Sometimes we refuse to see how bad something is until it completely destroys us. The problem is women think he will change, he won't. And men make the mistake of thinking she will never leave, she will.
Wakenya wengine hapa comment section ni kama wanatumia kichwa kama bakuli ya mate, njambi angekufia kWa huyo msee juu ya violence mngekuwa all over mkilia vile she don't deserve it,but sasa juu anapeana story yake mnadai the other side...endeni mkaskie vibaya huko, its her story give her a break....survivors of gender based violence are the absolute heros for choosing themselves.
Don't make that mistake of telling him that you miss him! Move on gal time heals...! 90% was good yet ulikua unachapwa? Gal wake up and smell the coffee!!!!!
Kids witnessing toxic marriages with their parents.....it breaks my heart because the trauma is real for the rest of their lives.Walk out before it's too late
Congratulations Njambi for choosing you and your kids...I once dated a narcissist for only six months but by the time I was calling it quits i was drained to the core am now strong enough though scared of dating
I usually don't know why walking out from a toxic relationship inakuanga ngumu🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺Ju most. men who are narsist they don't like women who are open minded and outspoken
Hi dear you did the best thing ever .. I cry alot whenever I come across such discussion of abusive marriages, it makes me think of what I went through..it is really traumatizing every time you just feel unwanted
I pray you will heal this is just traumatizing. When someone puts their hand on you ladies or even men plz leave. Ata Kama hauna kakitu. As long as you still have breathe and health, you will make it. Ni bora utoke ukiwa hai than kuka urudishwe kwa casket. My bro’s sister in-law lost her life not because the hubby was evil bt because they started an argument after coming from a club. They started fighting. The lady threw a dumbbell towards the guy n missed. The guy picked the dumbbell and threw it back. It did not miss. Got her right in the head n she died on the spot. Left 3young kids. With the little one barely 2yrs old. It was painful. It was all over the news. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. So when someone puts their hand on you. Plz don’t excuse their behavior ati wht could I have done? Please leave.
Speaking up is part of healing...you are a strong lady for leaving,your kids deserve a happy and peaceful mum, I'm proud of you njambi.. I'm a single mum of 1,and I understand the fear you had of being a single mum of 2, I'm glad you realized that, that was not a reason enough for staying in a violent relationship, staying with a narcissist can make you hate your own self.. you finally moved out,and you will never lack rent or food,God will always find a way to provide for you guys. Enyewe there is certain peace that comes with being a single mother other than being in a violent relationship,where you are being drained and pushed to be suicidal and an angry woman, you got this mama.., sending you hugs and love your way.
When someone is trying to have you cut ties with friends and family, then he doesn’t want you to be financially independent run hiyo ni divide and rule ndio afanye vile anataka
At the right time good thing will come... just been watching previous episode waiting for this 🔥🔥🔥...God bless you Eve Mungai for making our Friday Happy...aki Njambi woiye.... let's say NO to gender based violence...go go Big Director Trevor ♥️😘
There is no room for insecure people in marriage...the moment you start asking for phones, checking sms, limiting your spouses movement, you need to introspect on yourself juu shida ni wewe. Alafu I keep seeing kwa comments ati women need to sacrifice their individuality juu umepata bwana...kwani huyu bwana ni mungu???If he found you clubbing and you stop ati juu "I love him" that will be the beginning of an abusive relationship..women if he cant handle your lifestyle acha akatafute dem wa kanisa waishi pamoja, so many women kwa hii comment section wanafanya marriage ikae oxygen🚮🚮
Take heart it shall be well. I left a narcissistic with similar characteristics as your ex husband. I left with three children. 5 years now and God has been faithful. I had the same fears as you did but I gathered the courage. Healing from depression though.
That guy is a control freak Domestic violence is the most degrading thing humans go through both ways men and women I upload you Njambi for having courage to drop that s..t
Totally relatable. Mwizi hapendi kuibiwa....a cheater will always be a cheater. A narcissist will always make you inferior and like you are the wrong one......I will never stand a cheating man. I saw all the red flags but was waiting for more redier flags...NEVER again.
Men misunderstand the concept of been the head of the house!the only verse they refer to but ignore the one's pointing out their responsibilities in a marriage and I hate it when someone controls my life.
This is not 90% good this was only 10%good given that if you start loosing yourself in a relationship that is the beginning of the end .Human dignity is 🔑
Most of the times we ignore red flags. Happy to see you walked out stronger. You can never change a man. It's their mum's job. Be the best mum to your kids. You can do it girl....
the kenya police need more training on handling domestic violence and protecting the victims. its sad how she was unable to get help from police. husbands and wives, who abuse their spouses, there is no use for abusing your lover other than making yourself feel powerful, selfish and threatening to another human being. Njambi, you were mentally, psychologically, physically, financially, emotionally abused. he carried all forms of abuse. please heal, keep on educating other individuals so they can be freed from their tormentors.
Not just In Kenya. Here in America, SORRY COPS WALK AWAY AND DON'T HELP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIMS, ESPECIALLY WHEN THE ABUSERS ARE WHITE MALES. THEY DON'T CHARGE THEM
Bella,even in the Bible, people used to take women ,mkienda tu kwa nyumba,and have sex,you automatically become husband and wife,,that's why even now,mkihabe sex,you become one
I promise you, since I saw you post this guy the first time I knew he was NOT at your level & you sold yourself less... i knew for you this was NOT IT!! Am sorry 😞 you had to go through this.
Simple philosophy, if a man developed some insecurities ,abruptly becomes furious,keeps acusing you of being with a man yet he knows you are innocent, just know he's cheating on you,
Insecurities may not have been the issue but lack of communication. As a couple it's important to set your goals and boundaries clear. Example ,in our marriage will we allow each partner to have a close friend of the opposite sex? If so, what are the boundaries. To what extend are we going to have fun? How are we going to unwind our daily stressors as a couple or individual? How do we solve our concerns without involving children. Both parties should be present to hear and listen more. Work on the issues as they come.And more important know how to manage anger in a positive way.
"90% was good. It's only the 10% that was bad" AND THIS IS HOW MANY PEOPLE GET ABUSED AND MANIPULATED.
Sometimes we refuse to see how bad something is until it completely destroys us. The problem is women think he will change, he won't. And men make the mistake of thinking she will never leave, she will.
Hope u are different
@@naomiwangare3977 ✌
A million times true 😂
@@tushnyanchama1563 🔒
Very true
Narcissist are the kindest to the outsiders yaani wako wazuri kwa watu wengine until you tell your story
Pole sana Njambi, uliolewa na mang'aa ya Githembe. Huyu jamaa ata tukicheza ball santos umgonge bahati mbaya ni vita.
Njambi anakaaga woman rep sijui mbona ye hupitia hizi noma,she needs to pray...
Wakenya wengine hapa comment section ni kama wanatumia kichwa kama bakuli ya mate, njambi angekufia kWa huyo msee juu ya violence mngekuwa all over mkilia vile she don't deserve it,but sasa juu anapeana story yake mnadai the other side...endeni mkaskie vibaya huko, its her story give her a break....survivors of gender based violence are the absolute heros for choosing themselves.
There is no justification of domestic violence no matter who is wrong
A narcissist will make you think you are the problem, but as you heal you'll realize it was all his fault. Don't blame yourself mama
Don't make that mistake of telling him that you miss him! Move on gal time heals...! 90% was good yet ulikua unachapwa? Gal wake up and smell the coffee!!!!!
It's sad to see that she still self blames and tries to make excuses for him. That shows you the damage abuse leaves with you.
Kids witnessing toxic marriages with their parents.....it breaks my heart because the trauma is real for the rest of their lives.Walk out before it's too late
Ive experienced that from my parents.Good thing I'm 18 I understand everything and I chose myself,mom and siblings 😊
I am happy after walking away from my abusive, narcissistic husband. My two children have peace of mind. He still doesn't believe I left him
Ooooh no my dear neighbor you've been through alot GOD heal you
The minute he starts to get insecure, he is cheating...
Congratulations Njambi for choosing you and your kids...I once dated a narcissist for only six months but by the time I was calling it quits i was drained to the core am now strong enough though scared of dating
I usually don't know why walking out from a toxic relationship inakuanga ngumu🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺Ju most. men who are narsist they don't like women who are open minded and outspoken
*_The man is a Lambistic puny man for abusing this woman. Keep them coming Mungai_* 🔥
Freedom is the most precious thing you can have and you can't understand this until you loose it
Hi dear you did the best thing ever .. I cry alot whenever I come across such discussion of abusive marriages, it makes me think of what I went through..it is really traumatizing every time you just feel unwanted
I pray you will heal this is just traumatizing. When someone puts their hand on you ladies or even men plz leave. Ata Kama hauna kakitu. As long as you still have breathe and health, you will make it. Ni bora utoke ukiwa hai than kuka urudishwe kwa casket. My bro’s sister in-law lost her life not because the hubby was evil bt because they started an argument after coming from a club. They started fighting. The lady threw a dumbbell towards the guy n missed. The guy picked the dumbbell and threw it back. It did not miss. Got her right in the head n she died on the spot. Left 3young kids. With the little one barely 2yrs old. It was painful. It was all over the news. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. So when someone puts their hand on you. Plz don’t excuse their behavior ati wht could I have done? Please leave.
Speaking up is part of healing...you are a strong lady for leaving,your kids deserve a happy and peaceful mum, I'm proud of you njambi.. I'm a single mum of 1,and I understand the fear you had of being a single mum of 2, I'm glad you realized that, that was not a reason enough for staying in a violent relationship, staying with a narcissist can make you hate your own self.. you finally moved out,and you will never lack rent or food,God will always find a way to provide for you guys. Enyewe there is certain peace that comes with being a single mother other than being in a violent relationship,where you are being drained and pushed to be suicidal and an angry woman, you got this mama.., sending you hugs and love your way.
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Thanks Eve.. I wanted to hear her side of story without interruptions...I hope you can find her professional help.
I'm glad she found the strength to leave that toxic, jealous, cheating abuser.
I used to admire her so badly. I still do. Sorry Njambi for the experiences.
When someone is trying to have you cut ties with friends and family, then he doesn’t want you to be financially independent run hiyo ni divide and rule ndio afanye vile anataka
At the right time good thing will come... just been watching previous episode waiting for this 🔥🔥🔥...God bless you Eve Mungai for making our Friday Happy...aki Njambi woiye.... let's say NO to gender based violence...go go Big Director Trevor ♥️😘
There is no room for insecure people in marriage...the moment you start asking for phones, checking sms, limiting your spouses movement, you need to introspect on yourself juu shida ni wewe. Alafu I keep seeing kwa comments ati women need to sacrifice their individuality juu umepata bwana...kwani huyu bwana ni mungu???If he found you clubbing and you stop ati juu "I love him" that will be the beginning of an abusive relationship..women if he cant handle your lifestyle acha akatafute dem wa kanisa waishi pamoja, so many women kwa hii comment section wanafanya marriage ikae oxygen🚮🚮
Take heart it shall be well. I left a narcissistic with similar characteristics as your ex husband. I left with three children. 5 years now and God has been faithful. I had the same fears as you did but I gathered the courage. Healing from depression though.
pole sana, continue trusting in God.
Good job Eve and Trevor no need of staying in an abusive relationship pole sana Njambi kwa yote uliyoyapitia
Seeing this today and all I can say is that a narcissist will always turn things round.
That point Mwizi hatakangi kuibiwa....that's a new one nime learn leo....Great work Eve keep up the good work.
Ata malaya atakangi malaya mwezake
Hahaha nimekubuka nilikuwa naabiwa na x boyfriend yangu tukikosana nikipatwa na makosa
I always love this lady's vibes..she gonna heal and have a better progress🌹
That guy is a control freak Domestic violence is the most degrading thing humans go through both ways men and women I upload you Njambi for having courage to drop that s..t
na wenye ukitoka job bwana anachukua chupi ananusa,ukishave huruma umetoka Kwa mwanaume mtasema nini...n way Mungu wewe ndio muamuzi wangu
Kazi safi mungai
..this is sad...kudos for choosing peace of mind...its not always easy
Same like me kwenda gym is a problem. Talking to a neighbour is a problem say hi to shop also an issue.
Sorry for everything Njambi, Tuko wengi..kaa utaweza plz nitafute..plz plz God bless u
As so sorry. I hope you heal. Social media worsens matters.
Njambi all is not lost. You are in the right headspace. It is well. Mungai Eve you have really handled the interview well.
I love this gal, Njambi you did the right decision. Kudos!
Totally relatable. Mwizi hapendi kuibiwa....a cheater will always be a cheater. A narcissist will always make you inferior and like you are the wrong one......I will never stand a cheating man. I saw all the red flags but was waiting for more redier flags...NEVER again.
Men misunderstand the concept of been the head of the house!the only verse they refer to but ignore the one's pointing out their responsibilities in a marriage and I hate it when someone controls my life.
Very true .
Haina haja ya kuchapa mtu there's always the option of walking out of someone's life.
we always assume our friends and family cant help but they can, they just choose not to
My favorite actress on the show-I loved her spirit
Be very vigilant. Abusers wanaweza chizi wakutafute.
I felt it.It's never easy for us women but God is Great
Whatever njambi went through is exactly what i went through before breaking up with him.narcissist is a no!
This is not 90% good this was only 10%good given that if you start loosing yourself in a relationship that is the beginning of the end .Human dignity is 🔑
How did she even arrive at 90?
This is not close to 90%
Am here waiting as usual
I will love how this women is strong I wish in my part I could be this strong in my marriage and desid to move out
Been in such a situation....learning to know I am not the issue..it's them. Narcissistic behaviors are traumatizing I tell u.
All is well Njambi may God help you to be strong enough...we go through a lot
I can relate. May you heal gal
I hope you are healing as well 💓 💕
She's carrying a lot of trauma.
So sad....but she made the best decision...mambo itajipa
I love njambi sana sana...and I was wondering 🤔 kwani kulienda ajy
Finally,she is narrating the story herself,her friend was allover
I know nikama ilikua yeye
Njambi my all time crushie😍 i wish you heal faster mummie
Aki Mungu asaidie izi marriages za hii generation weeuh Jambie ulifanya poa kuleft your life is important than anything.
Most of the times we ignore red flags. Happy to see you walked out stronger. You can never change a man. It's their mum's job. Be the best mum to your kids. You can do it girl....
Eve , kindly bring the husband we hear his side of the story ,,,,, think it will be good ,,,and good content
the kenya police need more training on handling domestic violence and protecting the victims. its sad how she was unable to get help from police. husbands and wives, who abuse their spouses, there is no use for abusing your lover other than making yourself feel powerful, selfish and threatening to another human being. Njambi, you were mentally, psychologically, physically, financially, emotionally abused. he carried all forms of abuse. please heal, keep on educating other individuals so they can be freed from their tormentors.
Relationship issues, deal na kesi leo kesho uone washenzi wameshiksna mikono baro, mambo ya mapenzi achia hao wawili
@@francismutonyisamson8288 truuuuee.... Niliosha mikono.. siwezi ingilia kesi za watu wawili .. unabakingi wewe ndio mmbaya
Because themselves are abusers!!!
Not just In Kenya. Here in America, SORRY COPS WALK AWAY AND DON'T HELP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIMS, ESPECIALLY WHEN THE ABUSERS ARE WHITE MALES. THEY DON'T CHARGE THEM
All I can say is you are beautiful... Sina maoni ingine.
We missed you njambi..keep it up
My boyfriend used to ask for screenshot ya WhatsApp and other toxic stories,, wueeeh 😂😂😂hee I thank God nlijitoa kwa hio relationship
Heri ivo ulitoka wueh
Tuko wengi kila saa uko wapi aki stress mara saii unafanya nkt aki wanaume
leo n vizuri tumeelewa...hukukuja na mama dedee😂
Pole Njambi, on our screens you make us laugh ,may you also laugh in your life.
Weee wen a man is not a mature enough u are in trouble u should face them headon too u did well
Eve doing a very good job allowing her to speak
You're very tough, you're very resilient, You need a very wise & mature man.
Oooh njambi pole Sana dear,am yo fan from 🇹🇿 ❤️
Kama kawa niko ndani tunned 🥰
So sorry dear, may you heal with time
Hallo njambi pole bt I see now you can smile unafanana na cerah wa Ibrahim Empire beautiful girl
I would really like you eve to interview the guy...we mostly just get to hear the woman's view of what went down
She is hurting....haki hizi matters za heart wheeeeehhh
I watched your interview about blended family for encouragement na boom mmeseparate.
can we stop saying baby daddies are husbands please, were they legally married to start with
Wisdom baana ..hawa ni maboyfriend tuu
Unapea mtu kuma anakudinya unazaa alafu utaki aitwe husband..wew ni malaya kwani
What is marriage to you?
Bella,even in the Bible, people used to take women ,mkienda tu kwa nyumba,and have sex,you automatically become husband and wife,,that's why even now,mkihabe sex,you become one
@@ciccoann2311 so the moment you have sex, you become wife and husband? 😂😂
Insecure people are the worst, someone who has been in a narcistic relationship can relate. Pole Njambi...you will bounce bank.
I promise you, since I saw you post this guy the first time I knew he was NOT at your level & you sold yourself less... i knew for you this was NOT IT!! Am sorry 😞 you had to go through this.
Baby no.3 loading, congratulations
I think Njambi needs counseling,her laughter as she narrates tells alot
So much a lot....l pray she find true peace of mind and happiness
There are things people go through and they don't realize at that time that they are actually being abused at times it comes later in life.
That man should take care of the kids ,Kama akona pesaa ya sherehe pia achunge watoi ,njambi have fun
All the best Njambi!
This was once my marriage that lasted only 4 months umevumilia sana
Pole kwake Bernice
It's a very sad and interesting story
Good job Eve and Trevor ❤❤❤
This story has really touched me
We r in a free world... Marriage shud not be an hinderance to one's happiness.... To hell with toxic marriages...
I feel for us who sometimes have to bear with so much pain due to fear of not being financially stable
@@flominahmucheke6087 aki😭😭like me here😭😭😭😭
@@flominahmucheke6087 why should you be afraid? Can't u find a hustle or a job? Victim mentality. You're not disabled smh
@@tukutanechuom3366 you can't understand until you find yourself in the situation..no offense
@@flominahmucheke6087 sure right now am in the situation with 2 kid
The things we women go through..
She is eating her lips sana and it might mean alikuwa depressed kiasi is good you talked i have also been into this traumatic thing
Na pombe kali
She does that alot
@@maureenotieno1989 oooooh…. Haiya! Now i know
Njambi ukula lips ivo toka kitambo
@@thecharismafamily she is not also eating her lips while talking she is also playing with her figers alot while talking about this whole thing.
Good job Eve
Mungai Eve...I appreciate u for handling the interview soo well.
Such stories just crush my heart💔
Simple philosophy, if a man developed some insecurities ,abruptly becomes furious,keeps acusing you of being with a man yet he knows you are innocent, just know he's cheating on you,
This is so true dear. Talking through experience 😭😭😭
I'll never justify domestic violence no matter what
About the makarao , I was told the same ety ni family issues 😭😭😭😭, and that's how people die wakisema ni family issues 😭😭
Eve unakaa poa sana the hairstyle is looking fine on you. ❤️
Insecurities may not have been the issue but lack of communication. As a couple it's important to set your goals and boundaries clear. Example ,in our marriage will we allow each partner to have a close friend of the opposite sex? If so, what are the boundaries. To what extend are we going to have fun? How are we going to unwind our daily stressors as a couple or individual? How do we solve our concerns without involving children.
Both parties should be present to hear and listen more. Work on the issues as they come.And more important know how to manage anger in a positive way.