A Hoarder Lived with Her Son's Corpse for 20 Years, Without Realizing It

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  • Опубликовано: 30 окт 2024

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  • @Top_Nepper
    @Top_Nepper 4 года назад +49410

    Imagine being a blind mom thinking your son ghosted you and moved out only to find out he's been dead in your house the whole time....Yikes

    • @karliehatcher
      @karliehatcher 4 года назад +763

      its crazy eh

    • @ΣκοτώνωΧαρά
      @ΣκοτώνωΧαρά 4 года назад +2747

      That's f*cking sad

    • @MynAnthony
      @MynAnthony 4 года назад +1258

      Poor lady.

    • @AkaiAzul
      @AkaiAzul 4 года назад +339

      @@S3verusMyG Literally, it seems...

    • @BickNutton
      @BickNutton 4 года назад +3187

      Imagine being a son that is so neglected that no one in your family notices nor cares about your death for 20 years.

  • @hea1307
    @hea1307 4 года назад +13607

    Being blind in such an unorganized home would be horrible.

    • @gayusschwulius8490
      @gayusschwulius8490 4 года назад +242

      Well, I mean, at least you don't see the mess

    • @vCLOWNSHOESv
      @vCLOWNSHOESv 3 года назад +42

      Being blind in a clean home couldn't be too easy.

    • @aubreymorgan9763
      @aubreymorgan9763 3 года назад +270

      Sadly not the first case. Also in NY there were a pair of brothers in Harlem. I think it was the 40s or 30s someone did a welfare check on them. hoarders to an extreme. One brother hand been crushed by a pile of junk. the other brother was blind and crippled left in a chair near by. Sadly they both died there just feet from each other unable to call for help.

    • @plaidchicken4136
      @plaidchicken4136 3 года назад +20

      @@aubreymorgan9763 Oh, oh! I read about that in the Stuff book! It's so cool!!! Not that they're hoarders, the book I mean (◍•ᴗ•◍)

    • @lindamaemullins5151
      @lindamaemullins5151 3 года назад +4

      @@aubreymorgan9763 😢

  • @Perrypool09
    @Perrypool09 4 года назад +5560

    And people thought *I* was weird having skeletons

    • @mrbropo8801
      @mrbropo8801 4 года назад +229

      Hold up ⬆️

    • @juliuscaesar4107
      @juliuscaesar4107 4 года назад +133

      @@mrbropo8801 Don't worry it's a dog

    • @Acetyl53
      @Acetyl53 4 года назад +37

      And people thought I was weird for having a skeleton.

    • @tictaczach914
      @tictaczach914 4 года назад +74

      And people thought I was weird having children in my basement.

    • @ButtSauce666
      @ButtSauce666 4 года назад +16

      @@tictaczach914 and I thought I was weird because of

  • @-Internally-Screaming-
    @-Internally-Screaming- 2 года назад +825

    This is absolutely depressing imagine being the mother feeling like her son did not want to talk to her and than 20 years later their son is just found there

  • @SomePersonInTheWorld
    @SomePersonInTheWorld 4 года назад +30393

    Okay, everyone's wondering how she could have lived so long with a corpse without knowing. But I'm wondering how you break the news to a woman, who's probably been under the impression that her child never wanted to see her again, that that child has in fact been DEAD IN HER ATTIC FOR 20 YEARS.

  • @jw_023
    @jw_023 4 года назад +40732

    When your house smells so bad that you can’t smell a rotting corpse.

    • @gill8662
      @gill8662 4 года назад +708

      yikes

    • @RANGERA22
      @RANGERA22 4 года назад +506

      Your sons*

    • @rosshafinaz4060
      @rosshafinaz4060 4 года назад +161

      Wow hold your horses. About your house ? Does it smells like flowers ?

    • @shanemunro3397
      @shanemunro3397 4 года назад +1068

      It doesn’t smell like a 20 year old corpse

    • @---xv5jp
      @---xv5jp 4 года назад +944

      @@rosshafinaz4060 Don't most house smells good? How else do you live in it?

  • @eternalmiasma5586
    @eternalmiasma5586 4 года назад +25409

    I live with a corpse in my house, it’s me, I haven’t felt alive in years

  • @kaned5543
    @kaned5543 3 года назад +1024

    I'm starting to wonder if I have an actual hoarding problem. I wish there was more discussion about the early stages of hoarding. Nobody just becomes one of these full-blown hoarders overnight

    • @marcwright4790
      @marcwright4790 3 года назад +108

      If you can do a good clean out, get rid of things and not dwell on the stuff you gave away or threw away than you are not a hoarder. Hoarders dwell on each individual thing they hoard. It is painful for them to get rid of any of the things they are attached to.

    • @DeathnoteBB
      @DeathnoteBB 2 года назад +66

      @@marcwright4790 I mean all things are a spectrum. It’s never just one way

    • @melissashupak
      @melissashupak 2 года назад +178

      As someone with hoarding tendencies who grew up with hoarding relatives, these are some common signs:
      -running out of storage space despite ample space/locations.
      -piles of clutter that limit the functionality of the space. Sometimes it starts as confined to one area, like a “guest” room that isn’t usable or is difficult to use, or kitchen countertops that are too full to prepare a meal.
      -Rationalizing keeping things. Common phrases: I may need it one day, I can use that for something, I don’t want to waste it, it is still useful, I have a plan for that but there’s something keeping me from doing it now, it was a bargain/on sale, etc.
      -Becoming distressed or upset when trying to get rid of things others can let go of easily: clothes, old food, newspapers/magazines, scraps of materials, unused items, etc.
      -becoming distressed when others try to help you clean, and becoming defensive.
      -Big one: intrusive thoughts about stuff, paired with anxiety or dread with those thoughts. Deciding to throw something out, then having thoughts like: “what if I need it? Is it really trash? I’m being so wasteful. I can do something with that. Etc” or intrusive thoughts about accumulating: “If I leave it, I may not be able to get one later. What if I can’t get it later and I need it? The store will run out. If I pass up a good deal I’ll pay more and waste money buying it later.”
      -There are compulsive aspects to the behavior. You don’t want clutter, you know you don’t need it, but in the moment the feeling of the need to keep is all encompassing. It returns each time you try to eliminate items, with stress and anxiety. When you keep, it goes away. When you eliminate, it lingers and sometimes worsens. The key is learning to sit with that feeling, and accepting it’s not real and will eventually pass.

    • @kaned5543
      @kaned5543 2 года назад +45

      @@melissashupak those are very helpful specifics, thank you! This gives me an idea of which of my behaviors I need to work on modifying or getting help with.

    • @brontebell7748
      @brontebell7748 2 года назад +16

      It starts as small things, when it gets to the point you have no room for the stuff you have anymore it’s time to just throw it all way (which if you are a hoarder is easily said than done). I grew up with hoarders and best way to stop it from getting out of control is attending cognitive behavioural therapy and having people clean out your house when you’re not there and making sure they take the stuff to the tip so you can’t retrieve it.

  • @noova02
    @noova02 4 года назад +9225

    Imagine murdering a stranger but convincing yourself you need to keep the body.

    • @l337pwnage
      @l337pwnage 3 года назад +653

      Well, it is Australia, self defense is basically illegal. He probably woulda went to prison.

    • @little_hunt3r
      @little_hunt3r 3 года назад +588

      He was hiding the body. In Australia the law benefits criminals, so he'd be put away for defending himself.

    • @IjeomaThePlantMama
      @IjeomaThePlantMama 3 года назад +474

      He probably didn't want people coming around the house and seeing how he lived. Hoarding is a mental illness, so irrational thoughts like "I'll just wrap this dead body in a carpet and deal with it later" makes perfect sense to them.

    • @eyewetodddid
      @eyewetodddid 3 года назад +76

      I might need it.

    • @bpyrotroph3670
      @bpyrotroph3670 3 года назад +31

      @@eyewetodddid What would you need a dead body for..?

  • @kyriearashi
    @kyriearashi 4 года назад +5859

    The saddest part about mental illness in the US is that those who need help the most are unable to afford getting it.

    • @TheRealJaneSeymour
      @TheRealJaneSeymour 3 года назад +54

      That's so true.

    • @l337pwnage
      @l337pwnage 3 года назад +84

      It really doesn't have anything to do with money. It was a propaganda campaign that shut down the mental institutions in the '70's. It was an intentional act.

    • @Jst.a.Normal.Bottle.of.Mustard
      @Jst.a.Normal.Bottle.of.Mustard 3 года назад +32

      No, it isnt a cost issue these people dont want help which is why people have to force the cleaning on them

    • @Isabella-vn3wg
      @Isabella-vn3wg 3 года назад +221

      @@Jst.a.Normal.Bottle.of.Mustard Speaking from personal experience, yes it was a cost issue. I wanted help, but I also wanted a roof over my head. The same goes for millions of others.

    • @Kelly-uw1xr
      @Kelly-uw1xr 3 года назад +155

      @@l337pwnage therapy is expensive and so is healthcare it’s a matter of money

  • @AraArasArah
    @AraArasArah 3 года назад +7186

    Dont you ever feel sad for days and dont clean your house or room and then one day you feel good so, you clean it....imagine not feeling good for years or decades!

    • @Elle...
      @Elle... 3 года назад +341

      I have awful adhd and one thing I never realized it had such an impact on was my room, my room was constantly disorganized and I never even noticed how bad it was until after I got medicated, legit one week after I finally got the right meds I completely cleared out my room and redid everything for the first time since I lived there, i got five trash bags worth of garbage and cleared out over half of my belongings because I was finally able to realize what I didn’t need. I can’t even imagine it being that bad anymore but it was something that seemed so normal for so long to me.

    • @StonedtotheBones13
      @StonedtotheBones13 3 года назад +89

      I'm in this picture and I don't like it

    • @alexisbloodwood5587
      @alexisbloodwood5587 3 года назад +36

      The one time my room has been so called "spotless" is when I needed to pack everything up so we could vinegar clean my room for carpet beetles. Its a disaster now

    • @plugshirt1684
      @plugshirt1684 3 года назад +27

      I’m gonna be honest I always just have my room clean because I don’t feel like cleaning it later so I just don’t let it get messy

    • @mayapapaya02
      @mayapapaya02 3 года назад +10

      i only clean my room because i don’t want my mum to shout at me lol

  • @sarahharman9879
    @sarahharman9879 2 года назад +895

    It's insane that the guy went missing for 20 years and no one thought "hey let's look in the house"

    • @JS-rv3et
      @JS-rv3et Год назад +63

      no.
      no one was looking to begin with

    • @ffwast
      @ffwast Год назад +122

      Not even that, just anything in his room entirely, he was just laying on the bed out in the open and nobody thought to even go in his room at all for two decades.

    • @conflict7269
      @conflict7269 Год назад +6

      Right! Or his bedroom

    • @9thecolor51
      @9thecolor51 Год назад +48

      Sadly, some people are not cared about by anyone. "Quiet deaths" happen way too often.

    • @JEvans-wy9ln
      @JEvans-wy9ln Год назад

      How do you even look in the house to begin with?

  • @thegizzardofmars7453
    @thegizzardofmars7453 4 года назад +7262

    my mother is a hoarder :(
    it might seem unreasonable, but when you've lost everything you've had before, it makes sense to be afraid of it happening again

    • @caramay4334
      @caramay4334 4 года назад +176

      Yes that’s my issue I am disabled and have had the Big C 5 times now I once was a nurse had a husband my kids a home now I live in a handicap apartment but I have lost everything due to my physical health

    • @justtry8552
      @justtry8552 3 года назад +84

      @@caramay4334 everything will be fine. It'll get better, one day at a time.

    • @malamhari_
      @malamhari_ 3 года назад +72

      @@caramay4334 i'm not good at english, you have ny support... Everything will going to be okay, have a nice day! :D

    • @HomesteadAtLast
      @HomesteadAtLast 3 года назад +2

      Yep

    • @Kelly-uw1xr
      @Kelly-uw1xr 3 года назад +30

      @@caramay4334 I’m so sorry. You can find support online, make new friends and even get hobbies

  • @RealEnerjak
    @RealEnerjak 4 года назад +5815

    "I thought I was alone"
    Well yes but actually no.

    • @Camde667dotcom
      @Camde667dotcom 4 года назад +20

      Good guess but actually no

    • @FestiveRocket
      @FestiveRocket 4 года назад +10

      Technically, yes.

    • @Cffeexe
      @Cffeexe 4 года назад +4

      I'm clearly right behind you

    • @sophjie9048
      @sophjie9048 4 года назад +2

      @@Cffeexe why hello there

    • @dr_birb
      @dr_birb 4 года назад +2

      High quality, funny, original meme.

  • @yourcutedarkoverlord
    @yourcutedarkoverlord 3 года назад +12576

    imagine, how much of a nice relationship you had to have had in your local grocery store for them to be concerned when you don't show up to buy your usual groceries. its sad he died, but also how sweet of those people to think about him that way. he was more than just a regular old customer.

    • @CaptainLekirk
      @CaptainLekirk 3 года назад +273

      Small, local shops. I know the one I work at always tries to get in contact if they don't see someone for a while.

    • @Melissa-wx4lu
      @Melissa-wx4lu 3 года назад +416

      We're a population of 40,000. I work the night shift at a 24 hour store and often times this old man would stop by around midnight and stick around until shift change at 7 am. He would cruse around in a mobility scooter. Stayed out of the way, held great conversations, would cruise around and give all the workers candy during holidays.
      Turns out he was living off grid, too poor to pay the electricity and hung out in the store to stay warm at night. Not long after the new year, he stopped showing up and a few days later it was in the paper that a propane tank he was using to fuel a heater had exploded. He survived the explosion, but later died from burn wounds when he ran back into his house for something.
      It was very upsetting to the night shift, as none of us had any idea of his troubles. He kept conversations non-personal, and we just figured he was lonely, or just not a night sleeper like the rest of us.

    • @LikaLaruku
      @LikaLaruku 3 года назад +64

      Sounds like the kind of thing that can only happen in small towns & rural areas. Where I live, grocery stores can't seem to keep employees for more than 2 months before their laid off & replaced with machines or someone willing to work longer hours for less pay.

    • @NiaJustNia
      @NiaJustNia 3 года назад +98

      My local Tesco supermarket (which is in a city and sees a lot of people) immediately noticed my absence when I got stuck in Wales during lockdown, and asked my partner each Sunday (our usual shopping day) how I was, and when I finally got back, several members of staff were really happy to see me. I think you just get used to your regulars

    • @dezb8510
      @dezb8510 2 года назад +34

      And he had a body rolled up in a rug

  • @Infodumptruck
    @Infodumptruck Год назад +243

    I have OCD and had no idea it was behind my hoarding tendencies. Makes sense now that I think about it though. Fortunately the cleaning part of my OCD doesn't allow the hoarding to get too bad

  • @ghost_toast8393
    @ghost_toast8393 4 года назад +12875

    I like how he not only shares the story, but also educates his audience on how to help people who struggle with this problem.

    • @jb6712
      @jb6712 3 года назад +13

      🙄

    • @WolfyRed
      @WolfyRed 3 года назад +7

      343 likes
      nice

    • @prapanthebachelorette6803
      @prapanthebachelorette6803 3 года назад +6

      @@WolfyRed now 454 😂

    • @JaggedBird
      @JaggedBird 3 года назад +19

      That's the strong point of Brew, aside from the personalities of the trio in these videos and the animation/presentation of course

    • @Spills51
      @Spills51 3 года назад +26

      Except he is giving the wrong advice to see a psychiatrist...One should not start with a psychiatrist and should see a psychologist FIRST if at all possible.
      Im sure his motivation is pure...but that doesnt mean it isnt bad advice.

  • @Kelly-uw1xr
    @Kelly-uw1xr 3 года назад +5660

    My niece was showing hoarding disorders when she was 10, going through trash and bringing home. She was being abused by her mom so I guess it helped. Now she’s on therapy and has stopped

    • @prettyvacant3605
      @prettyvacant3605 3 года назад +223

      Aww bless her little self
      I hope she's able to maintain her stability

    • @concept5631
      @concept5631 3 года назад +93

      Glad she got better.

    • @amogus6770
      @amogus6770 3 года назад +84

      And that’s why abusive parents are idiots

    • @silverwolf281
      @silverwolf281 3 года назад +59

      i remember one time i dragged home a bar stool wjen i was in elementary school. the thing was as tall as me. i didnt even get to sit in it. apparently the thing wss full of bugs and my dad burned it ;-;

    • @concept5631
      @concept5631 3 года назад +6

      @@silverwolf281 Did anyone try to stop you?

  • @yopo654
    @yopo654 3 года назад +22174

    The real horror story here is the fact that the guy went to sleep in a pair of jeans before dying.

  • @fairymonroe98
    @fairymonroe98 Год назад +110

    My mum is a hoarder. Imagine living like this but not through choice of your own? When I was a child the best way I could explain it to her was 'if the house is messy my mind is messy'...that was the best way to describe my mental health, I was just so young I didn't know

    • @di-gun5791
      @di-gun5791 Год назад +11

      so true, i had to fight my mom explaining "if we dont need stuff inmediately, then we dont need it"

    • @Raphanne
      @Raphanne Год назад +9

      Same here, my father and my brother are hoarders. I grew up in chaos. Now I live on another continent and my appartment is in order. I get panick attacks in cluttered spaces.

  • @Wilted_Roses
    @Wilted_Roses 3 года назад +13618

    I used to be a hoarder. The best way I can describe what it felt like having it is, imagine you have something that’s super important to you, anything will do, to other people, whatever item you chose may be considered trash or something unimportant. To you, it’s like that item is worth $1,000,000 dollars so you can’t let go of it. One thing that happened when I had it was, there was this cup we had, just a normal plastic cup, my mom threw it away and I found out about it, I tried to ignore the fact it was in the trash outside, I tried to roll over and go back to sleep as it was about 1:00a.m. At the time. I couldn’t ignore it, I went into a panicked state, I was crying and hyperventilating. I ended up getting out of bed, and going outside to dig through the trash, once I found it I brought it back inside, washed it really well, and put it back in the cabinet, since then we still have the cup. Even though I’m no longer a hoarder, I can tell you it was extremely difficult to let go of worthless items such as straw wrappers, or broken dog toys. If you or anyone you know may be suffering from hoarding, please try to encourage them or yourself to go see a psychologist, it’s a huge help trust me. Don’t be ashamed of this mental disorder, nor of yourself, it’s not your fault and nobody will judge you for reaching out and getting help, trust me on that I can guarantee professionals really do work miracles.

    • @joiceraiana
      @joiceraiana 3 года назад +336

      I can't imagine something like that, I'm a very messy person naturally and I have severe depression for at least a decade so the best way for me to handle my house is throwing away things that can clutter my space. I take to long to feel up to cleaning and if I have too much stuff I couldn't do it, cleaning would become overwhelming, so it's easier for me throw away something I want to keep than keep something that needs to go.
      It's been a month that I have a little pile of trash (small bottles and old clothes) in a corner of my living room, because I was cleaning and when I saw that amount of stuff I couldn't handle, like it's not huge, but it's enough to make me tired thinking about it, I can't imagine how exhausted I would be if it was the whole house. The only place never gets too messy is the kitchen, I have a rule for the number of plates, cups and everything else, if don't fit in the cupboards, it goes to the trash, or I risk become overwhelmed with the cleaning and kitchens can become filthy pretty fast.
      When I look stuff I usually just get tired thinking about the amount of time and energy I have to put to keep than. It's exhausting.

    • @LittleWing1985
      @LittleWing1985 3 года назад +72

      Why did your mom throw out the cup? It sounds like it was still functional item if you guys still have it to this very day and are using it.

    • @yeti25934
      @yeti25934 3 года назад +96

      Out oof curiosity, do you think you could throw that cup in the trash now?

    • @caughtbyfantasy3852
      @caughtbyfantasy3852 3 года назад +44

      Congrats on getting help and overcoming your condition. It sounds like it was a hard task. :)

    • @prapanthebachelorette6803
      @prapanthebachelorette6803 3 года назад +16

      I hope the best for your recovery ❤️‍🩹

  • @Megapixel8063
    @Megapixel8063 3 года назад +10842

    I haven’t cleaned my room in years, and it started to look like a hoarder’s room. I’ve started cleaning it recently, small chunks of the room at a time. My desk is spotless now! :)

    • @briantruck2284
      @briantruck2284 3 года назад +109

      Nice

    • @savetheevo
      @savetheevo 3 года назад +256

      Good job! I wonder what it looks like now after 7 months

    • @Megapixel8063
      @Megapixel8063 3 года назад +180

      @@savetheevo Dirty

    • @savetheevo
      @savetheevo 3 года назад +212

      @@Megapixel8063 awwh man :(

    • @fungifago
      @fungifago 3 года назад +176

      Hey you could try again clean your room and do a vídeo, just for us! I'll be Happy to watch it

  • @Moonlitnights073
    @Moonlitnights073 4 года назад +927

    Imagine breaking into a hoarders home and then a ton of stuff falls on you and you suffocate

    • @QuackZack
      @QuackZack 4 года назад +113

      That actually can and does happen to hoarders, it's a very sad and awful way to go. Or even worse than suffocating, is being completely incapacitated and slowly dying from lack of nourishment as a bunch of fallen debris keeps you from getting help like calling your cellphone or if no one is around to hear you cry.
      A grim fate like that would hopefully scare me from ever hoarding in my life.

    • @Ashannon888
      @Ashannon888 4 года назад +75

      @@QuackZack That's how the Collyer Brothers died. One died from being crushed by the garbage and the other starved to death.

    • @arkvoodleofthesacredcrotch6060
      @arkvoodleofthesacredcrotch6060 4 года назад +3

      Criminal breaks in, looks around, then nopes out lol

    • @Moonlitnights073
      @Moonlitnights073 4 года назад +3

      @@arkvoodleofthesacredcrotch6060 cool I've gotten in but at what cost

    • @r3drumg33k3
      @r3drumg33k3 4 года назад

      Has totally happened.

  • @kaiser5731
    @kaiser5731 Год назад +167

    my mom is a hoarder and i could have died at home too, after i could not convince her or throwing away her "treasure" i just gave up and left

    • @clarencep90
      @clarencep90 Год назад +5

      How often do you communicate with her

    • @honey-po9ij
      @honey-po9ij Год назад +8

      hording is a disease. it isn't as simple as just throwing stuff away. your mother needs professional help, not shame or abandonment.

    • @HeartMemory93
      @HeartMemory93 Год назад +20

      @@honey-po9ij just think about how exhausting this can be for the family members. Yes, hoarders need help, but they also need to want that help, otherwise it won't work.

    • @TUBE-ID
      @TUBE-ID Год назад +1

      my mother is just as bad plus we have every pest you can think of including many other life risking hazards. I am here with ya

    • @Travel_with_Gigi
      @Travel_with_Gigi Год назад +13

      @@honey-po9ij you cannot help someone who isn't willing to be helped. And you shouldn't drown yourself to save someone who is determined to stay underwater. Sometimes walking away is the only thing you can do.

  • @Brie.s
    @Brie.s 4 года назад +1791

    I was just minding my own business, having a normal day, and then *This* hops itself into my recommended
    I'm concerned but i regret nothing

    • @hystericalnicky3483
      @hystericalnicky3483 4 года назад +8

      I was gonna like it but it’s at 69 so yea

    • @dashyandpotatochip4415
      @dashyandpotatochip4415 4 года назад +4

      @@hystericalnicky3483 I'm sorry to say that someone ruined it

    • @Brie.s
      @Brie.s 4 года назад +4

      @@hystericalnicky3483 i appreciate your efforts, even in vain as they were

    • @symbolicmess2
      @symbolicmess2 4 года назад +2

      @@hystericalnicky3483 what does 69 mean?

    • @hystericalnicky3483
      @hystericalnicky3483 4 года назад +2

      @@symbolicmess2 uhhhh you learn it once your older

  • @Priest_Of_Zebak
    @Priest_Of_Zebak 3 года назад +7473

    "She never said hello. She was always walking down the street with a grocery bag. She would walk looking down. Something about her always seemed a little weird" - Gothamist about the blind lady.
    Wow the blind lady not acknowledging you, and always looking down?
    You're right that is weird.

    • @Greatmount
      @Greatmount 3 года назад +96

      She probably wasn't blind her whole life.

    • @Yikes_Doodles
      @Yikes_Doodles 3 года назад +35

      Strange ikr :o

    • @Merpsicles
      @Merpsicles 3 года назад +429

      Well if they never talked, maybe they didn't know that she was LEGALLY blind. That's different from completely blind btw

    • @krisshietala2119
      @krisshietala2119 3 года назад +107

      Not talking with neighbours? That seems like a healthy teenager/ student.

    • @ecclesiasticman4417
      @ecclesiasticman4417 3 года назад +44

      They never talked so maybe he didn't know she was blind

  • @CyricRO
    @CyricRO 4 года назад +4624

    Missing person; Police: "Should we check the home?" Also police: "Nah".

    • @TheRealJaneSeymour
      @TheRealJaneSeymour 3 года назад +109

      Police: he just mad at his Mom, he be fine...

    • @noname420
      @noname420 3 года назад +3

      It has 666 likes... o_o

    • @Dragyex
      @Dragyex 3 года назад +7

      Exactly my thoughts

    • @Darksun30
      @Darksun30 3 года назад +6

      That's a very sad scary fact.

    • @foodisscarce
      @foodisscarce 3 года назад +34

      shows exactly how incompetent the police are.

  • @Sonnenblume_18
    @Sonnenblume_18 2 года назад +53

    I am beginning to show signs of hording disorder.
    And I'm watching videos like this, to convince myself why I MUST let things go, even if it's difficult..

    • @mikatu
      @mikatu 2 месяца назад +1

      Just think that objects won't make you happy, but rather your experiences and your memonries.

  • @wewatchin2716
    @wewatchin2716 4 года назад +3557

    TIMMY GET DOWN NOW, Timmy... Are you coming to eat, okay I guess you can stay and play your video games.

    • @ultimatewarriors1291
      @ultimatewarriors1291 4 года назад +6

      huh

    • @Decade332
      @Decade332 4 года назад +18

      100 years later: ".................."

    • @4thDT
      @4thDT 4 года назад +28

      104 years later: I'm finally a ghost time to look at my son-
      Son: hi mom

    • @afraxbuqus3933
      @afraxbuqus3933 4 года назад +3

      @2021 S1G2 02 CHEN CHAK FUNG LUCAS Oh no...

    • @termitesc.aardwolf3644
      @termitesc.aardwolf3644 4 года назад +7

      *cue flies buzzing around corpse*

  • @adoggo1848
    @adoggo1848 4 года назад +1720

    Imagine if they checked their hoard before the body decomposed.

    • @thatsyou3321
      @thatsyou3321 4 года назад +188

      What if it was half-way decomposed? . . .
      gross

    • @SkittlesInYourHand
      @SkittlesInYourHand 4 года назад +145

      That'd be pretty traumatic

    • @jakub_paints6775
      @jakub_paints6775 4 года назад +33

      It would look like something out of an Indiana Jones film

    • @BierBart12
      @BierBart12 4 года назад +121

      What I am surprised by is that they didn't smell the decomposing corpse stench.
      I can't imagine the mold and rotting food smelling worse than that. I've been told that it's one of the worst smells imaginable and NOTHING could mask it.

    • @ajones2367
      @ajones2367 4 года назад +48

      @@BierBart12 nose blind

  • @chelseysmith6112
    @chelseysmith6112 4 года назад +1940

    I CANNOT get over the fact that she went into a hoarder’s home AND DECIDED TO GO INTO THE ATTIC!!!

    • @kappadarwin9476
      @kappadarwin9476 4 года назад +257

      When you enter a house you are greeted with strong smells. The attic most have smelt so bad that she had to go check it out.

    • @Roger85able
      @Roger85able 3 года назад +61

      She family not a stranger 🤣

    • @NikoroAya
      @NikoroAya 3 года назад +29

      But good thing they did though...

    • @JacobRise1492
      @JacobRise1492 3 года назад

      yea right

    • @gardengirl694
      @gardengirl694 3 года назад +56

      After 20 years it didn’t smell anymore. It was a skeleton

  • @OE2023
    @OE2023 Год назад +42

    So sad I wish we had more resources for people with mental health issues.

  • @negativecreep8066
    @negativecreep8066 3 года назад +2898

    i have hoarding disorder and it’s beyond painful. i developed symptoms at the age of 4 and i also suffer from OCD.
    even talking about it causes me major distress - but i thank you for being so sensitive and compassionate when talking about this disorder. it helps us a lot.

    • @autumn7809
      @autumn7809 3 года назад +12

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @neen2660
      @neen2660 3 года назад +28

      In the same boat, sending you well wishes.

    • @alwaysright2311
      @alwaysright2311 3 года назад +10

      I have a question... Aren't hoarding and ocd cleaning opposite things?

    • @autumn7809
      @autumn7809 3 года назад +173

      @@alwaysright2311 OCD is a lot more than just cleaning. In fact, lots of people deal with compulsions that have nothing to do with germs or organization. Mental illness can also overlap in multiple ways that don't always "make sense"

    • @kenetickups6146
      @kenetickups6146 3 года назад +4

      Hope things get better for you

  • @tochi1582
    @tochi1582 4 года назад +1506

    That animation of the dude with the frying pan runnin' up on the intruder and whacking him 😂🤣🤣. Why was that so funny?

    • @mitchellpatterson1829
      @mitchellpatterson1829 4 года назад +27

      I don't know, but it's the best laugh I have had this week. I'm not sure that's a good thing...

    • @plaguedoctor4411
      @plaguedoctor4411 4 года назад +42

      **bonk**

    • @Ashannon888
      @Ashannon888 4 года назад +9

      Slapstick basically.

    • @HieuNguyen-dv3ld
      @HieuNguyen-dv3ld 4 года назад +9

      _bonking noises intensifies_

    • @m4x927
      @m4x927 4 года назад +3

      Did him dirty, he entered the house and heard the garbage talking. This ain't Nam no more boys.

  • @pawprints1986
    @pawprints1986 3 года назад +1805

    A cause not mentioned, poverty. Especially if grew up in poverty. Example: "I can't throw away this old pair of socks with a hole, what if something happens to my new pair of socks like someone steals them, and then I have no socks to wear?" Same with other things as well. The hoard consists of "backup" things because you rarely afford or receive as gifts new things. Same with food. Why keep semi rotted food? Cuz picking the salvageable parts off is still better than no food
    I watched an actual full episode on this, and in the end it made so much sense. That total visual disarray in that case was caused by anxiety due to poverty. It wasn't "dirty" per se at least on the surfaces. Actually quite organized piles. Just so, soooo many things. Broke my heart for them really.

    • @Anonymous_Gambito
      @Anonymous_Gambito 2 года назад +69

      Yeah, I was thinking about this. I'm poor so I can recognize those lines of thinking. I have some traces of hoarding and OCD and it kinda scares me that it could develop into something worse.

    • @blauespony1013
      @blauespony1013 2 года назад +63

      A lot of elderly people that lived during World War II do have the same "problem". They learned to value things a lot more than we did, so they are hanging on to them. Even if they have 20 towels, they will keep the one with the holes in them.

    • @vaguelyeducated
      @vaguelyeducated 2 года назад +46

      So true. My family has hoarding issues that we easily trace back to the Great Depression. My great-grandparents were small-time farmers in the American south, so between the economic depression and the droughts in the 30's, they started having to hold onto anything they owned, no matter how small or disposable it was supposed to be. That kind of attitude of never wasting anything was passed on to their children, then to my father, and now to me, even though we haven't relied on farming for three generations. It's so ingrained into us that it feels impossible to break even though we're aware of why we do it-- there's a very valid justification that we're just bracing for the next inevitable depression, which both my parents and I have now already lived through and will live through again. That's part of the reason why CBT isn't necessarily the best or only treatment for hoarding in every case: in cases like these, you *have* to consider the socio-economic factors, or the behavior just starts cropping up again.

    • @ghostflxwer
      @ghostflxwer 2 года назад +3

      exactly how I feel.

    • @cyberfangzed
      @cyberfangzed 2 года назад +23

      I actually probably have a hoarding disorder due to poverty. I grew up in some poverty, so any thing I get I keep because "what if I need it in the future?" Im starting to throw things away so yeah. Idk thought I'd share.

  • @luckdragongirl
    @luckdragongirl 3 года назад +69

    Hoarding terrifies me. I used to watch "Hoarders" until I saw an episode where they mentioned that hoarding can happen to anyone who experiences major trauma in their life.
    I'm hoping since my mom died from a long battle with ovarian cancer (and I was her caretaker) in 2017, and I didn't start hoarding, that I won't have this happen. But that terrified me to learn that it could happen to anyone.

  • @PinkCoils
    @PinkCoils 3 года назад +668

    This is the first time I've heard this disorder spoken about in such a clinical and understanding way. It gives me a new perspective on my late grandma, who was also a hoarder.

    • @bambambi5918
      @bambambi5918 Год назад +1

      It's sad u need a video instead of empathy to understand where hoarding stems from

    • @PinkCoils
      @PinkCoils Год назад +7

      @@bambambi5918 Well when I asked her why she did it she never gave a straight answer so how was I to know there was something to empathize about? You don't know me or my situation; so check yourself before you wreck yourself.

    • @JustBuyTheWaywardsRealms
      @JustBuyTheWaywardsRealms Год назад +1

      ​@@bambambi5918 Dude empathy is not magic you know.

  • @Ryan-yk8vn
    @Ryan-yk8vn 4 года назад +605

    My great grandma was a hoarder, when we cleaned out her home when she died we found multiple dead tortoises. They called her the Turtle Lady Of Long Beach.

    • @paulocarre1
      @paulocarre1 4 года назад +8

      Long beach Ca or new york?

    • @BonaparteBardithion
      @BonaparteBardithion 4 года назад +20

      @@paulocarre1
      Long Beach, WA
      Actually, I don't know. I'm just entertained by the number of Long Beaches. :P

    • @comrade8185
      @comrade8185 4 года назад +12

      Wait like they were alive as pets or did they just wander in

    • @HieuNguyen-dv3ld
      @HieuNguyen-dv3ld 4 года назад +5

      **chokes-**

    • @alizeica519
      @alizeica519 4 года назад +2

      Long Beach Florida?

  • @moralkombat66
    @moralkombat66 4 года назад +731

    I love how sensitively this subject was handled, trying not to stigmatize the disorder. Hoarding and OCD in general is hard enough without people acting as if the people who act on compulsion want to live that way. Ocd is one of the most misunderstood mental health issues around, so a video so well made is very refeshing.

    • @jebes909090
      @jebes909090 4 года назад

      The video is 10:28 seconds long. That'll drive those ocdees nutz.

    • @LittleIcarus
      @LittleIcarus 4 года назад +42

      Jebes that's really not what OCD is

    • @blithesomeboy
      @blithesomeboy 4 года назад +14

      Exactly!! I’ve had OCD since I was really young, and now even on medication for it it’s so hard, and it takes literal years to try and control, especially after being untreated for so long

    • @moralkombat66
      @moralkombat66 4 года назад +23

      @@jebes909090 please don't say stuff like that. It's hurtful to me and others with ocd as it's something that trivializes our everyday struggles.

    • @moralkombat66
      @moralkombat66 4 года назад +10

      @@blithesomeboy yes. I was lucky enough to be diagnosed when I was three, and it's still a daily struggle. It's like living with a monster.

  • @Olivia.Sheree
    @Olivia.Sheree 2 года назад +15

    my dad was a huge hoarder and recently he passed away because of it. i appreciate you taking the time to educate people on this topic. many people don't understand how hard it can be; not only on the hoarder themself, but their family as well.

  • @AsclepiusHoe
    @AsclepiusHoe 4 года назад +7188

    "Are ya winning son?"
    "...son?"
    "........son??"

  • @Junitunes
    @Junitunes 3 года назад +374

    Hoarding has been passed down my family. I've been fighting it hard. I've gotten rid of half or more of my things in the last 3 months.

    • @MsLPSFOREVER
      @MsLPSFOREVER 3 года назад +16

      You can do it! I'm always so afraid I'll end up like my grandma. I tend to be able to get rid of most things without issue so I think I'm doing okay.

    • @raybay597
      @raybay597 3 года назад +7

      If you ever need to talk, I'm here. Hope your doing ok Juni

    • @ahilaryb
      @ahilaryb 3 года назад +4

      You're doing great 😊😊

    • @brittanytaylor2863
      @brittanytaylor2863 3 года назад +3

      That’s awesome news!

    • @ultimatev8148
      @ultimatev8148 3 года назад +3

      Good job! Keep,it up!

  • @zephyr8504
    @zephyr8504 4 года назад +1148

    This is like that febreze commercial "Jake thinks his room smells fine, but his mom smells this: 🗑🗑🚮🚮

  • @samanthaw3845
    @samanthaw3845 3 года назад +491

    I have TWELVE cats (my dog brought home a pregnant stray one day, and I couldn’t find homes for the kittens, and it just evolved from there - I’m pretty sure I’m not a hoarder), and my single GREATEST fear is that One of them will get outside or will get into the basement or the garage without me noticing and starve or otherwise suffer because I’m not paying enough attention. Every morning when I get up and every night before bed, I do a cat count just to make sure I have eyes on all of them.

    • @caskett8898
      @caskett8898 2 года назад +126

      If you havent you should probably get them fixed before you have 40 cats lol

    • @oliviaarmstrong3869
      @oliviaarmstrong3869 2 года назад +56

      Believe me, get them fixed asap. This happened to me and now I have at least 30 cats on the property and no matter how much I want to keep an eye on all of them, I cant. I understand needing to make sure they're safe especially after losing a couple of my cats because I've been neglectful

    • @aliceg2586
      @aliceg2586 2 года назад +21

      You could bring them to a shelter where they'll be adopted.

    • @dkf315
      @dkf315 2 года назад +13

      Bless your soul and also your dog for rescuing those cats

    • @brittaolson6550
      @brittaolson6550 2 года назад +14

      I get it. I’ve had 13 cats at a time, not counting cats I took in and found homes for (I had 23 cats & kittens, at one time). I am a rescuer, not an abuser, at least. I have never had a cat bred or a disease transmitted in my household. They are all tested, dewormed, vaccinated, spayed, and neutered. I pay for it myself. If I can’t afford any of those things, I don’t take on the animal…I bring it to a shelter. I just don’t like them being put down. I’ve rehomed over 100 cats/kittens, not including the over 35 I’ve lived with, over the years. I especially love adopting seniors. They are so sweet & don’t often get homes.

  • @Priinsu
    @Priinsu 4 года назад +641

    My first job was working at Lowes home improvement, in thegardening section, we found a dead decomposing rat. It was hands down the worst smell I've ever experienced in my life. I imagine a dead decomposing human has to be infinitely worse. The fact that someone could live with a dead body for 20 years and not know it is mind boggling to me.

    • @justsomeplantcells-
      @justsomeplantcells- 3 года назад +36

      It’s frustrating.
      My dad kept hoarding bottled water for his “boiling water” needs. Small items and bottle caps scatter around the house....
      Every time we bring this up, he just straight up don’t care and it’s his “personal stuff”
      Help.

    • @corvusgaming2379
      @corvusgaming2379 3 года назад +9

      If I didn’t easily get repulsed by visual things that look bad, I’d be a great person to work for one. I don’t have a sense of smell.

    • @sarahbarabe8470
      @sarahbarabe8470 3 года назад +3

      What about the family like they just thought he mysteriously disappeared

    • @valerierose817
      @valerierose817 2 года назад +19

      One time. I had so many clothes on my bathroom floor. And for awhile. I thought it smelled like dead fish in the bathroom. And it went away after a week or so Then when I went to clean up my clothes. There was a rotted dead mouse underneath Omg I was horrified and I don’t tell that to even my best friend because I’m so embarrassed that I got that bad

    • @martindrouin6547
      @martindrouin6547 2 года назад +4

      My brother had a snake and he used to feed it one rabbit every 2 weeks. One time, I think it ate too much and the snake vomitted the rabbit after a couple of hours. It smelled for at least a week.

  • @nysteponshi
    @nysteponshi 4 года назад +2812

    Imagine your son goes missing. You try and go find him and a search party goes out, you can’t find him so the cops give up. 20 years later you’ve finally learned how to let got them BAM, you get in the show hoarders and they dig up your house and find your son (edit) thanks for all the likes

    • @doofkhwetty
      @doofkhwetty 4 года назад +73

      As I was reading that I was hoping the conclusion would be finding the corpses of the rescue team and cops. Yours is good too though.

    • @autobotrock4789
      @autobotrock4789 4 года назад +55

      I wish I could say I'm surprised but in every other episode of Hoarders somebody unearths a mummified cat or something. Always makes me feel super bummed.

    • @fiatlux4058
      @fiatlux4058 4 года назад +62

      No one searched for him. Poor guy. Imagine being raised like that

    • @nysteponshi
      @nysteponshi 4 года назад +3

      @@fiatlux4058 ikr

    • @nysteponshi
      @nysteponshi 4 года назад +1

      @@autobotrock4789 yeah it’s really sad

  • @private4720
    @private4720 3 года назад +6877

    Plot twist: She knew he was dead. She was hoarding his body.

    • @PixieoftheWood
      @PixieoftheWood 3 года назад +584

      In a weird way that makes me feel a little better, because then, at least, there would be one person who noticed he died.

    • @Qwinpin
      @Qwinpin 3 года назад +17

      😂😂😂

    • @donald3335
      @donald3335 3 года назад +8

      😱

    • @Haildawn
      @Haildawn 3 года назад +6

      This has 666 likes

    • @suzanneclark7706
      @suzanneclark7706 3 года назад +3

      I heard a creepy riddle that had a similar premise

  • @tasy4229
    @tasy4229 2 года назад +116

    I can totally understand that she didn't recognize the smell of the body. I visited a friends flat a few times and everytime I noticed a really bad smell coming out of a flat on her floor. There was another sign that the flat hadn't been opened in weeks and we called the cops, worrying someone might have died in there. The cops also said the smell was really concerning and could indeed be a rotting body so they called the fire department to break open the door. Luckily there was no body rotting inside, but a hoarders flat with food, trash and rats inside. The residents were already gone for weeks or even months since they were friends of the landlord who let them live there for free (so he didn't recognize that they didn't pay the rent or smth). the landlord was shocked about the state his flat was in and started cleaning it the next day.

    • @raven4k998
      @raven4k998 Год назад +1

      you thought living with a corpse would be unbearable you thought wrong🤣

    • @Fartsquad_
      @Fartsquad_ Год назад

      Those prior residents are trash people. Your friend lets you live at a house for free and you leave so much garbage behind that it stinks like a rotting body? Tf, I feel bad for that landlord

  • @melTiceTiger
    @melTiceTiger 4 года назад +414

    I couldn't imagine being so alone that my own mother doesn't notice I died in my own room in her house... and literally nobody else in the world asked where I was.

    • @maggie6152
      @maggie6152 2 года назад +37

      That's what hoarding does to the people around you. My mother was a hoarder and we couldn't have friends over, family rarely came, and we rarely went anywhere because mom's safety zone was her hoard. It's this massive "secret" everyone knows about that must be protected at all costs. It's horribly isolating and incredibly destructive to everyone it touches, like alcoholism. It's awful growing up in an environment where your shoes from ten years ago are more important than you.

    • @whitedragoness23
      @whitedragoness23 2 года назад +1

      That’s horriable, she would of still least come across his body at some point? Or did stacks of stuff just fall on him after he died and she never saw him among the walls of clutter. The poor guy was as if he was forgotten and just left there to rot along with the other clutter. I know it’s not her fault but it seemed like a cruel way his remains ended up being mummified due to his surroundings and circumstances

    • @babyblue5964
      @babyblue5964 2 года назад +4

      @@whitedragoness23 she was legally blind, I doubt she saw much if anything at all and with the house itself covering the stench, after a few years of living in it she would be used to the smell to a degree where it doesn't bother her unless shes gone outside and then walked inside because of the scent being different from the outside that you were used to just a moment ago

    • @semoremo9548
      @semoremo9548 2 года назад +3

      The mom was legally blind and probably elderly (not to mention used to the stench of her own house), so it's totally possible that she didn't see or smell the corpse. And since she's elderly she probably didn't go upstairs to the attic often. She also thought he had just ran away.

  • @miloselfesteem2326
    @miloselfesteem2326 4 года назад +412

    Imagine thinking your son ran away and be like "he is DEAD to this family" only to discover this 20 yrs later

    • @lovesbunniesnferrets
      @lovesbunniesnferrets 3 года назад +35

      "He's dead to us"
      *Someone finds the body*
      "... literally?-"

  • @graflohner839
    @graflohner839 4 года назад +82

    Imagine being so disconnected from the rest of the world and family no one looks for you. Not even in your room.

  • @MissLexiMarie
    @MissLexiMarie 2 года назад +18

    Thank you for the sensible look at hoarding disorder. I've struggled with it for my entire life, starting from being raised (or neglected, rather) in a filthy home.
    When people hear "OCD" they think impeccable cleanliness and organization, or it just being a quirky trait. But that's wholly inaccurate, and many of us do have hoarding tendencies that jeopardize our health and wellbeing.

  • @ink4798
    @ink4798 4 года назад +459

    Still less impressive than the dead woman who’s tv was on for 3 years

  • @Seansfishingtales
    @Seansfishingtales 4 года назад +619

    God, I’m the opposite, I’ll throw everything out in a room just because it’s annoying me 😂

    • @captainfrosty31
      @captainfrosty31 3 года назад +5

      Lol this is me 🙌

    • @Joe-el2wx
      @Joe-el2wx 3 года назад +3

      Same

    • @lubyricabt9639
      @lubyricabt9639 3 года назад

      Highfive😂

    • @darkallegiance666
      @darkallegiance666 3 года назад +9

      Sounds like you & the people who agree with you have a different type of mental disorder. Have you gotten help for it yet?

    • @Lawltasticness
      @Lawltasticness 3 года назад +25

      @@darkallegiance666 ok doctor

  • @Lunaliladee
    @Lunaliladee 3 года назад +424

    When they get more items, they don't get rid of the old ones because it feels like they are being abandoned by the objects, or that they are abandoning the objects. So I guess hoarding can be caused by abandonment issues.
    I have emotional attachments to all of my stuffed animals ;-;

    • @tkettlesoup
      @tkettlesoup 3 года назад +54

      yep. i was a hoarder as a young child (from 8 or 9 - 12 years old) and it was almost like every item was a sentient being or somehow alive- that they had feelings. kinda like in toy story, but it applied to essentially any inanimate object- even straight up garbage. throwing things away felt like i was betraying another human person, telling them that they are worthless. it was wildly irrational and i was always aware of that, but just the thought of throwing things away would send me into an unprecedented state of panic and anxiety that i wouldn’t wish on anyone. the best thing you can do for people like this is be patient and kind, not shaming or aggressive. i was lucky to have amazing and supportive people in my life who sought help for me. a combo of therapy and medication (mostly meds for me) led to finally being able to stop hoarding at age 12. it’s not laziness, it’s an anxiety disorder. treat these people with love and compassion, as they are wildly misunderstood and truly do need professional help.

    • @30ratsstackedinatrenchcoat91
      @30ratsstackedinatrenchcoat91 3 года назад +8

      @@tkettlesoup I’m the exact same- minus the getting help part. You managed to put it into words better than I can. I don’t know how to ask for help :/

    • @sunchasericeserawings7166
      @sunchasericeserawings7166 3 года назад +4

      @@30ratsstackedinatrenchcoat91 it starts with reaching out to a friend, or just start looking around for a therapist. It'll be okay!
      I'm not a full-blown hoarder but my entire family has tendencies towards it. We haven't gone to therapy about it, but we are working on it.
      It's okay, you can do this

    • @30ratsstackedinatrenchcoat91
      @30ratsstackedinatrenchcoat91 3 года назад +3

      @@sunchasericeserawings7166 I asked my parents but I don’t think they understand me, and I’m too scared to ask again in case I get called a hypochondriac again

    • @sunchasericeserawings7166
      @sunchasericeserawings7166 3 года назад +3

      @@30ratsstackedinatrenchcoat91 aww. I'm sorry. What about friends or a school counselor?

  • @Zipesthemanokit
    @Zipesthemanokit Год назад +18

    My mum is a borderline hoarder, she kept a lot of stuff from when her mum passed away, took her 5 years to start clearing things out, before she did we had 2 storage units, a car full of stuff at all times, and boxes in every cupboard

  • @painfultruth1846
    @painfultruth1846 4 года назад +881

    As a kid I always got emotionally attached to random items and objects and would refuse to let them go even if they are broken. It got so bad that I even refused to throw away juice cartons. However that went away after puberty

    • @victoriamof
      @victoriamof 3 года назад +27

      omg same

    • @melonoire
      @melonoire 3 года назад +21

      Same it almost didn't go away but my mom always tries to to help me know what I should and shouldn't keep

    • @insertname1857
      @insertname1857 3 года назад +19

      i was the same- to be fair, i was also going through a lot of trauma and eventually lost my home as a child. after puberty i developed OCD but non-hoarding. i do have trouble parting with items, but i don't collect random stuff and i throw things away unless they hold true sentimental value

    • @Lunaliladee
      @Lunaliladee 3 года назад +12

      I still have emotional attachments to my stuffed animals lol

    • @thewhovianhippo7103
      @thewhovianhippo7103 3 года назад +1

      i still do Lol

  • @savvy7146
    @savvy7146 3 года назад +549

    Thank you, I'm 17 and have OCD and signs of hoarding. I'm talking to someone about it in 11 hours and hopefully can get the help I need.

    • @af6923
      @af6923 3 года назад +20

      Glad you are getting help. You got this 👍🏻👍🏻

    • @xmissbelieberx
      @xmissbelieberx 2 года назад +14

      How did it go for you?😊❤️

    • @anonhate8732
      @anonhate8732 2 года назад +6

      Good luckk

    • @gleeshtv3283
      @gleeshtv3283 2 года назад +5

      I hope everything is going well for you xx

    • @Randomdude34
      @Randomdude34 2 года назад +4

      Wishing the best for you!❤️🥰✨

  • @mattthomas8178
    @mattthomas8178 3 года назад +174

    I forgot what show it was, but they were going through the house and barn of a WW2 POW that became a hoarder after he was freed, they said they started hoarding because they didn't want everything taken away from them again.
    And it's honestly one of the saddest things I've ever heard

  • @glitchxmars7415
    @glitchxmars7415 2 года назад +24

    I have a mild hoarding disorder (I am capable of getting rid of things, but there are many items that are distressing to get rid of, even when it seems silly) and something I've found out helps me cope is turning old things into new things-- most times I can retain what was important to me about the last item, while giving it functionality and use. For example, using newspapers in art projects and salvaging parts of an old worn backpack to sew a new one.
    I still have several bins of recycling i can't bring myself to throw out, though

    • @shannongodbey7420
      @shannongodbey7420 2 года назад +3

      I did the same with 4 small 'oui' brand yogurt glasses. I used 2 of them for blackboard chalk, 1 for thumbtacks and 1 for beads.. and a large tin can for my eraser

  • @yeyo9404
    @yeyo9404 3 года назад +1587

    These hoarder people don’t need our criticism.. what they need is our support and help and compassion.

    • @ohio948
      @ohio948 3 года назад +31

      They need a dumpster . . .

    • @leahr9038
      @leahr9038 3 года назад +22

      That's sweet you should work in a therapeutic setting for people like this. I personally find it infuriating.

    • @peanutjuice1748
      @peanutjuice1748 3 года назад +56

      @@ohio948 No, they need a psychiatrist.

    • @ohio948
      @ohio948 3 года назад +6

      @@peanutjuice1748 he's definitely gonna critique them and their choices.

    • @rebeccadyer8446
      @rebeccadyer8446 3 года назад +21

      My grandmother once invited us over asking for our help, we filled up both her garbage bin and recycling bin with random garbage she had in one small corner, it was a fight for each and every bit of it down to pieces of moldy bits of wood and 20 year old rotting newspaper, literally rotting garbage, she afterwards got so angry she said she didn't want us back because "we just wanted to throw out all her stuff", and that we could clear out her stuff only after she dies. Again, she ASKED us to help that day. She does have a family doctor and is on meds for anxiety and various things, but she's still a hoarder. We have tried our hardest to help but hoarding is a tough problem. She and her husband live in a 3-4 bedroom house, but at least 2 of the rooms are so full you can't open the door.

  • @a.v.y8331
    @a.v.y8331 3 года назад +155

    I'm so touched that you said "when it comes to mental health, a light touch is often the best". thank you.

  • @Meman702
    @Meman702 4 года назад +354

    Imagine being so insignificant to you other family members, people won't question where you went.

    • @deeprollingriver5820
      @deeprollingriver5820 3 года назад +21

      Me

    • @jesusthrewtables6295
      @jesusthrewtables6295 3 года назад +25

      I don't have to imagine. I went missing 6 years ago and no one cares. If I loved them I wouldn't have run away.

    • @glowinggold9488
      @glowinggold9488 3 года назад +25

      @@jesusthrewtables6295 I.m sorry. I hope u have some good friends as a support group

    • @milkycat9344
      @milkycat9344 3 года назад +2

      @@jesusthrewtables6295 sorry to hear that😥

    • @TheFlowerGirl13
      @TheFlowerGirl13 3 года назад +1

      Pretty sure no one in my family would care if I disappeared

  • @teaforthepoor
    @teaforthepoor 2 года назад +9

    My Dad has hoarding tendencies along with me. I grew up in it and I'm still fighting against that instinct after finally cleaning my room entirely and trashing more than half of my things. Thank you for being sensitive about the topic.

  • @casuals.3.19
    @casuals.3.19 4 года назад +200

    “Finding corpses in the homes is actually pretty common”
    What

    • @eej1983able
      @eej1983able 3 года назад

      Lol I'm weirded out it's on my recommendations 🤣

    • @mzywica
      @mzywica 3 года назад +1

      Usually pets

    • @apexalex
      @apexalex 3 года назад

      I- uhh... Let's just collectively ignore why they said that?

  • @SpaghettiRoad
    @SpaghettiRoad 4 года назад +222

    This is scaring me since I already have a tendency to hoard stuff.

    • @-Teague-
      @-Teague- 4 года назад +42

      Get away from it as fast as possible that's not a life you want bro

    • @omokok1877
      @omokok1877 4 года назад

      Hello

    • @wavekiller7719
      @wavekiller7719 4 года назад +3

      I just realized the reason you said that was because of the flags

    • @infernowa
      @infernowa 4 года назад

      I-

    • @BigBurgerBoy557
      @BigBurgerBoy557 4 года назад +2

      Well stop

  • @Polyoctopus1
    @Polyoctopus1 4 года назад +1648

    Too bad access to mental health professionals in America is so hard to get

    • @zyzzer
      @zyzzer 3 года назад +32

      It's not tho. They literally have a website, you can sign up like Netflix for about the same price.

    • @imwastingmytimeonthis7344
      @imwastingmytimeonthis7344 3 года назад +39

      ??? Huh no it’s not there’s many mental Heath professions in America? also many apps to use and in schools, programs, many phone lines you can literally find a mental Heath care services
      Across a couple of blocks from ur house..

    • @moth9181
      @moth9181 3 года назад +176

      [_ESPI][NOZA__] it’s not a lack of professionals. It’s the price tag. Mental health care is seen as a luxury by American insurance companies. Many apps and online services charge ludicrous prices and turn away people with severe mental health issues. It’s very sad and it sucks it’s not accessible

    • @imwastingmytimeonthis7344
      @imwastingmytimeonthis7344 3 года назад +4

      @@moth9181 oh alright, I already knew that but I didn’t noticed they were talking about the price..

    • @watcherwlc53
      @watcherwlc53 3 года назад +11

      There are lots of mental health professionals throughout the US. I'm not sure about every locality. If you have health insurance, you can go almost anywhere.

  • @KaitlynSage
    @KaitlynSage Год назад +14

    Okay so I’m not THAT severe of being a hoarder but I am one and the literal reason is because I don’t know when I’ll ever find those things again because I was raised with nothing. I even hoard plastics in case I need them. It’s deep rooted in me to literally save anything I have because it could have a purpose. And when I met a girl who was so rich that she threw away all her leftovers after dinner, I asked to take them home because I cannot deal with wasting food and I felt embarrassed to ask for it but I just can’t. There’s so many people out there that are without. I don’t ever throw my clothes away. I’ve always been given hand me Downs and got excited as heck. I always donate anything I can’t physically wear anymore. But my place looks NOTHING like that, but I DO indeed keep things that pile up and I’ve had to teach myself recently that I have to let go of some things. I had a perfume as a present for 10 years. I’d only use 1 squirt every 5 months. My sister had to teach me that it’s meant to be used. I just didn’t want it to run out. Honestly, it’s a really sad and embarrassing disorder.

  • @rosenides6418
    @rosenides6418 3 года назад +147

    This poor woman, blind and hoarding... So sad that no one could help her sooner 😢

  • @pondererofpointlessdreams5029
    @pondererofpointlessdreams5029 4 года назад +722

    "I have a lot of skeletons in my closet..."
    "Oh, I'm sorry."
    "What for? I'm still waiting for the cleaners to get rid of them. Those teenagers dying in my house, always attached to their phones."

  • @RikuHarada6996
    @RikuHarada6996 4 года назад +636

    Me: Finding it unbelievable that a person can horde so much junk.
    Also me: Looking at those Yu-Gi-Oh and Pokemon cards at the corner, enough to bury a man.

    • @MashySob
      @MashySob 4 года назад +6

      as well as all those empty tins caked with dust.

    • @ButtSauce666
      @ButtSauce666 4 года назад

      @@MashySob no good.
      Is that like english for chip containers?

    • @heszedjim9699
      @heszedjim9699 4 года назад +5

      @@ButtSauce666 as in a metal tin. That cards come in

    • @jasonlovi8745
      @jasonlovi8745 4 года назад +13

      Sure, but trading cards have value. You can get a few cents for commons and up to millions for rarer cards.

    • @albaformiga7932
      @albaformiga7932 4 года назад +6

      Collecting stuff is okay as long as you keep them organized

  • @TK-en2hq
    @TK-en2hq Год назад +28

    my grandmother maintains her horde with my uncle. It's just a mindset she got from growing up in the great depression. Every time I visit I leave with a trunk full of "gifts".

  • @annurissimo1082
    @annurissimo1082 4 года назад +995

    I legit cracked up at "For the Hoard" lol

    • @Helicopter7
      @Helicopter7 4 года назад +5

      E

    • @dahness564
      @dahness564 4 года назад +13

      Isnt it a wow refference?:D

    • @Vincent-jq6uk
      @Vincent-jq6uk 4 года назад +4

      Haha voice go *crac*

    • @danminstell5287
      @danminstell5287 4 года назад +4

      Whats the reference

    • @liltobi6081
      @liltobi6081 4 года назад +17

      @@danminstell5287 one of the playable factions in WoW is called the Horde, with the common battlecry being 'For the Horde!'

  • @kekort2
    @kekort2 3 года назад +192

    A problem with hoarding tv shows is that people who are hoarders don't think they are if their house isn't as bad as the extreme cases featured on the shows.

    • @juicyparsons
      @juicyparsons 2 года назад +29

      I agree fully. A lot of hoarders aren't collecting garbage and disgusting rotten things or have poor hygiene. My father's hoarding presents as buying more things than he can possibly use. He's kinda addicted to online shopping- kinda to fill an emotional void/loneliness after retirement. He can't walk too well so his living room is filling up with packages. He's starting to discard things and shop less though. Every time I visit I encourage him to give me some garbage I can take away. He does not wanna get to this level

    • @meanncat3050
      @meanncat3050 2 года назад

      @@juicyparsons
      Your dad sounds like my sister. Thankfully she has more bills and is saving for retirment so she has no spare to spend on fun stuff so the constant packages have haulted.

    • @TheresaTV1
      @TheresaTV1 2 года назад +1

      Actually, it had the opposite effect on me. I was in the early stages of hoarding (chronic disorganization) and I discovered ways to break out of those habits by watching Hoarders and Hoarding: Buried Alive.

  • @sourgreendolly7685
    @sourgreendolly7685 4 года назад +266

    I was raised by my grandmother, who’s a hoarder. It took me until my mid 20’s to unlearn the behavior.
    Thankfully, now that she’s in her 70s, she wants me to get rid of the junk. I promised her I’d save her puzzles, that’s all she wants and I think it’s a very fair compromise. This year I’ve been slowly working on a large closet that was stuffed up to my shoulders (I’m 5’6” for reference) and I can see most of the floor in there now. I’m hoping I can turn it into a space where she can actually do her puzzles.

    • @sinandcyanide7505
      @sinandcyanide7505 4 года назад +34

      That's amazing. It's a GREAT compromise for someone with so much trouble letting go of things. Good on you for being so willing to help her, too.

    • @saturnssubliminals
      @saturnssubliminals 4 года назад +10

      That’s really nice of you! I hope it turns out well :)

    • @骆军骅
      @骆军骅 4 года назад +3

      LOL SHORT

    • @骆军骅
      @骆军骅 4 года назад +5

      But jokes aside good for you and I hope your grandma is doing well!

    • @SuperRitz44
      @SuperRitz44 4 года назад +4

      Really caring of you to help your granny!

  • @CT-jx2eh
    @CT-jx2eh 6 месяцев назад

    I really appreciate the time you took to discuss hoarding disorder/ocd. Seeing hoarding constantly used for shock value is extremely distressing and makes getting help/improving so much harder.

    • @Hello-bs8dn
      @Hello-bs8dn 2 месяца назад

      Yea I thought i have ocd this type i used to have as well

  • @theaveragestabilizer6415
    @theaveragestabilizer6415 3 года назад +99

    One of the things I notice about hoarders (my grandfather was a hoarder himself) is that a lot of them lived through the Great Depression. My great grandmother was sour from what I know, but she hoarded heavily after the Great Depression ended in fear that she would need the things later. I think she passed that on to my grandpa, but I'm not sure.

  • @Arlantacious
    @Arlantacious 4 года назад +157

    "oh so you found my halloween decoration skeleton"

    • @kallie7606
      @kallie7606 4 года назад +12

      “Don’t mind the smell, it’s just *old* “

  • @xenowarsgames3806
    @xenowarsgames3806 3 года назад +148

    What about the Soviet lady found 60 years after her death. In her apartment that hadn't been touched for 60 years.

    • @theirishempire4952
      @theirishempire4952 3 года назад +2

      Link?

    • @xenowarsgames3806
      @xenowarsgames3806 3 года назад +5

      @@theirishempire4952 Funny enough I think they made the video on it

    • @DeathnoteBB
      @DeathnoteBB 2 года назад +4

      Where was the landlord? Imagine if she was alive and just getting free apartment for 60 years… Way better outcome

    • @DeathnoteBB
      @DeathnoteBB 2 года назад

      @@xenowarsgames3806 Brew? I didn’t see any video like that looking through their videos

    • @Dabazuka
      @Dabazuka 2 года назад +2

      @@DeathnoteBB I'm assuming the lady owned the apartment

  • @alyssastokes53
    @alyssastokes53 2 года назад +1

    Thank you so much for putting that at the beginning of video. Mental illness is not a joke.

  • @coocat
    @coocat 4 года назад +70

    It’s scary that people can just disappear like that, especially when your discarded by family and friends

  • @helenamirian908
    @helenamirian908 3 года назад +208

    My late father was such a hateful and awful person that his death by heart attack was only found out a week or so later because the neighbors complained about the smell. He had told his staff to carry on at work and not to disturb him at home, that he was working on a painting. Served him right.

    • @marcwright4790
      @marcwright4790 3 года назад +38

      I’m sorry your father was like that.

  • @mellyr2584
    @mellyr2584 3 года назад +151

    I used to be a hoarder due to being abandoned by both my parents twice.. when the room was full it made me feel less lonely. Sometimes I would clean up my bed but then I would stay up all night crying because I missed the trash. It was just so lonely. At 19 I got a boyfriend and moved in with him, stopped hoarding immediately and now I clean our house daily and don't allow clutter. It's so crazy looking back on it now but I realize it was all psychological

    • @LuhRen
      @LuhRen 2 года назад +27

      Hope you're working on your abandonment issues and not just converting them into a relationship.

    • @mtaylor7307
      @mtaylor7307 Год назад

      Thank you for sharing your story! It's important to remember hoarding may be triggered for a variety of reasons. Best to you, be good to you, always. You deserve this!

  • @sanegiyuu_mybeloved
    @sanegiyuu_mybeloved Год назад +4

    2:38 "Oh that's really sad"
    " *And it's not going to get better* "
    " *O h* "

    • @FISHYY_MTB
      @FISHYY_MTB 5 месяцев назад

      Yeahs I thought the same thing

  • @kj_meows
    @kj_meows 4 года назад +171

    Just stopping by to applaud the way you handled your disclaimer at the beginning as well as how you addressed this particular mental illness. Great job of explaining the disorder and rehumanizing people that are suffering. 👏

  • @KikiChan_007
    @KikiChan_007 4 года назад +3124

    "Finding corpses in the homes of hoarders is more common than you know."
    Me: 😶
    What?

    • @squishysuperconductor9711
      @squishysuperconductor9711 4 года назад +59

      Sometimes they horde corpses

    • @squishysuperconductor9711
      @squishysuperconductor9711 4 года назад +123

      One lady on hoarders ( a show ) had 189 dead animals collected in her fridge , some her old childhood cats , ik people do it irl and it wasnt just for the show as my hoarding grandmother still has a few of her dead cats in a shoebox

    • @tinydough8746
      @tinydough8746 4 года назад +6

      @@squishysuperconductor9711 cool

    • @eutytoalba
      @eutytoalba 4 года назад +77

      @@squishysuperconductor9711
      My grandmother was definitely the sweetest cat lady ever, but she cared for her cats exceptionally well and in the end saved their cremains in a shoebox full of the small ash boxes. She herself passed away in 2015, and so we had those cats' cremains boxes put in the casket with my grandmother.
      Maybe that's an example of small-scale hoarding done right, in a healthy way? 🙂
      Oh yeah, that was a total of nine cats.

    • @lizmowrey9866
      @lizmowrey9866 4 года назад +1

      I've seen mostly cat & squirrel ones on tv

  • @bryanmuster5662
    @bryanmuster5662 3 года назад +207

    When i was a teenager, a friend of mine's mom married a hoarder she met through the church. He moved into her home cuz it was much bigger and nicer. I helped my friend and his sister clean out the hoarder house. It was crazy! The whole time we kept saying "I hope we don't find a body." There was a room full of newspapers. Literally, the whole room. It smelled like old sausages in the house. Nasty.

    • @myra3266
      @myra3266 2 года назад +2

      I don’t get the newspaper thing. Yeah my parents had a van full of newspapers

  • @maggie6152
    @maggie6152 2 года назад +8

    This is what hoarding does to the people around you. My mother was a hoarder and we couldn't have friends over, family rarely came, and we rarely went anywhere because mom's safety zone was her hoard. It's this massive "secret" everyone knows about that must be protected at all costs. It's horribly isolating and incredibly destructive to everyone it touches, like alcoholism. It's awful growing up in an environment where your shoes from ten years ago are more important than you.
    And now my sister is a hoarder too.

  • @Bigfoot_With_Internet_Access
    @Bigfoot_With_Internet_Access 4 года назад +307

    It's so annoying when you live with your son's corpse for 20 years without realizing it

    • @kherii.
      @kherii. 4 года назад +6

      Long time no see

    • @gyimihendrix
      @gyimihendrix 4 года назад +9

      So relatable

    • @AnOverratedMon2024
      @AnOverratedMon2024 4 года назад +5

      Ikr always happens

    • @shuichi232
      @shuichi232 4 года назад +2

      Ugh, so annoying...

    • @admiralbutt
      @admiralbutt 4 года назад +1

      It's just a good thing Bigfoots like you don't live in homes!

  • @liamseesink
    @liamseesink 3 года назад +81

    My grandpa was what I would describe as a "clean" hoarder. His apartment was filled to the ceiling with boxes and random items, but it wasn't that dirty and certainly had nothing rotting in it. Still, we spent an entire year emptying it after he died.

  • @hannahwishon9958
    @hannahwishon9958 4 года назад +597

    "Without realizing it." Yeah... right.

    • @purplepenwen9319
      @purplepenwen9319 4 года назад +33

      Yeah kinda, sus

    • @evertonc1448
      @evertonc1448 4 года назад +101

      Bruh, I used to work as the dude that would go to check if people are alive here in my country. Once you enter a hoarder's house, you'll be 100% convinced this would be possible. Think about the worst, most putrid smell you ever sniffed, now multiply that by 10, that's your average hoarder's house.
      A putrid corpse smells a lot, but in a house where everything is putrid that's literally the smell of the house.

    • @imperialleather5448
      @imperialleather5448 4 года назад +14

      Yeah her whole house would have been caked in flies

    • @joshuacantrell388
      @joshuacantrell388 4 года назад +4

      Sus

    • @TuxMan
      @TuxMan 4 года назад +3

      0-0

  • @2xShawn
    @2xShawn 2 года назад +2

    Imagine dying 20 years ago and no one even noticed..

  • @napoleonibonaparte7198
    @napoleonibonaparte7198 3 года назад +417

    And in Sweden today: a 70 year old mum arrested for imprisoning her son for 30 years. He’s 40 now.

    • @ragged2233
      @ragged2233 3 года назад +22

      tf and they weren’t allowed to leave?? like never?

    • @t.gregory835
      @t.gregory835 3 года назад +6

      Link?

    • @jb6712
      @jb6712 3 года назад +54

      But they found her not guilty in any way, that she had not, in fact, imprisoned him in any way, but that he made up the story, so that's irrelevant to this.

    • @Mehwhatevr
      @Mehwhatevr 3 года назад +18

      in Stockholm?

    • @crimsonbride
      @crimsonbride 3 года назад +1

      Link please

  • @jalexoneschanel1356
    @jalexoneschanel1356 4 года назад +188

    The majority of corpses found in the homes of hoarders are the hoarders themselves. These people are often reclusive and go unnoticed for months- often until family becomes worried around holidays, or when landlords are set to evict a tenant who hasn’t been paying rent or left their apartment and sends a clean-up crew to clean the supposedly abandoned property. Hoarders are also frequently disabled in my experience. My own grandfather was a hoarder and he suffered from OCD and diabetes. My grandmother confined his hoarding to his office and a pair of sheds in the backyard that were torn down following his death. I’ve heard of other cases of hoarders with other disabilities, both physical and psychological. These disabilities that are prevalent are also often a factor in these deaths that go unnoticed. An extremely overweight diabetic woman who hoards newspapers and clothing and lives in a very low income may ration her insulin, or forego her medication all together due to self neglect related to the psychological condition that compels her to hoard, ultimately resulting in a death that my go unnoticed for quite some time.

    • @purpledefaultpfp6233
      @purpledefaultpfp6233 3 года назад

      Diabetes and OCD isn't a disability

    • @AShatteredDragonsSpirit
      @AShatteredDragonsSpirit 3 года назад +8

      @@purpledefaultpfp6233 r/usernamechecksout

    • @Alizudo
      @Alizudo 2 года назад +6

      @@purpledefaultpfp6233
      Yes they are. Normal people do not have Diabetes. It's a medical disability.

    • @meanncat3050
      @meanncat3050 2 года назад +7

      @@purpledefaultpfp6233
      If it affects a person's ability to function in society such as work or live alone it is in fact legally considered a disablility.

    • @somedragonbastard
      @somedragonbastard 2 года назад +6

      @@purpledefaultpfp6233 bro if it affects ones ability to live a normal life its a disability

  • @Llova1
    @Llova1 4 года назад +81

    The “bathtub” referenced at the end is a converted Baptism pool.
    The house was originally a church, and apparently was involved in some sort of theft ring years ago.

    • @AkaiAzul
      @AkaiAzul 4 года назад +6

      Theft and DVD piracy, iirc.

  • @_Moon_Flower
    @_Moon_Flower 2 года назад +4

    This showed me I’m a low lever hoarder but still a hoarder. This made me wanna deep clean everything

  • @IchimatsuTrashneko
    @IchimatsuTrashneko 3 года назад +50

    I got my dog from a hoarders home. She was found in a cramped cage with 4-5 other dogs in feces, etc. She was extremely shaky and when I had to put her in a cage she used to scream. 3 years later she has comfort in a cage and is a very happy girl :)
    It sucks that hoarders suffer through this especially when they have pets. They get scarred

    • @Lili-ey1nd
      @Lili-ey1nd 2 года назад

      Hoarding random objects makes you abuse and neglect animals?

    • @dawn1913
      @dawn1913 Год назад

      It's so sad and outright criminal to the animals though, who can't speak or go get help for the owner and themselves.

  • @kyrabarnes2249
    @kyrabarnes2249 3 года назад +181

    Oof, as somebody with depression, ocd and issues with cleaning and getting rid of things... This feels way to close to home... I am working on my my room a lot rn, now just have my closet and some floor space to clean up. Which is a lot of stuff... But I'm working hard and it feels great. Oddly enough I was forced to clean up because my fish aquarium output broke and released 40 gallons of water onto the floor... But it was a good wake up call and now I hope to keep things clean form now on.

    • @terminalGooner
      @terminalGooner 3 года назад +4

      Im rooting for youuu. :) hopefully things in general get better for you

    • @settonblack7889
      @settonblack7889 3 года назад +4

      You've got this!! Way to go, changing for the better! Let us know how it goes ❤

  • @JK_5076
    @JK_5076 4 года назад +35

    (Partially) disturbing, angering, and confusing, how do you not know how your son went in there
    and never came out? Thanks for a new upload Brew!

  • @kage6613
    @kage6613 3 года назад +7

    I'll tell you where it comes from: the contradiction between socialized production with privatized profits. workers can't own anything without putting themselves in debt, we rent everything; we are therefore incentivized to hold on to any possession we have in order to feel like we have some sort of ownership over some part of our lives.