I thought the surgeon who was going to removing my thyroid was kind of arrogant-then I learned how many surgeries he did, how many people were pleased with his work. I realized he wasn’t arrogant- he had well earned competent confidence!
Doctors / surgeons are human just like the rest of us. Some are humble, others are over confident. Also, medicine is not perfect. Sometimes unexpected things happen. The best surgeon in the world will lose patients, because "stuff happens".
Regarding aspirin…doesn’t the literature state that it’s not recommended that someone start low dose aspirin therapy if they have not had a heart attack. The risks outweigh the benefits. I’ve walked around for years untreated for multiple autoimmune disorders due to arrogant ignorant medical “professionals”. Permanent damage had been done because tests past a CBC and a couple routine rheum tests were not done. It wasn’t until I almost died and was treated by an infectious disease specialist did I finally get answers!! It’s disgusting how many practicing doctors shouldn’t be.
Unfortunately if you do that a few times, they'll start thinking you're doctor shopping. And sometimes people don't have the luxury to keep switching doctors, for example, my insurance allows one pcp switch annually. So I have to hope they're competent. I try to build a good relationship with doctors and keep them as long as possible.
@@ijustrealllylikecats You hit the nail on the head! It also depends where you live. In our smaller, semi-rural community we don't have many physicians. Changing to a new primay physician means looking in neighboring towns. Since we don't have much in the way of public transportation around here, good luck getting there if you no longer drive. So, many patients stick with what they have out of necessity. So sad.
Bravo Dr. Kavah! If only I had seen this video a day sooner, it would have saved me a lot of mental anguish and pain! I had an appointment with my pain specialist. I asked him if he could write a short script for something that would help with the pain. He said sure,no problem. I'm still waiting! I have Osteoporosis so I know it will take longer to heal. The ER doc wanted to give me a script. I told him that I could not accept it. Pain clinic rules! I have a non narcotic pain pump in the lumbar region, I don't think that it would reach my chest! Are all of these pompous doc's Narcissists? I thank you for all you do. I can't believe that a doctor would actually challenge you and your loved one. My vet treats my dog better than this doc treated me! Please keep spreading the word😊
I trained in one of the top 4 medical centers in the nation. Our department chair was also the head of the entire complex with over 120,000 employees. So, he was a very powerful individual. You approach the problem of the arrogant physician just like he did. "If you are arrogant, you are ignorant!" He also hated the use of medical jargon. "If you have to use jargon, you do not understand the topic." I love your use of the concept of honesty. We are blessed to be in the position of helping others. You clearly take that seriously. Thank You Sir !
WOW !! "If you can't MAKE your patient . . " After 30 years, I have never Made a patient do anything (apart from involuntary commitments). I can't wrap my head around understanding that type of thinking. @@katiekane5247
@Crunchycon01excellent comeback from your dad! I’ve worked in the medical field since 97 and am not a provider but typically find they hate when we know what they’re talking about & try to tell them we want to try other things not the same crap the last 150 patients did.
One of the best comments I heard made to a doctor was when I was a Military Police soldier serving at Fort Benning, GA was when we had taken a lady in for a rape kit. The doctor was very frustrated with her because she was so scared of the procedure. My patrol supervisor went up to the doctor and said, "Doctor, this may be your 100th time doing a rape kit but this is her first." That shut him up real fast.
Oh gosh, that is such a poignant example. This is an everyday occurrence in the operating room. While it is a rough example, I appreciate you sharing that very much 🙏
@@jasondthompson Thank you. Yes, he was a very good team leader. I find this to be excellent advice for us all to consider, regardless of our profession.
One of the best Dr’s I ever had was an OBGYN I hardly knew. He spent 10 minutes on my exam (all that was needed) and 20 minutes with me in his office after. He asked me about my 2 children and how they were doing, how my Husband was, how I’m doing in general, how I’m handling the stress of daily life. After leaving, I cried! Why can’t all Dr’s be this compassionate about their patients!? It’s not that hard! He simply acted like a gentle human being. No arrogance at all.
One of my specialists retired a couple of years ago. I knew my care wouldn't be as good, as he picked up the slack and corrected some errors my GPs made. I still miss him. He knew my son, as he had done work on his computer system when the EMR systems became required. Hang onto those gems! We need FAR more like them!
Sadly, they can’t-they don’t have the time. Most doctors would LOVE to spend time, but they can’t. They are slated to spend so many minutes with each patient. Our healthcare system is broken.
After several appointments where I left the doctor office feeling terrible about myself because of how she treated me, I went out into the lobby to not make the next appointment, but to let them know I would not be returning. I was calm and matter of fact, resolved. The receptionist got a defensive look and said, “if you leave, you will not be allowed to return.” I told her I was fine as I had no intention of returning. “Not allowed” with no inquiry as to why I was leaving. That told me everything about my suspicions of the egotistical and immature level (lack of) professionalism of the doctor and the office accepting this as normal. (Well before covid arrived)
Crappy doctors typically have crappy matching support staff. Sometimes they do "bad cop" meanie rude staff and "good cop" doctor, but doctors know how their staff treat patients, believe me.
I have told doctors off a few times. They really needed it. I have also had a few really outstanding doctors. It's my money and my body and they're just working for me. The arrogant doctors aren't the worst problem, it's the dull witted ones that injure people who cause most of the problems.
Retired nurse here. I have often wondered what circumstances cause this arrogance and rude behavior. It could be that they were arrogant as a teen and decided to become a doctor for the status and power. The god complex.
@@nbeezhao The field attracts people who have something to prove, then there is ritualized hazing in training (nurses eating their young, and residency, respectively), then they experience events and bad working conditions that would traumatize and burn out anybody. I think they could all use mandatory therapy. In my experience alot of OBs are misogynists. Probably mommy issues.
I had a nurse practitioner tell me that I had failed the different medications that she had proscribed to try to lower my BP. The meds didn't work, but I failed them. She was fired. The MD I replaced her with was just as bad. I fired him as well. Funny thing is, nobody ordered any tests. Just airily said, "Well, some people just have to take more than one pill to lower their BP." I knew there was something else going on, and there was.
Eleven years ago, I had the misfortune of going to totally arrogant doctor. After waiting for 2 hours, I finally saw him. He asked me how I was; and I told him that my time was valuable, too. To this he replied, "Well, I am not some hairdresser." I told him that there was nothing wrong with being a hairs dresser. I also told him, "I am an elementary teacher and if it wasn't for me and my fellow educators, he wouldn't have a job." That shut him up and I walked out of his office.
parkemock4283, It would have been understandable if he had said the last few patients needed more time & care... I r like my Ob/Gyn, who was always checking on Mothers in delivery or actually delivering the babies... Im glad you found a good doctor & I hope he gave his attitude some thought!
Thank you for helping us advocate for our own health. My new doctor after I walked out on the old one, when I now go to see him, he sits down from the get go and from the first visit I have seen him and says to me, "I am here to listen tell me everything" its a relief to finally have a doctor to listen. It also has greatly improved my health also.
Finding a good doctor is very rare in recent years and just about impossible where I live in N.E.Pa. The good ones often move away. I wish you a long & benefical relation with your caring doctor. Hold on to him as long as you can.
I had one cardiologist ask me why I was there in such an obnoxious way. We talked & then he called his receptionist in front of me and asked why they allowed me to come to his office? I was so shocked. I should’ve left that office immediately. I complained to my insurance company about him and actually got an agent who suffered the same illness I did. They told me that they would follow up on my complaint. I’ve had Endometriosis for 50, yes, 50 years and can’t count the arrogance and incompetence I’ve encountered. Women are still not treated well by this profession.
Well said. I have some medical knowledge and when I have to explain my health problems to the doctor I can use a technical language. This bothers incompetent and arrogant doctors whereas confident physicians find it useful in order to focus on the problem...sometimes arrogant doctors have such a sense of superiority that do not explain clearly the health problem to their patients...
My wife had her knee replaced. After surgery they hitched up a refrigeration unit to pump ice water to a wrap around the knee. In her hospital room after recovery I found it was pumping but not refrigerating. Her nurse ignored me. Her nursing supervisor told me I didn't know what I was talking about and that the technician had already gone home for the day. My voice dropped two octaves. "You dont understand what I am saying, your nursing license and personal finances may depend upon how she supported my wife at this critical time after surgery and are you going to make the phone call or am I going over her head. Every second you waste further complicates recovery. I will get this equipment fixed with or without you. If without you my lawyer will be involved." The tech rushed back to work and brought up another refrigeration/water pump unit. Installed it, made sure it worked and apologized profusely. I asked him to speak to the nurse telling her that I was correct and that she should have listened to me sooner. I spoke to the doctor about this the next day and he said he would have the nurses involved "re-educated" about the role of family as patient advocates.
@Phil, you did a great job advocating for your wife. I believe every patient needs a person doing this. The squeaky wheel gets the oil. Unfortunately, the Dr probably left the room shaking his head and said nothing to the nursing staff. I lost a husband to leukemia. It was an uphill battle the whole way. In the last 60 days of his life, his oncologist asked if he could take me on rounds instead of the new interns. I chuckled and said no that I simply can't do this for a living.
Praise God for being your wife’s advocate. Usually my experience as a woman is the health care worker just ignores the complaint and when complications arise my insurance company adjuster told me I was just “unlucky”. 🤬
You speak to people that way and feel you are behaving appropriately? Coming from a family almost entirely comprised of physicians I can assure you, your wife more than likely paid for your horrible attitude in ways you are completely unaware of..
@@Teenywing Horrible attitude? Two professional employees were told or a serious complicaiton to recovery and did nothing. And you think I have an attitude. What about the attitude of the two people who didn't even check what I was informing them about. An attitude of carelessness and negligence? My wife was three hours out of her second knee replacement surgery complaining her knee was on fire. I put my hand in where there should be ice water circulating and it was about 103F. I was very polite until I was told I didn't know what I was talking about. This was her second knee replacement. I was used to putting that unit on her, used to helping her with PT. After I went up the chain of command someone who hadn't even checked it the way I did told me I didn't know what I was talking about. And you think I should not get upset. I didn't get loud, I got low and quiet. After the tech came back in to work he quickly set up one that worked. How about the nurses should have checked it when she first got on the floor after leaving recovery? Is that too much to ask? And her room nurse and the nursing supervisor didn't even slip their hand in to check the temperature of the wrap after I notified them. I don't care what you think, a strong patient advocate needs to be there at all times. Nurses and doctors always assume things are going normal. Another time in an ER with a friend as patient advocate; I had to teach a resident how to insert an NG tube. Because as he was pushing it in it kept getting jammed and causing my friend to gag uncontrollably. Side note, my friend had titanium rods along the spine, so that gagging was stressing every muscle against those rods. That visibly hurt to the point of tears. What I told the resident he had one last chance and this is what he would do. When it gets to that point of resistance let go of it, rotate your hand around it, grab it, then rotate the tube then push. And guess what, it worked. He went from annoyed with both of us to instantly amazed that a patient advocate could teach him something. And what I taught him was basic plumbing, running a snake around a corner., being able to visualize a jam and take advantage of the natural curl in the inserted object. Oh, and then there was the time my wife's BiPAP hadn't been released by respiratory therapy and I asked them to call and remind them that a patient was waiting for it. We'll just let her sleep, and her blood O2 dropped and set off an alarm. I reminded them and she said they still hadn't called, but soon did. Five minutes later there it was. Twenty minutes later she was sleeping peacefully without supplemental O2. So by my scorecard I'm 3 of 3 as a patient advocate. And frankly, I'm pleased with that record. I took care of my wife and a close friend when the professionals didn't, either out of lack of caring or lack of knowledge. If you think that someone would retaliate on a patient because of a patient advocate, perhaps you should re-evaluate your attitude and that of your family. As for me, I shall continue. I've seen my results.
And I had a dr that was arrogant. I came back to get a refill on a medicine that he prescribed. He said he did not give me that medication. When I showed him the bottle with his name and date. He threw a temper tantrum and threw his clipboard on the floor and walked out of the exam room.. lol As i was walking out I told him to grow up and use your words..
I had that happen to me too. Dr gave me a medication and kept me on it for two years. After the third visit he yelled at me for using it that long when he prescribed it twice with no advice for when to stop it. I'm so sick of the incompetent Drs.
I have suffered from PTSD for 50 from an ‘arrogant’ Dr I had in the ER after being in a car accident when I was in high school. I didn’t not got to a Dr for over 40yrs because of it. If I walked into a Drs office or hospital I would pass out. Listening to Drs like you give me hope. I don’t have the words to thank you for these posts.
I have what They laughingly refer to as ‘white coat hypertension’ because my blood pressure skyrockets at Dr appts. They act like it’s normal but it’s caused by extreme frustration. I never realized that it’s actually a symptom of PTSD, thanks for helping me see that. I hope you’re doing well.
I am so, so sorry. thank you for posting. that is happening to me after cataract surgery. trying to get someone to correct my eyesight after he took it from me. he was a horrble bully. It takes all that I have to even make an appointment then trying not to come unglued at the dr.s office. PTSD. wishing you good days
@@SuzyQpip sorry for your bad experience. I had a patient once who was a doctor herself. She had white coat syndrome, and freely admitted it to me, her midwife. We used to combine creative visualisation and laughter to little avail. Her blood pressure was much higher when she went to the hospital. However, she managed to have two normal pregnancies and births, thanks to being honest about her anxieties amongst her peers. She is probably an excellent Dr in general practice as a result of her experiences.
You are very correct. I have been a hospital nurse for over 35 years. Arrogance many times comes from inexperience and insecurities. I have seen many new doctors act like this...then in time they get over it and start acting confident and competent. At first, It's like they have something to prove....a chip on their shoulder. I always tell my nurses to be patient and give them time. I also tell the new doctors to listen to my nurses and learn from them, they know a lot
My daughter and I simply will not put up with arrogant doctors and have walked out of more than one's office. But my most favorite of these happened a number of years ago. In the military, getting breast-reduction surgery was virtually impossible. However, because military plastic surgeons have to keep up in their field, they will sometimes provide a surgery for a family member. So we had to apply and then the surgeon would interview applicants. I was one chosen to be seen. I go to his office and tell him I'm interested in breast reduction. He looks me over, then pronounces that the size of my breasts is what balances the size of my butt and I would fall over without them. Since I already understood that I had nothing to lose, I poked him in his paunch and asked him how he kept his balance! As I left the room laughing my head off, it was quite satisfying to see that he was turning purple and it looked like his head was going to explode!! 😂😂😂
Great story! I told one a few months ago that if he expected to be sought after by patients, he should cease talking over them immediately. He was with an entire group of doctors making rounds after my spine surgery. The neurosurgery resident had his back to the dude and he winked at me. Apparently I was giving advice the others already recognized that he needed.
My son is in anesthesiologist school and just started his clinicals. I hope he can be a doctor like you, very kind and truly cares for the patient. Thanks for your videos!!
Your son is screwed. And no you don't want him to be like some RUclipsr who tells people how to massage insecure physicians' egos. Lol. The profession has gone way way down in quality ever since the Rockefellers took it over a hundred years ago. The standards for who would be in te profession used to be much higher before they did so. Now medical schools and residency programs will take whoever paid to play as long as they got their little "pass" marks.
I used to be a medical secretary in a large cardiology practice. Several of the doctors were fairly arrogant. I left there to work at a hospice house. I love the doctor there. She is not only a very knowledgeable, skilled, compassionate doctor, but such a down to earth, sweet, fun, humble person who manages to have a very balanced home and work life. I tell her even though I don't have a need for hospice that she is my favorite doctor.
oh god my father was a cardiac surgeon and he was SO ARROGANT. he really was. he was very famous and extremely skilled, and his patients loved him, but the nurses called him a literal nazi behind his back.. he earned his reputation as the very best, but we all could have used a little less npd in his life! its why i know drs are just people but man he was difficult to live with
When my father was diagnosed with brain cancer, I nearly fainted. This was obviously a tremendous shock and a topic I knew nothing about. The neurosurgeon kept talking to my mother and didn't acknowledge me or my father who was laying in the bed at the time. A nurse ran and got me a chair and cared for me while he blabbered on for about all of 7 minutes and then walked out of the room. My mother called him back and asked him to repeat what he said as we didn't quite get all that he said. His reply was, "Don't call me and ask me about what I told you already. Ask the nurse to explain it" and down the hall he went. I am very direct with doctors as it is part of their job to explain their findings and treatment. I know they are busy and Imay be the 10,000 patient that they have seen but if a family member or I have questions, I expect to be treated with the same respect that I show them. They are good at their job, big deal, I am good at mine too the difference is I treat people with respect and compassion.
I hate doctors that try to prescribe a medication for you that you know yourself that the medication is not good. I research every medication before taking it. I was very surprised how many doctors get kickbacks from pharmaceutical companies. Pretty scary.
I'm not aware of how many doctors receive kickbacks, but there certainly are unscrupulous practices in many parts of medicine, unfortunately, just like many other professions
In recent times I haven’t seen as many pharma companies trying to look for that like before. But I don’t doubt that there are some underhanded things going on. Just because a doctor receives samples does not mean he gets “kick backs”. Sometimes those meds are valuable to those who can afford them.
My dad was referred to an orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon spent a couple of minures telling my dad how much he appreciated my dad coming to him. Then he went on to talk about giving my dad steroid shots and when those no longer work, he would do shoulder surgery. He never asked my dad a single question. Never examined him or showed him the xray. When my dad said he just wanted lidocaine patches, the surgeon was offended and told my 82 year old dad to 😮go somewhere else. He said he is a surgeon and does injections and surgery. He said if you just want pain management, you need to go somewhere else. I said I know a lot of people that come there for pain management and he said for injections! And he left the room. If he had spent 2 minutes asking my dad about himself, he would have learned that my dad just lost his wife to cancer and was about to have heart surgery.
I have dealt with several arrogant doctors in my 30 plus year career as a nurse (and even as a patient). Thank you for empowering patients to stand up for themselves!
An arrogant surgeon operated on my ankle for torn ligaments. He told me he 'LOVES TO OPERATE.' Unfortunately, I got Staph, then MRSA, and he blamed me for the infection. I was admitted into the hospital immediately. The following day, he came into my hospital room early the next morning. I woke up feeling someone was standing in my room. When I asked why he was there so early, he said, "Slumming, do you know what I'm going to do to you today?" I was still too sleepy to understand, and he left the room. Later, a nurse came in to help me shower before surgery. She said she was told that she had to stay in the bathroom with me to make sure I was washing properly. SERIOUSLY???!!! The surgeon operated on my ankle a total of 3 times, but it still wasn't right. The last surgery was to have a skin graft to close the wound, but all he did was clean it out again. There was no skin graft, but only 3 sutures were barely holding onto the skin. I ended up at a wound care doctor for a year, who told me that the surgeon should have recognized the infection within the first 10 days. I had pictures from day one. A year later, I had to have a second surgeon operate on the same ankle because the tendons were again torn (shredded). The second surgeon told me the first surgeon didn't correct the problem in the first 3 surgeries. The second surgeon corrected the problem, and I've never had a problem since and, no infections. Since then, I've heard about other patients and a physical therapist who told me of some of the same horror stories about this arrogant surgeon.
I'm so sad and sorry you've had such a horrific journey. I am not surprised though and the surgeon sounded like a nut. I'm not surprised he woke you up to say that, sounds horrifying. I read that a lot of narcissistic and psychopathic people choose the medical field specifically and especially become surgeons!🤦🏾♀️ I've been going from doctor to doctor trying to find the best fit for a potential uterus surgery and it's hard finding the right one. I was told nothing about the details of my issue, just given general details mostly until one doctor was straight up honest with me but I didn't go with him. Now I'm going to see one more tomorrow who deals with high risk uterus surgeries and then make a decision. It's been a two year journey. Anyway, I'm also glad I didn't setting for the first surgeon who told me to immediately get a hysterectomy because she barely explained why and gave me zero options that I knew actually existed. I'm happy I advocated for myself and told a PT because she's been through the same journey I'm about to go on.
You really should sue his incompetent narcissistic ass! You have sustained major damages at his hands and he shouldn't be allowed to hurt others. He needs to be reigned in. Medical malpractice lawsuit.
My brother had an aneurism at the base of his skull and had to be placed on life support. His doctor was one of the neurosurgeons at UCLA Ronald Reagan Neurosurgery ICU. My mom was treated so poorly by this doctor. One thing he told my mom, "you should just pull the plug. If he survives he'll be a vegetable anyway". A day or two before we had my brother taken off life support my mother tore the dr. a new one. The nurses that heard this thanked my mother profusely saying no one had the courage to tell him off and this had been a long time coming.
*my* arrogant doctor did the wrong brain surgery on me and then told me my continued ailing health was “all in my head” and a mental disorder. My dad (who was visiting me at the hospital) almost knocked that guy out after hearing how he spoke to me. (Low key, I kinda wish he had ;) )
I am so blessed to have survived a brain aneurysm. Right surgeon, right hospital. He was relatively young. Not at all cocky. Just very competent. For that, I will be eternally grateful. There was applause when I left the NICU for a regular room. The staff said most patients don't leave here alive. 🙏
Worked the front desk at Cardiopulmonary/Cath Lab/Endoscopy Procedure Dept. My first time working around MD's😅 First Month was a daily struggle not to run out sobbing. After 3 years you could bounce bullets off me. That was 20 years ago. Am still AMAZED when meeting MD at first visit when I actually see "warmth" in their eyes. And patience in their actions. Being a "battlescarred" former Hospital Staff member - I can - within minutes - Sum Up - What kind of relationship and care - This doctor is capable of giving me. Nothing to do with possibly being The BEST at his craft. When an MD gets so successful that he completely forgets those humbling days of Med School/Residency. And being catered to and fawned over endlessly can suck the humanity and humility out of too many MD's. Just the simple task of looking you in the eye tells you volumes.
My father was a paraplegic. He broke his femur. He was put on the plastic bedding without a pump to blow up his bed. Those of you who know about this know how important not to allow breakdowns on the skin. I asked for the nursing supervisor. She told me the hospital ran out of pumps. I kindly told her I will be heading to Sacramento to formally complain to the Board and joint commission. They immediately had a pump via taxi cab brought in. If I didn’t threaten they would have let this slide.
I had a physician open the door and tell me to leave his office once. Front desk told me to come in when I called. He insisted they didn't, then "check ed with them." I was about 20 years old. Left and burst into tears.
I knew there was a reason I like you. I've been dealing with doctor's attitude problems for 40 years. I even had one jerk suggest that I take my own life... There a lot of monsters hiding out there among the good guys. This was a great topic. Thank you. ❤
True! A lot of psycho doctors out there. My eye doctor was a creep. Couldn’t be bothered to talk to his patients. Glad he retired and I found a great doctor who shows interest in patient care and communicates well about your health issue.
You are an excellent doctor ❤ thank you for this conversation. My mom was seeing a surgeon and preparing for a fusion in her neck. Days before surgery, her surgeon was talking to her about another provider on her care team whose office hadnt returned his call yet. He said that no one in health care gives a f*** about her (my mom). Healthcare is just a business that allows them (doctors) to buy their boats and nice things. He said she should never expect anyone to actually give a shit and to get over it. The cursing was included in this discussion. We canceled the surgery and immediately started looking for an entirely different organization. I tell you this because I just got done showing my mom this video. I wanted her to know that there are doctors and many other healthcare workers who care deeply about their patients. Thank you, again.
I had to have my gall bladder removed. I was recommended to a local surgeon, admitted into the hospital, prepped and brought up to the pre-op room. I laid under a faulty florescent light (which made me nauseous) for 3 hours before the orderlies came and took me back to my room. I asked them why, and they said my surgeon didn't show up. I had never been in a hospital before, and never had surgery before, so I started having an anxiety attack. I told the nurse I wanted to see the surgeon as soon as possible. I didn't sleep all night because of the anxiety. The next morning this little guy comes marching in and asks, "Are you Mr. So in so?" I said yes. He said, "WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TO INTERUPT A MEETING I HAD YESTERDAY TO DEMAND I COME HERE TO SEE YOU!" (He was probably on the golf course). I said, "Hey Doc... I have never been in a hospital before, I have never been operated on before, so if you are too busy for me, release me and I will go somewhere else. His tune changed right away. He said, "Now calm down... Lets not get ahead of ourselves! We can do this operation tomorrow morning." Once again I told him to sign the release because I wanted to get the hell out of there. The nurse came in and said, "You are already here. Why would you want to go to another hospital and have to go through this all over again. I agreed and they decided to do the operation the next morning. The next day the orderlies came and took me up to pre-op. It was full, so they put me in a janitors closet. I was laying there staring at a clock on the wall (Which read 9:00 AM) when I guess I dozed off. Remember, I haven't slept for 2 days. I woke to the sound of someone screaming, "HOW THE HELL COULD YOU LOSE A PATIENT! WHERE THE HELL COULD HE HAVE GONE?" I looked at the clock and it said 3:00 PM. I yelled, "HEY! HEY! I'M IN HERE", and started banging on the wall. The doctor opened the door and said, WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN HERE?" I said that I was hiding from him. He looked at me, burst out laughing, and asked if I wanted to get this over with. I said yes, and we removed my gall bladder. I woke up that evening with serious gas pains. The nurse told me that they filled my intestines with nitrogen gas to do the micro-surgery. She said that I had to get up and walk around while pushing a wheel chair to help pass the gas. The first day I had the gown on with sweat pants. The second day I walked up and down the halls with the gown on with my underwear underneath. The third day I pushed that wheelchair down the hall with the gown on and bare assed. It was the Friday before Superbowl Sunday, and I told the nurses I was going to watch the game from home. They said the doctor wasn't going to release me unless I passed the gas. I told her to try and stop me. The next day was Saturday. I stood up, grabbed the wheelchair, and let out the biggest longest fart I have ever passed! I rang for the nurse and started getting dressed. I pulled the IV out of my arm, put a tissue over the hole, and the nurse came as I was leaving. She asked where I was going, and I said HOME! I told her I passed the gas, and I was out of there. She said the doctor had to release me. I asked where he was, and she said he wouldn't be in until Monday. I said I was leaving and walked out. An orderly tried to block me, and I just pushed him aside. I went outside and a cab had just pulled up to drop someone off. I asked if he was free, and he said yes. I got in and went home. My wife was surprised to see me! I was in the hospital for 6 days for a minor gall bladder removal. I filed a formal complaint with my insurance company and the facility. The doctor was asked to retire within a few months (I guess I wasn't the only one his arrogance made worse. The hospital closed after 5 years.
What an incredible and incredibly shameful experience…..thank you for taking the time to relay this disgusting side of medical care to us. It is illuminating and horrifying. May I ask what city your hospital was in? Personally, I think you were incredibly patient and forgiving of unforgivable incompetence and arrogance. I wish you health and long life.
Reminds me of a well respected popular surgeon in 2019 who walked in complaining to staff about his coffee, quickly introduced himself while rolling his eyes at staff and right away cups my breasts with his hands while saying, about a C cup… granted he is a breast surgeon and I just had a diagnosis of breast cancer, I knew he would examine me but his bedside was terrible, found another fantastic surgeon and had incredible results. Then the first oncologist voluntarily lied about what was in the chemo I suppose to lessen the fear people have facing treatment but I found it condescending, 2nd oncologist was eating an apple during the examination literally squirting apple juice in my eye… so found a 3rd who had a nice bedside and solid rep. As a RN of 23 years, I am not settling for poor behavior. We all work hard, experience stress and burnout but also have a role to respect the people in our care and on our teams.
When I moved to a new city and wanted to research finding a competent and non-arrogant MD, I called the hospital where they practiced and spoke to different nurses who worked on their post op unit. I called three times and asked "which three doctors would you choose to go to for ( fill in the procedure)." Ask to speak to the unit charge nurse and then later ask another RN on a different shift. If the same name or names come up, that's a good indication they are not only competent, but also have a respect of the staff and hopefully their patients. I also have asked medical assistants as they take vitals "what is doctor ....like to work with? " And, of course if you want to get a total joint or another surgery, ask people who their surgeon was and what was their experience like with the MD. Don't just ask which group of surgeons; ask for the name of their specific surgeon. Look for Board Certification and Fellowship credentials which likely confirms competence; that the baseline.
Thank you for sharing your time and expertise with the public and loyal followers Dr. K! I love that mantra “don’t let the ugly of others take way the beauty of yourself!!”😊
I once had to have emergency surgery on my spine due severe spinal stenosis (my spinal cord was being crushed). My surgeon, a neurosurgeon, advised me that I was one accidental bump to my neck away from being a quadriplegic. (THAT got MY attention!) In my follow up appointment I spoke to my surgeon from my heart when I told him that he was a blessing in my life. His reaction was amazing! I was actually taken aback by how much what I had said to him had touched him. He responded by saying that that is the reason surgeons like him got into what they do. To make that difference. I’ll always be grateful for what he did for me!
One thing about advocating for myself I also give good doctors compliments I have one doctor that is very caring willing to listen just like you you ask are human and we need to say we appreciate you doctors as well realized this when he came in with a bounce in his step for my turn
I have met worked with Drs who where the most arrogant evil uncaring unkind snobs an I met Drs whose kind understand and kind the truth is Drs are just people wearing white coats and sometimes green pajamas they are just like you have wife’s children dogs that keep having accidents on the floor an mother in laws try to see them as the electrician,handyman or in the case of a special isn’t plumbers they are doing a job important impossible an interesting job but also a long tiring sometimes stressful job the arrogance often is a insecurity or apathy fear or tired stress just like us they for some reason do feel or think or have been taught to not be there emotionally there’s a wall there an if they can’t let you in or at least talk to you over the gate they are not for you
I interviewed 4 hip surgeons, finally found the right one, had a great office staff, and NP and PA and gave me a hug. I've recovered and am back to work pain free!!!
Gréât advise. I am a medical doctor who is going thru some personal post ‘safe and effective’ health issue. The level of arrogance and contempt I have faced from my health care professionals and insurance providers echos what Dr Kaveh describes.
Thanks for this. I once had a gp appointment with a new GP as I had just moved to the area who was rather nasty and arrogant imo. He wouldn't listen to me and what was worse, it was in front of a medical student. I had a follow up appointment two days later and was worse, so he prescribed a second medication and another follow up appointment in another two days. By the time I went to that on I was worse (almost at hospitalization point by this stage) and this time informed him that I was not leaving the room until he gave me a script for my original prevention asthma inhaler which he finally did along with a follow up appointment in another two days. He was amazed when I arrived for that appointment as I was so much better than all the other times I'd been to see him. Needless to say, I asked him if he was going to listen to his patients after our experience together. He dropped his head and replied yes then snapped at the medical student (who had been there for every appointment) because he was trying not to laugh. Well, I snapped at the GP to not take out his bad mood on this student just because he'd been called out. I then made him apologize to the student and asked them both what important lesson had we all learnt. They both replied "To listen to our patients" After a rocky start to our acquaintance, that GP turned out to be the best GP I've ever had. I've since moved from the area but we still keep in touch and he's even thanked me for doing what I did because since then it's helped him become a better doctor.
My way of dissolving an arrogant doctor is walking out of the doc’s office before the doctor is done. Do it and see the face the doctor shows, suddenly he/she is not in control and they feel fear. Show them, YOU are in control of your body, not them.
This is so timely for me! Thank you! I had breast cancer last year and the surgeon who removed it and who I continue to see for follow ups every three months is very arrogant. He acts so offended and irritated when I ask questions and try to advocate for myself. He was even rude to my mom who accompanied me to my last appointment. This information is very helpful.
Once when my Oncolo was mean......I said.... "Oh,......would you like a saucer of cream with that caty remark?" He really got it. Usually I'd leave his office so upset...never thinking of a comeback to say during my visit.......only hrs afterward...."I should've said........!"
I hope you have good health and have complete recovery ❤️🩹 ❤ that’s disgusting how you and your Mother have been mistreated. You should and could sue him or even take matters to the medical headboard if he is registered doctor unfortunately the private doctors think they can misbehave with their patients because they don’t have to answer to anyone .
I had a serious surgery by a doctor who would not allow me to ask questions. NEVER AGAIN. After surgery the doctot would not answer my questions I switched doctors after 2nd post-op visit and never looked back. The 2nd dr. ALWAYS answered my questions.
After my double mastectomy and living alone and far from relatives, I decided to move in with my boyfriend to help with my care. I told my oncologist, who berated me for going against God and sinning. I was age 51. I left in tears and never returned, feeling ashamed and uncared for. I moved in with my boyfriend, who lived about 45 min away, and changed drs. I wrote the hospital he was affiliated, but never heard back. And my new oncologist had received complaints about my 1st one. And 20 years later I’m cancer free and happily married to my boyfriend.
I just stopped going. It’s too overwhelming and my anxiety just can’t take going to the anymore and being treated extremely poorly and unkindly while seeking much needed help and healing. It’s just too heartbreaking.
You said it! Arrogance and confidence (competence) are quite different. There is no room for sarcasm and arrogance in taking care of a patient as a nurse, caretaker or physician position.
I love that you discuss behavioral health issues along with medical. And, you use all the behavioral aspects appropriately! Your delivery is spectacular! Thank you so much! I also love that you stress honesty, compassion, authenticity, and respectful. You’re an amazing doctor!!! ❤❤
I don't mind a doctor being brisk and to the point. Arrogance is another matter entirely. I worked as a bedside RN for over 20 years and let me tell you, I ran across some doozies! I learned to stand my ground and be a patient advocate no matter WHO the doctor was. If I thought the treatment he/she ordered (never actually ran across an arrogant female physician) was going to endanger my patient, I would never back down. USUALLY, those physicians learned to respect me in the end even if they never liked me. There were a few, though, who never learned to respect me necessarily, but they did learn to be wary of me!
Sadly there are female doctors like this but a lot less. My daughter had one for her cancer treatment and she was terrible. Like everyone, she tried to work with her, but it was impossible. She actually gave my daughter a wring prescription and then blamed her for HER mistake. My daughter sought a better doctor and this male doctor is caring and listened.
As a retired RN from the 60s I took responsibility for my health so now I am a DNR and will only use a doctor if I need some diagnosis , but so far I diagnose myself and treat it naturally so far so good You are an unusual being in medicine I hope your colleagues are watching!!!
Retired nurse after 30 years. I treat myself. I don't want medication and that is one reason people go to doctors. There are many unrecognized side effects from meds.
Agreed, after reading hundreds of stories from patients that never got better, after finding out about so many doctors that don't care and don't pay enough attention to all symptoms and the many pill side effects as you pointed out, it really is the best if people start caring about themselves more. Good quality food and some exercise takes care of many new age diseases.
He is! I am fortunate enough to have a few doctors like him...God provides...but I usually go in having diagnosed myself and already knowledgeable of treatments. As an herbalist, I treat most things at home with plants I grow and forage though.
If everyone would get off sodas and anything else containing high fructose corn syrup, glyphosate, artificial sweeteners, colors and preservatives, they would rarely need a doctor. Avoid eating out and processed garbage.
Thank you for your insight. I have met several arrogant doctors during my medical career who because of their arrogance have not considered all options of care and harmed their patients' outcomes. It is sad when ego blinds a doctor.
Thank you for the endometriosis shout out!!! I love that it’s getting awareness more and more. 15 years of gaslighting and I finally was able to find a surgeon that would listen. Educated myself and advocated for my health. Turns out I’m not crazy!
If any doctor tells you something health-oriented is "all in your head", "doesn't seem to exist", or similar garbage, unless you're having a mental health crisis, it's time to fire that doctor.
I saw a statistic the other day that blew my mind. Apparently something like 1 in 10 women is likely to have endometriosis. It's so Extremely under-diagnosed.
I have noticed how doctors show some humility when you show them you know something. I was having a conversation with a coworker about inflammation and carb relation to insulin resistance and such and a doctor got up in my face insinuating I know nothing. I turned to him not missing a beat and asked him "So what you are telling me that 80% of chronic illness is not caused by inflammation?" He immediately hung his head and mumbled "Um yes that is right" and didn't see him before he left. I work in an ER as a practical nurse. I love your channel for the information not just in your profession but as well as how to fight for ourselves. Taking so many notes for my current situation that I have been battling for about 30 years now. Took an accidental finding from a car accident to finally get the attention I have been seeking all this time.
I’ve found that a lot of doctors think that if you seem to have knowledge of your conditions - especially ones that are painful - they treat you with suspicion, like you’re some sort of pill seeker. Like, nah fam, I’ve just lived in this body all my life and like understanding what’s going on with it.
@t3hwaddledee yes there is that as well. Often the tone is off putting but doctors forget they are in pain and it can come out not the way intended. Sometimes just telling them to take a deep breath and explain a little more would help but that maybe taking too much time. Then again so many perspectives to consider.
I told a co psychiatric patient, in my asylum, that inflammation was caused by moon dust, falling from space because of the electromagnetic field being modified by fridge magnets, there are far too many of them in the world. When i asked the doctor who suggested that maybe i was talking shit "So what you are telling me that 80% of chronic illness is not caused by inflammation?" he too "immediately hung his head and mumbled "Um yes that is right".
Oh man, I needed this video a week ago. I just had a neurologist completed run over me and not listen to a word I said, I even brought a book about hEDS, flipped to the neurology section and he wouldn't even look at it. He said he's been a doctor for 30 years "I don't know why EDS is blowing up now" ummm because the Ehlers Danlos society has been working super hard to get the info out there. I was diagnosed before it "blew up" he would not listen to me at all and kept saying I don't have Dystonia, I'm on meds for dystonia!!!! At least my neurosurgeon is nice and said my gait issues are due to my syrinx but other doctors have been sooooo rude and dismissive to me because I have hEDS and syringomyelia, a lot of other comorbid conditions but they don't understand me. It's so frustrating. I really want to give up on going to doctors all together but I'm in so much pain and can hardly walk, when I do it's so painful. I'm so over all of it.
Syrinx Sister here, with CM2, and Mixed Connective Tissue problems common for our people. I am also married to a Doctor with more in the family, and my own frustrating Doctor problems. Here's what I've concluded: IF A DOCTOR CAN'T FIX IT, IT DOESN'T EXIST, ESPECIALLY FOR A FEMALE. Ego runs on success. Also, our collagenous problems affect darn near every system, with few solutions. They are in the dark. We are our own advocates. Bless you both. ❤️🙏💞🦓
You're not alone in this journey. I was diagnosed with hEDS a few years ago. Im 48 now. After being referred by my rheumatologist to a pediatric geneticist, It's been nothing but harassment by every one of my doctors!! Its in medical records with the physicians name and date. I was in his tiny Children's Hospital office. I was actually accused by pain management of falsifying the diagnosis. First of all, I wouldn't know how to do that if I tried 😂 and 2nd, I had never heard of this condition prior to meeting this doctor. But I also see a neurologist, and when I called to let them know I was having problems, I was seriously laughed off the phone. I sent my doctor a message and another member of staff replied to stop bothering the office with nonsense. I was told to call my PCP. None of the docs I see give a crap.
Having a son who had his first (of seven) heart surgeries when he was just a week old, I SO appreciate what you are saying about doctors, and surgeons. We were blessed to have an extremely skilled surgeon for the first 5 surgeries who was humble, compassionate, caring, and he took time. My son is now 37. The length of life estimate given to me by other doctors was 15-20 yrs. I trust a soft spoken, relatable, doctor way more than one with a big ego.
I was on 5 chemo drugs for Stage 3, triple positive, metastatic breast cancer. I came to the emergency room with my first GI bleed. I was dizzy and kept using the bathroom. Finally, this young ER doc comes in my room, sits on a chair 7 feet away, and says, "You have hemorrhoids; I read your chart." I mirrored his arrogance right back at him. "Put a hat in the toilet and I will show you what melena looks like." The nurse comes back to the Doc and says, "Yep, that's melena." Doc says, "Well, it looks like you earned yourself a GI consult." I quipped, "That's probably a good idea since GI bleeds can be life threatening." What a jerk that he thought he could avoid examining me and be paid to just read my chart. Good thing I wasn't sent home to hemorrhage after all the (successful) work, time, sickness, and expense, to save me from my cancer.
I recently had some oral surgery done and I was anxious and unaware of the plan so I came out and told the dentist and she explained, answered a few questions, and then I consented to the procedure (cracked tooth extraction, bone graft and implant.) She asked if I was ok throughout the work, and at one point let me take a little break because my jaw was hurting. This dentist is new to me but after meeting her once I trusted her enough to drive 10 miles to another office to see her, instead of one a mile away. I made the right choice. I'll be seeing her again.
I love my dentist!!!! My son had a disaster mouth full of milk bottle cavities that started before age two. (The cavities came from breast feeding to sleep.) We carefully kept up on brushing until he was old enough to hold still for my dentist because the pediatric dentists wanted to give him general anesthesia ($$$$$$) and use his mouth as a gold mine by charging separately for each face of the tooth that needed work. My dentist did everything in an hour and made himself $1800 vs $2500 the pediatric dentist wanted (not including anesthesia). I was happy to pay it!
I paid a lot of money for dentistry, I didn’t like my dentist, but I wanted sedation so I went with him. I found him to be quiet neurotic and miserable.
Thank you so much for this . I have been dealing with POTS for over 10 years. I've actually developed a phobia when I have to see a new doctor. But I will say I lost the ideal that doctors were more important than me. I go in with a binder of my diagnosis from Vanderbilt with copies. Copies of the latest research . My up to date symptoms. And other copies . I'm armed . And knowledgeable. And if they try to give me the God complex. It does not intimidate me. I've made some mad. But folks. Their on your dime. Not the other way around.
It sounds like you have PTSD. I take a binder in too, I have a lot of rare diseases and read so much information on research studies, medications etc… I almost feel like I am a scientist. It is time consuming, frustrating and exhausting. I’m sorry you have POTS I’ve heard it’s awful and is often accompanied by other rare illnesses. Take care of yourself.
My adult son suffering from unknown medical issue causing unconsciousness and unresponsiveness at end of sleep cycle. Two major events over ninety days requiring EMT 911 calls and transports to ER. Syncope to dogmatic neurologist declaring seizure from undefined causes … to low blood sugar, etc. and all test negative but neurologist demanding heavy side effect anti-seizure medications two weeks ago; but the real issue facing us now and even with life threatening words from doctors is actually getting an appointment to see other specialist or second opinions. For instance … mid-November (currently early August) to see one of the 26 Endocrinologist at a UAB. Thank you Doctor for this video. Even with a respectful engagement with the neurologist and intelligently questioning his contradictory plan of pills that might not prevent seizures that have serious side effects of inducing hostility and lashing out according to the neurologist … he mandated them. I asked four times over the twenty minute session for a lower dose to start with and can we wait until after a second five hour glucose tolerance test that was set for a few days out returned “no. His condition is life threatening and requires the medication now”. Yet - the MRI I requested for my son and that he agreed with would only result in him contacting us if it revealed something. Otherwise he said ‘no need to see him until three months later’. Neurologist at UAB were four months out if you wanted an appointment with any of them. Some plan. The primary Doctor has worked hard to expedite an appointment and labs have botched testing requiring re-testing. I by accident have used three of your points; but some doctors are unreachable. You have performed a tremendous public service by releasing this video.
When my daughter was a minor (17 yrs at the time). After undergoing many, many tests with her pediatric gastro dr she was finally Dx with gastroparesis after having gone through a gastric, emptying/nuclear imaging test. Her stomach retained nearly 40% of the eggs at the 4 hr mark. The Dr explained to us that a normal stomach has 10% or less amount of food remaining. Ok, GREAT we finally found an answer! A few months later my daughter turned 18, and she had to start seeing an adult Dr. This dr did botox shots in her pylorus. While she was in recovery, the doctor told me she indeed did not have a gastropresis, and that it was just IBS, and “all in her head”, that she was “faking”. Now, keep in mind, her nuclear imaging/gastric emptying test was performed in the exact same hospital she was in for the pylorus Botox injections. He had access to her full records and test results. I could not believe he was saying it was just IBS. I argued with him. I asked how in world could she possibly have FAKED a nuclear imaging/gastric emptying test?! I kept questioning him. He then, while she was still in recovery, with recovery bays only separated by thinly draped walls started to yell at me and BLAME my daughter! Every person in recovery could hear every bit of my daughter’s private medical information. It was then I realized he didn’t like it at all that I questioned him. Of course I placed a complaint against him and we found a new gastro dr. The arrogance of that dr blew my mind. I felt lucky to have grown up with parents with one being a P.A. and the other a nurse who taught me to speak up and not be intimidated.
Thank you Doctor, for your empathy, compassion, and kindness. Also, for being an example of living the Dr's oath to do "no harm" and for sharing how we can advocate for ourselves with confidence!
When I asked the doctor why he wanted to put me in hospital. He said I clearly was not ready to get better. I have been through nine years of the most terrible stress and on top of that I paid him a lot oh money. He also lied to my family members. I now have no idea how to help myself. You are an awesome doctor thank you.
It's heartwarming to watch a Dr. Like you. I wish you could be my primary. Can you do a video of what to do when Drs. Exaggerate certain things in their notes, lie, and completely leave other important information out (i.e.- fainting) in their notes; so they can just close their eyes and follow whatever is easy /convenient for them. This lack of truth creates big issues for many people, especially if their notes are misleading to other providers.
Thank you for the kind comments! 🙏 you raise a very tough question. Dishonesty in medical records is a serious offense, as these are legal documents. Avoiding documentation around serious events, like fainting or loss of consciousness, can lead to very serious consequences both medically and legally. I'll have to think carefully about such a video!
@@MedicalSecrets A friend's husband saw a doctor who asked him about alcohol usage, he answered he has a few beers here and there. Doc put alcoholism and COPD (? He had no respiratory issues) in his medical records and he couldn't get it corrected. This COPD note prevented him from changing Medicare plans, and ultimately hastened his demise from thyroid cancer the following year, as he couldn't afford expensive treatment.
Same here. In the chart it read "non compliant", on BP medication. This was not true. But later it affected our life insurance policy by paying much higher monthly rates!
A way to find out ahead of time if an MD is arrogant is to call their office anonymously at different times and ask different nurses "which three of these surgeons would you personally go to for .....this kind of surgery?" I did this when I moved to a new city and worked great. The entire surgeon group may be competent, but also they may be arrogant, so asking the staff who work there works well. Do your due diligence.
My doctor just lost his license. He never listened and laughed at me for a question I asked. He also told me not to be a beached whale 😢 Now I'm looking for a new doctor. I'm watching you to know what to do. Thank you for your videos.
I had a serious foot crushing injury. I was referred to an orthopedic surgeon who was super arrogant. I ran into two problems. Your video will help with the first one, which is that the doctor treated me like I wasn't part of my own care team and didn't need to be heard in the process of my care at all. The second problem, however, is one I don't think the video addresses. This problem was that the second time I went to see him, it was after a return to the ER very early that morning in which the two doctors I had seen disagreed about what was happening. One said I was developing an infection in the foot, and the other didn't think so. That afternoon I returned to the office and only saw the nurse practitioner because the doc hadn't had an appointment open. Without me even telling her what the ER docs had said when they saw me, she looked at my foot and said "You have an infection! We need to get this treated!" But a little while later the doc came in and he blew off concerns of infection entirely saying that it was fine. He told the nurse practitioner that she shouldn't treat for infection. However, I am a type I diabetic and didn't want to take the risk. Even if he was right, I wanted to be on the safe side just in case. I was leaving town and said I needed to get it taken care of before I would be away. I pushed, and he finally gave me antibiotics, but he acted like he was doing me a huge favor and tried to make me feel really foolish. After that I refused to go see him again, even when I didn't have a good alternative. It has been a year after my injury and my foot is still in really bad shape (including intense swelling to the point I can't wear normal shoes). I finally went and saw a podiatrist who diagnosed me with crps. He found me to have classic signs. He put me on an antiinflamatory medication for the nerve pain from the injury that was much more effective (and without any of the side effects) than the gapapentin the surgeon had prescribed, and he prescribed PT, and for the first time I felt some relief. I reached out to the surgeon and let him know that I was finding relief with this medication, and he wrote and said he was glad but didn't agree that I had crps. Even though it had been a very long time since I last saw him! I felt that was really negligent on his part, to act like he could disagree with an updated diagnosis after not seeing me for so long. I feel like this problem can be summed up in the unwillingness to look at all diagnostic information and his willingness to take risks by withholding a diagnosis that might be helpful. I feel like I never got to the point of being able to really talk about care plans with him because we couldn't even agree on a diagnosis. He couldn't even agree with the nurse practitioner in his own office. I don't know what he had at stake, but I know I have suffered way more than I should have had to suffer due to his behavior. I don't know what to do with an arrogant doctor when it comes to diagnosis. The worst part is, the podiatrist saw me once, sent me for nerve testing, and his office has been impossible to get a hold of since. He gave me a referral to PT but I never got a call. When my prescription ran out he didn't refill it. He never called to give me the results of my nerve testing. I wish I had somewhere to go for PT and continued follow-up.
I had an incompetent doc do my 2nd back surgery. Too make a long story short I was brought to my room late bc he didn't do the surgery right. The nurse came in, yanked the sheet up and I felt the rod slip. I begged for 4 days to have x-rays done to no avail. I get dc'd, fall, x-rays and what do ya know? There's the rod up against my spinal cord! He offered me a direct admit or a script of vicodin. Obviously direct admit. When he left the room I asked my mom if he actually thought vicodin would put the rod in place or make me feel good re being paralyzed. There are some real winners out there!! (He tried to put this on me. I said I didn't do the surgery!)
Did you sue that fucker ? You do know I hope that the papers you sign before a surgery is only for complications from surgery, and not against malpractice - not enough doctors in my opinion get sued - they think because they have an degree that they can do anything they want and get away with it. I'm sorry about your experience but it is all too common in this industry.
@@jimmydandy9364 my dad wanted to. He even called a lawyer while I laid in the hospital on a constant drip of 5mg of morphine. I found, after doing some research, that in alot of cases all a doc has to do is apologize for his screw up BECAUSE medicine is not an exact science and it's called practicing medicine . Therefore, like if you went to a hair school, you take your chances. Unless of course they killed you. What say you, doc?
A surgeon Amputated my husbands leg after being told verbally 3 times not too. We wanted a second opinion. He did it anyway. You can’t sue a doctor, they are very protected
@@Macsrus5 If a surgeon does any other procedure than the one that was discussed and authorized by you first, he is liable, unless the amputation is a result of a complication - and you were supposed to be told ALL risks and complications of surgery, if you were told the risk and amputation was a complication of surgery then he is not liable, but otherwise yes you can sue, there are patients who sue and win millions of $, there is legal precedent for many cases of malpractice, so it's not impossible to sue - you cannot sue for complications, as it was your responsibility to ask about them and your doctor to tell you about them, what you sign for before the surgery is for complications, it does not disclaim liability from malpractice. The majority of doctors today are very bad and some are borderline incompetent - they really need to revise the criteria for actually getting a licence to practice (MD) - then you have doctors that may have been once good, during their residency years but became bad and greedy, some doctors get corrupted by the pharma industry and hospitals which for the most part operate for profits first and patients best interests last. You would think with such high cost of health care, paying hundreds of thousands of $ for surgeries, you'd get decent, guess not - good doctors are RARE, a lot are butchers, around here if you want GOOD ones, you better be super lucky because the waiting time can be months to years to get a consult with the top specialists. and even so, some are crummy as fuck !
I just want to thank you so much for Al the good advice this channel shares. I had a hip replacement last Thursday and because of your advice I did 2 things different . I thanked my Anesthesiologist when he came to see me. I told him he was the most important person in the surgery, because he was the man that was going to keep me alive. 2, I explained to him that in past surgeries I do fine until I’m wheeled into the actual operating room and then I start freaking out, so that is a trigger for me. So he gave me versed before going in, and the moment I was in there He put the mask on for some oxygen and I remember nothing until waking up. All though it’s a difficult surgery, when I woke up, I wasn’t panicked and was able to just help my recovery nurse address my pain in short time. Again, thank you for helping me help myself to a calmer experience.❤
Wonderful you found this channel before your procedure and had such a different and far more comfortable experience thanks to.joining this virtual community....hope you are son well healed and doing great as l have been blessed to be❤
I was once in ICU for 21 days for sepsis and a rupturesd gallbaldder duct for which they could not do surgery until my white counts came down. I had a young physician who came in on a weekend, wanted to change my surgeon's standing orders and do something that I thought was dangerous. When I questioned his rationale, he said, "THAT is what we are doing because I AM the physician." I told him I was a chemist who ran a lab and he was not the only educated one in the room, and I wanted the Ombudsman. I fired him on the spot from my bed in ICU and asked for someone else. The second physician agreed that he was going down the wrong path with me. That was five years ago, so it obviously turned out OK.
Back in the 70s I went to the only “Tampa Headache Clinic”after 15 yrs daily chronic migraines. Full life, always working and doing housewife stuff too. So thrilled finally a doc that can find out what’s wrong and stop the pain. My head was 24/7 unbelievable pressure cooker type explosion. What could it be? Many doctors treated me as though I was getting something out of it. I thought this guy is an expert, finally hope. He said if you do all that how could you be hurting? What?? You look just fine. After numerous meds that either did nothing or caused heart palpitations (which he said wasn’t true) he told me “you can’t be helped.” treated me like a joke. I jumped up, grabbed the front of his desk, starred into his eyes telling him to “never say that to anyone!Do you realize someone might believe you and kill themself to get out of pain?” Then I walked out and never paid the bill for that visit. I was so upset I probably could have dumped his beautiful oak desk right over. Obviously he thought he was a god.
Thankyou SO much for your tips on how to handle Dr's, who project the ugly persona, & importantly for explaining the detail of each. 1. Ask them "what is the number needed to treat for that intervention?" 2. Tell them that they were recommended to you. 3. At the end of visit (if it is rocky) Ask how do you think our consultation went? 4. Non verbal cues, if they look anxious or uncomfortable, ask why. 5. Understand exactly what the 'plan' is, & be confident with it, if you don't then Speak UP! Be honest, and authentic :)
I appreciate your channel and the content of it. I completely understand the 5 questions and I have used them in recent years. When I had 4CAB in 2019 it was a complete surprise to me as well as my family. I was in great health. I was the first surgery of the morning and as I met my Anesthesiologist, I thanked God for who it was. He is the son of a very well known doctor here in Charleston. And I was also his patient in my 20’s. I was immediately calmed in his hands. We had a prayer in the OR just before going to sleep. I had no knowledge of the doctor that would perform my bypass. I was not that impressed. This is a major surgery. 4 months later I had a massive heart attack and found all 4 bypasses had collapsed. Shocked. I now am facing a possible heart transplant in my future when medication decides to stop working. Knowing all this does play on the emotional health. But I have complete confidence in my critical care cardiologist now. And he is aware of my concerns. Again, thank you for your content and how you explained things for an everyday man. I appreciate you.
Wow ! What a needed and well presented topic ! Thanks for some help with the narcissistic doctors : They are so frustrating and upsetting as they can be a hinderance to healing .Any doctor that’s not really listening cannot heal their patients .
"A big part of intelligence is being able to explain things." - Thomas Sowell My problem is with the administrators. My Congressperson's aide gave me the email address of the chief medical officer at the VA hospital, but they never respond. I need a specialist who deals with CFS, fibromyalgia & small fiber neuropathy. The VA keeps sending me to random neurologists without verifying their qualifications & I can't get them to stop doing this. I was diagnosed over 10 years ago & haven't been able to see a doctor who is qualified to treat me.
Oh man, have my own unique neuro problems, and you're right, too many Neuro Doc's are unfamiliar or unwilling to treat unusual conditions! I pray you find the right one and get relief! ❤️🙏💞
@@kathycuster1714 I could probably go out of pocket to pay the doctor, but I can't afford that plus IVIG. The problem is getting a referral from the VA. They won't give any treatment that is not indicated by the FDA(except for untested covid vaccines). It's been 12 years(I re-did the math) & I still don't have decent pain management.
I had a Dr who was arrogant. He had my xrays backwards. And was going to treat the wrong side. I let him finish speaking ,then I asked was he sure? ! He said yes. I told him he needs to take more time to read his clients files. And i said I'm done and walked out.
Doc, I’m an English fan , you seem an empathetic person , lovely bedside manner and easy on the eye .You can put me under anytime ! A truly caring and informative professional.
Thanks for highlighting this issue. I've had similar experiences and it's totally demoralizing for a patient, to the degree that it precipitates an aversion to seek out treatment for medical issues or even checkups.
Dr. Kaveh, I really appreciate that you brought this to the forefront. Recently, I saw a cardiologist for palpitations. When I said that I didn't subscribe to the "jab" or that I really don't like a bunch of meds thrown at me, he repeated several times that "when I am breaking open someone's chest b/c they had a heart attack, they listen to what I tell them"...THEN he follows up with, "I'm not trying to scare you, BUT". My response? "Well that's great because I do not scare easily". I just wasn't sure what he was trying to convey there....but it did seem arrogant to me. Thanks for great questions to ask!
I have 2 anatheologist who were just fantastic. 1 was a woman in Austin Texas who knew my anxiety with needles and going under and she out of this world at maken me laugh during the process and another one who got upset that a 20 plus yr nurse blew the veins in arm so bad that he seen what she had done and said this might hurt a bit and he got the IV in my bicep( actually didnt hurt)and said she cant be doing that and before i knew it ,i was out. We need more anatheologist like you sir and the 2 i had. Thank you for being honest and showing compassion towards people.
When my kids were young we had a family doctor who was kind, smart and humble. I asked a question he couldn't answer. He said, "I don't know the answer to that but I will find you the answer or someone who knows." I loved him ever after. He was highly competent but would not pretend to know it all & was not afraid to ask.
Thank you for this video. I've just come through over 90 days with a urologist's office staff running over the top of me. Thankfully, and even though I live in a rural area, with the help of a case manager with my insurance I was able to find another urologist. I now know what to politely ask him. Again, many thanks!
“…you want to be authentic and honest…” and not in a bullying nature - and we can only be authentic and honest when we have the knowledge to be able to do that. Thanks Doc for empowering us with that knowledge!
I had a minor surgical procedure yesterday (if any surgery is minor!) and because I have been listening to your videos, I was able to ask pertinent and intelligent questions regarding my asthma, PTSD, etc. Thank you so much! Plus, I'd like to add that I had an amazing team! BTW, I had General Anesthesia.
Anthony you are a wonderful beacon for ethical, competent and caring Medical care. Back in the eighties and nineties I made sure that any medical doctor that joined the Optimal Health oriented Medical Center I founded.. would help each patient create an appropriate health promotion plan that the patient could believe in and act on. Healing is a partnership and thank you so much for all your much needed content 🎯
I have had horrible experiences with doctors and with anesthesiologists in the past. But, I have also had some good experiences too. Thank you for doing these videos! ❤️
I'm so happy to hear that you had at least some good experiences. We all love to hear positive experiences that can inspire others who are (entirely understandably) afraid before surgery
I had an internal specialist in Idaho demand I continue taking meds from my known allergy list with basic benadryl. I was told take it or she would let me die and it turned out to be the medications she was giving me that was killing me and now I'm left with permanent damage. ❤ Thank you for being a light in a very dark tunnel sir
@@aaabbb8812 it ran out of time to do so and Idaho State med bar laughed at. So instead I spread the word. Related ER Dr said " if you want to die, just die" while i was actively trying to end my life cuz of everything with the specialist. That was 2018 for me 🕯️🥰
I admire my doctors and think that I am lucky because they are caring, competent professionals. But I still think I learned a lot today about how to be a confident, competent patient. Sometimes I just don’t ask my questions because my generation was taught to blindly trust the expert- in this case the doctor. But I need to be my own advocate no matter how much I respect and trust my medical professionals. Thank you Dr. Kaveh for all of your wisdom and help. 😊
Sometimes we forget that doctors work for us. For five years, when my late husband was terminally ill, we had no compunctions whatsoever about firing doctors. Consequently, we ended up with great physicians!
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I thought the surgeon who was going to removing my thyroid was kind of arrogant-then I learned how many surgeries he did, how many people were pleased with his work. I realized he wasn’t arrogant- he had well earned competent confidence!
There you go! So powerful to do your research like that
I thought my daughter’s surgeon was confident. I was wrong. He is arrogant. Always get a second and third opinion.
Doctors / surgeons are human just like the rest of us. Some are humble, others are over confident.
Also, medicine is not perfect. Sometimes unexpected things happen. The best surgeon in the world will lose patients, because "stuff happens".
Now at 61 years young, I've come across too many "broken ego-system " wanna be doctors 😢 💔. You my dear, are one in a million ❤️.
Regarding aspirin…doesn’t the literature state that it’s not recommended that someone start low dose aspirin therapy if they have not had a heart attack. The risks outweigh the benefits. I’ve walked around for years untreated for multiple autoimmune disorders due to arrogant ignorant medical “professionals”. Permanent damage had been done because tests past a CBC and a couple routine rheum tests were not done. It wasn’t until I almost died and was treated by an infectious disease specialist did I finally get answers!! It’s disgusting how many practicing doctors shouldn’t be.
I don't try to change an arrogant doctor - I find a new doctor.
Unfortunately if you do that a few times, they'll start thinking you're doctor shopping. And sometimes people don't have the luxury to keep switching doctors, for example, my insurance allows one pcp switch annually. So I have to hope they're competent. I try to build a good relationship with doctors and keep them as long as possible.
@@ijustrealllylikecats You hit the nail on the head! It also depends where you live. In our smaller, semi-rural community we don't have many physicians. Changing to a new primay physician means looking in neighboring towns. Since we don't have much in the way of public transportation around here, good luck getting there if you no longer drive. So, many patients stick with what they have out of necessity. So sad.
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So true, you can’t change an arrogant doctor.
I don't know if you're compensated financially for this, but you're providing a great benefit to society.
Amen to that !
Very valuable !!!
Dr. Kaveh is a youtuber just like e everyone else. His satisfaction is Educating others! 🎉❤❤🎉 16:29
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Bravo Dr. Kavah! If only I had seen this video a day sooner, it would have saved me a lot of mental anguish and pain! I had an appointment with my pain specialist. I asked him if he could write a short script for something that would help with the pain. He said sure,no problem. I'm still waiting! I have Osteoporosis so I know it will take longer to heal. The ER doc wanted to give me a script. I told him that I could not accept it. Pain clinic rules! I have a non narcotic pain pump in the lumbar region, I don't think that it would reach my chest! Are all of these pompous doc's Narcissists? I thank you for all you do. I can't believe that a doctor would actually challenge you and your loved one. My vet treats my dog better than this doc treated me! Please keep spreading the word😊
Well, if he's not... God will most certainly repay him❤
I trained in one of the top 4 medical centers in the nation. Our department chair was also the head of the entire complex with over 120,000 employees. So, he was a very powerful individual. You approach the problem of the arrogant physician just like he did. "If you are arrogant, you are ignorant!" He also hated the use of medical jargon.
"If you have to use jargon, you do not understand the topic." I love your use of the concept of honesty.
We are blessed to be in the position of helping others. You clearly take that seriously. Thank You Sir !
Sounds like a true mentor, glad you are passing on great leadership!
Please know much you and your expertise .....so greatly appreciated 😊
If you can't make your patient understand, your not relating to them & their course could be negatively affected no matter your level of competence.
WOW !! "If you can't MAKE your patient . . "
After 30 years, I have never Made a patient do anything (apart from involuntary commitments). I can't wrap my head around understanding that type of thinking. @@katiekane5247
@Crunchycon01excellent comeback from your dad! I’ve worked in the medical field since 97 and am not a provider but typically find they hate when we know what they’re talking about & try to tell them we want to try other things not the same crap the last 150 patients did.
One of the best comments I heard made to a doctor was when I was a Military Police soldier serving at Fort Benning, GA was when we had taken a lady in for a rape kit.
The doctor was very frustrated with her because she was so scared of the procedure.
My patrol supervisor went up to the doctor and said, "Doctor, this may be your 100th time doing a rape kit but this is her first."
That shut him up real fast.
Oh gosh, that is such a poignant example. This is an everyday occurrence in the operating room. While it is a rough example, I appreciate you sharing that very much 🙏
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Thank you.
I hope this is something you will pass along to other patients and maybe even your audience.
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Thank you.
Yes, he was a very good team leader.
I find this to be excellent advice for us all to consider, regardless of our profession.
God bless you!❤
That patrol supervisor is heroic for advocating for the young lady. Lp
One of the best Dr’s I ever had was an OBGYN I hardly knew. He spent 10 minutes on my exam (all that was needed) and 20 minutes with me in his office after. He asked me about my 2 children and how they were doing, how my Husband was, how I’m doing in general, how I’m handling the stress of daily life.
After leaving, I cried! Why can’t all Dr’s be this compassionate about their patients!? It’s not that hard! He simply acted like a gentle human being. No arrogance at all.
That was how doctors used to be. Insurance companies and medical corporations make this type of doctor- patient relationship nearly impossible.
One of my specialists retired a couple of years ago. I knew my care wouldn't be as good, as he picked up the slack and corrected some errors my GPs made. I still miss him. He knew my son, as he had done work on his computer system when the EMR systems became required.
Hang onto those gems! We need FAR more like them!
Sadly, they can’t-they don’t have the time. Most doctors would LOVE to spend time, but they can’t. They are slated to spend so many minutes with each patient.
Our healthcare system is broken.
Sounds like a gem Dr.
No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care
After several appointments where I left the doctor office feeling terrible about myself because of how she treated me, I went out into the lobby to not make the next appointment, but to let them know I would not be returning. I was calm and matter of fact, resolved. The receptionist got a defensive look and said, “if you leave, you will not be allowed to return.” I told her I was fine as I had no intention of returning. “Not allowed” with no inquiry as to why I was leaving. That told me everything about my suspicions of the egotistical and immature level (lack of) professionalism of the doctor and the office accepting this as normal. (Well before covid arrived)
Crappy doctors typically have crappy matching support staff. Sometimes they do "bad cop" meanie rude staff and "good cop" doctor, but doctors know how their staff treat patients, believe me.
I have told doctors off a few times. They really needed it. I have also had a few really outstanding doctors. It's my money and my body and they're just working for me. The arrogant doctors aren't the worst problem, it's the dull witted ones that injure people who cause most of the problems.
Retired nurse here. I have often wondered what circumstances cause this arrogance and rude behavior. It could be that they were arrogant as a teen and decided to become a doctor for the status and power. The god complex.
@@nbeezhao The field attracts people who have something to prove, then there is ritualized hazing in training (nurses eating their young, and residency, respectively), then they experience events and bad working conditions that would traumatize and burn out anybody. I think they could all use mandatory therapy. In my experience alot of OBs are misogynists. Probably mommy issues.
I had a nurse practitioner tell me that I had failed the different medications that she had proscribed to try to lower my BP. The meds didn't work, but I failed them. She was fired. The MD I replaced her with was just as bad. I fired him as well. Funny thing is, nobody ordered any tests. Just airily said, "Well, some people just have to take more than one pill to lower their BP." I knew there was something else going on, and there was.
Eleven years ago, I had the misfortune of going to totally arrogant doctor. After waiting for 2 hours, I finally saw him. He asked me how I was; and I told him that my time was valuable, too. To this he replied, "Well, I am not some hairdresser." I told him that there was nothing wrong with being a hairs dresser. I also told him, "I am an elementary teacher and if it wasn't for me and my fellow educators, he wouldn't have a job." That shut him up and I walked out of his office.
Good for you....did you find a far better practitioner yet??
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@@denasharpe2393 YES! Thank you for asking.
parkemock4283,
It would have been understandable if he had said the last few patients needed more time & care...
I r like my Ob/Gyn, who was always checking on Mothers in delivery or actually delivering the babies...
Im glad you found a good doctor & I hope he gave his attitude some thought!
Good! Get out before he can hurt you.
Thank you for helping us advocate for our own health. My new doctor after I walked out on the old one, when I now go to see him, he sits down from the get go and from the first visit I have seen him and says to me, "I am here to listen tell me everything" its a relief to finally have a doctor to listen. It also has greatly improved my health also.
WOW! That's awesome! I'm so happy for you. 😊
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That's great to hear! This is how it is supposed to be. I'm glad you found a good doctor.
Finding a good doctor is very rare in recent years and just about impossible where I live in N.E.Pa. The good ones often move away. I wish you a long & benefical relation with your caring doctor. Hold on to him as long as you can.
I had one cardiologist ask me why I was there in such an obnoxious way. We talked & then he called his receptionist in front of me and asked why they allowed me to come to his office? I was so shocked. I should’ve left that office immediately. I complained to my insurance company about him and actually got an agent who suffered the same illness I did. They told me that they would follow up on my complaint.
I’ve had Endometriosis for 50, yes, 50 years and can’t count the arrogance and incompetence I’ve encountered. Women are still not treated well by this profession.
Thank you for sharing this. I’m so sorry this happened to you.
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He was asking you so he would have a place to start.
@@wayneburgess2885 YES start to throw me out of his office.
Best day of my life when I had all that removed after I was able to have my children. No questions asked. I just stood up and was firm.
I found that arrogant doctors get openly angry and respond aggressively if you ask them a question to which they don't know the answer.
Well said. I have some medical knowledge and when I have to explain my health problems to the doctor I can use a technical language. This bothers incompetent and arrogant doctors whereas confident physicians find it useful in order to focus on the problem...sometimes arrogant doctors have such a sense of superiority that do not explain clearly the health problem to their patients...
My wife had her knee replaced. After surgery they hitched up a refrigeration unit to pump ice water to a wrap around the knee. In her hospital room after recovery I found it was pumping but not refrigerating. Her nurse ignored me. Her nursing supervisor told me I didn't know what I was talking about and that the technician had already gone home for the day. My voice dropped two octaves. "You dont understand what I am saying, your nursing license and personal finances may depend upon how she supported my wife at this critical time after surgery and are you going to make the phone call or am I going over her head. Every second you waste further complicates recovery. I will get this equipment fixed with or without you. If without you my lawyer will be involved." The tech rushed back to work and brought up another refrigeration/water pump unit. Installed it, made sure it worked and apologized profusely. I asked him to speak to the nurse telling her that I was correct and that she should have listened to me sooner.
I spoke to the doctor about this the next day and he said he would have the nurses involved "re-educated" about the role of family as patient advocates.
@Phil, you did a great job advocating for your wife. I believe every patient needs a person doing this. The squeaky wheel gets the oil. Unfortunately, the Dr probably left the room shaking his head and said nothing to the nursing staff. I lost a husband to leukemia. It was an uphill battle the whole way. In the last 60 days of his life, his oncologist asked if he could take me on rounds instead of the new interns. I chuckled and said no that I simply can't do this for a living.
Their re-education will be some Woke DEI diversity training! Sadly.
Praise God for being your wife’s advocate. Usually my experience as a woman is the health care worker just ignores the complaint and when complications arise my insurance company adjuster told me I was just
“unlucky”. 🤬
You speak to people that way and feel you are behaving appropriately? Coming from a family almost entirely comprised of physicians I can assure you, your wife more than likely paid for your horrible attitude in ways you are completely unaware of..
@@Teenywing Horrible attitude? Two professional employees were told or a serious complicaiton to recovery and did nothing. And you think I have an attitude. What about the attitude of the two people who didn't even check what I was informing them about. An attitude of carelessness and negligence?
My wife was three hours out of her second knee replacement surgery complaining her knee was on fire. I put my hand in where there should be ice water circulating and it was about 103F.
I was very polite until I was told I didn't know what I was talking about. This was her second knee replacement. I was used to putting that unit on her, used to helping her with PT. After I went up the chain of command someone who hadn't even checked it the way I did told me I didn't know what I was talking about.
And you think I should not get upset. I didn't get loud, I got low and quiet. After the tech came back in to work he quickly set up one that worked. How about the nurses should have checked it when she first got on the floor after leaving recovery? Is that too much to ask? And her room nurse and the nursing supervisor didn't even slip their hand in to check the temperature of the wrap after I notified them.
I don't care what you think, a strong patient advocate needs to be there at all times. Nurses and doctors always assume things are going normal.
Another time in an ER with a friend as patient advocate; I had to teach a resident how to insert an NG tube. Because as he was pushing it in it kept getting jammed and causing my friend to gag uncontrollably. Side note, my friend had titanium rods along the spine, so that gagging was stressing every muscle against those rods. That visibly hurt to the point of tears. What I told the resident he had one last chance and this is what he would do. When it gets to that point of resistance let go of it, rotate your hand around it, grab it, then rotate the tube then push. And guess what, it worked. He went from annoyed with both of us to instantly amazed that a patient advocate could teach him something. And what I taught him was basic plumbing, running a snake around a corner., being able to visualize a jam and take advantage of the natural curl in the inserted object.
Oh, and then there was the time my wife's BiPAP hadn't been released by respiratory therapy and I asked them to call and remind them that a patient was waiting for it. We'll just let her sleep, and her blood O2 dropped and set off an alarm. I reminded them and she said they still hadn't called, but soon did. Five minutes later there it was. Twenty minutes later she was sleeping peacefully without supplemental O2.
So by my scorecard I'm 3 of 3 as a patient advocate. And frankly, I'm pleased with that record. I took care of my wife and a close friend when the professionals didn't, either out of lack of caring or lack of knowledge.
If you think that someone would retaliate on a patient because of a patient advocate, perhaps you should re-evaluate your attitude and that of your family. As for me, I shall continue. I've seen my results.
And I had a dr that was arrogant. I came back to get a refill on a medicine that he prescribed. He said he did not give me that medication. When I showed him the bottle with his name and date. He threw a temper tantrum and threw his clipboard on the floor and walked out of the exam room.. lol
As i was walking out I told him to grow up and use your words..
Oh my gosh!! Who let that 2 year old become a doctor????!!! 🤣
I had that happen to me too. Dr gave me a medication and kept me on it for two years. After the third visit he yelled at me for using it that long when he prescribed it twice with no advice for when to stop it. I'm so sick of the incompetent Drs.
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Kudos to you standing up for yourself!
All my experiences' for 55 yrs !
I have suffered from PTSD for 50 from an ‘arrogant’ Dr I had in the ER after being in a car accident when I was in high school. I didn’t not got to a Dr for over 40yrs because of it. If I walked into a Drs office or hospital I would pass out. Listening to Drs like you give me hope. I don’t have the words to thank you for these posts.
Ditto man....👍
I have what They laughingly refer to as ‘white coat hypertension’ because my blood pressure skyrockets at Dr appts. They act like it’s normal but it’s caused by extreme frustration. I never realized that it’s actually a symptom of PTSD, thanks for helping me see that. I hope you’re doing well.
I am so, so sorry. thank you for posting. that is happening to me after cataract surgery. trying to get someone to correct my eyesight after he took it from me. he was a horrble bully. It takes all that I have to even make an appointment then trying not to come unglued at the dr.s office. PTSD. wishing you good days
Never met a Dr. Except one that I didn’t wish a slow painful death on.
@@SuzyQpip sorry for your bad experience. I had a patient once who was a doctor herself. She had white coat syndrome, and freely admitted it to me, her midwife. We used to combine creative visualisation and laughter to little avail. Her blood pressure was much higher when she went to the hospital. However, she managed to have two normal pregnancies and births, thanks to being honest about her anxieties amongst her peers. She is probably an excellent Dr in general practice as a result of her experiences.
You are very correct. I have been a hospital nurse for over 35 years. Arrogance many times comes from inexperience and insecurities. I have seen many new doctors act like this...then in time they get over it and start acting confident and competent. At first, It's like they have something to prove....a chip on their shoulder. I always tell my nurses to be patient and give them time. I also tell the new doctors to listen to my nurses and learn from them, they know a lot
My daughter and I simply will not put up with arrogant doctors and have walked out of more than one's office. But my most favorite of these happened a number of years ago. In the military, getting breast-reduction surgery was virtually impossible. However, because military plastic surgeons have to keep up in their field, they will sometimes provide a surgery for a family member. So we had to apply and then the surgeon would interview applicants. I was one chosen to be seen. I go to his office and tell him I'm interested in breast reduction. He looks me over, then pronounces that the size of my breasts is what balances the size of my butt and I would fall over without them. Since I already understood that I had nothing to lose, I poked him in his paunch and asked him how he kept his balance! As I left the room laughing my head off, it was quite satisfying to see that he was turning purple and it looked like his head was going to explode!! 😂😂😂
Great story! I told one a few months ago that if he expected to be sought after by patients, he should cease talking over them immediately. He was with an entire group of doctors making rounds after my spine surgery. The neurosurgery resident had his back to the dude and he winked at me. Apparently I was giving advice the others already recognized that he needed.
I have not returned due to this.
Obviously the doctor was an idiot. Good for you giving him the Pillsbury Doughboy poke
Military drs, not only drs, but officers as well. They can say/do anything to a dependant, and nothing is done to them. Ever.
Awesome story!
My son is in anesthesiologist school and just started his clinicals. I hope he can be a doctor like you, very kind and truly cares for the patient. Thanks for your videos!!
My son is prepping for Med School to become a physician anesthesiologist....that's why I watch Dr. Kaveh and I have the same hopes as you.
Share this channel with your sons and maybe Dr. Kaveh will be an influence on them!
@@tropicaltanktv hi, I did share it with my son. Thanks
Your son is screwed. And no you don't want him to be like some RUclipsr who tells people how to massage insecure physicians' egos. Lol.
The profession has gone way way down in quality ever since the Rockefellers took it over a hundred years ago. The standards for who would be in te profession used to be much higher before they did so.
Now medical schools and residency programs will take whoever paid to play as long as they got their little "pass" marks.
Ask him to watch some of these videos. We tend to emulate those that we admire.
I used to be a medical secretary in a large cardiology practice. Several of the doctors were fairly arrogant. I left there to work at a hospice house. I love the doctor there. She is not only a very knowledgeable, skilled, compassionate doctor, but such a down to earth, sweet, fun, humble person who manages to have a very balanced home and work life. I tell her even though I don't have a need for hospice that she is my favorite doctor.
oh god my father was a cardiac surgeon and he was SO ARROGANT. he really was. he was very famous and extremely skilled, and his patients loved him, but the nurses called him a literal nazi behind his back.. he earned his reputation as the very best, but we all could have used a little less npd in his life! its why i know drs are just people but man he was difficult to live with
@@possumofantikka8160Sorry to hear that, family of NPD docs here, too. 🙏
Life's too short, glad you found your place! 👍
When my father was diagnosed with brain cancer, I nearly fainted. This was obviously a tremendous shock and a topic I knew nothing about. The neurosurgeon kept talking to my mother and didn't acknowledge me or my father who was laying in the bed at the time. A nurse ran and got me a chair and cared for me while he blabbered on for about all of 7 minutes and then walked out of the room. My mother called him back and asked him to repeat what he said as we didn't quite get all that he said. His reply was, "Don't call me and ask me about what I told you already. Ask the nurse to explain it" and down the hall he went. I am very direct with doctors as it is part of their job to explain their findings and treatment. I know they are busy and Imay be the 10,000 patient that they have seen but if a family member or I have questions, I expect to be treated with the same respect that I show them. They are good at their job, big deal, I am good at mine too the difference is I treat people with respect and compassion.
I worked in hospice as a nurse and I always said special people are needed for that profession!
I hate doctors that try to prescribe a medication for you that you know yourself that the medication is not good. I research every medication before taking it. I was very surprised how many doctors get kickbacks from pharmaceutical companies. Pretty scary.
I'm not aware of how many doctors receive kickbacks, but there certainly are unscrupulous practices in many parts of medicine, unfortunately, just like many other professions
There are Federal Laws in place such as the “Anti kickback” law that prevents doctors from accepting favors and gifts from drug companies.
@@specialneedswolfman1128unfortunately the law isn't always followed...
Corrupt big pharma and corrupt health insurance companies make one big toxic pool for us to swim in. It's sad.
In recent times I haven’t seen as many pharma companies trying to look for that like before. But I don’t doubt that there are some underhanded things going on. Just because a doctor receives samples does not mean he gets “kick backs”. Sometimes those meds are valuable to those who can afford them.
My dad was referred to an orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon spent a couple of minures telling my dad how much he appreciated my dad coming to him. Then he went on to talk about giving my dad steroid shots and when those no longer work, he would do shoulder surgery. He never asked my dad a single question. Never examined him or showed him the xray. When my dad said he just wanted lidocaine patches, the surgeon was offended and told my 82 year old dad to 😮go somewhere else. He said he is a surgeon and does injections and surgery. He said if you just want pain management, you need to go somewhere else. I said I know a lot of people that come there for pain management and he said for injections! And he left the room. If he had spent 2 minutes asking my dad about himself, he would have learned that my dad just lost his wife to cancer and was about to have heart surgery.
Piece of crap doctor for sure
I hope you wrote the doctor a letter so he could reflect on his cocky self.
@@Liz_S702 I did a google review instead.
Awful.
I have dealt with several arrogant doctors in my 30 plus year career as a nurse (and even as a patient). Thank you for empowering patients to stand up for themselves!
An arrogant surgeon operated on my ankle for torn ligaments. He told me he 'LOVES TO OPERATE.' Unfortunately, I got Staph, then MRSA, and he blamed me for the infection. I was admitted into the hospital immediately. The following day, he came into my hospital room early the next morning. I woke up feeling someone was standing in my room. When I asked why he was there so early, he said, "Slumming, do you know what I'm going to do to you today?" I was still too sleepy to understand, and he left the room. Later, a nurse came in to help me shower before surgery. She said she was told that she had to stay in the bathroom with me to make sure I was washing properly. SERIOUSLY???!!!
The surgeon operated on my ankle a total of 3 times, but it still wasn't right. The last surgery was to have a skin graft to close the wound, but all he did was clean it out again. There was no skin graft, but only 3 sutures were barely holding onto the skin.
I ended up at a wound care doctor for a year, who told me that the surgeon should have recognized the infection within the first 10 days. I had pictures from day one.
A year later, I had to have a second surgeon operate on the same ankle because the tendons were again torn (shredded). The second surgeon told me the first surgeon didn't correct the problem in the first 3 surgeries. The second surgeon corrected the problem, and I've never had a problem since and, no infections. Since then, I've heard about other patients and a physical therapist who told me of some of the same horror stories about this arrogant surgeon.
I'm so sad and sorry you've had such a horrific journey. I am not surprised though and the surgeon sounded like a nut. I'm not surprised he woke you up to say that, sounds horrifying. I read that a lot of narcissistic and psychopathic people choose the medical field specifically and especially become surgeons!🤦🏾♀️
I've been going from doctor to doctor trying to find the best fit for a potential uterus surgery and it's hard finding the right one. I was told nothing about the details of my issue, just given general details mostly until one doctor was straight up honest with me but I didn't go with him. Now I'm going to see one more tomorrow who deals with high risk uterus surgeries and then make a decision. It's been a two year journey.
Anyway, I'm also glad I didn't setting for the first surgeon who told me to immediately get a hysterectomy because she barely explained why and gave me zero options that I knew actually existed. I'm happy I advocated for myself and told a PT because she's been through the same journey I'm about to go on.
You really should sue his incompetent narcissistic ass! You have sustained major damages at his hands and he shouldn't be allowed to hurt others. He needs to be reigned in. Medical malpractice lawsuit.
File a complaint with the licensing board.
Sorry you went through that. ❤
File a complI t with the licensing board!
My brother had an aneurism at the base of his skull and had to be placed on life support. His doctor was one of the neurosurgeons at UCLA Ronald Reagan Neurosurgery ICU. My mom was treated so poorly by this doctor. One thing he told my mom, "you should just pull the plug. If he survives he'll be a vegetable anyway". A day or two before we had my brother taken off life support my mother tore the dr. a new one. The nurses that heard this thanked my mother profusely saying no one had the courage to tell him off and this had been a long time coming.
Sadly, due to past experience, I can almost guess which neurosurgeon this might be.
*my* arrogant doctor did the wrong brain surgery on me and then told me my continued ailing health was “all in my head” and a mental disorder. My dad (who was visiting me at the hospital) almost knocked that guy out after hearing how he spoke to me. (Low key, I kinda wish he had ;) )
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I am so blessed to have survived a brain aneurysm. Right surgeon, right hospital. He was relatively young. Not at all cocky. Just very competent. For that, I will be eternally grateful. There was applause when I left the NICU for a regular room. The staff said most patients don't leave here alive. 🙏
Had thee most beautiful experience w/ a doctor today. He cried with me, held my hand & was the most empathetic dr I have ever had😭🎁🥰
Such a blessing!!
amazing!
What a gem you found God Bless u both. 💖
It is a blessing when you have a good and caring doctor. I have had mostly wonderful doctors.
Wow that would be amazing to experience..an empathetic doctor
Worked the front desk at Cardiopulmonary/Cath Lab/Endoscopy Procedure Dept. My first time working around MD's😅 First Month was a daily struggle not to run out sobbing. After 3 years you could bounce bullets off me. That was 20 years ago. Am still AMAZED when meeting MD at first visit when I actually see "warmth" in their eyes. And patience in their actions. Being a "battlescarred" former Hospital Staff member - I can - within minutes - Sum Up - What kind of relationship and care - This doctor is capable of giving me. Nothing to do with possibly being The BEST at his craft. When an MD gets so successful that he completely forgets those humbling days of Med School/Residency. And being catered to and fawned over endlessly can suck the humanity and humility out of too many MD's. Just the simple task of looking you in the eye tells you volumes.
My father was a paraplegic. He broke his femur. He was put on the plastic bedding without a pump to blow up his bed. Those of you who know about this know how important not to allow breakdowns on the skin. I asked for the nursing supervisor. She told me the hospital ran out of pumps. I kindly told her I will be heading to Sacramento to formally complain to the Board and joint commission. They immediately had a pump via taxi cab brought in. If I didn’t threaten they would have let this slide.
I had a physician open the door and tell me to leave his office once. Front desk told me to come in when I called. He insisted they didn't, then "check ed with them." I was about 20 years old. Left and burst into tears.
I knew there was a reason I like you. I've been dealing with doctor's attitude problems for 40 years. I even had one jerk suggest that I take my own life... There a lot of monsters hiding out there among the good guys. This was a great topic. Thank you. ❤
Wow, this guy needs a formal complaint to medical board
True! A lot of psycho doctors out there. My eye doctor was a creep. Couldn’t be bothered to talk to his patients. Glad he retired and I found a great doctor who shows interest in patient care and communicates well about your health issue.
Omg!
OMG I’m so sorry you had to go through this. ❤
I agree, complaint to a medical board is absolutely appropriate
You are an excellent doctor ❤ thank you for this conversation. My mom was seeing a surgeon and preparing for a fusion in her neck. Days before surgery, her surgeon was talking to her about another provider on her care team whose office hadnt returned his call yet. He said that no one in health care gives a f*** about her (my mom). Healthcare is just a business that allows them (doctors) to buy their boats and nice things. He said she should never expect anyone to actually give a shit and to get over it. The cursing was included in this discussion. We canceled the surgery and immediately started looking for an entirely different organization.
I tell you this because I just got done showing my mom this video. I wanted her to know that there are doctors and many other healthcare workers who care deeply about their patients. Thank you, again.
Thank God for Dr. K, and it's wonderful that you showed your mother this video. I wish her all the best. 🙏
😮Too stunned for words.
@@KA-in6sx we absolutely did
@gentlespiritjw4904 thank you 💗 she's doing well. We decided to wait for surgery.
I hope you reported the doctor
I had to have my gall bladder removed. I was recommended to a local surgeon, admitted into the hospital, prepped and brought up to the pre-op room. I laid under a faulty florescent light (which made me nauseous) for 3 hours before the orderlies came and took me back to my room. I asked them why, and they said my surgeon didn't show up. I had never been in a hospital before, and never had surgery before, so I started having an anxiety attack. I told the nurse I wanted to see the surgeon as soon as possible. I didn't sleep all night because of the anxiety. The next morning this little guy comes marching in and asks, "Are you Mr. So in so?" I said yes. He said, "WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TO INTERUPT A MEETING I HAD YESTERDAY TO DEMAND I COME HERE TO SEE YOU!" (He was probably on the golf course). I said, "Hey Doc... I have never been in a hospital before, I have never been operated on before, so if you are too busy for me, release me and I will go somewhere else. His tune changed right away. He said, "Now calm down... Lets not get ahead of ourselves! We can do this operation tomorrow morning." Once again I told him to sign the release because I wanted to get the hell out of there. The nurse came in and said, "You are already here. Why would you want to go to another hospital and have to go through this all over again. I agreed and they decided to do the operation the next morning.
The next day the orderlies came and took me up to pre-op. It was full, so they put me in a janitors closet. I was laying there staring at a clock on the wall (Which read 9:00 AM) when I guess I dozed off. Remember, I haven't slept for 2 days. I woke to the sound of someone screaming, "HOW THE HELL COULD YOU LOSE A PATIENT! WHERE THE HELL COULD HE HAVE GONE?" I looked at the clock and it said 3:00 PM. I yelled, "HEY! HEY! I'M IN HERE", and started banging on the wall. The doctor opened the door and said, WHAT ARE YOU DOING IN HERE?" I said that I was hiding from him. He looked at me, burst out laughing, and asked if I wanted to get this over with. I said yes, and we removed my gall bladder. I woke up that evening with serious gas pains. The nurse told me that they filled my intestines with nitrogen gas to do the micro-surgery. She said that I had to get up and walk around while pushing a wheel chair to help pass the gas. The first day I had the gown on with sweat pants. The second day I walked up and down the halls with the gown on with my underwear underneath. The third day I pushed that wheelchair down the hall with the gown on and bare assed. It was the Friday before Superbowl Sunday, and I told the nurses I was going to watch the game from home. They said the doctor wasn't going to release me unless I passed the gas. I told her to try and stop me. The next day was Saturday. I stood up, grabbed the wheelchair, and let out the biggest longest fart I have ever passed! I rang for the nurse and started getting dressed. I pulled the IV out of my arm, put a tissue over the hole, and the nurse came as I was leaving. She asked where I was going, and I said HOME! I told her I passed the gas, and I was out of there. She said the doctor had to release me. I asked where he was, and she said he wouldn't be in until Monday. I said I was leaving and walked out. An orderly tried to block me, and I just pushed him aside. I went outside and a cab had just pulled up to drop someone off. I asked if he was free, and he said yes. I got in and went home. My wife was surprised to see me! I was in the hospital for 6 days for a minor gall bladder removal. I filed a formal complaint with my insurance company and the facility. The doctor was asked to retire within a few months (I guess I wasn't the only one his arrogance made worse. The hospital closed after 5 years.
Omg! I am so sorry you had to go through that! Thank you for sharing that story.
Cool story bruh😂 Why are you acting like shoving people is cool?
What an incredible and incredibly shameful experience…..thank you for taking the time to relay this disgusting side of medical care to us. It is illuminating and horrifying. May I ask what city your hospital was in? Personally, I think you were incredibly patient and forgiving of unforgivable incompetence and arrogance. I wish you health and long life.
Wow! That was a nightmare! Extreme incompetence on the part of ALL staff!
You might have helped save a life. That hospital sounds like it was bad.
Reminds me of a well respected popular surgeon in 2019 who walked in complaining to staff about his coffee, quickly introduced himself while rolling his eyes at staff and right away cups my breasts with his hands while saying, about a C cup… granted he is a breast surgeon and I just had a diagnosis of breast cancer, I knew he would examine me but his bedside was terrible, found another fantastic surgeon and had incredible results. Then the first oncologist voluntarily lied about what was in the chemo I suppose to lessen the fear people have facing treatment but I found it condescending, 2nd oncologist was eating an apple during the examination literally squirting apple juice in my eye… so found a 3rd who had a nice bedside and solid rep. As a RN of 23 years, I am not settling for poor behavior. We all work hard, experience stress and burnout but also have a role to respect the people in our care and on our teams.
Thank you for those suggestions. I worked in medical records and saw real jerks.
I'm so sorry about that 😔 as we can both attest to, the arrogant and narcissist professional is a very real phenomenon
When I moved to a new city and wanted to research finding a competent and non-arrogant MD, I called the hospital where they practiced and spoke to different nurses who worked on their post op unit. I called three times and asked "which three doctors would you choose to go to for ( fill in the procedure)." Ask to speak to the unit charge nurse and then later ask another RN on a different shift. If the same name or names come up, that's a good indication they are not only competent, but also have a respect of the staff and hopefully their patients. I also have asked medical assistants as they take vitals "what is doctor ....like to work with? " And, of course if you want to get a total joint or another surgery, ask people who their surgeon was and what was their experience like with the MD. Don't just ask which group of surgeons; ask for the name of their specific surgeon. Look for Board Certification and Fellowship credentials which likely confirms competence; that the baseline.
Thank you for sharing your time and expertise with the public and loyal followers Dr. K! I love that mantra “don’t let the ugly of others take way the beauty of yourself!!”😊
It's powerful and it's taken me time to embarace it deep down... But it's powerful and necessary!
I once had to have emergency surgery on my spine due severe spinal stenosis (my spinal cord was being crushed). My surgeon, a neurosurgeon, advised me that I was one accidental bump to my neck away from being a quadriplegic. (THAT got MY attention!) In my follow up appointment I spoke to my surgeon from my heart when I told him that he was a blessing in my life. His reaction was amazing! I was actually taken aback by how much what I had said to him had touched him. He responded by saying that that is the reason surgeons like him got into what they do. To make that difference. I’ll always be grateful for what he did for me!
One thing about advocating for myself I also give good doctors compliments I have one doctor that is very caring willing to listen just like you you ask are human and we need to say we appreciate you doctors as well realized this when he came in with a bounce in his step for my turn
I have met worked with Drs who where the most arrogant evil uncaring unkind snobs an I met Drs whose kind understand and kind the truth is Drs are just people wearing white coats and sometimes green pajamas they are just like you have wife’s children dogs that keep having accidents on the floor an mother in laws try to see them as the electrician,handyman or in the case of a special isn’t plumbers they are doing a job important impossible an interesting job but also a long tiring sometimes stressful job the arrogance often is a insecurity or apathy fear or tired stress just like us they for some reason do feel or think or have been taught to not be there emotionally there’s a wall there an if they can’t let you in or at least talk to you over the gate they are not for you
@MedicalSecrets ❤
I interviewed 4 hip surgeons, finally found the right one, had a great office staff, and NP and PA and gave me a hug. I've recovered and am back to work pain free!!!
How does that work, interviewing a doctor. I mean, do you make an appointment and does insurance pay for these interviews?
Gréât advise.
I am a medical doctor who is going thru some personal post ‘safe and effective’ health issue. The level of arrogance and contempt I have faced from my health care professionals and insurance providers echos what Dr Kaveh describes.
Right!? And you're a doc yourself!
I am so sorry.
Thanks for this.
I once had a gp appointment with a new GP as I had just moved to the area who was rather nasty and arrogant imo. He wouldn't listen to me and what was worse, it was in front of a medical student. I had a follow up appointment two days later and was worse, so he prescribed a second medication and another follow up appointment in another two days.
By the time I went to that on I was worse (almost at hospitalization point by this stage) and this time informed him that I was not leaving the room until he gave me a script for my original prevention asthma inhaler which he finally did along with a follow up appointment in another two days.
He was amazed when I arrived for that appointment as I was so much better than all the other times I'd been to see him. Needless to say, I asked him if he was going to listen to his patients after our experience together. He dropped his head and replied yes then snapped at the medical student (who had been there for every appointment) because he was trying not to laugh. Well, I snapped at the GP to not take out his bad mood on this student just because he'd been called out. I then made him apologize to the student and asked them both what important lesson had we all learnt. They both replied "To listen to our patients"
After a rocky start to our acquaintance, that GP turned out to be the best GP I've ever had. I've since moved from the area but we still keep in touch and he's even thanked me for doing what I did because since then it's helped him become a better doctor.
You rock!! 😅👍
@@gentlespiritjw4904 Thanks 👍
WOW 😮
@@KA-in6sx😏
@@KA-in6sx yeah that, or a drill sergeant
Thank You for spending your time to give us advice and knowledge that is rarely shared
Thank you for the kind comments! 🙏I hope you learned something new and feel empowered to advocate for your health 🙏
@@MedicalSecrets I and I guarantee others have learned so much and being empowered more and more thanks to you. This was another very helpful stream 🙏
Thanks for sharing 🙂.
You made me cry when you took the time to consider and console your patient who was so afraid.❤
AMEN!
My way of dissolving an arrogant doctor is walking out of the doc’s office before the doctor is done. Do it and see the face the doctor shows, suddenly he/she is not in control and they feel fear. Show them, YOU are in control of your body, not them.
That's what my Dr does if he doesn't agree with me ,or I with him, He's a two year old!
Well they’re still getting paid unless you report it to your insurance
I have done that walked out ...
You are a teacher now as well as a doctor 👍
I took your advice and took my son with me to my doctors appointment. What a difference.
Good for you! I’m going to take someone with me next time so I don’t get bullied.
This is so timely for me! Thank you! I had breast cancer last year and the surgeon who removed it and who I continue to see for follow ups every three months is very arrogant. He acts so offended and irritated when I ask questions and try to advocate for myself. He was even rude to my mom who accompanied me to my last appointment. This information is very helpful.
Once when my Oncolo was mean......I said....
"Oh,......would you like a saucer of cream with that caty remark?" He really got it. Usually I'd leave his office so upset...never thinking of a comeback to say during my visit.......only hrs afterward...."I should've said........!"
I hope you have good health and have complete recovery ❤️🩹 ❤ that’s disgusting how you and your Mother have been mistreated. You should and could sue him or even take matters to the medical headboard if he is registered doctor unfortunately the private doctors think they can misbehave with their patients because they don’t have to answer to anyone .
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I had a serious surgery by a doctor who would not allow me to ask questions. NEVER AGAIN. After surgery the doctot would not answer my questions I switched doctors after 2nd post-op visit and never looked back.
The 2nd dr. ALWAYS answered my questions.
After my double mastectomy and living alone and far from relatives, I decided to move in with my boyfriend to help with my care. I told my oncologist, who berated me for going against God and sinning. I was age 51. I left in tears and never returned, feeling ashamed and uncared for. I moved in with my boyfriend, who lived about 45 min away, and changed drs. I wrote the hospital he was affiliated, but never heard back. And my new oncologist had received complaints about my 1st one. And 20 years later I’m cancer free and happily married to my boyfriend.
I just stopped going. It’s too overwhelming and my anxiety just can’t take going to the anymore and being treated extremely poorly and unkindly while seeking much needed help and healing. It’s just too heartbreaking.
You said it! Arrogance and confidence (competence) are quite different.
There is no room for sarcasm and arrogance in taking care of a patient as a nurse, caretaker or physician position.
Yes, and we can extend that to how we treat ourselves and our loved ones 🙏
"I don't understand your plan"
Love it!
I love that you discuss behavioral health issues along with medical. And, you use all the behavioral aspects appropriately! Your delivery is spectacular! Thank you so much! I also love that you stress honesty, compassion, authenticity, and respectful. You’re an amazing doctor!!! ❤❤
That's very kind of you 🙏 It's nothing more than what patients deserve when they put their trust in someone else
@@MedicalSecretsI love you too! You're like my doctors at UC Medical Center in Cincinnati. I don't tolerate anything less than respect.
I don't mind a doctor being brisk and to the point. Arrogance is another matter entirely. I worked as a bedside RN for over 20 years and let me tell you, I ran across some doozies! I learned to stand my ground and be a patient advocate no matter WHO the doctor was. If I thought the treatment he/she ordered (never actually ran across an arrogant female physician) was going to endanger my patient, I would never back down. USUALLY, those physicians learned to respect me in the end even if they never liked me. There were a few, though, who never learned to respect me necessarily, but they did learn to be wary of me!
Thank you for truly being there for the individals under your care.
Sadly there are female doctors like this but a lot less. My daughter had one for her cancer treatment and she was terrible. Like everyone, she tried to work with her, but it was impossible. She actually gave my daughter a wring prescription and then blamed her for HER mistake. My daughter sought a better doctor and this male doctor is caring and listened.
Thank you
Thanks it makes a difference
As a retired RN from the 60s I took responsibility for my health so now I am a DNR and will only use a doctor if I need some diagnosis , but so far I diagnose myself and treat it naturally so far so good
You are an unusual being in medicine I hope your colleagues are watching!!!
Dangerous. You are not qualified to diagnose. Natural therapies don't have the research to be safe
Retired nurse after 30 years. I treat myself. I don't want medication and that is one reason people go to doctors. There are many unrecognized side effects from meds.
Agreed, after reading hundreds of stories from patients that never got better, after finding out about so many doctors that don't care and don't pay enough attention to all symptoms and the many pill side effects as you pointed out, it really is the best if people start caring about themselves more. Good quality food and some exercise takes care of many new age diseases.
He is! I am fortunate enough to have a few doctors like him...God provides...but I usually go in having diagnosed myself and already knowledgeable of treatments. As an herbalist, I treat most things at home with plants I grow and forage though.
If everyone would get off sodas and anything else containing high fructose corn syrup, glyphosate, artificial sweeteners, colors and preservatives, they would rarely need a doctor. Avoid eating out and processed garbage.
Thank you for your insight. I have met several arrogant doctors during my medical career who because of their arrogance have not considered all options of care and harmed their patients' outcomes. It is sad when ego blinds a doctor.
I fired my mothers arrogant doctor. One of the most satisfying things I’ve ever done
Thank you for the endometriosis shout out!!! I love that it’s getting awareness more and more. 15 years of gaslighting and I finally was able to find a surgeon that would listen. Educated myself and advocated for my health. Turns out I’m not crazy!
If any doctor tells you something health-oriented is "all in your head", "doesn't seem to exist", or similar garbage, unless you're having a mental health crisis, it's time to fire that doctor.
I saw a statistic the other day that blew my mind. Apparently something like 1 in 10 women is likely to have endometriosis. It's so Extremely under-diagnosed.
I have noticed how doctors show some humility when you show them you know something. I was having a conversation with a coworker about inflammation and carb relation to insulin resistance and such and a doctor got up in my face insinuating I know nothing. I turned to him not missing a beat and asked him "So what you are telling me that 80% of chronic illness is not caused by inflammation?" He immediately hung his head and mumbled "Um yes that is right" and didn't see him before he left. I work in an ER as a practical nurse.
I love your channel for the information not just in your profession but as well as how to fight for ourselves. Taking so many notes for my current situation that I have been battling for about 30 years now. Took an accidental finding from a car accident to finally get the attention I have been seeking all this time.
I’ve found that a lot of doctors think that if you seem to have knowledge of your conditions - especially ones that are painful - they treat you with suspicion, like you’re some sort of pill seeker. Like, nah fam, I’ve just lived in this body all my life and like understanding what’s going on with it.
@t3hwaddledee yes there is that as well. Often the tone is off putting but doctors forget they are in pain and it can come out not the way intended. Sometimes just telling them to take a deep breath and explain a little more would help but that maybe taking too much time. Then again so many perspectives to consider.
I told a co psychiatric patient, in my asylum, that inflammation was caused by moon dust, falling from space because of the electromagnetic field being modified by fridge magnets, there are far too many of them in the world.
When i asked the doctor who suggested that maybe i was talking shit "So what you are telling me that 80% of chronic illness is not caused by inflammation?" he too "immediately hung his head and mumbled "Um yes that is right".
Oh man, I needed this video a week ago. I just had a neurologist completed run over me and not listen to a word I said, I even brought a book about hEDS, flipped to the neurology section and he wouldn't even look at it. He said he's been a doctor for 30 years "I don't know why EDS is blowing up now" ummm because the Ehlers Danlos society has been working super hard to get the info out there. I was diagnosed before it "blew up" he would not listen to me at all and kept saying I don't have Dystonia, I'm on meds for dystonia!!!! At least my neurosurgeon is nice and said my gait issues are due to my syrinx but other doctors have been sooooo rude and dismissive to me because I have hEDS and syringomyelia, a lot of other comorbid conditions but they don't understand me. It's so frustrating. I really want to give up on going to doctors all together but I'm in so much pain and can hardly walk, when I do it's so painful. I'm so over all of it.
I hear ya! I have hEDS as well and I'm finished with "specialists." I could write a book on the horrible experiences I've had with doctors. .
@@consuelaofthenorth4768 I'm so sorry. It's all so painful and overwhelming. We desperately need more doctors that specializes in us
Syrinx Sister here, with CM2, and Mixed Connective Tissue problems common for our people. I am also married to a Doctor with more in the family, and my own frustrating Doctor problems. Here's what I've concluded: IF A DOCTOR CAN'T FIX IT, IT DOESN'T EXIST, ESPECIALLY FOR A FEMALE. Ego runs on success. Also, our collagenous problems affect darn near every system, with few solutions. They are in the dark. We are our own advocates. Bless you both. ❤️🙏💞🦓
You're not alone in this journey. I was diagnosed with hEDS a few years ago. Im 48 now. After being referred by my rheumatologist to a pediatric geneticist, It's been nothing but harassment by every one of my doctors!! Its in medical records with the physicians name and date. I was in his tiny Children's Hospital office. I was actually accused by pain management of falsifying the diagnosis. First of all, I wouldn't know how to do that if I tried 😂 and 2nd, I had never heard of this condition prior to meeting this doctor. But I also see a neurologist, and when I called to let them know I was having problems, I was seriously laughed off the phone. I sent my doctor a message and another member of staff replied to stop bothering the office with nonsense. I was told to call my PCP. None of the docs I see give a crap.
Thank you for being a good human, emotionally intelligent, healing presence. You are lovely.
Amen 🙏
Having a son who had his first (of seven) heart surgeries when he was just a week old, I SO appreciate what you are saying about doctors, and surgeons. We were blessed to have an extremely skilled surgeon for the first 5 surgeries who was humble, compassionate, caring, and he took time. My son is now 37. The length of life estimate given to me by other doctors was 15-20 yrs. I trust a soft spoken, relatable, doctor way more than one with a big ego.
I was on 5 chemo drugs for Stage 3, triple positive, metastatic breast cancer. I came to the emergency room with my first GI bleed. I was dizzy and kept using the bathroom. Finally, this young ER doc comes in my room, sits on a chair 7 feet away, and says, "You have hemorrhoids; I read your chart." I mirrored his arrogance right back at him. "Put a hat in the toilet and I will show you what melena looks like." The nurse comes back to the Doc and says, "Yep, that's melena." Doc says, "Well, it looks like you earned yourself a GI consult." I quipped, "That's probably a good idea since GI bleeds can be life threatening." What a jerk that he thought he could avoid examining me and be paid to just read my chart. Good thing I wasn't sent home to hemorrhage after all the (successful) work, time, sickness, and expense, to save me from my cancer.
I recently had some oral surgery done and I was anxious and unaware of the plan so I came out and told the dentist and she explained, answered a few questions, and then I consented to the procedure (cracked tooth extraction, bone graft and implant.) She asked if I was ok throughout the work, and at one point let me take a little break because my jaw was hurting. This dentist is new to me but after meeting her once I trusted her enough to drive 10 miles to another office to see her, instead of one a mile away. I made the right choice. I'll be seeing her again.
Wow, SO glad you found her!
I love my dentist!!!! My son had a disaster mouth full of milk bottle cavities that started before age two. (The cavities came from breast feeding to sleep.) We carefully kept up on brushing until he was old enough to hold still for my dentist because the pediatric dentists wanted to give him general anesthesia ($$$$$$) and use his mouth as a gold mine by charging separately for each face of the tooth that needed work. My dentist did everything in an hour and made himself $1800 vs $2500 the pediatric dentist wanted (not including anesthesia). I was happy to pay it!
I paid a lot of money for dentistry, I didn’t like my dentist, but I wanted sedation so I went with him. I found him to be quiet neurotic and miserable.
Thank you so much for this . I have been dealing with POTS for over 10 years. I've actually developed a phobia when I have to see a new doctor.
But I will say I lost the ideal that doctors were more important than me. I go in with a binder of my diagnosis from Vanderbilt with copies. Copies of the latest research . My up to date symptoms. And other copies . I'm armed . And knowledgeable. And if they try to give me the God complex. It does not intimidate me. I've made some mad. But folks. Their on your dime. Not the other way around.
Fellow POTS patient here too!
@@evelyncovert6976 I'm sorry. It sucks doesn't it
It sounds like you have PTSD.
I take a binder in too, I have a lot of rare diseases and read so much information on research studies, medications etc…
I almost feel like I am a scientist. It is time consuming, frustrating and exhausting.
I’m sorry you have POTS I’ve heard it’s awful and is often accompanied by other rare illnesses.
Take care of yourself.
@@Athena752-r6h I'm trying baby 😀
@@evelyncovert6976 sux don't it
Hi .You are such a kind & compassionate anesthesiologist.
Pity there wasn't more understanding healthcare staff like yourself.
God bless. X
"Don´t let the ugly of others take away your beauty" that is so powerful!
My adult son suffering from unknown medical issue causing unconsciousness and unresponsiveness at end of sleep cycle. Two major events over ninety days requiring EMT 911 calls and transports to ER. Syncope to dogmatic neurologist declaring seizure from undefined causes … to low blood sugar, etc. and all test negative but neurologist demanding heavy side effect anti-seizure medications two weeks ago; but the real issue facing us now and even with life threatening words from doctors is actually getting an appointment to see other specialist or second opinions. For instance … mid-November (currently early August) to see one of the 26 Endocrinologist at a UAB.
Thank you Doctor for this video. Even with a respectful engagement with the neurologist and intelligently questioning his contradictory plan of pills that might not prevent seizures that have serious side effects of inducing hostility and lashing out according to the neurologist … he mandated them. I asked four times over the twenty minute session for a lower dose to start with and can we wait until after a second five hour glucose tolerance test that was set for a few days out returned “no. His condition is life threatening and requires the medication now”. Yet - the MRI I requested for my son and that he agreed with would only result in him contacting us if it revealed something. Otherwise he said ‘no need to see him until three months later’. Neurologist at UAB were four months out if you wanted an appointment with any of them. Some plan.
The primary Doctor has worked hard to expedite an appointment and labs have botched testing requiring re-testing. I by accident have used three of your points; but some doctors are unreachable. You have performed a tremendous public service by releasing this video.
When my daughter was a minor (17 yrs at the time). After undergoing many, many tests with her pediatric gastro dr she was finally Dx with gastroparesis after having gone through a gastric, emptying/nuclear imaging test. Her stomach retained nearly 40% of the eggs at the 4 hr mark. The Dr explained to us that a normal stomach has 10% or less amount of food remaining. Ok, GREAT we finally found an answer! A few months later my daughter turned 18, and she had to start seeing an adult Dr. This dr did botox shots in her pylorus. While she was in recovery, the doctor told me she indeed did not have a gastropresis, and that it was just IBS, and “all in her head”, that she was “faking”. Now, keep in mind, her nuclear imaging/gastric emptying test was performed in the exact same hospital she was in for the pylorus Botox injections. He had access to her full records and test results. I could not believe he was saying it was just IBS. I argued with him. I asked how in world could she possibly have FAKED a nuclear imaging/gastric emptying test?! I kept questioning him. He then, while she was still in recovery, with recovery bays only separated by thinly draped walls started to yell at me and BLAME my daughter! Every person in recovery could hear every bit of my daughter’s private medical information. It was then I realized he didn’t like it at all that I questioned him. Of course I placed a complaint against him and we found a new gastro dr. The arrogance of that dr blew my mind. I felt lucky to have grown up with parents with one being a P.A. and the other a nurse who taught me to speak up and not be intimidated.
Thank you Doctor, for your empathy, compassion, and kindness. Also, for being an example of living the Dr's oath to do "no harm" and for sharing how we can advocate for ourselves with confidence!
Here, Here!
When I asked the doctor why he wanted to put me in hospital. He said I clearly was not ready to get better. I have been through nine years of the most terrible stress and on top of that I paid him a lot oh money. He also lied to my family members. I now have no idea how to help myself.
You are an awesome doctor thank you.
Can you imagine if everyone were like this fine man. Just imagine...what a solid soul.
Dr what a caring person you are we could do with more drs like you god bless you
It's heartwarming to watch a Dr. Like you. I wish you could be my primary.
Can you do a video of what to do when Drs. Exaggerate certain things in their notes, lie, and completely leave other important information out (i.e.- fainting) in their notes; so they can just close their eyes and follow whatever is easy /convenient for them. This lack of truth creates big issues for many people, especially if their notes are misleading to other providers.
Thank you for the kind comments! 🙏 you raise a very tough question. Dishonesty in medical records is a serious offense, as these are legal documents. Avoiding documentation around serious events, like fainting or loss of consciousness, can lead to very serious consequences both medically and legally. I'll have to think carefully about such a video!
@@MedicalSecrets A friend's husband saw a doctor who asked him about alcohol usage, he answered he has a few beers here and there. Doc put alcoholism and COPD (? He had no respiratory issues) in his medical records and he couldn't get it corrected. This COPD note prevented him from changing Medicare plans, and ultimately hastened his demise from thyroid cancer the following year, as he couldn't afford expensive treatment.
Same here. In the chart it read "non compliant", on BP medication. This was not true. But later it affected our life insurance policy by paying much higher monthly rates!
A way to find out ahead of time if an MD is arrogant is to call their office anonymously at different times and ask different nurses "which three of these surgeons would you personally go to for .....this kind of surgery?" I did this when I moved to a new city and worked great. The entire surgeon group may be competent, but also they may be arrogant, so asking the staff who work there works well. Do your due diligence.
My doctor just lost his license. He never listened and laughed at me for a question I asked. He also told me not to be a beached whale 😢
Now I'm looking for a new doctor. I'm watching you to know what to do. Thank you for your videos.
I had a serious foot crushing injury. I was referred to an orthopedic surgeon who was super arrogant. I ran into two problems. Your video will help with the first one, which is that the doctor treated me like I wasn't part of my own care team and didn't need to be heard in the process of my care at all. The second problem, however, is one I don't think the video addresses. This problem was that the second time I went to see him, it was after a return to the ER very early that morning in which the two doctors I had seen disagreed about what was happening. One said I was developing an infection in the foot, and the other didn't think so. That afternoon I returned to the office and only saw the nurse practitioner because the doc hadn't had an appointment open. Without me even telling her what the ER docs had said when they saw me, she looked at my foot and said "You have an infection! We need to get this treated!" But a little while later the doc came in and he blew off concerns of infection entirely saying that it was fine. He told the nurse practitioner that she shouldn't treat for infection. However, I am a type I diabetic and didn't want to take the risk. Even if he was right, I wanted to be on the safe side just in case. I was leaving town and said I needed to get it taken care of before I would be away. I pushed, and he finally gave me antibiotics, but he acted like he was doing me a huge favor and tried to make me feel really foolish.
After that I refused to go see him again, even when I didn't have a good alternative. It has been a year after my injury and my foot is still in really bad shape (including intense swelling to the point I can't wear normal shoes). I finally went and saw a podiatrist who diagnosed me with crps. He found me to have classic signs. He put me on an antiinflamatory medication for the nerve pain from the injury that was much more effective (and without any of the side effects) than the gapapentin the surgeon had prescribed, and he prescribed PT, and for the first time I felt some relief. I reached out to the surgeon and let him know that I was finding relief with this medication, and he wrote and said he was glad but didn't agree that I had crps. Even though it had been a very long time since I last saw him! I felt that was really negligent on his part, to act like he could disagree with an updated diagnosis after not seeing me for so long. I feel like this problem can be summed up in the unwillingness to look at all diagnostic information and his willingness to take risks by withholding a diagnosis that might be helpful. I feel like I never got to the point of being able to really talk about care plans with him because we couldn't even agree on a diagnosis. He couldn't even agree with the nurse practitioner in his own office. I don't know what he had at stake, but I know I have suffered way more than I should have had to suffer due to his behavior. I don't know what to do with an arrogant doctor when it comes to diagnosis.
The worst part is, the podiatrist saw me once, sent me for nerve testing, and his office has been impossible to get a hold of since. He gave me a referral to PT but I never got a call. When my prescription ran out he didn't refill it. He never called to give me the results of my nerve testing. I wish I had somewhere to go for PT and continued follow-up.
I had an incompetent doc do my 2nd back surgery. Too make a long story short I was brought to my room late bc he didn't do the surgery right. The nurse came in, yanked the sheet up and I felt the rod slip. I begged for 4 days to have x-rays done to no avail. I get dc'd, fall, x-rays and what do ya know? There's the rod up against my spinal cord! He offered me a direct admit or a script of vicodin. Obviously direct admit. When he left the room I asked my mom if he actually thought vicodin would put the rod in place or make me feel good re being paralyzed. There are some real winners out there!! (He tried to put this on me. I said I didn't do the surgery!)
Did you sue that fucker ? You do know I hope that the papers you sign before a surgery is only for complications from surgery, and not against malpractice - not enough doctors in my opinion get sued - they think because they have an degree that they can do anything they want and get away with it. I'm sorry about your experience but it is all too common in this industry.
@@jimmydandy9364 my dad wanted to. He even called a lawyer while I laid in the hospital on a constant drip of 5mg of morphine. I found, after doing some research, that in alot of cases all a doc has to do is apologize for his screw up BECAUSE medicine is not an exact science and it's called practicing medicine . Therefore, like if you went to a hair school, you take your chances. Unless of course they killed you.
What say you, doc?
What a jerk.
A surgeon Amputated my husbands leg after being told verbally 3 times not too. We wanted a second opinion. He did it anyway.
You can’t sue a doctor, they are very protected
@@Macsrus5 If a surgeon does any other procedure than the one that was discussed and authorized by you first, he is liable, unless the amputation is a result of a complication - and you were supposed to be told ALL risks and complications of surgery, if you were told the risk and amputation was a complication of surgery then he is not liable, but otherwise yes you can sue, there are patients who sue and win millions of $, there is legal precedent for many cases of malpractice, so it's not impossible to sue - you cannot sue for complications, as it was your responsibility to ask about them and your doctor to tell you about them, what you sign for before the surgery is for complications, it does not disclaim liability from malpractice. The majority of doctors today are very bad and some are borderline incompetent - they really need to revise the criteria for actually getting a licence to practice (MD) - then you have doctors that may have been once good, during their residency years but became bad and greedy, some doctors get corrupted by the pharma industry and hospitals which for the most part operate for profits first and patients best interests last. You would think with such high cost of health care, paying hundreds of thousands of $ for surgeries, you'd get decent, guess not - good doctors are RARE, a lot are butchers, around here if you want GOOD ones, you better be super lucky because the waiting time can be months to years to get a consult with the top specialists. and even so, some are crummy as fuck !
I just want to thank you so much for Al the good advice this channel shares. I had a hip replacement last Thursday and because of your advice I did 2 things different . I thanked my Anesthesiologist when he came to see me. I told him he was the most important person in the surgery, because he was the man that was going to keep me alive. 2, I explained to him that in past surgeries I do fine until I’m wheeled into the actual operating room and then I start freaking out, so that is a trigger for me. So he gave me versed before going in, and the moment I was in there He put the mask on for some oxygen and I remember nothing until waking up. All though it’s a difficult surgery, when I woke up, I wasn’t panicked and was able to just help my recovery nurse address my pain in short time. Again, thank you for helping me help myself to a calmer experience.❤
Wonderful you found this channel before your procedure and had such a different and far more comfortable experience thanks to.joining this virtual community....hope you are son well healed and doing great as l have been blessed to be❤
Thatis a beautiful statement "you cant let the ugly of others take away the beauty of yourself" I will remember that! ❤
I was once in ICU for 21 days for sepsis and a rupturesd gallbaldder duct for which they could not do surgery until my white counts came down. I had a young physician who came in on a weekend, wanted to change my surgeon's standing orders and do something that I thought was dangerous. When I questioned his rationale, he said, "THAT is what we are doing because I AM the physician." I told him I was a chemist who ran a lab and he was not the only educated one in the room, and I wanted the Ombudsman. I fired him on the spot from my bed in ICU and asked for someone else. The second physician agreed that he was going down the wrong path with me. That was five years ago, so it obviously turned out OK.
Back in the 70s I went to the only “Tampa Headache Clinic”after 15 yrs daily chronic migraines. Full life, always working and doing housewife stuff too. So thrilled finally a doc that can find out what’s wrong and stop the pain. My head was 24/7 unbelievable pressure cooker type explosion. What could it be? Many doctors treated me as though I was getting something out of it. I thought this guy is an expert, finally hope. He said if you do all that how could you be hurting? What?? You look just fine. After numerous meds that either did nothing or caused heart palpitations (which he said wasn’t true) he told me “you can’t be helped.” treated me like a joke. I jumped up, grabbed the front of his desk, starred into his eyes telling him to “never say that to anyone!Do you realize someone might believe you and kill themself to get out of pain?” Then I walked out and never paid the bill for that visit. I was so upset I probably could have dumped his beautiful oak desk right over. Obviously he thought he was a god.
Thankyou SO much for your tips on how to handle Dr's, who project the ugly persona, & importantly for explaining the detail of each.
1. Ask them "what is the number needed to treat for that intervention?"
2. Tell them that they were recommended to you.
3. At the end of visit (if it is rocky) Ask how do you think our consultation went?
4. Non verbal cues, if they look anxious or uncomfortable, ask why.
5. Understand exactly what the 'plan' is, & be confident with it, if you don't then Speak UP!
Be honest, and authentic :)
I appreciate your channel and the content of it. I completely understand the 5 questions and I have used them in recent years. When I had 4CAB in 2019 it was a complete surprise to me as well as my family. I was in great health. I was the first surgery of the morning and as I met my Anesthesiologist, I thanked God for who it was. He is the son of a very well known doctor here in Charleston. And I was also his patient in my 20’s. I was immediately calmed in his hands. We had a prayer in the OR just before going to sleep. I had no knowledge of the doctor that would perform my bypass. I was not that impressed. This is a major surgery. 4 months later I had a massive heart attack and found all 4 bypasses had collapsed. Shocked. I now am facing a possible heart transplant in my future when medication decides to stop working. Knowing all this does play on the emotional health. But I have complete confidence in my critical care cardiologist now. And he is aware of my concerns.
Again, thank you for your content and how you explained things for an everyday man. I appreciate you.
Dr Kaveh, you have a beautiful soul.
Thank you for being a voice of the voiceless. Thank you for understanding. Your understanding brings hope.
Thank you for this.
Many people need to hear they have more power than they know.
Wow ! What a needed and well presented topic ! Thanks for some help with the narcissistic doctors : They are so frustrating and upsetting as they can be a hinderance to healing .Any doctor that’s not really listening cannot heal their patients .
"A big part of intelligence is being able to explain things." - Thomas Sowell
My problem is with the administrators. My Congressperson's aide gave me the email address of the chief medical officer at the VA hospital, but they never respond. I need a specialist who deals with CFS, fibromyalgia & small fiber neuropathy. The VA keeps sending me to random neurologists without verifying their qualifications & I can't get them to stop doing this. I was diagnosed over 10 years ago & haven't been able to see a doctor who is qualified to treat me.
Oh man, have my own unique neuro problems, and you're right, too many Neuro Doc's are unfamiliar or unwilling to treat unusual conditions! I pray you find the right one and get relief! ❤️🙏💞
Go to a rheumatologist.. That's who diagnosed me with fibromyalgia. They will treat you.
@@kathycuster1714 I could probably go out of pocket to pay the doctor, but I can't afford that plus IVIG. The problem is getting a referral from the VA. They won't give any treatment that is not indicated by the FDA(except for untested covid vaccines). It's been 12 years(I re-did the math) & I still don't have decent pain management.
I had a Dr who was arrogant. He had my xrays backwards. And was going to treat the wrong side. I let him finish speaking ,then I asked was he sure? ! He said yes. I told him he needs to take more time to read his clients files. And i said I'm done and walked out.
Good for you!!!! 👍👍👍👍
Wouldn’t it be great if we all had a doctor like this?
Doc, I’m an English fan , you seem an empathetic person , lovely bedside manner and easy on the eye .You can put me under anytime ! A truly caring and informative professional.
Thanks for highlighting this issue. I've had similar experiences and it's totally demoralizing for a patient, to the degree that it precipitates an aversion to seek out treatment for medical issues or even checkups.
it is absolutely demoralizing. i couldn't have said it better.
I think that is the intention. Insurance companies make money when you don’t go to the doctor. (Sometimes)
Dr. Kaveh, I really appreciate that you brought this to the forefront. Recently, I saw a cardiologist for palpitations. When I said that I didn't subscribe to the "jab" or that I really don't like a bunch of meds thrown at me, he repeated several times that "when I am breaking open someone's chest b/c they had a heart attack, they listen to what I tell them"...THEN he follows up with, "I'm not trying to scare you, BUT". My response? "Well that's great because I do not scare easily". I just wasn't sure what he was trying to convey there....but it did seem arrogant to me. Thanks for great questions to ask!
I have 2 anatheologist who were just fantastic. 1 was a woman in Austin Texas who knew my anxiety with needles and going under and she out of this world at maken me laugh during the process and another one who got upset that a 20 plus yr nurse blew the veins in arm so bad that he seen what she had done and said this might hurt a bit and he got the IV in my bicep( actually didnt hurt)and said she cant be doing that and before i knew it ,i was out. We need more anatheologist like you sir and the 2 i had. Thank you for being honest and showing compassion towards people.
Confidence is different than Arrogance. So true...everything you say. Thank you!
When my kids were young we had a family doctor who was kind, smart and humble. I asked a question he couldn't answer. He said, "I don't know the answer to that but I will find you the answer or someone who knows." I loved him ever after. He was highly competent but would not pretend to know it all & was not afraid to ask.
I appreciate people like this 😊
Thank you for this video. I've just come through over 90 days with a urologist's office staff running over the top of me. Thankfully, and even though I live in a rural area, with the help of a case manager with my insurance I was able to find another urologist. I now know what to politely ask him. Again, many thanks!
“…you want to be authentic and honest…” and not in a bullying nature - and we can only be authentic and honest when we have the knowledge to be able to do that. Thanks Doc for empowering us with that knowledge!
I had a minor surgical procedure yesterday (if any surgery is minor!) and because I have been listening to your videos, I was able to ask pertinent and intelligent questions regarding my asthma, PTSD, etc. Thank you so much! Plus, I'd like to add that I had an amazing team! BTW, I had General Anesthesia.
Anthony you are a wonderful beacon for ethical, competent and caring Medical care. Back in the eighties and nineties I made sure that any medical doctor that joined the Optimal Health oriented Medical Center I founded.. would help each patient create an appropriate health promotion plan that the patient could believe in and act on. Healing is a partnership and thank you so much for all your much needed content 🎯
I have had horrible experiences with doctors and with anesthesiologists in the past. But, I have also had some good experiences too. Thank you for doing these videos! ❤️
I'm so happy to hear that you had at least some good experiences. We all love to hear positive experiences that can inspire others who are (entirely understandably) afraid before surgery
I had an internal specialist in Idaho demand I continue taking meds from my known allergy list with basic benadryl. I was told take it or she would let me die and it turned out to be the medications she was giving me that was killing me and now I'm left with permanent damage. ❤ Thank you for being a light in a very dark tunnel sir
Fid you sue her? Please do.
@@aaabbb8812 it ran out of time to do so and Idaho State med bar laughed at. So instead I spread the word. Related ER Dr said " if you want to die, just die" while i was actively trying to end my life cuz of everything with the specialist. That was 2018 for me 🕯️🥰
Watching from the U.K., the biggest issue here isn’t arrogant doctors - it’s managing to actually get an appointment.
I admire my doctors and think that I am lucky because they are caring, competent professionals. But I still think I learned a lot today about how to be a confident, competent patient. Sometimes I just don’t ask my questions because my generation was taught to blindly trust the expert- in this case the doctor. But I need to be my own advocate no matter how much I respect and trust my medical professionals. Thank you Dr. Kaveh for all of your wisdom and help. 😊
Sometimes we forget that doctors work for us. For five years, when my late husband was terminally ill, we had no compunctions whatsoever about firing doctors. Consequently, we ended up with great physicians!