Burn Scars & Relationships: Accepting Love

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  • Опубликовано: 21 авг 2024
  • 26 year old Labonya suffered burns all over her body and face after an accident with an oil lamp as a child. Severely bullied at school, she has never truly accepted what happened to her. Her social anxiety leaves her in constant fear of people staring and rejecting her - to the point where it is destroying her relationship with her boyfriend.
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Комментарии • 68

  • @serafinaobi
    @serafinaobi 4 года назад +43

    the whole "am i taking away an opportunity for him" thing is relatable. I'm also a burn survivor only its on my legs so i can hide it, but its still widespread and deep enough to cause people to question me. I currently really like this guy and its the first guy i've ever taken seriously and im terrified that he might not like me once he finds out. and its easy to say "well if he doesn't like you for you f*** it" but i just feel like this one event took away an opportunity to shine. sucks soooo bad.

    • @heatherchando5873
      @heatherchando5873 2 года назад +4

      I have scars and I feel so insecure. I know how you feel. But you have to try and live your life. I mean that is what you were put on this earth to do. Is live life no matter the circumstances.

    • @divineserendipity1196
      @divineserendipity1196 2 года назад +4

      To me is the same, I can hide my scars, and I keep sabotaging relationships because I still can believe would love me with my scars...I am working on myself to heal that

    • @gsevyn7566
      @gsevyn7566 6 месяцев назад

      I pray you all find peace and love for yourselves, I can't imagine the way a woman must feel but I can relate. I can't hide my scars from my hands up my arms, to my neck, face, and head. My point is don't hide them embrace them, you are all strong and beautiful in more ways then skin deep in sure

  • @laydeeTeaAurora
    @laydeeTeaAurora 6 лет назад +62

    I'm a burn survivor as well. It's hard sometimes especially trying to explain what happened

    • @psyii8055
      @psyii8055 5 лет назад +9

      You get asked by strangers a lot eh? Honestly, true beauty is Personality and who a person is on the inside, not what we look like to others. Im a Survivor of years of physical, mental and emotional abuse and I have to wear hoodie or long sleeves in summer heat even. While I was going thru all this crap, I had a potatoes of noodles Arc with a burner while I was making dinner after a long day. It exploded in my face, so hot that the only thing holding the skin on was my eyebrows and nose and lips. I have scars from it, yes, but the plastic surgeon said I was one of the "lucky ones".. That kinda upset me as no burn or abused victim is lucky, we just live and survive, tho unscarred gawking people make that rather hard in public.
      What helped me to recover mostly (still have scars, just not as much scar tissue that they show so much unless I tan or burn or get really cold like in winter) was Vitamin E oil and Coconut Butter twice daily- especially before bed. Coconut Butter first, then mix in the Vitamin E oil. Took a year for me but most my scars that are visible daily, are minimal niw.
      But I won't go swimming still to this day.
      Best of luck to you and all other Survivors on your Journey and never let society hold you back! Its confused anyways 😄✌

    • @lostgirl9642
      @lostgirl9642 5 лет назад +5

      Sometimes is too difficult to tell the others what u really feel

    • @amitashrestha4608
      @amitashrestha4608 4 года назад +1

      Yess it is too dificult i am also burn survival

    • @Hady878
      @Hady878 4 года назад +1

      Me too ur nt alone

    • @DanielW607
      @DanielW607 4 года назад +1

      What happened to you?

  • @rajana5860
    @rajana5860 5 месяцев назад

    Its hard to face people...😢

  • @user-bz9sh4cw7m
    @user-bz9sh4cw7m 20 дней назад

    Iam one of the burn survivors too I had scars on my chin my arms my chest that’s really horrible I hate my self

  • @red_locarno
    @red_locarno 6 лет назад +116

    Irish gal keeping it really real

  • @erysreveille8691
    @erysreveille8691 6 лет назад +107

    They're all beautiful

    • @SpeakDahTruth
      @SpeakDahTruth 6 лет назад +1

      Kawaii Sweet no they are not 😂😂

    • @summer_the_rae
      @summer_the_rae 6 лет назад +2

      SpeakDahTruth
      wow no need to be rude

    • @psyii8055
      @psyii8055 5 лет назад +1

      @@SpeakDahTruth By whose standards exactly? Oh. Yours... Well I say they are all beautiful and not rude or cruel, nor do they judge based on what another looks like, sadly you do. The Universe is an interesting thing.
      Ya know.. It could happen to you, or you could fall in love with someone that deals with it daily. Hence why the Universe is quite interesting!

    • @hoodmonkey5535
      @hoodmonkey5535 3 года назад

      @@psyii8055 I know this is 2 years old But by my standards too they all look like burnt weasels

    • @magga5369
      @magga5369 2 года назад +1

      They are all beautiful, scars and all.
      The man that I'm interested in was involved in an accident where he got 95% burns and let me tell you, I'm hella attracted to him! Remember, every scar tells a unique story.

  • @kingkompany1028
    @kingkompany1028 6 лет назад +39

    Wow all of them are just a inspiration 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @Linda-bj3bb
    @Linda-bj3bb 6 лет назад +20

    No way I can't believe you undermining her feels of rejection. I understand why she is pushing it away. I have done that for 51 years of my life because of my burn scars.

  • @chrichico
    @chrichico 4 года назад +16

    I don’t agree with the other lady. Sometimes the emotional and psychological scars are much worse for others to overcome.

  • @by3_jud3
    @by3_jud3 6 лет назад +30

    I went to a conference last year for teenage cancer survivors and Catrin (the lady in the yellow jumper) was telling her story on one of the days, it was really interesting and inspirational!

  • @keepingupwithjulee703
    @keepingupwithjulee703 6 лет назад +10

    Each in one of them is so beautiful they shouldn’t think bad of themselves ❤️🤟🏽May god bless them

    • @Linda-bj3bb
      @Linda-bj3bb 6 лет назад

      Keeping up with Julee F##k you just don't understand.

  • @glitterbea
    @glitterbea 6 лет назад +7

    Everyone in this video is absolutely beautiful. Love with your HEART not your EYES. 💖

  • @abbyabby4417
    @abbyabby4417 6 лет назад +18

    For my opinion perfection doesn’t exist every one of us are unique in our own ways. Just because we bleed and breath the same doesn’t mean we have to be like everybody else. We all have different personalities different styles and different mind. That’s what makes us incredible human beings.

  • @lostgirl9642
    @lostgirl9642 5 лет назад +12

    I wish i accept my burn scar one day , and find someone that i can tell him my secret instead of pushing everyone away

    • @MrNixtt
      @MrNixtt 4 года назад +3

      Same here. I was 1,5 years old when fire touched my body. Since then I had 74 surgeries. But the trauma from the pain, even if my mind deleted the incident is there. I sure never will find someone but it's okay. I wish you the best. Keep smiling

    • @lostgirl9642
      @lostgirl9642 4 года назад

      @@MrNixtt thank you for your respond , hope the best for you too, and hope to all to overcome this mentally and physically 😊

  • @nimrahsaeed1211
    @nimrahsaeed1211 6 лет назад +46

    Makes you thankful for what you have

  • @Inmywordz
    @Inmywordz 6 лет назад +17

    Wish someone would propose to me, it’s hard enough to find someone decent. Accept the proposal and all the love that comes with it. Hope we all find a person who can love us without conditions ❤️

  • @navyameka6709
    @navyameka6709 6 лет назад +10

    Omg wtf they’re acc so pretty 😍❤️

  • @kingharlinhenderson6445
    @kingharlinhenderson6445 5 лет назад +2

    she's beautiful!!!

  • @Golfgtiguy
    @Golfgtiguy 6 лет назад +1

    I watched this programme last night .Very moving . I hope these people have a wonderful life despite their scares . Joy and happiness to them all .

  • @tamousha
    @tamousha 4 года назад +3

    A prime example of why not accepting yourself can ruin your life. It does not have to do with looks at all actually. Sad. I can completely relate.

  • @kjn-s2336
    @kjn-s2336 5 лет назад +2

    You are both so beautiful.

  • @gsevyn7566
    @gsevyn7566 6 месяцев назад

    Your scars tell a story, don't let them define you. Your all beautiful, i know it's hard but stay beautiful inside and out will shine out.i pray for you all. i'm also a survivor , SINCE the age of 18 ,43% of my body has 3rd degree burn scars, face, arms, and hands got the worse, 3 digits were removed from my hands. I'm stared at, almost never looked at by women. I've learned to just be me, they are missing out, on a good person

  • @lildramatic4760
    @lildramatic4760 6 лет назад +1

    i have a very visible disability that affects how i look-people often think i was burned-and i identify with this so much.

  • @achromatic0229
    @achromatic0229 Год назад +1

    There's so many guys out there that want you. Physical features really just the icing on the cake but the cake really is the person not physical features. Physical features fade no matter what and no one looks fabulous forever but you can always be a good person

  • @mariaangelicavillarraga2334
    @mariaangelicavillarraga2334 6 лет назад +28

    I want to see the full episode😟😟

  • @user-vf8ti4dq3d
    @user-vf8ti4dq3d 3 года назад

    Love

  • @ThornyRoseV
    @ThornyRoseV 2 года назад +3

    That woman in white. I was quite shocked that she was undermining how the other woman felt. Like wtf. You both kbow that how she feels is like 90% based on experience and 10% her own insecurities. People are generally shit when it comes to people who are different so her assuming it is just a fact.

  • @tamara7301
    @tamara7301 3 года назад +1

    Wow that irish girl is an inspiration

  • @jeffersongombio9922
    @jeffersongombio9922 Год назад

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @joammami520
    @joammami520 6 лет назад +22

    1:51 when an attractive person complains about something insignificant

    • @teesperaredespierta
      @teesperaredespierta 5 лет назад +2

      Thank you for that. It's so hard sometimes you just hope ppl dont even look at you.

  • @billestep6804
    @billestep6804 3 месяца назад

    It only works for scarred woman If it was a guy he’d have to accept being alone the rest of his life. Guys accept women but the girl wouldn’t accept the guy because she needs someone she can show off to her family and friends. Double standards.

  • @Buttepossu
    @Buttepossu 6 лет назад +7

    So... Basically same sort of issues everyone and their pet has. The only difference is for some you cannot see the scars, still they affect just the same. Inside or outside, doesn't matter.

  • @slaydimensionz5210
    @slaydimensionz5210 4 года назад +1

    Are those 3rd degree burn scars??

  • @user-nt7tb6br2u
    @user-nt7tb6br2u 11 месяцев назад

    I really get her, am a burn survivor from a home accidebt at the of 6 that left me with scars on my legs. Am 25 and very terrified of getting into r/ships. Am afraid of rejection. Not even my friends have seen my scars just my parents and elder sis and that was wen stillnat a younger age of 8

  • @ayceokur1632
    @ayceokur1632 6 лет назад +12

    That eyeliner is terrible

    • @unknown-hd8nd
      @unknown-hd8nd 6 лет назад +16

      Ayce Okur shut up

    • @anouchkap927
      @anouchkap927 10 месяцев назад

      Is that all you can find to say lol. What a stupid comment I had to say it, those are burn victims
      have some respect if you have any in you that is 😏

  • @toastedtoast8737
    @toastedtoast8737 6 лет назад +1

    First