Heartbreaking horror story. Dementia is heavily based in nutritional deficiency and for women, estrogen depletion. If you're a woman over 40 you owe it to your family to take estrogen supplementation! For the science listen to Dr Mary Claire Haver.
I say make your money and then return back to mexico if you like. I definitely wants to settle in Thailand when its all said and done. Well Congratulations on being successful on youtube its all about consistency.
I retired from the U.S. Army and moved to Brasil. I brought my mother, who has dementia, with me. I hired two nurses to care for my mother around the clock. Something that would be impossible in the U.S. Moving to Brasil was the best decision for me and my mother. I cannot comprehend ever moving back to the U.S. I make my money in the U.S. and live in Brasil. Best of both worlds.
A few years ago, I visited a church in Mexico. The preacher was talking about debt, he was telling the congregation to stay out of debt and that, in the, U S people live under the illusion that they own things when in reality it is the banks and credit card companies that own them.
Sadly, in Mexico, most people earn so little money that they live paycheque to paycheque and do not save anything. Debt levels are much lower than in the USA or Canada because most Mexicans earn too little to qualify for credit cards and earn too little to get bank loans. The ones who borrow from 'other sources' often end up lifeless on the side of a road.
That attitude exists in the Middle East too, and it's a big part of why they lag behind the west. Debt us used to build wealth and make your life better, if done wisely.
@@hootowl6354 Since when is debt used wisely for 90+ percent of the population? The Middle East doesn't have access to the money printer, big difference.
"under the illusion". This falls under Accounting and Finance, not illusions. If you make payments, it is quite obvious that you would not actually own whatever it is that you've purchased until it is paid off.
I'm an American living in mexico. I have my own home, I eat fresh healthy food, fruits veggies, nuts for very little, super relaxed, not millionaire status but comfortable and I would never think of going back. Knock on wood.
@jaroslawakmiot666probably the presence of narcos there. I am Mexican and I was living there two months, Is not a paradisiac place if you have not money. Life for US citizens or canadians is nice, but for people with low income, Is not, much bussiness need to pay to narcos.
Really Cabrón? La Suegras running your house. Don’t give suegra an option. Bring her to Mexico find her a partner that can/ will provide her with weekly maintenance. Leaving you and your women to enjoy your tercera edad years. Cabron life is short, don’t grow old living with regrets. 🟦
We experienced the pinnacle of our era, but it is now gone. Like what happened to Rome, the corrupt administration will bring this nation to an end. My condolences go out to anyone who is close to retiring and may be worried about whether their pension will be enough to pay the rising cost of living. Insane fiscal policy, poor regulatory policy, poor energy policy, and poor foreign policy
50 and early retirement. I'm very worried about the future and where we're all heading, especially in terms of money and how to get by. I'm considering making my first investment in the stock market, but how can I do so given that the market has been in a mess for the majority of the year?
Exactly my solution too, even though I'm not retired. As a contractor with limited time to analyze investments, I've relied on a fiduciary for the past seven years to manage my portfolio. This strategy has helped me navigate market fluctuations effectively and also increased my porfolio by up to 300%. You might consider a similar approach.
*Izella Annette Anderson* is the licensed fiduciary I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment.
We moved to Mexico specifically for my mother with Alzheimers. The nursing home was run by a Canadian man whose wife had dementia and passed away, he turned his large hacienda into a nursing home specializing in Alzheimer’s care. The nursing staff was amazing, the care was 2 caregivers to one patient as opposed to usually one nurse to six or more patients . My grandmother went thru three Alzheimer’s units in the USA and all of them were horrible, we live in a higher income community so there was no excuse for poor care. In fact one very high cost unit just sprayed patients down with Lysol if they soiled themselves. Our doctor who was well traveled wholeheartedly supported our decision to move my mother to Mexico for care. She was happy until the day she passed from a stroke. She never knew where she was from day to day only cared that she had home cooked food and a very clean environment with wonderful caring trained caregivers and always one nurse on duty at all times. The hospital was literally right next door in case of emergencies. It was affordable and the best part was she had excellent care. How was I so sure. Because of a medication issue I needed to spend a week somewhere quite and with care until my medication took affect. I went to my mother’s nursing home. The care was excellent and the patients formed bonds that were like an extended family. They looked out for one another as best as they could considering their various illnesses. They had games that encouraged exercise at a minimal level, music, a beautiful atrium filled with gorgeous tropical plants, a swimming pool with special equipment for those who could use it, three home cooked meals per day and a nurse who administered medication as needed. Cameras were located in the rooms yet made sure that no one’s privacy was ever violated. My only complaint was that there was a bar across the street that played loud music but guess what when I asked the other patients if the music bothered them, they asked what music. You see Alzheimer’s patients would not remember anything that happened during the night and often nothing that happened an hour before. It did upset me since I did not have a memory issue watching the decline of such wonderful people, it broke my heart but the times they did remember they were happy and well fed and clean. The rooms were perfect for the needs of the patients. Its a shame they did not consider placing their parent into one of these several homes because their lives and hers would have been beautiful. I don’t know if their plans can change but if it was me I would look into nursing care in Ajijic Mexico. God forbid we should need nursing care but if we did we wouldn’t hesitate to go in a skinny minute. I’m lucky I got to see if we made a good decision for my mother, my heart is now at peace that I did the very best for her.
@@LynnMiddleton-ns4dg God Bless you for taking good care of your Mom or finding the best for her. So many adult children don’t want to be bothered to even see their parents if they are ill. Too much of an inconvenience. It’s sad but true in many families. 😞
I just took in my 89-year-old mom and we are both happy about that decision. I don't have the guilt about not seeing her enough, I get to feed her the right way, and she is thrilled to be with me.
in 2007 I left the new life I'd established for myself decades before, living in a dilapidated house in the "almost outback" of Australia. Returning my to hometown of Christchurch in New Zealand. Now sharing a small rental central city flat (unit) I'm caring in-home for my Mum, 98 and very frail. But every day we have together is a blessing. I'm just trying to have the best life I can at the moment while I'm living in a city*, while helping mum have the best life she can have also. (*Did some classes at University and Polytechnic, helping on some committees of things etc) Every evening we sit together watching the big TV in the loungeroom with subtitles on (her hearing's down a bit). Fortunately I live in a nation with Free Universal Healthcare and a welfare system that pays me a small allowance to stay home and care for mum. Who knows what the future holds. Whether I may in future return to the semi-arid almost outback of Australia, or some cold rainy part of Southern N.Z. ? Relish and enjoy the time you have with your elderly relatives, whanau and friends.
"She wasn't having any of that". When an adult gets dementia they inherit the accountability and decision making ability of a child. I am an RN. I see families torn apart by unrealistic efforts on behalf of demented parents. The ones that do best have a family leader willing to make hard decisions. I am afraid I would have taken my parent "for a vacation" and then kept her at the new location. The last thing I would do is come out of retirement and incur debt to please someone who is increasingly child-like. Sorry but I think most people would regret your decision.
On the flip side my dad with dementia wanted to live out his last years in Mexico but I couldn't afford it and his dialysis treatment in Mexico would be tough.
Change is very traumatic for dementia patients. Just went through all that with a family member. My family member wouldn’t leave her home. QRoo and wife put the mom first. It’s admirable.
The sad part of this is the person with dementia will eventually not know where they are and that person could be in Mexico and not even know it and be happy.
my thoughts exactly. If someone is elderly and can't get out much there is almost no difference between living in the states vs mexico, they will mostly be around the house etc
Just tell them you're in "New Mexico". LOL My Mom and Dad mostly had physical decline, although my Mother showed signs of mental decline near the end. We had a full time in-house caregiver for both of them, in California and it was extremely expensive. I think this is one reason why more Americans are retiring abroad. In the United States to be in the top 1% of income earners, you need a yearly income of $550k - $600k per year. The world as a whole, that number is only $32,000 a year, which means in some nice places, you can live like a wealthy person on very little income.
Mexican pal here. Don't you worry, we'll welcome you back with open arms when you decide to return 😊😊😊. Thank you for appreciating our country the way you do.
No lo puedo creer. Si sabes que estos "expats" (como se llaman entre ellos) nos estan desplazando de nuestras sierras? No has visto los problemas que Han causado con los locales de sinaloa, guanajuato, Merida, cancun, y un largo etc?
No request to ‘Subscribe’, no request to ‘Like’. That’s why I did both, felt like we were in the kitchen together and I was listening to your story. Much success in your journey 👍🏻
You guys do realize the reason people keep asking to like And subscribe is because RUclips emails them and tells them they need to do that? In fact RUclips is getting very aggressive about telling content creators to always mention the people need to like And subscribe or they may even risk having strikes against them.
I did the same thing.. I've been wondering if anyone would EVER make a video that didn't ask for liking and subscribing. We all know the routine now, so I honestly don't understand why every single video has to keep requesting it.
We followed your advice and went to Mexico for 4 years. It was FANTASTIC. Life happened in the US, and we had to return to the USA. Maybe eventually we will get back to Mexico. I am now working a tiny amount. We bought a home again in the USA for cash, but now we have to live on a shoestring. Your advice was so spot on for Mexico, and especially the financial breakdown, etc. I am subscribing so that I hope you will be sharing how to "make it" in the USA! I need that help! Welcome back. Life happens.
I'm 54 and my wife and I are VERY worried about our future, gas and food prices rising daily. We have had our savings dwindle with the cost of living into the stratosphere, and we are finding it impossible to replace them. We can get by, but can't seem to get ahead. My condolences to anyone retiring in this crisis, 30 years nonstop just for a crooked system to take all you worked for...
I feel your pain mate, as a fellow retiree, I’d suggest you look into passive index fund investing and learn some more. For me, I had my share of ups and downs when I first started looking for a consistent passive income so I hired an expert advisor for aid, and following her advice, I poured $30k in value stocks and digital assets, Up to 200k so far and pretty sure I'm ready for whatever comes.
@@danguRobert The crazy part is that those advisors are probably outperforming the market and raising good returns but some are charging fees over fees that drain your portfolio. Is this the case with yours too?
My dream of living in Mexico was inspired by a book called "Women Reinventing Their Lives in Mexico', by Karen Blue. That dream was shattered by a diagnosis of small cell lung cancer. Lots of chemotherapy and radiations treatments have left me incapacited. Your story, your resiliance, and ability to roll with the punches makes me happy. Best of luck to you and your family!
why are people afraid to moved out of country when they are sick. If living outside the country is better then it should work for all situations. Health care should be the number reason for moving abroad.
@@damienholland8103 I live part time in Colombia and have medical insurance over there. the facilities are great and the attention is wonderful. I had similar experiences in Panama albeit those were private facilities and services. I feel like a lot of it comes down to pay in public services in western countries and the people that work within those institutions in those countries. in Colombia the people that work at the hospitals are just happy to have jobs, so they take pride in their respective fields, as opportunities are far and few and no one wants to lose their job. it feels like a lot of the people that work in public medical facilities in places like Canada, the UK and other places in Europe hate their jobs and that's reflected in the service and environment. just my take.
I brought my father to Mexico where he lived out his last days being pampered by the excellent in home care of the sweetest maids overlooking the ocean. We went out a lot to good food and music. It was by far the best choice
I made the move to Mexico two years ago and never looked back. I sold or gave away everything - no more debts, worries and am now pursuing art once again. Can’t imagine getting back on the hamster wheel. I hope you will be able to return to life in Mexico.
@@taroman7100The difference is, that they moved to México after they retire to live debt free and try to enjoy life. The “horde” as you called them, are coming to work to find a job and help the families they left behind.
Paul and Linda, I am a retiree fan of yours from Cancun. Maintain your connections in MX, so when things change for you again, you will have your support base to help you to regresse.
I am retired US navy and have lived and prospered in Mexico for 22 years. It is a much simpler life here. I recommend this move to all. We own our cars, houses, and have zero debt and a strong income, much different than the US
Hi Paul, I remember you and Linda when you stayed in Akumal Bay, I was the yoga teacher, and then saw you again in the Tao, when you told me you moved to Mexico. My name is Hiram. I was baffled seeing your face in the RUclips feed and reading the description of the video, that you moved back to the US. Thanks for sharing, it was delightful to hear you telling your story as a family. Congratulations for embarking again in a new adventure in your life as You Tube content creator. Warm regards for you and Linda.
You are an amazingly compassionate person to upend your whole life to help your mother in law, and particularly to respect her wishes over your own. May all your kindness return to you when you are older, whether you stay in the US or go back to Mexico. Your information about Mexico is helping so many people, and will continue to spread that goodwill while you are moving on with your life. God bless.
Paul, yeah, life happens. Travel around and do nothing. However, becoming a RUclips creator is a great idea. I am one of your students and you are my preferred teacher. I wish you all the best.❤
Navy Veteran here, knew a very wonderful and lovely lady. Got married and living since 2012 in a small town in Jalisco. Not regrets. Amazing life here.
Are you a citizen of Mexico or permanent resident? Can you collect military/federal if you are a CITIZEN of another country? or is the way around it just to get a permanent residency (have no idea how to do that).
You are the reason I am living in Mexico-your video -can you live on social security got me thinking. I arrived in Querétaro in 2021 with a dog, two cats and three suitcases. I thank you for that video and that nudge to re-invent myself at 70. I wish you all the best.
Your videos helped me get more confidence in moving to Mexico. I liked your Spanish lessons too. I lived in Mexico for 3 years, but life brought me back to the states also for family reasons. It would be interesting to do a survey on how many people end up coming back after living in Mexico for a while. Life is interesting. One thing for sure, never say never. I wish you all the luck growing your RUclips channels. Maybe you could return one day. I sense you liked it there better. Take care.
The only bad decision in life is doing nothing. Go for it with everything you got. At 70 I just got my permanent residency and moved to Queretaro. Why not!?
Congratulations with your move. Life is definitely better overseas. I've been watching Paul for years. I choose to live in south America it's half the price of mexico the weather is definitely better. I was always scared of the Mexican cartels that's the main reason I never went to Mexico 😂😂😂
I would never, ever expect or ask my kids or anyone to abandon their life choices to take care of me, at any stage in my life. I'm living my life, they deserve theirs.
We don't know what his mother-in-law expects. She isn't well. Perhaps she can't make decisions herself. They weighed their options on how to help her because their hearts NEEDED to help her. It's called being human.
I retired early in 1999 and moved from Houston to the middle of Mexico where I've been ever since. Haven't even set foot above the border in 15 years. I cannot fathom moving back to the U.S. I would have insisted my mother-in-law move to Mexico.
There has to be something more to this story. If my mother in law needed help, and I was already established in Mexico, I would have told her come down here, or you’re on your own. It’s ridiculous to think that lady was so selfish that she insisted in living in an America that is fraught with crime, unaffordable, filthy from all the homeless. There has to be something else to this story.
I assume you are on Medicare which doesn’t cover medical expenses outside USA. Would you please share what medical/health insurance do you have in Mexico. Thank you.
I hope I never have to make a decision like you've had to make. Like you I moved to Mexico in 2015 and I consider it one of the best decisions I've ever made. I don't have enough income to live comfortably in the U.S. but it's enough that here in Mexico I've actually saved a nice little nest egg, own a beautiful house, and live debt free. Mexico is my home now and at 77 years old if I had to move back to the U.S. I'm sure I would spiral into a bottomless depression.
DJ, Hey we have the same initials! :) I live half time in Mexico but as I get a little older I find myself not wanting to leave to come back to the states... We mostly snowbird there and have a small property. I do find I always save money while in Mexico but it quickly dissolves away when I am back in the USA for 6 months at a time. I am a little jealous that you are full time. I am also thinking ahead to a time when I might need in home care, and I find the Mexican people are so much better at it... so yeah... there is that bit. Nursing home care in my state is outrageously expensive.
Hey DJ I moved here in 2011 and thankfully still here. I live simply here, stress free and no debt also. The only problem is that I keep collecting dogs. Not really a problem, I love them all.
Are you a native Spanish speaker, or did you learn Spanish when you got there? How does that work? Also, where in Mexico is a good place for Americans to retire?
Whew! I thought for a second you were quitting RUclips. I'm so glad you're staying as your content is both entertaining and informative. Best of luck. Thank you Paul!
I am so happy I made productive decisions about my finances that changed forever. I'm a single Dad living in Vancouver Canada, bought my first house in October and hoping to retire soon if things keep going smoothly for me
Everyone needs more than their salary to be financial stable. The best thing to do with your money is to invest it rightly, because money left for saving always end up used with no returns.
I’m looking for something to venture into on a short term basis, I really need to create an alternate source of income, what do you thing I should be buying?
I hope you are happy with your new life. After 20 years in Mexico (today), moving back to the US is pretty much the most depressing thing I can think of. I’m here for the long run.
Congrats on being a full-time RUclipsr! It is me Alicia, Tell Linda Carlos and I say hello! We live in Querétaro now and truly love it! We just bought a home, and we love it so much! Take care guys, sending you all hug!
Glad to hear things are working out for you two. I went through a similar situation, except mine is going downhill very fast. A few years ago I left my job (architect) in Toronto, Ontario. Had a very serious case of burnouts, and stress. My health was declining. Got married, took my wife places, including Croatia where I was born to show her were I came from as a kid. She loved the place then, and convinced me to move there. Sold our house, got rid of a lot of stuff, packed a container with stuff we wanted to keep, including a car, and off we went to Croatia. The idea was to buy a piece of land there, build a house, and live happily ever after. We bought a gorgeous lot, hired a local architect, got our doctors first week that we were there. Croatia being part of the EU, has excellent health care right across the continent, and it was cheap-cheap. Six months into our stay there, wife begins to hate the place. Cries in the car as we are driving around - me showing her the country which is gorgeous. Decide to drop everything, and move back to Canada, Montreal this time where wife is from. We are into our sixth year living here. She speaks a little bit of French, I don't speak any. She got her family doctor right away, same docotr that she had when she lived here. I waited two and a half years for one. We live in an apartment now. Wife now has serious health issues - mental health issues which are very dificult to deal with for both of us. Cost of living up here is staggaring - specially when you consider the value of the Canadian dollar. Used to be that our dollar was on par, and sometimes even better than the US dollar. Now, it's about $0.72 American. Everything we buy comes from either China or USA, so we have to pay in US dollar values. Essentially, we are running out of money, and my marriage is on the skids due to her mental health. Don't know what to do...life sucks sometimes.
Your wife needs you the most right now. Do not give up on you guys. You must make the decisions that are best for you both. If Croatia is more affordable to live and where she can receive the quality treatment she needs, then you should think of moving back for both of you guys is benefit. Probably that's the reason why she cried because she had mental issues. Always think for the better of you two. Stay strong, and do not let the problems blind you from doing the right thing for both of you.
@@soychicaview4655 Thank you for reading my comment. Wife doesn't want to move to Croatia. She tells me now that she hates the place. I am always thinking about her, and her well being. She wants to move to Toronto or close. The problem is that the rents are stupid high. $3,500 Canadian (about $2550 US) is about the average monthly rent for a two bedroom apartment, and we cannot afford that. Thanks for listening. Much appreciate it.
@@apscoradialesI applaud you for sticking by your spouse who has mental health issues. My late husband was 15 yrs. older than I and he worked an extra seven years just to make sure that I had health insurance in the U.S. It’s shocking to read how EXPENSIVE rent is both here and in Canada when back in 1966 I paid $45 for a 3-room apartment. My career was in banking and I paid $4 a month for health insurance deducted from my paycheck and my employer paid the rest of the costs. Now a good portion of my social security goes to pay for Medicare and half my late husband’s pension annuity (earned during those 7 yrs.) pays for my health insurance. I fractured my hip and had a replacement 8 months ago and all that insurance coverage I pay (and he provided) covered 100% of my medical costs. I hope your wife finds the right doctor to prescribe medication to treat her depression. It took six years and a loving husband before I was diagnosed correctly in 2006. She is very lucky to have you but make sure you are taking care of your needs first so that you don’t get burned out from the stress.
I feel you. We were forced to move to the US because they wouldn't renew my wife's tourist visa. She had to reapply for a spousal visa, which meant she has to maintain a residency in the US.
What an awesome story. It’s because of your channel that my husband and I are temporary residents of Mexico. You showed us the way. I know you will be a wonderful success as you have already been. So glad you are still sticking with us.
I am in my late 60's. I would NEVER expect my family to leave their happy homes and come take care of me. My mother told the same thing to me. Only creates resentment.
My parents set a great example by taking care of both of my Grandmothers (at different times), but they both agreed to live with my parents and us kids. We committed to take care of my wife’s parents and aunt but we told them they would need to live where we lived when the time comes. They moved to Florida from California to live nearby. They are currently independent but we will be here when they need help. It’s quite another matter asking someone to move to a developing country.
I think you are wrong about that if they really love you. When my father got dementia everyone told me to put him in an old folks home. Even social workers banging on my door telling me to put him in an old folks home. When my father was sick and in the hospital as he was rehabing they sent him to a rehab home that's also an old folks home. The care was terrible I told the staff that I was taking him outside to get fresh air and never brought him back. I quit my job to take care of him full time and lived on savings, credit cards and small jobs here and there. I'm broke and in debt but I'm so glad I was there for him until his last day.
Family responsibilities trump everything. This is the main reason that my husband and I won’t move abroad. We have lived in several countries and enjoyed it thoroughly. When he retired we toyed with the idea of going back to Europe (where he is from). But we just can’t see having an actual ocean between us and our 4 adult children who all live in the US. It’s the right choice for us. Now we have a granddaughter too and the pull towards family only gets stronger and stronger. It’s ok. We travel and see the world when we can and get our “fix” that way while still being able to be here for our kids. Yes. Life happens. You have to make the best compromise you can and try to be as content with your decisions as possible. Good luck to you guys!
I have watched your videos for years and you have influenced me and my wife to retire in Mexico. We purchased land in Cerritos Beach earlier this year. We will build our home there once I retire in three years. I watch your videos all the time, usually when I’m cleaning up the kitchen and have my phone propped up against the window and catch up on your latest video. I very much respect your honesty and decision as my wife and I are going through the exact same thing now with her mom. I wish you all the best and hope to invite you and Linda to be our guests in Cerritos one day. God Bless you!
I have been watching your channel for over 2 years. I moved to Mexico in May 2021. You have been a wealth of information on many aspects that apply to living in Mexico. The biggest thing that helped me tremendously was information you gave on the Mexican Consulate in the U.S. that had the lowest income requirement for residency in Mexico. My income was just a little above the minimum income requirement so I was able to qualify for Temporary Residency. I received the ok from the Consulate in the U.S. in November 2021 and January 2022, the income requirement at that Consulate increased by $600.00 USD more per month. It went from $1,745.00 USD per month to $2,300.00 USD per month. I was so grateful that I was following your channel or I would have never been able to meet the monthly income requirement at any consulate in the U.S. Thank you for the efficient, valuable and accurate information that you always provide. I am sure you will be able to make a comfortable income with creating content on RUclips full time.
Kudos Paul for taking life by the horns and rolling with the punching. I've been following you on RUclips since 2017. Your videos about moving to Mexico were very inspirational to me since that's what I would like to do one day. I wish you the best in this new chapter of your life. You always offer great information. Thank you and good luck.
I left Europe for Mexico in 2020, after the first lockdown, around Christmas. Originally, I wanted to stay in the UK, but all my jobs were gone. I got a temporary residence permit right away. And I bought a house. A friend of mine urgently advised me to stay out of Europe. She lives now with her family in South East Asia. I am glad that I followed her advice. Europe is getting worse by the day.
This is ridiculous. There is a reason why people immigrate from Asia to Europe and not the other way around. Enjoy your complete lack of freedom of speech, and rife corruption.
Thanks for sharing. My adult son and I have been traveling/living/working in a 28' used RV all over central Mexico since Nov. 2022. Since our main source of income is from an online business (web & marketing mainly for vacation rental businesses) we earn money as we go. A wise person once said, "The worst day working for yourself is better than the best day working for someone else". And so it is.
I plan to retire at 62 in another country outside the US that is free, safe and very cheap with a high quality of life. I could fully just rely on only my SS if I wanted to when that times arrives but I'll also have at least one pension, a 403 (b) and a very prolific lnvestment account with my Abby Joseph Cohen my FA. Retiring comfortably in the US these days is almost impossible.
@Merissabade Well her name is 'ABBY JOSEPH COHEN SERVICES'. Just research the name. You'd find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment.
DO YOU REALIZE HOW SELFISH THIS SOUNDS "I plan to retire at 62 in another country outside the US that is free, safe and very cheap with a high quality of life." Then why not move to that country? "Retiring comfortably in the US these days is almost impossible."
@@niconite Amen --- now these a-hole expats will be f'ing up some other places local economy by showing up with more money than the average local. They'll keep spreading disdain for Americans abroad.
@@RamseyAlaqel so many ppl are depending on their financial advisors who haven’t told you the truth rather than God who has warned His children for over 2 years that the dollar will crash & be replaced by currency backed by gold & silver, the stock markets will crash bc they’ve been artificially elevated, & the banks are about to crash & they’ll be bank runs. For the ones who believe God & try to withdraw their money the banks won’t allow it. I pray your investments are gold & silver.
As a first time watcher here is my take on it. Your honest and frank manor of talking along with your photogenic looks and great voice make it easy to watch whatever you want to present. There are a lot of us in similar situations or at least can relate to you. With already 100k subs I think you made a good choice. All the best to you.
I feel I need to echo some other commenters. You are the reason I began thinking about retiring in Mexico. I'm also in my 50s and used to live in FL until family issues took me to Oregon. And another funny thing, my uncle is a deputy sheriff too. So. I've been where you're at now, but sadly everyone in my life is gone. So, I made the decision to get my temporary residency an I'm heading down in Sept to complete my canje. Thanks for everything Paul. You've made a difference in my life and I'll never forget it.
You have helped many, including me. Your positive energy guarantees you good Karma. Most people who drown while trying to swim across a river do so because they try to make it from point A to point B, but those who swim across, while going with the flow, make it to the other shore, not where they envisioned, but where they were meant to be
I have nothing but the utmost respect for you and your wife for making this decision. My grandmother suffered from dementia. She would not allow any of her 5 grandchildren to take turns staying with her and refused to live with any of us. We finally had to make the difficult decision to place her in a senior living center after we found her several times in the yard where she had spent the night confused. For her safety there was no alternative. We made sure she had daily visits and made the best of a heartbreaking situation. I am confident we made the best decision, but it was very sad for several years. So glad you will be continuing with You Tube. I am wishing only the best for you and your family.
I moved to Mexico more than 12-years ago. I bought a home on a lake and planned to live here until I die. Then I met a Mexican friend (bilingual) who worked for me as my house manager with room and board and a great salary. Meanwhile he has finished the University and hopes to relocate to the US but wants me to come with him to help him get acclimated and to start a new life in the medical profession. I just cannot imagine returning. How could I live there with those prices again? My friends are counting down the years until they can retire here to Mexico and they own homes in Florida--as I did--and the insurance and utilities are out of sight (not to mention food prices). I just can't imagine having to rent my house out in Mexico and living in the US for a year or so. Plus health care and a culture that has moved away from me for more than a decade. I feel your pain. I don't know that I will be able to finally make the break with this lifestyle of travel and leisure for the rat rat race of US search for money just to live.
great, but just so you know, we barely can win in a month what you earn in a week, and now with most houses be selling on dolars, you guys are leaving us with no chance to buy house. I know you dont care...
I don't earn money. I live on my retirement. I spend 100% of my after US income tax on the Mexican economy. I pay 100% of a Mexican's tuition and books and transportation as well as food at a Mexican University. My home and all my belongings and my life insurance monies are willed to local Mexicans--nothing returning to my family in the US when I die. Everything I purchase is purchased in Mexico. My house manager hires local Mexican tradesman, a gardener, a maid and others and pays them well with benefits from my retirement. I have paid other local Mexican's tuition costs for education. I have taught classes for free in my native language as well as my field of former employment. I am not trying to blow my horn but not every gringo, sir, is a taker. I know many who are in my circumstance who are using all of our retirement funds for Mexicans only and who are leaving all of their worldly goods to Mexicans who would otherwise not have a chance at starting a local business or getting an education beyond grade school or owning their own home. It just isn't true that all of us don't care. Many of us do care and do something about it. @@crymxcho
Great sir, thanks for answer, is good to know that some gringos can understand part of the problem and try to make something, thats a lot. But is not like you are not living the best part from it, and is not your fault anyway, the game was set for being played from north to south since 1994 TLCAN, from here we can only hope to win some dollars in return.
My friend established a life in Ireland and then her elderly mom needed care so she moved back to the US. Her mom was angry and bitter and my friend gave up everything, used up her savings buying a home in Ireland and now she’s helping a mother with whom argues with her everyday. My friend is depressed and regrets everything. She’s so down she has given up leaving the US again because it was such a challenge…
That’s the thing…someone who is so stubborn and uncompromising that they’d let their child sacrifice their happy life rather than move is probably not going to be a great person to spend time with every day.
Paul great story and journey. How old are you? I retired after 15 years as a forensic investigator for child protections services in california. Moved to florida but getting priced out with my early pension at 55.. Im 59 1/2 now . I have lived in the Dominican Republic and Thailand on under 2000 per month. I did a similar thing in california, sold my home and dwindled my life down to 1 car and two suitcases. Bought a new build in Manatee county but ended up 9 months a year in the DR. Fast forward if i want to live full time in the usa i have to go back to work, fight the traffic and navigate a culture that thrives on debt and stress. No thank you! So im selling in january after getting hammered by this hurricane season. The gulfside was devestated. Most people i know think the USA is the holy grail and the streets are paved in gold. For some yes, for most no. I noticed so many more retirees and seniors well into thier 70s abd 80s having to work. Its really sad . Its a crime The USA has the highest senior homeless rate among 1st world countries. Its not right Thank you so much for your story. Your very genuine
I am Mexican, lived in Valle de Bravo (adore it) and now I am living in Canada. I owe a little Island in the North of Quebec, and love my life here… but how I miss my doctors, my adorable dentist, my friends, my food, the sounds (serenatas, xilófonos, cantantes, Se Compra Fierro que Vendannn)… towns with romantic alleys, real brick and stone walls.. Oh, yes, How I miss Mexico! Still, I am here in Canada, and I am happy… as long as I can go back home at least twice a year.
The way you described it I miss Mexico, and I've never been there.😂 But I think I understand the sentiment. I love old historical yoens over the modern sterile environments.
Sorry you had to leave beautiful Q Roo. I'm sure your mother in law is doing much better having you there. You're always welcome to come back to Mexico. Best wishes to you and your family
Appreciate all you've done Paul. My Mexico timeline has been similar to ours. Family issues had me change plans too. Happily I am also a Permanente which is good forever. Gracias, Mexico.
I let my daughter know a long time ago I'm not having any of it. Many may disagree but this is my decision. I don't want to be in a home that would cripple my daughter and son in law financially. Nor do I want to be unable to recognize my loved ones nor be able to care for myself. Both of my grandmother's had dementia in their 80's. My fater had Lewy Body dementia. I'm 65 and I've been slow traveling and living abroad the past five years. From the US to Europe to Mexico and back to Europe. I've already checked out resources here in Europe and the states for facilities that offer end of life assistance. If the time comes I'll drink the cocktail and go peacefully.
I would love to be able to take the cocktail too, but how are we going to get it? Even if we live in a Right to Die country or state, that means we have to have a diagnosis (from two medical people) of six months or less to live. And most people with dementia live for years.
On the other hand, it's clear to me why this guy has been successful in many aspects if his life, including where it matters most. His family. He made the sacrifice to relocate in the first place so that his wife would have healthcare and they could enjoy their lives together. He then made another sacrifice in returning to the US. Again, this was to support his family and maybe this is what his wife really wanted. Not only that, he discovered a new talent that enables him to quit his day job and work remote anywhere with connectivity. He will have success wherever (family) life leads him. Every family would be fortunate to have a leader like this guy. Much respect.
Prayers to you and your family, you made the best decision for your family. I would like to hear more of the excellent health care in Mexico and what make it so great compared to the US. Hope you can include some information in one of you next content Stories.
I'm so sorry, Paul. I know you really loved it here in Mexico. Your videos are what prepared me for my move to Mexico and I even used one of your videos, ten things to do when moving to Mexico, to land a job with Amazon Web Services. It was a presentation where you had to walk the interviewer through a process. I just watched your video over and over again until I could deliver it on command. Interviewer was absolutely floored. Couldn't believe all the information I had. I didn't recite your video, I just gave the highlights. Every probing question he had was something you had provided in your video so I was ready for every one of them and he couldn't believe it. I hope you get to make it back home to Mexico and I wish you nothing but success with RUclips.
Thanks Paul. I've always enjoyed hearing you speak about Mexico and the enthusiasm you have for the most beautiful country. Looks like you haven't lost that enthusiasm even though you aren't there any more. I'm glad you aren't giving up on the videos. Best of luck in all things and really you never know what tomorrow brings. It's best to roll with the punches. I love your attitude.✌️
Agreed, her ass is moving to mexico or a US nursing home. Imagine having to go back to work and financial stress just because your wife has your balls😂
Welcome back to the states, Paul! Missouri here from PSC. :) I'm sorry that you and Linda had cut your wonderful retirement short, but I do understand your situation. When our parents need us, we have to take care of them. Both of mine are deceased now, but my siblings and I gave them the best care we possibly could before they passed. I wish you continued success with your channel. I'm a subscriber and will continue to follow.
I was going to post this same comment. Taking care of our folks when they need us is an honor and a privilege and perhaps the highest act we as humans can do.
You know... if someone is being taken care of they should show some humility. "She didn't want any of that..." Then solve your own life! "She wouldn't have any of that..."
My mom is elderly and diagnosed with dementia. I made sure, before I left my home country, that my siblings would be looking after my mother. My dad was my responsibility but he passed from cancer, much earlier than my mom and what we expected. I just got my tax number today and won't be going back again. You are smart not to give up on the 100K subscribers you have built! Life has curve balls, for sure and it's great you decided to return to help mom. I'm sure you and Linda will continue to be a great team and figure something out. Maybe interviewing people who have taken on the Mexican dream? I watched a lot of that stuff before I moved here and now I help others from getting tangled up in the common traps, even in the serene part of Mexico I spend most of my time in! Best of luck!
@@Middleguy37 My mother was very aggressive with me and started hitting me when I was a teen. At 14, I told her she wasn't hitting me anymore. So, she threw me out shortly after. I moved in with my dad and his crazy girlfriend until I was 18 and able to support myself. I told my siblings I would look after my dad in old age but she is on the three of them, not me. Normally, I would have never spoken to her again but I loved my siblings so I stayed in touch. So, mind your business and hateful words. You never know the entire story and I personally don't know how anyone can terrorize a four year old and live with themselves but they do, don't they? That four year old isn't going to be wiping their dirty butt sixty years later, for them, though and that's OK. She knows what she did.
Hi Paul, I’m reinventing myself at 55. I’ve had a serious health scare, and a physical injury in the past two years. I feel blessed with a miracle, and now…they are calling me, Your Honor. I’ve closed the door to my past, which was a stepping stone now looking back on it! Hindsight gets clearer, 20/20, … the best of luck to us taking a leap of faith and making this our best life ever! Happy times ahead, and I’m a new subscriber… today! Making every day better one like 👍 at a time. I have more changes in mind, as I’m sure you do too! 😊 vibrating in the 5D… forever changed. 🎉❤
I have a Co-worker who retired from an Auto and Home Insurance Company. He sold his home here in Whittier, Ca. and moved to GDL- Guadalajara, Mexico and Loves it. I went to visit him and stayed one week there in March of 2024. I loved it, the people there are very welcoming. I have seen the homes for sale there and the High-Rise condos and they are beautiful. Especially the Condos with their views of the city at night and the homes with magnificent pools. I go to the Capital Brokers Luxury Real Estate and the homes are beautiful and the weather is like California. The Greenery there makes the city so beautiful. I hope one day that will be my residence.
If you want to buy a house or condo, if you have Mexican friends tell them to make believe that the house is for them, you will get a better price, they usually charge more to foreigners.
It's always a honor to have Jason. here as a mentor, I appreciate him for the time being spent to educate me financially. Regardless of how bad it gets on the economy, I still make over $28K every single month. I truly value Jason graystone fx. and is helpful guides.
You just mentioned Expert Jason. Indeed, Jason Graystone fx. has been an incredible mentor to me, imparting a deep understanding of the economy that I wish college had provided
Paul we have been living in Mexico for 6 years. Unfortunately my 69 year old wife suffered a stroke during open heart surgery last September. She has a very complex health profile and recovery has been slow. It is unclear how much function she will recover. I am so happy this happened in Mexico rather than the US. When you get health insurance out of the way, things are so much easier. Good luck in your journey.
You’re in a situation many, many families find themselves in: one member of the family needs more care, and other members are hundreds if not thousands of miles away. It’s the exact reason when I visit my parents I look them both in the eyes and make sure they have long-term care insurance and the like (I’m in CDMX, have a sibling in Chicagoland with my parents living in Texas). I wish you all the best moving forward
We sold everything to move to La Paz BCS in September 2021. Canada is a beautiful place but, Residency in beautiful Mexico was the dream. We're here in beautiful Nova Scotia Canada after living 3 yrs in beautiful Mexico to be with family we haven't seen for a very long time. They need us too ! We're here to fight for Canada and vote for a Conservative majority. Yes we'll be back to Mexico for Winter snowbird seasons. We are grateful to your channel 🙏 for sharing excellent advice and recommendations. It's a great channel ❤
I get demoralized when I read so many comments from people who move to Mexico I get tired of reading so many comments where the primary reason to move to Mexico is because it’s cheaper than the US. To me that is just one reason among many to live there. Another thing that really bothers me is that so many Americans in Mexico,who lounge around the pools and beaches and get waited on hand and foot voted for a guy that called Mexico a s-- hole country! To those people I’m talking about, you’re not fooling anyone, especially the big hearted, hard working and humble Mexicanos who treat you kindly even when you snap your fingers at them. Viva Mexico!🇲🇽
I love your channel. I'm 54 and have been living as an expat for 24 years....Americans have been culturally conditioned to be in debt...bad types of debt...and life goes by.....great on your decision to go to Mexico and actually LIVE life....and you will continue...I look forward to future videos....perhaps on life on the expensive USA. I visit my parents every year. Estudio Espanol desde Vietnam.
So hard when a family member needs you to return to assist. I left Rome twelve years ago to return back to the U.S. when my mother started having dementia symptoms. Now that my father has passed and she is living with a sibling, I am wanting to leave again. I got my permanent residency two years ago, and you and Linda were part of my roster of influencers who guided my decisions along the way. Still need to make the move and convince the spouse too. A whole other thing. Wishing you two all the best and hope to see you on the channel again. You are a natural.
Not all Americans have been culturally conditioned to be in debt. That mainly happens to Canadians and USAeans. The rest of America is more of a cash culture, generally speaking.
Paul, thank you so much for all that you share! I'm retiring at the end of September and moving to Mexico. I'm learning so much from your videos and I plan to start watching the ones for learning (more) Spanish. I wish you only the very best in life and I hope that in the future you and Linda can find your way back to your home away from home.
Props to you guys for not sticking your mother in law in an old folks home. Putting your parents in an old folks home and then forgetting about them is the most American thing to do. When my father got dementia everyone told me to put him in an old folks home. Even social workers banging on my door telling me to put him in an old folks home. When my father was sick and in the hospital as he was rehabing they sent him to a rehab home that's also an old folks home. The care was terrible I told the staff that I was taking him outside to get fresh air and never brought him back. I quit my job to take care of him and lived on savings, credit cards and small jobs here and there. I'm broke and in debt but I'm so glad I was there for him until his last day.
You might be lucky the nursing home didn't get you charged with kidnapping. The head nurse in my mother's nursing home told me if I took her home without their permission, they would charge me with kidnapping. But she was pretty weird. Maybe she was just spouting off.
@@kerrynight3271 They didn't have legal custody of my dad. I never signed any document to put him in that place. The hospital sent him there without my consent. My dad had severe dementia and didn't know where they were taking him or what was going on and couldn't' make that decision. I should have charged the place with kidnapping my dad to begin with. The nursing home didn't really care they just wanted me to sign some documents freeing them of any liability. I told them it's too late now. You just reminded me to give them a bad review on Yelp although they already have a bunch of bad reviews. The nursing home doesn't own your mother. You might have to do some paperwork and free them of any liability but I'm sure you can take her home whenever you want.
My heart fell when you said you were overwhelmed working and doing RUclips; I thought you were about to say you were leaving RUclips. So glad to hear you are sticking around! Your zero to fluent videos have been so helpful! You are a gifted teacher and make it fun too. Wishing you the best with your new journey!
"Reinventing yourself, over and over again" If I would have been open minded at 18 years old, instead of being fearful, I could have made my life better in ways I probably can't think of. Ironically, I stayed at a job too many years because of the fear of giving up the comfort and security, I put those qualities above all...........the job turned toxic, unfortuantely, I was in too much denial to see the reality and truth of the situation........
I know what you mean. I had 2 boys that I felt I owed them something I never had and that was a father who actually was there no matter what. They are doing well now and I never hear from either one. Guess they forget too easy all the times old dad was always there for the first 21 years. Live and learn.
Paul thank you for your honesty and sharing. All your experiences add up and make you so much wiser. Your tips on how to navigate the Mexican system help us a lot. Your among the few who share it. We really appreciate it.
Dear Paul and Linda, I am so sorry to learn of your need to leave you much loved Mexico and return to the USA. But as it is said "Success is a journey, not a destination". I also returned to the USA after 6 years in Los Cabos for a different reason and will never regret having moved there. I wish you all of good fortune in your new endeavors and a very positive journey for the rest of your lives.
Im a 51 year old widow. I have 2 kids under 18. I have PROMISED them They will NEVER have to "take care if me" I'll never allow it even if they offer, once I can't take care of myself if I make it that far I will pay for my care, it's called Planning People. I will NEVER burden my kids/family in my old age. GenX please don't do this to your kids.
But please realize it’s not always about the almighty dollar. Regardless of financial planning, some people need and want their family around for love, emotional and psychological support, esp if facing a health or mental challenge. Of course it’s wonderful to be able to afford physical care, but that’s not the only thing that matters - yes, to the aged, but also to the rest of the family. If you’re lucky. I can’t imagine not wanting to be around family whether you’re the one needing help or the one giving it.
@@leapintothewildhis mother should have agreed to move with them if she needed to depend on them though. Otherwise, she should have accepted moving into a nursing home etc.
@@leapintothewild I'm not rich 😆, lower middle class, I would NEVER force my kids to drop everything & move to be closer to me & provide companionship, how ridiculous. These situations need to be discussed & planned ahead so expectations are clear. I don't have a spouse/partner but those who do need to have those conversations with them too. I would love to be close to my kids, my sister, my nieces & nephews, cousins etc in old age but I wouldn't expect them to drop everything & move to make it happen, they all don't live in the same city, state, country 🤷🏻♀️ so have everyone move to my city?🤭 Selfish thinking
Agree with the majority of the comments here regarding planning for your own care in old age. Like the OP, I would never expect my daughter (she is my only child) to care for me. I will plan for my own care, as a responsible adult. There is such a thing called Long Term Care insurance. I urge everyone to get a plan as soon as you are eligible (for most plans that starts at age 50). I know many cultures (my own included - I’m Mexican) stress caring for one’s elders however in American society and the way things work here, that is not usually feasible without great sacrifice by the caregiver, given how expensive it is to live here. Elder care is incredibly expensive, on top of being very emotionally and physically taxing. Sure I want to maintain being able to see my daughter, but I want to visit with her, and for her to have the freedom to continue living her life on her terms.
I have a story to tell you. My father Immigrated to the US when he was a young man (legally), worked Santa Fe Railroad for many years, going through many states, then he got sick with asthma back then he decided to moved back to Mexico my mother used to tell me, Son there was no medicine for Asthma many nights we thought he was not going to see the morning light, long story short, he decided to moved to Mexico and said, I will never put a foot back in America, some of us after growing up decided to come back to the US, I'm on my 60's now and understand why he took that decision, I worked hard 2 jobs most of my life made very descent money, retired now just to find out that I didn't make enough to live a descent life. We're struggling on a daily basis, Iam back working for minimum wage. Just the Grace of God keeping us going.
If you had two jobs your whole life and didn’t have a good retirement than you wasted your money buying crap you didn’t need instead of saving for retirement. Blaming “America” for your awful financial planning is ridiculous.
I left Mexico after 6 months of living in La Paz Baja Sur Mexico. I left because face it, it’s great until things go wrong. No ability to get justice if you are robbed, your car is stolen, you are injured. No jury trials in Mexico. It’s a lot more expensive than you expect. It was a truly beautiful place to live. Beautiful beaches, amazing food, great people.
Thank you for speaking the realities. There were quite a few retirees moving to Mexico near a lake that's name I forget. They bought homes thought they had it made but the state reclaimed them!
This video made me cry for you. I am so sorry you had to start all over again. This sucks so much! I bought an inexpensive house in Spain, but I am still working and I am not about to sell my old one in the US. So happy you're not giving up the RUclips channel. I have tried to build mine and I'm up to 355 subscribers now. It's a slow process for me. I'm super happy with my house in Spain and hopefully one day I can stay there for long periods of time. As of now, it's just a vacation home, nice too though. I hope you get to go back to Mexico or some other country to explore. There is a whole world out there.
I applaud you and Linda for the sacrifices you have chosen to make, Paul! I am the primary caregiver of my mom (she was diagnosed with dementia). It hasn’t always been easy but it’s worth it. You hang in there! I truly appreciate the way you RESPECT and LOVE your wife and mother in law by all the details that you left out. Thanks for sharing! You don’t owe us any explanations. Just know that this calling (for however long it turns out to be) is not for everyone, so I thank you for your vulnerability!!! I’m praying for your strength as you all navigate life together. Hang in there brother. This is our 14th year having my mom live with us; so my husband and I can speak to many issues if you or Linda ever need to talk. It’s clear that you understand the big picture. But I’ll just add this: Live your life with as few regrets as possible and continue to treat others as you’d want to be treated. May God Almighty honor your efforts and send you whatever help and resources you may need at the appropriate times. Even though you’re not seeking anything in return, I pray that you will be rewarded 1000 times over in this life! Oh yeah- thanks for great Spanish learning content - I stay in the background, but I’m progressing (partly because of your channel)- that’s why I became a life-time member😇 blessings!
Paul, I feel your pain brother! We retired a few years ago and did the same thing. Now we’re back in the USA for the last year because my mother-in-law was the same as yours. It sucks! Hopefully you and Linda, and Renee and I, will be back in Mexico sooner than later.
hypothetically ( big brother listens_) I've been in Mexico for 28 yrs. The more I see the state of Canada and the US the more I appreciate Mexico where i live theres no parking meters no speed traps no Karens no noise bylaw no nosy neighbors no school shootings no SWATraids on houses , no tent cities . Try cracking a beer on a Canadian beach and seewhat happens. Try riding in the back of a pickup or poking your head thru the sunroof in the States see how the cops like it. You can rent a giant stereo buy a ton of beer block off your street party till 7 and NOT ONE NEIGHBOR WILL CALL THE COPS People mind their own biz here . car wash 7bucks property taxs 300/yr cellular 20/mo I could go on and on
Super-interesting! It takes courage to reinvent yourself over and over again. But I am certain that those years that you spent in Mexico free of money worries count as some of your best years. I in a certain way also reinvented myself. Years ago I had married a Greek husband and fell in love with the country and lifestyle of Greece. I actually fell in love with Greece and I think as a result married a Greek. I divorced and bought myself a small place on a Greek island ,which I visited ,now for 34 years ,every summer. I was able to do this because I was a college professor in California. Because I was raising two young boys alone I was unable to permanently move to Greece. At age 81 I moved from Los Angeles to the Central Coast of California, away from the city. Everyone thought that I was crazy! One of my sons lives there now, on a hill surrounded by oak trees and peace and quiet. Now at age 83 I am presently enjoying my Greek island ,with its sunshine and friendly, welcoming people! I don’t think that my friends think that I am crazy any longer!!!
I’m so glad you achieved this. I’m working my way through a Greek cookbook that is full of cultural notes. I have Greek dinners with music and dancing. ❤
@@censoredeveryday3320 To learn ANY language, the best waybis by immersion. The rest of the ways to learn a language are "confortable ways yo learn a language". Vente a vivir a México y te garantizo que vas a aprender más rápido que en una escuela o en línea. La gente en México es MUY servicial y amistosa. There you have it for you to try your Google translate, lol
@@danielfiore8865 No. Citizenship isn´t dependent on living in the country. We return to visit family. The return I was referring to is returning to live permanently in the United States. I hope I don´t have to do that.
I'm not an American, not even close. But boy, I can tell Americans are hard working people. For this a massive respect. And you, sir, are the exact example.
I sure wish we got something for all that hard work ☹ My husband works 6 days a week as a butcher - it's his 32nd year with the company. I'm on disability and make approx $2,000 a month. Between the two of us we can barely live. We don't own a house because we can't save up 20% for a down payment, especially since the prices keep increasing. The average price of a house in California is $904,210 which is up 11% since April of last year. That would mean we have to save $180,842 and also have money for closing costs and real estate agent fees. That could never happen and is quite disheartening 😔
@@IceLynne That's so unfair for you! I think living in another state such as Delaware, without as many taxes on retired people (when you're able to retire), would help.
Move out of Calif! There's wonderful places in the US that offer quality of life and are greatly more affordable. One need not believe that moving abroad is the only way to have a good retirement. And then people are so afraid to leave California and discover the other coasts of the US! As you get older you're going to want to find good, safe, affordable places in your home country and yes these places still exist but get on it don't dilly dally!
@@IceLynne the answer to your dilemma seems obvious to me but maybe there are other moving parts. You do know don't you that California is the single most expensive real estate market in the country? You are on disability so moving isn't going to change that status and your husband as an experienced butcher can work in all 50 states am sure and get a job within a week. I live in Laguna Beach and my house is worth well beyond the average price point for California homes. Since I can afford it I don't complain and I stay for now, but I can't imagine staying if I couldn't. Figure $5 million net worth to be in the desirable areas. Who wants to live in Fresno? Anyway, I own properties around the United States and I just bought a beautiful home in Indiana 3000 ft.² six years old, for $192,000. You might be able to swing that and the quality of life there supersedes that in California by a country mile if you are middle-class or lower middle-class let's just say. The middle of the country is chock full of examples just like this.
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Heartbreaking horror story. Dementia is heavily based in nutritional deficiency and for women, estrogen depletion.
If you're a woman over 40 you owe it to your family to take estrogen supplementation!
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I`m sure you were right at home in Mexico -- The American police have become as corrupt as the Mexican police .
I sure will buy you a cup. I too want to make my move to Mexico. You'll be back in México. It's where the heart is.
I say make your money and then return back to mexico if you like. I definitely wants to settle in Thailand when its all said and done. Well Congratulations on being successful on youtube its all about consistency.
Why We Left Our Dream Life in Mexico and Returned to the U.S.......let me guess SAFTY... Security...!
I retired from the U.S. Army and moved to Brasil. I brought my mother, who has dementia, with me. I hired two nurses to care for my mother around the clock. Something that would be impossible in the U.S. Moving to Brasil was the best decision for me and my mother. I cannot comprehend ever moving back to the U.S. I make my money in the U.S. and live in Brasil. Best of both worlds.
Gentrification
@@angelhernandez1438 This has been happening for literally all of human history. Get over it, or get with it
just make sure you keep paying those income taxes to the US...
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A few years ago, I visited a church in Mexico. The preacher was talking about debt, he was telling the congregation to stay out of debt and that, in the, U S people live under the illusion that they own things when in reality it is the banks and credit card companies that own them.
Sadly, in Mexico, most people earn so little money that they live paycheque to paycheque and do not save anything. Debt levels are much lower than in the USA or Canada because most Mexicans earn too little to qualify for credit cards and earn too little to get bank loans. The ones who borrow from 'other sources' often end up lifeless on the side of a road.
That attitude exists in the Middle East too, and it's a big part of why they lag behind the west. Debt us used to build wealth and make your life better, if done wisely.
@@hootowl6354 Since when is debt used wisely for 90+ percent of the population? The Middle East doesn't have access to the money printer, big difference.
"under the illusion". This falls under Accounting and Finance, not illusions. If you make payments, it is quite obvious that you would not actually own whatever it is that you've purchased until it is paid off.
@@zephrancochrane7271 Right. And the ability to borrow is one path to wealth. Otherwise, how many people could afford to buy a home?
I'm an American living in mexico. I have my own home, I eat fresh healthy food, fruits veggies, nuts for very little, super relaxed, not millionaire status but comfortable and I would never think of going back. Knock on wood.
@jaroslawakmiot666probably the presence of narcos there. I am Mexican and I was living there two months, Is not a paradisiac place if you have not money. Life for US citizens or canadians is nice, but for people with low income, Is not, much bussiness need to pay to narcos.
Dude, his mother in law is his wife's mother. What's he gonna say if he loves her? "Sorry hun, my mom counts, yours doesn't."?
Really Cabrón? La Suegras running your house. Don’t give suegra an option. Bring her to Mexico find her a partner that can/ will provide her with weekly maintenance. Leaving you and your women to enjoy your tercera edad years.
Cabron life is short, don’t grow old living with regrets. 🟦
Congratulations
@@kevinmoon4148😂😂
We experienced the pinnacle of our era, but it is now gone. Like what happened to Rome, the corrupt administration will bring this nation to an end. My condolences go out to anyone who is close to retiring and may be worried about whether their pension will be enough to pay the rising cost of living. Insane fiscal policy, poor regulatory policy, poor energy policy, and poor foreign policy
50 and early retirement. I'm very worried about the future and where we're all heading, especially in terms of money and how to get by. I'm considering making my first investment in the stock market, but how can I do so given that the market has been in a mess for the majority of the year?
Exactly my solution too, even though I'm not retired. As a contractor with limited time to analyze investments, I've relied on a fiduciary for the past seven years to manage my portfolio. This strategy has helped me navigate market fluctuations effectively and also increased my porfolio by up to 300%. You might consider a similar approach.
@@mikegarvey17Mind if I ask you to point at how to reach this particular person assisting you? Seems you've figured it all out unlike the rest of us.
*Izella Annette Anderson* is the licensed fiduciary I use. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment.
Thank you for this. I'll send her an email to reach her, and I hope I'm able to reach her.
We moved to Mexico specifically for my mother with Alzheimers. The nursing home was run by a Canadian man whose wife had dementia and passed away, he turned his large hacienda into a nursing home specializing in Alzheimer’s care. The nursing staff was amazing, the care was 2 caregivers to one patient as opposed to usually one nurse to six or more patients . My grandmother went thru three Alzheimer’s units in the USA and all of them were horrible, we live in a higher income community so there was no excuse for poor care. In fact one very high cost unit just sprayed patients down with Lysol if they soiled themselves. Our doctor who was well traveled wholeheartedly supported our decision to move my mother to Mexico for care. She was happy until the day she passed from a stroke. She never knew where she was from day to day only cared that she had home cooked food and a very clean environment with wonderful caring trained caregivers and always one nurse on duty at all times. The hospital was literally right next door in case of emergencies. It was affordable and the best part was she had excellent care. How was I so sure. Because of a medication issue I needed to spend a week somewhere quite and with care until my medication took affect. I went to my mother’s nursing home. The care was excellent and the patients formed bonds that were like an extended family. They looked out for one another as best as they could considering their various illnesses. They had games that encouraged exercise at a minimal level, music, a beautiful atrium filled with gorgeous tropical plants, a swimming pool with special equipment for those who could use it, three home cooked meals per day and a nurse who administered medication as needed. Cameras were located in the rooms yet made sure that no one’s privacy was ever violated. My only complaint was that there was a bar across the street that played loud music but guess what when I asked the other patients if the music bothered them, they asked what music. You see Alzheimer’s patients would not remember anything that happened during the night and often nothing that happened an hour before. It did upset me since I did not have a memory issue watching the decline of such wonderful people, it broke my heart but the times they did remember they were happy and well fed and clean. The rooms were perfect for the needs of the patients. Its a shame they did not consider placing their parent into one of these several homes because their lives and hers would have been beautiful. I don’t know if their plans can change but if it was me I would look into nursing care in Ajijic Mexico. God forbid we should need nursing care but if we did we wouldn’t hesitate to go in a skinny minute. I’m lucky I got to see if we made a good decision for my mother, my heart is now at peace that I did the very best for her.
Alzheimer cure is a strict keto diet, Dr Berg, RUclips. Never sugar or starch.
Thank you for sharing ❤
@@LynnMiddleton-ns4dg God Bless you for taking good care of your Mom or finding the best for her. So many adult children don’t want to be bothered to even see their parents if they are ill. Too much of an inconvenience. It’s sad but true in many families. 😞
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I just took in my 89-year-old mom and we are both happy about that decision. I don't have the guilt about not seeing her enough, I get to feed her the right way, and she is thrilled to be with me.
Good for your mom
That’s just wonderful enjoy every day
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in 2007 I left the new life I'd established for myself decades before, living in a dilapidated house in the "almost outback" of Australia. Returning my to hometown of Christchurch in New Zealand.
Now sharing a small rental central city flat (unit) I'm caring in-home for my Mum, 98 and very frail. But every day we have together is a blessing. I'm just trying to have the best life I can at the moment while I'm living in a city*, while helping mum have the best life she can have also. (*Did some classes at University and Polytechnic, helping on some committees of things etc)
Every evening we sit together watching the big TV in the loungeroom with subtitles on (her hearing's down a bit). Fortunately I live in a nation with Free Universal Healthcare and a welfare system that pays me a small allowance to stay home and care for mum. Who knows what the future holds. Whether I may in future return to the semi-arid almost outback of Australia, or some cold rainy part of Southern N.Z. ?
Relish and enjoy the time you have with your elderly relatives, whanau and friends.
Enjoy your time with your mom
Thank you for taking care of mom
"She wasn't having any of that". When an adult gets dementia they inherit the accountability and decision making ability of a child. I am an RN. I see families torn apart by unrealistic efforts on behalf of demented parents. The ones that do best have a family leader willing to make hard decisions. I am afraid I would have taken my parent "for a vacation" and then kept her at the new location. The last thing I would do is come out of retirement and incur debt to please someone who is increasingly child-like. Sorry but I think most people would regret your decision.
On the flip side my dad with dementia wanted to live out his last years in Mexico but I couldn't afford it and his dialysis treatment in Mexico would be tough.
This is very true.
That was my first thought. "We want to help you Mom. We love you Mom. We live in Mexico Mom. Please come live with us."
Change is very traumatic for dementia patients. Just went through all that with a family member. My family member wouldn’t leave her home. QRoo and wife put the mom first. It’s admirable.
Yup when I heard that I thought nope grandma's coming to Mexico 🇲🇽
The sad part of this is the person with dementia will eventually not know where they are and that person could be in Mexico and not even know it and be happy.
my thoughts exactly. If someone is elderly and can't get out much there is almost no difference between living in the states vs mexico, they will mostly be around the house etc
@@coloradosun100 I fully agree, and find it being quite selfish of someone dictating a couple's financial situation.
yeah and its easier to take care of an older person considering the cheaper drugs. and househelp
@@adeeperlook5866 The lady absolutely refused to move.
Just tell them you're in "New Mexico". LOL My Mom and Dad mostly had physical decline, although my Mother showed signs of mental decline near the end. We had a full time in-house caregiver for both of them, in California and it was extremely expensive. I think this is one reason why more Americans are retiring abroad. In the United States to be in the top 1% of income earners, you need a yearly income of $550k - $600k per year. The world as a whole, that number is only $32,000 a year, which means in some nice places, you can live like a wealthy person on very little income.
Mexican pal here. Don't you worry, we'll welcome you back with open arms when you decide to return 😊😊😊. Thank you for appreciating our country the way you do.
Thank you! We hope to move to Teqisquiapan in the future. We still have our permanent residency status.
No lo puedo creer. Si sabes que estos "expats" (como se llaman entre ellos) nos estan desplazando de nuestras sierras? No has visto los problemas que Han causado con los locales de sinaloa, guanajuato, Merida, cancun, y un largo etc?
@@qrooGood Choice
Que dulce! 🎂
You know they don’t appreciate mexicans in the US, right?
I lived in Mexico for 8 years ending in 2020. I am still trying to get over return culture shock. To me America has become dystopian.
México IS America ya know.
México is not in Asia...
Not in Europe...
Yes I bet it has!😮
Same here. And the USSA worse every year.
@@QueOndaWhey vote RED
@filton-1980 that won't help. Vote Third party.
No request to ‘Subscribe’, no request to ‘Like’. That’s why I did both, felt like we were in the kitchen together and I was listening to your story. Much success in your journey 👍🏻
i did the exact same thing...
Me too 😊
You guys do realize the reason people keep asking to like And subscribe is because RUclips emails them and tells them they need to do that? In fact RUclips is getting very aggressive about telling content creators to always mention the people need to like And subscribe or they may even risk having strikes against them.
@@Joe-mz6dc wow, I didn't know that!
I did the same thing.. I've been wondering if anyone would EVER make a video that didn't ask for liking and subscribing. We all know the routine now, so I honestly don't understand why every single video has to keep requesting it.
We followed your advice and went to Mexico for 4 years. It was FANTASTIC. Life happened in the US, and we had to return to the USA. Maybe eventually we will get back to Mexico. I am now working a tiny amount. We bought a home again in the USA for cash, but now we have to live on a shoestring. Your advice was so spot on for Mexico, and especially the financial breakdown, etc. I am subscribing so that I hope you will be sharing how to "make it" in the USA! I need that help! Welcome back. Life happens.
I'm 54 and my wife and I are VERY worried about our future, gas and food prices rising daily. We have had our savings dwindle with the cost of living into the stratosphere, and we are finding it impossible to replace them. We can get by, but can't seem to get ahead. My condolences to anyone retiring in this crisis, 30 years nonstop just for a crooked system to take all you worked for...
I feel your pain mate, as a fellow retiree, I’d suggest you look into passive index fund investing and learn some more. For me, I had my share of ups and downs when I first started looking for a consistent passive income so I hired an expert advisor for aid, and following her advice, I poured $30k in value stocks and digital assets, Up to 200k so far and pretty sure I'm ready for whatever comes.
@@danguRobert That's actually quite impressive, I could use some Info on your FA, I am looking to make a change on my finances this year as well
@@AlilatTiamiyu My advisor is VICTORIA CARMEN SANTAELLA;
@@danguRobert The crazy part is that those advisors are probably outperforming the market and raising good returns but some are charging fees over fees that drain your portfolio. Is this the case with yours too?
Nah I Can't say I can relate, VICTORIA CARMEN SANTAELLA charge is one-off and pretty reasonable when compared to what I benefit in returns.
My dream of living in Mexico was inspired by a book called "Women Reinventing Their Lives in Mexico', by Karen Blue. That dream was shattered by a diagnosis of small cell lung cancer. Lots of chemotherapy and radiations treatments have left me incapacited. Your story, your resiliance, and ability to roll with the punches makes me happy. Best of luck to you and your family!
Thank you for this reading recommendation! Good luck with you health ❤
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why are people afraid to moved out of country when they are sick. If living outside the country is better then it should work for all situations. Health care should be the number reason for moving abroad.
@@Truefitbc I lived in The Netherlands 8 years and their health care is crap compared to ours. More affordable but less quality.
@@damienholland8103 I live part time in Colombia and have medical insurance over there. the facilities are great and the attention is wonderful. I had similar experiences in Panama albeit those were private facilities and services. I feel like a lot of it comes down to pay in public services in western countries and the people that work within those institutions in those countries. in Colombia the people that work at the hospitals are just happy to have jobs, so they take pride in their respective fields, as opportunities are far and few and no one wants to lose their job. it feels like a lot of the people that work in public medical facilities in places like Canada, the UK and other places in Europe hate their jobs and that's reflected in the service and environment. just my take.
My kids had a similar problem.
BUT... They convinced me to move with them to Mexico.
It is great. I hope it works out for you.
Get a life of your own.
You should go all in and give up your U.S. citizenship.
@@Redandranger dude shut up lol
This is suck, all these changes, just because one old lady refuses to make some changes. I wouldn't move back for any stepmother. This is me
What part do you live in? I will be a Expact soon maybe ..
I brought my father to Mexico where he lived out his last days being pampered by the excellent in home care of the sweetest maids overlooking the ocean. We went out a lot to good food and music. It was by far the best choice
I made the move to Mexico two years ago and never looked back. I sold or gave away everything - no more debts, worries and am now pursuing art once again. Can’t imagine getting back on the hamster wheel. I hope you will be able to return to life in Mexico.
You should go all in and give up your U.S. citizenship.
Where in Mexico? Is it safe?
Well there are sure a horde of them ready to take your place.
@@taroman7100The difference is, that they moved to México after they retire to live debt free and try to enjoy life. The “horde” as you called them, are coming to work to find a job and help the families they left behind.
Can I ask you where in Mexico 😊
I'm so glad my mother is agreeing to come with me before we even get to this point. I applaud you and your wife for this HUGE sacrifice.
I brought my mother down to Mexico three years ago. No regrets!!!
That is wonderful!!!
Paul and Linda, I am a retiree fan of yours from Cancun. Maintain your connections in MX, so when things change for you again, you will have your support base to help you to regresse.
I am retired US navy and have lived and prospered in Mexico for 22 years. It is a much simpler life here. I recommend this move to all. We own our cars, houses, and have zero debt and a strong income, much different than the US
You're a natural in front of the camera. A full time RUclipsr is the way to go!
Yes , he is and he has a very calming voice.
RUclips doesnt pay and its a lot of work
agree.. did Mexico give you a soothing calm voice? speaking of which.. ( radio could be another side gig for you)
@@mkmkmkmk2078 If YT doesnt pay why are there so many content makers on YT?
Yeah I see that. Super smooth and clear soeaker. Find stuff to talk about.
Hi Paul, I remember you and Linda when you stayed in Akumal Bay, I was the yoga teacher, and then saw you again in the Tao, when you told me you moved to Mexico. My name is Hiram. I was baffled seeing your face in the RUclips feed and reading the description of the video, that you moved back to the US. Thanks for sharing, it was delightful to hear you telling your story as a family. Congratulations for embarking again in a new adventure in your life as You Tube content creator.
Warm regards for you and Linda.
You are an amazingly compassionate person to upend your whole life to help your mother in law, and particularly to respect her wishes over your own. May all your kindness return to you when you are older, whether you stay in the US or go back to Mexico.
Your information about Mexico is helping so many people, and will continue to spread that goodwill while you are moving on with your life. God bless.
Paul, yeah, life happens. Travel around and do nothing. However, becoming a RUclips creator is a great idea. I am one of your students and you are my preferred teacher. I wish you all the best.❤
Navy Veteran here, knew a very wonderful and lovely lady.
Got married and living since 2012 in a small town in Jalisco.
Not regrets. Amazing life here.
Bum
@@KosherFinance why is he a bum?
Are you a citizen of Mexico or permanent resident? Can you collect military/federal if you are a CITIZEN of another country? or is the way around it just to get a permanent residency (have no idea how to do that).
Good for you! Take good care of your beautiful Mexican Lady!! 🎉❤🇲🇽🙏🏻
You should go all in and give up your U.S. citizenship.
You are the reason I am living in Mexico-your video -can you live on social security got me thinking. I arrived in Querétaro in 2021 with a dog, two cats and three suitcases. I thank you for that video and that nudge to re-invent myself at 70. I wish you all the best.
Your videos helped me get more confidence in moving to Mexico. I liked your Spanish lessons too. I lived in Mexico for 3 years, but life brought me back to the states also for family reasons. It would be interesting to do a survey on how many people end up coming back after living in Mexico for a while. Life is interesting. One thing for sure, never say never. I wish you all the luck growing your RUclips channels. Maybe you could return one day. I sense you liked it there better. Take care.
I am thinking about moving there and I'm in my mid 40s. I'm struggling in the US because the economy is bad
Querétaro is one of the Best cities of México to live
The only bad decision in life is doing nothing. Go for it with everything you got. At 70 I just got my permanent residency and moved to Queretaro. Why not!?
Congratulations with your move. Life is definitely better overseas. I've been watching Paul for years. I choose to live in south America it's half the price of mexico the weather is definitely better. I was always scared of the Mexican cartels that's the main reason I never went to Mexico 😂😂😂
I would never, ever expect or ask my kids or anyone to abandon their life choices to take care of me, at any stage in my life. I'm living my life, they deserve theirs.
You must be a saint to give up your dreams because of your mother in law!
We don't know what his mother-in-law expects. She isn't well. Perhaps she can't make decisions herself. They weighed their options on how to help her because their hearts NEEDED to help her. It's called being human.
I stopped listening at that moment. Ridiculous and selfish of the parent.
Let me ask different question - you wouldnt like to help your mom at the cost of making changes in your life?
I would have made the changes, but she wouldn't let me. She took her own life.
I retired early in 1999 and moved from Houston to the middle of Mexico where I've been ever since. Haven't even set foot above the border in 15 years. I cannot fathom moving back to the U.S. I would have insisted my mother-in-law move to Mexico.
Right! You can and should offer help family members when they need it but it should be on your terms,
There has to be something more to this story. If my mother in law needed help, and I was already established in Mexico, I would have told her come down here, or you’re on your own. It’s ridiculous to think that lady was so selfish that she insisted in living in an America that is fraught with crime, unaffordable, filthy from all the homeless. There has to be something else to this story.
@@jps3b
Agree, but don’t ignore that Mexico is also fraught with crime and is filthy.
@@LuckyCharms777 I see the same in America.
I assume you are on Medicare which doesn’t cover medical expenses outside USA. Would you please share what medical/health insurance do you have in Mexico. Thank you.
I hope I never have to make a decision like you've had to make. Like you I moved to Mexico in 2015 and I consider it one of the best decisions I've ever made. I don't have enough income to live comfortably in the U.S. but it's enough that here in Mexico I've actually saved a nice little nest egg, own a beautiful house, and live debt free. Mexico is my home now and at 77 years old if I had to move back to the U.S. I'm sure I would spiral into a bottomless depression.
DJ, Hey we have the same initials! :) I live half time in Mexico but as I get a little older I find myself not wanting to leave to come back to the states... We mostly snowbird there and have a small property. I do find I always save money while in Mexico but it quickly dissolves away when I am back in the USA for 6 months at a time. I am a little jealous that you are full time. I am also thinking ahead to a time when I might need in home care, and I find the Mexican people are so much better at it... so yeah... there is that bit. Nursing home care in my state is outrageously expensive.
Hey DJ I moved here in 2011 and thankfully still here. I live simply here, stress free and no debt also. The only problem is that I keep collecting dogs. Not really a problem, I love them all.
You’re right. I’ve been snow riding and spiral into depression every time I go “home”.
Are you a native Spanish speaker, or did you learn Spanish when you got there? How does that work? Also, where in Mexico is a good place for Americans to retire?
@@neeshirey Look at all Paul's videos.....He answers all.
Whew! I thought for a second you were quitting RUclips. I'm so glad you're staying as your content is both entertaining and informative. Best of luck. Thank you Paul!
but if they are living in the states, what will they youtube about? Not Mexico anymore. Maybe his wife can show her day with her mother.
I am so happy I made productive decisions about my finances that changed forever. I'm a single Dad living in Vancouver Canada, bought my first house in October and hoping to retire soon if things keep going smoothly for me
Everyone needs more than their salary to be financial stable. The best thing to do with your money is to invest it rightly, because money left for saving always end up used with no returns.
This is beautiful!!
I’m looking for something to venture into on a short term basis, I really need to create an alternate source of income, what do you thing I should be buying?
Kate Mellon Bruce is not just my family’s financial advisor, she’s a licensed and FINRA agent who other families in the US employs her services
She's active on face book @
I hope you are happy with your new life. After 20 years in Mexico (today), moving back to the US is pretty much the most depressing thing I can think of. I’m here for the long run.
Congrats on being a full-time RUclipsr! It is me Alicia, Tell Linda Carlos and I say hello! We live in Querétaro now and truly love it! We just bought a home, and we love it so much! Take care guys, sending you all hug!
Glad to hear things are working out for you two.
I went through a similar situation, except mine is going downhill very fast.
A few years ago I left my job (architect) in Toronto, Ontario. Had a very serious case of burnouts, and stress.
My health was declining.
Got married, took my wife places, including Croatia where I was born to show her were I came from as a kid.
She loved the place then, and convinced me to move there.
Sold our house, got rid of a lot of stuff, packed a container with stuff we wanted to keep, including a car, and off we went to Croatia.
The idea was to buy a piece of land there, build a house, and live happily ever after.
We bought a gorgeous lot, hired a local architect, got our doctors first week that we were there.
Croatia being part of the EU, has excellent health care right across the continent, and it was cheap-cheap.
Six months into our stay there, wife begins to hate the place. Cries in the car as we are driving around - me showing her the country which is gorgeous.
Decide to drop everything, and move back to Canada, Montreal this time where wife is from.
We are into our sixth year living here. She speaks a little bit of French, I don't speak any.
She got her family doctor right away, same docotr that she had when she lived here.
I waited two and a half years for one.
We live in an apartment now.
Wife now has serious health issues - mental health issues which are very dificult to deal with for both of us.
Cost of living up here is staggaring - specially when you consider the value of the Canadian dollar.
Used to be that our dollar was on par, and sometimes even better than the US dollar.
Now, it's about $0.72 American. Everything we buy comes from either China or USA, so we have to pay in US dollar values.
Essentially, we are running out of money, and my marriage is on the skids due to her mental health.
Don't know what to do...life sucks sometimes.
Omg. Staying in Croatia would have been the best thing.
Your wife needs you the most right now. Do not give up on you guys. You must make the decisions that are best for you both. If Croatia is more affordable to live and where she can receive the quality treatment she needs, then you should think of moving back for both of you guys is benefit. Probably that's the reason why she cried because she had mental issues. Always think for the better of you two. Stay strong, and do not let the problems blind you from doing the right thing for both of you.
Sounds like she had mental problems from the start. Get an annulment!
@@soychicaview4655
Thank you for reading my comment.
Wife doesn't want to move to Croatia. She tells me now that she hates the place.
I am always thinking about her, and her well being.
She wants to move to Toronto or close.
The problem is that the rents are stupid high.
$3,500 Canadian (about $2550 US) is about the average monthly rent for a two bedroom apartment, and we cannot afford that.
Thanks for listening. Much appreciate it.
@@apscoradialesI applaud you for sticking by your spouse who has mental health issues. My late husband was 15 yrs. older than I and he worked an extra seven years just to make sure that I had health insurance in the U.S. It’s shocking to read how EXPENSIVE rent is both here and in Canada when back in 1966 I paid $45 for a 3-room apartment. My career was in banking and I paid $4 a month for health insurance deducted from my paycheck and my employer paid the rest of the costs. Now a good portion of my social security goes to pay for Medicare and half my late husband’s pension annuity (earned during those 7 yrs.) pays for my health insurance. I fractured my hip and had a replacement 8 months ago and all that insurance coverage I pay (and he provided) covered 100% of my medical costs. I hope your wife finds the right doctor to prescribe medication to treat her depression. It took six years and a loving husband before I was diagnosed correctly in 2006. She is very lucky to have you but make sure you are taking care of your needs first so that you don’t get burned out from the stress.
I feel you. We were forced to move to the US because they wouldn't renew my wife's tourist visa. She had to reapply for a spousal visa, which meant she has to maintain a residency in the US.
What an awesome story. It’s because of your channel that my husband and I are temporary residents of Mexico. You showed us the way. I know you will be a wonderful success as you have already been. So glad you are still sticking with us.
People are so thirsty for the truth.
Truth is like an animal in extinction.
Thanks for being genuine, Paul. Looking forward to your content.
Great comment! Agreed!
TO LEARN WHO RULES OVER YOU AND YOUR COUNTRY (both parties) FIND OUT WHO YOU CAN'T CRITICIZE. (almost every country)
I am in my late 60's. I would NEVER expect my family to leave their happy homes and come take care of me. My mother told the same thing to me. Only creates resentment.
I know, right? Seems to me if I were the one needing assistance then it's on me to adjust my life to the ones providing it.
My parents set a great example by taking care of both of my Grandmothers (at different times), but they both agreed to live with my parents and us kids. We committed to take care of my wife’s parents and aunt but we told them they would need to live where we lived when the time comes. They moved to Florida from California to live nearby. They are currently independent but we will be here when they need help. It’s quite another matter asking someone to move to a developing country.
@@davidwelty9763
I am 78 years old and I don't want anyone "taking care of me!"
When I cannot take care of myself, then it's time to go.
I think you are wrong about that if they really love you. When my father got dementia everyone told me to put him in an old folks home. Even social workers banging on my door telling me to put him in an old folks home. When my father was sick and in the hospital as he was rehabing they sent him to a rehab home that's also an old folks home. The care was terrible I told the staff that I was taking him outside to get fresh air and never brought him back. I quit my job to take care of him full time and lived on savings, credit cards and small jobs here and there. I'm broke and in debt but I'm so glad I was there for him until his last day.
@@handsomeman-pm9vy If only it worked out like that.
They left Mexico to care for his mother-in-law.
I expected more from this video, very disappointed to waste my time ❗️
Family responsibilities trump everything. This is the main reason that my husband and I won’t move abroad. We have lived in several countries and enjoyed it thoroughly. When he retired we toyed with the idea of going back to Europe (where he is from). But we just can’t see having an actual ocean between us and our 4 adult children who all live in the US. It’s the right choice for us. Now we have a granddaughter too and the pull towards family only gets stronger and stronger. It’s ok. We travel and see the world when we can and get our “fix” that way while still being able to be here for our kids. Yes. Life happens. You have to make the best compromise you can and try to be as content with your decisions as possible. Good luck to you guys!
Honesty and transparency -- that's all that we can ask for. Thanks for sharing!!!
I have watched your videos for years and you have influenced me and my wife to retire in Mexico. We purchased land in Cerritos Beach earlier this year. We will build our home there once I retire in three years. I watch your videos all the time, usually when I’m cleaning up the kitchen and have my phone propped up against the window and catch up on your latest video. I very much respect your honesty and decision as my wife and I are going through the exact same thing now with her mom. I wish you all the best and hope to invite you and Linda to be our guests in Cerritos one day. God Bless you!
I have been watching your channel for over 2 years. I moved to Mexico in May 2021. You have been a wealth of information on many aspects that apply to living in Mexico. The biggest thing that helped me tremendously was information you gave on the Mexican Consulate in the U.S. that had the lowest income requirement for residency in Mexico. My income was just a little above the minimum income requirement so I was able to qualify for Temporary Residency. I received the ok from the Consulate in the U.S. in November 2021 and January 2022, the income requirement at that Consulate increased by $600.00 USD more per month. It went from $1,745.00 USD per month to $2,300.00 USD per month. I was so grateful that I was following your channel or I would have never been able to meet the monthly income requirement at any consulate in the U.S. Thank you for the efficient, valuable and accurate information that you always provide. I am sure you will be able to make a comfortable income with creating content on RUclips full time.
I'm so glad that the videos helped you. Thanks for taking the time to comment. :)
Kudos Paul for taking life by the horns and rolling with the punching. I've been following you on RUclips since 2017. Your videos about moving to Mexico were very inspirational to me since that's what I would like to do one day. I wish you the best in this new chapter of your life. You always offer great information. Thank you and good luck.
I left Europe for Mexico in 2020, after the first lockdown, around Christmas. Originally, I wanted to stay in the UK, but all my jobs were gone. I got a temporary residence permit right away. And I bought a house. A friend of mine urgently advised me to stay out of Europe. She lives now with her family in South East Asia. I am glad that I followed her advice. Europe is getting worse by the day.
This is ridiculous. There is a reason why people immigrate from Asia to Europe and not the other way around. Enjoy your complete lack of freedom of speech, and rife corruption.
Hi, why europe is getting wors?
Liberia is cheap, too.
@ClaudiaM-om4em As Mexican living in the UK, I can say that Mexico is an amazing country to live in but for foreigners ONLY!
@zohar29 Too many emigrants so the Europeans are emigrating to Mexico
Thanks for sharing. My adult son and I have been traveling/living/working in a 28' used RV all over central Mexico since Nov. 2022. Since our main source of income is from an online business (web & marketing mainly for vacation rental businesses) we earn money as we go.
A wise person once said, "The worst day working for yourself is better than the best day working for someone else".
And so it is.
I plan to retire at 62 in another country outside the US that is free, safe and very cheap with a high quality of life. I could fully just rely on only my SS if I wanted to when that times arrives but I'll also have at least one pension, a 403 (b) and a very prolific lnvestment account with my Abby Joseph Cohen my FA. Retiring comfortably in the US these days is almost impossible.
@Merissabade
Well her name is 'ABBY JOSEPH COHEN SERVICES'. Just research the name. You'd find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment.
@GarryTilmanI have a sister in Sri Lanka, should be easy for me to settle in
DO YOU REALIZE HOW SELFISH THIS SOUNDS "I plan to retire at 62 in another country outside the US that is free, safe and very cheap with a high quality of life." Then why not move to that country? "Retiring comfortably in the US these days is almost impossible."
@@niconite Amen --- now these a-hole expats will be f'ing up some other places local economy by showing up with more money than the average local. They'll keep spreading disdain for Americans abroad.
@@RamseyAlaqel so many ppl are depending on their financial advisors who haven’t told you the truth rather than God who has warned His children for over 2 years that the dollar will crash & be replaced by currency backed by gold & silver, the stock markets will crash bc they’ve been artificially elevated, & the banks are about to crash & they’ll be bank runs. For the ones who believe God & try to withdraw their money the banks won’t allow it. I pray your investments are gold & silver.
As a first time watcher here is my take on it. Your honest and frank manor of talking along with your photogenic looks and great voice make it easy to watch whatever you want to present. There are a lot of us in similar situations or at least can relate to you. With already 100k subs I think you made a good choice. All the best to you.
I feel I need to echo some other commenters. You are the reason I began thinking about retiring in Mexico. I'm also in my 50s and used to live in FL until family issues took me to Oregon. And another funny thing, my uncle is a deputy sheriff too. So. I've been where you're at now, but sadly everyone in my life is gone. So, I made the decision to get my temporary residency an I'm heading down in Sept to complete my canje. Thanks for everything Paul. You've made a difference in my life and I'll never forget it.
México welcomes you with open arms if and when you're ready!
Los mexicanos decimos "mi casa es su casa" y lo decimos de corazón 😊
All of the information you've imparted has helped me in my life here in Mexico. Thank you for all you've done to make life easier for others.
You have helped many, including me. Your positive energy guarantees you good Karma. Most people who drown while trying to swim across a river do so because they try to make it from point A to point B, but those who swim across, while going with the flow, make it to the other shore, not where they envisioned, but where they were meant to be
I have nothing but the utmost respect for you and your wife for making this decision. My grandmother suffered from dementia. She would not allow any of her 5 grandchildren to take turns staying with her and refused to live with any of us. We finally had to make the difficult decision to place her in a senior living center after we found her several times in the yard where she had spent the night confused. For her safety there was no alternative. We made sure she had daily visits and made the best of a heartbreaking situation. I am confident we made the best decision, but it was very sad for several years. So glad you will be continuing with You Tube. I am wishing only the best for you and your family.
I moved to Mexico more than 12-years ago. I bought a home on a lake and planned to live here until I die. Then I met a Mexican friend (bilingual) who worked for me as my house manager with room and board and a great salary. Meanwhile he has finished the University and hopes to relocate to the US but wants me to come with him to help him get acclimated and to start a new life in the medical profession. I just cannot imagine returning. How could I live there with those prices again? My friends are counting down the years until they can retire here to Mexico and they own homes in Florida--as I did--and the insurance and utilities are out of sight (not to mention food prices). I just can't imagine having to rent my house out in Mexico and living in the US for a year or so. Plus health care and a culture that has moved away from me for more than a decade. I feel your pain. I don't know that I will be able to finally make the break with this lifestyle of travel and leisure for the rat rat race of US search for money just to live.
Thats encouraging. You mind sharing what city/region in Mexico you are in? Thx
@@rahulbhatt1264 Chapala Centro (downtown) in a Mexican neighborhood a block from the lake.
great, but just so you know, we barely can win in a month what you earn in a week, and now with most houses be selling on dolars, you guys are leaving us with no chance to buy house. I know you dont care...
I don't earn money. I live on my retirement. I spend 100% of my after US income tax on the Mexican economy. I pay 100% of a Mexican's tuition and books and transportation as well as food at a Mexican University. My home and all my belongings and my life insurance monies are willed to local Mexicans--nothing returning to my family in the US when I die. Everything I purchase is purchased in Mexico. My house manager hires local Mexican tradesman, a gardener, a maid and others and pays them well with benefits from my retirement. I have paid other local Mexican's tuition costs for education. I have taught classes for free in my native language as well as my field of former employment. I am not trying to blow my horn but not every gringo, sir, is a taker. I know many who are in my circumstance who are using all of our retirement funds for Mexicans only and who are leaving all of their worldly goods to Mexicans who would otherwise not have a chance at starting a local business or getting an education beyond grade school or owning their own home. It just isn't true that all of us don't care. Many of us do care and do something about it. @@crymxcho
Great sir, thanks for answer, is good to know that some gringos can understand part of the problem and try to make something, thats a lot. But is not like you are not living the best part from it, and is not your fault anyway, the game was set for being played from north to south since 1994 TLCAN, from here we can only hope to win some dollars in return.
My friend established a life in Ireland and then her elderly mom needed care so she moved back to the US. Her mom was angry and bitter and my friend gave up everything, used up her savings buying a home in Ireland and now she’s helping a mother with whom argues with her everyday. My friend is depressed and regrets everything. She’s so down she has given up leaving the US again because it was such a challenge…
That's one scenario for sure. Let's hope in this case that doesn't happen because that would be a real shame.
That’s the thing…someone who is so stubborn and uncompromising that they’d let their child sacrifice their happy life rather than move is probably not going to be a great person to spend time with every day.
@@missmayflower agreed.
Paul great story and journey. How old are you? I retired after 15 years as a forensic investigator for child protections services in california.
Moved to florida but getting priced out with my early pension at 55.. Im 59 1/2 now . I have lived in the Dominican Republic and Thailand on under 2000 per month.
I did a similar thing in california, sold my home and dwindled my life down to 1 car and two suitcases. Bought a new build in Manatee county but ended up 9 months a year in the DR.
Fast forward if i want to live full time in the usa i have to go back to work, fight the traffic and navigate a culture that thrives on debt and stress. No thank you! So im selling in january after getting hammered by this hurricane season. The gulfside was devestated.
Most people i know think the USA is the holy grail and the streets are paved in gold. For some yes, for most no.
I noticed so many more retirees and seniors well into thier 70s abd 80s having to work. Its really sad . Its a crime
The USA has the highest senior homeless rate among 1st world countries. Its not right
Thank you so much for your story. Your very genuine
Sorry to hear that , I'm a Retiree Living in Mexico for the last 10 years with no regrets , life is lees expensive .
What part of Mexico, please?
what area?
I am Mexican, lived in Valle de Bravo (adore it) and now I am living in Canada. I owe a little Island in the North of Quebec, and love my life here… but how I miss my doctors, my adorable dentist, my friends, my food, the sounds (serenatas, xilófonos, cantantes, Se Compra Fierro que Vendannn)… towns with romantic alleys, real brick and stone walls.. Oh, yes, How I miss Mexico! Still, I am here in Canada, and I am happy… as long as I can go back home at least twice a year.
@@AzulRomero-r1i I'm a Canadian 🇨🇦 living in Mexico. I'm here visiting family in Canada. I miss Mexico. 🙏🏼❤️
The way you described it I miss Mexico, and I've never been there.😂 But I think I understand the sentiment. I love old historical yoens over the modern sterile environments.
Romantic alley?
@@jimkalfakis9893 Yeah where you go to get stabbed and robbed on a saturday night. ;))
A few years ago when I was 75, my wife and I went paragliding in Valle de Bravo. Fantastic time and I loved the area.
Sorry you had to leave beautiful Q Roo. I'm sure your mother in law is doing much better having you there. You're always welcome to come back to Mexico. Best wishes to you and your family
Appreciate all you've done Paul. My Mexico timeline has been similar to ours. Family issues had me change plans too. Happily I am also a Permanente which is good forever. Gracias, Mexico.
I let my daughter know a long time ago I'm not having any of it. Many may disagree but this is my decision. I don't want to be in a home that would cripple my daughter and son in law financially. Nor do I want to be unable to recognize my loved ones nor be able to care for myself. Both of my grandmother's had dementia in their 80's. My fater had Lewy Body dementia. I'm 65 and I've been slow traveling and living abroad the past five years. From the US to Europe to Mexico and back to Europe. I've already checked out resources here in Europe and the states for facilities that offer end of life assistance. If the time comes I'll drink the cocktail and go peacefully.
I would love to be able to take the cocktail too, but how are we going to get it? Even if we live in a Right to Die country or state, that means we have to have a diagnosis (from two medical people) of six months or less to live. And most people with dementia live for years.
On the other hand, it's clear to me
why this guy has been successful in many aspects if his life, including where it matters most. His family. He made the sacrifice to relocate in the first place so that his wife would have healthcare and they could enjoy their lives together. He then made another sacrifice in returning to the US. Again, this was to support his family and maybe this is what his wife really wanted. Not only that, he discovered a new talent that enables him to quit his day job and work remote anywhere with connectivity.
He will have success wherever (family) life leads him. Every family would be fortunate to have a leader like this guy. Much respect.
You are so correct, well said !!!
And I will assume you are successful as well because you had the ability to recognize his sacrifices!!!
you are 100% correct I see the same, plus honesty comes across very strong as he tells his story
Prayers to you and your family, you made the best decision for your family. I would like to hear more of the excellent health care in Mexico and what make it so great compared to the US. Hope you can include some information in one of you next content
Stories.
Big news Paul, thanks for sharing. You're the best Spanish channel on RUclips for grammer and structure, bueno suerte!
I'm so sorry, Paul. I know you really loved it here in Mexico. Your videos are what prepared me for my move to Mexico and I even used one of your videos, ten things to do when moving to Mexico, to land a job with Amazon Web Services. It was a presentation where you had to walk the interviewer through a process. I just watched your video over and over again until I could deliver it on command. Interviewer was absolutely floored. Couldn't believe all the information I had. I didn't recite your video, I just gave the highlights. Every probing question he had was something you had provided in your video so I was ready for every one of them and he couldn't believe it. I hope you get to make it back home to Mexico and I wish you nothing but success with RUclips.
Thanks Paul. I've always enjoyed hearing you speak about Mexico and the enthusiasm you have for the most beautiful country.
Looks like you haven't lost that enthusiasm even though you aren't there any more.
I'm glad you aren't giving up on the videos. Best of luck in all things and really you never know what tomorrow brings. It's best to roll with the punches. I love your attitude.✌️
Big sacrifice just bc mother-in-law wants it her way
Probably health issues.
It’s call family, when you was born your mother take care of you. When she needs help its a human way pay back to appreciate her sacrifice 🙏🙏
@@yevgeniyminakov1017 There should be a give and take on both ends ....... she would probably be better off in Mexico !
Agreed, her ass is moving to mexico or a US nursing home.
Imagine having to go back to work and financial stress just because your wife has your balls😂
I have a feeling there's more to the story than he's letting on.
Welcome back to the states, Paul! Missouri here from PSC. :) I'm sorry that you and Linda had cut your wonderful retirement short, but I do understand your situation. When our parents need us, we have to take care of them. Both of mine are deceased now, but my siblings and I gave them the best care we possibly could before they passed. I wish you continued success with your channel. I'm a subscriber and will continue to follow.
I was going to post this same comment. Taking care of our folks when they need us is an honor and a privilege and perhaps the highest act we as humans can do.
You know... if someone is being taken care of they should show some humility. "She didn't want any of that..." Then solve your own life! "She wouldn't have any of that..."
You are a survivor, and it's nice that the mother-in-law is being taken care of. Be proud of what you've done. It takes guts...God Bless...
My mom is elderly and diagnosed with dementia. I made sure, before I left my home country, that my siblings would be looking after my mother. My dad was my responsibility but he passed from cancer, much earlier than my mom and what we expected. I just got my tax number today and won't be going back again. You are smart not to give up on the 100K subscribers you have built! Life has curve balls, for sure and it's great you decided to return to help mom. I'm sure you and Linda will continue to be a great team and figure something out. Maybe interviewing people who have taken on the Mexican dream? I watched a lot of that stuff before I moved here and now I help others from getting tangled up in the common traps, even in the serene part of Mexico I spend most of my time in! Best of luck!
Putting the burden on your siblings is a shameful and selfish act. I wouldn't be able to sleep at night if I did that.
@@Middleguy37 My mother was very aggressive with me and started hitting me when I was a teen. At 14, I told her she wasn't hitting me anymore. So, she threw me out shortly after. I moved in with my dad and his crazy girlfriend until I was 18 and able to support myself. I told my siblings I would look after my dad in old age but she is on the three of them, not me. Normally, I would have never spoken to her again but I loved my siblings so I stayed in touch. So, mind your business and hateful words. You never know the entire story and I personally don't know how anyone can terrorize a four year old and live with themselves but they do, don't they? That four year old isn't going to be wiping their dirty butt sixty years later, for them, though and that's OK. She knows what she did.
Hi Paul, I’m reinventing myself at 55. I’ve had a serious health scare, and a physical injury in the past two years. I feel blessed with a miracle, and now…they are calling me, Your Honor. I’ve closed the door to my past, which was a stepping stone now looking back on it! Hindsight gets clearer, 20/20, … the best of luck to us taking a leap of faith and making this our best life ever! Happy times ahead, and I’m a new subscriber… today! Making every day better one like 👍 at a time. I have more changes in mind, as I’m sure you do too! 😊 vibrating in the 5D… forever changed. 🎉❤
I have a Co-worker who retired from an Auto and Home Insurance Company. He sold his home here in Whittier, Ca. and moved to GDL- Guadalajara, Mexico and Loves it. I went to visit him and stayed one week there in March of 2024. I loved it, the people there are very welcoming. I have seen the homes for sale there and the High-Rise condos and they are beautiful. Especially the Condos with their views of the city at night and the homes with magnificent pools. I go to the Capital Brokers Luxury Real Estate and the homes are beautiful and the weather is like California. The Greenery there makes the city so beautiful. I hope one day that will be my residence.
If you want to buy a house or condo, if you have Mexican friends tell them to make believe that the house is for them, you will get a better price, they usually charge more to foreigners.
It's always a honor to have Jason. here as a mentor, I appreciate him for the time being spent to educate me financially. Regardless of how bad it gets on the economy, I still make over $28K every single month. I truly value Jason graystone fx. and is helpful guides.
Honestly I really need help learning to trade. Seeing my portfolio low makes me very sad
Just bought $1k Ethereum and $5k bitcoin with the recent dump in crypto I was told it's the right time to buy and get ready for a skyrocket
You're right forex trading is surely a lucrative way to invest whether you want growth, leverage, stable income or something in between.
You just mentioned Expert Jason. Indeed, Jason Graystone fx. has been an incredible mentor to me, imparting a deep understanding of the economy that I wish college had provided
I started so little withjust $2,500 because I was skepticalabout investing,but fortunately now Iregret not starting big
Paul we have been living in Mexico for 6 years. Unfortunately my 69 year old wife suffered a stroke during open heart surgery last September. She has a very complex health profile and recovery has been slow. It is unclear how much function she will recover. I am so happy this happened in Mexico rather than the US. When you get health insurance out of the way, things are so much easier. Good luck in your journey.
You’re in a situation many, many families find themselves in: one member of the family needs more care, and other members are hundreds if not thousands of miles away. It’s the exact reason when I visit my parents I look them both in the eyes and make sure they have long-term care insurance and the like (I’m in CDMX, have a sibling in Chicagoland with my parents living in Texas). I wish you all the best moving forward
We sold everything to move to La Paz BCS in September 2021. Canada is a beautiful place but, Residency in beautiful Mexico was the dream. We're here in beautiful Nova Scotia Canada after living 3 yrs in beautiful Mexico to be with family we haven't seen for a very long time. They need us too ! We're here to fight for Canada and vote for a Conservative majority. Yes we'll be back to Mexico for Winter snowbird seasons. We are grateful to your channel 🙏 for sharing excellent advice and recommendations. It's a great channel ❤
Canada will greatly improve after The liberals are out
I get demoralized when I read so many comments from people who move to Mexico
I get tired of reading so many comments where the primary reason to move to Mexico is because it’s cheaper than the US. To me that is just one reason among many to live there. Another thing that really bothers me is that so many Americans in Mexico,who lounge around the pools and beaches and get waited on hand and foot voted for a guy that called Mexico a s-- hole country! To those people I’m talking about, you’re not fooling anyone, especially the big hearted, hard working and humble Mexicanos who treat you kindly even when you snap your fingers at them. Viva Mexico!🇲🇽
I love your channel. I'm 54 and have been living as an expat for 24 years....Americans have been culturally conditioned to be in debt...bad types of debt...and life goes by.....great on your decision to go to Mexico and actually LIVE life....and you will continue...I look forward to future videos....perhaps on life on the expensive USA. I visit my parents every year. Estudio Espanol desde Vietnam.
@@kevjackson3501 debt is enslavement
So hard when a family member needs you to return to assist. I left Rome twelve years ago to return back to the U.S. when my mother started having dementia symptoms. Now that my father has passed and she is living with a sibling, I am wanting to leave again. I got my permanent residency two years ago, and you and Linda were part of my roster of influencers who guided my decisions along the way. Still need to make the move and convince the spouse too. A whole other thing.
Wishing you two all the best and hope to see you on the channel again. You are a natural.
Not all Americans have been culturally conditioned to be in debt. That mainly happens to Canadians and USAeans. The rest of America is more of a cash culture, generally speaking.
Paul, thank you so much for all that you share! I'm retiring at the end of September and moving to Mexico. I'm learning so much from your videos and I plan to start watching the ones for learning (more) Spanish. I wish you only the very best in life and I hope that in the future you and Linda can find your way back to your home away from home.
Props to you guys for not sticking your mother in law in an old folks home. Putting your parents in an old folks home and then forgetting about them is the most American thing to do. When my father got dementia everyone told me to put him in an old folks home. Even social workers banging on my door telling me to put him in an old folks home. When my father was sick and in the hospital as he was rehabing they sent him to a rehab home that's also an old folks home. The care was terrible I told the staff that I was taking him outside to get fresh air and never brought him back. I quit my job to take care of him and lived on savings, credit cards and small jobs here and there. I'm broke and in debt but I'm so glad I was there for him until his last day.
You might be lucky the nursing home didn't get you charged with kidnapping. The head nurse in my mother's nursing home told me if I took her home without their permission, they would charge me with kidnapping. But she was pretty weird. Maybe she was just spouting off.
@@kerrynight3271 They didn't have legal custody of my dad. I never signed any document to put him in that place. The hospital sent him there without my consent. My dad had severe dementia and didn't know where they were taking him or what was going on and couldn't' make that decision. I should have charged the place with kidnapping my dad to begin with. The nursing home didn't really care they just wanted me to sign some documents freeing them of any liability. I told them it's too late now. You just reminded me to give them a bad review on Yelp although they already have a bunch of bad reviews.
The nursing home doesn't own your mother. You might have to do some paperwork and free them of any liability but I'm sure you can take her home whenever you want.
I’d say putting a family member in a retirement home is an option for rich people but everyday people can hardly afford $10k a month
My heart fell when you said you were overwhelmed working and doing RUclips; I thought you were about to say you were leaving RUclips. So glad to hear you are sticking around! Your zero to fluent videos have been so helpful! You are a gifted teacher and make it fun too. Wishing you the best with your new journey!
All the best to you and Linda. You don’t know what the future holds and this time will pass. Later you can return to Mexico.
"Reinventing yourself, over and over again" If I would have been open minded at 18 years old, instead of being fearful, I could have made my life better in ways I probably can't think of. Ironically, I stayed at a job too many years because of the fear of giving up the comfort and security, I put those qualities above all...........the job turned toxic, unfortuantely, I was in too much denial to see the reality and truth of the situation........
I know what you mean. I had 2 boys that I felt I owed them something I never had and that was a father who actually was there no matter what. They are doing well now and I never hear from either one. Guess they forget too easy all the times old dad was always there for the first 21 years. Live and learn.
Paul thank you for your honesty and sharing. All your experiences add up and make you so much wiser. Your tips on how to navigate the Mexican system help us a lot. Your among the few who share it. We really appreciate it.
Coming and living in Mexico it’s easy , don’t try to get or see things like in the US embrace the culture and the people , just be happy
Dear Paul and Linda, I am so sorry to learn of your need to leave you much loved Mexico and return to the USA. But as it is said "Success is a journey, not a destination". I also returned to the USA after 6 years in Los Cabos for a different reason and will never regret having moved there. I wish you all of good fortune in your new endeavors and a very positive journey for the rest of your lives.
Im a 51 year old widow. I have 2 kids under 18. I have PROMISED them They will NEVER have to "take care if me" I'll never allow it even if they offer, once I can't take care of myself if I make it that far I will pay for my care, it's called Planning People. I will NEVER burden my kids/family in my old age. GenX please don't do this to your kids.
But please realize it’s not always about the almighty dollar. Regardless of financial planning, some people need and want their family around for love, emotional and psychological support, esp if facing a health or mental challenge. Of course it’s wonderful to be able to afford physical care, but that’s not the only thing that matters - yes, to the aged, but also to the rest of the family. If you’re lucky. I can’t imagine not wanting to be around family whether you’re the one needing help or the one giving it.
@@leapintothewildhis mother should have agreed to move with them if she needed to depend on them though. Otherwise, she should have accepted moving into a nursing home etc.
@@leapintothewild I'm not rich 😆, lower middle class, I would NEVER force my kids to drop everything & move to be closer to me & provide companionship, how ridiculous. These situations need to be discussed & planned ahead so expectations are clear. I don't have a spouse/partner but those who do need to have those conversations with them too. I would love to be close to my kids, my sister, my nieces & nephews, cousins etc in old age but I wouldn't expect them to drop everything & move to make it happen, they all don't live in the same city, state, country 🤷🏻♀️ so have everyone move to my city?🤭 Selfish thinking
I hope Linda’s mother appreciates what all they gave up for her all because she didn’t want to move to their paradise.
Agree with the majority of the comments here regarding planning for your own care in old age. Like the OP, I would never expect my daughter (she is my only child) to care for me. I will plan for my own care, as a responsible adult. There is such a thing called Long Term Care insurance. I urge everyone to get a plan as soon as you are eligible (for most plans that starts at age 50). I know many cultures (my own included - I’m Mexican) stress caring for one’s elders however in American society and the way things work here, that is not usually feasible without great sacrifice by the caregiver, given how expensive it is to live here. Elder care is incredibly expensive, on top of being very emotionally and physically taxing. Sure I want to maintain being able to see my daughter, but I want to visit with her, and for her to have the freedom to continue living her life on her terms.
I have a story to tell you. My father Immigrated to the US when he was a young man (legally), worked Santa Fe Railroad for many years, going through many states, then he got sick with asthma back then he decided to moved back to Mexico my mother used to tell me, Son there was no medicine for Asthma many nights we thought he was not going to see the morning light, long story short, he decided to moved to Mexico and said, I will never put a foot back in America, some of us after growing up decided to come back to the US, I'm on my 60's now and understand why he took that decision, I worked hard 2 jobs most of my life made very descent money, retired now just to find out that I didn't make enough to live a descent life. We're struggling on a daily basis, Iam back working for minimum wage. Just the Grace of God keeping us going.
@@alexcastellanos9689 you are telling the truth
Have you thought of moving to Mexico?
At the very least you’re in good company 🌟🙏🌟
Sorry this happend to me too. I'm about 2 years from homeless and didn't know things would get this bad.
If you had two jobs your whole life and didn’t have a good retirement than you wasted your money buying crap you didn’t need instead of saving for retirement. Blaming “America” for your awful financial planning is ridiculous.
Good for you. Your channels are excellent and have been a great help to me. I wish you every success.
I left Mexico after 6 months of living in La Paz Baja Sur Mexico. I left because face it, it’s great until things go wrong. No ability to get justice if you are robbed, your car is stolen, you are injured. No jury trials in Mexico. It’s a lot more expensive than you expect. It was a truly beautiful place to live. Beautiful beaches, amazing food, great people.
Thank you for speaking the realities. There were quite a few retirees moving to Mexico near a lake that's name I forget. They bought homes thought they had it made but the state reclaimed them!
@@taroman7100 Chapala. Near Guadalajara.
"it’s great until things go wrong". Best comment.
@@taroman7100 Lake Chapala near Ajicic
My hat is off to you guys for putting family first. You'll be back down south of the border in the future I'll bet. All the best!
This video made me cry for you. I am so sorry you had to start all over again. This sucks so much! I bought an inexpensive house in Spain, but I am still working and I am not about to sell my old one in the US. So happy you're not giving up the RUclips channel. I have tried to build mine and I'm up to 355 subscribers now. It's a slow process for me. I'm super happy with my house in Spain and hopefully one day I can stay there for long periods of time. As of now, it's just a vacation home, nice too though. I hope you get to go back to Mexico or some other country to explore. There is a whole world out there.
I applaud you and Linda for the sacrifices you have chosen to make, Paul! I am the primary caregiver of my mom (she was diagnosed with dementia). It hasn’t always been easy but it’s worth it. You hang in there! I truly appreciate the way you RESPECT and LOVE your wife and mother in law by all the details that you left out. Thanks for sharing! You don’t owe us any explanations. Just know that this calling (for however long it turns out to be) is not for everyone, so I thank you for your vulnerability!!! I’m praying for your strength as you all navigate life together. Hang in there brother. This is our 14th year having my mom live with us; so my husband and I can speak to many issues if you or Linda ever need to talk. It’s clear that you understand the big picture. But I’ll just add this: Live your life with as few regrets as possible and continue to treat others as you’d want to be treated. May God Almighty honor your efforts and send you whatever help and resources you may need at the appropriate times. Even though you’re not seeking anything in return, I pray that you will be rewarded 1000 times over in this life! Oh yeah- thanks for great Spanish learning content - I stay in the background, but I’m progressing (partly because of your channel)- that’s why I became a life-time member😇 blessings!
Paul, I feel your pain brother! We retired a few years ago and did the same thing. Now we’re back in the USA for the last year because my mother-in-law was the same as yours. It sucks! Hopefully you and Linda, and Renee and I, will be back in Mexico sooner than later.
hypothetically ( big brother listens_) I've been in Mexico for 28 yrs. The more I see the state of Canada and the US the more I appreciate Mexico where i live theres no parking meters no speed traps no Karens no noise bylaw no nosy neighbors no school shootings no SWATraids on houses , no tent cities . Try cracking a beer on a Canadian beach and seewhat happens. Try riding in the back of a pickup or poking your head thru the sunroof in the States see how the cops like it. You can rent a giant stereo buy a ton of beer block off your street party till 7 and NOT ONE NEIGHBOR WILL CALL THE COPS People mind their own biz here . car wash 7bucks property taxs 300/yr cellular 20/mo I could go on and on
There's a price to pay for everything, right?
That sounds great! Where in Mexico do you live?
Where are you living in Mexico where life is the way you depict it?
@@andreawatkins2125Most everywhere. Mexico is great.
Has Mexico become the new America?
Super-interesting! It takes courage to reinvent yourself over and over again. But I am certain that those years that you spent in Mexico free of money worries count as some of your best years. I in a certain way also reinvented myself. Years ago I had married a Greek husband and fell in love with the country and lifestyle of Greece. I actually fell in love with Greece and I think as a result married a Greek. I divorced and bought myself a small place on a Greek island ,which I visited ,now for 34 years ,every summer. I was able to do this because I was a college professor in California. Because I was raising two young boys alone I was unable to permanently move to Greece. At age 81 I moved from Los Angeles to the Central Coast of California, away from the city. Everyone thought that I was crazy! One of my sons lives there now, on a hill surrounded by oak trees and peace and quiet. Now at age 83 I am presently enjoying my Greek island ,with its sunshine and friendly, welcoming people! I don’t think that my friends think that I am crazy any longer!!!
I’m so glad you achieved this. I’m working my way through a Greek cookbook that is full of cultural notes. I have Greek dinners with music and dancing. ❤
Paul congratulations this is one of the best, most candid vids I have viewed... subscribed and looking forward to more, all the best!
I'm a Spanish teacher! I use your videos all of the time. Thank you!
What's the best way to learn Espanol ?
@@censoredeveryday3320use this creator’s videos
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To learn ANY language, the best waybis by immersion.
The rest of the ways to learn a language are "confortable ways yo learn a language".
Vente a vivir a México y te garantizo que vas a aprender más rápido que en una escuela o en línea. La gente en México es MUY servicial y amistosa.
There you have it for you to try your Google translate, lol
We sold everything in 2021 and moved to Puerto Vallarta Mexico. I hope I never have to return to the United States.
That's our very own dream, moving to Puerto Vallarta!
Dont you have to return occasionally to maintain citizenship?
How is PV? I will be visiting there soon.
@@danielfiore8865 No. Citizenship isn´t dependent on living in the country. We return to visit family. The return I was referring to is returning to live permanently in the United States. I hope I don´t have to do that.
@@fionaslife Honestly, this time of the year it is hot and humid. If you are out walking, expect to be a sweetly mess.
I'm not an American, not even close. But boy, I can tell Americans are hard working people. For this a massive respect. And you, sir, are the exact example.
I sure wish we got something for all that hard work ☹ My husband works 6 days a week as a butcher - it's his 32nd year with the company. I'm on disability and make approx $2,000 a month. Between the two of us we can barely live. We don't own a house because we can't save up 20% for a down payment, especially since the prices keep increasing. The average price of a house in California is $904,210 which is up 11% since April of last year. That would mean we have to save $180,842 and also have money for closing costs and real estate agent fees. That could never happen and is quite disheartening 😔
@@IceLynne That's so unfair for you! I think living in another state such as Delaware, without as many taxes on retired people (when you're able to retire), would help.
what is noble about working hard?
Move out of Calif! There's wonderful places in the US that offer quality of life and are greatly more affordable. One need not believe that moving abroad is the only way to have a good retirement. And then people are so afraid to leave California and discover the other coasts of the US! As you get older you're going to want to find good, safe, affordable places in your home country and yes these places still exist but get on it don't dilly dally!
@@IceLynne the answer to your dilemma seems obvious to me but maybe there are other moving parts. You do know don't you that California is the single most expensive real estate market in the country? You are on disability so moving isn't going to change that status and your husband as an experienced butcher can work in all 50 states am sure and get a job within a week. I live in Laguna Beach and my house is worth well beyond the average price point for California homes. Since I can afford it I don't complain and I stay for now, but I can't imagine staying if I couldn't. Figure $5 million net worth to be in the desirable areas. Who wants to live in Fresno? Anyway, I own properties around the United States and I just bought a beautiful home in Indiana 3000 ft.² six years old, for $192,000. You might be able to swing that and the quality of life there supersedes that in California by a country mile if you are middle-class or lower middle-class let's just say. The middle of the country is chock full of examples just like this.