I laughed out loud when they bleeped Gaby saying "Josh" as if she has not mentioned him by first and last name as an ex she is very close to on other episodes hahaha
right!!! she mentions gondleman like all the time & now she's even had a whole episode of the jbu podcast with him in it explaining their whole relationship
About befriending your ex's partner to diffuse jealousy: i have been dumped by 2 boyfriends because they realised they were in love with someone else. This someone was another girl in the group of friends. Both times, the partner started a friendship with this girl and was very pushy towards me befriending her as well because he thought we would get along. I think this was just a lame excuse to diffuse MY jealousy and avoid suspicion of what was at the time still an unconscious attraction. So no, I am skeptical about this tactic, befriend who inspires you and not use people to divert feelings.
I've had guys brag about their exes in a way to make me jealous on purpose. And it works, it makes me think they're more desirable but once the relationship is over I'm like.. oh they were so insecure and that's why they shoved that in my face like that. And that's cuz they know they truly suck. Watch out, red flags!!
My first crush was in kindergarten when I decided I was going to marry a boy in my class who had the same last name as me because I didn't want to change my name when I got married.
This video was hitting pretty close to home for me and really giving me anxiety until Alison started ranting about thriving. I'm genuinely excited to get to a place where these things have me as unfazed as Alison. The future looks bright.
It depends on the situation. I've dated people who would occasionally talk to their ex, "hi, how are you?" Great cool, dont care. I've also dated 2 people my husband and the person I thought I would marry and their exes didnt respect me as their new girlfriend and wanted to get back together and wanted my boyfriend to be their support system, that's not okay. You dont have that right anymore and it isnt fair to me or my boyfriend to be put in that uncomfortable situation and is unnecessary stress for a new relationship
Lol I was seeing a guy, who months after things didn’t turn out well because of stuff with his ex, I saw holding hands with said ex and he texted me and told me they did that because they’re “best friends” and I was like sis no
Ugh i get jealous with exes because even though they’re broken up and all, they still have this bond and I feel so out of place when they’re talking to each other
banahnaw of course but you have to remember that you have a special relationship with your partner the same way you have a special language you shared with X family member and Z friend and Y BEST friend. No relationship is interchangeable with another relationship. Quit the greed.
sabrina s Um yea this ain’t about greed. I definitely don’t want him to hang out just with me all the time nor do I expect him to only have a shared bond with me. I’m just saying that I don’t like being the third wheel. Doubt anyone does, it’s uncomfortable.
something about this video and the way you communicated with each other really captured your maturity and how your friendship has grown over the years. it was quite beautiful and also sugar is the CUUUUTESTT
@@calamitywindpetal Sensitive about what you've been doing with daddy, are you? When I lived in Georgia, the marriage license actually asked the relations between the two applying - as in blood relation.
4:00 I literally watched that sketch this morning lol. And the sketch about how you have nothing to talk about anymore bc you've been friends for so long (yes I rewatch your sketches a lot, don't judge me)
For some reason I read the title as "How do you handle you're *ex's parents* " And I was like, yeah I need to hear their opinions on what to do if you used to be close to your ex's parents but you should not contact them now for some reasons. But it's not the topic so...
I read your comment as "how do you handle your ex-parents", which I thought meant like one of my parents' ex, the ones who stayed for longer and who I sometimes miss. (My parents are seperated.) That would also be an interesting topic, but I don't know how relatable that is and if they would have anything to say on it :D
Omg when Gaby talked about being friends with the ex or the person you're jealous of... I met the ex-girlfriend of an ex-boyfriend that broke up with me like two months before that. Well. She was so magnetic for me, and we were so interested in each other we kinda dated from then and I haved lived with her my most passionate/fucked-up relationship EVER. But, great experience. I recommend this. #bisexualdrama
In short, when it comes to Sugar, Allison is worried that she'll go through the plot of "Snoopy, Come Home". And fair enough too, that movie is absolutely heart-wrenching until the final minute.
There's a song that says something like: "I'm not jealous of the guys from your past, because they made you who you are" (not literally, but that's the idea hahaha
These two have grown an incredible amount since they first started the channel. However, it seems like they might be growing in slightly different directions. Sort of like a high school friendship that grows into something else as one ages.
I think this videos are 3 things for me: 1. Questions/Subjects ideas for a convo with my best friends. 2. The only way Gaby and Alison are confortable talking about this kind of things are in front of a camera and in the internet. 3. Convos i already had with my best friends.
you know those 36 questions to fall in love? I want gaby's version with the tough questions like do you like celery and who do you think will win this season of drag race
I love how Gaby says she would never want to hear other people's thoughts because I always say that too and people think it's weird... but we all have mean thoughts at times and I wouldn't want other people to know them... what I say is what I really think because it has filtered through to my actual belief. Dunno if that makes sense! Haha
The thing about worrying about thoughts as much /more than the other person actually going thru with it and cheating for example... yeah I really felt that.. can relate and hate it
Man, I wish we had a whole podcast just related to this topic and what to ask new partners about their past relationships. From the beginning, I was thinking about how a partner being really close to their ex would make me uncomfortable. Especially if the partner was dumped. Because as Allison said, they could still have feelings for their ex and are with you because they couldn't be with them. I wouldn't look to befriend a partner's ex. If the ex was dumped, they're probably going to hate you and might try to sabotage. If the ex dumped your partner, they might see you and decide they want to get back with your partner. Either way, they're a threat. I shouldn't see it that way but I that's how it is in my mind at least right now.
As someone who is adopted, it’s amazing how many people I’ve had to explain the “you don’t f*ck your family” thing to. “It’s not like you’re *really* related.” No, stop. Gross.
I really like the way you talk with each other and I am happy you could share that with us. Your conversations are always honest, open, funny and intelligent. I love your dynamic. You have a new 🎶 🎵 internaaaationaal 🎶 faaan from Egypt 😂 also how do I ask a question for you to answer?
On the topic of being friends with your ex, let's say you are in a relationship with someone and they have gotten really close with your parents. You guys break up for a horrible reason(cheating) but one of your parents still keeps in contact. Is that messed up in your opinion?
befriend the ex, bond with them over your partner's more annoying qualities, gang up on the partner when you're all together and make their life a living hell
Trying to think of a long drawn out embarrassing post to leave here and I got nothing. You know, the kind of post that if I came back six months later and read my own crap again I'd be embarrassed and tempted to delete it but then would notice nobody's upvoted it so no one read it so what's the point? The best part of this video is watching Sugar look like she wishes they'd stop talking and just pet her.
I love how the biggest issue Allison has in her life is whether her dog fantasizes about her old owner.
That's growth.
Did you read the title and watch the video?
Damn I wish I was as chill as Sugar. She’s figured life out.
Sugar is a mood
What breed is Sugar?
She's semi dead, that's not much of a life
Well the „I won’t date for a year“ thing worked out brilliantly, huh Allison?
Well I hope he is nice and stable
Pretty sure she said she wouldn’t date for the rest of the year, meaning 2018.
I started it the same time she did and trust me girlll.. It did not pan out!!!
Maybe she found someone who answered her questions sufficiently
Kinda reminds me of Anna Akana except she's staying single now.
shann eileen she said she wouldn't date until her 30th birthday which was about a year away when she said that.
I laughed out loud when they bleeped Gaby saying "Josh" as if she has not mentioned him by first and last name as an ex she is very close to on other episodes hahaha
Emma Levin I didn’t even know the ex’s name but could tell from the beep that she said Josh. Lol
right!!! she mentions gondleman like all the time & now she's even had a whole episode of the jbu podcast with him in it explaining their whole relationship
I thought that the number one rule of JBU was to get a prenup
IT IS
GET A PRENUP
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD GET A PRENUP
They're all number one rules
ayyyyy. listen to the JBU podcast y'all
I'd really love an update on how that dinner went.
Allison: "I'm scared sugar is going to leave me"
Gaby: "Well you just have to trust your partner"
I LOVE allison getting upset because she is thriving and lacks problems to continue the show jajajajaja
Makes you wonder: are your exes' current partners jealous of you? XD
Lol, I wish but probably not, realistically. My ex was way more attractive than me.
About befriending your ex's partner to diffuse jealousy: i have been dumped by 2 boyfriends because they realised they were in love with someone else. This someone was another girl in the group of friends. Both times, the partner started a friendship with this girl and was very pushy towards me befriending her as well because he thought we would get along. I think this was just a lame excuse to diffuse MY jealousy and avoid suspicion of what was at the time still an unconscious attraction. So no, I am skeptical about this tactic, befriend who inspires you and not use people to divert feelings.
I hate when the ex comes around and they start talking and its like they are speaking their own language.
I've had guys brag about their exes in a way to make me jealous on purpose. And it works, it makes me think they're more desirable but once the relationship is over I'm like.. oh they were so insecure and that's why they shoved that in my face like that. And that's cuz they know they truly suck. Watch out, red flags!!
The sound is really good in this and it’s prob been for a while but idk why I had flashbacks of when it was really quiet
My first crush was in kindergarten when I decided I was going to marry a boy in my class who had the same last name as me because I didn't want to change my name when I got married.
Don't change your name regardless!
@@piperlizbuffy That's the plan now, unless whoever I marry has a really really cool last name. Maybe.
Is it just me or is Allison more upbeat and dare is say glowing in this episode.
Absolutely.
This video was hitting pretty close to home for me and really giving me anxiety until Alison started ranting about thriving. I'm genuinely excited to get to a place where these things have me as unfazed as Alison. The future looks bright.
Allison is glowing!! You guys make my heart happy
It depends on the situation. I've dated people who would occasionally talk to their ex, "hi, how are you?" Great cool, dont care. I've also dated 2 people my husband and the person I thought I would marry and their exes didnt respect me as their new girlfriend and wanted to get back together and wanted my boyfriend to be their support system, that's not okay. You dont have that right anymore and it isnt fair to me or my boyfriend to be put in that uncomfortable situation and is unnecessary stress for a new relationship
Ugh yeah had that as well , because my love‘s ex texted him when she was in a bad place and wanted him to take care of her.
9:25 Sugar: I'm going to ignore that comment.
Lol I was seeing a guy, who months after things didn’t turn out well because of stuff with his ex, I saw holding hands with said ex and he texted me and told me they did that because they’re “best friends” and I was like sis no
Ugh i get jealous with exes because even though they’re broken up and all, they still have this bond and I feel so out of place when they’re talking to each other
banahnaw of course but you have to remember that you have a special relationship with your partner the same way you have a special language you shared with X family member and Z friend and Y BEST friend. No relationship is interchangeable with another relationship. Quit the greed.
@@Bigstickpolicy Alright I agreed with you up until the last thing. This doesn't have to do with greed. They said they feel out of place.
sabrina s Um yea this ain’t about greed. I definitely don’t want him to hang out just with me all the time nor do I expect him to only have a shared bond with me.
I’m just saying that I don’t like being the third wheel. Doubt anyone does, it’s uncomfortable.
something about this video and the way you communicated with each other really captured your maturity and how your friendship has grown over the years. it was quite beautiful and also sugar is the CUUUUTESTT
First rule of JBU: Don't F your family.
Doesn't that mean allison and gaby cant watch game of thrones together
Keeping this show from thriving in the Deep South. They really need to stop excluding demographics.
@@recoil53 Hi how does it feel to be so incredibly funny?
@@calamitywindpetal Sensitive about what you've been doing with daddy, are you?
When I lived in Georgia, the marriage license actually asked the relations between the two applying - as in blood relation.
This combo of Monday videos and Wednesday podcast episodes is keeping me alive
😲😲 my comment got liked by the Queens!! Made my fucking day 🙏🙏
so early. but when I saw the title I couldn’t resist.
Sugar staring into the camera was soooo cute. Like she was doing the Jim look. 😆 8:24 - 8:40
4:00 I literally watched that sketch this morning lol. And the sketch about how you have nothing to talk about anymore bc you've been friends for so long (yes I rewatch your sketches a lot, don't judge me)
Lol at the editor thinking no one can read lips. I will keep this secret to my grave in case this is something other people can't do no worries.
I love you both, but I have to be honest: You are also brilliant writers and comedians.
Allison seems like she's in a much better place! Even tho she didn't end up staying single for as long as she was planning to I'm rly glad for her
At 2:09 Gaby sounded exactly like a cat lmao
For some reason I read the title as "How do you handle you're *ex's parents* " And I was like, yeah I need to hear their opinions on what to do if you used to be close to your ex's parents but you should not contact them now for some reasons. But it's not the topic so...
I read your comment as "how do you handle your ex-parents", which I thought meant like one of my parents' ex, the ones who stayed for longer and who I sometimes miss. (My parents are seperated.) That would also be an interesting topic, but I don't know how relatable that is and if they would have anything to say on it :D
You both have never looked better. You're stunning.
Such a good episode. So many good conversations happening at once
Genuinely my two favorite people on this entire planet
Omg when Gaby talked about being friends with the ex or the person you're jealous of...
I met the ex-girlfriend of an ex-boyfriend that broke up with me like two months before that. Well. She was so magnetic for me, and we were so interested in each other we kinda dated from then and I haved lived with her my most passionate/fucked-up relationship EVER. But, great experience. I recommend this. #bisexualdrama
In short, when it comes to Sugar, Allison is worried that she'll go through the plot of "Snoopy, Come Home". And fair enough too, that movie is absolutely heart-wrenching until the final minute.
Lol I got a very old school JBU vibe from Gaby this episode XD
There's a song that says something like: "I'm not jealous of the guys from your past, because they made you who you are" (not literally, but that's the idea hahaha
I needed this episode to be like an hour
These two have grown an incredible amount since they first started the channel. However, it seems like they might be growing in slightly different directions. Sort of like a high school friendship that grows into something else as one ages.
the content just keeps getting better
This was so good I had to rewatch right away. I could listen to you guys talk about this subject forever.
I think this videos are 3 things for me:
1. Questions/Subjects ideas for a convo with my best friends.
2. The only way Gaby and Alison are confortable talking about this kind of things are in front of a camera and in the internet.
3. Convos i already had with my best friends.
I always love the meta stuff. "how do I keep this channel going!"
you know those 36 questions to fall in love? I want gaby's version with the tough questions like do you like celery and who do you think will win this season of drag race
Hahahahaha
I love how Gaby says she would never want to hear other people's thoughts because I always say that too and people think it's weird... but we all have mean thoughts at times and I wouldn't want other people to know them... what I say is what I really think because it has filtered through to my actual belief. Dunno if that makes sense! Haha
Sugar loves you so much! It’s clear from her body language 💕
I am way too invested in both of Allison and Gaby’s lives!! Please tell us how the dinner went in the next episode!;)
Did y'all bleep Josh Gondelman's name? Gaby has said multiple times on this channel that they're best friends who talk every day and they dated...
The thing about worrying about thoughts as much /more than the other person actually going thru with it and cheating for example... yeah I really felt that.. can relate and hate it
Thank you, Allison, for the bangs undercut combo!
Gaby should make a dating app because she has the best screening questions
What happened to allison not dating anyone ??
She admitted a few videos ago that she had given up on that
@@VintageButterflyyy I have seen her tweet about showing up high on dates but I thought she was just joking
Man, I wish we had a whole podcast just related to this topic and what to ask new partners about their past relationships. From the beginning, I was thinking about how a partner being really close to their ex would make me uncomfortable. Especially if the partner was dumped. Because as Allison said, they could still have feelings for their ex and are with you because they couldn't be with them. I wouldn't look to befriend a partner's ex. If the ex was dumped, they're probably going to hate you and might try to sabotage. If the ex dumped your partner, they might see you and decide they want to get back with your partner. Either way, they're a threat. I shouldn't see it that way but I that's how it is in my mind at least right now.
I'd like to see Allison's Sugar and Jenna Marbles' Marbles get together. I just want to figure out which one is more dead.
You guys always make videos with topics relevant to my life. I love you guys so much !
Gabby’s hair looks so good
ladies!! this was so good!
this was wonderfully sound advice on an important topic
thanks so much guys!
I’m just interested in the painting hung on the wall which is not blue one. Actually I sometimes draw that type of pictures. Where did you buy??🤩🤩
im so happy for allison ❤❤❤
Good job Allison on uploading!! :)
i love Allison SO MUCH
I love these conversations!
As someone who is adopted, it’s amazing how many people I’ve had to explain the “you don’t f*ck your family” thing to. “It’s not like you’re *really* related.” No, stop. Gross.
Great video this week. I love your content lately!
Gaby's right. I have sexual tension with her and we've never even met.
I really like the way you talk with each other and I am happy you could share that with us. Your conversations are always honest, open, funny and intelligent. I love your dynamic. You have a new 🎶 🎵 internaaaationaal 🎶 faaan from Egypt 😂 also how do I ask a question for you to answer?
They had an email set up for that a while back. Might be able to find in it older videos. = )
I wasn't expecting "you don't fuck your family" to be this episode's overall message. 🤣
"Im not a complete robot"😂
this video came at a perfect time
Hello today is my birthday, thank you for posting today. I miss you
Sugar moved!
That's all I have to contribute. Also, the podcast is great.
seeing allison in jeans feels like a tell that i'm actually dreaming
This video really cheered me up today 💖
To answer Gaby's question: Scarlet Envy will return and be crowned season 11's winner.
celery tastes like dirty water that if you drank it you'd spit it out.
Best part of Monday 👏🏼
And a year later they're engaged!!!!
8 months later he left her in the middle of nowhere... :"( Allison you deserve better, I can't wait to read your book!
Gabby's hair looks CUTE
if he doesn’t say brooke lynn is gonna win drag race this year then DUMP him
“I used to pay more attention to that sort of thing”
Please don’t disrespect the international questions song anymore thank you
I love your content so much, really
I cried laughing at Allison's success meltdown 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
All sugar thinks about is how to relax harder than the previous day
I feel like I remember Gabby saying in the past that she's not a robot. XD
something mildly funny and problematic happened in my life that i'm tempted to email you with a question
im one for one, got dumped and dumped someone, neutral life.
i love this this JBU 2.0 vibe going on
Who he thinks is gonna win drag race this season. Lol 😂
What if they dated for 6+ years, were married for 10+ and still do a weekly podcast together X-plaining the X-men?
On the topic of being friends with your ex, let's say you are in a relationship with someone and they have gotten really close with your parents. You guys break up for a horrible reason(cheating) but one of your parents still keeps in contact. Is that messed up in your opinion?
John Shavers kinda messed up
that seems so weird to me, like your parents should be 100% on your side and drop that person
@@AllieYourAlly you would think so. I'm speaking from personal experience obviously. Not me but a friend.
My mom kept in contact with one of my ex’s. He isn’t much of a fan of her but she always sends him best wishes and love and he takes them
It’s creepy if YOU are the conversation topic
I like your lashes Allison! :3
I'm thriving!
befriend the ex, bond with them over your partner's more annoying qualities, gang up on the partner when you're all together and make their life a living hell
THE PEOPLE WANT IGOR!
I rent off my ex, and it freaks guys out. But not the boyfriend, thank goodness.
Trying to think of a long drawn out embarrassing post to leave here and I got nothing. You know, the kind of post that if I came back six months later and read my own crap again I'd be embarrassed and tempted to delete it but then would notice nobody's upvoted it so no one read it so what's the point? The best part of this video is watching Sugar look like she wishes they'd stop talking and just pet her.
I literally thought there's a doorbell at 6:37...