Typical Russian VS Typical American
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- Опубликовано: 1 окт 2024
- A video that I wanted to make a looooong time ago! And here you go, guys:)
A lot of thought put into that, how to explain better, how to be heard by people, how to make people understand you. But here you go, great video! Enjoy!
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I lived in Russia. If we called someone a 'friend," they looked at us with embarrassment, like, "Really???" because being a "friend" means you are going to be there for them, for the rest of life, through thick and thin.
It takes years to make a friend of a Russian but it lasts a lifetime.
So very true!
you can make friends with me now iam from Russia.
@@iloverebeccachambers
😂😂😂😂
I am interested to be your friend but the fact is that I am not American.
@@subhashishbagchi3191 You are wellcome.
@@iloverebeccachambers "priviate"
I have keen interest in Learning Russian cause I literally found Russian very interesting and for that I need someone who can teach me proper Russian. If you don't mind that I would likely to be your friend.........
By the way Russia is very close to my heart and I also respect the bravery and courage of the Russian military.
You very well captured the difference. About "smiling people on the streets," in Russia we have a nice phraze if you know ;)", "laughter without causes is the sign of a fool ". Think about it
Смех без причины - признак дурачины)
I was in a psychology class once and one of the girls bless her heart was troubled and very sad and would cry all the time and my psychology teacher couldn't resist basically making the class a therapy class and I would get so frustrated but I didn't want to seem rude. (I was paying to learn not to hear her problems) and finally this Russian guy in my class said "I can't take it anymore! This is a class and I need to learn. In my country we get sad about some of these things but not in public and why are you sad about words people say to you? They are just words. I need to learn can I learn?" And that's where I really appreciated Russians for the first time lol.
When I first moved to Moscow I had the hardest time not smiling at people on the streets as I walked by. It felt so weird to me as an American to just ignore people. 😂
Jennifer Dunlop That's a little sad...
Jennifer Dunlop I don't think I could do it but, I imagine if a person's smile, or gestures of friendliness was ignored all the time eventually you'd just stop trying to be friendly. That really seems quite sad to me. Thanks for sharing that comment
Because only idiots smile without a reason.
Сергей Поляков LoL
Its weird for me to smile at people when I'm outside : /
"Do you respect me?!" is a common question my russian friends ask me when we drink :))
The answer is "Da"
If anyone has played STALKER Shadow of Chernobyl, you’ll hear that said very often in the Duty Bar
Sounds more like an anecdote, tbh
the same in Bulgaria :D
That's what my drink Polish friend just some days ago: "I respect you." And I found it a bit strange but of course not negative.
I love your Russian accent. Russian accents are so cool.
Agreed
Федор, привет! Я француз и, первый раз я был в Москве, я думал, что русские будут "брутальные"))) (как ты говоришь) Много русские говорят, что они не улыбаются на улице. Только с друзьями. Но это как во Франции!!!))) Если я не знаю люди, потчему я буду улыбаться? Люди меня нашли бы странным. Мы улыбаемся людям, что мы знаем, к друзьям. Поэтому, я не нашел русские "брутальные", просто "нормальные")))
Я работаю в Канаде и в России. Канадцы очень близки американцы, думаю. Они всегда улыбаются, они столько сливаются люди, даже те, которые они не знают... Но, мои коллеги канадцы не пригласили меня у них только после 5 лет работы вместе: все дни улыбку, но иностранец остается расстояние!
В Москве, мои коллеги меня тепло приветствовали, менее буйный, чем в Канаде, но более искренней. И три дня после, мы были друзьями: они пригласили меня домой, мы делили моменты, как друзья, смеяться, рассказывать о нашей жизни, и т.д. Это не имело ничего общего!!!! Я обожаю!!!
Конечно, я не знаю американцев, но только канадцев. Мое впечатление, что люди - более "нормальные" в России, более честным (в эмоцией). Во Франции, люди всегда очень серьезно, очень волнует внешность и их эго. Трудно знать, если "друг" действительно друг, или он только хочет спросить что-нибудь... Французы не улыбался, как канадцы, и они столь же настороженно. Это не приятно!))) Поэтому, я считаю, что русские имеют правильный способ сделать: серьезно, в начале, и потом теплый, "друзья для жизни", когда мы дружим. Это то, что я люблю)))
И, к счастью, я думаю, что есть люди, как это во всех странах мира (там, я говорил о виду, об общем ощущение страны). До скорого и спасибо за все твои видео!
It is the truth. To me it seems with the smiling American to make friends much heavier than with gloomy Russian. If the Russian sees that you the excellent guy, then most likely he can go for contact with you. And Americans will just smile but won't become your friends on the present.
delphys75 Россия криминальней и школьники опасней , я был во Франции не всё как в России. Я из Сибири если чо
то, что ты написал понять несложно, но у тебя много ошибок в тексте
@@il_roman8928 Какие у него ошибки?
(Я понимаю руски но я не говорю)
@@alexz6439 в основном неправильное склонение существительных и прилагательных и, как следствие, связь между словами нарушена. Смысл понятен, но читать сложно. Но словарный запас большой и это здорово. his vocabulary is good, but grammar is not. he uses the cases of nouns incorrectly, but I've understood the story - that's cool
p.s. и я согласна, у русских эмоции более искренние.
I'm American. Thanks for educating us on the difference between Russian and American. Now, I have a better understanding on Russians.
I had said hi and smiled to a Russian family once. Dirty looks was all i got. Then looked away. Didnt know they were Russians untill i spoke with the husband later. They literally scared the hell out of me. Honestly the most uncomfortable elevator ride of my life.
Tesha lol, I went to Canada and had a completely opposite experience, because I was in an elevator when a man gave me a very wide smile and I felt weird. Because in Russia it would mean that he is about to hit on me or he needs something from me but nothing like that happened. Also some people would just smile at me at the street. I know it's just a mentality difference, but it s easy to feel confused when a complete stranger just smiles at you for no particular reason
The same would seem to me strange that some stranger tells me hi and smiling looks at me. I would think that to her it is certain that that is necessary from me or she is just mad.
I was studying Russian and ended up clicking on this. It explains a lot. Americans could take a few friendship lessons from Russians.
I must have Russian in my DNA somewhere down the line. I don't like expressing my emotions and I don't let people see my soft side.
that's called being an introvert
Not necessarily. Plenty of outgoing, arrogant, outspoken, fun-loving and talkative people do not show "emotions." That's a whole other story. Introvert here, who loves good conversations but doesn't show emotions until I feel I can trust the person to open up to them.@@zheka1780
EK you should definitely look up the definition of introversion, cause clearly you have no clue what you're saying
Ok but it can’t be because you have Russian DNA somewhere down the line
I can definitely relate to how long it takes to get close to close to a Russian, it's a different approach but I respect it highly.
It individually concerning each person. Someone will go for contact, and someone will get accustomed to your acts.
Yes, it’s individual. I have a friend we met in my city. We met at a bus stop actually. He found out that I spoke his language a little bit, and we have been friends ever cents.
As an American, the american stereotype about being open and friendly and smiling at people is a tricky thing. Like a lot of other cases, this stereotype will change a lot according to which region you're in. The south is probably the warmest and most friendly region, and the people there are often really polite. The Northeast portion, however, is probably most like Russia. People there generally keep to themselves, at least more so than southerners.
I agree. But if you're in South Florida, you get dirty looks, and very rude, angry people who don't want to make friends. It's pretty hostile ..
I was just about to say this! Where I live, people are very unfriendly.
A very good condensation of regional differences. As a Southerner from the US, I can vouch for the default friendliness most folks here have, unless they are transplants from up north or out west.
It's more of a densely populated city vs rural/suburban thing.
Midwesterner here, we are kind of closed in an open way, if that makes sense. Then again, it might just be a St. Louis Missouri thing.
Great video, I'm not American but this has helped me debunk some of the stereotypes surrounding Russians and also understand them a little better. I'm now open to learning more about y'all lol
I'm italian and I studied russian at the University and I'm agree with you, My russian boyfriend who lives in Italy now, also tell me the same!!! Personally I like russian attitude 😉 I'll keep watching your videos!
Lol
I dated a half-Russian for many years, and I always got a kick out of his 100% Russian father. I loved their understated humor! I used to tease my ex by saying a Russian considers their joke a success if no one else understands it but them. And no one laughs 😁💕
My husband and I are Americans so it would be very hard for us not to smile at people, it would feel like we were being rude. I'm learning Russian, I want to be fluent in it, it's a work in progress but I'll get there. My husband and I really want to go to Russia someday, it's a dream of ours, and has been a dream of mine since I was a kid. I've been interested in Russia since I was a small child, well, obsessed would be more like it. I really like Russian pop music, Сергей Лазарав is one of my favorites, he also sings in English too, I know he's of Russian descent, be he sounds like he might be American or Canadian, I could be wrong on this because I didn't google his bio, but he sounds like he's American or Canadian to me, or maybe he's spent most of his childhood over here.
By the way, you speak English very well.
Jane Maravilla just put on a resting bitch face and you will be fine
This is very interesting. I work in customer service in Scotland and I serve dozens of Americans and Russians per week. I can totally get behind the Russian way of conducting business. Simple, straight forward but polite. Americans though, are used to their own form of customer service which is much more informal and time consuming :p. I'd love to know what customer service is like in Russia, I imagine it's pretty straight forward.
Thanks for all your helpful videos! I've always wanted to learn Russian to enjoy my favourite books in their original language, your help is invaluable. Cheers.
Hi, it's been four years lol
As a Russian, I prefer the straightforward and practical service, and I hate it when shop assistants start that unnecessary chit-chat about whatever they want. A few weeks ago there was a new employee in the supermarket where I'm a regular. And for some reason she thought it would be cool to tell customers that she had seen them before, and then start guessing when it might have happened (like yesterday, or the day before, or a week ago, or ...). I had a couple of such conversations with her, and eventually this started to get on my nerves. One day I interrupted her, being rather rude actually, saying, "Sorry, but I don't care when you might have seen me".
Meanwhile, in the countryside it is quite typical of a shop to turn into a chat club, where everyone knows each other, so people exchange all sorts of rumors, gossip or whatever :)
@@margaritadanova4764 LOL, that sounds absurd to my American ears. If you told an American cashier that, she might start crying! It is really incredible how different our cultures are
@@pozloadescobar no, the one I was taking to just smiled and said "alright"
This video is so nice.... my boyfriend is russian and it was very difficult to "get into" him at the beginning.... Since then ive met other russians and this closeness thing is so true...they might seem also very rude at times...but ive guessed since the beginning that that is some cultural thing. And yes... i fell in the russian trap, meaning that im also learning russian :p.
But i partly disagree with your opinion about americans as i think that many relations there remain superfluous on the surface and you can never trust people deeply.
But the part about russians was very precise. :D
Americans value trust. Until you earn our trust, superfluous smiles and greetings is all you get. In our culture it is considered rude not to smile and be friendly to strangers. But REAL friendship must be earned.
Are all Russian men so handsome as you are?
he's outstandingly handsome by Russian standards for sure lol. Both him and his girlfriend are extremely attractive human specimens, so no wonder tbh:)
😂😂😂
omg as estonian who have been living with russians my entire life, i have never related to a nationality more than russians. estonians also never say hello, we dont even look at you. this guy truly motivates me to study russian even more..laughed so much at this video
I'm Nigerian and though Nigerians are typically considered friendly (subjective, of course) based on my personality, I've always related very well with people from other countries/cultures that are perhaps considered stoic. I really can relate to the many of the things you mentioned as being typically Russian as this is just the way I see life (maybe all the cultural conditioning of my country skipped me :) Following what you said about the Russian house owner giving away his painting, I too will literally take the clothes off my back to give to a friend or even a stranger if they like it enough. Not being one to give in to hearsay, I never really knew anything typical about Russians , so I'm glad I found this video. Thanks for making it.
As a Russian, I had trouble pinpointing what differences I have to an American on such a deep level that you explained, but now I feel like you literally just described/exposed me to myself to finally understand. Отличной видео!
Very informational! We (Americans) can learn a lot from Russians, especially sincerity, true friendships and a passion for culture.
i come from Estonia, You russians are so emotional man!
Yes, but under that "stone shell"
This was a very insightful and eye opening video. There is also something else going on with American friendliness, the difference between “acting friendly”, which is just a sort of “oiling the machinery of social interaction” and actually seeking someone’s friendship. In America, you need to know the difference and read the subsequent social cues to discern what’s going on. This can cause confusion or worse, for example, when American men think a woman is interested in them and she’s just being friendly but wanting nothing more. So if Americans can get confused between acting friendly vs extending friendship, I can only imagine how frustrating it can be for foreigners who come from a less publically demonstrative culture.
Mentally, since you speaking 2 or more languages, then you have two personalities. One is the original and the other processed.
That's so true! When I speak Lithuanian I feel like a slightly different version of myself that when I speak English. It sounds soo weird !
This is so strange!!! I wonder who I will be when I am fluent in Russian?
кєηωαу I speak 4 lol
@@ladythea6635 You become true member of gopnik crew and be able to sqatting all day and eat semechki in unlimited quantities
@@СветланаЛапницкая.. good for you
I have noticed that Russian people aren't as overtly friendly as Americans and are not as loud as we are. I am sure they can get loud but Americans can be very loud. I found it funny how many Mamas have tried to marry me off to their sons when they find out that I am learning Russian and not because I am marrying a Russian man!
terry winoker I am from Russia and learning in international school . I really surprised that they trust everyone.
Best Russian Language youtuber right now. You are awesome Fedor - I learned a lot. I've watched a few of these kinds of videos - and no one ever said what you did in the beginning - about subjective experience.... My experience has been really good, the people I have met have a wonderful sense of humor and a sincere mentality for the most part ... I seem to avoid these pitfalls you describe because I don't like jokes at the expense of people, but especially generalizations about nationalities or culture... I am a more traditional type of an American, and I definitely relate with people here in the "Russian" style you outlined. I try my best with what I learn about the language, and I am always rewarded for my efforts I feel - because I can immediately use what I learn with my friends on VK. I don't like our lack of traditional values in America, you can find some very very ugly things will happen because people have so little self awareness or care for procedure... I like to think that one day I could leave America and explore some place like Russia or eastern europe... and maybe never come back. I'll need as much language as I can fit under my belt before then! Thanks Fedor - always cool seeing your videos.
My friend юрий and I understand each other so well and have so many things in common that it doesn't even seem like we have different cultures. I love him so much. And I always make sure he knows that. He is wonderful. 💞😘🤗🤗
This makes so much sense to me. One of the things I have noticed about Russian people is what seems to me to be a deeper appreciation for beauty. I see it in the architecture, I see it in the paintings, I hear it in the music. Not that Americans don't appreciate beauty in a deep way, but there is a difference.
I started learning Russian a week ago and youve just given me extra fuel! U R awesome my friend! Keep doing what youre doing!
You have an excellent command of English for a non native speaker.
Slovaks act the same way as Russians, same thing, same goes for Slovaks in America 😉
I'm American and I always hear that we are too nice. :P It's because we believe in treating others how we want to be treated (generally speaking) and manners are taught to us at a young age. Saying please and thank you etc. Also we believe that just because you are upset, it doesn't mean you take that anger out on someone else, so even if an American is angry or upset, we will hide our feelings and smile anyway. I feel that Russians will let you know how they feel about something, but an American will keep it to themselves as to not cause a conflict.
Great video Fedor! ;)
Unfortunately we also have a lot of mass shootings , even in schools, in America :( People manifest their suppressed anger in that way.
Ellie The opposite. All of you are fake.
Nataloa Concepcion 100%! It’s called two faced and people think because they pretend to be something they aren’t that makes them nice. I’m American and I hate people like that. Just be honest even if honest means being an asshole.
If you think Americans (in some places) are keen on avoiding conflict, go take a good look at Japanese and many other southeast Asian cultures. They take it to a level far beyond what we do in the USA.
That's bullshit.
Your portrayal of Americans is screaming liberal city culture. I'd suggest you travel outside the city and meet people. It's a big difference.
America is the melting pot of the world
Cali is the melting pot of that
I’m American but I feel like I was born in the wrong country as it’s seems my personality matches Russians. I’m so tired of saying *thank you* when I don’t really mean it!
Same!
Aureli Silva it’s so fake.
Jay Jade awww are you inviting me over for a slumber party??
Jay Jade darn. I already had my bags packed.
Jay Jade I’m always serious. Thanks for your permission, stranger I’ve never met before.
very interesting, I have never been in North America but I've been talking to americans on the internet for several years and I noticed a long time ago that they are very warm and happy people, just like here in South America, but I am not like them, I don't like to talk much and I generally dislike everyone, unless you do something to become my friend. I feel like I was born in the wrong country, I guess I should have been born in Russia, that's why I want to learn this language, maybe some day I'll live there. Your example about a Russian guy giving away that painting to his friend reminded me of a book I read a while ago about arabians, they too take their friends as a priority, an arabian man would have done the same.
Daniel Lee i am arab and i can confirm that we do the same as russians when it comes to genrosity, however they don't have to be a close freind , if you meet someone from another city and had a small talk with you should invite them to your house for coffe and dinner and you must insist on them unless to tottally refuse
Ohh, this was super interesting to watch! I'm not American nor Russian so I was sitting here kinda comparing similarities and differences to both cultures. (Apparently we're somewhere in the middle- we keep our distance so that's where the whole "no sense of humor/being cold" stereotype comes from but on the other hand we'll also hold doors for strangers).
"Learn the language"- that's actually how our Russian teacher divided us into groups for one of the tasks last week by asking "Who's learning the language because they have Russian friends?" and about half of the class raised their hands.
Fedor, thank you for this video. I’ve always had curiosity about the Russian language (and it’s so tantalizing with those few familiar Latin alphabet characters :) but the past months I’ve immersed ONLY because I found you and other friendly, animated, humble, teaching-with-caring Russian teachers. You’re very relatable. it is sad that some commenters think that to look at a human, make eye contact, be friendly, is somehow insincere. It is a part of energy, expanding, some of are geared toward that connection with others (though I can also be a loner). It should be respected, even as we learn to respect other cultural behavior. I’m intelligent and not foolish for laughing or engaging with a stranger on a human level. Even briefly, it can improve one’s day especially during this time of isolation. Not all Americans are this way and it can be draining and unnatural if you smile or acknowledge another, say when passing on an empty sidewalk, and get nothing. it’s ok to have cues that say I’m listening to music or in my space but looking at someone with no smile I feel...smile, smile back or don’t look. I feel positive about my Russian study, why I’d want to travel and connect, and thank you for bravely discussing cultural differences.
Just out of curiosity, to the owner of this channel I would ask this: do you think that the closed-off attitude in Russia is a result of something like a society where people informed on one another, such as during the era of Stalin, or do you think that this attitude predates Communism?
By the way, I really appreciate you being candid about some cultural issues that often cause a divide between Americans and Russians.
I don't think that internet meme culture has really helped relations...the whole premise of Russians as being overly aggressive/tough/insane/drunk/having bears for pets.
I guess from the American perspective it's in the spirit of "if I am impressed by you, I will make fun of you" but maybe to a Russian it comes off as a lack of respect.
Americans can learn alot from Russia in regards to relationships. Alot of American relationships are so superficial and shallow. Great information Fedor.
Why would anyone wanna hurt Russians?? 😢😢😢
It's just an overall awareness
Reading this comment poat start of the Ukraine conflict hits different.
Да мы не здоровается со всеми незнакомцами, но если ты стал другом, мы будем кричать привет из далека, и спрашивать как дела и слушать как у вас дела( расспрашивать) и стараться помочь.
I was born and raised in America, both of my parents are Slovak and it was my first language. I know Russia and Slovakia aren't the same country, but in my opinion, slavic countries have the same mentality and I haven't heard anyone explain it as accurately as you. I totally agree with the fact that we aren't easy about letting people in, subconsciously testing your friends, and a big one was constantly putting yourself second because I find myself doing that all the time, everyone else needs are taken care of before mine. And the last thing that I had to point out was the how greatly appreciated learning the language is, you're totally right, for someone to go out of their way to learn even just a couple sentences in Slovak for me means so much!! Have to show this to my dad!!
Russia is my first travel out of my country and since then I feel like a part of me became russian, I love the literature, culture, language. I've even thought that if I could have chosen a mother tongue, it'd have been this one. Perhaps if I had a meaningful Russian name would be Фёдор, Dostoevsky is one of my favorite writers and I absolutely would like to learn well this beautiful language
Oh how i love Russia...the language...the literature...and now ( after thus video ) even how the people are. Can't wait to visit...someday... (sigh)... Hope i can have a Russian friend someday... :/
Don't get discouraged and you will go to Russia!
All your desires will come true if you're constantly working toward them!
See "Moscow Expat" on social media for encouragement about visiting.
I met a Russian online and we clicked instantly. He's mouthy like me lol and he showed me videos of Moscow lights at night and now I want to go there. I tried learning Russian in 2013 and gave up. He has me back on track trying to learn it again. Thanks for your videos, Fedor! Спасибо!
What is mouthy exactly? Im not a native emglish speaker
In the thumbnail I thought he was in a prison cell
In Russia people do not smile because there is nothing funny. If you smile with no reason, you are an idiot or something funny with the guy you are smiling to. On the other hand it is treated as lie which is very bad in Russia.
Thank you so much for the information :) I am an American who loves Russia and most of Russian culture. I never understood why Russian strangers can come across so angry or cold though. This video gives me much more insight and understanding. Thanks again!
Really interesting ! Good to know. Thank you.
I think Russia would suck the life out of me...I absolutely love to meet new people, smile and say Hi/Hello. I'll always be myself...no matter where I'm at on this Earth. Take Russia by Storm... one smile at a time. 😀 Superfantastic Video. I look forward to learning more!
That's right! There's a lot of smiley people like me:)
Be Fluent in Russian Ты был в Сибири там капец холодно
Набор "Стереотипов" 🤦♂️
you have great advice. i know a Russian man, that I like very much. we have been talking over the internet for a year now. I have learned alot of Russian words and phases, with his help. your video helped me know, that I am at least doing a few things correct)) now comes the patience. it's strange, as he seems more "open" than I am. meaning, he's not shy, as compared to me, I get somewhat shy with him.
Do you hesitate of what? And why?
I'm so glad I found your channel! I've been looking for exactly this for a while: someone who teaches the language the way it is used, and also teaches parts of the culture and everyday life. I'm only on my first steps on learning russian (I'm brazilian), but your channel keeps me motivated and eager for learning more. Спасибо, Федор! Когда-нибудь я поеду в Россию!
i need to move to russia
I've been to Russia twice..Moscow last summer and St Petersburg this Feb. I would say the most noticeable difference was in Moscow with the older men...they can be sort of stoic and not smile. I noticed the younger people were much much more like Americans..much more smiling and laughter. The difference between the 50-60 year old men and let's say, a 18-20 year old man was like a completely different culture. I predict as Russia moves more and more away from the iron curtain and joins the rest of the western world there will be more warmth/relaxation. There is A LOT of American influence creeping in and capitalism in general. The old world of suspicion and "keeping things close to the vest" is slowly eroding. I will say that over all, women were probably more friendly/helpful than men were, but then, I was running into more women who were tending the shops. I found many spoke surprisingly good English. I did not find, as a whole, Russia to be less friendly, cold or stranger than anywhere else. When I am out and about traveling, I don't "shut down" my American ways. I still give a smile or hold a door and be myself. So far it's never caused a problem....
Just to mention, holding a door is 100% common in Russia. And not doing this considered rude.
50-60 year old Russian men are generally stuck in the 1960s, 70s and don't like the way society has shifted away from the norms of the past.
Update 2022...unfortunately, political developments (manipulated by the Western media) have interfered with these hopes. I very much appreciate people like Fedor, who are helping to break down the barriers of prejudice. God help us all.
This makes a lot of sense, when I was dating this Russian girl in my younger years, I attempted to learn Russian prior to meeting her father and when I greeted him with Здравствуйте his face instantly changed as he saw my attempted dedication
So, tsunderes?
thank you for the video! I have always viewed Russians as very stoic, stern, and serious so your explaining as to why that is makes sense! That also helps me understand better how to interact with Russians in the future.
maybe russians act differently to foreigners than to strangers, but my experience in russia was, that everyone was super nice and open, interested and hospitable 🤔
I would imagine that expressing emotions was dangerous in the Soviet Union and this may have had a dramatic effect on the way people act. What do you think Федор?
Fedor, (Фёдор - spelling?)
Is this reservedness/unfriendliness of the Russian people towards strangers stem from historical necessity? From the writings of Solzhenitsyn, Chukovskaya, Dolgun, Shalamov, Ratushinskaya & Applebaum pertaining to those held in gulags during the soviet era as a direct result of the betrayals profusely committed by The Organs, their subordinates, and the common Russian against them... these atrocities are beyond mental comprehension to one growing up mostly in the USA, with all its precious liberties and rights. In soviet Russia, one never knew who was an informant. They were everywhere. One had to be careful what one said and to whom. Even spouses and children were required to "turn in" their "traitor" spouse & parent(s); if not, when that enemy-family member was prison/gulag bound, you'd be sentenced (if you actually ever had a mock court trial) after or concomitant with your "Enemy of the People" loved one for betraying The Motherland, by not informing on your family member! Страшно! There the authorities deemed one guilty by default - a concept totally foreign to one living under the sheltering umbrella of USA legal system. It still happens there, today, given the current news on A. Hav-----y and what’s happened to demonstrators in a neighboring country. Мне это очень страшно. This oppressive soviet way of life by default required the "testing" of one another, did it not?
This could also explain the necessity of repeated "testing" one must go through to become the true friend of a Russian, today. From your perspective of having lived in USA and Russia, what are the kinds of situations a Russian typically uses to to test the trustworthiness of a person in order to become their friend? I'm sure this varies from individual to individual, but are there generalities? How may I, as an American, identify when I'm being tested by a Russian? Do you know if this trait also holds true for the other Slavic cultures, like the Ukrainians or Belorussians? Is it trust or respect that is needed before a Russian truly becomes friends or are they peas in a pod - they go hand in hand and both are needed?
Thank you for sharing your astute observations on the major yet subtle and potentially confusing cultural differences regarding Russian vs American friendships through this video. It was outstanding in its clarity and gave me much food for thought as I both learn Russian and make friends with Russians and Ukrainians.
Спасибо за помощь,
Бекки джен
Americans aren't necessarily your "friend" right away, it's just that we are openly polite and outgoing, and there is also a culture of oversharing here, of which I am extremely guilty. That could be mistaken as letting people close, when it's not really that. Personally, I'm as "closed off" as any Russian you might know, and I have a very small circle of carefully vetted friends, but that won't stop me from entertaining some polite banter at the store or the park. I can see why this type of attitude may come off as too friendly, and too open, but I think of it as being pleasant. A pleasant attitude towards a person can change the way their day, week, or even their whole lives go.
I'm trying to learn Russian! I don't know why, but I almost immediately got interested and in love with the language, and even think is less difficult than some other, like German for example! Thanks for the video!!!
I have ADHD and I wouldn't survive in Russia. Funny thing.... my family is half German and have Slavic. America is truly SO different than the far East. And any other country too. I think this is why there is so much crime in America tbh.
The second point is completely legit.
Americans have a tradition of "brotherhood."
Also, St. Petersburgers tend to be a little friendlier.
But everything he said is correct in my experience.
The thing I notice about Russians and Ukranians is that if you call them by their ENTIRE name (first middle and last name) they seem to take notice of that in a positive way. But Americans and Canadians don't like it if you call them by their First and second name, even then? They might not like that and just the first name only. Why is this? Canadians are more immediately friendly, Americans a close second.
I'm an American born... But act more like a Russian lady... Esp, after getting burned so many times by people I met.
Love your videos! It takes a lot to give your opinion. ✌🏽️
I would not say so about people in America and Russia...
I never was in США ор РОССИЯ of those countries,
but in Беларусь... And they were very nice to me.
I like your show. Мне очень нравится сериал.
Я тоже желаю говорыт по руски.
Greetings from Slovenia.
"friend on a much deeper level" - i felt that
Good video....and so clearly presented! I'm very keen to watch your other videos on learning Russian.
You know.. hearing you explaining the Russian behavior I now realize why a Russian contact was somewhat distant from me.
Thank you for enhancing my empathy towards them
I am American every one is a friend but do me wrong once you’re fault do me wrong twice my fault friendship is over
А почему Вы исходите из того, что Вас обманут?) Why such zero hipotesis?)
Im indonesian,raised in australia but i feel like my personality is very russian :D
я каждый день говорю русских. они самых лучших людей! я люблю говорить их. дайте мне они помощь. Дайте их я помощь тоже. извини, я не хорошо говорю русский язык.
Понятно
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Hello, I would like to practice in english and I also can help you with russian. I'm native russian. :)
Listening to this I needed to take a few moments because this blew my mind in such an amazing way.
Have thinking, am I Russian? Of course not but perhaps my forefathers were.
But thats true for americans also. I have not met many americans that would openly cry on my shoulder even if ive already caught them crying
Hi Fedor , I think it is so true . Because I am living in London with my Russian friend for 15 years and there are still a lot of conflicts and misunderstandings between us . To make thing even more complicated I am of Chinese origin . So 3 cultures differences g
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This is just anathema to me. I've lived in the US South for almost all of my life. We are very friendly, even with strangers. I'll definitely keep this in mind if I ever pay a visit to Russia. Is it also like this in surrounding Slavic nations?
Coming from America: Thank you for your honesty; you're such a sweet person. I learned a lot.
I taught English to Russian people in LA for a year or so and I can tell you that Russians learn english so fast (Fedor is a great example, his all around mastery of english is startling for only being her such a relatively short time). I think it's just because Russian is so much harder and more complex than english in so many ways. English just has so many weird sayings that you just have to memorize
Я знаю некоторых русских и могу сказать что они из самых крутых людей ,с которыми я говорил всю мою жизнь и мне нравится как русский такой сложный ,что иногда даже русские его не понимают 😂😂
Hakhakhkh, it is the truth. We at Russians have such expression - Others soul is a darkness.
Everybody is friendly in America? Guess you've never been in New York or any other metropolis.
cool video! me and my friends have been to russia too. traveled 4500 km. i have met great people everyday. i still have good contact to some of them and they tell me to come back even if i just hung out with them for one night) i learned how to read russian and a few basic phrases before the trip. it wasnt a lot. but everywhere you go, and you try your best to speak russian and be polite, russians will always respect you and i got a lot of smiles in stores, restaurants or whatever) i had the greatest time ever.
100% yes I agree with this. My personality and thinking matches your description of Russians and it makes sense to me. Thank you for giving me the words to describe this.
I think there's Russian guy in my gym class but my question is, do Russian men pursue American women or do they wait for the woman to speak first?
They'd approach you:)
You are SO handsome!!
Question - how would a Russian react to being smiled at or waved at by a stranger? Will they be offended, or think poorly of me if I do that while in Russia?
Depending on where and when you will wave and greet). It will be strange at least, but isn't offensive. But if you pomakhat to any guys in night club, then to you will approach to get acquainted with 100 percentage probability and will suggest to drink.
this was extremely interesting!!
That would be really hard for me, I am such an "out there" person! XD I can change my demeanor a little to help, but what I fear is not knowing when I can open up and act like myself around a Russian with whom I want to be friends with. In the case of having a blank expression while I am walking around in Russia, because I work in retail, I can just pretend I am working and passerbys are customers and I have just got done with a rude guest and want nothing to do with anyone. XD As for taking a Russian seriously and being respectful of culture and language, I am already there! I love everything and anything Slavic! I am also studying to be a sociologist, so I will have a lot of questions about Russia, but I always look at things objectively and not pass judgment or joke about it.
I love this video Fedor, and the way you speak, it's super cool!!! I also agree with your opinion. You're awesome♥️
Very nice, I would hope we all can adopt Russian values when forming a friendship. Thank You.
This is very educative! Thanks!
How do Russians test people and their relationships?
That was a very, very important video. For me, most of this fear of being hurt is a consequence of 'learning' that people are bad by default; we just get happy with the exceptions. But I never thought it like part of the culture of a nation. Kinda makes me sad, cause I like so much meet new people, mainly when they have different opinion but respect different ones, and it take time and connection to reach this level. Anyways, great video! Again, very important you bring it up this subject!!