My husband NEVER apologizes, but I had been practicing taming my tongue and really tuning in to the Holy Spirit. We had an argument and he had the perfect opportunity to apologize so instead of nagging I just prayed about it. As I was doing the dishes, he physically came to me, loved on me and apologized. I couldn’t help but laugh and smile because GOD!
we have to give men time for these things they need a loving place to embrace their faults and apologies as their egos are big they wont apologize if we are angry and looming! keep up the good work sis
I stopped nagging and praying instead and my relationship has gotten so much better and I find my husband apologizes instantly and I cant help but smile bc God is truly listening to our prayers. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
You said several videos back to “love your husband like God loves him” and that has changed my marriage. I was constantly finding the faults in my spouse and now I constantly remind myself of how wonderfully he was made and all the qualities God loves him for. You are doing such good things and saving countless marriages with these videos. Thank you Milena!
First, I do want to say that I'm so happy that Milena is teaching biblical womanhood. There aren't many influencers out there that are this strong in their faith to spread truth in His word. I wanted to say to women who are going to attempt these suggestions Milena has put forth here: PLEASE manage your expectations of how your husband should respond to these attempts to get him to "drool" over you! You should not go into this with the expectation that you'll see immediate and positive reactions from him. In fact, if you do, you most likely will feel bitterness and resentment about your hubby if he doesn't respond by treating YOU as "expected". Please, if you start to incorporate these into your marriage, do so as an act of worshiping and obeying God. Don't expect anything in return...just obey the LORD.
Couldn’t agree with this more! I think it’s so common to be tempted to say “okay hello I’m doing all the right things where is the perfect response that I’m *owed*” and that is for sure not the heart posture God is after! Doing these things prayerfully and as an act of worship to God is such important advice!
Here are 7 things to do: 1. Pray instead of nag 2. Be extremely kind and generous 3. Be sexually generous 4. Meet him at the door 5. Praise him for the little things 6. Do something you don't want to do that he's asked you to do 7. All him to be his own person
I’m 9 months pregnant trying to manage my household today clean take care of the kids and I was lashing out on my husband while he’s at work and I sat down to rest and came across your video. Immediately changed my mood, inspired me to change my tone to him and feel renewed in my day. Thank you - you made my day so much better today.
Me too! I feel there is a lot of content on the internet / church directed at women to be good wives, but so little directed towards men to be good husbands. It takes two to build a beautiful and holy marriage, and I feel Jordan could a great example and inspiration
Here’s the thing. While yes, you are correct, and men’s role in marriage does also need to be talked about, that’s not the point of this video OR Milena’s channel. Milena’s channel is specifically geared to women. That’s her demographical focus. I really don’t understand when women comment on videos like this with things like “okay but what about men”…that’s not the point. The point is to focus on what WE can do and give, without expecting something in return.
As a husband I watched this thinking, “wow, I wish my wife did some of these things”. You definitely hit the nail on the head. But can you have your husband make a video like this for the husbands?
Hey bud as a wife who has been so many amazing marriages, the first step is to not compare your spouse. Its hard to do but we also dont know whats going on during the hard says.
I recommend reading the 5 love languages book. They have a free test online too. I had fun doing the test with my hubby. You can make it a date! Go out to a restaurant and take turns doing the test (reading the questions out loud to her) Then go over the results together! It’s a great conversation starter and leads to deep conversations that can benefit your marriage!
Pray about it. Or I know my church had a couples Bible study for married people. I didn't attend, but I'm sure it was this kind of content. I'm still working on getting my husband to show up on Sundays.
The timing of this is perfect for me. Not looking to change my marriage but to start my marriage this way. We got married a little over a week ago now and I'm going to try to implement all these things. im so thankful to have Godly women like Milena to guide me and look up to as i start this new role as a wife 💗💗
Congratulations on your marriage girl! So happy for you. I'm in the same boat right now. We got married over a month ago too and its so amazing having someone to look up to and guide me to be the wife that the Lord wants. I pray the Lord helps you implement these tips in your marriage and that you have the most amazing, Godly marriage. Be blessed!💗😇
I am a nagging wife😔I always have to have the last word, I tear my house down with my words. When my husband and I fight it’s usually because I can’t tame my tounge, I defile him with my words. I know God speaks to me through you always that’s why I love your content so much. You are speaking to my struggles. You truly are a blessing! ❤ Ugh 😩 Lord help me !
Ask God to give you the desire to not say anything bad. Tell Him take away any bad feelings or words from you. I know He will do it for you. I'm not married but even I struggled with this.
Sweet girl let me first say that I am so proud of you. Many people are unable to see their blind spots and what they do wrong. You are already on the right path to change bc of that. I would like to encourage you to set some goals for yourself. First try doing this. If things get out of hand, have the first goal be to have it end much faster. Reflect and come to your husband with apologies. Try keeping records of this somewhere. Either in a notebook or on the notes app in your phone. This is a great way to sort of check yourself. After doing this, move on to the next goal, where you see yourself reacting differently from the get go. (I’ve been married for 12.5 years.) I chose to do it this way, bc I was not expecting immediate perfection from myself and giving myself grace, in doing so, I felt I had a higher chance of true change. And guess what? It worked! I have now consistently for quite awhile, reacted differently straight away. In situations where I was upset. You can do this! I will be praying for you. 🤍
Have you read the book "Fascinating Womanhood " by Helen Andulin? My goodness! It changed my whole attitude and I constantly go back to it! I give it to all my friends who get married. 🩷
I’ve always loved your videos but goodness gracious!!! Your videos and insta content this year have been on a completely different level!!! They are so inspiring, beautiful, and FILLED with life and joy and scripture!!! I’m so thankful for you and your obedience to the Lord!!!
Exactly what I felt!!! Keep seeking the Lord Milena and keep allowing Him to guide you!! I see such a change in you and trust, the Holy Spirit is working through you!! This was on point!! Blessings to you and your family always❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I needed this. 8 weeks postpartum plus a 15 month old. Finances are tighter than ever. I exclusively breast feed so I do all the night feeds. I feel so much resentment. But this? THIS is important . My husband is important. Our marriage is important. I need to find the time to heal our marriage. This video is so beyond helpful. Thank you.
Sending a small prayer your way for lots of grace and rest in your current season! I am pregnant with a 13 month old and I definitely feel the strain and have super low days. I just keep coming back to trusting that this is a short but precious season and I pray that the challenge will temper my marriage. I feel like if we have faith through these seasons, we will reap the fruit when our children are grown and our marriages mature!
Congrats on having two beautiful kids! I am sorry you are going through this! I do pray you get some rest and God will provide with what you need! I also encourage you to talk to your husband. He won’t know what’s going on in your head unless you talk to him. Your not alone in this! Blessings!
I just want to encourage you even if it's hard to put these things into practice during postpartum time. Don't give up hope! You'll have the energy eventually, and until then, just being grateful instead of communicating resentment will go a Long Way toward him loving on you more.
This was / is me!! Stay in the word! Never give up! God can do anything. My best help so far is Elisabeth Elliot podcast. Recent episode telling me that self-pity is satanic. I had a lot of self-pity fits over sleeplessness and my baby business. But I am fighting it well now with gratitude and a gentler spirit and simplified focus. And more trust in God to give me the rest I need. He knows what we need. Wow thanks for your comment! I didn't feel alone. (2under two)
Wow!! I’ve been married 22 years and I needed these reminders. What a shift in my husband as I immediately started implementing all Of them!!!! Praise God for moving in miraculous ways this week in my life. All because I walked in obedience. I prayed. I praised. I was generous. I sat and watched baseball 😂. I let him be a person. Thank you for this challenge and for calling me up!!! Let God just get all the glory!!! Loved your reminder that we should expect the enemy’s attacks. So true-but I armored up!
4 kids and married for 11 years, today was so rough. With him in school for masters and a full time job, I’ve been feeling so angry lately. i fell into nagging and today started an argument with him. I was looking up workout videos, then this video appeared out of no where! All this to say, half way through this video I felt heavily convicted. I called him into the room and apologized, and everything is ok now. Thank you so much for every word!! Every word!!
The tips in a row in case you want to copy them somewhere! Loved this video, thanks!! 1. Pray instead of nag 2. Be extremely kind and extremely generous 3. Be sexually generous 4. Meet him at the door 5. Praise him for the little things 6. Do something you don't want to do that your husband has been asking you to do 7. Allow him to be his own person
I don't even have a husband but the title caught my attention 🤣💗 I'm enjoying my season of singleness & growing in my relationship with Jesus every day! Love your videos Milena! God bless you and your family 🥰
Single and spending this year doing The Bible Recap and REALLY getting to KNOW God, not just know ABOUT Him. But also reflecting on failed relationships, so this video is still so relevant, so that when I'm not intentionally single that I'll approach a relationship with the right mindset/actions.
Ahhhh your recent content is so similar to what the Lord has been putting on my heart for the past year. Making some of these changes in the past few months has changed our LIVES. My husband pulled me aside the other morning before he left for work and said, "If I had to wait 7 years to get this woman, it was worth the wait". !!!! Submit yourselves to God's word and watch your lives and marriages be totally transformed ladies. Thank you Milena!! ♥
Haha when I'm writing a comment there is a little icon underneath where I'm typing. But I'm on a laptop so I dont know how helpful that is lol @@bariettaperez
Also..going along with praying instead of nagging (which...YES)...Something major that I didnt realize was even possible : commit to not arguing with your husband. If there is some kind of contention/disagreement, kindly share your opinion and thoughts, and let it go, give it to the Lord - joyfully! It's better to be at peace than to be right all of the time
Every few months I come back to this video as a refresh and to pray over my relationship with my husband. Milena, ur content is wonderful and as a young wife with her first baby on the way, it has truly been life changing
Im not a wife but i totally agree with making home welcoming and warm. For example if my parents have been gone all day and i finally see their car pull up ill go meet them outside with a hug.
More of a silent viewer, I have been here since your saving yourself for marriage video. And I just want to say that it has been beautiful to watch you grow as a person and in your faith 🤍 you are literally glowing! And I see you are truly a Jesus loving woman! I have been loving your videos lately. I have implemented tips from your submission videos, and OMG I notice such a difference in my husband and our marriage. So thank you for sharing and helping me feel convicted and turn to the word of God more. 6 years of marriage and we are better then ever 😌
Currently walking through a very rough chapter in our marriage, and I have to say, when we stop making excuses and do what the Bible says, God is so faithful to let us see the fruit. So much has changed in just a few short months, and it hasn’t all been gritting my teeth and bearing. I’ve found the strength in the middle of the storm when I choose to trust God instead of getting bitter. So good Milena! Thank you for sharing truth!
Ooh yes the enemy wants so badly to get us into bed together before marriage and then the enemy wants so badly to get us out of the bed after marriage!!! Spiritual warfare is so REAL!! Preach sis!!
Yes! Dude, be praying for your engaged friends to resist temptation. I've had 3 friends get engaged in the last few weeks and I've really been trying to pray for them. The temptation rises LIKE CRAZY as soon as you get engaged.
This has happened to us. My husband and I have been married 5.5 years and anytime he tries to Touch me I cringe. Before marriage I was all over him. I hate it.
Ever since watching Bindi Marc, I have seen a MAJOR shift in my marriage. We have been married 5 years, 3 children under the age of 5. Let me tell you the first few years were rough, but even with a new little baby, we are now SO much happier and more in love than ever because I started making these changes. Yas! Also, I returned home from the thrift store to this video. I went to the store after seeing your videos about modesty and really wanting to break up with my skin tight jeans. I prayed before I went in that I would find everything I need with the $40 I had...and I found A TREASURE TROVE. Modest-dressy-dress-winter here I come!
Bindi Marc has also been a huge encouragement to me! Any wife would benefit from her videos. Wisdom from the Holy Spirit truly flows from her. Through her encouragement and example, the Lord has taken me from an attitude of, "wow, dresses everyday? Someone's trying hard" to genuinely being convicted of the status of my heart concerning the way I dress myself.
Love this comment, so cool that God cares so much that He even makes sure you find all you need within budget.. prayer changes everything.. wishing you a wonderful modest fall and winter😊
Hey! I’ve been meaning to find a Christian who could answer this. Does lingerie come from society’s standards and not the lord? Is it something that makes sex more like objectifying a woman vs just loving her body without “dressing” it up? I wonder how many Christian couples use lingerie or not? Do you think lingerie could be coming from the devil, causing men to be more lustful over women in general? Hope this makes sense, it’s hard to put in words and would be easier to talk a lot in person lol I guess to add, is lingerie really encouraged because is it literally invented by man, by men, in their interest. Not from God and his vision for sex 😅 hope that helps clarify this perspective.
@@amandav9753 I have been thinking about the same thing. Lingerie definately makes men more lustful, I think we can all agree on that. But when it is husband and wife? The most important thing about christian s3x is that it happens within a marriage and ends with the possibility of life. if lingerie is at play should not make any difference, unless it is used to manipulate the man to sin.
@amandav9753 I've never thought about this like that before.. My husband has said a bazillion times that lingerie does nothing for him because he just wants plain Jane me. That hasn't stopped me from wearing it because I personally enjoy it... but now I'm starting to think otherwise. This makes a lot of sense, and I could see how this could potentially be bad for some men/women especially considering if they have a sexually immoral past with porn etc etc. I don't think it's necessarily a sin, but to some it might be... something to ponder! You should write that as a comment not a reply so others can see it more easily. I think it could really help someone. Eye opening for me, and I'll be praying about that
I’m not married, but I do live with my boyfriend and we have a baby girl together we’re both 22. And we wish we did things differently, but we haven’t. So here we are. I am still going to do these things for him because I nag all the time, constantly am complaining, we’ve had severe traumas from mentally ill parents with drug addictions. We are doing so great and I really do need to be easier on him. Sometimes I act like a complete brat. He is trying his very best and I want our home to be fruitful and pure for our daughter so that we can encourage her to live a lifestyle of god. Even though we may not have started our family biblically, we want our life to be biblical and I think practicing these things silently without boasting, will lead him to do the same as he is a sweet and pure soul who loves the lord. Thank you for this video it really really encouraged me. Tame the tongue. What a great phrase. And boy do I need to practice that one. Lol
I am not a Christian. I am also not a follower of the Bible. Since watching your videos these last few months it has opened my eyes. Your new age Christianity just makes sense to me…. It’s honestly just common sense. Who doesn’t want a HAPPY PEACFUL marriage & home?!!! Who the heck doesn’t want their husband obsessed with them?!!! I come from a very very broken family… a HOSTILE narcissistic mother who hated men. I have come a long way in building the home and marriage that I want and that I’ve always dreamed of. And you are a huge part in helping me wake up and better my marriage. I thank you so much ❤❤❤
Accept Jesus as your lord and a savior because he can do so much more than just fix a marriage. Marriage is actually a symbol for how the us( the church) and him will be in heaven. You gain common sense through the word of God.
My husband and I were talking about how we felt like our marriage was getting boring or we were just getting used to each other. And I was very sad and he told me that God knew what he was doing and we needed to change things up. And than this morning I came across this video and when I tell y’all I cried bc I knew God was speaking to me through this! God is so good and thank you for sharing this. I’ve always loved your videos and. I pray God keeps using you. God bless! ❤
YES GIRL!!! Thankfully I have a church that encourages me to strengthen my faith. Part of the process is praying FIRST before doing anything. I learned very quickly that praying for my husband and allowing the Holy Spirit to move creates such peace in our marriage!!! I'm no longer tired from correcting him because it wasn't my place to do that anyway. The prayers weren't always answered right away but I still had comfort knowing I surrendered the situation to God. I agree with your other points too but this one stood out to me the most!
I just got married 4 months ago and this is RICH!! So so good! Thank you! And might I add that you are GLOWING! The joy of the Lord is radiating through you! 🙌🏽❤️
I’m a Christian but I disagree with some things… I don’t think you should just pray. Like can’t you pray but also communicate? Just praying alone when he’s right there to communicate with seems a bit passive. Also I don’t think it should considered sinful to not have sex with your husband if your aren’t in the mood, why shouldn’t he be able to respect your mood? Like if you’re sex life is not compatible that’s obviously something that should be worked on but if you just aren’t in the mood, you shouldn’t be forced to do anything you don’t want to and he should respect that
Yes you can, but sometimes we just overly nag when it’s unnecessary and we really just need to pray and calm down. If you don’t want to have sex then you shouldn’t but if you only want to a little and he really wants to you should but obviously it’s your choice and it’s ok not to
I stumbled across this video and was intrigued. I don’t normally watch content like this, I’ve been married 33 years with all the ups and downs a marriage goes through. If you’re a young woman watching this, this is good advice! Husbands can be jerks, but so can you. And trust me when you look back on your marriage after 33 years you’re going to see you were in the wrong a lot of the time. And that’s ok. We’re human. I watched the same sort of things when I was young, trying to figure men out. They’re pretty simple creatures. A nice home, a warm meal, respect and a little fun in the bedroom and they’re happy. Don’t over complicate it 😊
Hiii I’m really excited to hear more on this! I had children before marriage and the spiritual difference since getting married 6 months ago has completely shifted our home and family! When walking in Gods will it’s so much more fruitful and I’m so eager to learn how to be a biblical wife and mother, your transition lead the Holy Spirit to conflict me in the best way and that’s also effecting my husband and children, it can be hard be so beautiful❤️ God Bless you ❤
As someone who did not wait till marriage, I can testify that intimacy with my husband before marriage vs after marriage is mind blowing. Even though I am not proud of the things I have done God used this to show me why sex in a marriage is beautiful and healthy! Took me a while to get there but I am glad I did and that I dont ever have to go back!
When I tell you that this video just made me understand SO MUCH about why my husband is frustrated with me lately. The hard questions I asked myself made me realize that I need to step up and make a change because wow he does way more for me than I have ever realized. Thank you so much for this video ❤
I don’t need to come back in one week because these are things that over the course of the last year have drastically changed my marriage. So Ill just say everything you spoke to are things that ive implemented and while I’m not perfect and always consistent, when I am showing up in these ways, it has made a world of difference! Keep sharing these tips Milena…there are many women who have never heard these ideas or need refreshers (like me!)❤ . Praying for all the women looking to see a change in their household, you can do it!
These videos are so practically helpful which I appreciate SO MUCH!!❤❤❤ I am a young wife of three years and have read what scriptures say but it can be challenging to take and understand how to apply them to everyday life! God bless you and your family!! I’m sure making these videos puts a target on your back for the enemy, but I pray a shield over you!!❤
I'm a 73 year old widow. My husband died 13 years ago. I wish I would have practiced these things. I do remember times when he was watching something on TV (usually violent murder mysteries) and I would leave the room and want to complain. The Lord had me do as you said and pray instead of nag. God reminded me that I was not my husband's Holy Spirit. I pray often for marriages and families, knowing the enemy hates God's order and design. God bless you all❣
I totally understand what you mean. We disrespect & put down our kids too often by saying things like that. But I do know what she means. It’s more our attitude, I think, than physically dumping our kiddos on our husbands. There have been days where I am so at the end of myself and frustrated and overwhelmed by my two sweet kids and their needs that I just want to leave them with him as soon as he gets home, and tell him everything they’ve done that I’m frustrated about and go be by myself for a while. That’s what I think of when I hear “kids thrown at him as soon as he walks in the door” 💁🏼♀️❤️
Needed these beautiful biblical reminders sister! Thank you so much for being obedient and sharing. It’s so easy to take our husbands for granted or focus on the negative and let resentment build. Dying to the flesh and loving them and thinking of them before ourselves isn’t natural to us but not impossible with the holy spiritual living and working through us! 🙏🏼
The Prayers of Women and Wives influence this world MORE than you can believe. I’ve been praying for myself and I see a difference on my entire campus🥰
I loved this video so much!!❤ For a bit of background, I've had some chaotic years, dealing with infertility, job loss, church loss, PTSD and finaly a car accident 3 months ago. I have not been an amazing wife, but my husband was very supportive, and never did me any reproches. But I've been getting a lot better in these couple weeks, finaly got in therapy, and I finaly start to feel alive again! I've really been having on my heart to keep my home better, be the real help of my husband that I want to be. And in only the last couple of weeks, wow! It changed things. I am implementing your advices to my daily life and it's amazing the difference it makes to only greet my husband at the door, or to pick him up at works so that he can avoid the bus 🥰 Thank you so much, it's so inspiring🥰
I used to watch you years ago and then when you first had your baby. It's good to see y'all this good and you embracing these truths as y'all get older n wiser. You are absolutely spot on. Bless you two!!!
My husband was just passing through the kitchen and noticed that I was watching your video and said " I'm so glad to see that Milena is doing great! She seems to have found her balance and peace in the family." I hope you'll take it the right way. I LOVE the new you🎉
It is so true, it does start with us women. Once we change for the better our men are able to open up and do the same. I think the most important thing I've learned since doing things for my man ie.. meeting him at the door, making sure he has dinner and lunches made for work, coffee ready to go in the morning, ect. It really makes you love him more. I found the more things I did for him the more I admired and loved him. We really need to take good care of our men, they are so sweet and special.
Meeting my husband at the door fill a happiness in both me and my husband. I be waiting for my best friend (husband) at the door because I miss his presence in the home and it makes my husband feel wanted and I feel like it heals his inner childhood trauma.
I like that you know WHY you're meeting him at the door and what it does for your husband and marriage specifically. Because it may not be something that every marriage or husband sees as beneficial for this season. Years ago the Holy Spirit said, Girl why are you not opening that door when you hear him there with the key! LOL I listened, and my husband has appreciated those moments. I'm talking late at night because he's a musician and often travels.
Thank you so much. I think one of the things that brings me back down to earth when I get wrapped up in his flaws is this: he’s not super human. He’s just me, but a man. He’s someone’s son. My son will be someone’s husband. These are flawed people. I’m not perfect either. So why do I keep holding him to this weird high standard. You once said you wanted to show your husband as much grace and he shows you. That was so powerful and is so true. Thank you for this content!
We’ve been married for 35 years. This is good advice. It took me awhile to learn these things on my own through trial and error. I am here since told me, I am in much nicer person than I was in earlier years of marriage. I spent so much time nagging and trying to be his mother versus his wife. It’s sad to think of all these years gone by where things could’ve been better but, we have loved each other through it, and God has blessed us. Now in our older years, we really do have a pleasant loving marriage. Thank you God.
Totally agree we should not nag. BUT I am also not my husband’s mother. As a husband and wife we take care of the household together and if one of us are ”slacking” and expecting the other one to do all of the stuff there MUST allow a room and space to have a converstion about it!! Yes, we can pray and let the Holt spirit work! But we are also adults that need to take responsibility over our home and family etc- so communication is key, nagging is not.
Exactly. I definitely believe in praying and biting my tongue but communication is also important and there is nothing wrong with it. God can reveal things to your husband through so many ways and you communicating could be one of them! Just like how God can heal people just through prayer or through a doctor.
I'm not a religious person, but this is great advice. I know people get upset about "how a wife should act" type topics, but it's also "treating people the way you want to be treated". Do nice things for him and he will do nice things for you. My husband and I have been working on this, and it's slowly getting better ❤
Hi, just to let you know Jesus hated religion, it's the religious people that killed him. It's all about relationships! When you believe in Him and you are filled with the spirit of God you can literally feel his presence and hear his voice ! ❤❤❤
So grateful for the biblical, spiritually uplifting and convicting content God has been guiding you to create and for the ways it has opened my eyes and heart to different ways to serve my husband, children, home and God. Thank you ❤️
I’ve been praying for my husband so long and finally seeing crazy changes and it’s so true all you can do is pray and not nag, let god deal with them. He doesn’t even noticed he’s changed haha!
Girl!!!! You are over here driving me crazy!!!!……I used to preach this……we’ve been married for 25 yrs now, thank you for the reminder 🙏🏽😭 ~Jeremy’s wife
This is so refreshing!!! I love that you're contradicting the notion that everything goes downhill the longer you're married. It IS possible to only get closer as a couple!
Instant sub. My husband and I just (3 days ago) celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary. We love each other very much, but I have to admit that I've never felt more distant. We aren't on the verge of divorce by any means as neither one of us believe that should ever be the answer except in the case of infidelity, but I think we both could also agree there are things we could do to make our marriage more full again. I'll have to give these a shot!
I’m so glad I learned #1 as a single woman it was one of those things I heard about and said that’s the kind of wife I want to be. Now that I’m married, I’m just so so thankful that I learned and practice that. I’m convinced it’s why there isn’t a lot of strife in my marriage. God is so so faithful. He cares about even the smallest of things. It’s also so fun to see such specific prayers answered.
Wowww I haven’t watched one of your videos for so long but love the growth walking with Christ! This video is so encouraging and powerful!!! Love the content!! Keep speaking wisdom and truth sis! ♥️
Love this. I wanted to say my husband picks out all my lingerie and I absolutely love everything he picks out so asking your husband to pick something is fun especially if you're in the store together which we always are. He has really good taste. I love the bible verse that says Adam "knew" his wife. I'm proud to say my husband knows me intimately in bed and I love the sacred love life we have ❤ I trust him with everything he wants to do. We're 36 and our love life has definitely spiced UP the longer we've been together. This week I'm going to try to build up my house more for Him (God) and him (my husband) ❤
Thank you Milena! I just wanted to ask for forgiveness. A long time ago I judged you for very stupid reasons. Mainly because I was jealous of what you have (a husband and kids) while I don't! I wasn't so much of a follower of Yeshua at the time but now I am. God is teaching me how to become a godly woman and a godly wife for my future godly husband/ godly man that I'm looking for! I'm not married yet (would love to be!) but I will keep these in mind. These are all very true and very helpful. God used you to show me that I can start working on these things while I still live with my parents. Thank you for letting yourself be used by God and for sharing His word! Hallelujah! God bless you, your husband, and your little ones ❤
It’s such a breath of fresh air to hear a woman teach that actually LOVES and ENJOYS her husband! I feel the same, this advice really reminded me that I can do more to show him I think about him and love him. He works so hard for our family and I could be more appreciative
A dear friend of mine sent me this video because she knew I am struggling in my marriage. Trying to have a baby and be a godly wife and all that. I have learned that my heart decided me when I really answered all these questions honestly on what I am doing for my husband. I was doing none of the things you listed. Thank you for this video and for sharing this with the world. I am going to listen to this video once a week to remind myself of all the things I could be doing for my husband. Excited to hear what else you have to say in your other videos.
I stopped nagging about video games & started praying about it… and my husband has slowly stopped playing games and started woodworking! He is so talented! Thank God!!!
Milena, Ive been in couples therapy. Ive done all sorts. But you, this video, has made me use nap time to plan a date night for my husband. We are alone and without any family support so we havent been on a date in 2 years. I just found a game I know he will love. Ive ordered it to the house. The worst part: he's actually doing all the things youve mentioned here, for me. Its actually me that needs to change. I knew it but now I KNOW it. Thank you.
Thank you for this video Milena. Wow ! It’s been something I’ve had on my heart for a while and felt convicted in all 7 things you spoke about and really struggling to do die to my flesh. I am so stubborn at times and hard headed I cause more dramas and problems! We are 3 years married this year and I’m ready for a turning point and this helped me out a lot. Thank you sister xx ❤️
This. Wow. So good. Thank you! Your video was convicting in the best way. My husband and I had a true heart to heart on some things I realized were blocking us having a better marriage. I am believing for a better future because of this! Thank you!
The most realistic and actually acurate video on relationships I have ever seen- every other video feels like they’re saying: unless the man kisses your feet, treats you better than his own mother, able to read your mind and does absolutely everything for you then dump him!!! Toxic toxic lol this is how to better balance a relationship, after years together there must be a reason a person is there in the first place. Men like action not words. 🎉😅😊 THANK YOU!!!!!! #Godbless
I’m a Brazilian too! Married to an American and living in Northwest Ohio. I have been praying to tame my tongue. Husband loves playing videogames. He works 12 hours a day and he relaxes playing videogames but we have 2 kiddos under 3 😅 it’s a hobby that he loves since we met. So now I’m praying to not nag or be unhappy when he plays. Ask how it went and be supportive but also praying that God will let him also find joy and rest with being with us. I know being with the kiddos and keeping them entertained can be draining at times so I’m praying to be wise and understanding towards his needs.
I'm not a Christian but I get the idea of husband and wife roles, like ine breadwinner and one housekeeper. What I wonder about is, if the husband can make enough money working two days a week, does that mean that he can spend four days a week on hobbies and the woman still has to be "on" 24/7? This is the part of "equal but different" I don't understand.
The Lord is truly working through you Milena. I pray that He continues to strengthen your home. During hard days remember that there’s purpose in what God is doing through you. The enemy is not concerned with those that aren’t growing the Kingdom.
I love your channel so much! I just told my husband how I wish more women would teach on the role of the wife and the importance of her actions and role in the home! She truly has power and it’s not talked about enough. ♥️ there’s beauty in being what God has called you to be!🤍
Milena, thank you! These are things i need to implement so badly. After postpartum depression and sleep deprivation plus past hurts in our relationship , I'm finally seeing how much of an island i have been. My husband and i are going through a lot and I know these willl help him greatly. And get me on track to my goal of being a Proverbs 31/a biblical wife. Thank you for challenging us!
Love this video. Transformed my marriage. I’m Muslim but there are so many tips in here that carry over from the Bible to the Quran. Thanks for sharing sis ❤️🤗
I've been feeling so disconnected with my husband as he is in the academy to become a law enforcement officer. This video came at the exact right time, I've been praying for this exact thing 🙏🏻🫶🏻
WOW! i listened to this video a few times. Such a timely message. I know for me the video game topic is a hard one, hes not on it for several hours, but when he plays it i feel myself just getting irritated and sad. I dont like video games and he knows it, but when you quoted scripture, and how nothing i SAY can change him, that just woke me up. pray pray pray !
Milena I’ve been following your channel for years and it is such an example of the transformation and sanctification of the Holy Spirit to those who yield to Him! I’m so proud of you and I am soaking up all this biblical knowledge and advice. Your beauty is on another level and it’s the radiance of the Spirit! Keep it up girl!! Also, random, I would love to hear your thoughts on 1 Corinthians head coverings. I cover due to my scriptural study of it. I’d love to hear your thoughts!
God is speaking to me… I work with my husband and I always felt like I had to nag or our business wouldn’t work. I was like my husband’s reminder calendar and brain for a while… it would have been better to let our business fail. It actually kept our business stuck in a place that was bad for us and our family because it was running on my fumes and nagging! We would have moved onto what God actually wanted for us if I had prayed instead. Sharing in case this helps someone.
Some of your advice totally sounds like the book Proper care and feeding of a husband by Dr Laura. That book saved my marriage! Married at 18 and now been 20 years and everything you said was so spot on! Love this 🤍
Milena, I am muslim and I love watching your videos. I feel like in Islam we also have very similar ideas that you teach in your videos. Such as dressing modestly, being submissive to your husband, taming the tongue, only having your eyes for your husband. Not just relationship stuff, but also being a good mother, a good person. All of these things are so similar to the way of life we have been taught as muslims, and You explain so well! I would love more content like this. Thank you.
Thats sweet of you to acknowledge this. The only difference here is with Christ it is possible to do these things in a marriage such as the nagging. Jesus alone answers prayers.🙏🏽 Look up testimonials of ex muslims coming to Christ. ❤
Love your marriage videos! Seeing things in a different perspective now and I’m excited to see how it will effect my marriage. 4 years married and 4 kids together. Please keep the content coming!
Before I watched this video I was already implementing a couple without knowing. Let me tell you. Letting go of insecurities I have had from bad things I experienced as a kid has been like night and day. Putting in effort in the bedroom after 10 years +3 kids has changed things for me and I see him being much happier. I do not practice Christianity but this is inspiring to me and I always appreciate good advice. ❤
This is the best video. I needed this so much right now. Thank you so much. You are doing the work of Yahweh Yahshua. I love how you have grown in your walk with Yahshua/Jesus. It is so encouraging to other women.
My husband NEVER apologizes, but I had been practicing taming my tongue and really tuning in to the Holy Spirit. We had an argument and he had the perfect opportunity to apologize so instead of nagging I just prayed about it. As I was doing the dishes, he physically came to me, loved on me and apologized. I couldn’t help but laugh and smile because GOD!
we have to give men time for these things they need a loving place to embrace their faults and apologies as their egos are big they wont apologize if we are angry and looming! keep up the good work sis
Amazing!!!
Did you ever clearly communicate to him that his behavior of never apologizing hurts you?
I stopped nagging and praying instead and my relationship has gotten so much better and I find my husband apologizes instantly and I cant help but smile bc God is truly listening to our prayers. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Doesn't work for all of us unfortunately
You said several videos back to “love your husband like God loves him” and that has changed my marriage. I was constantly finding the faults in my spouse and now I constantly remind myself of how wonderfully he was made and all the qualities God loves him for. You are doing such good things and saving countless marriages with these videos. Thank you Milena!
First, I do want to say that I'm so happy that Milena is teaching biblical womanhood. There aren't many influencers out there that are this strong in their faith to spread truth in His word. I wanted to say to women who are going to attempt these suggestions Milena has put forth here: PLEASE manage your expectations of how your husband should respond to these attempts to get him to "drool" over you! You should not go into this with the expectation that you'll see immediate and positive reactions from him. In fact, if you do, you most likely will feel bitterness and resentment about your hubby if he doesn't respond by treating YOU as "expected". Please, if you start to incorporate these into your marriage, do so as an act of worshiping and obeying God. Don't expect anything in return...just obey the LORD.
Couldn’t agree with this more! I think it’s so common to be tempted to say “okay hello I’m doing all the right things where is the perfect response that I’m *owed*” and that is for sure not the heart posture God is after! Doing these things prayerfully and as an act of worship to God is such important advice!
I love this! So good!
All this is on point! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Amen
Here are 7 things to do:
1. Pray instead of nag
2. Be extremely kind and generous
3. Be sexually generous
4. Meet him at the door
5. Praise him for the little things
6. Do something you don't want to do that he's asked you to do
7. All him to be his own person
And he should that to me too❤
Thank you for the summary
Thank u!
Emphasis on #3
Thank you so much!
I’m 9 months pregnant trying to manage my household today clean take care of the kids and I was lashing out on my husband while he’s at work and I sat down to rest and came across your video. Immediately changed my mood, inspired me to change my tone to him and feel renewed in my day. Thank you - you made my day so much better today.
Would love a video with Jordan on what men should be doing in their marriages. The wife needs to be supported and feel loved as well.
I commented this as well and can’t find my comment now.
Me too! I feel there is a lot of content on the internet / church directed at women to be good wives, but so little directed towards men to be good husbands.
It takes two to build a beautiful and holy marriage, and I feel Jordan could a great example and inspiration
Yessss
I was just thinking the same thing! I am curious what his opinion is on how husbands should be treating their wives.
Here’s the thing. While yes, you are correct, and men’s role in marriage does also need to be talked about, that’s not the point of this video OR Milena’s channel. Milena’s channel is specifically geared to women. That’s her demographical focus.
I really don’t understand when women comment on videos like this with things like “okay but what about men”…that’s not the point. The point is to focus on what WE can do and give, without expecting something in return.
Meet him at the door with a smile, it is important for every human being to feel valued in his or her own home
As a husband I watched this thinking, “wow, I wish my wife did some of these things”. You definitely hit the nail on the head. But can you have your husband make a video like this for the husbands?
Hey bud as a wife who has been so many amazing marriages, the first step is to not compare your spouse. Its hard to do but we also dont know whats going on during the hard says.
Seen*** not been lol
I recommend reading the 5 love languages book. They have a free test online too. I had fun doing the test with my hubby.
You can make it a date! Go out to a restaurant and take turns doing the test (reading the questions out loud to her)
Then go over the results together! It’s a great conversation starter and leads to deep conversations that can benefit your marriage!
They have one up now 😊
Pray about it. Or I know my church had a couples Bible study for married people. I didn't attend, but I'm sure it was this kind of content. I'm still working on getting my husband to show up on Sundays.
The timing of this is perfect for me. Not looking to change my marriage but to start my marriage this way. We got married a little over a week ago now and I'm going to try to implement all these things. im so thankful to have Godly women like Milena to guide me and look up to as i start this new role as a wife 💗💗
Congratulations on your marriage girl! So happy for you. I'm in the same boat right now. We got married over a month ago too and its so amazing having someone to look up to and guide me to be the wife that the Lord wants. I pray the Lord helps you implement these tips in your marriage and that you have the most amazing, Godly marriage. Be blessed!💗😇
I am a nagging wife😔I always have to have the last word, I tear my house down with my words. When my husband and I fight it’s usually because I can’t tame my tounge, I defile him with my words. I know God speaks to me through you always that’s why I love your content so much. You are speaking to my struggles. You truly are a blessing! ❤ Ugh 😩 Lord help me !
What you’ve done here is looked at yourself and recognised your faults. Take that to the Lord and let Him (God) help you! God Bless you
Ask God to give you the desire to not say anything bad. Tell Him take away any bad feelings or words from you. I know He will do it for you. I'm not married but even I struggled with this.
May the Lord help you in Jesus name yes amen and amen
Sweet girl let me first say that I am so proud of you. Many people are unable to see their blind spots and what they do wrong. You are already on the right path to change bc of that. I would like to encourage you to set some goals for yourself. First try doing this. If things get out of hand, have the first goal be to have it end much faster. Reflect and come to your husband with apologies. Try keeping records of this somewhere. Either in a notebook or on the notes app in your phone. This is a great way to sort of check yourself. After doing this, move on to the next goal, where you see yourself reacting differently from the get go. (I’ve been married for 12.5 years.) I chose to do it this way, bc I was not expecting immediate perfection from myself and giving myself grace, in doing so, I felt I had a higher chance of true change. And guess what? It worked! I have now consistently for quite awhile, reacted differently straight away. In situations where I was upset. You can do this! I will be praying for you. 🤍
Have you read the book "Fascinating Womanhood " by Helen Andulin? My goodness! It changed my whole attitude and I constantly go back to it! I give it to all my friends who get married. 🩷
I’ve always loved your videos but goodness gracious!!! Your videos and insta content this year have been on a completely different level!!! They are so inspiring, beautiful, and FILLED with life and joy and scripture!!! I’m so thankful for you and your obedience to the Lord!!!
Agree 1000% it has changed my life so so much!!
Exactly what I felt!!! Keep seeking the Lord Milena and keep allowing Him to guide you!! I see such a change in you and trust, the Holy Spirit is working through you!! This was on point!! Blessings to you and your family always❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Agreed! I am loving it
Yes amen
AMEN to that!
I needed this. 8 weeks postpartum plus a 15 month old. Finances are tighter than ever. I exclusively breast feed so I do all the night feeds. I feel so much resentment. But this? THIS is important . My husband is important. Our marriage is important. I need to find the time to heal our marriage. This video is so beyond helpful. Thank you.
Sending a small prayer your way for lots of grace and rest in your current season! I am pregnant with a 13 month old and I definitely feel the strain and have super low days. I just keep coming back to trusting that this is a short but precious season and I pray that the challenge will temper my marriage. I feel like if we have faith through these seasons, we will reap the fruit when our children are grown and our marriages mature!
You should communicate that to him so you can heal your marriage together. It is not your responsibility alone.
Congrats on having two beautiful kids! I am sorry you are going through this! I do pray you get some rest and God will provide with what you need! I also encourage you to talk to your husband. He won’t know what’s going on in your head unless you talk to him. Your not alone in this! Blessings!
I just want to encourage you even if it's hard to put these things into practice during postpartum time. Don't give up hope! You'll have the energy eventually, and until then, just being grateful instead of communicating resentment will go a Long Way toward him loving on you more.
This was / is me!! Stay in the word! Never give up! God can do anything. My best help so far is Elisabeth Elliot podcast. Recent episode telling me that self-pity is satanic. I had a lot of self-pity fits over sleeplessness and my baby business. But I am fighting it well now with gratitude and a gentler spirit and simplified focus. And more trust in God to give me the rest I need. He knows what we need. Wow thanks for your comment! I didn't feel alone. (2under two)
Wow!! I’ve been married 22 years and I needed these reminders. What a shift in my husband as I immediately started implementing all
Of them!!!! Praise God for moving in miraculous ways this week in my life. All because I walked in obedience. I prayed. I praised. I was generous. I sat and watched baseball 😂. I let him be a person. Thank you for this challenge and for calling me up!!! Let God just get all the glory!!! Loved your reminder that we should expect the enemy’s attacks. So true-but I armored up!
4 kids and married for 11 years, today was so rough. With him in school for masters and a full time job, I’ve been feeling so angry lately. i fell into nagging and today started an argument with him. I was looking up workout videos, then this video appeared out of no where! All this to say, half way through this video I felt heavily convicted. I called him into the room and apologized, and everything is ok now. Thank you so much for every word!! Every word!!
Your puppy wasn’t distracting; he was happy and it made the video have a little bit of joy added to it ❤
The tips in a row in case you want to copy them somewhere! Loved this video, thanks!!
1. Pray instead of nag
2. Be extremely kind and extremely generous
3. Be sexually generous
4. Meet him at the door
5. Praise him for the little things
6. Do something you don't want to do that your husband has been asking you to do
7. Allow him to be his own person
I don't even have a husband but the title caught my attention 🤣💗 I'm enjoying my season of singleness & growing in my relationship with Jesus every day! Love your videos Milena! God bless you and your family 🥰
Love that!!
Girl same!! ❤
Same ❤😅
Single and spending this year doing The Bible Recap and REALLY getting to KNOW God, not just know ABOUT Him. But also reflecting on failed relationships, so this video is still so relevant, so that when I'm not intentionally single that I'll approach a relationship with the right mindset/actions.
Ahhhh your recent content is so similar to what the Lord has been putting on my heart for the past year. Making some of these changes in the past few months has changed our LIVES. My husband pulled me aside the other morning before he left for work and said, "If I had to wait 7 years to get this woman, it was worth the wait". !!!! Submit yourselves to God's word and watch your lives and marriages be totally transformed ladies. Thank you Milena!!
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How did you put that tiny heart emoji?
Haha when I'm writing a comment there is a little icon underneath where I'm typing. But I'm on a laptop so I dont know how helpful that is lol
@@bariettaperez
Awww this is so sweet. Made me tear up! I’m so glad things have changed for you & your spouse
Thank you Milena 🤍 God bless you and your family 😇🙏
Also..going along with praying instead of nagging (which...YES)...Something major that I didnt realize was even possible : commit to not arguing with your husband. If there is some kind of contention/disagreement, kindly share your opinion and thoughts, and let it go, give it to the Lord - joyfully! It's better to be at peace than to be right all of the time
YESSS so good
Really???
Amen 🙏
YES! Something I’m being sanctified in and doing this will show your husband you respect his leadership.
What if it's the other way round the husband being nagging
Every few months I come back to this video as a refresh and to pray over my relationship with my husband. Milena, ur content is wonderful and as a young wife with her first baby on the way, it has truly been life changing
Im not a wife but i totally agree with making home welcoming and warm. For example if my parents have been gone all day and i finally see their car pull up ill go meet them outside with a hug.
That is a quality we all can appreciate.
More of a silent viewer, I have been here since your saving yourself for marriage video. And I just want to say that it has been beautiful to watch you grow as a person and in your faith 🤍 you are literally glowing! And I see you are truly a Jesus loving woman! I have been loving your videos lately. I have implemented tips from your submission videos, and OMG I notice such a difference in my husband and our marriage. So thank you for sharing and helping me feel convicted and turn to the word of God more. 6 years of marriage and we are better then ever 😌
Currently walking through a very rough chapter in our marriage, and I have to say, when we stop making excuses and do what the Bible says, God is so faithful to let us see the fruit. So much has changed in just a few short months, and it hasn’t all been gritting my teeth and bearing. I’ve found the strength in the middle of the storm when I choose to trust God instead of getting bitter. So good Milena! Thank you for sharing truth!
Girly pop
The hair was hairing!!!
The truth was truthing!!!
And the vibes were vibing!!!!
Ooh yes the enemy wants so badly to get us into bed together before marriage and then the enemy wants so badly to get us out of the bed after marriage!!! Spiritual warfare is so REAL!! Preach sis!!
You need Jesus Christ first.
Yes! Dude, be praying for your engaged friends to resist temptation. I've had 3 friends get engaged in the last few weeks and I've really been trying to pray for them. The temptation rises LIKE CRAZY as soon as you get engaged.
@@floethiopiawit3921 I'm confused by your comment
This has happened to us. My husband and I have been married 5.5 years and anytime he tries to
Touch me I cringe. Before marriage I was all over him. I hate it.
Ever since watching Bindi Marc, I have seen a MAJOR shift in my marriage. We have been married 5 years, 3 children under the age of 5. Let me tell you the first few years were rough, but even with a new little baby, we are now SO much happier and more in love than ever because I started making these changes. Yas! Also, I returned home from the thrift store to this video. I went to the store after seeing your videos about modesty and really wanting to break up with my skin tight jeans. I prayed before I went in that I would find everything I need with the $40 I had...and I found A TREASURE TROVE. Modest-dressy-dress-winter here I come!
Bindi Marc has also been a huge encouragement to me! Any wife would benefit from her videos. Wisdom from the Holy Spirit truly flows from her. Through her encouragement and example, the Lord has taken me from an attitude of, "wow, dresses everyday? Someone's trying hard" to genuinely being convicted of the status of my heart concerning the way I dress myself.
Love this comment, so cool that God cares so much that He even makes sure you find all you need within budget.. prayer changes everything.. wishing you a wonderful modest fall and winter😊
I love this! Modesty and thrifting is right up my alley. Sounds like a super productive shopping spree!
Yes loooove Bindi ❤
Love this. It's so nice to see that someone is relaying this information in a biblical way
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Hey! I’ve been meaning to find a Christian who could answer this. Does lingerie come from society’s standards and not the lord? Is it something that makes sex more like objectifying a woman vs just loving her body without “dressing” it up? I wonder how many Christian couples use lingerie or not? Do you think lingerie could be coming from the devil, causing men to be more lustful over women in general? Hope this makes sense, it’s hard to put in words and would be easier to talk a lot in person lol
I guess to add, is lingerie really encouraged because is it literally invented by man, by men, in their interest. Not from God and his vision for sex 😅 hope that helps clarify this perspective.
@@amandav9753 I have been thinking about the same thing. Lingerie definately makes men more lustful, I think we can all agree on that. But when it is husband and wife? The most important thing about christian s3x is that it happens within a marriage and ends with the possibility of life. if lingerie is at play should not make any difference, unless it is used to manipulate the man to sin.
@amandav9753 I've never thought about this like that before.. My husband has said a bazillion times that lingerie does nothing for him because he just wants plain Jane me. That hasn't stopped me from wearing it because I personally enjoy it... but now I'm starting to think otherwise. This makes a lot of sense, and I could see how this could potentially be bad for some men/women especially considering if they have a sexually immoral past with porn etc etc. I don't think it's necessarily a sin, but to some it might be... something to ponder! You should write that as a comment not a reply so others can see it more easily. I think it could really help someone. Eye opening for me, and I'll be praying about that
I’m not married, but I do live with my boyfriend and we have a baby girl together we’re both 22. And we wish we did things differently, but we haven’t. So here we are. I am still going to do these things for him because I nag all the time, constantly am complaining, we’ve had severe traumas from mentally ill parents with drug addictions. We are doing so great and I really do need to be easier on him. Sometimes I act like a complete brat. He is trying his very best and I want our home to be fruitful and pure for our daughter so that we can encourage her to live a lifestyle of god. Even though we may not have started our family biblically, we want our life to be biblical and I think practicing these things silently without boasting, will lead him to do the same as he is a sweet and pure soul who loves the lord.
Thank you for this video it really really encouraged me. Tame the tongue. What a great phrase. And boy do I need to practice that one. Lol
Sounds like you guys need to go to therapy… I hope it all get better between you two. Sounds like you guys are going through a difficult time.
I am not a Christian. I am also not a follower of the Bible. Since watching your videos these last few months it has opened my eyes. Your new age Christianity just makes sense to me…. It’s honestly just common sense. Who doesn’t want a HAPPY PEACFUL marriage & home?!!! Who the heck doesn’t want their husband obsessed with them?!!! I come from a very very broken family… a HOSTILE narcissistic mother who hated men. I have come a long way in building the home and marriage that I want and that I’ve always dreamed of. And you are a huge part in helping me wake up and better my marriage. I thank you so much ❤❤❤
Do you mind me asking what you mean by “new age Christianity?”
Accept Jesus as your lord and a savior because he can do so much more than just fix a marriage. Marriage is actually a symbol for how the us( the church) and him will be in heaven. You gain common sense through the word of God.
I’m also curious why you said “new age Christianity” 🤭
New age and Christianity are opposite camps bro
I definitely do not want ANYONE obsessed with me, including my husband.
My husband and I were talking about how we felt like our marriage was getting boring or we were just getting used to each other. And I was very sad and he told me that God knew what he was doing and we needed to change things up. And than this morning I came across this video and when I tell y’all I cried bc I knew God was speaking to me through this! God is so good and thank you for sharing this. I’ve always loved your videos and. I pray God keeps using you. God bless! ❤
God’s timing is always right at the right time
This is so true. Every year gets MORE intimate. 12.5 years and 5 babies later. YESSSS such a deeper and more beautiful love.
YES GIRL!!! Thankfully I have a church that encourages me to strengthen my faith. Part of the process is praying FIRST before doing anything. I learned very quickly that praying for my husband and allowing the Holy Spirit to move creates such peace in our marriage!!! I'm no longer tired from correcting him because it wasn't my place to do that anyway. The prayers weren't always answered right away but I still had comfort knowing I surrendered the situation to God. I agree with your other points too but this one stood out to me the most!
I just got married 4 months ago and this is RICH!! So so good! Thank you! And might I add that you are GLOWING! The joy of the Lord is radiating through you! 🙌🏽❤️
I’m a Christian but I disagree with some things… I don’t think you should just pray. Like can’t you pray but also communicate? Just praying alone when he’s right there to communicate with seems a bit passive. Also I don’t think it should considered sinful to not have sex with your husband if your aren’t in the mood, why shouldn’t he be able to respect your mood? Like if you’re sex life is not compatible that’s obviously something that should be worked on but if you just aren’t in the mood, you shouldn’t be forced to do anything you don’t want to and he should respect that
Yes you can, but sometimes we just overly nag when it’s unnecessary and we really just need to pray and calm down. If you don’t want to have sex then you shouldn’t but if you only want to a little and he really wants to you should but obviously it’s your choice and it’s ok not to
I stumbled across this video and was intrigued. I don’t normally watch content like this, I’ve been married 33 years with all the ups and downs a marriage goes through. If you’re a young woman watching this, this is good advice! Husbands can be jerks, but so can you. And trust me when you look back on your marriage after 33 years you’re going to see you were in the wrong a lot of the time. And that’s ok. We’re human. I watched the same sort of things when I was young, trying to figure men out. They’re pretty simple creatures. A nice home, a warm meal, respect and a little fun in the bedroom and they’re happy. Don’t over complicate it 😊
Thanks for your comment. I’m getting married in a few weeks and am soaking in all I can. Glad I found Milenas channel
Hiii I’m really excited to hear more on this! I had children before marriage and the spiritual difference since getting married 6 months ago has completely shifted our home and family! When walking in Gods will it’s so much more fruitful and I’m so eager to learn how to be a biblical wife and mother, your transition lead the Holy Spirit to conflict me in the best way and that’s also effecting my husband and children, it can be hard be so beautiful❤️ God Bless you ❤
As a MUSLIM. I agree and LOVED IT❤
Have a look at @richardlorenzojr he studied Islam and has a great testimony
As someone who did not wait till marriage, I can testify that intimacy with my husband before marriage vs after marriage is mind blowing. Even though I am not proud of the things I have done God used this to show me why sex in a marriage is beautiful and healthy! Took me a while to get there but I am glad I did and that I dont ever have to go back!
When I tell you that this video just made me understand SO MUCH about why my husband is frustrated with me lately. The hard questions I asked myself made me realize that I need to step up and make a change because wow he does way more for me than I have ever realized. Thank you so much for this video ❤
I really appreciated this. From my own experience, a woman has to love who God made her to be, to become this kind of a woman from the inside out. ❤
So convicting! I love how you give us advice straight from scripture and real life examples. God is using you so well!
I don’t need to come back in one week because these are things that over the course of the last year have drastically changed my marriage. So Ill just say everything you spoke to are things that ive implemented and while I’m not perfect and always consistent, when I am showing up in these ways, it has made a world of difference! Keep sharing these tips Milena…there are many women who have never heard these ideas or need refreshers (like me!)❤ . Praying for all the women looking to see a change in their household, you can do it!
These videos are so practically helpful which I appreciate SO MUCH!!❤❤❤
I am a young wife of three years and have read what scriptures say but it can be challenging to take and understand how to apply them to everyday life!
God bless you and your family!!
I’m sure making these videos puts a target on your back for the enemy, but I pray a shield over you!!❤
I'm a 73 year old widow. My husband died 13 years ago. I wish I would have practiced these things. I do remember times when he was watching something on TV (usually violent murder mysteries) and I would leave the room and want to complain. The Lord had me do as you said and pray instead of nag. God reminded me that I was not my husband's Holy Spirit.
I pray often for marriages and families, knowing the enemy hates God's order and design.
God bless you all❣
“Kids thrown at you” is such a horrible phrase I wish people would stop saying. These are HIS children.
I totally understand what you mean. We disrespect & put down our kids too often by saying things like that.
But I do know what she means. It’s more our attitude, I think, than physically dumping our kiddos on our husbands. There have been days where I am so at the end of myself and frustrated and overwhelmed by my two sweet kids and their needs that I just want to leave them with him as soon as he gets home, and tell him everything they’ve done that I’m frustrated about and go be by myself for a while. That’s what I think of when I hear “kids thrown at him as soon as he walks in the door” 💁🏼♀️❤️
Needed these beautiful biblical reminders sister! Thank you so much for being obedient and sharing. It’s so easy to take our husbands for granted or focus on the negative and let resentment build. Dying to the flesh and loving them and thinking of them before ourselves isn’t natural to us but not impossible with the holy spiritual living and working through us! 🙏🏼
The Prayers of Women and Wives influence this world MORE than you can believe.
I’ve been praying for myself and I see a difference on my entire campus🥰
I loved this video so much!!❤
For a bit of background, I've had some chaotic years, dealing with infertility, job loss, church loss, PTSD and finaly a car accident 3 months ago. I have not been an amazing wife, but my husband was very supportive, and never did me any reproches.
But I've been getting a lot better in these couple weeks, finaly got in therapy, and I finaly start to feel alive again!
I've really been having on my heart to keep my home better, be the real help of my husband that I want to be.
And in only the last couple of weeks, wow! It changed things.
I am implementing your advices to my daily life and it's amazing the difference it makes to only greet my husband at the door, or to pick him up at works so that he can avoid the bus 🥰
Thank you so much, it's so inspiring🥰
wow! God’s timing is so perfect!!! I needed this video so badly!! Thank you!
wow praise the Lord 🥺
I used to watch you years ago and then when you first had your baby. It's good to see y'all this good and you embracing these truths as y'all get older n wiser. You are absolutely spot on. Bless you two!!!
My husband was just passing through the kitchen and noticed that I was watching your video and said " I'm so glad to see that Milena is doing great! She seems to have found her balance and peace in the family." I hope you'll take it the right way. I LOVE the new you🎉
It is so true, it does start with us women. Once we change for the better our men are able to open up and do the same.
I think the most important thing I've learned since doing things for my man ie.. meeting him at the door, making sure he has dinner and lunches made for work, coffee ready to go in the morning, ect. It really makes you love him more. I found the more things I did for him the more I admired and loved him.
We really need to take good care of our men, they are so sweet and special.
Meeting my husband at the door fill a happiness in both me and my husband. I be waiting for my best friend (husband) at the door because I miss his presence in the home and it makes my husband feel wanted and I feel like it heals his inner childhood trauma.
I like that you know WHY you're meeting him at the door and what it does for your husband and marriage specifically. Because it may not be something that every marriage or husband sees as beneficial for this season. Years ago the Holy Spirit said, Girl why are you not opening that door when you hear him there with the key! LOL I listened, and my husband has appreciated those moments. I'm talking late at night because he's a musician and often travels.
Thank you so much.
I think one of the things that brings me back down to earth when I get wrapped up in his flaws is this: he’s not super human. He’s just me, but a man. He’s someone’s son. My son will be someone’s husband. These are flawed people. I’m not perfect either. So why do I keep holding him to this weird high standard.
You once said you wanted to show your husband as much grace and he shows you. That was so powerful and is so true. Thank you for this content!
We’ve been married for 35 years. This is good advice. It took me awhile to learn these things on my own through trial and error. I am here since told me, I am in much nicer person than I was in earlier years of marriage. I spent so much time nagging and trying to be his mother versus his wife. It’s sad to think of all these years gone by where things could’ve been better but, we have loved each other through it, and God has blessed us. Now in our older years, we really do have a pleasant loving marriage. Thank you God.
Totally agree we should not nag. BUT I am also not my husband’s mother. As a husband and wife we take care of the household together and if one of us are ”slacking” and expecting the other one to do all of the stuff there MUST allow a room and space to have a converstion about it!! Yes, we can pray and let the Holt spirit work! But we are also adults that need to take responsibility over our home and family etc- so communication is key, nagging is not.
I needed to hear that someone else shared this feeling. Thank you.
Exactly. I definitely believe in praying and biting my tongue but communication is also important and there is nothing wrong with it. God can reveal things to your husband through so many ways and you communicating could be one of them! Just like how God can heal people just through prayer or through a doctor.
Wheww 🫢 I needed to hear this.. It popped up on my timeline at the perfect , thank you Lord and thank you Milena for this message ❤️
I'm not a religious person, but this is great advice. I know people get upset about "how a wife should act" type topics, but it's also "treating people the way you want to be treated". Do nice things for him and he will do nice things for you. My husband and I have been working on this, and it's slowly getting better ❤
Hi, just to let you know Jesus hated religion, it's the religious people that killed him. It's all about relationships! When you believe in Him and you are filled with the spirit of God you can literally feel his presence and hear his voice ! ❤❤❤
So grateful for the biblical, spiritually uplifting and convicting content God has been guiding you to create and for the ways it has opened my eyes and heart to different ways to serve my husband, children, home and God.
Thank you ❤️
I’ve been praying for my husband so long and finally seeing crazy changes and it’s so true all you can do is pray and not nag, let god deal with them. He doesn’t even noticed he’s changed haha!
Really ???
@@sandraarita217 yes it’s so amazing! God will do things when it’s the right time!
Girl!!!! You are over here driving me crazy!!!!……I used to preach this……we’ve been married for 25 yrs now, thank you for the reminder 🙏🏽😭 ~Jeremy’s wife
This is so refreshing!!! I love that you're contradicting the notion that everything goes downhill the longer you're married. It IS possible to only get closer as a couple!
Instant sub. My husband and I just (3 days ago) celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary. We love each other very much, but I have to admit that I've never felt more distant. We aren't on the verge of divorce by any means as neither one of us believe that should ever be the answer except in the case of infidelity, but I think we both could also agree there are things we could do to make our marriage more full again. I'll have to give these a shot!
Girl, i was looking for an female gym Partner, now the lord gave me your bible study Videos to watch during cardio! Thank you ❣️😍
Praying with your spouse is the most beautiful thing you can do together.
I’m so glad I learned #1 as a single woman it was one of those things I heard about and said that’s the kind of wife I want to be. Now that I’m married, I’m just so so thankful that I learned and practice that. I’m convinced it’s why there isn’t a lot of strife in my marriage. God is so so faithful. He cares about even the smallest of things. It’s also so fun to see such specific prayers answered.
I feel like this video was put before me today on purpose. Thank you!
Wowww I haven’t watched one of your videos for so long but love the growth walking with Christ! This video is so encouraging and powerful!!! Love the content!! Keep speaking wisdom and truth sis! ♥️
Love this. I wanted to say my husband picks out all my lingerie and I absolutely love everything he picks out so asking your husband to pick something is fun especially if you're in the store together which we always are. He has really good taste. I love the bible verse that says Adam "knew" his wife. I'm proud to say my husband knows me intimately in bed and I love the sacred love life we have ❤ I trust him with everything he wants to do. We're 36 and our love life has definitely spiced UP the longer we've been together. This week I'm going to try to build up my house more for Him (God) and him (my husband) ❤
Thank you Milena! I just wanted to ask for forgiveness. A long time ago I judged you for very stupid reasons. Mainly because I was jealous of what you have (a husband and kids) while I don't! I wasn't so much of a follower of Yeshua at the time but now I am. God is teaching me how to become a godly woman and a godly wife for my future godly husband/ godly man that I'm looking for! I'm not married yet (would love to be!) but I will keep these in mind. These are all very true and very helpful. God used you to show me that I can start working on these things while I still live with my parents. Thank you for letting yourself be used by God and for sharing His word! Hallelujah! God bless you, your husband, and your little ones ❤
It’s such a breath of fresh air to hear a woman teach that actually LOVES and ENJOYS her husband! I feel the same, this advice really reminded me that I can do more to show him I think about him and love him. He works so hard for our family and I could be more appreciative
A dear friend of mine sent me this video because she knew I am struggling in my marriage. Trying to have a baby and be a godly wife and all that. I have learned that my heart decided me when I really answered all these questions honestly on what I am doing for my husband. I was doing none of the things you listed. Thank you for this video and for sharing this with the world. I am going to listen to this video once a week to remind myself of all the things I could be doing for my husband. Excited to hear what else you have to say in your other videos.
I stopped nagging about video games & started praying about it… and my husband has slowly stopped playing games and started woodworking! He is so talented! Thank God!!!
Milena, Ive been in couples therapy. Ive done all sorts. But you, this video, has made me use nap time to plan a date night for my husband. We are alone and without any family support so we havent been on a date in 2 years. I just found a game I know he will love. Ive ordered it to the house. The worst part: he's actually doing all the things youve mentioned here, for me. Its actually me that needs to change. I knew it but now I KNOW it. Thank you.
Thank you for this video Milena. Wow !
It’s been something I’ve had on my heart for a while and felt convicted in all 7 things you spoke about and really struggling to do die to my flesh.
I am so stubborn at times and hard headed I cause more dramas and problems! We are 3 years married this year and I’m ready for a turning point and this helped me out a lot. Thank you sister xx ❤️
hey milena, i am a muslim and i love your content. i am always excited about the content you come up, especially related to submission. love you!!
Thank you Milena for being obedient to The Lord and making this video!
This. Wow. So good. Thank you! Your video was convicting in the best way. My husband and I had a true heart to heart on some things I realized were blocking us having a better marriage. I am believing for a better future because of this! Thank you!
The most realistic and actually acurate video on relationships I have ever seen- every other video feels like they’re saying: unless the man kisses your feet, treats you better than his own mother, able to read your mind and does absolutely everything for you then dump him!!! Toxic toxic lol this is how to better balance a relationship, after years together there must be a reason a person is there in the first place. Men like action not words. 🎉😅😊 THANK YOU!!!!!! #Godbless
I’m a Brazilian too! Married to an American and living in Northwest Ohio. I have been praying to tame my tongue. Husband loves playing videogames. He works 12 hours a day and he relaxes playing videogames but we have 2 kiddos under 3 😅 it’s a hobby that he loves since we met. So now I’m praying to not nag or be unhappy when he plays. Ask how it went and be supportive but also praying that God will let him also find joy and rest with being with us. I know being with the kiddos and keeping them entertained can be draining at times so I’m praying to be wise and understanding towards his needs.
I'm not a Christian but I get the idea of husband and wife roles, like ine breadwinner and one housekeeper. What I wonder about is, if the husband can make enough money working two days a week, does that mean that he can spend four days a week on hobbies and the woman still has to be "on" 24/7? This is the part of "equal but different" I don't understand.
The Lord is truly working through you Milena. I pray that He continues to strengthen your home. During hard days remember that there’s purpose in what God is doing through you. The enemy is not concerned with those that aren’t growing the Kingdom.
I love your channel so much! I just told my husband how I wish more women would teach on the role of the wife and the importance of her actions and role in the home! She truly has power and it’s not talked about enough. ♥️ there’s beauty in being what God has called you to be!🤍
Milena, thank you! These are things i need to implement so badly. After postpartum depression and sleep deprivation plus past hurts in our relationship , I'm finally seeing how much of an island i have been. My husband and i are going through a lot and I know these willl help him greatly. And get me on track to my goal of being a Proverbs 31/a biblical wife. Thank you for challenging us!
you will get through it sister! i promise, turn into him and pray!
Love this video. Transformed my marriage. I’m Muslim but there are so many tips in here that carry over from the Bible to the Quran. Thanks for sharing sis ❤️🤗
I've been feeling so disconnected with my husband as he is in the academy to become a law enforcement officer. This video came at the exact right time, I've been praying for this exact thing 🙏🏻🫶🏻
WOW! i listened to this video a few times. Such a timely message. I know for me the video game topic is a hard one, hes not on it for several hours, but when he plays it i feel myself just getting irritated and sad. I dont like video games and he knows it, but when you quoted scripture, and how nothing i SAY can change him, that just woke me up. pray pray pray !
I love this video! This is so fun and true. Thanks for the encouragement.
Milena I’ve been following your channel for years and it is such an example of the transformation and sanctification of the Holy Spirit to those who yield to Him! I’m so proud of you and I am soaking up all this biblical knowledge and advice. Your beauty is on another level and it’s the radiance of the Spirit! Keep it up girl!! Also, random, I would love to hear your thoughts on 1 Corinthians head coverings. I cover due to my scriptural study of it. I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Just wanted to share how beautiful I found your comment. I’ve got tears in my eyes. Have a blessed day.
Getting married in 3 days, this really helps me study what my role will be as a wive. Thank you ❤❤
LOOVED THIS. Every now and then, I find myself slacking and this just whipped me back into shape. Thank you, Big sis🥹 I’m living for your videos.💛💛💛💛
This video is PERFECT for me as I prepare to become a wife in 5 months! I’m so thankful for these videos you make and sharing your wisdom! 🥰
It’s the giving him freedom to be himself ~ that part hit
God is speaking to me… I work with my husband and I always felt like I had to nag or our business wouldn’t work. I was like my husband’s reminder calendar and brain for a while… it would have been better to let our business fail. It actually kept our business stuck in a place that was bad for us and our family because it was running on my fumes and nagging! We would have moved onto what God actually wanted for us if I had prayed instead. Sharing in case this helps someone.
I've got to say, that I love each and every video you upload!! each of them is filled with so much wisdom
Some of your advice totally sounds like the book Proper care and feeding of a husband by Dr Laura. That book saved my marriage! Married at 18 and now been 20 years and everything you said was so spot on! Love this 🤍
Milena, I am muslim and I love watching your videos. I feel like in Islam we also have very similar ideas that you teach in your videos. Such as dressing modestly, being submissive to your husband, taming the tongue, only having your eyes for your husband. Not just relationship stuff, but also being a good mother, a good person. All of these things are so similar to the way of life we have been taught as muslims, and You explain so well! I would love more content like this. Thank you.
same!! i love that she talks about these topics
Hello. What is the difference between Muslim and Christians? Genuinely curious.
I’m Muslim too and this totally resonated with me.
Me too 😊
Thats sweet of you to acknowledge this. The only difference here is with Christ it is possible to do these things in a marriage such as the nagging. Jesus alone answers prayers.🙏🏽 Look up testimonials of ex muslims coming to Christ. ❤
I love the video but the sadness in the dog when you take away the bone & 14.36 minutes got me 🥹 bless him
I know!! Haha poor thing I couldn’t stop thinking about it 😂
Love your marriage videos! Seeing things in a different perspective now and I’m excited to see how it will effect my marriage. 4 years married and 4 kids together. Please keep the content coming!
Before I watched this video I was already implementing a couple without knowing. Let me tell you. Letting go of insecurities I have had from bad things I experienced as a kid has been like night and day. Putting in effort in the bedroom after 10 years +3 kids has changed things for me and I see him being much happier. I do not practice Christianity but this is inspiring to me and I always appreciate good advice. ❤
This is the best video. I needed this so much right now. Thank you so much. You are doing the work of Yahweh Yahshua. I love how you have grown in your walk with Yahshua/Jesus. It is so encouraging to other women.