MY COMING OUT STORY
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- I've anticipated the day that I could make my 'own' coming out video. Seeing how happy out gay people were was my biggest influence. You all made it possible for me to open up.
My story doesn't have any twist or turns you might expect but I wanted to repay those of you who are brave enough to share your stories with the world with one of mine. Enjoy.
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I am truly jealous for people who have supportive family.. it's a tremendous blessing.
Feel your pain...I can’t ever let people I know
I feel you bro. We both are sailing in the same boat
How are you now?
@@CloroxBleach-nu8vo are you better in life now?
@@deveshpatil5801 are you doing better?
I'm a 45 year old divorced father of 1 son who is a loyal follower/subscriber/viewer of your page.
As you are well aware of by now, your video's are very educational and entertaining to everyone who views.
Please keep up the good work and do not give up on the video's. Your hard work has is enjoyed by many.
I am now a loyal follower/subscriber/viewer of your page thanks to my son and his friends.
When my wife and I divorced, my son chose to live with me so that he could stay at the same high school.
After graduation he chose to join the Marines for some reason - WHY??? - I found out why a year later.
One day while we were eating dinner he nervously told me that he was gay and loved me very much.
He told me that he has known for awhile about this feelings and was afraid to tell me. Didn't want to hurt me.
He said that he he had joined the Marines so I would be proud of him.
He thought it would make it easier on me when found out that he was gay.
I really did not even suspect nor did I care but was glad he told me.
TOLD HIM THAT I LOVED HIM AND JUST WANT HIM TO BE HAPPY HIMSELF AND LIFE.
We now talk more than ever about what is happening in life, even about who he is seeing.
RECENT QUICK STORY ABOUT MY SON,
From time to time my home becomes a crash pad for my Marine son and his friends on leave from base.
The latest 4 day leave my son had was a lot different from all others I've witnessed.
My son invited 15 of his Marine buddies over for their 4 day Labor Day weekend leave.
I found out the whole group of guys were in various stages of lets say "finding themselves" surprised me.
Their leave developed into a 4 day marathon session of viewing RUclips coming out videos.
PLUS they also viewed every episode of a Portuguese Soap Opera about Paulo & Miguel.
They were really hooked on all the story lines. I have to look up the soap opera soon.
Only time they ever left the house was to play in the pool.
Each guy purchased a case of beer for the weekend and planned on doing nothing but to relax for 4 days.
Sad to say that all the beer was gone the first night. I made 7 trips for beer & food during their stay.
Also had to turn into a maid for them (someone had to collect 100's of beer bottles) I WAS HAPPY TO DO SO.
The biggest surprise came for me the last day when they were leaving to go back to base.
Each one gave me a hug and thanked me for being so understanding of them. I proudly hugged them back.
Told them that "I was very proud them all and glad I got to know each one of them".
Seeing them all walking to their cars joking, laughing and smiling with each other made me tear up.
The best Labor Day weekend I ever had.
THANK YOU Mark,
I found out your videos were viewed by all the guys during their stay.
Your video's made 16 Marines very happy over their past Labor Day leave.
A QUICK NOTE FROM ME TO OTHERS,
Knowing my son is gay, BUT OUT TO Me and few others has me very very concerned for his safety at times.
He has started to see another Marine which makes me very happy for him. Hard for them to go out on dates.
Asked my son him if I could meet him and I did on one of their leave. Nice guy by the way!
I love my son so much; don't ever want to loose him or his friends to senseless violence.
Make peace with your self, then with others.
Thanks,
ERIC
Oh, this is so beautifull. By the way the storyline Paulo and Miguel really wonderfull.
God bless you, your son and his boyfriend, Eric
I love you 🥺🥺🥺👉👈💜💜💜
I would not have acheived a certain level of self-realization in this lifetime if I wasn't gay. So being gay I think is...a blessing.
Soooo true
How i came out to my mom:
Mom: You should get a GF
Me: Nah im gay
Mom: Really
Me: Ya
Mom: That's cool, blah blah words support yay.
Mathiew Huberdeau Sounds like my coming out story.
Haha nice :) I just thought hey there's a chance!
Same! My mom said: Hey are you still dating that girl?
Me: No, I have a boyfriend now.
Dad & Mom: oh cool, when do we get to meet him?
Me: Idk, can he come over tomorrow?
Btw, I’m BI😂
My coming out story:
Mom:are you dating any girl
Me:no I'm gay
Mom:get out of my house
Just be tankful for a mom like that
I don't understand why it is still such a big deal to be homosexual or in any other way 'different' from everybody else. There is no human just like another one. I am going to teach my children that it doesn't matter if they fall in love with a girl or a boy so they won't even have to think about being afraid to tell me.
You will make a wonderful mother some day. :)
Moeuena you're so cool about that.
We make it a big deal, because it is one. We are afraid of the criticism and rejection of the people who don't understand. Nobody wants to lose their friends. When all you have done for your whole like is live a lie, it's kinda hard just to let it out.
Alex Ray whole life*
Alex Ray Of course it is a big deal to homosexuals, I do understand that. But if it was fully accepted it wouldn't be a big deal any more. What I don't understand is how you can teach your children that being homosexual is wrong because obviously THEY could be homosexual - so it could really hurt them. I forgive our parent's generation but we should make a difference!
Its amazing how comfortable mark has become with his sexuality over the past 3 years on youtube. If you watch his videos from beginning to current, you can literally see him become happier and happier. He has become so much more comfortable in his own skin and in front of the camera. :) You can see it in his eyes, the love he has for Ethan and it's beautiful.
Today I came out to my family at lunch. These videos truly helped me in these years, when I was confused,rejecting,closeting and stuffs. You and Ethan inspire me so much, your videos taught me I could still have a normal life in what society still doesn't conceive 100% normal and also that I don't have to change myself or who I am to fit the gay stereotypes for things that don't reflect me.. I hope you know what a great positive energy your videos have been spreading and how much you influence and inspire people :) I wish you the best guys, THANK YOU so much for sharing your thoughts,feelings and experiences here
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Sebastian u are my crush, do u have ig?
good afternoon RUclips.. haha ;)
Your right it's got to be the right time for each person, & no one should pressure you into coming out, yes life does get better great vid as usual.
Well sometimes life doesn't get better after... But that's life and you have to carry on and deal with it :-)
Treat -.-
long time maaaan... thanx for the rew/minder
congrats Mark, what a ourney you had since then _^^__
The level of nostalgia this video has for me is so overwhelming - I genuinely think watching this for the first time 10 years ago was the moment I decided I was going to come out later that year. Now I’m out and proud, and I’m so comfortable with myself I find it hard to fully remember how I felt before I came out. Thank you, Mark ❤
I'm bisexual (always have been) and I remember my mom confronted me about being gay because I had a gay friend and we hung out a lot. I was 13 at the time, and I didn't like him like that. She was like "are you gay, it makes it easier for your dad and I to know. I think you are trying to drop hints." Ok, first, I have no idea what "hints" she was talking about. So, I just said "I don't know" and walked away. We were both really uncomfortable and later in the day I found a letter on my bed. It pretty much just said like Im sorry I made you uncomfortable, I love you and accept you, and the only way I will judge you is if you turn out to be a Republican. Thanks mom!
***** im so sorry :(
awww your mom sounds sweet! Hahaha I agree with her on the republican part as well!
Sounds like you've got a cool mom there with a great sense of humour. Lol
Hi my name is Armando olszewski and I'm a bisexual my family is OK with me being the way I am I have so much love in my family and so much support I am still in school and only some of my best friends no the true me the school I go to is st. Charles and we all have a really understand group of people that loves and supports not just me but others as well.
Armando Olszewski
Hey Mark, I watched this video 2 years ago when you released it. The following March I came out to my parents. You gave me the strength to overcome my fears. My parents were amazing just like yours. I can not thank you enough, you saved me. Love you and Ethan like you are my best friends :) Thank You
I told my mom i am gay when i was 20, and she just forgot about it or just refuses to believe it. Then she just keeps on implying to me that i need a girl in my life. So on my 21st birthday, i was kinda drunk and brought a guy home to have sex, which I planned it that way, and when we were ..... (cough cough) busy, my mom walked in on me with that guy fuking, and she just said" oh i forgot my phone in my car, i'm gonna go grab it." then she walked away, i think she was giving me time to get dressed. Then the night after we had a little talk, and she cried and said something like" it's all my fault, maybe u r gay is because you have no father figure in ur life and that why u like men, u r trying to find that safe feeling from other men." And ever since this my mom just accepted that i'm gay. So this is how i came out.
This is kinda sad actually. I just Hope you are happy with your life atm. Keep it up! :)
Let be optimistic!!! Let's live as well as you can try to be. Forget all of bad things people misunderstand about you. Hold it on !!!!
Erik, your mom's confusion, is called denial....keep yourself happy, more importantly... Safe, she'll come around. Sounds like she just needs to understand you a little. Don't shock her, let her know that your still her little boy. Trust me she'll love you no matter what.....and if she doesn't, your a grown ass man...move out and LIVE.....
its no ones fault if someone is gay. its not wrong to be gay(:
Just to clear up the myth about being gay caused by absent father, it isn't! There were loads of lads at my school with single mother, and none were gay (maybe one or 2 were), where as me and my friend down the road are gay and our parents stayed together. The fact that homosexuality is seen in 1,500 species also kind of proves the point that it's totally natural :)
its crazy to think that i watched this for the first time nearly 3 years ago and as a result i came out myself. watching it again makes me realize that a youtuber who lives hundreds of miles away is the reason why i am happier than iv ever been in my life.
+Jacob Clarke
Wait till you get to be old and find out that life isn't a
bowel of cherries. Should we clap for you for coming
out?
Life is a bowl if cherries if you make it. If you're old and unhappy t's because you didn't strive to make your life better. I could care less if you aren't supportive of people who come out. But if you are coming onto a year old post on a youtube video posted years ago to just aggregate someone then you should probably reevaluate your life. Make every day a great day Mr. Harrison
This guy is ridiculously good looking. I don't even know people can look this good. People can get hypnotized just watching you speak. You have no Idea Mark how happy we are that you are gay and am comfortable with that. Your bravery to do this video inspires me and makes me feel proud to be gay.
I don't see why I need to come out, my straight sister never came out as straight and told everyone in a speech...
I feel the same. My sexuality is no one's business but my own. I don't need to be telling around people that I like people of my same sex. Like you said, if heterosexuals don't do it, then why should we? We are all the same no matter what.
Because straight people make gay peoples sexual orientation a topic of discussion. “Is he gay” “isn’t he?” If gay people were considered “the norm” then you’re right, there shouldn’t need to be a proclamation, but that’s not usually the case.
@@severetiredamage6754 I agree 100% Str8 people make us gays a topic of discussion
It's 2023 and Mark is still as positive as any person gets.
👍🏽👍🏽
Hmm, I've watched a lot of these over the past few years, and I have to say, Mark, that this is one of the best. Clear and concise and wise and kind, without being sentimental. Love it. I'm sure you've helped a bunch of guys with this video.
Hi Mark! I watch you every single week and I follow you since you started this channel xD
I just wanted to say you Thank you so much! You were one of the persons that helped me to came out to my parents 2 month ago and I believe the one who really inspired me to be myself. My story is kinda the same as yours. I'm 20 and I was just tired of lying every time when my parents asked me when I'd start dating a girl because all my cousins had girlfriends and I was the only one without one. I... I was so tired. Especially because if I fell in love with someone, I'd like to introduce him to my parents and tell them "this is the person that I love and the person who loves me in return"
So when I told them that I am gay they were totally supported. They told me that I'm their son no matters what. They only want me to be happy. "Your sexual orientation does not define you as a person" my dad said to me.
So thank you so much Mark. Keep doing these videos. They help a lot =)
Greetings from Argentina :)
So let me tell you my story.
First of all, you must know that I live in Europe, in Latvia (a small country with just about 2 million people). Until 1991 we were a part of Soviet Union where people didn't talk about sex at all. Homosexuality was banned and you could be arrested and end up in prison for just being gay. So nobody was open about it.
Now that Latvia is a free country for almost 25 years and we are a part of European Union, it gets better. But still it is hard to be gay here. You won't see any gay couples holding hands or kissing in public. And we have like 5 openly gay people in the whole country.
Not to mention that homosexuals are often referred to as pedophiles. For real.
I've known that I like guys since I was a child, but I didn't understand the idea back then because I didn't have any gay role models or examples of gay relationships around me. When I finally understood what was I feeling, I tried to deny it at first. I even prayed the God to help me be "normal". I guess it was so hard for me because my parents were always saying negative things about gays if they ever showed up on TV and they disliked anyone who was open about it.
Only when I was 16-17, I could look in the mirror and say to myself - I am gay. I started coming out. The first person I ever told that I'm gay was my best friend. She was really shocked, but she was supportive and understanding. Then the ball started rolling, and I slowly began to come out to my other friends. By my 18th birthday I had told everyone I knew at school and all my friends.
They were all really accepting and supportive, and that helped me a lot to become who I am now - not ashamed.
Now comes the hardest part. I am 19 now, and I still haven't told my parents and grandparents. The thing is that we never discuss feelings in our family and we never say that we love each other, and if someone ever does say something along those lines, it gets really awkward. I think my grandmother doesn't even understand the idea of two guys being together.
I have been giving them hints, though. I even had the picture of me and my boyfriend on my desk, but they still seem to remain clueless. I guess they are as afraid to ask me, as I am afraid to tell them.
If you ever read this (doubt that), I want you to know that I envy your accepting family and society in America in general. Maybe they are not ideal, but at least you don't have the whole street watching you when you are holding hands with your boyfriend.
I hope one day it won't matter if we are gay or straight and just be ourselves in any part of the world.
I love both you and Ethan, you guys have been a huge inspiration for me!
I wish you all the best!!
Matīss Sakalovskis can you tell me more about Latvia because my group Economic project based on your country. Please
Matīss Sakalovskis So what happened since then?
Although you posted your comment 3 years ago, I just wanna say I'm from the small country Croatia and same story here as like as in Latvia.
Come to the US! You are more than welcome here!
Your video is very touching. I came out with 17 and I'm not even sure if I was ready at that time. My pupils kind of pushed me in this awkward situation and I was almost broke down. I developed an eating disorder and got so bad. But than I reached the point I just had to tell the truth. I'm not sure which was the real trigger maybe I just did start to tell everyone that I'm gay. My mum was of course fine with it. My sister didn't believe me. And finally as I met my dear Christian I was strong enough to tell my dad. Since that day my relationship with him got so much better. We started to talk and finally being interested in each others life again. Now I'm married for almost 3 years (just 7 days left ;) ) and I am so happy.
Have a happy day!
You came out on my Bday. Great days for both of us. I'm so happy that people are accepting themselves and telling others if you don't like who I am, you are free to keep stepping I won't stop you. "Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death." Love that movie. Cheers bud, you give hope to many.
*~* Keep smiling all the way *~* I new I was gay ever since I was young *~* I turned 27 this year and only two months ago I came out *~* Yes to quote I love it, I love every minute of it *~* Family was so supported and happy for me some of them especially parents *~* They were waiting for me to come out when I was ready *~* It feels so good I felt and still feel as light as a feather *~* Life is good no more secrets *~* On amazing message was sent to me telling me to keep shining *~* I shall continue to do that *~* Have a wonderful Christmas Mark and a jolly happy new year *~*
ive watched this 1000 times over and over to get me motivation to come out to people. its worked most of the time! im getting closer and closer to telling more and more people im bisexual!
+Forrest Vorwald
I'm sure they'll all clap their hands. Ain't you special.
George Harrison um what?
+Forrest Vorwald
You can write but you can't read what someone
says?
George Harrison why are you being rude?
I follow this YT channel from 2015 and from all the videos I've seen from 2012 till now, this is the one where your eyes, Mark, strongly pierce the screen.
This video is so touching.
I wish you the best.
Just came across some of your videos w your boyfriend. This latest one about your coming out was simple and wonderful. I'm quite a bit older but you never forget the feeling of feeling like you have to hide a part of yourself or the relief once you come out. I'm still amazed sometimes when I think to myself that I am so glad I'm gay. I think it's helped me be a better person and certainly more empathetic. Would I miss some of the teasing and verbal a use...no...but I also wouldn't want to change who I am.
So happy for the both of you. It's wonderful to see you both and hear the echoes of my youth. I'm still having fun and loving life but a little slower. :)
All my best to both of you! Whatever reasons you have for making and posting these videos please know that you are doing a world of good and you should be proud of that.
Dave B.
I can feel it in your voice how difficult it was for you. We live in a world where we bother many for not being straight and I don't understand that. But it still bothers me when people regards our condition as a choice. Anyway, let's just be the best human beings we can be and leave prejudice to eat itself in ignorance. I am gay and married for 11 years so far and wish you guys the best.
I have been watching your videos now for about two days. I've seen on average 7 videos every hour. 😅 I know. You probably won't read this, what with your 300,000 subscribers and all, but I needed to share my gratitude for sharing your life with me and the others on here. Your relationship with Ethan is an inspiration. Your dedication to your health and fitness is awe-inspiring, and your coming out story touched me deeply. I would love to meet you both someday. Tell Ethan I say hi and that I have much respect for him.
Thank you both.
PS: I went for a run today because--no word of a lie--I felt inspired by your boobs. Oh well. It's also very cold because I live in Canada. If ever you two come back up, I'm more than willing to host. Cheers, eh?
Daniel
"Thought it would be better to act straight and hide it... like all of the other guys did" 😂😂😂
you're a handsome man
I remember watching this when I was a freshman in college. So handsome then, and even more handsome now! Love ya, Mark.
I come from a Muslim family and just 2 weeks ago my mum asked me about my thoughts on gay people and I said there's nothing wrong with them they are who they are and you can't change that. Then for about 30 minutes she tried to talk me into being homophobic. She kept telling being gay is wrong it's disgusting keep your distance. I have a friend who is gay so I got really angry at her and walked out the house and didn't return till the following night. I'm straight and have nothing against gay people and bisexuals. God loves all
Thank you for this beautiful video. You inspired me to do mine.
I love coming back to a RUclipsr's first video and seeing how far they've come. You've done brilliantly Mark :)
I came out when I was 21 myself. Life up til then was not good to me. I bullied to no end in Jr high and High school. However I did go to school everyday and I graduated. But it was tuff. I hold no grudges against my peers for what they did to me. I am friends with some of them today. I am going to be 37 this year. All I can say is just keep pressing on and smile and don't let anyone knock you down. Just live your life for you. Thank you Mark for sharing this cause a lot of young people need the support. Also thank you for sharing your life with us. Your videos are great. You and Ethan are amazing together.
You said it perfectly. I am so tired of people forcing others out when they are not ready. Just a beautifully well written and spoken video. Thank you Mark!
I just have watched Tom Daleys Coming Out Video and wasn't moved at all. But yours brought me to tears..So honest, so real...Plus,you were starring at US!!! really appreciate you for doing that man.
God bless you bro!
I'm so happy that you were able to find happiness with yourself and that you're life has become that much better. You are a gorgeous awesome person and I think you are truly inspirational!! :)
back here from his "watching old videos" please don't unlist these, change is a part of growing don't feel embarrassed, I love this video
Good advice but just for the record, moms most always know LOL.
They don't, my Mom didn't and loads of other Moms never have a clue about their kids either.
GrahamPhelan
As I said, most always, nothing is or can be set in stone. But mine did way back when. keep in mind, some parents refuse or block he whole idea out of their consciousness because sometimes its to painful to admit, intuition is strong but we as humanity have been basically programed to ignore these basic human traits. but there is no blue print to anything. it's all good in my book.
That's not at all why my Mom didn't know, she took it 100% well and didn't know cause she just didn't expect it.
That is too true lol. My mother knew even before I came out to her on my 18th birthday and it went pretty much great, for the record :)
Agreed. Moms just know and even if they tell you they didn't, it's all to make you feel better and less transparent.
I just want to jump through the screen and give you a hug. You could see this was a tough memory to get through even so long after the day you did it.
My coming out was much the same. You are so strong and so wise with your comments and thought processes. So much respect for you.
This is a vid every person struggling with this in their lives should see. You can only do this when you are ready and should never be put under pressure to do anything you don't want. xx
Courageous, great looks, athletic, honest, creative, fun, loving person ~ my summary of Mark E Miller.
The best to you and Ethan ~ always and forever
I love the look on your face when you talked about your mother and coming out, the love on your face was touching. Thanks for your video and trying to help others in your situation. That's what is nice about people, we usually try to help when we can. If it gets just one kid through the woods, its worth it!
An inspiration and roll model to young gay people who want to come out. Thanks Mark.
Your coming out and your open life as a gay man has helped so many people. Watching you and Ethan and the love you have is encouraging and a blessing. Keep being positive because your positivity helps so many people.
*THIS WAS THE BEGINNING OF AN AMAZING RUclips CHANNEL*
You are so right, Mark...coming out is a process, not a single event, and you must come out to yourself first and become comfortable in your own skin as a gay person before you begin telling others...but it's just about being true to yourself, being authentic and telling the truth about yourself
I also was 21 when I came out. That was a long time ago (39 years ago, to be exact). I'm now 60, and don't regret the decision one bit.
Great video! You'll be glad you came out as young as you did, when you're lots older. Me, personally, I wish I had come out when I was a teenager. What a brave younger generation we have today in our LGBT community.
Ctazy how to me that seems pretty late to come out, and i don't mean to say this in any negative connotation. It's just great to see that people come out way younger now.
I came out when I waw 15 and now I see all these middle school kids out. It's awesome!
I would just like to thank you Mark and Ethan for doing these videos. I'm 16 and just came out to my parents. It was one of the hardest things to do, but I've gotten so much love and support. You two have helped me realize that it's okay to be gay, and that means a lot. So thank you, you've both changed my life for the better. :)
So ive officially seen everyone of your videos xD and i loved them all xD your now officially one of my favorite youtubers :) hope you keep making videos ! :D
You said something that really got me. You said 'I love every minute of it' and I could not agree more. The best thing that ever happened to me, was to come out to myself. Being gay has been a wonderful life for me. Thanks for your clip, reminded me of my coming out so very long ago.
I'm definitely struggling with coming out and I'm 26. I've known my whole life that I'm bisexual but I'm way too afraid to tell anybody. I feel comfortable saying it on here because nobody knows who I am but the thought of telling any of my family or friends makes me want to vomit and pass out. All of my friends and family make gay jokes all the time so I just know that it would be so difficult trying to talk to anybody about it. Sometimes I hate myself and I can't wait until I build up the courage to tell somebody one day and hopefully life will be better after that. But for now I live in constant fear that anybody will find out.
I completely understand what that was like. I lived for a long time afraid of what would happen if my family found out I was gay. I grew up in the South and right in the heart of the Bible belt. There was much talk about how gay people are sinners and much worse. That only made it worse for me too. I love God, I will admit that, but these things made me question whether or not God loved me. Then I finally got the courage to tell my mom and sadly it went the way I expected. She was awful about it but then things started changing. For the first half of my teenage years I found myself in an awful foster home where tradition was the keyword around there. Then another change came along in the second half of my teenage years. I found a family who did not care that I was gay. They told me God loves me for myself and does not condemn me for being gay. I realized there were many ways the Bible could be interpreted and that love has many meanings. Yes, coming out is very hard but I promise you that once you do you will feel an unimaginable weight lifted from your shoulders. No more looking over your shoulders wondering whether or not your loved ones will shun you. Instead you can focus on your own life and not worry about anyone else. So for my final words of advice (as cliché as they might sound): don't let fear rule your life, life is meant to be lived not tolerated. Good luck, I wish you all the best and pray for blessings in your life!!!
Wow, thank you so much! I actually mustered up the courage two days ago to tell my Mom and my sister. It went well but I've never been so nervous in my entire life. Already I feel a tremendous weight has been lifted off of my shoulders and I feel so much better knowing that the two most important people in my life still love me and support me. It's a work in progress but eventually I won't have to hide anymore and it's people like you and several others on RUclips who make it that much easier for me. Once again thank you very much for your kind words. God Bless!
I'm am very happy to hear it went well. Having the most important people in your life accept you for you is a huge step in the right direction. That was very brave of you to do. And thank you for your kind words.
After watching a lot of your videos, this one was the one that made me want to jump through the monitor and hug you. This touched my heart in a very special way. Watching you and Ethan has given me hope and has changed my view everyday i wake up.
Thank you
P.S. Everyday is a great day.
I was pulled out, in a manner of speaking, or pushed out. At least it's out and my mom is superbly accepting about it.
I'm 18 and I just came out to my friends and family in the fall. I dated girls and convinced myself that if anything, I was bisexuals but even once I accepted myself I still didn't tell myself family and peers for a few years. My coming out was so similar to yours and I'm so proud of you for embracing what you feel is you😊
I also "came out" in college. I knew in highschool, but I also knew what other kids did to the gays in our town. Not only the kids but ignorant adults as well. It was safer to stay straight until I went to college and was able to leave small town life behind me. I told my mom my first time coming home from break. Told dad like 6 years later. Divorced parents. I introduced boyfriend sophomore year. Mom was unsettled. So refrained some around her. Until she was ready. He broke up because my mother was not accepting. But that's ok. I think I have any highschool friends. Then again I don't keep in touch with any. But for those that say, just come out already. Not that easy. You need a support system of some sort first.
Ethan is my role model, I love how he's not ashamed to be himself. He's so confident, I'm jealous of his strength to just be unapologetically himself. I think that his confidence is his best feature.
You and Ethan have been such an inspiration I just started a RUclips channel with my boyfriend because it's a great way to keep our life moments on record and I just think it's gonna be great! Thank you!
I need advice!!
I am gay and I was about to come out to my crush today at around 10:40 but I got scared and backed off. I hope tomorrow is better. What should and should not do.
Hey I think the most important thing to do is like what Mark said and make sure your comfortable with yourself first! and make sure you have support before doing a huge decision like that! I wish you the best of luck! stay strong!
I only wanted to express my feelings. I am certain he won't feel the same. He is a nice kid he won't do homophobic stuff. I see a loneliness in his eyes. I want him to know that someone cares about him.
I'll be his friend. Is it risky to be friends with someone when you have a crush?
Here is the thing...I was trying to catch up to him when I thought I lost the chance to talk to him because he had already entered but the doorway was blocked by talking teachers which is not common so he just stood there alone and I had the chance right there to ask him out. I was shaking and my stomach hurt. It's like some magic force said "I have to help Lucas".
I wanted to thank you for making the videos that you do. When I was struggling to come to terms with being gay two years ago I found this video and I watch it and was inspired to watch the rest of your videos. At the time I had acknowledged to myself that I was gay but I was uncomfortable with what the term implied. You showed me that being gay is what you make of it and that it doesn't define you. I can say that I am truly a much happier person who accepts them self for who they are because of you.
I'm 22 and I still haven't told my parents. I honestly don't know at what point I will. I'm sick of hiding but I really don't feel like going through all that coming out process. Especially having that "Talk". Ugh! God. I don't think I can do it
im sure they already know.
Take your time.For example, I am 30, live by myself far from family.I really don't see the point of / don't feel the need to.I don't need their consent or permission to be gay
It's been pretty much established I am never getting married / having kids.It's the elephant in the room kind of a thing and everyone is fine with it, including me.Some people at work - people I actually hang out with - and closer friends know though I only talk about gay stuff with gay friends.As for the other people I don't see the point.Including relatives I only see at Christmas.
darkside phill I know what you mean.My gay friends nag me all the time I should 'come out' because it helped them and I am always like - do I look like I need help? So, the first rule is what might work to others might not necessarily work for you.Generally speaking if you still live with your parents, postpone it if you can.If they react badly, at least you have a place to stay while they cool off or worst case scenario a roof under your head.You've gotta balance the pros and cons.If getting it out of your chest is what you must do, then do it.Just be aware of possible consequences and plan ahead - that's the price of making decisions based solely on feelings and emotions.I hope this helps.I know the feeling but it gets better,believe me.I live far and am not that great with advice but if you need to talk to somebody get in touch.
Drew Sharp Go self-hate somewhere else, Drew. That's right, I saw all those DaveyWavey subscriptions.
websurf90 lol
Even though, I have been watching your channel for over a year now, the emotions in your coming out video still struck me as honest and sincere. You are a good man, son, brother, and partner. I wish you, and Ethan, all the best for 2015. Happy New Year.
I'm 14 and I told my best friends that I was gay and now my best friend tries to "make" the boy I'm in love with gay :))
You seemed so moved, happy and sweet while you were telling your coming out story, so nice!! :)
I'm glad that everyone accepted you, you deserve all the love you already have!!
The thing about coming out is that once you come out, you have to keep coming out almost every damn day after that. Every new person you meet will ask about your GF or wife and you have to come out to them. Coming out has a beginning but never an end. Few gays understand this until after they come out the first time.
The best solution will simply to be to not assume a given person is straight. I don't have to explain any more, do I?
As long as gays remain a minority, everyone will assume everyone is straight.
Thank you so much for replying. I get replies so rare sometimes I wonder if I accidentally turned off replies. If that is the case for anybody, they can send me a PM.
Your comment is provoking though. People automatically assume another is part of the majority. Unless it's not a big majority, like 60% or 70%.
You are very welcome, I always try to reply to anyone who takes the time to comment on my always insightful yet ever humble thoughts on any subject. We are all guilty of assuming we know what we don't know at all. Happy St. Paddy's day to you if you're inclined to be Irish today. Or if you are Irish, of course.
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Coming out is such an emotional process. I'm 48 now and even though your story is pretty positive it still made me cry. Thank you for sharing it.
My coming out is coming :) before the end of this year i want do this so... Keep your fingers crossed for me guys !
I honestly spent the past two night watching all your videos, the last one being this one, and I just have to say that I'm inspired. You've effected me in a way that few (or maybe no) youtubers have and I'd like to say thank you. Thank you Mark for making me a better person and for changing my perspective on the world. I honestly can't express my gratitude in words. Again, thank you.
It is sad when people are afraid of letting the world know who they are. Man many members of our society are just miserable fucks who condemn and judge others for something that isn't their business. I support you man and wish you the best of luck and I hope you can find love in this great big world.
I came out to my parents, a year ago, and thanks to your story I am much happier now. So thanks and don't stop making videos.
Extremely supportive parents. I wonder what that is like. Mine were more like, "don't call write or visit us ever again because you're going to hell." Good times.
Hey I just wanted to comment on here because a little over a year ago I was closeted BI guy looking for help and turned to RUclips found this video and of course have been watching Mark and Ethan ever since. But watching these videos made me feel ok with things, you guys made it feel normal and definitely helped me out a lot with accepting it. ended up making my own coming out video to try and also help give back to the RUclips community. My video skills are no where near yours but its something : P
lol I totally mixed alcohol with coming out
thats how most of my friends here found out lol
it actually helps eliminate a lot of the tension and nervousness that u otherwise might have
Boris Bonilla haha same, oops
Not taking anything away from other coming out videos but I have to say this is one has some of the most helpful advice for coming out on multiple levels
He looks like a corbin fisher model
I know it's been a while since you've posted this but can I just say kudos to the honesty and the vulnerability with which you've shared this. With everything that people have to deal with in this modern age, we forget that we never realize how strong we truly are until "strong" is the only thing we can be. Fear can have power only if we let it. My grandfather used to say that courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to do what is right in spite of it. I think people forget that "coming out" requires two things: self-love enough to say we won't take any more bullshit from ourselves or others, and the hope that, despite everything, things will be ok. You're open and positive attitude makes me think, in my 30's, that life will pan out the way it should and that, in the words of Oprah, "we get in life what we have the courage to ask for....."
gay guy with straight vibes jesus that's hot
hi, I have a question. I'm French and I don't understand everything he said, so I hope that you can help me. Did he say how old he was when he came out ?
Ok thanks. It means about 20 ?
Ok, thank you so much ^^
I understand english quite good but the american is a little bit more difficult for me, so thank you :)
zac levin Ikr
Mark oh my god i cannot begin to thank you and your videos for helping me through so much i started watching you back in 2015 or 2016 i believe it was and i’m 21 now and the amount of confidence i have now with my sexuality and how comfortable i am now i owe to you and your inspiring ways i cannot thank you enough its crazy because i never thought i’d be where i am now in life and i just posted my first video to youtube being my coming out video. I remember watching so many coming out videos and of course this video being one of them! It’s so full circle now because i never thought i’d be here writing this comment years later after watching this thinking i’d never be as happy as i am right now so thank you from the bottom of my heart thank you mark
Your voice here, I can't :D
It takes time, Mark. People need to understand it as a journey, and that journey differs between people. I'm happy for you, and glad your loved ones were supportive as many don't have the same circumstance. You seem like a lovely and genuine guy, I wish you and Ethan many more years of happiness.
I wish my parents reacted like that... My dad hasn't spoken to me for 4 months, my mother still believes I could turn str8..
It is always good to hear a coming out story that went well. My two sons are gay and my biggest fear is that someone will hurt them just because they are different. Please be strong everyone, you are loved.
So glad that you accept that you're gay. You should know that this news breaks like 3 billion+ women's hearts. So cute. :)
It's nice to hear positive coming out stories with supporting family members. I came out at absolutely the wrong time (although even if it was another time, nothing would've changed). I nearly lost my university education and my entire family.
Very brave. Seem like a really nice and stand up guy. One day, I will be courageous enough to come out and embrace that being gay is a good thing as a society whether I will be accepted or not. And other note, we have the same bday lol. #TeamVirgo
This was one of the top two videos that helped me come out to my family. Thank you for being such an inspiration to people everywhere and I will always be a supporter of Methan!!!
who's watching this in 2016? :D
Meh
Pft, 2016 is so last year.
Thank you, just thank you. Im gay in college and in a fraternity. and been battling myself about coming out. the people who already presume the truth gently pressure me to come out to them. but your message gives me courage and acceptance that im just not ready to come out and i not just being a coward, I will have my time. so again thank you
"act straight like all the other guys did" .... wait a second, all guys are just acting straight? I knew football was stupid....everyone is just pretending its a thing
I must say that you are wise beyond your years! I didn't come out until I was 42 and had been married for 17 years and had 2 kids. Now, granted I grew up in the 60's and 70's in a small Ohio farm town and it just wasn't as accepted as it is now. But you're right about coming out on your own terms and being ready when you are. I've never been happier, my kids are happy for me and my partner is amazing. Congrats on being such an amazing guy!
Im 12 and i'm gay i came out a year ago and i'm proud
Aww. That's so cool , do you mind telling me the story and your parents reaction ?
Mark I don't know if Ull see this but I'm in 7th grade and I'm 13 and last year (6th grade and 12 years old) I came out. Not completely my family besides two of my cousins don't know only my friends know and u helped me. U made me feel good about myself and when I watched coming out videos urs was the first one I saw. U helped me become who I am. And I actually feel like ur a big pa r t of my life and I love that. I love you, Ethan, and ur dog. U guys are amazing. Love you, see you, BYEE!!
Yeah like now I'm in 8th grade but same situation and he really helped
It's weird seeing you without Ethan....
Seeing your video reminds me that people who are out can be well adjusted, attractive and masculine real people versus the stereotypes you see at the gay bars or the hair salon. I live with my partner of 10+ years in a nice single family home and live a quite peaceful life. It's nice to know that today's youth have the courage to come out earlier in our society.
Oh my god, he looks so young🙈🙈
You're just such a gorgeous person, when you said "Keep Smiling" my heart just light up. Thankyou for sharing you story and I hope it only keeps getting better
He didn't say anything about his dad though?
Mark, thank you so much for this and all the amazing things you share with us. I've watched this before various time and I'm sure I'll come back to this video many more because every time I see it, it fills me with happiness and joy. It always makes me tear up, tears of joy that is; and it just gives me a lot of hope! I look up to you so much, even though I only get to see bits and pieces of your life; you are an incredibly amazing human being :) Thanks for everything!!
10 years later and I’m back 😭😭😭😭😭😭
This video was amazing! It's crazy how similar your story was with mine. I rejected me being gay in high school, and was not comfortable even exploring that avenue and then when I finally accepted myself and after a few too many drinks and a night on the emotional rollercoaster I came out to my first person. I then this past summer came out to my parents and I couldn't be happier! I randomly stumbled upon your video and it resonated with me a lot. All in all great video.
I can't stop crying so inspirational ;) :-)
The fact that Mark was a year and half younger in this video than I am now, and I merely turned 15 when I stumbled across his channel, is honestly terrifying.