Have you considered moving to Merida Mexico? After watching this video on why I left Merida, here's the video on why I moved there. ruclips.net/video/Y_Oyuqt8M5M/видео.html
Hola seria bueno tener más opciones de ciudades bonitas y seguras de México. Una muy buena opción es Leon Guanajuato, ciudad cosmopolita, moderna y segura y con un clima templado excelente 🤩
We relocated to Morelia almost three years ago. At 6200 ft elevation, I've never seen any temperature above 94°. My wife is a Mexican citizen and I'm from Reno, Nevada. Cost of living is very affordable. We rent a beautiful, almost 4000 sq ft home, in a nice neighborhood, for 8000 pesos per month ($400 USD). Best move ever!
Sorry I'm not a Black woman, I'm a Black man, but I still empathize with your frustration. I spent a couple of years in Belize, and even though Belize is far more English friendly than Mexico, simply living in any foreign land and culture has more challenges and hurdles than most would first expect. BTW, it can get hot as a desert in Hell there too!
Thanks for sharing ❤ I moved to Italy 7 years ago and had to learn Italian. It took me about 2 years before I wasn’t exhausted and getting headaches. My best advice is to learn HIOW you learn. I wrote an article about it awhile ago. Helped me a lot. Best of luck!!
I went to Italy and I was there for 3 months...I learned the language very fast in three months!!! That's because I went there, with a native Italian and he pushed me to learn the language because he said that he's not always going to be with me to order pizza... a meal...cappuccino so...by him doing that I learned very quickly...so much so when I came back to the states I spoke the language so well that I was able to hold a conversation with his friends and they thought it was amazing how I was able to learn so quickly!!! Now...first of all, I was very young..so the mind is sharper as you get older it's not...but Im glad I had the experience but unless you have a person to speak with all the time you forget!!! I haven't spoke in years but there are still words I understand...also when I hear someone speaking I do understand some words
I lived in Colombia for 6 months recently returning to the United States in November 2023. I totally understand what you mean when you said your first experience doesn’t have to be your final resting place, it’s a whole world out here for us 🌍✨
Thank you for your share. I visited Merida also and the language barrier was too much for me. I knew better as well but the few weeks I was there alone. I got lost while venturing off for groceries but thank God the people are so friendly and helped me get back to my hotel. I felt like a fish out of water. But, I came to the same understanding for myself, that I can bop around until I find a place that feels right to my spirit. Two days to go and I will be going to Grenada and I am excited about it. Looking forward to following your next adventure.
Are you me LOL? I'm an old white guy who left the US in 2022. The frustrations you experienced are pretty universal for those of us who, like you, moved too quickly. We were sick of paying high Airbnb rents, and just wanted a place where we could stop and relax. But it's been a constant battle trying to get things completed in our new condo. It's also very poorly built, so more added frustration. The people here have been awesome, and I've learned Spanish well enough to get by, but like you said, it's exhausting trying to translate in your head every word people say to you. But it's been a great learning experience, we're just trying to get out of here without losing our shirts! Great video Malika, and good luck to you in your search for a permanent home.
The opening of your comment made me laugh so hard. 🤣 I’m glad you can relate. lol The poor maintenance (or lack thereof) was definitely a lesson learned for life outside the US and I won’t make the hasty mistakes again. I hope everything works out with your condo so you can finally relax and enjoy your new home.
Great video! I have lived abroad in Asia for almost 3 years. I loved it but in the end found there was no place like home. I enjoy visiting other countries but have realized for me there is no one paradise. My paradise at time is based on which season of life I am in at that moment!
Oh yes when I learned that one size does not fit the various seasons in my life the struggle ended and the looking forward to what comes next begins!@@moneycoachmalika
What you are describing about learning a language is just the normal painful process of acquiring a new skill and it can take many months until it becomes second nature to master. It is ok to feel inadequate because you are not going to grasp it all at once. Learning can be painful and wherever your next destination is you will face the same problemif their native language is not English. Pain and stress are part of life no matter where we go, They will be there for one reason or another. I think we as humans tend to idealize that moving somewhere will resolve all the problems ( I used to be at fault for that) but you realize that the world is complicated everywhere and what one place provides that another lacks will also come with another set of stressful issues. This is why also taking extended long trips with no intention of resettling are kind of the ideal thing to do because you mostly get to experience the good when on holidays.
I liked your video. 1) You are a very likable person ! (not like some Vloggers I've seen on YT that act like their sh*t don't stink !! LOL. 2) You gave valid reasons why Merida didn't work for you 3) You got straight to the point and didn't take 25 minutes (or more) as so many other RUclipsrs do to express thoughts ! 4) I love that you decided to "bop around" to search for the right place for you. I wish I could join you :-) I wish you all the luck in finding your perfect spot.
HOla your story is very similar to mine I landed in Merida in March. Got and Abnb and basically slept for two months😊. I didn't even vist the pyramids. I used the fact that Merida is also less expensive to live to visit other cities like Queretaro and Campeche. I've since returned to Merida and found a 6mos place to give Merida a shot. But my eyes have been wandering to South East asia, Thailand...so who knows. There's No Rules to this lifestyle but the ones I make!🎉❤
HAHA those naps hit hard, didn’t they? lol Let your eyes wander and follow as the spirit moves you. We might cross paths in Thailand. “No rules to this lifestyle but the ones I make” - LOVE THAT SO MUCH!!
We don't have to leave the US to find peace and tranquility. I love Mexico, but I also love the US. Malika you seem very intelligent. You are complicating the language learning process Our American education has taught us learning other languages beside English is hard, but it doesn't have to be. Good luck!
Yea, I figured I was probably complicating the language learning process. I hope I can find a patient teacher to help me process a little easier. I’m not giving up, just needed a break. Thank you.
@@moneycoachmalika you dont even need a teacher. start with the basics of ordering food, reading menus, communicating with a taxi driver. thats all I have done... plus learning a few new word each week on google translate. I dont care if I cant have complex conversations in Spanish. I have lived here for over 2 years now and even in situations where I didnt have the right words to communicate I was able to make myself understood. and that is good enough for me. I have never felt it painful or uncomfortable. I found that the most important words you can know are "tienes" - "do you have?" and "quiero" - "I want". and just keep slowly building off that.
I'm a white man and I loved your video. You have a warm and friendly way of storytelling. Thanks for sharing your apartment hunting experience in Merida. I could learn something from your experience. Hope you continue to enjoy your travels.
I left the states in 2021 to "bop around" in different countries. I've lived in Canada, visited several countries in Europe, now Thailand. While they all have their unique appeal, still haven't found "my" spot. Said all that to say...your experience is totally valid and relatable!
I am an ESL teacher who has lived all over the world (Europe, Asia, Middle-East) including China for 10 years. I was working, and always had English speaking colleagues and staff. With the advent of the smart phone, and simple Google Translate, you don't need to stress out learning the language right out of the gate, use a translator and save the stress. Practice the local language with friends you make who can actually help you with conversational. Renting is always a nightmare for Americans because we have high stands for maintenance and cleanliness. You have to learn to accept less than that if you are going to live abroad (as wealthy as Saudi is, there were overflowing dumpsters on the side of the highway with dusty streets and substandard plumbing). Plumbing will be an issue all over the world unless you rent in a very new building. I can not take extreme heat, and I have been in Mazatlan for about 2 years, and this is as hot as I can stand in the summer, and I work from home, so the heat is not that big an issue, but it is a negative. However the beach is only 500 m away. The biggest negative right now is the how the dollar has been dropping against the peso. My rent has gone up $200 a month because of the drop, which is expected to continue to drop the rest of this year.
Well done. You covered some important details such as learning Spanish and how it made you feel. That heat would overwhelm me all year long. I too like the idea of slow travel or bopping around.
Thank you so much for sharing. I’m looking to move to Mexico and Merida was on the top of the list for safety. after learning about the heat index and they high electric bills I’m going to pass. Very interested in Morelia now with better temperatures, safety, and affordability.
I live in France, i can relate to the learning a new language fatigue, it’s real. Live and learn, I’m sure now that you know yourself a little better you will make better decisions. You will fine you sweet spot. Enjoy the journey!
It's getting hotter and hotter and hotter EVERYWHERE in the world. I have the same problem: looking for my "sweet" spot in terms of temperatures, but the choices are quite limited. As for the language barrier.... believe it or not, you might encounter that same problem even in some "E nglish-speaking" countries!
I think if you had a got the first apartment that you liked that satisfied your needs, the language barrier would not have mattered so much and when he was tired, you wanna relax gracefully in the place you wanted to be in follow your first mind
America has dumbed us down since both always demanding everyone speak only English do you know in Africa they speak three or more languages their own, English, French , German depending who colonized and another native language amazing isn’t it. My Dad would speak to me in Spanish but since I grew up in my mother’s household only English listening to him and trying to remember and process is rough needless to say he ended up just saying whatever he had to say in English
Well stated, one can take the individual initiative to learn another language. In Europe and other parts of the world it is not surprising to speak at least two languages, if not more. It widens your understanding of others,n rather than being self centered and expecting everyone to speak your language.
I considered Merida at one point but the heat and the bugs kept me away from it , i bought a house in queretaro (central Mexico) the weather is dry for the most part and it’s a nice city pretty modern but still Mexico , I’m Mexican American but actually living I see the difference in the culture, I’ll be here for a while I guess but not forever. Mexico is not for everyone ,most expats including my self moved here for the lower cost of living and sure is cheaper but it comes with it challenges 😅
I plan to go there from oct to December just to enjoy the vibe and people lately I have been checking out st kitts you should slowly check out the Caribbean English speaking
Thanks for the video. Lot of people can't really get the "leave America" sentiment--so that's a whole other conversation. But this video is a few months back, so I need to see what you ended up doing. But I'm very happy you tried to find a different place, and then realized-nope, this ain't the final stop. Appreciate you reminding me of how exhausting the language thing is. I practice daily on an app for the place I'm moving. But that's NOTHING compared to the 4 hours a day classes I'm supposed to start when I get there-and I forgot how much fatigue goes with that. So I'm gonna skip ahead to one of your current vids to see what happened!
do you know mexico is place of mini climas if you go to chiapas you will find places were the temperature is from 50 at night to 75-80 during the day and they are beautifull and cheap!
Haha! I understand about the language! So true that it really hurts my brain trying to work with a foreign language. It takes time. Im still working on it. On one of my extended stays in a foreign country, when time to leave, upon meeting some Canadians in the airport, I finally felt like I could breathe in being able to speak English. I admire you for taking the plunge and thanks for sharing your experience. Happy travels.
You have a pleasant attitude. I just moved to Merida 6 weeks ago. It's really hot here. But I feel safe here and after renting 2 disappointing Airbnb I found last week a beautiful loft in one of the best gated community in the northern part of Merida. As far as the language, I constantly hear that from Americans. Ah the language problem, it's so hard etc etc. Well that's a "problem" most immigrants have to face in many countries and in particular in the US. Don't think it's easy for a foreigner to learn English either. It's hard for everyone but it must be done out of respect for the host country you're moving in. I personally learned Spanish before coming to Mexico. Not sure yet if I will remain in Merida. Too soon to tell. I have lived in other places in the world and I need to adapt to this new place but again, the temperatures are extremely hot here. I don't recommend going out in the afternoon unless you're at the beach or at the pool. I go out after 4pm.
As stated in the video I studied Spanish for 6 years before moving to Mexico and continued studying after moving there - out of respect for the culture. Congrats that you don’t have the “problem” of most immigrants.
How were you able to get your permanent Mexican residency? I'm curious because I would love it. And I will be traveling there here in a couple of months
Go to the Mexico consulate in your state and they will assist you. You can also review the permanent residency requirements on their website. consulmex.sre.gob.mx
I’m not a Black woman but I have been bopping around Mexico the past few months 2 to be exact and I decided to practice renting and I am currently in a little beach town in a Oaxaca called Zipolite. It is a little rural but it has seemed safe. I’m not sure this is my final place. I suggest following you gut to find your best place. I loved San Miguel Allende. But I think it is not my true sweet spot, for my own reasons. I’m loving the Pacific Ocean but not sure I have found the One ! Best of luck
Thanks. Let’s make sure we aren’t rushing to find our destination and missing the beauty of life’s best experiences. Enjoy the journey of finding your sweet spot. 💖
Thank you very much for sharing your personal experience…… a very good food for thought for someone looking for a place to retire…. again, many thanks….
I want to come visit you all over in Merida. I’m in Puerto Vallarta. One of the main reasons why I didn’t move to Merida was how hot everybody said it was. And also there was no water. Been here for about 2 1/2 years. I love it but I am getting ready to get an apartment back in the states so I can do half the year there and then half the year here.
Girl, you did nothing wrong here. It’s all part of the learning curve. Mexico has SO many climates to choose from. I’ve lived in Peru and Ecuador on multiple occasions. I’ve learned to go up or down to find the climate I prefer. Keep searching until you find your sweet spot. Yes language can be mentally taxing, but it WILL get easier. Don’t criticize yourself, it’s an adventure to learn from.
Thanks for the information. Maybe getting the apartment you didn't like was a blessing in disguise. It'll likely lead you to a location you'll like. Merida for me has many pros but I know the brutal heat would get old fast.
right I'm so over it. lol someone once told me oh its so hot, just wait. I thought oh we can take haha. Well after 2 summers here we are ready to move on. VIVA MEXICO BABY @@moneycoachmalika
Immediately after you said your first reason I took the words out of your mouth. Hot!! Never been there but I've been researching where to live in Mexico once I retire.. I can't stand the heat. I was born in Trinidad lived in UK most of my life and now live in Toronto Canada. Cannot tolerate intense heat.
Hi Malika. Have you looked at Chiangmai Thailand? We are about to make our second visit there. Chiangmai is about the same size as Merida. Congrats on getting residency, what a bonus.
Hi Malika I am planning on moving to Merida, thought that I would be there by now but this state side visa process is like playing the daily lottery lol. Thank you for the video.
You’re welcome and thank you for watching. What visa problems are you having on the US side? My process was pretty straightforward in the US, then I hired a service to finalize it in Mexico.
You have a very good attitude about learning Spanish. Yes, in the beginning of speaking Spanish is exhausting. I hear ya, but I do respect that you have the right attitude about it and you put your heart and soul into it. You have a Beautiful attitude about exploring the world. Kudos to you. 😊
Hola, I have lived in Mérida for 2.5 years. I tried convincing myself that I could stand the heat but I was lying. I'm looking at youtube videos to try to figure out where my next move will be. I gotta go.
I’m glad you decided to prioritize your needs. Some of the comments on this video made suggestions for cooler places in MX. I hope you find a location that makes you more comfortable.
Great video! Thanks. Yes, the language is a challenge and it's really difficult to find a home but it's the number one reason you mentioned that I most identify with. Sea level, anywhere in Mexico, including all beach destinations, is far too hot! I love Mexico but never go near sea level if I can avoid it. The highland interior of Mexico is way better for me. Mexico City, San Miguel de Allende or anywhere above about 4000 feet in elevation. You might want to try Mexico again at a higher elevation. There are so many places in Mexico where the weather is just perfect. Never much above 70F. Sunny most of the time. Etc.
I can name many. San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, Queretaro, Morelia, Oaxaca are just a few. Just Google something like, "Mexican cities over 4000 feet in elevation". @@angelab4652
Girl i'm salvadorean, i'm new in your Chanel, i move to usa in the 70 th and i know what you are talking about, but i went to school to learn English one of my teacher thought us by singing you know that musick from the 70th another teacher told us to just watch English chanels only and just learn to listen don't transelete just get useto listen English, read English every single book sure be in English, i did everything they told me and now if i'm speaking in English i think in English, and if i'm speaking in spanish i think in spanish, that is the key. By the way i bougt a house in México i love México.
“Listen don’t translate. Just get use to listen(ing) to English…now if I’m speaking in English I think in English…and if I’m speaking in Spanish I think in Spanish” - THIS IS THE MOST HELPFUL COMMENT I’VE RECEIVED!! It directly addresses the root of my problem (thinking and translating while listening = fatigue). Wow! I’m going to do it. THANK YOU SO MUCH!! 💖
I was thinking of moving to Puerto Vallarta. I've been there 5 or 6 times and i really love the city. I took from your video to learn the language well enough before i leave America😂
Thanks for sharing! As tempting as Mexico seems, I'm staying in America, bcuz I'm not interested in learning a new language and the heat may be too much for me. I'm accustomed to the 4 season weather in NYC. I'm actually hot in the winter. LOL! You know, with menopause and whatnot. 😆 I have my eye on Peoria Illinois bcuz the houses are extremely cheap there. But I definitely plan to visit Merida, Costa Rica, and a few other countries!
Chile my trip to Veitnam not knowing language changing currency so hard wore me out i wud have to take a nap jus to buy a few things tooooo much to process
Awww. Lol I feel you on incomplete property projects, girl!!! That is a bummer and can make you stressed. In regards to learning a new language, slow down my gathering as much vocabulary as possible. Master that so when you hear those words in sentences you won’t get so exhausted. 😢 I wish you well-God bless you onward with your travels.
I’ve mastered basic vocabulary and recognize many words. I can understand far more than I speak. I’m told my fatigue is normal as I advance. I only shared a small fraction of my frustrations with that apartment and owner/landlord. Didn’t want the video to turn negative, but I’m glad the experience is behind me. Lots of lessons learned as I continue my travel journey. Thank you for the well wishes and I receive the blessings. 💖
Merida is next level hot. 😂 I got use to it. At night in December to February it has an amazing sea breeze and you don’t need a/c at all. But… it’s hot as hell here. 😅
@@moneycoachmalika Well, I’m fully committed and I love it here. I’m right on the coast and I enjoy the beach being a five-minute walk away. I realize you can’t have it all. I was in Medellìn, Colombia and they have perfect weather, but a crime problem. In Canada, I was cold half the year and the cost of living and work-life balance was off. Maybe I will travel to Argentina and stay there between May and August. It’s winter down there at that time.
@princegraywolf yea, nowhere is perfect. Just need to find a place where the things you love far outweigh the things you don’t love. And it sounds like you’ve found your place. 💖 I think I’m getting close - at least narrowing it down. lol
@@moneycoachmalika Yes, it’s about finding a balance that’s more weighted towards your “wants”. I will check your channel for more videos as this is my first one. Take care and good luck.
Thanks, same to you. I only have 2 videos about Mexico (this one and why I moved to Merida). On my channel, I primarily talk to Black women about investing and financial freedom. So send your mom, aunties, sisters, and cousins. lol I mean, you’re welcome to watch too, especially if you love to see Black women happy and FINANCIALLY FREE. 🥰
Loved your video....thanks for the the insight on Mérida, MX I lived in Mexico (Leon,gto) until i was 13yrs and i was not happy 😢.... perhaps, because of school,bugs,and other factors But the main issue was the "alacranes" 🦂🦂🦂 I got stung 3 times in 2yrs and ended every time at the cruz roja(hospital) Yeah...that was and still is a problem for me to come back to Mexico
I've been living here in Tijuana, Mexico, for 10 years now cause I married a Mexican. Now, I am so frustrated and tired of living here. I'm divorcing and moving back to the States at the end of the month. I am done!
Nothing wrong with any of that , you're just taking care of yourself . We don't know what we don't know , until we get there . Naps are good , especially in a warm climate ( Siesta ) and translating is tiring . I have to laugh at myself , because every time I Travel , I feel like I'm heading off to my death , with a head full of "what if's" that never happen . The World is a lot Safer than what goes on in my head . cheers .
It’s to hot!! You don’t want to live far from the city. Live where you are close to everything. Rent air b&b then check out places to rent. You don’t need to pay someone to help you.
I like to go out and eat and I didn’t have a good experience with some of the places that I attended to eat but the breakfast foods were good but everything else was making me miss the US so bad I couldn’t wait to come home
Learning a new language is hard work and it is tiring. My personal experience is that takes a minimum of 6 months for the mind to "house" a new language and then we stop translating. Don't give up.
As a Spanish speaking Black woman with family in Central America: 1) Spanish as spoken in Mexico- down to the different states in Mexico- is significantly different than what is taught in HS and college here in North America. It IS exhausting to be in an immersive language environment, and no one would blame you for a siesta! 2) Yucatan heat is NO JOKE and you truly do need to get used to it or spend midday in A/C! 3) Merida, especially central, has become expensive, both for locals and ex pats, and unless I was in business there, I could not see myself moving there. The Mayan people are incredibly beautiful but there is only a small population of Afro Mexicanos there , and I would prefer to be around more Afro- Central Americans (like next door in Belize, or in Panama/Costa Rica.
I lived in the state of Jalisco,Mexico for 2 years,I never desired to live in Merida,it’s way too close to the Yucatán (too burning hot!) I’m so sorry you almost burned! I love speaking Espanol everyday I understand all your points stated-I really think the dim conditions in your condo wasn’t healthy for your mental! Be blessed,Mexico is everything to me,hopefully you’ll land somewhere close to paradise-try us close to the bay in Puerta Vallarta!❤
Merida is very overrated. Not sure why expats are in love with that place. It's landlocked and hot asf in the summer. We live in Playa Del Carmen, it's near the ocean and very walkable. Lots to do and you can live near the jungle or near the ocean. Not much to do in Merida. It's very conservative. Nice to visit for a few days but that's about it
This is really a great video Malika! Every future Expat should watch this. While the first reason is heat, that is specific to Merida and other places in Mexico, which is why we (wife and I) are NOT moving there. LOL. If you are from Florida, Arizona, etc., you are used to 90+ every day or, if you are retired and will not be doing a lot, then Merida will work regarding heat. 2). Was just a mistake that we all make sometimes in life, but now you know to go with your heart\gut and brain (peace of mind from the views, etc.). However, the desire to look around first is only human. 3). I have been with my Mexican wife in Chicago for over 32 years, and I still cannot speak Spanish. LOL. They speak too damn fast, and even more so in Mexico. My wife was born there, and goes back every year. With that said, we are moving there when we retire in 3 years and I will be fluent by then. However, I do the exact same thing - translated conversations - big pauses, which can drive you nuts. The first problem is that the dialect changes depending on where you are in Mexico, they speak really fast, roll words together, etc. Even my wife has to adjust to people when she visits her relatives that are all over Mexico. I must say, when I am drunk or mad, I can speak Spanish ok because I don't think. LOL Get drunk and watch TV. I cannot tell you how many foreigners from all over the world learned English from watching TV. Language helps in ALL non English speaking countries. Lastly, San Miguel De Allende Hotels and many other places in Mexico have large Expat communities, facebook groups, etc. and a lot of them DO NO speak Spanish. We are going to travel the world as well after we move there, but I always study the language for a year before going. By the time I leave there, I might know how to at least say a few words, correctly. LOL. This is a great video, and thank you for this. It's very thought provoking. Good luck and I wish you safe, happy and Enjoyable journeys as yo traverse the globe.
This comment made me laugh so hard. Now I want to get drunk and watch TV in Spanish. LOL! If this works, I’m going to do an updated video and give you credit. Thanks for the laughs and well wishes. 😂
@@moneycoachmalika Anytime. Glad it made you laugh. Looking forward to the video. 🙂 Saying complete sentences white swearing(in spanish) helps, too. :-)
@@moneycoachmalikamusic! Find your favorite songs in Spanish and sit down and translate them. Trust me. Highly effective. Subtitles on shows are ok but don’t forget they do quick translation because I catch omissions all the time. My Latino boyfriend points them out as well. TV is good for oral comprehension but music comes with a melody that makes you speak the language easier AND translating those lyrics will make learning 10Xs easier. Trust me. You’ll never forget the translation and it’s repeated as many times as you replay the song. ❤
Hello Malika. I am a mexican mature man and my family is originally from Mérida. Well. Like you I am in the process to decide the place in México where I want to retire. And I know that eventhough I love Merida it won't be Mérida because of the extremely hot and humid weather. I currently live in Monterrey which is a large industrial hub city in the north of Mexico. I grew up in Monterrey. And I know I won't live my retirement years heré. Because this city is too big. People heré have a very hectic life style and the weather is horrible. So. Even though I am not a woman of color. Je je. I would like to know which places other than Mérida you are considering for your retirement in México. It would be useful and interesting to compare with the options I am considering. Thanks in advance for sharing.
@ILikeLanguagesHello. I am still reviewing the options. I am just starting the process. And You? Do You already have some options over the table? Cheers.
This is exactly how I felt when i just moved to the US and was learning English. Because i speak French Fluently, Spanish is not hard for me to learn. So, i don't feel the brain fog and headache i used to feel when learning English
Thank you for your thoughts! It’s interesting to see others perspective. Remember you are brave to break the invisible barriers that ties us to our places of birth! When I first lived abroad 25 years ago, it was meet with difficulties. Homesick, language barriers, cultural differences, to name a few. When we lived abroad we often look 👀 at the world in our default cultural lenses. This may not be an accurate representation. So with this being said, it takes time and adjustment to live another country. Give yourself time! Then you will make a video of reverse culture shock when you go back to the US!
The culture was the least of my concerns; I love Mexican culture. And I wasn’t homesick; I’m still abroad. I didn’t need more time to know that Merida wasn’t for me. I happily moved on and there will be no more videos about it!
Have you considered moving to Merida Mexico?
After watching this video on why I left Merida, here's the video on why I moved there. ruclips.net/video/Y_Oyuqt8M5M/видео.html
Hola seria bueno tener más opciones de ciudades bonitas y seguras de México. Una muy buena opción es Leon Guanajuato, ciudad cosmopolita, moderna y segura y con un clima templado excelente 🤩
Gracias por el consejo. Consideraré a León Guanajuato. 😊
We relocated to Morelia almost three years ago. At 6200 ft elevation, I've never seen any temperature above 94°.
My wife is a Mexican citizen and I'm from Reno, Nevada. Cost of living is very affordable. We rent a beautiful, almost 4000 sq ft home, in a nice neighborhood, for 8000 pesos per month ($400 USD). Best move ever!
4000 Sq ft??? WOW❤😮❤
Are you yet there?😊
We don't need to plant roots right away. Enjoy your freedom Malika! 💗
Thank you, Stephanie! 💖
Stephanie you are the truth ❤
Stephanie is my go to person for traveling common sense 😊
Considering what's about to happen in the U.S., I promise you'll regret saying that real soon.
Sorry I'm not a Black woman, I'm a Black man, but I still empathize with your frustration. I spent a couple of years in Belize, and even though Belize is far more English friendly than Mexico, simply living in any foreign land and culture has more challenges and hurdles than most would first expect. BTW, it can get hot as a desert in Hell there too!
Thanks for sharing ❤ I moved to Italy 7 years ago and had to learn Italian. It took me about 2 years before I wasn’t exhausted and getting headaches. My best advice is to learn HIOW you learn. I wrote an article about it awhile ago. Helped me a lot. Best of luck!!
Thank you for watching and for sharing the tip. I will search for your article. Thanks!
I went to Italy and I was there for 3 months...I learned the language very fast in three months!!! That's because I went there, with a native Italian and he pushed me to learn the language because he said that he's not always going to be with me to order pizza... a meal...cappuccino so...by him doing that I learned very quickly...so much so when I came back to the states I spoke the language so well that I was able to hold a conversation with his friends and they thought it was amazing how I was able to learn so quickly!!! Now...first of all, I was very young..so the mind is sharper as you get older it's not...but Im glad I had the experience but unless you have a person to speak with all the time you forget!!! I haven't spoke in years but there are still words I understand...also when I hear someone speaking I do understand some words
@@jayajaya788 Did you already speak another language, besides English?
Your so cute, I completely agree on everything you said. We travel bc we're free, we find our home when our heart tells us.
I lived in Colombia for 6 months recently returning to the United States in November 2023. I totally understand what you mean when you said your first experience doesn’t have to be your final resting place, it’s a whole world out here for us 🌍✨
Thank you for your share. I visited Merida also and the language barrier was too much for me. I knew better as well but the few weeks I was there alone. I got lost while venturing off for groceries but thank God the people are so friendly and helped me get back to my hotel. I felt like a fish out of water. But, I came to the same understanding for myself, that I can bop around until I find a place that feels right to my spirit. Two days to go and I will be going to Grenada and I am excited about it. Looking forward to following your next adventure.
Girl, when you come back to Mexico, Santiago de Queretaro will be your ROLL. No humidity; year eound spring like climate. Beauriful. Very safe.
I understand about the weather. One of the reasons I chose Bogota instead of Medellin. My sweet spot is 75-80 degrees.
We've had 114° in South Carolina with crazy humidity. I'd rather be in Merida!!
Are you me LOL? I'm an old white guy who left the US in 2022. The frustrations you experienced are pretty universal for those of us who, like you, moved too quickly. We were sick of paying high Airbnb rents, and just wanted a place where we could stop and relax. But it's been a constant battle trying to get things completed in our new condo. It's also very poorly built, so more added frustration.
The people here have been awesome, and I've learned Spanish well enough to get by, but like you said, it's exhausting trying to translate in your head every word people say to you.
But it's been a great learning experience, we're just trying to get out of here without losing our shirts! Great video Malika, and good luck to you in your search for a permanent home.
The opening of your comment made me laugh so hard. 🤣 I’m glad you can relate. lol The poor maintenance (or lack thereof) was definitely a lesson learned for life outside the US and I won’t make the hasty mistakes again. I hope everything works out with your condo so you can finally relax and enjoy your new home.
Dreaming Spanish is a decent option for those interested in immersion and RUclips has a lot of "Spanish Comprehensible Input" options as well.
Thank you.
Facts dreaming spanish is AWESOME
So glad I found this channel. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience. It is so so helpful 🙏🏾❤️
You’re welcome, Dymond. I’m glad you found me too. Welcome to the community. 💖
Great video! I have lived abroad in Asia for almost 3 years. I loved it but in the end found there was no place like home. I enjoy visiting other countries but have realized for me there is no one paradise. My paradise at time is based on which season of life I am in at that moment!
Aaah your paradise changes based on the season of life you’re in…I like that perspective and didn’t think of it that way. Thank you. 💖
Oh yes when I learned that one size does not fit the various seasons in my life the struggle ended and the looking forward to what comes next begins!@@moneycoachmalika
Thank you for your honesty and clarity. I don't know if I will move to Mexico, but I will think about it. Blessings to you on your journey.😊
I’m considering the same which is why I found your vid! Your video was calm, clear and concise. Thanks for sharing ❤
What you are describing about learning a language is just the normal painful process of acquiring a new skill and it can take many months until it becomes second nature to master. It is ok to feel inadequate because you are not going to grasp it all at once. Learning can be painful and wherever your next destination is you will face the same problemif their native language is not English. Pain and stress are part of life no matter where we go, They will be there for one reason or another. I think we as humans tend to idealize that moving somewhere will resolve all the problems ( I used to be at fault for that) but you realize that the world is complicated everywhere and what one place provides that another lacks will also come with another set of stressful issues. This is why also taking extended long trips with no intention of resettling are kind of the ideal thing to do because you mostly get to experience the good when on holidays.
I liked your video. 1) You are a very likable person ! (not like some Vloggers I've seen on YT that act like their sh*t don't stink !! LOL. 2) You gave valid reasons why Merida didn't work for you 3) You got straight to the point and didn't take 25 minutes (or more) as so many other RUclipsrs do to express thoughts ! 4) I love that you decided to "bop around" to search for the right place for you. I wish I could join you :-) I wish you all the luck in finding your perfect spot.
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HOla your story is very similar to mine I landed in Merida in March. Got and Abnb and basically slept for two months😊. I didn't even vist the pyramids. I used the fact that Merida is also less expensive to live to visit other cities like Queretaro and Campeche. I've since returned to Merida and found a 6mos place to give Merida a shot. But my eyes have been wandering to South East asia, Thailand...so who knows. There's No Rules to this lifestyle but the ones I make!🎉❤
HAHA those naps hit hard, didn’t they? lol Let your eyes wander and follow as the spirit moves you. We might cross paths in Thailand. “No rules to this lifestyle but the ones I make” - LOVE THAT SO MUCH!!
@@kimmcmillan4654 so grateful for you sharing your story. I’m on the same path as you a year later. Just looking for peace and rest.❤️
We don't have to leave the US to find peace and tranquility. I love Mexico, but I also love the US.
Malika you seem very intelligent. You are complicating the language learning process
Our American education has taught us learning other languages beside English is hard, but it doesn't have to be.
Good luck!
Yea, I figured I was probably complicating the language learning process. I hope I can find a patient teacher to help me process a little easier. I’m not giving up, just needed a break. Thank you.
@@moneycoachmalika you dont even need a teacher. start with the basics of ordering food, reading menus, communicating with a taxi driver. thats all I have done... plus learning a few new word each week on google translate. I dont care if I cant have complex conversations in Spanish. I have lived here for over 2 years now and even in situations where I didnt have the right words to communicate I was able to make myself understood. and that is good enough for me. I have never felt it painful or uncomfortable. I found that the most important words you can know are "tienes" - "do you have?" and "quiero" - "I want". and just keep slowly building off that.
I'm a white man and I loved your video. You have a warm and friendly way of storytelling. Thanks for sharing your apartment hunting experience in Merida. I could learn something from your experience. Hope you continue to enjoy your travels.
Hey, are you moving to Merida?
Went to Mérida. Loved the heat, loved the people❤ I want to move to Mexico but I’m not sure exactly where.
I left the states in 2021 to "bop around" in different countries. I've lived in Canada, visited several countries in Europe, now Thailand. While they all have their unique appeal, still haven't found "my" spot.
Said all that to say...your experience is totally valid and relatable!
It sounds like you’ve been having a great time. Love that!
I applaud you for trying. You’re a rock star! I hope you find what you’re looking for.
Great video. Thanks for sharing. My wife and I are looking at getting Mexican residency in the future.
Thank you! Mexico is a beautiful country with the most kind people so I hope you find the perfect 2nd home.
I am an ESL teacher who has lived all over the world (Europe, Asia, Middle-East) including China for 10 years. I was working, and always had English speaking colleagues and staff. With the advent of the smart phone, and simple Google Translate, you don't need to stress out learning the language right out of the gate, use a translator and save the stress. Practice the local language with friends you make who can actually help you with conversational.
Renting is always a nightmare for Americans because we have high stands for maintenance and cleanliness. You have to learn to accept less than that if you are going to live abroad (as wealthy as Saudi is, there were overflowing dumpsters on the side of the highway with dusty streets and substandard plumbing). Plumbing will be an issue all over the world unless you rent in a very new building.
I can not take extreme heat, and I have been in Mazatlan for about 2 years, and this is as hot as I can stand in the summer, and I work from home, so the heat is not that big an issue, but it is a negative. However the beach is only 500 m away.
The biggest negative right now is the how the dollar has been dropping against the peso. My rent has gone up $200 a month because of the drop, which is expected to continue to drop the rest of this year.
Thank you KO, sound advice.
Can you reccomend a contractor from teaching abroad
So well said. I really appreciate your cautionary tale, the details, your self reflection on the experiences. It’s super helpful!
Well done. You covered some important details such as learning Spanish and how it made you feel. That heat would overwhelm me all year long. I too like the idea of slow travel or bopping around.
Thank you, Dorris. It’s such a blessing to have the freedom to slow travel. 💖
Thank you so much for sharing. I’m looking to move to Mexico and Merida was on the top of the list for safety. after learning about the heat index and they high electric bills I’m going to pass. Very interested in Morelia now with better temperatures, safety, and affordability.
I would try the Dominican Republic. City of Cabarete is stunning. Cuisine, Culture, Beaches, & $$$ goes very far.
I live in France, i can relate to the learning a new language fatigue, it’s real. Live and learn, I’m sure now that you know yourself a little better you will make better decisions. You will fine you sweet spot. Enjoy the journey!
Oh yes! I totally relate! My brain was SO exhausted by the end of the day when I was learning a new language living in a foreign country!!!
It's getting hotter and hotter and hotter EVERYWHERE in the world. I have the same problem: looking for my "sweet" spot in terms of temperatures, but the choices are quite limited.
As for the language barrier.... believe it or not, you might encounter that same problem even in some "E nglish-speaking" countries!
I think if you had a got the first apartment that you liked that satisfied your needs, the language barrier would not have mattered so much and when he was tired, you wanna relax gracefully in the place you wanted to be in follow your first mind
America has dumbed us down since both always demanding everyone speak only English do you know in Africa they speak three or more languages their own, English, French , German depending who colonized and another native language amazing isn’t it. My Dad would speak to me in Spanish but since I grew up in my mother’s household only English listening to him and trying to remember and process is rough needless to say he ended up just saying whatever he had to say in English
Well stated, one can take the individual initiative to learn another language. In Europe and other parts of the world it is not surprising to speak at least two languages, if not more. It widens your understanding of others,n rather than being self centered and expecting everyone to speak your language.
I considered Merida at one point but the heat and the bugs kept me away from it , i bought a house in queretaro (central Mexico) the weather is dry for the most part and it’s a nice city pretty modern but still Mexico , I’m Mexican American but actually living I see the difference in the culture, I’ll be here for a while I guess but not forever.
Mexico is not for everyone ,most expats including my self moved here for the lower cost of living and sure is cheaper but it comes with it challenges 😅
I plan to go there from oct to December just to enjoy the vibe and people lately I have been checking out st kitts you should slowly check out the Caribbean English speaking
Thanks for the video. Lot of people can't really get the "leave America" sentiment--so that's a whole other conversation. But this video is a few months back, so I need to see what you ended up doing. But I'm very happy you tried to find a different place, and then realized-nope, this ain't the final stop.
Appreciate you reminding me of how exhausting the language thing is. I practice daily on an app for the place I'm moving. But that's NOTHING compared to the 4 hours a day classes I'm supposed to start when I get there-and I forgot how much fatigue goes with that.
So I'm gonna skip ahead to one of your current vids to see what happened!
do you know mexico is place of mini climas if you go to chiapas you will find places were the temperature is from 50 at night to 75-80 during the day and they are beautifull and cheap!
Excellent video. Good info for anyone looking to move abroad.
Haha! I understand about the language! So true that it really hurts my brain trying to work with a foreign language.
It takes time. Im still working on it.
On one of my extended stays in a foreign country, when time to leave, upon meeting some Canadians in the airport, I finally felt like I could breathe in being able to speak English.
I admire you for taking the plunge and thanks for sharing your experience. Happy travels.
You have a pleasant attitude. I just moved to Merida 6 weeks ago. It's really hot here.
But I feel safe here and after renting 2 disappointing Airbnb I found last week a beautiful loft in one of the best gated community in the northern part of Merida.
As far as the language, I constantly hear that from Americans.
Ah the language problem, it's so hard etc etc.
Well that's a "problem" most immigrants have to face in many countries and in particular in the US.
Don't think it's easy for a foreigner to learn English either.
It's hard for everyone but it must be done out of respect for the host country you're moving in.
I personally learned Spanish before coming to Mexico.
Not sure yet if I will remain in Merida. Too soon to tell. I have lived in other places in the world and I need to adapt to this new place but again, the temperatures are extremely hot here.
I don't recommend going out in the afternoon unless you're at the beach or at the pool.
I go out after 4pm.
As stated in the video I studied Spanish for 6 years before moving to Mexico and continued studying after moving there - out of respect for the culture. Congrats that you don’t have the “problem” of most immigrants.
This was a great educational experience for you!
How were you able to get your permanent Mexican residency?
I'm curious because I would love it.
And I will be traveling there here in a couple of months
Go to the Mexico consulate in your state and they will assist you. You can also review the permanent residency requirements on their website. consulmex.sre.gob.mx
I’m not a Black woman but I have been bopping around Mexico the past few months 2 to be exact and I decided to practice renting and I am currently in a little beach town in a Oaxaca called Zipolite. It is a little rural but it has seemed safe. I’m not sure this is my final place. I suggest following you gut to find your best place. I loved San Miguel Allende. But I think it is not my true sweet spot, for my own reasons. I’m loving the Pacific Ocean but not sure I have found the One ! Best of luck
Thanks. Let’s make sure we aren’t rushing to find our destination and missing the beauty of life’s best experiences. Enjoy the journey of finding your sweet spot. 💖
Thank you very much for sharing your personal experience…… a very good food for thought for someone looking for a place to retire…. again, many thanks….
I want to come visit you all over in Merida. I’m in Puerto Vallarta. One of the main reasons why I didn’t move to Merida was how hot everybody said it was. And also there was no water. Been here for about 2 1/2 years. I love it but I am getting ready to get an apartment back in the states so I can do half the year there and then half the year here.
Girl, you did nothing wrong here. It’s all part of the learning curve. Mexico has SO many climates to choose from. I’ve lived in Peru and Ecuador on multiple occasions. I’ve learned to go up or down to find the climate I prefer. Keep searching until you find your sweet spot. Yes language can be mentally taxing, but it WILL get easier. Don’t criticize yourself, it’s an adventure to learn from.
Thanks for the information. Maybe getting the apartment you didn't like was a blessing in disguise. It'll likely lead you to a location you'll like. Merida for me has many pros but I know the brutal heat would get old fast.
Lol I knew the #1 was going to be the heat. We are in Mérida now it we were at the beach.
Soon moving to Xalapa Veracruz. ❤
Thanks for sharing. 🙏
LOL @ the heat 🥵
right I'm so over it. lol someone once told me oh its so hot, just wait. I thought oh we can take haha. Well after 2 summers here we are ready to move on. VIVA MEXICO BABY @@moneycoachmalika
Great video. I needed to hear it
Thanks for this video, Malika. It was very well done.
You have to give it some time and fight through those urges and it will become home. Good thoughts and feedback.
Mérida sure misses You!❤ Hello from Yucatan 🖐️
Immediately after you said your first reason I took the words out of your mouth. Hot!! Never been there but I've been researching where to live in Mexico once I retire.. I can't stand the heat. I was born in Trinidad lived in UK most of my life and now live in Toronto Canada. Cannot tolerate intense heat.
Hi Malika. Have you looked at Chiangmai Thailand? We are about to make our second visit there. Chiangmai is about the same size as Merida. Congrats on getting residency, what a bonus.
Yes yes! CM is one of my favorite cities in the world. 😊
Hi Malika I am planning on moving to Merida, thought that I would be there by now but this state side visa process is like playing the daily lottery lol. Thank you for the video.
You’re welcome and thank you for watching. What visa problems are you having on the US side? My process was pretty straightforward in the US, then I hired a service to finalize it in Mexico.
Can you please share yge process
You have a very good attitude about learning Spanish. Yes, in the beginning of speaking Spanish is exhausting. I hear ya, but I do respect that you have the right attitude about it and you put your heart and soul into it. You have a Beautiful attitude about exploring the world. Kudos to you. 😊
Hola, I have lived in Mérida for 2.5 years. I tried convincing myself that I could stand the heat but I was lying. I'm looking at youtube videos to try to figure out where my next move will be. I gotta go.
I’m glad you decided to prioritize your needs. Some of the comments on this video made suggestions for cooler places in MX. I hope you find a location that makes you more comfortable.
Did you leave Merida yet?
Great video! Thanks. Yes, the language is a challenge and it's really difficult to find a home but it's the number one reason you mentioned that I most identify with. Sea level, anywhere in Mexico, including all beach destinations, is far too hot! I love Mexico but never go near sea level if I can avoid it. The highland interior of Mexico is way better for me. Mexico City, San Miguel de Allende or anywhere above about 4000 feet in elevation. You might want to try Mexico again at a higher elevation. There are so many places in Mexico where the weather is just perfect. Never much above 70F. Sunny most of the time. Etc.
Great advice. I’ll consider these locations next. Thank you.
Funny, I'm thinking a town at 4000 ft would be excellent.
Can you name some nice small towns?
Thank you
I can name many. San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, Queretaro, Morelia, Oaxaca are just a few. Just Google something like, "Mexican cities over 4000 feet in elevation". @@angelab4652
San Miguel de Allende, Queretaro, Guanajuato, Oaxaca. There are probably hundreds that would fit that criteria.
Girl i'm salvadorean, i'm new in your Chanel, i move to usa in the 70 th and i know what you are talking about, but i went to school to learn English one of my teacher thought us by singing you know that musick from the 70th another teacher told us to just watch English chanels only and just learn to listen don't transelete just get useto listen English, read English every single book sure be in English, i did everything they told me and now if i'm speaking in English i think in English, and if i'm speaking in spanish i think in spanish, that is the key. By the way i bougt a house in México i love México.
“Listen don’t translate. Just get use to listen(ing) to English…now if I’m speaking in English I think in English…and if I’m speaking in Spanish I think in Spanish” - THIS IS THE MOST HELPFUL COMMENT I’VE RECEIVED!! It directly addresses the root of my problem (thinking and translating while listening = fatigue). Wow! I’m going to do it. THANK YOU SO MUCH!! 💖
No never considered Merida. Because of the heat. I'm now considering Lake Chapala and its looking good.
I was thinking of moving to Puerto Vallarta. I've been there 5 or 6 times and i really love the city. I took from your video to learn the language well enough before i leave America😂
Thanks for sharing! As tempting as Mexico seems, I'm staying in America, bcuz I'm not interested in learning a new language and the heat may be too much for me. I'm accustomed to the 4 season weather in NYC. I'm actually hot in the winter. LOL! You know, with menopause and whatnot. 😆 I have my eye on Peoria Illinois bcuz the houses are extremely cheap there. But I definitely plan to visit Merida, Costa Rica, and a few other countries!
Wow, great info. Thanks
Love your energy, girl !!
Chile my trip to Veitnam not knowing language changing currency so hard wore me out i wud have to take a nap jus to buy a few things tooooo much to process
Awww. Lol I feel you on incomplete property projects, girl!!! That is a bummer and can make you stressed. In regards to learning a new language, slow down my gathering as much vocabulary as possible. Master that so when you hear those words in sentences you won’t get so exhausted. 😢 I wish you well-God bless you onward with your travels.
I’ve mastered basic vocabulary and recognize many words. I can understand far more than I speak. I’m told my fatigue is normal as I advance.
I only shared a small fraction of my frustrations with that apartment and owner/landlord. Didn’t want the video to turn negative, but I’m glad the experience is behind me. Lots of lessons learned as I continue my travel journey.
Thank you for the well wishes and I receive the blessings. 💖
Merida is next level hot. 😂 I got use to it. At night in December to February it has an amazing sea breeze and you don’t need a/c at all. But… it’s hot as hell here. 😅
HAHA I agree. The weather Dec to Feb was beautiful. After that, whew! 🤣
@@moneycoachmalika Well, I’m fully committed and I love it here. I’m right on the coast and I enjoy the beach being a five-minute walk away. I realize you can’t have it all. I was in Medellìn, Colombia and they have perfect weather, but a crime problem. In Canada, I was cold half the year and the cost of living and work-life balance was off. Maybe I will travel to Argentina and stay there between May and August. It’s winter down there at that time.
@princegraywolf yea, nowhere is perfect. Just need to find a place where the things you love far outweigh the things you don’t love. And it sounds like you’ve found your place. 💖 I think I’m getting close - at least narrowing it down. lol
@@moneycoachmalika Yes, it’s about finding a balance that’s more weighted towards your “wants”. I will check your channel for more videos as this is my first one. Take care and good luck.
Thanks, same to you.
I only have 2 videos about Mexico (this one and why I moved to Merida). On my channel, I primarily talk to Black women about investing and financial freedom. So send your mom, aunties, sisters, and cousins. lol I mean, you’re welcome to watch too, especially if you love to see Black women happy and FINANCIALLY FREE. 🥰
That translating is harddd I get it girl. I live in a border city
Morelia is a good place to go. The weather is much cooler but not much English is spoken.
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This was great info! Through my Mexico research, the Merida heat took it off my list.
Thank you! And girl, I understand. I think the heat keeps the foreigner population under control. 😂
Have you visited Puerto Rico. 80 degrees most days. I think you may like it!
Yes, I love PR and visit often.
Loved your video....thanks for the the insight on Mérida, MX
I lived in Mexico (Leon,gto) until i was 13yrs and i was not happy 😢.... perhaps, because of school,bugs,and other factors
But the main issue was the "alacranes" 🦂🦂🦂
I got stung 3 times in 2yrs and ended every time at the cruz roja(hospital)
Yeah...that was and still is a problem for me to come back to Mexico
I have several American friends but I still sometimes forget how spoiled you guys are 😅
I've been living here in Tijuana, Mexico, for 10 years now cause I married a Mexican. Now, I am so frustrated and tired of living here. I'm divorcing and moving back to the States at the end of the month. I am done!
Nothing wrong with any of that , you're just taking care of yourself . We don't know what we don't know , until we get there . Naps are good , especially in a warm climate ( Siesta ) and translating is tiring . I have to laugh at myself , because every time I Travel , I feel like I'm heading off to my death , with a head full of "what if's" that never happen . The World is a lot Safer than what goes on in my head . cheers .
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It’s to hot!! You don’t want to live far from the city. Live where you are close to everything. Rent air b&b then check out places to rent. You don’t need to pay someone to help you.
I like to go out and eat and I didn’t have a good experience with some of the places that I attended to eat but the breakfast foods were good but everything else was making me miss the US so bad I couldn’t wait to come home
Learning a new language is hard work and it is tiring. My personal experience is that takes a minimum of 6 months for the mind to "house" a new language and then we stop translating. Don't give up.
Sorry if I missed it but what about your home? Did you sell….are you renting it out?
As a Spanish speaking Black woman with family in Central America: 1) Spanish as spoken in Mexico- down to the different states in Mexico- is significantly different than what is taught in HS and college here in North America. It IS exhausting to be in an immersive language environment, and no one would blame you for a siesta! 2) Yucatan heat is NO JOKE and you truly do need to get used to it or spend midday in A/C! 3) Merida, especially central, has become expensive, both for locals and ex pats, and unless I was in business there, I could not see myself moving there. The Mayan people are incredibly beautiful but there is only a small population of Afro Mexicanos there , and I would prefer to be around more Afro- Central Americans (like next door in Belize, or in Panama/Costa Rica.
That's the same way I was trying to learn Spanish, so I understand fully. Merida would be too hot for me. Bop around girl!
Looking good Malika!
Thank you!
the real reason I would leave is because of the unbearable heat and humidity.
I am #teambop, i cannot do hot weather. Heading to CDMX first, then SMA, buena suerte
SMA is also on my list. Thanks and same to you!
I lived in the state of Jalisco,Mexico for 2 years,I never desired to live in Merida,it’s way too close to the Yucatán (too burning hot!) I’m so sorry you almost burned! I love speaking Espanol everyday I understand all your points stated-I really think the dim conditions in your condo wasn’t healthy for your mental! Be blessed,Mexico is everything to me,hopefully you’ll land somewhere close to paradise-try us close to the bay in Puerta Vallarta!❤
Merida is not close to the Yucatán. It is IN Yucatán. 😂
Puerto* Vallarta. 😂
Merida is very overrated. Not sure why expats are in love with that place. It's landlocked and hot asf in the summer. We live in Playa Del Carmen, it's near the ocean and very walkable. Lots to do and you can live near the jungle or near the ocean. Not much to do in Merida. It's very conservative. Nice to visit for a few days but that's about it
I am currently in the process of moving out of Merida. This isn't my vibe either. I have nothing nice to say about it.
This is really a great video Malika! Every future Expat should watch this. While the first reason is heat, that is specific to Merida and other places in Mexico, which is why we (wife and I) are NOT moving there. LOL. If you are from Florida, Arizona, etc., you are used to 90+ every day or, if you are retired and will not be doing a lot, then Merida will work regarding heat. 2). Was just a mistake that we all make sometimes in life, but now you know to go with your heart\gut and brain (peace of mind from the views, etc.). However, the desire to look around first is only human. 3). I have been with my Mexican wife in Chicago for over 32 years, and I still cannot speak Spanish. LOL. They speak too damn fast, and even more so in Mexico. My wife was born there, and goes back every year. With that said, we are moving there when we retire in 3 years and I will be fluent by then. However, I do the exact same thing - translated conversations - big pauses, which can drive you nuts. The first problem is that the dialect changes depending on where you are in Mexico, they speak really fast, roll words together, etc. Even my wife has to adjust to people when she visits her relatives that are all over Mexico. I must say, when I am drunk or mad, I can speak Spanish ok because I don't think. LOL Get drunk and watch TV. I cannot tell you how many foreigners from all over the world learned English from watching TV. Language helps in ALL non English speaking countries. Lastly, San Miguel De Allende Hotels and many other places in Mexico have large Expat communities, facebook groups, etc. and a lot of them DO NO speak Spanish. We are going to travel the world as well after we move there, but I always study the language for a year before going. By the time I leave there, I might know how to at least say a few words, correctly. LOL. This is a great video, and thank you for this. It's very thought provoking. Good luck and I wish you safe, happy and Enjoyable journeys as yo traverse the globe.
This comment made me laugh so hard. Now I want to get drunk and watch TV in Spanish. LOL! If this works, I’m going to do an updated video and give you credit. Thanks for the laughs and well wishes. 😂
@@moneycoachmalika Anytime. Glad it made you laugh. Looking forward to the video. 🙂 Saying complete sentences white swearing(in spanish) helps, too. :-)
@@moneycoachmalikamusic! Find your favorite songs in Spanish and sit down and translate them. Trust me. Highly effective. Subtitles on shows are ok but don’t forget they do quick translation because I catch omissions all the time. My Latino boyfriend points them out as well. TV is good for oral comprehension but music comes with a melody that makes you speak the language easier AND translating those lyrics will make learning 10Xs easier. Trust me. You’ll never forget the translation and it’s repeated as many times as you replay the song. ❤
It’s so hot here! So true
Merida's weather is just like Las Vegas.
My husband and I want to move to live in Mexico, I am Puerto Rican.
It’s a beautiful country with a diverse landscape. I hope you find the perfect place in Mexico to settle down and call home.
I’m retired and ready to bop around. Maybe we can do this at the same places
Lessgo!
Hello Malika. I am a mexican mature man and my family is originally from Mérida.
Well. Like you I am in the process to decide the place in México where I want to retire.
And I know that eventhough I love Merida it won't be Mérida because of the extremely hot and humid weather.
I currently live in Monterrey which is a large industrial hub city in the north of Mexico. I grew up in Monterrey. And I know I won't live my retirement years heré. Because this city is too big. People heré have a very hectic life style and the weather is horrible.
So. Even though I am not a woman of color. Je je. I would like to know which places other than Mérida you are considering for your retirement in México.
It would be useful and interesting to compare with the options I am considering.
Thanks in advance for sharing.
@ILikeLanguagesHello. I am still reviewing the options.
I am just starting the process.
And You? Do You already have some options over the table?
Cheers.
Hi Miquel, did you move to Mexico yet? I am retired and looking for a cool spot to land.
I was in Puerto Vallarta for a few months and loved it there.
Hello Malika, I loved your video and would love to know where you are now? I'm in Mexico also
This is exactly how I felt when i just moved to the US and was learning English. Because i speak French Fluently, Spanish is not hard for me to learn. So, i don't feel the brain fog and headache i used to feel when learning English
Thanks for letting me know I’m not alone. I will continue learning, just taking a break.
@moneycoachmalika of course, you are not alone. Learning a foreign language is harder the older we become, but with consistency, you will get there.
Thank you for your thoughts! It’s interesting to see others perspective. Remember you are brave to break the invisible barriers that ties us to our places of birth! When I first lived abroad 25 years ago, it was meet with difficulties. Homesick, language barriers, cultural differences, to name a few. When we lived abroad we often look 👀 at the world in our default cultural lenses. This may not be an accurate representation. So with this being said, it takes time and adjustment to live another country. Give yourself time! Then you will make a video of reverse culture shock when you go back to the US!
The culture was the least of my concerns; I love Mexican culture. And I wasn’t homesick; I’m still abroad. I didn’t need more time to know that Merida wasn’t for me. I happily moved on and there will be no more videos about it!
Have you been to Costa Rica? I live here with my family. It’s a different experience.
Yes, a short visit earlier this year and loved it. I plan to return one day.
Just curious, what do you do for income aside from your retirement funds?
I don’t need to do anything. My retirement funds create the income for me.