My grandma told me not to marry a Black person in China | Raising three mixed race kids in China
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- Опубликовано: 20 май 2024
- Welcome to another episode of Living in China on Blessy’s world.
Mrs. Dadaliya, a Chinese woman married to An African ( Cameroonian) living in China shares her experiences about marriage life in China, cultural differences, raising three mixed race kid in China, her perception about Black people and Africa, what attracted her to the husband, why she homeschooled her children for 6 years and other important issues.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 INTRODUCTION
2:14 What was your perception about Black people, Africans before you met your husband?
3:57 Was it difficult as a Chinese to marry a black person or African?
5:16 When you decided to marry this African brother from Cameroon , did you receive any rejection? Was your family mad at you? Were your grandparents mad at you for marrying a black person?
6:14 How many kids do you have in this marriage?
8:04 Were your kids born in China?
8:34 Which country were your kids born?
8:41 Why did you choose to have the two kids in America not China?
9:58 I learnt you home schooled your children ? For how many years?
10:12 Why did you decide to home schooled your kids?
11:35 How do Chinese people react to your kids?
12:44 Do your kids have special treatment in china or are they treated just like normal kids?
13:43 Are they treated special in the school?
15:27 What are some of the struggles, challenges your kids go through being a mixed race in China?
18:02 How do your children see themselves? Do they see themselves as Chinese or Africans?
19:28 Have they ever been to Africa? Do you have plans of taking them to see their father's country?
21:13 Do you think sooner or later this form will be fully accepted in China?
22:02 What attracted you to your husband?
22:38 What are some of the things you wish you knew before marrying your husband?
24:33 Can you cook some African food?
25:54 What's your favorite African food?
26:10 What your advice for people who want to go into interracial marriage?
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The name of the soup is achu soup very delicious am from Cameroon too
We didn't see the husband who was presumably at work? There is another video series, Rose and Anzai (Ugandan Luo married to a Chinese). I find Rose's marriage a lot more interesting
Many mixed marriages including this one, can work simply because the husband is a prosperous businessman who can support his wife to home school 3 kids. Husband is a financial supporter, not always present. Like she praises Mr. Dadaliya for his 'patience', but it could also mean there are potential frictions smoothed over because he was patient.
I find Rose's marriage a lot more interesting because of the way she has integrated into a rural Chinese village. Despite the huge physical difference between her and the community, Rose is literally just a Chinese with different physical features. The family is clearly below average income, peasants, but you can sense that everyone is happy - I mean not just Rose and her husband and child, but the entire community around them. The sense of integration is automatic and complete - husband, wife and people around them are mutually supportive and no sense of frictions requiring patience to overcome.
King Kwesi I think there should not be an assumption that a remote village is less accepting than a city. In a remote village there might be less 'struggles' with acceptance once the newcomer shows willingness and ability to integrate.
Can you have a citizen if you live in China ?
How about if your children was born in China can they get a citizen or not ?
Can you please reply ?
He picked an amazing woman to be the mother of his children. The only barriers to love are the artificial ones that humans put in place. Enjoy your lives.
The first one surely not his
Correct
@@sakurakou2009mind your beeswax it's not your life
This woman is the pillar of a happy and mentally healthy family.I think her relatives will realize that she made the right choice.
I really like when Dadaliya said "My Marriage is my personal life" and therefore she does not matter whether her parents and relatives disapprove it. I like Dadaliya very much, and wish her and my African brother from Cameroon all the best. Love has no colour, no race and no boundary because you cannot see love, but can only feel and experience love.
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A beautiful story. People are more alike than different. She has the right attitude.
marriage is never your personal life
why don't she move to her husband's country to live her personal life?
when people say life is personal choice not families. most probably he or she has made the wrong choice, especially in China, where our families play a big part in ones life.
this is not a hollywood love drama, happiness ever after wil never exist wihtout the bless of his or her family especially in China.
When u marry someone,u marry their whole family too.
This chinese lady's answers are very logical and level headed. Thumbs up :)
That’s right
The first child looks like pure Chinese.Straight hair and fairer skin.
The mom is so intelligent, and humble person love this interview. Handsome boys wish them well in life.
I really like this woman. She is very humble, honest, wise. She speaks from her heart. Her husband and children are very blessed to have her.
God Bless your family.
Best ignore the people that just don’t get it. You will never change bigots or racist. You are connecting with real people in a world where there are many many different cultures, ethnicity and beliefs. We are grateful to you for showing us love of people.
I am proud of these mixtures, it's a love
Once again, I must say, you are an excellent interviewer. You ask so many thought-provoking questions and questions that allows us to get to know the guest. This was a beautiful interview. I wish Ms. Dadaliya and her family much blessings.She is a very intelligent and kind woman. She has a beautiful spirit. Much blessings to you as well.
The way she talked about her husband was just priceless her voice carried honesty and purity❤
Wow, another great sharing. Mrs. Dadaliya looks like a very happy person who knows what she wants, and she has got a beautiful happy family. Being the only child in her family, it's even more difficult to marry outside the country but she still pushed on with her heart desires, and her family finally blessed it. Stay blessed!
She’s very open minded person and a strong woman
Mom is so likeable even over the platform. 🙂 Responses are well-thought out. Kudos to you and your husband. Handsome boys! Love from Jamaica.🇯🇲
Love her she is so strong and her children will grow up to be representative of loving and nurturing parents.
Who she marries is her own personal business, nothing to do with other people. As long as she is happy and her husband loves her, that's that. Many people married people of same race aren't happy and divorce soon after.
Give thanks to her Chinese family for being so supportive of their marriage. Always try and understand each other. Word
The lady in this interview did this subject justice...she talked so honest about everything; glad I listened in.
Thank you for sharing your story. What a beautiful set up for home schooling. You put a lot of heart and thoughts into it. Your kids are raised beautifully! I hope people will learn to embrace diversity and respect all races.
Wow! This is an awesome home school setup for her kids. I wish her family many blessings. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thanks for watching
Amazing 🇳🇬👍
This a beautiful story, I hope the children will one day watch this video and feel proud about the story of their lives.
Mom: I want 10 or 20 children
Husband: Take a break ☺️
I like how the home has been set up so well for home schooling.
The hair touching I can completely relate to ☺️
Hahaha building a Zoo in Africa and living with all the animals 😊
The emphasis of learning about traditional medicines 🙌🏾✨
Awesome interview ❤️
This clearly shows you’ve watched and enjoyed this video.
Thanks for your support 🤩🤩🤩
My brother l give you a thumbs up 👍🏿 for enlightening us what the real world is about. It also signifies that your tongue is your greatest weapon , much respect on your content
Respect bro
I appreciate your kind words and support
This beautiful queen tiger mom is incredible smart and lovely, am pretty sure all her kids will grow up to lead this world to better place. Am Ghanaian married to Japanese living in New York and my wife did a great job to send our girls to great IVY league Uni. Cornell, Princeton and one of them was accepted in all including Harvard which she turned down for Stanford law. Keep your head up and you will be proud of your household and the choices you made to prove to the world everything possible if you believe in yourself.
That’s great to know your wife made a great impact in the lives of your girls.
I was not so lucky as you to marry a Caribbean selfish woman. Trust me, it makes a big difference to marry a smart and intelligent woman like this Chinese lady. Those types of women like her and your wife deserve a lot of respect from society.
She's just soooo sweet & kind may God bless her and her family.
A truly trailblazer.
She's breaking every barrier. Good woman to have as a wife.
Dadaliya is a very fine soul from a blessed family. Listening to her explaining how her mother is proud of her lovely three grandchildren.
Stay blessed!
Thanks
She is beautiful, I love that her parents are so open.
What amazing content on your channel. Thank you for putting in the effort to share your experiences! 🌟
She is a fantastic and amazing mother
I am a Cameroonian and I love the way she calls the fufu and eru. The yellow soup she spoke about is called Achu soup and pounded cocoyams.
Lmao she said when she made her husband he give her he's bank account ? And never looses temper ? 😮😮 Awesomeness cameroonians are better men to none cameroonians women i see
♥️this woman and her deep understanding from her own personal experience. Wonderful interview! I loved seeing the home school she has made for her children! Her sons faces are full of light! May it shine for future multicultural and international relations for generations to come! Didahlia will herself become a grandmother of many someday! A very wise and loving one. She is obviously already an inspiration to her community. She, her children, and their father-her husband, whom I would have loved to hear from as well! 😊👍
Excellent Mom (and by extension Dad) with an amazing perspective on education and society.
Thanks for watching
I don't know how I ran into this channel but I'm glad I did because with everything that's going on in the world is good to see people doing positive and good things and sharing their love without looking for something to benefit, I hope that she gets nothing but love and happiness in her life keep up the good videos.
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Kudos to you both (host and guest). All people are the same. It depends on their soul not the colour. Congratulations to Dadalya. There are good and bad people in every race, tribe, community, family etc. So you make happiness from inside you. Happiness doesn't come from outside.
Wonderful interview! You’re such a fantastic and forward thinking mom! God bless you and your children!!
Wow. Thanks for sharing this story. Very insightful. Love breaks every barrier.
Amazing interview! You let people talk, explain and enlighten your followers with their stories, their experiences and jow they see future! What a thoughtful and inteligent woman she is! The way she set up the classroom, the topics she teaches them to make them acknowledge their cultures and the inspiration she gives them is really remarkable! Many schools would fight to have a teacher like her! Her parents gave her a very good education preparing her for the future to come! May her whole family have a wonderful and blessed life!
Thank you so much for sharing this interview!
She’s a very smart and adorable woman. I love that she knows so much even “bitter leaf”🤣 amazing! These interviews are great King Kwesi.
she knows much, 10 years of marriage!!!! thanks for the support maame
Let me tell you something, I'm an African descent from Jamaica.Since I was young and now I'm in the late fifties, I have always been fascinated by the Chinese people. After listening to her, I wish that I could go back on time and have her as my baby mother.The level of intelligence she displays in this interview is just incredible.
@@yvesderival634 baby mama...never wife. We need to get rid of this backwards thinking 🤦🏾♀️
@@doreeneb only thing I can tell you is my former wife doesn't want my daughter to visit my business that provides an allowance every month for the child. I know that Chinese women will do the opposite. It is just a matter of tradition.
Amazing courage!!! Your beautiful children will have that same courage! And they will be able to show love to all because of it ❤
Such a beautiful family! ❤️
Since I just started to follow your channel, I don’t know much about yourself, the star and presenter of the show. You always put your guests up and foremost and rightly so. Would you please give us your new listeners an idea of who you are ? Thank you so much for giving us a well balanced and always keen and respectful viewpoints.
Right I will make a video about myself very soon.
Thanks for watching my videos
这个黑人不是记者。 他只是在获取有关中国人如何看待黑人的信息。 他在一段视频中说，有一天他在他的中国女性朋友家，她的父亲不喜欢他。 我评论说没有中国父母想要看起来像他的女婿。 然后他对我说坏话并阻止我发表评论。 这种人没有礼貌，没有个性，可能没有教养，没有尊重。 中国人应该避免和他说话，给他任何关于中国人和中国的信息。
I think you’re a bitter person, you insulted my personality in my previous video. And here you’re again writing in Chinese thinking in wouldn’t understand.
Yes I’m a black man and very proud of myself and how I look. As I stated to you before I’m married and not in any way interested in any form of relationship with any other person. Why are you judging people’s personality based on how they’ve decided to grow their hair or beard? There are nice Chinese and welcoming Chinese people and I can clearly say you’re not one of them.
Stop being a bitter person cos it’s not good for your health. Have a good day.
@@KINGKWESI I am not a bitter person and I was not judging you by your looks. I was just giving you an honest opinion about what Chinese parents look for in a son-in-law and you took it miserably and insulted me with your nasty comment! You said to this lady from South Africa that Chinese parents took their kids away as soon as your daughter got on a slide and even she was surprised to hear as she probably never seen or came across such thing with chinese parents. Chinese parents generally do not do that but they must have been frightened by you and thought in case their kids accidentally hurt your daughter, you might get into some kind of altercation with them which they do not want and that's why they did that to avoid any incident while your daughter was there. You are not in my shoes that know Chinese people well. When you use nasty words in your comments, you are considered a very disrespectful person by Chinese people and we have no respect for such people!
@@sshong1553 do you have an idea of certain things we go through in China as Black people?
Go back to your first comment and double read and think about it again if it's fair to pass that judgement over my personality.
Like i said you're judgemental and a bitter person but i'm sending you love and positive energy.
What an amazing interview. I loved this interview.
So glad I find, and joined this awesome Family . They've got beautiful talented family ,and lovely kids.
Peace and blessings, thank you for sharing your beautiful family and life journey. Wishing you and your family continuous love, happiness, joy, and prosperity. Ase’ 👑🌍🎍🎋🌹🌻❤️🖤🤎🦋🌺
What a wonderful love story so beautiful . I hope more people will be like her strong and peace to the world. Cheer!
This is such a beautiful story. Thank you for this video.
Blessed your family and interviewer ❤
Wow she is so understanding and I hope the very best for her and her family. There is much to be learnt from her in accepting both cultures. She did the right thing in homes schooling them. Outsiders can be very brutal as I have seen from watching these RUclips videos of multicultural children in China. People have to respect each other and get over their own prejudices and racist behaviour towards other.
She is confident and her children will benefit from that. May God give you strength to deal with obstacles that come to you.
I heartily commend her for having the courage to make her own decisions. Love and respect!
This is a documentary to me. Thank you for creating this content.
You are a great interviewer! You allow the person to speak and think, thanks!
I love the shift in your work... keep up the great work.. love to see it
Thanks Mimi
Hopefully I meet you one day to share your experiences with us
BLESSY'S WORLD definitely! I will visit your city soon, you can show me around
I think their father need to let them know Africa is not wild! I think he has failed for not taking them to Africa till date. I bet you they would always love to visit, no elsewhere they would be welcomed and loved most even their mother. Much love ❤️ to your lovely family.
Thank you for sharing your story. What a caring, smart and genuinely loving mother for her children and family. Wonderful home scholling setup.
God Bless You Lady, for You follow Your Heart and more Blessing, Peace, and more Good Blessings for you and your Immediate Family. Wishing all the Best to your Children's Future.
This was a great interview with great questions & honest answers . Her & her husband will raise strong confident boys with good life values. They are smart enough to watch who the children comes in contact with & the reactions. She also gave good positive advice to people in situations similar to her.
It depends on what her wealth is whether her boys can then continue that wealth.
Thank you Dadaliya for sharing your story. I saw this video on the internet and I was delighted. I love that part, "If I could I will have ten babies." I love your interview, it is educating.
Love her philosophical approach to life, 好美 ❤️
There is only one, and that is the Human Race.
One day we'll get right.
wish there were more understanding people like this mother of three beautiful boys.
I really enjoyed this interview.
Thanks
Fantastic interview, thank you so much, both of you :)
Thanks for watching
Awesome interview!!!
Beautiful, Wonderful
Family!!❤️🎉🎉🎉
Oh waow, am so happy Dadaliya has really has really learned a lot about Cameroon. She shouldn't be worried to visit Cameroon, they are welcoming and she and her kids will love it when they visits.
What a lovely story. Thank you so much. Ms. Dadaliya is such a brave and beautiful lady.
thanks for watching
People are aware of their own love and high emotions and who makes them happy and alive even if they are not from the same race or culture it is about freedom
Wonderful content my King 👑💙
U are a perfect mum sister👍👍u beat all cultural odds. Wish u more babies--two daughters 👏👏👏
Keep up ! the good mind setting my lovely lady , love is all about chemistry , love you , I'm sure your Mum will learn that as well.xx
Woow just saw your video, that is my staple food she is talking about. The yellow soup is Achu soup made with pounded cocoyam.the soup is made with lime stone, palm oil some spices. So nice to know you like it.
Super interesting family. Beautiful kids!
Very candid interview. She is very thoughtful and understanding person.
Wow 🤩I love her home schooling idea👍
Let’s adopt it 😍
What a beautiful natured woman 👩 I've enjoyed this interview very much. Handsome husband healthy children.
I have subscribed to your channel because of this interview. The best. I like when you gave this beautiful and very intelligent woman time to speak finish rather than cutting her off like some journalists will do as soon as they have some to say that won't sell. I love this lady personality and her beliefs. I wouldn't mind having her to homeschooling my child. Her homeschool is well organised and child friendly. She was raised very well despite being the only child. I can understand her grandmother being very scared cause the media only publish the worse. Her mum being proud of her grandchildren is also amazing. Her children are handsome and seems well behaved. She spoke kindly of her husband, which isn't always the first thing people see in a person. "His character and his togetherness with his family" rather than how handsome he was when they first met. I've learnt something new. Well done woman ❤️ You will love his country and you can also open good business there if you want to stay longer. I think the soup is called "EGUSI". Keep up the good work.
Ohhhh Cameroon ? So you are my sister in law!!!
I wish you a blessed and Happy marriage sis!
Kudos, this is a powerful video
She is a beautiful human being.
I think that they are brave and hopeful to stay together ❤
The soup's name is "yellow soup", or "yellow sauce". It's very spicy, and they eat it with pounded water yam (taro). It's a traditional dish in both Cameroon's West and North-West provinces.
THANK YOU
This lady made me love China. She is extremely open minded. She imbibed openness like the Westerners or europeans
Really good documentary, eye opening assertions👌
Thanks
Dadaliya, you are a great and lovely mother and woman. May God Bless You and Your Family.
She has done incredibly well for her kids
What is clear is family support. When your parents love you genuinely, they will love your family of procreation.
You are really open minded to different cultures. I like the way you think about life, family, culture, etc. If more people were like this, the world would be a much happier place :-)
Beautiful kids.. bless you
Nothing like Mother! She is amazing
🎉🙌🏾🎉
Wow! Our Woman, Thank you for your Confidence.
Mom, grandma and Son's are very beautiful... Leave happy and that's what family is about..
This woman is very intelligent. She married for love. And she is Always going to be blessed. They are going to overcome all the unnecessary obstacles and
She speaks so well, very maturely
I enjoyed the interview but from 19 minutes to 21 minutes, the dad needs to do some educating to his kids on Africa in 2022. It’s not a “ZOO” that you need to prepare for. It’s not a “disease-infested” place that they need to start looking for medicine 💊 for. The lady is awesome 👍. Got nothing against her. But the ‘Dad’ needs to teach the kids properly about where he comes from. Despite the challenges, we have there. My thoughts, with love ❤️.
That’s a great observation. I didn’t want to interrupt her flow.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts 😍
You are one hundred per cent correct. It seems to me he doesn't tell her anything about our beloved continent. I was not comfortable too about the zoo comment. nevertheless greetings from Jmaicaa.
@@KINGKWESI thank you for not interrupting.
There's another interpretation, a kinder one highlighting one of Africa's treasures. Africa is known for its animals. She could be saying that when they move to Africa, they could start a mini zoo of their own to know these animals better. What I learn from the interview is that this lady is a master teacher, constantly on a lookout on how to teach her children.
As for teaching African herbs, the Africans, like the Chinese, have been culturally herbalists over generations. She immerse in African rich herbal culture just as she has taught her children Chinese herbs.
So it's not looking down on Africans as backward. This lady is better than that, given her perceptive and enquiring mind.
Of course, the questions why she want to start a zoo and teach about African herbs could be posed to her. That will clear all doubts.
But I don't need to have those questions asked to be sure that she is too intelligent and inter-culturally immerse to have a narrow mindset.
Agreed. Their knowledge of their fathers land MUST be broader than that- animals /zoos/ safari. etc .
Thanks for sharing,good interview. A wise and intelligent wife and mother.
Glad you enjoyed it
Nice interview. The lady is very intelligent too.
I love this video and this woman and also her lovely amazing kids may God and our motherland bless you and your family, keep being a wonderful mother.
Absolutely amazing
Very strong ,open minded woman , she knows what she wants and educated about life outside china
Very smart young woman and really open-minded. Tell your husband the break is over. Africa needs babies.
Beautiful family
Very intelligent mom
Wonderful life this family has❤️
A very intelligent woman
Smart
This is a very smart lady 👏 love you, u are welcome to Africa and the world 🌎 ❤ 💙 ♥
I love her optimism.
She is a really lovely lady 🇯🇲
Eru is actually my favorite dish and the orange soup she was talking about is called achuh