 and 6 right now - all new videos will only be accessible from my private web page and with a tiny charge of $3 - it would be a pleasure if you could join my community. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I've watched a lot of your videos and this is by far the most powerful. Just like in education, people get a better understanding of something when you show them a practical example. Regards❤️
This is quite extraordinary. Over these 3 videos so far I have learned so much, and I am getting a new perspective into what is really going on with myself, and how to self soothe. I actually realised that I actually do sometimes use a placebo to trick my subconscious mind, but I never realised actually did it or how effective it actually was until I saw this video and look back. When I am very happy, I talk to Myself ALOT. I think the reason for this is because of the placebo that I placed on myself(without realising) , overlooking all the good and neglecting the bad. I will try these placebo techniques out and can't wait to watch the next video. Thank you, from the Republic of Ireland! 🇮🇪❤️
I absolutely love you videos! And only stumbled on them a couple of days ago. I’m so grateful that you made them. Look forward to continue watching them. Thank you!
Thank you Kassandra, videos 4,5 and 7 are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist and video 8 will be uploaded next weekend. I am trying to transition so my full time job is making these videos and people can access really cool content for just a couple of dollars, so they get really powerful tools cheaply and I can make a living, win, win. John
Hi John. Is it possible to work through trauma without having to relive it as in the emotions? I think I saw a comment saying that but just wanted to clarify. Thank you in advance.
It is the trapped emotions from the past trauma that needs to be released. There is the "Story" about what happened and then there are the stuck emotions from what happened. See anxiety as a good thing, see it as stuck emotions coming up, rather than you trying to avoid anxiety which is pushing stuck emotions (that want to escape) back down! In about another 10 videos time, I will be explaining how this works and what to do about it. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife I'm definitely not! Your way of explaining is perfect for my analytical brain. I already knew about the sympatic/parasympatic systems and different techniques to stimulate the vagus nerve but your demonstration in the 3rd video was mind-blowing for me. I went from a 12/10 anxiety level to feeling sleepy after talking softly to myself and dropping my shoulders! Thanks a million as I'm facing 47 years old childhood fears in my life right now 💜
Thank you very much John. Certainly your video 3 as you suggested to watch regarding Placebo was indeed very useful and of course the rest of all your videos will be most helpful.
Thank you for your kind words, I currently am filming videos 5 and 6 and will post them on my Patreon site soon, please tell others if you like my work. John
The answer was there all along. "Be still and know that I am God." Psalm.46:10 Be still. Talk to yourself nice and calmly. Take a few deep breaths and repeat. Trick your own subconscience by remaining calm even when you have an increase of adrenalin. Thank you
It's a fascinating subject when you really drill down Dave. I have 13 videos in my patreon website and I add one new video per month as I try to capture in videos all I have learned in the last 20 years! Glad you like it. Cheers John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife hello sir...i have a question about psychology...i have an interest about psychology, neurotransmitters,behaving lecture speeches about disorders...my question is if i want to read a book about modern psychology,who is the best influencer after Sigmund Freud and carl Jung..can i take Sigmund and Carl Jung seriously in modern psychology...are still reliable their theories???thnx for your time
I am not a psychologist so I can't give you academic advice on this, only my personal views as an engineer. I love Jung's work especially around archetypes, in fact, I think that learning about personality types, emotion stacks and the like is a big part of therapy that has been missing for years. My focus these days is not on understanding why we are the way we are, but more on what we need to do to live better lives and feel better. How we can reprogram ourselves. To that end, here are a list of people I like, although academically these people would often be scoffed at for being 'new age' - but they work, if a person puts the effort in to reprogram the brain. Dr Joe Dispenza Dr David R Hawkins Dr Bruce Lipton Dr Jordan Peterson John
Hi there. Thank you for these informative videos. I have so far watched the shorter clips and videos 1 and 2. The longer ones are great so far. Thank you as well for being so detailed and consise with what you say. ive got a nasty habit which I recently discovered falls under OCD, and now I'm finding theres not a box i dont tick with this stuff... except maybe the intelligence part haha. Its like youre describing me... all the time! It's a really odd feeling that. Also thought the sweat meter was a great way to show the effects of the concious mind effecting the subconcious too. Cheers and good health to you.
My course now has 20 videos that show you what to do for only £3 per month, might be worth checking it out? Best wishes John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Hello, I'm 30 yo, I have ocd since i was 8 yo, there are a lot of techniques that helps, but this way of understanding this inability to control our brain helps a lot, ppl like u change the world, keep it up. I would like to do the same in my enviroment once I can fully control it and help others. Thanks u a lot!
Please PLES I need more. Thank you so very much for helping,for understanding. When you are in this place mentally and really have no idea why this is happening inside your mind, you are just scared. What you are doing is beyond therapeutic. More like Essential tools to live. 🙏 thank you
This is so wonderful! I am so full f hope for my adult daughter who has OCD, AND I am planning to use this for my own anxiety as well. This ties together so many other things I’ve been learning. John, is this your very own way invention? Or is it CBT? This is quite genius! If I become a patron can both my daughter and I use the videos? Do you offer remote consultations? BTW both my daughter and I are IN FJ. I am enneagram type 6. No one has ever given me any hope for my daughter who I know is such a beautiful soul but suffering so much with this condition. When you say that the OCD starts with an episode of being self-conscious I now completely understand why she has it it’s not something that I want to post here but it makes total sense to me now. I am looking forward to being a patron and sharing this wonderful work that you do with her.
Hello Ann, thank you for your kind words, the process I have developed is a mixture of many types of therapy and common sense that I used to reprogram myself into somebody, within which, anxiety could not survive, I starved it's source of energy - I stopped worrying! To answer your questions, firstly it's not really possible for Patreon to have sharing accounts, so you will both need to sign up but it is only a couple of dollars each time I release a video and yes I do offer remote sessions www.johnglanvill.com Being an INFJ can be exhausting until you figure it out, but when you do it's cool, we are just a bit weird! I am filming videos 5 and 6 very shortly and I will go into deep detail about anxiety and OCD. Thank you for supporting me, if you like my work please spread the word. John
When will be here video 4 and 5? Great videos. Before the videos i didn't have too strong anxiety and panic. I was able to handle with breathe, but this helps me a lot more. What if i have intrusive images too? How to battle with them?
Hi, glad you like the videos. Videos 4,5 and all future ones are accessible from here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist I am trying to make them as cheap as possible, but I still need to earn a living and feed my family :-) John
You are very welcome - there are 6 free videos in my channel and numbers 7 to 20 in my anxiety course here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you are interested? John
Thank you, videos 1 to 6 are in my RUclips channel and videos 7 to 20 are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist where I add one new video each month and answer peoples questions for just $3 (US) per month. John
Dear sir, Thank you for your videos, they really go further than any OCD videos in terms of analysis and understanding of that condition. I have OCD since I’m a child, started to change two years with new themes such as health, self harm, harm, relation etc. But 10 months ago it started to be severe. The anxiety started to give me physical symptoms such as diarrhea. Unfortunately my brain has linked that butterfly anxiety feeling in my stomach to I am going to have uncontrollable diarrhea in public. It has taken me out of work and I wasn’t able to go out at l for 5 months. Now I am 5 months into therapy and some of my themes gave switched. I am now able to go out with the fear of diarrhea but I still get sick every morning. Morning are just impossible I can’t go out or do anything especially when I’m alone. It’s like my stomach goes automatically sick. I am trying to ignore the thoughts and continue my life but the urge of running to the bathroom is too hard. It is stopping me from finding a job again. I don’t know how to do, would love some help :( Thanks and regards from Denmark
Thank you for you kind words - I talk about your situation in some of my later videos especially videos 11 and 12 have you seen those yet? John ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
Very good presentation imo! Your description of the “3 brains” makes so much sense. Perhaps I’m not quite getting this but if the sub or unconscious emotional brain doesn’t understand language, how do thoughts actually affect it? Perhaps it’s that language has no meaning apart from its relationship to actual or imagined “things”?
I have this strange situation where I've dealt with almost everything else in my mind, nearly all the fears I did have I am now able to deal with when they arise in my head. But there's this one thought which stays, which is about a music artist who I am a massive fan of and someone who I really look up to. Even though i'm almost 100% sure i'm a good person, there is this very small percentage of my mind which is unsure. And as a result I worry whether that person would like me. as you have mentioned in your videos before, Maybe that little nagging doubt is due to the fact the unconscious and conscious mind don't work together. As you've said OCD will use any opportunity it gets to morph into something else you fear, so it's about catching and making sure it doesn't create another worry.
Hey i got the point which you are saying !! Thnxx a lot for all these videos 😊 but you have told to lower stress or worry but how can i stop fighting my thoughts and thinking each and every small thing which dont create anxiety but i keep on fighting and i dont want to think so but it happens
There is no need to fight thoughts - just don't believe them or give them any meaning. You don't fight or believe your dreams and they come from the same place - your brain (which sits in darkness guessing at what you should do!) My course teaches you what the next steps are, videos 4 to 14 are in there and I add a new video each month. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist best wishes John
Dear Sir, Your videos are miraculous and has a great positive impact on the mind. I just want to ask a quick question You mentioned that subconcious mind responds to tonality and not the words said. What if a manager tells the employee very nicely that they cannot continue with this job because of a certain reason and the body goes through the feeling and emotions of utter anxiety?
That is a different response detailed in video 8 (in the course) where the brains amygdala unconsciously responds to a conditioned response such as rejection, failure or loss of status etc. Best wishes John
Thank you for this great video. I'm researching material for a book on personal development from a scientific perspective and would like to refer to your example of the stress response from imagining slapping yourself. Who should I credit for that? Is that your own research or is it based on a published academic research paper by someone else? (and if so by who?)
I have been having very annoying,intrusive thoughts, that ask me to do very unimportant and pointless things, for the most strange irrelevant reasons, I have not been doing it, however, i notice that especially when I am alone, the thoughts tend to get worse and creep up. It's almost as if, my subconscious brings them up, but I cannot consciously allow myself to do it, I used to do compulsions, and then ask myself "why did i do that, or why did i have to do that". Without even thinking I would just do it to not have to deal with obsessive thoughts, however, i soon realized that this began to get worse, as it became a cycle, and it seemed something always ended up becoming an obsession, from deleting text messages, to deleting phone convos, I knew I had to stop. I have been watching these videos and I do see differences and improvements, I just hope I continue to get rid of these pointless thoughts, that cause exhausting and intrusive arguments in the mind.
It's not about getting rid of the thoughts, it is about learning to stop your attention from being addicted to them, by placing your conscious awareness elsewhere.
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife I understand that John, but I have been having trouble making decisions lately, feeling stuck or paralyzed making some specific decisions, let me give you an example, i bought a new computer, and now i have my old one lying around, my ocd says to visit an old site and click on the cookies agreement, because it's possible that I did not do that months ago due to OCD intrusive thoughts/images. It says if thats true you must do it! Now i know this is just plain silly, but here is the thing. It creates confusion in the sense that I do not know if I want to turn on my old computer out of freedom/creativity, or am I doing it because of anxiety/ocd? I keep thinking about doing it but can not even physically plug in the computer because it gives a very bad feeling, and I do not want to do things because of anxiety or ocd. I hope you can understand and get back to me, also I have been watching videos 13,14, and 15, and began listening to 16. It helps, but I was wondering if you can give me any specifics here, thanks!
Your problem is that you feel "responsible" for too many things. Normally this is a nomad who has been too trained to be a settler. You need to find the more reckless, selfish and fun part of you and learn to go out and play more!
The same principles can be applied to PTSD, however there seem to be two more steps required. Firstly to release the trapped trauma (held down fear) stored in the body - (this is REALLY important), and secondly, the retraining of those parts of the brain that were primed from that event to become hypersensitive as a human protection mechanism. I suppose thirdly, there is the requirement for the person to redevelop the confidence and self-esteem they lost from having PTSD. Hope this helps a little? My course teaches all these things - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
Hi, this is a trailer from a video within my course about releasing energy ruclips.net/video/g4gHpQJFOas/видео.html - the whole course is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife Hi!!!!! No....thank you. Beyond BRILLIANT!!! Im 11 months into active recovery...and your education is invaluable!!!!💪❤
Hi john, thanks for your content. I know that the way for getting along with the thought and the emotions is to accept them and observe them for creating space. But you suggesting here to trick the mind, tracking the mind doesn’t sound to me as accepting. Can you please make this point more clear? Thanks
I teach how to accept what is happening until you can trick (or reprogram) the mind into working differently. A bit like accepting your back hurts until you have done the yoga to loosen it up. I go into lots of detail about this in the course and give many examples.
Avoiding makes things worse and keeps you stuck. Of course, accepting your anxiety and "sitting with it" are what exposure therapy is all about - and is probably the best way you can get a big change. I talk about this is Video 8 of my course. Http://www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Hi , I have watched a few of your videos especially on OCD, but would love to see them in order. They pop up randomly on you tube. Which is the best way to subscribe to your course? Thanks
Great video. Right now I'm suffering from anxiety and OCD. And maybe depression also. For my anxiety and OCD, it came from Coronavirus. I'm really really scared of it so in this couple of months it anxiety and OCD became really bad. Right now taking anti-anxiety drug to keep it down but this will not fix it. Doctor gave me SSRI also but did not want to take that. I go to work every day really hard to do anything at work but I have to go to work. So I'm out so what made my anxiety really bad is I don't want to bring it back to my house and get everyone sick. I don't have coronavirus but I just think that I may have it. So I keep away from my kids and wife all the time. For OCD I feel like that I may have coronavirus on my hand so I wash my hands all the time, can't touch anything at my house just thinking I may spread it. Cant go shopping, eat, etc thinking that I will get it. So this couple of months is a very hard time for me. I really want to get my life back and smile with my family and give all a big hugs. It's really sad that can't do it. I try all kinds of natural things supplements, food, etc but not getting better. For me how to fix it what should I do? The only way is when coronavirus goes away? or vaccine is finished? Really hope that I can find a way to fix it
This is probably the saddest thing I have read for a very long time. Children are not dying of Coronavirus and healthy adults have a 0.01% chance of dying if they catch it. Basically, the same as flu. For this ridiculously low risk rate your OCD will not let you hug your family and is traumatising you and probably your children too. I can't figure out why the governments have been so draconian and fearful about the whole situation given that practically the same amount of people are dying (old and sick ones) as do most years from flu. There must be some other 'driver' behind all this control and fear mongering! But I don't know what that is..... Perhaps one day we will find out. One thing I do know is that living with fear compromises your immune system and that increases your chance of illness, whereas being calm, hugging, loving and connection boost immune systems and lower the chances of illness. I am still hugging my family, friends and children, because life is too short and precious not to. If my videos are making sense, you might like to join my Patreon OCD community where I have many more videos teaching how to worry less and re-engage with life. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife Thank you very much for great message. Its a great help for me. I will go home tonight and try my hard to give big hug to my kids and to my wife. I have to beat OCD tonight. Same with Japan they only say scary news every day so it was my big mistake I was following all the updates on the news. Also the government I don't know why also. It was too late for me to stop watching the news but I don't know why this OCD makes me want to check the news. Yes, since with this big fear every day I am worried about if my immune system is really low so very easy for me to catch it. That also makes me worry every day and get my OCD and anxiety worse. I need to get my immune system strong for sure so I can fight coronavirus.
Good for you, that is real courage! Plus, you are becoming a powerful role model for you children. We need to see OCD as a parasite that feeds off of fear, the way we get rid of parasites is by starving them of their fuel (fear and drama). We do this by surrendering to what is, learning how to be calm and empowering our immune system. My course teaches all these things. Best wishes to you. John
Hey john i loved this video but i have a question. I have struggled from intrusive thoughts and such bad thoughts for about 4 months and I’m at a state where i think them and my emotions feel numb at times and i want to know what that means. This happens when i find videos about ocd and when educate myself about it.
Video 4 (in my patreon course) answers this question in detail. Basically its because you are biologically exhausted following months of worry. It takes a lot of energy to feel good and your body doesn’t have that available to it. John
This is pretty good content, I was diagnosed with autism but I do have obsessive thoughts, googling it there is some overlap but do you think this course would help someone like me?
Hi, this course will DEFINITELY help you, not just to understand and control thoughts - but also to teach you strategies to navigate life - which will help with your autism. Plus, it is only £10 per month, and you can cancel at any time - so the most money you'll lose is £10, and I will refund it if you aren't impressed with my work. Best wishes John
You explained it very vell you have great knowledge about all these things,i got confindence and courage to solve my ocd problems . Right now i am suffering from ocd where my mind doing always opposites of me just like i am focus then my mind distract and gives anxiety in my body, my mind don't agree with me whenever i coinsiously think of something my mind don't cooperate with me and i have also repeeated thoughts, intrusive,sexual thoughts so please help me sir i am requesting you to how i will be fine.. 🙏🙏
Thanks John! Social isolation is a factor causing depression, do you reccomend going out and building social networks while at the same time, fighting ocd? Thanks.
Absolutely I do! It's not easy as you don't want to to do it, doubt yourself and feel nervous. However, it is the right way forward, stepping into vulnerability and learning how to just accept people and life in new ways.
Hello, I love your content and it's very helpful. I was wondering if breathing slowly instead of talking calmly to myself would work. I really appreciate your videos and what you do for many people, I would donate money through patrion but I'm 15 and have no means of doing so. Have a good day sir.
Breathing slowly will help you, for sure. But talk to yourself calmly and nicely too :-) Perhaps your parents might buy my course for you. I try to keep it affordable at $3 per month. Best wishes John
These are in my patreon website, currently I have 7 videos with the eighth one coming out shortly. I am trying to make making these videos my full-time job so am asking for small contributions each time I release a new video,. I made a few of them free so people ca see that I am serious about what I do, have deep knowledge and want to really get my knowledge out into the world. Http://www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
That's interesting about the body responding to thoughts as if they're true.. I've had this obsession that if I think positive things, I'll jinx it and get even more bad things in return. So I just focus on the bad.. which just makes me feel even more anxious. I've been taught that being hopeful is bad, so I should always be realistic and expect the worst. What's so bad about being idealistic? It's not a crime punishable by death now is it? Without hope there is no future.. not a positive one at least.
Your body responds to your thoughts (regardless of truths) negative thoughts will make you feel bad. Positive ones feel good. But the real issue is with a part of your brain called the RAS (look it up) through being pessimistic, train the unconscious brain to look for bad things that happen and feed that data to your conscious mind, therefore, the world will seem a more scary place. In n optimist, the unconscious mind scans fro positive events and feeds those through to the conscious mind. So, not only do optimists feel better, their minds are more full of the evidence that the world has good things. There is nothing wrong with being idealist! The real question is... Do you want to be calm and happy? If so, optimism always wins. Plus, if you get all quantum about things.... Thoughts collapse the sea of probability into actuality based upon the thoughts of the observer - so careful what you worry about! I go into a lot of detail about these things in my OCD course - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Hey John, my name is Dennis Goldenberg. I am a 3rd year mathematics major at Georgia Tech university. I am currently 20 years old, and struggling mightily with OCD. I have been struggling for my whole life, but the obsessive thoughts have been much more prevalent the last 5 years. I would like to thank you for sharing the tidbit about examining what happened the 6 months previous. In those 6 months, i became obsessed with my body image and my social image, due to a string of rejections relating to my friendships and romantic interests. I lost 25 lbs in one summer, and became borderline anorexic. I put up a totally fake persona, and became obsessed with social media. The next 5 years, although I was extremely successful at school, were something akin to a nightmare. My obsessions have ruined many romantic relationships and even soured friendships and social connections. My question to you is this: I have 2-3 years left in college; considering the 5-year length of my struggle, is it still possible for me to enjoy what’s supposed to be “the best 4 years of your life?”
Any thing is possible! The secret is to become a new identity, rather than forcing your old identity to fit in to a new model. For example, my old OCD identity feared looking stupid - my new non-OCD identity fears not living a rich life. So, in my course I teach the best way to understand yourself better, then how to reprogram the mind and body to react in new ways. Did you see my video on obsessive thoughts? It is here ruclips.net/video/XlVXzaf46jg/видео.html
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife I have seen the video! It was eye opening and I even showed it to my parents. I have a follow up question: in the next year, I am taking on many responsibilities. I am taking 14 credit hours worth of classes, I am going to be a teacher's assistant for a math class, and I have an important fraternity position that will require some of my time, along with the fact that I am going to try to maintain a regular workout schedule. However, my symptoms are incredibly severe, and I fear overloading myself. Will my self-treatment still be effective if I only treat myself 1-2 hours a day, or will my symptoms worsen?
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife thanks for the advice. One final question: is it ok to become a little obsessed with recovery through doing things like medication and ERP?
My anxiety has started because of pimples. I don't have pimples on my face now but that has made me so conscious to wash my hands cause a little dirt on the face of I touch my hands could cause it. Then I could not control the time I washed my hands and then started to count numbers. And now I count numbers for everything like wtf. This ocd thing suddenly hits me, I'm okay 90% of the time and don't even have thoughts about this. But then sometimes it just pops up in my mind and I suddenly tell myself wtf am I doing. And btw this only happens when I'm alone. Never have I shown any signs in public or around family members.
Your videos made me realise the real damage behind my thoughts, anxiety & OCD, in the move to access video 4, I realise that i must join you there @patreon.com after belonging to the site i tried donating with my card though it's firstbank, i found it difficult to complete the process. pls suggest other option for people like me. your therapy is really helping though. From Nigeria.
The site is setup to take payments via cards or Paypal. Because it is hosted by Patreon and not myself there is nothing I can do. Can you try Paypal? John
Yes, Videos 4 and 5 and all the new ones I am producing are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you watch the top video on this page it will explain what I am trying to achieve. I would welcome your support, thank you Charlene.
I feel like I have the worst case imaginable. So bad that I feel like it’s not even ocd. There are times where I feel like I’m losing my mind. I also felt disconnected after I stopped prozac and that caused me to get existential ocd which remains after the derealization left. I used to just have harm ocd now I feel like I have it allll. Thoughts about mental health, existential, contamination to name a few.
The disconnection and disassociation can be scary, but are explainable as are your thoughts about contamination and your mental health. I explain this in great detail in videos 4,5,6,7 and 8 and I am just working on video 9 right now. Signup at www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist where these videos are completely free (you only pay a few dollars) when I release new videos and you can quit anytime. Check them out as they are high quality therapy session free of charge!! If you have any doubt that you have OCD, just watch the resistance you get to signing up to do this.... The OCD will try to sabotage you from watching these further videos with doubt and fear. Ignore those thoughts and learn what your need to do. John
My health-anxiety/OCD has become worse as my intrusive thoughts started to generate more thoughts of the sort: because I have been anxious for such a long time, I have probably caused or will cause irrevocable true physical damage to my body..which gives me more anxiety. I truly don't know if this is fixable. I know that my mind tries to trick me into believing it is protecting me somehow but that superstitious part inside me says that if I don't follow or believe iit then I will regret it
There is so much you can do to stop worrying and reduce the stress on your body. Why not check out my OCD recovery course? It's only $3 per month here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Yes, don't put your attention on them and just accept them. I know this sounds flippant, but I am being serious. John ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
You are very welcome - my next 18 videos are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you are interested? John. ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html 2
Sir Iam suffering from Anxiety,stress from 1 year ,I can't focus on my goals .when I try to do something suddenly some thoughts distracting me I totally loss control on my mind ..Iam just 19 year old ...don't know sir how to deal ..
This sounds a bit like ADHd which (crudely) is the inability to remain focussed on one thing... IMHO, ADHD is the result of a brain, that was not conditioned through childhood, to learn how to keep the focus of awareness, on a single task. A better way to explain it might be - the inability to not be distracted. So, if that skill is lacking in the brain, the brain needs to be reprogrammed to put it back in, rather than chemically trying to adjust it. But what gets in the way of the reprogramming - is the belief that you might "miss out" on something, FOMO! The problem of this unconditioned part of the brain is further compounded, if the person is extroverted, creative or has a good imagination - because, then, EVERYTHING is interesting and everything is a distraction..... Which basically means "I can't concentrate on one thing." So, it is hard, but the brain CAN be reconditioned, through knowing what to do and intense repetition - and importantly, picking one intention and staying with it no matter what else happens around you. There is not enough space here to outline the complexities of this process - but my Patreon course is slowly building a resource of videos that explains this and how to reprogram your own brain!
When your ‘mind’ is out of the way..... and your body is at ease, that is when the brain can learn (be reprogrammed) more effectively. We will be discussing this deeper in video 13. John
Hello John, I have just begun ERP therapy. I broke up with my partner after suffering from ROCD and anxiety for months. My gut told me to break up with them early in the relationship. But I fought it because I did not want to, because I love them. As the relationship went on the voice got louder and louder and my ROCD got louder and louder. I had to break up with them and I did in a period of extreme anxiety and overwhelmedness. I desire so much now to reach out to them now that I understand what I suffered from. But this decision and desire feels like one that is not coming from a place of calm, it overwhelms like the thought of breaking up with her would. How can I work on finding out whether this desire is one born from OCD or from me, and why does my gut tell me I should embrace my decision even though I love and miss her? Should I wait to learn how to have a calm mind and practice ERP and follow your course before I make a big decision like this? Or should I embrace my desire without worrying about the outcome? What resource do you think would help me with this?
The course will allow you to see this very differently - then you can make a more informed decision. Did you see this video? ruclips.net/video/8dRC5nJsHwE/видео.html John
I have noticed that my instantaneous intrusive thought makes me flinch and give a sharp intake of breath. Wish I had brought my Galvanic skin monitor from school back to home so I could monitor myself! In the middle of lockdown, when I have been doing really well, continuing to teach 5 days a week from home, then my anxiety OCD response crept up on me and BANG the intrusive thought jumped into my conscioussness. You presentations are really helping me reboot. Reminding me. The most helpful point you made for me was- my body cant tell the difference between a thought and reality and that I am responding to a thought by physically reacting. You are reminding me to separate the two so the thought floats by like a cloud and the response fades. I am a psychology A level teacher and believe me your teaching process is spot on. I have shared it with some of my students who are learning about OCD for their course. So informative and clear. Thanks for the help.
Thanks for the feedback, Mark. My course (in Patreon) goes into much more detail, especially video 6 which elaborates on my hypothesis about OCD and details the types of way in often manifests. John
If you join my course on my Patreon page - this is explained - however, to help you here is one of the more advanced videos vimeo.com/376335723/66b0c8c893 John
Hey John! I noticed you said the subconscious doesnt understand language and therefore it doesnt matter what you tell yourself. But you also said the subconscious acts as if your thoughts are real, which i thought implies that the subconscious understands the thoughts. How do you make sense of this?
When you get to video 13 this will make sense - because in-between your conscious and your unconscious you have an ego, your values, your beliefs and all your conditioning from life, as well as, a judge, a victim, a rebel , an academic etc. All differing aspects of you in addition to your personality as well! I am leading people gently into the complexities of the mind. Once you are in there, you will realise that it is a den of dichotomies and has multi-viewpoint perspectives and objectives. So for now, assume that the unconscious only 'hears' like a child and makes more sense of tonality than words.
Have you seen the work of the late Dr. John Sarno? He was one of the first to theorize the role of suppressed anger in chronic back pain, fibromyalgia, and carpal tunnel syndrome. He contended that the unconscious is trying to protect us (in a dysfunctional way) from experiencing “dangerous” emotions through physiological distraction. He also thought depression, ocd, and anxiety often functioned as equivalents. Some interesting parallels here.
Hi James, not heard of him (will check it out) However, I absolutely agree with what you have said and as I make more videos I am going to detail this and show techniques to remove these trapped energies. Plus, teaching how a person can think and behave in ways where nothing can get stuck within you. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
And another comment... My own back pain reduced immensely once I released the trapped anger from own childhood (ego repressed memories) this happened to me during an Ayahuasca ceremony, however, I have since found ways to do this through breathing, meditation and thought.
I also recommend one of his acolytes, Dr. Howard Schubiner (he has a RUclips video speaking at Google headquarters). He’s worked with my wife when she developed grief-induced, crippling back spasms (her mother died from an aggressive cancer).
Can our bodies have a stress response to thought alone, even if we managed not to react to the thoughts and kept the clam? This is where I am I can control the way I react now the the thoughts which is a great achievement but the intrusive thoughts still drop by, I wonder if they do still affect our system negatively when we don’t react. I find feeling high gratitude is key to train your mind.
Hi, We can never fully stop unrequested thoughts coming in. - but if we can move our conscious awareness quickly away from them, we can limit the stress they cause on our body. Plus, if we stop asking why they come and worrying about what will happen if they do, this too reduces the stress on the body. Gratitude is a beautiful way to change your inner dialogue, I have quite a few videos on this in my course. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
mr..how can i cure my hocd ? i don't care about ocd..what bothers me is that it is Hocd ! at the moment i am on Zoloft,it is better but obviously will come back once medication is stopped. Wait for your answer. Thank you.
Well hocd is ocd, you are having obsessive thoughts! In my course on patreon I will be explaining what your thoughts are (and what they are not) and how to lessen them and the effect they have on anxiety, drugs may calm you down but they won’t stop ocd as ocd is the problem of you believing your thoughts and worrying yourself with virtual reality stories about the future. Login watch my 7 videos for free and if you like them, stay, if not log out, you only pay a few dollars each time I release a new video.
No, not yet, but many of the videos (20) have homework and a few downloads you can complete - they are all here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
I start having arousal(feel real n my subconscious think its real) when I was mental checking or triggered by some related image in real life about gay stuff. And I kip havinv thoughts of I might be juz have reaction toward gay stuff n still be straight. I don know wat is going on and don know wat should I feel becuz I don feel stress or anxiety at the moment I experience those things but start being stressed when I try to tell somebody about this. The mental checkinv become much more often n the feeling become more realistic or heavy each day. But I still kip feeling like some part of me are originally like that (a part of me might be gay, I feel like even without ocd I will also react the same way or arousal about the imags). I dont know how to think about it or wat to do. Everytime I feel better it strikes back n remind me that I have reaction(arousal) toward the things that I don like and I feel bad n start to procrastinate. I am not this severe back in a month. But I stay at home for a month n does not go out often or talk to people. When I go out now, I start to feel like the way I see or react to people changed(subconscious). What should I do now? I don feel bad and I dont want to feel good either as I kip feel that I have reaction toward those thoughts and images. Sorry for the questions and thank you for the reply.
This is very common and does cause a lot of internal worry. If you were gay you would know (and that is OK) if you are not, you will know. Therefore it is the thoughts that are bothering you - but you are not asking for them. If these were a sexy dream you would be ok with them, but they are happening whilst you are awake. However, the part of your brain that is "dreaming the thoughts" is the same day or night - it's just your brain and the thoughts mean nothing. Just let them happen and if you get aroused do something else to distract yourself - or use the arousal in productive way. When you get to videos 4,5 & 6 you will see what is happeniong to you. John
Around few month I have the confidence to say that I m not a gay. But now, I juz Don know anymore but I wish I m not. But sometimes I kip having moment or thought that i feels that its OK for me to be gay but I dont want to be lIke that I juz dk why I feel like that. N I start to try to calm myself after watching your videos and try to accept the thoughts and feeling n give less attention to them but sometimes I juz feel like some of the feeling of arousal feel so real. Like some thought trigger me much more heavy than the other n my subconscious kip telling me that I m like that n I would react to that tthought or image even without OCD. But without ocd I wouldn't even have those thoughts and my brain ask me again Do I really don't have those thoughts before I have ocd? I don't know wat to do with the thoughts. I keep trying to reimagine and sometime it felt lighter but sometime heavier and it felt juz lIke real. I was thinking that mayb my brain r wired wrong n nid to reheal due to my porn addiction. I juz kip having feeling that I was lIke that even without ocd. N I don feel that anxious n stress now compare to last few month. I was on meds(Lexapro/escitalopam) for few month but have miss some days. I feel like some part of my brain r wired wrong n I kip have arousal about thinGS that I shouldn't have but I dont feel anxious and stress but i wanted myself to feel stressed becuz it felt weird to feel nothing toward those thought or reaction. I was depressed when i feel like i m gay becuz i have no feeling of disgust stress or anxiety about some of the thoughts.
I feel like i m less triggered toward some thoughts(i don wan them but i feel like subconsciously i jus don care or becuz i like them). i juz don know why i m not that afraid or more react toward some thoughts for now. I afraid some of them r not ocd. I feel like some of the feeling(arousal) r made up by myself n i kip feel that i don want to stop or i didnt get triggered( does not feel anything) by the thoughts becuz it feels good. I juz don wan. All this happen after the i start to questions myself. I feel like trying to reimagine the thoughts and feeling to check is a big problem as the feeling mayb altered to become much more heavier like right now i feel more arousal when i check than when that happened before this n i feel like the feeling is altered by my brain n i feel like i cant stop thinking the thoughts becuz i feel aroused n feel good( i cant stop or did not learn the correct way to handle it becuz the feeling of arousal or so i thought is there. I don wan to be like this. Now i feel nothing but later i will suddenly realised that i have done something that is unforgivable n become depressed. What really happened to me? N i will kip question about what should i say becuz i afraid that u might misjudge me.
Rather than writing a book I am just putting the 'book' into videos, this is number 3 I am currently up to number 18 - all here www.patreon.com/thenxietyspecialist - John
I really want to get over this (intrusive thoughts) but a part of me makes me want to contemplate every thought that bothers me and it’s never enough, is that common to feel obligated to rethink every possibility that the thought is true? I know it’s not but I can’t stop worrying that it is true
It's like an addiction to thinking. Remember we are emotional creature who learned to think, we just need to realise thinking is only a tool, to be used at certain times, not something to be identified with!
You're a hero John. I'm subscribed to your Patreon and I hope you get 2000+ soon!
Thank you for joining Josh, that is much appreciated - John
Your content is clear, calming and very eye opening in an incredibly simple way. I've learned more from your videos in minutes than I have in months about my own depression and anxiety. Please keep the content coming, incredible stuff.
Thank you for your feedback, it’s good to know that my work is making a difference! Video 7 has just been uploaded on my Patreon website and it discusses depression in great depth. It is my intention to make many many more videos :-). John
WOW. Thank you x 100! RUclips didn't exist when I first started to suffer at 18, I had no idea what was going on and was unable to tell anyone for fear or judgement due to the nature of my intrusive thoughts. This would have saved me years of rumination and mental torment. This should be taught in schools. Thank you for sharing your knowledge it is truly eye opening and I can't wait to watch the whole series!
Thank you Emma, the whole series is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife Just signed up :)
Thank you, I just listened to some of your music, wonderful! Do you know what an INFJ is? You might want to check it out. John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife Ah thank you so much! I've heard of the different personality types but I didn't know which one I was, I will have a look into it, thank you!
Just a feeling, I could be completely wrong. However if you can find the type that feels right to you, it really helps lift anxiety. john
Being an observer of your thoughts takes life to a different level.
Its amazing how powerful the mind is. Thank you so much john You have changed my life
Cheers!
Brilliant, you’ve done more for me in this third Vidio than any thing else I’ve ever tried. Thank you so much
Glad you like my work - my existing 6 videos and the many more I am making will all be here if you are interested? www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Thanks so much for the info!
You are very welcome. John
You've done more in this video then what Nhs has ever done for me and am 28 years old and being going doctors for at least 8 years that should put you a smile on your face cause it has mine well done 💪💪
Glad to be of help, I will be producing dozens more videos over the next 6 months on my Patreon website www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
I say it again I love your videos it explains so much and each time you talk about criteria to who gets depression, OCD and anxiety I am almost in every single criteria.
Thank you, I have been working with OCD for many years and I used to have it myself. Video 4 explains how exhaustion and fatigue play a role in OCD.
John
These videos are very very helpful I often watch your videos when no one is around and all I can hear is your videos. It really helps calm me down and I definitely use your advise and continue to watch these videos.
Glad they help - there are many others in my course. John
Thank you kind sir, I found your videos last night and an thoroughly enjoying them as they are so very well explained and easy to understand, I had to stop and write this comment, now I'll be on my way to video 4, can't wait 🙏🌹
Thank you - number 4 is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Your voice is so kind and calming to listen to, I really appreciate this video. Thankyou!
That is kind of you to say - I believe we should all have a kind voice we use to talk to ourselves with (in our heads) - John ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
........thank you so much John!! I joined via Patreon, and so appreciate and learn from your lessons!!!
Cheers, Vince!
Finding this channel was the best thing that ever happen to me.
Ive been having ocd for the past 13 years and your videos make me believe that there is a way of tackling it.
Please dont stop making these videos as they are exceptional and also you are very articulate.
Thank you - I have 19 more here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist andI add a new one each month - John ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
Thankyou from the bottom of my heart..
really appreciate you making the videos
It's really effective,simple and clear
I will share this with my friends and family, and also
Hope it reach out to the people who need this the most
Thanks for your feedback - videos 7 to 21 are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I'm sad that your videos aren't as viral as they deserve to be. The concepts you've shared have made more sense than anything else I've heard - as attested by other subscribers. I have so many questions though I'm telling myself not to worry about them till I finish all your videos on Patreon (just signed up). I really do hope I find the answer to how I can make myself just DO the things I'm avoiding, despite my overwhelming emotions and anxiety over them..anyway, truly grateful for your work
That is very kind of you to say - I wish I knew how to make them go viral too!
I like the format you’ve chosen, a mix of explanation, examples, summary and homework. I also like being given direct practices to do. So many YT videos take a long time to get to the point
Thank you for your kind feedback - I am working on videos 5 and 6 right now - all new videos will only be accessible from my private web page and with a tiny charge of $3 - it would be a pleasure if you could join my community.
John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
like this one
Thanks, lots more videos to come.
I've watched a lot of your videos and this is by far the most powerful. Just like in education, people get a better understanding of something when you show them a practical example. Regards❤️
Thank you! My videos are designed to be watched in numerical order - as I start off simply and then go very deep.
This is quite extraordinary. Over these 3 videos so far I have learned so much, and I am getting a new perspective into what is really going on with myself, and how to self soothe. I actually realised that I actually do sometimes use a placebo to trick my subconscious mind, but I never realised actually did it or how effective it actually was until I saw this video and look back. When I am very happy, I talk to Myself ALOT. I think the reason for this is because of the placebo that I placed on myself(without realising) , overlooking all the good and neglecting the bad. I will try these placebo techniques out and can't wait to watch the next video. Thank you, from the Republic of Ireland! 🇮🇪❤️
So happy for you - my course is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist and is only $3 per month
I absolutely love you videos! And only stumbled on them a couple of days ago. I’m so grateful that you made them. Look forward to continue watching them. Thank you!
*your
Thank you Kassandra, videos 4,5 and 7 are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist and video 8 will be uploaded next weekend. I am trying to transition so my full time job is making these videos and people can access really cool content for just a couple of dollars, so they get really powerful tools cheaply and I can make a living, win, win. John
Hi John. Is it possible to work through trauma without having to relive it as in the emotions? I think I saw a comment saying that but just wanted to clarify. Thank you in advance.
It is the trapped emotions from the past trauma that needs to be released. There is the "Story" about what happened and then there are the stuck emotions from what happened. See anxiety as a good thing, see it as stuck emotions coming up, rather than you trying to avoid anxiety which is pushing stuck emotions (that want to escape) back down!
In about another 10 videos time, I will be explaining how this works and what to do about it. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
John
That’s a good point and a good way of looking at it. Great! I look forward to that video. Thanks.
I tear up as i write this, you dont understand how much you helo people.
Your videos help me better understand my pure 0, thank you so much.
Glad they are making sense - videos 7 to 20 are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you are interested? John
Awesome, awesome video John!! Thank you!!!
Cheers Brian
Just wow! I just subscribed to your Patreon and will be going through your videos this week. Thanks a million!
Cheers Pierre, you won't be disappointed! John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife I'm definitely not! Your way of explaining is perfect for my analytical brain. I already knew about the sympatic/parasympatic systems and different techniques to stimulate the vagus nerve but your demonstration in the 3rd video was mind-blowing for me. I went from a 12/10 anxiety level to feeling sleepy after talking softly to myself and dropping my shoulders!
Thanks a million as I'm facing 47 years old childhood fears in my life right now 💜
Great work mate!
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife LOVE YOU
That's very kind, thank you! John
Wow. This is the best video on anxiety and depression that i have seen thus far.
Cheers Mr Joe! Loads more videos in my course - ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife Just subscribed. Thanks.
Brilliant well done on your research I can now help calm the mind this the body xxx o salute you sir xxxlove from ireland
Thank you for the feedback - lots more videos here www.patreon.com/theanxirtyspecialist John
Thank you very much John. Certainly your video 3 as you suggested to watch regarding Placebo was indeed very useful and of course the rest of all your videos will be most helpful.
Enjoy becoming calm :-)
Simply Great. I can see the passion for passing the true wisdom and honest attempt to help sufferers.
Thank you for your kind words, I currently am filming videos 5 and 6 and will post them on my Patreon site soon, please tell others if you like my work.
John
Thanks for these -- discovered you yesterday and for that I'm very grateful.
You are welcome - I have many more videos in my course.
You are amazing and thanks a lot for this valuable information which I never got from anywhere. God bless you.
Thank you, there are many more videos on my Patreon site. John
John? it's working. your healing and soothing tone is working.
Excellent - good for you!
I just subscribed also and agree that this videos are the best one can get. Thank you very much mr Glanvill
Thank you - I put a lot of effort into making this course!
Thanks u so much! This video it's like a gift for me, greetings :D
Glad you are enjoying it - videos 4 to 14 are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist and I will be releasing video 15 before the end of June. John
These videos are amazing you are a hero to so many people! We love you!
That is so kind, thank you, I release one new video each month on my Patreon site for people who cant afford to get professional help. John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife how much is it to become a patron?
$3 per month - a ridiculous bargain! Http://www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Very very helpful. It really stop my panic attack and help me to control it
Glad to be of help. John
The answer was there all along. "Be still and know that I am God." Psalm.46:10
Be still.
Talk to yourself nice and calmly.
Take a few deep breaths and repeat.
Trick your own subconscience by remaining calm even when you have an increase of adrenalin. Thank you
Thank you for your feedback. John
Yes, I tend to at times say my name and say it's okay let it go it's nothing to worry about okay and at times it works.
This is awesome stuff ! I thought I knew about the two different minds , this video has shown me I’ve still got so much too learn. Thank you John
It's a fascinating subject when you really drill down Dave. I have 13 videos in my patreon website and I add one new video per month as I try to capture in videos all I have learned in the last 20 years! Glad you like it. Cheers John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife hello sir...i have a question about psychology...i have an interest about psychology, neurotransmitters,behaving lecture speeches about disorders...my question is if i want to read a book about modern psychology,who is the best influencer after Sigmund Freud and carl Jung..can i take Sigmund and Carl Jung seriously in modern psychology...are still reliable their theories???thnx for your time
I am not a psychologist so I can't give you academic advice on this, only my personal views as an engineer. I love Jung's work especially around archetypes, in fact, I think that learning about personality types, emotion stacks and the like is a big part of therapy that has been missing for years.
My focus these days is not on understanding why we are the way we are, but more on what we need to do to live better lives and feel better. How we can reprogram ourselves.
To that end, here are a list of people I like, although academically these people would often be scoffed at for being 'new age' - but they work, if a person puts the effort in to reprogram the brain.
Dr Joe Dispenza
Dr David R Hawkins
Dr Bruce Lipton
Dr Jordan Peterson
John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife thank you John for reply... really appreciate it
Anxiety & OCD Discernment hello , where do I start? I been struggling with anxiety and ocd , what is the first step should I take ?
Incredibly helpful thanks so much
You are so very welcome!
Hi there. Thank you for these informative videos. I have so far watched the shorter clips and videos 1 and 2. The longer ones are great so far. Thank you as well for being so detailed and consise with what you say.
ive got a nasty habit which I recently discovered falls under OCD, and now I'm finding theres not a box i dont tick with this stuff... except maybe the intelligence part haha. Its like youre describing me... all the time! It's a really odd feeling that.
Also thought the sweat meter was a great way to show the effects of the concious mind effecting the subconcious too.
Cheers and good health to you.
My course now has 20 videos that show you what to do for only £3 per month, might be worth checking it out? Best wishes John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Thank u so much! Your work is incredible
Thank you - I have lots more videos here ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html John
Hello, I'm 30 yo, I have ocd since i was 8 yo, there are a lot of techniques that helps, but this way of understanding this inability to control our brain helps a lot, ppl like u change the world, keep it up. I would like to do the same in my enviroment once I can fully control it and help others. Thanks u a lot!
Thank you, the more people doing this the better! John ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
Please PLES I need more. Thank you so very much for helping,for understanding. When you are in this place mentally and really have no idea why this is happening inside your mind, you are just scared. What you are doing is beyond therapeutic. More like Essential tools to live. 🙏 thank you
Thank you - my course is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Very nice video with reasonable explanation!
Thank you, Sir - Many more videos here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
thank you , thank you thank you thank you . finally i can grasp and understand more
Good for you, glad it is making sense - lots more videos here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
This is so wonderful! I am so full f hope for my adult daughter who has OCD, AND I am planning to use this for my own anxiety as well. This ties together so many other things I’ve been learning. John, is this your very own way invention? Or is it CBT? This is quite genius! If I become a patron can both my daughter and I use the videos? Do you offer remote consultations? BTW both my daughter and I are IN FJ. I am enneagram type 6. No one has ever given me any hope for my daughter who I know is such a beautiful soul but suffering so much with this condition. When you say that the OCD starts with an episode of being self-conscious I now completely understand why she has it it’s not something that I want to post here but it makes total sense to me now. I am looking forward to being a patron and sharing this wonderful work that you do with her.
Hello Ann, thank you for your kind words, the process I have developed is a mixture of many types of therapy and common sense that I used to reprogram myself into somebody, within which, anxiety could not survive, I starved it's source of energy - I stopped worrying!
To answer your questions, firstly it's not really possible for Patreon to have sharing accounts, so you will both need to sign up but it is only a couple of dollars each time I release a video and yes I do offer remote sessions www.johnglanvill.com
Being an INFJ can be exhausting until you figure it out, but when you do it's cool, we are just a bit weird! I am filming videos 5 and 6 very shortly and I will go into deep detail about anxiety and OCD.
Thank you for supporting me, if you like my work please spread the word.
John
Great video man. You are excellent.
That is kind of you to say - I am without my OCD for many years now! - John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
wowwww thank youu for making this video
You are very welcome - John ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
When will be here video 4 and 5? Great videos. Before the videos i didn't have too strong anxiety and panic. I was able to handle with breathe, but this helps me a lot more. What if i have intrusive images too? How to battle with them?
Hi, glad you like the videos. Videos 4,5 and all future ones are accessible from here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist I am trying to make them as cheap as possible, but I still need to earn a living and feed my family :-)
John
very nice video thans for this content Sir
You are very welcome - there are 6 free videos in my channel and numbers 7 to 20 in my anxiety course here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you are interested? John
Great stuff, very useful.
Thank you, videos 1 to 6 are in my RUclips channel and videos 7 to 20 are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist where I add one new video each month and answer peoples questions for just $3 (US) per month. John
great video! very informative
Cheers, Matt. John
Dear sir,
Thank you for your videos, they really go further than any OCD videos in terms of analysis and understanding of that condition.
I have OCD since I’m a child, started to change two years with new themes such as health, self harm, harm, relation etc. But 10 months ago it started to be severe. The anxiety started to give me physical symptoms such as diarrhea. Unfortunately my brain has linked that butterfly anxiety feeling in my stomach to I am going to have uncontrollable diarrhea in public.
It has taken me out of work and I wasn’t able to go out at l for 5 months. Now I am 5 months into therapy and some of my themes gave switched. I am now able to go out with the fear of diarrhea but I still get sick every morning. Morning are just impossible I can’t go out or do anything especially when I’m alone. It’s like my stomach goes automatically sick. I am trying to ignore the thoughts and continue my life but the urge of running to the bathroom is too hard. It is stopping me from finding a job again. I don’t know how to do, would love some help :(
Thanks and regards from Denmark
Thank you for you kind words - I talk about your situation in some of my later videos especially videos 11 and 12 have you seen those yet? John ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
Thank you 😊
Thank you for watching!
Very good presentation imo! Your description of the “3 brains” makes so much sense. Perhaps I’m not quite getting this but if the sub or unconscious emotional brain doesn’t understand language, how do thoughts actually affect it? Perhaps it’s that language has no meaning apart from its relationship to actual or imagined “things”?
It seemingly understands language in a simplistic manner like a child might.
I have this strange situation where I've dealt with almost everything else in my mind, nearly all the fears I did have I am now able to deal with when they arise in my head. But there's this one thought which stays, which is about a music artist who I am a massive fan of and someone who I really look up to. Even though i'm almost 100% sure i'm a good person, there is this very small percentage of my mind which is unsure. And as a result I worry whether that person would like me. as you have mentioned in your videos before, Maybe that little nagging doubt is due to the fact the unconscious and conscious mind don't work together.
As you've said OCD will use any opportunity it gets to morph into something else you fear, so it's about catching and making sure it doesn't create another worry.
It's actually about learning that you don't need to listen to (or believe, or stop) your unconscious thoughts.
Ah that makes more sense as then your not stuck with that same level of anxiety and it can dissipate easier.
Hey i got the point which you are saying !! Thnxx a lot for all these videos 😊 but you have told to lower stress or worry but how can i stop fighting my thoughts and thinking each and every small thing which dont create anxiety but i keep on fighting and i dont want to think so but it happens
There is no need to fight thoughts - just don't believe them or give them any meaning. You don't fight or believe your dreams and they come from the same place - your brain (which sits in darkness guessing at what you should do!)
My course teaches you what the next steps are, videos 4 to 14 are in there and I add a new video each month. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist best wishes John
Dear Sir, Your videos are miraculous and has a great positive impact on the mind. I just want to ask a quick question
You mentioned that subconcious mind responds to tonality and not the words said. What if a manager tells the employee very nicely that they cannot continue with this job because of a certain reason and the body goes through the feeling and emotions of utter anxiety?
That is a different response detailed in video 8 (in the course) where the brains amygdala unconsciously responds to a conditioned response such as rejection, failure or loss of status etc. Best wishes John
Thank you for this great video. I'm researching material for a book on personal development from a scientific perspective and would like to refer to your example of the stress response from imagining slapping yourself. Who should I credit for that? Is that your own research or is it based on a published academic research paper by someone else? (and if so by who?)
Hi, its based on my own experience and findings. John
You are my savior
Glad to help... Lots more here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I need these videos I'm joining you really made me think and talk sense I've had OCD since 13 I'm now 37 and it's taking its toll on me now
Thanks Adam.
thnku so much sir for urs help
You are welcome - I have all 21 videos here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
That why asmr make me so relaxed
Probably because it is activating your parasympathetic nervous system.
I have been having very annoying,intrusive thoughts, that ask me to do very unimportant and pointless things, for the most strange irrelevant reasons, I have not been doing it, however, i notice that especially when I am alone, the thoughts tend to get worse and creep up. It's almost as if, my subconscious brings them up, but I cannot consciously allow myself to do it, I used to do compulsions, and then ask myself "why did i do that, or why did i have to do that". Without even thinking I would just do it to not have to deal with obsessive thoughts, however, i soon realized that this began to get worse, as it became a cycle, and it seemed something always ended up becoming an obsession, from deleting text messages, to deleting phone convos, I knew I had to stop. I have been watching these videos and I do see differences and improvements, I just hope I continue to get rid of these pointless thoughts, that cause exhausting and intrusive arguments in the mind.
It's not about getting rid of the thoughts, it is about learning to stop your attention from being addicted to them, by placing your conscious awareness elsewhere.
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife I understand that John, but I have been having trouble making decisions lately, feeling stuck or paralyzed making some specific decisions, let me give you an example, i bought a new computer, and now i have my old one lying around, my ocd says to visit an old site and click on the cookies agreement, because it's possible that I did not do that months ago due to OCD intrusive thoughts/images. It says if thats true you must do it! Now i know this is just plain silly, but here is the thing. It creates confusion in the sense that I do not know if I want to turn on my old computer out of freedom/creativity, or am I doing it because of anxiety/ocd? I keep thinking about doing it but can not even physically plug in the computer because it gives a very bad feeling, and I do not want to do things because of anxiety or ocd. I hope you can understand and get back to me, also I have been watching videos 13,14, and 15, and began listening to 16. It helps, but I was wondering if you can give me any specifics here, thanks!
Your problem is that you feel "responsible" for too many things. Normally this is a nomad who has been too trained to be a settler. You need to find the more reckless, selfish and fun part of you and learn to go out and play more!
Wow, this is so interesting and so helpful to understand! Can this all be applied to PTSD as well?
The same principles can be applied to PTSD, however there seem to be two more steps required.
Firstly to release the trapped trauma (held down fear) stored in the body - (this is REALLY important), and secondly, the retraining of those parts of the brain that were primed from that event to become hypersensitive as a human protection mechanism.
I suppose thirdly, there is the requirement for the person to redevelop the confidence and self-esteem they lost from having PTSD.
Hope this helps a little? My course teaches all these things - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Best wishes John
Hi Sir good day
You mean your video also teaches releasing the trapped trauma and fear? Thanks
Hi, this is a trailer from a video within my course about releasing energy ruclips.net/video/g4gHpQJFOas/видео.html - the whole course is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
BRILLIANT!!!!!!!!!!!!💪❤
Thank youuuu!!!
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife
Hi!!!!!
No....thank you.
Beyond BRILLIANT!!!
Im 11 months into active recovery...and your education is invaluable!!!!💪❤
Well, I am going to make lots more videos, so please feel free to join me at www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Hi john, thanks for your content. I know that the way for getting along with the thought and the emotions is to accept them and observe them for creating space. But you suggesting here to trick the mind, tracking the mind doesn’t sound to me as accepting. Can you please make this point more clear? Thanks
I teach how to accept what is happening until you can trick (or reprogram) the mind into working differently. A bit like accepting your back hurts until you have done the yoga to loosen it up. I go into lots of detail about this in the course and give many examples.
Thanks sir for your tips, i want to ask that removing stuffs and avoiding situations that cause anxiety help or it worsen the situation?
Avoiding makes things worse and keeps you stuck. Of course, accepting your anxiety and "sitting with it" are what exposure therapy is all about - and is probably the best way you can get a big change. I talk about this is Video 8 of my course. Http://www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
I practise ignore. I have religious ocd since last 20 years
@@arunx20042003 same here for 20 years his program really works
What is the brand of the skin conductor sensor? Great video series!
I took a look but there are no markings, I think I bought it from ebay.
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife Thank you for looking and getting back to me. I am grateful for your time.
Hi , I have watched a few of your videos especially on OCD, but would love to see them in order. They pop up randomly on you tube. Which is the best way to subscribe to your course? Thanks
Thanks - this is the best way www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist brst wishes John
Great video. Right now I'm suffering from anxiety and OCD. And maybe depression also. For my anxiety and OCD, it came from Coronavirus. I'm really really scared of it so in this couple of months it anxiety and OCD became really bad. Right now taking anti-anxiety drug to keep it down but this will not fix it. Doctor gave me SSRI also but did not want to take that. I go to work every day really hard to do anything at work but I have to go to work. So I'm out so what made my anxiety really bad is I don't want to bring it back to my house and get everyone sick. I don't have coronavirus but I just think that I may have it. So I keep away from my kids and wife all the time. For OCD I feel like that I may have coronavirus on my hand so I wash my hands all the time, can't touch anything at my house just thinking I may spread it. Cant go shopping, eat, etc thinking that I will get it. So this couple of months is a very hard time for me. I really want to get my life back and smile with my family and give all a big hugs. It's really sad that can't do it. I try all kinds of natural things supplements, food, etc but not getting better.
For me how to fix it what should I do? The only way is when coronavirus goes away? or vaccine is finished?
Really hope that I can find a way to fix it
This is probably the saddest thing I have read for a very long time. Children are not dying of Coronavirus and healthy adults have a 0.01% chance of dying if they catch it. Basically, the same as flu. For this ridiculously low risk rate your OCD will not let you hug your family and is traumatising you and probably your children too. I can't figure out why the governments have been so draconian and fearful about the whole situation given that practically the same amount of people are dying (old and sick ones) as do most years from flu.
There must be some other 'driver' behind all this control and fear mongering! But I don't know what that is..... Perhaps one day we will find out.
One thing I do know is that living with fear compromises your immune system and that increases your chance of illness, whereas being calm, hugging, loving and connection boost immune systems and lower the chances of illness.
I am still hugging my family, friends and children, because life is too short and precious not to.
If my videos are making sense, you might like to join my Patreon OCD community where I have many more videos teaching how to worry less and re-engage with life. www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist Best wishes John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife Thank you very much for great message. Its a great help for me. I will go home tonight and try my hard to give big hug to my kids and to my wife. I have to beat OCD tonight.
Same with Japan they only say scary news every day so it was my big mistake I was following all the updates on the news. Also the government I don't know why also. It was too late for me to stop watching the news but I don't know why this OCD makes me want to check the news.
Yes, since with this big fear every day I am worried about if my immune system is really low so very easy for me to catch it. That also makes me worry every day and get my OCD and anxiety worse. I need to get my immune system strong for sure so I can fight coronavirus.
Good for you, that is real courage! Plus, you are becoming a powerful role model for you children.
We need to see OCD as a parasite that feeds off of fear, the way we get rid of parasites is by starving them of their fuel (fear and drama).
We do this by surrendering to what is, learning how to be calm and empowering our immune system. My course teaches all these things.
Best wishes to you. John
Hey john i loved this video but i have a question. I have struggled from intrusive thoughts and such bad thoughts for about 4 months and I’m at a state where i think them and my emotions feel numb at times and i want to know what that means. This happens when i find videos about ocd and when educate myself about it.
Video 4 (in my patreon course) answers this question in detail. Basically its because you are biologically exhausted following months of worry. It takes a lot of energy to feel good and your body doesn’t have that available to it. John
This is pretty good content, I was diagnosed with autism but I do have obsessive thoughts, googling it there is some overlap but do you think this course would help someone like me?
Hi, this course will DEFINITELY help you, not just to understand and control thoughts - but also to teach you strategies to navigate life - which will help with your autism. Plus, it is only £10 per month, and you can cancel at any time - so the most money you'll lose is £10, and I will refund it if you aren't impressed with my work. Best wishes John
You explained it very vell you have great knowledge about all these things,i got confindence and courage to solve my ocd problems . Right now i am suffering from ocd where my mind doing always opposites of me just like i am focus then my mind distract and gives anxiety in my body, my mind don't agree with me whenever i coinsiously think of something my mind don't cooperate with me and i have also repeeated thoughts, intrusive,sexual thoughts so please help me sir i am requesting you to how i will be fine.. 🙏🙏
This is video 3 of 6 that are free to view in my youtube channel. If you like them, videos 7 to 24 are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Thanks John! Social isolation is a factor causing depression, do you reccomend going out and building social networks while at the same time, fighting ocd? Thanks.
Absolutely I do! It's not easy as you don't want to to do it, doubt yourself and feel nervous. However, it is the right way forward, stepping into vulnerability and learning how to just accept people and life in new ways.
Hello, I love your content and it's very helpful. I was wondering if breathing slowly instead of talking calmly to myself would work. I really appreciate your videos and what you do for many people, I would donate money through patrion but I'm 15 and have no means of doing so. Have a good day sir.
Breathing slowly will help you, for sure. But talk to yourself calmly and nicely too :-) Perhaps your parents might buy my course for you. I try to keep it affordable at $3 per month. Best wishes John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife Thank you for the response! I'll ask them about it when I have a chance. Have a good day!
Thank you for the information. However I don’t see videos 4 and 5. It jumps 1, 2, 3 then 6.
These are in my patreon website, currently I have 7 videos with the eighth one coming out shortly. I am trying to make making these videos my full-time job so am asking for small contributions each time I release a new video,. I made a few of them free so people ca see that I am serious about what I do, have deep knowledge and want to really get my knowledge out into the world.
Http://www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
I now have 19 videos published here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist - all for just $3 per month to access them all!
That's interesting about the body responding to thoughts as if they're true.. I've had this obsession that if I think positive things, I'll jinx it and get even more bad things in return. So I just focus on the bad.. which just makes me feel even more anxious. I've been taught that being hopeful is bad, so I should always be realistic and expect the worst. What's so bad about being idealistic? It's not a crime punishable by death now is it? Without hope there is no future.. not a positive one at least.
Your body responds to your thoughts (regardless of truths) negative thoughts will make you feel bad. Positive ones feel good. But the real issue is with a part of your brain called the RAS (look it up) through being pessimistic, train the unconscious brain to look for bad things that happen and feed that data to your conscious mind, therefore, the world will seem a more scary place. In n optimist, the unconscious mind scans fro positive events and feeds those through to the conscious mind. So, not only do optimists feel better, their minds are more full of the evidence that the world has good things.
There is nothing wrong with being idealist! The real question is... Do you want to be calm and happy? If so, optimism always wins.
Plus, if you get all quantum about things.... Thoughts collapse the sea of probability into actuality based upon the thoughts of the observer - so careful what you worry about!
I go into a lot of detail about these things in my OCD course - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Thank u god bless
Thank you - videos 4 to 15 are in my Patreon website if you are interested? John
plz make more videos
There are more here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Hey John, my name is Dennis Goldenberg. I am a 3rd year mathematics major at Georgia Tech university. I am currently 20 years old, and struggling mightily with OCD. I have been struggling for my whole life, but the obsessive thoughts have been much more prevalent the last 5 years. I would like to thank you for sharing the tidbit about examining what happened the 6 months previous. In those 6 months, i became obsessed with my body image and my social image, due to a string of rejections relating to my friendships and romantic interests. I lost 25 lbs in one summer, and became borderline anorexic. I put up a totally fake persona, and became obsessed with social media. The next 5 years, although I was extremely successful at school, were something akin to a nightmare. My obsessions have ruined many romantic relationships and even soured friendships and social connections.
My question to you is this: I have 2-3 years left in college; considering the 5-year length of my struggle, is it still possible for me to enjoy what’s supposed to be “the best 4 years of your life?”
Any thing is possible! The secret is to become a new identity, rather than forcing your old identity to fit in to a new model. For example, my old OCD identity feared looking stupid - my new non-OCD identity fears not living a rich life.
So, in my course I teach the best way to understand yourself better, then how to reprogram the mind and body to react in new ways.
Did you see my video on obsessive thoughts? It is here ruclips.net/video/XlVXzaf46jg/видео.html
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife I have seen the video! It was eye opening and I even showed it to my parents. I have a follow up question: in the next year, I am taking on many responsibilities. I am taking 14 credit hours worth of classes, I am going to be a teacher's assistant for a math class, and I have an important fraternity position that will require some of my time, along with the fact that I am going to try to maintain a regular workout schedule. However, my symptoms are incredibly severe, and I fear overloading myself. Will my self-treatment still be effective if I only treat myself 1-2 hours a day, or will my symptoms worsen?
@@dennisg3478 - Even just one video a day - 45 minutes will make a massive difference! John
@@TakeResponsibilityforYOURLife thanks for the advice. One final question: is it ok to become a little obsessed with recovery through doing things like medication and ERP?
@@dennisg3478 ERP absolutely, if you can avoid medication all the better, especially beta-blockers and anti-psychotics.
My anxiety has started because of pimples. I don't have pimples on my face now but that has made me so conscious to wash my hands cause a little dirt on the face of I touch my hands could cause it. Then I could not control the time I washed my hands and then started to count numbers. And now I count numbers for everything like wtf. This ocd thing suddenly hits me, I'm okay 90% of the time and don't even have thoughts about this. But then sometimes it just pops up in my mind and I suddenly tell myself wtf am I doing.
And btw this only happens when I'm alone. Never have I shown any signs in public or around family members.
Sounds like more of a habit than, full blown OCD (which is good) - Perhaps these videos will help you to see your thoughts differently? John
Your videos made me realise the real damage behind my thoughts, anxiety & OCD, in the move to access video 4, I realise that i must join you there @patreon.com after belonging to the site i tried donating with my card though it's firstbank, i found it difficult to complete the process. pls suggest other option for people like me.
your therapy is really helping though.
From Nigeria.
The site is setup to take payments via cards or Paypal. Because it is hosted by Patreon and not myself there is nothing I can do. Can you try Paypal? John
Hello, I do not see video 4 or video five or video six or any of those lower number videos anywhere. Where can I find them?
The core of my work is here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
Anymore videos coming out ???
Yes, Videos 4 and 5 and all the new ones I am producing are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you watch the top video on this page it will explain what I am trying to achieve.
I would welcome your support, thank you Charlene.
I feel like I have the worst case imaginable. So bad that I feel like it’s not even ocd. There are times where I feel like I’m losing my mind. I also felt disconnected after I stopped prozac and that caused me to get existential ocd which remains after the derealization left. I used to just have harm ocd now I feel like I have it allll. Thoughts about mental health, existential, contamination to name a few.
The disconnection and disassociation can be scary, but are explainable as are your thoughts about contamination and your mental health. I explain this in great detail in videos 4,5,6,7 and 8 and I am just working on video 9 right now. Signup at www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist where these videos are completely free (you only pay a few dollars) when I release new videos and you can quit anytime. Check them out as they are high quality therapy session free of charge!! If you have any doubt that you have OCD, just watch the resistance you get to signing up to do this.... The OCD will try to sabotage you from watching these further videos with doubt and fear. Ignore those thoughts and learn what your need to do. John
My health-anxiety/OCD has become worse as my intrusive thoughts started to generate more thoughts of the sort: because I have been anxious for such a long time, I have probably caused or will cause irrevocable true physical damage to my body..which gives me more anxiety. I truly don't know if this is fixable. I know that my mind tries to trick me into believing it is protecting me somehow but that superstitious part inside me says that if I don't follow or believe iit then I will regret it
There is so much you can do to stop worrying and reduce the stress on your body. Why not check out my OCD recovery course? It's only $3 per month here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
Do you know how to get rid of repeating thoughts like repeating words even though they don’t even matter it still happens and it is annoying
Yes, don't put your attention on them and just accept them. I know this sounds flippant, but I am being serious. John ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html
Thank you:)
You are very welcome - my next 18 videos are here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist if you are interested? John. ruclips.net/video/L1hctPt4Q8g/видео.html 2
Of course I am interested, thank you
Excellent, you won't be disappointed! Thank you John
Sir Iam suffering from Anxiety,stress from 1 year ,I can't focus on my goals .when I try to do something suddenly some thoughts distracting me I totally loss control on my mind ..Iam just 19 year old ...don't know sir how to deal ..
This sounds a bit like ADHd which (crudely) is the inability to remain focussed on one thing...
IMHO, ADHD is the result of a brain, that was not conditioned through childhood, to learn how to keep the focus of awareness, on a single task.
A better way to explain it might be - the inability to not be distracted.
So, if that skill is lacking in the brain, the brain needs to be reprogrammed to put it back in, rather than chemically trying to adjust it.
But what gets in the way of the reprogramming - is the belief that you might "miss out" on something, FOMO!
The problem of this unconditioned part of the brain is further compounded, if the person is extroverted, creative or has a good imagination - because, then, EVERYTHING is interesting and everything is a distraction.....
Which basically means "I can't concentrate on one thing."
So, it is hard, but the brain CAN be reconditioned, through knowing what to do and intense repetition - and importantly, picking one intention and staying with it no matter what else happens around you.
There is not enough space here to outline the complexities of this process - but my Patreon course is slowly building a resource of videos that explains this and how to reprogram your own brain!
Do you know how the brain learns better? When its worried and fearful? Or when its calm?
When your ‘mind’ is out of the way..... and your body is at ease, that is when the brain can learn (be reprogrammed) more effectively. We will be discussing this deeper in video 13. John
Hello John, I have just begun ERP therapy. I broke up with my partner after suffering from ROCD and anxiety for months. My gut told me to break up with them early in the relationship. But I fought it because I did not want to, because I love them. As the relationship went on the voice got louder and louder and my ROCD got louder and louder. I had to break up with them and I did in a period of extreme anxiety and overwhelmedness. I desire so much now to reach out to them now that I understand what I suffered from. But this decision and desire feels like one that is not coming from a place of calm, it overwhelms like the thought of breaking up with her would. How can I work on finding out whether this desire is one born from OCD or from me, and why does my gut tell me I should embrace my decision even though I love and miss her? Should I wait to learn how to have a calm mind and practice ERP and follow your course before I make a big decision like this? Or should I embrace my desire without worrying about the outcome? What resource do you think would help me with this?
The course will allow you to see this very differently - then you can make a more informed decision. Did you see this video?
ruclips.net/video/8dRC5nJsHwE/видео.html
John
I have noticed that my instantaneous intrusive thought makes me flinch and give a sharp intake of breath. Wish I had brought my Galvanic skin monitor from school back to home so I could monitor myself! In the middle of lockdown, when I have been doing really well, continuing to teach 5 days a week from home, then my anxiety OCD response crept up on me and BANG the intrusive thought jumped into my conscioussness. You presentations are really helping me reboot. Reminding me. The most helpful point you made for me was- my body cant tell the difference between a thought and reality and that I am responding to a thought by physically reacting. You are reminding me to separate the two so the thought floats by like a cloud and the response fades. I am a psychology A level teacher and believe me your teaching process is spot on. I have shared it with some of my students who are learning about OCD for their course. So informative and clear. Thanks for the help.
Thanks for the feedback, Mark. My course (in Patreon) goes into much more detail, especially video 6 which elaborates on my hypothesis about OCD and details the types of way in often manifests. John
Sir can you say how we can get some relief from OCD when condition is more worse how to decreased some ofvit
If you join my course on my Patreon page - this is explained - however, to help you here is one of the more advanced videos vimeo.com/376335723/66b0c8c893 John
Hey John! I noticed you said the subconscious doesnt understand language and therefore it doesnt matter what you tell yourself. But you also said the subconscious acts as if your thoughts are real, which i thought implies that the subconscious understands the thoughts. How do you make sense of this?
When you get to video 13 this will make sense - because in-between your conscious and your unconscious you have an ego, your values, your beliefs and all your conditioning from life, as well as, a judge, a victim, a rebel , an academic etc. All differing aspects of you in addition to your personality as well! I am leading people gently into the complexities of the mind. Once you are in there, you will realise that it is a den of dichotomies and has multi-viewpoint perspectives and objectives. So for now, assume that the unconscious only 'hears' like a child and makes more sense of tonality than words.
Can you tell me what RUclips vid of yours tells you why either controlling clever or innocent people have ocd
I think it may be this one ruclips.net/video/2VDA7zAVh-0/видео.html
Have you seen the work of the late Dr. John Sarno? He was one of the first to theorize the role of suppressed anger in chronic back pain, fibromyalgia, and carpal tunnel syndrome. He contended that the unconscious is trying to protect us (in a dysfunctional way) from experiencing “dangerous” emotions through physiological distraction. He also thought depression, ocd, and anxiety often functioned as equivalents. Some interesting parallels here.
Terrific video, by the way. Useful technique regarding tonality and the unconscious.
Hi James, not heard of him (will check it out) However, I absolutely agree with what you have said and as I make more videos I am going to detail this and show techniques to remove these trapped energies. Plus, teaching how a person can think and behave in ways where nothing can get stuck within you.
John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
And another comment... My own back pain reduced immensely once I released the trapped anger from own childhood (ego repressed memories) this happened to me during an Ayahuasca ceremony, however, I have since found ways to do this through breathing, meditation and thought.
I also recommend one of his acolytes, Dr. Howard Schubiner (he has a RUclips video speaking at Google headquarters). He’s worked with my wife when she developed grief-induced, crippling back spasms (her mother died from an aggressive cancer).
Thank you, I will.
Can our bodies have a stress response to thought alone, even if we managed not to react to the thoughts and kept the clam? This is where I am I can control the way I react now the the thoughts which is a great achievement but the intrusive thoughts still drop by, I wonder if they do still affect our system negatively when we don’t react. I find feeling high gratitude is key to train your mind.
By the way thank you your videos are amazing what a difference in the world you are making 🤍🙏🏻
Hi, We can never fully stop unrequested thoughts coming in. - but if we can move our conscious awareness quickly away from them, we can limit the stress they cause on our body. Plus, if we stop asking why they come and worrying about what will happen if they do, this too reduces the stress on the body. Gratitude is a beautiful way to change your inner dialogue, I have quite a few videos on this in my course. John www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
mr..how can i cure my hocd ?
i don't care about ocd..what bothers me is that it is Hocd !
at the moment i am on Zoloft,it is better but obviously will come back once medication is stopped.
Wait for your answer.
Thank you.
Well hocd is ocd, you are having obsessive thoughts! In my course on patreon I will be explaining what your thoughts are (and what they are not) and how to lessen them and the effect they have on anxiety, drugs may calm you down but they won’t stop ocd as ocd is the problem of you believing your thoughts and worrying yourself with virtual reality stories about the future. Login watch my 7 videos for free and if you like them, stay, if not log out, you only pay a few dollars each time I release a new video.
Genius
Thank you - loads more vides here too www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist - Best wishes John
Is there a workbook you can recommend for doing along with your videos?
No, not yet, but many of the videos (20) have homework and a few downloads you can complete - they are all here www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist John
There is now - www.johnglanvill.com/wp-content/uploads/John-Glanvill-CIM-Workbook-A4-Rev-A.pdf
Sir how can I have a good sleep naturally with GAD? Im worried not to have a good sleep. How can I have a good sleep if Im worried. Please help me sir
The answer to your question is - Stop worrying! The way you stop worrying is why I wrote my anxiety course - www.patreon.com/theanxietyspecialist
I start having arousal(feel real n my subconscious think its real) when I was mental checking or triggered by some related image in real life about gay stuff. And I kip havinv thoughts of I might be juz have reaction toward gay stuff n still be straight. I don know wat is going on and don know wat should I feel becuz I don feel stress or anxiety at the moment I experience those things but start being stressed when I try to tell somebody about this. The mental checkinv become much more often n the feeling become more realistic or heavy each day. But I still kip feeling like some part of me are originally like that (a part of me might be gay, I feel like even without ocd I will also react the same way or arousal about the imags). I dont know how to think about it or wat to do. Everytime I feel better it strikes back n remind me that I have reaction(arousal) toward the things that I don like and I feel bad n start to procrastinate. I am not this severe back in a month. But I stay at home for a month n does not go out often or talk to people. When I go out now, I start to feel like the way I see or react to people changed(subconscious). What should I do now? I don feel bad and I dont want to feel good either as I kip feel that I have reaction toward those thoughts and images. Sorry for the questions and thank you for the reply.
More n more image cause a reaction of me as the time goes on
This is very common and does cause a lot of internal worry. If you were gay you would know (and that is OK) if you are not, you will know.
Therefore it is the thoughts that are bothering you - but you are not asking for them. If these were a sexy dream you would be ok with them, but they are happening whilst you are awake. However, the part of your brain that is "dreaming the thoughts" is the same day or night - it's just your brain and the thoughts mean nothing.
Just let them happen and if you get aroused do something else to distract yourself - or use the arousal in productive way.
When you get to videos 4,5 & 6 you will see what is happeniong to you. John
Around few month I have the confidence to say that I m not a gay. But now, I juz Don know anymore but I wish I m not. But sometimes I kip having moment or thought that i feels that its OK for me to be gay but I dont want to be lIke that I juz dk why I feel like that. N I start to try to calm myself after watching your videos and try to accept the thoughts and feeling n give less attention to them but sometimes I juz feel like some of the feeling of arousal feel so real. Like some thought trigger me much more heavy than the other n my subconscious kip telling me that I m like that n I would react to that tthought or image even without OCD. But without ocd I wouldn't even have those thoughts and my brain ask me again Do I really don't have those thoughts before I have ocd? I don't know wat to do with the thoughts. I keep trying to reimagine and sometime it felt lighter but sometime heavier and it felt juz lIke real. I was thinking that mayb my brain r wired wrong n nid to reheal due to my porn addiction. I juz kip having feeling that I was lIke that even without ocd. N I don feel that anxious n stress now compare to last few month. I was on meds(Lexapro/escitalopam) for few month but have miss some days. I feel like some part of my brain r wired wrong n I kip have arousal about thinGS that I shouldn't have but I dont feel anxious and stress but i wanted myself to feel stressed becuz it felt weird to feel nothing toward those thought or reaction. I was depressed when i feel like i m gay becuz i have no feeling of disgust stress or anxiety about some of the thoughts.
I feel like i m less triggered toward some thoughts(i don wan them but i feel like subconsciously i jus don care or becuz i like them). i juz don know why i m not that afraid or more react toward some thoughts for now. I afraid some of them r not ocd. I feel like some of the feeling(arousal) r made up by myself n i kip feel that i don want to stop or i didnt get triggered( does not feel anything) by the thoughts becuz it feels good. I juz don wan. All this happen after the i start to questions myself. I feel like trying to reimagine the thoughts and feeling to check is a big problem as the feeling mayb altered to become much more heavier like right now i feel more arousal when i check than when that happened before this n i feel like the feeling is altered by my brain n i feel like i cant stop thinking the thoughts becuz i feel aroused n feel good( i cant stop or did not learn the correct way to handle it becuz the feeling of arousal or so i thought is there. I don wan to be like this. Now i feel nothing but later i will suddenly realised that i have done something that is unforgivable n become depressed. What really happened to me? N i will kip question about what should i say becuz i afraid that u might misjudge me.
Can you pleasseee write a book??
Rather than writing a book I am just putting the 'book' into videos, this is number 3 I am currently up to number 18 - all here www.patreon.com/thenxietyspecialist - John
I really want to get over this (intrusive thoughts) but a part of me makes me want to contemplate every thought that bothers me and it’s never enough, is that common to feel obligated to rethink every possibility that the thought is true? I know it’s not but I can’t stop worrying that it is true
It’s like I’m so used to thinking this way I question it I should/want to stop? It’s so tiring and really bothers me but I keep questioning it
It's like an addiction to thinking. Remember we are emotional creature who learned to think, we just need to realise thinking is only a tool, to be used at certain times, not something to be identified with!