being selfish is so needed as a woman. ive always been vocal .. no ring no ... anything else. I've cooked a meal or two because I need to eat.. but cleaning up after them? laundry? large gifts? yeah no lol
Wow, this is my first time coming across your page and what you discussed is something that has been pulling at my heart for sooo long. I am not a Christian and neither is my boyfriend, but something inside me has always felt what you described as the conviction of the acts in our relationship. Thank you for your insights, this experience is so specific but something I have truly needed to hear! 💗
Mariah, this is so transparent of you to post, and women need to hear your story because it's so relatable! You've always been such a great person, and I'm so so proud of you for taking this topic head-on and sharing your goals on your walk with Christ❤
12:27 the devil always trying to make you comfortable with sinning and urging you on, then turn around and say “shame on you for doing/thinking thattt! that’s evil.” but REMEMBER! God keeps no record of sins you apologized for and as per Romans 8-THEREFORE THERE IS NOW NO CONDEMNATION! i sincerely wish you the strength and wisdom on your journey! let Jesus be the centrepiece of your relationship and the Holy Spirit guide you, sister!! xx
This message was amazing, seeing you explain how you navigated this process has inspired me so much. It also confirmed my thinking and lets me know it’s really not just me dealing with the conviction. Seeing how my life changes for good every time I am under Gods Will, proves everything to me.
Thank you for your vulnerability and your honesty. God loves you so much ❤. Conviction is evidence of the Holy Spirit working in you. And what God leads you to He will bring you through. I was in a relationship from 2020-2022 where I was living in sin and living with my boyfriend so I know the feeling of being conflicted in your spirit and not being able to be at peace in your sin (As our flesh wants to). There’s this constant feeling of grief in your spirit. And having a child, I can only imagine how much more difficult it is because you may want your child to have both parents in the same home. God does not condemn but convicts! Yes you made choices in the past that has gotten you to where you are today but God is a forgiving God and he doesn’t hold what we’ve done over our heads when we are a child of God. If God can forgive us, we should be able to forgive ourselves. However, I wonder how long will you be able to wait while being in the same space (physically)? Also, the constant sexual temptation of living in the same house as someone you love seems… difficult to overcome in the flesh if we are in the same circumstance day after day. Would maybe a separate bedroom like Ricky and Lucy help or even different homes? 🤷🏽♀️ I also know that actions speak louder than words. I know you don’t want to be complacent as a girlfriend, I can feel it in the spirit, and sometimes we have to make sacrifices and take a leap of faith to live life as a woman of God and man of God. This year I have denied TWO handsome, successful, chivalrous, great men because they weren’t men of God, not just “Christian” (I’m Christian Baptist btw) because everyone says they’re a Christian right. And even though someone can be a “good/ Christian man” or “good/ Christian woman” they may not be who God has for us. And I had a breakdown because I’m like how hard is it to truly be found by a man of God who fasts, and goes to church regularly and reads his Bible, and who is also handsome and tall and all the things lol. So I’ve been quite discouraged, but as hard as it has been to deny men strictly because of faith I KNOW that God WILL work everything out when he sees us step out on faith and trust him even if it’s what our flesh wants or just our own desires. So I just pray for you and your family and that you and your boyfriend will continue to seek God and be obedient, and I know God will work it out for his glory. Sorry this was so long btw ❤
I did it and we broke up after 9 months. I’m so glad I did and you will find if he does not have the same beliefs and sexual control he won’t in other areas. You have to decide for yourself, pray to God and ask him to open your eyes and reveal if this is your husband and break covenants because you’re technically already married. So if he is against marriage that’s a big red flag girl. I don’t want you to regret it, stand firm ❤️
When I tell people this, they often don’t understand, or they feel like I’m judging them. But then, they come to me, frustrated that their man isn’t proposing or stepping up. It’s so important for us as women not to treat boyfriends like husbands. Women can get attached easily, especially to men they’re intimate with. Keep your standards high but realistic and protect yourself.
Loved this episode and the vulnerability! I definitely had so many questions on this topic and you did an amazing job explaining it. Definitely something younger girls have trouble with so this was lovely to hear
Wow, Mariah…I’ve never related to a RUclips video has much as I did to this one! I’m recently staring to rebuild my relationship with god, as well as juggling a relationship. Listening to this podcast made me realize so many things & opened up my eyes a little bit more. Thank you for always sharing something so vulnerable with us, as I know it might not be easy. I’m happy that we can bring you a safe space for you to open up about your experiences. Your the reason I look forward to my morning walks🥹🫶🏼
First have to commend you for your candor. It will challenge many who wonder, 'is there even a point to it.' IMHO taking it a step further and getting your own place would help especially if your boyfriend hasn't put a ring on it. A house and a kid clearly don't make a marriage. A covenant before God and man does. You two could also just head over to the courthouse to make it official. It's only fair that with all you've given, your boyfriend takes the step to give you and your son that covering. Just coming from a woman who raised a kid solo for 20 years because I refused to be a wife without a ring. Now, I'm in a loving relationship (unmarried) and living separate, celibate because I believe I'm worth the wait. Though I still have set a time limit as to how long I will wait for a proposal because even a relationship before marriage is not meant to be indefinite. Everyone's journey is different, and I get that just trying to ensure you aren't taken advantage of at the end of it all. Wishing you all the best. And again thanks for your honesty
Just spoke to my cousin about this, after 11 years living together since the age of 15-16, After having our second child i cam BACK to Jesus Christ and was convicted on ALOT. alot of things that the bible CLEARLY said was bad. Ended up living together for 2 years struggling. until I personally couldnt take it anymore ( not only due to sexual matter but emotional and mental DUE to not giving in to the other person) it has been 3 months not living together anymore and although we are ok theres boundaries ive had to put up as if we were a freshly getting to know each other 🤷🏻♀️. Also 11 years And NOT married so yea lol
I think you should focus more on building your relationship instead of withholding things from him. Especially because you got pregnant before he even got a chance to choose you. Focus more on making your relationship fun . Think of like a free trial for a subscription. Give him a deadline and in the meantime have fun so he has something he doesn’t want to lose. Marriage is more than cooking and cleaning. It’s about feeling like you found your person (in today’s age).
Amen, thank you for sharing and being obedient to the assignment God has given you. God bless you and Justin! I'm praying you two continue to seek God and keep Him in the center. ❤
The only thing you have to do in this situation is get married as soon as possible no need for a wedding party now …. Stopping having a sexual life with your boyfriend which is in reality husband won’t work
If he proposes than that’s a great step! But to be honest don’t get married because you guys fill pressured. When a man finds a wife he finds a good thing. But sex is already seen as marriage period . Adam and Eve didn’t have a ceremony they was told to be fruitful! The first bad step was you 2 moving in together before marriage period. You guys journey going forward will be difficult because of the bad choices you 2 made during the building process of the relationship foundation! God will never bless any mess. Place God first not that man! Also, Don’t you expect Justin to act like a Husband? I mean husbands take care of their woman and child. Withholding wife duties or withholding sex isn’t going to make him propose.
being selfish is so needed as a woman. ive always been vocal .. no ring no ... anything else. I've cooked a meal or two because I need to eat..
but cleaning up after them? laundry? large gifts? yeah no lol
😂 I feel that!
Wow, this is my first time coming across your page and what you discussed is something that has been pulling at my heart for sooo long. I am not a Christian and neither is my boyfriend, but something inside me has always felt what you described as the conviction of the acts in our relationship. Thank you for your insights, this experience is so specific but something I have truly needed to hear! 💗
Yes, it’s a very niche experience 😂 but I’m so glad it resonated with you! We’re all in this together 🫶🏽
Mariah, this is so transparent of you to post, and women need to hear your story because it's so relatable! You've always been such a great person, and I'm so so proud of you for taking this topic head-on and sharing your goals on your walk with Christ❤
12:27 the devil always trying to make you comfortable with sinning and urging you on, then turn around and say “shame on you for doing/thinking thattt! that’s evil.” but REMEMBER! God keeps no record of sins you apologized for and as per Romans 8-THEREFORE THERE IS NOW NO CONDEMNATION! i sincerely wish you the strength and wisdom on your journey! let Jesus be the centrepiece of your relationship and the Holy Spirit guide you, sister!! xx
This message was amazing, seeing you explain how you navigated this process has inspired me so much. It also confirmed my thinking and lets me know it’s really not just me dealing with the conviction. Seeing how my life changes for good every time I am under Gods Will, proves everything to me.
I’m so glad my story was able to resonate with you. As women, we all have much more shared experiences than I think we even realize! 🩷
Thank you for your vulnerability and your honesty. God loves you so much ❤. Conviction is evidence of the Holy Spirit working in you. And what God leads you to He will bring you through.
I was in a relationship from 2020-2022 where I was living in sin and living with my boyfriend so I know the feeling of being conflicted in your spirit and not being able to be at peace in your sin (As our flesh wants to). There’s this constant feeling of grief in your spirit. And having a child, I can only imagine how much more difficult it is because you may want your child to have both parents in the same home.
God does not condemn but convicts!
Yes you made choices in the past that has gotten you to where you are today but God is a forgiving God and he doesn’t hold what we’ve done over our heads when we are a child of God. If God can forgive us, we should be able to forgive ourselves.
However, I wonder how long will you be able to wait while being in the same space (physically)?
Also, the constant sexual temptation of living in the same house as someone you love seems… difficult to overcome in the flesh if we are in the same circumstance day after day.
Would maybe a separate bedroom like Ricky and Lucy help or even different homes? 🤷🏽♀️
I also know that actions speak louder than words.
I know you don’t want to be complacent as a girlfriend, I can feel it in the spirit, and sometimes we have to make sacrifices and take a leap of faith to live life as a woman of God and man of God.
This year I have denied TWO handsome, successful, chivalrous, great men because they weren’t men of God, not just “Christian” (I’m Christian Baptist btw) because everyone says they’re a Christian right. And even though someone can be a “good/ Christian man” or “good/ Christian woman” they may not be who God has for us. And I had a breakdown because I’m like how hard is it to truly be found by a man of God who fasts, and goes to church regularly and reads his Bible, and who is also handsome and tall and all the things lol. So I’ve been quite discouraged, but as hard as it has been to deny men strictly because of faith I KNOW that God WILL work everything out when he sees us step out on faith and trust him even if it’s what our flesh wants or just our own desires.
So I just pray for you and your family and that you and your boyfriend will continue to seek God and be obedient, and I know God will work it out for his glory.
Sorry this was so long btw ❤
Please don’t apologize 🫶🏽 thank you so much for sharing your story with me!
I did it and we broke up after 9 months. I’m so glad I did and you will find if he does not have the same beliefs and sexual control he won’t in other areas. You have to decide for yourself, pray to God and ask him to open your eyes and reveal if this is your husband and break covenants because you’re technically already married. So if he is against marriage that’s a big red flag girl. I don’t want you to regret it, stand firm ❤️
This is so so good!!
Thank you for your transparency 🤍
this video is proving to be so powerful the more i listen on. thank you for choosing to be vulnerable with us ❤
When I tell people this, they often don’t understand, or they feel like I’m judging them. But then, they come to me, frustrated that their man isn’t proposing or stepping up. It’s so important for us as women not to treat boyfriends like husbands. Women can get attached easily, especially to men they’re intimate with. Keep your standards high but realistic and protect yourself.
Loved this episode and the vulnerability! I definitely had so many questions on this topic and you did an amazing job explaining it. Definitely something younger girls have trouble with so this was lovely to hear
Wow, Mariah…I’ve never related to a RUclips video has much as I did to this one! I’m recently staring to rebuild my relationship with god, as well as juggling a relationship. Listening to this podcast made me realize so many things & opened up my eyes a little bit more. Thank you for always sharing something so vulnerable with us, as I know it might not be easy. I’m happy that we can bring you a safe space for you to open up about your experiences. Your the reason I look forward to my morning walks🥹🫶🏼
Another amazing episode!! Thanks for your vulnerability!✨
Thank YOU 🫶🏽 I’m glad you enjoyed it
This podcast is needed ❤, thanks for being braver than I was.
so realisticc refreshing raw thank you
God bless you and your family!
First have to commend you for your candor. It will challenge many who wonder, 'is there even a point to it.' IMHO taking it a step further and getting your own place would help especially if your boyfriend hasn't put a ring on it. A house and a kid clearly don't make a marriage. A covenant before God and man does. You two could also just head over to the courthouse to make it official. It's only fair that with all you've given, your boyfriend takes the step to give you and your son that covering. Just coming from a woman who raised a kid solo for 20 years because I refused to be a wife without a ring. Now, I'm in a loving relationship (unmarried) and living separate, celibate because I believe I'm worth the wait. Though I still have set a time limit as to how long I will wait for a proposal because even a relationship before marriage is not meant to be indefinite. Everyone's journey is different, and I get that just trying to ensure you aren't taken advantage of at the end of it all. Wishing you all the best. And again thanks for your honesty
First time seeing this creator, great video tho!
Just spoke to my cousin about this, after 11 years living together since the age of 15-16, After having our second child i cam BACK to Jesus Christ and was convicted on ALOT. alot of things that the bible CLEARLY said was bad. Ended up living together for 2 years struggling. until I personally couldnt take it anymore ( not only due to sexual matter but emotional and mental DUE to not giving in to the other person) it has been 3 months not living together anymore and although we are ok theres boundaries ive had to put up as if we were a freshly getting to know each other 🤷🏻♀️. Also 11 years And NOT married so yea lol
Sounds like it’s time to get married! Hope he proposes soon
I think you should focus more on building your relationship instead of withholding things from him. Especially because you got pregnant before he even got a chance to choose you. Focus more on making your relationship fun . Think of like a free trial for a subscription. Give him a deadline and in the meantime have fun so he has something he doesn’t want to lose. Marriage is more than cooking and cleaning. It’s about feeling like you found your person (in today’s age).
Amen, thank you for sharing and being obedient to the assignment God has given you. God bless you and Justin! I'm praying you two continue to seek God and keep Him in the center. ❤
Thank you so much! ❤️
love love love
The only thing you have to do in this situation is get married as soon as possible no need for a wedding party now …. Stopping having a sexual life with your boyfriend which is in reality husband won’t work
If he proposes than that’s a great step! But to be honest don’t get married because you guys fill pressured. When a man finds a wife he finds a good thing. But sex is already seen as marriage period . Adam and Eve didn’t have a ceremony they was told to be fruitful! The first bad step was you 2 moving in together before marriage period. You guys journey going forward will be difficult because of the bad choices you 2 made during the building process of the relationship foundation! God will never bless any mess. Place God first not that man! Also, Don’t you expect Justin to act like a Husband? I mean husbands take care of their woman and child. Withholding wife duties or withholding sex isn’t going to make him propose.