@@armaankhurana3132 and ectopic pregnancy is when the pregnancy forms outside of the uterus. Usually in one of the fallopian tubes, which can cause the tube to rupture.....called an ectopic rupture
Mine dismissed my abdominal pain as part of my menstrual cycle but now I’m with a new doctor and getting my gallbladder removed next Thursday and I couldn’t be happier :)
There's an OBGYN nurse on RUclips that interviewed someone who had a misdiagnosed ectopic pregnancy. Positive test, no baby in uterus on ultrasound, bleeding, and abdominal pains. Took two weeks with the work of two clinics before they found the problem.
This topic hits hard and real. Back in 2001, my dad went to the hospital due to some chest pain. Dr basically ignored him and sent him in his way. He returned like 4 times and was sent away each time. My aunt went to visit him and found him collapsed in his house. Took him to the ER and a pace maker had to be put in. Turns out he had Wolf Parkinsons White Syndrom and contracted a staph infection and died. Total time from his initial visit, 11 days. It took 11 days and 5 visits (6 if you count the ER) for my dad to die. Had the Dr done an exam or labs, it could have been caught and mitigated. Yes... there was a malpractice lawsuit and yes it was won
I am extremely glad to hear a malpractice suit was pursued. It's so rare that people are brave or smart enough to do it. If a doctor is a murderer, they should not be a doctor- that's what malpractice suits are for, keep them from killing or disabling more people. It's absolutly horrible what happened to your father.
The lack of trust that develops when a patient is ignored is huge. My mom went to the ER twice about an issue and no one listened. They sent her home both times; the second time I was even there advocating for her to be admitted. She also spoke with her PCP and another specialist she saw on occasion to try and get help. No one listened and she was completely discouraged. When one night she started having pain again, my Dad offered to call 911 or take her to the ER. She said no, she didn't want to go and have them do nothing again. She died that night.
Sorry this happened to your mum ,but I can relate to her discouragement and refusal to seek urgent medical help . it's incredibly hard when your fighting to live but no one takes you seriously.
“it’s just your raging teenage hormones, change your life style and exercise if you think you could be anaemic”. He Completely refused to do a simple blood test. I finally got my diagnosis after I decided to see someone else since I had been going since I was 15 and more and more symptoms were developing over time. Well, finally got a blood test, sent to a haemotologist, they wanted a bone marrow biopsy and eventually I was diagnosed with a myeloproliferative neoplasm (bone marrow failure) which upon diagnosis had already began developing into acute myeloid leukaemia at the age of 17 and I was told at that appointment that I HAVE to have a bone marrow transplant. I had no idea that could even be transplanted. I was hoping I just had iron deficiency anaemia. It was leukaemia. I’m lucky I got diagnosed when I did, it’ll be 3 years this month since I had my transplant. Even a simple blood test can save a life.
@@rohitiyer9992 I had terrible head pain and light sensitivity which they thought was just migraines but it was my hot sweats that made me know something wasn’t right so I changed doctors to see if they’ll do a blood test and thankfully they did
I once went to the ER with chestpains and a "numbness" in the left side of my jaw. Had to wait for 7 hours before a Doctor said "You were the one with the stomach pain and toothache?" and I told him "No, chest pains" and then he became pale, walked into the reception and I could hear him chew out the nurse in the reception. Turns out the nurse didn't belive me and just wrote in my chart what he thought was wrong with me. The doctor did an ECG and had an ambulance pick me up and drive me to the hospital. He was great and I got the treatment and medicine I needed but I seriously hope that's the last time that nurse makes his own opinion on whats wrong with the patient.
I had almost this exact thing happen to me. I went to the hospital with chest pain, difficulty breathing, and passed out twice. Nurse flagged it as low blood pressure and a fainting spell. I had a massive pulmonary embolism.
A doctor labeled my roommate a “drug seeker” because she had been to the clinic and ER 14 times this year. She has a lot of medical issues. He almost refused to treat her, was very rude and wouldn’t let her explain what was going on, then lied on the papers multiple times.
Doctor labeled me as a drug seeker because I fell down the stairs and broke my arm. Didn’t find the broken bone until a week and four days later when I went to a different place.
@Zombie Frogg Oh geez, you’re one of those people 🙄 Nope, that’s not what happened. They did an x-ray of my upper arm. They wouldn’t do one on my lower arm. I don’t take pain meds unless absolutely necessary, and if I did there’s plenty of ways I could’ve gotten them without a doctor and for sure without breaking my humerus almost at the radial head which has screwed my arm up. There is a malpractice suit, but the details are not any of your business. I explain alllll this in my comment on this video. You really think a doctor wouldn’t act like that🤨 You’re very naive.
It's not even just doctors... A friend of mine was labeled a Drug Seeker/abuser by the **Pharmacist** when she tried to refill her husband's pain medication for his *terminal Cancer*. That A-hole even tried to blacklist her (her husband) from all the surrounding pharmacies.
My doctor's office recently started audio recording visits instead of typing notes. There is a huge difference in the care and attention I receive now.
the first 2 doctors i saw about my depression immediately replied with "are you single?". Not enough doctors get fired for being lazy or inept unfortunately. Went for a 3 opinion with a doctor who sent me to a psychiatrist who was willing to look deeper into what was making me unhappy. 10 years later, still have him as a family doctor because he actually cares.
When I was diagnosed with depression at 19, my mom took me to a GP, whom I'd never seen before. The doctor looked at me for a minute and said "is this why you're depressed?" Indicating my face, and put me on acne medication. Mental health is treated as a joke in this country.
@@livinglife8843 I'm in the US. That was many years ago, and have found psychiatrists on my own that are helping me manage through medication and therapy. Thank you for checking in.
It's the result of mixing capitalism with medicine. When the aim is profit, patient care suffers. Doctors are overworked, encouraged to increase the quantity of patients seen. They're as much victims of this system as the patients. Yet the amount of money spent on other things not as important is mind-blowing. This is the result of stiff resistance to what people call "socialization of medicine".
I was having horrible pain in my wrist and went to the family orthopedic doctor. When the doctor left the room I looked at what he wrote on the chart and there was NOTHING there! He then proceeded to tell my mom the pain was in my head and I was doing it for attention. He then wrote a prescription for antidepressants and lied to me saying they were pain pills. A while later I woke up one morning with such horrible pain I passed out. I went to a different doctor who did a bone scan and found I had a horrible stress fracture in my wrist! There are lots of a-hole doctors out there!
I was called a “drug seeker” by my first endometriosis specialist because he said and I quote “I got it. You cant be in pain” when that wasn’t the case, my pain got worse and worse (after being diagnosed with stage 3). I was 16 years old when he told me I wanted drugs. He then told me I’d be depressed for being sexually active (I’ve been server depressed king before him and was diagnosed at 13). When I finally got my stuff together and started anti-depressants he told me he “told me so” and that my depression was because of me being sexually active (and I wasn’t at this time). He lied to my family about endometriosis and told them to ignore any pain im in afterwords. Saying that it’ll never grow back (it did and I just got my second surgery by a different and amazing doctor). I wish I could just go back and cuss him out. He pretty much made it hard for anyone to hear me for the longest time. Because he’d always shut me down
I was treated for months by a OB-GYN for Endometriosis without success. The blood flow was so bad by then that he suggested a hysterectomy. I was raring to go, but the doctor COULD have suggested a Biopsy instead. The diagnosis after the surgery was Adenomyosis. If he'd done the biopsy months earlier, he could have spared me a LOT of pain.
If someone told me to ignore my child’s pain, I’d be out. But I have experience as a nurse. Any pain could kill you or a sign that somethings killing you. Your parents probably thought they did their due diligence and we’re not going to be sucked in by you faking pain. But at least you guys found amazing doctor
At least you were diagnosed early! I sister first sought help for severe menstrual pains in the 90's at age 14 and the doctor just said "that's what it's like to be a woman". She went back many times and no one cared. She was so bad she had stay home several days every period because of the pain. At 30-something she went again to the doctors, asking if she could have endometriosis, but the doctor completely dismissed it. She tries to become pregnant for years, it doesn't work. Finally they do a surgery to check what's going on, and she has SO MUCH ENDOMETRIOSIS!!! It takes many hours to try to clear her from all the painful cysts! She does 7 years of IVF, tries all kinds of hormones, but could never become pregnant. She has suffered so much pain during this time, both physical and mental. Now she waits to have it all removed because of the cancer risk. Had she known when she was 14 her life would've been VERY different. I really feel for her. And most likely, I also have endo.... But has been dismissed.
Had a doctor tell my father he was suffering from heartburn when he complained about pain in his lower abdomen. 14 hours later he was having emergency surgery due to ruptured intestines.
My good friend went to ER with severe abdominal/chest pain. The doctor diagnosed it as heartburn/indigestion. One week later she was dead from a ruptured abdominal aneurysm. She was the most wonderful woman I’ve ever known.
I almost lost my life to a ‘hands off’ doctor here in Canada. When I was 19, shortly after my oldest son was born, I began noticing tiny red dots under my skin. I started bruising easily and at one point, my little guy bonked my nose and it wouldn’t stop bleeding. I’m not talking hours either, it just wouldn’t stop at all. We were young parents so we often dealt with physicians who didn’t take us seriously. Paid little attention, blew off our concerns, stuff like that. Anyway. We wait in a clinic, a brand new office, all the bells and whistles. Nice neighborhood, up and coming area. The works. This doctor immediately dismissed my medical concerns, frowning at my baby and telling us to take him to the waiting room so he wouldn’t be a distraction. His tone and body language seemed frustrated from the jump. We sit down and he talks over me incessantly, I make a point to show him my arms, he scoffs and tells me it’s a rash. I remember distinctly saying “but it’s under the skin” and he barked “do you have a medical degree?“ He prescribed me cream for said rash, and kept his nose in the computer. Basically waved over his shoulder at me. I cried in the car, overwhelmed by the experience, feeling like a hypochondriac, but my partner took my to the ER. Keep in mind, I’m covered in bruises and my nose is still bleeding. Within hours we learned my platelets were undetectable, the rash is in fact petechiae, and after a series of tests, diagnosed with ITP. I spent months in the hospital, required a splenectomy to get my platelets under control, many courses of IVIG and endless medications. I didn’t have the courage to report him, but I’ll never forget the ER doctor hugging me and apologizing on his behalf.
I've have petechiae for 23 yrs now, it started when I was 8y/o, and no answer from doctors at all. I grew up basically hating doctors. I never set foot in a hospital.
I had petechiae on the top of my feet, hands and even my eyelids and it was because I had myeloid leukaemia and since platelets are myeloid cells i was lacking in healthy platelets. Anyone who notices petechiae should get it checked because it shows up for many reasons including cancer like in my case.
This happens SO often that it’s scary. As an ER nurse myself, I would question a doctor to make sure and advocate for the patient. I also had it happen to myself. I have severe Endometriosis and when I told them it hurts to breathe, they literally told me that it “was in my head”. I finally found an expert and He did my exploratory laparoscopy, and guess what he found? Endometriosis on my liver and it glued my liver to my diaphragm. After the surgery, I cried from happiness because I could breathe without pain for the first time in years. Now? I won’t go to see a doctor unless I’m 10/10 pain. I know that’s bad, but it’s what happened from poorly trained or bad doctors.
It makes me so angry to read that endometriosis and the associated pain is still being downplayed by doctors. Most women deal with some pain or discomfort as a result of periods, and as such we have a higher tolerance for pain. We're not weaklings. I hope you find better doctors!
Yes, it is kind of crazy that everything is upside down; it is a fact that women have higher pain tolerance due to experiencing period pains every month. But common belief goes that men can handle more pain. *Every doctor* should be trained about this fact with a period simulator. They should stand there, attached to the machine and watch while women take the same hit of pain without even feeling it.
Ive been there myself all too often. Its like the Dr is trying to tell me what im telling them is not true. Like they know how im feeling when Im TELLING them how i am feeling. Like, it shouldnt take severe dehydration & kidney failure for a Dr that saw you the day before to realize you were dehydrated & couldnt pee THEN
My favorite one is the quote that made my parents choose my pediatrician, "Sometimes, they fall down the stairs and split their heads open; they must learn." The doctor was german btw in case you couldn't tell
This guy sounds like my "Doc" he just writes the RX you ask for doesn't really do any diagnosis but he prescribes my Klonopin so I go to him. I told my dad if I'm ever actually sick I'll go to urgent care or pay out of pocket for an out of network Dr.
Medical gaslighting is a huge problem in our country right now and something needs to be done about it. This ended up happening to me last week and I ended up leaving my primary physician over it. These neglectful experiences must stop as patients are losing faith in their physicians.
@@inoshishi8 I totally understand bc I finally got a new/better primary care provider (who did tests instead of just guessing) & she said that I should be in the hospital due to the infection, tetanus & adverse reactions to the necessary meds after a fake service dog attack, bc I almost died from it... but I refused to go bc it's so bad (neglectful/ overworked caregivers, SARS, MERSA, Covid, etc). I don't even like to go there for outpatient tests.
@@tammyrawdon3587 I'm confused: did you almost die from the dog service or the meds side effect? *My friend is even tapering off most of her meds at this pt and has been for a few mo. She's so fed up, she doesn't see the pt except to follow up with the few Drs that care and is more into homeopathic things like I am. Edit: I forgot to add, are you less Rx now since the adverse effects issue you had?
One of the student doctors who attended my birth was so weirdly dishonest. First, when she checked my cervix, I swear it felt like she intentionally broke my water. She denied it and said she did a gentle check, but as a twin mom with premature labour, I was an expert in getting checked. It wasn’t gentle or the normal action that doctors would typically do. After my birth, I had some retained placenta that I had to have a d&c for. This same doctor came to my recovery bed and told me that it was impossible that there was placenta left behind, because she checked thoroughly. I told her her colleagues had picked it up on the ultrasound and I had horrible bleeding. Still she stood there trying to gaslight me that she had done a perfect job. No compassion for what I had just gone through. It’s nine years later, and I still wish I had reported her.
You should have. Why didn't you? Who knows this "doctor" killed how many babies? Please next time speak. And if you can write a feedback. (Even if it is going to be anonymous.)
Me too! If my dr had ordered one, be would have seen that I had 3 herniated discs from a car accident ! I had to go to a pain specialist to find out, 6 months later!
You guys should not be commenting on what the other doctor has done wrong on a platform like this RUclips, it should have been within a group of doctors. These days patients are getting too much medical information from social media and use it against other doctors. And also this goes against Medical Ethics, if that doctor felt like going for an MRI you should respect his decision he may have different approach which might not be what you are thinking. Even if he is wrong you guys should correct him. Not announcing him bad doctor on RUclips. Give him another chance bro
Yup. Was prescribed an MRI and full blood test after only a 10 minutes timed appointment and they didn't find anything too odd, so it was left undiagnosed. Only told me about some deficiencies found on the blood test and told me to take certain supplements. Not saying that was wrong; it's just that a physical examination and more questions before jumping to scans and sending me out the door should have been their first step maybe? A few years later, after it had gotten worse, I went to a new doctor who only did a physical exam and asked a series of questions and figured out what the condition was and how to reduce the progression and what could possibly trigger it and gave me a choice of treatments. Also found out that the condition would not show up on an MRI but it was good as it ruled out other possibilities of conditions that do show up on the MRI and blood tests. So thankful till today to this specialist doctor. Not being diagnosed can cause a lot of stress for the patient cuz for all we know it could be anything. Turning to the internet to try and figure out what could possibly be wrong with us cuz doctors can figure it out only increases the anxiety. Also, since the first doctor didn't find anything, people around you who trust the doctors words and knowledge, think maybe you are over reacting over a small amount of pain and disturbance; can't blame them too much either cuz not every condition is visible at first glance and they ain't no doctor to know otherwise. I also learnt from this video that we should complain and not feel bad to do so when we aren't treated the way we should be. When I had visited my family doctor (a few years prior to the above incident)and a few days after my appointment the report that I received read that I had had a physical examination preformed on me when I had not; in fact I specifically asked if she needed to cuz how else was she going to know how bad it was, but was ignored. i never reported it cuz the doctor was a new young doctor who looked like she was still learning and I didn't want her getting into trouble for something that could have been a one off thing due to carelessness or a mix up. But unfortunately, she wasn't the first or last one to make mistakes or ignore certain symptoms; turned out that some of these missed symptoms ended up being vital to diagnosing and figuring out the condition. Just that one or two missed symptoms helped my second doctor determine what it was. Needless to say they were shocked it hadn't been recognised earlier with the number of prior appointment on the system where I had come in for this same problem. Late diagnosis can make a big difference. Like if it's neglected and found too late due to the patient not going or bad practice from doctors like this, some conditions progress too much that they can no longer be treated or not much can be done to treat the condition in it's later stages (other than relief medications). @Doctor Mike Thank you for raising awareness on this issue. It's not an uncommon issue, but it is hardly addressed and patients should learn that the doctor may not always be right.
My freshman year of college, I got a small concussion and my roommate took me to see a doctor immediately. The doctor was mocking me and belittling my issue. My friends even said that he kept rolling his eyes at us when we tried to explain my injury. He was certain that I was drunk or on drugs, even though the people I was with kept telling him that I got hit in the head real hard during color guard practice (plus I don't drink or do drugs.) Before doing anything with my concussion, he made me give a urine sample and, while I was in the bathroom, he was bad mouthing me to the people I was with about how he knows I'm just drunk. I apparently had a little trouble speaking and he kept mocking me for that. I remember having a headache and feeling super tired, but I didn't think my speech was off until he kept asking me why I'm "talking like that". He then left me alone in a room unsupervised long enough that passed out and came to a bit later to my friend shaking me. Of course, eventually the doctor told me that I wasn't drunk or high and that I did have a concussion. Ok. Thanks. We said that in the beginning. What now. Now... he told us to go home. Didn't say anything about how we should handle my injury or anything. Just told us to head out and slapped me with two bills totalling around $600. It's always been hard for me to seek medical attention due to the way I was raised, but it's even harder when I'm then confronted with a doctor like this when I try.
I'm going to assume, since you were in color guard, that you are a lady. I've been blown off by drs as well, simply bc I have ovaries. I swear, drs still diagnose us with hysteria, just under a different name. What an ass. I had a friend with a kidney infection who was accused by the ER of being a drunk. This young lady never partied, was a very good student, and worked full time, but just bc she was young they insisted she partied too much. Ridiculous.
That’s more typical than not from my experience. These hospitals hire folks to gaslight and deflect patients away from treatment to make more $ from insurance...It’s not a coincidence these stories are so common...
This happens more than you know and the medical community “gaslights” patients all the time and his success story is rarer than normal, no matter HOW hard the patient fights for justice!!
My mother went to a renowned hospital to visit a renowned ENT specialist since her eardrums had a hole in them and was leaking discharge from her ears due to an infection. The ENT specialist was so stubborn that he refused to treat the infection unless she got the surgery to mend the broken eardrum. Since we had plans to travel by air for my fathers' job, my mother was hesitant. She just wanted to get the infection treated! Eventually, the infection got worse, the doctor did nothing but prescribe some painkillers (yes, she was experiencing a lot of pain). Frustrated, she went to a small clinic and visited an old specialist. He immediately understood our concerns about surgery, and since he was too old (80-90 years old!) to perform the clearing of discharge from ear, he asked his student to do so. He was only 3 years post MD. That student was a life-saver. Cleared the discharge, treated the infection, removed the pain in 2 WEEKS, which the other stubborn doctor did not do in 6 months! While my mother still has not undergone surgery, she has had absolutely no infection for more than 3 years now. Just like the patient in your video said, "All that glitters IS NOT GOLD"!
@@thepotatoofheaven The body is able to heal small things by itself easily, and if it was a real emergency, the first doctor would have taken care of it immediately, or strongly recommend it.
I’ve had so many bad experiences with doctors like this. The worst was with a surgeon who completely twisted what I told him during an exam on the notes to make it sound like I was improving when I wasn’t after two hernia repairs. I still have issues from that surgery. It’s really frustrating and makes me afraid to go to the doctor because they’ll just dismiss the issues and nothing gets fixed.
On my last doctors visit the PA (my office purged all the physicians) was so rude to me. I hadn't been able to get a physical in a few years due to my job being really strict about taking time off. The first thing she said to me? "Oh I guess you're just perfectly healthy then!" in a snarky tone. Idk why they think talking like that is okay too..
I agree. I was in the hospital for a condition a d didn't have ve insurance. A few months later I got insurance and took it to my new doctor and because I didn't have the insurance they wouldn't take the out of network information. Each time I made an appointment, the issue for the reason going in was no longer there. The doctor's response basically asking what did she want me to do since the issue is not there she couldn't do anything for it. I needed up changing doctor's. He is a great doctor and was so happy to have him as a doctor but now it is so hard to get an appointment with him. The few times that I have interacted with him lately, he sounds as if he's in a rush because he has other patients to tend to. He is a D.O. and very concise and detailed with his information.
That is my experience with VA Doctors. I don't use the VA if I don't have to. I'll use Civilian. And it all starts with just walking through the doors that's when the frustration begins.
I was bent over with stomach pain wretching asking for help and the CN wrote I was drug seeking. They got me my mylanta/lidocaine stomach medicine (non narcotic) and I stopped. Long story short my regular Dr read the notes and started treating me like a drug addict. I was angry at the charge nurse, I was angry at my own Dr. Thoughts 1st degree assault on both wouldn't leave my mind for at least two months.
This video hits home. A pain management issue becomes a game of ping pong. Pain management says “go to ER”, ER says “it’s clearly a pain management issue, go to them”, pain management then doesn’t want to treat and says “go to Primary Care” who then says “it’s clearly a pain management issue”. Then pain management decides it’s easier to discharge you and that’s what they do.
Well the demonization of pain meds is pretty much to blame for stuff like this. Nobody wants to prescribe pain meds anymore. Just prescribe a reasonable amount for a period of time and evaluate again. We all suffer because of the bad stigma and assumption people are abusing and selling them which most people really don't do. Pain management in the future really worries me because PT doesn't work for everybody and they either need to find other drugs or come up with a system to make sure people are following their prescribed meds better so bad outcomes are less likely to happen.
One reason I quite pain management and just deal with the 24/7/365 pain. All PM would do was shots of steroids in the back which can cause even more problems in the longrun.
My uncle had a stroke about a year ago. About a month ago, my aunt took him to the doctor because he was acting strangely. The doctor literally sent him home without telling my aunt any signs to look for saying it was because he had cannabis in his system. He was rushed to the hospital and died of kidney failure about a week later. My family is talking about finding a lawyer to see if there's anything we can do legally
My wife had an emergency recently. Was hospitalised and had to undergo a surgery to clean up infected tissue. When she was let go 2 days later it says in the report that they did sono checkup afterwards to make sure it was cleared. They didn’t. And when she went to a regular doctor he said that a lot tissue to be removed is still there. Needless to say we are livid and will be formally complaining.
One of the problems this stems from is that your system doesn't have universal healthcare. Under universal healthcare doctors aren't motivated by ulterior motivations as much since everything is covered by the state.
@💕 Tara Gouw💕 The problem is the regular people in the US don't have money for lawsuits against institutions. In America the corporations hold all the power and it's really hard to get a lawsuit against a company including hospitals or doctors.
When my husband and i decided we were ready to be parents, i stop taking the pills. 3 months later my period wasn't coming, I got concerned and made an appointment. When I saw the obyn, she asked how long I was on the pill, told her about 3 years. She says, not in a nice way, that's how long it's going to take for my period to come. Around December I saw an episode of The Doctors where Dr. Lisa was talking about what reasons you miss your periods and some symptoms to look for. I could relate to some. My husband encouraged me to make an appointment, i got one the same day with a different obyn. He asked why I was there for, I told him about no having periods after stopping birth control and what the other doctor told me. He and his assistant were shocked and told me that wasn't true. He asked me questions and check me, he told me that it might be POCOS (Polycystic Ovarian syndrome) but he'll confirm it after some blood work. Once it was confirmed, he prescribed me metformin and gave me instructions how to manage it I'm glad he listened to me.
@@angelicapacheco7176 my doctor told me the exact. Same. Thing. He didn’t seem to care and 10 years later I’m still trying to get pregnant. I went to another doctor and she told me that if we don’t have a period every 3-4 months it increases our risk of cervical and other cancers. Get a second opinion!
@@angelicapacheco7176 That's not true at all. I have PCOS but found out late, I was already in my 30s. I was used to having irregular menstruation and I thought some girls are just really like that. Then I got married, my husband and I wondered why I am not conceiving, that's the only time I had my check up. I was told I do have PCOS. My OB said I should have had myself checked a long time ago because it will really be hard for me to conceive. Now I'm in my 40s and still no children. My OB said my ovaries are shrinking and I am now prone to ovarian cancer. I learned that girls should have a regular check up with their OBGyn as soon as their menstruation starts. I didn't know that, my mom didn't, too. We both thought that women only see the OBGyn when pregnant...
Anything involving weird periods is difficult. I used to get flu-like symptoms every month on the first day of the cycle, and it was so bad I had to skip school. I went for an ultrasound, then was told I had a choice of an IUD, or some ancient herbal remedy. Thankfully the herbs work, and things are back to being regular, but it was a few years of miserable pains because it "wasn't bad enough to be a problem."
This is why Americans wait to get something checked out! One of my friends was on an academic visa to England. She caught what she thought was a cold. It got worse. Ok, she reasoned, it might be the flu. Got even worse. Her flatmate took her to the hospital, and while she’s filling in the paperwork, one of the nurses commented, “You must be American. Your health system scares you away from getting help.” And that is so horribly true
I have no experience with foreign healthcare, and almost no experience civilian healthcare. In the military, privates always asked us why we would wait days before getting seen about an illness, and at least a month about injuries. The answer that we gave was ALWAYS the same: I'm not going in there just to be given ibuprofen and the recommendation to take it easy at PT for two weeks. We always ignored pain until it became unbearable, because that's the only time ANY provider would take us seriously. In my own case, that included sepsis in my arm, a tumor in my leg bone, a torn rotator cuff, broken bones, and now permanent hearing damage. For my coworkers, it included two cases of appendicitis, one of them then DETACHED and was free floating around his abdomen before he walked into the ER and threw up.
So I have dealt with civilian American Medicine, US Army medicine, and German medicine in my time. Here is what I know... Honestly the best care comes from civilian doctors in America because they know they can lose their license if they screw up. Even then though, you get the ones that are rushed and irritated. No system is perfect. German doctors will order more tests, but you will wait longer for care, and if you have anything that is not within the usual realm of illnesses and injuries, or if the normal regimens do not work on you oh, you are out of luck. If it is not approved by the government system, they will not do it in most cases. So you lose your ability to choose what happens to you. Military doctors will order more tests if you're loud enough, and if you're active duty you don't have to wait too long. If your civilian though, you will be waiting forever oh, and I've seen several people almost died from Shawty half-assed work from those doctors. My best answer, any system where they can be held accountable, can lose their license, and are getting paid more for better care, tends to be a better sister. There needs to be a social net for those who can't afford that, but honestly privatized care works best. That's just my personal experience and opinion.
More like the cost of our health care system scares us away, because going in for something as simple as "My back hurts. Like, immense pain." can cost you quad digits to pay off, which is just absolutely ridiculous, garbage, and, to be blunt, total BS. But this right here also adds on top of that, jesus. Also, this person's experience further proves my point that jobs only care about what piece of paper you have over your work ethic. I would rather pick the doctor who has the absolute best work ethic and will do his job the right way, despite not having a Masters or a Ph.D or anything fancy, over the doctor that has multiple Ph.Ds and Masters, but gives little to zero effs about doing his job proper and will just spout whatever bs he can just to get you out of the office and begin to charge you that expensive medical bill.
@@vgmaster02 I try to do some research on any doctor I see, to get a guess as to if they care or not. I have been quite lucky, getting doctors that genuinely care
My mom’s always had erratic periods. It was maybe a year or two after she had me (over 40 years ago) that she started having symptoms of pregnancy. She went to the doctor and she was pregnant. She continued to have her period. At about the 3-4 month mark after finding out she was pregnant she had a really painful, bloody menstrual cycle. Her gynecologist said she probably had a miscarriage without even doing a pelvic exam. Over the next 12 years my mom went to the emergency room for severe pain and bleeding so bad she got anemic and a few times requiring a blood transfusion. Every time she would say that something was wrong with her uterus. The doctors she saw were of the opinion that it was simply depression because she lost her last child and hadn’t had anymore and/or the pain was all in her head. Finally, one day she went to see another gynecologist and begged for him to do an ultrasound. He said he would only do an internal ultrasound knowing it was painful and suggesting that it she really felt there was a problem she would be willing “to submit” to this procedure. No other option was given so my mom said yes. It pissed off the doctor but he scheduled her for the procedure. When they did the ultrasound, he found what appeared to be a sizable mass in her uterus. He was shocked. It was larger than a fist and the ultrasound couldn’t show what it was. He ordered a procedure to open her up and get a look at it and possibly biopsy it. My mom told him to take everything out and do a total hysterectomy. He said no, that she might still be able to have more children. She kept asking for the form to approve the total hysterectomy. After a psychologist saw my mom, they agreed, thinking she was being dramatic and scheduled her for surgery. Lo and behold she had an 8 inch mass that consisted of a calcified fetus and a completely infected uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. They immediately switched from just doing a biopsy to doing a total hysterectomy. The doctor later asked how did she know that she needed a total hysterectomy and my mom was so angry she couldn’t respond. He then told her that the fetus had died and the body couldn’t eliminate it so it tried calcifying it and eventually it cut into the uterine wall and caused infection. If she had waited a few more weeks she would’ve been septic and probably would’ve died without anyone ever knowing what she died from. Since then, getting her to see a doctor has been difficult. She feels that only if something is so bad you can’t ignore it or work past it, that that’s when she should see a doctor. I can’t exactly fault her for feeling this way but it is concerning.
While my story isn't as bad as your mom's, that's my stance also. Bonus points for going to the doctor as a last resort because you can't stand it anymore and being dismissed because "wait and see".
It makes me so angry when doctors go over the patient's head like this, telling them what they want. They do this with female patients but not with males. Women know their own wants and needs better than anybody 🤬
Honestly, it is ridiculous that ultrasound is not done at year check ups. I tnink in Poland they do it at every yearly check up, at least once a year as a standard check.
I have been in this situation, I suffered for 2 years. Going to emergency room and urgent care. All I can say is thank you to that doctor at another hospital who took the time to sit with me talk to me do a physical examination and knew exactly what it was. I had to get surgery but since them never had an issue. He was amazing and caring.
I had an experience as well, being in pretty bad pain for 6 months and going to multiple doctors who said it’s probably just indigestion, until one doctor said it could be indigestion but with how much pain you’re describing let’s check your gallbladder just in case. And that’s what it was, it was full of stones and needed to come out.
Nothing in my life has been more frustrating than repeatedly telling a surgeon where my pain was every visit for MONTHS and that surgeon minimizing me and saying my "lower back pain" (which I repeatedly told him was my hip, not my back at all--the pain was extremely lateral) was a result of not spending enough time doing physical therapy instead of the result of the rod placed in my pelvis limiting my flexibility and mobility. It is so disheartening to be repeatedly ignored by someone who is meant to be responsible for your care.
My pain management doctor only cares about making the DEA happy instead of properly treating my pain. I'm "too young" to have my body failing. Turns out I have another bulging disk in my neck pressing on the nerves and one in my low back doing the same.
that's maddening, it's like the doctor wasn't speaking the same language. Wasn't listening and as result wasn't saying anything meaningful... What did the physical therapist say? I don't know if it's the same in the US, here they are qualified to diagnose, as much as a specialist surgeon and more so than a GP
Working as a sports physiotherapist, the most frustrating thing is referring a patient, when necessary, to what should be a higher level of care, only for the MD to do a tiny fraction of what I'd already done for my patient and solve nothing. The scenario here explains a lot about why that might happen.
My parents are both physios. From what I've heard from them, that seems to be the case more often than not. There have been multiple times I've heard them on the phone urgently saying something like "No, this needs dealing with now! I think this patient has cancer. How did (doctor) miss this?"
An ER doctor ignored me while I was in status elipticus, saying that I was being “uncooperative” and he’d treat me like a drug seeker until I “decided to talk to him”. I was told this afterwards because, of course, I was unconscious…for a really long time. I had maybe six or more convulsive seizures and didn’t regain consciousness between them and that’s extremely dangerous. Eventually, I stopped breathing, but my partner had to get me breathing again and keep me breathing until someone showed up to do a medical thing about it because they left me alone and on my back after trying to feed me a pill. Every seizure 101 thing they could possibly get wrong, they got wrong. It almost killed me.
My mom was left paralyzed and using a wheelchair after radiation therapy. The doctor never told her it was a possibility and after she started losing feeling the hospital offered her no help. We bought an old wheelchair off ebay and she found resources all on her own. Each time she goes in for injections or a scan the techs still don’t even understand what being paralyzed means. Training and proper communication seriously need to be improved in the medical field. Thank you Dr.Mike for sharing this individual’s story and for never being afraid to speak up. ❤️
I am also amazed at how the care can vary from one doctor to the next at the same institution. That's why I don't make sweeping generalizations about medical groups unless it is about the administrators.
Same. And it doesn’t matter if one works in the medical field or not it’s a world full of empathy and love. Now I wouldn’t ever consider changing my pcp he extends himself and is so dedicated that I felt like I was seeing the last of the ones that would even come to my home. He visits his pts even though there are hospitalists and when my mom was in a nursing home he came after hours to check on her. No extra pay. That’s also why he is booked. Everyone is on a first name basis and are sent directly information regarding labs and he sends everyone a message personally. I usually see my labs and say what I have adjusted because I am a sieve but he genuinely cares for all of his patients. Some of my other specialists rather have someone else do their job and that is sad.
Fifteen years ago at the age of 26, I was a firefighter/EMT. I walked into the ED complaining of what I believed were stroke symptoms, ..."a bloodclot somewhere." After 5 minutes with an ED resident, I was told, "Go home, it's just the flu...you're too young." No bloodwork, no exam. My BP alone, I thought, should have warranted some serious concern. I refused to leave, security escorted me out. Four hours later, I had a massive MI in the Left Anterior Descending ("Widow maker"/left ventricle) from a spontaneous dissection, ie. tear - I was lucky it clotted and caused the MI, otherwise I would not have survived. In the years since, I have been on the heart transplant list, had an experimental (at the time, in 2008) radical resection and remodel with ventricular mannequins, 4 subsequent chest wall reconstructions and soon, my second ICD/Pacer Combi installation. I felt this interview way too deeply. Had I not been so well-trained and had I not listened to myself and my body - I would have believed what the doc said in those 5 minutes...that it was "all in [my] head." Thanks Dr.Mike for sharing this video and reaffirming that it is a patient's right to quality, integrous care! Love and light♡
@@SobrietyandSolace - Thank you - I was too, for a very long time. But really, who really has the energy to spend being angry all the time? Love and light to you!!♡♡
Being someone who used to work in CCU, my heart just stopped!!!!! Someone (not that doctor) was looking out for you that night. Oh my gosh. Just unreal.
I was in the ER about once a month for a year with intense abdominal pain that radiated to the back. The first time they did a scan and didn’t find anything so they never did one again. After going to the ER about once a month for about a year the attacks increased to every couple of weeks then weekly. The last time I was in the ER the doctor kept me waiting for a couple of hours with nothing to help the pain. I finally told the nurse to get him in my room now. He actually yelled from another patients room that he was dealing with a heart patient. I yelled back that I didn’t care, that I was in pain and had been there for a couple of hours. When he finally comes to my room he has a condescending attitude. He does an exam and orders some tests. A little bit later he pops in being very sweet asking how I am. I figured the test came back and wasn’t good. I was eventually admitted and had emergency surgery for my gall bladder. It was so bad they weren’t able to do it endoscopically when they tried so they had to cut me open. Afterwards I got a bad infection and the wound had to be reopened and left open to heal from the inside out. I could have avoided all that if the doctors kept running tests each visit to eventually find it was my gall bladder.
I'm so sorry you went through this! I hope you are fully healed now. A young woman I know was ultimately diagnosed with the same thing after being blown off for YEARS despite attacks so bad she would literally fall to the floor. She also ended up needing emergency surgery. So upsetting. Thank you, though, for this: "I finally told the nurse to get him in my room now. He actually yelled from another patients room that he was dealing with a heart patient. I yelled back that I didn’t care, that I was in pain and had been there for a couple of hours." 👏😂👏😂👏 I hope I remember this the next time I'm dealing with an a-hole doctor!
Healthcare as a system is completely broken. You were 100% spot on with the systemic problem of just check the boxes. Being a nurse I see this all the time. The company doesn’t care if you treat the patient correctly, just make sure you get in and out as quickly as possible so they don’t have to pay more people to treat the patients correctly. It’s honestly sickening. I’ve caught so many things by actually taking time with patients that would have gone unnoticed had I did what the company wanted. Patient to doctor/NP/nurse ratios need to be limited by law.
It's the same out here in Australia in General Practice (essentially the same as what Dr Mike is in the US); my mother is a doctor and it costs roughly $30 for a patient to see the GP (government regulation) so the expectation that is set on GPs is to try and fit as many patient appointments in every day to maximise profit so the incentive is to only take 15 - 30 mins per patient which is absolutely not enough time to practice quality in depth medicine as a doctor. Most patients need at least a 30 min session and many require double appointments (1 hour) as they could have multiple problems or something else is discovered in a previous appointment that needs following up the next visit. You can't speedrun medicine.
I'm fom Hungary, where general healthcare is free. (There is a monthly part deducted from our salary for it. ) We still have this kind of issues of patients are not being taken seriously or that we don't get infornation that we as patients need. (I got my PCOS diagnosis at 20, I have been showing symptoms since I was 16 and the first doctor just took a look at me, touched my clit and told me that I have some learning to do. The diagnosis consisted of naming the symptoms and 1 question:Do I want to on the pill or not?) Now, I am an anxious type and I need all the infornation I can get to feel safe. But a lot of the time I stop asking questions, because the answer I got made me feel stupid or that I'm overtly dramatic, when I just don't work at the healthcare system. And this still makes me not seek care until absolutely necessary. I know, that our healthcare system is underfunded, and that there are more patients any time, than we have healthcare workers. So my theory is, that interpersonal relationships are hard, harder nowadays, and that the system just counts on good communication and empathy, but does not provide space and time for it. Not even using it as a measurement of success.
I didn’t realize that my old doctor was a “bad” doctor until I had someone else check me. Long story short I had the same doctor for many years and I always felt rushed like she didn’t care about what I had to say. I told her I was bleeding while having sex and she told me to change positions and go slow. 🤔. I kept on bleeding every time and it was getting worst. Well, I finally had someone else take a look at me, since my doctor was unavailable( lucky me) and she did a full vaginal exam. She said I was shedding skin from my walls because the BIRTH CONTROL PILLS that I was on wasn’t good. She sent me a new prescription and I’m fine now. What bothers me is that my old doctor prescribed me my old birth control, didn’t care to exam me and brushed me off. While my new doctor actually stopped to listen to what I had to say, asked questions and took action. Sorry for the long paragraph but it’s frustrating sometimes to deal with that kind of doctor and they make you forget that there are good doctors.
I get this so well. I was ignored for 7 years about pain and issues with my reproductive system. I was finally diagnosed with PCOS with endometriosis. I am now struggling to have children and I am devastated. It could have been caught early and prevented irreversible damage and chronic pain. I am so heartbroken and I encourage all women to keep going at it until you get a diagnosis that has clear evidence and not speculation. I went to 8 different doctors until I was diagnosed. Advocate for yourself. You know your body! I would NEVER wish this on anyone.
Part of this problem is the healthcare system you're on doesn't have universal healthcare and doctors are often partnered with drug companies to get you to use things that may not be to your benefit.
Write a review.. I know Drs have hard jobs and many of them are way too rushed (not always by choice if they are paired with a hospital).. but they must be held accountable for the way they treat those they have promised to help.
I was getting nightmares from a prescription once, and oddly enough it was supposed to help with sleep, as well as nerve pain. But the nightmares made me too scared to go to sleep. Side effects really need to be looked at more, and not waiting 6 months (or longer) after starting something to have a follow up about it.
My husband had worked as an auto mechanic for nearly 30 years, and dealt with various pains on a regular basis, but toughed them out 99% of the time. A few years back though he developed this sudden, terrible pain in his shoulder, which was clearly different from the normal aches & pains. His PCP, without a physical exam or any imaging, immediately diagnosed it as a repetitive movement issue, saying, "I can't tell you how often I've seen this with mechanics- working with their hands above their heads all the time. Nothing we can do unless you want to change jobs!" We went back to that doc 2 or 3 more times within the following few months, and the guy acted irritated & insulted when my husband finally requested imaging tests (doc refused to order tests, too). We left that last appt & I drove him straight to ER. He had a torn rotator cuff, 3 torn tendons, & a mass on his bursa sac.
When I first started my job at a hospital as a nurses assistant I was seriously told this… “charting over patients”. Healthcare is such a nightmare. I like hate working in it because of how it is but at the same time can’t stop fighting to help patients and make things right🤷🏻♀️
I hope that more people do some internal soul searching to figure out what jobs they want to do for life that'll help people in the world, not just for prestige or money. Keep up the good work. Make Videos about how you feel. If you ever feel bad about your profession and "want to do what everyone else is doing", watch those videos to motivate your self. Here's hoping more people like you turn up in the Healthcare Industry!
We had an interesting scenario with my second child's birth. My wife went into labor rapidly, and on the 15 minute ride to the hospital, she was already pushing. As I pulled into the hospital, my child's head was already out (Isn't parenting great!), so we were freaking out. I ran in and got a nurse to help, and she basically finished the delivery herself in the car. Well, when we got our bill weeks later, we recognized a couple discrepancies and called the hospital to complain about them. Remember, baby was born in the car and only one nurse helped at the end. We were charged a doctor's delivery fee (There was no doctor present), and we were charged an absurd amount for Labor Delivery Room, which we never entered or used. The other fees were fair, as they pertained to things that happened after the baby was born (Check ups, shots, etc), but the hospital tried to throw in an extra $4000 on the bill. Make sure to look at your bills and question anything strange.
Just call the State review board so they can audit the hospital for billing issues. If they have done it to you, they have done it to others. After the fines, they will be monitored. You do have to disclose at any time that the state is listening in, I would choose to wait until the end to see their answers first, but it is better to disclose it early. The audit will be done way faster when they hear this is standard billing practices so they can be nailed quicker.
I remember on Twitter someone was saying something similar. They were charged some outrageous amount and asked for an itemized Bill and ended up posting less
I'm so thankful for universal healthcare in Canada. Paying for a hospital visit is so foreign. The last thing I want in an emergency situation is wondering how much debt I'll be in afterwards!
Interesting I come across this video. My boyfriends dad actually had severe, debilitating back pain that had been progressively getting worse over months. His doctor kept shrugging it off as sciatica. It got so bad he could barely walk, was rapidly losing weight and had no appetite. His doctor finally ordered an MRI and he got a call the next morning saying he needed to come back to the hospital immediately. Within hours he was rushed out of town to a bigger hospital to undergo emergency surgery on his spine to remove a tumour that had metastasized from undiagnosed stage IV prostate cancer. Things were looking grim for a while but he responded amazingly to radiation and his injections. Although his case is terminal this happened 3.5 years ago and he is still well. He was given 2-5 years in 2018.
I had painful periods for years, to the point I would actually faint and would need that full week off school. My GP's "advice" whenever I would visit with them "Oh, once you have a baby the flow will lighten, and the pain will be less intense" (I was 14 when I was told that. Imagine being in that much pain, you actually consider pregnancy and childbirth! Insane, right?! At this point I had been having periods for 5 years and I was done already!) When I was 22, I was diagnosed with endometriosis, and I can tell you, twenty years later, the flow has indeed not lessened nor is the pain less intense. They are now refusing to recommend me for a hysterectomy as I am still of childbearing age. I am 41 and have an implant. I assure you, my childbearing days are gone - whip it out, already!
That is abuse and removal of your reproductive decision rights. Be stubborn. Keep looking for a doc that will help without waiting. I got sterilized (essure) in my early/mid twenties after not accepting no from the doc in my area. Had to go to Colorado for it (from Wyoming, so just a few hour drive) Stand up for yourself, you have the right to your reproductive decisions and to have relief from pain. Women being infantilized by the medical community is unacceptable. "You might change your mind" is BS.
Bull hockey!!!! They cannot refuse to do a hysterectomy just because of your age! You are competent and able to make your own decisions. Find another surgeon now!!! Endometriosis is nothing to mess with.
they do that here in the Caribbean too. once you are of childbearing age and you want your tubes tied they tell you no because women have a history of changing their minds. worst yet if you want a hysterectomy (they only do those if you have cancer or some other serious illness)
I recently have been going through this only on an even larger scale. I've been seeing a rheumatologist for at least two years (positive ANA at 1200, which is VERY high) complaining of pain all over my body. I'm talking joints, muscles, nerves, dysfunctional ligaments... up until last week, they refused to even believe that my pain was as bad as it was. Once you have been diagnosed with mental illness, everything gets blamed on that. I'm not really in pain, according to my doctors, I'm just depressed. Finally my most recent appointment I suggested that I understood why I wasn't being believed, but that all of the other tests that other doctor's had done for me in the time I'd been being blown off showed nothing (MRI on lumbar and thoracic spine (did show 1 mildly herniated disc with minimal nerve involvement), x-ray of hips...) and I suggested that she actually put her hands on my joints as I move them, that you can literally feel the tendons pop and crack. You can feel the joints not move smoothly. You can feel my shoulders literally dislocate just from me moving them. She did so, and was indeed surprised by the amount of friction and hypermobility present in many of my joints. FINALLY she suggested I go to a genetic specialist for testing for EDS, and other genetic and congenital problems (I'm honestly thinking mixed connective tissue disease myself, but I'm not a doctor). There is not an organ in my body that has no symptoms (heart, kidneys, lungs, joints, nerves, muscles...). PLEASE PLEASE touch your patients. PLEASE PLEASE if they complain about extreme pain, don't wait for two years to believe them.
I quite like this format, I would love to see an interview with a chronic patient with a dubious experience from a GP. Talking from experience, I don't think it'll be hard to find an eligible candidate.
My GP failed to catch my failing kidneys for about 6 months, by the time they finally did the blood test i was in a very bad state and ended up in intensive care 3 days later. It could have been a slow, managed decline into kidney failure instead it was a sudden and traumatic crash. Nowadays, I've pretty much accepted that the GP can't do much for me. Which isn't necessarily their fault it's a complex condition but still.
My husband was ill the entire year last year. Losing weight (50lbs - and he wasn’t big to start with). Breathless on occasion, falling, shuffling walk, severe insomnia. He was “seen” by the doc via video conference. By time we actually got into the room with her he was very weak. She didn’t even turn from her computer the entire consultation and actually shushed us when we tried to explain how worried we were - she was trying to type up her notes! She never laid hands on my husband once. We walked out of there and I said to my husband “ last time we will ever deal with her”. So fatefully true, my husband had a severe fall the next week. After a week in hospital, they discharged him home on Friday afternoon. He died at home Saturday night - feb 20th - aged 66. Massive heart attack. I saw in another of dr mikes videos where he said cpr is hard to do for a long time. I did 15- minutes waiting for emergency help. I thought I was going to die too. Sometimes I wish I had.
Sad. Even counselors are pushed to type and not listen these days. It is ridiculous. They put too much on drs and nurses. They cant take care of us. All I can get are residents, let's, etc. I see real drs names on bills and call and say "nope, never saw him or her." The old days the attending came with resident. Not anymore. I ain't lying for ANYONE!
Story: As a kid, when I had gone in for a surgery to get my tonsils and adenoids removed, after the adenoid surgery the doctor put in a piece of cloth up there to stop the bleeding which was supposed to get removed after the surgery was done. The doctor left that job to his assistants and the assistants forgot to remove that cloth from up there. So I spent the next few days with that cloth hanging up there and it actually started to rott and smell so bad all around me that no one in my house wanted to be near me. I remember looking in the mirror and saw something white hanging along my uvula. I was taken back to the doctor 2 times(or maybe more, I don't remember) after that and even got an x-ray for him to check. He literally just held it up for like 1 or 2 seconds and dropped it and looked over at the TV as he continued to advice or do other stuff. I kept telling everyone that he wasn't checking properly, but no one wanted to believe me, saying that the doctor knew what they were doing. Anyways, after a few more days I was taken to another doctor near my house and she checked and immediately told me to hold still. Next thing, she put this long thing in my mouth and caught something and then I remember just watching in shock as she pulled out this huge piece of cloth. I was so shocked I didn't even react. And I honestly can't explain how much relief and lighter I felt the moment she was done. All my issues were fixed after that. This doctor also told me that if I hadn't gotten it removed soon it might have fallen from there and well, you can guess what could have happened. The doctor I went to for the surgery is a very renowned one in my country and this kind of mistake is honestly unacceptable. Specially after the visits I had after my surgery. He would check in my mouth and look at the TV, hold my x-ray up for 2 seconds and look at the TV and the way he handled it all was very unprofessional. And no one doubted him because he was so renowned. Since then I just follow my gutt in my health's case.
@@saucenado4844 Why do you even feel the need to write this comment? Someone writes down a story that’s only a few paragraphs about how they could’ve had a serious medical complication from a doctors mistake- and that’s too long for you? I just find your reply to be such a weird, unnecessarily antagonistic comment.
This highlights something I've been noticing as an issue here in the UK. A lot of GPs have not resumed face to face consultations with patients since covid. Often if you do need a face to face consultation you have to have a telephone consultation (possibly not even with the doctor himself but with a practice nurse or talk to the non-emergency health line 111) and convince them that you have something that can't be dealt with over the phone or be fobbed off altogether, before you will then be allowed to make an appointment to see a doctor. I am convinced that it is taking a massive toll on the country's health, and even death toll, through things that are being misdiagnosed or missed compleatly because it's just not possible to accurately assess a patient that you can't examine (or even see). Not to mention that the practice nurses don't have the level of expertise to act as a gatekeeper to whether a person has important enough symptoms to speak to a doctor. I know multiple people who have been told they don't need to see a doctor and just left with persisting symptoms that seriously impact their lives. People are failing to get the needed treatment or being put off from even getting health issues looked into because of how hard it is to get an appointment. The only alternative is for people to go to accident and emergency departments, which obviously puts extra strain on hospitals that should be able to consentrate on the things that are more serious than a GP level issue, and makes wait times in the accident and emergency department even longer
Hearing Dr. Mike warn about the negative outcomes of adding more and more responsibilities to the physician's workload and shortening time with patients makes the retail pharmacist in me want to scream. WHY CAN'T PEOPLE SEE THAT THIS IS A SAFETY ISSUE ?!?!
I love how he says that patients need to speak up however, a patient can speak up all they want but if their words and their voice is falling upon deaf ears it doesn't matter how loudly a patient speaks. I have discovered this over the last 4 years trying to get help to fix my hips my knees. I've been told many times that they need to be replaced however since I am under 40 I'm told I'm too young and I have to wait in the meantime they just keep prescribing this stupid pain medication and when you tell the doctor that you don't want the pain medication you want the problem fixed they say well we can help you in a few more years you got to be closer to 45. Such bullshit
It's ageism, plan and simple. While we usually associate ageism with the discrimination, unfair dismissal, belittlement, etc of the elderly, the problem is you can get those same dismissals and belittlements for being "too young". I'm 35, myself, and I experience lower back pain and knee pain when I move around too much. I know I should get them checked out, but I also know I'll just be dismissed from anything that could help with it because I'd be considered "too young". Doctors and nurses have this engrained expectation of what problems start occurring at what age, and that combined with severe confirmation bias often leads to patients not getting the help they need.
Why they really want you to wait until you're older is that knee replacements wear out over time and a second operation and new replacements will eventually be required. I've had both knees replaced, and let me tell you, I wouldn't want to have it again. As long as you don't mind the prospect of a second operation when they wear out, in maybe 15-25 years, there are doctors who will perform the surgery on younger patients. Keep looking. You'll find someone. It takes quite a long time for most people to recover from knee replacements.
Sadly this is why a lot of cancer goes undiagnosed, because doctors are NOT careful. And part of it has to do with the current insurance system, but part of it is also the doctor
Even without going to the extreme of loss of life, the patient is trusting them with their health. That's a tremendous responsibility and should be treated as such.
My husband has so many stories about doctors that didn’t help me with the last year being diagnosed with a very rare autoimmune disease and in a coma. It’s crazy how some doctors were so awful and some were literally life savers for me.
@@llamawalrushybrid yeah depending on what you talk to your therapist about they usually ask those kind of questions to gauge what you felt in the situation and why it might be giving you a problem
@@llamawalrushybrid Cloning humans is a banned science. Just fyi. It falls under genetic dna manipulation which is internationally outlawed for good reason.
Best I ever felt at the doctor was when the doc told me that he didn't know what was wrong so he wasn't going to treat me at all. Let's start with a test and if that doesn't tell us what is going on (it did) then we'll move on from there. I truly appreciated the honesty! I didn't expect a miracle when I went. I just wanted to know what was wrong and what I needed to do to fix it.
'Tis an ancient phrase, even older than the New Testament recording of it; at least 300 years older. "The love of money is the root of every kind of evil."
My mother in law agreed to take her husbands feeding tube out to “allow him to pass naturally” mind you, he never opened his eyes again after having brain surgery. He suffered two strokes on the table while having brain surgery!!! I was completely out done as this man starved to death!!! It took him almost two weeks to pass! Completely inhumane.
It sickens me too see 90 yo plus patients coming in for useless exams. I'm an MRI tech. They make 90 yo women go thru MRI breast biopsies and other tests that is in my opinion stupid.
these stories make me even feel better that i have been with some of the best doctors when it came to my serious health diagnosis of vertigo and migraines. when this event happened, I was so scared of what could happen, but I was so grateful that every doctor was very straight forward and honest about what was happening, even telling me in the ER they didn’t know what was wrong with me but they made sure I got appointments with the Neurology and ENT departments to get a better examination. Everyday I’m so grateful for all those doctors and it’s made me even not want to leave my city because of how much I trust these doctors and in the incoming ones out of the university associated with the hospital.
“Doctor-A profession where knowledge, power, and heart come together.” The best doctors are compassionate about their patients and giving them the best care possible.
They also keep up on the latest studies. I've found the best way to find out if a doctor is competent is to bring up a relevant medical study and see how they treat you after. They will either begin to dismiss everything you say- being condescending and absolutely unhelpful, or go into a discussion with you on the study.
@@ghostratsarah yea a humble doctor will always be open to hearing what you have to say and admitting to not knowing something and wanting to know more about it, makes you respect them that much more.
If your injury isn’t visible, your doc may assume you are exaggerating. NEVER undersell your pain. If you say it is a 10, they may assume it’s more of a 5. Push too hard, and you are assumed to be a pill popper. Don’t speak for yourself, and they will call you cured. Just be honest and straight. Look at what they write about you. If they are reviews online, look at how they treat patients like you (female and poor, in mom’s case). Second opinions are vital, especially if the first evaluation is paid for by someone else (your workplace or the state, for example. The doc may have an stereotype of people that complain about pain and are applying to workman’s comp, but the doc *you* pay for will hopefully have no such notions). Doctors are people too, and just because they are in pain management, doesn’t mean they care about your pain. BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE, find a doc that feels like a PARTNER in finding a solution, and BRING FAMILY to your appointments to ask their own questions, if it feels like you are not being taken seriously! One shy patient may be easy to brush off, one patient and all their children trying to understand why x and y are happening and what the doc plans to do about it? Harder to ignore.
Btw found a great gi doctor after two months & finally found out that not only was my gallbladder low functioning, I had gastritis, esophagitis & multiple peptic ulcers.
@@creativewriter1046 That must have been liberating, but awful to to through. My heart goes out to you 🙏💕 I hope you find some real relief soon. There are so many options once you actually understand the source of your sickness!
One of the problems this stems from is that your system doesn't have universal healthcare. Under universal healthcare doctors aren't motivated by ulterior motivations as much since everything is covered by the state.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla I live in the UK with universal healthcare in the form of the NHS. Myself and my family have had numerous encounters with GPs (family doctors) who frankly just don't care and will fob you off with any excuse just to get you back out the door.
Spent years with my ex wife trying to diagnose a stomach pain issue that was constantly diagnosed as acid reflux, stress/anxiety, imbalanced hormones and even went as far as having her gall bladder removed. Turns out it was referred pain from a heart condition that required a minor procedure to fix. A recently graduated ER doctor finally figured it out by simply listening to her heart and running an EKG. SO many incompetent doctors out there that spend decades skating by for the money and the status of being Dr. So on and so fourth.
I remember going to the hospital due to a severe asthma attack. I mentioned this in writing form (as I was too breathless) and showed it to every professional that I was seen by. They firstly placed me in a COVID ward because they weren’t sure if I was acc asthmatic or not (despite my medical history and life long diagnosis) - so I was at an extremely high risk at this point. I saw two Doctors and 3 nurses separately who ALL had their own ideas on how I should be handled. The nurses, quite apathetically, told me that because I was “chatty and talkative” it couldn’t be asthma, didn’t even consider the fact I was extremely anxious. And one of the doctors thought I was having a pregnancy complication, despite the fact I told them I was gay and not sexually active, and you know, not pregnant. Thank the last doctor for actually listening to me and prescribed me a nebuliser which saved my life as my heart rate and oxygen levels were getting dangerous. This is my usual routine as a person with chronic asthma, if my blue inhaler isn’t working (which it wasn’t) I would go to the hospital for a nebuliser. Listen to your patients doctors. PLEASE 🙏
This is very common I find. Even in emergency medicine, they have very limited knowledge of asthma and the different presentations. Not everyone has a wheeze. Most in an asthma episode don’t have lower oxygen sats until the attack progresses into a very dangerous category. Would be awesome if they could help before it comes to that.
@@valerieprema9432 yeah it would be very awesome. I have an angry outlook on my experience considering the fact i was scared for my life, and it seemed that the professionals werent listening to me until i got into that very dangerous state of low oxygen, just wish it was handled a bit better
Doesn't matter what your stated sexual orientation is or if you're not sexually active. If you have a uterus, pregnancy has to ruled out. As a provider, the only answer to the pregnancy question is "yes and I don't know". The onus is on the provider.
@@pnwester2697 Which is kinda messed up to be honest... Even if the patient *was* pregnant it's none of the Doctor's business. Their *patient* is their patient. Not some parasite inside of the patient.
For two years my moms doctor kept ignoring her symptoms saying she was old, she kept insisting something was wrong and he sent her to a psychiatrist bc she was “making it up” he never bothered running tests on her or anything, whole time it was leukemia
Sometimes a physical exam happens when it is not necessary. Ive never spoken to anyone about this before but it has played on my mind for years. In my mid 20s I went to the doctors for abdominal pains. He insisted on doing a pelvic exam. I think the instrument was called a speculum. In those days made of stainless steel. The doctor inserted the instrument and, leaving me with legs akimbo and the speculum inside me, walked out and went into an adjoining room. He gave me no explanation or apology. Some minutes later he came back and completed the exam. It felt so wrong. I have never forgotten it.
I was diagnosed for anxiety when I went into therapy, about 2 and half years later, was diagnosed with depression. This clinic didn't even think to prescribe medication for my mental health, which my current family physician did when he heard my story. After 3 years, they let me go because, and I quote, "didn't have the will to change". Now I've come to find out that I actually have ADHD, which was the primary cause of my anxiety and depression. The medication has been helping, and I'm currently looking for a new therapist that takes my insurance.
Idk where you live, i only know about how it works in the US but here therapists cant prescribe medication. Psychiatrists can. A lot of therapists still suck ass tho and im sorry they missed your adhd and didnt help you. Its too easy to find bad therapists. I forgot to mention therapists can and should at least ask if youd want to try meds and give refferals to psychiatrists
@@bropoke6799 Thank you. Yeah they even asked me even though I was a teenager at the time and old enough in my state to start taking medications for mental health. I have a wonderful psychologist now and she has been awesome. She can't prescribe my medication directly but we both work closely with my doctor because he can prescribe the medication for me and will recommend certain medications depending on how I react to the side effects.
Yep. My whole life I've had pain in my low back, SI joint, legs and feet. Several lumbar MRIs over the years, but it wasn't until age 33 that someone finally ordered pelvic imaging. They found "adult-onset tethered cord with giant intrasacral meningocele," which is congenital and could have been surgically corrected decades earlier, but nobody ever bothered to look that low. Instead I was left disabled from the residual spinal and nerve damage. Turns out it wasn't just "growing pains" and "spasms" from "weak core muscles" after all. Maybe when the patient has a hunch that it's more than what you think, it's okay to humor them and take a look once in a while. Just a thought.
I hada very similar experience, just recently, at 46, did they really look at the imaging and noticed I have a congenital condition where one side of my last lumbar vertebra is fused to my pelvis. This has cause many problems, currently the worst is I have a dislocated vertebra, as they do not stack correctly. So, I’ve had a life of heavy duty pain meds, when I could have had surgery at the onset of symptoms in grade school when the bones were still forming and I wouldn’t have had the scoliosis, back pain, pelvic pain, torn the labrum in the hip on that side, and on and on.
Exactly, why do so many doctors only care about getting the patient out of the building? Really pisses me off when it’s a 5 minute check that could save someone from a life of pain. Even so little as a dentist does this garbage.
I had back, SI, hip, neck and foot pain starting in my early teens. I couldn't tell you how many times my back pain was diagnosed as kidney infections and I was given unnecessary antibiotics, because my doctor didn't bother with the urine dip or lab testing. I was finally diagnosed with Ankylosing Spondylitis in my late 30's after nearly half my spine had fused. If I hadn't gotten uveitis (severe, damaging inflammation of the eye) and met an outstanding opthalmologist, I probably still wouldn't have a diagnosis.
@@greathoonta3461 A lot of the time it's because if they don't do everything a very specific way, including routinely trying to order things that insurance wants them to avoid ordering, they'll get kicked off the network and the insurance company will refuse to contract with them ever again. It's not always fully the fault of the doctor; The bloodsucking insurance corporations and lobbyists bear most of the fault for this garbage of a system we have.
@@lisakukla459 insurance companies infuriate me. I feel my health choices should be mine and my doctors’, not strangers without any medical training or knowledge of my case. It is ridiculous that anyone can get these insurance jobs, as it is mindless policy following…and policy written by MBAs with making money as their goal. I’ve had doctors that have had to argue with my insurance to cover a prescription with no generic, that the insurance company insisted on only the generic. I paid fully out of pocket for a 10 year, required, MRI…and I am disabled.
Wow! In 2017, I started experiencing extreme back pain that indicated to me there was a SERIOUS issue- went to the doctor FOUR times within a week- the last of which, I had to be picked up on side of road and delivered to ER- it was a 10mm kidney stone- had been blocking off my kidney the whole time which led to some permanent damage even after ER removal/ stent. It was a horrifying experience and I still don't understand how it was missed so many times
I remember for months going back to my old Dr. when I was having problems with my throat. Nothing was changing and I felt like I was getting worse. One day she prescribed me a medication that I had an allergic reaction to (mild throat swelling) and the next day i made a new appointment with a new Dr in the same office. Found out so many other things that I was never told was wrong and that I needed to work on. Second opinions are worth it.
I once got in a bad bicycle accident late at night that put me in the ER. The hospital that I went to was using contracted doctors. The doctor I ended up with only asked me my name and what was wrong. After explaining that I had injured both my arms, he wrote on his clipboard and proceeded to say something along the lines of, "you look hurt, but I'm going home." Those weren't his exact words of course, this was a couple years ago. I felt at the time that the doctor believed I was faking my injuries in hopes of getting meds. He left after the comment and never came back. I ended up falling asleep in a wheel chair while crying to myself in pain. A nurse came and found me around 5am, still in the wheel chair and gingerly holding my arms the best I could. By the time they got me in for x-rays, my left arm would not straighten out. I had a sprained wrist and an overextended elbow with a hairline fracture. They didn't give me anything, not that I cared at that point, nor did they attempt to treat my injuries. I ended up going to another doctor to get; a sling, a temporary cast, and a brace. I told the doctor that if meds is a huge concern, fine, I'll deal with the pain. But I have concerns about my arm that need to be looked at. The second visit was a lot nicer. I to this day would rather die then go back to that first hospital. I'm not a drug user. They didn't know my medical history, they learned I didn't have insurance and proceeded to treat me like trash and filth rather than do their job. I don't make regular trips to the ER. I get seriously injured maybe one time in 5-10 years due to poorly made decisions. 😕 I wish I could remember his name, I have a few choice words for him and his lack of care.
Boy, can I relate to this. I have an older brother and a younger sister. All three of us have experienced unexpected unemployment and loss of health insurance. All three of us were treated like dirt by the medical types because of it. 👎🏻
Best thing I had happening so far was an orthopedic surgeon telling me "You don't have any pain, there's nothing wrong, you're just too lazy to work" (not his exact words, but strongly suggested) After I've fallen down the stairs last January and my foot wouldn't really improve much for like 3 months, I got no transfer to MRI, no physical therapy, nothing. "You don't need it, since there's nothing wrong." (his exact words this time) They just let me wait it out and then sent me back to work. After a few days I couldn't walk at all again, so I went to seek help from another doctor (and back on sick leave), am still fighting to get this fixed so I can go back to work (and life). =( (Germany) Oh, but there's good news: The surgeon who took over last week actually asked me *where* my pain was exactly :D First doctor to do so!
i had extreme vitamin deficiencies (found later on) and couldnt stay awake more than 4 hours a day. insane i know....i told the doctor and he told me: nah youre fine everyone gets tired... ... ... ... im not gonna tell you how i felt ,you can imagine.
I'd love to see someone interviewed who experienced birth trauma, particularly if there was a loss of autonomy during the process. It's extremely common and I'm sure a LOT of viewers would appreciate the commentary and advice on handling those situations, during and afterwards.
ITA!!! So many women (myself included) are assaulted during the birthing process. I felt like I had been raped after my third child was born. The entire process was an absolute nightmare, from beginning to end. What should have been a wonderful day was one of the worst days of my life.
I have birth trauma from the birth of my third child. The surgeon decided to do an adhesion removal without permission and ended up making it so much worse. My internal organs are basically tied together with scar tissue and I have so much pain from it.
Currently pregnant with my second and upon telling my midwife my experiences with my first, she's shocked and impressed that I haven't been scarred enough to not want another child because I was treated so poorly 😂
I had a doctor diagnose me without doing an exam. I questioned her and her response was “I didn’t get to where I am by being wrong”. This was after waiting in her office 90 minutes past my appointment time. I was in severe pain and I cried out of complete frustration, to which she acted like I was a basket case. Well, her diagnosis was wrong. She wasn’t even close.
This really highlights the need for patient advocacy. It is so horrid feeling as though you can’t speak up when something doesn’t feel right just because you don’t have a degree.
What is really frightening is that this has even happened to people WITH a medical degree. I heard the testimony of a black female doctor who had to go to the emergency room and her own colleagues were telling her she didn't know what she was talking about! Being female and being POC are aggravating factors
My trust in doctors has gone way down in the last few years!! I went to see a new doctor because the clinic I had been going to had closed. So this new doctor had been recommended to me by a doctor friend. New doctor walks into exam room, introduces herself so I put out my hand to greet her, she bypassed my out-stretched arm and sat down on the far side of the room. Mind you this is long before covid. She asks a few question, ask me if I need refills for my usual medications and that was it. She never came near me, never touched me, never listened to my heart or lungs, never looked at my ears, eyes or throat. I have NEVER been to a doctor's office where they do not listen to your heart and check other things. Needless to say, I never went back to that doctor. What this doctor says in this video is so true that we as patients lose trust in doctors so much so that we do not seek treatment. Another time I had fallen down some stairs and thought I was fine, but a few days later I was having trouble breathing. So went to the E.R. and they took an x-ray and I had busted a rib. The doctor came in and said there is nothing they can do for a busted rib and she was telling me to leave. I said hey but I can not breathe, (I have asthma), the doctor looked at me and said what do you want me to do about that. I was shocked. So I told her that a breathing treatment would probably help me out. She looked at me and asked can't you do that at home? I told her no I can not, I do not have a breathing machine, (nebulizer). So she huffed out the exam room and I was hooked up for my breathing treatment. I got out of there as fast as I could. And doctors wonder why we as patients don't want to come in for appointments.
My doctor’s assistant lost my test results, told me everything was fine and then didn’t bother letting me know when they didn’t find them. I only found out because a nurse contacted me asking how I was handling the new medications for the newly diagnosed illness I had but wasn’t actually told about 😡
Thank you for doing this. I was recently diagnosed at the ER as having a soft tissue injury from a fall. I was also told I would be prescribed a prescription NSAID for the pain. Turns out that not only did the doctor forget to write the prescription, but whoever looked at the x-rays also missed a very obvious fracture.
I’m SO thankful for my primary doctor. I always feel heard and respected. I’m an artist and have ADHD so when he explains something, he draws it on the exam table paper because he knows it’s how I learn best - SO I CAN UNDERSTAND what’s going on with my health and make informed decisions and take an active role in my treatment plan. He discovered I had pancreatic divism and biliary dyskinesia. Absolutely brilliant and compassionate, and PASSIONATE about his profession. Cheers to all the family med docs and their amazing staff 💖
My Doctor was a general practitioner and I really liked going to him because even if he was late, he didn't rush me and he knew that I wasn't even on too many pharmaceuticals, so he always gave me natural ways first, if it didn't improve then we'd do pills. I think that some doctors that don't have the bells and whistles can sometimes be better because they are so focused on the patient.
my husband went to the ER when he had appendicitis, and he told the doctor he thought that was what he had, and the doctor thought it couldn't be that because it came on too quickly, and my husband just insisted he do the exam regardless, and sure enough, appendicitis!
I love the line “if I can point to what hurt I expect them to touch around there.” I think electronic medical chart (“box checking” software) has greatly harmed the quality of patient exams and rapport during appointments. We spend so much time covering the required questions on the form instead of the questions related to your specific issues/complaints.
I had a very similar experience when I was a preteen/young teen. I was very average in my weight at 6-7(around early hormonal changes for puberty), and within the next 6mo I gained 100lbs with no major diet changes. I continued to gain weight over the course of my teen years. Once I started puberty, I had severe cramps and incredibly heavy bleeding. The cramps were bad enough that I couldn’t walk even on pain medication. The bleeding my was bad enough that I developed chronic anemia from iron deficiency. I also had horrible, debilitating migraines, hot flashes, mood swings, and cravings. (Mind you I was 13!) So in response, my doctor continued to order routine blood tests that only checked my iron levels and told me to see a nutritionist so we could improve my eating habits. Long story short, her insistence that this was only about dietary choices, I developed EDs. (She noted in my chart that I was diagnosed with “chronic unexplained weight gain” and severe dysmenorrhea in the chart) I would go days or weeks without eating and barely eat when I did. Lo and behold I continued to gain weight. I couldn’t be diagnosed with anorexia because I was overweight, but was constantly on the verge of passing out from malnourishment. Eventually, after 4 years of all this, I was put on birth control and most of my symptoms became tolerable, but we still had no idea why they were happening. When I reached adulthood, I couldn’t take her style of ‘medicine’ anymore, as besides this she had the bedside manner of a toddler and was constantly rude. I switched to a new doctor and within a year of seeing her I bust into tears and explained the full history and that I was scared that I may struggle with infertility after all these hormonal issues. She agreed that I had every right to be concerned and ordered a full metabolic panel. Lo and behold, while my sugar levels were completely normal, my insulin levels were 3x what was expected. I was put on a medication often used for diabetes treatment, and for the first time since I was a prepubescent child, I stopped gaining weight. We’ve continued to explore treatments and I am on a waitlist to see a obgyn to see what hormonal imbalances may be causing this crazy insulin response. But in one panel, my new doctor answered questions I had had for more that half my life, all because she actually believed I was suffering.
@@howtowithelizabeth7513 I have, I have enough of the markers that I need regular exams, but not enough to warrant a treatment. We’re still exploring options. At the moment we’re treating the metabolic issues and going from there.
@@yadclass I don't think the patient having decent amount of information is really suspicious, i know alot of people who go regularly to the hospital and follow up with appointments, these people learn alot of information about health care during their long-term treatment.
I'm a nurse/paramedic that sees this kind of thing all the time. Doctors write orders based on a chief complaint without seeing the patient. They get the results, spend 2 min in the room explaining the results, and then turf them to a specialist. However, if you read their notes- it sounds like they did a full physical exam and spent 30 minutes in the patient's room.
💯- I am an OT who used to work in acute care. I’d try to mobilize covid patients and they’d barely be able to tolerate sitting at the edge of the bed, sats dropping. docs would be in there for less than a minute and then later write “pt had no complaints, ambulating with PT.” 😐
And I've had older relatives who have complained that the doctor's in and out so fast that it's hard for them to figure out how to describe their symptoms fast enough to tell the doctor before they're ready to move on.
One of my doctors literally overdosed me and almost made me go into an coma. Went to him for about a year. I wanted to sue him because he also works with a lot of older people like 60’s and up. He could kill someone and no one would know it was him.
Thank you for talking so openly about this. I wish more people would. This happened to me. Doctor never did a physical exam or any testing, told me to stop talking, and his treatment made the migraines worse. Discovered he wrote in my chart that the procedure 'was well tolerated, and patient reported almost complete resolution of headaches.' I'm now struggling to get a referral away from him.
I've had medical records be incorrect as well, and unfortunately that has impacted the care I've received since then. It is a real widespread issue and is very discouraging when you have legitimate health issues and pain. It personally makes me avoid doctors as much as possible, and because of medical neglect, I've almost lost my life twice. Only reason that I'm here is because I continued to search for doctors/specialists that were willing to look for one of the problems. Had I of listened to negligent physicians, I'd be long gone. We really need a lot of change in U.S. Healthcare, particularly for women.
Starting around middle school I started experiencing a whole host of health problems and my doctor was absolutely useless. It got to the point where my attendance was so low that the school kicked me out at 16 and my parents didnt believe me when I told them my symptoms and pain because there was so many different symptoms and they changed from day to day and in severity. He would only see me for 1 rushed issue per appointment so he never took the time to put together my complex chronic pain condition, migraines and ibs. All of it was blamed on me being a rebellious teenager and not a depressed teenager who doesnt know whats wrong with them and whos doctor failed them and is facing family hardship. Finally my mom got him to refer me to her doctor and it became incredible obvious how negligent my family doctor had been towards my pain. Doctors have a hard enough time taking womens pain seriously and its even more so when your a teen. Luckily I live in Canada with free healthcare and im now living independent on disability but having a doctor who paid attention and took me seriously would have saved an immense amount of trauma and distress. It was so bad for a long time that I was suicidal and all of it could have been avoided. Instead I was given anti inflammatory creams for nerve pain (which is useless) and told to take advil or tylenol. Now with the help of an amazing specialist and pain medication im able to live a somewhat normal life, providing the government doesnt some how mess that up for those of us who actually need it for chronic pain. No longer suffer from IBS and headaches near daily either due to meds. Always get a second opinion. I wish I was referred to my pain specialist sooner. If this sounds like you, look up fibromyalia. Invisible illnesses are real.
So glad you were finally able to access some real help & find successful symptoms management solutions! (& oof re that very real fear re various govts' tendency to reduce already-marginal disability support even further without warning! 😵) 100% concur re the way chronic pain is too often dismissed by GPs, alas (esp. in female-presenting patients, as confirmed by ongoing health services research). People with fibromyalgia frequently spend years basically being gaslit by the medical professions, before finally finding a doctor who'll do more than just throw some basic painkillers at it & move on. This seems to happen even more where fibro's comorbid with mental health conditions, &/or other related conditions such as PCOS or IBS. Would definitely second your advice, too. If anyone out there suffers from diffuse persistent pain, increasingly weird environmental sensitivities, & intermittent mental fog, please: do chat to your doc about fibromyalgia? Latest medical research is finally confirming it as an autoimmune disorder not just a neurological problem, so here's hoping that may increase awareness & openness to learning about it amongst general practitioners. Getting referred to a real pain management team was (in my experience) a huge help: although the condition can't be cured yet, better understanding definitely helped combat the huge frustration & feeling of helplessness it had caused?
I appreciate when you do videos like this. My mom almost died because a doctor refused to give her a colonoscopy when she told him something was wrong. It turned out one of the medications prescribed to her gave her ulcers and she almost bled out. I was 14 and my sister was 17. My sister didn't have a license but we had to drive her to the hospital because my mom refused to let us call 911. Later when my mom asked the doctor who refused to give her proper care for her records, so she could sue the company that made the medicine, he sent her a letter saying she was no longer a patient and refused to give her the records. Because of the cost from a week in the hospital, she couldn't afford nor did she have the energy to get a sapena. She still has all kinds of medical issues and refuses to go to the hospital unless we pressure her.
Yeah she shouldn't have probably said she would sue you have to hit them with a surprise and she has a right to her records if there is still time should look into a malpractice suit or something
In the US, I can file a complaint with the federal Department of Health and Human Services. By HIPAA law, a patient and/or their legal guardian have a right to review their medical records. You cannot be denied for almost ANY reason.
Woooh triggering topic but handled extremely well. Disabled people and poc know this story back to front, I've had everything from forced inpatient and accusations of faking or hiding things (proven wrong & their fault later!!) to years of repeated misdiagnoses from doctors who either didn't care or didn't have the time to actually evaluate my situation and think it over. The healthcare system is broken so much further than with acute athletic injuries but the fact that it's EVEN happening for these types of visits is probably the best indicator that the field needs fixing. Thank you for highlighting stuff like this, seriously. It means a lot to have the discussion raised. I'd love to see resources on how to deal with this as a patient; how to report doctors, when (and when NOT to), how to discuss issues with a doctor or inpatient stay with hospital systems in ways that actually gets them to listen.. if that's even possible.
I have been medically gaslit my whole life and I'm white, the system is manufactured for everyone to be ill in someway..the medical industrial complex is truly equality dear!
The PA took extensive notes every time I went in, before the doctor would even enter the room. The doctor would come in and just visit for 5 minutes. The doctor was mystified by my symptoms. At the doctors request, I went in every two weeks for months. Eventually, time healed my pain. The last time I saw my doctor, they made some odd comments. That was when I realized, they didn't even know MY symptoms and had never even read the PA's notes. I was paying to visit them, and they were not even really interested in helping me. Pretty sure I was just and insurance cash cow. I could saved my time/money, stayed home, and had the same results.
I’m sad to hear that is the reality for the healthcare system not only in the Us but in Canada. I’ve left the doctor’s crying because I felt so overlooked and brushed off. I was seeking care rover a real concern and the best my doctor could say was “I’ll give you a referral because you’re nice people. But they’ll laugh at me because there’s nothing wrong”. Now I’m scared to go to the doctors office or hospital due to this mistreatment. (I won’t even start on how hospital staff have treated me over the years)
Ugh, I can relate - being blown off by 4 specialists and when I finally get the medical records a year later, they lied on them. A diagnosis journey that should have taken no more than 2 months ended up taking over a year because of it. Unfortunately, I hadn't started audio recording every appointment yet, so I don't have the audio from those.
It took 15 years for me to be diagnosed with primary aldosteronism. I have kidney damage from the uncontrolled high BP. No doctor lied, but no one listened! I finally had an adrenalectomy 3 weeks ago!
Good luck to your recovery! A loved one of mine had their adrenal glands removed and it takes a long time to get your body running relatively normally with the replacement medication (and to learn to recognize or predict when you need to up the dose and such).
I have a similar story. I had pain in my stomach, and went to the doctor, then he took an X-ray and said it was gas, but the “gas” got way worse, like somebody put a rock inside me. So we went to another doctor, and they said my appendix was about 3x the size it was supposed to be, and it could have exploded and I could have died if I didn’t go to the second doctor…
My doctors dismissed my abdominal pain and missed my ectopic rupture. No one noticed it until 5 days later.
What is an etopic rupture
@@armaankhurana3132 and ectopic pregnancy is when the pregnancy forms outside of the uterus. Usually in one of the fallopian tubes, which can cause the tube to rupture.....called an ectopic rupture
Mine dismissed my abdominal pain as part of my menstrual cycle but now I’m with a new doctor and getting my gallbladder removed next Thursday and I couldn’t be happier :)
Couldn't you have died from that? Wtf? I'm telling you, a$$hole docs, man.
There's an OBGYN nurse on RUclips that interviewed someone who had a misdiagnosed ectopic pregnancy. Positive test, no baby in uterus on ultrasound, bleeding, and abdominal pains. Took two weeks with the work of two clinics before they found the problem.
This topic hits hard and real. Back in 2001, my dad went to the hospital due to some chest pain. Dr basically ignored him and sent him in his way. He returned like 4 times and was sent away each time. My aunt went to visit him and found him collapsed in his house. Took him to the ER and a pace maker had to be put in. Turns out he had Wolf Parkinsons White Syndrom and contracted a staph infection and died. Total time from his initial visit, 11 days. It took 11 days and 5 visits (6 if you count the ER) for my dad to die. Had the Dr done an exam or labs, it could have been caught and mitigated. Yes... there was a malpractice lawsuit and yes it was won
I am extremely glad to hear a malpractice suit was pursued. It's so rare that people are brave or smart enough to do it. If a doctor is a murderer, they should not be a doctor- that's what malpractice suits are for, keep them from killing or disabling more people.
It's absolutly horrible what happened to your father.
Condolences to you my friend 💜😣
I had chest pain and my doc said the same well....
My condolences
Did u sue?
It’s always appreciated when your doctor is 100% honest with you
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HE IS UNDER EVRY VIDEO!!!
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The lack of trust that develops when a patient is ignored is huge. My mom went to the ER twice about an issue and no one listened. They sent her home both times; the second time I was even there advocating for her to be admitted. She also spoke with her PCP and another specialist she saw on occasion to try and get help. No one listened and she was completely discouraged. When one night she started having pain again, my Dad offered to call 911 or take her to the ER. She said no, she didn't want to go and have them do nothing again. She died that night.
Sorry this happened to your mum ,but I can relate to her discouragement and refusal to seek urgent medical help .
it's incredibly hard when your fighting to live but no one takes you seriously.
😮🙁 That's really sad and tragic.
So sorry for your loss.
😮I'm so sorry for your loss. That's horrible.
I'm sorry. 😔
“it’s just your raging teenage hormones, change your life style and exercise if you think you could be anaemic”. He Completely refused to do a simple blood test. I finally got my diagnosis after I decided to see someone else since I had been going since I was 15 and more and more symptoms were developing over time. Well, finally got a blood test, sent to a haemotologist, they wanted a bone marrow biopsy and eventually I was diagnosed with a myeloproliferative neoplasm (bone marrow failure) which upon diagnosis had already began developing into acute myeloid leukaemia at the age of 17 and I was told at that appointment that I HAVE to have a bone marrow transplant. I had no idea that could even be transplanted. I was hoping I just had iron deficiency anaemia. It was leukaemia. I’m lucky I got diagnosed when I did, it’ll be 3 years this month since I had my transplant. Even a simple blood test can save a life.
I am so glad to read that you are ok now. What a neglectful doctor you had there!
Lol interesting comment format; starting without any backstory but you can understand as you read more.
I had leukemia too, i was light headed with facial inflammation for weeks and the called it migraine 🤯
Good for you! You are your own best advocate!😎
@@rohitiyer9992 I had terrible head pain and light sensitivity which they thought was just migraines but it was my hot sweats that made me know something wasn’t right so I changed doctors to see if they’ll do a blood test and thankfully they did
I once went to the ER with chestpains and a "numbness" in the left side of my jaw. Had to wait for 7 hours before a Doctor said "You were the one with the stomach pain and toothache?" and I told him "No, chest pains" and then he became pale, walked into the reception and I could hear him chew out the nurse in the reception. Turns out the nurse didn't belive me and just wrote in my chart what he thought was wrong with me. The doctor did an ECG and had an ambulance pick me up and drive me to the hospital. He was great and I got the treatment and medicine I needed but I seriously hope that's the last time that nurse makes his own opinion on whats wrong with the patient.
Wow. Just wow.
That nurse almost killed you with his ego
I had almost this exact thing happen to me. I went to the hospital with chest pain, difficulty breathing, and passed out twice. Nurse flagged it as low blood pressure and a fainting spell.
I had a massive pulmonary embolism.
Should have been fired!
@@Greycatcoz😮😮😮😮
A doctor labeled my roommate a “drug seeker” because she had been to the clinic and ER 14 times this year. She has a lot of medical issues. He almost refused to treat her, was very rude and wouldn’t let her explain what was going on, then lied on the papers multiple times.
jesus thats a malpractice suit in the making
Doctor labeled me as a drug seeker because I fell down the stairs and broke my arm. Didn’t find the broken bone until a week and four days later when I went to a different place.
@Zombie Frogg Oh geez, you’re one of those people 🙄 Nope, that’s not what happened. They did an x-ray of my upper arm. They wouldn’t do one on my lower arm. I don’t take pain meds unless absolutely necessary, and if I did there’s plenty of ways I could’ve gotten them without a doctor and for sure without breaking my humerus almost at the radial head which has screwed my arm up. There is a malpractice suit, but the details are not any of your business. I explain alllll this in my comment on this video. You really think a doctor wouldn’t act like that🤨 You’re very naive.
@Zombie Frogg go play in traffic
It's not even just doctors... A friend of mine was labeled a Drug Seeker/abuser by the **Pharmacist** when she tried to refill her husband's pain medication for his *terminal Cancer*. That A-hole even tried to blacklist her (her husband) from all the surrounding pharmacies.
My doctor's office recently started audio recording visits instead of typing notes. There is a huge difference in the care and attention I receive now.
so is it better or worse?
And you should audio record your encounters with healthcare providers as well!
the first 2 doctors i saw about my depression immediately replied with "are you single?". Not enough doctors get fired for being lazy or inept unfortunately. Went for a 3 opinion with a doctor who sent me to a psychiatrist who was willing to look deeper into what was making me unhappy. 10 years later, still have him as a family doctor because he actually cares.
When I was diagnosed with depression at 19, my mom took me to a GP, whom I'd never seen before. The doctor looked at me for a minute and said "is this why you're depressed?" Indicating my face, and put me on acne medication. Mental health is treated as a joke in this country.
doctors shouldnt be expected to diagnose mental conditions, especially doctors in large hospitals where there in and out'ing patients in droves.
@@jenniferciaccio2940 what country?? have you recovered from your depression hopefully
@@livinglife8843 I'm in the US. That was many years ago, and have found psychiatrists on my own that are helping me manage through medication and therapy. Thank you for checking in.
It's the result of mixing capitalism with medicine. When the aim is profit, patient care suffers. Doctors are overworked, encouraged to increase the quantity of patients seen. They're as much victims of this system as the patients. Yet the amount of money spent on other things not as important is mind-blowing. This is the result of stiff resistance to what people call "socialization of medicine".
I was having horrible pain in my wrist and went to the family orthopedic doctor. When the doctor left the room I looked at what he wrote on the chart and there was NOTHING there! He then proceeded to tell my mom the pain was in my head and I was doing it for attention. He then wrote a prescription for antidepressants and lied to me saying they were pain pills. A while later I woke up one morning with such horrible pain I passed out. I went to a different doctor who did a bone scan and found I had a horrible stress fracture in my wrist! There are lots of a-hole doctors out there!
Oh God. Why? Why He did such a thing. Hope your wrist could heal well. So much humiliation and physical pain
that doctor needs to be fired asap wth
Your Doctor is probably on the big pharmaceutical pay roll. Why bother treating you when they could drug you up with prescription medicine?
Idk where you live but you should officially report them to some medical board and sue if you can.
So any news that the doctor has his medical license is revoked?
I was called a “drug seeker” by my first endometriosis specialist because he said and I quote “I got it. You cant be in pain” when that wasn’t the case, my pain got worse and worse (after being diagnosed with stage 3). I was 16 years old when he told me I wanted drugs.
He then told me I’d be depressed for being sexually active (I’ve been server depressed king before him and was diagnosed at 13). When I finally got my stuff together and started anti-depressants he told me he “told me so” and that my depression was because of me being sexually active (and I wasn’t at this time).
He lied to my family about endometriosis and told them to ignore any pain im in afterwords. Saying that it’ll never grow back (it did and I just got my second surgery by a different and amazing doctor).
I wish I could just go back and cuss him out. He pretty much made it hard for anyone to hear me for the longest time. Because he’d always shut me down
I was treated for months by a OB-GYN for Endometriosis without success. The blood flow was so bad by then that he suggested a hysterectomy. I was raring to go, but the doctor COULD have suggested a Biopsy instead. The diagnosis after the surgery was Adenomyosis. If he'd done the biopsy months earlier, he could have spared me a LOT of pain.
If someone told me to ignore my child’s pain, I’d be out. But I have experience as a nurse. Any pain could kill you or a sign that somethings killing you. Your parents probably thought they did their due diligence and we’re not going to be sucked in by you faking pain. But at least you guys found amazing doctor
At least you were diagnosed early! I sister first sought help for severe menstrual pains in the 90's at age 14 and the doctor just said "that's what it's like to be a woman". She went back many times and no one cared. She was so bad she had stay home several days every period because of the pain. At 30-something she went again to the doctors, asking if she could have endometriosis, but the doctor completely dismissed it. She tries to become pregnant for years, it doesn't work. Finally they do a surgery to check what's going on, and she has SO MUCH ENDOMETRIOSIS!!! It takes many hours to try to clear her from all the painful cysts! She does 7 years of IVF, tries all kinds of hormones, but could never become pregnant. She has suffered so much pain during this time, both physical and mental. Now she waits to have it all removed because of the cancer risk. Had she known when she was 14 her life would've been VERY different. I really feel for her.
And most likely, I also have endo.... But has been dismissed.
Wait a male doctor told you that he has endometriosis and it can't be that painful um excuse me, what?!
@@liiiir i actually read that as "i understand what youre saying"
or otherwise transmasc doctor?? xD
Had a doctor tell my father he was suffering from heartburn when he complained about pain in his lower abdomen. 14 hours later he was having emergency surgery due to ruptured intestines.
My good friend went to ER with severe abdominal/chest pain. The doctor diagnosed it as heartburn/indigestion. One week later she was dead from a ruptured abdominal aneurysm. She was the most wonderful woman I’ve ever known.
I almost lost my life to a ‘hands off’ doctor here in Canada. When I was 19, shortly after my oldest son was born, I began noticing tiny red dots under my skin. I started bruising easily and at one point, my little guy bonked my nose and it wouldn’t stop bleeding. I’m not talking hours either, it just wouldn’t stop at all. We were young parents so we often dealt with physicians who didn’t take us seriously. Paid little attention, blew off our concerns, stuff like that. Anyway. We wait in a clinic, a brand new office, all the bells and whistles. Nice neighborhood, up and coming area. The works. This doctor immediately dismissed my medical concerns, frowning at my baby and telling us to take him to the waiting room so he wouldn’t be a distraction. His tone and body language seemed frustrated from the jump. We sit down and he talks over me incessantly, I make a point to show him my arms, he scoffs and tells me it’s a rash. I remember distinctly saying “but it’s under the skin” and he barked “do you have a medical degree?“ He prescribed me cream for said rash, and kept his nose in the computer. Basically waved over his shoulder at me. I cried in the car, overwhelmed by the experience, feeling like a hypochondriac, but my partner took my to the ER. Keep in mind, I’m covered in bruises and my nose is still bleeding. Within hours we learned my platelets were undetectable, the rash is in fact petechiae, and after a series of tests, diagnosed with ITP. I spent months in the hospital, required a splenectomy to get my platelets under control, many courses of IVIG and endless medications. I didn’t have the courage to report him, but I’ll never forget the ER doctor hugging me and apologizing on his behalf.
I've have petechiae for 23 yrs now, it started when I was 8y/o, and no answer from doctors at all. I grew up basically hating doctors. I never set foot in a hospital.
I have tiny red dots under my skin aswell. Oh well, guess I'll go to the doctor now..
@@Darkness251 lol same, I will probably go see my doctor just to be sure
My husband had this condition had too have his spleen removed in 1985. It is very rare in males .
I had petechiae on the top of my feet, hands and even my eyelids and it was because I had myeloid leukaemia and since platelets are myeloid cells i was lacking in healthy platelets. Anyone who notices petechiae should get it checked because it shows up for many reasons including cancer like in my case.
This happens SO often that it’s scary. As an ER nurse myself, I would question a doctor to make sure and advocate for the patient. I also had it happen to myself. I have severe Endometriosis and when I told them it hurts to breathe, they literally told me that it “was in my head”. I finally found an expert and He did my exploratory laparoscopy, and guess what he found? Endometriosis on my liver and it glued my liver to my diaphragm. After the surgery, I cried from happiness because I could breathe without pain for the first time in years. Now? I won’t go to see a doctor unless I’m 10/10 pain. I know that’s bad, but it’s what happened from poorly trained or bad doctors.
It makes me so angry to read that endometriosis and the associated pain is still being downplayed by doctors. Most women deal with some pain or discomfort as a result of periods, and as such we have a higher tolerance for pain. We're not weaklings.
I hope you find better doctors!
Yes, it is kind of crazy that everything is upside down; it is a fact that women have higher pain tolerance due to experiencing period pains every month. But common belief goes that men can handle more pain.
*Every doctor* should be trained about this fact with a period simulator. They should stand there, attached to the machine and watch while women take the same hit of pain without even feeling it.
Ive been there myself all too often. Its like the Dr is trying to tell me what im telling them is not true. Like they know how im feeling when Im TELLING them how i am feeling. Like, it shouldnt take severe dehydration & kidney failure for a Dr that saw you the day before to realize you were dehydrated & couldnt pee THEN
Just wanna say, nurses, especially ER nurses are badasses! I hope you’re well
@@SatumainenOlento exactly 💯..same with labor pain
My favourite quote spoken by a doctor:
“Don’t worry, I have good handwriting”
Lmao same
My favorite one is the quote that made my parents choose my pediatrician, "Sometimes, they fall down the stairs and split their heads open; they must learn." The doctor was german btw in case you couldn't tell
This guy sounds like my "Doc" he just writes the RX you ask for doesn't really do any diagnosis but he prescribes my Klonopin so I go to him.
I told my dad if I'm ever actually sick I'll go to urgent care or pay out of pocket for an out of network Dr.
Nice
I bet they actually don’t have a good handwriting
Medical gaslighting is a huge problem in our country right now and something needs to be done about it.
This ended up happening to me last week and I ended up leaving my primary physician over it. These neglectful experiences must stop as patients are losing faith in their physicians.
Been there, done that... REPEATEDLY!!!
@@tammyrawdon3587 I have a friend the very same. She refuses ERs now, it's so bad.
So, many of their jobs, esp the ER, are seriously at jeopardy unless they and health care coverage buck up.
@@inoshishi8 I totally understand bc I finally got a new/better primary care provider (who did tests instead of just guessing) & she said that I should be in the hospital due to the infection, tetanus & adverse reactions to the necessary meds after a fake service dog attack, bc I almost died from it... but I refused to go bc it's so bad (neglectful/ overworked caregivers, SARS, MERSA, Covid, etc). I don't even like to go there for outpatient tests.
@@tammyrawdon3587 I'm confused: did you almost die from the dog service or the meds side effect?
*My friend is even tapering off most of her meds at this pt and has been for a few mo. She's so fed up, she doesn't see the pt except to follow up with the few Drs that care and is more into homeopathic things like I am.
Edit: I forgot to add, are you less Rx now since the adverse effects issue you had?
One of the student doctors who attended my birth was so weirdly dishonest. First, when she checked my cervix, I swear it felt like she intentionally broke my water. She denied it and said she did a gentle check, but as a twin mom with premature labour, I was an expert in getting checked. It wasn’t gentle or the normal action that doctors would typically do.
After my birth, I had some retained placenta that I had to have a d&c for. This same doctor came to my recovery bed and told me that it was impossible that there was placenta left behind, because she checked thoroughly. I told her her colleagues had picked it up on the ultrasound and I had horrible bleeding. Still she stood there trying to gaslight me that she had done a perfect job. No compassion for what I had just gone through. It’s nine years later, and I still wish I had reported her.
That’s horrible
I feel like, in a lot of cases, it's the pregnant women who get the worst medical care! 🤬
-from someone who wound up with 2 miscarriages
@@IncendiaT1990 That's scary!
@@IncendiaT1990 bless your heart
even Serena Williams (multi millionaire) had issues with this.
Why is this a thing?
You should have. Why didn't you? Who knows this "doctor" killed how many babies? Please next time speak. And if you can write a feedback.
(Even if it is going to be anonymous.)
I agree with ordering MRIs unnecessarily!
Yes
Me too! If my dr had ordered one, be would have seen that I had 3 herniated discs from a car accident ! I had to go to a pain specialist to find out, 6 months later!
@@robinl.721 I think the commenter agreed with Dr. Mike on not ordering MRIs unnecessarily.
You guys should not be commenting on what the other doctor has done wrong on a platform like this RUclips, it should have been within a group of doctors. These days patients are getting too much medical information from social media and use it against other doctors.
And also this goes against Medical Ethics, if that doctor felt like going for an MRI you should respect his decision he may have different approach which might not be what you are thinking. Even if he is wrong you guys should correct him. Not announcing him bad doctor on RUclips. Give him another chance bro
Yup. Was prescribed an MRI and full blood test after only a 10 minutes timed appointment and they didn't find anything too odd, so it was left undiagnosed. Only told me about some deficiencies found on the blood test and told me to take certain supplements. Not saying that was wrong; it's just that a physical examination and more questions before jumping to scans and sending me out the door should have been their first step maybe?
A few years later, after it had gotten worse, I went to a new doctor who only did a physical exam and asked a series of questions and figured out what the condition was and how to reduce the progression and what could possibly trigger it and gave me a choice of treatments. Also found out that the condition would not show up on an MRI but it was good as it ruled out other possibilities of conditions that do show up on the MRI and blood tests. So thankful till today to this specialist doctor.
Not being diagnosed can cause a lot of stress for the patient cuz for all we know it could be anything. Turning to the internet to try and figure out what could possibly be wrong with us cuz doctors can figure it out only increases the anxiety. Also, since the first doctor didn't find anything, people around you who trust the doctors words and knowledge, think maybe you are over reacting over a small amount of pain and disturbance; can't blame them too much either cuz not every condition is visible at first glance and they ain't no doctor to know otherwise.
I also learnt from this video that we should complain and not feel bad to do so when we aren't treated the way we should be.
When I had visited my family doctor (a few years prior to the above incident)and a few days after my appointment the report that I received read that I had had a physical examination preformed on me when I had not; in fact I specifically asked if she needed to cuz how else was she going to know how bad it was, but was ignored. i never reported it cuz the doctor was a new young doctor who looked like she was still learning and I didn't want her getting into trouble for something that could have been a one off thing due to carelessness or a mix up.
But unfortunately, she wasn't the first or last one to make mistakes or ignore certain symptoms; turned out that some of these missed symptoms ended up being vital to diagnosing and figuring out the condition. Just that one or two missed symptoms helped my second doctor determine what it was. Needless to say they were shocked it hadn't been recognised earlier with the number of prior appointment on the system where I had come in for this same problem.
Late diagnosis can make a big difference. Like if it's neglected and found too late due to the patient not going or bad practice from doctors like this, some conditions progress too much that they can no longer be treated or not much can be done to treat the condition in it's later stages (other than relief medications).
@Doctor Mike Thank you for raising awareness on this issue. It's not an uncommon issue, but it is hardly addressed and patients should learn that the doctor may not always be right.
My freshman year of college, I got a small concussion and my roommate took me to see a doctor immediately. The doctor was mocking me and belittling my issue. My friends even said that he kept rolling his eyes at us when we tried to explain my injury. He was certain that I was drunk or on drugs, even though the people I was with kept telling him that I got hit in the head real hard during color guard practice (plus I don't drink or do drugs.)
Before doing anything with my concussion, he made me give a urine sample and, while I was in the bathroom, he was bad mouthing me to the people I was with about how he knows I'm just drunk.
I apparently had a little trouble speaking and he kept mocking me for that. I remember having a headache and feeling super tired, but I didn't think my speech was off until he kept asking me why I'm "talking like that".
He then left me alone in a room unsupervised long enough that passed out and came to a bit later to my friend shaking me.
Of course, eventually the doctor told me that I wasn't drunk or high and that I did have a concussion. Ok. Thanks. We said that in the beginning. What now. Now... he told us to go home. Didn't say anything about how we should handle my injury or anything. Just told us to head out and slapped me with two bills totalling around $600.
It's always been hard for me to seek medical attention due to the way I was raised, but it's even harder when I'm then confronted with a doctor like this when I try.
I'm going to assume, since you were in color guard, that you are a lady. I've been blown off by drs as well, simply bc I have ovaries. I swear, drs still diagnose us with hysteria, just under a different name. What an ass. I had a friend with a kidney infection who was accused by the ER of being a drunk. This young lady never partied, was a very good student, and worked full time, but just bc she was young they insisted she partied too much. Ridiculous.
That’s more typical than not from my experience.
These hospitals hire folks to gaslight and deflect patients away from treatment to make more $ from insurance...It’s not a coincidence these stories are so common...
“Even if”
People of color are also much more likely to get this sort of treatment. Women of color, even more so. It's disgusting.
Report that idiot!
This happens more than you know and the medical community “gaslights” patients all the time and his success story is rarer than normal, no matter HOW hard the patient fights for justice!!
They do this because they know they are still being paid no matter how crappy they do their job.
Yes patients and their advocates
My mother went to a renowned hospital to visit a renowned ENT specialist since her eardrums had a hole in them and was leaking discharge from her ears due to an infection. The ENT specialist was so stubborn that he refused to treat the infection unless she got the surgery to mend the broken eardrum. Since we had plans to travel by air for my fathers' job, my mother was hesitant. She just wanted to get the infection treated! Eventually, the infection got worse, the doctor did nothing but prescribe some painkillers (yes, she was experiencing a lot of pain). Frustrated, she went to a small clinic and visited an old specialist. He immediately understood our concerns about surgery, and since he was too old (80-90 years old!) to perform the clearing of discharge from ear, he asked his student to do so. He was only 3 years post MD.
That student was a life-saver. Cleared the discharge, treated the infection, removed the pain in 2 WEEKS, which the other stubborn doctor did not do in 6 months! While my mother still has not undergone surgery, she has had absolutely no infection for more than 3 years now.
Just like the patient in your video said, "All that glitters IS NOT GOLD"!
Wait so why didn't you want the surgery to fix the ear drum? If you only put antibiotics without fixing it there would still be a hole
@@thepotatoofheaven some tears in the ear drum need repairs if severe enough. Most time it’ll heal on its own.
@@thepotatoofheaven
The body is able to heal small things by itself easily, and if it was a real emergency, the first doctor would have taken care of it immediately, or strongly recommend it.
@@thepotatoofheaven LOL you can't read Aye?
@@xsargantxshaftx7997 ah yes a kid that can't understand basic English
I’ve had so many bad experiences with doctors like this. The worst was with a surgeon who completely twisted what I told him during an exam on the notes to make it sound like I was improving when I wasn’t after two hernia repairs. I still have issues from that surgery. It’s really frustrating and makes me afraid to go to the doctor because they’ll just dismiss the issues and nothing gets fixed.
getting proper care and doctor is like wining a million these days.
On my last doctors visit the PA (my office purged all the physicians) was so rude to me. I hadn't been able to get a physical in a few years due to my job being really strict about taking time off. The first thing she said to me? "Oh I guess you're just perfectly healthy then!" in a snarky tone. Idk why they think talking like that is okay too..
I agree. I was in the hospital for a condition a d didn't have ve insurance. A few months later I got insurance and took it to my new doctor and because I didn't have the insurance they wouldn't take the out of network information. Each time I made an appointment, the issue for the reason going in was no longer there. The doctor's response basically asking what did she want me to do since the issue is not there she couldn't do anything for it. I needed up changing doctor's. He is a great doctor and was so happy to have him as a doctor but now it is so hard to get an appointment with him. The few times that I have interacted with him lately, he sounds as if he's in a rush because he has other patients to tend to. He is a D.O. and very concise and detailed with his information.
That is my experience with VA Doctors. I don't use the VA if I don't have to. I'll use Civilian. And it all starts with just walking through the doors that's when the frustration begins.
I was bent over with stomach pain wretching asking for help and the CN wrote I was drug seeking. They got me my mylanta/lidocaine stomach medicine (non narcotic) and I stopped. Long story short my regular Dr read the notes and started treating me like a drug addict.
I was angry at the charge nurse, I was angry at my own Dr.
Thoughts 1st degree assault on both wouldn't leave my mind for at least two months.
This video hits home. A pain management issue becomes a game of ping pong. Pain management says “go to ER”, ER says “it’s clearly a pain management issue, go to them”, pain management then doesn’t want to treat and says “go to Primary Care” who then says “it’s clearly a pain management issue”. Then pain management decides it’s easier to discharge you and that’s what they do.
Well the demonization of pain meds is pretty much to blame for stuff like this. Nobody wants to prescribe pain meds anymore. Just prescribe a reasonable amount for a period of time and evaluate again. We all suffer because of the bad stigma and assumption people are abusing and selling them which most people really don't do. Pain management in the future really worries me because PT doesn't work for everybody and they either need to find other drugs or come up with a system to make sure people are following their prescribed meds better so bad outcomes are less likely to happen.
Or they just call you a drxg seeker and taint your records!
One reason I quite pain management and just deal with the 24/7/365 pain. All PM would do was shots of steroids in the back which can cause even more problems in the longrun.
And then they throw you onto the lap of a mental health counselor, who tells you to get out of the house more.
Always see a physical therapist for pain. They have helped me with so many issues!
My uncle had a stroke about a year ago. About a month ago, my aunt took him to the doctor because he was acting strangely. The doctor literally sent him home without telling my aunt any signs to look for saying it was because he had cannabis in his system. He was rushed to the hospital and died of kidney failure about a week later. My family is talking about finding a lawyer to see if there's anything we can do legally
Do you have any update? That doctor is so neglectful.
@@wonyoungsairplane unfortunately I don't. I don't talk to this side of my family often, so I don't know exactly what they are doing
Malpractice at its finest!
I'm so sorry this has happened to your family.
@@gemstonejasper17 How about now? Hoping they found some closure. Find a Lawyer that's willing to work pro-bono, too!
If the person is elderly almost impossible to sue as not enough money for the trouble
My wife had an emergency recently. Was hospitalised and had to undergo a surgery to clean up infected tissue. When she was let go 2 days later it says in the report that they did sono checkup afterwards to make sure it was cleared.
They didn’t. And when she went to a regular doctor he said that a lot tissue to be removed is still there. Needless to say we are livid and will be formally complaining.
You have a malpractice lawsuit in the waiting my friend. Don't let this go.
I'm sorry your wife had to deal with this BS
One of the problems this stems from is that your system doesn't have universal healthcare. Under universal healthcare doctors aren't motivated by ulterior motivations as much since everything is covered by the state.
@💕 Tara Gouw💕 The problem is the regular people in the US don't have money for lawsuits against institutions. In America the corporations hold all the power and it's really hard to get a lawsuit against a company including hospitals or doctors.
Get. A. Good. Lawyer !!
When my husband and i decided we were ready to be parents, i stop taking the pills. 3 months later my period wasn't coming, I got concerned and made an appointment. When I saw the obyn, she asked how long I was on the pill, told her about 3 years. She says, not in a nice way, that's how long it's going to take for my period to come. Around December I saw an episode of The Doctors where Dr. Lisa was talking about what reasons you miss your periods and some symptoms to look for. I could relate to some. My husband encouraged me to make an appointment, i got one the same day with a different obyn. He asked why I was there for, I told him about no having periods after stopping birth control and what the other doctor told me. He and his assistant were shocked and told me that wasn't true. He asked me questions and check me, he told me that it might be POCOS (Polycystic Ovarian syndrome) but he'll confirm it after some blood work. Once it was confirmed, he prescribed me metformin and gave me instructions how to manage it I'm glad he listened to me.
PCOS is the worst, I wish you well with getting better
@@angelicapacheco7176 my doctor told me the exact. Same. Thing. He didn’t seem to care and 10 years later I’m still trying to get pregnant. I went to another doctor and she told me that if we don’t have a period every 3-4 months it increases our risk of cervical and other cancers. Get a second opinion!
@@angelicapacheco7176 That's not true at all. I have PCOS but found out late, I was already in my 30s. I was used to having irregular menstruation and I thought some girls are just really like that. Then I got married, my husband and I wondered why I am not conceiving, that's the only time I had my check up. I was told I do have PCOS. My OB said I should have had myself checked a long time ago because it will really be hard for me to conceive. Now I'm in my 40s and still no children. My OB said my ovaries are shrinking and I am now prone to ovarian cancer. I learned that girls should have a regular check up with their OBGyn as soon as their menstruation starts. I didn't know that, my mom didn't, too. We both thought that women only see the OBGyn when pregnant...
Anything involving weird periods is difficult. I used to get flu-like symptoms every month on the first day of the cycle, and it was so bad I had to skip school. I went for an ultrasound, then was told I had a choice of an IUD, or some ancient herbal remedy. Thankfully the herbs work, and things are back to being regular, but it was a few years of miserable pains because it "wasn't bad enough to be a problem."
Metformin? Are you prediabetic?
This is why Americans wait to get something checked out!
One of my friends was on an academic visa to England. She caught what she thought was a cold. It got worse. Ok, she reasoned, it might be the flu. Got even worse. Her flatmate took her to the hospital, and while she’s filling in the paperwork, one of the nurses commented, “You must be American. Your health system scares you away from getting help.” And that is so horribly true
happens with the NHS too
I have no experience with foreign healthcare, and almost no experience civilian healthcare. In the military, privates always asked us why we would wait days before getting seen about an illness, and at least a month about injuries. The answer that we gave was ALWAYS the same: I'm not going in there just to be given ibuprofen and the recommendation to take it easy at PT for two weeks. We always ignored pain until it became unbearable, because that's the only time ANY provider would take us seriously. In my own case, that included sepsis in my arm, a tumor in my leg bone, a torn rotator cuff, broken bones, and now permanent hearing damage. For my coworkers, it included two cases of appendicitis, one of them then DETACHED and was free floating around his abdomen before he walked into the ER and threw up.
So I have dealt with civilian American Medicine, US Army medicine, and German medicine in my time. Here is what I know... Honestly the best care comes from civilian doctors in America because they know they can lose their license if they screw up. Even then though, you get the ones that are rushed and irritated. No system is perfect. German doctors will order more tests, but you will wait longer for care, and if you have anything that is not within the usual realm of illnesses and injuries, or if the normal regimens do not work on you oh, you are out of luck. If it is not approved by the government system, they will not do it in most cases. So you lose your ability to choose what happens to you. Military doctors will order more tests if you're loud enough, and if you're active duty you don't have to wait too long. If your civilian though, you will be waiting forever oh, and I've seen several people almost died from Shawty half-assed work from those doctors. My best answer, any system where they can be held accountable, can lose their license, and are getting paid more for better care, tends to be a better sister. There needs to be a social net for those who can't afford that, but honestly privatized care works best. That's just my personal experience and opinion.
More like the cost of our health care system scares us away, because going in for something as simple as "My back hurts. Like, immense pain." can cost you quad digits to pay off, which is just absolutely ridiculous, garbage, and, to be blunt, total BS. But this right here also adds on top of that, jesus.
Also, this person's experience further proves my point that jobs only care about what piece of paper you have over your work ethic. I would rather pick the doctor who has the absolute best work ethic and will do his job the right way, despite not having a Masters or a Ph.D or anything fancy, over the doctor that has multiple Ph.Ds and Masters, but gives little to zero effs about doing his job proper and will just spout whatever bs he can just to get you out of the office and begin to charge you that expensive medical bill.
@@vgmaster02 I try to do some research on any doctor I see, to get a guess as to if they care or not. I have been quite lucky, getting doctors that genuinely care
My mom’s always had erratic periods. It was maybe a year or two after she had me (over 40 years ago) that she started having symptoms of pregnancy. She went to the doctor and she was pregnant. She continued to have her period. At about the 3-4 month mark after finding out she was pregnant she had a really painful, bloody menstrual cycle. Her gynecologist said she probably had a miscarriage without even doing a pelvic exam. Over the next 12 years my mom went to the emergency room for severe pain and bleeding so bad she got anemic and a few times requiring a blood transfusion. Every time she would say that something was wrong with her uterus. The doctors she saw were of the opinion that it was simply depression because she lost her last child and hadn’t had anymore and/or the pain was all in her head. Finally, one day she went to see another gynecologist and begged for him to do an ultrasound. He said he would only do an internal ultrasound knowing it was painful and suggesting that it she really felt there was a problem she would be willing “to submit” to this procedure. No other option was given so my mom said yes. It pissed off the doctor but he scheduled her for the procedure. When they did the ultrasound, he found what appeared to be a sizable mass in her uterus. He was shocked. It was larger than a fist and the ultrasound couldn’t show what it was. He ordered a procedure to open her up and get a look at it and possibly biopsy it. My mom told him to take everything out and do a total hysterectomy. He said no, that she might still be able to have more children. She kept asking for the form to approve the total hysterectomy. After a psychologist saw my mom, they agreed, thinking she was being dramatic and scheduled her for surgery. Lo and behold she had an 8 inch mass that consisted of a calcified fetus and a completely infected uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. They immediately switched from just doing a biopsy to doing a total hysterectomy. The doctor later asked how did she know that she needed a total hysterectomy and my mom was so angry she couldn’t respond. He then told her that the fetus had died and the body couldn’t eliminate it so it tried calcifying it and eventually it cut into the uterine wall and caused infection. If she had waited a few more weeks she would’ve been septic and probably would’ve died without anyone ever knowing what she died from. Since then, getting her to see a doctor has been difficult. She feels that only if something is so bad you can’t ignore it or work past it, that that’s when she should see a doctor. I can’t exactly fault her for feeling this way but it is concerning.
Oh my gosh 😢 I'm glad she insisted
While my story isn't as bad as your mom's, that's my stance also. Bonus points for going to the doctor as a last resort because you can't stand it anymore and being dismissed because "wait and see".
It makes me so angry when doctors go over the patient's head like this, telling them what they want. They do this with female patients but not with males. Women know their own wants and needs better than anybody 🤬
Honestly, it is ridiculous that ultrasound is not done at year check ups. I tnink in Poland they do it at every yearly check up, at least once a year as a standard check.
bro the fact that the doctor even questioned her " how did u know"? like aren't the doctor is the who should know that
I have been in this situation, I suffered for 2 years. Going to emergency room and urgent care. All I can say is thank you to that doctor at another hospital who took the time to sit with me talk to me do a physical examination and knew exactly what it was. I had to get surgery but since them never had an issue. He was amazing and caring.
Ok
I had an experience as well, being in pretty bad pain for 6 months and going to multiple doctors who said it’s probably just indigestion, until one doctor said it could be indigestion but with how much pain you’re describing let’s check your gallbladder just in case. And that’s what it was, it was full of stones and needed to come out.
What you know that your talking to an kid right?
@@tiffanyhufflepuff I am glad they were able to figure it out and that you are feeling better :)
@@WinterBread00 so?
Nothing in my life has been more frustrating than repeatedly telling a surgeon where my pain was every visit for MONTHS and that surgeon minimizing me and saying my "lower back pain" (which I repeatedly told him was my hip, not my back at all--the pain was extremely lateral) was a result of not spending enough time doing physical therapy instead of the result of the rod placed in my pelvis limiting my flexibility and mobility. It is so disheartening to be repeatedly ignored by someone who is meant to be responsible for your care.
My pain management doctor only cares about making the DEA happy instead of properly treating my pain. I'm "too young" to have my body failing. Turns out I have another bulging disk in my neck pressing on the nerves and one in my low back doing the same.
that's maddening, it's like the doctor wasn't speaking the same language. Wasn't listening and as result wasn't saying anything meaningful... What did the physical therapist say? I don't know if it's the same in the US, here they are qualified to diagnose, as much as a specialist surgeon and more so than a GP
Working as a sports physiotherapist, the most frustrating thing is referring a patient, when necessary, to what should be a higher level of care, only for the MD to do a tiny fraction of what I'd already done for my patient and solve nothing. The scenario here explains a lot about why that might happen.
This is in line with my experience. The doctor was very similar to the one in the video, and my physiotherapist did so much more.
My parents are both physios. From what I've heard from them, that seems to be the case more often than not. There have been multiple times I've heard them on the phone urgently saying something like "No, this needs dealing with now! I think this patient has cancer. How did (doctor) miss this?"
An ER doctor ignored me while I was in status elipticus, saying that I was being “uncooperative” and he’d treat me like a drug seeker until I “decided to talk to him”. I was told this afterwards because, of course, I was unconscious…for a really long time. I had maybe six or more convulsive seizures and didn’t regain consciousness between them and that’s extremely dangerous. Eventually, I stopped breathing, but my partner had to get me breathing again and keep me breathing until someone showed up to do a medical thing about it because they left me alone and on my back after trying to feed me a pill.
Every seizure 101 thing they could possibly get wrong, they got wrong. It almost killed me.
Bullshit.
They LOVE treating seizure patients like we are faking or just crazy. Happened to me many times until i finally got in with a seizure clinic.
As an epileptic, this hurts. I am *so* sorry this happened
My mom was left paralyzed and using a wheelchair after radiation therapy. The doctor never told her it was a possibility and after she started losing feeling the hospital offered her no help. We bought an old wheelchair off ebay and she found resources all on her own. Each time she goes in for injections or a scan the techs still don’t even understand what being paralyzed means. Training and proper communication seriously need to be improved in the medical field. Thank you Dr.Mike for sharing this individual’s story and for never being afraid to speak up. ❤️
I am also amazed at how the care can vary from one doctor to the next at the same institution. That's why I don't make sweeping generalizations about medical groups unless it is about the administrators.
Mike this has literally been mostly my experience with doctors. I’m 36 and 90% of the the time our docs or other docs have treated us this way
100% the same. I have lost count of how many doctors I met over the years. There was ONE good doctor I have had. One.
Same, same.
Same!
Same. And it doesn’t matter if one works in the medical field or not it’s a world full of empathy and love. Now I wouldn’t ever consider changing my pcp he extends himself and is so dedicated that I felt like I was seeing the last of the ones that would even come to my home. He visits his pts even though there are hospitalists and when my mom was in a nursing home he came after hours to check on her. No extra pay. That’s also why he is booked. Everyone is on a first name basis and are sent directly information regarding labs and he sends everyone a message personally. I usually see my labs and say what I have adjusted because I am a sieve but he genuinely cares for all of his patients. Some of my other specialists rather have someone else do their job and that is sad.
Fifteen years ago at the age of 26, I was a firefighter/EMT. I walked into the ED complaining of what I believed were stroke symptoms, ..."a bloodclot somewhere." After 5 minutes with an ED resident, I was told, "Go home, it's just the flu...you're too young." No bloodwork, no exam. My BP alone, I thought, should have warranted some serious concern. I refused to leave, security escorted me out. Four hours later, I had a massive MI in the Left Anterior Descending ("Widow maker"/left ventricle) from a spontaneous dissection, ie. tear - I was lucky it clotted and caused the MI, otherwise I would not have survived. In the years since, I have been on the heart transplant list, had an experimental (at the time, in 2008) radical resection and remodel with ventricular mannequins, 4 subsequent chest wall reconstructions and soon, my second ICD/Pacer Combi installation. I felt this interview way too deeply. Had I not been so well-trained and had I not listened to myself and my body - I would have believed what the doc said in those 5 minutes...that it was "all in [my] head."
Thanks Dr.Mike for sharing this video and reaffirming that it is a patient's right to quality, integrous care! Love and light♡
OMG
What were your initial symptoms?
Bless you, dude I am so angry on your behalf!
@@SobrietyandSolace - Thank you - I was too, for a very long time. But really, who really has the energy to spend being angry all the time? Love and light to you!!♡♡
Being someone who used to work in CCU, my heart just stopped!!!!! Someone (not that doctor) was looking out for you that night. Oh my gosh. Just unreal.
I was in the ER about once a month for a year with intense abdominal pain that radiated to the back. The first time they did a scan and didn’t find anything so they never did one again. After going to the ER about once a month for about a year the attacks increased to every couple of weeks then weekly. The last time I was in the ER the doctor kept me waiting for a couple of hours with nothing to help the pain. I finally told the nurse to get him in my room now. He actually yelled from another patients room that he was dealing with a heart patient. I yelled back that I didn’t care, that I was in pain and had been there for a couple of hours. When he finally comes to my room he has a condescending attitude. He does an exam and orders some tests. A little bit later he pops in being very sweet asking how I am. I figured the test came back and wasn’t good. I was eventually admitted and had emergency surgery for my gall bladder. It was so bad they weren’t able to do it endoscopically when they tried so they had to cut me open. Afterwards I got a bad infection and the wound had to be reopened and left open to heal from the inside out. I could have avoided all that if the doctors kept running tests each visit to eventually find it was my gall bladder.
I'm so sorry you went through this! I hope you are fully healed now. A young woman I know was ultimately diagnosed with the same thing after being blown off for YEARS despite attacks so bad she would literally fall to the floor. She also ended up needing emergency surgery. So upsetting. Thank you, though, for this: "I finally told the nurse to get him in my room now. He actually yelled from another patients room that he was dealing with a heart patient. I yelled back that I didn’t care, that I was in pain and had been there for a couple of hours." 👏😂👏😂👏 I hope I remember this the next time I'm dealing with an a-hole doctor!
Healthcare as a system is completely broken. You were 100% spot on with the systemic problem of just check the boxes. Being a nurse I see this all the time. The company doesn’t care if you treat the patient correctly, just make sure you get in and out as quickly as possible so they don’t have to pay more people to treat the patients correctly. It’s honestly sickening. I’ve caught so many things by actually taking time with patients that would have gone unnoticed had I did what the company wanted. Patient to doctor/NP/nurse ratios need to be limited by law.
It is all abt the money. And the best residents move! Ugh.
It's the same out here in Australia in General Practice (essentially the same as what Dr Mike is in the US); my mother is a doctor and it costs roughly $30 for a patient to see the GP (government regulation) so the expectation that is set on GPs is to try and fit as many patient appointments in every day to maximise profit so the incentive is to only take 15 - 30 mins per patient which is absolutely not enough time to practice quality in depth medicine as a doctor. Most patients need at least a 30 min session and many require double appointments (1 hour) as they could have multiple problems or something else is discovered in a previous appointment that needs following up the next visit.
You can't speedrun medicine.
Was nowhere near as bad as it is now in America until universal healthcare.
@@frankcastle1216 Busy little troll, aren't you 🤪
I'm fom Hungary, where general healthcare is free. (There is a monthly part deducted from our salary for it. ) We still have this kind of issues of patients are not being taken seriously or that we don't get infornation that we as patients need. (I got my PCOS diagnosis at 20, I have been showing symptoms since I was 16 and the first doctor just took a look at me, touched my clit and told me that I have some learning to do. The diagnosis consisted of naming the symptoms and 1 question:Do I want to on the pill or not?) Now, I am an anxious type and I need all the infornation I can get to feel safe. But a lot of the time I stop asking questions, because the answer I got made me feel stupid or that I'm overtly dramatic, when I just don't work at the healthcare system. And this still makes me not seek care until absolutely necessary. I know, that our healthcare system is underfunded, and that there are more patients any time, than we have healthcare workers. So my theory is, that interpersonal relationships are hard, harder nowadays, and that the system just counts on good communication and empathy, but does not provide space and time for it. Not even using it as a measurement of success.
I didn’t realize that my old doctor was a “bad” doctor until I had someone else check me. Long story short I had the same doctor for many years and I always felt rushed like she didn’t care about what I had to say. I told her I was bleeding while having sex and she told me to change positions and go slow. 🤔. I kept on bleeding every time and it was getting worst. Well, I finally had someone else take a look at me, since my doctor was unavailable( lucky me) and she did a full vaginal exam. She said I was shedding skin from my walls because the BIRTH CONTROL PILLS that I was on wasn’t good. She sent me a new prescription and I’m fine now. What bothers me is that my old doctor prescribed me my old birth control, didn’t care to exam me and brushed me off. While my new doctor actually stopped to listen to what I had to say, asked questions and took action. Sorry for the long paragraph but it’s frustrating sometimes to deal with that kind of doctor and they make you forget that there are good doctors.
I get this so well. I was ignored for 7 years about pain and issues with my reproductive system. I was finally diagnosed with PCOS with endometriosis. I am now struggling to have children and I am devastated. It could have been caught early and prevented irreversible damage and chronic pain. I am so heartbroken and I encourage all women to keep going at it until you get a diagnosis that has clear evidence and not speculation. I went to 8 different doctors until I was diagnosed. Advocate for yourself. You know your body! I would NEVER wish this on anyone.
Part of this problem is the healthcare system you're on doesn't have universal healthcare and doctors are often partnered with drug companies to get you to use things that may not be to your benefit.
@💕 Tara Gouw💕 keep on getting new opinions. Don’t give up wishing you the best ♥️
Write a review.. I know Drs have hard jobs and many of them are way too rushed (not always by choice if they are paired with a hospital).. but they must be held accountable for the way they treat those they have promised to help.
I was getting nightmares from a prescription once, and oddly enough it was supposed to help with sleep, as well as nerve pain. But the nightmares made me too scared to go to sleep. Side effects really need to be looked at more, and not waiting 6 months (or longer) after starting something to have a follow up about it.
My husband had worked as an auto mechanic for nearly 30 years, and dealt with various pains on a regular basis, but toughed them out 99% of the time. A few years back though he developed this sudden, terrible pain in his shoulder, which was clearly different from the normal aches & pains. His PCP, without a physical exam or any imaging, immediately diagnosed it as a repetitive movement issue, saying, "I can't tell you how often I've seen this with mechanics- working with their hands above their heads all the time. Nothing we can do unless you want to change jobs!" We went back to that doc 2 or 3 more times within the following few months, and the guy acted irritated & insulted when my husband finally requested imaging tests (doc refused to order tests, too). We left that last appt & I drove him straight to ER. He had a torn rotator cuff, 3 torn tendons, & a mass on his bursa sac.
When I first started my job at a hospital as a nurses assistant I was seriously told this… “charting over patients”. Healthcare is such a nightmare. I like hate working in it because of how it is but at the same time can’t stop fighting to help patients and make things right🤷🏻♀️
Well, of course as long as we don't have universal health care.
I hope that more people do some internal soul searching to figure out what jobs they want to do for life that'll help people in the world, not just for prestige or money. Keep up the good work. Make Videos about how you feel. If you ever feel bad about your profession and "want to do what everyone else is doing", watch those videos to motivate your self. Here's hoping more people like you turn up in the Healthcare Industry!
We had an interesting scenario with my second child's birth. My wife went into labor rapidly, and on the 15 minute ride to the hospital, she was already pushing. As I pulled into the hospital, my child's head was already out (Isn't parenting great!), so we were freaking out. I ran in and got a nurse to help, and she basically finished the delivery herself in the car.
Well, when we got our bill weeks later, we recognized a couple discrepancies and called the hospital to complain about them. Remember, baby was born in the car and only one nurse helped at the end. We were charged a doctor's delivery fee (There was no doctor present), and we were charged an absurd amount for Labor Delivery Room, which we never entered or used. The other fees were fair, as they pertained to things that happened after the baby was born (Check ups, shots, etc), but the hospital tried to throw in an extra $4000 on the bill.
Make sure to look at your bills and question anything strange.
Oh man. So much disrespect to your family.
Ohmy God! & then what did the hospital say after that?
Just call the State review board so they can audit the hospital for billing issues. If they have done it to you, they have done it to others. After the fines, they will be monitored. You do have to disclose at any time that the state is listening in, I would choose to wait until the end to see their answers first, but it is better to disclose it early. The audit will be done way faster when they hear this is standard billing practices so they can be nailed quicker.
I remember on Twitter someone was saying something similar. They were charged some outrageous amount and asked for an itemized Bill and ended up posting less
I'm so thankful for universal healthcare in Canada. Paying for a hospital visit is so foreign. The last thing I want in an emergency situation is wondering how much debt I'll be in afterwards!
Interesting I come across this video. My boyfriends dad actually had severe, debilitating back pain that had been progressively getting worse over months. His doctor kept shrugging it off as sciatica. It got so bad he could barely walk, was rapidly losing weight and had no appetite. His doctor finally ordered an MRI and he got a call the next morning saying he needed to come back to the hospital immediately. Within hours he was rushed out of town to a bigger hospital to undergo emergency surgery on his spine to remove a tumour that had metastasized from undiagnosed stage IV prostate cancer. Things were looking grim for a while but he responded amazingly to radiation and his injections. Although his case is terminal this happened 3.5 years ago and he is still well. He was given 2-5 years in 2018.
Wow. Things like this make me sick and scare me at the same time!!! I wish there was something we could do.
Wow...I'm so very sorry he/you had to go through that.
Scumbag doctors...
Please tell me he sued the hel out of that doctor
I'm thinking of sueing for malpractice
I had painful periods for years, to the point I would actually faint and would need that full week off school.
My GP's "advice" whenever I would visit with them "Oh, once you have a baby the flow will lighten, and the pain will be less intense" (I was 14 when I was told that. Imagine being in that much pain, you actually consider pregnancy and childbirth! Insane, right?! At this point I had been having periods for 5 years and I was done already!)
When I was 22, I was diagnosed with endometriosis, and I can tell you, twenty years later, the flow has indeed not lessened nor is the pain less intense.
They are now refusing to recommend me for a hysterectomy as I am still of childbearing age.
I am 41 and have an implant. I assure you, my childbearing days are gone - whip it out, already!
That is abuse and removal of your reproductive decision rights. Be stubborn. Keep looking for a doc that will help without waiting. I got sterilized (essure) in my early/mid twenties after not accepting no from the doc in my area. Had to go to Colorado for it (from Wyoming, so just a few hour drive) Stand up for yourself, you have the right to your reproductive decisions and to have relief from pain. Women being infantilized by the medical community is unacceptable. "You might change your mind" is BS.
I got my diagnosis in my early twenties too, I feel you
Bull hockey!!!! They cannot refuse to do a hysterectomy just because of your age! You are competent and able to make your own decisions.
Find another surgeon now!!! Endometriosis is nothing to mess with.
they do that here in the Caribbean too. once you are of childbearing age and you want your tubes tied they tell you no because women have a history of changing their minds. worst yet if you want a hysterectomy (they only do those if you have cancer or some other serious illness)
I wish there was no conditions to hysterectomy other than actual physical concerns. I'd have it removed like yesterday.
I recently have been going through this only on an even larger scale. I've been seeing a rheumatologist for at least two years (positive ANA at 1200, which is VERY high) complaining of pain all over my body. I'm talking joints, muscles, nerves, dysfunctional ligaments... up until last week, they refused to even believe that my pain was as bad as it was. Once you have been diagnosed with mental illness, everything gets blamed on that. I'm not really in pain, according to my doctors, I'm just depressed. Finally my most recent appointment I suggested that I understood why I wasn't being believed, but that all of the other tests that other doctor's had done for me in the time I'd been being blown off showed nothing (MRI on lumbar and thoracic spine (did show 1 mildly herniated disc with minimal nerve involvement), x-ray of hips...) and I suggested that she actually put her hands on my joints as I move them, that you can literally feel the tendons pop and crack. You can feel the joints not move smoothly. You can feel my shoulders literally dislocate just from me moving them. She did so, and was indeed surprised by the amount of friction and hypermobility present in many of my joints. FINALLY she suggested I go to a genetic specialist for testing for EDS, and other genetic and congenital problems (I'm honestly thinking mixed connective tissue disease myself, but I'm not a doctor). There is not an organ in my body that has no symptoms (heart, kidneys, lungs, joints, nerves, muscles...). PLEASE PLEASE touch your patients. PLEASE PLEASE if they complain about extreme pain, don't wait for two years to believe them.
I quite like this format, I would love to see an interview with a chronic patient with a dubious experience from a GP. Talking from experience, I don't think it'll be hard to find an eligible candidate.
I'd volunteer
I would love this too!!
I think its safe to say that any chronic patient has at least one dubious experience sadly.
I will volunteer.
My GP failed to catch my failing kidneys for about 6 months, by the time they finally did the blood test i was in a very bad state and ended up in intensive care 3 days later. It could have been a slow, managed decline into kidney failure instead it was a sudden and traumatic crash.
Nowadays, I've pretty much accepted that the GP can't do much for me. Which isn't necessarily their fault it's a complex condition but still.
My husband was ill the entire year last year. Losing weight (50lbs - and he wasn’t big to start with). Breathless on occasion, falling, shuffling walk, severe insomnia. He was “seen” by the doc via video conference. By time we actually got into the room with her he was very weak. She didn’t even turn from her computer the entire consultation and actually shushed us when we tried to explain how worried we were - she was trying to type up her notes! She never laid hands on my husband once. We walked out of there and I said to my husband “ last time we will ever deal with her”. So fatefully true, my husband had a severe fall the next week. After a week in hospital, they discharged him home on Friday afternoon. He died at home Saturday night - feb 20th - aged 66. Massive heart attack. I saw in another of dr mikes videos where he said cpr is hard to do for a long time. I did 15- minutes waiting for emergency help. I thought I was going to die too. Sometimes I wish I had.
Hello. Please stay strong. The doctor should be sued. I wish u and ur family can overcome this. May his soul rest in peace
Sad. Even counselors are pushed to type and not listen these days. It is ridiculous. They put too much on drs and nurses. They cant take care of us. All I can get are residents, let's, etc. I see real drs names on bills and call and say "nope, never saw him or her." The old days the attending came with resident. Not anymore. I ain't lying for ANYONE!
Oh wow. I wish there was something i could say to help. Sending you love ❤️
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Your story and pain has brought tears to my eyes. Stay strong and live the life he would have wanted you to.
Story:
As a kid, when I had gone in for a surgery to get my tonsils and adenoids removed, after the adenoid surgery the doctor put in a piece of cloth up there to stop the bleeding which was supposed to get removed after the surgery was done. The doctor left that job to his assistants and the assistants forgot to remove that cloth from up there. So I spent the next few days with that cloth hanging up there and it actually started to rott and smell so bad all around me that no one in my house wanted to be near me. I remember looking in the mirror and saw something white hanging along my uvula. I was taken back to the doctor 2 times(or maybe more, I don't remember) after that and even got an x-ray for him to check. He literally just held it up for like 1 or 2 seconds and dropped it and looked over at the TV as he continued to advice or do other stuff. I kept telling everyone that he wasn't checking properly, but no one wanted to believe me, saying that the doctor knew what they were doing. Anyways, after a few more days I was taken to another doctor near my house and she checked and immediately told me to hold still. Next thing, she put this long thing in my mouth and caught something and then I remember just watching in shock as she pulled out this huge piece of cloth. I was so shocked I didn't even react. And I honestly can't explain how much relief and lighter I felt the moment she was done. All my issues were fixed after that. This doctor also told me that if I hadn't gotten it removed soon it might have fallen from there and well, you can guess what could have happened.
The doctor I went to for the surgery is a very renowned one in my country and this kind of mistake is honestly unacceptable. Specially after the visits I had after my surgery. He would check in my mouth and look at the TV, hold my x-ray up for 2 seconds and look at the TV and the way he handled it all was very unprofessional. And no one doubted him because he was so renowned. Since then I just follow my gutt in my health's case.
Alright don’t write a whole essay my guy
@@saucenado4844 Why do you even feel the need to write this comment?
Someone writes down a story that’s only a few paragraphs about how they could’ve had a serious medical complication from a doctors mistake- and that’s too long for you?
I just find your reply to be such a weird, unnecessarily antagonistic comment.
@@happythekatt8419 ok Karen chill
@@theamarkus7496 I love watching people get mad
@@saucenado4844 No u
This highlights something I've been noticing as an issue here in the UK. A lot of GPs have not resumed face to face consultations with patients since covid. Often if you do need a face to face consultation you have to have a telephone consultation (possibly not even with the doctor himself but with a practice nurse or talk to the non-emergency health line 111) and convince them that you have something that can't be dealt with over the phone or be fobbed off altogether, before you will then be allowed to make an appointment to see a doctor. I am convinced that it is taking a massive toll on the country's health, and even death toll, through things that are being misdiagnosed or missed compleatly because it's just not possible to accurately assess a patient that you can't examine (or even see). Not to mention that the practice nurses don't have the level of expertise to act as a gatekeeper to whether a person has important enough symptoms to speak to a doctor. I know multiple people who have been told they don't need to see a doctor and just left with persisting symptoms that seriously impact their lives.
People are failing to get the needed treatment or being put off from even getting health issues looked into because of how hard it is to get an appointment. The only alternative is for people to go to accident and emergency departments, which obviously puts extra strain on hospitals that should be able to consentrate on the things that are more serious than a GP level issue, and makes wait times in the accident and emergency department even longer
Hearing Dr. Mike warn about the negative outcomes of adding more and more responsibilities to the physician's workload and shortening time with patients makes the retail pharmacist in me want to scream. WHY CAN'T PEOPLE SEE THAT THIS IS A SAFETY ISSUE ?!?!
I love how he says that patients need to speak up however, a patient can speak up all they want but if their words and their voice is falling upon deaf ears it doesn't matter how loudly a patient speaks. I have discovered this over the last 4 years trying to get help to fix my hips my knees. I've been told many times that they need to be replaced however since I am under 40 I'm told I'm too young and I have to wait in the meantime they just keep prescribing this stupid pain medication and when you tell the doctor that you don't want the pain medication you want the problem fixed they say well we can help you in a few more years you got to be closer to 45. Such bullshit
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It's ageism, plan and simple. While we usually associate ageism with the discrimination, unfair dismissal, belittlement, etc of the elderly, the problem is you can get those same dismissals and belittlements for being "too young". I'm 35, myself, and I experience lower back pain and knee pain when I move around too much. I know I should get them checked out, but I also know I'll just be dismissed from anything that could help with it because I'd be considered "too young". Doctors and nurses have this engrained expectation of what problems start occurring at what age, and that combined with severe confirmation bias often leads to patients not getting the help they need.
Why they really want you to wait until you're older is that knee replacements wear out over time and a second operation and new replacements will eventually be required. I've had both knees replaced, and let me tell you, I wouldn't want to have it again. As long as you don't mind the prospect of a second operation when they wear out, in maybe 15-25 years, there are doctors who will perform the surgery on younger patients. Keep looking. You'll find someone. It takes quite a long time for most people to recover from knee replacements.
This, but doctor will not prescribe pain relief ...mine was sadistic
A doctor's mistake can take a life so they gotta be super careful.
Sadly this is why a lot of cancer goes undiagnosed, because doctors are NOT careful. And part of it has to do with the current insurance system, but part of it is also the doctor
Even without going to the extreme of loss of life, the patient is trusting them with their health. That's a tremendous responsibility and should be treated as such.
That's what malpractice insurance is for.
Dismissing a patient without doing the proper exams ins't a mistake. A mistake is something you can't help, it's called mistake for a reason.
My husband has so many stories about doctors that didn’t help me with the last year being diagnosed with a very rare autoimmune disease and in a coma. It’s crazy how some doctors were so awful and some were literally life savers for me.
He’s like a therapist, asking all these questions like “ how did this make you feel “ and “ what did you hope to happen “
Good Doctors and PAs pretty much are
Most good doctors do ask questions like that! Our emotions and mental state play a huge part of our overall health.
He sounds like both my doctors. This is how they talk to me during consultations.
@@llamawalrushybrid yeah depending on what you talk to your therapist about they usually ask those kind of questions to gauge what you felt in the situation and why it might be giving you a problem
@@llamawalrushybrid Cloning humans is a banned science. Just fyi. It falls under genetic dna manipulation which is internationally outlawed for good reason.
Best I ever felt at the doctor was when the doc told me that he didn't know what was wrong so he wasn't going to treat me at all. Let's start with a test and if that doesn't tell us what is going on (it did) then we'll move on from there. I truly appreciated the honesty! I didn't expect a miracle when I went. I just wanted to know what was wrong and what I needed to do to fix it.
After being a hospice nurse, I totally lost my faith in doctors. I have seen horrendous, inhumane procedures done to patients for the love of money.
'Tis an ancient phrase, even older than the New Testament recording of it; at least 300 years older.
"The love of money is the root of every kind of evil."
My mother in law agreed to take her husbands feeding tube out to “allow him to pass naturally” mind you, he never opened his eyes again after having brain surgery. He suffered two strokes on the table while having brain surgery!!! I was completely out done as this man starved to death!!! It took him almost two weeks to pass! Completely inhumane.
Obsession. Love is the opposite.
@@gailpromode Can't make money on a dead person unfortunately.
It sickens me too see 90 yo plus patients coming in for useless exams. I'm an MRI tech. They make 90 yo women go thru MRI breast biopsies and other tests that is in my opinion stupid.
these stories make me even feel better that i have been with some of the best doctors when it came to my serious health diagnosis of vertigo and migraines. when this event happened, I was so scared of what could happen, but I was so grateful that every doctor was very straight forward and honest about what was happening, even telling me in the ER they didn’t know what was wrong with me but they made sure I got appointments with the Neurology and ENT departments to get a better examination. Everyday I’m so grateful for all those doctors and it’s made me even not want to leave my city because of how much I trust these doctors and in the incoming ones out of the university associated with the hospital.
This “True Crime” type thing is kinda cool
“Doctor-A profession where knowledge, power, and heart come together.” The best doctors are compassionate about their patients and giving them the best care possible.
I'm studying MBBS.
Wish me luck!
@@Adit-bm7mk I wish you the best in your journey!!! 🎉
They also keep up on the latest studies. I've found the best way to find out if a doctor is competent is to bring up a relevant medical study and see how they treat you after. They will either begin to dismiss everything you say- being condescending and absolutely unhelpful, or go into a discussion with you on the study.
@@ghostratsarah yea a humble doctor will always be open to hearing what you have to say and admitting to not knowing something and wanting to know more about it, makes you respect them that much more.
If your injury isn’t visible, your doc may assume you are exaggerating. NEVER undersell your pain. If you say it is a 10, they may assume it’s more of a 5. Push too hard, and you are assumed to be a pill popper. Don’t speak for yourself, and they will call you cured.
Just be honest and straight. Look at what they write about you. If they are reviews online, look at how they treat patients like you (female and poor, in mom’s case). Second opinions are vital, especially if the first evaluation is paid for by someone else (your workplace or the state, for example. The doc may have an stereotype of people that complain about pain and are applying to workman’s comp, but the doc *you* pay for will hopefully have no such notions). Doctors are people too, and just because they are in pain management, doesn’t mean they care about your pain. BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE, find a doc that feels like a PARTNER in finding a solution, and BRING FAMILY to your appointments to ask their own questions, if it feels like you are not being taken seriously! One shy patient may be easy to brush off, one patient and all their children trying to understand why x and y are happening and what the doc plans to do about it? Harder to ignore.
PREACH 🙌🏼 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Btw found a great gi doctor after two months & finally found out that not only was my gallbladder low functioning, I had gastritis, esophagitis & multiple peptic ulcers.
@@creativewriter1046 That must have been liberating, but awful to to through. My heart goes out to you 🙏💕 I hope you find some real relief soon. There are so many options once you actually understand the source of your sickness!
One of the problems this stems from is that your system doesn't have universal healthcare. Under universal healthcare doctors aren't motivated by ulterior motivations as much since everything is covered by the state.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla I live in the UK with universal healthcare in the form of the NHS. Myself and my family have had numerous encounters with GPs (family doctors) who frankly just don't care and will fob you off with any excuse just to get you back out the door.
Putting false information on a medical report is a crime.
Spent years with my ex wife trying to diagnose a stomach pain issue that was constantly diagnosed as acid reflux, stress/anxiety, imbalanced hormones and even went as far as having her gall bladder removed. Turns out it was referred pain from a heart condition that required a minor procedure to fix. A recently graduated ER doctor finally figured it out by simply listening to her heart and running an EKG. SO many incompetent doctors out there that spend decades skating by for the money and the status of being Dr. So on and so fourth.
I remember going to the hospital due to a severe asthma attack. I mentioned this in writing form (as I was too breathless) and showed it to every professional that I was seen by. They firstly placed me in a COVID ward because they weren’t sure if I was acc asthmatic or not (despite my medical history and life long diagnosis) - so I was at an extremely high risk at this point. I saw two Doctors and 3 nurses separately who ALL had their own ideas on how I should be handled. The nurses, quite apathetically, told me that because I was “chatty and talkative” it couldn’t be asthma, didn’t even consider the fact I was extremely anxious. And one of the doctors thought I was having a pregnancy complication, despite the fact I told them I was gay and not sexually active, and you know, not pregnant. Thank the last doctor for actually listening to me and prescribed me a nebuliser which saved my life as my heart rate and oxygen levels were getting dangerous. This is my usual routine as a person with chronic asthma, if my blue inhaler isn’t working (which it wasn’t) I would go to the hospital for a nebuliser. Listen to your patients doctors. PLEASE 🙏
This is very common I find. Even in emergency medicine, they have very limited knowledge of asthma and the different presentations. Not everyone has a wheeze. Most in an asthma episode don’t have lower oxygen sats until the attack progresses into a very dangerous category. Would be awesome if they could help before it comes to that.
@@valerieprema9432 yeah it would be very awesome. I have an angry outlook on my experience considering the fact i was scared for my life, and it seemed that the professionals werent listening to me until i got into that very dangerous state of low oxygen, just wish it was handled a bit better
@@valerieprema9432 bruh, if they don't know about something as common as asthma, they shouldn't have a fXcking job TBH
Doesn't matter what your stated sexual orientation is or if you're not sexually active. If you have a uterus, pregnancy has to ruled out. As a provider, the only answer to the pregnancy question is "yes and I don't know". The onus is on the provider.
@@pnwester2697 Which is kinda messed up to be honest... Even if the patient *was* pregnant it's none of the Doctor's business. Their *patient* is their patient. Not some parasite inside of the patient.
For two years my moms doctor kept ignoring her symptoms saying she was old, she kept insisting something was wrong and he sent her to a psychiatrist bc she was “making it up” he never bothered running tests on her or anything, whole time it was leukemia
Sometimes a physical exam happens when it is not necessary. Ive never spoken to anyone about this before but it has played on my mind for years. In my mid 20s I went to the doctors for abdominal pains. He insisted on doing a pelvic exam. I think the instrument was called a speculum. In those days made of stainless steel. The doctor inserted the instrument and, leaving me with legs akimbo and the speculum inside me, walked out and went into an adjoining room. He gave me no explanation or apology. Some minutes later he came back and completed the exam. It felt so wrong. I have never forgotten it.
I was diagnosed for anxiety when I went into therapy, about 2 and half years later, was diagnosed with depression. This clinic didn't even think to prescribe medication for my mental health, which my current family physician did when he heard my story. After 3 years, they let me go because, and I quote, "didn't have the will to change". Now I've come to find out that I actually have ADHD, which was the primary cause of my anxiety and depression. The medication has been helping, and I'm currently looking for a new therapist that takes my insurance.
Idk where you live, i only know about how it works in the US but here therapists cant prescribe medication. Psychiatrists can. A lot of therapists still suck ass tho and im sorry they missed your adhd and didnt help you. Its too easy to find bad therapists. I forgot to mention therapists can and should at least ask if youd want to try meds and give refferals to psychiatrists
@@bropoke6799
Thank you.
Yeah they even asked me even though I was a teenager at the time and old enough in my state to start taking medications for mental health.
I have a wonderful psychologist now and she has been awesome.
She can't prescribe my medication directly but we both work closely with my doctor because he can prescribe the medication for me and will recommend certain medications depending on how I react to the side effects.
Yep. My whole life I've had pain in my low back, SI joint, legs and feet. Several lumbar MRIs over the years, but it wasn't until age 33 that someone finally ordered pelvic imaging. They found "adult-onset tethered cord with giant intrasacral meningocele," which is congenital and could have been surgically corrected decades earlier, but nobody ever bothered to look that low. Instead I was left disabled from the residual spinal and nerve damage. Turns out it wasn't just "growing pains" and "spasms" from "weak core muscles" after all.
Maybe when the patient has a hunch that it's more than what you think, it's okay to humor them and take a look once in a while. Just a thought.
I hada very similar experience, just recently, at 46, did they really look at the imaging and noticed I have a congenital condition where one side of my last lumbar vertebra is fused to my pelvis. This has cause many problems, currently the worst is I have a dislocated vertebra, as they do not stack correctly. So, I’ve had a life of heavy duty pain meds, when I could have had surgery at the onset of symptoms in grade school when the bones were still forming and I wouldn’t have had the scoliosis, back pain, pelvic pain, torn the labrum in the hip on that side, and on and on.
Exactly, why do so many doctors only care about getting the patient out of the building?
Really pisses me off when it’s a 5 minute check that could save someone from a life of pain.
Even so little as a dentist does this garbage.
I had back, SI, hip, neck and foot pain starting in my early teens. I couldn't tell you how many times my back pain was diagnosed as kidney infections and I was given unnecessary antibiotics, because my doctor didn't bother with the urine dip or lab testing. I was finally diagnosed with Ankylosing Spondylitis in my late 30's after nearly half my spine had fused. If I hadn't gotten uveitis (severe, damaging inflammation of the eye) and met an outstanding opthalmologist, I probably still wouldn't have a diagnosis.
@@greathoonta3461 A lot of the time it's because if they don't do everything a very specific way, including routinely trying to order things that insurance wants them to avoid ordering, they'll get kicked off the network and the insurance company will refuse to contract with them ever again. It's not always fully the fault of the doctor; The bloodsucking insurance corporations and lobbyists bear most of the fault for this garbage of a system we have.
@@lisakukla459 insurance companies infuriate me. I feel my health choices should be mine and my doctors’, not strangers without any medical training or knowledge of my case. It is ridiculous that anyone can get these insurance jobs, as it is mindless policy following…and policy written by MBAs with making money as their goal.
I’ve had doctors that have had to argue with my insurance to cover a prescription with no generic, that the insurance company insisted on only the generic. I paid fully out of pocket for a 10 year, required, MRI…and I am disabled.
When Dr. Mike rats out on something serious, you gotta listen to it fully.
It’s not ratting out when he’s bringing light to many situations that actually occur but no one talks about.
What the hell do you mean "rats out"?!!?
Wow! In 2017, I started experiencing extreme back pain that indicated to me there was a SERIOUS issue- went to the doctor FOUR times within a week- the last of which, I had to be picked up on side of road and delivered to ER- it was a 10mm kidney stone- had been blocking off my kidney the whole time which led to some permanent damage even after ER removal/ stent. It was a horrifying experience and I still don't understand how it was missed so many times
Sadly, ignorance, lots of ignorance
I remember for months going back to my old Dr. when I was having problems with my throat. Nothing was changing and I felt like I was getting worse. One day she prescribed me a medication that I had an allergic reaction to (mild throat swelling) and the next day i made a new appointment with a new Dr in the same office. Found out so many other things that I was never told was wrong and that I needed to work on. Second opinions are worth it.
I once got in a bad bicycle accident late at night that put me in the ER. The hospital that I went to was using contracted doctors. The doctor I ended up with only asked me my name and what was wrong. After explaining that I had injured both my arms, he wrote on his clipboard and proceeded to say something along the lines of, "you look hurt, but I'm going home." Those weren't his exact words of course, this was a couple years ago. I felt at the time that the doctor believed I was faking my injuries in hopes of getting meds. He left after the comment and never came back. I ended up falling asleep in a wheel chair while crying to myself in pain. A nurse came and found me around 5am, still in the wheel chair and gingerly holding my arms the best I could. By the time they got me in for x-rays, my left arm would not straighten out. I had a sprained wrist and an overextended elbow with a hairline fracture. They didn't give me anything, not that I cared at that point, nor did they attempt to treat my injuries. I ended up going to another doctor to get; a sling, a temporary cast, and a brace. I told the doctor that if meds is a huge concern, fine, I'll deal with the pain. But I have concerns about my arm that need to be looked at. The second visit was a lot nicer. I to this day would rather die then go back to that first hospital. I'm not a drug user. They didn't know my medical history, they learned I didn't have insurance and proceeded to treat me like trash and filth rather than do their job. I don't make regular trips to the ER. I get seriously injured maybe one time in 5-10 years due to poorly made decisions. 😕 I wish I could remember his name, I have a few choice words for him and his lack of care.
Boy, can I relate to this. I have an older brother and a younger sister. All three of us have experienced unexpected unemployment and loss of health insurance. All three of us were treated like dirt by the medical types because of it. 👎🏻
Same my eye doctor is acting strange
I saw the nurse unhappy with him !😢
"All the glitters is not gold. Not glitter but gold service" He's 100% right 👍👏
He said Gold Service, didn't he??
@@hallowedmoth638 i don't remember 😅 but thanks
This is happening to me right now!!!! The frustration and lack of care is inexcusable. And I’m a two time cancer survivor!!!
Best thing I had happening so far was an orthopedic surgeon telling me "You don't have any pain, there's nothing wrong, you're just too lazy to work" (not his exact words, but strongly suggested)
After I've fallen down the stairs last January and my foot wouldn't really improve much for like 3 months, I got no transfer to MRI, no physical therapy, nothing. "You don't need it, since there's nothing wrong." (his exact words this time)
They just let me wait it out and then sent me back to work.
After a few days I couldn't walk at all again, so I went to seek help from another doctor (and back on sick leave), am still fighting to get this fixed so I can go back to work (and life). =(
(Germany)
Oh, but there's good news: The surgeon who took over last week actually asked me *where* my pain was exactly :D First doctor to do so!
That's goood to hearr! Get well soon!
Get well soon! :D
Get well soon!
Here at sean's world
If you have issues WE WILL SOLVE THEM
no matter what
i had extreme vitamin deficiencies (found later on) and couldnt stay awake more than 4 hours a day. insane i know....i told the doctor and he told me: nah youre fine everyone gets tired...
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im not gonna tell you how i felt ,you can imagine.
I'd love to see someone interviewed who experienced birth trauma, particularly if there was a loss of autonomy during the process. It's extremely common and I'm sure a LOT of viewers would appreciate the commentary and advice on handling those situations, during and afterwards.
ITA!!! So many women (myself included) are assaulted during the birthing process. I felt like I had been raped after my third child was born. The entire process was an absolute nightmare, from beginning to end. What should have been a wonderful day was one of the worst days of my life.
I have birth trauma from the birth of my third child. The surgeon decided to do an adhesion removal without permission and ended up making it so much worse. My internal organs are basically tied together with scar tissue and I have so much pain from it.
Currently pregnant with my second and upon telling my midwife my experiences with my first, she's shocked and impressed that I haven't been scarred enough to not want another child because I was treated so poorly 😂
Im still traumatised from my birth and my child's 9!!
@@pristineprincess4218 congratulations and I hope things go better this time!! :)
I had a doctor diagnose me without doing an exam. I questioned her and her response was “I didn’t get to where I am by being wrong”. This was after waiting in her office 90 minutes past my appointment time. I was in severe pain and I cried out of complete frustration, to which she acted like I was a basket case. Well, her diagnosis was wrong. She wasn’t even close.
This is literally happening to me right now! I have given up on the health care system. I feel like I'm getting past from doctor to doctor.
This really highlights the need for patient advocacy. It is so horrid feeling as though you can’t speak up when something doesn’t feel right just because you don’t have a degree.
What is really frightening is that this has even happened to people WITH a medical degree. I heard the testimony of a black female doctor who had to go to the emergency room and her own colleagues were telling her she didn't know what she was talking about! Being female and being POC are aggravating factors
My trust in doctors has gone way down in the last few years!! I went to see a new doctor because the clinic I had been going to had closed. So this new doctor had been recommended to me by a doctor friend. New doctor walks into exam room, introduces herself so I put out my hand to greet her, she bypassed my out-stretched arm and sat down on the far side of the room. Mind you this is long before covid. She asks a few question, ask me if I need refills for my usual medications and that was it. She never came near me, never touched me, never listened to my heart or lungs, never looked at my ears, eyes or throat. I have NEVER been to a doctor's office where they do not listen to your heart and check other things. Needless to say, I never went back to that doctor. What this doctor says in this video is so true that we as patients lose trust in doctors so much so that we do not seek treatment. Another time I had fallen down some stairs and thought I was fine, but a few days later I was having trouble breathing. So went to the E.R. and they took an x-ray and I had busted a rib. The doctor came in and said there is nothing they can do for a busted rib and she was telling me to leave. I said hey but I can not breathe, (I have asthma), the doctor looked at me and said what do you want me to do about that. I was shocked. So I told her that a breathing treatment would probably help me out. She looked at me and asked can't you do that at home? I told her no I can not, I do not have a breathing machine, (nebulizer). So she huffed out the exam room and I was hooked up for my breathing treatment. I got out of there as fast as I could. And doctors wonder why we as patients don't want to come in for appointments.
My doctor’s assistant lost my test results, told me everything was fine and then didn’t bother letting me know when they didn’t find them. I only found out because a nurse contacted me asking how I was handling the new medications for the newly diagnosed illness I had but wasn’t actually told about 😡
Thank you for doing this. I was recently diagnosed at the ER as having a soft tissue injury from a fall. I was also told I would be prescribed a prescription NSAID for the pain. Turns out that not only did the doctor forget to write the prescription, but whoever looked at the x-rays also missed a very obvious fracture.
I’m SO thankful for my primary doctor. I always feel heard and respected. I’m an artist and have ADHD so when he explains something, he draws it on the exam table paper because he knows it’s how I learn best - SO I CAN UNDERSTAND what’s going on with my health and make informed decisions and take an active role in my treatment plan. He discovered I had pancreatic divism and biliary dyskinesia. Absolutely brilliant and compassionate, and PASSIONATE about his profession. Cheers to all the family med docs and their amazing staff 💖
That doctor sounds absolutely amazing.
My Doctor was a general practitioner and I really liked going to him because even if he was late, he didn't rush me and he knew that I wasn't even on too many pharmaceuticals, so he always gave me natural ways first, if it didn't improve then we'd do pills. I think that some doctors that don't have the bells and whistles can sometimes be better because they are so focused on the patient.
A second opinion from another doctor saved my life when stomach pain turned out being a ruptured appendix.
my husband went to the ER when he had appendicitis, and he told the doctor he thought that was what he had, and the doctor thought it couldn't be that because it came on too quickly, and my husband just insisted he do the exam regardless, and sure enough, appendicitis!
I love the line “if I can point to what hurt I expect them to touch around there.” I think electronic medical chart (“box checking” software) has greatly harmed the quality of patient exams and rapport during appointments. We spend so much time covering the required questions on the form instead of the questions related to your specific issues/complaints.
I had a very similar experience when I was a preteen/young teen. I was very average in my weight at 6-7(around early hormonal changes for puberty), and within the next 6mo I gained 100lbs with no major diet changes. I continued to gain weight over the course of my teen years. Once I started puberty, I had severe cramps and incredibly heavy bleeding. The cramps were bad enough that I couldn’t walk even on pain medication. The bleeding my was bad enough that I developed chronic anemia from iron deficiency. I also had horrible, debilitating migraines, hot flashes, mood swings, and cravings. (Mind you I was 13!) So in response, my doctor continued to order routine blood tests that only checked my iron levels and told me to see a nutritionist so we could improve my eating habits. Long story short, her insistence that this was only about dietary choices, I developed EDs. (She noted in my chart that I was diagnosed with “chronic unexplained weight gain” and severe dysmenorrhea in the chart) I would go days or weeks without eating and barely eat when I did. Lo and behold I continued to gain weight. I couldn’t be diagnosed with anorexia because I was overweight, but was constantly on the verge of passing out from malnourishment. Eventually, after 4 years of all this, I was put on birth control and most of my symptoms became tolerable, but we still had no idea why they were happening. When I reached adulthood, I couldn’t take her style of ‘medicine’ anymore, as besides this she had the bedside manner of a toddler and was constantly rude. I switched to a new doctor and within a year of seeing her I bust into tears and explained the full history and that I was scared that I may struggle with infertility after all these hormonal issues. She agreed that I had every right to be concerned and ordered a full metabolic panel. Lo and behold, while my sugar levels were completely normal, my insulin levels were 3x what was expected. I was put on a medication often used for diabetes treatment, and for the first time since I was a prepubescent child, I stopped gaining weight. We’ve continued to explore treatments and I am on a waitlist to see a obgyn to see what hormonal imbalances may be causing this crazy insulin response. But in one panel, my new doctor answered questions I had had for more that half my life, all because she actually believed I was suffering.
Get checked for PCOS
@@howtowithelizabeth7513 I have, I have enough of the markers that I need regular exams, but not enough to warrant a treatment. We’re still exploring options. At the moment we’re treating the metabolic issues and going from there.
Love how honest, educational and realistic dr mike is
He is totally interviewing himself 🤦🏻♂️
Yup, very useful.
@@nfboogaard Yeap. My thoughts exactly. You can tell the patient has medical knowledge and the choice of words.
@@yadclass I don't think the patient having decent amount of information is really suspicious, i know alot of people who go regularly to the hospital and follow up with appointments, these people learn alot of information about health care during their long-term treatment.
I'm a nurse/paramedic that sees this kind of thing all the time. Doctors write orders based on a chief complaint without seeing the patient. They get the results, spend 2 min in the room explaining the results, and then turf them to a specialist. However, if you read their notes- it sounds like they did a full physical exam and spent 30 minutes in the patient's room.
💯- I am an OT who used to work in acute care. I’d try to mobilize covid patients and they’d barely be able to tolerate sitting at the edge of the bed, sats dropping. docs would be in there for less than a minute and then later write “pt had no complaints, ambulating with PT.” 😐
And I've had older relatives who have complained that the doctor's in and out so fast that it's hard for them to figure out how to describe their symptoms fast enough to tell the doctor before they're ready to move on.
One of my doctors literally overdosed me and almost made me go into an coma. Went to him for about a year. I wanted to sue him because he also works with a lot of older people like 60’s and up. He could kill someone and no one would know it was him.
Thank you for talking so openly about this. I wish more people would.
This happened to me. Doctor never did a physical exam or any testing, told me to stop talking, and his treatment made the migraines worse. Discovered he wrote in my chart that the procedure 'was well tolerated, and patient reported almost complete resolution of headaches.' I'm now struggling to get a referral away from him.
I've been cussed out by doctors, nurses and psychiatric 'professionals'. I've come to learn there aren't any good ones unless you are wealthy.
I've had medical records be incorrect as well, and unfortunately that has impacted the care I've received since then. It is a real widespread issue and is very discouraging when you have legitimate health issues and pain. It personally makes me avoid doctors as much as possible, and because of medical neglect, I've almost lost my life twice. Only reason that I'm here is because I continued to search for doctors/specialists that were willing to look for one of the problems. Had I of listened to negligent physicians, I'd be long gone.
We really need a lot of change in U.S. Healthcare, particularly for women.
Starting around middle school I started experiencing a whole host of health problems and my doctor was absolutely useless. It got to the point where my attendance was so low that the school kicked me out at 16 and my parents didnt believe me when I told them my symptoms and pain because there was so many different symptoms and they changed from day to day and in severity. He would only see me for 1 rushed issue per appointment so he never took the time to put together my complex chronic pain condition, migraines and ibs. All of it was blamed on me being a rebellious teenager and not a depressed teenager who doesnt know whats wrong with them and whos doctor failed them and is facing family hardship. Finally my mom got him to refer me to her doctor and it became incredible obvious how negligent my family doctor had been towards my pain. Doctors have a hard enough time taking womens pain seriously and its even more so when your a teen. Luckily I live in Canada with free healthcare and im now living independent on disability but having a doctor who paid attention and took me seriously would have saved an immense amount of trauma and distress. It was so bad for a long time that I was suicidal and all of it could have been avoided. Instead I was given anti inflammatory creams for nerve pain (which is useless) and told to take advil or tylenol. Now with the help of an amazing specialist and pain medication im able to live a somewhat normal life, providing the government doesnt some how mess that up for those of us who actually need it for chronic pain. No longer suffer from IBS and headaches near daily either due to meds. Always get a second opinion. I wish I was referred to my pain specialist sooner. If this sounds like you, look up fibromyalia. Invisible illnesses are real.
So glad you were finally able to access some real help & find successful symptoms management solutions! (& oof re that very real fear re various govts' tendency to reduce already-marginal disability support even further without warning! 😵)
100% concur re the way chronic pain is too often dismissed by GPs, alas (esp. in female-presenting patients, as confirmed by ongoing health services research). People with fibromyalgia frequently spend years basically being gaslit by the medical professions, before finally finding a doctor who'll do more than just throw some basic painkillers at it & move on. This seems to happen even more where fibro's comorbid with mental health conditions, &/or other related conditions such as PCOS or IBS.
Would definitely second your advice, too. If anyone out there suffers from diffuse persistent pain, increasingly weird environmental sensitivities, & intermittent mental fog, please: do chat to your doc about fibromyalgia? Latest medical research is finally confirming it as an autoimmune disorder not just a neurological problem, so here's hoping that may increase awareness & openness to learning about it amongst general practitioners. Getting referred to a real pain management team was (in my experience) a huge help: although the condition can't be cured yet, better understanding definitely helped combat the huge frustration & feeling of helplessness it had caused?
Doctors have to be held accountable point blank.
I appreciate when you do videos like this. My mom almost died because a doctor refused to give her a colonoscopy when she told him something was wrong. It turned out one of the medications prescribed to her gave her ulcers and she almost bled out. I was 14 and my sister was 17. My sister didn't have a license but we had to drive her to the hospital because my mom refused to let us call 911. Later when my mom asked the doctor who refused to give her proper care for her records, so she could sue the company that made the medicine, he sent her a letter saying she was no longer a patient and refused to give her the records. Because of the cost from a week in the hospital, she couldn't afford nor did she have the energy to get a sapena. She still has all kinds of medical issues and refuses to go to the hospital unless we pressure her.
Yeah she shouldn't have probably said she would sue you have to hit them with a surprise and she has a right to her records if there is still time should look into a malpractice suit or something
They legally can’t withhold records as far as I’m aware!
In the US, I can file a complaint with the federal Department of Health and Human Services. By HIPAA law, a patient and/or their legal guardian have a right to review their medical records. You cannot be denied for almost ANY reason.
Woooh triggering topic but handled extremely well. Disabled people and poc know this story back to front, I've had everything from forced inpatient and accusations of faking or hiding things (proven wrong & their fault later!!) to years of repeated misdiagnoses from doctors who either didn't care or didn't have the time to actually evaluate my situation and think it over. The healthcare system is broken so much further than with acute athletic injuries but the fact that it's EVEN happening for these types of visits is probably the best indicator that the field needs fixing.
Thank you for highlighting stuff like this, seriously. It means a lot to have the discussion raised. I'd love to see resources on how to deal with this as a patient; how to report doctors, when (and when NOT to), how to discuss issues with a doctor or inpatient stay with hospital systems in ways that actually gets them to listen.. if that's even possible.
I have been medically gaslit my whole life and I'm white, the system is manufactured for everyone to be ill in someway..the medical industrial complex is truly equality dear!
The PA took extensive notes every time I went in, before the doctor would even enter the room. The doctor would come in and just visit for 5 minutes. The doctor was mystified by my symptoms. At the doctors request, I went in every two weeks for months. Eventually, time healed my pain. The last time I saw my doctor, they made some odd comments. That was when I realized, they didn't even know MY symptoms and had never even read the PA's notes. I was paying to visit them, and they were not even really interested in helping me. Pretty sure I was just and insurance cash cow. I could saved my time/money, stayed home, and had the same results.
I’m sad to hear that is the reality for the healthcare system not only in the Us but in Canada. I’ve left the doctor’s crying because I felt so overlooked and brushed off. I was seeking care rover a real concern and the best my doctor could say was “I’ll give you a referral because you’re nice people. But they’ll laugh at me because there’s nothing wrong”. Now I’m scared to go to the doctors office or hospital due to this mistreatment. (I won’t even start on how hospital staff have treated me over the years)
Ugh, I can relate - being blown off by 4 specialists and when I finally get the medical records a year later, they lied on them. A diagnosis journey that should have taken no more than 2 months ended up taking over a year because of it. Unfortunately, I hadn't started audio recording every appointment yet, so I don't have the audio from those.
So disgusting that some “doctors” would do this
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It took 15 years for me to be diagnosed with primary aldosteronism. I have kidney damage from the uncontrolled high BP. No doctor lied, but no one listened! I finally had an adrenalectomy 3 weeks ago!
Good luck to your recovery! A loved one of mine had their adrenal glands removed and it takes a long time to get your body running relatively normally with the replacement medication (and to learn to recognize or predict when you need to up the dose and such).
@@enenenergp thank you so much! I’ve already had relief from some symptoms and in the end, this will all be worth it!
I have a similar story. I had pain in my stomach, and went to the doctor, then he took an X-ray and said it was gas, but the “gas” got way worse, like somebody put a rock inside me. So we went to another doctor, and they said my appendix was about 3x the size it was supposed to be, and it could have exploded and I could have died if I didn’t go to the second doctor…