@@Kathy-kr1sv Makes you feel horrible doesn't it? My mum's been doing it to me for years, and I've only realized it, when I got close with another sibling... that sibling went cold on me, and it's then I started figuring it all out. Totally unjustified, evil, but most of all, it is pathetic.
Yes, but I will be sure to unload on them, and give them a perspective on the narcissist they apparently hadn't considered. You can't choose your parent or your siblings, but you can call them out when it's time.
@@DHW256 chances are, unless your siblings have said anything about it themselves, they're too brainwashed to see it, and will report it back to your parents so they can get a "doggie treat", like the well behaved abused dog they are. Then your parents will act like victims, who have only ever helped you and been there for you. Best thing you can do, is not to react, and cut them off.
You might be completely alone by the time you’re done with going no contact with everyone. But that is completely ok with me. All it does is let you know exactly who was fake and who was real. There are definitely a LOT of fake people in this world. I would MUCH rather spend all my time alone than to spend it with the narcissist and their flying monkeys.
The narcissist I cut off hoovers me daily. I don’t give her the time of day. After the smear campaign, gang stalking, No reaction. Their pain and drama isn’t worth your health or even your life. Depending on the situation the narcissist is involved in or the type people the narcissist is surrounded around (Usually grimy people). Stand your ground. There’s nothing wrong with you. They want you to feel sorry for yourself. Forget them. THEIR actions either made them discard you or you caught on to them. (I did) They will never admit it but secretly your silence eats at them slowly 🤣
That may all be true; once I went no contact and my X realised that I no longer answered his phone call and returned all of his letters, he wrote to my solicitor telling her that I'm incompetent, have a mental illness, blah, blah, blah. My solicitor sent him an appropriate response and contact stopped. Considering he had already ensured that I did not have any social network, he turned my children against me. Interestingly, some of his family have resumed contact with me. ... I wonder why.
Seven years ago I told my Narc ex wife that if I could kiss her new boyfriend ( eventually husband, they were cheating for a while ) on the lips , “ I would…to thank him for taking her out of my life “…..she was furious….when my daughter came home from school, she called me and asked “ what did you say to mom “….I told her, and she laughed hysterically…!!!! Haven’t spoken to the ex since, and I laugh about it every day !!!!
Oh that's a good one haha! Even a quick witted person wouldn't be able to come up with something to retaliate against that. Haha! My ex wife also cheated on me but with multiple different men. She's with one of the ones she cheated with on me, pretending to live her best life. It's such a joke, I almost feel bad for her, almost. Malignant/grandiose narc. Worst ex-perience in my life. But I'm doing so much better now 😎🤙🇺🇸
@@jordanlewis8884 I understand Your feelings about that Your nex has got another narc to bee with = paradox and a little bit of Karma I think That happen too my nex too: Directly in 2½ month since I left my narc and nex (after 12 years of abuse) he engaged another toxic person and women. He moved out from his own flat after about 4 month and moved in to this woman flat. It lasted about 1½ year and then she through him out of her apartment cause he had been abusing her and even get violent the day before Christmas = she called the Police ... But she is toxic too and I think they deserved each other and he at least get 2 lessons: Me who has left him and have I also proof of that he has also cheated me all those years with multiple woman etc and then that woman as he say openly in social media was HIS BEST LOVE - was getting enough of him and discard him openly into social media 😁 I'm not bother more than: Yes - the world around and his friends and family can NOT ignore anymore that he is not behaving normal at all too other people or in his relationship's! Even if his last official ex is/was toxic too it was a receipt of his abuse in public and official at that time!
So true. They never move on. My ex narc gf who so called dumped me was still keeping my flowers after 6 months and sent me pictures of that 3 weeks ago. And ALWAYS was the one calling me even though I initiated no contact for months (of course I failed, what a big mistake) and got sad when I threw her belongings away. They are weaker than we think they are, seriously, they are way too weak to be in a relationship
This is scary. I've known the ex narc since I was about 11 years old. He had a crush on me, I knew it, but, I was a little girl and I didn't care for boys at that time. Years, later in our middle 30's we got involved. He swears that I purposely hurt him, by ignoring him. I apologized to him but told him I was a child, I didn't even remember talking to him. 😳
Its incredibly frustrating how they control the narrative behind your back. It has been very difficult to ignore the smear campaign, or try to correct the damage done. Let people think what they want to, if they really know you, they will see the deceit. Try to stay positive. The best retaliation you can get is to live your life without them and be at peace. That's what really grinds their gears.
I'm talking years later... eventually they dig their own hole. As they get older and lose their devil charm and therefore their narcissistic supplies they fizzle out. Sad souls really.
I agree- they can tell people what they want. If people know us-- they should know our integrity. If the narc sways their opinion of us...no need to worry. We know our true selves.
They don’t just want others to look at you sideways they want you to look at yourself that way. Don’t buy into their illusions. You are worthy, you matter, you deserve so much more then they are capable of.
Right they hate you feeling good about yourself they are so toxic and fake I can smell one soon as one approaches me because it seems like they seem me I'm highly empathetic and narcs love those types I love telling the narc how happy I am the narc hated me glowing he tried to start fights about dumb stuff just so he could be his true self he hated peace towards the end of the relationship I saw a devalue coming so I bailed out before he could do the narcissistic discard . He tried to love bomb me hoover , devalue then discard in an 8 month period the jerk had no idea I'm educated on narcissist and I saw his stuff a mile away
@@alexandrapuerie810 That's how you have to be. Empath as well, late bloomer, lol! Hate those losers😠. Raised and lived with them, worked with them and had children by them. Me and the kids suffered horribly. They control the children. Hard going no contact due to their controlling and mind games when kids involved. Not simple.
@@alexandrapuerie810 lost custody of both my children to narc fathers for 16 years and haven't recovered yet. The courts play a major role. Be grateful you don't have any children, honey. I would have advised you not too. Don't even let them know you pregnant if they are controlling, abusive (esp. emotionally and psychologically, deceiving, gaslighting, greedy/stingy), to YOU 1st, then observe they a$$ around your people (family, friends, strangers, even children, animals, and elderly particularly). If you do, ALWAYS keep a family law attorney on retainer, who specializes in domestic violence cases. That can be tremendous help. I feel you will do great! Oh, if they put your aspirations and dreams down, RUN🏃🏾♀️! THEY WANT TO CONTROL YOUR LIFE AND FUTURE AND FUTURE KIDS.
Just ignore them because they care about no one. If they act like they care about you it's all an act to get back into your life and try to control you and cause you more grief and pain. It really hurts them to not know what is going on in your life.
@Debra Marshall. You are right they don’t care about you all they want is to know what is going on with you and make sure you are still a “loser.” My sister and I hadn’t spoken in a few years and she randomly sent a Christmas card to me this past year. I just ignored it because I knew she was trying to pull me back into her abyss of madness, as I refer to it 🤪
I went no contact instinctively, I'm glad this confirms I was right. I learned not to override the alarm (instinct) but to listen to it. Most of us knew something was wrong very early on in these entanglements
@Joseph Brook U are lucky because u got out fast, I stayed much longer than I should have tbh. Their biggest secret is the initial love bombing, which is out of this world! So I stayed hoping that wonderful love would return
Hell-bent on destroying you is a good way to describe narcissist's when you go no contact. They slander you to everyone around you as well. It's a very strange sickness. They are extremely obsessed.
Whoa that’s my wife! Wow guess I should’ve saw the signs and she found me off of a dating site and came all the way from Florida to New Jersey and met my family and I never met hers? My family and I found out. She was baiting me from the beginning I found out, silly me. She said she wanted to ruin me make me crazy. She knew I was a military veteran going through disability it’s a long story but she locked everything up in storage and took all my motorcycles all my family heirlooms my, father‘s estate possessions, little money. stuff my son stuff and it’s still ongoing I just pray that this woman goes to jail but what she did perjury violating me and many others I found out, and this is coming from a third-party who also saw it happen to her false accusations, fake Christian, evil and wishes her fate! It felt like pure hell for almost 6 months I need to two years before but God and dealing with a good Messianic temple church in family ministry and marriage counseling! God bless I’m going through that smear campaign some people are just so blind to see.
You're right. My narcissistic former friend tried to do exactly this, but so many people were sick of her at that point (it was always something with her and she was at the center of all of her self inflicted drama), that no one really paid any attention to her. Like a tea bag, she's steeped in self-pity and self-loathing for a long while. She had ruined yet another once-valuable friendship. Tragically, like most narcissists, she went looking for new supply and it turned out to be a friend of mine. He didn't know her the way I did. He lived several states away and only interacted with her on social media. We finally reconnected a few years after I went no contact with her and filled him in on the proverbial straw that broke the camera's back. He didn't know that she blew a very big and potentially prosperous business opportunity for me. She orchestrated my very unceremonious termination as the head of the whole operation, usurped my work and tried to turn it into her own little vanity project (I wish I could give you more details, but my work is currently finding new life) and when she was left there standing the bag, with no knowledge of how to run things, the persona she had created for the outside world began to crack. You see, I had been behind the scenes making sure everything ran smoothly. After all, the project was my brainchild. She had no clue what she was doing. Whenever she got stuck or didn't have an answer for someone in a position of power, I helped her come out smelling like roses. After I stepped down and effectively canceled any future of the project might have had, everyone got to see how full of shit she really was. My friend knew nothing about any of this. So, through ignorance to her true nature, he had hired her to work on one of his projects but, in her classic narcissistic fashion, she slowly tried to take everything over and make it all about her. In the years after I cut her off, he had seen instances of her lack of respect for boundaries, inability to handle a difference of opinion or disagreement, repeated lie-spewing over even the most trivial or minute things, no evidence of a solid work ethic, inability to work well with others, complete lack of respect for deadlines, complete failure to see value in other people's time or effort, etc. In short, she was the least professional person either of us had ever met. To make an already long story much shorter, my friend finally cut her off just over two years ago and is in the middle of the healing process. For a long while, he thought he was crazy. I introduced him to another former colleague of hers and she confirmed everything that we experienced. It's sad to say, she has been this way her entire life and shows no signs of changing. In order to change, a narcissist must admit that they have a problem, get therapy and if they believe in a higher power (whether it be God or another entity), ask for divine intervention to save them from the dumpster fire that is their life. We all know they won't do that. It's everyone else's fault, never theirs.
My ex narcissist's death was the only thing that broke the soul tie (at least on a physical level). But i think that i would've maintained no contact even if she was alive. But then again you never know, life is a long journey. One thing though....If you maintain no contact long enough and have really made progress in healing , you most likely will not want to ever experience a narcissistic relationship again.
I've been no contact from my ex best friend for 8 years. She recently reached out (because they never stop) and again no contact on my end. A mutual friend said she has stage 4 cancer. 😳 I dont wish that on anyone. I know cause I just kicked cancers ass. Anywho it made me want to break no contact 🙃 but I prayed on it and prayed for her 🙏. I have a clean heart but I will never break no contact. Abused for 30 years. Im good. Pray all is well.
I felt stupid too but I do not have a mind to be evil like them. So feel good about that. Now that I know about narcissist I realize they are every where.
Your not alone, I'm 49 and my sister 55 who I allways helped, has moved in, filed charges to keep me off my land and has teamed back up with her lawyer boyfriend to steal the farm. Pure Evil. Ya I feel stupid also and now I'm stupid and fucked
@@furtherahead5867 so sorry. They have no conscience. I had to start over at 55. I did lose stuff but I was desperate to gain my sanity back no matter what. Very unfortunate the courts are not just but God is. I had to let go of “family” too. I will pray for you.
@ Alex Xander. Don’t waste your time beating yourself up..we have all wasted a lot of our lives (myself, 40 plus years) at this point all we can do is to try to do better 🙂👍
Ignore anyways. Eventually they will get bored and move on. It could take days, weeks, months, and unfortunately even years. But they will. Ignoring them and their flying monkeys will benefit you regardless. They don't care about anyone but themselves. I am always super happy, bubbly, and outgoing. Nobody will ever take that away because I'm a strong, confident, and independent woman.
So true “ Lurking in the background while they monitor our moves”. . After going no contact I was invited out to a milestone group dinner and of course the Narc had become bestie with the person because I was closer to the person prior.. this was to make me feel further alienated from the group. But I’ve been drawing closer to God and He has me covered!! One with God is majority over those against me.. 😔
Nailed it! Ever since I got born again, it's like the blinders are off. The veil has been lifted. I hope that makes sense. I can smell the evil in people now. I still prefer a life of solitude over being out and about. It's safer that way. I'd rather meditate in the word than be out in a sinful troubled world.
@@iononcantomascrivooh waw me too same here ,im born again ,have the love of jesus and im soooo happy ,he healed me im forever gratefull the funny thing is the lord warned me ,but that time i was still in the world ,but god saved me halleluja 🙏❤😁
Nope. God is not going to cure you from Narcissistic Abuse, you have to do the work yourself, and most churches produce narcissistic behavior…church is THE WORST PLACE TO GO if you are suffering from this type of abuse.
Back in July of 2020 my father kicked me out of a family owned property that I had been living in for 17 years that my mother bought for me before she died so I wouldn't be homeless, in the middle of the pandemic lockdown, using the day I got laid off from my job as the pretext to initiate an "event" so he could attempt to have me locked up in a mental institution by claiming "it looked like I was hitting my aunt." So after I lost my home and job and had to abandon over 90% of my cherished memories, belongings, and furniture which he subsequently paid a junk hauler to take to a landfill and I have moved on with my life, this guy starts calling me trying to give me $15,000 cash. Sorry bud. You chose to punish me, so that was the end. You can't bully someone because you're angry and then pay to make it all better. You made your choices and you chose hatred and cruelty. They really are sick. It's a fine line between narcissism and sociopathy.
I think you were right not to take the money. The devil's primary temptation is to use money and material status to degrade man. My husband's brother is the narc in our case. He's a conman, exploiter, liar, idealises the most shallow violent behaviour and delights in humiliating others. He's a total creep and really, really nasty to my husband. He's also quite well off, due to his seedy exploits. And he loves using money to manipulate others. A lot of people fall for it. They are the weak ones who get drafted-in as flying monkeys eventually.
None of my friends known to my narcissistic ex girlfriend _(whom I’ve discarded)_ know where I stay, nor where my family lives. I mean none of them! And I’ve cut contact with every single one of them. And me having changed my contacts and staying in a gated complex manned by strict security makes it more difficult for the narcissist to contact me. I’m now focused on my healing.
I think when they feign concern for our mental well being is the most annoying thing since they gaslight you to the point where you question yourself. Not missing them one bit. Revenge is a dish best served cold. Do well and succeed and if you do run into them pretend like you don’t remember them.
It's a little bit of Mission Impossible to pretend that I do not remember a narc as I living with for 12 years and all his abuse of me - don't You think? 😂 Well - IF I run into him I ignore him totally that's for sure and I'm not polite to him.
Yes. Ignorance is bliss and pretending that they don't matter to you is the best revenge. I have a narcissistic former friend that I know has it in her to try and resurface if it is beneficial to her. She's a bottom feeder in the local show business industry where she lives and has no real talent or ambition of her own. That's how the two of us met. I was an aspiring artist and she thought befriending me would be beneficial to reviving her stand-still (non-existent) career. Of course, all she saw me as was a stepping stone. To make a long story short, she stole my intellectual property, plagiarized it, committed copyright infringement and tried to pass it off as her own. Fortunately, for me, her writing skills were so bad, everywhere all changes were rather obvious and when trying to pitch “her story,” her inability to even get basic plot points right worked against her. Add all of that to her horrible attitude, no respect for boundaries, poor work ethic, complete failure to work well with others, lack of punctuality and having nothing resembling professional resume, not a single person believed her or gave her the time of day. It was after I went no-contact with her, her then-latest ponzi scheme went belly up. She tried to contact me under the guise of informing me of the death of a mutual friend. I had already blocked her on everything and changed my cell phone number, but she wasn't one to ever take a challenge lying down (unless it was the casting couch). She googled my widow mother's phone number and called her up looking for me. You read that right. A little fact about my mother: she is a German-Jew native New Yorker with a very big mouth. She takes absolutely no crap and makes Judge Judy seem like a cream puff by comparison. My mother was understandably appalled that someone would show so little class as to turn someone else's death into an excuse to talk about herself. My mom said something along the lines of: “The man died. Does that mean anything to you, you selfish trucking grunt?” That clap-back rendered my former friend speechless. When she managed to speak, according to Mom, she asked to have me call her back. Mom essentially said: “He blocked you on everything for reasons that are already well known to you. F*ck. Off.” Mom said my former friend “wailed like a baby” before abruptly ending the call. My career is starting to look up and unfortunate to have supportive individuals around me who respect my vision and me as a person. I pray to God my former friend doesn't crawl out from under whatever rock she's currently hiding. If she does, I'll just pretend I don't know her.
This is exactly what a sibling said to me recently while rationalizing gossip ( behind-my-back scapegoating with other family members ) as behavior everyone does and it does not constitute "gossip". BS. He said it wasn't ill will, but "concern". LOL. None of the family members called me "out of concern", but talked behind my back. Plus, they ALL are guilty of the same behavior that they see me as having. The hypocrisy is so obvious it's laughable. Yes, don't let them have power over you. Don't waste time on that gaslighting.
All painfully true. That said, I found the abuse, smears and alienation of other family members just made me stronger. All it did was confirm how right I was to leave. Just go out and live your best life: happiness in the best revenge of all.
I have a protection order against him and have changed my phone number, which has kept him away so far. I'm sure that's only because he doesn't want to or is afraid to go back to jail. But this cease and desist letter might be a great idea for when this year is over. I need something to keep him away forever.
Lucky you!!! I paid a lawyer for a cease and desist letter....he literally REPLIED to the lawyer with a paragraph of sentences that kept contradicting each other!!! So I did the Restraining Order. When the deputy attempted to serve it, my FIL came out guns blazing and tried to murder the deputy....with the 'ghost gun' my ex had MADE.
Narcs become desperate and will resort to extreme measures when going to no contact. Flying monkeys are dispersed by the narc because they know their target will ignore them. Narcs use flying monkeys to act as a proxy for them. Sadly, flying monkeys fall for the bait and abuse and terrorize the victim on orders given by the head narc. It's like flying monkeys are zombies lacking awareness and do what the narc tells them to do. If the main narc tells them to jump, they will ask how high. Most flying monkeys are covert narcs themselves and love drama, which explains why they gravitate to other narcs. On a positive note, flying monkeys or the main narc eventually turn on each other. Grab your popcorn because it will happen. Neither is trustworthy.
I'm so over it at this point idc what anyone does anymore. I'm only concerned about my kids and myself. I'm officially aware of what is going on and I choose to change me. That's officially a them problem
Oh wow. Wish I could be a fly on the wall and watch Mommy Dearest and her Golden Child son-husband turn on each other!! What a show that would be! Unfortunately I cut them off in 2014 and I don't look at their social media nonsense, too triggering and traumatizing for me. I'd rather not know. There's nothing really truthful on fakebook anyway, just a bunch of mules in horse's harness trying to out do the next one with how "wonderful" their fake lives are.
I was no contact for seventeen years. NM got my best friend of twenty years and my sister to start their campaign on Me. I thought after twenty years we could talk. I wanted to find out what I was doing that Always made NM so mad at Me all the time. The biggest mistake of my life ever made going into contact again. NM was 1000 times worse. Our contact lasted about two years. I washed my hands of all of them. This no count time was twelve years. Until she died of old age, in 2020. My so-called best friend died in 2008. I had complete relief they were gone, forever. Sister is now trying to make amends with Me. Nope, not going to happen. Peace Sisters💕🇺🇲
Yes, I've been through all that you have mentioned and as you say they never stop. I feel now that I am coming out the other side of it and I feel much more at peace with myself and now I feel abundance and appreciate the small things in life. It's been about eight years now and the narcissists are still intent on playing their mind games, but now I have accepted that this is the narcs just doing their narcing. These days I just feel much more blessed and happy. Thankyou for your video, Claris.
I wish I was where you are. I have no peace yet. I know this struggle to get free is often just emotional but all my hopes and dreams were with them. The price was too high for those dreams and now I have to detox from them. I will take heart that you did it and that enjoying the simple things can be mine once again too.
@@donald2024on Yes, from them inwardly, but not from your own source of happiness. That, I feel, I want to embraced. I feel this is an important distinction, at least for me.
I live 4600kms away! I have ignored him for almost 10 years. He still reaches out several times a year. Email and phone are blocked, but not social media because he creates aliases and I would rather know who it is I’m dealing with for sure. He cannot stand it that I don’t like him or don’t think about him, so he tries to make sure I think about him at least a few times a year. I am so glad I live far away. The only reason I came on here today is because I just got a message from him. It is so pathetic. And I am sure he knows it’s pathetic, and that is just fine with me.
I moved 2000miles away from mummi dearest 25 years ago, 10 years ago she moved to the same state , she suprised me by turning up to our sons 5th party uninvited i then reinstated no contact, 3 years after that my stepfather died and i stupidly went to the funeral big mistake, 5 years ago she rang my husbands work( supposed to be emergency only calls to work) and told him i should be in a mental hospital . So I'm just waiting for her to be planted that will be when it ends..
I was constantly devalued all my life, and when I went no contact with narcs, I suddenly became the most popular I've ever been, they're desperate to get at me any way they can. What a crazy world we live in...
@@melindasmith3713 I do hope you go back to work and get yourself independent financially from him and move out. You never know what they going to do to you. It's like living with your worse enemy.
It's like cutting out cancer. You have to remove some tissue around the wound which maybe healthy. Don't worry about the flying monkeys, enablers or the duped. Get free!! Cut or heavily control communication channels. In time, you'll be in a healthy place with some new people too. ❤💙💜💖
Meh. My mother died over a decade ago and she was the only member of my family who never abused me emotionally or physically. She's gone and I can accept that she is gone. I'd rather that she still be here, and my tormentors could be the ones who have passed away prematurely, that would have been fine by me. If you've gone no contact then who cares if they are alive or dead? What kind of "closure" could you have achieved by re-initiating contact with toxic people? Once you let the harmful people go, keep it that way. I don't even foresee attending funerals for these corrosive people. The only way forward is by leaving them in the broken past that they helped to destroy.
@@maryoconnor2596 Bit harsh don't you think Mary? when Miss X is saying she lost loved ones to cancer and her brother took his life. I understand that she cant ask someone not to use a perfectly good metaphor but maybe just let her have her say without a critical comment?
This is all true. I’m going thru this at this very moment. I’m done done. Ignore!!! Ignore!!!! Ignore!!!!! That’s the word for the day. Ignore them and they’re childish reactions.
I just broke up with the narcissist one week ago - that same night he already tried talking to my roommate/friend saying terrible things about me--but thank God my friends know my true character and my friend defended me! Hearing this video was exactly he's trying to do! But I have confidence and I am never going back to this person-great video! ❤️
Going no contact is a temporary solution for narcs!!the best revenge is seeing us happy , although they continue to "ruin" our life!! it's impossible to do it!!we move on constantly with courage and resilience,we give without expecting from empty humans!!finally we do not "follow" them!!🙏🙏
Going No Contact is not a revenge and please do not use it like that. No Contact is a way to protect our selves meanwhile You are healing Your self. It's a good thing to make so You live peacefully without their abusing, gaslightning etc By the way - why should You even engaged to get a revenge? They are not even worth that You are thinking of them ... Get Your energy to heal instead and forget those abuser.
Best revenge is to be slender and youthful looking even in my late 50s and run into these OBESE NARC PIGS waddling about in the grocery store......75 lbs heavier than the last time I saw them...😁
The point regarding them playing the role of concerned benevolent friend who is just concerned about your stability is profound. They wish appear to have only the truest and noblest of intent and genuinely only have your best interests at heart. They are Very cunning... don't fall for it.
An unstable, covertly abusive nut being "concerned" about my mental health would be preceived by me as condescending and INSULTING. They would get a door in the face pronto.
I’m so glad I came across your channel it’s teaching how to deal with a narcissist. My sister is a full blown narcissist who has been manipulating me and torturing me for 20+ years with her narcissism to the point where I’ve had suicidal thoughts and nervous breakdowns . I need to continue with the no contact even though I realize she will continue to try to hurt me and slander my name . I have subscribed to your channel and these videos are helping me . Thank you so much !
I found out that there was a support system there that I was not paying attention to. I give no power to the narcissist. I take responsibility for the fact that I stayed and I take responsibility for the fact that I got the hell out.
This video is spot on!!! Thank you so much Claris!! I’m currently dealing with this. The narc completely made up this whole story about me being a cheater and this horrible person so they could be “the victim”! They’ve tried to and still are trying to turn everyone close to me against me. Thankfully the people that really know me know better. This narc took it a step farther, they continue to play nice with my parents and they even spent over $300k to purchase themselves MY DREAM CAR is hopes of throwing it in my face and sparking a reaction. I’ve cut the narc off and they’re miserable! Thank you all, reading all of your comments makes me feel at ease and very hopeful!
$300K for a car is absurd I don't care what it is. I would be embarrassed and ashamed to spend that much on a car when there are so many homeless people in the world. My house cost a fraction of that. That's just vulgar.
Excellent video. When we go No Contact, we need to have realistic expectations that the Narc will most likely keep trying to have contact in some way. Like you said, it's so important to practice ignoring all the antics; unless of course, if you need to get the law involved to protect your basic human rights.
It took me five years for people to see my ex fiancé for what she was after a conviction of assault. The Smear Campaign was tough, but strengthening, I got to see who was there for me and who wasn't - and who came running back for thinking wrongfully about me.
This is what I have been afraid of. Had a narcissist bf decades ago who was basically a nut case. He was totally inappropriate in his behavior toward me, pushy, controlling, super jealous and I had enough after a few months. Oh he was great in the beginning and it seemed his true colors showed day by day until I was convinced he was a completely different person than the one I had first met. It's like he had a total personality change from decent to impossible. He started stalking me and he could not stand it when I was dating someone else. He was disruptive and actually went to my workplace to complain about me. I had already told my coworkers that he was crazy so they sided with me anyway. I actually had to move away not long after because he would not stop stalking me. I went full no contact but he ignored me. You all have to be so careful but I was afraid he would hurt me, attack me or kill me. I guess what I'm saying is that there are extremes in narcissism, some of them won't hurt you physically but some will. Just be careful.
Resonated so well with me when you said..”make everyone believe you are the unstable one... problems with childhood and mental health issues”. Just 😳! I started thinking....I may have to play this game because she told me to get myself “well” first before trying to fix them. She’s tried all she can to help me and feels so sorry for me. Got to be honest... at times you get such cognitive dissonance in wondering if it’s true. But here’s a good test... when you are away from them... peace comes back, relief, no anxiety. Sure, you worry about your children and how to play their game so u don’t make them angry enough to cut you off. You also will grieve a loss but you ha e to do that. There’s relief but you grieve all that you thought things were in your life. It’s an awakening. Now, back to my point....I am thinking of just playing the sick one so she thinks I’m trying to get well and haven’t come to my senses yet.... while time goes by. So far it’s been working but I can see the loose cannon syndrome getting ready to unload soon. They are so short fused, that you anxiously know it’s coming. Anyhow, you know you’re not as sick as their making you out to be. You were not sick before you married this person and you’re starting to see how NOT SICK you are again, without them. They bring you the plague, thus rendering you sick!
This video is by far the best short video on no contact with the Narcissist. You have nailed the narcissist moves down to an almost certainty. My husband & I will never again speak to his narcissist sister. We are 2 weeks into no contact. With the help of these videos we know to let her smear campaign rampage on. She is down to 3 facebook friends...and only 3 family members now tolerating her. She thinks she has sunk her teeth into fresh meat (new supply) this Christmas & they all told her they were quarantined & she can't visit. With only 1 person who could relay what she says about us behind our backs ...we have made a pact together to tell the mutual friend to never bring her up. It is off limits. I pray for everyone to have a healthy happy New year in 2022.....no contact is a freaking glorious gift you can give yourself....so please do it ❤😊❤😊❤
They'll be obsessed with you for the rest of their lives if you discarded them first. They'll forever stalk you through social media even after you are enjoying healthy life with someone else. And not only just narcissists do this, but most people with Cluster B.
This true. So, I've now gotten a P.O. deleted most of my social media except for YT for this very reason. I've also moved, changed my number, and plan on staying no contact forevermore. I pray that I never have to see him again. Ever.
Ha, ha. Poor them. I don't do FAKEbook (a cess pool of narcissism and butt kissing) or the other crap. RUclips is my only "social media" and I use an alias not my real name. I bet they are really going nuts. Poor little predatory snakes.
All your videos describe exactly what I went through with my father! I was an adult, 38 years old, when he started beating me. When I got tired of it and moved away from him, he went on a smear campaign like you wouldn't believe! My support system that was very strong became almost non-existent overnight! He went through a never ending tirade against me at my Church, places of work (I say places because I was let go/encouraged to resign because he would show up at my workplace, reek havoc etc), friends' houses etc. My lawyer, who was at one point a member of my circle of friends, was the only constant I had besides the local police departments....3 local police departments, that is! After my father finally died, I had one real friend left and my Mom's best friend. However, after my Mom's best friend passed away, I was left by myself completely! Wait, I also had my Mom's 2 doctors for moral support and understanding. But they weren't friends, per se! All in all, it was a hellish experience!!!
I lost my whole family (except my sister who was also a victim) to my narcissistic mother when I finally got away from her. She turned them all against me. My uncles, aunts and cousins started contacting me out of the blue, furious at me for things I hadn't done. Telling me I was 'dead to them'. When I tried to tell them what she'd done to me and my sister as a kid, they just got more furious that I was 'making up disgusting accusations'. This was 14 years ago. I have a good counsellor. Some days are better than others. I get depressed and suffer severe anxiety, but I've got my own family now. My primary goal in life now is to give my kids a good life. One very different from my childhood.
Thanks for sharing your story. I recently had some counselling and I found it impacted negatively on me. Do try to work to an end date with your counselling also do be aware it might be having a negative effect on you like it did with me. Better to focus on the future like you're doing.
I am proud of you for seeing things clearly, and not to do to your kids what your mother did to you.Yiu rose upbove it by not becoming like her . Stay strong and raise your beautiful family.❤️❤️ Many blessings to you. Counseling is good to have.I got counseling and it really helped me to see that my parents was the problem not me , because they was trying to put the blame on me all this time for their mistakes.
Already am alone and fine with it, actually found inner peace. (Out of site, out of mind) even cut loose all third parties who liked to mention narcissist...
One of the best things about going No Contact is that you'll be surprised at how many other people DO understand your action and support you. When I finally went no contact with my mother, other people who knew her said 'we're surprised it took you so long.' And true enough. The thing about a flaming narcissist is that they don't usually confine their negative activities to only one person. Other people have also felt the sting of their warped, controlling personality-so don't assume that everybody you know is going to side with them. The only people who were not terribly supportive of my 'no contact' stance were people who never met her, and judged my actions based on what their own relationship with their own mother was like. "Oh, but she's your MOTHER," etc. Pay no attention to these voices and stand your ground. Going No Contact with my mother was the most liberating action I've ever taken (and it's been over 40 years since I took it, and I've never had a single second of regret.) It gave me my life back. It's a shame, as my mother had many good qualities, and I learned a lot of good things from her, still share some of her interests and hobbies, etc. But ultimately her need to control everybody completely, and her chronic inability to ever be satisfied with whatever control she had, overtopped the good stuff. It just got worse as I got older, and eventually the 'enough' stage was reached. She had fair warning of the step I planned to take, and was given a chance to change her behaviour- but instead she regarded my line in the sand as impertinent and out of order, and yet another reason why I couldn't be trusted to run my life properly. End of.
Thanks for another amazing video Clarice 😊.... No matter wat ...these creatures are going to spoil their victims name someway or the other.... So one should just learn to ignore and act as if these mentally sick beings don't exist at all no matter wat drama they try to put up.... 😜
@@collie8 I miss my family but they didn't support me, they stuck up for my narc because they fed my family lies😢😢 I never in my life expected my parents to do that, it's just sad, but I will forgive and come back stronger and I will talk to them in the future because lives too short, my family mean the world to me, especially over a horrible narc, can't believe I gave the narc so much time and energy, Thanks for your reply
Best thing is to break contact and then connect back and listen to the 'telling off' you'll undoubtedly get. Listen, without much reply and let them initiate the formal 'separation'. Take the personal criticism, the undoubted slurs and demeaning comments.. in fact, see them as a blessing. To have them think they've gotten rid of you is music too your ears.
Oh yes, I know all about the letters. My narc supervisor is obsessed with me and once I blocked him from calling and texting me, he started sending me letters. Of course I didn't open them. I sent them back, unopened. The fact that I returned the letters unopened sends a message to the narc that whatever the contents were -- were unimportant and irrelevant to me. I also reported him to the authorities. He's gotta be fuming.
Yeah they are. My two Narcs (Mother/step brother) randomly send me a card telling me 'they missed me' and that 'they were still thinking of me' and then nastily wrote that they 'hoped I was better mentally' despite them treating me like crap while growing up, after I decided to go No Contact with them ten-plus years ago. Their hooving and their flying monkeys nonsense didn't work and the card was chucked in the bin...
As long as God is for you and him alone trust me you won't care who is against you. God should be your priority not immortals. Keep this mentality ALWAYS never let your faith go for nobody. ISRAEL FOREVER! 🇮🇱😊🇮🇱
I went no contact with our narcissist mother after I caught her lying to her friends, calling me "...a weirdo who likes to hang out in cemeteries", because I confirmed her beliefs on her family history by visiting their homesteads and final resting places, and I took her to see those places. It was the final straw after 46 years of mental and physical abuse, misrepresentation, backbiting and gaslighting. Going no contact did not stop the backbiting and misrepresentation, but I was no longer around to be the direct recipient of it. Mom could have fixed the problems she caused, but she preferred playing the victim and continuing to destroy her own family. She eventually ran all her children off, though the flying monkey returned for their RDA of abuse, and eventually one of them gave her COVID, which killed her. I'm sure, somehow, that was my fault or the fault of one of the other family scapegoats.
Absolutely.... like any good parasite.... sometimes you just need to disappear...dead,gone don't exist ... Their hated keeps them coming back for more torture of you by them
Never a tryer word has been said. Your insight is spot on. My answer has been to 'not respond' but wait for the day when they choose to be civil again. Tha's when you can act as if nothing has happened and though they are around. Now go about your day being civil but not walking on eggshells, and ignore the accolades, just be unaffected.
My sister (the narcissist) was furious when I cut her out of my life she even tried to drive a wedge between myself and my daughter 😧and she almost succeeded. If not for HER own cruel treatment toward her for most of her life (jealousy) she might have been successful. 😟
It’s already been 3 years. We’re going on year 4. What’s actually happening to me is it’s pissing me off. This is making my resolve even stronger! Thank you for the share Clarice! ♥️
I lost people I thought were my friends--due to no contact. I have others that are not even aware of her so it isn't as great a loss as it could have been. I have a broad enough diversity of friends that it was easy for me to separate the "fans" from the "friends". It is going on 6 yrs. and I am happy to say that I have moved on with velocity. I haven't a need to look back.
Excellent information. No contact & ignore all their lies they may speak about you. A narcissist reaps what they sow-it surely is a miserable rotten harvest.:(
Thanks. Now it makes more sense what my ex-wife has been doing. My attorney told me he had never seen anyone go to such lengths to discredit someone as my ex did and continues to do. I went no contact in 2018, but she continues to try and damage me. She doesn't realize it has absolutely no affect on me or my true friends and she is just wasting her time. While I have moved on with my life and enjoying myself, she is still stuck in the past. She is so possessed by her lack of control over me that I heard her health has been affected and she has been hospitalized off and on. I had managed to stay married to her for 30 years by becoming a work acholic and avoiding her. Of course the divorce court gave her about 67% of what I had worked for, but that is the way men are treated in divorce and why I would never get married again. She had gotten into drugs so I expect her to go through all that money in just a few years, if she doesn't over dose first.
i started going no contact after my grandmother passed 2 yrs ago. eventually i began noticing something off. my narc brother was engineering other people to contact me. these were friends and others, but none reached out on their own. not even my son. i have learned that narcs work together until the point they don’t get what they want. whatever it is. and then they don’t expose the other narcs. my brother has been undermining me my entire life. and now i know for sure thats its him (with help from others along the way). not contact works only to a point. i actually have to move, because my bro stalks me at my house 950 miles away. they are dangerous fiends.
Ive been ignoring my ex's BS hoovers and smears until she got my dad and kids. Mainly my oldest daughter. That one currently is hitting hard. She's had my ex friends and other family members on her side for a while but I guess with that not working, like u said, she uped the game and attacked the ones that matter most.. I've literally cut my own dad off recently because it was like talking to a wall and I'm just tired of feeling like I'm stuck in the loop of 'he said, she said' when Ive even showed reciepts of text and random pictures she sends. There's so much more but I'll keep it short. Very hard to stay cool and not snap
Thankyou so much for this video. This video is so spot on. And yes, I went no contact, the best thing I ever did. That is the best thing to do to people like that. The result for me has been the best thing to do. For them, not so much. That's on them. They still do what they do. The more they do, the more humble I get. 😊
Oh my… deep inside of me I new all of this is true. But hearing it spoken out explicity is a hard thing. It is insane how much damage a single person can do to someone else. But a voice inside of me keeps saying: Have No Fear !!
It's so true. The narcissist will do everything they can to smear you as a way to bait you and get you out of your solitude of no-contact. My narcissistic former friend tried to do exactly that. I didn't fall for it. There was only one friend of mine that she was talking to that I was still in contact with. He didn't believe her. He had known me longer and knew that everything she was saying was a grave exaggeration at best. He also knew that she was always surrounded by drama and flying off the handle over the most insignificant thing. While she failed to turn him into her flying monkey, she did, temporarily turn him into her new supply and rode his coattails for as long as he let her. When he and I reconnected (we had only been on minimal contact for a little while thanks to her triangulation), I spilled the beans on everything. Still, at the time he wasn't ready to cut her off because he thought there was hope for her. I cringed when I heard him say that because I knew the truth. People like her don't change. Fortunately about two years after him and I rekindled our friendship, he'd had it with her and went gray rock. Naturally, the following tactics employed by her were projection, devaluing, bread crumbing, hoovering, triangulation, etc. None of it worked. In a last ditch attempt to seemingly get the last word and retain her illusion of power, she blocked him. Fortunately, on social media you can block people who have already blocked you and that's what he did. He knew she would unblock him eventually and she was shocked as all hell to see that he had returned the favor. Even now, nearly two years later she's still sends emails to him which are synced to his iPad and he just deletes them. She's so desperate for attention and it's pathetic. I forgot to mention that when all of this went down, our former friend was a married woman, well into her 50s, a mother and a grandmother. Almost seems like she behaves like a teenager, doesn't it?
@@ExposingtheNarcissist Quite! Showing how completely unhinged my former friend is, when she discovered that I had gone no-contact with her, she flipped out. She even resorted to googling my widow mother's phone number and calling her up trying to find me. I mean, how dare I throw up a permanent boundary. In her mind that was unacceptable. She wasn't done abusing me. The reason she called was because it turned out a mutual friend had passed away unexpectedly due to a heart attack. Naturally, my former friend jumped at the chance to hijack someone else's tragedy by turning it into one of her spotlight performances. She left a voicemail and my mom was horrified that anyone would show so little class as to make someone else's death all about them. I mean, forget the fact that someone had died. His wife was now a widow, his children were fatherless and his grandchildren would never know their grandfather. My former friend's incessant need for attention was more important. How dare we ever forget that, right? For clarity, this now dearly departed acquaintance had a huge job opportunity lined up for my former friend. She was banking on said opportunity changing her life. All she could talk about was how the opportunity was lost: “I don't know what I'm going to do! I need the money!” When I learned that was who the strange number was, I told my mom to delete it and the voicemail. I later found out, that my former friend later made another attempt at getting my attention with her histrionics by dialing my mom's residence a second time. This time Mom answered. A little fact about my mom: she's a German-Jew native New Yorker with a very big mouth. She takes absolutely no crap and makes Judge Judy seem like a cream puff by comparison. Naturally, upon answering, Mom was subjected to an immediate rant courtesy of my former friend. It should come as no surprise whatsoever that she failed to even show a shred of sympathy for the deceased who supposedly meant so much to her. After she ran out of breath, Mom clobbered her. Mom: “The man died. Does that mean anything to you, you selfish f*cking c*nt?” My former friend stuttered and spluttered before managing to blurt out a request to have me call her back. Mom stuck the knife in. Mom: “He blocked you on everything for reasons that are already well known to you. F*ck. Off.” Upon delivering that rebuke, my former friend “started wailing like a baby” before abruptly ending the call. It's been over eight years. She hasn't tried to contact me and I don't care to ever hear or see her again.
@@ExposingtheNarcissist That she is. It's worth pointing out, my former friend tried to do the same thing the day my father died. When I admonished her for repeatedly calling (12 times after I told her not to) the day my father died from stage-four lung cancer, she had the nerve to say, and I quote: “Well, you two never got along anyway!” That was fresh in my mom's mind when she ripped my former friend a new one. I later found out after my mom scorched her to pieces, she called up a mutual friend whining about how I blocked her. He described her screeching as sounding like a dying pelican. He refused to become her flying monkey and spy on me. She was dead convinced that I was talking about her on my social media page. How unhinged and self-centered can a person be to think that everything that happens is about her? I'll never understand it.
Spot on my experience. Details are freakishly accurate. I've learned a lot about the dark triad traits from a direct contact personal experience. These lessons can't be taught in books or any other form other than experience. The dark triad exists to teach others about oneself. SELF MASTERY is the solution. Man in the mirror. I would not have learned so much in depth about myself (human nature) had it not been for all the suffering endured with multiple dark triads. In the end, I realized that it was me who caused all the suffering! This post is meant to create awareness to those who are suffering. Once you learn about yourself, suffering ends almost instantaneously. You will become grateful for the experiences and ensuing lessons' learned from dealing with the dark triad. But wait, not only suffering ends but also the new found skill set will come in handy to push you to new heights. Imagine the possibility of unleashing the super power that has been trapped within you. Imagine the possibility of instantaneously ending your suffering. "I will pursue self mastery now."
Ur basically jumping through intellectual hoops to blame yourself here. You are saying the narcissist is the reason you are better now? Reality is, they woulda killed you if they could.
My short term ex wife is a sociopath/narc. She was kicked out of my home for constant lies, she roofied me to sleep with another man (she acted like we both were drugged but took time to figure out she drugged me), she slept with her married attorney to pay her attorney debt. They will go back to their previous partners and she had now gone back to a much older man with money in CA. Her options are running out. Trying to make sense of these people is pointless.
Oh my, this has been going on for years. And I fear that family members such as my brother were targeted by that toxic person from my past. He used to be supportive but since he's been in a relationship with a narcissistic woman, I've lost him. Sigh It's sad. On the other hand, people love hearing nasty things about people they barely know. They would hardly question the lies they hear because it's too much of a hassle.
Everything she speaks of I was a VICTIM of and to the hands of a NARCISSIST of this kind and she took me through each phase and did exactly what this speaker is saying EVERY 😳
It's almost unbelievable how someone can be so evil, like they are. Yes, hope no one have to get under narcs ways, so let's share these videos to everyone. 👊
Narcisstic friend : She was forced to tell me where she had moved . So i went to she if something was wrong when she text brb . Someone said ambulance came for her . I called the hospital , nothing was wrong she is just that extreme. She said who is this , i told her , she went into a rage .cursing about the nurses , then she turned on me . Now she's disappeared again. Wearing someone else out . Glad when i found your material .
Yep all points true. But I've set certain boundaries and law enforcement has been called ahead of time in case they physically show up. But I still can't guarantee someone won't get hurt unless my crazy Narcissist stays away!
I'm no contact five years now. This will make you smile. Few years ago my ex narc sent a flying monkey, a hairdresser and mutual friend. So my ex goes and gets her haircut and asks the hairdresser about me. So few weeks later I'm talking to the hairdresser and she says my ex was in asking about me. To which I replied 'You must have me mixed up with somebody else cause I've never known anybody by that name.' I bet my ex narc went crazy went she heard I said that. Hahaha sometimes the good guys win.
My hairdresser is a “friend” of the narc (“friend” entity) No Contact for a year and a half . She always slips in a “have you seen” da da da …. I don’t react … and find a way to dismiss or move on …. IMHO she is a flying monkey …. Sweet …. But I Don’t think she realizes she is playing that role !!!!!
The narcissist i was with is now out here being with different woman every 3 to 5 months... he is being very careless... but o well... I'm glad I'm out of that situation
I’m in a unique position. My neighbor is the narcissist. Never had any contact really. But I opened a little bakery out of my house and it made her mad. She apparently is mad that I’ve been able to achieve and she has not gotten her similar venture off the ground. Totally not my problem she can’t achieve. But nonetheless she reports us to health dept routinely. Even called law on us. I’ve since learned she’s hot this mental issue. Ugggg But her continued behavior has increased our business. Opposite effect she wanted and she’s been forced out of her commissary kitchen arrangement as well as forced to resign her position with American legion. I’m certain she’s not home drafting an apology letter so we are on edge wondering what wrath we may suffer in the future. I hate living like this. She’s a waste of oxygen and needs to move. This community as a whole has no use for her. Despicable person and I’m here to learn what can be done about her. Obviously she cannot be rehabilitated. Argh
Very accurate video yes my family members turned on me took narcissist side thank u for these videos n sharing ur knowledge yes lookin back seems like narcissist stay on my cousins good size to keep tabs on me when I went no contact they thought she was good for me smh
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If anyone changes their attitude towards you over what a narcissist has said behind your back, they weren’t someone you needed in the first place.
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Thanks I needed that
Being threatened. Totally unjustified
@@Kathy-kr1sv Makes you feel horrible doesn't it? My mum's been doing it to me for years, and I've only realized it, when I got close with another sibling... that sibling went cold on me, and it's then I started figuring it all out.
Totally unjustified, evil, but most of all, it is pathetic.
Yes, but I will be sure to unload on them, and give them a perspective on the narcissist they apparently hadn't considered. You can't choose your parent or your siblings, but you can call them out when it's time.
@@DHW256 chances are, unless your siblings have said anything about it themselves, they're too brainwashed to see it, and will report it back to your parents so they can get a "doggie treat", like the well behaved abused dog they are. Then your parents will act like victims, who have only ever helped you and been there for you.
Best thing you can do, is not to react, and cut them off.
You might be completely alone by the time you’re done with going no contact with everyone. But that is completely ok with me. All it does is let you know exactly who was fake and who was real. There are definitely a LOT of fake people in this world. I would MUCH rather spend all my time alone than to spend it with the narcissist and their flying monkeys.
I agree with You
Me too
The other hand my x narc is keeping our kids 😢 because I discarded her and now I rent a room but she won't let me see my kids 😭
Another house lol
@@texan4life763 I'm really sorry for that. Try to get professional help to bee with Your kids ...
The narcissist may not be done with me but I am done with them.
I like this!
The narcissist I cut off hoovers me daily. I don’t give her the time of day. After the smear campaign, gang stalking, No reaction. Their pain and drama isn’t worth your health or even your life. Depending on the situation the narcissist is involved in or the type people the narcissist is surrounded around (Usually grimy people). Stand your ground. There’s nothing wrong with you. They want you to feel sorry for yourself. Forget them. THEIR actions either made them discard you or you caught on to them. (I did) They will never admit it but secretly your silence eats at them slowly 🤣
@@irielion3748 YES!
Maybe they get up to other shenanigans after you cut them off, but that’s NOT your responsibility!
That may all be true; once I went no contact and my X realised that I no longer answered his phone call and returned all of his letters, he wrote to my solicitor telling her that I'm incompetent, have a mental illness, blah, blah, blah. My solicitor sent him an appropriate response and contact stopped. Considering he had already ensured that I did not have any social network, he turned my children against me. Interestingly, some of his family have resumed contact with me. ... I wonder why.
Me too, I am in the same or similar boat
Seven years ago I told my Narc ex wife that if I could kiss her new boyfriend ( eventually husband, they were cheating for a while ) on the lips , “ I would…to thank him for taking her out of my life “…..she was furious….when my daughter came home from school, she called me and asked “ what did you say to mom “….I told her, and she laughed hysterically…!!!! Haven’t spoken to the ex since, and I laugh about it every day !!!!
Oh that's a good one haha! Even a quick witted person wouldn't be able to come up with something to retaliate against that. Haha! My ex wife also cheated on me but with multiple different men. She's with one of the ones she cheated with on me, pretending to live her best life. It's such a joke, I almost feel bad for her, almost. Malignant/grandiose narc. Worst ex-perience in my life. But I'm doing so much better now 😎🤙🇺🇸
Haha...using it!! 🔥
May you find your joy back after such humiliating betrayal. It was good riddance.
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@@jordanlewis8884 I understand Your feelings about that Your nex has got another narc to bee with = paradox and a little bit of Karma I think
That happen too my nex too: Directly in 2½ month since I left my narc and nex (after 12 years of abuse) he engaged another toxic person and women. He moved out from his own flat after about 4 month and moved in to this woman flat. It lasted about 1½ year and then she through him out of her apartment cause he had been abusing her and even get violent the day before Christmas = she called the Police ... But she is toxic too and I think they deserved each other and he at least get 2 lessons: Me who has left him and have I also proof of that he has also cheated me all those years with multiple woman etc and then that woman as he say openly in social media was HIS BEST LOVE - was getting enough of him and discard him openly into social media 😁
I'm not bother more than: Yes - the world around and his friends and family can NOT ignore anymore that he is not behaving normal at all too other people or in his relationship's! Even if his last official ex is/was toxic too it was a receipt of his abuse in public and official at that time!
BE STRONG MY NARC SURVIVORS!!!!!!!!!
THEY NEVER MOVE ON .... THEY NEVER FORGET THEIR TWISTED VERSION OF EVENTS .... INSTEAD THEY JUST BECOME MORE BITTER AND TWISTED AS TIME GOES BY.
So true. They never move on. My ex narc gf who so called dumped me was still keeping my flowers after 6 months and sent me pictures of that 3 weeks ago. And ALWAYS was the one calling me even though I initiated no contact for months (of course I failed, what a big mistake) and got sad when I threw her belongings away.
They are weaker than we think they are, seriously, they are way too weak to be in a relationship
This is scary. I've known the ex narc since I was about 11 years old. He had a crush on me, I knew it, but, I was a little girl and I didn't care for boys at that time. Years, later in our middle 30's we got involved. He swears that I purposely hurt him, by ignoring him. I apologized to him but told him I was a child, I didn't even remember talking to him. 😳
@tauruswinds37. You are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!! They NEVER move on..and their ANGER about the situation just FESTERS and GROWS!! It CONSUMES them 🤪
@@MrsOctober-kc5de he’s still harboring what he THINKS you DID to HIM in grade school??!! RUN AWAY from this NARC as FAST as you CAN 😳😳
Good
It’s so sad losing other family members when you cut the narc off but the peace is worth it.
I live this daily truth for 24 years.
Its incredibly frustrating how they control the narrative behind your back. It has been very difficult to ignore the smear campaign, or try to correct the damage done. Let people think what they want to, if they really know you, they will see the deceit. Try to stay positive. The best retaliation you can get is to live your life without them and be at peace. That's what really grinds their gears.
I'm talking years later... eventually they dig their own hole. As they get older and lose their devil charm and therefore their narcissistic supplies they fizzle out. Sad souls really.
I agree- they can tell people what they want. If people know us-- they should know our integrity. If the narc sways their opinion of us...no need to worry. We know our true selves.
They are giving the people two options, each one choses what they want... the wrong or the right side... freewill... by there will find the destiny...
@ Blakey Warfield. You are SO right!! Although I hate to admit it…but I LOVE grinding my sisters gears…hehehe
@@dolphinliam888 they do dig their own holes and end up alone 😒
They don’t just want others to look at you sideways they want you to look at yourself that way. Don’t buy into their illusions. You are worthy, you matter, you deserve so much more then they are capable of.
Right they hate you feeling good about yourself they are so toxic and fake I can smell one soon as one approaches me because it seems like they seem me I'm highly empathetic and narcs love those types I love telling the narc how happy I am the narc hated me glowing he tried to start fights about dumb stuff just so he could be his true self he hated peace towards the end of the relationship I saw a devalue coming so I bailed out before he could do the narcissistic discard . He tried to love bomb me hoover , devalue then discard in an 8 month period the jerk had no idea I'm educated on narcissist and I saw his stuff a mile away
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@@alexandrapuerie810 That's how you have to be. Empath as well, late bloomer, lol! Hate those losers😠. Raised and lived with them, worked with them and had children by them. Me and the kids suffered horribly. They control the children. Hard going no contact due to their controlling and mind games when kids involved. Not simple.
I thank God no children by a narcissist
@@alexandrapuerie810 lost custody of both my children to narc fathers for 16 years and haven't recovered yet. The courts play a major role. Be grateful you don't have any children, honey. I would have advised you not too. Don't even let them know you pregnant if they are controlling, abusive (esp. emotionally and psychologically, deceiving, gaslighting, greedy/stingy), to YOU 1st, then observe they a$$ around your people (family, friends, strangers, even children, animals, and elderly particularly). If you do, ALWAYS keep a family law attorney on retainer, who specializes in domestic violence cases. That can be tremendous help. I feel you will do great! Oh, if they put your aspirations and dreams down, RUN🏃🏾♀️! THEY WANT TO CONTROL YOUR LIFE AND FUTURE AND FUTURE KIDS.
Just ignore them because they care about no one. If they act like they care about you it's all an act to get back into your life and try to control you and cause you more grief and pain. It really hurts them to not know what is going on in your life.
Very true....
Yes, just their traps.
@Debra Marshall. You are right they don’t care about you all they want is to know what is going on with you and make sure you are still a “loser.” My sister and I hadn’t spoken in a few years and she randomly sent a Christmas card to me this past year. I just ignored it because I knew she was trying to pull me back into her abyss of madness, as I refer to it 🤪
@@lisak4367 If we're such losers, then why do they need to try so hard to stop us from succeeding? Makes no sense if you think about it.
They need to mind their own business.
I went no contact instinctively, I'm glad this confirms I was right. I learned not to override the alarm (instinct) but to listen to it. Most of us knew something was wrong very early on in these entanglements
@Joseph Brook U are lucky because u got out fast, I stayed much longer than I should have tbh. Their biggest secret is the initial love bombing, which is out of this world! So I stayed hoping that wonderful love would return
@Joseph Brook A big nope!
Me too i listened to myself
Love bombing and future faking early doors
Hell-bent on destroying you is a good way to describe narcissist's when you go no contact. They slander you to everyone around you as well. It's a very strange sickness. They are extremely obsessed.
Strange sickness, yes. All you want to do is love them and all they want to do is hurt, harm, smear, and destroy you. Mmm...mmm...mmm (smh).
@@Brembelia yep!
Whoa that’s my wife! Wow guess I should’ve saw the signs and she found me off of a dating site and came all the way from Florida to New Jersey and met my family and I never met hers? My family and I found out. She was baiting me from the beginning I found out, silly me. She said she wanted to ruin me make me crazy. She knew I was a military veteran going through disability it’s a long story but she locked everything up in storage and took all my motorcycles all my family heirlooms my, father‘s estate possessions, little money. stuff my son stuff and it’s still ongoing I just pray that this woman goes to jail but what she did perjury violating me and many others I found out, and this is coming from a third-party who also saw it happen to her false accusations, fake Christian, evil and wishes her fate! It felt like pure hell for almost 6 months I need to two years before but God and dealing with a good Messianic temple church in family ministry and marriage counseling! God bless I’m going through that smear campaign some people are just so blind to see.
Demonic influence
PERIOD...
Added to human
Nature...
A heart of Deception
and Manipulation...
You're right. My narcissistic former friend tried to do exactly this, but so many people were sick of her at that point (it was always something with her and she was at the center of all of her self inflicted drama), that no one really paid any attention to her.
Like a tea bag, she's steeped in self-pity and self-loathing for a long while. She had ruined yet another once-valuable friendship. Tragically, like most narcissists, she went looking for new supply and it turned out to be a friend of mine. He didn't know her the way I did. He lived several states away and only interacted with her on social media. We finally reconnected a few years after I went no contact with her and filled him in on the proverbial straw that broke the camera's back.
He didn't know that she blew a very big and potentially prosperous business opportunity for me. She orchestrated my very unceremonious termination as the head of the whole operation, usurped my work and tried to turn it into her own little vanity project (I wish I could give you more details, but my work is currently finding new life) and when she was left there standing the bag, with no knowledge of how to run things, the persona she had created for the outside world began to crack.
You see, I had been behind the scenes making sure everything ran smoothly. After all, the project was my brainchild. She had no clue what she was doing. Whenever she got stuck or didn't have an answer for someone in a position of power, I helped her come out smelling like roses. After I stepped down and effectively canceled any future of the project might have had, everyone got to see how full of shit she really was.
My friend knew nothing about any of this. So, through ignorance to her true nature, he had hired her to work on one of his projects but, in her classic narcissistic fashion, she slowly tried to take everything over and make it all about her. In the years after I cut her off, he had seen instances of her lack of respect for boundaries, inability to handle a difference of opinion or disagreement, repeated lie-spewing over even the most trivial or minute things, no evidence of a solid work ethic, inability to work well with others, complete lack of respect for deadlines, complete failure to see value in other people's time or effort, etc. In short, she was the least professional person either of us had ever met.
To make an already long story much shorter, my friend finally cut her off just over two years ago and is in the middle of the healing process. For a long while, he thought he was crazy. I introduced him to another former colleague of hers and she confirmed everything that we experienced. It's sad to say, she has been this way her entire life and shows no signs of changing. In order to change, a narcissist must admit that they have a problem, get therapy and if they believe in a higher power (whether it be God or another entity), ask for divine intervention to save them from the dumpster fire that is their life. We all know they won't do that. It's everyone else's fault, never theirs.
My ex narcissist's death was the only thing that broke the soul tie (at least on a physical level). But i think that i would've maintained no contact even if she was alive. But then again you never know, life is a long journey. One thing though....If you maintain no contact long enough and have really made progress in healing , you most likely will not want to ever experience a narcissistic relationship again.
Oh Yeah
Run Like Hell If Red Flags Show Up
I've been no contact from my ex best friend for 8 years. She recently reached out (because they never stop) and again no contact on my end. A mutual friend said she has stage 4 cancer. 😳 I dont wish that on anyone. I know cause I just kicked cancers ass. Anywho it made me want to break no contact 🙃 but I prayed on it and prayed for her 🙏. I have a clean heart but I will never break no contact. Abused for 30 years. Im good. Pray all is well.
@@lattetheleo Once abused the relationship is over. It's unfortunate but you have to take care of yourself.
@@surfshack2 Dam right!
@@lattetheleo I second THAT!
The part that hurts the most is that it took me 30 years to figure out what was going on. Which of course makes me feel pretty stupid.
I felt stupid too but I do not have a mind to be evil like them. So feel good about that. Now that I know about narcissist I realize they are every where.
You are not stupid. I was the same. You just did not have the knowledge to deal with these sick freaks. Bless
Your not alone, I'm 49 and my sister 55 who I allways helped, has moved in, filed charges to keep me off my land and has teamed back up with her lawyer boyfriend to steal the farm. Pure Evil. Ya I feel stupid also and now I'm stupid and fucked
@@furtherahead5867 so sorry. They have no conscience. I had to start over at 55. I did lose stuff but I was desperate to gain my sanity back no matter what. Very unfortunate the courts are not just but God is. I had to let go of “family” too. I will pray for you.
@ Alex Xander. Don’t waste your time beating yourself up..we have all wasted a lot of our lives (myself, 40 plus years) at this point all we can do is to try to do better 🙂👍
NO CONTACT for ever!
Exactly this!
Ignore anyways. Eventually they will get bored and move on. It could take days, weeks, months, and unfortunately even years. But they will. Ignoring them and their flying monkeys will benefit you regardless. They don't care about anyone but themselves. I am always super happy, bubbly, and outgoing. Nobody will ever take that away because I'm a strong, confident, and independent woman.
So true “ Lurking in the background while they monitor our moves”. . After going no contact I was invited out to a milestone group dinner and of course the Narc had become bestie with the person because I was closer to the person prior.. this was to make me feel further alienated from the group. But I’ve been drawing closer to God and He has me covered!! One with God is majority over those against me.. 😔
Nailed it! Ever since I got born again, it's like the blinders are off. The veil has been lifted. I hope that makes sense. I can smell the evil in people now. I still prefer a life of solitude over being out and about. It's safer that way. I'd rather meditate in the word than be out in a sinful troubled world.
@@iononcantomascrivooh waw me too same here ,im born again ,have the love of jesus and im soooo happy ,he healed me im forever gratefull the funny thing is the lord warned me ,but that time i was still in the world ,but god saved me halleluja 🙏❤😁
Amen
Amen...on One with God is a majority
Nope. God is not going to cure you from Narcissistic Abuse, you have to do the work yourself, and most churches produce narcissistic behavior…church is THE WORST PLACE TO GO if you are suffering from this type of abuse.
Back in July of 2020 my father kicked me out of a family owned property that I had been living in for 17 years that my mother bought for me before she died so I wouldn't be homeless, in the middle of the pandemic lockdown, using the day I got laid off from my job as the pretext to initiate an "event" so he could attempt to have me locked up in a mental institution by claiming "it looked like I was hitting my aunt."
So after I lost my home and job and had to abandon over 90% of my cherished memories, belongings, and furniture which he subsequently paid a junk hauler to take to a landfill and I have moved on with my life, this guy starts calling me trying to give me $15,000 cash. Sorry bud. You chose to punish me, so that was the end. You can't bully someone because you're angry and then pay to make it all better. You made your choices and you chose hatred and cruelty.
They really are sick. It's a fine line between narcissism and sociopathy.
I believe the foundation of these anti-social behaviours is narcissism. The are all Narcissistic.
You should have taken the money, then not answered any calls or texts. Your mom did buy the house for you.
Wow they truly sick ❤🎉
I think you were right not to take the money. The devil's primary temptation is to use money and material status to degrade man.
My husband's brother is the narc in our case. He's a conman, exploiter, liar, idealises the most shallow violent behaviour and delights in humiliating others. He's a total creep and really, really nasty to my husband. He's also quite well off, due to his seedy exploits. And he loves using money to manipulate others. A lot of people fall for it. They are the weak ones who get drafted-in as flying monkeys eventually.
None of my friends known to my narcissistic ex girlfriend _(whom I’ve discarded)_ know where I stay, nor where my family lives. I mean none of them! And I’ve cut contact with every single one of them. And me having changed my contacts and staying in a gated complex manned by strict security makes it more difficult for the narcissist to contact me. I’m now focused on my healing.
Lucky you. Im planning to cut the narcissist loose and get out.
@@ilgenis All the best! Once out, don’t look back! That really is key.
Whoa! I feel this has a traumatic background story to warrant going to such extremes to avoid your ex gf
Sounds well planned. Keep your guard up anyway.
@@cactusjackhausen8508 Sometimes it is really necessary to do like that - unfortunately!
I think when they feign concern for our mental well being is the most annoying thing since they gaslight you to the point where you question yourself. Not missing them one bit. Revenge is a dish best served cold. Do well and succeed and if you do run into them pretend like you don’t remember them.
😂👏🏽🙌🏽
It's a little bit of Mission Impossible to pretend that I do not remember a narc as I living with for 12 years and all his abuse of me - don't You think? 😂
Well - IF I run into him I ignore him totally that's for sure and I'm not polite to him.
Amen 😳🤔😆😄🙏
Yes. Ignorance is bliss and pretending that they don't matter to you is the best revenge.
I have a narcissistic former friend that I know has it in her to try and resurface if it is beneficial to her. She's a bottom feeder in the local show business industry where she lives and has no real talent or ambition of her own. That's how the two of us met. I was an aspiring artist and she thought befriending me would be beneficial to reviving her stand-still (non-existent) career. Of course, all she saw me as was a stepping stone. To make a long story short, she stole my intellectual property, plagiarized it, committed copyright infringement and tried to pass it off as her own. Fortunately, for me, her writing skills were so bad, everywhere all changes were rather obvious and when trying to pitch “her story,” her inability to even get basic plot points right worked against her. Add all of that to her horrible attitude, no respect for boundaries, poor work ethic, complete failure to work well with others, lack of punctuality and having nothing resembling professional resume, not a single person believed her or gave her the time of day.
It was after I went no-contact with her, her then-latest ponzi scheme went belly up. She tried to contact me under the guise of informing me of the death of a mutual friend. I had already blocked her on everything and changed my cell phone number, but she wasn't one to ever take a challenge lying down (unless it was the casting couch). She googled my widow mother's phone number and called her up looking for me. You read that right. A little fact about my mother: she is a German-Jew native New Yorker with a very big mouth. She takes absolutely no crap and makes Judge Judy seem like a cream puff by comparison. My mother was understandably appalled that someone would show so little class as to turn someone else's death into an excuse to talk about herself.
My mom said something along the lines of: “The man died. Does that mean anything to you, you selfish trucking grunt?”
That clap-back rendered my former friend speechless. When she managed to speak, according to Mom, she asked to have me call her back. Mom essentially said: “He blocked you on everything for reasons that are already well known to you. F*ck. Off.”
Mom said my former friend “wailed like a baby” before abruptly ending the call.
My career is starting to look up and unfortunate to have supportive individuals around me who respect my vision and me as a person. I pray to God my former friend doesn't crawl out from under whatever rock she's currently hiding. If she does, I'll just pretend I don't know her.
This is exactly what a sibling said to me recently while rationalizing gossip ( behind-my-back scapegoating with other family members ) as behavior everyone does and it does not constitute "gossip". BS. He said it wasn't ill will, but "concern". LOL. None of the family members called me "out of concern", but talked behind my back. Plus, they ALL are guilty of the same behavior that they see me as having. The hypocrisy is so obvious it's laughable. Yes, don't let them have power over you. Don't waste time on that gaslighting.
All painfully true. That said, I found the abuse, smears and alienation of other family members just made me stronger. All it did was confirm how right I was to leave. Just go out and live your best life: happiness in the best revenge of all.
A simple cease and desist letter worked wonders for me. I haven't heard a peep in years. Narcs are coward's at heart after all.
I have a protection order against him and have changed my phone number, which has kept him away so far. I'm sure that's only because he doesn't want to or is afraid to go back to jail. But this cease and desist letter might be a great idea for when this year is over. I need something to keep him away forever.
What did you write? Please share, minus the personal details. Thanks.
Lucky you!!! I paid a lawyer for a cease and desist letter....he literally REPLIED to the lawyer with a paragraph of sentences that kept contradicting each other!!! So I did the Restraining Order. When the deputy attempted to serve it, my FIL came out guns blazing and tried to murder the deputy....with the 'ghost gun' my ex had MADE.
I am so much happier. Life is starting to feel good. I could care less what any of them say. This is my fresh start.
Narcs become desperate and will resort to extreme measures when going to no contact.
Flying monkeys are dispersed by the narc because they know their target will ignore them. Narcs use flying monkeys to act as a proxy for them. Sadly, flying monkeys fall for the bait and abuse and terrorize the victim on orders given by the head narc.
It's like flying monkeys are zombies lacking awareness and do what the narc tells them to do. If the main narc tells them to jump, they will ask how high.
Most flying monkeys are covert narcs themselves and love drama, which explains why they gravitate to other narcs.
On a positive note, flying monkeys or the main narc eventually turn on each other.
Grab your popcorn because it will happen. Neither is trustworthy.
I was so happy when i saw the gangup or flying monkeys who joined the narcissist against me fought each other there is justice in the universe
Flying monkeys could be vulnerable children. They are victims /targets other times used against another parent. Ask me how I know.
I'm so over it at this point idc what anyone does anymore. I'm only concerned about my kids and myself. I'm officially aware of what is going on and I choose to change me. That's officially a them problem
Oh wow. Wish I could be a fly on the wall and watch Mommy Dearest and her Golden Child son-husband turn on each other!! What a show that would be! Unfortunately I cut them off in 2014 and I don't look at their social media nonsense, too triggering and traumatizing for me. I'd rather not know. There's nothing really truthful on fakebook anyway, just a bunch of mules in horse's harness trying to out do the next one with how "wonderful" their fake lives are.
Excellent example you made that's the only thing I didn't have was Popcorn I have a big bag now though 😎
I was no contact for seventeen years.
NM got my best friend of twenty years and my sister to start their campaign on Me.
I thought after twenty years we could talk. I wanted to find out what I was doing that Always made NM so mad at Me all the time.
The biggest mistake of my life ever made going into contact again.
NM was 1000 times worse.
Our contact
lasted about two years. I washed my hands of all of them.
This no count time was twelve years.
Until she died of old age, in 2020. My so-called best friend died in 2008.
I had complete relief they were gone, forever.
Sister is now trying to make amends with Me.
Nope, not going to happen.
Peace Sisters💕🇺🇲
Yes, I've been through all that you have mentioned and as you say they never stop. I feel now that I am coming out the other side of it and I feel much more at peace with myself and now I feel abundance and appreciate the small things in life. It's been about eight years now and the narcissists are still intent on playing their mind games, but now I have accepted that this is the narcs just doing their narcing. These days I just feel much more blessed and happy. Thankyou for your video, Claris.
Kathy - You should be flattered! 👍🏼👊🏻
Be inwardly detached and happy 💥
I wish I was where you are. I have no peace yet. I know this struggle to get free is often just emotional but all my hopes and dreams were with them. The price was too high for those dreams and now I have to detox from them. I will take heart that you did it and that enjoying the simple things can be mine once again too.
@@elcee7800 Really? The whole idea is that you should not be.
@@donald2024on Yes, from them inwardly, but not from your own source of happiness. That, I feel, I want to embraced. I feel this is an important distinction, at least for me.
Moving far away is sometimes the only thing you can do to get rid of them. Everything you said is so true. Thanks, again, for sharing.
I live 4600kms away! I have ignored him for almost 10 years. He still reaches out several times a year. Email and phone are blocked, but not social media because he creates aliases and I would rather know who it is I’m dealing with for sure. He cannot stand it that I don’t like him or don’t think about him, so he tries to make sure I think about him at least a few times a year. I am so glad I live far away. The only reason I came on here today is because I just got a message from him. It is so pathetic. And I am sure he knows it’s pathetic, and that is just fine with me.
I moved 2000miles away from mummi dearest 25 years ago, 10 years ago she moved to the same state , she suprised me by turning up to our sons 5th party uninvited i then reinstated no contact, 3 years after that my stepfather died and i stupidly went to the funeral big mistake, 5 years ago she rang my husbands work( supposed to be emergency only calls to work) and told him i should be in a mental hospital . So I'm just waiting for her to be planted that will be when it ends..
I was constantly devalued all my life, and when I went no contact with narcs, I suddenly became the most popular I've ever been, they're desperate to get at me any way they can. What a crazy world we live in...
I'm still with him , but your right , he can't handle me being popular . I was a waitress, he made me quit . Could not handle people liking me
@@melindasmith3713 I do hope you go back to work and get yourself independent financially from him and move out. You never know what they going to do to you. It's like living with your worse enemy.
Narc cults require a scapegoat. All those flying monkeys are desperate because they don't want to take your place......
Yes! I agree! Cleansing yourself of the narc's spell-casting defo has real effects! Praise God! ❤
It's like cutting out cancer. You have to remove some tissue around the wound which maybe healthy. Don't worry about the flying monkeys, enablers or the duped. Get free!! Cut or heavily control communication channels. In time, you'll be in a healthy place with some new people too. ❤💙💜💖
Wow what a great metaphor,...
@The mysterious Miss X weirdo
Meh. My mother died over a decade ago and she was the only member of my family who never abused me emotionally or physically. She's gone and I can accept that she is gone. I'd rather that she still be here, and my tormentors could be the ones who have passed away prematurely, that would have been fine by me.
If you've gone no contact then who cares if they are alive or dead? What kind of "closure" could you have achieved by re-initiating contact with toxic people? Once you let the harmful people go, keep it that way. I don't even foresee attending funerals for these corrosive people. The only way forward is by leaving them in the broken past that they helped to destroy.
@@PhilLesh69 spot on! Thank you 😊
@@maryoconnor2596 Bit harsh don't you think Mary? when Miss X is saying she lost loved ones to cancer and her brother took his life. I understand that she cant ask someone not to use a perfectly good metaphor but maybe just let her have her say without a critical comment?
For me, going no contact means that "I" no longer care what the narcissist says about me or who they say it to.
This is all true. I’m going thru this at this very moment. I’m done done. Ignore!!! Ignore!!!! Ignore!!!!! That’s the word for the day. Ignore them and they’re childish reactions.
I just broke up with the narcissist one week ago - that same night he already tried talking to my roommate/friend saying terrible things about me--but thank God my friends know my true character and my friend defended me! Hearing this video was exactly he's trying to do! But I have confidence and I am never going back to this person-great video! ❤️
Going no contact is a temporary solution for narcs!!the best revenge is seeing us happy , although they continue to "ruin" our life!! it's impossible to do it!!we move on constantly with courage and resilience,we give without expecting from empty humans!!finally we do not "follow" them!!🙏🙏
Going No Contact is not a revenge and please do not use it like that. No Contact is a way to protect our selves meanwhile You are healing Your self.
It's a good thing to make so You live peacefully without their abusing, gaslightning etc
By the way - why should You even engaged to get a revenge? They are not even worth that You are thinking of them ... Get Your energy to heal instead and forget those abuser.
Best revenge is to be slender and youthful looking even in my late 50s and run into these OBESE NARC PIGS waddling about in the grocery store......75 lbs heavier than the last time I saw them...😁
The point regarding them playing the role of concerned benevolent friend who is just concerned about your stability is profound. They wish appear to have only the truest and noblest of intent and genuinely only have your best interests at heart. They are Very cunning... don't fall for it.
An unstable, covertly abusive nut being "concerned" about my mental health would be preceived by me as condescending and INSULTING. They would get a door in the face pronto.
Yeah. They've been manipulating people and situations for many, many years and they can be good at it. It can't be much fun to be them.
My whole life I’ve had the narcissist since she is my older sister! I’m finally free
Narcissists don't end until they die.
No cure for con man lol 😂
I’m so glad I came across your channel it’s teaching how to deal with a narcissist. My sister is a full blown narcissist who has been manipulating me and torturing me for 20+ years with her narcissism to the point where I’ve had suicidal thoughts and nervous breakdowns . I need to continue with the no contact even though I realize she will continue to try to hurt me and slander my name . I have subscribed to your channel and these videos are helping me . Thank you so much !
You are spot on, they will try to get you to break no contact by stealing your stuff
Or asking a dumb question
Or contacting you about a funeral.
I found out that there was a support system there that I was not paying attention to. I give no power to the narcissist. I take responsibility for the fact that I stayed and I take responsibility for the fact that I got the hell out.
This video is spot on!!! Thank you so much Claris!! I’m currently dealing with this. The narc completely made up this whole story about me being a cheater and this horrible person so they could be “the victim”! They’ve tried to and still are trying to turn everyone close to me against me. Thankfully the people that really know me know better. This narc took it a step farther, they continue to play nice with my parents and they even spent over $300k to purchase themselves MY DREAM CAR is hopes of throwing it in my face and sparking a reaction. I’ve cut the narc off and they’re miserable! Thank you all, reading all of your comments makes me feel at ease and very hopeful!
$300K for a car is absurd I don't care what it is. I would be embarrassed and ashamed to spend that much on a car when there are so many homeless people in the world. My house cost a fraction of that. That's just vulgar.
Excellent video. When we go No Contact, we need to have realistic expectations that the Narc will most likely keep trying to have contact in some way. Like you said, it's so important to practice ignoring all the antics; unless of course, if you need to get the law involved to protect your basic human rights.
It took me five years for people to see my ex fiancé for what she was after a conviction of assault. The Smear Campaign was tough, but strengthening, I got to see who was there for me and who wasn't - and who came running back for thinking wrongfully about me.
EVERYTHING you mention happened & CONTINUES to happen... You are ***BULLSEYE ON POINT.***
This is what I have been afraid of. Had a narcissist bf decades ago who was basically a nut case. He was totally inappropriate in his behavior toward me, pushy, controlling, super jealous and I had enough after a few months. Oh he was great in the beginning and it seemed his true colors showed day by day until I was convinced he was a completely different person than the one I had first met. It's like he had a total personality change from decent to impossible. He started stalking me and he could not stand it when I was dating someone else. He was disruptive and actually went to my workplace to complain about me. I had already told my coworkers that he was crazy so they sided with me anyway.
I actually had to move away not long after because he would not stop stalking me. I went full no contact but he ignored me. You all have to be so careful but I was afraid he would hurt me, attack me or kill me. I guess what I'm saying is that there are extremes in narcissism, some of them won't hurt you physically but some will. Just be careful.
Resonated so well with me when you said..”make everyone believe you are the unstable one... problems with childhood and mental health issues”. Just 😳!
I started thinking....I may have to play this game because she told me to get myself “well” first before trying to fix them. She’s tried all she can to help me and feels so sorry for me. Got to be honest... at times you get such cognitive dissonance in wondering if it’s true. But here’s a good test... when you are away from them... peace comes back, relief, no anxiety. Sure, you worry about your children and how to play their game so u don’t make them angry enough to cut you off. You also will grieve a loss but you ha e to do that. There’s relief but you grieve all that you thought things were in your life. It’s an awakening.
Now, back to my point....I am thinking of just playing the sick one so she thinks I’m trying to get well and haven’t come to my senses yet.... while time goes by. So far it’s been working but I can see the loose cannon syndrome getting ready to unload soon. They are so short fused, that you anxiously know it’s coming. Anyhow, you know you’re not as sick as their making you out to be. You were not sick before you married this person and you’re starting to see how NOT SICK you are again, without them. They bring you the plague, thus rendering you sick!
Take care of all the relationships and no contact with the narcissist forever
This video is by far the best short video on no contact with the Narcissist. You have nailed the narcissist moves down to an almost certainty. My husband & I will never again speak to his narcissist sister. We are 2 weeks into no contact. With the help of these videos we know to let her smear campaign rampage on. She is down to 3 facebook friends...and only 3 family members now tolerating her. She thinks she has sunk her teeth into fresh meat (new supply) this Christmas & they all told her they were quarantined & she can't visit.
With only 1 person who could relay what she says about us behind our backs ...we have made a pact together to tell the mutual friend to never bring her up. It is off limits.
I pray for everyone to have a healthy happy New year in 2022.....no contact is a freaking glorious gift you can give yourself....so please do it ❤😊❤😊❤
They'll be obsessed with you for the rest of their lives if you discarded them first. They'll forever stalk you through social media even after you are enjoying healthy life with someone else. And not only just narcissists do this, but most people with Cluster B.
I will be dealing with this topic. So, please stay tuned.
This true. So, I've now gotten a P.O. deleted most of my social media except for YT for this very reason. I've also moved, changed my number, and plan on staying no contact forevermore. I pray that I never have to see him again. Ever.
Ha, ha. Poor them. I don't do FAKEbook (a cess pool of narcissism and butt kissing) or the other crap. RUclips is my only "social media" and I use an alias not my real name. I bet they are really going nuts. Poor little predatory snakes.
All your videos describe exactly what I went through with my father! I was an adult, 38 years old, when he started beating me. When I got tired of it and moved away from him, he went on a smear campaign like you wouldn't believe!
My support system that was very strong became almost non-existent overnight! He went through a never ending tirade against me at my Church, places of work (I say places because I was let go/encouraged to resign because he would show up at my workplace, reek havoc etc), friends' houses etc. My lawyer, who was at one point a member of my circle of friends, was the only constant I had besides the local police departments....3 local police departments, that is!
After my father finally died, I had one real friend left and my Mom's best friend. However, after my Mom's best friend passed away, I was left by myself completely! Wait, I also had my Mom's 2 doctors for moral support and understanding. But they weren't friends, per se!
All in all, it was a hellish experience!!!
I lost my whole family (except my sister who was also a victim) to my narcissistic mother when I finally got away from her. She turned them all against me. My uncles, aunts and cousins started contacting me out of the blue, furious at me for things I hadn't done. Telling me I was 'dead to them'. When I tried to tell them what she'd done to me and my sister as a kid, they just got more furious that I was 'making up disgusting accusations'.
This was 14 years ago. I have a good counsellor. Some days are better than others. I get depressed and suffer severe anxiety, but I've got my own family now. My primary goal in life now is to give my kids a good life. One very different from my childhood.
Thanks for sharing your story. I recently had some counselling and I found it impacted negatively on me. Do try to work to an end date with your counselling also do be aware it might be having a negative effect on you like it did with me. Better to focus on the future like you're doing.
I am proud of you for seeing things clearly, and not to do to your kids what your mother did to you.Yiu rose upbove it by not becoming like her . Stay strong and raise your beautiful family.❤️❤️ Many blessings to you. Counseling is good to have.I got counseling and it really helped me to see that my parents was the problem not me , because they was trying to put the blame on me all this time for their mistakes.
God bless you
Already am alone and fine with it, actually found inner peace. (Out of site, out of mind) even cut loose all third parties who liked to mention narcissist...
No contact is a boundary.. narcs do not respect boundaries
I’m so grateful to have bumped into this channel
Welcome!
Thank God for the narc video channels on youtube. You guys are like the wild west of the psych community.
One of the best things about going No Contact is that you'll be surprised at how many other people DO understand your action and support you. When I finally went no contact with my mother, other people who knew her said 'we're surprised it took you so long.' And true enough.
The thing about a flaming narcissist is that they don't usually confine their negative activities to only one person. Other people have also felt the sting of their warped, controlling personality-so don't assume that everybody you know is going to side with them.
The only people who were not terribly supportive of my 'no contact' stance were people who never met her, and judged my actions based on what their own relationship with their own mother was like. "Oh, but she's your MOTHER," etc. Pay no attention to these voices and stand your ground. Going No Contact with my mother was the most liberating action I've ever taken (and it's been over 40 years since I took it, and I've never had a single second of regret.) It gave me my life back.
It's a shame, as my mother had many good qualities, and I learned a lot of good things from her, still share some of her interests and hobbies, etc. But ultimately her need to control everybody completely, and her chronic inability to ever be satisfied with whatever control she had, overtopped the good stuff. It just got worse as I got older, and eventually the 'enough' stage was reached. She had fair warning of the step I planned to take, and was given a chance to change her behaviour- but instead she regarded my line in the sand as impertinent and out of order, and yet another reason why I couldn't be trusted to run my life properly.
End of.
Wish I could say the same. I found I had zero support.
Everything you said was what I had to deal with... So glad you made this video..
Thanks for another amazing video Clarice 😊....
No matter wat ...these creatures are going to spoil their victims name someway or the other.... So one should just learn to ignore and act as if these mentally sick beings don't exist at all no matter wat drama they try to put up.... 😜
This video Was outstanding! Thanks for the clarity!! No need to do anything. Just heal and retain your PEACE 🤝🤝🤝
It is exactly as you describe them. Liars, manipulators, abusers etc. A no contact worls very well. Serves them right.
Everything in this video says is real. Devil in the disguise of human being such a low life creatures
you will find out to whom from your surroundings you can trust … after relationship with narc
Yes, that's a useful good side of it. The fake friends will be seeing by the target.
I've lost everyone, even my family turned against me cause they think I'm the problem but now this video has helped me realise everything
@@Jay-lf7ms stay strong, one step at a time. Distance from those who don’t support you. Get your identity back and then return stronger. 💪
@@collie8 thank you I will do! Today is the start of the no contact rule.. I will heal myself...
@@collie8 I miss my family but they didn't support me, they stuck up for my narc because they fed my family lies😢😢 I never in my life expected my parents to do that, it's just sad, but I will forgive and come back stronger and I will talk to them in the future because lives too short, my family mean the world to me, especially over a horrible narc, can't believe I gave the narc so much time and energy,
Thanks for your reply
Best thing is to break contact and then connect back and listen to the 'telling off' you'll undoubtedly get.
Listen, without much reply and let them initiate the formal 'separation'. Take the personal criticism, the undoubted slurs and demeaning comments.. in fact, see them as a blessing.
To have them think they've gotten rid of you is music too your ears.
Or send you a letter saying they are missing you. I don't even respond. They are sneaky .
They are cunning vampires 🧛🧛🧛🤮
@@mscapri1628 VERY
Oh yes, I know all about the letters. My narc supervisor is obsessed with me and once I blocked him from calling and texting me, he started sending me letters. Of course I didn't open them. I sent them back, unopened. The fact that I returned the letters unopened sends a message to the narc that whatever the contents were -- were unimportant and irrelevant to me. I also reported him to the authorities. He's gotta be fuming.
Reading it is useless
Yeah they are. My two Narcs (Mother/step brother) randomly send me a card telling me 'they missed me' and that 'they were still thinking of me' and then nastily wrote that they 'hoped I was better mentally' despite them treating me like crap while growing up, after I decided to go No Contact with them ten-plus years ago. Their hooving and their flying monkeys nonsense didn't work and the card was chucked in the bin...
As long as God is for you and him alone trust me you won't care who is against you. God should be your priority not immortals. Keep this mentality ALWAYS never let your faith go for nobody.
ISRAEL FOREVER! 🇮🇱😊🇮🇱
I agree😍
I love this post❤
I went no contact with our narcissist mother after I caught her lying to her friends, calling me "...a weirdo who likes to hang out in cemeteries", because I confirmed her beliefs on her family history by visiting their homesteads and final resting places, and I took her to see those places. It was the final straw after 46 years of mental and physical abuse, misrepresentation, backbiting and gaslighting.
Going no contact did not stop the backbiting and misrepresentation, but I was no longer around to be the direct recipient of it. Mom could have fixed the problems she caused, but she preferred playing the victim and continuing to destroy her own family. She eventually ran all her children off, though the flying monkey returned for their RDA of abuse, and eventually one of them gave her COVID, which killed her. I'm sure, somehow, that was my fault or the fault of one of the other family scapegoats.
Absolutely.... like any good parasite.... sometimes you just need to disappear...dead,gone don't exist ... Their hated keeps them coming back for more torture of you by them
It is what you make it to be! No contact was the end all for me. I made it so!
Never a tryer word has been said. Your insight is spot on. My answer has been to 'not respond' but wait for the day when they choose to be civil again. Tha's when you can act as if nothing has happened and though they are around. Now go about your day being civil but not walking on eggshells, and ignore the accolades, just be unaffected.
Wow. You’re right on I can’t believe how correct you are. Amazed truly 🙏💛
My sister (the narcissist) was furious when I cut her out of my life she even tried to drive a wedge between myself and my daughter 😧and she almost succeeded. If not for HER own cruel treatment toward her for most of her life (jealousy) she might have been successful. 😟
It’s already been 3 years. We’re going on year 4. What’s actually happening to me is it’s pissing me off. This is making my resolve even stronger! Thank you for the share Clarice! ♥️
I lost people I thought were my friends--due to no contact. I have others that are not even aware of her so it isn't as great a loss as it could have been. I have a broad enough diversity of friends that it was easy for me to separate the "fans" from the "friends". It is going on 6 yrs. and I am happy to say that I have moved on with velocity. I haven't a need to look back.
Excellent information. No contact & ignore all their lies they may speak about you. A narcissist reaps what they sow-it surely is a miserable rotten harvest.:(
Thanks. Now it makes more sense what my ex-wife has been doing. My attorney told me he had never seen anyone go to such lengths to discredit someone as my ex did and continues to do. I went no contact in 2018, but she continues to try and damage me. She doesn't realize it has absolutely no affect on me or my true friends and she is just wasting her time. While I have moved on with my life and enjoying myself, she is still stuck in the past. She is so possessed by her lack of control over me that I heard her health has been affected and she has been hospitalized off and on. I had managed to stay married to her for 30 years by becoming a work acholic and avoiding her. Of course the divorce court gave her about 67% of what I had worked for, but that is the way men are treated in divorce and why I would never get married again. She had gotten into drugs so I expect her to go through all that money in just a few years, if she doesn't over dose first.
i started going no contact after my grandmother passed 2 yrs ago. eventually i began noticing something off. my narc brother was engineering other people to contact me. these were friends and others, but none reached out on their own.
not even my son.
i have learned that narcs work together until the point they don’t get what they want. whatever it is. and then they don’t expose the other narcs.
my brother has been undermining me my entire life. and now i know for sure thats its him (with help from others along the way).
not contact works only to a point. i actually have to move, because my bro stalks me at my house 950 miles away.
they are dangerous fiends.
Yep! Stand strong!
Ive been ignoring my ex's BS hoovers and smears until she got my dad and kids. Mainly my oldest daughter. That one currently is hitting hard. She's had my ex friends and other family members on her side for a while but I guess with that not working, like u said, she uped the game and attacked the ones that matter most.. I've literally cut my own dad off recently because it was like talking to a wall and I'm just tired of feeling like I'm stuck in the loop of 'he said, she said' when Ive even showed reciepts of text and random pictures she sends. There's so much more but I'll keep it short. Very hard to stay cool and not snap
You are wonderful I needed this so much . You will never know how thankful I am.
I love you Mrs lady for teaching me this thank you, thank you, and thank you for your content. God bless your heart.
Thankyou so much for this video. This video is so spot on. And yes, I went no contact, the best thing I ever did. That is the best thing to do to people like that. The result for me has been the best thing to do. For them, not so much. That's on them. They still do what they do. The more they do, the more humble I get. 😊
Oh my… deep inside of me I new all of this is true. But hearing it spoken out explicity is a hard thing. It is insane how much damage a single person can do to someone else. But a voice inside of me keeps saying: Have No Fear !!
Thank you! Sad but has to be.
It's so true. The narcissist will do everything they can to smear you as a way to bait you and get you out of your solitude of no-contact. My narcissistic former friend tried to do exactly that. I didn't fall for it. There was only one friend of mine that she was talking to that I was still in contact with. He didn't believe her. He had known me longer and knew that everything she was saying was a grave exaggeration at best. He also knew that she was always surrounded by drama and flying off the handle over the most insignificant thing.
While she failed to turn him into her flying monkey, she did, temporarily turn him into her new supply and rode his coattails for as long as he let her. When he and I reconnected (we had only been on minimal contact for a little while thanks to her triangulation), I spilled the beans on everything. Still, at the time he wasn't ready to cut her off because he thought there was hope for her. I cringed when I heard him say that because I knew the truth. People like her don't change. Fortunately about two years after him and I rekindled our friendship, he'd had it with her and went gray rock. Naturally, the following tactics employed by her were projection, devaluing, bread crumbing, hoovering, triangulation, etc. None of it worked. In a last ditch attempt to seemingly get the last word and retain her illusion of power, she blocked him. Fortunately, on social media you can block people who have already blocked you and that's what he did. He knew she would unblock him eventually and she was shocked as all hell to see that he had returned the favor.
Even now, nearly two years later she's still sends emails to him which are synced to his iPad and he just deletes them. She's so desperate for attention and it's pathetic.
I forgot to mention that when all of this went down, our former friend was a married woman, well into her 50s, a mother and a grandmother. Almost seems like she behaves like a teenager, doesn't it?
Narcissists are very immature.
@@ExposingtheNarcissist Quite!
Showing how completely unhinged my former friend is, when she discovered that I had gone no-contact with her, she flipped out. She even resorted to googling my widow mother's phone number and calling her up trying to find me. I mean, how dare I throw up a permanent boundary. In her mind that was unacceptable. She wasn't done abusing me.
The reason she called was because it turned out a mutual friend had passed away unexpectedly due to a heart attack. Naturally, my former friend jumped at the chance to hijack someone else's tragedy by turning it into one of her spotlight performances.
She left a voicemail and my mom was horrified that anyone would show so little class as to make someone else's death all about them. I mean, forget the fact that someone had died. His wife was now a widow, his children were fatherless and his grandchildren would never know their grandfather. My former friend's incessant need for attention was more important. How dare we ever forget that, right? For clarity, this now dearly departed acquaintance had a huge job opportunity lined up for my former friend. She was banking on said opportunity changing her life. All she could talk about was how the opportunity was lost: “I don't know what I'm going to do! I need the money!”
When I learned that was who the strange number was, I told my mom to delete it and the voicemail. I later found out, that my former friend later made another attempt at getting my attention with her histrionics by dialing my mom's residence a second time. This time Mom answered. A little fact about my mom: she's a German-Jew native New Yorker with a very big mouth. She takes absolutely no crap and makes Judge Judy seem like a cream puff by comparison.
Naturally, upon answering, Mom was subjected to an immediate rant courtesy of my former friend. It should come as no surprise whatsoever that she failed to even show a shred of sympathy for the deceased who supposedly meant so much to her. After she ran out of breath, Mom clobbered her.
Mom: “The man died. Does that mean anything to you, you selfish f*cking c*nt?”
My former friend stuttered and spluttered before managing to blurt out a request to have me call her back. Mom stuck the knife in.
Mom: “He blocked you on everything for reasons that are already well known to you. F*ck. Off.”
Upon delivering that rebuke, my former friend “started wailing like a baby” before abruptly ending the call.
It's been over eight years. She hasn't tried to contact me and I don't care to ever hear or see her again.
@SS Your mom is wonderful!
@@ExposingtheNarcissist That she is. It's worth pointing out, my former friend tried to do the same thing the day my father died. When I admonished her for repeatedly calling (12 times after I told her not to) the day my father died from stage-four lung cancer, she had the nerve to say, and I quote: “Well, you two never got along anyway!”
That was fresh in my mom's mind when she ripped my former friend a new one. I later found out after my mom scorched her to pieces, she called up a mutual friend whining about how I blocked her. He described her screeching as sounding like a dying pelican. He refused to become her flying monkey and spy on me. She was dead convinced that I was talking about her on my social media page. How unhinged and self-centered can a person be to think that everything that happens is about her? I'll never understand it.
They’re like teenagers in adult bodies
Spot on my experience. Details are freakishly accurate. I've learned a lot about the dark triad traits from a direct contact personal experience. These lessons can't be taught in books or any other form other than experience. The dark triad exists to teach others about oneself.
SELF MASTERY is the solution. Man in the mirror.
I would not have learned so much in depth about myself (human nature) had it not been for all the suffering endured with multiple dark triads. In the end, I realized that it was me who caused all the suffering!
This post is meant to create awareness to those who are suffering. Once you learn about yourself, suffering ends almost instantaneously. You will become grateful for the experiences and ensuing lessons' learned from dealing with the dark triad. But wait, not only suffering ends but also the new found skill set will come in handy to push you to new heights.
Imagine the possibility of unleashing the super power that has been trapped within you.
Imagine the possibility of instantaneously ending your suffering.
"I will pursue self mastery now."
Ur basically jumping through intellectual hoops to blame yourself here. You are saying the narcissist is the reason you are better now? Reality is, they woulda killed you if they could.
Terrific Advice! Thanks so much
It says way more about them than it will ever say about you
My short term ex wife is a sociopath/narc. She was kicked out of my home for constant lies, she roofied me to sleep with another man (she acted like we both were drugged but took time to figure out she drugged me), she slept with her married attorney to pay her attorney debt. They will go back to their previous partners and she had now gone back to a much older man with money in CA. Her options are running out. Trying to make sense of these people is pointless.
Oh my, this has been going on for years. And I fear that family members such as my brother were targeted by that toxic person from my past. He used to be supportive but since he's been in a relationship with a narcissistic woman, I've lost him. Sigh It's sad. On the other hand, people love hearing nasty things about people they barely know. They would hardly question the lies they hear because it's too much of a hassle.
Everything she speaks of I was a VICTIM of and to the hands of a NARCISSIST of this kind and she took me through each phase and did exactly what this speaker is saying
EVERY 😳
Me too
@@donald2024on now we know..
be sure to warn your family and friends
I'll do the same 😐
It's crazy bro..
they evil wicked who know what's cuz
I think about now bro
it's unreal cuz
It's almost unbelievable how someone can be so evil, like they are.
Yes, hope no one have to get under narcs ways, so let's share these videos to everyone.
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@@donald2024on FACTS
Thanks for sharing!❤⚘
Learning with your videos!😊
I'm so glad! Welcome Aboard!
You’re so right! He does fake caring about me 😂
These are my favorite narcissistic videos-your voice is calm also
Narcisstic friend : She was forced to tell me where she had moved . So i went to she if something was wrong when she text brb . Someone said ambulance came for her . I called the hospital , nothing was wrong she is just that extreme. She said who is this , i told her , she went into a rage .cursing about the nurses , then she turned on me . Now she's disappeared again. Wearing someone else out . Glad when i found your material .
Yep all points true. But I've set certain boundaries and law enforcement has been called ahead of time in case they physically show up. But I still can't guarantee someone won't get hurt unless my crazy Narcissist stays away!
I'm no contact five years now. This will make you smile. Few years ago my ex narc sent a flying monkey, a hairdresser and mutual friend. So my ex goes and gets her haircut and asks the hairdresser about me. So few weeks later I'm talking to the hairdresser and she says my ex was in asking about me. To which I replied 'You must have me mixed up with somebody else cause I've never known anybody by that name.' I bet my ex narc went crazy went she heard I said that. Hahaha sometimes the good guys win.
My hairdresser is a “friend” of the narc (“friend” entity) No Contact for a year and a half . She always slips in a “have you seen” da da da …. I don’t react … and find a way to dismiss or move on …. IMHO she is a flying monkey …. Sweet …. But I Don’t think she realizes she is playing that role !!!!!
The narcissist i was with is now out here being with different woman every 3 to 5 months... he is being very careless... but o well... I'm glad I'm out of that situation
The narcissist will not get me anymore cause I wiser than the narcissist!.... I ‘m the winner!
Perfect 👌 it's so obvious once you see it and know what it is!!!
This video is spot on and Thank You.
I’m in a unique position. My neighbor is the narcissist. Never had any contact really. But I opened a little bakery out of my house and it made her mad. She apparently is mad that I’ve been able to achieve and she has not gotten her similar venture off the ground. Totally not my problem she can’t achieve. But nonetheless she reports us to health dept routinely. Even called law on us. I’ve since learned she’s hot this mental issue. Ugggg
But her continued behavior has increased our business. Opposite effect she wanted and she’s been forced out of her commissary kitchen arrangement as well as forced to resign her position with American legion. I’m certain she’s not home drafting an apology letter so we are on edge wondering what wrath we may suffer in the future. I hate living like this. She’s a waste of oxygen and needs to move. This community as a whole has no use for her. Despicable person and I’m here to learn what can be done about her. Obviously she cannot be rehabilitated. Argh
Very accurate video yes my family members turned on me took narcissist side thank u for these videos n sharing ur knowledge yes lookin back seems like narcissist stay on my cousins good size to keep tabs on me when I went no contact they thought she was good for me smh