There is a way money makes you conscious of the people you hang around, you will most likely find yourself hanging out with people in the same status. Someone said money determines where you live, where you go and what you do and that's where your friends are also
Can you please make the episodes longer? I just feel like 1 hour is not enough time, and I love your content. It would also help with not feeling too rushed to get through the prompts. Love from an avid follower on Spotify and RUclips!
My bestie and I come from very different financial backgrounds.We met in Campus. I got sponsored to a private university and I met her there. Fast forward to working life she works in international org . Makes good money. I am not doing so badly off but our finances are at very different places. While she owns apartment block , am saving to buy one apartment. We talk often sometimes almost daily. We go out when she is around. She works in a different country in Africa. Like Jay and Dushy said , it's about being conscious of each others financial wellbeing. Even when she makes plans,she makes sure it a place I can afford or she picks the bill.
During covid, I was making good money, and I was saving so much. I was in a trio friendship group😮. Those babes liked spending, and I had a certain goal I was saving for..imagine these babes would get so angry at me because I don't want to go out every day. It ended badly, you guys. So yes, money can change your friendship.
There is a cost to friendship be it time, money, phone calls etc. Im unemployed and I dont hang out with "my friends" because I simply just cant afford it RIGHT NOW. Also can Dushy be our friend? she is such a vibe.
OMG I have tried having this conversation with a couple of people and they either dismissed it or didn't get it. You actually know who your friends are when you are going through a financial dip, because let's face it: you can no longer hang out with them, therefore miss out out on many conversations and end up feeling left out, you struggle to keep up with the strained conversations of probably topics you cannot contribute towards etc in short not having money will make your friends fizzle out, and depending on the duration, eventually they diminish. The society we live in is based on flexing that's why the first question people ask is what do you do? Where do you live? Etc ... Imagine being surrounded with these constantly in social gatherings. Solid friends are few and rare, my experience. Very few will put themselves in your shoes or be considerate when making plans etc so you slowly read the room and wait for nature to take it's course.
Petition for a part 2, please. Bring them back. This is a very much needed conversation. People tend to overlook this because let's face it, we are in a society where most people want to be the first one to show off whatever it is. A challenge comes out, everyone wants to partake, new shoes, new Iphone, new restaurant, new fashion etc. That's why I admire people who can truly not be fazed on what's the buzz & stay true to themselves and what they like rather than what everyone likes. It's difficult to stay authentic in a society that is constantly reminding us we need this & that to keep the friends close, to get that promotion, etc. Please bring make a part 2 & longer. Oh @Jules, still waiting on feedback about Fingo app in the diaspora market.
I like the title and the conversation. Truth be told, if one gets broke, there are limitations to where one can socialize compared to their rich friends. Also, the many events such as birthdays, weddings, ruracio, among others, that one has to give to. That's why I have different kinds of friends: some from church, who are mixed, and then some that I met at work, uni and post-uni, who we are at a similar place careerwise and financially. The idea of 'loud budgeting' sounds great!
This was a nice conversation, friendship budgeting especially was the best part. There's the side of friendships between individuals with kids and those without..it would be great to explore how friendship budgeting works in such a situation
A special thank you to Shazo for always remembering us from the international audience that don't speak Swahili, we appreciate it! Great episode as usual, love from Uganda❤
It affects love too, i dated this guy he grew up in a rich household but mimi with a struggling single mum. The way we spent money was so different he was a spendthrift and we never understood each other. Some times he would make innocent comments when he visits my place and i just stare at the guy speechless. One time he was like how do families stay in one or two bedrooms with kids, i was like if this guy knew how i grew up. I just felt we will never get each other and he will never understand why some stuff scare me.
I love Jule's thought process, and i also feel both you and Sharon personalities balance so well. I think you were trying to say Walmart store not Wholefood. I kept shouting walmart but i know you guys could not hear me😅
Watching this episode on the day my favorite Uncle is buried and I'm laughing, I don't know if I am okay but I'm glad I found this episode and Dushy is making me laugh so loud, I love this podcast, love from the 256❤
The friendship between Dush and Jayson is so great. Reminds me of my friend group and the dynamic is so similar to their friend group. Just like Dushy signed out, I chose you so I'm here for life and that's something we keep reminding each other of quite often. This was a great conversation.
This was such a wholesome conversation. And yes, as there's most definitely a cost of friendship; saying this as the friend who has struggled mostly financially, having to forego hangouts and stuff, which kind of strains the friendships..
Adult friendships require money, you get tired of saying, 'I can't afford it' 'I can't come', even though it might not be your fault sometimes, there is shame attached to lack
This is so true! And this is why I actually stopped socialising because I am tired of having to say “I can’t come”. Financially challenging times can really be the test of a true friendship.
Petition to have longer episodes/episodes split into parts❤. This was such a great conversation & was really fun to watch but it did feel a bit rushed.
Murugi is on ozempic she talks about it a lot & she's lost a lot of weight. One of the side effects tho' is that you lose muscle not just fat so people need to be careful with it
Hey, I've noticed you have a tendency of rushing the episodes especially when the episode starts getting good😔! Maybe it's the time limits you've set for yourself but can you talk about adjusting the time when you feel like theres a lot that has to be said😂. Thanks pls.
Exactly!! They spent so much time in that first section then proceeded to rush the main topic 😢. They should adjust the time or have a time cap for that first bit.
I don't have friends however I would love to have them for such house events like kina jay however when I do get married for support or family friends.....at 25 I know so many people as an extrovert but one thing my dad told me growing up when I say "ni rafiki yangu" he said " there is nothing like friendship" 😂😂😂😂 because of what his older brother went through when he had money and supported his friends but when he got sick to his death they never showed up adi kwa burial ❤❤❤❤😂😂😂
Ghai! Your own dad! And they did what to your uncle? Jesus. I have no friends and I'm learning from your dad. You should learn from him too. Why are you still looking for friends after what he has seen and taught you? Life. Damn.
@@Y-gq1rx I did learn from him...I want friends to have a community not to the extremes my big dad went to though. ...just for human interaction....I've learnt from my dad alot I am so comfortable alone tangu kitambo....I go through the gutters alone and come out on the othet side better and bigger alone 😊 I don't mind some extent of human interaction though 😌.
@@greatness23FL yeahhh. I hear you. I'm very much like that as well. Tough times and good times solo. But I really don't think I can just have "good time" friends and when things are thick they are nowhere to be found. I've seen it with so many relatives and I hate it! I'm abroad where social interaction is in the deepest gutter. So I met this Kenyan guy at an event and he was asking to be friends. Next thing, I got Covid! He didn't even call or send direct messages. All I got is basically a "Sorry" on Whatsapp. Then the next time I've heard from him is yesterday, after 3 weeks! He wants to catch up. I'm like!!!! Kwani how are people doing friendships?! You didn't care if I was gone, alive, stuck in hospital etc etc, but you still want to "catch up????" Things like that really trigger me and I'd rather just keep off. But then I have moments where I'm like, lemme just go for one meetup, just share stories as Kenyans, just have one nice chill meal. But aiiiiii. I'm too sensitive! For me any new friend! I would have still put EFFORT to make sure they're okay. Ah, I'm thinking and thinking... but I might just go with my instincts and avoid it altogether. That's a poor way to start anything.
Money definitely affects friendships. If you find yourself unable to show up to three consecutive birthdays or hangouts with your friends, that alone is the beginning of outgrowing one another. However there are those core friends where it’s strictly doing life together regardless of the different financial seasons of life.
Sharon I think I agree with you. Expat friends may have a culture thing of splitting the bill and can have the potential of being hectic, coz the bill can become large and it strains someone, sometimes.
This episode speaks to me because I've found myself in situations where I lost my friendships due to financial struggles. Yet for me it wasn't the hanging out bit that caused breakups but the inability to tap into the friendships whenever I needed help. So when Julez says authentic friendships which she can count on in sickness or life mashups, I get it. Because most people lack the capacity to empathize with others which in turn affects the quality of modern day friendships. But does it mean there should be a cost? I don't think so. There's a lot to gain from friendships other than hangouts and money.
Jules I love you but you really need to build an in-depth understanding for skinny girls' struggles with their bodies and weight gain.While you struggled with being told you are curvy while young I spent a good chunk of my childhood being told "skele" Not to mention how men nowadays literally overlook slim ladies. It's such a struggle.
@@kandisphere8828 I'm not in the West. I'm talking about my experience here. What are the chances being born here that I'll go to the west where my kind is appreciated?
Yes, ozempic has made it to Nairobi! Murugi Munyi is on it and it open about her Journey. I find it hilarious that you’ve just heard about Ozempic; you all are giving millennial lateness😂😂😂😂😂
You guys talk alot in the first minutes of the episode.when it's get catchy you start rushing the episode 😢. Cut the intro details and concentrate on the content. I have to Skip to the relevant parts. None the less I enjoyed the topic
There is a way money makes you conscious of the people you hang around, you will most likely find yourself hanging out with people in the same status. Someone said money determines where you live, where you go and what you do and that's where your friends are also
Dushy is such an enlightened person, she seems to be so emotional intelligent.
Can you please make the episodes longer? I just feel like 1 hour is not enough time, and I love your content. It would also help with not feeling too rushed to get through the prompts. Love from an avid follower on Spotify and RUclips!
My bestie and I come from very different financial backgrounds.We met in Campus. I got sponsored to a private university and I met her there. Fast forward to working life she works in international org . Makes good money. I am not doing so badly off but our finances are at very different places. While she owns apartment block , am saving to buy one apartment. We talk often sometimes almost daily. We go out when she is around. She works in a different country in Africa. Like Jay and Dushy said , it's about being conscious of each others financial wellbeing. Even when she makes plans,she makes sure it a place I can afford or she picks the bill.
You is me
Absolutely LOVED being part of this!
this eposide needs atleast 3 parts, cause the facts being spit are a must-hear!
During covid, I was making good money, and I was saving so much. I was in a trio friendship group😮. Those babes liked spending, and I had a certain goal I was saving for..imagine these babes would get so angry at me because I don't want to go out every day. It ended badly, you guys. So yes, money can change your friendship.
There is a cost to friendship be it time, money, phone calls etc. Im unemployed and I dont hang out with "my friends" because I simply just cant afford it RIGHT NOW. Also can Dushy be our friend? she is such a vibe.
This!!! I’m also in the same boat currently.
OMG I have tried having this conversation with a couple of people and they either dismissed it or didn't get it. You actually know who your friends are when you are going through a financial dip, because let's face it: you can no longer hang out with them, therefore miss out out on many conversations and end up feeling left out, you struggle to keep up with the strained conversations of probably topics you cannot contribute towards etc in short not having money will make your friends fizzle out, and depending on the duration, eventually they diminish. The society we live in is based on flexing that's why the first question people ask is what do you do? Where do you live? Etc ... Imagine being surrounded with these constantly in social gatherings. Solid friends are few and rare, my experience. Very few will put themselves in your shoes or be considerate when making plans etc so you slowly read the room and wait for nature to take it's course.
Petition for a part 2, please. Bring them back. This is a very much needed conversation. People tend to overlook this because let's face it, we are in a society where most people want to be the first one to show off whatever it is. A challenge comes out, everyone wants to partake, new shoes, new Iphone, new restaurant, new fashion etc. That's why I admire people who can truly not be fazed on what's the buzz & stay true to themselves and what they like rather than what everyone likes. It's difficult to stay authentic in a society that is constantly reminding us we need this & that to keep the friends close, to get that promotion, etc.
Please bring make a part 2 & longer. Oh @Jules, still waiting on feedback about Fingo app in the diaspora market.
I like the title and the conversation. Truth be told, if one gets broke, there are limitations to where one can socialize compared to their rich friends. Also, the many events such as birthdays, weddings, ruracio, among others, that one has to give to. That's why I have different kinds of friends: some from church, who are mixed, and then some that I met at work, uni and post-uni, who we are at a similar place careerwise and financially.
The idea of 'loud budgeting' sounds great!
I love love Dushy, watched her from jaytakeapics RUclips , fell in love, glad she's in a pod, must listen in❤
This was a nice conversation, friendship budgeting especially was the best part. There's the side of friendships between individuals with kids and those without..it would be great to explore how friendship budgeting works in such a situation
This combo is amazingly entertaining. Please bring them on more episodes
A special thank you to Shazo for always remembering us from the international audience that don't speak Swahili, we appreciate it!
Great episode as usual, love from Uganda❤
The new set looks great
It affects love too, i dated this guy he grew up in a rich household but mimi with a struggling single mum. The way we spent money was so different he was a spendthrift and we never understood each other. Some times he would make innocent comments when he visits my place and i just stare at the guy speechless. One time he was like how do families stay in one or two bedrooms with kids, i was like if this guy knew how i grew up. I just felt we will never get each other and he will never understand why some stuff scare me.
always a good time. I have related to all the conversations i have listened to on your podcast.
I love Jule's thought process, and i also feel both you and Sharon personalities balance so well. I think you were trying to say Walmart store not Wholefood. I kept shouting walmart but i know you guys could not hear me😅
Whole Foods is for cool kids. I only go there for weetabix and maybe vitamin supplements. Lmao. Cheaper to order from Amazon groceries section though
Watching this episode on the day my favorite Uncle is buried and I'm laughing, I don't know if I am okay but I'm glad I found this episode and Dushy is making me laugh so loud, I love this podcast, love from the 256❤
Sending you lots of love ❤ Glad I could bring you some small joy.
@@DoreenKuria alot of joy, Asante
Jules my favorite. You are so real.
This is one Dynamic duo that I was waiting for!! Seeing how you've dissected on this friendship topic is so relatable and a learning experience ❤.
The friendship between Dush and Jayson is so great.
Reminds me of my friend group and the dynamic is so similar to their friend group.
Just like Dushy signed out, I chose you so I'm here for life and that's something we keep reminding each other of quite often.
This was a great conversation.
Duuuuuusssssshhhhhhyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Wah....hugs and love from PB days
This was such a wholesome conversation. And yes, as there's most definitely a cost of friendship; saying this as the friend who has struggled mostly financially, having to forego hangouts and stuff, which kind of strains the friendships..
The ending was a great way to look at friendship....." I chose you"
Adult friendships require money, you get tired of saying, 'I can't afford it' 'I can't come', even though it might not be your fault sometimes, there is shame attached to lack
Sad and true at the same time
Facts...100
This is so true! And this is why I actually stopped socialising because I am tired of having to say “I can’t come”. Financially challenging times can really be the test of a true friendship.
@@energygoddess888you can do cheaper places, home visits
This is powerful
Petition to have longer episodes/episodes split into parts❤. This was such a great conversation & was really fun to watch but it did feel a bit rushed.
We need a part two.... we love you kajei🥰 and dushy😘 visit this space frequently
Thank you Jay & Dushy🤗
We appreciate you Julz, Sharon , Noni and IRP team😊
Friendship is one of life best treasures😊
Murugi is on ozempic she talks about it a lot & she's lost a lot of weight. One of the side effects tho' is that you lose muscle not just fat so people need to be careful with it
The squad,the quality wow!!!
Nice talk it was enlightening
we need a part 2 of this because this topic is so important after 25 especially.
The mmmh around 58:00 gave me flashbacks of the red table... I have really enjoyed the conversation.
Amazing conversation!
This was so beautiful to watch! ❤
Loved the episode!!!! But you spent 30 minutes talking about something else😅we need a Part II
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Dushyyyyyyy!!!
Hey, I've noticed you have a tendency of rushing the episodes especially when the episode starts getting good😔! Maybe it's the time limits you've set for yourself but can you talk about adjusting the time when you feel like theres a lot that has to be said😂.
Thanks pls.
Exactly!! They spent so much time in that first section then proceeded to rush the main topic 😢. They should adjust the time or have a time cap for that first bit.
I totally agree
Agreed! They can even split the episode to two parts.
A great, insightful conversation❤️. I wish it was longer.
This should have a part2
This was such a great episode, I really enjoyed it.
That meme Sharon quoted restarted my brain so fast😢
We need a part two of this to get deeper I feel like it was cut short 😢
I don't have friends however I would love to have them for such house events like kina jay however when I do get married for support or family friends.....at 25 I know so many people as an extrovert but one thing my dad told me growing up when I say "ni rafiki yangu" he said " there is nothing like friendship" 😂😂😂😂 because of what his older brother went through when he had money and supported his friends but when he got sick to his death they never showed up adi kwa burial ❤❤❤❤😂😂😂
Ghai! Your own dad! And they did what to your uncle? Jesus. I have no friends and I'm learning from your dad. You should learn from him too. Why are you still looking for friends after what he has seen and taught you? Life. Damn.
@@Y-gq1rx I did learn from him...I want friends to have a community not to the extremes my big dad went to though. ...just for human interaction....I've learnt from my dad alot I am so comfortable alone tangu kitambo....I go through the gutters alone and come out on the othet side better and bigger alone 😊 I don't mind some extent of human interaction though 😌.
@@greatness23FL yeahhh. I hear you. I'm very much like that as well. Tough times and good times solo. But I really don't think I can just have "good time" friends and when things are thick they are nowhere to be found. I've seen it with so many relatives and I hate it!
I'm abroad where social interaction is in the deepest gutter. So I met this Kenyan guy at an event and he was asking to be friends. Next thing, I got Covid! He didn't even call or send direct messages. All I got is basically a "Sorry" on Whatsapp. Then the next time I've heard from him is yesterday, after 3 weeks! He wants to catch up. I'm like!!!! Kwani how are people doing friendships?! You didn't care if I was gone, alive, stuck in hospital etc etc, but you still want to "catch up????" Things like that really trigger me and I'd rather just keep off.
But then I have moments where I'm like, lemme just go for one meetup, just share stories as Kenyans, just have one nice chill meal. But aiiiiii. I'm too sensitive! For me any new friend! I would have still put EFFORT to make sure they're okay. Ah, I'm thinking and thinking... but I might just go with my instincts and avoid it altogether. That's a poor way to start anything.
@@Y-gq1rx Lord Jesus that was treacherous on his part 💔💔 sorry...it's just so hard between adulting and trying make healthy human interactions 🥵😭.
Recent research has it that one of the now cited side effects is future blindness. Many on it have started experiencing sight issues…
Please let the intro song , continue kidogo the beats I love them. Please😩🤭
😂😂😂
We grey whereeeee 🌚
Money definitely affects friendships. If you find yourself unable to show up to three consecutive birthdays or hangouts with your friends, that alone is the beginning of outgrowing one another.
However there are those core friends where it’s strictly doing life together regardless of the different financial seasons of life.
The set, the conversation, and energy are a whole vibe🎉❤
Murugi munyi is on ozempic too
Money is the friendship
I have stopped being friends with certain people due to our financial disparities.
❤❤❤
Sharon I think I agree with you. Expat friends may have a culture thing of splitting the bill and can have the potential of being hectic, coz the bill can become large and it strains someone, sometimes.
This episode speaks to me because I've found myself in situations where I lost my friendships due to financial struggles.
Yet for me it wasn't the hanging out bit that caused breakups but the inability to tap into the friendships whenever I needed help.
So when Julez says authentic friendships which she can count on in sickness or life mashups, I get it. Because most people lack the capacity to empathize with others which in turn affects the quality of modern day friendships.
But does it mean there should be a cost? I don't think so. There's a lot to gain from friendships other than hangouts and money.
Please bring back Kwambox one more tiime
Jules I love you but you really need to build an in-depth understanding for skinny girls' struggles with their bodies and weight gain.While you struggled with being told you are curvy while young I spent a good chunk of my childhood being told "skele"
Not to mention how men nowadays literally overlook slim ladies. It's such a struggle.
In the West, skinny girls are very desirable, so the thick girls would say that they are being overlooked.
I totally agree
@@kandisphere8828 I'm not in the West. I'm talking about my experience here. What are the chances being born here that I'll go to the west where my kind is appreciated?
I agree. Unfortunately when you've only experienced one side you really can't afford to say one struggle is worse.
Na the people who ask "kwani hukulangi"? 😢
We need a part two, this was such a beautiful convo.
Yes, ozempic has made it to Nairobi! Murugi Munyi is on it and it open about her Journey. I find it hilarious that you’ve just heard about Ozempic; you all are giving millennial lateness😂😂😂😂😂
I think they shot the episode before Murugi came out about ozempic
Only Julia said she had never heard of it until recently.
The lady on tiktok is mechanicallyinclined, I think
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Good conversation, but l don't like Julie's vibe, it's like she's trying to outshine everyone.
Woiye I felt for Sharon at some point she was getting to say something and she gets overtaken
You guys talk alot in the first minutes of the episode.when it's get catchy you start rushing the episode 😢.
Cut the intro details and concentrate on the content. I have to Skip to the relevant parts.
None the less I enjoyed the topic