i’m so happy this video was suggested 😭 i had a kind of simular experience since my school was very little and when i got to university it felt like a world, meeting lots of gay men, it was crazy
im a college freshman going from a very mormon town in arizona to my liberal arts school in mass, and your words were both relatable and healing on so many levels. thank you
Wow. I’m saving this video, because I’ve never heard anyone describe my exact experiences so succinctly and accurately. I think I’m probably a year or two behind you here in terms of your currently outlook, but I related to hard to most of this video. It’s comforting to hear someone who felt the exact things I felt/am feeling have this point of view now. I’m really glad this video landed in my recommendations ❤
This video is well presented, and delicate !! I thought my sight was funny when I saw the view numbers, more people need to watch it !! I'm finishing college discovering now the dating world, your video is great as a different point of view as a college student. I'm an adult, and dating feel more free now. No one to judge me, I feel at ease. In college I was worried it would interfere with my studies and be bullied. And I meet people that are in stable lives, were in college it was unsure where to go after. Though, the adult world feels soo vast ! You have to make a lot of personal choices, with whom you want to spend time with, what kind of community you prefer. College felt like a small world, a tight-knit community, so it has probably easier to date there for some people. And, being gay isn't so far off as being a close friend or flat sharing with someone. Except the physical intimacy with one guy. It's not so special and scary as I thought before. Just some thoughts of mine I throw there haha 😆
Thank you for the kind comment! I'm glad you enjoyed the video. Your perspective on dating after college is reassuring. I'm happy to hear you're feeling more free and at ease in the journey in your adult life. Best wishes :)
wow i dont know how to feel about this its juat so relatable, like im literally that 18 yo (well next week) who has just started uni and hasnt done anything yet. im studying engineering and like no one seems to be gay idk not that i would make any move if there were tbh. it does feel a bit isolating and im definately going through a lot of things you've mentioned. anyway i just wanted to say thank u a lot for putting these personal experiences out there for people like me to watch bc seeing your journey gives me hope and makes me think that there isn't necessarily sth wrong with me so tysm 🥺🥺
ahh you're so welcome!! i really appreciate this comment: not that i'm glad you relate but i made this video specifically for people like you who feel just like i did at 18. i'm so happy it's helped :) wishing you the best at uni.
I'm finishing engineering, there are def gay guys there !! I'm 23yo and starting now, I'm meeting people at 25+ that are starting too. It's totally alright everyone has their own pace, and journey, take care ^_^
I only discovered my bisexuality at 21. I also went through the insecurity of not having experience. To counter that I hooked up for a month straight. Since then I haven't had any sex now that I don't feel insecure yet
I'm glad you are figuring things out! I hope you'll be able to find your dream man one day just keep trying you are a gorgeous guy so it shouldn't be a problem in the looks department. And you weren't nearly as late as you thought you were I'd say. I've done the same catching-up stuff these past 2 years, starting at 25! Do I tell you it's so difficult and awkward for us who live in conservative societies. Add adulthood and work-life balance to that equation oh boy. Most of the time I don't have the energy to even hang out with my friends let alone dating! Much love take care!
I never thought i can share so many common feeling about such a topic with someone from the us as a person from turkey. I am currently in collage which is like one of the most progressive in my country and everyone looks way more accepted thyself than me. I tried to catch up them in my first year and it was just... not good for me. And i experience so many similar situation that you mentioned in this video(having great dates without any physical connection due to anxiety and thinking you are the problem etc.🤦♂️). I really appreciate that you took it. It is the only video so far i felt like it's, i mean feeling like what i feel right now, is OK. And even someone from a country that lgbt people's lives are so different than my country can feel like that. Thank you🙏🏻
Thank you for spending the time to write this! I appreciate you sharing your experience and I’m happy you found a video you relate to :) It is absolutely OKAY to feel how you’re feeling; it gets better with time. Be kind to yourself
Thank you!! Saying this video made you feel safe is such a kind compliment. I really appreciate it. Also with the college vs high school stuff you should see me trying to figure out what they're talking about in Heartstopper I get so confused there too HAHA "GCSE, A levels, sixth form" what is going on I have no clue.
Hahahahah that is so funny how the tables turn! Kids over here consume a lot of American TV so it's pretty much a shared experience to have no idea about how their school system works when we used to watch those shows.
Okkk why I'm late for this!!! You speak 1000% for myself 😭😭😭😭😭 I'm now in the dating delay, I'm a baby gay!!! 🥺 Are you on social media so we can follow you???
Only one more comment I swear, but this aesthetic is so cute, where did you get the template for the text on the left? Also what's the background music called? I couldn't find 'speak soft - rrarebear' :(
hehe no biggie I'm glad u liked the aesthetic 😎 So for the text on the left I did that myself it wasn't a template. To do it, I used a text layer for each title in Final Cut Pro and set the opacity to like 10%. Then, I slowly pull up the opacity to 100% in the section before the start of that topic. For example, "to hold your hand" is at 10% from 0:00-0:49. Then, while I'm talking about "the dating delay", the opacity for "to hold your hand" is slowly increasing until it hits 100% at 2:19. That's the best explanation I can give lol hopefully that wasn't too confusing. The music can be found here: ruclips.net/video/160zZyfIGP4/видео.html It's copyright free! Also, I checked out your moving vlog & video to your heartbroken self and they were both great! Your life in Europe feels very cool and novel to me as an American. It's fun to see your uni life there!
Good for you! That must have taken ages to sort out. I use a different programme and plus I am too un-artsy to ever make my videos aesthetic, so I don't think I will be good enough to try this out for the time being. Also LOVE thank you for the music, will definitely be using those in my future vlogs. And thank you:,) I should be posting the next Cambridge vlog next Friday. I like making them cos it really helps me romanticise going to a uni I dreamed of for so long!
Hi bestie I'm back for some more RUclips advice if that's ok! How did you format the title/description of the video such that there is a clickable link to your playlist just below the title? For example it says, "1,329 views 16 Apr 2023 *lessons along the way*" Really want to do this for my Cambridge vlogs!
Hahaha, sure! It's because the video is part of a podcast playlist! I'm not sure whether it does the same with standard playlists, but on RUclips you can make ones specific to podcasts which shows up in other apps like RUclips Music. If you open the description and scroll down you can see the full playlist. Definitely give it a shot with a standard playlist!
i’m so happy this video was suggested 😭 i had a kind of simular experience since my school was very little and when i got to university it felt like a world, meeting lots of gay men, it was crazy
Thank you for sharing this! Crazy that the video reached Brazil! I’m happy you related to it :))
As a 21 yr old who came out 3 months ago… this video clicked on so many levels 🥲
im a college freshman going from a very mormon town in arizona to my liberal arts school in mass, and your words were both relatable and healing on so many levels. thank you
this is one of the best videos I've ever watched. I needed this so badly this week
Wow. I’m saving this video, because I’ve never heard anyone describe my exact experiences so succinctly and accurately. I think I’m probably a year or two behind you here in terms of your currently outlook, but I related to hard to most of this video. It’s comforting to hear someone who felt the exact things I felt/am feeling have this point of view now. I’m really glad this video landed in my recommendations ❤
I'm happy you connected with it :) Thank you for your thoughtful response.
I’m 18 and I’m exactly where you were! So you have helped me out considerably and thank you so much❤
Most intimate conversation on dating, sharing feelings that are difficult to put in words. You have a gift for writing and speaking from the heart.
Thank you very much, Ken. You are too kind
@@keithsdiary I like your video diary and look forward to hearing the next chapter. Its my pleasure to say a few words of appreciation.
This video is well presented, and delicate !! I thought my sight was funny when I saw the view numbers, more people need to watch it !!
I'm finishing college discovering now the dating world, your video is great as a different point of view as a college student.
I'm an adult, and dating feel more free now. No one to judge me, I feel at ease. In college I was worried it would interfere with my studies and be bullied.
And I meet people that are in stable lives, were in college it was unsure where to go after. Though, the adult world feels soo vast ! You have to make a lot of personal choices, with whom you want to spend time with, what kind of community you prefer.
College felt like a small world, a tight-knit community, so it has probably easier to date there for some people.
And, being gay isn't so far off as being a close friend or flat sharing with someone. Except the physical intimacy with one guy.
It's not so special and scary as I thought before. Just some thoughts of mine I throw there haha 😆
Thank you for the kind comment! I'm glad you enjoyed the video. Your perspective on dating after college is reassuring. I'm happy to hear you're feeling more free and at ease in the journey in your adult life. Best wishes :)
Also I agree so much with what you said about being 21 (well in a couple months) and looking back on your 18 year old self and seeing massive growth!
18 was a rough year for me, thinking about it makes me cringe and wanna cry
wow i dont know how to feel about this its juat so relatable, like im literally that 18 yo (well next week) who has just started uni and hasnt done anything yet. im studying engineering and like no one seems to be gay idk not that i would make any move if there were tbh. it does feel a bit isolating and im definately going through a lot of things you've mentioned. anyway i just wanted to say thank u a lot for putting these personal experiences out there for people like me to watch bc seeing your journey gives me hope and makes me think that there isn't necessarily sth wrong with me so tysm 🥺🥺
ahh you're so welcome!! i really appreciate this comment: not that i'm glad you relate but i made this video specifically for people like you who feel just like i did at 18. i'm so happy it's helped :) wishing you the best at uni.
I'm finishing engineering, there are def gay guys there !! I'm 23yo and starting now, I'm meeting people at 25+ that are starting too. It's totally alright everyone has their own pace, and journey, take care ^_^
so glad i was recommended this video :)
I only discovered my bisexuality at 21.
I also went through the insecurity of not having experience.
To counter that I hooked up for a month straight.
Since then I haven't had any sex now that I don't feel insecure yet
I'm glad you are figuring things out! I hope you'll be able to find your dream man one day just keep trying you are a gorgeous guy so it shouldn't be a problem in the looks department. And you weren't nearly as late as you thought you were I'd say. I've done the same catching-up stuff these past 2 years, starting at 25! Do I tell you it's so difficult and awkward for us who live in conservative societies. Add adulthood and work-life balance to that equation oh boy. Most of the time I don't have the energy to even hang out with my friends let alone dating! Much love take care!
I never thought i can share so many common feeling about such a topic with someone from the us as a person from turkey. I am currently in collage which is like one of the most progressive in my country and everyone looks way more accepted thyself than me. I tried to catch up them in my first year and it was just... not good for me. And i experience so many similar situation that you mentioned in this video(having great dates without any physical connection due to anxiety and thinking you are the problem etc.🤦♂️). I really appreciate that you took it. It is the only video so far i felt like it's, i mean feeling like what i feel right now, is OK. And even someone from a country that lgbt people's lives are so different than my country can feel like that. Thank you🙏🏻
Thank you for spending the time to write this! I appreciate you sharing your experience and I’m happy you found a video you relate to :) It is absolutely OKAY to feel how you’re feeling; it gets better with time. Be kind to yourself
thank you for giving us your experience and perspective it really does help 😊
:D anytime!
Hey, this video was so cute and made me feel so safe watching it! Thank you so much for sharing. Love from the UK
Thank you!! Saying this video made you feel safe is such a kind compliment. I really appreciate it. Also with the college vs high school stuff you should see me trying to figure out what they're talking about in Heartstopper I get so confused there too HAHA "GCSE, A levels, sixth form" what is going on I have no clue.
Hahahahah that is so funny how the tables turn! Kids over here consume a lot of American TV so it's pretty much a shared experience to have no idea about how their school system works when we used to watch those shows.
THANK YOU FOR THE VIDEO!
I'M HAPPY YOU ENJOYED IT!
Imagine adolescence at 33. 😮
Wow. Only 2000 views. What a great video.
Thank you!!
Okkk why I'm late for this!!! You speak 1000% for myself 😭😭😭😭😭 I'm now in the dating delay, I'm a baby gay!!! 🥺
Are you on social media so we can follow you???
haha its okay! It takes time. I'm happy you liked the video. No other public social media right now but I'll stay in touch here :))
Thank you for this❤
ty for this
Only one more comment I swear, but this aesthetic is so cute, where did you get the template for the text on the left? Also what's the background music called? I couldn't find 'speak soft - rrarebear' :(
hehe no biggie I'm glad u liked the aesthetic 😎
So for the text on the left I did that myself it wasn't a template. To do it, I used a text layer for each title in Final Cut Pro and set the opacity to like 10%. Then, I slowly pull up the opacity to 100% in the section before the start of that topic. For example, "to hold your hand" is at 10% from 0:00-0:49. Then, while I'm talking about "the dating delay", the opacity for "to hold your hand" is slowly increasing until it hits 100% at 2:19. That's the best explanation I can give lol hopefully that wasn't too confusing.
The music can be found here: ruclips.net/video/160zZyfIGP4/видео.html
It's copyright free!
Also, I checked out your moving vlog & video to your heartbroken self and they were both great! Your life in Europe feels very cool and novel to me as an American. It's fun to see your uni life there!
Good for you! That must have taken ages to sort out. I use a different programme and plus I am too un-artsy to ever make my videos aesthetic, so I don't think I will be good enough to try this out for the time being.
Also LOVE thank you for the music, will definitely be using those in my future vlogs.
And thank you:,) I should be posting the next Cambridge vlog next Friday. I like making them cos it really helps me romanticise going to a uni I dreamed of for so long!
@@andrewcollettcambridge I look forward to watching it! : ) And thank you!
Hi bestie I'm back for some more RUclips advice if that's ok! How did you format the title/description of the video such that there is a clickable link to your playlist just below the title? For example it says, "1,329 views 16 Apr 2023 *lessons along the way*"
Really want to do this for my Cambridge vlogs!
Hahaha, sure! It's because the video is part of a podcast playlist! I'm not sure whether it does the same with standard playlists, but on RUclips you can make ones specific to podcasts which shows up in other apps like RUclips Music. If you open the description and scroll down you can see the full playlist. Definitely give it a shot with a standard playlist!
Thank you!!!@@keithsdiary
specially living in brazil haha not the most accepting environment
The way you talk is similar to Mina Le
A pointless experience imo...just wait 😅