I Was Scared To Meet My Chinese Husband's Family.
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- Опубликовано: 7 авг 2024
- Welcome to another episode of Living in China on Blessy’s world.
Mrs. Rodah Zhang, an African married to a Chinese shares her experiences about life in China, cultural differences, raising a mixed race kid in China.
Rodah's Channel : / @simplyrodah
Tyler's Channel : / @zhangtyler4455
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Life in China , Being black in China , Interracial marriage issues, Blasian family , Chinese husband
CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction
1:57 How long you been in China?
2:25 What was your experience 10 years ago?
3:44 Are you still a student in Weihai?
4: 12 Who is your husband?
4:48 How long you been married?
5:15 How did your Chinese family accepted you 6 years ago?
11:20 How were Chinese people reacting to your marriage 6 years ago?
12:21 What did your husband do to make you feel very comfortable?
13:49 Do you think your command over the Chinese Language helped you to settle with your Chinese family?
14:29 Talking about her son Tyler.
14:58 Do Chinese people see your kid as different?
16:00 What are you doing as mom to build his confidence level?
17:47 Is it a worry for you as mom to have a blasian kid in China?
18:45 Do you a have relationship with other parents in this same situation?
19:53 Have you been back home since you got to China?
20:14 How did your African family accepted your husband?
20:54 How is the Chinese marriage system different from the African setting?
23:21 Would you advice people to marry outside their race?
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It’ was fun recording this video with you,
I’m glad you availed yourself to share your experiences with the world.
Hopefully this video will go a long way to shape the mind of people in similar situations
Rodah, thank you for telling us your amazing story.
You are Fantastic!
@@KINGKWESI Are you Nigerian? and is she also Nigerian?
@@loveblindhate9318 no please
I’m a Ghanaian and she’s a Zimbabwean
My wife is also an African woman. From Congo! The most beautiful woman I met!
That’s good to know
Wow!!Good husband
In my country will be discribe ur son as a black Chinese
❤️❤️❤️🥰 Warmed my heart.
Thank you brother in law fir taking care of my congolese sister 🙏🏾
My friend is a mixed (African + Chinese) race person. He is a good looking person. Thanks for your brave decision to marry someone you love. China needs people like you. I am Chinese living abroad. I encourage mixed race couples to be brave. The world will be a better place because of you.
That’s right
mix them up the world witout races.
Hi
@Abu Fa'iq Chinese is not monolithic - Han, Manchu, Miao, Hui, Uyghur, Kha, and more. It is true that only Kha people who have brown skin. Darker skin is a new phenomenon. It will take sometime to absorb this concept in a society, but at least they don't associate Africans as their former slaves. I think this helps.But, since historically this notion didn't exit before, it could go both ways. ... but this is a wild guess. I cannot be sure. I can only hope, right? However, I know some mixed-race friends (Chinese + European and Chinese + African). But again, they belong to the middle-upper class in the society. So, they are surrounded by more open-minded educated people. Here in the US, emancipation was announced more than 100 years ago, but until now, discrimination is still very thick. ... but we can only hope and we should st art from ourselves and people around us. If 20% of people think this way, then we will be 20% better. My two cents.
@Abu Fa'iq I agree with you. Trump is racist, and so Biden. I thought Biden would be better, but I was wrong.
Really lovely to listen to your chats, beautiful story.
I am a 56 year old British born Chinese living in the UK. I am still not fully accepted in the English community.
I have a cousin who is half Spanish and half Chinese living in Spain and he is not completely accepted as Spanish.
Life has it frauds but love over comes it all.
Thanks for the information. I thought only those with a black parent would be rejected.
My blue eyed blond Canadian son met his wife when he was in China. I met her Mom & Dad, a divorced upper middle class couple with only one child, their daughter. Joel was teaching Grace, preparing for her ELTS. Long story short they hit it off & her Mom really liked & accepted my son as I did Grace. Seven years
were spent in China, 6 as a married couple. Both my grandsons were born in Zhengzhou. They moved here before the oldest started Gr.1I visited often then, always treating with respect & until Covid the kids would go visit their Chinese Gparents for a month every summer & are bilingual. No complaints
from either Grandma.
@Jacqui Pringle that is beautiful your son found love and your grandchild acceptance by both sides.of the family. It could.have been hard. Unfortunately i think it is a different experience for someone who is very visibly mixed race. Like with African for.example
LOVE YOUR STORY!!
Dont talk about blue eyed shet when the whole worId probIems came from your race
As a Chinese I'm truly impressed by Rodah and her husband's courage. Also it's really lucky to have open-minded Chinese parents particularly in small cities. And I'm afraid Tyler might have difficulties fitting in when he goes to primary school. But I believe problems will be solved when the kids and people around him get to know him. Stay safe and happy!
Rodah, your confidence and open heart are keys to happiness😂😊❤
It takes loads of courage as a woman going into interracial marriage to a foreign country. The “what if’s” will kick in at some point mentally and cracks the soul from deep within … Rodah is the epitome of such courage to assimilate into the culture and racial divide of her husband friends & families. Be blessed !
Rodah, you have a great and brave husband to stand up to the traditional culture bias. I am happy to hear that things are changing for the better.
Thanks for watching
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@@redstwok1123 I’m glad you like my channel
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@@KINGKWESI I'm in the US. In a world that is full of anger and hate (thanks to the politicans and media), your channel is delightful and insightful.
@@redstwok1123 I’m humbled by your words
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What an insightful convo, definitely interesting hearing how an African woman’s experience is with a Chinese husband, it’s so rare.
Yes it’s rare out here
Thanks for sharing your experience. I remembered when I was studying in college, there was once my friends which included black guys and white guys and of course myself comparing how we used to get punished by our parents, the way our parents scolded us, their choice of words and so on are mostly similar. I guess we have more in common than we thought regardless of our race.
I’m glad you’ve also shared your experiences through the comment section
Chinese are learning from the West racial and cultural divides destroy country's 😅 harmony. Unfortunately this learned behavior repeats among some chinese
Thank you for sharing your story, China is honored to have you guys, the world is a better place because of you.
❤ I'd love to meet Chinese people❤
Beautiful conversation. I related to many of the feelings and challenges Rodah mentioned.
My son is automatically considered ¨a foreigner¨ even when he is half-ethnic-minority Chinese... but I've found that as soon as he or us ¨correct¨ the misunderstanding the reaction is amazing. Most of the people (I must say 100%) feels impressed and love the idea of seeing someone like him being also a Chinese.
Don't think is ignorance it's just a novelty to some people. I've seen this happening, regardless of the ethnicity, in almost all the cultures around the world.
One love! ;)
Spot on! I live in Hk and of course I’ve seen people and friends all over the world. But Rodah lives in a small city so most of the local Chinese have never seen foreigners before, but once they get to know you they’ll embrace your charm and personality
So proud of this very intelligent mum. My best wishes to her family and hope her life in China will be better and better.🥰
She is really smart. Her husband and his family are so lucky to have tis very beautiful and loving lady so much humility.
Its difficult to be colored in China, that is the reality in that nation...it is always the children of mix races ( the colored ones) who suffers, fitting in a culture rooted in Confusianism, whom majority are , will become a challenge .
It doesn't matter what race we are because we can't choose what race we are born into but we can choose to be a good person. We can choose to be hard working and do things we can control. I wish Rodah a happy healthy family
The best tool to combat ignorance is continuous education of the public. Thank you very much for sharing.
Wow, her child is so cute. You could see that the child inherited a lot from his African mother.
Absolutely
My guess is that Rhodah’s future husband did some groundwork before actually bringing her to meet with his parents. This would like seeking mum and dad’s opinions about a black daughter-in-law. That they had no objection was because they truly loved their son and would respect whatever choice he made. After all it is his life and to hell with what others think as long as the couple are happy with each other. Speaking the language definitely helped. So sweet of the man’s mother to bring along all the old photographs of his childhood to break the ice. On her part she certainly made an effort to be nice and welcoming.
Am glad I turned to this blog. I finally found someone who properly and fairly represents the Chinese people in a human light! Thank you for showing me that they can be humane too.
He is a human being, if we truly see people like that then the problem of skin colors would not exist.
They do exist and God wants us to be respectful but at the same time know these nationalities are never going to respect or even like you because the Bible says so!
Unfortunately the reality is very different. People selected by their skin colour
Hello to you Rodah. You are a very warm and sweet person. May you and your family always be well and happy.
Thanks
I love these types of interviews vlogs. More and more people will see how life is in China. Good job.
The little boy looks Khoisan, from south Africa. He's adorable.
Ronda, the fact that you're a foreigner reinforces the image that your son is also a foreigner when you are seen with him when people meets the two of you. If it was your Chinese husband seen taking your son to school or any social gathering, the perception will different. He would be seen as a Chinese having a foreign mother. Can you see the changes in people's minds? Have him go out more often with your husband.
I disagree. His skin color being very different than his father will be why people see him as a foreigner. The world treats you as how.they see you!
It does make sense to me,, if it was the husband taking the child to school it would have been better
Not true. His skin colour comes first. Even with his father he will still be seen as a foreigner. Mixed kids with Chinese or Korean Moms I know of suffer similar things. Hung Hymin in Korea suffered same.
Chinese now accept people with black skin to be Chinese. More open society opened the mind of Chinese.
@@zikaenendu6214 korea is very different to china..you can become Chinese but you can never become Korean or Japanese. mixed people can be seen as chinese
Thank you for sharing this interesting vlogs. China is a beautiful place that loves all those that love her. All the best happy new year 🎉
Our half-and-half, mixed race children are wonderful bridges between two worlds, teach him about the great things and people from your backround, so he knows things about himself to be pleased and proud about too, as well as his dad's side. And yes friends and other blended families are a comfort in one's life, and give strength in occasional challenging events. Peace and strength to you all.
By far, one of the most candid interviews I have seen in a along time! Well done.!
Wish you happy in China, Rodah! Chinese culture is relatively a closed culture, historically, and there are few mix-race or non-yellow Chinese citizens. Even some minority ethnicities are sometimes thought as foreigners (there are some Russian chinese but if you read the news/articles, it is worth mentioning they are Chinese and the authority has to emphasize they are Chinese). But with the education and development, I believe you and you-alike will be welcomed and integrated to China and Chinese culture!
不要自作多情，即使中国人不说出来，真正的中国人不会拿任何混血的人当同胞，中国人是炎黄子孙懂不懂，只是大家放在心里不说出来而已，不说出来并不代表认同
Beautiful interview, Hi Rodha and Tyler, God bless and stay blessed as a family 👪 🙏 ❤️, thank you very much.
African Chinese kids are not that rare in the country nowadays, after the boy goes to school and has some friends, everything should be fine. As long as he is a good kids knows how to get along with others, there's nothing to worry.
I discovered You channel today! I have been watching many many youtubers living in China. Your videos are really good, beautiful and interesting. Many thanks, I will have many hours ahead of listening to You. Thanks again!
Thanks so much
I’m glad you love my content ♥️
This was so interesting to watch…. Thanks for sharing your experience
Thanks for watching
We Chinese love people of the world, we like to consider you as Chinese if you accept, it is so lovely to have Zimbabwe in China family.
The best interview you made. In depth with one to one experience. ❤. Thank you.😊
Local Chinese here.
Love conversations like this. China is still an opening and growing economy. Things change rapidly here. Overtime, I beileve this “curiosity” and prejudice will change too. Looking forward to more interviews by you.
How can u access you tube in China. Interesting
@@mohitaggarwal7583 head of VPN?
@@mohitaggarwal7583 I don't need VPN.
@@mohitaggarwal7583trying to point score, pathetic effort.
@@grantbuchanan7295 what's there to score, you tube is ban in China. Even vpn access is not easy with ccp firewall. Knowing how people can access would be interesting 🤔
A special case indeed. Thanks for sharing and enlightening us on such relationships
In China If your boy friend or girl friend schedule This family meeting, normally It's a happy ending. It's just a kind of official meeting to say hi. We think it's a kind of way to respect for new family members. So polite is only thing you need to care about in this meeting
I would say all this inter-marriage and mix kid are very new thing for chinese because even though it has been 40+ yrs china open up but the communication with
foreign culture is very minimum until the last 5-7 yrs so be open minded learn and enjoy , HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU AND FAMILY BRUH.
This channel will grow for sure... Nice contents and contained topics 👍
Thanks
There has always been mixed race marriages in China for hundreds of years. China has always been a mixed race, race. I guess the mix race between Chinese and Africans are not so many yet. Maybe with the better relationship between China and African countries there will be more and this will be more common in the near future. Hope life will be easier for you and your family soon.
Definitely. Even some ethnic groups in China don't marry outside, but there has been mixed races in China for a long time.
But what's interesting is that Chinese-african mixed people have been in Africa for centuries, especially in countries like Madagascar and kenya...
Being really scared of meeting his parents means you will be looking for their approval every step of the way, including when you have children.
Not uncommon even in non-mixed marriages.
I think the Asian families are more open accept another race daughter in law than a son in law. To marry off one’s daughter so far away is harder than to accept another’s daughter.
Quite the contrary in many cases. An Asian son marrying a foreigner might be 'scary' for older Asian parents as 1)the new foreign daughter in law may not have the same extended family values. 2) will the son remain filial like is expected of all Asian (Chinese anyway) males?
I have so many Chinese female friends in Indonesia. Love them all The are great.
Sending love to African brothers and sisters.
We need more of these kind of videos. On Chinese side, I think the education system should gradually start teaching these foreign chinese interchange and equality.
I an African who lives in England and most of my friends are Chinese. We learnt alot from each other and due to my profession I was able to teach them about human evolution. They liked that so much and they keep educating others, it's funny though. Apart from that, I have a South African friend who is also married to a Chinese guy and when I told my friends here in UK their response was like "nooo wayyyy, how is she married to Chinese? Our parents are not so open minded to other cultures because they never travelled the world"
The latest scientific research in China Academics believe that Man evolved from fish. 🤗🤗🤗
Such an awesome 👏🏽 interview 🤩
Thanks queen
Nice to heard her experience. Myself is asian nand marrued with blode nordic woman. First there we had a culture problem from bothside family and relatives.
When time go past, now we are happy and our family and relatives except who we are, also happy for us.
Nothing goes smoothly, 😉😂
Ronda your love story is fantastic . I hope someone will make a movie , cheer!
There will be challenges indeed. Be strong... and all will fall into place. 💡 👏🏻 Create an online Blasian community.
Thanks for your beautiful reply
The issue of "acceptance" of persons of colour is a widespread problem.....and a possible solution lies in education as is alluded to in the interview!!.....I wished the interview was longer.... interesting and informative!!!
Africans also frowns on their daughters marrying Asian
Not only the race, but also different religion also faces a problem in "acceptace".
I think this is true of most countries, I believe a lot of people see it as protecting their culture and fear the loss of their culture. Racism definitely plays a role in some situations but also others are very proud of their culture and want to protect it.
This was absolutely amazing 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thanks for watching
I hope one day I can at least visit China. Thank you guys for all the information.
Colour isn't brake us apart, it's the humans heart that push us away, colour isn't matter
That’s true
Interesting video and I enjoyed it. Mrs. Rodah, thank you for connecting the bridge between China and Africa. Have heard similar challenges of Africans married to partners from other Asian countries like S. Korea and Japan. So remain strong, it's people like you who will make it keep getting better with time. Even a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Carry on and remain blessed with the family!
Thanks for your words of encouragement to RODAH
Rodah, thank you for sharing your story!
Thank you for sharing , beautiful video 😍
Thanks Mimi
Thank you for sharing your story Rodah 😊✨
You’re next
Get ready 😊
Thanks so much for making this video. I have been so worried about these kinds of things, and u just help me. Thanks 😊
You are so welcome!
You are an excellent interviewer. Good interview.
Thanks for the compliment
Thanks for the message and the advice of following your heart when choosing the one to be with in life 🙂 🤗🙂💕❤️💕
I would like to point out that culturally its actually similar. If you go to the inner provinces, the elder sibling in a chinese family is also responsible for the siblings. Assuming the male sibling is the youngest amongst the elder sisters, then, the only male sibling will be responsible for the care and wellbeing of the family. Probably, Rhonda's family is more modern and progressive but in reality, the nucleus family is still the most important. Where I come from, this is still the norm but the younger educated generation is changing and unless the cultural norms and discipline is taught, there will be more and more dilution. The schools have to play a part in encouraging civic studies and uphold the cultural norms thats good and discard what is bad. My 2 cents.
In the past, the Chinese used to be a close-knit family, all married male siblings living under one roof.
Love this interview!
Thanks for watching
This is one of the examples of genetic markers which come from and are in all people of the earth Which makes it harder for people to pigeonhole the person in front of them and possibly even their children as to what “ Race” they are and what culture they defined themselves with. I appreciate you sharing your experience as to get past certain cultural stereotypes
Great Interview Brother ....life here isnt very easy
I Love the video that was good Londa and king kwesi
Thanks my brother for the support
I am learning alot about mixed race marriages. Thanks for sharing your experience Rodah.
King Kwesi, I am sorry to hear that your friend's dad almost fought you because of your skin color. That made me sad...racism makes me sad😢
Haha,happy for you guys,hope you always be happy in China
Keep them coming bro
Dropping two videos every week
King: Just viewed your program for the first time and subscribed immediately! Into my third year at the University of British Columbia (UBC) studying International Relations in the Political Science Dept., so I am in constant contact with classmates from all over the world. The farthest I’ve been into China was a few years back just prior to the pandemic when I visited Shenzhen with two female Indian classmates. One of my classmates was there to visit her cousin, married to his Chinese university classmate. They have two beautiful girls and the two are just so much in love. They both found work in Shenzhen working for a Chinese tech company. Her Indian cousin’s opinion is the same as Rodah’s…just follow your heart irrespective of race. People who marry within the same ethnic group still manage to get divorced. So, what’s there to lose? If a marriage works, it has nothing to do with where a two people come from, but where their mind and heart is. Much love to your program from Canada. -Diane, Vancouver, Canada. SnJA09/22. 02:48 pm
Thanks for your detailed reply to my content. Together we can all make this world a beautiful place
Hi, I had a chinese grandfather and am mixed race as well. I would recommend that you should choose to protect your son. If he is mobbed later on in school, I suggest you place him in an international school there. I lived in Japan and it wasn't easy to be different in a Japanese school, so people would send their kids to an international school.
I think this is a problem in South Korea and Japan but not so much in china
I Rhoda nice to see you, having such a story. I am Rhoda too.
I just found your channel Blessy and I enjoy watching people living in China, will you be making more videos soon ? I hope so 👍
I’ve made over 10 videos of living in China series on the channel.
I have more videos coming up every Sunday
@@KINGKWESI that's awesome , I am now a subscriber, thank you Blessy 👍
I love that she introduced herself as "An African Queen". I can relate since I'm "The African Princess of China".. haha ;)
Thanks Khanya for watching
Finally have you on the channel 👏🏽
Yo Blessy, loving your content mate.
Thanks Steven 💯
My daughter in law calls my granddaughter "Blasian." She is actually my so called step-granddaughter, but there are NO steps in this Mema's heart, and she is just my adorable beautiful wonderful granddaughter to me!
Very lovely interview. Informative
This channel is interesting...thanks for bringing this.
Thanks
Totally on point “it’s their lost “ .
When you find someone to love and make it last beautiful story ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
Rodah is cheerful and intelligent.
local chinese here. love this interview. it's awesome👍
Thanks
Congratulations for your beautiful families in China
My home girl right there so i have subscribed🥰🥰
Thanks for watching and subscribing
It's an interesting interview......A marriage between an African and a Chinese is obviously very different but when love as first sight is concern everything changed....Merry Christmas....Stay safe and be healthy always....
Thanks for sharing your thoughts about this video
With the lack of women in China, this will become normal in the future. It has been happening in the Caribbean for decades. We call the mix half-Chinese yet it is more common for the Chinese man marrying the black woman instead of the Chinese woman marrying the black man. The mix produces good looking children.
Beautiful family. Interracial families have challenges everywhere. In Asian society it will take time but you're pioneers and will change Chinese attitudes. Stay strong 💪💪💪🥰🥰🥰
Kwesi, I love all your videos. Greetings from Malaysia!
Thanks 😎
There are more and more mixed married in China. Mixed race kids should be accepted. There are so many different ethics in China, it should be globalized thing.
Congratulations, beautiful video
Thanks
This isn't only in China .I am from the Caribbean and marry to a German and my sons are always asked where are they from ? I haved also heard from people who are second generation and speak perfect German and they ask if they are German.
Good Job and Support !
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I am really enjoying your content.
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Love your channel ❤️ Blessy 👍 ....
Thanks for the love
Very informative conversation. China Africa stay strong
In Song Dynasty China, 8 Chinese Emperors married to Persian (Iranian) women and 1 with Arab girl.
Wow nice story,God bless you all
Your son is very cute. Bless you and family. Jia You.
Thanks
Love comes sin all Colors
and No Barrier. Love is love!
I think you should do more video like this
Right
Good for you. Glad you are happy.
♥️♥️♥️
interesting. love to listen to life story
Be ready to watch more of Living in China series on this channel